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Faith73 · Faith73

This is really hard. I've been back and forth with my A for over two years now. The issues run deeper than this disease for me...intimacy and communication were a problem from the start. We broke up (for the upteenth time) about a week ago, but decided to stay friends (that didn't work) h...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i think this is it. my a has shown me in every possible way that he does not give two sh**ts about me. im so hurt and hate this feeling. in the past i would wait until tomorrow to see what he has to say. i need to stop this. this is my life to control and i cant keep waiting to see what to do untill i know what he'...

Cyn · Cyn

I heard this song today - hit me really hard!! Gone - By Kelly Clarkson What you see's not what you get With you there's just no measurement no way to tell what's real from what isn't there Your eyes they sparkled That's all changed into lies that dropped like acid rain you washed away the best of me you...

nmike · nmike

I am sitting by the fire going over in my mind my conversation with my A tonight. I was going to prepare myself before he called but he called earlier than expected. I thought I should seek guidance from my HP on what to say and then we wouldn't end up fighting or yelling. At least now I am gaining some awaren...

allison · allison

My A got pulled over 2 nights ago for failure to yield...He`s on probation for domestic,he has no insurance,he was drunk,and had open intoxicants in his truck. Guess what????They let him go!!! If it was me I`d be sent to prison for 20 years!! Sorry just had to vent,thanks for listening Allison &...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone. I have had my phone turned off, so I could not post the latest book excerpt for all of you. As soon as I am able I will post the excerpts. I previously worked with a manager who touched me inappropriately and then punched me when I made it clear I wanted nothing to do with him. The fear took over an...

Tammy · Tammy

Lots of things have happened since my last post... I will try to summarize and yet keep it short.. My husband and I began counseling. The kids and I moved back home. He has stopped drinking, he goes alone and then we go together. Then a hurricane hit Florida, and we were impacted again.. ( just da...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi Last night it was like Mt Saint Helen errupted here. The pressures of the holidays and the financial problems here have been getting to both the bigger kids and me. My husband was not present, in fact we did not even talk with him yesterday. There was a series of small incidents that set me off then...

John · John

Hello all in Al-Anon, Allot of you in Al-Anon have kids that need help just like all of us in Al-Anon do. Please direct them to the Family Teen Room for the new meetings to begin again on Sunday and Thursday at 8Pm EST. The meetings are designed around the Al-Anon meetings. The meet...

bobump · bobump

some more humor for my alanon friends. We can all use a laugh. It's an oldie but a goodie The driver says, "Gee, officer I had it on cruise control at 60, perhaps your radar gun needs calibrating." Not looking up from her knitting the wife says: "Now don't be silly dear, you know that this car does...

nycbt · nycbt

My weekend was good. He hasn't drank in a couple of weeks but that doesn't mean he is easy to deal with. Since he doesn't drink he has a very good memory so if I do something wrong he will rember it an throw it back in my face. Which I try not to say anything. He is running out of things to talk about. I have done so...

megan · megan

Enjoy your birthday John, take some time for yourself. And a very special thank-you for having this board, this very special place, where miracles happen every day! In recovery and with gratitude Megan

pixel04 · pixel04

My husband changed jobs two months ago after twelve years at the same company, the only job he ever had. He had two offers to choose from. One paid a little more than the other and the company had been around for close to 20 yrs. The other one was for a start up company that paid a little less and had only bee...

mebjk · mebjk

Is there someone with lots of Program in alanon who can sponsor me as I return to the program after 10 years away? I am looking for someone at a "live" meeting but could use some help over the next few days. And how do we even do that on here??? I'm new to this online stuff! I would like a woman. I am a woman. ...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

allowing the pain i had this VERY important lesson i would like to share.... i have a bad back..muscle spasms..turn the wrong way and i can feel it "tweak" and i am down for days....big knots, and pain its awful well last night i "tweaked" my back AGAIN... in times before, i would curse my karma, cu...

nycbt · nycbt

I have a very hard time saying no. I get upset with my self for not saying no. I am how every getting better at it. For instance someone ask for me to type her paper for school and I said no in a nice way. I told her a good place to go. But if I start typing her paper it would go on for the whole time she had class. I sti...

hopeful · hopeful

I have been recently trying to figure out about my entire life, I have been trying to find reasons as to why my life has been so painful inspite of the fact that i have been blessed in many ways such as being alive ,having a daughter and family and friends who care so much about me. I have experienced pain and...

confused · confused

Well, it has been quite a long time since I posted here. I guess that I, like my A thought I could do it on my own. Well, actually that is not true, I know that I cannot do it on my own, rather, I have just fallen back into my old self of not sharing and thinking things could just go on the way they are. So here I am ba...

