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SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm in the throws of reminding myself how I am powerless over other people, places and things. The other thing that comes to mind is I don't have to eat an elephant all in one sitting. It's been a little over a year now and I am debating about the fact maybe my bf and I are not a good match. He has a lot of heal...

Mokka · Mokka

In the last 12 months my alcoholic fiancÃ© has relapsed three times. One of these relapses involved him going missing without a trace in a foreign country for a week. It is always incredibly traumatic for me. Each time the same old woe is me excuses come out. He will always want to drink and remaining s...

el-cee · el-cee

Creating a crisis sounds like a deliberate premeditated act. An active drinker desperate to keep things ticking over to avoid any consequences may create crisis in an attempt to control the family and confuse the family. The drinkers in my life created a crisis after crisis sometimes a couple run...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in courage to change is about points of view. The author shares that they had struggled when someone else would express a point of view different from their own. The author used to take disagreements over different points of view personally, and felt that one point of view...

Grace R · Grace R

Hi all and holiday blessings. I always have trouble finding it here. If any service members see this message please tell me how to find it so i can participate. Thanks v much

Support for a New Member?.. · FckdByKarma

So... Iâve come to realize that Iâm dating an alcoholic. The main problem? He doesnât think he has a problem so no changes are being made.. like someone else mentioned, itâs exactly like dating Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde. I think the worst part about it is that he doesnât even see it.. just treats me like a dic...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

My spouse's nephew has hosted Xmas Eve for the last 5 years since this side of the family couldn't bear to get together on Xmas Day (since his mother died on Christmas Day). It is a wonderful get together... great food & watching the young kids open presents is so fun! However, with all that was going...

joker · joker

Here it is Christmas eve, and I woke up, to quite. Blessed quite. No craziness! I am feeling so blessed! The alcoholic is god knows where. I assume with his ex-wife he said over and over again he is getting back with. She can have your drunkenness and insanity! She can handle it, she must be supper woman, I...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

Recently,at a meeting,I didn't finish my share and I decided to continue it here,and I hope that's ok.I think what I need is ESH to help myself work through this rather than just "tyfs" anyway. I have been struggling with forgiveness lately.Since my AH overdosed last month I have been holding a grudg...

MizzB · MizzB

He's come home drunk. Having been in a fight. He's pretty beaten up - should probably go to hospital but he's aggressive with me and has gone to bed so not my problem. I've messaged him saying we need to break up. I feel bad having to message but in the last week I haven't seen him sober so it's my only way of co...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Yesterday was a great day for me...Talked on phone w/my kids and other loved ones including my A brother Apparently his bad arthritis is not so bad, originally he tells me docs want him on a rowing machine to help make him better, which was odd to me, and I also know that when he thinks he is in "deep doo doo"...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Yup. My phone rang tonight around 5:30, but I didn't recognize the number, and I was in the middle of Christmas dinner with my family, so I did not pick up. Later when it was quiet, I listened to the voicemail. RAH sounded good, but oddly wished me and my son a "Merry Christmas." What part of this Christmas...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for December 26 speaks about the slogan, " let go and let God". It points out that many people think the slogan suggests that we do not take any action but simply sit back and let God do the work .Actually the true meaning of the slogan indicates that we must use our own good sense pray on...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Merry Christmas Family...didn't see an earlier greeting so here is one from the Big Island of Hawaii. It is cool and not cold...Mahalo Akua (Thank You HP) for that cause I don't do cold and there is no alcoholism wandering around bumping into my life like there use to be. Now it is doves outside the w...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

So this is kind of late in posting b/c I hadn't planned on sharing this... but the more I thought about it and read posts here on the MIP board, I thought that this ESH could help someone else... I had shared earlier about a letter from my spouse's rehab facility inviting family members to come visit their...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I will start by saying since leaving my exAH I have done the work and am no longer enabling addicts. I am happy and life is good. Every Christmas I cycle and just find myself sobbing at some point thinking about all the miserable years of my childhood and 15 years with my exAH. I come back out of it and feel ok...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

We spent the weekend apart, I went to visit some friends in a town where we used to live. While I was away I missed him. I thought that there would be quiet and peace and I would be so relieved to be finally away from him, but I missed him, and when I came back I felt so warm towards him. I still want him to enter tr...

luv123 · luv123

This disease is cunning and baffling & "too much for most of us without such spiritual help". I am ever grateful to the long time members who have shared many tools (spiritual help) with me that they find handy during family gatherings where there has been a history of stressful or difficult situa...

