Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

kissers · kissers

I always put everyone in my life first. If a friend was having a difficult time, I would neglect my stuff to take care of them. This goes back to my childhood, taking care of my parent's stuff instead of mine. This is self-inflicted abuse. When I got into Alanon and started to take care of me, some of my frie...

hopefortoday · hopefortoday

I went to a meeting last night where the topic was "pray for the stranger." I got to thinking how to me very often the strangers I pray for are my own family. The people closest to me whom alcohol and drugs have twisted around and turned into people I don't know. This past weekend I sat across the table fro...

swolves · swolves

As some of you know I have a new job....yeah!!!....but I also am dealing with a coworking who seems threatened by me. He has worked there for 6 years and has gotten comfy with the way things were. I on the other hand was told by the boss..."to correct any problems I saw and to basically do my job without dire...

abbyal · abbyal

I have never been more grateful for this program than I am today.This morning my mother died quietly in hosp after a long and painful year of one dissorder after another. I am grateful that she has no pain. Considering where Al-Anon has brought me is a miracle - several yrs ago my mother a...

kerry5 · kerry5

Need replacement chair for tommorow morning> i can not make it i will switchi someones meeting if you like. Could an op please take it tommorow? thanks kerry

meowzmusic · meowzmusic

I found out my husband sent flowers to another woman and gave her a CD box set. The drinking started back the same week I found this out. He claims nothing happened, but the drinking has continued. His behavior has been rude and arrogant once he has two drinks in him. He goes fr...

KathyS · KathyS

I was just reading through the posts and noticed something that got me thinking. I noticed in replies to shares that deal with a member going through a painful situation, so many of us start our replies by saying: I'm so sorry to hear that, or..... I'm so sorry you are going throug...

sandy · sandy

Hi Everyone, Well I thought I was doing pretty good on leaving my daughter alone. But today we went to Legal Aid so she can get a lawyer to find out what rights she has, Her Ex seems to have made all the rules and decisions. Then we went to the court house to file a complaint against him because he refuses to...

Barbara · Barbara

I met DH back in 1981 when we were both heavy into the partying (drinking/cocaine). When our son was born in 1992 I realized I couldnt do it anymore, stopped the cocaine and stopped drinking. I now drink occasionally (vacations/etc but after a night of drinking Im fine for a few months/etc). Seems DH ju...

nycbt · nycbt

I went the whole work day with out doing any of the calling. He called me. I still have not done any of the calling. Even though I am going to be seeing him I am going to see if he does the calling when he goes out. Which I am hoping he doesn't but if he does I hope he does the calling. I am working on not calling him....

nycbt · nycbt

The good thing is in a half hour I am going to be going to lunch so I will be doing my walking and trying not to call him. At my company it is slow so that is why i am want to call. Well I don't know if he even gets why I am not calling. I don't know. But I am trying to get him to miss me but I doubt that is happening though...

chrissy · chrissy

i wanted to thank kissers for her wonderful post!! i got a phone call last night but i couldn't reach her .so i called her this morning and it was from a parent from my old school she needs someone to watch her 9 month old baby i was thrilled. thats just what i needed to survive ....

cidboy · cidboy

Hi, I would like some input/ideas on confronting my a. Mine dropped out of program around Labor Day. I think she thought she could control it and then the first stressful situation came up and she turned to drinking. I believe she thinks the re...

nycbt · nycbt

Well this morning wasn't that good I have called him a couple of times. But like in my last post someone told me to write up here instead of calling so that is what I am doing. I want to call him so bad but like that person said let him miss me. So I might be doing alot of posting today. So thanks for your suggesti...

nycbt · nycbt

Well I went since 8:10 this morning with out talking to him. He just called me he missed talking to me.I feel alitte better that I wasn't the first one to call. He said he was surpised I didn't call him.

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Got this at work and wanted to share........ Dear God... I know you're watching over me And I'm feeling truly blest For no matter what I pray for You always know what's best! I have this circle of E-mail friends, Who mean a lot to me; Some days I "send" and "send," At other times, I...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, We all come here to share in our ESH, to give it, to take it. We take what we like and leave the rest, or that is how it is all supposed to work. I know I practice that, makes my life a lot easier. But at the same time, I want to be helpful. I pray that what I say helps the person in need and most of th...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi everyone Hope you are all doing ok. Sometimes I wonder what I am doing and why I put up with the things that go on around me. Does anyone ever feel that way? Is it low self-esteem, being used to abuse so much that it is comfortable for me to live that way? Well even tho I realize thi...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Ms. CDB, Haven't seen you post recently, how are you doing?