Cyn · Cyn

I admit I am helpless - totally helpless. This is crazy to go the last two months of my life feeling this way every single morning. I cant stand waking up sick to my stomach every day anymore - the pain is so intense. I am dying inside my own emotional prison. I sleep because of sleeping...

Feather · Feather

Hi All! I have read in posts here of the "dry drunk" syndrome. Could someone please explain this to me. I have never heard this term before (maybe it's not a term commonly used here in Australia). Thanks for the wonderful shares, I am learning so much!

Take C...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Well last night when I got home from work my "A" was not home. He had been home at some point and then left again. He did not come home last night at all. I really had wanted to go to a f2f, but I couldn't with the children. So I cleaned house, helped my 6 year old with her homework, played with t...

kitty · kitty

Loving is so terrifying, makes everyone run and hide When you can give a genuine love, most of us who are abused can't even tolerate it Foreign it is to be accepted, adored, compassionately understood, empathathically embraced When it is all any of us long for, just to be loved for ours...

pixel04 · pixel04

The holidays are always a challenge, and this year is no different. My father remains in the same fog he has been in since Thanksgiving. My mother has been on a rollercoaster of depression and anger ever since. I always waffle on what to do with the suicide threats from one or the other of them. It s...

LostDux · LostDux

I am seeking advice on how to handle a sister, who has been struggling with alcoholism for several years, at the holidays. Almost 2 years ago, after an intervention, my sister went to rehab and was sober for only a few months following. Things have gotten progressively worse again and now she has falle...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Hello all... Does this sound familiar the not being able to say no? and the difficulty of setting boundaries?? Yes this is what we are afraid of,or at least I am. I have soo much trouble saying no let it be something so little as not wanting to go to the store. I feel guilty every time I say no.w...

david62 · david62

Hi Everyone, I heard this song yesterday, and it just made me feel good, hopeful!

Thought I would share the lyrics with you. Laugh when your eyes are burnimg, Smile when your heart is filled with pain Sigh as you brush away tomorrow, Make a vow, That it's not going t...

Cyn · Cyn

I have been listening to a lot of people lately who give me different views on addicts and ACOAs and I am thankful. I feel like my HP is talking to me through them. Some of the things that people have told me (I'm writing them out because it makes me absorb them better that way): 1. He stopped...

Jane Avril · Jane Avril

I think I have a pretty good understanding of alcoholism. What I'm having trouble understanding is the "sober alcoholic," and I'm not to the point yet where I feel like I can trust my own instincts. My boyfriend is 15 years sober, we've been seeing eachother for about 6 months. We have a...

kitty · kitty

A Prayer at the Beginning of the Day O, Higher Power, allow me to greet the coming day in peace. Help me in all things to rely upon Your holy will, In every hour of the day, reveal Your will to me. Bless my dealings with all who surround me. Teach me to treat all that comes to me throughout the d...

captcodee · captcodee

I committed to God that I would not run away from my marraige. I promised him that I would follow what I beleive he has guided me to do. I shall ask for strength, guidance, and patience to make it through each progression of the disease. I beleive with all my heart that God has a great...

marie_h · marie_h

I am relatively new to this site. I've been tooling around the message boards and in the chat room the last several days. My husband is an alcoholic. I've never had that much of a problem dealing with it as I've been associated with one alcoholic or another my entire life. (My...

bobump · bobump

Someone shared with me today something along the lines that they felt that compassion was letting someone suffer the natural consequences of their actions, and to not do things for them that they should be doing themselves. I liked that concept. I was curious to see what the dictionaries said. ...

cabecka · cabecka

Due to an increasingly hectic schedule, I am no longer able to co-chair on Wednesday nights with my friend David. I apologize for the inconvenience, but I know that there are many members out there who are eager to provide service to the group. Thanks to one and all! Cara ("Cabecka")

kitty · kitty

I don't think Haxi would mind me sharing this script here as I have it taped to my wall, folded in my prayer book... he allowed/asked me to put it in the ch rm last night, so here it is again: 6 Guidelines for Setting Boundaires 1) Have clearly defined expectations. 2) Clearl...

