Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

FrancesB · FrancesB

I have a younger sister (38), who has been married for 4 years and lving for 15 years to a much older man (50). He drinks heavily 3-4 times a week, spends whatever money he has on drink and drugs, brings home 'friends' he's made in the pub to party on in their home. They have a 12 year old daughter (my niece) an...

Cyn · Cyn

I think the interview went very well - I applied for an Aquatic Director position at a University - and I just bought a swim school that is run out of that same University. They seemed happy with me and the interview was more chatting than actual questions. I then went down to the pool office...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Hey group, May I vent? Some of ya know I moved f/ a 2 to a 1 bed on Dec. 1. Everything that could go wrong, has and I have a lovely mix of that funky smoke smell coming thru heat vent everynight now permeating clothes furniture, etc. This morning, I woke to find the toliet, and ba...

ednaxray · ednaxray

i thought i would start a topic of foods for the holidays,,,since we have so much food talk in the room...and we could all share recipies. and also because i forgot who i was gonna give this to..lol chinese bbq pork..like for appitizers 1 c.soy sauce 1/2 c packed brown sugar 2 tbs cider vinega...

Conwolf · Conwolf

As I said before, I have just started the process of living my life despite being married to an alcoholic. I have a few more questions...but I need to give you a little more background. I have a chronic illness that prevents me from working and take many meds to live a semi-normal life. My husband says tha...

Powerless · Powerless

I am so angry that my hands are shaking and i think I may vomit. I posted a little while ago in response to someone else and began to get agitated. My mother-in-law called me and asked if I had heard from my husband yet. He is a truck driver and was due in at two o'clock this afternoon.&nb...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

this is so hard to write as i feel like i look like a fool. but this is what happened. my a came home to give me money for rent as right now i cant afford it by myself. he ended up telling me he didnt want to leave. i admitted my wrongs for starting a fight with him just because i was feeling insecure from the past....

Rebecca · Rebecca

why is it that when i left me "A" after he started his drinking binge that i cant let go. emotionally.... i mean i was the one to leave...my choice, my decision etc.. so how come after 4 mths of crying, frustrated with life in general and questioning everything even my HP... why am i still in the same pl...

bluecrow · bluecrow

Sat. Dec. 10, The police has adviced him not to come to our house again or he will be arrested. They escort him to the bus stop. Browneyes In answer to your questions: a. Emergancy Room he was taken there a few days ago and released. This is typical they can't do a thing for him, the...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Sarah McLachlan Angel~ spend all your time waiting for that second chance for a break that would make it okay there's always one reason to feel not good enough and it's hard at the end of the day I need some distraction oh beautiful release memory seeps from my veins let me be empty ...

angelinme908 · angelinme908

Last night a friend let me know that she was uncomfortable being part of my support network because she has feelings for me and doesn't like the person I am currently "seeing". It is very frustrating to me that one of the few people that I have been able to begin to open up to, has closed herself to me...

Rebecca · Rebecca

why is it that men are twisted!!!! anyone?? i just got off the phone from my "A"....ex boyf who insists we are still a couple and we are just going throu a bad patch!!!! yea right! we had an arguement... petty words were exchanged and then a heated arguement ensued ending up in a full blown screamin...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

All, Last night at my face-to-face meeting, the leader read a passage from "Courage to Change" that spoke about the power of ES&H (Experience, Strength, and Hope). This reading held real power for me. For so long, I've thought of my experience growing up in an alcoholic househou...

Froggie · Froggie

I'm fairly new here and with family visiting for the month haven't had much time to log on. I really need to vent right now. Last August I left my home in MA to move to FL with my A. It was going to be fresh start for both of us. Driving down from MA he got a DUI in NC. He had to app...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi Everybody, I haven't posted in a while. But I have still been here every day, reading and learning. Anyway, a lot has happened lately. My husband, a meth addict, admitted to being high to his parole officer on Halloween. So his officer made him do meetings. Then he wa...

pixel04 · pixel04

Hi guys, I mentioned a while back I started going to counseling in addition to alanon, at the suggestion of my sponsor, to deal with something that is going on in my marriage. As part of the working through the issue in my marriage, we have fallen on issues relating to my parents. We learn what we...

kat4u · kat4u

thank you for all your support, I do appreciate it. I am still dragging myself through these holidays...no feeling for them really...I detached from most everything, except the As in my life..thought I had done really well, and then one came back into my life.my father..and hes brought the ba...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hi ((((((everyone)))))) I just thought I would let you all know that I am doing well under the STRESS that my family and I are experincing right now with the lose of my Hubbys job yesterday!!! I just keep thinking" one day at a time" and" take it easy "and that my Hp will see us through this and to lo...

