Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

captcodee · captcodee

Yesterday I responded to a post from Marmare about "when is it my time?" It seems that Marmare and i both had the same feelings yesterday, and as I read the replies, so did many others. But Powerless suggested we grab our purse, and get the heck out of the house and do something for ourselves...r...

Earthgirl · Earthgirl

Hello All, I am brand new to the forum but not brand new to the disease of Alcoholism. My father was an alcoholic and was very abusive. I left home at 14 and never went back. I have been in many relationships through the years, some with Alcoholics and some with non-addicts. They always end the same way....

angel123 · angel123

This is from the forum,called meeting in my pocket.

marmare · marmare

My A came home last night from bowling and they had a gift exchange, guess what he got? Yep alcohol. 5 little airplane bottles, of course he and two team mates drank them at the bowling alley. He said "I didn't drink enough to even feel guilty.' Am I wrong to think that this is ju...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Faith is the bird that sings when the dawn is still dark. ---Rabindranath Tagore There may be many things in our lives that seem unsure or doubtful. Whatever our hope or personal need today, we are not given the knowledge that tells us how things will turn out. In the predawn darkness we don't know h...

Cyn · Cyn

I've been doing a lot of soul searching since my breakup to determine why it is that I end up in serious relationships with either addicts or children of addicts. My first serious boyfriend, who was one of the most amazing human beings I ever met was a child of an alcoholic. He was so unbelie...

Powerless · Powerless

There are so many things in my future that I don't know what will happen or when. There is so much I can't control. I have decided that I have had enough sitting around waiting to see what is going to happen. I need to be proactive instead of reactive. I don't know if my daughter will e...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, It was so good to see my parents. I have really missed them. My husband never showed up, so there was no altercations with him. His parents showed up, but with my parents here, they are troo concerned with appearances to cause much trouble. The sweetness was just dripping from his mother, with m...

beans · beans

First off, let me say that I have been impressed with and encouraged by the amount of understanding and genuine caring I have seen on this board--I've been a "lurker" for some time now, trying to decide if I belong here or if I would be imposing on you. I've decided that I have a problem with my H's...

Cyn · Cyn

Today is the day that I am supposed to find out about my new job - WISH ME LUCK!! I am actually getting really nervous. I am counting on getting this job too much and am hoping for it - its scaring me! I went onto the university's website last night and looked at their master's program in clin...

Kim · Kim

I went to PA this weekend for our family Christmas Party. I drove up with my dad and we had some nice chats on the way up...nothing about my A.....it was nice to spend some time alone with my dad. My stepmother and stepsisters came up ans well, both with their respective boyfriends. They are wonder...

confused · confused

What a weekend. I went to church yesterday morning and weeped through the entire service. I guess that is a good thing, I have not cried in a long time. I must have felt safe there to do so. After the service the youth group leader asked to speak to me in private. There had been a Christmas party on Friday nig...

confused · confused

Today I an confused again. I took a half a sick day yesterday to try to get some things done for the holiday without messing with the kids routing too much. I was quite successful in that task. Task it is, quite tiring. But I was happy to be able to buy the kids the gift without the added guilt that it was going...

Robinks · Robinks

Please pray for a friend of my son Matthew. His name is Josh Barnill and he is 10 years old and having seizures. The doctors have not figured out what is wrong with him.

dogscribe · dogscribe

Hi all - I haven't posted in a while but I always do come to read and "lurk" because even just doing that helps a lot. Anyway on last Friday I actually mentioned what I call "my tales of woe" to a couple friends - one in another state (via email) and one here at work. They were both really really accep...

liliana · liliana

Hi Everyone, I've been making alot of f to f meetings and getting to know some strong women. I am looking forward to my day off today just to be alone and peaceful. My a was really mean last night. I bought tickets to a Broadway show for his birthday a few weeks ago. So we went to the show yesterday and he ridic...

