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notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

thank you all so much for your wonderful replies. the love i know i deserve i get here. my a phoned this morning saying he didnt go to work, he didnt even call his boss. therefore is probably fired. not too happy here. he was crying and saying he needs help and he's going to get it. whatever. so he went too aa o...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

im at the end of my rope. i've had it. four binges this week. i just can't deal with this anymore. im pretty sure i want my a to leave and get out of my life for good. i don't see how i could ever be happy living in this situation. i just don't feel loved anymore. i feel used, disrespected, and unappreciated. th...

Kim · Kim

My A came back this evening to pick up his laundry. We started to talk about things a bit and we are both feeling a little depressed about the holidays. My A stated that it is a goal of his that we may be able to spend Christmas together. I said that we needed to take it a step at a time, but that a part of my...

nycbt · nycbt

On Saturday the morning was ok. Then toward the evening my husband wanted to take the car and I said no I would drive him to his friends house. On our way to his friends he was presuring me to co-sign a car I said no. He was mad but he got out of the car and went to his friends. So when he was done at his friend house...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Letting Our Defects Go "If [character defects] contributed to our health and happiness, we would not have come to such a state of desperation."Basic Text pg. 34Getting started on the Sixth and Seventh Steps isn't always easy. We may feel as though we have so much wrong with us that we are totally d...

hadit · hadit

The other night the ex calls me, we have been separated for almost three months now. Obviously has a few drinks in him, not drunk though. We had a long talk, he says he is hating the way his life is now. That he is sick and tired of being sick and tired. That he wants his life back, he wants to come home. That h...

kitty · kitty

In Japanese Hikari means the quality of brilliant light sparkiling; or 'enlightenment' - I called him Kumo at first, it means a black & white cloud. Hikari Kumo: http://star_of_asia.tripod.com/ In case anyone didn't see...

chrissy · chrissy

chuck is home for good !!. it was a great night and a wonderful day we had two parties one with his boss parents 50th anniversary and we had a great time chuck didnt even have one drink for the champagne toast i gave him my coke & he danced like crazy . before he would only dance when he was&n...

marmare · marmare

First I have to post that I am being good to myself! I am still doing my readings each day, praying, and reading the posts here. Work has been crazy and it seems everyone is needing an evaluation for their DUI's....must have been a lot of judges and attorneys on vacation during the summer mo...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

http://www.cse.unsw.edu.au/~geoffo/humour/flattery.html

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, For those who read my post "If I had One Wish" I shared in that post about concern over a co-worker who smelled of alcohol after returning from lunch. Well I was making myself just plain sick over it, so I thought about how I could talk to my supervisor about my concerns, but not get this co-work...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I went to a great meeting last night on choices, oh wow great shares and great ESH. We all have choices in our lives and it is up to us to make them. Sometimes we make bad ones, and hopefully learn from them, and sometimes we make good ones and we learn from them as well. The best choice I ever mad...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Roomies, (Hope I don't gross anyone out) LOL, I had to share this. My oldest is 6 and my youngest is 2. I also have a 3 year old. And today for the first time ever my 2 year old son sat on the potty and went pee!

I can see the light at the end of the 6 year diaper tunnel. LOL. This sad to in a wa...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Roomies, I have been to some awesome meetings this week. Tuesday was "choices" ( I posted on that one earlier), Thursday was gratitude, and Friday was also gratitude. The ESH has been truly amazing! And then after these awesome meetings I come here, and get some more ESH. I am so gr...

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, i will be out of state and unable to get to a computer for next sunday's am meeting. Can sombody fill in for me please? thanks in advance for you who steps up, lots of love, trina

kitty · kitty

I keep hearing wtvr we lack w/in ourselves, is what we attract in another, as an opportunity for growth. What I have learned from attracting addicts/alcoholics is that I need to learn to put myself first & love myself.

jaja · jaja

I told you he "moved" out last night and I assumed he was drinking again. But - surprise, surprise - he didn't. He is however still in a denial but I can see the fear and a sort of "I'll show YOU' behavior. He called this morning while I was out and left a message that he was calling...

mollyann · mollyann

I am hosting Thanksgiving for my family this year, and I did my shopping today. I was having a pity party for myself most of the day because everywhere I look, everyone seems to be married and there are cute little kids all around. I have a new boyfriend, but he lives out of town, and we don't s...

kitty · kitty

Hello All, This has been a learning experience. God is unceasing in fulfilling the Will Of the The Divine Plan. It doesn't surprise me anymore when I see "the program" overlapping in other areas of our life in recovery. Continually learning the "same lessons over again" I suppose -...

