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rosie light shines · rosie light shines

A.A. Thought for the Day I have lost many of my resentments. I have found that getting even with people doesn't do any good. When we try to get revenge, instead of making us feel better, it leaves us frustrated and cheated. Instead of punishing our enemies, we've only hurt our own peace of mind. It do...

chrissy · chrissy

i was just about to go to sleep an we got a phone call my daughters boyfriend was getting just rushed to the hospital in an ambulance chest pains and tingling in his arms and legs they had to give him oxygyen. he lives across the street so we rushed over. what is going on with the kids the...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Relationships There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way.Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our power in another way.Some relationships trigger healing in us - healing...

captcodee · captcodee

I had a good last few days, but today I am mad, and don't know why. I woke up, and didn't want to get out of bed. My husband needed to go to work, but I freaked out on him first thing, and haven't done a single thing since. I have been in bed all day. My daughter is sick, and she stayed with me all day,...

princess433 · princess433

First degree relatives of alcoholics are 3-4 times as likely to have alcoholism than first degree relatives of non-alcoholics 20-25% of sons and brothers of alcoholics become alcoholic 5% of daughters and sisters of alcoholich become alcoholic http://www.familystudies.org/alcoholi...

txmom · txmom

This was given to me today and I thought that I'd share with all of my friends here. It applies to me so much in my situations but I know that there are many many more situations out there that could use just a little comfort. Funny how a silly song can bring comfort, but I guess it's just one of t...

gknee · gknee

Hi boarders- This morning I had an interesting talk with my A husband-- and noticed some changes in me that I wanted to discuss. He stayed home sick about 2 1/2 days last week. I knew he really didn't have anything physically wrong with him. I was concerned that he was using (there is a pattern with him-...

luv123 · luv123

Good morning all at this mornings meeting I related to topic of fear today as well as self esteem… I am very empathetic to all these situaitons I hear in meetings that this disease has caused and all the fear that can come along with it. I know HP will give us all the guidance we need to get thru it And l...

gardengal · gardengal

In time, however most of us find it important to talk about the things that trouble us. In alanon , it is often said that "we are only as sick as our secrets". A key to breaking the stranglehold that alcoholism has on our lives is to begin to open up and let those secrets out. Part of the isolation of this dise...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi, I just wanted to thank you for your kind words. I was down yesterday. I think I just took on to much all at once. I started a new job( Same company) and did some side jobs for a friend of mine. The house was a mess and my daughter was acting out. She does not like t...

Kim · Kim

He's waiting on a bed to open and it can happen anytime between tomorrow and Wed. He just called ot ask if i would take him and if he could leave his car here at the house. What do I do? I'm not sure what to make of this. Help!

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Jenny horrific story Jenny was so happy about the house they had found. For once in her life 'twas on the right side of town. She unpacked her things with such great ease. As she watched her new curtains blow in the breeze. How wonderful it was to have her own room. School would be st...

captcodee · captcodee

Taken from "The Forum" June 1992 (which was reprinted from 1980) ~~The Ideal Sponsor~~ From what I've learned in Al-Anon, certain physical attributes would be very helpful to become the ideal sponsor of a newcomer. Big ears would help us listen, listen, listen to the newcomer. Then st...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

If I were given a change of life, I'd like to see how it would be to live as a mere six footer......Wilt Chamberlain In childhood many of us dreamed of being somebody else, anybody but who we are. As time went on, and we lost touch with our feelings, we also lost who we were. We hung in limbo, not being w...

marmare · marmare

Happy Friday, I came in to work extremely late today. I am doing really good. I was really stressed about sending my mortgage payment, was short some, we are buying from owner and I have never had to send partial payment before and I wanted a wireless router for my home comps, keep pu...

chrissy · chrissy

first of all i want to thank all of you for all your prayers and support . we had such a scare. amanda's heart is fine thank god!she has something thats called musculoskeletal chest pain the cardiologist wants her to take motrin 3 x a day and said the pain can come at an...

sunny1 · sunny1

Your quote of the day for November 5, 2005 "When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." – Franklin Delano Roosevelt Just wanted to share this with you all, it hit home to me, Hang on for dear life not knowing what might happen if I dare let go. Also makes me thi...

