Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

sunny1 · sunny1

Does anyone have ideas

that have worked for them that they would like to share, regarding your HP. Like a journal, prayer list or something like that? Im looking for ideas that might work for me? I did get one the other day from a post here about a "god bag". I liked that. ...

Diana · Diana

My name is Diana Breshears. I am an ACOA and a graduate student at Colorado State University. I have devoted my studies to accurate research of alcoholic families. I am curently conducting a research study for a class project and am looking for adult children of alcoholic...

captcodee · captcodee

I have been known to criticize my husband's (AKA the "A") romantic style. Of course, my own expectations have NOTHING to do with it...

I got home from work before him yesterday, and there was a message from him. He just wanted to know if I got home safe, was thinking about me etc...

gknee · gknee

I'm caught in a trap.... I can't walk out... because I love u too much baby(?) My husband is home sick today. I think he is legitimately ill (as opposed to chemically) but I'm not sure. He has lied so often that I have no idea what to think. I know it doesn't matter and either way he is ill BUT I ha...

nycbt · nycbt

My dad has been sober for about 3 weeks now. On Wednesday wasn't a good day. I started off the day that I locked my keys in the car. I had to have a friend come up and open the door for me so I could open the door. I call my dad and told him I was running late and why. I told him 15 it would take my friend to get to my hous...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi all.... I posted this earlier today, in response to another string, but with the amount of board activity on here today, it is already onto page 2.... I am a huge advocate of the MIP board, and think our discussion board is the best one going... There are other good ones out there as w...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Oh I have so much to share. I can say now that my marriage is going to survive and that I am truly grateful for this program. I went to my home group last night. I have been to some great meetings, but last night takes the cake. I said in my last post that I have been thinking about my actions...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 18. Both of my parents are alcoholics and my mom is the reason I'm here. So I'd obviously be going to these meetings as a child of an alcoholic; not a husband or wife like I fear the meeting would be full of. I'm thinking of going to a face-to-face alanon meeting but I'm worri...

hadit · hadit

Hello everyone, I feel like I have been on a vacation since I haven't been here on the boards for about two weeks. Sorta just been keeping to myself and trying to figure out what I am doing in life. I know going into myself and not sharing isn't good but I'm back. Still confused, but back none the less. I...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, Question for you: we have a young girl at work (20) who's mother is an addict (alcohol and drugs) and is emotionally abusive to her children. The other 2 have gotten out of the house. "Emily" has now moved out. She's on the fringe of becoming an alcoholic herself. There are definte signs...

pixel04 · pixel04

Well, my father now has a court appointed guardian. I participated in the hearing, spoke honestly, and left the results to whatever they would become. I feel good okay about my part in it. I only spent a short time with family this weekend. While I can observe their often unreasonable behavior f...

sunny1 · sunny1

Wow what a reminder, you know when you just think its fate? Ya no! its your HP talking to you. I have been struggling alot lately. pining for more of what I dont know. My Ex who is my A, is very active and my current partner is in recovery with 16yrs this dec. My kids are little and demand a...

UncleLou · UncleLou

This has been one crazy ride. After all the tears and back and forth about whether to try to get out of the sale of our house to work things out. I resigned myself to the fact that if I push my ex to keep the house, it can only backfire. I need to let it all go. I held off calling the buyers and seeing if they...

Barbara · Barbara

Im irritable, depressed, very moody, very nitpicky have been for 2months now - nothing seems to snap me out of it When is it time to call the doctor for medication? (prozac) noone can stand to be around me - DS, friends, coworkers - my support system - I cant stand to be around DH -- Edited by Barbara...

ellena · ellena

My dad got sober last year. I thought things were getting better until he met a woman on a dating website who is going to Gamblers Anonymous and left my mom. In my opinion, he is acting almost as crazy as he was when he was drinking. This woman is a complete loony toon - no o...

cdb · cdb

Thank you so much for your prayers. I do pray for you every night. My HP is being good to me :) I feel blessed to have all of you as I feel we learn from each other. Since it is after 5 am, I will take tomorrow to get caught up on the posts and reply :) My mom seems to be worsening but two people here gave me hope about...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, Just wanted to share some good news about my A. Most of you know that after his current relapse, he (operative word, he with my full support) decided that he would be better off in a halfway house. Well today he has moved out of the halfway house into assisted living. He shares an apartmen...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Days of Healing Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty, Daily Meditations for Adult Children Many of us are afraid of the wounded child living within us. We are afraid of remembering too much, afraid of feeling overwhelmed, afraid of the rage that will be stirred up. But in...