John · John

As most of us think..This website only reaches the United States... I would like to personally welcome those of you have come to join us that are from all across the world. We understand the time difference and appreciate you staying up late at night. If you have children, we also have a Fami...

cdb · cdb

Hello Maria, My daughter told me about that book. I do plan to read it when I have time but for now am wondering if you feel it is for all alanon people to read? Just looking for your own opnion. cdb :)

nycbt · nycbt

My weekend was nice. On Thursday I went to a concert/dance for a radio station, my husband won tickets which was very nice. He didn't drink was awsome it was a good night. The only thing I worried about was the transit strike on the subway. Which was nice. No transit stike that day. On Friday my husband and...

pixel04 · pixel04

OK, I've proven to myself the God Box works with everything, big and small...lol. We have doggie daycare in our city, and one day a week I take our dog to play there while I am at work. She loves this chance to play with 50 other dogs to no end. All you have to do is say the word "daycare"...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi Friends, Yesterday I lost my Uncle Kelly, the man who took the place of my A father after he left when I was 7 yrs old. He was 92 yrs old, had everything under the sun wrong with his poor ol body and was very ready to meet his God. But, did you ever notice , that God always takes the most giving wonderful peo...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well my a started working on his workbooks and readings he got from the counsellor. he wanted me to come and discuss it with him during the online meeting. i told him i will when my meeting is over. i want him to know his program wont interfere with mine.mine comes first for me and his for him. make sense? an...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I had to write a paper for my final exam in my Written communications course at college. I think I did a good job. Anyone want to see it? If you do just say so. Lanchas

missylost · missylost

Well since I tend to share so much during the meetings I've decided to try writing in here a little more and maybe get some more feedback from the rest of you. I love the meetings and I love hearing from those of you who have been there for a wile and even those of you who are fairly new like me.&nb...

david62 · david62

Hi everyone, I know this is a little unusual, but I have a friend that had something they were going to post on the board her, who has lost access to internet. They wanted me to post it for them to get feedback from yall and I will print these out for her to read. I would sure appreciate it if yo...

kitty · kitty

So the last 26 years was a lie. I was lying in bed thinking about the facade of the Holidays. Every year, I say I "don't want anything" but that never works. I thought about writing my parents some poetry. Not sure if I will but it seems neither one of them has noticed me much. I...

bobump · bobump

Well, as I mentioned in chat. Had a visit w/ my therapist Friday. He specializes in addictions and I picked him to help me cope with the A and all that goes with her. Things of interest. He said many times when he has patients that are showing codependent behaviors, he hands them a c...

Hanna · Hanna

Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...

Powerless · Powerless

I don't know how to say what i want to say. I know this is the most serious post I have ever posted and it may anger some people. It is about my children. My eight year old daughter does not want to return home. She is with her father after he refused to return her to me when I returned to m...

pixel04 · pixel04

My husband and I are living with my father-in-law, renting the bottom half of his house while we save up to buy something of our own. When I tell people about this, most people respond with shock and pity. People tell me to buck up, one day I'll have a place of my own.... Well, I guess in an ideal world...

gardengal · gardengal

DO'S-------------------- Forgive Be honest with yourself Be humble Take it easy-----tension is harmful Play------find recreation and hobbies Keep on trying whenever you fail Learn the facts about alcoholism Attend Alanon meetings often Pray DONT'S-------- ...

Rebecca · Rebecca

why is it that when your little the world seems like one big great adventure. when you hit your teenage years you begin to imagine sharing your life with that "special someone". i thought i found mine. why does life throw you these awful situations that sometimes seem sooo surreal that...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear Roomies, This week has been tough. My seven-year relationship ended this week. The original break-up was a few months ago, but we'd been talking and I had had hope that we could work it out. The finality of the break has left me a little stunned, saddened, and I feel a great loss. I've been grievin...

bluecrow · bluecrow

Dear Family, The hard days are over for now and all is peaceful and calm. My son was out in the cold all week. no where to bath,shave,brush his teeth or sleep other than my car. I provided him with food but made it very clear to him that he needed to follow through with his commitment of a re...

confused · confused

i am wondering in i am lying to myself. With all the emotions i am feeling anger is not one of them. am i suppressing it. i don't know. i feel sad, confused, scared the list goes on, but not angry. not for the lies, the deception, the loneliness and this list goes on also. but yet not angry. this is not to say th...