ditto · ditto

His drinking has escalated and he is getting violent. Is this typical progression of the addiction?

bobump · bobump

To those that reponded to the poem I wrote in the thread (which this post will bump to page 2 , LOL) . I enjoy writing them, whey are part of my ESH. It's nice to have found that outlet again but even better to have people to share them with. And I really appreciate the feedback given on what you get out of t...

sandie123 · sandie123

I have been having a lot of ups and downs. I have had a couple of good days but then the bad days overtake me. On those bad days, I have trouble applying the principles of this program, changing the old tapes to new and getting out of my own head. I become so totally overwhelmed that things become meaningles...

Cyn · Cyn

I've been trying for 20 minutes to get back online - is there something wrong with the chatroom????

bob6502 · bob6502

Group Conscience Meeting December 7, 2005, 7pm EST Chair: SenoraBob Co-Chair: Cabecka Secretary: David62 Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: Old Business 1.Approval of Minutes - November Business Meeting...

kitty · kitty

Thanks for your feedback guys... it is just so hard, seems like each week or day there is more junk I have to let go of, whether he is using or not, I don't care but knowing he doesn't love my mother & I, won't leave... goes out of town to see his g/f & she left her husband & 3 year old d...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi roomies, I love to laugh, and laughter is very healing for me. A good friend sent this to me, and I really needed it today! As you can tell some numbers are missing, I didn't want to offend anyone, so I deleted some. If anyone wants the full version just let me know and I will PM it to you. Hope this gives e...

Powerless · Powerless

My baby is still home. I haven't let him out of my sight. I'm afraid if I turn around his dad will come and grab him. I did have to stop staring at him though, he said I was giving him the creeps. He is ten and my daughter is eight. Their dad did call me and said he was taking me t...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I got a private message from a special person today..That person got me thinking...I thought about how all of us have our issues with family,and some of us have it bad,and other have it worse,but we are all here for one reason..because we care about that a...As much as we deny it,and try to shov...

Barbara · Barbara

My older brother had breast cancer 5yrs ago. Recently his calcium bloodwork came back elevated. The doctors checked with thyroid & parathyroid which came back okay. They are doing a bone scan tomorrow. "A" husband had his left kidney removed this past August due to cancer. His ctscans showed...

Kim · Kim

from my A are sad. Last night he called again. He had gone to a meeting and was feeling down about everything he has done. There was a speaker who was discussing his marriages and my A was (again) saying that he doesn't want to be one of "those" men who are on their second or third wives. (he sai...

Powerless · Powerless

Today is one of those days I think I will pack a bag and move into the rooms and never leave. My step-father called me and said that my ex called him and threatened to press charges. Supposedly the school called him today and asked if it was okay for my to pick my son up and he didn't think much of...

nycbt · nycbt

JOHN THANKS SO MUCH FOR PUTTING THIS SITE TOGETHER. IT HAS HELPED ME SO MUCH. I HAVE MEET ALOT OF GOOD PEOPLE THAT HAVE HELP ME SO MUCH.

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My "a" and I finally were able to go out Saturday evening. Of course he wanted to see a band at one of the local pavillon's, I agreed because I'm trying to have more of an open mind about the things that are important to him. The band was great, I really enjoyed the music and being around people...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hi all, I feel I made a break through this morning with understanding what happens to me physically and emotionally when my "a" and I fight. I used the good old dictionary to differentiate between a discussion and a fight. A fight is described as a battle. I thought about this wor...

toto12 · toto12

Hello friends, I think the founders of Alanon really knew what they were doing. Busy with step 4, I have often wondered why step 1, 2, and 3 were not 10, 11, and 12 because they were the hardest for me. In fact, I am still working on them, but decided I had to move on. Anyway,on Step 4, I real...

kitty · kitty

This disease makes me feel liike I am losing a battle... i really hate it & it sucks. A horrbile, trauma drama.

pixel04 · pixel04

"Keep it Simple, Stupid!" I laughed when I first heard this. Then, before I knew it, it became the slogan I use every day. I think there is a tendency to get used to the situation I am in. Like the frog that doesn't notice that the water around him is boiling - it gets hotter gradually and he doesn't...

txmom · txmom

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Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Last night my "A" went out and used, he did not come home. He went to the neighbors and was there all night. For the past few weeks he and the kids and I have been taking the bus to drop them off at daycare and then I take the ferry with him. He goes to do his job search and I walk to work. Well he ca...