Angie · Angie

Hi everybody - Its taken me 6 days to get here; but here I am . I decided that 'enough was enough' and finally took decisions in my own hands. I ultimately have the choice whether I can accept the current situation (living with an active 'a' or not) I chose the latter. I have moved my young family 15...

nycbt · nycbt

My friend I have known him for going on 17 yrs. He wanted to marry me as long as I have known him. He has been a big part of my life. Because he has been a part of my life a long time I have a hard time setting boundaries. My husbands doesn't trust him because he thinks he will take advantage of me. On Saturday he dr...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Sorry Mommy I am truly sorry I know words cannot express the hurt I have caused you I know I supposed to be mommy’s little angel too I feel so bad Now knowing you are sad Remember this though I never meant for you to hurt like this I wish I can just give u a kiss I want to take it...

captcodee · captcodee

Year one in Alanon: "Today was perfect! Haven't had one like this in ages!" 5 Years in Alanon" "Today was a rough one, Seem to be having alot of those, got to get back on track so I can have all those good days again" Today in Alanon (7 Years) "Today was PERFECT! And you know, so was y...

chrissy · chrissy

i need some one to help me. i need an online sponsor i feel as if i am losing my mind i know i can be strong sometimes ,but this is a very bad weekend for me everthing was going great and bam back to this crap again. thanks hugs chrissy

Free_Bird · Free_Bird

Hi, I am relatively new to posting on here but I have been reading the boards for awhile now. I have read about your situation and my life right is very similar to yours with the exception that my husband is the recovering A in the relationship. My A and I have been together for over 20 years now with him be...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Lost in Silence I am lost in my own world forever Life only gets worse I try and try, but then I curse I am not happy in my skin I just want to be soo thin I have words, but am unheard I am dying slowly of a broken heart For I did not want this life from the start I could have be...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey y'all, i just gotta share this with you guys last night i saw this movie about a guy who had lived with this woman, she had a baby, a boy, whom the guy thought was his...well he wasn't, she had fooled aroudn on him while they were living together, an...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - November 8 Why am I so attracted to alcoholics? I dwelled on that question for more than five years. Then while listening to an adult child speaker at Al-Anon's First International Convention, I had an unexpected spiritual awakening. It occurred to me that my m...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

SO yea..... I hate my xxxx life.....I really do.. I can't wait till im 18... 4 more months and then I am out of this controlling life... seriously i do need a life...I hate myself for being so xxxx stupid sometimes My aunt took my phone.... well my charger that damn bitch*********** she can go to hell f...

kitty · kitty

My mom told me this one today: stealing an idea from one person is called plagarism... stealing ideas from many is called research!

canadianguy · canadianguy

I was reminded the other day, of how important it is for us to keep our perspective, for us to be able to see a bit of humor, despite all that is going on around us..... Even in my darkest moments, when I literally thought my world around me was coming to an end, I found some amount of humor (sometimes d...

leo · leo

Tonight I am faced with the consequences of my boundary. Saturday as you all know I had my heart to heart with my A. Setting the boundary for me of non acceptance of anymore drinking in my marriage. My talk with my A was heartfelt about trust issues, loneliness and the fact tha...

nycbt · nycbt

On Sunday I went to my parents house because of things going on in the house with my husband. Then I didn't call him until 3:30 pm the following afternoon. Normal I would be calling him when I first got in the car, when I went to bed, when I woke up the next moring. I didn't do any of that. He had called me twice a...

jpembert · jpembert

I found this site the other day thought i would give it a try. My huband is a drinker and i am feeling realy down and alone. I need someone to talk to for advice how to help my self.

kitty · kitty

Today makes 26 years that my parents (My mother & step-father) have been married. I kept saying 27 years... the last 4 months have felt like an entire year. July 19th, I was told that my step-dad had been cheatting with mistresses & prostitutes for over 15 years. The new...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, Okay I just came back from the doctors. Last month I had my annual mamomogram, and the films didn't come out right. They called me back in and did some more pictures and an ultrasound because they saw something. I have to go see a surgeon next week and take it from there. I know that I ha...

