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confused · confused

What a weekend. I went to church yesterday morning and weeped through the entire service. I guess that is a good thing, I have not cried in a long time. I must have felt safe there to do so. After the service the youth group leader asked to speak to me in private. There had been a Christmas party on Friday nig...

confused · confused

Today I an confused again. I took a half a sick day yesterday to try to get some things done for the holiday without messing with the kids routing too much. I was quite successful in that task. Task it is, quite tiring. But I was happy to be able to buy the kids the gift without the added guilt that it was going...

Robinks · Robinks

Please pray for a friend of my son Matthew. His name is Josh Barnill and he is 10 years old and having seizures. The doctors have not figured out what is wrong with him.

dogscribe · dogscribe

Hi all - I haven't posted in a while but I always do come to read and "lurk" because even just doing that helps a lot. Anyway on last Friday I actually mentioned what I call "my tales of woe" to a couple friends - one in another state (via email) and one here at work. They were both really really accep...

liliana · liliana

Hi Everyone, I've been making alot of f to f meetings and getting to know some strong women. I am looking forward to my day off today just to be alone and peaceful. My a was really mean last night. I bought tickets to a Broadway show for his birthday a few weeks ago. So we went to the show yesterday and he ridic...

John · John

As most of us think..This website only reaches the United States... I would like to personally welcome those of you have come to join us that are from all across the world. We understand the time difference and appreciate you staying up late at night. If you have children, we also have a Fami...

cdb · cdb

Hello Maria, My daughter told me about that book. I do plan to read it when I have time but for now am wondering if you feel it is for all alanon people to read? Just looking for your own opnion. cdb :)

nycbt · nycbt

My weekend was nice. On Thursday I went to a concert/dance for a radio station, my husband won tickets which was very nice. He didn't drink was awsome it was a good night. The only thing I worried about was the transit strike on the subway. Which was nice. No transit stike that day. On Friday my husband and...

pixel04 · pixel04

OK, I've proven to myself the God Box works with everything, big and small...lol. We have doggie daycare in our city, and one day a week I take our dog to play there while I am at work. She loves this chance to play with 50 other dogs to no end. All you have to do is say the word "daycare"...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi Friends, Yesterday I lost my Uncle Kelly, the man who took the place of my A father after he left when I was 7 yrs old. He was 92 yrs old, had everything under the sun wrong with his poor ol body and was very ready to meet his God. But, did you ever notice , that God always takes the most giving wonderful peo...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well my a started working on his workbooks and readings he got from the counsellor. he wanted me to come and discuss it with him during the online meeting. i told him i will when my meeting is over. i want him to know his program wont interfere with mine.mine comes first for me and his for him. make sense? an...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I had to write a paper for my final exam in my Written communications course at college. I think I did a good job. Anyone want to see it? If you do just say so. Lanchas

missylost · missylost

Well since I tend to share so much during the meetings I've decided to try writing in here a little more and maybe get some more feedback from the rest of you. I love the meetings and I love hearing from those of you who have been there for a wile and even those of you who are fairly new like me.&nb...

david62 · david62

Hi everyone, I know this is a little unusual, but I have a friend that had something they were going to post on the board her, who has lost access to internet. They wanted me to post it for them to get feedback from yall and I will print these out for her to read. I would sure appreciate it if yo...

kitty · kitty

So the last 26 years was a lie. I was lying in bed thinking about the facade of the Holidays. Every year, I say I "don't want anything" but that never works. I thought about writing my parents some poetry. Not sure if I will but it seems neither one of them has noticed me much. I...

bobump · bobump

Well, as I mentioned in chat. Had a visit w/ my therapist Friday. He specializes in addictions and I picked him to help me cope with the A and all that goes with her. Things of interest. He said many times when he has patients that are showing codependent behaviors, he hands them a c...

Hanna · Hanna

Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...

Powerless · Powerless

I don't know how to say what i want to say. I know this is the most serious post I have ever posted and it may anger some people. It is about my children. My eight year old daughter does not want to return home. She is with her father after he refused to return her to me when I returned to m...

pixel04 · pixel04

My husband and I are living with my father-in-law, renting the bottom half of his house while we save up to buy something of our own. When I tell people about this, most people respond with shock and pity. People tell me to buck up, one day I'll have a place of my own.... Well, I guess in an ideal world...

gardengal · gardengal

DO'S-------------------- Forgive Be honest with yourself Be humble Take it easy-----tension is harmful Play------find recreation and hobbies Keep on trying whenever you fail Learn the facts about alcoholism Attend Alanon meetings often Pray DONT'S-------- ...