Barbara · Barbara

"If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has already been given to me." I work in the childrens room of our town library. The kids are always so excited. I have a few personally close kids who love coming into my off...

captcodee · captcodee

Hello my friends. As you may or may not know, I am married to an active alcoholic/addict. We both know he is, he admits it, but is unwilling to get help. Thankfully through Alanon I have the courage to change the things I can, and the serenity to accept the things I can't. Saturday was my comp...

Powerless · Powerless

I did it! I finally brought my baby home. I drove for an hour and a hlaf this morning with knots in my stomch, but I picked him up from school. I asked him if he wanted to return home and he said yes. So here we are. I just can't stop staring at him. I know his dad isn't just goin...

Maria123 · Maria123

((((Friends))))), One of my favorite Christmas songs. If you've never heard Amy Grant sing this, it's a beauty. I remind myself that Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's are the Bermuda Triangle of the hurting heart. So I enjoy the small beauties and gifts that this season...

bobump · bobump

This is funny on soooo many levels whether you see your own behavior or that of your A's. I think it should read oil change instructions for Alanoner but I'll post as I received. Oil Change instructions for Women: 1) Pull up to Jiffy Lube when the mileage reaches 3000 miles since the last oil cha...

gknee · gknee

Forgive me for telling this story if you have already heard it(I think I told it in an online meeting once)---but I think it is such an amazing witness of my amazing HP. This summer, my husband (my A) and I were at odds. He was using, unhappy, critical and just a joy to live with. One Friday nite in Augus...

