Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

liliana · liliana

Hi, I discovered this site about two weeks ago. I am so grateful for it, I have made 3 face to face meetings it feels good to concentrate on me for a change. My a even commented that I seem relaxed and he has no idea that I made the meetings. He's been up to his usual stuff and I feel hopeful for the first time in a...

bobump · bobump

In some of my relationships it seems as I get closer, the more critical I've become. It's almost like I enter a comfort zone where I feel ok to criticize someone. I don't know why this happens short of that and it's something I need to find out some day, HP willing through working my program. Maybe I un...

bob6502 · bob6502

Dear Friends, We have a Group Conscience Meeting scheduled for 7pm Est on Wednesday, December 7th. As of this date our agenda is very limited. If you have issues, suggestions, ESH that you would like to have added to our meeting, please PM me either here on the message board or in the cha...

pixel04 · pixel04

I used to not pray about much of anything, so I was skeptical of prayer when I started this program a few years ago. When I did decide to pray, I did so privately. I didn't want to share with anyone about my attempts to have a relationship with a Higher Power, or my attempts to let Him handle what I was t...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got this in an e-mail today. It fit well today since I have a second interview for a new job possibiliity. I hope others can look forward to a positive New Year with new opportunities also. I know that these oppertunities can feel scary and make us not as excited as we may think we should feel... howe...

kitty · kitty

Not feeling so well these days... I am still having trouble finding or rather MAKING time for me. My mother, is close to genius & still SO OCD, ADHD, ACOA & co-dependent on me to come & rescue her. I am tired of having ~ no life. I think par...

Powerless · Powerless

My husband got up our of the blue this evening and went to an NA meeting. I was very surprised and pleased. I tried not to make too big of a deal of it, but did tell him I am proud of him. He feels that he has to do certain things to make me happy so I won't leave again. He also knows that...

kiki · kiki

Hi Everyone Can any of you guys reccommend a good book that i could give my niece to help her through the loss of her alcoholic father? Her Dad (my brother) killed himself 10 days ago after an over-dose of booze and drugs. She is in her early 20`s with a young child of her own. She has lived...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Always On Your Side - Sheryl Crow My yesterdays are all boxed up and neatly put away But every now and then you come to mind Cause you were always waiting to be picked to play the game But when your name was called, you found a place to hide (When you knew that I was always on your side) Well everything was...

allison · allison

Okay..just had to tell someone about my small accomplishment. I kicked my husband out last tuesday..he showed up saturday morning wanting to talk.So i let him in and we had a long discussion on his problem.I told him he could come back but don`t he dare drink here or come home after he`s been drinking.I...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

I have a bookmark on my desk next to my Just For Today Al-Anon one-- both of them are helping me get through some tough situations right now and I want to share the message of the one entitled Promise Yourself, in hopes that it will be helpful to you too. PROMISE YOURSELF To be so strong that nothing can...

Barbara · Barbara

I feel alot calmer going into the holidays than I would usually.

Powerless · Powerless

As we all are, I'm sure. I am always on one mission or another. My mother and son suffer from severe mental illness. I worked for mental health for several years before moving here and enjoyed it very much. THat has a lot to do with planning on psychiatric nursing. I fin...

captcodee · captcodee

I have a need to get this off my back, the only place i can talk about this is here, and I really need to get some peace. Shortly before my husband and I split up a guy with a little boy moved in next door. His son is the same age as my daughter. The weekend before I split up with my husband Doug (my neig...

Powerless · Powerless

I am feeling so down today. I miss my big kids. I know that they have made their decision not to return home with me when I returned to my husband and know that they have a right to their own decision. They're 8 and 10, what do they know? Obviously more than me. What i...

wille · wille

Hi 2 all, I can hardly see this screen except I can see it. as good as I can, so on we go! My good fortune is to have an awareness increase which allows me to unplug from them hill billy a types - and to walk with out a word of discontent ant 2 b able 2 forgive as I go. Just forgive - l g - l g - so ...

Kim · Kim

So, my Christmas tree is up.....listening to "Rat Pack Christmas" I celebrated my first tree alone. It was sad at times but for the most part I enjoyed the fact that I did it all myself. My A called during dinner. Wanted to know if we were ever going to see each other again. I really didn't knowwhat to say.&...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all, I got this at work this morning hope it makes you all smile! Please join me in remembering a great icon of the entertainment community. The Pillsbury Doughboy died yesterday of a yeast infection and trauma complications from repeated pokes in the belly....