Lyne · Lyne

Silence: The reading points out that alanon teaches us to hold our tongue and and wait to react, yet it says that we can also use silence as a weapon. It can be used to punish and can actually be more harsh than cruel words. And if you are hurting someone else, you are essentially hurting yourself. Our...

Lisa gold · Lisa gold

Hi everyone! I am knew here. I have a brother who is an alcoholic. He is 26 around the age of 18 he started drinking and smoking weed. For as long as I could remember my parents sole focus is on him. I don't remember the last conversation I had with my parents that didn't involve his drinking. He has been to 9 r...

hotrod · hotrod

Posting for Looking up who is experiencing computer problems The ODAT reading for December 23 focuses on the need for "" perfectionism".. The reading points out that clinging to our unrealistic ideas of what life. should be prevents us from grasping the important concepts of acceptance and deta...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning everyone- Todays reading is about the Steps -their strength and importance in our recovery. This reading is particularly resonant with me for two reasons. I recently decided, with my sponsors support and guidance, to work the steps again. I am a musician and in some ways working the s...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello everyone! Hope you all are well. I've been unemployed now for a month and I have finally gotten a chance to slow down, read, journal more, get back into my steps, and work on some self reflection. I've come to realize that I was doing a lot of projecting in my relationship. I got very good at poin...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... I came into these MIP groups six years ago... I used the steps board to cover the Alanon Steps and one other. I learned carefully how and why this MIP board was set up and met the creator John F. For me these message boards and chat rooms are full of hope. I was so hungry for hope. I woul...

Cmag3 · Cmag3

Short version Active alcoholic manipulated a situation to get his way and make me look like a b if I said anything. I'm having a really hard time letting this go. Looking for some words of wisdom. Long version Went out for my (a) husbands birthday with his parents. I left the table for a minute and whe...

serenity47 · serenity47

Christmas has always been very important to me and I used to love the season. Not so much anymore. Until addiction entered my life I don't think I was really grateful for the moments of peace that I am able to have on occasion. I used to take it all for granted. I have no plans this year, I have changed my...

2HP · 2HP

In one of my groups, we held a group conscience to discuss interrupting members (gently of course) if their share was becoming too focused on the alcoholic. They wished to include in our opening remarks that "In Al-anon, we share our own ESH while keeping the focus on ourselves and how the program is h...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have finally started to feel semi normal in terms of health. The last 3 weeks have been pretty brutal. I still am having a bout of something however nothing that the original antibiotics has not taken care of, the coughing was the worst and now it seems I have some weird intestinal thing going on and o...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

As soon as I woke up this morning I started thinking "Let it begin with me". I don't know why though because I wasn't consciously thinking it.And that thought has been repeating over and over in my mind since then.I even felt the urge(nudge?) to search online and do some reading on it.I also felt an urge...

Cjm42 · Cjm42

My AH is coming up on (maybe) 3 months sober, but he came home tonight and I suspect heâs been drinking. I think I smell it, under a lot of minty gum. Heâs acting just a little off. I hate this feeling of distrust, worry, anger (for maybe being lied to), guilt (for maybe being wrong in my suspicion). I have a b...

Lyne · Lyne

Sometimes I just shake my head at myself because there are days and activities I just find hard to do and/or don't want to do. Today I will be taking care of my sick granddaughter knowing full well I may get sick too. Earlier this week I went to the dentist and had another medical check up the very next day...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about Steps Eight and Nine and the top person who should be on our list for amends. That person is self - have I harmed myself? The writer suggests that putting herself first had not occurred to her and that somewhere in her past, she got the message that to think of self first was w...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP, happy Wednesday! Today's reading is about the 5th tradition: "Each Al-Anon family group has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics." The author goes on to consider how it is that Al-Anon helps families of alcoholics and explains that we must first learn to love ourselves, the...

Carla61 · Carla61

Not sure how to deal with this. Hes crying and says he doesn't want to live anymore and hes so sorry that i didnt deserve this. What can i say or do for him?

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

I just wanted to check in. We are planning to separate at the end of the month. It is taking us that long to get other arrangements in place for childcare and living. He is going to check out a treatment center today and will most likely move in there. It's like a rehab and sober living facility rolled int...

hotrod · hotrod

Today's reading in the ODAT is an inspiring reminder of how little time practicing program takes in comparison to the number of hours we have in a week.The reading goes on to explain that we spend many disturbing hours filled with painful experiences and unfulfilled needs and that there are ways to o...

joker · joker

I have been working hard on recovery! face to face al-anon meetings, journaling, therapy. Its been so hard work. I have been drained so much. I have been reading about alcoholism on line and read that alcoholics can go into psychosis. Its called alcohol indused psychosis and it stops once the alcohol...

