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Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys, i came home from work today and was informed by my mom that my "a" (ex-boyfriend) had left his rehab after only 6 weeks...out of a 12 week programme i knew deep down he wouldnt last. when i saw him sunday he seemed detached like he knew what he was gonna do. hes in a homeless shelter now tonight i...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - December 1 I've struggled long and hard in Al-Anon to understand the idea of detachment with love. At first, it sounded like an oxymoron. Detachment was the opposite of love, I thought. It seemed like abandoning the people I loved because of their alcoholism. Was I supposed to just s...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I had a bad morning today... My one son gets up in the middle of the night continuously. He was the good sleeper, now it's the other one that doesn't give me trouble at night. The kids are not listening to me at all lately. Yes, they're two and tantrums and selective hearing is e...

Evilynn · Evilynn

And it felt real good. I even went before I went to work. They told me not to make any big decisions (like kicking him out) for a while, unless of course it's dangerous for me. They said leaving when he drinks is okay for me since it allows me to step away from the situation and I am less likely to try to control...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Wisdom for Today There are two kinds of fear in this world, healthy fear and unhealthy fear. Healthy fear tells you not to do something that will harm yourself, like grabbing onto live electrical wires. Unhealthy fear, on the other hand, distorts reason and distorts beliefs. Unhealthy fear can co...

Barbara · Barbara

and been having trouble for a long time. He's 42 but still lives at home, sometimes temporarily employed (seems to be when he feels like it). He wouldnt come to my house for Christmas last year so she drove herself and my mentally handicapped older brother 1.5hrs each way. They ended up getting lost. Th...

bobump · bobump

Well, I if you were in chat you know I kinda went off on my A this morning. I tried to make amends....well ya know what I didn't try. I did make amends. I said I was sorry, I explained that I my concern but that I shouldn't have acted like I did. Making sure I understood my lesson f...

kat4u · kat4u

Hi, everyone, I am not new to alanon. I came here 2 yrs ago, trying to cope with my substance and alcohol abusing brother. He at the time, was kicked out of his house, and was living in a homeless shelter, while the city cleaned up his home, that he had trashed to the point of it not being safe for a human to liv...

Powerless · Powerless

In more way than one. My husband took my two year old after I had left and after believing his lies once again and missing my baby terribly, I returned to him. I am back home. He is worse off than ever. Apparently he used my leaving as his excuse to really be out there. In th...

gardengal · gardengal

Life is a package deal. It is not enough to look at the parts we like. It is necessary to face the whole picture so that we can make realistic choices for ourselves and stop setting ourselves up for disappointments. Living with alcoholics many of us coped with an ever shifting situation in which our se...

kitty · kitty

Love is unconditional. It is free. There is no logic to it, it is a gift from God (or OF God). I did learn one thing... cuz I used to be real desperate for what I would get in return... I would give so much of myself, I would give all of myself & then look around, waiting &...

Barbara · Barbara

Who has read it and what did you think? Guess he doesnt believe in the 12 steps? And he thinks addiction is a choice not a disease? Have read that its a very emotional book.

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, I'm here decorating the tree and thinking how nice it will be to have my A sober and home for Chirstmas, he calls. His daughter whom he hasn't seen in a year called. He called back, and talked to the ex (who use to beat him) and she invited him for Christmas. I know how bad he wants to see the ki...

tea2 · tea2

Many here share on their past experiences - This is an ugly one, it would mean a lot to get off my chest. This was long before I was in any recovery. When I was younger I reconciled w/ my ex husband I was maybe 25-26, he had a temper he would like to party w/ the boys- a lot. Well one night I...

Evilynn · Evilynn

and I need to stick with it. He didn't have his part of the rent, he is only working two days a week at a bar, he was on a drinking binge (I went to my parents when he did that) and he is continually trying to make me feel guilty for having a car and an apartment. I let him borrow my car and broke my own rules again. I...