Kim · Kim

Hello all and good morning: I wound up not going to NYC last night but it was nice that it was my own voice of reason and not worrying about my A that kept me home. After taking care of some bills and looking ahead to Christmas, i realized this was not the time to be spending money on a night on the town...

sg · sg

This morning my A. says "I have a question for you. How come you don't have an orgasm anymore." He just doesn't understand. I keep telling him how emotional intimacy, trust, security and safety for my well being is important to me to even get to a point where I can even delve into a fulfilling physica...

Angie · Angie

Its been a month, and grieving process is starting. Just - this is hard. My expectations were in the way , naturally. I have to come to terms with making long term plans. This seems like an unsurmountable task. God has made me strong, sometimes I resent that. I feel like curling up in a ball... ...

jaja · jaja

Last night I was getting to run errands with a borrowed car when my A husband pulled up to let me know the status on my own car which was being fixed by a friend of ours. He was his usual "I took care of it" mode, trying to act just like his normal self. He asked where I was going, said...

Barbara · Barbara

Told him Im going to AlAnon and when/if he's ready he can go to AlAteen (but I wasnt going to force him). We spoke about Dad being grumpy especially after he's had a night drinking.

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday I took care of my money needs. Because of my husband asking me for money I put the money in a CD for 6 months so it can't be touch. While it is sitting there it might as well collect more interst then it does in the saving account. Well when I got home I placed the envoople of the cd on the bed he picked i...

jaja · jaja

I never knew this place existed and am very happy at having found it! Many years ago I went to Al-Anon for about 2 years as both my Mom and husband were active alcoholics. I found the rooms to be a sort of haven for me and I felt good that I was finally doing something to try and understand...

megan · megan

Hello from the Yosemite,Ca AA/Alanon Summit Conference There is a program of Alanon meetings, AA meetings, Alanon speakers and AA Speakers. This is all set among great natural splendor. Here are some pictures: Maria, David, Megan by Bridalveilfalls, Ha...

Barbara · Barbara

on a Sat morn so not going out at night is a big plus after working fulltime during the weekdays larger meeting actually broke down to 3 separate meetings - 1) topic was Thankfulness 2) begineers and 3) step 8 well I knew I was nowhere near step 8! Ive heard that begineers should attend 6 begineer me...

nmike · nmike

So he said I'll come so we can talk and I can help you out since this separation is hard on you. I said go see your mother and then come by. I told him Saturday I was going to town to get Thanksgiving groceries, go an Alanon meeting, and see my mother. So he stayed in my/our house and I drove 2 hours to my meeting....

Rebecca · Rebecca

how come life is sooooo complicated. its never like that in fairy tales. when i was growing up, i had this rose tinted view of thw world. you grow up, find a guy, fall in love and live happily ever after... how wrong i was. im going to see my "A" 2moro in rehab... 4th sunday running. we spoke on the phone last n...

chrissy · chrissy

after work my husband came over and amanda was at a sleep over so we had a sleep over too lol. we decided that we are going to put our marriage first. and he even gave me money for the bills and rent my brother and the best part it was friday !! i will write more later i know i have a long road a...

Evilynn · Evilynn

I asked him last night if he wanted to break up with me based on him never returning my calls, sleeping on the couch and lack of ANY intimacy. He said to me ''Are we dating?" Then heproceeded to try to make me feel guilty for hanging out with my friends who don't like him. He was sleeping, he is always sleepin...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello everyone First of all, thanks for your support on my last posting. It helps so much! So my husband went to the PO and he sent him to an outpatient program for 10-20 days. He goes M-F 8:00 am-2:30 pm. He came home crying about how am I going to work to support my family? You sh...

Barbara · Barbara

I think after 6wks Ive finally designed a "program" for myself that I believe I can work. Physically - I joined Curves, Mentally - I found a Sat morn AlAnon group and Spiritually - Ive joined a new Church

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all... This is an update on Danielle, the friend of my daughter who was seriously injured in an auto accident a few weeks back. She is still unconscious, has had plastic surgery on her face to fix broken bones, and is responding to being pinched, or having her nose wiped, etc. But the d...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, What a weird day. When I got the mail this afternoon, there was something from unemployment for my husband. In case it was important I opened it. it seems after a claims investigator spoke with my husbands boss, they decided to reinstate his unemployment. The check is to follow and will be retroa...