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	Ending relationships (Preview) This is really hard. I've been back and forth with my A for over two years now. The issues run deeper than this disease for me...intimacy and communication were a problem from the start. We broke up (for the upteenth time) about a week ago, but decided to stay friends (that didn't work) h...	Faith73	5	875	Dec 9, 2005 by Rebecca
	i am soooo done (Preview) well i think this is it. my a has shown me in every possible way that he does not give two sh**ts about me. im so hurt and hate this feeling. in the past i would wait until tomorrow to see what he has to say. i need to stop this. this is my life to control and i cant keep waiting to see what to do untill i know what he'...	notsonew1111	7	952	Dec 9, 2005 by Rebecca
	Song I heard tonight - hit home... (Preview) I heard this song today - hit me really hard!! Gone - By Kelly Clarkson What you see's not what you get With you there's just no measurement no way to tell what's real from what isn't there Your eyes they sparkled That's all changed into lies that dropped like acid rain you washed away the best of me you...	Cyn	3	859	Dec 9, 2005 by Rebecca
	Awareness (Preview) I am sitting by the fire going over in my mind my conversation with my A tonight. I was going to prepare myself before he called but he called earlier than expected. I thought I should seek guidance from my HP on what to say and then we wouldn't end up fighting or yelling. At least now I am gaining some awaren...	nmike	3	605	Dec 9, 2005 by kitty
	I`m so mad (Preview) My A got pulled over 2 nights ago for failure to yield...He`s on probation for domestic,he has no insurance,he was drunk,and had open intoxicants in his truck. Guess what????They let him go!!! If it was me I`d be sent to prison for 20 years!! Sorry just had to vent,thanks for listening Allison &...	allison	6	697	Dec 9, 2005 by hudsond
	Alanon Book Excerpt & Apology (Preview) Hi everyone. I have had my phone turned off, so I could not post the latest book excerpt for all of you. As soon as I am able I will post the excerpts. I previously worked with a manager who touched me inappropriately and then punched me when I made it clear I wanted nothing to do with him. The fear took over an...	kissers	4	1188	Dec 9, 2005 by twinmom2
	Catching UP... (Preview) Lots of things have happened since my last post... I will try to summarize and yet keep it short.. My husband and I began counseling. The kids and I moved back home. He has stopped drinking, he goes alone and then we go together. Then a hurricane hit Florida, and we were impacted again.. ( just da...	Tammy	8	664	Dec 9, 2005 by confused
	Time bomb (Preview) Hi Last night it was like Mt Saint Helen errupted here. The pressures of the holidays and the financial problems here have been getting to both the bigger kids and me. My husband was not present, in fact we did not even talk with him yesterday. There was a series of small incidents that set me off then...	Jeannie	11	776	Dec 9, 2005 by leo
	Family Teen Meetings starting again (Preview) Hello all in Al-Anon, Allot of you in Al-Anon have kids that need help just like all of us in Al-Anon do. Please direct them to the Family Teen Room for the new meetings to begin again on Sunday and Thursday at 8Pm EST. The meetings are designed around the Al-Anon meetings. The meet...	John	3	647	Dec 8, 2005 by John
	Speeding ticket..... (Preview) some more humor for my alanon friends. We can all use a laugh. It's an oldie but a goodie The driver says, "Gee, officer I had it on cruise control at 60, perhaps your radar gun needs calibrating." Not looking up from her knitting the wife says: "Now don't be silly dear, you know that this car does...	bobump	6	622	Dec 8, 2005 by allison
	Waiting for a change (Preview) My weekend was good. He hasn't drank in a couple of weeks but that doesn't mean he is easy to deal with. Since he doesn't drink he has a very good memory so if I do something wrong he will rember it an throw it back in my face. Which I try not to say anything. He is running out of things to talk about. I have done so...	nycbt	3	651	Dec 8, 2005 by nmike
	Happy Birthday John!!!!! (Preview) Enjoy your birthday John, take some time for yourself. And a very special thank-you for having this board, this very special place, where miracles happen every day! In recovery and with gratitude Megan	megan	14	894	Dec 8, 2005 by John
	HP in action (Preview) My husband changed jobs two months ago after twelve years at the same company, the only job he ever had. He had two offers to choose from. One paid a little more than the other and the company had been around for close to 20 yrs. The other one was for a start up company that paid a little less and had only bee...	pixel04	1	786	Dec 8, 2005 by nmike
	I need a sponsor - at least temporarily (Preview) Is there someone with lots of Program in alanon who can sponsor me as I return to the program after 10 years away? I am looking for someone at a "live" meeting but could use some help over the next few days. And how do we even do that on here??? I'm new to this online stuff! I would like a woman. I am a woman. ...	mebjk	2	698	Dec 8, 2005 by mebjk