Cyn · Cyn

Well as of today my life has completely taken a different path and I should be jumping for joy - but instead I am bawling my eyes out in exhaustion, frustration and being overwhelmed. I bought a swim school today - my own business. My own opportunity to build my life and make a name for myse...

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Hi, everyone. I really need some help. And a big pity party, sorry. Back in August I posted about my husband's abuse of Robitussin (after being clean and sober, at least I "think" so, for several years). Since then my life has been in a horrible downward spiral. I'd asked h...

Kim · Kim

This weekend has been busy. Went out with friends Friday night, yesterday I got up and started cleaning/decorating for Christmas. It was hard and I knew it would be....going through our Christmas stuff, stockings with everyone's names on it (my A, my stepdaughter, my dog who passed in...

Powerless · Powerless

I have been reasing the book SELF MATTERS by Dr. Phil. I have been doing the book work along with the step work. I have been having a very difficult time reliving things best forgotten. I am running through all of the feelings of abandonment. doubt, fear, confusion, hopelessness a...

alanon_2002 · alanon_2002

Hi, I am living with an alcholic...I do not drink or smoke...I am in pain at least once or more times a week when he drinks...tonight I said the wrong thing...i am accused of everything. I cannot cry. It gets worse...it is all my fault, everything is...I am told...I am crying so deep and silently now...i...

seashell · seashell

I was trying to get online for a meeting. I am not that clear on java, is there some way just to log online? Thanks

Powerless · Powerless

I decided today to go back to school. I want to start next month by taking one or two classes at the local community college. I have two years of courses, but think I would like to get into psychiatric nursing. In fact, i have thought long and hard about this and know this is what I want t...

nycbt · nycbt

In a month I have gotten real strong. I have learned that it is ok to say no. To stick to my guns and not give him back the key that I took from him. For not giving in an letting him drive the car by himself. I took the key because he is not in recovery and I am afaird that he is going to get a DWI and my car will be taken...

Jersey · Jersey

Well, I did it. I've wanted to for a long time but was too afraid of what might really happen. I told my A either you clean up or I'm leaving. I didn't mean it as a threat and I didn't mean to force him to do anything. The thing is, I just can't hang on anymore. If he isn't willing to get help, then he isn't, but a...

Michele · Michele

I found a picture that my eight year old son drew yesterday. It was very violent. It showed a boy being stabbed by swords and axes. I asked him about it and he said he was just bored. When I showed it to my husband, my A, he thought it was funny and it was just a "boy" thing. I didn't think so and showed it to my p...

TLC2 · TLC2

Has anyone heard from Debilyn? Debilyn, if you see this, sure would like to know if you're ok!! Love and lotsa TLC

bobump · bobump

I had an interesting thought that while maybe not original, really meant something to me tonday in my f2f. Two people shared about going back and forth on something. I've constantly found myself doing this and many times I'm comforted w/ esh that says not to be hard on myself, prog...

sandie123 · sandie123

I was talking to someone today about drugs and alcohol use and how it affects both the user and the people around them. I was talking about how when one is in a drug/alcohol induced state they do not think about purposely hurting someone else but the fact is they don’t think at all. Their brain is like a fau...

seashell · seashell

I just found this site and registered. I had been quite active at local meetings for over 7 years. Then I stopped the meetings, I moved, but still read my books daily. I think it is time to bring it back into my life more and focus on me. I just keep doing too much for others ...

Powerless · Powerless

I feel terrible, yet relieved. I was really missing my big kids today. they are still with their dad and do not want to return home as long as I live with my husband. He kept bothering me and asking me what was wrong. I told him that it's his fault the kids and I left to begin with an...

pixel04 · pixel04

Last night my sponsor reminded me admitting powerlessness means letting go of self will so there is room for God's will to come in. I hear all the time in Alanon that you can't fill a cup that's already full. That Alanon helps us let go of a lot of the crap we bring in with us so that there's room for somethi...

flumpy · flumpy

Hiya Pico, Only me flumpy, just wondering how you are. I hope you are doing ok, and staying strong for yourself. Hope you come back to the room soon, coz I would really love to chat with you again. Stay strong for you and only you and be true to yourself.. All the flumpy love in the world, flump...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

hello all.... Hmmm I want to make this short and sweet.I went to a ftf yesterday,and one of the members there said something to me that stuck.She said that she is glad I go to the meetings because I add a kick to them.I haven't been going too often because I was sick.Anyways this member also said that she...