Rebecca · Rebecca

why is it that when your little the world seems like one big great adventure. when you hit your teenage years you begin to imagine sharing your life with that "special someone". i thought i found mine. why does life throw you these awful situations that sometimes seem sooo surreal that...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear Roomies, This week has been tough. My seven-year relationship ended this week. The original break-up was a few months ago, but we'd been talking and I had had hope that we could work it out. The finality of the break has left me a little stunned, saddened, and I feel a great loss. I've been grievin...

bluecrow · bluecrow

Dear Family, The hard days are over for now and all is peaceful and calm. My son was out in the cold all week. no where to bath,shave,brush his teeth or sleep other than my car. I provided him with food but made it very clear to him that he needed to follow through with his commitment of a re...

confused · confused

i am wondering in i am lying to myself. With all the emotions i am feeling anger is not one of them. am i suppressing it. i don't know. i feel sad, confused, scared the list goes on, but not angry. not for the lies, the deception, the loneliness and this list goes on also. but yet not angry. this is not to say th...

Flora123 · Flora123

I have tried, repeatedly, to get into chat room - sure I have not annoyed anyone (even edna, lol) that much, so, what is the prob? Sigh, think prob is with Java, maybe having a personality crisis! Keeps telling me - connecting - then comes the confusion, rejected, trying to connect - never says failure....

tea2 · tea2

Hello fellow Al-Anon-ers

Thought I would pass this along, the details I have now are a bit sketchy. I just heard this and will update more as I find out at this weeks face to face meeting asap, the one who spoke of it has the brochure and I don't have her number. It's a yearly (Eastern) event a...

angel123 · angel123

> > One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son > on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of > showing his son how poor people live. They spent a > couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be > considered a very poor family. On their return from > their trip, the...

KathyS · KathyS

Hi All, I'm finding this Holiday season with my A very ironic. Not even sure that's the right word. In the past the months and weeks leading up to the holidays my A was active in his cocaine addiction. This year was different. Actually it was the longest he'd ever gone witho...

cdb · cdb

Hello supportive friends who make my life better :) I am back again from time at my parent's house :) My mom is progressing (worsening) in her alzheimers but I was able to talk to her neurologist's nurse with mom's permission. She won't let my dad discuss her medications with her for s...

angel123 · angel123

Making amends to my spouse seemed an inpossible task.I couldn't find the humility or the courage.This artice helped me to change my thinking: I love a man,he is a different kind of man than most,He is a special man. Most people do not understand,because he is one of many that are the so called w...

Powerless · Powerless

I am still here and have been doing a lot of thinking. I had to take my daughter to the hospital today and did not get a chance to return it today so I thought I'd make use of it. My daughter went to the doctor Wednesday and had an ear infection. She received antibiotics and we thought she...

confused · confused

Well, I went to go see my A at the hospital today. The kids did not want to come and I respect that. They have their reasons. If I am confused I cannot imagine how a 9 and 12 year old are feeling. I did not tell him that I was coming and hadn't spoken to him today so he was surprised. He was lying in a dark room all by...

Hanna · Hanna

Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...

pixel04 · pixel04

I'm so happy for knowing the 3 Cs today. I didn't cause it, I can't cure it, and I can't control it. My mom called me this afternoon, wanting to chat about my upcoming visit. She didn't want to talk about this too close to my arrival because "she knows how I can be when I am confronted." She goes on to sa...

Barbara · Barbara

Oh man Im struggling not to cry right now! Just came from Christmas lunch where my A husband, teenage son and I met my mother and older brother. We were doing fine w/appetizer, soda, main meal but then the bill came. Husband insisted on paying the bill even though I had already bought a gift card fo...