sg · sg

I had the weekend from hell. My A. relapsed on Saturday and after some absolutely unacceptable behavior Saturday night has decided to check himself in rehab again. He made his appointment for an assessment for the 22 of this month and then wants to start an outpatient program. After this weekend...

alluneedisluv · alluneedisluv

hello everyone! I am greatful to be able to ask my questions online, for I do not have a car! So here goes: I grew up with an alcoholic father. I am now 25, with my own child and husband. I am a recovering alcoholic since 5-11-04. I checked out the brochure for a...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

I love this song to go with recovery. You can find the words to it at: www.lyricsdomain.com Click on W. Then under "Wilson Phillips" Then click on 'Release Me'.

kitty · kitty

Everytime I attend an on-line meeting, I get another quote or saying to add to my list that I kkep reprinting & sticking on walls in my condo. I also keep a copy folded up in my prayer book. So far this is what my inspirational page has on it: (& due to the anonymity of our great Program...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hi everyone, Hope all of you are doing well. I have been feeling sick with the flu the past couple days and just can't seem to get on track. I was laid off from my job about a month ago and not having any luck finding something. I know I can't worry myself sick as that does not h...

Cathy · Cathy

I haven't been here in over a week. I'm reading your posts and trying to keep up but have to share about my A. He is going to a counselor and doctor. The doctor has put him on seroquel, thinks he's bipolar. Anyway, I have to give him credit for trying. I wish I had the time to talk to each and every one of you. I as...

KathyS · KathyS

Have you ever heard the story of the cocoon and the butterfly? Basically a man is walking along and sees a cocoon. He stops and looks at it and sees that a butterfly is trying to emerge. He notices that the butterfly is really struggling. It pains the mans heart to see the butterfly struggle, so h...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I Wish You Enough By Author Unknown At an airport I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together. They had announced her plane’s departure and standing near the door she said, “Daddy, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you eno...

nycbt · nycbt

I am having a hard time not talking to him.

I love to hear him talk.

But I didn't like the way he was talking to me last night.

So for at least the next 15 minutues I will try and stay strong and not call him. My mind set is different now then when I used to do this. When i used to get up here i wo...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

This is a true story.... Once you read this please email to your friends or your a in hopes of trying to save others..and themselves... Jennys horrific story Jenny was so happy about the house they had found. For once in her life '...

marmare · marmare

Friday evening when my A was on his way home, at 6pm!!!! I know what a shock, he shared how his buddy asked him to go with him on Saturday to look at a couple of snowmobiles. It is such hard work not to read more into things then there is. I immediatly thought..."Oh great, now the two drinking bu...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey.. just had a mad notion to post my story in this chatroom. im 24 yrs old and met my recovering alcoholic and drug addict boyf. nearly 2 yrs ago. we were friends for a few weeks then became an item. he told me his background and i accepted his past..as "his past". we got on brilliantly for a y...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Food Is Not Mother In the mind of a baby, "food" is synonymous with "mother." As the baby grows, the two concepts become differentiated, but perhaps never completely separated. We compulsive overeaters may still be confusing food with mother.Often we feel a great deal of hostility and resentm...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband wanted 2000 and I told him no. I did ask what it was for he told me I don't want to know. So because I said no he was giving me a hard time. So I left and went to my parents house. I took a day off from work as well. I haven't cried or called him. He has called once so far and I hav...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday when i left I called his sponsor but I didn't leave a message. His sponsor called me back and told me that he goes to meetings all the time. He was upset because my husband doesn't want help and he willing to help him. I know there is nothing I can do and he said the same thing. He told me to tell him to...

Feather · Feather

Last Friday my car overheated, now I don't know alot about cars so I took it to the mechanic, and rushed off to work (late) ,he fixed the problem (A jammed thermostat), I rushed back to the mechanics after work, picked up the car and was about 10 minutes late picking up the chil...

sunny1 · sunny1

Your quote of the day for November 7, 2005 "Believe that you can do it, under any circumstances. Because if you believe you can, then you really will. That belief just keeps you searching for the answers, then pretty soon you get it." – Wally "Famous" Amos Happy Monday all, Sun...

