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alanon_2002 · alanon_2002

Hi, I really dislike the holidays. Even though I have someone, we are visiting his realtives far away. I see what a real family is like. I never had this. So I am blessed to be in this kind of family and to be accepted. I thought that when we get back home we can have time for us alone. I did stess this. Bu...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I have sooo many mixed feelings about everything.My life,my mom,my dad,my granparents,my aunts. I just sit and think of all of them,and I get overwhelmed.I cannot determine when I will think of them,it is just random. I have trouble with people telling me what to do.I am not saying I am a stuck up bra...

confused · confused

I got a little sleep but was restless, obviously. Got up and read the replies to my post. Thank you so much to those of you who replied, it gives a bit of clarity. So this is what I am wondering, can I call the hospital that just discharged him and speak to the Dr. I spoke to him while he was there, they started t...

toto12 · toto12

Hello John, Hmmm Seems to be a hit and miss deal. Only pattern i see is that I can get into chatroom for morning meeting, then mysterious page, "server messages " appears and no chatroom. new: sometimes a big coffee cup appears first with java on it, then i know I will get mysterious pag...

gardengal · gardengal

Now that the year is at its end, I'll take a few minutes to comtemplate the progress I have made and to thank my HP for my growth. What did I do to contribute to my success this year? Perhaps it was as simple and as profound as daring to come to my first meeting or to keep coming even when it was difficult. How...

confused · confused

I am drowning here. My husband stopped by to talk, even though I told him that I was exhausted. He told me that he just does not think he can do it without the boys and I. I have not asked that, just that he not be in the house. He said that when he went through his first divorce he contemplated suicide, knew how...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! It's been a long time since I last posted here because I made a home for myself over on the ACOA board! It takes time to get to know people on these boards, and now I feel I do know several people there because of the sharing over these past few months. It feels strange for me...

ae`` · ae``

not many things in this world that i know like what fortunes await me or what the future may hold, but was told it is alright because it's the present i only need in which to succeed i don't need to see all my tomorrows i can only take one step at a time even if i run this pace will be just fine all i nee...

jj · jj

Hi everyone!! I hope that everyones hollidays were good!! I see alot of new names here on the board and want to say hello to all of the newcommers and welcome. It has been quite some time since I have posted or even looked at the board and yes I have reverted into old patterns. I would...

Magpie · Magpie

Hi everyone, My A has been home from rehab for exactly one week. He went in a week after he physically attacked me and wouldn't give me our 7 month old when I was getting the heck out of there, so I called the police. Although I didn't ask to arrest him or press charges, he was a drunken...

ab23 · ab23

I have just recently discovered that my husband is an alcoholic. It is something that I have always worried about because it runs rampant in his family. Over the years there have been little clues. He's never been able to admit when he's had too much to drink, even in situati...

meowzmusic · meowzmusic

My husband has been out of the home for a month now due to violent behavior which resulted in a protective order. I have had a difficult time with this. I know I can't live with the drinking rages, but why am I struggling so? I feel peace, but sadness and lonliness too. It seems l...

Barbara · Barbara

Not looking forward to New Years Eve/Day. A husband will be having his A friend come spend the night. For the most part they'll be in the basement. They're both so excited that its New Years Eve - what are we having for dinner/snacks/drinks? I just want to spend that night here on the computer and early...

horselover58 · horselover58

This was a topic @ a meeting earlier this week. It was said that this message board was a good place to go to find a sponsor. I have a sponsor @ my f2f meetings, she is great, but I feel I need someone more similar to me. Her A is deceased. Mine is still alive. Living with an active alcoholic in den...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I posted last week about my husband wanting to remain a big part of my life even though we are seperated and at first I thought this might work. When my husband first proposed this to me we were talking about divorce and he even said that if I wanted to find myself a boyfriend that it would be ok...

chrissy · chrissy

hi everyone hope you had a wonderful christmas. amanda always goes to her dad on christmas eve & i am always shopping to stay busy wraping gifts she usally comes home late christmas eve, but i was letting her sleep over so she could be there when her brother opened his presents. but i wanted her to com...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - December 28 One of the most beneficial things I have learned from my Al-Anon experience is to be consistent in my thoughts, words, and actions. In my alcoholic home, I learned to mask uncomfortable situations with words and actions I thought would promote harm...

