Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

bobump · bobump

Well I chaired my first f2f meeting ! One of our members had me off the topic hook for the first half of the meeting. :) They shared something which was great and took us to about the midway point. I had something ready which Cilla had shared in a previous post, called Leaving the City of Regret. ...

toto12 · toto12

Dear John/Oz It's doing it again. I know when I see the coffee cup, it's no go. Got the mysterious page "server messages" again. It's Friday, Dec 30 at ´2o:46, 8: 46 p.m. German time. Hope you get it fixed in time for marathon. grrrr anyway, all the best for new year toto...

confused · confused

Even my stupid computer is sick!!!!!!!! Cannot get into chatroom again so I guess that I will go turn on the tv and see if I can get some rest. I truly hope my first post is read I need some ESH>

nycbt · nycbt

Hi Java is not working. I was able to get on yesterday not and now I can't. It is now 1:35 pm aned I still can't get in. I have been trying since 10:00 am.

-- Edited by nycbt at 13:36, 2005-12-30

brenda44 · brenda44

I have been in chat room a few times. Tonight, I tried to join the room while a meeting was going on and could not. Is there something I need to do to enter chat room during a meeting?

jennesee · jennesee

I am hoping someone can help me figure this out, and perhaps help others in the process. I am new to this "codependent thinking" idea and am finding myself very confused over what is "good" to do and what is "codependent". Let me explain briefly. My Mother is very old and pretty ill. Her mind is goi...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Who Is Behind The Keyboard Do you remember sitting in a chat room, watching people chat, or even chatting yourself? Do you remember receiving so many forwards that your mailbox was ready to explode? How about receiving an e-mail from someone just searching for a friend. Did you wonde...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today im having a good day. i actually slept last night which was wonderful. went on a date with my a to the movies. really good since we havent been out in a while. so i actually got out of the house put on some makeup and dressed nice. it made me feel good. we saw a comedy that fun with dick and jane with jim car...

mollyann · mollyann

Several months ago, I read something (can't remember where) that suggested to keep track of personal life bank accounts. Just as we make deposits, withdrawals and balance our real bank accounts, keeping track of other areas of life can help to keep us in check. I started a running list that I keep op...

Michele · Michele

Hey everyone! Guess I'm looking to vent a little.... Thought I finally had figured things out. I decided I had enough and started planning to leave my husband..my A. I had reached the point where enough was enough after so many years of dealing with things. This past year has been especiall...

flumpy · flumpy

Hello all,

Only me again, Just wonderd if anyone here knew when the chatroom will be up and running again?

Bye for now, but hopefuly not for long! flumpy.

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Hello family of choice! Just a note to let y'all know tonights meeting will be on the topics of "Spirituality, Religion and Tolerance" as to how they apply in our Al-Anon program and life. There are some excellent readings in our daily readers (One Day At A Time, Courage to Change, Hope fo...

Cyn · Cyn

I am hitting the going on 2 month mark after breaking up with my ex and am starting to think about all the good things, the last month of out of nowhere craziness, the fact that he was pushing me away the last month - and I am starting to doubt. I am starting to think it wasnt the drugs - it was he just deci...

maresie · maresie

You know I have finally got it that what my boyfriend wants to do on the holidays involves being fed (preferably by someone else) smoking dope, watching movies and lolling around. That's it. It does not include spending time with me, doing chores, planning for new years, reading, sight seeing...

ditto · ditto

By way of explanation, I was raised by a family -- neuclear and extended-- of monsters. They are warped and toxic. And, I have assiduousely avoided all contact with them for years. It is always the best strategy to avoid toxic people. Every year at Christmas time I get a card or telephone call f...

lmt123 · lmt123

I have been trying to get into chat now for the past couple of days, and I am not able to!!!

AAAAARRRGGGGHHHHH!!!

I did update the Java, like John suggested. I had success immediately after tha...

Powerless · Powerless

Hello all. Checking in from the library. This has to be brief because we are on the way to son's doctor's appointment. Holidays are going swimmingly. Thank you for all fo the help. Hope to have computer back soon so I will fill you in more. Will check in on Friday...

nycbt · nycbt

i AM ON A NEW LAPTOP AND I STILL CAN'T NOT GET INTO THE CHAT ROOM.

