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the disease has us both
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My A came for Thanksgiving partly because one son was home for college and partly because we are down to one car. He moved out in June because he needed a break from me and because he is giving into his addiction he says. He hasn't drank in years but says he will always be an addict. I try to be pleasant when I a...
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Had to put my 15 year old dog to sleep yesterday
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Hi everyone - my dog was old, arthritic and losing weight. Mallard was having a hard time standing on his back legs, he started going to the bathroom in his bed ending up all over him. I didn't want him to suffer anymore so my husband took him to the vet, they said it was past time to put him down. The house is s...
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are alot of the topic discussions meetings from the books?
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Im starting to see the importance of having an AlAnon book. At the open discussion meetings they seem to be the focal point.
Can I buy one at most meetings?
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new member
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Hello, I am a new member seeking help. I have not attended any Alnon meetings. My husband of six months I THINK is an alcaholic. I am in a very verbal and abusive relationship. When he gets intoxicated he becomes defiant and has no sense of reasoning at all. Never wants to leave a party/social gathering o...
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Lost and Confused
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This may end up being a string of complete stream of consciousness...but here goes...
There are so many different things going on in my head at any given moment:
1. Why did he do it? Why did he start doing pills or whatever else he has chosen to do in addition to the pills? Was it be...
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still alone
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well my a is still not home and its 12:44am. i just want to yell i told you so. i knew you couldnt stay sober and all that. but what would that do for me? i have so much anger in me right now i just dont know how to get rid of it in a healthy way. i punched pillows and yelled into them, cried all i could and slept prett...
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I am out. Now what?
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I just got divorced 111105. I feel angry and I know I need to let it go. I even have angry dreams. I feel, basically, like I got traded for booze. I tried for 10 years to have a normal life. I didn't realize the magnitude of the problem until I ha...
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So cruel
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My A's mother passed away before Thanksgiving. The funeral was Sunday and after the funeral, of course, we just HAD to stop at a bar. Then once we were home and had walked to dogs he says that he's going out to another bar. I'm disappointed but kind of expected as much. So he com...
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Things I can not change
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My son is now 34 years old, he has been an addict since he was 15. The road has been very difficult. I have seen him close to death many times and it has been a very painful process. Most of his life he has been in and out of jail. His drug of choice is Meth. recently I allowed him to move in with my...
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getting to know me
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Yesterday I was at work and this man came in and struck up a conversation. Mostly he was just hitting on me, but he did ask that question. The question is one that people ask me all the time. "What is your dream job?" "What do you really want to do for a living?" "What is your passion?"
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my thankgiving weekend
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On Thursday my family and I got together and we out to eat. The first thing my husband and his son did was go right to the bar. I got upset with his son for buying some alchol and drinking it in front of Rick. I walked away because I was not going to ruin the diner with me and my family. The table though turned out...
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the pencil
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The Pencil Maker
The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box.
There are 5 things you need to know, he told the pencil, before I send you
out into the world. Always remember them and never forget, and you will
become the b...
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for nycbt...
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hi nycbt, sorry about this it's flumpy i am aiming this at you as you are signed on at the moment!! but can you tell me what to type to get in to the chat room i had it saved but my computer went all funny and dumped loads of stuff
thanks so much 
flumpy
!!!!OOPS PANIC OVER!!!!
sorry...
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flumpy
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MY God does not have to be a father
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A Strong Father
Many of us understand God in terms of a father, one on whom we can rely no matter what the situation. Our biological father may have been a tyrant or a pal, remote or accessible, firm or weak. However much we loved him and depended on him, he was only a person and not infallible.For reco...
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dreams ARE renewable
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Dreams are renewable.
No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born. DALE TURNER When we were kids, we had big dreams of what we would do when we grew up. Some of us feel sad when we compare the big plans we used to have t...
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SOMETIMES amends is for me
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Hope for Today - November 28
My parents didn't know I was angry with them, because I was the "good" kid. I felt angry about the drinking and the constant chaos, but I never said anything. I swallowed my resentment, thinking either my needs would go away or my parents would change. Of course...