flumpy · flumpy

HI EVERYONE/ANYONE, DOES ANYONE KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON WITH THE CHAT ROOM? CAN'T GET IN AT ALL??? ANY ADVICE OR HELP?? FLUMPY

bobump · bobump

It's amazing what I can take away from a step for a step that's so far ahead of where I am. We were reading P2R as is our norm for our Wed Step Meeting, first 1/2 of Step 9. And I don't remember exactly what was shared and how I got to the realization but something hit me. Someo...

kitty · kitty

So my mother tells me, not to be co-dependent anymore and I start going through changes... now she is acting very snippy & short with me. It is ridiculous, our family is so screwed up. She tells me she is not even compassionate to herself. On Christmas Eve I told her she hu...

toto12 · toto12

oh grrrr again it's doing it The mysterious "server messages" page and it doesn't open the chatroom. Help again, John/Oz, it's Weds. 9:00p.m. my time (Germany) toto

confused · confused

My husband has tried every possible manipution to stay at our house. From suicide threats, to divorce, to you don't care about me, to why are you making me do this, to flushing the joint that was hidden in our cellar,to I'll call a real estate agent and sell the house, the latest.... Mr. Nice Guy. I have no...

recoverkhristy · recoverkhristy

Hi all, I wanted to say I am sorry for not fullfilling my responsibility in regards to my op status. I have not been here as much as I should be, due to family probs. But I have not done the right thing by letting everyone know I would not be available for meetings and finding someone to replace me for the me...

Robinks · Robinks

Hi - I need some support, I am getting weird about these neighbors. I looked again and read the deed restrictions, it says no building can extend beyond the building setback lines drawn on the platt. There are no building setback lines on the platt, I have looked and looked and looked at it, p...

lildee · lildee

~ The Serenity Prayer ~ GOD,grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change ~ COURAGE to change the things I can~ and the WISDOM to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace. Taking this sinful world as it IS, not as I w...

sandie123 · sandie123

Happy Holidays all~ I made it through my visit with my cousin and his family. I still have a lot of feelings about it and him but it is over now. I am glad I went and saw some of my cousins. I am having a lot of trouble being me right now. I so badly want to run and hide from me... I have even tried doing tha...

Cyn · Cyn

I hit a wall today that I am trying to decide to break through it or not. I know that once I break it - its finally gone - 8 years of being in love with one person will be gone. The only way I can make my head feel better is to write - its therapy for me. The new year is coming on Sunday and so...

tea2 · tea2

Hello all, My Christmas was nice, the usual with my son, it was great to see him so happy. Today I received a surprise gift, it was left on my back doorstep -maybe there for a few days. It happened to be a gift from a dear Al-Anon friend. Now being older it's not about the gifts for me but this is the only...

Rebecca · Rebecca

When i was younger all i ever wanted when i grew up was a "normal" family life! i grew up with my mother and my grandmother and had a very safe happy upbringing. i remember reading enid blytons books and dreaming about all the imaginary lives in those fairytales.. the mom and dad, 2 kids and family dog...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well here is my latest success although i feel kind of lousy. a came over to talk for a little bit. i asked what he was planning on doing and he didnt really have an answer. that hurt to see that he has still not hit his bottom. he told me his counsellor really believed that a wanted sobriety and was able to sti...

mebjk · mebjk

My family is mostly gone now, and my husband and I have no children. The family we really have left is my sister, who is one of my qualifiers. After many, many years I have finally accepted that the relationship she and i have is going to be the one we have forever, as sad as that makes me. For most of my life I f...

Alone · Alone

I'm new here, I went to the 12 step forum and read step one, I get that I am powerless over my A's drinking but why am I powerless over the effect it has on me? If I could change how the things he does and says while drinking effects me then maybe my life wouldn't feell like it's spinning out of control.&...

confused · confused

It is amazing how an alcoholic cannot understand that everything they are saying is working against the purpose for which they are saying it. The discahrge came through yesterday. I went ahead with lunch plans with a fried before going to pick up my husband. He had been indesicisive about when he woul...

angelinme908 · angelinme908

I was reading over posts and noted that someone was told it is better to not make any changes in the first 6 months of being in Alanon. I heartily agree but find that I have no choice in the matter of changes in my own life. I wish that 6 months of recovery could have passed before these changes b...