Kim · Kim

OK. Phone call this morning at 7:00 am....pre-coffee experience. Not a good time for me to focus appropriately and detach. I am not the most pleasant person in the morning. It is my stepdaughter's mother on the phone. My A was supposed to see my stepdaughter today and she spoke wit...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello everyone Hope you are well... Just a quck question- This week I have been dealing with a lot of waiting to find out if my husband is going back to jail or not. And a lot of it has been due to him avoiding the Parole Officer and him telling me all about how he is going to fake the test and blah b...

bobump · bobump

Well today my a badgered my 13 yo daughter for money 6 times. The offers included I'll pay you back double, I'll let you hold my engagement ring so you know you can trust me, what can I buy you to get you to give me the money. When she held strong, in between the times the 13 oo refused, she asked me f...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Experience is a good teacher, but she sends in terrific bills. --Minna Antrim It is not by chance but by design that the sorrows we experience throughout our lives are countered by equal servings of joy. One offsets the other. And we are strengthened by their combination.Our longing for only lif...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Accepting Our Feelings Why do we struggle so with our feelings? Why do we work so hard to deny our emotions, especially concerning other people? They are only feelings!In the course of a day, we may deny we feel frustrated in reaction to someone who is selling us a service.We may deny that we feel fr...

cdb · cdb

Hello Friends, I was able to meet my recoverying alcoholic/drug addicted daughter today for dinner and it was a real blessing. The more I have stayed out of her issues, the closer we have gotten. She even shared with me about her meth usage which wasn't much (Thank God). She is able to talk so op...

chilley · chilley

Hi, I am new here. I really don't know where to begin. I believe my husband has a drinking problem but he refuses to acknowledge it. Back when we were just friends he used to drink excessively and pass out everytime we went out. It was a running joke to draw on him, etc. I d...

Kim · Kim

Last night my A called about 10 pm. He was wondering "what was going on with us" as he hadn't heard from me in a few days. I thought he was to call me last and I told him that, as well as that I assumed that he was doing things for him as was I. The conversation went well, for me...... he sounded terr...

flumpy · flumpy

Hi Mikeanon, If you are reading this I hope that you have chosen to post on here, it is a great place full of the most wonderfull people, some of whom don't use the chat room, so if you have I hope you find the strenth and encouragement that you need at this time in your life...We are all her to help eachothe...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, My husband had his evaluation today. I spoke to him this morning, he told me how worried he was. He said what about the bills? What if I get one of the jobs I applied for etc? Then he said we have another problem, the rehab is $200 a day co-pay and even if I go outpatient there is a co-p...

kitty · kitty

Ok, so my twenties were exciting & still seemed to drag at times. My thirties have flown by, I don't know what is happening to my life. I am so far behind... I loathe dealing with the mail, I must have a pile on my desk 2 yrs old w/ stuff that needs to be shredded. My ex def mad...

Satori · Satori

Okay, so as a video editor, amongst other fun things I get to do in my business, I was struck with this concept of God's Highway one night when my son was sick and having a hard time sleeping. Since I knew I was going to be awake pretty much all night with him I decided to do something not business relat...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

One comes in the end to realize that there is no permanent pure relationship and there should not be. --Anne Morrow Lindbergh Whether we are teenagers in love for the first time, or parents who have been married for twenty years, relationships can turn into obsessions if we're not careful. We can...

captcodee · captcodee

I was abandoned by my mother before my first birthday. Since then, I have always wanted a big do on my birthday. Kind of a validation that people are glad that I am alive. Every year (before this one) I expected people to remember, and to make a big fuss. I was always dissappointed. I would ne...

hudsond · hudsond

School will be out in about 1 hour. Then it will be time for me to go home--as I fly down the road, telling myself to go slow my speed will not change anything--but who am I kidding I will still fly like bat--hoping above and beyond all hope to find my a at home. I wish the end of the day were right this i...

bobump · bobump

The ESH tonight made me thing of something today where I think of a situation where I really couldn't have handled it as well as (I think) I did. One of my a's rags was about when would I sleep in the the bed again. I was able to answer the question. Not so much to her satisfaction but to...