Powerless · Powerless

I guess I would have been really tickled by pounds of gummi bears because he spent his entire paycheck on crack. Gee, he was nice enough to bring me home a pack of cigarettes. All I have heard is more promises and how scared he is and how powerless he is. Big flippin deal. I've li...

bluecrow · bluecrow

I try to take one day at a time, But sometimes several day's attck me at once. Timeline Monday Dec.5, am I call police and have my A arrested for under the influance. Last used meth. on Sunday. He was disorented, anxiety,confused, age...

Cyn · Cyn

I went to a baby shower yesterday - dreaded going because 1. they make me depressed an 2. it was about 20 minutes away from my ex's house. But I went and I interacted, etc. The shower was for my ex-neighbor who is also my godmother's daughter. My godmother's son is my oldest friend and someon...

hopeful · hopeful

I feel very confused. I have had days of mental torment.I feel very guilty of my feelings,i feel like i have been a waking dead.My nights seems very confused i have endless dreams fearing that i have been trying to question my relationship with a loving God.It feels like i have always had a clear conciou...

Rebecca · Rebecca

can someone explain or show me what or where to find the recovery programme for alanon members? is it only the alcoholics that have the 12 step programme? or do we have our own? any help would be greatly appreciated rebecca xxx

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I have had plenty of time to think, I know scary thing, today while I am at work. A thought just hit me, am I really progressing in my program? Sure my "A" went out all night, he was doing what he does while he is active. I am upset over this, again, so am I progressing if it still hurts. Sure I know th...

lebe27 · lebe27

My A called me at work today to say his father (also an A) is coming for xmas. He will be staying with us for day or two (his day or two ends up 2 weeks). He runs up our phone bill, eats all the food and doesn't chip in at all. Last time he stayed with us when my A was very sick year and a half ago....

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

For the past week I have been experiencing some female problems that I've never had in my life before. At the beginning of this week timeframe, I looked up these symptoms in my medical book and saw words like "30 to 60% cause of hysterectomies" and "cancer". There went my mind - projecting...

hudsond · hudsond

Why is it that I know I am powerless--I get that--over my a's drinking and drugging, and yet I still get upset when things aren't going the way I think they should be going. This week hasn't been a bad week, necessarily. My a has been "off" not using I think, but something just isn't right. (I say n...

meowzmusic · meowzmusic

Last week I had to have a protective order served on my husband. He was drinking and started an argument with me over my son calling home to wake him up. My son was letting me know he would be late coming home. My husband went into a rage, dumped all of my instructional items out of my teacher bag and began pac...

toto12 · toto12

Hi, It's Sat., the 10th of Dec., and I can't get into chat room again. It says connecting 6667 but you wait forever and no connect. It's the morning meeting, your time ESt about 9:00. Help! a computer desperate toto

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I had a bit of a fall out today...

my grandparents are still downsizing alanon,and saying why dont I hang around kids my age.hello kids my age are rebels,and do weird things.I don't want to be like that My grandparents should be happy I am putting most of my time to something positive,and s...

afglin · afglin

A freind in ALAnon called me yesterday. Her husband got arrested for DUI again. He called and betggged her to bail him out and she said no. He said he was having heart flutterings and refused to tell them. She said what if he dies and I did not go bail him out? I was trying not to give advice...but wh...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well my a came home after work and grabbed the two bags i had packed last night wouldn't give me his keys and said he'll be back another time to give me money to pay the rent. he said he has to go to the casino with his mom. i hate this feeling so much. he is acting like he just doesnt care and i know he's lying abou...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Okay, I have to admitt, I am angry. I just don't understand. I have been trying to accept this as a disease. I have been trying to just take care of myself and the kids. I have been trying to be compassionate and stay out of his stuff. Then I talk to a lady at the rehab that tells me that no he does not have to...

bluecrow · bluecrow

Dear Friends, I would like to express deep gratitude to the new family that I have found you. Thank you for all the support, it has made the world of difference. Maybe you answered my postings or maybe you read them and sent silent prayers&nb...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

