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you BET i am worthy!!!!!
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A.A. Thought for the Day
I need the A.A. principles for the development of the buried life within me, that good life, which I had misplaced, but which I found again in this fellowship. This life within me is developing slowly but surely, with many setbacks, many mistakes, many failures, but still...
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it will always control me
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Not doing so great right now and I cannot get in to the chat. My husband will probaby be discharged today. He asked if I would pick him up. I had told myself that if he was not going into treatment, I would not do this. I did not tell him that in advance and now don't know what to do. He is not coming home, except t...
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New to loving an A....
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I was dating my A for almost 2 years. It took me probably 8 months or more to begin to even allow myself to think that he had a problem. I guess I was in total denial...he seemed to be the perfect guy for me at first and I fell fast and hard....I'm in my 30s, so falling for someone like that doesn't...
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This xmas was the worst by far!!
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where do i start.....
..... trying to get throu this xmas was the worst ever! trying to pretend i was happy and carefree when my mind was going round in circles. all i kept thinking was how different last xmas was.
..when my then boyf. arrived on xmas night at 8 after telling me he was staying at...
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Never knew how messed up I was
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I am bawling in my office on Christmas Day because I am realizing how incredibly emotionally screwed up my entire life has been. I am only recently realizing I have been emotionally abused my entire life - and my heart hurts so much. I know I am strong enough to be ok with myself - getting str...
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what a christmas
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Hi all
wow when you have no expectations it is amazing what can happen. The past few days have been really great for me and my children. Im blessed to be an active member of Alanon. with the tools that I have been learning, they have helped me to achieve the peace that I was looking fo...
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Where I am today
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My A came home after my long weekend I wanted alone and I can honestly say I was not as happy to see him as I thought I would be, I am not unhappy he is here ... just a strange numbness. It's a new feeling. I am praying to my HP to keep me standing and to give me the strength needed to let myself and him live in peace....
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direction
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Hi hope you guys can help I need some direction. Because I don't have al-anon here I am winging it a bit sometimes. I do still see the d/a counsellor for me once a month and I have a lady now writing to me from al-anon in another state but need help with the day to day things. My A hus...
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Ricksgirl
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Sorry I missed your leaving. Send me a private message and I will give you my email address so we can stay in touch.
Take Care
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Christmas past and present
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For 14 years I celebrated Christmas the same way.
My husband and I would share our gifts, I would prepare a turkey dinner and bake cookies and we shared the day together, isolated from our family and friends.
And by 4pm Christmas day my alcoholic husband would be passed out drunk...
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Realizations during Christmas
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Now that I have been involved with Alanon for the past month - my eyes are opening up SOOOO widely its amazing. I am sitting at my parents house for Christmas - been here since yesterday making cookies for my coworkers (they have an enormous kitchen) and watching the interaction between my fight...
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help i cant get in chat room
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chat room wont let me in,just getting a blank page,i dont know whats going on.
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need to follow through for me
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Christmas day was not as bad as I had thougth it would be. We got up and went to sunrise service and then came home and opened some gifts. My sister in law made a special trip to come up to give me a gift even though I would be seeing her later and we do secret santa with my in-laws, she had bought the gift just to b...
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DEPRESSION
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HIYA ALL .
SORRY TO SOUND SO 'ME ME ME' BUT I JUST WONDERD IF ANY OF YOU HAD ANY GOOD ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WITH DEPRESSION, TIP'S ON WHAT TO DO ECT, AS I HAVE JUST BEEN TOLD THAT I AM INFACT SUFFERING WITH 'DEPRESSION'! AND NOT TOO KEEN ON TAKING MEDICATION FOR IT IF I CAN AVOID IT.
ANY HELP/...
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New here
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Good morning everyone, I am new here,but not new to alcoholism. I the wife of an alcoholic for 33years.I am hoping to make friends here. I have 5 grown children,and 8 grandkids..all live out of state from us.I am hoping to be able to understand the disease,and get over the anger and hurt I have over my hus...
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I will make it through today!
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The day is finally upon us. My sons and I went to church service last night and I cried through the entire thing. I hope I did not embarass my sons. It seems to be the place that I let go and cry, uncontrollably. Very few people there no what is going on and only the pastor knows where my A is today, sooo god only...
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Christmas was good
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Christmas Eve, which had been traditionally my holiday to do (I'm Italian and since my mother's death I had taken over the fish feast)...but this year we decided to go out to dinner and at first Iwas upset...then I realized it would give me a much needed break, which it was. MY parents had wanted to me to s...
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Newbie: Drug, alcohol dependency, & Christmas
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I'm spending some of my holidays with my cousins. Big time problems. Cousin A is a registered nurse. Cousin B is a double amputee, thanks to a rare condition known as necrotizing fasciitis (a.k.a. "flesh-eating bacteria"). She's lucky to be alive, and Cousin A is the reason she's alive. Cousin A is a v...