bobump · bobump

I'm a little torn on this. And that fact that I am speak volumes to how early I'm in my journey of recovery. The A called me today. She got a part time job. My first thought was ugh....well now she'll have plenty of money to drink. Another thought I had was, resentment based...

sallyb · sallyb

I'm sitting in the room with my a, he just came home from a several day business trip. He left the room, I thought I could smell it on him but I just wasn't sure. I walked to his drink, took a sniff and was still unsure. You ask, HOW? I still deny it sometimes. I took a swig, it...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - November 18 When I was eleven years old, my father was hospitalized. In an effort to protect me, I was told the *other* person in my father's room was very sick, not my father. Eventually I discovered what really happened. My father had suffered a heart attack. I f...

bobump · bobump

in many different regards. One of them is my A says I never talk to her about things. Her chief complaint at the momen is that I called her psychiatrist again. She wants to know why I do things behind her back. Honestly htere are a few reasons. It's my whole conflict avoidance thing. I know it's going t...

hudsond · hudsond

Today is his payday. He is getting his normal paycheck, plus a commission check. He told me a few days ago he would bring them to me after he got paid becasuse he can't trust himself with money right now. Well he hasn't been by. He was suppose to get my dad's truck detailed today...

shadow1 · shadow1

I feel like i'm living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. My husband (my A) is a very loving caring person to me when he is not drinking. As soon as he starts drinking he turns on me. I can see the scowled look in his face and he won't talk to me. He goes out of his way to talk to the boys and totally ignores me. If...

For our New Members · KathyS

To all those who are new to this message board, I'd like to say Welcome! My name is Kathy and I've been a member of Al Anon for around three years now. A little background on how I found this meeting.... I had been doing everything I could possib...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Dads Poem Her hair was up in a pony tail, her favorite dress tied with a bow. Today was Daddy's Day at school, and she couldn't wait to go. But her mommy tried to tell her, That she probably should stay home. Why the kids might not understand, if she went to school alone. But she was not afraid; she knew jus...