Kim · Kim

So, today was a better day. I got through it without many thoughts of my past week, my past 5 yrs...etc...no phone calls. Went to therapy. Came home prepared to relax. The anxiety had lifted somewhat. A called....he paid the electric bill today, just wanted to let me know. I said thank you...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Loving someone you don’t know anymore When Life gets tough, I tell myself this is definitely enough I am in pain; my world around me is spinning insane Love hurts as much as getting your finger slammed by the door, and so does loving someone you hardly know anymore &...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday was the first time since Aug I have been inmate with my husband. I thought that when I became inmate I wouldn't be strong any more. I have made alot of progress in the past month and I thought that being inmate might bring that down. It didn't I still feel strong.

WakingUp · WakingUp

That was the topic last night at my f2f meeting. It was a great topic and we all had a story to tell. As for me? Where's that roll of duct tape? My mouth just wants to give advice all the time.

abbyal · abbyal

Well that was great I thought about that today because I was talking with a person f2f and she was as confused as I was when someone said that to me. The first time I heard it I thought she meant " Sobriety " She said no dear thats HIS miracle Yours is fi...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

so my a had his second meeting with the addictions counsellor, who he will see again dec.20. huh? isnt that a little far away? forgive me but i dont see how this program will help. its an aadac relapse prevention program. but how is reading about it gonna stop another binge? i guess if my a wants to s...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Last night was our first night back to counseling. I thought our therapist was going to come out of her chair when listening for 45minutes about what we both want out of therapy. She said this is the same stuff you guys said three years ago!! So what is going to be the payoff in applying the sk...

bobump · bobump

Well the usuall. 14 yo sleeps thru her 2nd day in a row of school. 13 can't get up but by some HP makes the bus. The kicker is my 9 yo grunted and thrashed upon trying to get him up, when I finally made any progress. This is usually a sign of something bothering him. The last two times he acted like this some...

kitty · kitty

I will continue to do what I need to... to be closer to fulfilling the Divine Plan, to becoming the person I know I am inside. It is nice not to be critisized, to have the space & time to pray & sleep... which is all I did today. I have to learn to put myself first, it is difficul...

Barbara · Barbara

Did you hear what he said before he was weighed in? Something to the effect of "Ive been sober 9 months!" WTG Matt

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Recently I had a good online friend email me regarding something someone she didn't know had said to her. I can understand her feelings, knowing her as I do, and I hope my reply to her will help her some. This makes me think though of Al-Anon's valuable tools, principles and traditions. ...

ditto · ditto

He is drinking again and lieing about it. Remind me that I am not supposed to search for the bottles. Remind me that I am supposed to live in ignorance and allow him to believe I am fooled. Remind me that I am not supposed to be angry that he has broken his promises yet again. Remind me th...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I know this is not the site for me to get support for my mom's alzheimers. Alanon skills do help but I realize that,,,she cannot go to treatment and get better, or work on her recovery and get better one day at a time:( I am pretty much the only child they have that can help them even t...

Kim · Kim

Did pretty well last night. Straightened up my house, went through my mail...took a nice shower and danced around my house to blasting music......you know the cathartic angry kind that gets it all out of your system? No calls. It felt good.....Just when I was ready to settle in the phone...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Sharing The Real Me "Sharing with others keeps us from feeling isolated and alone."Basic Text pg. 81Intimacy is the sharing of our innermost thoughts and feelings with another human being. Many of us long for the warmth and companionship intimacy brings, but those things don't come without ef...

chrissy · chrissy

hi guys i am so tired since chuck has come home he us up at 4am or 5 am the latest and wants to talk.l hey i am not complaining i rather do that then him drinking . i have therapy at 8:30 and will baby sit from 11-730 long day . i just wanted to say hi & touch base thanks for always being there i got a lot of emaile...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - November 30 When listening to others share at Al-Anon meetings, I became aware that I hold myself to unrealistically high standards. I expect myself to be less fallible than everyone else. I acquired this character defect as a child in my attempts to control my...

abbyal · abbyal

That is a phrase that I heard many times when I first came to Al-Anon and never quite understood what it meant. I know today but am curious about what it makes u think of when you hear it? Will wait to see your replies. thanks Louise

Old Faithful · Old Faithful

I guess it shouldn't surprise me, things getting worse. It's been a while since I posted. I should have hung around here more, but the kids and I have had a real bout of sinusitis and everything has hit the fan. My a hubs has continued getting worse and worse, he stays in the little town where he work...

jaja · jaja

When I told my A after a binge,that he needed to commit himself to a long term alcoholism program of some sort, he thought I meant he needed to be commited to a 6-month re-hab. And he kept saying there was no way he'd do that (he's been in about 4 re-habs since our relationship started 21 yrs,a...