Jeannie · Jeannie

((((Everyone))))) First please let me say I am sorry for being so off the wall last night. I lost it. I was so hurt and angry, I scared myself. While at the time I wrote it, I meant every word. I do not wish anyone to die a hirrible death, life is too preciouse to me. I am going to save what I wrote, to remi...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Well I am a full blown horses you know what! He said if I promised to go to counseling after he went into rehab, he would go. Since I believe I could use counseling to deal with the pure hatred I have for his mother I agreed. He then said he was going in on November 1st and asked if he could please come trick or...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I will be sending out an email prior to our Op meeting Wednesday 11/9. If I do not have your email addy, please pm me with it. Thank you! Kis

nancyfrances · nancyfrances

I just recently found this website and starting reading and chatting. I am the daughter of alcoholic parents - and they are children of alcoholics. I married a heavy recreational drinker 18 years ago. I have made myself sick - depression - hives, etc. - by trying to change my husba...

kitty · kitty

Higher Power, allow me to greet the coming day in peace. Help me in all things to rely upon Your holy will. In every hour of the day, reveal Your will to me. Teach me to treat all that comes to me throughout the day with peace of soul & with the firm conviction that Your will governs all. I...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

Just talked to my Mom. She’s such a downer. She makes her life depressing & doesn’t know it. Here I am trying to keep it up, so to speak…;) & she brings me down. Well, I’m not gonna let her. As Abraham Lincoln said “People are only as happy as they...

leo · leo

Thanks everyone for all your replies I couldn't have made those boundaries without your support here. Luv Leo xx

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I just want to extend my hand and heart to you in here and in the chat room. I am here for you from the bottom of my heart. My purpose in alanon is to work my program and to also give back. No matter how many times you need to talk about the same thing, no worries with me, I will listen. This progr...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Its sooo perturbing that people think I am fine, and that there is nothing wrong with me....I try soo hard to not dwell on my past,but something in my everyday life always triggers something... even in my unconscious. For the past week I have been having terrifying dreams that I am being moles...

sandy · sandy

Hi to all, Thanks to all that replied it always makes me feel better when I read them. It took me so long to write this because I was home for a week for my fathers 80th birthday. It was nice and he was really pleased. I just feel so fustrated all the time. I always feel t...

Diva · Diva

I am thinking of you and Amanda this afternoon, and keeping my thoughts positive. Please let us know what the cardiologist had to say. With sincere concern, Diva

Kim · Kim

Yesterday was rough. I thought I was doing good until I had a situation at work. My boss was in the cube next to me speaking to a co-worker (and friend) about how she needed to "speak to me" at the request of her boss. Now any of you know that work in a cube know that there isn't too much privacy. I...

leo · leo

Hi everyone please bear with me this will be a long post. I have set my first and most important boundary with my A. I started the conversation by saying I am not doing this to hurt you I just want you to listen and this is not a threat or an attack on you. I told him why I was seeing a counsel...

sunny1 · sunny1

Today Iam greatful that I was able to make the AM meeting and share. Once again my HP leads me to what I need to hear and say, so thank you for listening. I had a wonderful evening with a friend lastnight, but bumped into a freind from my past, i concluded she was a "season friend" funny though,...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi guys Hope everyone is well Does anyone know where Lin is? I'm just wondering if she is on vacation or if anyone knows if she is? I would appreciate any info Thanks, Julie

sandie123 · sandie123

Well it was so nice to have my real high day with my kids on Thursday. It really made me believe that I was doing the right thing. Made me think that my HP was telling me something. I knew it wouldn't last but I wished it wouldn't feel so drastically different. Today I never heard from my A. That is good in...

bob6502 · bob6502

Dear Friends, I am finding myself a little irritated this morning and feeling the need to share an old slogan with all of you. As part of a continuing Step 10, I find it important to look at my behavior as I relate to other people. Step 10 helps me decide if I need to make an amends and learn fr...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Live and let live.... I totally learned something valuable for once in my entire life and that is living each day as if it was your last day. I have found myself so caught up in this fast pace materialistic world that I had forgotten where I came from, and what my values were. I am not saying I a...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

This week has been a tough week emotionally with me and my "a". We have been fighting like cats and dogs. On Wednesday morning we got into a major fight on the way taking him to work because he wants me to pay for his car insurance and his gas. He makes $7hr, which does not cover his end of...

sunny1 · sunny1

I bumped into someone tonight that was a friend of mine afew years back. Have you ever heard of the phrase, people are in your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime? Well how true. (I met this person when I was single the first time. My daughter was only 2yrs old and she and h...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I feel that I am at a place where I don't know what to do about my marriage. I left for a while and came back after 6 weeks and things were good (the honeymoon period) for awhile. My husband works out of town alot and he called me last night and we were discussing money. We ended up getting...