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	thank you (Preview) thank you all so much for your wonderful replies. the love i know i deserve i get here. my a phoned this morning saying he didnt go to work, he didnt even call his boss. therefore is probably fired. not too happy here. he was crying and saying he needs help and he's going to get it. whatever. so he went too aa o...	notsonew1111	1	490	Nov 21, 2005 by Dolphin123
	send some comfort please (Preview) im at the end of my rope. i've had it. four binges this week. i just can't deal with this anymore. im pretty sure i want my a to leave and get out of my life for good. i don't see how i could ever be happy living in this situation. i just don't feel loved anymore. i feel used, disrespected, and unappreciated. th...	notsonew1111	8	563	Nov 21, 2005 by TLC2
	holidays and family (Preview) My A came back this evening to pick up his laundry. We started to talk about things a bit and we are both feeling a little depressed about the holidays. My A stated that it is a goal of his that we may be able to spend Christmas together. I said that we needed to take it a step at a time, but that a part of my...	Kim	3	570	Nov 21, 2005 by Tiger2006
	I slipped (Preview) On Saturday the morning was ok. Then toward the evening my husband wanted to take the car and I said no I would drive him to his friends house. On our way to his friends he was presuring me to co-sign a car I said no. He was mad but he got out of the car and went to his friends. So when he was done at his friend house...	nycbt	4	540	Nov 21, 2005 by Tiger2006
	letting go of defects HURTS???? (Preview) Letting Our Defects Go "If [character defects] contributed to our health and happiness, we would not have come to such a state of desperation."Basic Text pg. 34Getting started on the Sixth and Seventh Steps isn't always easy. We may feel as though we have so much wrong with us that we are totally d...	rosie light shines	1	735	Nov 21, 2005 by Tiger2006
	He says I need to get a grip!! (Preview) The other night the ex calls me, we have been separated for almost three months now. Obviously has a few drinks in him, not drunk though. We had a long talk, he says he is hating the way his life is now. That he is sick and tired of being sick and tired. That he wants his life back, he wants to come home. That h...	hadit	2	585	Nov 21, 2005 by gknee
	Hikari the Enlightened One (Preview) In Japanese Hikari means the quality of brilliant light sparkiling; or 'enlightenment' - I called him Kumo at first, it means a black & white cloud. Hikari Kumo: http://star_of_asia.tripod.com/ In case anyone didn't see...	kitty	2	578	Nov 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	it was a great day (Preview) chuck is home for good !!. it was a great night and a wonderful day we had two parties one with his boss parents 50th anniversary and we had a great time chuck didnt even have one drink for the champagne toast i gave him my coke & he danced like crazy . before he would only dance when he was&n...	chrissy	8	628	Nov 21, 2005 by chrissy
	Update (Preview) First I have to post that I am being good to myself! I am still doing my readings each day, praying, and reading the posts here. Work has been crazy and it seems everyone is needing an evaluation for their DUI's....must have been a lot of judges and attorneys on vacation during the summer mo...	marmare	5	488	Nov 21, 2005 by Angie
	What Your Computer Should Do For You! (Preview) http://www.cse.unsw.edu.au/~geoffo/humour/flattery.html	Dolphin123	6	996	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	One of the Hadest things I have ever done! (Preview) Hi all, For those who read my post "If I had One Wish" I shared in that post about concern over a co-worker who smelled of alcohol after returning from lunch. Well I was making myself just plain sick over it, so I thought about how I could talk to my supervisor about my concerns, but not get this co-work...	Dolphin123	3	767	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Choices (Preview) Hi all, I went to a great meeting last night on choices, oh wow great shares and great ESH. We all have choices in our lives and it is up to us to make them. Sometimes we make bad ones, and hopefully learn from them, and sometimes we make good ones and we learn from them as well. The best choice I ever mad...	Dolphin123	5	563	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Almost There! (Preview) Roomies, (Hope I don't gross anyone out) LOL, I had to share this. My oldest is 6 and my youngest is 2. I also have a 3 year old. And today for the first time ever my 2 year old son sat on the potty and went pee! I can see the light at the end of the 6 year diaper tunnel. LOL. This sad to in a wa...	Dolphin123	11	652	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Grateful (Preview) Roomies, I have been to some awesome meetings this week. Tuesday was "choices" ( I posted on that one earlier), Thursday was gratitude, and Friday was also gratitude. The ESH has been truly amazing! And then after these awesome meetings I come here, and get some more ESH. I am so gr...	Dolphin123	3	442	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	need chair for 11/25 sunday am meeting please (Preview) hi all, i will be out of state and unable to get to a computer for next sunday's am meeting. Can sombody fill in for me please? thanks in advance for you who steps up, lots of love, trina	mastiff	0	422	Nov 20, 2005 by mastiff