Feather · Feather

Hi All! Yesterday I had an experience that I believe had more than a little HP message in it! After a not so pleasant visit from my drunk A husband yesterday morning, I was sitting out on my back veranda having a coffee, replaying his visit in my mind and arguing with myself to "Ju...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hi (((((((roomies)))))) The first update was to let you all know about How I was doing with my hubby being laid off and this is what has happened since then: I just thought you all would like to know that My hubby and I have decided to start our own bussiness. So far Hp has blessed us with lots of doors...

WakingUp · WakingUp

She's pregnant again. She and her boyfriend told me yesterday. They're getting married. She hasn't been drinking for the past couple of months. She has two job prospects. He's fresh out of prison and struggling not to fall into his old life with his homies. ...

katiescarlett · katiescarlett

Hi, I am new!!! I am so tired the last 3-4 years dealing with my youngest daughters Heroin addiction. She has been clean for almost a year and I can see her coming back to some extent to the child I had before drugs but honestly I still worry! I am so bone dead tired sometimes it scares me! I am trying to make...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i was just thinking a bit and reading replies and i came to the thought that i think im scared because as ive said before im seeing life more clearly now and how things really are and am practicing in baby steps letgo/let god. i think im scared to do this. im scared of the changes im making. im scared im reali...

John · John

After viewing the presentation linked to below, there is a link on it that will bring you right back to this message board. I hope you view it and obtain from it the strong message it revealed to me. http://www.12stepforums.net/misc/anger.html

Cyn · Cyn

I had a great nights sleep last night - and only remember ONE dream which was an amazing dream... I dreamt that I was walking down the road heading to someplace far and a limo drove by. I stared at it trying to figure out if there was a wedding party in it or someone famous or just people. The l...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I'm losing it a lot lately. The stress is getting to me. I'm just tired of worrying about everything. I was upset about my Mom last night, and then my husband called and he was giving me a hard time. My Alanon tools did come in handy, but I still got angry. Who knows maybe I told him some things I needed to ge...

Cyn · Cyn

It is now 7:40 and I am awake AGAIN. This time another dream about him - we decided to try to get together and talk at a bar in my town - my car broke down on the way but I got there. I was so happy to see him and scared at the same time. Deep down I knew he was still using. We really didnt t...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well this morning a came home. we had a bit of a talk. he wants sobriety i told him he knows where to look etc. it has to be something worked on everyday. then went to his grandparents and i had my first meal in like a week. still didnt feel too hungry though. and still have my headache. day five. then we went to...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i just got back from the pet memorial place and picked up my gerbils ashes i know that sounds stupid but i feel a whole lot better not worrying about what i did with her body. my a and his mom took me. the whole time i just wanted to cry. so as soon as i got home i let a huge cry out, this kills. my best friend sh...

angel123 · angel123

Serenity Alphabet "A" ... Awareness, Admittence, Acceptance, Action "B".... belief in a power greater than my own "C" calmness and contentment... begin to arrive "D" deelopments occur.... distractions are less important "E" .... enjoyment "F" faith replaces... fear "G" .... God brings growth...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Hello. I am looking for support through my trying times with my ah. I have small children and he's out of our house right now. Just wondering if there are any others in my posistion here. Raising children with A's in their lives. I've grown alot in the years. I have learned to detach. Me and my children are...

angel123 · angel123

If I had life to do over again....I WOULD have talked less and listened more.....I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded....I would have eaten the popcorn in the "good" living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fi...

Kim · Kim

I have decided at least for now that the party's over. This week has been busy....my boss took all the supervisors out for dinner on Wed and it was a good time...Thursday my new tenants signed their lease (YEAH!!!!!!!) and at least now I know that rent will be coming in...today I even had some car trouble...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well here i am and its 1am. my friend just left and now im alone. the only way i got through tonight was by lying to myself. i called my a and told him i wanted to talk to him when my friend left and would call him later. i wanted him to come home tonight. i knew that wouldnt happened but made myself believe he wou...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Dear Friends, Thank you all for your concern over my recent "female health probs". I had my ultrasound done today and found out I have several fibroids and a cyst on both ovaries. Still have to get my bloodwork done. At least I now have some explanation of why I have this constant b...

Picowitch · Picowitch

'TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE XMAS (politically correct version) Twas the night before Christmas and Santa's a wreck How to live in a world that's politically correct ? His workers no longer would answer to Elves, Vertically challenged they were calling themselves. And labor conditions at the North...