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made me cry
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Graduation
A young man was getting ready to graduate from college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted.
As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his fathe...
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notsonew1111
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It has been a long time
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Hello everybody,
I am very happy to have received news from John inviting me to post again. I have been a little busy lately, I have not posted in a very long time.
I am feeling well these days, it is not so much that the people around me have changed. I...
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teddybear
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Need to talk
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Hi everyone I just need to talk. It was not a good week last week. I feel like everything I have work on so far in Al-anon has went down the drain because last week I didn't walk away from my A I let him say things to me that got to me and I yelled back at him. I felt like it was the same be...
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let go and let god- the rose bud
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A Rose Bud
A young, new preacher was walking with an older, more seasoned preacher in the garden one day. Feeling a bit insecure about what God had for him to do, he was asking the older preacher for some advice. The older preacher walked up to a rose bush and handed the young preacher a rosebud and told h...
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notsonew1111
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Need reference
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Hello roomies,
I'm looking for a website where there is a questionnaire about alcoholism? Someone posted it here before and I can't seem to find it. I was telling my boss about it. He's having trouble with an employee and wants to try and help him. He wants to give him the chance to get help. Otherwis...
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Karilynn
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when crisis seems over - is this time ppl decide to stay or leave?
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Things are calm (for the moment). Is this another time when ppl decide to either stick w/AlAnon or leave? Other time being in the beginning - should I attempt this or give up?
Seems like my problem w/A (for the moment) is over. If I stick around it would be for working on ME (like ppl say to do from the begi...
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Barbara
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Chair needed Friday AM 12/2
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Hello, I am posting now -requesting someone please fill in for me this Friday AM meeting. Thank you to whoever will be able tea2 -- Edited by tea2 at 23:33, 2005-11-27
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First Post
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Hello everybody. I've talked to some of you in the chat/meeting room.
I don't have a lot to say right now, but I wanted to say hello!
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Heartfelt Sharing...
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Hi everyone,
My name is Alana and I am a greatful member of alanon.
Well, I am brand, brand new. I went to my very first meeting last night which I was really afraid to do because I really wasn't sure if I belonged there - I'm still not completely sure but I am going to go to the 6 meetings like they s...
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no progress
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well my a told me today he will probably have a drink well he is out, even though a week ago he went to an addictions counsellor and made the desicion to quit drinking? huh? i know i cant make him drink. i know im not the cause of it and i cant control it but im not willing to live with this desease in my life anymo...
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notsonew1111
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How do I"paint" over the tapes?
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Hi everyone,
I am just trying to gain some perspective on why I'm this way. When I was young, my heart's desire was to be an artist. My dysfunctional family poo-pooed this , as , they put it, you can't make a living as an artist. So I gradually stopped doing any art as I tended to life's ongoing journey, ma...
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im so mad
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this morning i had a plan set out for today, to get things organized around here and watch some movies with my a. later he would watch the big football game. he said a couple of weeks ago an old friend of his that he cut off from his life, his parents invited my a over to watch the game. they are too alcoholics....
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notsonew1111
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Sudden Realization
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hi guys,
i went to a family day at the rehab centre last sunday where my ex-boyf. is currently in his 5th week of treatment. i really shouldn't have gone because i was totally emotionally unstable by the time i left. some people might say i should have been signed in there myself. i had to sit in a room ful...
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Rebecca
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I didn't do so well,
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I did not do very well yesterday.
The day started out well. I had done most of the prep work for dinner the night before. Joey wasn't going to the game, so I could cook the turkey in the morning. I had asked my husband if he could come here at noon, since he is coming to dinner, as Joey had to leave and I am afra...
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Jeannie
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taking part
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Dear John a.k.a OP_Present,
Why am I getting these e-mails from you?
I have replied to some posts here.
I will only reply or post if it is of interest to myself, or something that is close to my heart.
As I asked the other day, I am not entierly sure as to how you got my e-mail address but......