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Hello to everyone. I truly hope that many of you have been having wonderful holiday celebrations. I haven't had a chance to read this forum for a couple of weeks, but I have noticed many posts from people who, like me, have not been able to enjoy the season. It is a very sad and difficult ti...

Cilla · Cilla

Hi Roomies! How amazing that we are approaching the end of another year, or rather the beginning of a new year.... I'm thinking about what happened to some of the plans and goals that I set for myself during this past year that did not come to be. But find myself standing in even more amazement at...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Drowning in the Water Turning round and round…this is how my life is day after day with not one sound No happiness long enough to last… and left with nothing to do or say I can’t turn back the clock, and can’t make my monsters go away I am drowning in my w...

Rebecca · Rebecca

I just wanted to say thank you. thank you to all the people who have leant me support, constant love and understanding in this website...even when you dont know me pesonally. i am still going thou an emotional turmoiland feel depressed.... i do need a counsellor to talk to. i wrote a big long e-ma...

chris52 · chris52

I know from other postings that others are having problems too. I have tried all the suggestions,rebooting,java updates etc,etc but nothing is working. I haven't managed to get to a meeting in over a week and only got into chat once in the last 9 days. I don't get Alanon meetings here in Turkey,nor do I h...

alanon_2002 · alanon_2002

Hi, I really dislike the holidays. Even though I have someone, we are visiting his realtives far away. I see what a real family is like. I never had this. So I am blessed to be in this kind of family and to be accepted. I thought that when we get back home we can have time for us alone. I did stess this. Bu...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I have sooo many mixed feelings about everything.My life,my mom,my dad,my granparents,my aunts. I just sit and think of all of them,and I get overwhelmed.I cannot determine when I will think of them,it is just random. I have trouble with people telling me what to do.I am not saying I am a stuck up bra...

confused · confused

I got a little sleep but was restless, obviously. Got up and read the replies to my post. Thank you so much to those of you who replied, it gives a bit of clarity. So this is what I am wondering, can I call the hospital that just discharged him and speak to the Dr. I spoke to him while he was there, they started t...

toto12 · toto12

Hello John, Hmmm Seems to be a hit and miss deal. Only pattern i see is that I can get into chatroom for morning meeting, then mysterious page, "server messages " appears and no chatroom. new: sometimes a big coffee cup appears first with java on it, then i know I will get mysterious pag...

gardengal · gardengal

Now that the year is at its end, I'll take a few minutes to comtemplate the progress I have made and to thank my HP for my growth. What did I do to contribute to my success this year? Perhaps it was as simple and as profound as daring to come to my first meeting or to keep coming even when it was difficult. How...

confused · confused

I am drowning here. My husband stopped by to talk, even though I told him that I was exhausted. He told me that he just does not think he can do it without the boys and I. I have not asked that, just that he not be in the house. He said that when he went through his first divorce he contemplated suicide, knew how...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! It's been a long time since I last posted here because I made a home for myself over on the ACOA board! It takes time to get to know people on these boards, and now I feel I do know several people there because of the sharing over these past few months. It feels strange for me...

ae`` · ae``

not many things in this world that i know like what fortunes await me or what the future may hold, but was told it is alright because it's the present i only need in which to succeed i don't need to see all my tomorrows i can only take one step at a time even if i run this pace will be just fine all i nee...

jj · jj

Hi everyone!! I hope that everyones hollidays were good!! I see alot of new names here on the board and want to say hello to all of the newcommers and welcome. It has been quite some time since I have posted or even looked at the board and yes I have reverted into old patterns. I would...

Magpie · Magpie

Hi everyone, My A has been home from rehab for exactly one week. He went in a week after he physically attacked me and wouldn't give me our 7 month old when I was getting the heck out of there, so I called the police. Although I didn't ask to arrest him or press charges, he was a drunken...

ab23 · ab23

I have just recently discovered that my husband is an alcoholic. It is something that I have always worried about because it runs rampant in his family. Over the years there have been little clues. He's never been able to admit when he's had too much to drink, even in situati...

meowzmusic · meowzmusic

My husband has been out of the home for a month now due to violent behavior which resulted in a protective order. I have had a difficult time with this. I know I can't live with the drinking rages, but why am I struggling so? I feel peace, but sadness and lonliness too. It seems l...