Barbara · Barbara

I was big time into partying back in the late 1980s/very early 1990s. Once our son came along in 1992 and I knew I couldnt continue going to bed at 5am to wake up at 6am with an infant. I went to AA and cleaned myself up. However my A husband never quit/cut down on drinking. We both stopped the cocain...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

what's an alkathon????

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I am really feeling down today. I went to see my psychologist and thought that I would feel better but that just didn't happen. He told me that what I was feeling was withdrawl symptoms from my husband more than grief because I was more addicted to him than I loved him. I agree that mos...

Kim · Kim

Yes, I do. I have fallen on old habits hard. I have called so many times when I know I shouldn't. Today was the last of it. I swear it. I came home and cleaned up my house, I'm going to hunker down with a good book and get my mind off of all this craziness if I can. I'm just sick over all of this and I haven't b...

cbb · cbb

I am going to attend my first alanon meeting tonight, alone. I am just curious what to expect. Does everyone sit in a circle and tell their stories? Just curious. any feed back is wonderful. Thank you.

hopefortoday · hopefortoday

I'm having one of those days...you know...where one thing piles onto another...lol I started the day off with a migraine, which doesn't help. I felt better by early afternoon and came to work. But I know I'm not working at full capacity and I am telling myself to be easy on myself. Telling and bel...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi Roomies, Thanks for the ESH all from my last post. I was feeling really down. But coming here to get the feelings out was one of the best things I could do. I felt much better. I went to my literature and grattitude list. That really helped. My "A" had a really good point. I have also been working...

jaja · jaja

I guess maybe I do in dealing with the whole situation involving my A. I'm not sure what or where I start but I do think I've done something that at least I feel better about - and that is having asked him to leave. I've asked him to leave before but it was with a "get out of here, you drunk!...

jaja · jaja

Well, he still comes here as though he's not really gone. He's over early in the morning to take our daughter to the bus stop for school, then comes back to pick up our son for work. When they are done work, he comes back here to the house and does what he's always done befo...

Maria123 · Maria123

Attitude is the mind's paintbrush. It colors every situation. Love it and isn't it just the truth

Cyn · Cyn

I have been so wrapped up in the drama of a guy who really isnt someone I should EVER have been with in the first place - that I really couldnt see the forest through the trees. Today someone pointed out to me how lucky I have it compared to what other people go through on this site. And I feel so g...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi roomies, I really needed to talk to someone, and my sponsor is not home, I can't find my phone list and I am feeling really down right now. I remember growing up, and the holiday season was my favorite time of year. I loved to give to my frineds and family, so I did alot of it growing up (a born codepend...

hopefortoday · hopefortoday

Someone shared at a meeting that if you had never seen the ocean, how would you know what it looked like? You might have an idea, but you wouldn't know for yourself until you went to the ocean and saw it with your own eyes. Today I am thinking some about how that relates to me. I am impatient with mysel...

chrissy · chrissy

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

These are a few lyrics to songs..that well explain my life story...

Pat Benatar Suffer The Little Children by Unknown Sweet melissa, I often pray for you I hope your suffering was brief I hope the angels that watch over all little children Came for you and took you someplace b...

captcodee · captcodee

I received this as an email forward from the mother who abandoned me almost 30 years ago. I gave her my email as a nicety at my grandma's funeral in October. Read it, and keep an open mind. Perhaps I have been too judgemental.... The best prayer I have heard i...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Subject: Meditation: Step Eleven "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out." -- Step Eleven of Alcoholics Anonymous Days of Healing Days o...

Barbara · Barbara

Its hard to be humble and walk into AlAnon (and I only go F2F once a wk!) Hard to walk into Church too but its easier than walking into AlAnon.

Magpie · Magpie

The last two weeks have been almost unreal - I feel like I've been to hell and back. Two weeks ago, my A came home mid-day drunk and nasty. After I picked my daughter up from school I stayed away figuring he would sleep it off. He called while we were on the way home, still in a very...