Barbara · Barbara

Ok so now Im going through the "I dont want to do this" thinking. Why did I come to this website, why did I go to the doctor? Its not me! Its HIM! HE needs to get help, not me! Ready to stop and just take care of myself - do things that make me happy - take a walk, go to the movies, etc I DONT want to spend my night...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise. --Sigmund Freud The truth is our friend. It is a rough and humble kind of friend--but a friend nonetheless. Each of us will need to learn to spend time with this friend because it is one that is not easy to escape. It is always turning up when we le...

brakkenk · brakkenk

This is my question. I know I have to set boundaries and I know what those boundaries are but when it comes to telling my "A" what the boundaries are I am not sure in what format I should convey those boundaries. Does this make any sense? For example, if I walk up to my A and tell hi...

Kim · Kim

Hey roomies: I just wanted to say thank you to all of you for your support. You have all given me a place to speak my mind about how I am feeling and I have also felt that this is the one place that i am understood. Yes, my A is going to rehab and I am happy for him. But what I feel most strange about is the fact tha...

chrissy · chrissy

MY 13 TEEN YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS GETTING REALLY BAD CHEST PAINS & DOUBLED OVER IN PAIN SO I BROUGHT HER TO THE DR. THE DR. DID AN EKG & SAID HER HEART BEAT IS SLOWER THAN MOST KIDS WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN? I HAVE TO GO TO A CARDIOLOGIST TOMORROW I AM SO UPSET & SO IS &...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

OMG you don't know how many times I have wanted to totally give up..... I thought live for what??? But now I know God gave me a purpose to live... I guess I blamed God for all the bad that has happened during my life... but God only gives us so much that we can handle... And everything happens for a...

Satori · Satori

Fear… Okay, I choked, not literally, at a meeting. One of the topics was fear, and I really, really wanted to share at that moment, and I just couldn’t get it out. Then, as the meeting started to close with a moment of silence, in my own silence I was feeling very, very, very small...

Barbara · Barbara

This guy didnt have enough sick time when he was out with his kidney. Didnt get paid for 3wks. He needs to go Nov 16 to have his thyroid lumps aspirated. Knowing he may need time off (if they decide to take out the thyroid) he's still taking time off now to stay home. What the frig is wrong with him?

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

All, Over the past few months I've been actively working on not obsessing on other people, places, things I can not control. Like many of you here, my obsession often focuses on whether so and so is going to call or not call, why haven't they called?, etc. Last night as I was in the midst of this familiar...

nycbt · nycbt

THESE ARE POST FROM LAST YEAR WHEN I FIRST STARTED SOME THINGS ARE THE SAME AN SOME I HAVE LEARN AS I WENT ALONG. BUT THIS IS WHERE I WAS. THOUGHT THE NEW COMERS WOULD LIKE TO SEE. IT DOES WORK. My finding little bottles I am very angry because today I found that my husband was dr...

david62 · david62

Howdy yall! At last night's business meeting, we discussed having a meeting of chat room op's/chairpersons on a monthly basis to discuss meeting protocol, etiquette...etc. Just a chance for us all to get together and go over things so we can all be on the same page. Fo...

sandie123 · sandie123

My A is not coming home tonight!!!! After the last few night of him being so mad at me for asking him to leave he called tonight and said he would not be home tonight. He said he wasn't sure where he was going but would not be home. I really appreciated the fact that he called and I told him...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i all just need to vent. my friends celebrating her birthday at a bar this weekend. and i already told her i wont be going for numerous reasons such as that aint my thing anymore and im taking her to a dinner theater as a present from me. she turned everything around and basically said you not going out beca...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

How Much Is Enough? We continue to weigh and measure our food when we are maintaining as well as when we are losing. Since we are compulsive overeaters, we do not have a built in concept of how much food is enough. Exact measurements relieve us of the anxiety of deciding how much is enough. Since we ar...