KathyS · KathyS

When I first heard about boundaries I completely misused them. A few examples of some of my first attempts at boundaries went along the lines of: I will not tolerate your drug use whatsoever anymore. If you use you will go immediatly into rehab. You will attend NA meetings eve...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

All, Over the last few days, I've been exploring the meaning of serenity in my own life by asking myself: What does serenity mean to me? What does it look like? What does it feel like? I've been reading all of the selections on serenity in Courage to Change and Hope for Today and just allowing the ques...

megan · megan

I bought a mixer today. A nice kitchen aid one like my mom had and like my wedding present mixer. My wedding present mixer is with my alcoholic husband who I am divorcing. When I left him in May I took nothing and bought all new, I was that upset and desperate. Since I asked him 3 times for the mixer (...

she123 · she123

I can't thank you enough my good friends for the love and support shown to me and my family following my husband John's death. My dear friend Flora123 [Maggie to me] also passed on your prayers and kind thoughts from friends in the chatroom. My husband was an alcoholic who sadly n...

kitty · kitty

same shit, diff day.... I guess i will be stuck at learning to become less involved with others & more involved with myself... 38 is 4 months away & I'm just learning to put myself first, love myself first. God has never left me - I have chosen not to listen in the past... well at...

tea2 · tea2

Ok today I am doing better, I had one of those light bulb moments. Also by me writing this may count as the daily writing I am supposed to do as per my sponsor's request (yes she is a teacher) so I will share and do my homework at the same time. I know that I grew up in a less then ideal world as a child, I have l...

Kim · Kim

Hi all: I read your responses to my earlier email and thanks for kickin' my butt back into play. It was a very weird feeling I had...I hadn't felt that concerned about whether or not he was using in a while and for some strange reason, it bothered me this time. Not to the point of obsessing, I called two ti...