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flumpy
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poo poo on me
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bad news all. i didnt succeed in quitting smoking. but i will keep on trying. my goal is to quit before christmas. i think it was so spontaneous i wasnt ready. i really hope i can get there and just do it. i really hate smoking. so good luck to me and to all of you who are taking the step to quit as well. and ty to t...
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notsonew1111
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Keep On Playing....
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I got this today and thought it might hit others as it hit me:
The Concert
When the house lights dimmed and the concert was about to begin, the mother returned to her seat and discovered that the child was missing.
Suddenly, the curtains parted and spotlights focused on the impr...
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sandie123
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Chairing
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Sorry to do this all .. but due to some changes in my life... I will not be able to chair the Saturday night meetings.......
I would still like to help out... are either the morning or evening on Sunday in need of someone to chair.....
Please contact me and let me know
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NightWatcher
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he's happy, I'm not
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I detched quite awhile ago from my A., started living my life and making decisions for the best of me and the kids. Got to the point, after trying everything else in life for 3 yrs, to ask him to leave. I was happy and content w/the decision to spend time apart and work on healing/recovery for me and the kids...
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My HP watching over me
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I have a friend I work with who is a Born Again Christian. We worked together at the beach all summer and had many discussions about the Bible, Alanon, our children our HP's as we each knew them and our alcoholic husbands. She is divorced from hers, but he is still her childrens father.
She had asked me t...
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Jeannie
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life is good w/my A (for now)
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A husband finally told his A friend that he cant pickup/bring him home every week couple times a week. Husband just twice sank money into his car for repairs. I had been warning him that this would happen for the past few months but he needed to find out on his own. Normally I would have paid these bills off...
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Barbara
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What a diffent experience
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Hi to all, and a belated Thanksgiving Wish...
We all had such an enjoyable day yesterday. My A has 18 sober days! This is the first holiday since I can't remember when that he was sober. He actually ran to the store twice before 11am yesterday for me. LOL
My mom had a...
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He's starting to really scare me
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Hi everyone,
I have been writing here to let everyone know what is going on with my a. As I posted yesterday, he has been giving me a hard time on the phone leaving nasty messages and voicemails. Everytime he calls, I don't answer. Messages are basically all the same: accusing, blaming,...
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giving up is not failure
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Giving up is not giving in, nor is it failing. It is no longer needing to be right. --Anonymous
When someone tells us a riddle, we may give up if we don't know the answer. We give up because we are tired of trying to get it, or because we are eager to find out what it is. Giving up in other situations, may be...
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Create This Day
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Hey there, ya'll.
Got this in an email tonight and it really gave me something to think about. It reminded me to quit dwelling on the A being in jail, to quit dwelling on the fact that he wrecked my car and as of Monday I will have no vehicle (insurance company totaled it and are comin...
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FreeOfTheBottle
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I am afraid...and alone
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I am alone
I sit in a room full of people, and still I stare at the wall
I have no close friends…all are acquaintances
I am scared to trust, for my heart will not survive another hurt
I am alone,for nobody understands me
They see me as content, full of life, and soo vibrant
I am not like...
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Lauren ashley
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New Member
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Hello Everyone,
I wanted to share my story with you. I am just starting to realize that I need some support.. I can't deal with my "A" alone anymore. Came here for some guidance on how to start caring for myself.
I have been with him for 8 yrs. Some days are wonderful. He is my best f...
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Joann54
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new member
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Hello everyone.
I signed up here a few weeks ago, but so far I've just been "lurking." I got an email today from someone who asked me to participate. Guess it's time.
I've been going to meetings here since June. I cried like a baby at the first meeting and completely embarassed myself, but found so mu...
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Michele
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Thank God for chocolate cake! lol
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Well I finally have a smile on my face today and its all because of chocolate cake! lol
Another friend of my husbands just showed up and he brought chocolate cake! yummmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Happy Thanksgiving everyone
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Barbara
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Christmas giving tree at Church
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Besides having tags for children, our Church is giving us the option to buy for recovering addicts. What would you put in a woman's Christmas present bag?