Barbara · Barbara

Not looking forward to New Years Eve/Day. A husband will be having his A friend come spend the night. For the most part they'll be in the basement. They're both so excited that its New Years Eve - what are we having for dinner/snacks/drinks? I just want to spend that night here on the computer and early...

horselover58 · horselover58

This was a topic @ a meeting earlier this week. It was said that this message board was a good place to go to find a sponsor. I have a sponsor @ my f2f meetings, she is great, but I feel I need someone more similar to me. Her A is deceased. Mine is still alive. Living with an active alcoholic in den...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I posted last week about my husband wanting to remain a big part of my life even though we are seperated and at first I thought this might work. When my husband first proposed this to me we were talking about divorce and he even said that if I wanted to find myself a boyfriend that it would be ok...

chrissy · chrissy

hi everyone hope you had a wonderful christmas. amanda always goes to her dad on christmas eve & i am always shopping to stay busy wraping gifts she usally comes home late christmas eve, but i was letting her sleep over so she could be there when her brother opened his presents. but i wanted her to com...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - December 28 One of the most beneficial things I have learned from my Al-Anon experience is to be consistent in my thoughts, words, and actions. In my alcoholic home, I learned to mask uncomfortable situations with words and actions I thought would promote harm...

flumpy · flumpy

HI EVERYONE/ANYONE, DOES ANYONE KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON WITH THE CHAT ROOM? CAN'T GET IN AT ALL??? ANY ADVICE OR HELP?? FLUMPY

bobump · bobump

It's amazing what I can take away from a step for a step that's so far ahead of where I am. We were reading P2R as is our norm for our Wed Step Meeting, first 1/2 of Step 9. And I don't remember exactly what was shared and how I got to the realization but something hit me. Someo...

kitty · kitty

So my mother tells me, not to be co-dependent anymore and I start going through changes... now she is acting very snippy & short with me. It is ridiculous, our family is so screwed up. She tells me she is not even compassionate to herself. On Christmas Eve I told her she hu...

toto12 · toto12

oh grrrr again it's doing it The mysterious "server messages" page and it doesn't open the chatroom. Help again, John/Oz, it's Weds. 9:00p.m. my time (Germany) toto

confused · confused

My husband has tried every possible manipution to stay at our house. From suicide threats, to divorce, to you don't care about me, to why are you making me do this, to flushing the joint that was hidden in our cellar,to I'll call a real estate agent and sell the house, the latest.... Mr. Nice Guy. I have no...

recoverkhristy · recoverkhristy

Hi all, I wanted to say I am sorry for not fullfilling my responsibility in regards to my op status. I have not been here as much as I should be, due to family probs. But I have not done the right thing by letting everyone know I would not be available for meetings and finding someone to replace me for the me...

Robinks · Robinks

Hi - I need some support, I am getting weird about these neighbors. I looked again and read the deed restrictions, it says no building can extend beyond the building setback lines drawn on the platt. There are no building setback lines on the platt, I have looked and looked and looked at it, p...

lildee · lildee

~ The Serenity Prayer ~ GOD,grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change ~ COURAGE to change the things I can~ and the WISDOM to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace. Taking this sinful world as it IS, not as I w...

sandie123 · sandie123

Happy Holidays all~ I made it through my visit with my cousin and his family. I still have a lot of feelings about it and him but it is over now. I am glad I went and saw some of my cousins. I am having a lot of trouble being me right now. I so badly want to run and hide from me... I have even tried doing tha...

Cyn · Cyn

I hit a wall today that I am trying to decide to break through it or not. I know that once I break it - its finally gone - 8 years of being in love with one person will be gone. The only way I can make my head feel better is to write - its therapy for me. The new year is coming on Sunday and so...

tea2 · tea2

Hello all, My Christmas was nice, the usual with my son, it was great to see him so happy. Today I received a surprise gift, it was left on my back doorstep -maybe there for a few days. It happened to be a gift from a dear Al-Anon friend. Now being older it's not about the gifts for me but this is the only...