You all may know from earlier post that I left my husband a month ago. It hasn't always been easy but I don't regret my decision at all. It seems that I am now coming out of a fog. We all talk about the alcoholic's denial but I am also having to deal with my own denial. Looking back I...

marmare · marmare

I have been reading the posts and responding to some but have been so busy and tired. Today makes 25 days my A is clean and sober! He is tired and of course irratable on and off. I am trying to stay focused on me. Of course he isn't going to meetings or counseling he is a "tough guy"...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys, i was trying to figure out for the most part of today..what or how do you separate the addiction from the person? my ex makes sooo many promises and is all plans about the future but for some reason i cant distinguish what is fact and what is fiction! i want to believe him when he says he wants a bet...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

FRIDAY , DECEMBER 09, 2005 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>. Asking for Help It's okay to ask for help.One of the most absurd things we do to ourselves is not asking for the help we need from a friend, a family member,...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone im asking anyone to respond if they want to about their stories about leaving the a in their life and how they are better for it. i need to hear the hope that if i choose to ask him to leave i will know im doing what's right. i want to hear what i do have to look forward to. because i know if i stay there...

megan · megan

I have a picture of a narcissus flower hanging in my apartment. It has been there since I moved into my own apartment in July after leaving my alcoholic husband of 14 years in May. It is there to remind me that I live here, apart from my emotionally abusive A to take care of myself. I hit my bottom. I...

Faith73 · Faith73

This is really hard. I've been back and forth with my A for over two years now. The issues run deeper than this disease for me...intimacy and communication were a problem from the start. We broke up (for the upteenth time) about a week ago, but decided to stay friends (that didn't work) h...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i think this is it. my a has shown me in every possible way that he does not give two sh**ts about me. im so hurt and hate this feeling. in the past i would wait until tomorrow to see what he has to say. i need to stop this. this is my life to control and i cant keep waiting to see what to do untill i know what he'...

Cyn · Cyn

I heard this song today - hit me really hard!! Gone - By Kelly Clarkson What you see's not what you get With you there's just no measurement no way to tell what's real from what isn't there Your eyes they sparkled That's all changed into lies that dropped like acid rain you washed away the best of me you...

nmike · nmike

I am sitting by the fire going over in my mind my conversation with my A tonight. I was going to prepare myself before he called but he called earlier than expected. I thought I should seek guidance from my HP on what to say and then we wouldn't end up fighting or yelling. At least now I am gaining some awaren...

allison · allison

My A got pulled over 2 nights ago for failure to yield...He`s on probation for domestic,he has no insurance,he was drunk,and had open intoxicants in his truck. Guess what????They let him go!!! If it was me I`d be sent to prison for 20 years!! Sorry just had to vent,thanks for listening Allison &...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone. I have had my phone turned off, so I could not post the latest book excerpt for all of you. As soon as I am able I will post the excerpts. I previously worked with a manager who touched me inappropriately and then punched me when I made it clear I wanted nothing to do with him. The fear took over an...

Tammy · Tammy

Lots of things have happened since my last post... I will try to summarize and yet keep it short.. My husband and I began counseling. The kids and I moved back home. He has stopped drinking, he goes alone and then we go together. Then a hurricane hit Florida, and we were impacted again.. ( just da...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi Last night it was like Mt Saint Helen errupted here. The pressures of the holidays and the financial problems here have been getting to both the bigger kids and me. My husband was not present, in fact we did not even talk with him yesterday. There was a series of small incidents that set me off then...

John · John

Hello all in Al-Anon, Allot of you in Al-Anon have kids that need help just like all of us in Al-Anon do. Please direct them to the Family Teen Room for the new meetings to begin again on Sunday and Thursday at 8Pm EST. The meetings are designed around the Al-Anon meetings. The meet...

bobump · bobump

some more humor for my alanon friends. We can all use a laugh. It's an oldie but a goodie The driver says, "Gee, officer I had it on cruise control at 60, perhaps your radar gun needs calibrating." Not looking up from her knitting the wife says: "Now don't be silly dear, you know that this car does...

nycbt · nycbt

My weekend was good. He hasn't drank in a couple of weeks but that doesn't mean he is easy to deal with. Since he doesn't drink he has a very good memory so if I do something wrong he will rember it an throw it back in my face. Which I try not to say anything. He is running out of things to talk about. I have done so...