hopeful · hopeful

Hallo it has been along time since i visiteed this site.I have been in the programme for about 3 years and during this period i have felt alot of warmth and support from the members of the local groups that i regularly attended.At this very moment i feel very sad,frustrated lonely,and broken hea...

bluecrow · bluecrow

It was just seven days ago that my A was under the influance of Meth., once again, It was hell living with the anger that gets triggered by the drug. He calls me terrible names and looks at me as if he would like me dead. His uncommunicative and all efforts to com...

Cyn · Cyn

Dear H I am thankful for being able to share the time I did with you. It was the most wonderful time of my life - always is. 8 years we have been "dancing" around what it would be to truly commit to a relationship to each other - and we finally got to experience it. It was beautiful, spec...

Cyn · Cyn

I am walking out the door with no expectations - going to meet up with some old friends and meet some new friends while watching a club hockey game. Once again I will repeat it to myself - I wasnt the problem - drugs were the problem and I ended the relationship for my own health and sanity. This is goo...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

uncle lou, i hope your ok, havent seen you post in a while. hope you do soon.

teddybear · teddybear

Thank you to each one of you, for responding to my post. You all helped me to feel a sense of belonging. Within the last few days, I have been going through a difficult time. It is difficult sometimes, and almost impossible for me to have a lot of self-disclosure, becau...

hudsond · hudsond

Hi everybody. I haven't posted in a couple of weeks, but I have gone to a couple of f2f meetings. I've been feeling and doing pretty well. My a has been doing well. I think I was scared last time I posted because he was suppose to come by with his check and didn't show up -so I just k...

alanon_2002 · alanon_2002

Holidays are here. They are the toughest...i am usually alone, but for the past few yrs, I have been with Him...all of his family drinks....I am going out of town the Christmas week...we will be with his realtives..they ALL drink ...last yr. there was one person that did not. and of course the kids dont...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I read this wonderful book last night. It is by Jeanet Geringer Woititz, author of Adult Children of Alcoholics. The name of the book is "Marriage on the Rocks, Learning to Live with yourslef and an Alcoholic." The book is amazing. I felt like the author was sitting in the room talking one on one wit...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanon Friends, I said goodbye yesterday to my oldest son who is in the military. He is going into combat for the third time and he is only 22 years old. He knows exactly what he is getting into and it was hard to watch him prepare to go. We helped him clear out his apartment. I brought his Christmas st...

pixel04 · pixel04

I called my father yesterday, trying to get hold of my mother. She and I had been playing phone tag for several days. So yesterday I tried at 11 am - she wasn't answering at work. 2 pm - she wasn't at home, my father said. 6 pm (9pm their time), he tells me she never came home, she hasn't been home for 3 days, s...

gknee · gknee

Hi Boarders- I am pasting in a wonderful comment by a member of a different board I post on. She so eloquently describes a good alanon attitude(and she is not talking about A!!). It really spoke to me. My A (currently inactive) and I were talking last nite and he was discussing possibly using ag... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Powerless · Powerless

When I was gone, I felt such freedom, relief and hope. I also felt fear, lonely, alone, scared, angry, resentful, confused and befuddled. I relished the feeling of freedom and the suspense of not knowing what tomorrow would bring. I could ahve turned my life into anything I wanted to. I k...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Okay, my husband has been doing his IOP program. I am trying to stay out of his program, but I have some concerns about the family. He is so much worse instead of better. I realize this is normal. He has justified himslef that everything is my fault. But what else is new. He has justified that he sho...

cabma · cabma

My a is a crack addict. He has a good job but I believe he blew it this week when he left monday night (it's thursday night) and hasn't been back since and never called into work. He's out doing drugs. he's found a new place where they sell the stuff right downstairs so he doesn't ever ha...

Kim · Kim

This morning I awoke somewhat anxious. I had a busy day and had to interview about 5 people, but still my mind was buzzing again about my A. My first instinct was to call and lash out at him, but I set my sights on work and before I knew it I was in the throws of my day and my mind was off of it. He called this evenin...