Kim · Kim

Hello Roomies: Ok, so this morning I'm having a crazy day at work when my cell phone rings from a unknown number. As this phone doubles as my work phone, I answer it. It's my husband (A) telling me he needs to go to rehab. I'm in the middle of my work day and thankfully I work in the social service fie...

sandie123 · sandie123

You can feel only your own feelings, not another person's. Having empathy for those we love, and being able to share their joys and sorrows, is part of our nature as warm, caring human beings. Taken to an extreme, however, too much empathy can mean that we lose our boundaries as emotionally separa...

barkley · barkley

I went to a meeting Friday morning, went back to work to find my husband drunk. It wasn't even 10:00am. I knew he had to go to a job site. Wish with all my heart that he wouldn't drive. Got him something to eat before he left. By the time I got off work, he was worse. I t...

sunny1 · sunny1

Does anyone have ideas

that have worked for them that they would like to share, regarding your HP. Like a journal, prayer list or something like that? Im looking for ideas that might work for me? I did get one the other day from a post here about a "god bag". I liked that. ...

Diana · Diana

My name is Diana Breshears. I am an ACOA and a graduate student at Colorado State University. I have devoted my studies to accurate research of alcoholic families. I am curently conducting a research study for a class project and am looking for adult children of alcoholic...

captcodee · captcodee

I have been known to criticize my husband's (AKA the "A") romantic style. Of course, my own expectations have NOTHING to do with it...

I got home from work before him yesterday, and there was a message from him. He just wanted to know if I got home safe, was thinking about me etc...

gknee · gknee

I'm caught in a trap.... I can't walk out... because I love u too much baby(?) My husband is home sick today. I think he is legitimately ill (as opposed to chemically) but I'm not sure. He has lied so often that I have no idea what to think. I know it doesn't matter and either way he is ill BUT I ha...

nycbt · nycbt

My dad has been sober for about 3 weeks now. On Wednesday wasn't a good day. I started off the day that I locked my keys in the car. I had to have a friend come up and open the door for me so I could open the door. I call my dad and told him I was running late and why. I told him 15 it would take my friend to get to my hous...