NCJo · NCJo

My AB has been sober for 6 months. He completed rehab and had been going to meetings regularly. He has been doing so well and takes his sobriety very seriously. Last night we went to a dinner party and he ate about 3 bites of his tiramisu and sensed there was some alcohol in it. He immediately stopped eati...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

In the mirror today...I saw my Mom.How did I become her? As a child I swore to myself I would never go through or put up with all the things she did.I swore I would never act like she did too,so obsessed with my Dad and his drinking that nothing else mattered and nobody else existed.She was always so misera...

Lyne · Lyne

Interesting Concepts: The reading for today talks about doing our part in Alanon, and not expecting HP to do what we can do for ourselves . It goes on to say that The Twelve Steps define what are our responsibilities and those we can turn over to God. It is suggested that we start each day with confiden...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Hi MIP family! I have been pretty quiet here for some time, as I am having a hard time keeping up with all the responsibilities of running a single-parent household - you all know the drill! However, I read every night before I go to sleep (to keep me grounded), and I appreciate everyone's shares. Just la...

mamalioness · mamalioness

All my life I have had to be tough..the tough gal who wouldn't let the rager and the pervert destroy her...If I fell down, I would grit my teeth, wipe the blood off and get back up on my bike or my horse, whatever the vehicle it was that tossed me.... It wasn't and isn't the way I want to be..Yea, tough when nec...

nycwriter · nycwriter

Good evening....I hope I can get some insight from this group. Three months ago, I met a woman and fell very hard for her and she felt the same way. She is a recovering alcoholic and she's been sober for 18 years. I completely supported and so admired the things she had gone through, the strength she had to...

misterpiko · misterpiko

Hi all, so I am living with my 24 year old alcoholic birthdaughter and found drug parepheniia in her room, including a scale. She had open pill casings and was clearly snorting something else too. I looked in her pill bottle (my Mom says she's a walking pharmacy) and found hard drugs. Huge trigger for me...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning everyone- Todays reading is about a survival tool many of us used before coming to the program- stifling feelings. The writer describes a respectful family who never argues , instead swallowing feelings and becoming emotionally frozen. This page resonated with me as I can recall ma...

hotrod · hotrod

Posting for Looking UP The C2C reading for today is extremely helpful and I love how it reinforces the fact that we are free to take care of ourselves in many situations .The reading points out that we have many responsibilities, but many things that we do not have to do in our lives. These are: We do...

LostButterfly · LostButterfly

Im new here. My therapist has suggested I find a meeting for support but Ive been putting it off. I guess, until recently, I wasnt ready to face the truth. What Im reading on here is very scary. It seems like there is no hope. Little about me: I met my husband at 16 and married him at 18. Im 32 now and have two sm...

Elabella · Elabella

I honestly feel so unsure about my methods of detaching. Tonight things were going well- I cooked a lovely dinner and AH was in a pretty good mood. Then, like has been becoming the norm as of late, he totally changed his demeanour. He had asked earlier in the evening if I would go buy beer for him, and I said...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I was talking with my daughter this past week and we had a very interesting chat...She is in AA, NA and also Al-anon, I am in Al-anon and ACA and both of us work our programs sincerely I have 2 younger brothers: 1 is AA/NA qualifer (real bad--street person) and the other is AA (getting worse drunk, sleeps...

Jerry F · Jerry F

So I was early to the Thursday Night Read, Write and Share group and left and when I got home I checked the meeting schedule and found I was 5 minutes early for it...LOL just like me lately. So I jumped back in the van and went back and found a mutual admiration member I have known for 12 years. She has the s...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Friday all.....today's reading is about Step 3 and the writer's difficulty with it. She/he asks, "How can I turn my will and my life over to the care of a Higher Power?" She tried and tried and yet still always took things back into her own hands. Fear was part of the issue - scary to think she was n...