Cyn · Cyn

I know my ex is in denial - but so am I. Its been almost 2 weeks since I last spoke to him - and 2 weeks since I bottomed out wanting to end my life because the person I love couldnt handle being the nice person he always was to me - because he is an ADDICT. I took it personally - and in some ways still d...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

You are reading from the book Touchstones </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=212>. In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. --Albert Camus Sometimes we suddenly see or sense opposite emotions within ourselves. The cold of win...

kitty · kitty

Sometimes being the bearer of the truth is just so hard -- they always shoot the messenger. Everyone asks for the truth but then they rip you to pieces over it... yes, the sword... I feel like I drag it around. I would never want to hurt anyone, I would hurt myself first. It is amaz...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys, i came home from work today and was informed by my mom that my "a" (ex-boyfriend) had left his rehab after only 6 weeks...out of a 12 week programme i knew deep down he wouldnt last. when i saw him sunday he seemed detached like he knew what he was gonna do. hes in a homeless shelter now tonight i...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - December 1 I've struggled long and hard in Al-Anon to understand the idea of detachment with love. At first, it sounded like an oxymoron. Detachment was the opposite of love, I thought. It seemed like abandoning the people I loved because of their alcoholism. Was I supposed to just s...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I had a bad morning today... My one son gets up in the middle of the night continuously. He was the good sleeper, now it's the other one that doesn't give me trouble at night. The kids are not listening to me at all lately. Yes, they're two and tantrums and selective hearing is e...

Evilynn · Evilynn

And it felt real good. I even went before I went to work. They told me not to make any big decisions (like kicking him out) for a while, unless of course it's dangerous for me. They said leaving when he drinks is okay for me since it allows me to step away from the situation and I am less likely to try to control...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Wisdom for Today There are two kinds of fear in this world, healthy fear and unhealthy fear. Healthy fear tells you not to do something that will harm yourself, like grabbing onto live electrical wires. Unhealthy fear, on the other hand, distorts reason and distorts beliefs. Unhealthy fear can co...