Diva · Diva

I read again and again how I can overcome my anger and resentment, and that I must realize that the anger and resentment is not caused by the A in my life. Well, what about the serene life I led for all those years before he showed up? I can not look at this and rationally conclude that I am causing my own unhap...

bob6502 · bob6502

Group Conscience Meeting Agenda - November 2, 2005 I apologize to everyone for not doing this the night before. My only excuse is that I have been very tired and very busy cleaning up the very tired mistakes I did cause I was very tired...teehee!! Anyway...here is the meeting...

Satori · Satori

Since I have been On-line it has been a wonderful experience to see the many ways that we express ourselves and let each of us know we are not alone in any step of Al-Anon, to include our first step in the "door." Poetry has been used in my meetings and in these postings, which is a wonde...

kitty · kitty

In second grade when I was 7 years old, many things happened in my life... among the many, one time my mother looked at me & sd, "you look so beautiful when you cry". (& pls don't get me wrong, I have forgiven her for these words & have dealt with this &/or maybe still dealing...

Briarpatch · Briarpatch

I feel so alone most of the time. I do all the financial stuff in our home because my husband won't do it. He would rather just drink. He's a functioning A and it drives me nuts. I'm so angry. I don't let him drive the kids in the evening and I know he hides the booze in his truck. I just cringe when he touches me....

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Seventh Day Slumber - Caroline From the album Once Upon A Shattered Life Where do I begin, there’s so much I want to say to make it easier Tomorrows on its way, do you believe I want to take your painful memories I know you want to run away I know that you can’t see tomorrow Chorus: Caroline let me wipe away...

Barbara · Barbara

and didnt ask (of course) and he invited another friend too! Now Im looking for somewhere to take DS for dinner!

marmare · marmare

Okay, I have applied for a new job! The commute would be 15 minutes, compared to 60 minutes, it's a union job with benefits. Please say a prayer, my mom hasn't been feeling well, and the new job would be 1 mile from her house. Thanks Hugs Mary

Feather · Feather

Hi All! I have been lurking in the background here for a little while, reading all the great info and seeing bits of my life in your posts. I decided it was time to say Hi!

A little of my story - I have been married to my A for 17 years, in our early years I did not see the signs of alcoholism, I may be a...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hi everyone, I broke it off tonite with this guy I had been seeing as I can't stand the rollercoaster

any longer. I have been so full of anxiety, fear, loneliness for the past year and I have had enough. He had given me so much hope, told me to be patient, and that there would be a time fo...

gknee · gknee

the Hospital Window Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talk...

kitty · kitty

John Bradshaw, a recovering alcoholic did a series on the Dysfunctional Family - I watched the video over & over. He explained that how in a dysfunctional family each member is "like a piece hanging off of a mobile" & if one gets spinning or bumped - the whole family feels the waves... ...

jj · jj

Yesterday we got our first snow fall. This morning when I got up and the sun was comming up the snow was so beautiful!!! What is good is that it is not too cold which makes it even nicer!!! I was not looking forward to winter but today made it a bit easier to appreciate it for the beauty!! JJ:smi...

tullemars · tullemars

My A was removed from the house last Month and seems to be doing very well in her program. She has been in and out of programs for 2 years but this is the first time she has been removed from the home. We care for each other very much and are not looking to divorce. We have Four kids and and we both love the...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

It’s Never Good Enough Whatever I do is never good enough for you You expect too much out of me I’m not a little kid anymore You’re getting to me slowly I feel your presence lingering around It’s weird now Lauren-ash You a...

nancyfrances · nancyfrances

I am new to this website as of a few minutes ago. Very neat and helpful. I have been married for 18 years to what I had considered first to be an recreational drinker. (I am also the child of a major alcoholic). Our marriage is on the rocks and he doesn't see that his recreational...

hudsond · hudsond

Things have been going well. My A has been sober for almost 4 weeks. It has been really nice. We are doing things together and as a family, and it is fun. But yesterday I found myself very sad and depressed feeling. I don't understand why. I have been trying to work on my s...

taddy · taddy

Hello, My son has been an addict since the age of 14 (there is alcoholism on both sides of his family). He's now 21. He's been in rehab, through years of counseling, joined the navy, got kicked out, worked, just started college and is failing. There's always an excuse - the teacher is stupid, the navy i...