Cyn · Cyn

Ok for a long time - I stopped listening - I stopped hearing what God was trying to tell me. For the first week and a half that I had been apart from my A - I went to God. I sat and meditated and prayed and followed my heart in the decisions I was making. It felt right - He was with me when I call...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

It's been two weeks now since I left my husband. Things had gotten worse and he had gotten violent. I should have seen this coming but I think I was in denial. I went back too soon from the last time I left him and nothing had changed. I am beginning to miss him. I was fine at...

Kim · Kim

I've had a rough time this weekend. Up and down. Like a trainwreck to be honest. I went away for thankgiving to my family's home in the Poconos with my two step sisters and my parents. Before I left, my car decided to smoke and overheat (an hour and a half before takeoff) and I had to call my A to...

hopefortoday · hopefortoday

When I first came to Alanon I heard people say all the time how they had to let go of some friendships they had before Alanon because they just didn't work for them anymore. I really didn't think that would happen to me and lately I've had a hard time accepting that may be true for me after all. I'm facing it n...

Barbara · Barbara

but thank goodness its not there for the moment (or at least has gotten less) Thats not a way to live! anger anger anger. Husband's brother pointed this out to me a few times. "You guys have so much anger. I can tell just walking in this house". We keep our emotions in, try not to let others/each other see...

Barbara · Barbara

Is there a set limit of beginneer meetings 1 should attend when they first join AlAnon? Seems these meetings are more focused on why ppl joined. Can an AlAnoner sit in on any of the step meetings or do they need to be done in order? If choice is begineer or step (and I feel Ive attended enough begineer and...