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	feeling positive (Preview) Hi, I discovered this site about two weeks ago. I am so grateful for it, I have made 3 face to face meetings it feels good to concentrate on me for a change. My a even commented that I seem relaxed and he has no idea that I made the meetings. He's been up to his usual stuff and I feel hopeful for the first time in a...	liliana	5	679	Dec 6, 2005 by canadianguy
	I can be such a good friend..... (Preview) In some of my relationships it seems as I get closer, the more critical I've become. It's almost like I enter a comfort zone where I feel ok to criticize someone. I don't know why this happens short of that and it's something I need to find out some day, HP willing through working my program. Maybe I un...	bobump	7	679	Dec 6, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	December 7th Group Conscience Meeting (Preview) Dear Friends, We have a Group Conscience Meeting scheduled for 7pm Est on Wednesday, December 7th. As of this date our agenda is very limited. If you have issues, suggestions, ESH that you would like to have added to our meeting, please PM me either here on the message board or in the cha...	bob6502	2	576	Dec 6, 2005 by Christy
	prayer (Preview) I used to not pray about much of anything, so I was skeptical of prayer when I started this program a few years ago. When I did decide to pray, I did so privately. I didn't want to share with anyone about my attempts to have a relationship with a Higher Power, or my attempts to let Him handle what I was t...	pixel04	3	675	Dec 6, 2005 by hudsond
	Anticipation (Preview) I got this in an e-mail today. It fit well today since I have a second interview for a new job possibiliity. I hope others can look forward to a positive New Year with new opportunities also. I know that these oppertunities can feel scary and make us not as excited as we may think we should feel... howe...	sandie123	3	613	Dec 6, 2005 by leo
	I feel like I am losing myself (Preview) Not feeling so well these days... I am still having trouble finding or rather MAKING time for me. My mother, is close to genius & still SO OCD, ADHD, ACOA & co-dependent on me to come & rescue her. I am tired of having ~ no life. I think par...	kitty	4	852	Dec 6, 2005 by leo
	Trying not to make a big deal of this (Preview) My husband got up our of the blue this evening and went to an NA meeting. I was very surprised and pleased. I tried not to make too big of a deal of it, but did tell him I am proud of him. He feels that he has to do certain things to make me happy so I won't leave again. He also knows that...	Powerless	4	671	Dec 6, 2005 by hudsond
	helpful literature for daughter of suicide dad (Preview) Hi Everyone Can any of you guys reccommend a good book that i could give my niece to help her through the loss of her alcoholic father? Her Dad (my brother) killed himself 10 days ago after an over-dose of booze and drugs. She is in her early 20`s with a young child of her own. She has lived...	kiki	6	608	Dec 6, 2005 by kiki
	You tell me...? (Preview) Always On Your Side - Sheryl Crow My yesterdays are all boxed up and neatly put away But every now and then you come to mind Cause you were always waiting to be picked to play the game But when your name was called, you found a place to hide (When you knew that I was always on your side) Well everything was...	kismetstrand	2	767	Dec 6, 2005 by txmom
	one small step (Preview) Okay..just had to tell someone about my small accomplishment. I kicked my husband out last tuesday..he showed up saturday morning wanting to talk.So i let him in and we had a long discussion on his problem.I told him he could come back but don`t he dare drink here or come home after he`s been drinking.I...	allison	3	737	Dec 5, 2005 by canadianguy
	Promise Yourself (Preview) I have a bookmark on my desk next to my Just For Today Al-Anon one-- both of them are helping me get through some tough situations right now and I want to share the message of the one entitled Promise Yourself, in hopes that it will be helpful to you too. PROMISE YOURSELF To be so strong that nothing can...	Emmie11	3	635	Dec 5, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	Im glad I found AlAnon before the holidays (Preview) I feel alot calmer going into the holidays than I would usually.	Barbara	1	544	Dec 5, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	I am drawn to the troubles of others (Preview) As we all are, I'm sure. I am always on one mission or another. My mother and son suffer from severe mental illness. I worked for mental health for several years before moving here and enjoyed it very much. THat has a lot to do with planning on psychiatric nursing. I fin...	Powerless	3	723	Dec 5, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	Need to get this off my back (Preview) I have a need to get this off my back, the only place i can talk about this is here, and I really need to get some peace. Shortly before my husband and I split up a guy with a little boy moved in next door. His son is the same age as my daughter. The weekend before I split up with my husband Doug (my neig...	captcodee	5	744	Dec 5, 2005 by Jeannie
	Pity Party for me today (Preview) I am feeling so down today. I miss my big kids. I know that they have made their decision not to return home with me when I returned to my husband and know that they have a right to their own decision. They're 8 and 10, what do they know? Obviously more than me. What i...	Powerless	4	634	Dec 5, 2005 by Powerless