Barbara · Barbara

who doesnt own a car? Im mad enough that DH needs to drive 20mins each way to pickup/bring home his friend twice a wk but there is no way I want this guy sleeping at my house on a regular basis! Im feeling that if I leave DHs booze alone (not mix with water) that DH will be getting drunk faster and there won...

Barbara · Barbara

Who has read this book? What did you think? I received it today from the library. Seems like an easy read - hoping it helps. Also received "The Courage to Change" but I think that will be harder to get through.

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Honesty is stronger medicine than sympathy, which may console but often conceals. --Gretel Ehrlich We owe our brothers and sisters in this program our honest feedback. And we need the same honesty from them. There are times in meetings when it would be easiest to give someone sympathy and priva...

jj · jj

My hubby out of the blue Saturday Morning stated that his needs that I did not meet were being satisfied by some one no names mentioned. I was stunned!!! I didn't react just turned arround and continued on with what I was doing. I didn't really have much time to think about it until late Sund...

ESH · ESH

OK, while trying to figure out how to login to the meeting in progress, I probably disturbed those in the morning "meeting room" today... if so, I apologize. I cannot figure out for the life of me how to log on as ESH. The danged thing keeps telling me that I am giving an erroneous, command or...

sunny1 · sunny1

So I wonder, am I the only person out there that is not greatful for what they have? I am so busy trying to be the ring leader and the person who has to have it her way. That I am not satisfied with what I have and am always looking in the windows of everyone else thinking I want what they have.&nbs...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

What is wrong with the world? There is violence in the world People shooting each other, Parents beating their kids Prostitutes standing at the corner Children having no one to turn to The world is going insane Kids now have to deal with the world and...

Kim · Kim

So, I didn't even make it 24 hours. Gave in to my anger and called my A to pick a fight aboutthe bills. Why? I don't know. Because I sometimes can't help myself in giving in to the anger. It's not the bills I'm angry about. It's his relapse and my lack of control over his addiction. But any excuse to arg...

mxxmom · mxxmom

Hello - I have a 20 yr. old son who is an alcoholic. He's been using/drinking since he was about 15 & I fear at this rate he does not have many years left. It's a long story & one you've probably heard many times before...but suffice it to say that nothing, not Rehab/AA/NA/etc...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello My Dear And Very Much Loved Friends, Well I am still not sure what is going on as for my marriage. He came home, but isn't really speaking to me. He is also sleeping on the couch. It is hard to know if there isn't any communication. I am just going to wait until he is ready. That is all I can do. Well, tha...

chrissy · chrissy

well my a is doing so well

he is going to work every day ,going to his meetings and going home every night. i was going to surprise him and meet him for lunch but he asked me to come & i told him i was going to surprise you and he was so happy. last week he bought an air mattress an...

Ratchie · Ratchie

Today was my counseling session, and my therapist gave me some paperwork on setting boundaries. Ouch, that hurt! I realized in reading thru the list that I have let a LOT of these things go down in my life. And as "Canadianguy" pointed out in reply to my last post, my A hasn't r...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone! Sometimes I have difficulty comprehending the 12 steps, so this evening I bought a book by Abraham J. Twerski, M.D. called "Waking Up Just In Time". It has Charlie Brown on the front cover.

I am reading Step 2 and read something that really hit me over the head. It said that some people...

megan · megan

Hello roomies As some of you know I am going through a divorce. I am married for 14 years to an alcoholic. The last 3 when he did not work, drank 24/7 and was emotionally abusive and controlling SHEER HELL Yesterday I paid bills. I realized I had only a few checks left. I calle...

david62 · david62

Come one come all...Tonight is the monthly business meeting for MIP Al-anon group. Time: 6:00pm Central time (I leave you to do the conversion to your applicable time zone

) Place: The Chat Room Attire: Casual Hope to see you there.....! David:smil...

kitty · kitty

Yeah, (rosie) I know saying "never" or "always" are a little crazy. I would love to find someone *special* to share myself with. Ppl just seem to change when they get married to each other - it's bizarre. I would love to think it is a possibility (marriage), someday, who knows. ...