Flora123 · Flora123

I have tried, repeatedly, to get into chat room - sure I have not annoyed anyone (even edna, lol) that much, so, what is the prob? Sigh, think prob is with Java, maybe having a personality crisis! Keeps telling me - connecting - then comes the confusion, rejected, trying to connect - never says failure....

tea2 · tea2

Hello fellow Al-Anon-ers

Thought I would pass this along, the details I have now are a bit sketchy. I just heard this and will update more as I find out at this weeks face to face meeting asap, the one who spoke of it has the brochure and I don't have her number. It's a yearly (Eastern) event a...

angel123 · angel123

> > One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son > on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of > showing his son how poor people live. They spent a > couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be > considered a very poor family. On their return from > their trip, the...

KathyS · KathyS

Hi All, I'm finding this Holiday season with my A very ironic. Not even sure that's the right word. In the past the months and weeks leading up to the holidays my A was active in his cocaine addiction. This year was different. Actually it was the longest he'd ever gone witho...

cdb · cdb

Hello supportive friends who make my life better :) I am back again from time at my parent's house :) My mom is progressing (worsening) in her alzheimers but I was able to talk to her neurologist's nurse with mom's permission. She won't let my dad discuss her medications with her for s...

angel123 · angel123

Making amends to my spouse seemed an inpossible task.I couldn't find the humility or the courage.This artice helped me to change my thinking: I love a man,he is a different kind of man than most,He is a special man. Most people do not understand,because he is one of many that are the so called w...

Powerless · Powerless

I am still here and have been doing a lot of thinking. I had to take my daughter to the hospital today and did not get a chance to return it today so I thought I'd make use of it. My daughter went to the doctor Wednesday and had an ear infection. She received antibiotics and we thought she...

confused · confused

Well, I went to go see my A at the hospital today. The kids did not want to come and I respect that. They have their reasons. If I am confused I cannot imagine how a 9 and 12 year old are feeling. I did not tell him that I was coming and hadn't spoken to him today so he was surprised. He was lying in a dark room all by...

Hanna · Hanna

Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...

pixel04 · pixel04

I'm so happy for knowing the 3 Cs today. I didn't cause it, I can't cure it, and I can't control it. My mom called me this afternoon, wanting to chat about my upcoming visit. She didn't want to talk about this too close to my arrival because "she knows how I can be when I am confronted." She goes on to sa...

Barbara · Barbara

Oh man Im struggling not to cry right now! Just came from Christmas lunch where my A husband, teenage son and I met my mother and older brother. We were doing fine w/appetizer, soda, main meal but then the bill came. Husband insisted on paying the bill even though I had already bought a gift card fo...

Feather · Feather

Hi All! Yesterday I had an experience that I believe had more than a little HP message in it! After a not so pleasant visit from my drunk A husband yesterday morning, I was sitting out on my back veranda having a coffee, replaying his visit in my mind and arguing with myself to "Ju...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hi (((((((roomies)))))) The first update was to let you all know about How I was doing with my hubby being laid off and this is what has happened since then: I just thought you all would like to know that My hubby and I have decided to start our own bussiness. So far Hp has blessed us with lots of doors...

WakingUp · WakingUp

She's pregnant again. She and her boyfriend told me yesterday. They're getting married. She hasn't been drinking for the past couple of months. She has two job prospects. He's fresh out of prison and struggling not to fall into his old life with his homies. ...

katiescarlett · katiescarlett

Hi, I am new!!! I am so tired the last 3-4 years dealing with my youngest daughters Heroin addiction. She has been clean for almost a year and I can see her coming back to some extent to the child I had before drugs but honestly I still worry! I am so bone dead tired sometimes it scares me! I am trying to make...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i was just thinking a bit and reading replies and i came to the thought that i think im scared because as ive said before im seeing life more clearly now and how things really are and am practicing in baby steps letgo/let god. i think im scared to do this. im scared of the changes im making. im scared im reali...