Powerless · Powerless

My husband got paid today, but it wasn't enough to cover the basic expenses. I did not even have enough money to buy laundry detergent and toilet paper. I am so down, depressed and worried. husband's boss said they won't be working until after the new year so he won't even have anoth...

velvetpaw · velvetpaw

I went to my first al anon meeting recently. I have some very mixed feelings on whether or not I belong. I didn't grow up wiht an active drinker. I'm dating someone who is in Recovery (4 years), but wasn't involved with him while he was using. However, both my parents are children of alcoholics. My fa...

jaja · jaja

...that is, the my ' Are ultimatums wrong?' But I love you all for the response! I'm not really giving him an ultimatum - he just thinks or wants to believe that's what it is. When he's here at the house quietly watching TV, I look over at him and think 'how in the world does someone who looks so...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, I have not had a chance to post in a few days. As some of you know my "a" and I are back in therapy. One of my questions about doing this counseling was what do I do if he is still using and we are trying to learn these new skills. He has refused to refrain from drinking or smok...

missylost · missylost

Hi all, pardon me while I vent, but I do welcome any and all feedback. As most of you are aware, my A and I are evacuee's from Katrina recently relocated to Virginia. Well he had to go "home" for a week and that's fine, it's giving me time to think and re-evaluate and spend time with my HP. However, he h...

Cyn · Cyn

I've been feeling so good lately and today I just dont feel so happy. I started thinking heavily about my ex. I have been questioning everything - especially why he hasnt come apologizing to me about ruining what we had with his drug use. I am starting to doubt that he really was happ...

angel123 · angel123

TAKE IT ONE STEP AT A TIME It's true that sometimes life is full of trying circumstances, And sometimes we must struggle For just minimal advances. Despite events that slow us down And magnify our worries, We must learn that progress is A word that seldom hurries. To try to grasp the total pict...