Layla · Layla

Hi, I am new here and to Alanon. I am 52 years old and about 5 months into a new relationship with a man who I have known since I was 15. We lost touch with each other when we were 18 and about 3 years ago started emailing each other and talking on the phone. Even though I grew up in a...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

ummmm i feel soo lost and alone... I feel as if I am just one person in the huge world. All I see is a dark tunnel, and no light shining through. I know I am alive on the outside because I am breathing, but my inside is dead..... My Own Life Living a lie is how I live Trust no one...

Barbara · Barbara

As Ive said before Ive been pouring out DHs vodka for about 10yrs now and replacing it with water. Ive been told not to do this. However, Im afraid of what he'll be like if I dont! He does appear to get drunker when the vodka isnt diluted. But maybe this is how he needs to be to realize he needs to get better?...

Satori · Satori

I spent a tremendous amount of downtime given to me by a lack of electricity for days from Hurricane Wilma to work Step One, Step Two, Step Three, and Step Four on something that started off quite simply with something I said to myself during the hurricane. As some of you know, I am a storm tracke...

gknee · gknee

Hi all- Just bouncing some more thoughts out here for you to give me your 2cents on. I am so happy to have you people in my life to air this stuff out with. As I ranted yesterday, my A husband has been lying to me about use of pot again..(what else is new) We have been in marriage counseling for the pas...

leo · leo

Hi everyone update on the Melbourne Cup horse race in Australia. Makybe Diva did it again 3 years in a row. She is just a beautiful horse and the nation has fallen in love with her. Just as we have our Diva on the board who is made of inner strength so too is this horse. Sorry for th...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today i am very angry. my a brought to my attention that when he went out a week ago he went into his savings and speant all the car insurance money for this months payment. so he went to his grandmother who is the most loving christian i have ever met. so basically she is paying for his crack habit. he admitt...

gknee · gknee

this is just a continued rant from my last post. Abbyral made a great comment--stop expecting and start accepting. I CAN"T. I just cannot accept the idea that this is a hopeless situation. I have seen improvements--in both him and myself and our family dynamics. but I'd be lying if I said that i don't ex...