Rebecca · Rebecca

When i was younger all i ever wanted when i grew up was a "normal" family life! i grew up with my mother and my grandmother and had a very safe happy upbringing. i remember reading enid blytons books and dreaming about all the imaginary lives in those fairytales.. the mom and dad, 2 kids and family dog...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well here is my latest success although i feel kind of lousy. a came over to talk for a little bit. i asked what he was planning on doing and he didnt really have an answer. that hurt to see that he has still not hit his bottom. he told me his counsellor really believed that a wanted sobriety and was able to sti...

mebjk · mebjk

My family is mostly gone now, and my husband and I have no children. The family we really have left is my sister, who is one of my qualifiers. After many, many years I have finally accepted that the relationship she and i have is going to be the one we have forever, as sad as that makes me. For most of my life I f...

Alone · Alone

I'm new here, I went to the 12 step forum and read step one, I get that I am powerless over my A's drinking but why am I powerless over the effect it has on me? If I could change how the things he does and says while drinking effects me then maybe my life wouldn't feell like it's spinning out of control.&...

confused · confused

It is amazing how an alcoholic cannot understand that everything they are saying is working against the purpose for which they are saying it. The discahrge came through yesterday. I went ahead with lunch plans with a fried before going to pick up my husband. He had been indesicisive about when he woul...

angelinme908 · angelinme908

I was reading over posts and noted that someone was told it is better to not make any changes in the first 6 months of being in Alanon. I heartily agree but find that I have no choice in the matter of changes in my own life. I wish that 6 months of recovery could have passed before these changes b...

Lindy · Lindy

What a surprise; my husband was drinking himself stupid again over the Christmas weekend. At least there was no fighting or screaming. On Saturday night we went to a Christmas party. He can't just drink a little, have some good conversation, etc. He has to drink until he's obnoxious and he started pic...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

TUESDAY , DECEMBER 27, 2005 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>. Near the Top I know you're tired. I know you feel overwhelmed. You may feel as though this crisis, this problem, this hard time will last forever.It won...

gardengal · gardengal

I am interested in how the men in the treatment center reacted to recieving the cards?...........Thank you ,,,,,,,,,,,,gardengal