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	angel among us (Preview) What a weekend. I went to church yesterday morning and weeped through the entire service. I guess that is a good thing, I have not cried in a long time. I must have felt safe there to do so. After the service the youth group leader asked to speak to me in private. There had been a Christmas party on Friday nig...	confused	8	462	Dec 20, 2005 by Jeannie
	it's 5 am and I KNOW i have along day (Preview) Today I an confused again. I took a half a sick day yesterday to try to get some things done for the holiday without messing with the kids routing too much. I was quite successful in that task. Task it is, quite tiring. But I was happy to be able to buy the kids the gift without the added guilt that it was going...	confused	2	431	Dec 20, 2005 by lin0606
	Prayer Request (Preview) Please pray for a friend of my son Matthew. His name is Josh Barnill and he is 10 years old and having seizures. The doctors have not figured out what is wrong with him.	Robinks	9	419	Dec 20, 2005 by Robinks
	Can I get off the rollercoaster (Preview) Hi all - I haven't posted in a while but I always do come to read and "lurk" because even just doing that helps a lot. Anyway on last Friday I actually mentioned what I call "my tales of woe" to a couple friends - one in another state (via email) and one here at work. They were both really really accep...	dogscribe	8	491	Dec 20, 2005 by Vermont635
	learning to make time for myself (Preview) Hi Everyone, I've been making alot of f to f meetings and getting to know some strong women. I am looking forward to my day off today just to be alone and peaceful. My a was really mean last night. I bought tickets to a Broadway show for his birthday a few weeks ago. So we went to the show yesterday and he ridic...	liliana	6	564	Dec 20, 2005 by Vermont635
	Welcome to all around the world (Preview) As most of us think..This website only reaches the United States... I would like to personally welcome those of you have come to join us that are from all across the world. We understand the time difference and appreciate you staying up late at night. If you have children, we also have a Fami...	John	6	443	Dec 20, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Maria, book on million little pieces (Preview) Hello Maria, My daughter told me about that book. I do plan to read it when I have time but for now am wondering if you feel it is for all alanon people to read? Just looking for your own opnion. cdb :)	cdb	5	661	Dec 20, 2005 by cdb
	Nice (Preview) My weekend was nice. On Thursday I went to a concert/dance for a radio station, my husband won tickets which was very nice. He didn't drink was awsome it was a good night. The only thing I worried about was the transit strike on the subway. Which was nice. No transit stike that day. On Friday my husband and...	nycbt	6	372	Dec 20, 2005 by cdb
	God Box (Preview) OK, I've proven to myself the God Box works with everything, big and small...lol. We have doggie daycare in our city, and one day a week I take our dog to play there while I am at work. She loves this chance to play with 50 other dogs to no end. All you have to do is say the word "daycare"...	pixel04	4	417	Dec 20, 2005 by cdb
	Did You Ever Notice? (Preview) Hi Friends, Yesterday I lost my Uncle Kelly, the man who took the place of my A father after he left when I was 7 yrs old. He was 92 yrs old, had everything under the sun wrong with his poor ol body and was very ready to meet his God. But, did you ever notice , that God always takes the most giving wonderful peo...	jonibaloni21	10	585	Dec 19, 2005 by jonibaloni21
	is this alright? (Preview) well my a started working on his workbooks and readings he got from the counsellor. he wanted me to come and discuss it with him during the online meeting. i told him i will when my meeting is over. i want him to know his program wont interfere with mine.mine comes first for me and his for him. make sense? an...	notsonew1111	5	465	Dec 19, 2005 by Maria123
	I wrote something (Preview) I had to write a paper for my final exam in my Written communications course at college. I think I did a good job. Anyone want to see it? If you do just say so. Lanchas	Lanchas	5	422	Dec 19, 2005 by Lanchas
	OK Here goes everything lol (Preview) Well since I tend to share so much during the meetings I've decided to try writing in here a little more and maybe get some more feedback from the rest of you. I love the meetings and I love hearing from those of you who have been there for a wile and even those of you who are fairly new like me.&nb...	missylost	6	2167	Dec 19, 2005 by Flora123
	Some feedback please! (Preview) Hi everyone, I know this is a little unusual, but I have a friend that had something they were going to post on the board her, who has lost access to internet. They wanted me to post it for them to get feedback from yall and I will print these out for her to read. I would sure appreciate it if yo...	david62	10	473	Dec 19, 2005 by Dolphin123
	a life time of lies (Preview) So the last 26 years was a lie. I was lying in bed thinking about the facade of the Holidays. Every year, I say I "don't want anything" but that never works. I thought about writing my parents some poetry. Not sure if I will but it seems neither one of them has noticed me much. I...	kitty	5	722	Dec 19, 2005 by cdb