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	Taking Care of Yourself & Consequences (Preview) I always put everyone in my life first. If a friend was having a difficult time, I would neglect my stuff to take care of them. This goes back to my childhood, taking care of my parent's stuff instead of mine. This is self-inflicted abuse. When I got into Alanon and started to take care of me, some of my frie...	kissers	3	606	Nov 8, 2005 by Feather
	pray for the stranger (Preview) I went to a meeting last night where the topic was "pray for the stranger." I got to thinking how to me very often the strangers I pray for are my own family. The people closest to me whom alcohol and drugs have twisted around and turned into people I don't know. This past weekend I sat across the table fro...	hopefortoday	1	609	Nov 8, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	that praying stuff actually working (Preview) As some of you know I have a new job....yeah!!!....but I also am dealing with a coworking who seems threatened by me. He has worked there for 6 years and has gotten comfy with the way things were. I on the other hand was told by the boss..."to correct any problems I saw and to basically do my job without dire...	swolves	0	574	Nov 8, 2005 by swolves
	GRATITUDE (Preview) I have never been more grateful for this program than I am today.This morning my mother died quietly in hosp after a long and painful year of one dissorder after another. I am grateful that she has no pain. Considering where Al-Anon has brought me is a miracle - several yrs ago my mother a...	abbyal	18	907	Nov 8, 2005 by Jill
	Wednesday Morning Meeting Nov 8th (Preview) Need replacement chair for tommorow morning> i can not make it i will switchi someones meeting if you like. Could an op please take it tommorow? thanks kerry	kerry5	0	505	Nov 8, 2005 by kerry5
	I Am So Tired (Preview) I found out my husband sent flowers to another woman and gave her a CD box set. The drinking started back the same week I found this out. He claims nothing happened, but the drinking has continued. His behavior has been rude and arrogant once he has two drinks in him. He goes fr...	meowzmusic	5	694	Nov 8, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Why are we sorry? (Preview) I was just reading through the posts and noticed something that got me thinking. I noticed in replies to shares that deal with a member going through a painful situation, so many of us start our replies by saying: I'm so sorry to hear that, or..... I'm so sorry you are going throug...	KathyS	11	577	Nov 8, 2005 by Emmie11
	Please tell me how to let go. (Preview) Hi Everyone, Well I thought I was doing pretty good on leaving my daughter alone. But today we went to Legal Aid so she can get a lawyer to find out what rights she has, Her Ex seems to have made all the rules and decisions. Then we went to the court house to file a complaint against him because he refuses to...	sandy	3	505	Nov 8, 2005 by KathyS
	are some of us "recovering alcoholics"? (Preview) I met DH back in 1981 when we were both heavy into the partying (drinking/cocaine). When our son was born in 1992 I realized I couldnt do it anymore, stopped the cocaine and stopped drinking. I now drink occasionally (vacations/etc but after a night of drinking Im fine for a few months/etc). Seems DH ju...	Barbara	6	1610	Nov 8, 2005 by kissers
	THe last time I talked (Preview) I went the whole work day with out doing any of the calling. He called me. I still have not done any of the calling. Even though I am going to be seeing him I am going to see if he does the calling when he goes out. Which I am hoping he doesn't but if he does I hope he does the calling. I am working on not calling him....	nycbt	2	666	Nov 8, 2005 by canadianguy
	not calling II (Preview) The good thing is in a half hour I am going to be going to lunch so I will be doing my walking and trying not to call him. At my company it is slow so that is why i am want to call. Well I don't know if he even gets why I am not calling. I don't know. But I am trying to get him to miss me but I doubt that is happening though...	nycbt	6	630	Nov 8, 2005 by Christy
	hi my god bag is working thank you kissers (Preview) i wanted to thank kissers for her wonderful post!! i got a phone call last night but i couldn't reach her .so i called her this morning and it was from a parent from my old school she needs someone to watch her 9 month old baby i was thrilled. thats just what i needed to survive ....	chrissy	6	1138	Nov 8, 2005 by kissers
	Confronting The A (Preview) Hi, I would like some input/ideas on confronting my a. Mine dropped out of program around Labor Day. I think she thought she could control it and then the first stressful situation came up and she turned to drinking. I believe she thinks the re...	cidboy	6	621	Nov 8, 2005 by Diane43
	NOT calling (Preview) Well this morning wasn't that good I have called him a couple of times. But like in my last post someone told me to write up here instead of calling so that is what I am doing. I want to call him so bad but like that person said let him miss me. So I might be doing alot of posting today. So thanks for your suggesti...	nycbt	5	546	Nov 8, 2005 by Diane43
	When u don't call they call (Preview) Well I went since 8:10 this morning with out talking to him. He just called me he missed talking to me.I feel alitte better that I wasn't the first one to call. He said he was surpised I didn't call him.	nycbt	6	761	Nov 8, 2005 by Diane43