megan · megan

Enjoy your birthday John, take some time for yourself. And a very special thank-you for having this board, this very special place, where miracles happen every day! In recovery and with gratitude Megan

pixel04 · pixel04

My husband changed jobs two months ago after twelve years at the same company, the only job he ever had. He had two offers to choose from. One paid a little more than the other and the company had been around for close to 20 yrs. The other one was for a start up company that paid a little less and had only bee...

mebjk · mebjk

Is there someone with lots of Program in alanon who can sponsor me as I return to the program after 10 years away? I am looking for someone at a "live" meeting but could use some help over the next few days. And how do we even do that on here??? I'm new to this online stuff! I would like a woman. I am a woman. ...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

allowing the pain i had this VERY important lesson i would like to share.... i have a bad back..muscle spasms..turn the wrong way and i can feel it "tweak" and i am down for days....big knots, and pain its awful well last night i "tweaked" my back AGAIN... in times before, i would curse my karma, cu...

nycbt · nycbt

I have a very hard time saying no. I get upset with my self for not saying no. I am how every getting better at it. For instance someone ask for me to type her paper for school and I said no in a nice way. I told her a good place to go. But if I start typing her paper it would go on for the whole time she had class. I sti...

hopeful · hopeful

I have been recently trying to figure out about my entire life, I have been trying to find reasons as to why my life has been so painful inspite of the fact that i have been blessed in many ways such as being alive ,having a daughter and family and friends who care so much about me. I have experienced pain and...

confused · confused

Well, it has been quite a long time since I posted here. I guess that I, like my A thought I could do it on my own. Well, actually that is not true, I know that I cannot do it on my own, rather, I have just fallen back into my old self of not sharing and thinking things could just go on the way they are. So here I am ba...

Cyn · Cyn

I admit I am helpless - totally helpless. This is crazy to go the last two months of my life feeling this way every single morning. I cant stand waking up sick to my stomach every day anymore - the pain is so intense. I am dying inside my own emotional prison. I sleep because of sleeping...

Feather · Feather

Hi All! I have read in posts here of the "dry drunk" syndrome. Could someone please explain this to me. I have never heard this term before (maybe it's not a term commonly used here in Australia). Thanks for the wonderful shares, I am learning so much!