John · John

After viewing the presentation linked to below, there is a link on it that will bring you right back to this message board. I hope you view it and obtain from it the strong message it revealed to me. http://www.12stepforums.net/misc/anger.html

Cyn · Cyn

I had a great nights sleep last night - and only remember ONE dream which was an amazing dream... I dreamt that I was walking down the road heading to someplace far and a limo drove by. I stared at it trying to figure out if there was a wedding party in it or someone famous or just people. The l...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I'm losing it a lot lately. The stress is getting to me. I'm just tired of worrying about everything. I was upset about my Mom last night, and then my husband called and he was giving me a hard time. My Alanon tools did come in handy, but I still got angry. Who knows maybe I told him some things I needed to ge...

Cyn · Cyn

It is now 7:40 and I am awake AGAIN. This time another dream about him - we decided to try to get together and talk at a bar in my town - my car broke down on the way but I got there. I was so happy to see him and scared at the same time. Deep down I knew he was still using. We really didnt t...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well this morning a came home. we had a bit of a talk. he wants sobriety i told him he knows where to look etc. it has to be something worked on everyday. then went to his grandparents and i had my first meal in like a week. still didnt feel too hungry though. and still have my headache. day five. then we went to...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i just got back from the pet memorial place and picked up my gerbils ashes i know that sounds stupid but i feel a whole lot better not worrying about what i did with her body. my a and his mom took me. the whole time i just wanted to cry. so as soon as i got home i let a huge cry out, this kills. my best friend sh...

angel123 · angel123

Serenity Alphabet "A" ... Awareness, Admittence, Acceptance, Action "B".... belief in a power greater than my own "C" calmness and contentment... begin to arrive "D" deelopments occur.... distractions are less important "E" .... enjoyment "F" faith replaces... fear "G" .... God brings growth...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Hello. I am looking for support through my trying times with my ah. I have small children and he's out of our house right now. Just wondering if there are any others in my posistion here. Raising children with A's in their lives. I've grown alot in the years. I have learned to detach. Me and my children are...