	Dear God (Preview) Got this at work and wanted to share........ Dear God... I know you're watching over me And I'm feeling truly blest For no matter what I pray for You always know what's best! I have this circle of E-mail friends, Who mean a lot to me; Some days I "send" and "send," At other times, I...	Dolphin123	5	608	Nov 8, 2005 by tea2
	Thinking Out Loud (actually typing out loud) :-) (Preview) Hello All, We all come here to share in our ESH, to give it, to take it. We take what we like and leave the rest, or that is how it is all supposed to work. I know I practice that, makes my life a lot easier. But at the same time, I want to be helpful. I pray that what I say helps the person in need and most of th...	Dolphin123	0	547	Nov 8, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Sick to my stomach (Preview) Hi everyone Hope you are all doing ok. Sometimes I wonder what I am doing and why I put up with the things that go on around me. Does anyone ever feel that way? Is it low self-esteem, being used to abuse so much that it is comfortable for me to live that way? Well even tho I realize thi...	browneyes	7	843	Nov 8, 2005 by rosie light shines
	CDB (Preview) Hello Ms. CDB, Haven't seen you post recently, how are you doing?	Dolphin123	2	544	Nov 8, 2005 by Dolphin123
	a new beginning (Preview) Hi everybody - Its taken me 6 days to get here; but here I am . I decided that 'enough was enough' and finally took decisions in my own hands. I ultimately have the choice whether I can accept the current situation (living with an active 'a' or not) I chose the latter. I have moved my young family 15...	Angie	9	608	Nov 8, 2005 by Angie
	setting boundaries with people other then your a's in your life (Preview) My friend I have known him for going on 17 yrs. He wanted to marry me as long as I have known him. He has been a big part of my life. Because he has been a part of my life a long time I have a hard time setting boundaries. My husbands doesn't trust him because he thinks he will take advantage of me. On Saturday he dr...	nycbt	3	729	Nov 8, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	a sorry poem i wrote a while ago (Preview) Sorry Mommy I am truly sorry I know words cannot express the hurt I have caused you I know I supposed to be mommy’s little angel too I feel so bad Now knowing you are sad Remember this though I never meant for you to hurt like this I wish I can just give u a kiss I want to take it...	Lauren ashley	0	548	Nov 8, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	My Perfect days (Preview) Year one in Alanon: "Today was perfect! Haven't had one like this in ages!" 5 Years in Alanon" "Today was a rough one, Seem to be having alot of those, got to get back on track so I can have all those good days again" Today in Alanon (7 Years) "Today was PERFECT! And you know, so was y...	captcodee	4	457	Nov 8, 2005 by Dolphin123
	will someone please be my online sponsor (Preview) i need some one to help me. i need an online sponsor i feel as if i am losing my mind i know i can be strong sometimes ,but this is a very bad weekend for me everthing was going great and bam back to this crap again. thanks hugs chrissy	chrissy	3	636	Nov 8, 2005 by Dolphin123
	UncleLou (Preview) Hi, I am relatively new to posting on here but I have been reading the boards for awhile now. I have read about your situation and my life right is very similar to yours with the exception that my husband is the recovering A in the relationship. My A and I have been together for over 20 years now with him be...	Free_Bird	3	379	Nov 8, 2005 by Free_Bird
	My poem i wrote today (Preview) Lost in Silence I am lost in my own world forever Life only gets worse I try and try, but then I curse I am not happy in my skin I just want to be soo thin I have words, but am unheard I am dying slowly of a broken heart For I did not want this life from the start I could have be...	Lauren ashley	2	587	Nov 8, 2005 by Dolphin123
	last night i cried AGAIN!!!! (Preview) hey y'all, i just gotta share this with you guys last night i saw this movie about a guy who had lived with this woman, she had a baby, a boy, whom the guy thought was his...well he wasn't, she had fooled aroudn on him while they were living together, an...	rosie light shines	1	641	Nov 8, 2005 by captcodee
	WHY the attraction to other drinkers???? (Preview) Hope for Today - November 8 Why am I so attracted to alcoholics? I dwelled on that question for more than five years. Then while listening to an adult child speaker at Al-Anon's First International Convention, I had an unexpected spiritual awakening. It occurred to me that my m...	rosie light shines	0	382	Nov 8, 2005 by rosie light shines
	im soo sad... (Preview) SO yea..... I hate my xxxx life.....I really do.. I can't wait till im 18... 4 more months and then I am out of this controlling life... seriously i do need a life...I hate myself for being so xxxx stupid sometimes My aunt took my phone.... well my charger that damn bitch*********** she can go to hell f...	Lauren ashley	7	768	Nov 8, 2005 by Christy