	thanks for alanon and thanks for my alanon friends (Preview) Well, as I mentioned in chat. Had a visit w/ my therapist Friday. He specializes in addictions and I picked him to help me cope with the A and all that goes with her. Things of interest. He said many times when he has patients that are showing codependent behaviors, he hands them a c...	bobump	11	527	Dec 19, 2005 by Flora123
	New and confused (Preview) Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...	Hanna	8	510	Dec 19, 2005 by Flora123
	Feelings of extreme guilt (Preview) I don't know how to say what i want to say. I know this is the most serious post I have ever posted and it may anger some people. It is about my children. My eight year old daughter does not want to return home. She is with her father after he refused to return her to me when I returned to m...	Powerless	7	595	Dec 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	perspective (Preview) My husband and I are living with my father-in-law, renting the bottom half of his house while we save up to buy something of our own. When I tell people about this, most people respond with shock and pity. People tell me to buck up, one day I'll have a place of my own.... Well, I guess in an ideal world...	pixel04	4	457	Dec 19, 2005 by cdb
	DO'S & DONT'S (Preview) DO'S-------------------- Forgive Be honest with yourself Be humble Take it easy-----tension is harmful Play------find recreation and hobbies Keep on trying whenever you fail Learn the facts about alcoholism Attend Alanon meetings often Pray DONT'S-------- ...	gardengal	5	580	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	life is a rollercoaster (Preview) why is it that when your little the world seems like one big great adventure. when you hit your teenage years you begin to imagine sharing your life with that "special someone". i thought i found mine. why does life throw you these awful situations that sometimes seem sooo surreal that...	Rebecca	6	638	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	Hard Week But Light at The End of The Tunnel (Preview) Dear Roomies, This week has been tough. My seven-year relationship ended this week. The original break-up was a few months ago, but we'd been talking and I had had hope that we could work it out. The finality of the break has left me a little stunned, saddened, and I feel a great loss. I've been grievin...	BlueCloud	5	477	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	Silent Night,All is calm (Preview) Dear Family, The hard days are over for now and all is peaceful and calm. My son was out in the cold all week. no where to bath,shave,brush his teeth or sleep other than my car. I provided him with food but made it very clear to him that he needed to follow through with his commitment of a re...	bluecrow	7	587	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	am i lying to myself (Preview) i am wondering in i am lying to myself. With all the emotions i am feeling anger is not one of them. am i suppressing it. i don't know. i feel sad, confused, scared the list goes on, but not angry. not for the lies, the deception, the loneliness and this list goes on also. but yet not angry. this is not to say th...	confused	4	439	Dec 19, 2005 by dogscribe
	What Is Up With Java? (Preview) I have tried, repeatedly, to get into chat room - sure I have not annoyed anyone (even edna, lol) that much, so, what is the prob? Sigh, think prob is with Java, maybe having a personality crisis! Keeps telling me - connecting - then comes the confusion, rejected, trying to connect - never says failure....	Flora123	5	435	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	Convention (Preview) Hello fellow Al-Anon-ers Thought I would pass this along, the details I have now are a bit sketchy. I just heard this and will update more as I find out at this weeks face to face meeting asap, the one who spoke of it has the brochure and I don't have her number. It's a yearly (Eastern) event a...	tea2	4	408	Dec 19, 2005 by Maria123
	Perspective (Preview) > > One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son > on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of > showing his son how poor people live. They spent a > couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be > considered a very poor family. On their return from > their trip, the...	angel123	3	392	Dec 19, 2005 by tea2
	Ironic (Preview) Hi All, I'm finding this Holiday season with my A very ironic. Not even sure that's the right word. In the past the months and weeks leading up to the holidays my A was active in his cocaine addiction. This year was different. Actually it was the longest he'd ever gone witho...	KathyS	3	408	Dec 19, 2005 by tea2
	cdb is back! Update and Holiday wishes :) (Preview) Hello supportive friends who make my life better :) I am back again from time at my parent's house :) My mom is progressing (worsening) in her alzheimers but I was able to talk to her neurologist's nurse with mom's permission. She won't let my dad discuss her medications with her for s...	cdb	18	590	Dec 19, 2005 by cdb
	Amends (Preview) Making amends to my spouse seemed an inpossible task.I couldn't find the humility or the courage.This artice helped me to change my thinking: I love a man,he is a different kind of man than most,He is a special man. Most people do not understand,because he is one of many that are the so called w...	angel123	3	448	Dec 18, 2005 by tea2