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	looking for an idea? (Preview) Does anyone have ideas that have worked for them that they would like to share, regarding your HP. Like a journal, prayer list or something like that? Im looking for ideas that might work for me? I did get one the other day from a post here about a "god bag". I liked that. ...	sunny1	6	454	Nov 4, 2005 by sunny1
	ACOAs (Preview) My name is Diana Breshears. I am an ACOA and a graduate student at Colorado State University. I have devoted my studies to accurate research of alcoholic families. I am curently conducting a research study for a class project and am looking for adult children of alcoholic...	Diana	1	415	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	True Romance (as well as an alcoholic can!!!) (Preview) I have been known to criticize my husband's (AKA the "A") romantic style. Of course, my own expectations have NOTHING to do with it... I got home from work before him yesterday, and there was a message from him. He just wanted to know if I got home safe, was thinking about me etc...	captcodee	9	864	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	suspicious minds (Preview) I'm caught in a trap.... I can't walk out... because I love u too much baby(?) My husband is home sick today. I think he is legitimately ill (as opposed to chemically) but I'm not sure. He has lied so often that I have no idea what to think. I know it doesn't matter and either way he is ill BUT I ha...	gknee	4	613	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	my dad (Preview) My dad has been sober for about 3 weeks now. On Wednesday wasn't a good day. I started off the day that I locked my keys in the car. I had to have a friend come up and open the door for me so I could open the door. I call my dad and told him I was running late and why. I told him 15 it would take my friend to get to my hous...	nycbt	2	390	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Book and website..... (Preview) Hi all.... I posted this earlier today, in response to another string, but with the amount of board activity on here today, it is already onto page 2.... I am a huge advocate of the MIP board, and think our discussion board is the best one going... There are other good ones out there as w...	canadianguy	4	530	Nov 4, 2005 by cidboy
	I think my marriage is over III (Preview) Hello Roomies, Oh I have so much to share. I can say now that my marriage is going to survive and that I am truly grateful for this program. I went to my home group last night. I have been to some great meetings, but last night takes the cake. I said in my last post that I have been thinking about my actions...	Dolphin123	5	608	Nov 4, 2005 by cdb
	Face-to-face meetings (Preview) I'm 18. Both of my parents are alcoholics and my mom is the reason I'm here. So I'd obviously be going to these meetings as a child of an alcoholic; not a husband or wife like I fear the meeting would be full of. I'm thinking of going to a face-to-face alanon meeting but I'm worri...	Lanchas	7	483	Nov 4, 2005 by canadianguy
	Does this mean there may be hope afterall? (Preview) Hello everyone, I feel like I have been on a vacation since I haven't been here on the boards for about two weeks. Sorta just been keeping to myself and trying to figure out what I am doing in life. I know going into myself and not sharing isn't good but I'm back. Still confused, but back none the less. I...	hadit	5	735	Nov 4, 2005 by Jeannie
	Question (Preview) Hi roomies, Question for you: we have a young girl at work (20) who's mother is an addict (alcohol and drugs) and is emotionally abusive to her children. The other 2 have gotten out of the house. "Emily" has now moved out. She's on the fringe of becoming an alcoholic herself. There are definte signs...	Karilynn	3	397	Nov 4, 2005 by cdb
	this weekend (Preview) Well, my father now has a court appointed guardian. I participated in the hearing, spoke honestly, and left the results to whatever they would become. I feel good okay about my part in it. I only spent a short time with family this weekend. While I can observe their often unreasonable behavior f...	pixel04	2	429	Nov 3, 2005 by iona54
	HP reminders (Preview) Wow what a reminder, you know when you just think its fate? Ya no! its your HP talking to you. I have been struggling alot lately. pining for more of what I dont know. My Ex who is my A, is very active and my current partner is in recovery with 16yrs this dec. My kids are little and demand a...	sunny1	2	363	Nov 3, 2005 by sunny1
	The roller coaster continues... (Preview) This has been one crazy ride. After all the tears and back and forth about whether to try to get out of the sale of our house to work things out. I resigned myself to the fact that if I push my ex to keep the house, it can only backfire. I need to let it all go. I held off calling the buyers and seeing if they...	UncleLou	8	581	Nov 3, 2005 by nmike
	when is it time to call doctor for medication? (Preview) Im irritable, depressed, very moody, very nitpicky have been for 2months now - nothing seems to snap me out of it When is it time to call the doctor for medication? (prozac) noone can stand to be around me - DS, friends, coworkers - my support system - I cant stand to be around DH -- Edited by Barbara...	Barbara	9	1039	Nov 3, 2005 by Barbara