	opportunity for growth (Preview) I keep hearing wtvr we lack w/in ourselves, is what we attract in another, as an opportunity for growth. What I have learned from attracting addicts/alcoholics is that I need to learn to put myself first & love myself.	kitty	4	481	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Is he scared or what? (Preview) I told you he "moved" out last night and I assumed he was drinking again. But - surprise, surprise - he didn't. He is however still in a denial but I can see the fear and a sort of "I'll show YOU' behavior. He called this morning while I was out and left a message that he was calling...	jaja	2	519	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Are You Grateful? (Preview) I am hosting Thanksgiving for my family this year, and I did my shopping today. I was having a pity party for myself most of the day because everywhere I look, everyone seems to be married and there are cute little kids all around. I have a new boyfriend, but he lives out of town, and we don't s...	mollyann	3	629	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	program is reflected everywhere (Preview) Hello All, This has been a learning experience. God is unceasing in fulfilling the Will Of the The Divine Plan. It doesn't surprise me anymore when I see "the program" overlapping in other areas of our life in recovery. Continually learning the "same lessons over again" I suppose -...	kitty	4	597	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Didn't go but my A was not the reason (Preview) Hello all and good morning: I wound up not going to NYC last night but it was nice that it was my own voice of reason and not worrying about my A that kept me home. After taking care of some bills and looking ahead to Christmas, i realized this was not the time to be spending money on a night on the town...	Kim	6	531	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	"How come you don't.."(caution-adult nature) (Preview) This morning my A. says "I have a question for you. How come you don't have an orgasm anymore." He just doesn't understand. I keep telling him how emotional intimacy, trust, security and safety for my well being is important to me to even get to a point where I can even delve into a fulfilling physica...	sg	12	1117	Nov 20, 2005 by meowzmusic
	starting over (Preview) Its been a month, and grieving process is starting. Just - this is hard. My expectations were in the way , naturally. I have to come to terms with making long term plans. This seems like an unsurmountable task. God has made me strong, sometimes I resent that. I feel like curling up in a ball... ...	Angie	5	600	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	he thinks he's gone... (Preview) Last night I was getting to run errands with a borrowed car when my A husband pulled up to let me know the status on my own car which was being fixed by a friend of ours. He was his usual "I took care of it" mode, trying to act just like his normal self. He asked where I was going, said...	jaja	5	630	Nov 20, 2005 by kitty
	spoke w/my 13yr son today (Preview) Told him Im going to AlAnon and when/if he's ready he can go to AlAteen (but I wasnt going to force him). We spoke about Dad being grumpy especially after he's had a night drinking.	Barbara	4	584	Nov 20, 2005 by lin0606
	It shows (Preview) Yesterday I took care of my money needs. Because of my husband asking me for money I put the money in a CD for 6 months so it can't be touch. While it is sitting there it might as well collect more interst then it does in the saving account. Well when I got home I placed the envoople of the cd on the bed he picked i...	nycbt	9	779	Nov 20, 2005 by TLC2
	I'm new, too (Preview) I never knew this place existed and am very happy at having found it! Many years ago I went to Al-Anon for about 2 years as both my Mom and husband were active alcoholics. I found the rooms to be a sort of haven for me and I felt good that I was finally doing something to try and understand...	jaja	7	857	Nov 20, 2005 by lin0606
	Serenity In Yosemite (Preview) Hello from the Yosemite,Ca AA/Alanon Summit Conference There is a program of Alanon meetings, AA meetings, Alanon speakers and AA Speakers. This is all set among great natural splendor. Here are some pictures: Maria, David, Megan by Bridalveilfalls, Ha...	megan	11	1536	Nov 20, 2005 by Faith73
	went to a new meeting this morn and I feel this is MY meeting now (Preview) on a Sat morn so not going out at night is a big plus after working fulltime during the weekdays larger meeting actually broke down to 3 separate meetings - 1) topic was Thankfulness 2) begineers and 3) step 8 well I knew I was nowhere near step 8! Ive heard that begineers should attend 6 begineer me...	Barbara	2	439	Nov 20, 2005 by lin0606
	Saturday night with my A (Preview) So he said I'll come so we can talk and I can help you out since this separation is hard on you. I said go see your mother and then come by. I told him Saturday I was going to town to get Thanksgiving groceries, go an Alanon meeting, and see my mother. So he stayed in my/our house and I drove 2 hours to my meeting....	nmike	2	630	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	why is life so complicated..... (Preview) how come life is sooooo complicated. its never like that in fairy tales. when i was growing up, i had this rose tinted view of thw world. you grow up, find a guy, fall in love and live happily ever after... how wrong i was. im going to see my "A" 2moro in rehab... 4th sunday running. we spoke on the phone last n...	Rebecca	3	692	Nov 20, 2005 by Karilynn