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	revenge!!! short term high....long term low (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day I have lost many of my resentments. I have found that getting even with people doesn't do any good. When we try to get revenge, instead of making us feel better, it leaves us frustrated and cheated. Instead of punishing our enemies, we've only hurt our own peace of mind. It do...	rosie light shines	1	652	Nov 7, 2005 by Satori
	please pray for steven (Preview) i was just about to go to sleep an we got a phone call my daughters boyfriend was getting just rushed to the hospital in an ambulance chest pains and tingling in his arms and legs they had to give him oxygyen. he lives across the street so we rushed over. what is going on with the kids the...	chrissy	12	895	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	gratitude EVEN for the "pains in the butt" (Preview) Relationships There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way.Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our power in another way.Some relationships trigger healing in us - healing...	rosie light shines	0	795	Nov 7, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Could I be manic? Or is this just a pity pot (Preview) I had a good last few days, but today I am mad, and don't know why. I woke up, and didn't want to get out of bed. My husband needed to go to work, but I freaked out on him first thing, and haven't done a single thing since. I have been in bed all day. My daughter is sick, and she stayed with me all day,...	captcodee	7	732	Nov 7, 2005 by browneyes
	I read an article.... (Preview) First degree relatives of alcoholics are 3-4 times as likely to have alcoholism than first degree relatives of non-alcoholics 20-25% of sons and brothers of alcoholics become alcoholic 5% of daughters and sisters of alcoholich become alcoholic http://www.familystudies.org/alcoholi...	princess433	3	887	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Something worth sharing (Preview) This was given to me today and I thought that I'd share with all of my friends here. It applies to me so much in my situations but I know that there are many many more situations out there that could use just a little comfort. Funny how a silly song can bring comfort, but I guess it's just one of t...	txmom	7	694	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	maybe I have learned something! (Preview) Hi boarders- This morning I had an interesting talk with my A husband-- and noticed some changes in me that I wanted to discuss. He stayed home sick about 2 1/2 days last week. I knew he really didn't have anything physically wrong with him. I was concerned that he was using (there is a pattern with him-...	gknee	2	758	Nov 7, 2005 by canadianguy
	self esteem & concept/tradition 11 (Preview) Good morning all at this mornings meeting I related to topic of fear today as well as self esteem… I am very empathetic to all these situaitons I hear in meetings that this disease has caused and all the fear that can come along with it. I know HP will give us all the guidance we need to get thru it And l...	luv123	0	3154	Nov 7, 2005 by luv123
	BREAKING OUR ISOLATION, AND OPENING UP (Preview) In time, however most of us find it important to talk about the things that trouble us. In alanon , it is often said that "we are only as sick as our secrets". A key to breaking the stranglehold that alcoholism has on our lives is to begin to open up and let those secrets out. Part of the isolation of this dise...	gardengal	3	976	Nov 7, 2005 by WakingUp
	crissy and leo (Preview) Hi, I just wanted to thank you for your kind words. I was down yesterday. I think I just took on to much all at once. I started a new job( Same company) and did some side jobs for a friend of mine. The house was a mess and my daughter was acting out. She does not like t...	nikkilou	3	672	Nov 7, 2005 by leo
	he asked me to take him to rehab (Preview) He's waiting on a bed to open and it can happen anytime between tomorrow and Wed. He just called ot ask if i would take him and if he could leave his car here at the house. What do I do? I'm not sure what to make of this. Help!	Kim	6	779	Nov 7, 2005 by abbyal
	moonlight ride (Preview) Jenny horrific story Jenny was so happy about the house they had found. For once in her life 'twas on the right side of town. She unpacked her things with such great ease. As she watched her new curtains blow in the breeze. How wonderful it was to have her own room. School would be st...	Lauren ashley	2	588	Nov 7, 2005 by sunny1
	How to be an IDEAL sponsor... (Preview) Taken from "The Forum" June 1992 (which was reprinted from 1980) ~~The Ideal Sponsor~~ From what I've learned in Al-Anon, certain physical attributes would be very helpful to become the ideal sponsor of a newcomer. Big ears would help us listen, listen, listen to the newcomer. Then st...	captcodee	2	777	Nov 7, 2005 by sunny1