Lindy · Lindy

What a surprise; my husband was drinking himself stupid again over the Christmas weekend. At least there was no fighting or screaming. On Saturday night we went to a Christmas party. He can't just drink a little, have some good conversation, etc. He has to drink until he's obnoxious and he started pic...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

TUESDAY , DECEMBER 27, 2005 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>. Near the Top I know you're tired. I know you feel overwhelmed. You may feel as though this crisis, this problem, this hard time will last forever.It won...

gardengal · gardengal

I am interested in how the men in the treatment center reacted to recieving the cards?...........Thank you ,,,,,,,,,,,,gardengal

Joycie · Joycie

well first of all my parents are both A's and divorced, this year I was with my mama for christmas, and this year, my dad didn't even call me, on christmas eve or christmas day. I am so totally hurt by that, I mean maybe he just forgot or maybe he took a turn for the worst I dont know what do... I dont know anythi...

nycbt · nycbt

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Robinks · Robinks

Hi I didn't share this in the meeting but I have another resentment. My step son's showed up yesterday with no gifts. They are 22 and 24 years old and have jobs and money and perfectly capable of bringing gifts. This year I bugged my husband until he bought and wrapped one gift for them. I won't do that next...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I sincerely hope that everyone was able to find some peace during the stress of Christmas. Now that the new year is fast approaching (where did the last one go?) so many of us make annual resolutions. I while trying to find a topic to chair on for my f2f tonight had a thought I wanted to shar...

beans · beans

So my A says he has stopped drinking (like where and when have I heard THAT before?!) And he expects everything to be just hunky-dory between us. I know from past experience that things will be okay, peaceful for a bit and then just as I start to relax--BAM--he'll be back drinking and all he...

Cyn · Cyn

Ok - so I went back to my parents house last night and spent it with my family because I realized how important my niece is to me and that my parents were not going to control that relationship either by making my night miserable. It was an empowering feeling to know I could have gone home and just enj...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today was just messed up. last night (well this morning) 2am or so a decided to stop buy while totally strung out on coke. he just wanted to use the phone. i was amazingly calm. i said you are on coke and he said yes. he said i just need the phone. so he used the phone to call balance on credit card, wanted more c...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well my mom called and is not coming over tonight. said she wont get back into town till later. im sad about this. i thought id at least get to see someone today. she says she'll come over tomorrow. but i was really looking forward to seeing her. but now its another night of staying up all night then when i ca...

hopeful · hopeful

I have an endless list of thing s i am grateful for. Firstly Iam gratefuul for my higher power for loving me unconditionally even when my life seemed doomed. I am grateful for this fellowshop for its many gifts it has brought my way such as the serenity prayer which seems very handy whenever fears...

sandie123 · sandie123

I am not sure why I am so stubborned? My Christmas went surprisingly well but today I am going to possibly mess that up. I am going to my aunt’s house and my cousin, who abused me for many years, will be there. I want to go to see some of my cousins however I know from my child within there is a lot of fear abo...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

A.A. Thought for the Day I need the A.A. principles for the development of the buried life within me, that good life, which I had misplaced, but which I found again in this fellowship. This life within me is developing slowly but surely, with many setbacks, many mistakes, many failures, but still...

confused · confused

Not doing so great right now and I cannot get in to the chat. My husband will probaby be discharged today. He asked if I would pick him up. I had told myself that if he was not going into treatment, I would not do this. I did not tell him that in advance and now don't know what to do. He is not coming home, except t...

WorriedOne · WorriedOne

I was dating my A for almost 2 years. It took me probably 8 months or more to begin to even allow myself to think that he had a problem. I guess I was in total denial...he seemed to be the perfect guy for me at first and I fell fast and hard....I'm in my 30s, so falling for someone like that doesn't...

Rebecca · Rebecca

where do i start..... ..... trying to get throu this xmas was the worst ever! trying to pretend i was happy and carefree when my mind was going round in circles. all i kept thinking was how different last xmas was. ..when my then boyf. arrived on xmas night at 8 after telling me he was staying at...