SisterKate · SisterKate

I'm new here and will need to do a proper introduction when I have more time (I'm sneaking on at work). I'm 48 years old with two teens. Married ...to an alcoholic. My stepmother is also an alcoholic. In both cases I'm guilty of just ignoring the issue and seething. Stepmom is always an embarrassment at s...

jtpickle · jtpickle

As you've read, I'm doing my best to detach from my AH. However, as boundaries are met and crossed, I feel the need to communicate expectations to my DH. I've found that I can only talk to him in the morning as that is when he is either sober or not too drunk. Often, in order to make sure I "mean what I say...

jtpickle · jtpickle

I'm not sure if I can eloquently ask my question or share my thoughts but here it goes: I've only been in AlAnon just over a month. I'm going to meetings and learning tools, slogans, etc. However, I'm feeling guilty because I'm really feeling defeated and I realize that I'm happy and calm/more at p...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

OK. All the stress of my AH drinking and isolating himself, ignoring me...finally started really affecting my health. I have an arrhythmia and it has started having major changes--and I think this stress is pushing it over the edge. SO I finally opened up to my sister in law ( who is also a trained s...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

My husband and I fought on Friday night. He had damaged something that belonged to me, and we got into our usual fight where he gets defensive and I expect an apology. It's insanity all round. I am proud that I didn't raise my voice or say anything I am ashamed of. But I just shouldn't have gotten into it in t...

andromeda · andromeda

Well, I got a job offer the other day. I completed the paperwork for my background check and did my drug screening yesterday, as well. The pay is not as good as I would have hoped for but the company offers awesome benefits and yearly bonuses that are paid regularly in the neighborhood of $6-7K a year. ...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

Today appears to be a particularly good day, full of graditude. Believe me this is something I have struggled with alot.....it may not be the life I dreamed for or long for, but it mine and I am thankful for it. Yes even with the state my marriage is in today, no communication, no affection, no nothing. I c...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, kia ora... good health... I am at a point in life when everything is okay- as good as it could be. My SO is okay too- after addressing her addiction 5 or 6 years ago... there will always be "moments" in a relationship- but these moments are getting fewer and far between. I was going to talk about...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about dealing with loss and change in life. We are reminded that there are many forms of loss - divorce, incarceration, death, sickness and even emotional change. With the help of Al-Anon fellowship and our program, we become aware that we can get through anything with a spiritu...