	if i were given a change of life (Preview) *If I were given a change of life, I'd like to see how it would be to live as a mere six footer......Wilt Chamberlain* In childhood many of us dreamed of being somebody else, anybody but who we are. As time went on, and we lost touch with our feelings, we also lost who we were. We hung in limbo, not being w...	rosie light shines	2	598	Nov 6, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	HAPPY FRIDAY! (Preview) Happy Friday, I came in to work extremely late today. I am doing really good. I was really stressed about sending my mortgage payment, was short some, we are buying from owner and I have never had to send partial payment before and I wanted a wireless router for my home comps, keep pu...	marmare	9	982	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	amanda's results (Preview) first of all i want to thank all of you for all your prayers and support . we had such a scare. amanda's heart is fine thank god!she has something thats called musculoskeletal chest pain the cardiologist wants her to take motrin 3 x a day and said the pain can come at an...	chrissy	11	855	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	End of your rope.... (Preview) Your quote of the day for November 5, 2005 "When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." – Franklin Delano Roosevelt Just wanted to share this with you all, it hit home to me, Hang on for dear life not knowing what might happen if I dare let go. Also makes me thi...	sunny1	1	609	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	Thanks so much all of you (Preview) ((((Everyone))))) First please let me say I am sorry for being so off the wall last night. I lost it. I was so hurt and angry, I scared myself. While at the time I wrote it, I meant every word. I do not wish anyone to die a hirrible death, life is too preciouse to me. I am going to save what I wrote, to remi...	Jeannie	5	825	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	So fiull of hate and disgust (Preview) Well I am a full blown horses you know what! He said if I promised to go to counseling after he went into rehab, he would go. Since I believe I could use counseling to deal with the pure hatred I have for his mother I agreed. He then said he was going in on November 1st and asked if he could please come trick or...	Jeannie	10	1230	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	Attn: Ops/Chairpersons (Preview) I will be sending out an email prior to our Op meeting Wednesday 11/9. If I do not have your email addy, please pm me with it. Thank you! Kis	kismetstrand	1	620	Nov 6, 2005 by mastiff
	Must do it for my kids and me (Preview) I just recently found this website and starting reading and chatting. I am the daughter of alcoholic parents - and they are children of alcoholics. I married a heavy recreational drinker 18 years ago. I have made myself sick - depression - hives, etc. - by trying to change my husba...	nancyfrances	6	972	Nov 6, 2005 by megan
	A Prayer @ Beginning of Day (Preview) Higher Power, allow me to greet the coming day in peace. Help me in all things to rely upon Your holy will. In every hour of the day, reveal Your will to me. Teach me to treat all that comes to me throughout the day with peace of soul & with the firm conviction that Your will governs all. I...	kitty	1	735	Nov 6, 2005 by megan
	My Mom.... (Preview) Just talked to my Mom. She’s such a downer. She makes her life depressing & doesn’t know it. Here I am trying to keep it up, so to speak…;) & she brings me down. Well, I’m not gonna let her. As Abraham Lincoln said “People are only as happy as they...	CAM0914	2	771	Nov 6, 2005 by leo
	re-I've done it (Preview) Thanks everyone for all your replies I couldn't have made those boundaries without your support here. Luv Leo xx	leo	0	665	Nov 6, 2005 by leo
	I am here to listen and not judge you :) (Preview) Hello friends, I just want to extend my hand and heart to you in here and in the chat room. I am here for you from the bottom of my heart. My purpose in alanon is to work my program and to also give back. No matter how many times you need to talk about the same thing, no worries with me, I will listen. This progr...	cdb	6	1271	Nov 6, 2005 by WakingUp
	I am Alive from your eyes (Preview) Its sooo perturbing that people think I am fine, and that there is nothing wrong with me....I try soo hard to not dwell on my past,but something in my everyday life always triggers something... even in my unconscious. For the past week I have been having terrifying dreams that I am being moles...	Lauren ashley	3	712	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Thanks for the replies to "I don't understand why" (Preview) Hi to all, Thanks to all that replied it always makes me feel better when I read them. It took me so long to write this because I was home for a week for my fathers 80th birthday. It was nice and he was really pleased. I just feel so fustrated all the time. I always feel t...	sandy	2	1315	Nov 5, 2005 by KathyS
	Chrissy... (Preview) I am thinking of you and Amanda this afternoon, and keeping my thoughts positive. Please let us know what the cardiologist had to say. With sincere concern, Diva	Diva	6	874	Nov 5, 2005 by chrissy
	bad day/good day (Preview) Yesterday was rough. I thought I was doing good until I had a situation at work. My boss was in the cube next to me speaking to a co-worker (and friend) about how she needed to "speak to me" at the request of her boss. Now any of you know that work in a cube know that there isn't too much privacy. I...	Kim	0	574	Nov 5, 2005 by Kim
	I've done it (Preview) Hi everyone please bear with me this will be a long post. I have set my first and most important boundary with my A. I started the conversation by saying I am not doing this to hurt you I just want you to listen and this is not a threat or an attack on you. I told him why I was seeing a counsel...	leo	8	952	Nov 5, 2005 by marmare
	Why be greatful? (Preview) Today Iam greatful that I was able to make the AM meeting and share. Once again my HP leads me to what I need to hear and say, so thank you for listening. I had a wonderful evening with a friend lastnight, but bumped into a freind from my past, i concluded she was a "season friend" funny though,...	sunny1	0	739	Nov 5, 2005 by sunny1