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Chaired my first F2F, Thanks Cilla ! (Preview) Well I chaired my first f2f meeting ! One of our members had me off the topic hook for the first half of the meeting. :) They shared something which was great and took us to about the midway point. I had something ready which Cilla had shared in a previous post, called Leaving the City of Regret. ...	bobump	4	573	Dec 30, 2005 by bobump
	again "server messages" and no chatroom, help oz (Preview) Dear John/Oz It's doing it again. I know when I see the coffee cup, it's no go. Got the mysterious page "server messages" again. It's Friday, Dec 30 at ´2o:46, 8: 46 p.m. German time. Hope you get it fixed in time for marathon. grrrr anyway, all the best for new year toto...	toto12	1	876	Dec 30, 2005 by DanaAngel
	AAHHHH!!! (Preview) Even my stupid computer is sick!!!!!!!! Cannot get into chatroom again so I guess that I will go turn on the tv and see if I can get some rest. I truly hope my first post is read I need some ESH>	confused	3	555	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	another problem chatroom (Preview) Hi Java is not working. I was able to get on yesterday not and now I can't. It is now 1:35 pm aned I still can't get in. I have been trying since 10:00 am. -- Edited by nycbt at 13:36, 2005-12-30	nycbt	0	461	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	Help? How to join in meeting? (Preview) I have been in chat room a few times. Tonight, I tried to join the room while a meeting was going on and could not. Is there something I need to do to enter chat room during a meeting?	brenda44	3	609	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	codependent thinking and "fixing things" (Preview) I am hoping someone can help me figure this out, and perhaps help others in the process. I am new to this "codependent thinking" idea and am finding myself very confused over what is "good" to do and what is "codependent". Let me explain briefly. My Mother is very old and pretty ill. Her mind is goi...	jennesee	5	1271	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	Who Is Behind The Keyboard (Preview) Who Is Behind The Keyboard Do you remember sitting in a chat room, watching people chat, or even chatting yourself? Do you remember receiving so many forwards that your mailbox was ready to explode? How about receiving an e-mail from someone just searching for a friend. Did you wonde...	kismetstrand	5	791	Dec 30, 2005 by Dolphin123
	feelin good (Preview) today im having a good day. i actually slept last night which was wonderful. went on a date with my a to the movies. really good since we havent been out in a while. so i actually got out of the house put on some makeup and dressed nice. it made me feel good. we saw a comedy that fun with dick and jane with jim car...	notsonew1111	4	516	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	life bank accounts (Preview) Several months ago, I read something (can't remember where) that suggested to keep track of personal life bank accounts. Just as we make deposits, withdrawals and balance our real bank accounts, keeping track of other areas of life can help to keep us in check. I started a running list that I keep op...	mollyann	3	610	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	Confused (Preview) Hey everyone! Guess I'm looking to vent a little.... Thought I finally had figured things out. I decided I had enough and started planning to leave my husband..my A. I had reached the point where enough was enough after so many years of dealing with things. This past year has been especiall...	Michele	7	637	Dec 30, 2005 by confused
	chatroom...again (Preview) Hello all, Only me again, Just wonderd if anyone here knew when the chatroom will be up and running again? Bye for now, but hopefuly not for long! flumpy.	flumpy	5	532	Dec 30, 2005 by flumpy
	Thursday Night Meeting Topics (Preview) Hello family of choice! Just a note to let y'all know tonights meeting will be on the topics of "Spirituality, Religion and Tolerance" as to how they apply in our Al-Anon program and life. There are some excellent readings in our daily readers (One Day At A Time, Courage to Change, Hope fo...	kismetstrand	4	637	Dec 30, 2005 by bubbles1990
	Is this normal? (Preview) I am hitting the going on 2 month mark after breaking up with my ex and am starting to think about all the good things, the last month of out of nowhere craziness, the fact that he was pushing me away the last month - and I am starting to doubt. I am starting to think it wasnt the drugs - it was he just deci...	Cyn	2	574	Dec 29, 2005 by debilyn
	taking it personally (Preview) You know I have finally got it that what my boyfriend wants to do on the holidays involves being fed (preferably by someone else) smoking dope, watching movies and lolling around. That's it. It does not include spending time with me, doing chores, planning for new years, reading, sight seeing...	maresie	9	669	Dec 29, 2005 by maresie
	Cold World (Preview) By way of explanation, I was raised by a family -- neuclear and extended-- of monsters. They are warped and toxic. And, I have assiduousely avoided all contact with them for years. It is always the best strategy to avoid toxic people. Every year at Christmas time I get a card or telephone call f...	ditto	5	586	Dec 29, 2005 by ditto