Take C...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Sister in crisis (Preview) I have a younger sister (38), who has been married for 4 years and lving for 15 years to a much older man (50). He drinks heavily 3-4 times a week, spends whatever money he has on drink and drugs, brings home 'friends' he's made in the pub to party on in their home. They have a 12 year old daughter (my niece) an...	FrancesB	6	362	Dec 12, 2005 by just me
	Update on Interview... (Preview) I think the interview went very well - I applied for an Aquatic Director position at a University - and I just bought a swim school that is run out of that same University. They seemed happy with me and the interview was more chatting than actual questions. I then went down to the pool office...	Cyn	6	363	Dec 12, 2005 by leo
	Coming up 4 Air? - NOT (Preview) Hey group, May I vent? Some of ya know I moved f/ a 2 to a 1 bed on Dec. 1. Everything that could go wrong, has and I have a lovely mix of that funky smoke smell coming thru heat vent everynight now permeating clothes furniture, etc. This morning, I woke to find the toliet, and ba...	cedarpines	6	621	Dec 12, 2005 by cedarpines
	food, for fun (Preview) i thought i would start a topic of foods for the holidays,,,since we have so much food talk in the room...and we could all share recipies. and also because i forgot who i was gonna give this to..lol chinese bbq pork..like for appitizers 1 c.soy sauce 1/2 c packed brown sugar 2 tbs cider vinega...	ednaxray	10	477	Dec 12, 2005 by Sherry
	Few more questions and advice needed if you dont mind.... (Preview) As I said before, I have just started the process of living my life despite being married to an alcoholic. I have a few more questions...but I need to give you a little more background. I have a chronic illness that prevents me from working and take many meds to live a semi-normal life. My husband says tha...	Conwolf	8	397	Dec 12, 2005 by bobump
	FURIOUS!!! (Preview) I am so angry that my hands are shaking and i think I may vomit. I posted a little while ago in response to someone else and began to get agitated. My mother-in-law called me and asked if I had heard from my husband yet. He is a truck driver and was due in at two o'clock this afternoon.&nb...	Powerless	7	437	Dec 12, 2005 by cdb
	update (Preview) this is so hard to write as i feel like i look like a fool. but this is what happened. my a came home to give me money for rent as right now i cant afford it by myself. he ended up telling me he didnt want to leave. i admitted my wrongs for starting a fight with him just because i was feeling insecure from the past....	notsonew1111	9	429	Dec 12, 2005 by TLC2
	lost....over and over again... (Preview) why is it that when i left me "A" after he started his drinking binge that i cant let go. emotionally.... i mean i was the one to leave...my choice, my decision etc.. so how come after 4 mths of crying, frustrated with life in general and questioning everything even my HP... why am i still in the same pl...	Rebecca	5	350	Dec 12, 2005 by twinmom2
	Timeline Day 6 & 7 (Preview) Sat. Dec. 10, The police has adviced him not to come to our house again or he will be arrested. They escort him to the bus stop. Browneyes In answer to your questions: a. Emergancy Room he was taken there a few days ago and released. This is typical they can't do a thing for him, the...	bluecrow	7	611	Dec 12, 2005 by Jeannie
	songs that make you think..and even sometimes cry (Preview) Sarah McLachlan Angel~ spend all your time waiting for that second chance for a break that would make it okay there's always one reason to feel not good enough and it's hard at the end of the day I need some distraction oh beautiful release memory seeps from my veins let me be empty ...	Lauren ashley	4	396	Dec 12, 2005 by AlaMom
	lost a friend (Preview) Last night a friend let me know that she was uncomfortable being part of my support network because she has feelings for me and doesn't like the person I am currently "seeing". It is very frustrating to me that one of the few people that I have been able to begin to open up to, has closed herself to me...	angelinme908	5	379	Dec 12, 2005 by bobump
	mad and angry..in that order!!! (Preview) why is it that men are twisted!!!! anyone?? i just got off the phone from my "A"....ex boyf who insists we are still a couple and we are just going throu a bad patch!!!! yea right! we had an arguement... petty words were exchanged and then a heated arguement ensued ending up in a full blown screamin...	Rebecca	7	403	Dec 12, 2005 by Faith73
	The Power of ES&H (Preview) All, Last night at my face-to-face meeting, the leader read a passage from "Courage to Change" that spoke about the power of ES&H (Experience, Strength, and Hope). This reading held real power for me. For so long, I've thought of my experience growing up in an alcoholic househou...	BlueCloud	1	837	Dec 12, 2005 by pixel04
	No Trust (Preview) I'm fairly new here and with family visiting for the month haven't had much time to log on. I really need to vent right now. Last August I left my home in MA to move to FL with my A. It was going to be fresh start for both of us. Driving down from MA he got a DUI in NC. He had to app...	Froggie	4	401	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	I GIVE UP (Preview) Hi Everybody, I haven't posted in a while. But I have still been here every day, reading and learning. Anyway, a lot has happened lately. My husband, a meth addict, admitted to being high to his parole officer on Halloween. So his officer made him do meetings. Then he wa...	browneyes	9	481	Dec 11, 2005 by browneyes