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	I'm full .. (Preview) I'm in the throws of reminding myself how I am powerless over other people, places and things. The other thing that comes to mind is I don't have to eat an elephant all in one sitting. It's been a little over a year now and I am debating about the fact maybe my bf and I are not a good match. He has a lot of heal...	SerenityRUS	12	2265	Dec 28, 2017 by Steph79
	Tired of it all (Preview) In the last 12 months my alcoholic fiancÃ© has relapsed three times. One of these relapses involved him going missing without a trace in a foreign country for a week. It is always incredibly traumatic for me. Each time the same old woe is me excuses come out. He will always want to drink and remaining s...	Mokka	8	2281	Dec 28, 2017 by Steph79
	Confusion and crisis (Preview) Creating a crisis sounds like a deliberate premeditated act. An active drinker desperate to keep things ticking over to avoid any consequences may create crisis in an attempt to control the family and confuse the family. The drinkers in my life created a crisis after crisis sometimes a couple run...	el-cee	12	3721	Dec 28, 2017 by AnnieFenk321
	Courage to Change December 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in courage to change is about points of view. The author shares that they had struggled when someone else would express a point of view different from their own. The author used to take disagreements over different points of view personally, and felt that one point of view...	Skorpi	6	943	Dec 28, 2017 by DavidG
	Help please, I cant find "step of the week" ?! (Preview) Hi all and holiday blessings. I always have trouble finding it here. If any service members see this message please tell me how to find it so i can participate. Thanks v much	Grace R	1	992	Dec 27, 2017 by Iamhere
	Support for a New Member?.. (Preview) So... Iâve come to realize that Iâm dating an alcoholic. The main problem? He doesnât think he has a problem so no changes are being made.. like someone else mentioned, itâs exactly like dating Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde. I think the worst part about it is that he doesnât even see it.. just treats me like a dic...	FckdByKarma	13	897	Dec 27, 2017 by Steph79
	Surprise! A Good Christmas Eve (Preview) My spouse's nephew has hosted Xmas Eve for the last 5 years since this side of the family couldn't bear to get together on Xmas Day (since his mother died on Christmas Day). It is a wonderful get together... great food & watching the young kids open presents is so fun! However, with all that was going...	PosiesandPuppies	10	1155	Dec 27, 2017 by Steph79
	Just thinking (Preview) Here it is Christmas eve, and I woke up, to quite. Blessed quite. No craziness! I am feeling so blessed! The alcoholic is god knows where. I assume with his ex-wife he said over and over again he is getting back with. She can have your drunkenness and insanity! She can handle it, she must be supper woman, I...	joker	9	1049	Dec 27, 2017 by Steph79
	Forgiveness (Preview) Recently,at a meeting,I didn't finish my share and I decided to continue it here,and I hope that's ok.I think what I need is ESH to help myself work through this rather than just "tyfs" anyway. I have been struggling with forgiveness lately.Since my AH overdosed last month I have been holding a grudg...	SoggySlippers	10	4467	Dec 27, 2017 by Steph79
	The final Straw (Preview) He's come home drunk. Having been in a fight. He's pretty beaten up - should probably go to hospital but he's aggressive with me and has gone to bed so not my problem. I've messaged him saying we need to break up. I feel bad having to message but in the last week I haven't seen him sober so it's my only way of co...	MizzB	14	755	Dec 27, 2017 by Steph79
	A brother is now rationing himself on the drinking---appeasement to me?? (Preview) Yesterday was a great day for me...Talked on phone w/my kids and other loved ones including my A brother Apparently his bad arthritis is not so bad, originally he tells me docs want him on a rowing machine to help make him better, which was odd to me, and I also know that when he thinks he is in "deep doo doo"...	mamalioness	3	2444	Dec 27, 2017 by mamalioness
	He called from rehab (Preview) Yup. My phone rang tonight around 5:30, but I didn't recognize the number, and I was in the middle of Christmas dinner with my family, so I did not pick up. Later when it was quiet, I listened to the voicemail. RAH sounded good, but oddly wished me and my son a "Merry Christmas." What part of this Christmas...	PosiesandPuppies	7	581	Dec 26, 2017 by maryjane
	ODAT reading 12--26-2017 (Preview) The ODAT reading for December 26 speaks about the slogan, " let go and let God". It points out that many people think the slogan suggests that we do not take any action but simply sit back and let God do the work .Actually the true meaning of the slogan indicates that we must use our own good sense pray on...	hotrod	4	573	Dec 26, 2017 by maryjane
	Mele Kalikimaka... (Preview) Merry Christmas Family...didn't see an earlier greeting so here is one from the Big Island of Hawaii. It is cool and not cold...Mahalo Akua (Thank You HP) for that cause I don't do cold and there is no alcoholism wandering around bumping into my life like there use to be. Now it is doves outside the w...	Jerry F	11	757	Dec 26, 2017 by Iamhere
	Update on visiting spouse in rehab (Preview) So this is kind of late in posting b/c I hadn't planned on sharing this... but the more I thought about it and read posts here on the MIP board, I thought that this ESH could help someone else... I had shared earlier about a letter from my spouse's rehab facility inviting family members to come visit their...	PosiesandPuppies	5	807	Dec 25, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	It’s been awhile (Preview) I will start by saying since leaving my exAH I have done the work and am no longer enabling addicts. I am happy and life is good. Every Christmas I cycle and just find myself sobbing at some point thinking about all the miserable years of my childhood and 15 years with my exAH. I come back out of it and feel ok...	Breakingfree	5	541	Dec 25, 2017 by Breakingfree