angel123 · angel123

If I had life to do over again....I WOULD have talked less and listened more.....I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded....I would have eaten the popcorn in the "good" living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fi...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Thank you Powerless and Marmare (Preview) Yesterday I responded to a post from Marmare about "when is it my time?" It seems that Marmare and i both had the same feelings yesterday, and as I read the replies, so did many others. But Powerless suggested we grab our purse, and get the heck out of the house and do something for ourselves...r...	captcodee	6	574	Dec 21, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Trust Issues (Preview) Hello All, I am brand new to the forum but not brand new to the disease of Alcoholism. My father was an alcoholic and was very abusive. I left home at 14 and never went back. I have been in many relationships through the years, some with Alcoholics and some with non-addicts. They always end the same way....	Earthgirl	9	679	Dec 21, 2005 by nycbt
	From Forum (Preview) This is from the forum,called meeting in my pocket.	angel123	1	407	Dec 21, 2005 by nycbt
	When is it my time? (Preview) My A came home last night from bowling and they had a gift exchange, guess what he got? Yep alcohol. 5 little airplane bottles, of course he and two team mates drank them at the bowling alley. He said "I didn't drink enough to even feel guilty.' Am I wrong to think that this is ju...	marmare	8	711	Dec 21, 2005 by dogscribe
	i need a microscope to see my faith (Preview) *Faith is the bird that sings when the dawn is still dark. ---Rabindranath Tagore* There may be many things in our lives that seem unsure or doubtful. Whatever our hope or personal need today, we are not given the knowledge that tells us how things will turn out. In the predawn darkness we don't know h...	rosie light shines	3	707	Dec 21, 2005 by leo
	Personal inventory (Preview) I've been doing a lot of soul searching since my breakup to determine why it is that I end up in serious relationships with either addicts or children of addicts. My first serious boyfriend, who was one of the most amazing human beings I ever met was a child of an alcoholic. He was so unbelie...	Cyn	8	519	Dec 21, 2005 by bobump
	My future (Preview) There are so many things in my future that I don't know what will happen or when. There is so much I can't control. I have decided that I have had enough sitting around waiting to see what is going to happen. I need to be proactive instead of reactive. I don't know if my daughter will e...	Powerless	6	521	Dec 21, 2005 by bobump
	Indifference (Preview) Hi, It was so good to see my parents. I have really missed them. My husband never showed up, so there was no altercations with him. His parents showed up, but with my parents here, they are troo concerned with appearances to cause much trouble. The sweetness was just dripping from his mother, with m...	Jeannie	4	652	Dec 20, 2005 by leo
	Where to begin? (Preview) First off, let me say that I have been impressed with and encouraged by the amount of understanding and genuine caring I have seen on this board--I've been a "lurker" for some time now, trying to decide if I belong here or if I would be imposing on you. I've decided that I have a problem with my H's...	beans	6	504	Dec 20, 2005 by beans
	Today is the day... (Preview) Today is the day that I am supposed to find out about my new job - WISH ME LUCK!! I am actually getting really nervous. I am counting on getting this job too much and am hoping for it - its scaring me! I went onto the university's website last night and looked at their master's program in clin...	Cyn	3	459	Dec 20, 2005 by Jeannie
	families (Preview) I went to PA this weekend for our family Christmas Party. I drove up with my dad and we had some nice chats on the way up...nothing about my A.....it was nice to spend some time alone with my dad. My stepmother and stepsisters came up ans well, both with their respective boyfriends. They are wonder...	Kim	2	483	Dec 20, 2005 by browneyes
	angel among us (Preview) What a weekend. I went to church yesterday morning and weeped through the entire service. I guess that is a good thing, I have not cried in a long time. I must have felt safe there to do so. After the service the youth group leader asked to speak to me in private. There had been a Christmas party on Friday nig...	confused	8	527	Dec 20, 2005 by Jeannie
	it's 5 am and I KNOW i have along day (Preview) Today I an confused again. I took a half a sick day yesterday to try to get some things done for the holiday without messing with the kids routing too much. I was quite successful in that task. Task it is, quite tiring. But I was happy to be able to buy the kids the gift without the added guilt that it was going...	confused	2	490	Dec 20, 2005 by lin0606
	Prayer Request (Preview) Please pray for a friend of my son Matthew. His name is Josh Barnill and he is 10 years old and having seizures. The doctors have not figured out what is wrong with him.	Robinks	9	486	Dec 20, 2005 by Robinks
	Can I get off the rollercoaster (Preview) Hi all - I haven't posted in a while but I always do come to read and "lurk" because even just doing that helps a lot. Anyway on last Friday I actually mentioned what I call "my tales of woe" to a couple friends - one in another state (via email) and one here at work. They were both really really accep...	dogscribe	8	559	Dec 20, 2005 by Vermont635