Cyn · Cyn

I am bawling in my office on Christmas Day because I am realizing how incredibly emotionally screwed up my entire life has been. I am only recently realizing I have been emotionally abused my entire life - and my heart hurts so much. I know I am strong enough to be ok with myself - getting str...

sunny1 · sunny1

Hi all wow when you have no expectations it is amazing what can happen. The past few days have been really great for me and my children. Im blessed to be an active member of Alanon. with the tools that I have been learning, they have helped me to achieve the peace that I was looking fo...

Jennifer · Jennifer

My A came home after my long weekend I wanted alone and I can honestly say I was not as happy to see him as I thought I would be, I am not unhappy he is here ... just a strange numbness. It's a new feeling. I am praying to my HP to keep me standing and to give me the strength needed to let myself and him live in peace....

leo · leo

Hi hope you guys can help I need some direction. Because I don't have al-anon here I am winging it a bit sometimes. I do still see the d/a counsellor for me once a month and I have a lady now writing to me from al-anon in another state but need help with the day to day things. My A hus...

Robinks · Robinks

Sorry I missed your leaving. Send me a private message and I will give you my email address so we can stay in touch. Take Care

megan · megan

For 14 years I celebrated Christmas the same way. My husband and I would share our gifts, I would prepare a turkey dinner and bake cookies and we shared the day together, isolated from our family and friends. And by 4pm Christmas day my alcoholic husband would be passed out drunk...

Cyn · Cyn

Now that I have been involved with Alanon for the past month - my eyes are opening up SOOOO widely its amazing. I am sitting at my parents house for Christmas - been here since yesterday making cookies for my coworkers (they have an enormous kitchen) and watching the interaction between my fight...

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

chat room wont let me in,just getting a blank page,i dont know whats going on.