	CAN'T GET INTO CHAT!!! (Preview) I have been trying to get into chat now for the past couple of days, and I am not able to!!! AAAAARRRGGGGHHHHH!!! I did update the Java, like John suggested. I had success immediately after tha...	lmt123	1	533	Dec 29, 2005 by mamasan
	Checking in (Preview) Hello all. Checking in from the library. This has to be brief because we are on the way to son's doctor's appointment. Holidays are going swimmingly. Thank you for all fo the help. Hope to have computer back soon so I will fill you in more. Will check in on Friday...	Powerless	4	516	Dec 29, 2005 by mamasan
	AGAIN NOT GETTING WITH A NEW LAPTOP (Preview) i AM ON A NEW LAPTOP AND I STILL CAN'T NOT GET INTO THE CHAT ROOM.	nycbt	2	513	Dec 29, 2005 by mamasan
	Sad changes (Preview) Hello to everyone. I truly hope that many of you have been having wonderful holiday celebrations. I haven't had a chance to read this forum for a couple of weeks, but I have noticed many posts from people who, like me, have not been able to enjoy the season. It is a very sad and difficult ti...	phoebemoonpie	4	647	Dec 29, 2005 by mamasan
	Ending the Year 2005 (Preview) Hi Roomies! How amazing that we are approaching the end of another year, or rather the beginning of a new year.... I'm thinking about what happened to some of the plans and goals that I set for myself during this past year that did not come to be. But find myself standing in even more amazement at...	Cilla	0	513	Dec 29, 2005 by Cilla
	My most recent poem I wrote: Drowing in the Water (Preview) Drowning in the Water Turning round and round…this is how my life is day after day with not one sound No happiness long enough to last… and left with nothing to do or say I can’t turn back the clock, and can’t make my monsters go away I am drowning in my w...	Lauren ashley	4	559	Dec 29, 2005 by Flora123
	Thank YOU...you are my family (Preview) I just wanted to say thank you. thank you to all the people who have leant me support, constant love and understanding in this website...even when you dont know me pesonally. i am still going thou an emotional turmoiland feel depressed.... i do need a counsellor to talk to. i wrote a big long e-ma...	Rebecca	4	694	Dec 29, 2005 by kismetstrand
	I can't get to meetings/chatroom (Preview) I know from other postings that others are having problems too. I have tried all the suggestions,rebooting,java updates etc,etc but nothing is working. I haven't managed to get to a meeting in over a week and only got into chat once in the last 9 days. I don't get Alanon meetings here in Turkey,nor do I h...	chris52	2	470	Dec 29, 2005 by danz123
	Holidays are painful (Preview) Hi, I really dislike the holidays. Even though I have someone, we are visiting his realtives far away. I see what a real family is like. I never had this. So I am blessed to be in this kind of family and to be accepted. I thought that when we get back home we can have time for us alone. I did stess this. Bu...	alanon_2002	5	698	Dec 29, 2005 by megan
	Screwed,and fed up...I am done with trying.I give up (Preview) I have sooo many mixed feelings about everything.My life,my mom,my dad,my granparents,my aunts. I just sit and think of all of them,and I get overwhelmed.I cannot determine when I will think of them,it is just random. I have trouble with people telling me what to do.I am not saying I am a stuck up bra...	Lauren ashley	16	786	Dec 29, 2005 by angelinme908
	can't sleep now, more ESH please (Preview) I got a little sleep but was restless, obviously. Got up and read the replies to my post. Thank you so much to those of you who replied, it gives a bit of clarity. So this is what I am wondering, can I call the hospital that just discharged him and speak to the Dr. I spoke to him while he was there, they started t...	confused	5	820	Dec 29, 2005 by notsonew1111
	chatroom again blocked "server messages??"for John (Preview) Hello John, Hmmm Seems to be a hit and miss deal. Only pattern i see is that I can get into chatroom for morning meeting, then mysterious page, "server messages " appears and no chatroom. new: sometimes a big coffee cup appears first with java on it, then i know I will get mysterious pag...	toto12	1	650	Dec 29, 2005 by leo
	December 31st (Preview) Now that the year is at its end, I'll take a few minutes to comtemplate the progress I have made and to thank my HP for my growth. What did I do to contribute to my success this year? Perhaps it was as simple and as profound as daring to come to my first meeting or to keep coming even when it was difficult. How...	gardengal	2	592	Dec 29, 2005 by Robinks
	ESH needed ASAP (Preview) I am drowning here. My husband stopped by to talk, even though I told him that I was exhausted. He told me that he just does not think he can do it without the boys and I. I have not asked that, just that he not be in the house. He said that when he went through his first divorce he contemplated suicide, knew how...	confused	9	906	Dec 29, 2005 by maresie
	Letting go of the old (Preview) Hi Everyone! It's been a long time since I last posted here because I made a home for myself over on the ACOA board! It takes time to get to know people on these boards, and now I feel I do know several people there because of the sharing over these past few months. It feels strange for me...	seachange	4	611	Dec 29, 2005 by seachange