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	im not so weak anymore... (Preview) hi guys, i came home from work today and was informed by my mom that my "a" (ex-boyfriend) had left his rehab after only 6 weeks...out of a 12 week programme i knew deep down he wouldnt last. when i saw him sunday he seemed detached like he knew what he was gonna do. hes in a homeless shelter now tonight i...	Rebecca	4	465	Dec 2, 2005 by notsonew1111
	WAHOO!! big lesson on detachment (Preview) Hope for Today - December 1 I've struggled long and hard in Al-Anon to understand the idea of detachment with love. At first, it sounded like an oxymoron. Detachment was the opposite of love, I thought. It seemed like abandoning the people I loved because of their alcoholism. Was I supposed to just s...	rosie light shines	1	464	Dec 2, 2005 by nmike
	I have to move back to Step 1 (Preview) I had a bad morning today... My one son gets up in the middle of the night continuously. He was the good sleeper, now it's the other one that doesn't give me trouble at night. The kids are not listening to me at all lately. Yes, they're two and tantrums and selective hearing is e...	twinmom2	4	551	Dec 1, 2005 by Tiger2006
	I went to a f2f meeting (Preview) And it felt real good. I even went before I went to work. They told me not to make any big decisions (like kicking him out) for a while, unless of course it's dangerous for me. They said leaving when he drinks is okay for me since it allows me to step away from the situation and I am less likely to try to control...	Evilynn	5	439	Dec 1, 2005 by Jeannie
	good fear....bad fear (Preview) Wisdom for Today There are two kinds of fear in this world, healthy fear and unhealthy fear. Healthy fear tells you not to do something that will harm yourself, like grabbing onto live electrical wires. Unhealthy fear, on the other hand, distorts reason and distorts beliefs. Unhealthy fear can co...	rosie light shines	2	428	Dec 1, 2005 by rosie light shines
	My mom's having trouble with my alcoholic brother too (Preview) and been having trouble for a long time. He's 42 but still lives at home, sometimes temporarily employed (seems to be when he feels like it). He wouldnt come to my house for Christmas last year so she drove herself and my mentally handicapped older brother 1.5hrs each way. They ended up getting lost. Th...	Barbara	2	412	Dec 1, 2005 by Karilynn
	You'd think I have a new orifice, LOL (Preview) Well, I if you were in chat you know I kinda went off on my A this morning. I tried to make amends....well ya know what I didn't try. I did make amends. I said I was sorry, I explained that I my concern but that I shouldn't have acted like I did. Making sure I understood my lesson f...	bobump	7	572	Dec 1, 2005 by Christy
	Lost my brother, Michael (Preview) Hi, everyone, I am not new to alanon. I came here 2 yrs ago, trying to cope with my substance and alcohol abusing brother. He at the time, was kicked out of his house, and was living in a homeless shelter, while the city cleaned up his home, that he had trashed to the point of it not being safe for a human to liv...	kat4u	13	606	Dec 1, 2005 by TLC2
	I'm back... (Preview) In more way than one. My husband took my two year old after I had left and after believing his lies once again and missing my baby terribly, I returned to him. I am back home. He is worse off than ever. Apparently he used my leaving as his excuse to really be out there. In th...	Powerless	5	389	Dec 1, 2005 by Karilynn
	FACING REALITY (Preview) Life is a package deal. It is not enough to look at the parts we like. It is necessary to face the whole picture so that we can make realistic choices for ourselves and stop setting ourselves up for disappointments. Living with alcoholics many of us coped with an ever shifting situation in which our se...	gardengal	4	899	Dec 1, 2005 by nycbt
	what I have learned about LOVE (Preview) Love is unconditional. It is free. There is no logic to it, it is a gift from God (or OF God). I did learn one thing... cuz I used to be real desperate for what I would get in return... I would give so much of myself, I would give all of myself & then look around, waiting &...	kitty	5	443	Dec 1, 2005 by rosie light shines
	A Million Little Pieces - James Frey (Preview) Who has read it and what did you think? Guess he doesnt believe in the 12 steps? And he thinks addiction is a choice not a disease? Have read that its a very emotional book.	Barbara	3	418	Dec 1, 2005 by Sallen
	A going to see is family (Preview) Hi roomies, I'm here decorating the tree and thinking how nice it will be to have my A sober and home for Chirstmas, he calls. His daughter whom he hasn't seen in a year called. He called back, and talked to the ex (who use to beat him) and she invited him for Christmas. I know how bad he wants to see the ki...	Karilynn	3	492	Dec 1, 2005 by BlueCloud
	letting it all go (Preview) Many here share on their past experiences - This is an ugly one, it would mean a lot to get off my chest. This was long before I was in any recovery. When I was younger I reconciled w/ my ex husband I was maybe 25-26, he had a temper he would like to party w/ the boys- a lot. Well one night I...	tea2	10	836	Dec 1, 2005 by tea2