	Thank u 4 here (Preview) Hi 2 all, I can hardly see this screen except I can see it. as good as I can, so on we go! My good fortune is to have an awareness increase which allows me to unplug from them hill billy a types - and to walk with out a word of discontent ant 2 b able 2 forgive as I go. Just forgive - l g - l g - so ...	wille	1	617	Dec 5, 2005 by bobump
	another day well spent (Preview) So, my Christmas tree is up.....listening to "Rat Pack Christmas" I celebrated my first tree alone. It was sad at times but for the most part I enjoyed the fact that I did it all myself. My A called during dinner. Wanted to know if we were ever going to see each other again. I really didn't knowwhat to say.&...	Kim	4	820	Dec 5, 2005 by canadianguy
	A sad note! (Preview) Hello all, I got this at work this morning hope it makes you all smile! Please join me in remembering a great icon of the entertainment community. The Pillsbury Doughboy died yesterday of a yeast infection and trauma complications from repeated pokes in the belly....	Dolphin123	3	616	Dec 5, 2005 by marmare
	Sad when I should be ecstatic (sp?) (Preview) Well as of today my life has completely taken a different path and I should be jumping for joy - but instead I am bawling my eyes out in exhaustion, frustration and being overwhelmed. I bought a swim school today - my own business. My own opportunity to build my life and make a name for myse...	Cyn	5	744	Dec 5, 2005 by Rebecca
	Ruined sobriety redux (Preview) Hi, everyone. I really need some help. And a big pity party, sorry. Back in August I posted about my husband's abuse of Robitussin (after being clean and sober, at least I "think" so, for several years). Since then my life has been in a horrible downward spiral. I'd asked h...	phoebemoonpie	8	735	Dec 5, 2005 by Diva
	manipulations and boundaries (Preview) This weekend has been busy. Went out with friends Friday night, yesterday I got up and started cleaning/decorating for Christmas. It was hard and I knew it would be....going through our Christmas stuff, stockings with everyone's names on it (my A, my stepdaughter, my dog who passed in...	Kim	8	693	Dec 5, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Self Matters (Preview) I have been reasing the book SELF MATTERS by Dr. Phil. I have been doing the book work along with the step work. I have been having a very difficult time reliving things best forgotten. I am running through all of the feelings of abandonment. doubt, fear, confusion, hopelessness a...	Powerless	0	599	Dec 4, 2005 by Powerless
	I cry silently (Preview) Hi, I am living with an alcholic...I do not drink or smoke...I am in pain at least once or more times a week when he drinks...tonight I said the wrong thing...i am accused of everything. I cannot cry. It gets worse...it is all my fault, everything is...I am told...I am crying so deep and silently now...i...	alanon_2002	13	1032	Dec 4, 2005 by alanon_2002
	Having issues getting on for a meeting (Preview) I was trying to get online for a meeting. I am not that clear on java, is there some way just to log online? Thanks	seashell	5	628	Dec 4, 2005 by seashell
	Good idea or asking for trouble? (Preview) I decided today to go back to school. I want to start next month by taking one or two classes at the local community college. I have two years of courses, but think I would like to get into psychiatric nursing. In fact, i have thought long and hard about this and know this is what I want t...	Powerless	3	657	Dec 4, 2005 by Flora123
	Look back for the month (Preview) In a month I have gotten real strong. I have learned that it is ok to say no. To stick to my guns and not give him back the key that I took from him. For not giving in an letting him drive the car by himself. I took the key because he is not in recovery and I am afaird that he is going to get a DWI and my car will be taken...	nycbt	5	599	Dec 4, 2005 by liza
	What next? (Preview) Well, I did it. I've wanted to for a long time but was too afraid of what might really happen. I told my A either you clean up or I'm leaving. I didn't mean it as a threat and I didn't mean to force him to do anything. The thing is, I just can't hang on anymore. If he isn't willing to get help, then he isn't, but a...	Jersey	2	671	Dec 4, 2005 by Diva
	So sad (Preview) I found a picture that my eight year old son drew yesterday. It was very violent. It showed a boy being stabbed by swords and axes. I asked him about it and he said he was just bored. When I showed it to my husband, my A, he thought it was funny and it was just a "boy" thing. I didn't think so and showed it to my p...	Michele	5	691	Dec 4, 2005 by leo
	Debilyn? (Preview) Has anyone heard from Debilyn? Debilyn, if you see this, sure would like to know if you're ok!! Love and lotsa TLC	TLC2	3	684	Dec 4, 2005 by search41
	the pendulum of program (Preview) I had an interesting thought that while maybe not original, really meant something to me tonday in my f2f. Two people shared about going back and forth on something. I've constantly found myself doing this and many times I'm comforted w/ esh that says not to be hard on myself, prog...	bobump	5	802	Dec 4, 2005 by pixel04
	The need for Boundries... (Preview) I was talking to someone today about drugs and alcohol use and how it affects both the user and the people around them. I was talking about how when one is in a drug/alcohol induced state they do not think about purposely hurting someone else but the fact is they don’t think at all. Their brain is like a fau...	sandie123	5	681	Dec 4, 2005 by seashell