	Have I changed my mind? (Preview) We spent the weekend apart, I went to visit some friends in a town where we used to live. While I was away I missed him. I thought that there would be quiet and peace and I would be so relieved to be finally away from him, but I missed him, and when I came back I felt so warm towards him. I still want him to enter tr...	AnnieFenk321	6	604	Dec 25, 2017 by Maresie
	TOOLS I can CHOOSE to use for the holidays (Preview) This disease is cunning and baffling & "too much for most of us without such spiritual help". I am ever grateful to the long time members who have shared many tools (spiritual help) with me that they find handy during family gatherings where there has been a history of stressful or difficult situa...	luv123	10	783	Dec 25, 2017 by SoggySlippers
	C2C, 12/25 (Preview) Silence: The reading points out that alanon teaches us to hold our tongue and and wait to react, yet it says that we can also use silence as a weapon. It can be used to punish and can actually be more harsh than cruel words. And if you are hurting someone else, you are essentially hurting yourself. Our...	Lyne	3	516	Dec 25, 2017 by mamalioness
	Alcoholic brother and now need to detach from him and parents advice appreciated. (Preview) Hi everyone! I am knew here. I have a brother who is an alcoholic. He is 26 around the age of 18 he started drinking and smoking weed. For as long as I could remember my parents sole focus is on him. I don't remember the last conversation I had with my parents that didn't involve his drinking. He has been to 9 r...	Lisa gold	4	577	Dec 24, 2017 by Iamhere
	ODAT Reading 12-23-2017 (Preview) Posting for Looking up who is experiencing computer problems The ODAT reading for December 23 focuses on the need for "" perfectionism".. The reading points out that clinging to our unrealistic ideas of what life. should be prevents us from grasping the important concepts of acceptance and deta...	hotrod	5	595	Dec 24, 2017 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Dec 24 (Preview) Good Morning everyone- Todays reading is about the Steps -their strength and importance in our recovery. This reading is particularly resonant with me for two reasons. I recently decided, with my sponsors support and guidance, to work the steps again. I am a musician and in some ways working the s...	yanksfan51	8	684	Dec 24, 2017 by mamalioness
	TIME to THINK (Preview) Hello everyone! Hope you all are well. I've been unemployed now for a month and I have finally gotten a chance to slow down, read, journal more, get back into my steps, and work on some self reflection. I've come to realize that I was doing a lot of projecting in my relationship. I got very good at poin...	andromeda	12	796	Dec 23, 2017 by Breakingfree
	My Christmassy topic... (Preview) Hi y'all... I came into these MIP groups six years ago... I used the steps board to cover the Alanon Steps and one other. I learned carefully how and why this MIP board was set up and met the creator John F. For me these message boards and chat rooms are full of hope. I was so hungry for hope. I woul...	DavidG	5	756	Dec 23, 2017 by tiredtonite
	Manipulation (Preview) Short version Active alcoholic manipulated a situation to get his way and make me look like a b if I said anything. I'm having a really hard time letting this go. Looking for some words of wisdom. Long version Went out for my (a) husbands birthday with his parents. I left the table for a minute and whe...	Cmag3	3	777	Dec 23, 2017 by Iamhere
	Ok with things i never thought I would be ok with (Preview) Christmas has always been very important to me and I used to love the season. Not so much anymore. Until addiction entered my life I don't think I was really grateful for the moments of peace that I am able to have on occasion. I used to take it all for granted. I have no plans this year, I have changed my...	serenity47	6	738	Dec 23, 2017 by Maresie
	Group conscience (Preview) In one of my groups, we held a group conscience to discuss interrupting members (gently of course) if their share was becoming too focused on the alcoholic. They wished to include in our opening remarks that "In Al-anon, we share our own ESH while keeping the focus on ourselves and how the program is h...	2HP	21	1004	Dec 22, 2017 by newnoz
	Feeling much more myself lately .. (Preview) I have finally started to feel semi normal in terms of health. The last 3 weeks have been pretty brutal. I still am having a bout of something however nothing that the original antibiotics has not taken care of, the coughing was the worst and now it seems I have some weird intestinal thing going on and o...	SerenityRUS	3	639	Dec 22, 2017 by _bunny_
	Let It Begin With Me (Preview) As soon as I woke up this morning I started thinking "Let it begin with me". I don't know why though because I wasn't consciously thinking it.And that thought has been repeating over and over in my mind since then.I even felt the urge(nudge?) to search online and do some reading on it.I also felt an urge...	SoggySlippers	13	1332	Dec 22, 2017 by WestMan
	Is he drinking? (Preview) My AH is coming up on (maybe) 3 months sober, but he came home tonight and I suspect heâs been drinking. I think I smell it, under a lot of minty gum. Heâs acting just a little off. I hate this feeling of distrust, worry, anger (for maybe being lied to), guilt (for maybe being wrong in my suspicion). I have a b...	Cjm42	2	524	Dec 21, 2017 by Jerry F