	Looking for Lin0606 (Preview) Hi guys Hope everyone is well Does anyone know where Lin is? I'm just wondering if she is on vacation or if anyone knows if she is? I would appreciate any info Thanks, Julie	browneyes	0	756	Nov 5, 2005 by browneyes
	Reality sinks in once more (Preview) Well it was so nice to have my real high day with my kids on Thursday. It really made me believe that I was doing the right thing. Made me think that my HP was telling me something. I knew it wouldn't last but I wished it wouldn't feel so drastically different. Today I never heard from my A. That is good in...	sandie123	5	933	Nov 5, 2005 by marmare
	An old Al-Anon Slogan (Preview) Dear Friends, I am finding myself a little irritated this morning and feeling the need to share an old slogan with all of you. As part of a continuing Step 10, I find it important to look at my behavior as I relate to other people. Step 10 helps me decide if I need to make an amends and learn fr...	bob6502	7	1031	Nov 5, 2005 by browneyes
	Live and let live..... (Preview) Live and let live.... I totally learned something valuable for once in my entire life and that is living each day as if it was your last day. I have found myself so caught up in this fast pace materialistic world that I had forgotten where I came from, and what my values were. I am not saying I a...	Lauren ashley	2	675	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Can't seem to shake this one off (Preview) This week has been a tough week emotionally with me and my "a". We have been fighting like cats and dogs. On Wednesday morning we got into a major fight on the way taking him to work because he wants me to pay for his car insurance and his gas. He makes $7hr, which does not cover his end of...	twinmom2	7	928	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	for a lifetime (Preview) I bumped into someone tonight that was a friend of mine afew years back. Have you ever heard of the phrase, people are in your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime? Well how true. (I met this person when I was single the first time. My daughter was only 2yrs old and she and h...	sunny1	1	831	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Questions on Boundaries (Preview) I feel that I am at a place where I don't know what to do about my marriage. I left for a while and came back after 6 weeks and things were good (the honeymoon period) for awhile. My husband works out of town alot and he called me last night and we were discussing money. We ended up getting...	JulieLynn	5	954	Nov 5, 2005 by JulieLynn
	What did I start? I REALLY dont want to do this! (Preview) Ok so now Im going through the "I dont want to do this" thinking. Why did I come to this website, why did I go to the doctor? Its not me! Its HIM! HE needs to get help, not me! Ready to stop and just take care of myself - do things that make me happy - take a walk, go to the movies, etc I DONT want to spend my night...	Barbara	15	761	Nov 5, 2005 by kissers
	the truth....my PAINFUL pal (Preview) *Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise. --Sigmund Freud* The truth is our friend. It is a rough and humble kind of friend--but a friend nonetheless. Each of us will need to learn to spend time with this friend because it is one that is not easy to escape. It is always turning up when we le...	rosie light shines	3	850	Nov 4, 2005 by leo
	Question about boundaries (Preview) This is my question. I know I have to set boundaries and I know what those boundaries are but when it comes to telling my "A" what the boundaries are I am not sure in what format I should convey those boundaries. Does this make any sense? For example, if I walk up to my A and tell hi...	brakkenk	3	880	Nov 4, 2005 by leo
	Thank You All for your support (Preview) Hey roomies: I just wanted to say thank you to all of you for your support. You have all given me a place to speak my mind about how I am feeling and I have also felt that this is the one place that i am understood. Yes, my A is going to rehab and I am happy for him. But what I feel most strange about is the fact tha...	Kim	2	615	Nov 4, 2005 by megan
	I AM VERY UPSET WHATS NEXT (Preview) MY 13 TEEN YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS GETTING REALLY BAD CHEST PAINS & DOUBLED OVER IN PAIN SO I BROUGHT HER TO THE DR. THE DR. DID AN EKG & SAID HER HEART BEAT IS SLOWER THAN MOST KIDS WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN? I HAVE TO GO TO A CARDIOLOGIST TOMORROW I AM SO UPSET & SO IS &...	chrissy	14	1037	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	When I thought I would give up.... (Preview) OMG you don't know how many times I have wanted to totally give up..... I thought live for what??? But now I know God gave me a purpose to live... I guess I blamed God for all the bad that has happened during my life... but God only gives us so much that we can handle... And everything happens for a...	Lauren ashley	5	974	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Fear....revisited. (Preview) Fear… Okay, I choked, not literally, at a meeting. One of the topics was fear, and I really, really wanted to share at that moment, and I just couldn’t get it out. Then, as the meeting started to close with a moment of silence, in my own silence I was feeling very, very, very small...	Satori	5	643	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	well another day he took off work (Preview) This guy didnt have enough sick time when he was out with his kidney. Didnt get paid for 3wks. He needs to go Nov 16 to have his thyroid lumps aspirated. Knowing he may need time off (if they decide to take out the thyroid) he's still taking time off now to stay home. What the frig is wrong with him?	