	Wigging out with another addict... (Preview) My dad got sober last year. I thought things were getting better until he met a woman on a dating website who is going to Gamblers Anonymous and left my mom. In my opinion, he is acting almost as crazy as he was when he was drinking. This woman is a complete loony toon - no o...	ellena	4	806	Nov 3, 2005 by hopefortoday
	Hello friends :) (Preview) Thank you so much for your prayers. I do pray for you every night. My HP is being good to me :) I feel blessed to have all of you as I feel we learn from each other. Since it is after 5 am, I will take tomorrow to get caught up on the posts and reply :) My mom seems to be worsening but two people here gave me hope about...	cdb	6	436	Nov 3, 2005 by cdb
	One step closer! (Preview) Hi roomies, Just wanted to share some good news about my A. Most of you know that after his current relapse, he (operative word, he with my full support) decided that he would be better off in a halfway house. Well today he has moved out of the halfway house into assisted living. He shares an apartmen...	Karilynn	5	443	Nov 3, 2005 by hudsond
	meet my IC....BOTH of them!!!! (Preview) Days of Healing Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty, Daily Meditations for Adult Children Many of us are afraid of the wounded child living within us. We are afraid of remembering too much, afraid of feeling overwhelmed, afraid of the rage that will be stirred up. But in...	rosie light shines	1	389	Nov 3, 2005 by Karilynn
	I have to admit...sometimes I wonder... (Preview) I read again and again how I can overcome my anger and resentment, and that I must realize that the anger and resentment is not caused by the A in my life. Well, what about the serene life I led for all those years before he showed up? I can not look at this and rationally conclude that I am causing my own unhap...	Diva	15	749	Nov 3, 2005 by Diva
	Group Conscience Meeting Agenda- November 2 (Preview) Group Conscience Meeting Agenda - November 2, 2005 I apologize to everyone for not doing this the night before. My only excuse is that I have been very tired and very busy cleaning up the very tired mistakes I did cause I was very tired...teehee!! Anyway...here is the meeting...	bob6502	2	451	Nov 3, 2005 by DanaAngel
	A New View... (Preview) Since I have been On-line it has been a wonderful experience to see the many ways that we express ourselves and let each of us know we are not alone in any step of Al-Anon, to include our first step in the "door." Poetry has been used in my meetings and in these postings, which is a wonde...	Satori	3	504	Nov 3, 2005 by leo
	A Hurt Child Fights Back (Preview) In second grade when I was 7 years old, many things happened in my life... among the many, one time my mother looked at me & sd, "you look so beautiful when you cry". (& pls don't get me wrong, I have forgiven her for these words & have dealt with this &/or maybe still dealing...	kitty	6	420	Nov 3, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	Any trick to not being angry? (Preview) I feel so alone most of the time. I do all the financial stuff in our home because my husband won't do it. He would rather just drink. He's a functioning A and it drives me nuts. I'm so angry. I don't let him drive the kids in the evening and I know he hides the booze in his truck. I just cringe when he touches me....	Briarpatch	9	579	Nov 2, 2005 by kissers
	my song (Preview) Seventh Day Slumber - Caroline From the album Once Upon A Shattered Life Where do I begin, there’s so much I want to say to make it easier Tomorrows on its way, do you believe I want to take your painful memories I know you want to run away I know that you can’t see tomorrow Chorus: Caroline let me wipe away...	Lauren ashley	1	364	Nov 2, 2005 by kissers
	OMG! He invited his drinking buddy for Thanksgiving! (Preview) and didnt ask (of course) and he invited another friend too! Now Im looking for somewhere to take DS for dinner!	Barbara	3	427	Nov 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	The Power of Prayer (Preview) Okay, I have applied for a new job! The commute would be 15 minutes, compared to 60 minutes, it's a union job with benefits. Please say a prayer, my mom hasn't been feeling well, and the new job would be 1 mile from her house. Thanks Hugs Mary	marmare	6	407	Nov 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	Just wanted to say Hi! (Preview) Hi All! I have been lurking in the background here for a little while, reading all the great info and seeing bits of my life in your posts. I decided it was time to say Hi! A little of my story - I have been married to my A for 17 years, in our early years I did not see the signs of alcoholism, I may be a...	Feather	8	647	Nov 2, 2005 by Feather
	Broke it off (Preview) Hi everyone, I broke it off tonite with this guy I had been seeing as I can't stand the rollercoaster any longer. I have been so full of anxiety, fear, loneliness for the past year and I have had enough. He had given me so much hope, told me to be patient, and that there would be a time fo...	Diane43	8	484	Nov 2, 2005 by kitty
	this made my day (Preview) the Hospital Window Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talk...	gknee	5	415	Nov 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	emotional enmeshment (Preview) John Bradshaw, a recovering alcoholic did a series on the Dysfunctional Family - I watched the video over & over. He explained that how in a dysfunctional family each member is "like a piece hanging off of a mobile" & if one gets spinning or bumped - the whole family feels the waves... ...	kitty	3	3335	Nov 2, 2005 by kitty