	Hard being a grown up (Preview) Sometimes I just shake my head at myself because there are days and activities I just find hard to do and/or don't want to do. Today I will be taking care of my sick granddaughter knowing full well I may get sick too. Earlier this week I went to the dentist and had another medical check up the very next day...	Lyne	4	916	Dec 21, 2017 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/21/17 (Preview) Today's reading talks about Steps Eight and Nine and the top person who should be on our list for amends. That person is self - have I harmed myself? The writer suggests that putting herself first had not occurred to her and that somewhere in her past, she got the message that to think of self first was w...	Iamhere	2	563	Dec 21, 2017 by hotrod
	Courage to Change December 20 (Preview) Hello MIP, happy Wednesday! Today's reading is about the 5th tradition: "Each Al-Anon family group has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics." The author goes on to consider how it is that Al-Anon helps families of alcoholics and explains that we must first learn to love ourselves, the...	Skorpi	5	849	Dec 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	Husband is drunk and manic (Preview) Not sure how to deal with this. Hes crying and says he doesn't want to live anymore and hes so sorry that i didnt deserve this. What can i say or do for him?	Carla61	7	743	Dec 20, 2017 by Aline
	check-in: separating (Preview) I just wanted to check in. We are planning to separate at the end of the month. It is taking us that long to get other arrangements in place for childcare and living. He is going to check out a treatment center today and will most likely move in there. It's like a rehab and sober living facility rolled int...	AnnieFenk321	12	844	Dec 20, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT READING 12/19 (Preview) Today's reading in the ODAT is an inspiring reminder of how little time practicing program takes in comparison to the number of hours we have in a week.The reading goes on to explain that we spend many disturbing hours filled with painful experiences and unfulfilled needs and that there are ways to o...	hotrod	7	635	Dec 19, 2017 by hotrod
	new learnings (Preview) I have been working hard on recovery! face to face al-anon meetings, journaling, therapy. Its been so hard work. I have been drained so much. I have been reading about alcoholism on line and read that alcoholics can go into psychosis. Its called alcohol indused psychosis and it stops once the alcohol...	joker	5	943	Dec 19, 2017 by Jerry F
	Sobriety date (Preview) My AB has been sober for 6 months. He completed rehab and had been going to meetings regularly. He has been doing so well and takes his sobriety very seriously. Last night we went to a dinner party and he ate about 3 bites of his tiramisu and sensed there was some alcohol in it. He immediately stopped eati...	NCJo	6	678	Dec 18, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	I Saw My Mom (Preview) In the mirror today...I saw my Mom.How did I become her? As a child I swore to myself I would never go through or put up with all the things she did.I swore I would never act like she did too,so obsessed with my Dad and his drinking that nothing else mattered and nobody else existed.She was always so misera...	SoggySlippers	7	686	Dec 18, 2017 by SoggySlippers
	C2C, 12/18 (Preview) Interesting Concepts: The reading for today talks about doing our part in Alanon, and not expecting HP to do what we can do for ourselves . It goes on to say that The Twelve Steps define what are our responsibilities and those we can turn over to God. It is suggested that we start each day with confiden...	Lyne	5	603	Dec 18, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Needing ESH on this topic (Preview) Hi MIP family! I have been pretty quiet here for some time, as I am having a hard time keeping up with all the responsibilities of running a single-parent household - you all know the drill! However, I read every night before I go to sleep (to keep me grounded), and I appreciate everyone's shares. Just la...	PosiesandPuppies	20	916	Dec 18, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	They sure know how to pull at your heartstrings (Preview) All my life I have had to be tough..the tough gal who wouldn't let the rager and the pervert destroy her...If I fell down, I would grit my teeth, wipe the blood off and get back up on my bike or my horse, whatever the vehicle it was that tossed me.... It wasn't and isn't the way I want to be..Yea, tough when nec...	mamalioness	13	666	Dec 18, 2017 by mamalioness
	Breakup with a recovering alcoholic--in need of advice (Preview) Good evening....I hope I can get some insight from this group. Three months ago, I met a woman and fell very hard for her and she felt the same way. She is a recovering alcoholic and she's been sober for 18 years. I completely supported and so admired the things she had gone through, the strength she had to...	nycwriter	14	5537	Dec 18, 2017 by Maresie
	I Need Your Help ASAP (Preview) Hi all, so I am living with my 24 year old alcoholic birthdaughter and found drug parepheniia in her room, including a scale. She had open pill casings and was clearly snorting something else too. I looked in her pill bottle (my Mom says she's a walking pharmacy) and found hard drugs. Huge trigger for me...	misterpiko	10	693	Dec 17, 2017 by misterpiko
	Hope for Today Dec 17 (Preview) Good Morning everyone- Todays reading is about a survival tool many of us used before coming to the program- stifling feelings. The writer describes a respectful family who never argues , instead swallowing feelings and becoming emotionally frozen. This page resonated with me as I can recall ma...	yanksfan51	4	563	Dec 17, 2017 by DavidG