confused · confused

Christmas day was not as bad as I had thougth it would be. We got up and went to sunrise service and then came home and opened some gifts. My sister in law made a special trip to come up to give me a gift even though I would be seeing her later and we do secret santa with my in-laws, she had bought the gift just to b...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Holidays are painful (Preview) Hi, I really dislike the holidays. Even though I have someone, we are visiting his realtives far away. I see what a real family is like. I never had this. So I am blessed to be in this kind of family and to be accepted. I thought that when we get back home we can have time for us alone. I did stess this. Bu...	alanon_2002	5	594	Dec 29, 2005 by megan
	Screwed,and fed up...I am done with trying.I give up (Preview) I have sooo many mixed feelings about everything.My life,my mom,my dad,my granparents,my aunts. I just sit and think of all of them,and I get overwhelmed.I cannot determine when I will think of them,it is just random. I have trouble with people telling me what to do.I am not saying I am a stuck up bra...	Lauren ashley	16	698	Dec 29, 2005 by angelinme908
	can't sleep now, more ESH please (Preview) I got a little sleep but was restless, obviously. Got up and read the replies to my post. Thank you so much to those of you who replied, it gives a bit of clarity. So this is what I am wondering, can I call the hospital that just discharged him and speak to the Dr. I spoke to him while he was there, they started t...	confused	5	713	Dec 29, 2005 by notsonew1111
	chatroom again blocked "server messages??"for John (Preview) Hello John, Hmmm Seems to be a hit and miss deal. Only pattern i see is that I can get into chatroom for morning meeting, then mysterious page, "server messages " appears and no chatroom. new: sometimes a big coffee cup appears first with java on it, then i know I will get mysterious pag...	toto12	1	494	Dec 29, 2005 by leo
	December 31st (Preview) Now that the year is at its end, I'll take a few minutes to comtemplate the progress I have made and to thank my HP for my growth. What did I do to contribute to my success this year? Perhaps it was as simple and as profound as daring to come to my first meeting or to keep coming even when it was difficult. How...	gardengal	2	475	Dec 29, 2005 by Robinks
	ESH needed ASAP (Preview) I am drowning here. My husband stopped by to talk, even though I told him that I was exhausted. He told me that he just does not think he can do it without the boys and I. I have not asked that, just that he not be in the house. He said that when he went through his first divorce he contemplated suicide, knew how...	confused	9	803	Dec 29, 2005 by maresie
	Letting go of the old (Preview) Hi Everyone! It's been a long time since I last posted here because I made a home for myself over on the ACOA board! It takes time to get to know people on these boards, and now I feel I do know several people there because of the sharing over these past few months. It feels strange for me...	seachange	4	512	Dec 29, 2005 by seachange
	~* One Step ~a poem~ (Preview) not many things in this world that i know like what fortunes await me or what the future may hold, but was told it is alright because it's the present i only need in which to succeed i don't need to see all my tomorrows i can only take one step at a time even if i run this pace will be just fine all i nee...	ae``	2	449	Dec 29, 2005 by seachange
	checking in (Preview) Hi everyone!! I hope that everyones hollidays were good!! I see alot of new names here on the board and want to say hello to all of the newcommers and welcome. It has been quite some time since I have posted or even looked at the board and yes I have reverted into old patterns. I would...	jj	4	480	Dec 29, 2005 by Mark S
	Need some ESH and to vent (Preview) Hi everyone, My A has been home from rehab for exactly one week. He went in a week after he physically attacked me and wouldn't give me our 7 month old when I was getting the heck out of there, so I called the police. Although I didn't ask to arrest him or press charges, he was a drunken...	Magpie	4	622	Dec 29, 2005 by Robinks
	new, scared and desperately needing advice (Preview) I have just recently discovered that my husband is an alcoholic. It is something that I have always worried about because it runs rampant in his family. Over the years there have been little clues. He's never been able to admit when he's had too much to drink, even in situati...	ab23	8	610	Dec 29, 2005 by Angie
	Going Through A Lot (Preview) My husband has been out of the home for a month now due to violent behavior which resulted in a protective order. I have had a difficult time with this. I know I can't live with the drinking rages, but why am I struggling so? I feel peace, but sadness and lonliness too. It seems l...	meowzmusic	3	514	Dec 29, 2005 by leo
	how will you be on New Years Eve/Day? (Preview) Not looking forward to New Years Eve/Day. A husband will be having his A friend come spend the night. For the most part they'll be in the basement. They're both so excited that its New Years Eve - what are we having for dinner/snacks/drinks? I just want to spend that night here on the computer and early...	Barbara	6	480	Dec 28, 2005 by angelinme908
	Sponsorship (Preview) This was a topic @ a meeting earlier this week. It was said that this message board was a good place to go to find a sponsor. I have a sponsor @ my f2f meetings, she is great, but I feel I need someone more similar to me. Her A is deceased. Mine is still alive. Living with an active alcoholic in den...	horselover58	2	439	Dec 28, 2005 by horselover58