	hey guys my husband came home :) (Preview) after work my husband came over and amanda was at a sleep over so we had a sleep over too lol. we decided that we are going to put our marriage first. and he even gave me money for the bills and rent my brother and the best part it was friday !! i will write more later i know i have a long road a...	chrissy	6	532	Nov 19, 2005 by chrissy
	We aren't dating, he's my roomate!! (Preview) I asked him last night if he wanted to break up with me based on him never returning my calls, sleeping on the couch and lack of ANY intimacy. He said to me ''Are we dating?" Then heproceeded to try to make me feel guilty for hanging out with my friends who don't like him. He was sleeping, he is always sleepin...	Evilynn	4	559	Nov 19, 2005 by BlueCloud
	The Saga Continues (Preview) Hello everyone First of all, thanks for your support on my last posting. It helps so much! So my husband went to the PO and he sent him to an outpatient program for 10-20 days. He goes M-F 8:00 am-2:30 pm. He came home crying about how am I going to work to support my family? You sh...	browneyes	4	516	Nov 19, 2005 by leo
	taking care of me physically, emotionally and spiritually (Preview) I think after 6wks Ive finally designed a "program" for myself that I believe I can work. Physically - I joined Curves, Mentally - I found a Sat morn AlAnon group and Spiritually - Ive joined a new Church	Barbara	3	797	Nov 19, 2005 by Barbara
	update on danielle (Preview) Hi all... This is an update on Danielle, the friend of my daughter who was seriously injured in an auto accident a few weeks back. She is still unconscious, has had plastic surgery on her face to fix broken bones, and is responding to being pinched, or having her nose wiped, etc. But the d...	lmt123	5	487	Nov 19, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Good things are falling into place (Preview) Hi, What a weird day. When I got the mail this afternoon, there was something from unemployment for my husband. In case it was important I opened it. it seems after a claims investigator spoke with my husbands boss, they decided to reinstate his unemployment. The check is to follow and will be retroa...	Jeannie	9	746	Nov 19, 2005 by Dolphin123
	the program only works if I have coffee (Preview) OK. Phone call this morning at 7:00 am....pre-coffee experience. Not a good time for me to focus appropriately and detach. I am not the most pleasant person in the morning. It is my stepdaughter's mother on the phone. My A was supposed to see my stepdaughter today and she spoke wit...	Kim	6	832	Nov 19, 2005 by Barbara
	Am I crazy??? (Preview) Hello everyone Hope you are well... Just a quck question- This week I have been dealing with a lot of waiting to find out if my husband is going back to jail or not. And a lot of it has been due to him avoiding the Parole Officer and him telling me all about how he is going to fake the test and blah b...	browneyes	7	579	Nov 19, 2005 by Rebecca
	Where there's a will, there's an A LOL (Preview) Well today my a badgered my 13 yo daughter for money 6 times. The offers included I'll pay you back double, I'll let you hold my engagement ring so you know you can trust me, what can I buy you to get you to give me the money. When she held strong, in between the times the 13 oo refused, she asked me f...	bobump	5	866	Nov 19, 2005 by tiredtonite
	the invoice from experience can be a b** (Preview) Experience is a good teacher, but she sends in terrific bills. --Minna Antrim** It is not by chance but by design that the sorrows we experience throughout our lives are countered by equal servings of joy. One offsets the other. And we are strengthened by their combination.Our longing for only lif...	rosie light shines	0	543	Nov 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	yaaay!! i CAN now accept my feelings (Preview) Accepting Our Feelings Why do we struggle so with our feelings? Why do we work so hard to deny our emotions, especially concerning other people? They are only feelings!In the course of a day, we may deny we feel frustrated in reaction to someone who is selling us a service.We may deny that we feel fr...	rosie light shines	0	465	Nov 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	"A" daughter doing very well :) (Preview) Hello Friends, I was able to meet my recoverying alcoholic/drug addicted daughter today for dinner and it was a real blessing. The more I have stayed out of her issues, the closer we have gotten. She even shared with me about her meth usage which wasn't much (Thank God). She is able to talk so op...	cdb	13	1983	Nov 19, 2005 by Karilynn
	Helpless newbie (Preview) Hi, I am new here. I really don't know where to begin. I believe my husband has a drinking problem but he refuses to acknowledge it. Back when we were just friends he used to drink excessively and pass out everytime we went out. It was a running joke to draw on him, etc. I d...	chilley	7	811	Nov 19, 2005 by Karilynn
	heard from my A last night, irony or HP? (Preview) Last night my A called about 10 pm. He was wondering "what was going on with us" as he hadn't heard from me in a few days. I thought he was to call me last and I told him that, as well as that I assumed that he was doing things for him as was I. The conversation went well, for me...... he sounded terr...	Kim	5	787	Nov 19, 2005 by Karilynn
	For Mikeanon (Preview) Hi Mikeanon, If you are reading this I hope that you have chosen to post on here, it is a great place full of the most wonderfull people, some of whom don't use the chat room, so if you have I hope you find the strenth and encouragement that you need at this time in your life...We are all her to help eachothe...	flumpy	0	614	Nov 19, 2005 by flumpy