	(joke) stealing ideas (Preview) My mom told me this one today: stealing an idea from one person is called plagarism... stealing ideas from many is called research!	kitty	3	423	Nov 8, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Humor in recovery... (Preview) I was reminded the other day, of how important it is for us to keep our perspective, for us to be able to see a bit of humor, despite all that is going on around us..... Even in my darkest moments, when I literally thought my world around me was coming to an end, I found some amount of humor (sometimes d...	canadianguy	7	2367	Nov 8, 2005 by Dolphin123
	boundary and decision (Preview) Tonight I am faced with the consequences of my boundary. Saturday as you all know I had my heart to heart with my A. Setting the boundary for me of non acceptance of anymore drinking in my marriage. My talk with my A was heartfelt about trust issues, loneliness and the fact tha...	leo	6	506	Nov 8, 2005 by nycbt
	2 days later (Preview) On Sunday I went to my parents house because of things going on in the house with my husband. Then I didn't call him until 3:30 pm the following afternoon. Normal I would be calling him when I first got in the car, when I went to bed, when I woke up the next moring. I didn't do any of that. He had called me twice a...	nycbt	4	408	Nov 8, 2005 by nycbt
	new to the site (Preview) I found this site the other day thought i would give it a try. My huband is a drinker and i am feeling realy down and alone. I need someone to talk to for advice how to help my self.	jpembert	7	588	Nov 8, 2005 by cidboy
	today is my parent's anniversary (Preview) Today makes 26 years that my parents (My mother & step-father) have been married. I kept saying 27 years... the last 4 months have felt like an entire year. July 19th, I was told that my step-dad had been cheatting with mistresses & prostitutes for over 15 years. The new...	kitty	3	477	Nov 8, 2005 by leo
	Prayers needed. (Preview) Hi roomies, Okay I just came back from the doctors. Last month I had my annual mamomogram, and the films didn't come out right. They called me back in and did some more pictures and an ultrasound because they saw something. I have to go see a surgeon next week and take it from there. I know that I ha...	Karilynn	8	443	Nov 8, 2005 by Karilynn
	How does one accomplish this?? (Preview) I had the weekend from hell. My A. relapsed on Saturday and after some absolutely unacceptable behavior Saturday night has decided to check himself in rehab again. He made his appointment for an assessment for the 22 of this month and then wants to start an outpatient program. After this weekend...	sg	10	721	Nov 8, 2005 by leo
	new girl w/?'s (Preview) hello everyone! I am greatful to be able to ask my questions online, for I do not have a car! So here goes: I grew up with an alcoholic father. I am now 25, with my own child and husband. I am a recovering alcoholic since 5-11-04. I checked out the brochure for a...	alluneedisluv	5	446	Nov 7, 2005 by alluneedisluv
	"Release Me" - song lyrics (Preview) I love this song to go with recovery. You can find the words to it at: www.lyricsdomain.com Click on W. Then under "Wilson Phillips" Then click on 'Release Me'.	wallsal55	2	989	Nov 7, 2005 by Lanchas
	Boundary Guidelines & sayings (Preview) Everytime I attend an on-line meeting, I get another quote or saying to add to my list that I kkep reprinting & sticking on walls in my condo. I also keep a copy folded up in my prayer book. So far this is what my inspirational page has on it: (& due to the anonymity of our great Program...	kitty	4	905	Nov 7, 2005 by browneyes
	Sick with the flu (Preview) Hi everyone, Hope all of you are doing well. I have been feeling sick with the flu the past couple days and just can't seem to get on track. I was laid off from my job about a month ago and not having any luck finding something. I know I can't worry myself sick as that does not h...	Diane43	3	398	Nov 7, 2005 by Diane43
	My A is really trying (Preview) I haven't been here in over a week. I'm reading your posts and trying to keep up but have to share about my A. He is going to a counselor and doctor. The doctor has put him on seroquel, thinks he's bipolar. Anyway, I have to give him credit for trying. I wish I had the time to talk to each and every one of you. I as...	Cathy	5	431	Nov 7, 2005 by KathyS
	Helping or Crippling? (Preview) Have you ever heard the story of the cocoon and the butterfly? Basically a man is walking along and sees a cocoon. He stops and looks at it and sees that a butterfly is trying to emerge. He notices that the butterfly is really struggling. It pains the mans heart to see the butterfly struggle, so h...	KathyS	7	522	Nov 7, 2005 by Jill
	I Wish You Enough (Preview) I Wish You Enough By Author Unknown At an airport I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together. They had announced her plane’s departure and standing near the door she said, “Daddy, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you eno...	kismetstrand	5	432	Nov 7, 2005 by Maria123
	HARD TIME NOT TALKING TO HIM (Preview) I am having a hard time not talking to him. I love to hear him talk. But I didn't like the way he was talking to me last night. So for at least the next 15 minutues I will try and stay strong and not call him. My mind set is different now then when I used to do this. When i used to get up here i wo...	nycbt	3	645	Nov 7, 2005 by Christy
	Please read and pass on... (Preview) This is a true story.... Once you read this please email to your friends or your a in hopes of trying to save others..and themselves... Jennys horrific story Jenny was so happy about the house they had found. For once in her life '...	Lauren ashley	2	403	Nov 7, 2005 by bubbles1990