	Left feeling sad and depressed (Preview) I posted last week about my husband wanting to remain a big part of my life even though we are seperated and at first I thought this might work. When my husband first proposed this to me we were talking about divorce and he even said that if I wanted to find myself a boyfriend that it would be ok...	JulieLynn	3	542	Dec 28, 2005 by Jennifer
	my christmas (Preview) hi everyone hope you had a wonderful christmas. amanda always goes to her dad on christmas eve & i am always shopping to stay busy wraping gifts she usally comes home late christmas eve, but i was letting her sleep over so she could be there when her brother opened his presents. but i wanted her to com...	chrissy	7	482	Dec 28, 2005 by chrissy
	being true to me (Preview) Hope for Today - December 28 One of the most beneficial things I have learned from my Al-Anon experience is to be consistent in my thoughts, words, and actions. In my alcoholic home, I learned to mask uncomfortable situations with words and actions I thought would promote harm...	rosie light shines	4	553	Dec 28, 2005 by rosie light shines
	the chat room??????? (Preview) HI EVERYONE/ANYONE, DOES ANYONE KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON WITH THE CHAT ROOM? CAN'T GET IN AT ALL??? ANY ADVICE OR HELP?? FLUMPY	flumpy	3	476	Dec 28, 2005 by Picowitch
	A light bulb moment for me at my meeting today... (Preview) It's amazing what I can take away from a step for a step that's so far ahead of where I am. We were reading P2R as is our norm for our Wed Step Meeting, first 1/2 of Step 9. And I don't remember exactly what was shared and how I got to the realization but something hit me. Someo...	bobump	2	480	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	Codependent & Mom (Preview) So my mother tells me, not to be co-dependent anymore and I start going through changes... now she is acting very snippy & short with me. It is ridiculous, our family is so screwed up. She tells me she is not even compassionate to herself. On Christmas Eve I told her she hu...	kitty	5	615	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	help John again "server messages" (Preview) oh grrrr again it's doing it The mysterious "server messages" page and it doesn't open the chatroom. Help again, John/Oz, it's Weds. 9:00p.m. my time (Germany) toto	toto12	2	742	Dec 28, 2005 by just me
	how do they think of these things? (Preview) My husband has tried every possible manipution to stay at our house. From suicide threats, to divorce, to you don't care about me, to why are you making me do this, to flushing the joint that was hidden in our cellar,to I'll call a real estate agent and sell the house, the latest.... Mr. Nice Guy. I have no...	confused	2	530	Dec 28, 2005 by megan
	irresponsible (Preview) Hi all, I wanted to say I am sorry for not fullfilling my responsibility in regards to my op status. I have not been here as much as I should be, due to family probs. But I have not done the right thing by letting everyone know I would not be available for meetings and finding someone to replace me for the me...	recoverkhristy	2	460	Dec 28, 2005 by megan
	Irrational Fears need some ES&H (Preview) Hi - I need some support, I am getting weird about these neighbors. I looked again and read the deed restrictions, it says no building can extend beyond the building setback lines drawn on the platt. There are no building setback lines on the platt, I have looked and looked and looked at it, p...	Robinks	6	1399	Dec 28, 2005 by Robinks
	Serenity Prayer LONG Version (Preview) ~ The Serenity Prayer ~ GOD,grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change ~ COURAGE to change the things I can~ and the WISDOM to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace. Taking this sinful world as it IS, not as I w...	lildee	3	4607	Dec 28, 2005 by tea2
	another day (Preview) Happy Holidays all~ I made it through my visit with my cousin and his family. I still have a lot of feelings about it and him but it is over now. I am glad I went and saw some of my cousins. I am having a lot of trouble being me right now. I so badly want to run and hide from me... I have even tried doing tha...	sandie123	2	428	Dec 28, 2005 by tea2
	Finally letting go???? (Preview) I hit a wall today that I am trying to decide to break through it or not. I know that once I break it - its finally gone - 8 years of being in love with one person will be gone. The only way I can make my head feel better is to write - its therapy for me. The new year is coming on Sunday and so...	Cyn	3	512	Dec 28, 2005 by bobump
	My God Box (Preview) Hello all, My Christmas was nice, the usual with my son, it was great to see him so happy. Today I received a surprise gift, it was left on my back doorstep -maybe there for a few days. It happened to be a gift from a dear Al-Anon friend. Now being older it's not about the gifts for me but this is the only...	tea2	5	677	Dec 28, 2005 by bobump