	Nice 2 meet u (Preview) I just found this site and registered. I had been quite active at local meetings for over 7 years. Then I stopped the meetings, I moved, but still read my books daily. I think it is time to bring it back into my life more and focus on me. I just keep doing too much for others ...	seashell	10	700	Dec 4, 2005 by seashell
	Huge amount of resentment (Preview) I feel terrible, yet relieved. I was really missing my big kids today. they are still with their dad and do not want to return home as long as I live with my husband. He kept bothering me and asking me what was wrong. I told him that it's his fault the kids and I left to begin with an...	Powerless	2	707	Dec 4, 2005 by jrtjosey
	self will vs God's will (Preview) Last night my sponsor reminded me admitting powerlessness means letting go of self will so there is room for God's will to come in. I hear all the time in Alanon that you can't fill a cup that's already full. That Alanon helps us let go of a lot of the crap we bring in with us so that there's room for somethi...	pixel04	4	1751	Dec 3, 2005 by tiredtonite
	picowitch (Preview) Hiya Pico, Only me flumpy, just wondering how you are. I hope you are doing ok, and staying strong for yourself. Hope you come back to the room soon, coz I would really love to chat with you again. Stay strong for you and only you and be true to yourself.. All the flumpy love in the world, flump...	flumpy	2	657	Dec 3, 2005 by Flora123
	Sharing from the heart (Preview) hello all.... Hmmm I want to make this short and sweet.I went to a ftf yesterday,and one of the members there said something to me that stuck.She said that she is glad I go to the meetings because I add a kick to them.I haven't been going too often because I was sick.Anyways this member also said that she...	Lauren ashley	4	672	Dec 3, 2005 by Flora123
	Please someone help iam worn out (Preview) Hallo it has been along time since i visiteed this site.I have been in the programme for about 3 years and during this period i have felt alot of warmth and support from the members of the local groups that i regularly attended.At this very moment i feel very sad,frustrated lonely,and broken hea...	hopeful	7	840	Dec 3, 2005 by gardengal
	One A Parent's Love (Preview) It was just seven days ago that my A was under the influance of Meth., once again, It was hell living with the anger that gets triggered by the drug. He calls me terrible names and looks at me as if he would like me dead. His uncommunicative and all efforts to com...	bluecrow	5	721	Dec 3, 2005 by Maria123
	My letter to my A (Preview) Dear H I am thankful for being able to share the time I did with you. It was the most wonderful time of my life - always is. 8 years we have been "dancing" around what it would be to truly commit to a relationship to each other - and we finally got to experience it. It was beautiful, spec...	Cyn	9	731	Dec 3, 2005 by Karilynn
	Doing something for me tonight (Preview) I am walking out the door with no expectations - going to meet up with some old friends and meet some new friends while watching a club hockey game. Once again I will repeat it to myself - I wasnt the problem - drugs were the problem and I ended the relationship for my own health and sanity. This is goo...	Cyn	4	669	Dec 3, 2005 by notsonew1111
	uncle lou, where are you? (Preview) uncle lou, i hope your ok, havent seen you post in a while. hope you do soon.	notsonew1111	2	632	Dec 3, 2005 by UncleLou
	Thank you leo, DanaAngel, Dolphin123 (Preview) Thank you to each one of you, for responding to my post. You all helped me to feel a sense of belonging. Within the last few days, I have been going through a difficult time. It is difficult sometimes, and almost impossible for me to have a lot of self-disclosure, becau...	teddybear	3	779	Dec 2, 2005 by leo
	afraid I showed too much (Preview) Hi everybody. I haven't posted in a couple of weeks, but I have gone to a couple of f2f meetings. I've been feeling and doing pretty well. My a has been doing well. I think I was scared last time I posted because he was suppose to come by with his check and didn't show up -so I just k...	hudsond	6	883	Dec 2, 2005 by lin0606
	Holidays (Preview) Holidays are here. They are the toughest...i am usually alone, but for the past few yrs, I have been with Him...all of his family drinks....I am going out of town the Christmas week...we will be with his realtives..they ALL drink ...last yr. there was one person that did not. and of course the kids dont...	alanon_2002	3	643	Dec 2, 2005 by alanon_2002
	To parents - a good read (Preview) I read this wonderful book last night. It is by Jeanet Geringer Woititz, author of Adult Children of Alcoholics. The name of the book is "Marriage on the Rocks, Learning to Live with yourslef and an Alcoholic." The book is amazing. I felt like the author was sitting in the room talking one on one wit...	Jeannie	3	643	Dec 2, 2005 by txmom