	~* One Step ~a poem~ (Preview) not many things in this world that i know like what fortunes await me or what the future may hold, but was told it is alright because it's the present i only need in which to succeed i don't need to see all my tomorrows i can only take one step at a time even if i run this pace will be just fine all i nee...	ae``	2	552	Dec 29, 2005 by seachange
	checking in (Preview) Hi everyone!! I hope that everyones hollidays were good!! I see alot of new names here on the board and want to say hello to all of the newcommers and welcome. It has been quite some time since I have posted or even looked at the board and yes I have reverted into old patterns. I would...	jj	4	578	Dec 29, 2005 by Mark S
	Need some ESH and to vent (Preview) Hi everyone, My A has been home from rehab for exactly one week. He went in a week after he physically attacked me and wouldn't give me our 7 month old when I was getting the heck out of there, so I called the police. Although I didn't ask to arrest him or press charges, he was a drunken...	Magpie	4	729	Dec 29, 2005 by Robinks
	new, scared and desperately needing advice (Preview) I have just recently discovered that my husband is an alcoholic. It is something that I have always worried about because it runs rampant in his family. Over the years there have been little clues. He's never been able to admit when he's had too much to drink, even in situati...	ab23	8	705	Dec 29, 2005 by Angie
	Going Through A Lot (Preview) My husband has been out of the home for a month now due to violent behavior which resulted in a protective order. I have had a difficult time with this. I know I can't live with the drinking rages, but why am I struggling so? I feel peace, but sadness and lonliness too. It seems l...	meowzmusic	3	620	Dec 29, 2005 by leo
	how will you be on New Years Eve/Day? (Preview) Not looking forward to New Years Eve/Day. A husband will be having his A friend come spend the night. For the most part they'll be in the basement. They're both so excited that its New Years Eve - what are we having for dinner/snacks/drinks? I just want to spend that night here on the computer and early...	Barbara	6	585	Dec 28, 2005 by angelinme908
	Sponsorship (Preview) This was a topic @ a meeting earlier this week. It was said that this message board was a good place to go to find a sponsor. I have a sponsor @ my f2f meetings, she is great, but I feel I need someone more similar to me. Her A is deceased. Mine is still alive. Living with an active alcoholic in den...	horselover58	2	584	Dec 28, 2005 by horselover58
	Left feeling sad and depressed (Preview) I posted last week about my husband wanting to remain a big part of my life even though we are seperated and at first I thought this might work. When my husband first proposed this to me we were talking about divorce and he even said that if I wanted to find myself a boyfriend that it would be ok...	JulieLynn	3	633	Dec 28, 2005 by Jennifer
	my christmas (Preview) hi everyone hope you had a wonderful christmas. amanda always goes to her dad on christmas eve & i am always shopping to stay busy wraping gifts she usally comes home late christmas eve, but i was letting her sleep over so she could be there when her brother opened his presents. but i wanted her to com...	chrissy	7	587	Dec 28, 2005 by chrissy
	being true to me (Preview) Hope for Today - December 28 One of the most beneficial things I have learned from my Al-Anon experience is to be consistent in my thoughts, words, and actions. In my alcoholic home, I learned to mask uncomfortable situations with words and actions I thought would promote harm...	rosie light shines	4	648	Dec 28, 2005 by rosie light shines
	the chat room??????? (Preview) HI EVERYONE/ANYONE, DOES ANYONE KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON WITH THE CHAT ROOM? CAN'T GET IN AT ALL??? ANY ADVICE OR HELP?? FLUMPY	flumpy	3	572	Dec 28, 2005 by Picowitch
	A light bulb moment for me at my meeting today... (Preview) It's amazing what I can take away from a step for a step that's so far ahead of where I am. We were reading P2R as is our norm for our Wed Step Meeting, first 1/2 of Step 9. And I don't remember exactly what was shared and how I got to the realization but something hit me. Someo...	bobump	2	564	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	Codependent & Mom (Preview) So my mother tells me, not to be co-dependent anymore and I start going through changes... now she is acting very snippy & short with me. It is ridiculous, our family is so screwed up. She tells me she is not even compassionate to herself. On Christmas Eve I told her she hu...	kitty	5	747	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	help John again "server messages" (Preview) oh grrrr again it's doing it The mysterious "server messages" page and it doesn't open the chatroom. Help again, John/Oz, it's Weds. 9:00p.m. my time (Germany) toto	toto12	2	969	Dec 28, 2005 by just me
	how do they think of these things? (Preview) My husband has tried every possible manipution to stay at our house. From suicide threats, to divorce, to you don't care about me, to why are you making me do this, to flushing the joint that was hidden in our cellar,to I'll call a real estate agent and sell the house, the latest.... Mr. Nice Guy. I have no...	confused	2	629	Dec 28, 2005 by megan
	irresponsible (Preview) Hi all, I wanted to say I am sorry for not fullfilling my responsibility in regards to my op status. I have not been here as much as I should be, due to family probs. But I have not done the right thing by letting everyone know I would not be available for meetings and finding someone to replace me for the me...	recoverkhristy	2	580	Dec 28, 2005 by megan