	learning to make time for myself (Preview) Hi Everyone, I've been making alot of f to f meetings and getting to know some strong women. I am looking forward to my day off today just to be alone and peaceful. My a was really mean last night. I bought tickets to a Broadway show for his birthday a few weeks ago. So we went to the show yesterday and he ridic...	liliana	6	629	Dec 20, 2005 by Vermont635
	Welcome to all around the world (Preview) As most of us think..This website only reaches the United States... I would like to personally welcome those of you have come to join us that are from all across the world. We understand the time difference and appreciate you staying up late at night. If you have children, we also have a Fami...	John	6	501	Dec 20, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Maria, book on million little pieces (Preview) Hello Maria, My daughter told me about that book. I do plan to read it when I have time but for now am wondering if you feel it is for all alanon people to read? Just looking for your own opnion. cdb :)	cdb	5	721	Dec 20, 2005 by cdb
	Nice (Preview) My weekend was nice. On Thursday I went to a concert/dance for a radio station, my husband won tickets which was very nice. He didn't drink was awsome it was a good night. The only thing I worried about was the transit strike on the subway. Which was nice. No transit stike that day. On Friday my husband and...	nycbt	6	430	Dec 20, 2005 by cdb
	God Box (Preview) OK, I've proven to myself the God Box works with everything, big and small...lol. We have doggie daycare in our city, and one day a week I take our dog to play there while I am at work. She loves this chance to play with 50 other dogs to no end. All you have to do is say the word "daycare"...	pixel04	4	483	Dec 20, 2005 by cdb
	Did You Ever Notice? (Preview) Hi Friends, Yesterday I lost my Uncle Kelly, the man who took the place of my A father after he left when I was 7 yrs old. He was 92 yrs old, had everything under the sun wrong with his poor ol body and was very ready to meet his God. But, did you ever notice , that God always takes the most giving wonderful peo...	jonibaloni21	10	647	Dec 19, 2005 by jonibaloni21
	is this alright? (Preview) well my a started working on his workbooks and readings he got from the counsellor. he wanted me to come and discuss it with him during the online meeting. i told him i will when my meeting is over. i want him to know his program wont interfere with mine.mine comes first for me and his for him. make sense? an...	notsonew1111	5	532	Dec 19, 2005 by Maria123
	I wrote something (Preview) I had to write a paper for my final exam in my Written communications course at college. I think I did a good job. Anyone want to see it? If you do just say so. Lanchas	Lanchas	5	492	Dec 19, 2005 by Lanchas
	OK Here goes everything lol (Preview) Well since I tend to share so much during the meetings I've decided to try writing in here a little more and maybe get some more feedback from the rest of you. I love the meetings and I love hearing from those of you who have been there for a wile and even those of you who are fairly new like me.&nb...	missylost	6	2394	Dec 19, 2005 by Flora123
	Some feedback please! (Preview) Hi everyone, I know this is a little unusual, but I have a friend that had something they were going to post on the board her, who has lost access to internet. They wanted me to post it for them to get feedback from yall and I will print these out for her to read. I would sure appreciate it if yo...	david62	10	528	Dec 19, 2005 by Dolphin123
	a life time of lies (Preview) So the last 26 years was a lie. I was lying in bed thinking about the facade of the Holidays. Every year, I say I "don't want anything" but that never works. I thought about writing my parents some poetry. Not sure if I will but it seems neither one of them has noticed me much. I...	kitty	5	794	Dec 19, 2005 by cdb
	thanks for alanon and thanks for my alanon friends (Preview) Well, as I mentioned in chat. Had a visit w/ my therapist Friday. He specializes in addictions and I picked him to help me cope with the A and all that goes with her. Things of interest. He said many times when he has patients that are showing codependent behaviors, he hands them a c...	bobump	11	584	Dec 19, 2005 by Flora123
	New and confused (Preview) Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...	Hanna	8	588	Dec 19, 2005 by Flora123
	Feelings of extreme guilt (Preview) I don't know how to say what i want to say. I know this is the most serious post I have ever posted and it may anger some people. It is about my children. My eight year old daughter does not want to return home. She is with her father after he refused to return her to me when I returned to m...	Powerless	7	662	Dec 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	perspective (Preview) My husband and I are living with my father-in-law, renting the bottom half of his house while we save up to buy something of our own. When I tell people about this, most people respond with shock and pity. People tell me to buck up, one day I'll have a place of my own.... Well, I guess in an ideal world...	pixel04	4	526	Dec 19, 2005 by cdb