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Barbara
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This made us all laugh at our Friday F2F ...
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Well we all show up at the church and the door is locked so we head down to the local diner.
One our groups spouse was there as he had the day off Friday.
He looks down at the diner placemat.
Blessing's Auto Service......antique and new cars, towing and recovery, 24hr service with a day and ni...
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spiritual moment
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Hello 2 all,
My favorite song is playing - it is calling all angels
.My ex brings it to my awareness - those a-s lol
he got busted dui - I already told him to walk. To
walk was our negotiated when we were out drinking.
I was home - he wanted his turn and due to this
wonderful space (alanon) I knew to...
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wille
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New member
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Hi everyone. I'm new to this...I've recently come to terms with the fact that I'm an adult child of alcoholics and unfortunately there is no alanon meetings in my community. So, it's a HUGE relief to find a place to go to share...even if it's online
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jenna
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change IS a long hard drag
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Keep It Simple It’s going to be a long hard drag, but we’ll make it. ---Janis Jopin Some people start each day with a groan. They act like staying sober is no fun at all. They may have turned over their illness to their Higher Power. But they haven’t yet turned over their will and their life. They don’t se...
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I can't do this anymore
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Hi ,
Well, here I am again all distraught and upset.
I went for my yearly checkup with the doctor and got a bad report. He said my CA levels were up. Now I've been going for test after test looking for cancer. Of course some of them takes weeks to get in. So far they have...
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sandy
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Thanksgiving Alkathon
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I attended my first alkathon on Thanksgiving evening with my friend.
There was alanon participation.
Unfortunately by the time we got there alanon was over and it was just AA. (My brother who did dinner had a broken oven and the turkey was done late)
So we stayed for the AA meetings.
T...
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megan
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Starting over!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hi,
I called my sponser tonight, and went and met her for coffee. I don't get to see her as often as I like. Seems I am always running. I told her I would make time during the Holidays to talk with her and she reminded me that I needed to care for me. She said I look tired and frazzled.
I brought her up to spee...
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Jeannie
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Response to Twopoodles
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Hi,
I cant tell you if you should or shouldnt leave your A but I do know what a little bit of time dealing with mine has done to me over the past two months. About writing him a letter - after reading many of these posts on this site - I agree with alot that is said. The drug is what is controlling...
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Cyn
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I wear my heart on my sleeve
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So they say, what's good for the goose is good the for the gander (did I sp that correctly?)
I have seen my therapist 3 times - & I went to the lawyer's ofc w/ my mother. They both basically said the same thing...
my therapist (wonderful Sicilian woman) sd, "don't throw pearls among...
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kitty
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worn out and manipulated
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Hi guys need a bit of strength here yesterday my A came home from work asked for a lift to the shops and to me looked like he had been drinking. I was on my way out and told him that I would drop him off but he needed to remember that I had told him I would not be running him around(he has no licence). He said...
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leo
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happy thanksgiving:)
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hi everyone
i want to thank you all for all your love and support you are so wonderful you are great friends! i have so much to be thankful for:) i have my family & my friends. i have my family back . my husband is doing great my daughter is back to calling him d...
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chrissy
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one more time
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hi everyone i have posted before back in august and wouldn't you know it my pc crashed the next day. since then i have a new lease on life. i read so many of your postings and i have to tell you..roller coasters..highs..lows..there is so many out there going through what i go through everyday, that...
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michimoon
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How does one stay calm when surrounded by As?
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I have barely been home a day and when my mom and dad picked me up at the bus station my mom was drunk! Tonight my mom and dad are drunk and my grandfather is drinking heavily and the situation of him getting back to the hotel may be hellish like last year, which resulted in me b...
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Lanchas
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As I was sitting on my pitty pot today...
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For the first time in more years than I can remember, I have been getting excited about the coming season, even with the wondering... Just shoved it aside, and went on with my preperations. My daughter and family are coming home, I've even started writing cards.( I haven't done that in a lonnngggg time...
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