	its hard, but i will ALLOW my pain (Preview) allowing the pain i had this VERY important lesson i would like to share.... i have a bad back..muscle spasms..turn the wrong way and i can feel it "tweak" and i am down for days....big knots, and pain its awful well last night i "tweaked" my back AGAIN... in times before, i would curse my karma, cu...	rosie light shines	5	807	Dec 8, 2005 by rosie light shines
	about me (Preview) I have a very hard time saying no. I get upset with my self for not saying no. I am how every getting better at it. For instance someone ask for me to type her paper for school and I said no in a nice way. I told her a good place to go. But if I start typing her paper it would go on for the whole time she had class. I sti...	nycbt	5	662	Dec 8, 2005 by kitty
	I feel powerless over my life and others too (Preview) I have been recently trying to figure out about my entire life, I have been trying to find reasons as to why my life has been so painful inspite of the fact that i have been blessed in many ways such as being alive ,having a daughter and family and friends who care so much about me. I have experienced pain and...	hopeful	2	886	Dec 8, 2005 by captcodee
	trying to come back (Preview) Well, it has been quite a long time since I posted here. I guess that I, like my A thought I could do it on my own. Well, actually that is not true, I know that I cannot do it on my own, rather, I have just fallen back into my old self of not sharing and thinking things could just go on the way they are. So here I am ba...	confused	6	930	Dec 8, 2005 by Flora123
	Emotionally trapped (Preview) I admit I am helpless - totally helpless. This is crazy to go the last two months of my life feeling this way every single morning. I cant stand waking up sick to my stomach every day anymore - the pain is so intense. I am dying inside my own emotional prison. I sleep because of sleeping...	Cyn	8	935	Dec 8, 2005 by Feather
	A question.... (Preview) Hi All! I have read in posts here of the "dry drunk" syndrome. Could someone please explain this to me. I have never heard this term before (maybe it's not a term commonly used here in Australia). Thanks for the wonderful shares, I am learning so much! Take C...	Feather	6	633	Dec 8, 2005 by Feather
	Saying the words I never wanted to say (Preview) Hello Roomies, Well last night when I got home from work my "A" was not home. He had been home at some point and then left again. He did not come home last night at all. I really had wanted to go to a f2f, but I couldn't with the children. So I cleaned house, helped my 6 year old with her homework, played with t...	Dolphin123	6	789	Dec 8, 2005 by tea2
	Pure Love (I wrote a poem!) (Preview) Loving is so terrifying, makes everyone run and hide When you can give a genuine love, most of us who are abused can't even tolerate it Foreign it is to be accepted, adored, compassionately understood, empathathically embraced When it is all any of us long for, just to be loved for ours...	kitty	3	898	Dec 8, 2005 by rosie light shines
	nothing to say to her (Preview) The holidays are always a challenge, and this year is no different. My father remains in the same fog he has been in since Thanksgiving. My mother has been on a rollercoaster of depression and anger ever since. I always waffle on what to do with the suicide threats from one or the other of them. It s...	pixel04	3	937	Dec 8, 2005 by rosie light shines
	What to say at Holiday Time (Preview) I am seeking advice on how to handle a sister, who has been struggling with alcoholism for several years, at the holidays. Almost 2 years ago, after an intervention, my sister went to rehab and was sober for only a few months following. Things have gotten progressively worse again and now she has falle...	LostDux	6	1094	Dec 8, 2005 by ODAT
	Setting Boundaries..and having a difficult time saying no (Preview) Hello all... Does this sound familiar the not being able to say no? and the difficulty of setting boundaries?? Yes this is what we are afraid of,or at least I am. I have soo much trouble saying no let it be something so little as not wanting to go to the store. I feel guilty every time I say no.w...	Lauren ashley	7	687	Dec 8, 2005 by nycbt
	Too Much Rain - Song Lyrics (Preview) Hi Everyone, I heard this song yesterday, and it just made me feel good, hopeful! Thought I would share the lyrics with you. Laugh when your eyes are burnimg, Smile when your heart is filled with pain Sigh as you brush away tomorrow, Make a vow, That it's not going t...	david62	2	756	Dec 8, 2005 by nycbt
	Listening (Preview) I have been listening to a lot of people lately who give me different views on addicts and ACOAs and I am thankful. I feel like my HP is talking to me through them. Some of the things that people have told me (I'm writing them out because it makes me absorb them better that way): 1. He stopped...	Cyn	4	866	Dec 8, 2005 by sandie123
	Understanding Alcoholism (some adult content) (Preview) I think I have a pretty good understanding of alcoholism. What I'm having trouble understanding is the "sober alcoholic," and I'm not to the point yet where I feel like I can trust my own instincts. My boyfriend is 15 years sober, we've been seeing eachother for about 6 months. We have a...	Jane Avril	14	1012	Dec 8, 2005 by Jane Avril
	I read this every morning (Preview) A Prayer at the Beginning of the Day O, Higher Power, allow me to greet the coming day in peace. Help me in all things to rely upon Your holy will, In every hour of the day, reveal Your will to me. Bless my dealings with all who surround me. Teach me to treat all that comes to me throughout the d...	kitty	4	595	Dec 8, 2005 by Jane Avril