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this is getting hard
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i had a nice nap but woke up and realized that my situation is real. im here alone on friggin xmas eve. all family members on my a's side have been phoning here and showing up here to drop off presents. i havent said anything yet that he isnt here anymore. im feeling very lonely right now. i tried to call my fr...
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The TRUTH about Captcodee
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Alright, this is the way it is.
Tonight is Christmas Eve, I have two small children.
I am a freak who doesn't want to do any christmas. I know there were women posting here that were upset that they couldn't give their children Christmas, well, then come and trade places with me.
My Husband...
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captcodee
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Whats the point...
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I am so close to just giving up, I am tired of living with alcoholic parents, my dad is in recovery, and my mom is an alky she just won't addmit it yet, hpoefully one day she will...I try so hard to cope with everything around here, I am quiet and out of the way, I just don't knw what to do, what to say, I want to he...
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Small thing? why so sad, whats my part?
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Thanx
I am Jewish & my wife (qualifier) has celebrated Xmas her entire life. When her folks were still alive we would visit with our young kids & gourge on opening presents. This is how most of our family xmas's have also been. This year we discussed & agreed o...
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Christmas
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Christmas has been very different this year for me.
First and formost my husband, my A, in not in the house.
Second, On Christmas Eve we had my daughter's boyfrined's family over for dinner, before church. I don't host very often so I was real nervous. I only messed up 2 of the four things I cooke...
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i did the right thing
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yesterday i was going back and forth in my mind if i did the right things in asking my a to get out of my life. i definatly know i did make the right choice. today when i spoke to him i asked when he was coming to get his familie's gifts that were here and he just screamed at me the whole time and said he didnt care t...
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Merry Xmas from Australia!
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Hi All!
Now it is Boxing Day here and and I am loving it! A day to simply relax, everyone can just help themselves to left-overs if and when they are hungry.
I wasn't able to sleep in this morning, as my eldest daughter had to start work at 9am but one advantage was that I was able to pick up s...
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What to do??
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I am new here. I want to tell my guy (who is an alcoholic) that I do not love him anymore and want him to move out but I hate being that mean to him; especially this time of year. We have been together for a year and a half. He didn't drink for awhile and when he started he didn't drink much but now it is all the time...
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progress made here
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im very proud of myself. my a tried to manipulate me into staying here for the night. i almost caved in but then stood my ground. also did not get angry. everytime i spoke with him i remained calm. i feel wonderful.
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hey all my loves!!!!!!
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Hey all cloud here hope you are all well that dang santa by damn did not bring me a new pc but I will have it up and running soon my brother is working on it!!! Blue, Bob, Josey, Dave, Kiss, TT, Mastiff, My smore girl LOL U know who u are, Megan, CDB, Goat boy He he and All and my swan Maria I love and miss u so much no... >
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Invitation only to get into chat room???
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This morning a few minutes ago I tried to get into the chat room and the only thing that keeps popping up is "alanon chat: channel by invitation only" or something like that. What's going on with the chat room?
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update for John on chatroom
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Hi John,
Did you do something? Well, chatroom is working now.
Danke Oz, whoever, wherever you are (behind the curtain???)
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server messages again, John help
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Hi John,
Downloaded new java version and restarted but that isn't the problem, evidently.
Lets me in just for meeting (your time morning meeting) Tried later to reenter and got server messages again. same thing yesterday. and now?? help???!
thank you for answering and t...
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Holiday message
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Hi everyone,
I'm not sure if I will have time to post later. So I figured I would do it now.
Have to get ready for the 4pm childrens mass.
I wish all of you who celebrate Christmas, Hanuka, Kwanza or any of the Holidays, wonderful holidays. Enjoy the holidays and the time with your families.
Thois...
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my A has been inside three days
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I didn't think it would happen, I have little faith, but he's still there. The last time he didn't last 24 hours. When he checked in, he saw his chart and the date. It said 8/14. He cried and said it made him realize if he would've stayed he might be home now, for Christmas. However, his option...
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A plea for help!!!
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Ok since coming to Alanon - I've been learning to stand up for myself and not allow people to abuse me and to set boundaries. Well today I snapped. I was at my parents house and I couldnt take it anymore. While I was posting another post before - the sink erupted at my house. My fa...
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question
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can someone tell me what mirc is?
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john?
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Dear John,
is there a prob with mirc and java at the mo for this alanon chat room?
Hugs
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server messages?Oz?John?
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Hi
When i try to go into the chat room, i get nothing, just a screen on which it says "server messages" Where are you? Does this happen on Christmas? Little computer elves?
help again John,
oh great oz
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i need the chatroom
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why isnt the chatroom letting me in? i need it so much right now.
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New to board...my story.
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Hi, I'm Holly. I am experiencing an extremely difficult time in my life right now. I have been married to my husband for one year (on 12/11, to be exact), and it's been an up and down journey for both of us. He has been in outpatient recovery treatment programs twice (pr...
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Happy Holidays to All
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I wanted to just take a moment and wish each and everyone of you a Happy Holiday.
Everyone of you here is important to me, both the new members and the long time ones. You are all a part of my recovery and I thank you for that.