	Snow!! (Preview) Yesterday we got our first snow fall. This morning when I got up and the sun was comming up the snow was so beautiful!!! What is good is that it is not too cold which makes it even nicer!!! I was not looking forward to winter but today made it a bit easier to appreciate it for the beauty!! JJ:smi...	jj	3	385	Nov 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	Question please (Preview) My A was removed from the house last Month and seems to be doing very well in her program. She has been in and out of programs for 2 years but this is the first time she has been removed from the home. We care for each other very much and are not looking to divorce. We have Four kids and and we both love the...	tullemars	3	688	Nov 2, 2005 by abbyal
	more of my dark poems (Preview) It’s Never Good Enough Whatever I do is never good enough for you You expect too much out of me I’m not a little kid anymore You’re getting to me slowly I feel your presence lingering around It’s weird now Lauren-ash You a...	Lauren ashley	1	355	Nov 2, 2005 by megan
	What is alcoholism - what are the signs. (Preview) I am new to this website as of a few minutes ago. Very neat and helpful. I have been married for 18 years to what I had considered first to be an recreational drinker. (I am also the child of a major alcoholic). Our marriage is on the rocks and he doesn't see that his recreational...	nancyfrances	5	497	Nov 2, 2005 by nancyfrances
	Not sure what to feel (Preview) Things have been going well. My A has been sober for almost 4 weeks. It has been really nice. We are doing things together and as a family, and it is fun. But yesterday I found myself very sad and depressed feeling. I don't understand why. I have been trying to work on my s...	hudsond	3	443	Nov 2, 2005 by hudsond
	New - Please Help (Preview) Hello, My son has been an addict since the age of 14 (there is alcoholism on both sides of his family). He's now 21. He's been in rehab, through years of counseling, joined the navy, got kicked out, worked, just started college and is failing. There's always an excuse - the teacher is stupid, the navy i...	taddy	3	450	Nov 2, 2005 by canadianguy
	what can i do about DHs drinking buddy? (Preview) who doesnt own a car? Im mad enough that DH needs to drive 20mins each way to pickup/bring home his friend twice a wk but there is no way I want this guy sleeping at my house on a regular basis! Im feeling that if I leave DHs booze alone (not mix with water) that DH will be getting drunk faster and there won...	Barbara	5	417	Nov 2, 2005 by rosie light shines
	"Getting Them Sober - you can help!" (Preview) Who has read this book? What did you think? I received it today from the library. Seems like an easy read - hoping it helps. Also received "The Courage to Change" but I think that will be harder to get through.	Barbara	10	1521	Nov 2, 2005 by Diane43
	honesty or sympathy???? (Preview) *Honesty is stronger medicine than sympathy, which may console but often conceals. --Gretel Ehrlich* We owe our brothers and sisters in this program our honest feedback. And we need the same honesty from them. There are times in meetings when it would be easiest to give someone sympathy and priva...	rosie light shines	1	1463	Nov 2, 2005 by megan
	manipulation at its worst (Preview) My hubby out of the blue Saturday Morning stated that his needs that I did not meet were being satisfied by some one no names mentioned. I was stunned!!! I didn't react just turned arround and continued on with what I was doing. I didn't really have much time to think about it until late Sund...	jj	7	547	Nov 2, 2005 by TLC2
	Ugh! ESH cannot figure out chatroom. Bleh! (Preview) OK, while trying to figure out how to login to the meeting in progress, I probably disturbed those in the morning "meeting room" today... if so, I apologize. I cannot figure out for the life of me how to log on as ESH. The danged thing keeps telling me that I am giving an erroneous, command or...	ESH	6	504	Nov 2, 2005 by shimo
	Stuck in Reverse (Preview) So I wonder, am I the only person out there that is not greatful for what they have? I am so busy trying to be the ring leader and the person who has to have it her way. That I am not satisfied with what I have and am always looking in the windows of everyone else thinking I want what they have.&nbs...	sunny1	3	429	Nov 2, 2005 by Satori
	more of my pathetic poems (Preview) What is wrong with the world? There is violence in the world People shooting each other, Parents beating their kids Prostitutes standing at the corner Children having no one to turn to The world is going insane Kids now have to deal with the world and...	Lauren ashley	5	1718	Nov 2, 2005 by kitty
	allowing myself to give to to anger. (Preview) So, I didn't even make it 24 hours. Gave in to my anger and called my A to pick a fight aboutthe bills. Why? I don't know. Because I sometimes can't help myself in giving in to the anger. It's not the bills I'm angry about. It's his relapse and my lack of control over his addiction. But any excuse to arg...	Kim	2	582	Nov 2, 2005 by Diane43
	Faced with kicking son out (Preview) Hello - I have a 20 yr. old son who is an alcoholic. He's been using/drinking since he was about 15 & I fear at this rate he does not have many years left. It's a long story & one you've probably heard many times before...but suffice it to say that nothing, not Rehab/AA/NA/etc...	mxxmom	12	706	Nov 2, 2005 by Jeannie