	DO'S & DONT'S (Preview) DO'S-------------------- Forgive Be honest with yourself Be humble Take it easy-----tension is harmful Play------find recreation and hobbies Keep on trying whenever you fail Learn the facts about alcoholism Attend Alanon meetings often Pray DONT'S-------- ...	gardengal	5	674	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	life is a rollercoaster (Preview) why is it that when your little the world seems like one big great adventure. when you hit your teenage years you begin to imagine sharing your life with that "special someone". i thought i found mine. why does life throw you these awful situations that sometimes seem sooo surreal that...	Rebecca	6	707	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	Hard Week But Light at The End of The Tunnel (Preview) Dear Roomies, This week has been tough. My seven-year relationship ended this week. The original break-up was a few months ago, but we'd been talking and I had had hope that we could work it out. The finality of the break has left me a little stunned, saddened, and I feel a great loss. I've been grievin...	BlueCloud	5	549	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	Silent Night,All is calm (Preview) Dear Family, The hard days are over for now and all is peaceful and calm. My son was out in the cold all week. no where to bath,shave,brush his teeth or sleep other than my car. I provided him with food but made it very clear to him that he needed to follow through with his commitment of a re...	bluecrow	7	647	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	am i lying to myself (Preview) i am wondering in i am lying to myself. With all the emotions i am feeling anger is not one of them. am i suppressing it. i don't know. i feel sad, confused, scared the list goes on, but not angry. not for the lies, the deception, the loneliness and this list goes on also. but yet not angry. this is not to say th...	confused	4	502	Dec 19, 2005 by dogscribe
	What Is Up With Java? (Preview) I have tried, repeatedly, to get into chat room - sure I have not annoyed anyone (even edna, lol) that much, so, what is the prob? Sigh, think prob is with Java, maybe having a personality crisis! Keeps telling me - connecting - then comes the confusion, rejected, trying to connect - never says failure....	Flora123	5	509	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	Convention (Preview) Hello fellow Al-Anon-ers Thought I would pass this along, the details I have now are a bit sketchy. I just heard this and will update more as I find out at this weeks face to face meeting asap, the one who spoke of it has the brochure and I don't have her number. It's a yearly (Eastern) event a...	tea2	4	475	Dec 19, 2005 by Maria123
	Perspective (Preview) > > One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son > on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of > showing his son how poor people live. They spent a > couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be > considered a very poor family. On their return from > their trip, the...	angel123	3	463	Dec 19, 2005 by tea2
	Ironic (Preview) Hi All, I'm finding this Holiday season with my A very ironic. Not even sure that's the right word. In the past the months and weeks leading up to the holidays my A was active in his cocaine addiction. This year was different. Actually it was the longest he'd ever gone witho...	KathyS	3	466	Dec 19, 2005 by tea2
	cdb is back! Update and Holiday wishes :) (Preview) Hello supportive friends who make my life better :) I am back again from time at my parent's house :) My mom is progressing (worsening) in her alzheimers but I was able to talk to her neurologist's nurse with mom's permission. She won't let my dad discuss her medications with her for s...	cdb	18	660	Dec 19, 2005 by cdb
	Amends (Preview) Making amends to my spouse seemed an inpossible task.I couldn't find the humility or the courage.This artice helped me to change my thinking: I love a man,he is a different kind of man than most,He is a special man. Most people do not understand,because he is one of many that are the so called w...	angel123	3	503	Dec 18, 2005 by tea2
	Still here and counting my blessings (Preview) I am still here and have been doing a lot of thinking. I had to take my daughter to the hospital today and did not get a chance to return it today so I thought I'd make use of it. My daughter went to the doctor Wednesday and had an ear infection. She received antibiotics and we thought she...	Powerless	5	598	Dec 18, 2005 by whitie
	his pain overwhelms me (Preview) Well, I went to go see my A at the hospital today. The kids did not want to come and I respect that. They have their reasons. If I am confused I cannot imagine how a 9 and 12 year old are feeling. I did not tell him that I was coming and hadn't spoken to him today so he was surprised. He was lying in a dark room all by...	confused	2	462	Dec 18, 2005 by Flora123
	New and confused (Preview) Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...	Hanna	2	572	Dec 18, 2005 by notsonew1111
	3 Cs (Preview) I'm so happy for knowing the 3 Cs today. I didn't cause it, I can't cure it, and I can't control it. My mom called me this afternoon, wanting to chat about my upcoming visit. She didn't want to talk about this too close to my arrival because "she knows how I can be when I am confronted." She goes on to sa...	pixel04	2	563	Dec 18, 2005 by Jill