	C2C Reading 12-16 (Preview) Posting for Looking UP The C2C reading for today is extremely helpful and I love how it reinforces the fact that we are free to take care of ourselves in many situations .The reading points out that we have many responsibilities, but many things that we do not have to do in our lives. These are: We do...	hotrod	1	517	Dec 16, 2017 by Iamhere
	Shifting addictions (Preview) Im new here. My therapist has suggested I find a meeting for support but Ive been putting it off. I guess, until recently, I wasnt ready to face the truth. What Im reading on here is very scary. It seems like there is no hope. Little about me: I met my husband at 16 and married him at 18. Im 32 now and have two sm...	LostButterfly	5	634	Dec 16, 2017 by AnnieFenk321
	Help with detaching...why can't I wrap my head around this??! (Preview) I honestly feel so unsure about my methods of detaching. Tonight things were going well- I cooked a lovely dinner and AH was in a pretty good mood. Then, like has been becoming the norm as of late, he totally changed his demeanour. He had asked earlier in the evening if I would go buy beer for him, and I said...	Elabella	28	858	Dec 16, 2017 by Maresie
	When is a relationship TOO high maintenance and therefore no longer worth it??? (Preview) I was talking with my daughter this past week and we had a very interesting chat...She is in AA, NA and also Al-anon, I am in Al-anon and ACA and both of us work our programs sincerely I have 2 younger brothers: 1 is AA/NA qualifer (real bad--street person) and the other is AA (getting worse drunk, sleeps...	mamalioness	3	666	Dec 16, 2017 by hotrod
	Great one on one face to face meeting. (Preview) So I was early to the Thursday Night Read, Write and Share group and left and when I got home I checked the meeting schedule and found I was 5 minutes early for it...LOL just like me lately. So I jumped back in the van and went back and found a mutual admiration member I have known for 12 years. She has the s...	Jerry F	2	519	Dec 15, 2017 by hotrod
	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/15/17 (Preview) Happy Friday all.....today's reading is about Step 3 and the writer's difficulty with it. She/he asks, "How can I turn my will and my life over to the care of a Higher Power?" She tried and tried and yet still always took things back into her own hands. Fear was part of the issue - scary to think she was n...	Iamhere	5	525	Dec 15, 2017 by Iamhere
	Partial Introduction and Holiday Stress (Preview) I'm new here and will need to do a proper introduction when I have more time (I'm sneaking on at work). I'm 48 years old with two teens. Married ...to an alcoholic. My stepmother is also an alcoholic. In both cases I'm guilty of just ignoring the issue and seething. Stepmom is always an embarrassment at s...	SisterKate	13	1259	Dec 15, 2017 by Iamhere
	Communication with AH (Preview) As you've read, I'm doing my best to detach from my AH. However, as boundaries are met and crossed, I feel the need to communicate expectations to my DH. I've found that I can only talk to him in the morning as that is when he is either sober or not too drunk. Often, in order to make sure I "mean what I say...	jtpickle	4	572	Dec 15, 2017 by jtpickle
	Grieving, detaching or what? (Preview) I'm not sure if I can eloquently ask my question or share my thoughts but here it goes: I've only been in AlAnon just over a month. I'm going to meetings and learning tools, slogans, etc. However, I'm feeling guilty because I'm really feeling defeated and I realize that I'm happy and calm/more at p...	jtpickle	6	695	Dec 15, 2017 by jtpickle
	I had to tell family (Preview) OK. All the stress of my AH drinking and isolating himself, ignoring me...finally started really affecting my health. I have an arrhythmia and it has started having major changes--and I think this stress is pushing it over the edge. SO I finally opened up to my sister in law ( who is also a trained s...	Dancer66	4	595	Dec 15, 2017 by Lyne
	I think I am done (Preview) My husband and I fought on Friday night. He had damaged something that belonged to me, and we got into our usual fight where he gets defensive and I expect an apology. It's insanity all round. I am proud that I didn't raise my voice or say anything I am ashamed of. But I just shouldn't have gotten into it in t...	AnnieFenk321	7	682	Dec 15, 2017 by mamalioness
	Got offered a job! Other updates..... (Preview) Well, I got a job offer the other day. I completed the paperwork for my background check and did my drug screening yesterday, as well. The pay is not as good as I would have hoped for but the company offers awesome benefits and yearly bonuses that are paid regularly in the neighborhood of $6-7K a year. ...	andromeda	11	1805	Dec 15, 2017 by Jen61
	Graditude (Preview) Today appears to be a particularly good day, full of graditude. Believe me this is something I have struggled with alot.....it may not be the life I dreamed for or long for, but it mine and I am thankful for it. Yes even with the state my marriage is in today, no communication, no affection, no nothing. I c...	Curlyblu	4	546	Dec 14, 2017 by Jerry F
	A share, and some fear... just a little... (Preview) Hi y'all, kia ora... good health... I am at a point in life when everything is okay- as good as it could be. My SO is okay too- after addressing her addiction 5 or 6 years ago... there will always be "moments" in a relationship- but these moments are getting fewer and far between. I was going to talk about...	DavidG	4	717	Dec 14, 2017 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/14/17 (Preview) Today's reading is about dealing with loss and change in life. We are reminded that there are many forms of loss - divorce, incarceration, death, sickness and even emotional change. With the help of Al-Anon fellowship and our program, we become aware that we can get through anything with a spiritu...	Iamhere	2	510	Dec 14, 2017 by Aline
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