	Still here and counting my blessings (Preview) I am still here and have been doing a lot of thinking. I had to take my daughter to the hospital today and did not get a chance to return it today so I thought I'd make use of it. My daughter went to the doctor Wednesday and had an ear infection. She received antibiotics and we thought she...	Powerless	5	531	Dec 18, 2005 by whitie
	his pain overwhelms me (Preview) Well, I went to go see my A at the hospital today. The kids did not want to come and I respect that. They have their reasons. If I am confused I cannot imagine how a 9 and 12 year old are feeling. I did not tell him that I was coming and hadn't spoken to him today so he was surprised. He was lying in a dark room all by...	confused	2	399	Dec 18, 2005 by Flora123
	New and confused (Preview) Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...	Hanna	2	509	Dec 18, 2005 by notsonew1111
	3 Cs (Preview) I'm so happy for knowing the 3 Cs today. I didn't cause it, I can't cure it, and I can't control it. My mom called me this afternoon, wanting to chat about my upcoming visit. She didn't want to talk about this too close to my arrival because "she knows how I can be when I am confronted." She goes on to sa...	pixel04	2	498	Dec 18, 2005 by Jill
	someone pls give me back the Christmas spirit - bad Christmas w/A husband and family (Preview) Oh man Im struggling not to cry right now! Just came from Christmas lunch where my A husband, teenage son and I met my mother and older brother. We were doing fine w/appetizer, soda, main meal but then the bill came. Husband insisted on paying the bill even though I had already bought a gift card fo...	Barbara	1	425	Dec 18, 2005 by just me
	Butterfly Power! (Preview) Hi All! Yesterday I had an experience that I believe had more than a little HP message in it! After a not so pleasant visit from my drunk A husband yesterday morning, I was sitting out on my back veranda having a coffee, replaying his visit in my mind and arguing with myself to "Ju...	Feather	2	532	Dec 18, 2005 by kitty
	another update on Bubbles123 (Preview) Hi (((((((roomies)))))) The first update was to let you all know about How I was doing with my hubby being laid off and this is what has happened since then: I just thought you all would like to know that My hubby and I have decided to start our own bussiness. So far Hp has blessed us with lots of doors...	bubbles1990	4	443	Dec 18, 2005 by Maria123
	The Latest Development (Preview) She's pregnant again. She and her boyfriend told me yesterday. They're getting married. She hasn't been drinking for the past couple of months. She has two job prospects. He's fresh out of prison and struggling not to fall into his old life with his homies. ...	WakingUp	1	417	Dec 18, 2005 by Christy
	I am tired! (Preview) Hi, I am new!!! I am so tired the last 3-4 years dealing with my youngest daughters Heroin addiction. She has been clean for almost a year and I can see her coming back to some extent to the child I had before drugs but honestly I still worry! I am so bone dead tired sometimes it scares me! I am trying to make...	katiescarlett	4	599	Dec 18, 2005 by Diva
	more to add (Preview) i was just thinking a bit and reading replies and i came to the thought that i think im scared because as ive said before im seeing life more clearly now and how things really are and am practicing in baby steps letgo/let god. i think im scared to do this. im scared of the changes im making. im scared im reali...	notsonew1111	1	442	Dec 18, 2005 by BlueCloud
	About Anger... Presentation (Preview) After viewing the presentation linked to below, there is a link on it that will bring you right back to this message board. I hope you view it and obtain from it the strong message it revealed to me. http://www.12stepforums.net/misc/anger.html	John	7	626	Dec 18, 2005 by Diva
	Getting better (Preview) I had a great nights sleep last night - and only remember ONE dream which was an amazing dream... I dreamt that I was walking down the road heading to someplace far and a limo drove by. I stared at it trying to figure out if there was a wedding party in it or someone famous or just people. The l...	Cyn	0	345	Dec 18, 2005 by Cyn
	Lost it again (Preview) I'm losing it a lot lately. The stress is getting to me. I'm just tired of worrying about everything. I was upset about my Mom last night, and then my husband called and he was giving me a hard time. My Alanon tools did come in handy, but I still got angry. Who knows maybe I told him some things I needed to ge...	Jeannie	7	967	Dec 18, 2005 by cdb
	Bad night (Preview) It is now 7:40 and I am awake AGAIN. This time another dream about him - we decided to try to get together and talk at a bar in my town - my car broke down on the way but I got there. I was so happy to see him and scared at the same time. Deep down I knew he was still using. We really didnt t...	Cyn	6	395	Dec 18, 2005 by cdb
	update (Preview) well this morning a came home. we had a bit of a talk. he wants sobriety i told him he knows where to look etc. it has to be something worked on everyday. then went to his grandparents and i had my first meal in like a week. still didnt feel too hungry though. and still have my headache. day five. then we went to...	notsonew1111	1	398	Dec 18, 2005 by cdb
	back (Preview) well i just got back from the pet memorial place and picked up my gerbils ashes i know that sounds stupid but i feel a whole lot better not worrying about what i did with her body. my a and his mom took me. the whole time i just wanted to cry. so as soon as i got home i let a huge cry out, this kills. my best friend sh...	notsonew1111	2	440	Dec 18, 2005 by bubbles1990