	I told him he needs to leave by january (Preview) and I need to stick with it. He didn't have his part of the rent, he is only working two days a week at a bar, he was on a drinking binge (I went to my parents when he did that) and he is continually trying to make me feel guilty for having a car and an apartment. I let him borrow my car and broke my own rules again. I...	Evilynn	4	397	Dec 1, 2005 by captcodee
	Better day (Preview) So, today was a better day. I got through it without many thoughts of my past week, my past 5 yrs...etc...no phone calls. Went to therapy. Came home prepared to relax. The anxiety had lifted somewhat. A called....he paid the electric bill today, just wanted to let me know. I said thank you...	Kim	5	460	Dec 1, 2005 by nycbt
	How do you love somebody you hardly know? (Preview) Loving someone you don’t know anymore When Life gets tough, I tell myself this is definitely enough I am in pain; my world around me is spinning insane Love hurts as much as getting your finger slammed by the door, and so does loving someone you hardly know anymore &...	Lauren ashley	6	451	Dec 1, 2005 by nycbt
	i am still strong (Preview) Yesterday was the first time since Aug I have been inmate with my husband. I thought that when I became inmate I wouldn't be strong any more. I have made alot of progress in the past month and I thought that being inmate might bring that down. It didn't I still feel strong.	nycbt	1	399	Dec 1, 2005 by marmare
	Minding Our Own Business (Preview) That was the topic last night at my f2f meeting. It was a great topic and we all had a story to tell. As for me? Where's that roll of duct tape? My mouth just wants to give advice all the time.	WakingUp	8	474	Dec 1, 2005 by leo
	yesssssssssss (Preview) Well that was great I thought about that today because I was talking with a person f2f and she was as confused as I was when someone said that to me. The first time I heard it I thought she meant " Sobriety " She said no dear thats HIS miracle Yours is fi...	abbyal	2	495	Dec 1, 2005 by cdb
	dont know what to think (Preview) so my a had his second meeting with the addictions counsellor, who he will see again dec.20. huh? isnt that a little far away? forgive me but i dont see how this program will help. its an aadac relapse prevention program. but how is reading about it gonna stop another binge? i guess if my a wants to s...	notsonew1111	4	413	Dec 1, 2005 by cdb
	Back in therapy (Preview) Last night was our first night back to counseling. I thought our therapist was going to come out of her chair when listening for 45minutes about what we both want out of therapy. She said this is the same stuff you guys said three years ago!! So what is going to be the payoff in applying the sk...	twinmom2	2	399	Dec 1, 2005 by cdb
	I was sooo not program this morning. :/ (Preview) Well the usuall. 14 yo sleeps thru her 2nd day in a row of school. 13 can't get up but by some HP makes the bus. The kicker is my 9 yo grunted and thrashed upon trying to get him up, when I finally made any progress. This is usually a sign of something bothering him. The last two times he acted like this some...	bobump	4	389	Dec 1, 2005 by cdb
	more forgiveness work - I need me! (Preview) I will continue to do what I need to... to be closer to fulfilling the Divine Plan, to becoming the person I know I am inside. It is nice not to be critisized, to have the space & time to pray & sleep... which is all I did today. I have to learn to put myself first, it is difficul...	kitty	4	401	Nov 30, 2005 by alanon_2002
	who saw Matt get weighed in on Biggest Loser finale? (Preview) Did you hear what he said before he was weighed in? Something to the effect of "Ive been sober 9 months!" WTG Matt	Barbara	2	416	Nov 30, 2005 by whitie
	Don't Be Rude (Preview) Recently I had a good online friend email me regarding something someone she didn't know had said to her. I can understand her feelings, knowing her as I do, and I hope my reply to her will help her some. This makes me think though of Al-Anon's valuable tools, principles and traditions. ...	kismetstrand	6	526	Nov 30, 2005 by gardengal
	Remind me (Preview) He is drinking again and lieing about it. Remind me that I am not supposed to search for the bottles. Remind me that I am supposed to live in ignorance and allow him to believe I am fooled. Remind me that I am not supposed to be angry that he has broken his promises yet again. Remind me th...	ditto	7	397	Nov 30, 2005 by gknee
	Alzheimers (Preview) Hello friends, I know this is not the site for me to get support for my mom's alzheimers. Alanon skills do help but I realize that,,,she cannot go to treatment and get better, or work on her recovery and get better one day at a time:( I am pretty much the only child they have that can help them even t...	cdb	9	799	Nov 30, 2005 by megan
	A little too late (Preview) Did pretty well last night. Straightened up my house, went through my mail...took a nice shower and danced around my house to blasting music......you know the cathartic angry kind that gets it all out of your system? No calls. It felt good.....Just when I was ready to settle in the phone...	Kim	4	536	Nov 30, 2005 by rosie light shines