	still lost on the point (Preview) Hi guys, I mentioned a while back I started going to counseling in addition to alanon, at the suggestion of my sponsor, to deal with something that is going on in my marriage. As part of the working through the issue in my marriage, we have fallen on issues relating to my parents. We learn what we...	pixel04	6	393	Dec 11, 2005 by angelinme908
	thanks for being here (Preview) thank you for all your support, I do appreciate it. I am still dragging myself through these holidays...no feeling for them really...I detached from most everything, except the As in my life..thought I had done really well, and then one came back into my life.my father..and hes brought the ba...	kat4u	4	338	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	updated on Bubbles123 (Preview) Hi ((((((everyone)))))) I just thought I would let you all know that I am doing well under the STRESS that my family and I are experincing right now with the lose of my Hubbys job yesterday!!! I just keep thinking" one day at a time" and" take it easy "and that my Hp will see us through this and to lo...	bubbles1990	6	595	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	I am numb and emotionless (Preview) I guess I would have been really tickled by pounds of gummi bears because he spent his entire paycheck on crack. Gee, he was nice enough to bring me home a pack of cigarettes. All I have heard is more promises and how scared he is and how powerless he is. Big flippin deal. I've li...	Powerless	6	395	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	Taking one Day at a time, But (Preview) I try to take one day at a time, But sometimes several day's attck me at once. Timeline *Monday Dec.5, am* *I call police and have my A arrested for under the influance. Last used meth. on Sunday. He was disorented, anxiety,confused, age...*	bluecrow	6	370	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	The world surprises me daily (Preview) I went to a baby shower yesterday - dreaded going because 1. they make me depressed an 2. it was about 20 minutes away from my ex's house. But I went and I interacted, etc. The shower was for my ex-neighbor who is also my godmother's daughter. My godmother's son is my oldest friend and someon...	Cyn	5	343	Dec 11, 2005 by toto12
	Feeling insane and sane and confused (Preview) I feel very confused. I have had days of mental torment.I feel very guilty of my feelings,i feel like i have been a waking dead.My nights seems very confused i have endless dreams fearing that i have been trying to question my relationship with a loving God.It feels like i have always had a clear conciou...	hopeful	3	356	Dec 11, 2005 by wille
	please help.... (Preview) can someone explain or show me what or where to find the recovery programme for alanon members? is it only the alcoholics that have the 12 step programme? or do we have our own? any help would be greatly appreciated rebecca xxx	Rebecca	5	405	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	Is it progress? (Preview) Hi all, I have had plenty of time to think, I know scary thing, today while I am at work. A thought just hit me, am I really progressing in my program? Sure my "A" went out all night, he was doing what he does while he is active. I am upset over this, again, so am I progressing if it still hurts. Sure I know th...	Dolphin123	4	350	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	Unwelcome Xmas Visitor (Preview) My A called me at work today to say his father (also an A) is coming for xmas. He will be staying with us for day or two (his day or two ends up 2 weeks). He runs up our phone bill, eats all the food and doesn't chip in at all. Last time he stayed with us when my A was very sick year and a half ago....	lebe27	8	573	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	Responding vs Reacting to Projecting (Preview) For the past week I have been experiencing some female problems that I've never had in my life before. At the beginning of this week timeframe, I looked up these symptoms in my medical book and saw words like "30 to 60% cause of hysterectomies" and "cancer". There went my mind - projecting...	kismetstrand	13	680	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	feeling down (Preview) Why is it that I know I am powerless--I get that--over my a's drinking and drugging, and yet I still get upset when things aren't going the way I think they should be going. This week hasn't been a bad week, necessarily. My a has been "off" not using I think, but something just isn't right. (I say n...	hudsond	3	356	Dec 10, 2005 by Faith73
	He's Out of The House (Preview) Last week I had to have a protective order served on my husband. He was drinking and started an argument with me over my son calling home to wake him up. My son was letting me know he would be late coming home. My husband went into a rage, dumped all of my instructional items out of my teacher bag and began pac...	meowzmusic	6	536	Dec 10, 2005 by tea2
	Oz computor,help again John (Preview) Hi, It's Sat., the 10th of Dec., and I can't get into chat room again. It says connecting 6667 but you wait forever and no connect. It's the morning meeting, your time ESt about 9:00. Help! a computer desperate toto	toto12	1	329	Dec 10, 2005 by tea2
	I am sad... (Preview) I had a bit of a fall out today... my grandparents are still downsizing alanon,and saying why dont I hang around kids my age.hello kids my age are rebels,and do weird things.I don't want to be like that My grandparents should be happy I am putting most of my time to something positive,and s...	Lauren ashley	6	457	Dec 10, 2005 by marmare