	Hard Work (Preview) Friday evening when my A was on his way home, at 6pm!!!! I know what a shock, he shared how his buddy asked him to go with him on Saturday to look at a couple of snowmobiles. It is such hard work not to read more into things then there is. I immediatly thought..."Oh great, now the two drinking bu...	marmare	3	620	Nov 7, 2005 by Karilynn
	new person... (Preview) hey.. just had a mad notion to post my story in this chatroom. im 24 yrs old and met my recovering alcoholic and drug addict boyf. nearly 2 yrs ago. we were friends for a few weeks then became an item. he told me his background and i accepted his past..as "his past". we got on brilliantly for a y...	Rebecca	8	1157	Nov 7, 2005 by Rebecca
	my mom is not in my refridgerator (Preview) Food Is Not Mother In the mind of a baby, "food" is synonymous with "mother." As the baby grows, the two concepts become differentiated, but perhaps never completely separated. We compulsive overeaters may still be confusing food with mother.Often we feel a great deal of hostility and resentm...	rosie light shines	3	430	Nov 7, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I DID IT (Preview) Yesterday my husband wanted 2000 and I told him no. I did ask what it was for he told me I don't want to know. So because I said no he was giving me a hard time. So I left and went to my parents house. I took a day off from work as well. I haven't cried or called him. He has called once so far and I hav...	nycbt	6	460	Nov 7, 2005 by captcodee
	His friend (Preview) Yesterday when i left I called his sponsor but I didn't leave a message. His sponsor called me back and told me that he goes to meetings all the time. He was upset because my husband doesn't want help and he willing to help him. I know there is nothing I can do and he said the same thing. He told me to tell him to...	nycbt	2	591	Nov 7, 2005 by captcodee
	I can do it! (Preview) Last Friday my car overheated, now I don't know alot about cars so I took it to the mechanic, and rushed off to work (late) ,he fixed the problem (A jammed thermostat), I rushed back to the mechanics after work, picked up the car and was about 10 minutes late picking up the chil...	Feather	6	457	Nov 7, 2005 by ODAT
	Believe that you can (Preview) Your quote of the day for November 7, 2005 "Believe that you can do it, under any circumstances. Because if you believe you can, then you really will. That belief just keeps you searching for the answers, then pretty soon you get it." – Wally "Famous" Amos Happy Monday all, Sun...	sunny1	1	383	Nov 7, 2005 by nycbt
	Boundaries (Preview) When I first heard about boundaries I completely misused them. A few examples of some of my first attempts at boundaries went along the lines of: I will not tolerate your drug use whatsoever anymore. If you use you will go immediatly into rehab. You will attend NA meetings eve...	KathyS	9	514	Nov 7, 2005 by marmare
	SERENITY (Preview) All, Over the last few days, I've been exploring the meaning of serenity in my own life by asking myself: What does serenity mean to me? What does it look like? What does it feel like? I've been reading all of the selections on serenity in Courage to Change and Hope for Today and just allowing the ques...	BlueCloud	2	472	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	changing seasons, time for growth (Preview) I bought a mixer today. A nice kitchen aid one like my mom had and like my wedding present mixer. My wedding present mixer is with my alcoholic husband who I am divorcing. When I left him in May I took nothing and bought all new, I was that upset and desperate. Since I asked him 3 times for the mixer (...	megan	8	460	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	A belated 'thank-you' (Preview) I can't thank you enough my good friends for the love and support shown to me and my family following my husband John's death. My dear friend Flora123 [Maggie to me] also passed on your prayers and kind thoughts from friends in the chatroom. My husband was an alcoholic who sadly n...	she123	8	468	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Yes It Really is Groundhog Day (Preview) same shit, diff day.... I guess i will be stuck at learning to become less involved with others & more involved with myself... 38 is 4 months away & I'm just learning to put myself first, love myself first. God has never left me - I have chosen not to listen in the past... well at...	kitty	5	523	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	to thiNk first (Preview) Ok today I am doing better, I had one of those light bulb moments. Also by me writing this may count as the daily writing I am supposed to do as per my sponsor's request (yes she is a teacher) so I will share and do my homework at the same time. I know that I grew up in a less then ideal world as a child, I have l...	tea2	6	599	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	thanks for kickin my butt (Preview) Hi all: I read your responses to my earlier email and thanks for kickin' my butt back into play. It was a very weird feeling I had...I hadn't felt that concerned about whether or not he was using in a while and for some strange reason, it bothered me this time. Not to the point of obsessing, I called two ti...	Kim	1	387	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
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