	sharing the real me (Preview) Sharing The Real Me "Sharing with others keeps us from feeling isolated and alone."Basic Text pg. 81Intimacy is the sharing of our innermost thoughts and feelings with another human being. Many of us long for the warmth and companionship intimacy brings, but those things don't come without ef...	rosie light shines	1	438	Nov 30, 2005 by jrtjosey
	hi (Preview) hi guys i am so tired since chuck has come home he us up at 4am or 5 am the latest and wants to talk.l hey i am not complaining i rather do that then him drinking . i have therapy at 8:30 and will baby sit from 11-730 long day . i just wanted to say hi & touch base thanks for always being there i got a lot of emaile...	chrissy	1	380	Nov 30, 2005 by nycbt
	"ding dong the witch is dead" (Preview) Hope for Today - November 30 When listening to others share at Al-Anon meetings, I became aware that I hold myself to unrealistically high standards. I expect myself to be less fallible than everyone else. I acquired this character defect as a child in my attempts to control my...	rosie light shines	0	498	Nov 30, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Don't leave before the Miracle (Preview) That is a phrase that I heard many times when I first came to Al-Anon and never quite understood what it meant. I know today but am curious about what it makes u think of when you hear it? Will wait to see your replies. thanks Louise	abbyal	8	736	Nov 30, 2005 by marmare
	things are much worse, ( sorry, long post ) (Preview) I guess it shouldn't surprise me, things getting worse. It's been a while since I posted. I should have hung around here more, but the kids and I have had a real bout of sinusitis and everything has hit the fan. My a hubs has continued getting worse and worse, he stays in the little town where he work...	Old Faithful	4	692	Nov 30, 2005 by marmare
	Ow I know what he thought I meant (Preview) When I told my A after a binge,that he needed to commit himself to a long term alcoholism program of some sort, he thought I meant he needed to be commited to a 6-month re-hab. And he kept saying there was no way he'd do that (he's been in about 4 re-habs since our relationship started 21 yrs,a...	jaja	5	686	Nov 30, 2005 by marmare
	anyone else fight this disease for themselves and now find themselves affected again? (Preview) I was big time into partying back in the late 1980s/very early 1990s. Once our son came along in 1992 and I knew I couldnt continue going to bed at 5am to wake up at 6am with an infant. I went to AA and cleaned myself up. However my A husband never quit/cut down on drinking. We both stopped the cocain...	Barbara	2	486	Nov 30, 2005 by marmare
	question (Preview) what's an alkathon????	notsonew1111	5	566	Nov 30, 2005 by bobump
	Feeling Down Today (Preview) I am really feeling down today. I went to see my psychologist and thought that I would feel better but that just didn't happen. He told me that what I was feeling was withdrawl symptoms from my husband more than grief because I was more addicted to him than I loved him. I agree that mos...	JulieLynn	6	447	Nov 30, 2005 by bobump
	oh I have tons of work to do (Preview) Yes, I do. I have fallen on old habits hard. I have called so many times when I know I shouldn't. Today was the last of it. I swear it. I came home and cleaned up my house, I'm going to hunker down with a good book and get my mind off of all this craziness if I can. I'm just sick over all of this and I haven't b...	Kim	3	475	Nov 30, 2005 by WakingUp
	Alanon Meetings Question (Preview) I am going to attend my first alanon meeting tonight, alone. I am just curious what to expect. Does everyone sit in a circle and tell their stories? Just curious. any feed back is wonderful. Thank you.	cbb	4	683	Nov 30, 2005 by gardengal
	one of those days (Preview) I'm having one of those days...you know...where one thing piles onto another...lol I started the day off with a migraine, which doesn't help. I felt better by early afternoon and came to work. But I know I'm not working at full capacity and I am telling myself to be easy on myself. Telling and bel...	hopefortoday	1	364	Nov 30, 2005 by bobump
	Feeling Better (Preview) Hi Roomies, Thanks for the ESH all from my last post. I was feeling really down. But coming here to get the feelings out was one of the best things I could do. I felt much better. I went to my literature and grattitude list. That really helped. My "A" had a really good point. I have also been working...	Dolphin123	2	411	Nov 30, 2005 by Karilynn
	maybe I have work to do? (Preview) I guess maybe I do in dealing with the whole situation involving my A. I'm not sure what or where I start but I do think I've done something that at least I feel better about - and that is having asked him to leave. I've asked him to leave before but it was with a "get out of here, you drunk!...	jaja	2	598	Nov 29, 2005 by whitie
	Is he still here or what??! (Preview) Well, he still comes here as though he's not really gone. He's over early in the morning to take our daughter to the bus stop for school, then comes back to pick up our son for work. When they are done work, he comes back here to the house and does what he's always done befo...	jaja	1	393	Nov 29, 2005 by Sherry
	attitude (Preview) Attitude is the mind's paintbrush. It colors every situation. Love it and isn't it just the truth	Maria123	3	607	Nov 29, 2005 by david62