	Looking at my life..... (Preview) When i was younger all i ever wanted when i grew up was a "normal" family life! i grew up with my mother and my grandmother and had a very safe happy upbringing. i remember reading enid blytons books and dreaming about all the imaginary lives in those fairytales.. the mom and dad, 2 kids and family dog...	Rebecca	5	505	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	boundaries (Preview) well here is my latest success although i feel kind of lousy. a came over to talk for a little bit. i asked what he was planning on doing and he didnt really have an answer. that hurt to see that he has still not hit his bottom. he told me his counsellor really believed that a wanted sobriety and was able to sti...	notsonew1111	5	514	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	boundaries with family (Preview) My family is mostly gone now, and my husband and I have no children. The family we really have left is my sister, who is one of my qualifiers. After many, many years I have finally accepted that the relationship she and i have is going to be the one we have forever, as sad as that makes me. For most of my life I f...	mebjk	2	504	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	totally exhausted (Preview) I'm new here, I went to the 12 step forum and read step one, I get that I am powerless over my A's drinking but why am I powerless over the effect it has on me? If I could change how the things he does and says while drinking effects me then maybe my life wouldn't feell like it's spinning out of control.&...	Alone	6	504	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	it did not go so well (Preview) It is amazing how an alcoholic cannot understand that everything they are saying is working against the purpose for which they are saying it. The discahrge came through yesterday. I went ahead with lunch plans with a fried before going to pick up my husband. He had been indesicisive about when he woul...	confused	3	614	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	Wait 6 months!?! (Preview) I was reading over posts and noted that someone was told it is better to not make any changes in the first 6 months of being in Alanon. I heartily agree but find that I have no choice in the matter of changes in my own life. I wish that 6 months of recovery could have passed before these changes b...	angelinme908	6	532	Dec 28, 2005 by angelinme908
	Another alcoholic Christmas at my house (Preview) What a surprise; my husband was drinking himself stupid again over the Christmas weekend. At least there was no fighting or screaming. On Saturday night we went to a Christmas party. He can't just drink a little, have some good conversation, etc. He has to drink until he's obnoxious and he started pic...	Lindy	5	604	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	long share on "climbing the mountain" (Preview) *TUESDAY , DECEMBER 27, 2005 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>.* Near the Top** I know you're tired. I know you feel overwhelmed. You may feel as though this crisis, this problem, this hard time will last forever.It won...	rosie light shines	1	858	Dec 28, 2005 by leo
	John, interested to know about the cards?? (Preview) I am interested in how the men in the treatment center reacted to recieving the cards?...........Thank you ,,,,,,,,,,,,gardengal	gardengal	0	494	Dec 28, 2005 by gardengal
	Sad Sad christmas (Preview) well first of all my parents are both A's and divorced, this year I was with my mama for christmas, and this year, my dad didn't even call me, on christmas eve or christmas day. I am so totally hurt by that, I mean maybe he just forgot or maybe he took a turn for the worst I dont know what do... I dont know anythi...	Joycie	8	814	Dec 28, 2005 by Karilynn
	not working (Preview) java is not working.	nycbt	1	441	Dec 28, 2005 by chris52
	More Resentments (Preview) Hi I didn't share this in the meeting but I have another resentment. My step son's showed up yesterday with no gifts. They are 22 and 24 years old and have jobs and money and perfectly capable of bringing gifts. This year I bugged my husband until he bought and wrapped one gift for them. I won't do that next...	Robinks	10	528	Dec 28, 2005 by Robinks
	Resolutions (Preview) I sincerely hope that everyone was able to find some peace during the stress of Christmas. Now that the new year is fast approaching (where did the last one go?) so many of us make annual resolutions. I while trying to find a topic to chair on for my f2f tonight had a thought I wanted to shar...	AlaMom	3	424	Dec 28, 2005 by Barbara
	How to start over--again? (Preview) So my A says he has stopped drinking (like where and when have I heard THAT before?!) And he expects everything to be just hunky-dory between us. I know from past experience that things will be okay, peaceful for a bit and then just as I start to relax--BAM--he'll be back drinking and all he...	beans	4	498	Dec 28, 2005 by abbyal
	Not sure how I feel about it all (Preview) Ok - so I went back to my parents house last night and spent it with my family because I realized how important my niece is to me and that my parents were not going to control that relationship either by making my night miserable. It was an empowering feeling to know I could have gone home and just enj...	Cyn	4	530	Dec 28, 2005 by mebjk
	what a day (Preview) today was just messed up. last night (well this morning) 2am or so a decided to stop buy while totally strung out on coke. he just wanted to use the phone. i was amazingly calm. i said you are on coke and he said yes. he said i just need the phone. so he used the phone to call balance on credit card, wanted more c...	notsonew1111	2	470	Dec 27, 2005 by maresie