	my son went to war (Preview) Hi Alanon Friends, I said goodbye yesterday to my oldest son who is in the military. He is going into combat for the third time and he is only 22 years old. He knows exactly what he is getting into and it was hard to watch him prepare to go. We helped him clear out his apartment. I brought his Christmas st...	nmike	12	954	Dec 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	then and now (Preview) I called my father yesterday, trying to get hold of my mother. She and I had been playing phone tag for several days. So yesterday I tried at 11 am - she wasn't answering at work. 2 pm - she wasn't at home, my father said. 6 pm (9pm their time), he tells me she never came home, she hasn't been home for 3 days, s...	pixel04	4	806	Dec 2, 2005 by Flora123
	said it better than I could ever (Preview) Hi Boarders- I am pasting in a wonderful comment by a member of a different board I post on. She so eloquently describes a good alanon attitude(and she is not talking about A!!). It really spoke to me. My A (currently inactive) and I were talking last nite and he was discussing possibly using ag... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>	gknee	2	741	Dec 2, 2005 by Emmie11
	I felt such freedom and hope (Preview) When I was gone, I felt such freedom, relief and hope. I also felt fear, lonely, alone, scared, angry, resentful, confused and befuddled. I relished the feeling of freedom and the suspense of not knowing what tomorrow would bring. I could ahve turned my life into anything I wanted to. I k...	Powerless	2	743	Dec 2, 2005 by TLC2
	Getting worse (Preview) Hi, Okay, my husband has been doing his IOP program. I am trying to stay out of his program, but I have some concerns about the family. He is so much worse instead of better. I realize this is normal. He has justified himslef that everything is my fault. But what else is new. He has justified that he sho...	Jeannie	7	728	Dec 2, 2005 by gknee
	just beginning, help (Preview) My a is a crack addict. He has a good job but I believe he blew it this week when he left monday night (it's thursday night) and hasn't been back since and never called into work. He's out doing drugs. he's found a new place where they sell the stuff right downstairs so he doesn't ever ha...	cabma	5	746	Dec 2, 2005 by cabma
	each day requires strength (Preview) This morning I awoke somewhat anxious. I had a busy day and had to interview about 5 people, but still my mind was buzzing again about my A. My first instinct was to call and lash out at him, but I set my sights on work and before I knew it I was in the throws of my day and my mind was off of it. He called this evenin...	Kim	4	757	Dec 2, 2005 by chrissy
	Denial - on my part (Preview) I know my ex is in denial - but so am I. Its been almost 2 weeks since I last spoke to him - and 2 weeks since I bottomed out wanting to end my life because the person I love couldnt handle being the nice person he always was to me - because he is an ADDICT. I took it personally - and in some ways still d...	Cyn	5	617	Dec 2, 2005 by sandie123
	in the depths of despair, i found a light (Preview) **You are reading from the book Touchstones </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=212>. In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. --Albert Camus** Sometimes we suddenly see or sense opposite emotions within ourselves. The cold of win...	rosie light shines	1	823	Dec 2, 2005 by kitty
	shooting the messenger (Preview) Sometimes being the bearer of the truth is just so hard -- they always shoot the messenger. Everyone asks for the truth but then they rip you to pieces over it... yes, the sword... I feel like I drag it around. I would never want to hurt anyone, I would hurt myself first. It is amaz...	kitty	3	861	Dec 2, 2005 by canadianguy
	im not so weak anymore... (Preview) hi guys, i came home from work today and was informed by my mom that my "a" (ex-boyfriend) had left his rehab after only 6 weeks...out of a 12 week programme i knew deep down he wouldnt last. when i saw him sunday he seemed detached like he knew what he was gonna do. hes in a homeless shelter now tonight i...	Rebecca	4	709	Dec 2, 2005 by notsonew1111
	WAHOO!! big lesson on detachment (Preview) Hope for Today - December 1 I've struggled long and hard in Al-Anon to understand the idea of detachment with love. At first, it sounded like an oxymoron. Detachment was the opposite of love, I thought. It seemed like abandoning the people I loved because of their alcoholism. Was I supposed to just s...	rosie light shines	1	761	Dec 2, 2005 by nmike
	I have to move back to Step 1 (Preview) I had a bad morning today... My one son gets up in the middle of the night continuously. He was the good sleeper, now it's the other one that doesn't give me trouble at night. The kids are not listening to me at all lately. Yes, they're two and tantrums and selective hearing is e...	twinmom2	4	836	Dec 1, 2005 by Tiger2006
	I went to a f2f meeting (Preview) And it felt real good. I even went before I went to work. They told me not to make any big decisions (like kicking him out) for a while, unless of course it's dangerous for me. They said leaving when he drinks is okay for me since it allows me to step away from the situation and I am less likely to try to control...	Evilynn	5	679	Dec 1, 2005 by Jeannie
	good fear....bad fear (Preview) Wisdom for Today There are two kinds of fear in this world, healthy fear and unhealthy fear. Healthy fear tells you not to do something that will harm yourself, like grabbing onto live electrical wires. Unhealthy fear, on the other hand, distorts reason and distorts beliefs. Unhealthy fear can co...	rosie light shines	2	693	Dec 1, 2005 by rosie light shines
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