	Irrational Fears need some ES&H (Preview) Hi - I need some support, I am getting weird about these neighbors. I looked again and read the deed restrictions, it says no building can extend beyond the building setback lines drawn on the platt. There are no building setback lines on the platt, I have looked and looked and looked at it, p...	Robinks	6	1605	Dec 28, 2005 by Robinks
	Serenity Prayer LONG Version (Preview) ~ The Serenity Prayer ~ GOD,grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change ~ COURAGE to change the things I can~ and the WISDOM to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace. Taking this sinful world as it IS, not as I w...	lildee	3	5027	Dec 28, 2005 by tea2
	another day (Preview) Happy Holidays all~ I made it through my visit with my cousin and his family. I still have a lot of feelings about it and him but it is over now. I am glad I went and saw some of my cousins. I am having a lot of trouble being me right now. I so badly want to run and hide from me... I have even tried doing tha...	sandie123	2	518	Dec 28, 2005 by tea2
	Finally letting go???? (Preview) I hit a wall today that I am trying to decide to break through it or not. I know that once I break it - its finally gone - 8 years of being in love with one person will be gone. The only way I can make my head feel better is to write - its therapy for me. The new year is coming on Sunday and so...	Cyn	3	618	Dec 28, 2005 by bobump
	My God Box (Preview) Hello all, My Christmas was nice, the usual with my son, it was great to see him so happy. Today I received a surprise gift, it was left on my back doorstep -maybe there for a few days. It happened to be a gift from a dear Al-Anon friend. Now being older it's not about the gifts for me but this is the only...	tea2	5	771	Dec 28, 2005 by bobump
	Looking at my life..... (Preview) When i was younger all i ever wanted when i grew up was a "normal" family life! i grew up with my mother and my grandmother and had a very safe happy upbringing. i remember reading enid blytons books and dreaming about all the imaginary lives in those fairytales.. the mom and dad, 2 kids and family dog...	Rebecca	5	599	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	boundaries (Preview) well here is my latest success although i feel kind of lousy. a came over to talk for a little bit. i asked what he was planning on doing and he didnt really have an answer. that hurt to see that he has still not hit his bottom. he told me his counsellor really believed that a wanted sobriety and was able to sti...	notsonew1111	5	641	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	boundaries with family (Preview) My family is mostly gone now, and my husband and I have no children. The family we really have left is my sister, who is one of my qualifiers. After many, many years I have finally accepted that the relationship she and i have is going to be the one we have forever, as sad as that makes me. For most of my life I f...	mebjk	2	615	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	totally exhausted (Preview) I'm new here, I went to the 12 step forum and read step one, I get that I am powerless over my A's drinking but why am I powerless over the effect it has on me? If I could change how the things he does and says while drinking effects me then maybe my life wouldn't feell like it's spinning out of control.&...	Alone	6	607	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	it did not go so well (Preview) It is amazing how an alcoholic cannot understand that everything they are saying is working against the purpose for which they are saying it. The discahrge came through yesterday. I went ahead with lunch plans with a fried before going to pick up my husband. He had been indesicisive about when he woul...	confused	3	722	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	Wait 6 months!?! (Preview) I was reading over posts and noted that someone was told it is better to not make any changes in the first 6 months of being in Alanon. I heartily agree but find that I have no choice in the matter of changes in my own life. I wish that 6 months of recovery could have passed before these changes b...	angelinme908	6	622	Dec 28, 2005 by angelinme908
	Another alcoholic Christmas at my house (Preview) What a surprise; my husband was drinking himself stupid again over the Christmas weekend. At least there was no fighting or screaming. On Saturday night we went to a Christmas party. He can't just drink a little, have some good conversation, etc. He has to drink until he's obnoxious and he started pic...	Lindy	5	705	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	long share on "climbing the mountain" (Preview) *TUESDAY , DECEMBER 27, 2005 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>.* Near the Top** I know you're tired. I know you feel overwhelmed. You may feel as though this crisis, this problem, this hard time will last forever.It won...	rosie light shines	1	999	Dec 28, 2005 by leo
	John, interested to know about the cards?? (Preview) I am interested in how the men in the treatment center reacted to recieving the cards?...........Thank you ,,,,,,,,,,,,gardengal	gardengal	0	584	Dec 28, 2005 by gardengal
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