	bail out or not? (Preview) A freind in ALAnon called me yesterday. Her husband got arrested for DUI again. He called and betggged her to bail him out and she said no. He said he was having heart flutterings and refused to tell them. She said what if he dies and I did not go bail him out? I was trying not to give advice...but wh...	afglin	7	475	Dec 10, 2005 by afglin
	this is it (Preview) well my a came home after work and grabbed the two bags i had packed last night wouldn't give me his keys and said he'll be back another time to give me money to pay the rent. he said he has to go to the casino with his mom. i hate this feeling so much. he is acting like he just doesnt care and i know he's lying abou...	notsonew1111	5	383	Dec 10, 2005 by abbyal
	Please forgive me if I sound angry, (Preview) Okay, I have to admitt, I am angry. I just don't understand. I have been trying to accept this as a disease. I have been trying to just take care of myself and the kids. I have been trying to be compassionate and stay out of his stuff. Then I talk to a lady at the rehab that tells me that no he does not have to...	Jeannie	9	509	Dec 10, 2005 by Jeannie
	Gratitude (Preview) Dear Friends, I would like to express deep gratitude to the new family that I have found you. Thank you for all the support, it has made the world of difference. Maybe you answered my postings or maybe you read them and sent silent prayers&nb...	bluecrow	3	382	Dec 10, 2005 by leo
	Coming out of Denial (Preview) You all may know from earlier post that I left my husband a month ago. It hasn't always been easy but I don't regret my decision at all. It seems that I am now coming out of a fog. We all talk about the alcoholic's denial but I am also having to deal with my own denial. Looking back I...	JulieLynn	4	388	Dec 10, 2005 by leo
	Input please? (Preview) I have been reading the posts and responding to some but have been so busy and tired. Today makes 25 days my A is clean and sober! He is tired and of course irratable on and off. I am trying to stay focused on me. Of course he isn't going to meetings or counseling he is a "tough guy"...	marmare	4	426	Dec 9, 2005 by lin0606
	another problem... can you help? (Preview) hi guys, i was trying to figure out for the most part of today..what or how do you separate the addiction from the person? my ex makes sooo many promises and is all plans about the future but for some reason i cant distinguish what is fact and what is fiction! i want to believe him when he says he wants a bet...	Rebecca	4	584	Dec 9, 2005 by Powerless
	asking for help is NOT asking for rescue (Preview) *FRIDAY , DECEMBER 09, 2005 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>.* Asking for Help** It's okay to ask for help.One of the most absurd things we do to ourselves is not asking for the help we need from a friend, a family member,...	rosie light shines	4	353	Dec 9, 2005 by megan
	esh please (Preview) hi everyone im asking anyone to respond if they want to about their stories about leaving the a in their life and how they are better for it. i need to hear the hope that if i choose to ask him to leave i will know im doing what's right. i want to hear what i do have to look forward to. because i know if i stay there...	notsonew1111	8	980	Dec 9, 2005 by megan
	Doormat syndrome (Preview) I have a picture of a narcissus flower hanging in my apartment. It has been there since I moved into my own apartment in July after leaving my alcoholic husband of 14 years in May. It is there to remind me that I live here, apart from my emotionally abusive A to take care of myself. I hit my bottom. I...	megan	12	553	Dec 9, 2005 by megan
	Ending relationships (Preview) This is really hard. I've been back and forth with my A for over two years now. The issues run deeper than this disease for me...intimacy and communication were a problem from the start. We broke up (for the upteenth time) about a week ago, but decided to stay friends (that didn't work) h...	Faith73	5	611	Dec 9, 2005 by Rebecca
	i am soooo done (Preview) well i think this is it. my a has shown me in every possible way that he does not give two sh**ts about me. im so hurt and hate this feeling. in the past i would wait until tomorrow to see what he has to say. i need to stop this. this is my life to control and i cant keep waiting to see what to do untill i know what he'...	notsonew1111	7	702	Dec 9, 2005 by Rebecca
	Song I heard tonight - hit home... (Preview) I heard this song today - hit me really hard!! Gone - By Kelly Clarkson What you see's not what you get With you there's just no measurement no way to tell what's real from what isn't there Your eyes they sparkled That's all changed into lies that dropped like acid rain you washed away the best of me you...	Cyn	3	464	Dec 9, 2005 by Rebecca
	Awareness (Preview) I am sitting by the fire going over in my mind my conversation with my A tonight. I was going to prepare myself before he called but he called earlier than expected. I thought I should seek guidance from my HP on what to say and then we wouldn't end up fighting or yelling. At least now I am gaining some awaren...	nmike	3	329	Dec 9, 2005 by kitty
	I`m so mad (Preview) My A got pulled over 2 nights ago for failure to yield...He`s on probation for domestic,he has no insurance,he was drunk,and had open intoxicants in his truck. Guess what????They let him go!!! If it was me I`d be sent to prison for 20 years!! Sorry just had to vent,thanks for listening Allison &...	allison	6	437	Dec 9, 2005 by hudsond