I pray this year ahead brings us all health, happiness and proserity.
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Simple Holidays
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I stayed in town this year. My husband (the Hindu) has no history of celebrating Christmas other than what I have shown him. This year we're doing what I like. The parties were over the past few weeks. Cooking was minimal, but we shopped for almost-prepared food and finished cooking it at home. Great id...
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can somebody please help me?
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im so hurt right now by everything. my a didnt come home yet and its quarter after nine pm. its supposed to be our christmas together. im supposed to go out of town tomarow to see relatives but now i cant face them. i tried to talk about this in chatroom but felt like no one cares. what do i do? i literaally fee...
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hi everyone
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Hi everyone thinking of you all the clock has just struck 12.00am in Australia so Merry Xmas wherever you are. For those of you on your own you are not alone with all your friends here. Best wishes. Luv Leo x
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cooked
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well i got by butt up and made myself some supper. and not something you can just throw in the microwave. i made a pasta dish. its really good. thats one small babystep
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cannot get into chat room
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cannot get into chat room. either by mirc or by website..anyone else having problem? iona54
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Apology or not?
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Good gravy I have run through the whole rollercoaster of emotions this week. Ok here it goes and please give me your honest opinion on this one.
After spending the last couple days alone, thinking, being kind to myself and rereading some literature, I am wondering if&nb...
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question-please help!
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it has been awhile since my last post. I hope everyone is well. I have a question. My A just started Christmas shopping yesterday, Friday. He got every thing for me, and our 2 kids. But he has bought NOTHING for his parents, or his nephew. He did get something for his niece. He told me to wake him up today at 8...
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per request - Dog Biscuit Recipe
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I decided to buy the Cooking the Three Dog Bakery Way (by Mark Beckloff & Dan Dye) for my mom as she has gone down there & spent over $100 on dog cookies. All of the food there, is "clean" so humans can eat it too ~I never tried any of them~ but figured it would be neat to bake dog bo...
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so much
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My daughter (22) is being released from a hospital in Arizona today. She was in an auto accident and suffered two broken ankles, a fractured skull and a small bone in her ear was broke. She found her way there, over three thousand miles away from home over a two week period. She left o...
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christmas am meeting
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hello all and merry christmas!!!! As most of you know i have 3 little ones and will be very busy tomarrow morning with them i'm sure. I know that christmas is a hard time for many, so i dont like not being there for them, but i feel i need to put my kiddo's first and be with them that morning and no...
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Happy Holidays
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((((((Friends)))))
I would like to wish each and every one of you happy, serene holidays. I have been very anxious about tonight's family get together, and it is now upon me. Luckily I was able to make it to a f2f this morning. I left there filled with gratitude.&nb...
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just a poem of my thoughts
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How could you be so stupid
To do this to me again?
How could I be so dumb
To let you hurt me again?
I feel so alone
In a deep dark hole
No one to reach out to
No one to comfort my soul.
The pain is intense
The tears wont stop
There’s no one around
To make this stop.
How could I trust...
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off to a bad start
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well its 10:30am i finally got some sleep at 5am. then guess who shows up here with flowers? like those will make everything better. i told him to leave me alone i am done. then he became ignorant. so he is making it easier for me to see how much of an a$$ he really is. usually he cries and begs for me back. not t...
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Sorry, double post
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Please see other post -- Edited by onlyacousin at 14:00, 2005-12-24
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alone
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im doing what i can to feel sane tonight. dont know what to do. im basically feeling alone and suicidal right now. i feel like no one cares about me or what happens to me. ive called numerous distress lines that have not helped. i took xanex to relax. all of my close friends are out of town and i dont want to bo...
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Letting go of son
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I need to some feed back on how much I should let go of my 17 year old son. His dad and I have been divorced since my son was 2. My xhusband is the alcoholic. Whenever my son and his dad are getting along. My son starts treating me and his step dad badly. My husband and I...
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hes ok
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sorry im posting so much. my a is safe at his moms. so i feel better. but still mad about him relapsing. wont know anything till tomorrow. he said i'll stil go out of town with you. screw that. im not going. im not going anywhere with him.
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Everything Happens for a reason
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On Wednesday I had checked to make sure a bill I paid had cleared. I discovered again that my husband had helped himself to the money and the check had bounced. I called him very angrily and told him that the check had bounced and that he had no right to take the money. He got flustered and said he was going to...
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Happy Holidays to all!
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To my extended family,
I wish each and everyone of you and your families a very blessed, peaceful, and Happy Holiday season.
I thank all of you for your insight, love, support, laughter and strength. May your holidays be safe and hopefully sober.
Merry Christmas!
Happy Hannukah!
Hap...
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more christmas foods.corrected
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sorry to have messed up the directions. hope this answers your ?
"that pumpkin s#$%
this is better than pie.
preheat oven to 350
1 large can pumpkin
1 large evaporated milk
1 cup sugar
3 eggs
¼ tsp cinnamon
these are mixed together with a mixer and dumped in a...
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