	I must remember Alcoholism is progressive.... (Preview) I committed to God that I would not run away from my marraige. I promised him that I would follow what I beleive he has guided me to do. I shall ask for strength, guidance, and patience to make it through each progression of the disease. I beleive with all my heart that God has a great...	captcodee	6	835	Dec 8, 2005 by Lanee
	Should I take him back? (Preview) I am relatively new to this site. I've been tooling around the message boards and in the chat room the last several days. My husband is an alcoholic. I've never had that much of a problem dealing with it as I've been associated with one alcoholic or another my entire life. (My...	marie_h	8	660	Dec 7, 2005 by seashell
	What is compassion...... (Preview) Someone shared with me today something along the lines that they felt that compassion was letting someone suffer the natural consequences of their actions, and to not do things for them that they should be doing themselves. I liked that concept. I was curious to see what the dictionaries said. ...	bobump	4	3625	Dec 7, 2005 by bobump
	Need Alt Chair on Wednesdays (Preview) Due to an increasingly hectic schedule, I am no longer able to co-chair on Wednesday nights with my friend David. I apologize for the inconvenience, but I know that there are many members out there who are eager to provide service to the group. Thanks to one and all! Cara ("Cabecka")	cabecka	1	673	Dec 7, 2005 by Jane Avril
	Setting Boundaries (the Haxi script) (Preview) I don't think Haxi would mind me sharing this script here as I have it taped to my wall, folded in my prayer book... he allowed/asked me to put it in the ch rm last night, so here it is again: 6 Guidelines for Setting Boundaires 1) Have clearly defined expectations. 2) Clearl...	kitty	1	790	Dec 7, 2005 by bobump
	He's getting violent now (Preview) His drinking has escalated and he is getting violent. Is this typical progression of the addiction?	ditto	13	882	Dec 7, 2005 by Flora123
	Just a quick thanks.... (Preview) To those that reponded to the poem I wrote in the thread (which this post will bump to page 2 , LOL) . I enjoy writing them, whey are part of my ESH. It's nice to have found that outlet again but even better to have people to share them with. And I really appreciate the feedback given on what you get out of t...	bobump	4	600	Dec 7, 2005 by tea2
	I could use some ESH (Preview) I have been having a lot of ups and downs. I have had a couple of good days but then the bad days overtake me. On those bad days, I have trouble applying the principles of this program, changing the old tapes to new and getting out of my own head. I become so totally overwhelmed that things become meaningles...	sandie123	8	876	Dec 7, 2005 by Tiger2006
	Something wrong with chatroom?? (Preview) I've been trying for 20 minutes to get back online - is there something wrong with the chatroom????	Cyn	2	753	Dec 7, 2005 by nycbt
	Group Conscience Meeting (Preview) Group Conscience Meeting December 7, 2005, 7pm EST Chair: SenoraBob Co-Chair: Cabecka Secretary: David62 Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: Old Business 1.Approval of Minutes - November Business Meeting...	bob6502	1	689	Dec 7, 2005 by kismetstrand
	winning @ losing, thanks (Preview) Thanks for your feedback guys... it is just so hard, seems like each week or day there is more junk I have to let go of, whether he is using or not, I don't care but knowing he doesn't love my mother & I, won't leave... goes out of town to see his g/f & she left her husband & 3 year old d...	kitty	4	615	Dec 7, 2005 by just me
	Laughter to lift my mood (Preview) Hi roomies, I love to laugh, and laughter is very healing for me. A good friend sent this to me, and I really needed it today! As you can tell some numbers are missing, I didn't want to offend anyone, so I deleted some. If anyone wants the full version just let me know and I will PM it to you. Hope this gives e...	Dolphin123	1	749	Dec 7, 2005 by captcodee
	My baby is still home!! (Preview) My baby is still home. I haven't let him out of my sight. I'm afraid if I turn around his dad will come and grab him. I did have to stop staring at him though, he said I was giving him the creeps. He is ten and my daughter is eight. Their dad did call me and said he was taking me t...	Powerless	3	943	Dec 7, 2005 by captcodee
	Taking time to appreciate how far we have come... (Preview) I got a private message from a special person today..That person got me thinking...I thought about how all of us have our issues with family,and some of us have it bad,and other have it worse,but we are all here for one reason..because we care about that a...As much as we deny it,and try to shov...	Lauren ashley	4	598	Dec 7, 2005 by just me
	Im scared, in tears - cancer sucks! (Preview) My older brother had breast cancer 5yrs ago. Recently his calcium bloodwork came back elevated. The doctors checked with thyroid & parathyroid which came back okay. They are doing a bone scan tomorrow. "A" husband had his left kidney removed this past August due to cancer. His ctscans showed...	Barbara	6	948	Dec 7, 2005 by Christy