Barbara	5	640	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Working on NOT Obsessing (Preview) All, Over the past few months I've been actively working on not obsessing on other people, places, things I can not control. Like many of you here, my obsession often focuses on whether so and so is going to call or not call, why haven't they called?, etc. Last night as I was in the midst of this familiar...	BlueCloud	3	1031	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	this is me a 1 yr ago (Preview) THESE ARE POST FROM LAST YEAR WHEN I FIRST STARTED SOME THINGS ARE THE SAME AN SOME I HAVE LEARN AS I WENT ALONG. BUT THIS IS WHERE I WAS. THOUGHT THE NEW COMERS WOULD LIKE TO SEE. IT DOES WORK. My finding little bottles I am very angry because today I found that my husband was dr...	nycbt	2	977	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Attention Ops/Meeting Chairpersons (Preview) Howdy yall! At last night's business meeting, we discussed having a meeting of chat room op's/chairpersons on a monthly basis to discuss meeting protocol, etiquette...etc. Just a chance for us all to get together and go over things so we can all be on the same page. Fo...	david62	6	682	Nov 4, 2005 by kerry5
	I FEEL SOOO GOOD! (Preview) My A is not coming home tonight!!!! After the last few night of him being so mad at me for asking him to leave he called tonight and said he would not be home tonight. He said he wasn't sure where he was going but would not be home. I really appreciated the fact that he called and I told him...	sandie123	9	841	Nov 4, 2005 by lmt123
	very angry right now (Preview) i all just need to vent. my friends celebrating her birthday at a bar this weekend. and i already told her i wont be going for numerous reasons such as that aint my thing anymore and im taking her to a dinner theater as a present from me. she turned everything around and basically said you not going out beca...	notsonew1111	6	882	Nov 4, 2005 by hudsond
	how MUCH is enough??? (Preview) How Much Is Enough? We continue to weigh and measure our food when we are maintaining as well as when we are losing. Since we are compulsive overeaters, we do not have a built in concept of how much food is enough. Exact measurements relieve us of the anxiety of deciding how much is enough. Since we ar...	rosie light shines	1	566	Nov 4, 2005 by Satori
	He's going to rehab (Preview) Hello Roomies: Ok, so this morning I'm having a crazy day at work when my cell phone rings from a unknown number. As this phone doubles as my work phone, I answer it. It's my husband (A) telling me he needs to go to rehab. I'm in the middle of my work day and thankfully I work in the social service fie...	Kim	8	716	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Just a thought on feelings (Preview) You can feel only your own feelings, not another person's. Having empathy for those we love, and being able to share their joys and sorrows, is part of our nature as warm, caring human beings. Taken to an extreme, however, too much empathy can mean that we lose our boundaries as emotionally separa...	sandie123	3	611	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Still angry... (Preview) I went to a meeting Friday morning, went back to work to find my husband drunk. It wasn't even 10:00am. I knew he had to go to a job site. Wish with all my heart that he wouldn't drive. Got him something to eat before he left. By the time I got off work, he was worse. I t...	barkley	10	781	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	looking for an idea? (Preview) Does anyone have ideas that have worked for them that they would like to share, regarding your HP. Like a journal, prayer list or something like that? Im looking for ideas that might work for me? I did get one the other day from a post here about a "god bag". I liked that. ...	sunny1	6	656	Nov 4, 2005 by sunny1
	ACOAs (Preview) My name is Diana Breshears. I am an ACOA and a graduate student at Colorado State University. I have devoted my studies to accurate research of alcoholic families. I am curently conducting a research study for a class project and am looking for adult children of alcoholic...	Diana	1	655	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	True Romance (as well as an alcoholic can!!!) (Preview) I have been known to criticize my husband's (AKA the "A") romantic style. Of course, my own expectations have NOTHING to do with it... I got home from work before him yesterday, and there was a message from him. He just wanted to know if I got home safe, was thinking about me etc...	captcodee	9	1104	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	suspicious minds (Preview) I'm caught in a trap.... I can't walk out... because I love u too much baby(?) My husband is home sick today. I think he is legitimately ill (as opposed to chemically) but I'm not sure. He has lied so often that I have no idea what to think. I know it doesn't matter and either way he is ill BUT I ha...	gknee	4	832	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	my dad (Preview) My dad has been sober for about 3 weeks now. On Wednesday wasn't a good day. I started off the day that I locked my keys in the car. I had to have a friend come up and open the door for me so I could open the door. I call my dad and told him I was running late and why. I told him 15 it would take my friend to get to my hous...	nycbt	2	604	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
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