	someone pls give me back the Christmas spirit - bad Christmas w/A husband and family (Preview) Oh man Im struggling not to cry right now! Just came from Christmas lunch where my A husband, teenage son and I met my mother and older brother. We were doing fine w/appetizer, soda, main meal but then the bill came. Husband insisted on paying the bill even though I had already bought a gift card fo...	Barbara	1	482	Dec 18, 2005 by just me
	Butterfly Power! (Preview) Hi All! Yesterday I had an experience that I believe had more than a little HP message in it! After a not so pleasant visit from my drunk A husband yesterday morning, I was sitting out on my back veranda having a coffee, replaying his visit in my mind and arguing with myself to "Ju...	Feather	2	599	Dec 18, 2005 by kitty
	another update on Bubbles123 (Preview) Hi (((((((roomies)))))) The first update was to let you all know about How I was doing with my hubby being laid off and this is what has happened since then: I just thought you all would like to know that My hubby and I have decided to start our own bussiness. So far Hp has blessed us with lots of doors...	bubbles1990	4	504	Dec 18, 2005 by Maria123
	The Latest Development (Preview) She's pregnant again. She and her boyfriend told me yesterday. They're getting married. She hasn't been drinking for the past couple of months. She has two job prospects. He's fresh out of prison and struggling not to fall into his old life with his homies. ...	WakingUp	1	481	Dec 18, 2005 by Christy
	I am tired! (Preview) Hi, I am new!!! I am so tired the last 3-4 years dealing with my youngest daughters Heroin addiction. She has been clean for almost a year and I can see her coming back to some extent to the child I had before drugs but honestly I still worry! I am so bone dead tired sometimes it scares me! I am trying to make...	katiescarlett	4	661	Dec 18, 2005 by Diva
	more to add (Preview) i was just thinking a bit and reading replies and i came to the thought that i think im scared because as ive said before im seeing life more clearly now and how things really are and am practicing in baby steps letgo/let god. i think im scared to do this. im scared of the changes im making. im scared im reali...	notsonew1111	1	501	Dec 18, 2005 by BlueCloud
	About Anger... Presentation (Preview) After viewing the presentation linked to below, there is a link on it that will bring you right back to this message board. I hope you view it and obtain from it the strong message it revealed to me. http://www.12stepforums.net/misc/anger.html	John	7	695	Dec 18, 2005 by Diva
	Getting better (Preview) I had a great nights sleep last night - and only remember ONE dream which was an amazing dream... I dreamt that I was walking down the road heading to someplace far and a limo drove by. I stared at it trying to figure out if there was a wedding party in it or someone famous or just people. The l...	Cyn	0	408	Dec 18, 2005 by Cyn
	Lost it again (Preview) I'm losing it a lot lately. The stress is getting to me. I'm just tired of worrying about everything. I was upset about my Mom last night, and then my husband called and he was giving me a hard time. My Alanon tools did come in handy, but I still got angry. Who knows maybe I told him some things I needed to ge...	Jeannie	7	1078	Dec 18, 2005 by cdb
	Bad night (Preview) It is now 7:40 and I am awake AGAIN. This time another dream about him - we decided to try to get together and talk at a bar in my town - my car broke down on the way but I got there. I was so happy to see him and scared at the same time. Deep down I knew he was still using. We really didnt t...	Cyn	6	453	Dec 18, 2005 by cdb
	update (Preview) well this morning a came home. we had a bit of a talk. he wants sobriety i told him he knows where to look etc. it has to be something worked on everyday. then went to his grandparents and i had my first meal in like a week. still didnt feel too hungry though. and still have my headache. day five. then we went to...	notsonew1111	1	469	Dec 18, 2005 by cdb
	back (Preview) well i just got back from the pet memorial place and picked up my gerbils ashes i know that sounds stupid but i feel a whole lot better not worrying about what i did with her body. my a and his mom took me. the whole time i just wanted to cry. so as soon as i got home i let a huge cry out, this kills. my best friend sh...	notsonew1111	2	498	Dec 18, 2005 by bubbles1990
	Serenity Alphabet (Preview) Serenity Alphabet "A" ... Awareness, Admittence, Acceptance, Action "B".... belief in a power greater than my own "C" calmness and contentment... begin to arrive "D" deelopments occur.... distractions are less important "E" .... enjoyment "F" faith replaces... fear "G" .... God brings growth...	angel123	4	468	Dec 18, 2005 by Powerless
	New here (Preview) Hello. I am looking for support through my trying times with my ah. I have small children and he's out of our house right now. Just wondering if there are any others in my posistion here. Raising children with A's in their lives. I've grown alot in the years. I have learned to detach. Me and my children are...	Friendofyours	8	550	Dec 17, 2005 by Friendofyours
	if I had to do over (thoughts) (Preview) If I had life to do over again....I WOULD have talked less and listened more.....I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded....I would have eaten the popcorn in the "good" living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fi...	angel123	6	526	Dec 17, 2005 by WakingUp
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