	Grateful (Preview) I have been so wrapped up in the drama of a guy who really isnt someone I should EVER have been with in the first place - that I really couldnt see the forest through the trees. Today someone pointed out to me how lucky I have it compared to what other people go through on this site. And I feel so g...	Cyn	3	375	Nov 29, 2005 by bobump
	Feeling down....Looking for some ESH (Preview) Hi roomies, I really needed to talk to someone, and my sponsor is not home, I can't find my phone list and I am feeling really down right now. I remember growing up, and the holiday season was my favorite time of year. I loved to give to my frineds and family, so I did alot of it growing up (a born codepend...	Dolphin123	6	715	Nov 29, 2005 by twinmom2
	if you've never seen it... (Preview) Someone shared at a meeting that if you had never seen the ocean, how would you know what it looked like? You might have an idea, but you wouldn't know for yourself until you went to the ocean and saw it with your own eyes. Today I am thinking some about how that relates to me. I am impatient with mysel...	hopefortoday	2	611	Nov 29, 2005 by bobump
	i miss my mom (Preview)	chrissy	12	547	Nov 29, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	Lyrics..that touch my heart (Preview) These are a few lyrics to songs..that well explain my life story... Pat Benatar Suffer The Little Children by Unknown Sweet melissa, I often pray for you I hope your suffering was brief I hope the angels that watch over all little children Came for you and took you someplace b...	Lauren ashley	5	577	Nov 29, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	How Ironic I get this from my mother (Preview) I received this as an email forward from the mother who abandoned me almost 30 years ago. I gave her my email as a nicety at my grandma's funeral in October. Read it, and keep an open mind. Perhaps I have been too judgemental.... The best prayer I have heard i...	captcodee	3	731	Nov 29, 2005 by canadianguy
	steps 3 and 11....surrendering it ALL (Preview) Subject: Meditation: Step Eleven "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out." -- Step Eleven of Alcoholics Anonymous Days of Healing Days o...	rosie light shines	1	402	Nov 29, 2005 by kitty
	walking into AlAnon/Church is a very humbling experience (Preview) Its hard to be humble and walk into AlAnon (and I only go F2F once a wk!) Hard to walk into Church too but its easier than walking into AlAnon.	Barbara	2	644	Nov 29, 2005 by abbyal
	Unbelievable - My A Is In Rehab! (Preview) The last two weeks have been almost unreal - I feel like I've been to hell and back. Two weeks ago, my A came home mid-day drunk and nasty. After I picked my daughter up from school I stayed away figuring he would sleep it off. He called while we were on the way home, still in a very...	Magpie	4	496	Nov 29, 2005 by canadianguy
	God Talking??? (Preview) Ok for a long time - I stopped listening - I stopped hearing what God was trying to tell me. For the first week and a half that I had been apart from my A - I went to God. I sat and meditated and prayed and followed my heart in the decisions I was making. It felt right - He was with me when I call...	Cyn	1	498	Nov 29, 2005 by bobump
	I miss my husband (Preview) It's been two weeks now since I left my husband. Things had gotten worse and he had gotten violent. I should have seen this coming but I think I was in denial. I went back too soon from the last time I left him and nothing had changed. I am beginning to miss him. I was fine at...	JulieLynn	5	448	Nov 29, 2005 by leo
	starting to come back (Preview) I've had a rough time this weekend. Up and down. Like a trainwreck to be honest. I went away for thankgiving to my family's home in the Poconos with my two step sisters and my parents. Before I left, my car decided to smoke and overheat (an hour and a half before takeoff) and I had to call my A to...	Kim	2	395	Nov 29, 2005 by megan
	letting go of friends (Preview) When I first came to Alanon I heard people say all the time how they had to let go of some friendships they had before Alanon because they just didn't work for them anymore. I really didn't think that would happen to me and lately I've had a hard time accepting that may be true for me after all. I'm facing it n...	hopefortoday	2	535	Nov 29, 2005 by leo
	others notice the anger in the house (Preview) but thank goodness its not there for the moment (or at least has gotten less) Thats not a way to live! anger anger anger. Husband's brother pointed this out to me a few times. "You guys have so much anger. I can tell just walking in this house". We keep our emotions in, try not to let others/each other see...	Barbara	0	469	Nov 29, 2005 by Barbara
	Beginneer vs discussion vs step meetings (Preview) Is there a set limit of beginneer meetings 1 should attend when they first join AlAnon? Seems these meetings are more focused on why ppl joined. Can an AlAnoner sit in on any of the step meetings or do they need to be done in order? If choice is begineer or step (and I feel Ive attended enough begineer and...	Barbara	6	702	Nov 29, 2005 by Rae
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