	I think my marriage is over II (Preview) Hello My Dear And Very Much Loved Friends, Well I am still not sure what is going on as for my marriage. He came home, but isn't really speaking to me. He is also sleeping on the couch. It is hard to know if there isn't any communication. I am just going to wait until he is ready. That is all I can do. Well, tha...	Dolphin123	4	802	Nov 2, 2005 by Jeannie
	he is getting better :) but i am going nuts:( (Preview) well my a is doing so well he is going to work every day ,going to his meetings and going home every night. i was going to surprise him and meet him for lunch but he asked me to come & i told him i was going to surprise you and he was so happy. last week he bought an air mattress an...	chrissy	6	540	Nov 2, 2005 by Jeannie
	When You Give Up Your Boundaries (Preview) Today was my counseling session, and my therapist gave me some paperwork on setting boundaries. Ouch, that hurt! I realized in reading thru the list that I have let a LOT of these things go down in my life. And as "Canadianguy" pointed out in reply to my last post, my A hasn't r...	Ratchie	5	394	Nov 2, 2005 by WakingUp
	Awesome Book on 12 Steps (Preview) Hi everyone! Sometimes I have difficulty comprehending the 12 steps, so this evening I bought a book by Abraham J. Twerski, M.D. called "Waking Up Just In Time". It has Charlie Brown on the front cover. I am reading Step 2 and read something that really hit me over the head. It said that some people...	kissers	3	414	Nov 2, 2005 by brakkenk
	Financial deceit (Preview) Hello roomies As some of you know I am going through a divorce. I am married for 14 years to an alcoholic. The last 3 when he did not work, drank 24/7 and was emotionally abusive and controlling SHEER HELL Yesterday I paid bills. I realized I had only a few checks left. I calle...	megan	13	669	Nov 2, 2005 by dogscribe
	Nov Business Mtg (Preview) Come one come all...Tonight is the monthly business meeting for MIP Al-anon group. Time: 6:00pm Central time (I leave you to do the conversion to your applicable time zone ) Place: The Chat Room Attire: Casual Hope to see you there.....! David:smil...	david62	1	387	Nov 2, 2005 by megan
	opportunity for growth (Preview) Yeah, (rosie) I know saying "never" or "always" are a little crazy. I would love to find someone special to share myself with. Ppl just seem to change when they get married to each other - it's bizarre. I would love to think it is a possibility (marriage), someday, who knows. ...	kitty	4	424	Nov 2, 2005 by leo
	New here and to Alanon (Preview) Hi, I am new here and to Alanon. I am 52 years old and about 5 months into a new relationship with a man who I have known since I was 15. We lost touch with each other when we were 18 and about 3 years ago started emailing each other and talking on the phone. Even though I grew up in a...	Layla	5	646	Nov 2, 2005 by leo
	I live in my own dark little world.... with no light around me (Preview) ummmm i feel soo lost and alone... I feel as if I am just one person in the huge world. All I see is a dark tunnel, and no light shining through. I know I am alive on the outside because I am breathing, but my inside is dead..... My Own Life Living a lie is how I live Trust no one...	Lauren ashley	3	657	Nov 2, 2005 by leo
	does life need to get worse before it gets better? (Preview) As Ive said before Ive been pouring out DHs vodka for about 10yrs now and replacing it with water. Ive been told not to do this. However, Im afraid of what he'll be like if I dont! He does appear to get drunker when the vodka isnt diluted. But maybe this is how he needs to be to realize he needs to get better?...	Barbara	5	478	Nov 2, 2005 by Satori
	Survived Wilma...and then some. (Preview) I spent a tremendous amount of downtime given to me by a lack of electricity for days from Hurricane Wilma to work Step One, Step Two, Step Three, and Step Four on something that started off quite simply with something I said to myself during the hurricane. As some of you know, I am a storm tracke...	Satori	2	689	Nov 2, 2005 by jj
	the "experiment" (Preview) Hi all- Just bouncing some more thoughts out here for you to give me your 2cents on. I am so happy to have you people in my life to air this stuff out with. As I ranted yesterday, my A husband has been lying to me about use of pot again..(what else is new) We have been in marriage counseling for the pas...	gknee	4	915	Nov 1, 2005 by UncleLou
	Go The Diva (Preview) Hi everyone update on the Melbourne Cup horse race in Australia. Makybe Diva did it again 3 years in a row. She is just a beautiful horse and the nation has fallen in love with her. Just as we have our Diva on the board who is made of inner strength so too is this horse. Sorry for th...	leo	2	590	Nov 1, 2005 by Karilynn
	angry about the past (Preview) today i am very angry. my a brought to my attention that when he went out a week ago he went into his savings and speant all the car insurance money for this months payment. so he went to his grandmother who is the most loving christian i have ever met. so basically she is paying for his crack habit. he admitt...	notsonew1111	1	423	Nov 1, 2005 by Maria123
	stop expecting?? (Preview) this is just a continued rant from my last post. Abbyral made a great comment--stop expecting and start accepting. I CAN"T. I just cannot accept the idea that this is a hopeless situation. I have seen improvements--in both him and myself and our family dynamics. but I'd be lying if I said that i don't ex...	gknee	7	825	Nov 1, 2005 by nancyfrances
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