	Serenity Alphabet (Preview) Serenity Alphabet "A" ... Awareness, Admittence, Acceptance, Action "B".... belief in a power greater than my own "C" calmness and contentment... begin to arrive "D" deelopments occur.... distractions are less important "E" .... enjoyment "F" faith replaces... fear "G" .... God brings growth...	angel123	4	403	Dec 18, 2005 by Powerless
	New here (Preview) Hello. I am looking for support through my trying times with my ah. I have small children and he's out of our house right now. Just wondering if there are any others in my posistion here. Raising children with A's in their lives. I've grown alot in the years. I have learned to detach. Me and my children are...	Friendofyours	8	485	Dec 17, 2005 by Friendofyours
	if I had to do over (thoughts) (Preview) If I had life to do over again....I WOULD have talked less and listened more.....I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded....I would have eaten the popcorn in the "good" living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fi...	angel123	6	454	Dec 17, 2005 by WakingUp
	so pity parties come to an end after all (Preview) I have decided at least for now that the party's over. This week has been busy....my boss took all the supervisors out for dinner on Wed and it was a good time...Thursday my new tenants signed their lease (YEAH!!!!!!!) and at least now I know that rent will be coming in...today I even had some car trouble...	Kim	4	413	Dec 17, 2005 by chrissy
	waiting (Preview) well here i am and its 1am. my friend just left and now im alone. the only way i got through tonight was by lying to myself. i called my a and told him i wanted to talk to him when my friend left and would call him later. i wanted him to come home tonight. i knew that wouldnt happened but made myself believe he wou...	notsonew1111	4	485	Dec 17, 2005 by abbyal
	Update and a Thank You (Preview) Dear Friends, Thank you all for your concern over my recent "female health probs". I had my ultrasound done today and found out I have several fibroids and a cyst on both ovaries. Still have to get my bloodwork done. At least I now have some explanation of why I have this constant b...	kismetstrand	9	584	Dec 17, 2005 by Flora123
	Night Before Xmas (Preview) 'TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE XMAS (politically correct version) Twas the night before Christmas and Santa's a wreck How to live in a world that's politically correct ? His workers no longer would answer to Elves, Vertically challenged they were calling themselves. And labor conditions at the North...	Picowitch	2	403	Dec 17, 2005 by Flora123
	Won't be posting for a few weeks (Preview) My husband got paid today, but it wasn't enough to cover the basic expenses. I did not even have enough money to buy laundry detergent and toilet paper. I am so down, depressed and worried. husband's boss said they won't be working until after the new year so he won't even have anoth...	Powerless	8	464	Dec 17, 2005 by Flora123
	Do I belong? (Preview) I went to my first al anon meeting recently. I have some very mixed feelings on whether or not I belong. I didn't grow up wiht an active drinker. I'm dating someone who is in Recovery (4 years), but wasn't involved with him while he was using. However, both my parents are children of alcoholics. My fa...	velvetpaw	9	1736	Dec 17, 2005 by abbyal
	I think I kinda phrased it wrong.... (Preview) ...that is, the my ' Are ultimatums wrong?' But I love you all for the response! I'm not really giving him an ultimatum - he just thinks or wants to believe that's what it is. When he's here at the house quietly watching TV, I look over at him and think 'how in the world does someone who looks so...	jaja	3	450	Dec 17, 2005 by abbyal
	What do i do with this? (Preview) Hello Group, I have not had a chance to post in a few days. As some of you know my "a" and I are back in therapy. One of my questions about doing this counseling was what do I do if he is still using and we are trying to learn these new skills. He has refused to refrain from drinking or smok...	twinmom2	4	460	Dec 17, 2005 by sonya
	It's My Time (Preview) Hi all, pardon me while I vent, but I do welcome any and all feedback. As most of you are aware, my A and I are evacuee's from Katrina recently relocated to Virginia. Well he had to go "home" for a week and that's fine, it's giving me time to think and re-evaluate and spend time with my HP. However, he h...	missylost	8	689	Dec 17, 2005 by sonya
	Every up must have a down (Preview) I've been feeling so good lately and today I just dont feel so happy. I started thinking heavily about my ex. I have been questioning everything - especially why he hasnt come apologizing to me about ruining what we had with his drug use. I am starting to doubt that he really was happ...	Cyn	4	617	Dec 17, 2005 by nmike
	Take it one step at a time (Preview) TAKE IT ONE STEP AT A TIME It's true that sometimes life is full of trying circumstances, And sometimes we must struggle For just minimal advances. Despite events that slow us down And magnify our worries, We must learn that progress is A word that seldom hurries. To try to grasp the total pict...	angel123	1	649	Dec 17, 2005 by Maria123
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