	the continual calls (Preview) from my A are sad. Last night he called again. He had gone to a meeting and was feeling down about everything he has done. There was a speaker who was discussing his marriages and my A was (again) saying that he doesn't want to be one of "those" men who are on their second or third wives. (he sai...	Kim	4	912	Dec 7, 2005 by captcodee
	Now I'm angry and frustrated (Preview) Today is one of those days I think I will pack a bag and move into the rooms and never leave. My step-father called me and said that my ex called him and threatened to press charges. Supposedly the school called him today and asked if it was okay for my to pick my son up and he didn't think much of...	Powerless	3	877	Dec 7, 2005 by captcodee
	JOHN THANKS (Preview) JOHN THANKS SO MUCH FOR PUTTING THIS SITE TOGETHER. IT HAS HELPED ME SO MUCH. I HAVE MEET ALOT OF GOOD PEOPLE THAT HAVE HELP ME SO MUCH.	nycbt	2	612	Dec 7, 2005 by John
	Let the drinking roll off my back (Preview) My "a" and I finally were able to go out Saturday evening. Of course he wanted to see a band at one of the local pavillon's, I agreed because I'm trying to have more of an open mind about the things that are important to him. The band was great, I really enjoyed the music and being around people...	twinmom2	2	595	Dec 7, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Digging underneath my anger (Preview) Hi all, I feel I made a break through this morning with understanding what happens to me physically and emotionally when my "a" and I fight. I used the good old dictionary to differentiate between a discussion and a fight. A fight is described as a battle. I thought about this wor...	twinmom2	2	963	Dec 7, 2005 by lildee
	Does H in HP also stand for harmony? (Preview) Hello friends, I think the founders of Alanon really knew what they were doing. Busy with step 4, I have often wondered why step 1, 2, and 3 were not 10, 11, and 12 because they were the hardest for me. In fact, I am still working on them, but decided I had to move on. Anyway,on Step 4, I real...	toto12	1	619	Dec 7, 2005 by jrtjosey
	I Hate Losing (Preview) This disease makes me feel liike I am losing a battle... i really hate it & it sucks. A horrbile, trauma drama.	kitty	4	790	Dec 6, 2005 by Karilynn
	K.I.S.S. (Preview) "Keep it Simple, Stupid!" I laughed when I first heard this. Then, before I knew it, it became the slogan I use every day. I think there is a tendency to get used to the situation I am in. Like the frog that doesn't notice that the water around him is boiling - it gets hotter gradually and he doesn't...	pixel04	3	2744	Dec 6, 2005 by tea2
	Please take the time to check this out (Preview) http://i.euniverse.com/funpages/cms_content/2529/4candles.swf	txmom	5	662	Dec 6, 2005 by Karilynn
	Reflection on another night alone (Preview) Hello Roomies, Last night my "A" went out and used, he did not come home. He went to the neighbors and was there all night. For the past few weeks he and the kids and I have been taking the bus to drop them off at daycare and then I take the ferry with him. He goes to do his job search and I walk to work. Well he ca...	Dolphin123	2	681	Dec 6, 2005 by whitie
	Courage to Change - Dec 5 (Preview) "If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has already been given to me." I work in the childrens room of our town library. The kids are always so excited. I have a few personally close kids who love coming into my off...	Barbara	2	800	Dec 6, 2005 by Jane Avril
	Making it through a fight with an alcoholic (Preview) Hello my friends. As you may or may not know, I am married to an active alcoholic/addict. We both know he is, he admits it, but is unwilling to get help. Thankfully through Alanon I have the courage to change the things I can, and the serenity to accept the things I can't. Saturday was my comp...	captcodee	6	662	Dec 6, 2005 by hudsond
	My baby is home!!!! (Preview) I did it! I finally brought my baby home. I drove for an hour and a hlaf this morning with knots in my stomch, but I picked him up from school. I asked him if he wanted to return home and he said yes. So here we are. I just can't stop staring at him. I know his dad isn't just goin...	Powerless	2	834	Dec 6, 2005 by captcodee
	My Grown Up Christmas List (Preview) ((((Friends))))), One of my favorite Christmas songs. If you've never heard Amy Grant sing this, it's a beauty. I remind myself that Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's are the Bermuda Triangle of the hurting heart. So I enjoy the small beauties and gifts that this season...	Maria123	5	671	Dec 6, 2005 by Rebecca
	Oil change instructions...made me laugh. (Preview) This is funny on soooo many levels whether you see your own behavior or that of your A's. I think it should read oil change instructions for Alanoner but I'll post as I received. Oil Change instructions for Women: 1) Pull up to Jiffy Lube when the mileage reaches 3000 miles since the last oil cha...	bobump	5	649	Dec 6, 2005 by toto12
	Prayers Answered (weird story) (Preview) Forgive me for telling this story if you have already heard it(I think I told it in an online meeting once)---but I think it is such an amazing witness of my amazing HP. This summer, my husband (my A) and I were at odds. He was using, unhappy, critical and just a joy to live with. One Friday nite in Augus...	gknee	6	871	Dec 6, 2005 by Dolphin123
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