	Alanon Book Excerpt & Apology (Preview) Hi everyone. I have had my phone turned off, so I could not post the latest book excerpt for all of you. As soon as I am able I will post the excerpts. I previously worked with a manager who touched me inappropriately and then punched me when I made it clear I wanted nothing to do with him. The fear took over an...	kissers	4	681	Dec 9, 2005 by twinmom2
	Catching UP... (Preview) Lots of things have happened since my last post... I will try to summarize and yet keep it short.. My husband and I began counseling. The kids and I moved back home. He has stopped drinking, he goes alone and then we go together. Then a hurricane hit Florida, and we were impacted again.. ( just da...	Tammy	8	338	Dec 9, 2005 by confused
	Time bomb (Preview) Hi Last night it was like Mt Saint Helen errupted here. The pressures of the holidays and the financial problems here have been getting to both the bigger kids and me. My husband was not present, in fact we did not even talk with him yesterday. There was a series of small incidents that set me off then...	Jeannie	11	504	Dec 9, 2005 by leo
	Family Teen Meetings starting again (Preview) Hello all in Al-Anon, Allot of you in Al-Anon have kids that need help just like all of us in Al-Anon do. Please direct them to the Family Teen Room for the new meetings to begin again on Sunday and Thursday at 8Pm EST. The meetings are designed around the Al-Anon meetings. The meet...	John	3	424	Dec 8, 2005 by John
	Speeding ticket..... (Preview) some more humor for my alanon friends. We can all use a laugh. It's an oldie but a goodie The driver says, "Gee, officer I had it on cruise control at 60, perhaps your radar gun needs calibrating." Not looking up from her knitting the wife says: "Now don't be silly dear, you know that this car does...	bobump	6	384	Dec 8, 2005 by allison
	Waiting for a change (Preview) My weekend was good. He hasn't drank in a couple of weeks but that doesn't mean he is easy to deal with. Since he doesn't drink he has a very good memory so if I do something wrong he will rember it an throw it back in my face. Which I try not to say anything. He is running out of things to talk about. I have done so...	nycbt	3	378	Dec 8, 2005 by nmike
	Happy Birthday John!!!!! (Preview) Enjoy your birthday John, take some time for yourself. And a very special thank-you for having this board, this very special place, where miracles happen every day! In recovery and with gratitude Megan	megan	14	619	Dec 8, 2005 by John
	HP in action (Preview) My husband changed jobs two months ago after twelve years at the same company, the only job he ever had. He had two offers to choose from. One paid a little more than the other and the company had been around for close to 20 yrs. The other one was for a start up company that paid a little less and had only bee...	pixel04	1	523	Dec 8, 2005 by nmike
	I need a sponsor - at least temporarily (Preview) Is there someone with lots of Program in alanon who can sponsor me as I return to the program after 10 years away? I am looking for someone at a "live" meeting but could use some help over the next few days. And how do we even do that on here??? I'm new to this online stuff! I would like a woman. I am a woman. ...	mebjk	2	442	Dec 8, 2005 by mebjk
	its hard, but i will ALLOW my pain (Preview) allowing the pain i had this VERY important lesson i would like to share.... i have a bad back..muscle spasms..turn the wrong way and i can feel it "tweak" and i am down for days....big knots, and pain its awful well last night i "tweaked" my back AGAIN... in times before, i would curse my karma, cu...	rosie light shines	5	541	Dec 8, 2005 by rosie light shines
	about me (Preview) I have a very hard time saying no. I get upset with my self for not saying no. I am how every getting better at it. For instance someone ask for me to type her paper for school and I said no in a nice way. I told her a good place to go. But if I start typing her paper it would go on for the whole time she had class. I sti...	nycbt	5	366	Dec 8, 2005 by kitty
	I feel powerless over my life and others too (Preview) I have been recently trying to figure out about my entire life, I have been trying to find reasons as to why my life has been so painful inspite of the fact that i have been blessed in many ways such as being alive ,having a daughter and family and friends who care so much about me. I have experienced pain and...	hopeful	2	632	Dec 8, 2005 by captcodee
	trying to come back (Preview) Well, it has been quite a long time since I posted here. I guess that I, like my A thought I could do it on my own. Well, actually that is not true, I know that I cannot do it on my own, rather, I have just fallen back into my old self of not sharing and thinking things could just go on the way they are. So here I am ba...	confused	6	611	Dec 8, 2005 by Flora123
	Emotionally trapped (Preview) I admit I am helpless - totally helpless. This is crazy to go the last two months of my life feeling this way every single morning. I cant stand waking up sick to my stomach every day anymore - the pain is so intense. I am dying inside my own emotional prison. I sleep because of sleeping...	Cyn	8	700	Dec 8, 2005 by Feather
	A question.... (Preview) Hi All! I have read in posts here of the "dry drunk" syndrome. Could someone please explain this to me. I have never heard this term before (maybe it's not a term commonly used here in Australia). Thanks for the wonderful shares, I am learning so much! Take C...	Feather	6	374	Dec 8, 2005 by Feather
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