	i want this day to be over (Preview) well my mom called and is not coming over tonight. said she wont get back into town till later. im sad about this. i thought id at least get to see someone today. she says she'll come over tomorrow. but i was really looking forward to seeing her. but now its another night of staying up all night then when i ca...	notsonew1111	5	946	Dec 27, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Gratitude (Preview) I have an endless list of thing s i am grateful for. Firstly Iam gratefuul for my higher power for loving me unconditionally even when my life seemed doomed. I am grateful for this fellowshop for its many gifts it has brought my way such as the serenity prayer which seems very handy whenever fears...	hopeful	3	518	Dec 27, 2005 by rosie light shines
	heading into dangerous territiory (Preview) I am not sure why I am so stubborned? My Christmas went surprisingly well but today I am going to possibly mess that up. I am going to my aunt’s house and my cousin, who abused me for many years, will be there. I want to go to see some of my cousins however I know from my child within there is a lot of fear abo...	sandie123	4	524	Dec 27, 2005 by rosie light shines
	you BET i am worthy!!!!! (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day I need the A.A. principles for the development of the buried life within me, that good life, which I had misplaced, but which I found again in this fellowship. This life within me is developing slowly but surely, with many setbacks, many mistakes, many failures, but still...	rosie light shines	1	425	Dec 27, 2005 by notsonew1111
	it will always control me (Preview) Not doing so great right now and I cannot get in to the chat. My husband will probaby be discharged today. He asked if I would pick him up. I had told myself that if he was not going into treatment, I would not do this. I did not tell him that in advance and now don't know what to do. He is not coming home, except t...	confused	7	519	Dec 27, 2005 by notsonew1111
	New to loving an A.... (Preview) I was dating my A for almost 2 years. It took me probably 8 months or more to begin to even allow myself to think that he had a problem. I guess I was in total denial...he seemed to be the perfect guy for me at first and I fell fast and hard....I'm in my 30s, so falling for someone like that doesn't...	WorriedOne	8	726	Dec 27, 2005 by lin0606
	This xmas was the worst by far!! (Preview) where do i start..... ..... trying to get throu this xmas was the worst ever! trying to pretend i was happy and carefree when my mind was going round in circles. all i kept thinking was how different last xmas was. ..when my then boyf. arrived on xmas night at 8 after telling me he was staying at...	Rebecca	7	748	Dec 27, 2005 by Joycie
	Never knew how messed up I was (Preview) I am bawling in my office on Christmas Day because I am realizing how incredibly emotionally screwed up my entire life has been. I am only recently realizing I have been emotionally abused my entire life - and my heart hurts so much. I know I am strong enough to be ok with myself - getting str...	Cyn	3	595	Dec 27, 2005 by maresie
	what a christmas (Preview) Hi all wow when you have no expectations it is amazing what can happen. The past few days have been really great for me and my children. Im blessed to be an active member of Alanon. with the tools that I have been learning, they have helped me to achieve the peace that I was looking fo...	sunny1	2	436	Dec 27, 2005 by maresie
	Where I am today (Preview) My A came home after my long weekend I wanted alone and I can honestly say I was not as happy to see him as I thought I would be, I am not unhappy he is here ... just a strange numbness. It's a new feeling. I am praying to my HP to keep me standing and to give me the strength needed to let myself and him live in peace....	Jennifer	1	478	Dec 27, 2005 by maresie
	direction (Preview) Hi hope you guys can help I need some direction. Because I don't have al-anon here I am winging it a bit sometimes. I do still see the d/a counsellor for me once a month and I have a lady now writing to me from al-anon in another state but need help with the day to day things. My A hus...	leo	11	526	Dec 27, 2005 by Jennifer
	Ricksgirl (Preview) Sorry I missed your leaving. Send me a private message and I will give you my email address so we can stay in touch. Take Care	Robinks	0	400	Dec 27, 2005 by Robinks
	Christmas past and present (Preview) For 14 years I celebrated Christmas the same way. My husband and I would share our gifts, I would prepare a turkey dinner and bake cookies and we shared the day together, isolated from our family and friends. And by 4pm Christmas day my alcoholic husband would be passed out drunk...	megan	7	468	Dec 27, 2005 by pixel04
	Realizations during Christmas (Preview) Now that I have been involved with Alanon for the past month - my eyes are opening up SOOOO widely its amazing. I am sitting at my parents house for Christmas - been here since yesterday making cookies for my coworkers (they have an enormous kitchen) and watching the interaction between my fight...	Cyn	3	659	Dec 27, 2005 by pixel04
	help i cant get in chat room (Preview) chat room wont let me in,just getting a blank page,i dont know whats going on.	pattyann1963	1	442	Dec 26, 2005 by notsonew1111
	need to follow through for me (Preview) Christmas day was not as bad as I had thougth it would be. We got up and went to sunrise service and then came home and opened some gifts. My sister in law made a special trip to come up to give me a gift even though I would be seeing her later and we do secret santa with my in-laws, she had bought the gift just to b...	confused	2	469	Dec 26, 2005 by notsonew1111
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