	He really went! (Preview) Hi everyone, My husband had his evaluation today. I spoke to him this morning, he told me how worried he was. He said what about the bills? What if I get one of the jobs I applied for etc? Then he said we have another problem, the rehab is $200 a day co-pay and even if I go outpatient there is a co-p...	Jeannie	15	774	Nov 18, 2005 by Jill
	my life is slipping away (Preview) Ok, so my twenties were exciting & still seemed to drag at times. My thirties have flown by, I don't know what is happening to my life. I am so far behind... I loathe dealing with the mail, I must have a pile on my desk 2 yrs old w/ stuff that needs to be shredded. My ex def mad...	kitty	6	936	Nov 18, 2005 by Jeannie
	God's Highway... (Preview) Okay, so as a video editor, amongst other fun things I get to do in my business, I was struck with this concept of God's Highway one night when my son was sick and having a hard time sleeping. Since I knew I was going to be awake pretty much all night with him I decided to do something not business relat...	Satori	6	585	Nov 18, 2005 by sandie123
	today's gift....writing my OWN song (Preview) *One comes in the end to realize that there is no permanent pure relationship and there should not be. --Anne Morrow Lindbergh* Whether we are teenagers in love for the first time, or parents who have been married for twenty years, relationships can turn into obsessions if we're not careful. We can...	rosie light shines	3	603	Nov 18, 2005 by kissers
	My B-Day :) (Preview) I was abandoned by my mother before my first birthday. Since then, I have always wanted a big do on my birthday. Kind of a validation that people are glad that I am alive. Every year (before this one) I expected people to remember, and to make a big fuss. I was always dissappointed. I would ne...	captcodee	14	1038	Nov 18, 2005 by Karilynn
	Going home (Preview) School will be out in about 1 hour. Then it will be time for me to go home--as I fly down the road, telling myself to go slow my speed will not change anything--but who am I kidding I will still fly like bat--hoping above and beyond all hope to find my a at home. I wish the end of the day were right this i...	hudsond	2	801	Nov 18, 2005 by jaja
	tonights topic, becoming aware.... (Preview) The ESH tonight made me thing of something today where I think of a situation where I really couldn't have handled it as well as (I think) I did. One of my a's rags was about when would I sleep in the the bed again. I was able to answer the question. Not so much to her satisfaction but to...	bobump	5	567	Nov 18, 2005 by jaja
	the a will be working (Preview) I'm a little torn on this. And that fact that I am speak volumes to how early I'm in my journey of recovery. The A called me today. She got a part time job. My first thought was ugh....well now she'll have plenty of money to drink. Another thought I had was, resentment based...	bobump	4	770	Nov 18, 2005 by canadianguy
	Am I detached yet? (Preview) I'm sitting in the room with my a, he just came home from a several day business trip. He left the room, I thought I could smell it on him but I just wasn't sure. I walked to his drink, took a sniff and was still unsure. You ask, HOW? I still deny it sometimes. I took a swig, it...	sallyb	7	812	Nov 18, 2005 by nycbt
	love me or dump me, but it will be the REAL me you love/dump (Preview) Hope for Today - November 18 When I was eleven years old, my father was hospitalized. In an effort to protect me, I was told the other person in my father's room was very sick, not my father. Eventually I discovered what really happened. My father had suffered a heart attack. I f...	rosie light shines	0	430	Nov 18, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I'm having a hard time talking with my a.... (Preview) in many different regards. One of them is my A says I never talk to her about things. Her chief complaint at the momen is that I called her psychiatrist again. She wants to know why I do things behind her back. Honestly htere are a few reasons. It's my whole conflict avoidance thing. I know it's going t...	bobump	11	658	Nov 18, 2005 by bobump
	getting sick (Preview) Today is his payday. He is getting his normal paycheck, plus a commission check. He told me a few days ago he would bring them to me after he got paid becasuse he can't trust himself with money right now. Well he hasn't been by. He was suppose to get my dad's truck detailed today...	hudsond	1	514	Nov 18, 2005 by canadianguy
	Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde (Preview) I feel like i'm living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. My husband (my A) is a very loving caring person to me when he is not drinking. As soon as he starts drinking he turns on me. I can see the scowled look in his face and he won't talk to me. He goes out of his way to talk to the boys and totally ignores me. If...	shadow1	8	748	Nov 18, 2005 by gardengal
	For our New Members (Preview) To all those who are new to this message board, I'd like to say Welcome! My name is Kathy and I've been a member of Al Anon for around three years now. A little background on how I found this meeting.... I had been doing everything I could possib...	KathyS	6	834	Nov 18, 2005 by Barbara
	A MOMENT OF SILENCE (Preview) Dads Poem Her hair was up in a pony tail, her favorite dress tied with a bow. Today was Daddy's Day at school, and she couldn't wait to go. But her mommy tried to tell her, That she probably should stay home. Why the kids might not understand, if she went to school alone. But she was not afraid; she knew jus...	Lauren ashley	5	748	Nov 18, 2005 by kitty
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