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Commenting on growth
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Tonight on the board the subject came up, after comments on someones growth within this program, that the comments may have been a judgement of a person's growth rather than a pat on the back (which I know was the intent). I was blown away that there could be heat off this. I know there are ot...
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Heavens Grocery Store
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I was walking down life's highway, a long time ago. One day I saw a sign that read "HEAVEN'S GROCERY STORE"
As I got a little loser, the door came open widen and when I came to myself I ws standing inside. I saw a host of ANGELS. They were everywhere. One handed me a basket and said, "My Child, shop wi...
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am i a victim?? or volunteer???
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Hope for Today - January 9 Before Al-Anon I allowed the behaviors of thealcoholics in my life to cause me great unhappiness. While it was true I was suffering, was my pain reallytheir fault? Al-Anon has taught me to take responsibility for my own happiness.Early in my recovery, I called my sponsor b...
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wow!!! i am learning, i am LEARNING!!!!
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MONDAY , JANUARY 09, 2006
You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1098>.
The Chinese say that water is the most powerful element, because it is perfectly nonresistant. It can wear away a rock and sweep all before it. --Florence S...
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Expectations of others.......
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Daily reflections: Expectations of others....
It is our job to identify our needs, and then determine a balanced way of getting those needs met. We ultimately expect our Higher Power and the Universe - not one particular person - to be our source. It is unreasonable to expect anyone t...
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Letting God
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So this morning my roommate and I had a yard sale. I need to earn the money towards a deposit on a new place. I could have been super stressed during the sale but wasn't. Before we started I took time to pray and leave the results in God's hands. Well, today had good results.&nbs...
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my prediction
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well my a somewhat made it one week but i can see his attitude changing quickly. this week he went to two aa meetings and one addictions counsellor meeting and we covered alot. he even speant some extra time with the old timers. yesterday at his moms he took one toke from a joint. i said im ready to go and tol...
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dealing with chaos
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My boyfriend and I have a mail box that is at th end of town (about half a mile from our house). For some reason, I dunno what (and at this moment I don't care what either), the post office does not deliver in our area, and we have to have a mailbox. So one or the other of us goes to get the mail daily. ...
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Confused and trying to learn
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I am having a very hard time with a lot going on in my life right now. My husband finally went into detox almost 2 months ago and I thought some of my insanity would get better. I was so tired of the worry....hiding keys, hiding money, wondering where he was and if he was coming home. The...
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bad news
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I had breakfast with my Dad today. It's ironic yesterday I posted about how wonderfully surprised I was with my Dad and how supportive he has been. I was so thankful. Two years ago he had been diagnosed with prostrate cancer. He had seed implants and has been doing well. Today he tol...
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its OK to be vulnerable
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Vulnerability
Some of us may have made a decision that no one was ever going to hurt us again. We may automatically go on "feelings freeze mode" when faced with emotional pain. Or, we may terminate a relationship the first time we feel hurt. Hurt feelings are a part of life, relationships, and reco...
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A New Year of Hopelessness
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Hi Everyone,
I see a lot of new names so they will not know my story, I think there is a way you can go back and see all the postings. If you have looked back you can see that we bought this mobile home for our daughter. she hasn't been getting her alimony from her Ex so we have been...
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update
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Hello everyone,
I've not posted in quite some time but I'm reading all the posts. I'm grateful to have this board.
Alot of you are familiar with my situation but for those that are not here's a brief review. Alcohol and drugs took my husband away from myself and our 2 todd...
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An Al-Anon lead
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Edit Post | Quote | ReplyAn Al-Anon Lead
Hi Everyone! I've agreed to do an Al-Anon lead for a meeting (F2F) at the end of this month, and it's been several years since I last did one. Does anyone here have any stories (or advice) to tell about leads you have heard, or leads you yourselv...
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cyclone (hurricane)
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Hi everyone there is a cyclone heading down the coast at the moment. We are only on watch but that will change in the next 24 hours. It looks like it is going to miss us but I will be busy packing up etc. Meant to fly out of here on Tuesday but that will be dependent on the cyclone's m...
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leo
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Family visits
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I was so looking forward to my sister and her husband coming for the holidays. They lost their only son last April in a car accident. He was 18 and an A. They sold everything and quit their jobs and have been traveling the country in an RV. Since they arrived at Christmas my sist...
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update
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hi everyone i havent posted in a while cause ive been pretty busy so ill just give you an update. im back to work now and happy to be. my a is attending meetings and im going to my own f2f as well. we are also seeing an addictions counsellor that is helping us set up some plans. so i feel good right now. tomorrow...
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MA AlAnon hotel already sold out!
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well guess that answers that - I wont be going
Cant stay anyplace else as I was thinking of taking my son who wont be attending all of the convention.
Have fun everyone who managed to get a room
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Angry with myself
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Hi everyone,
Hope you all had a good week..I had a pretty good week, just tnite I am angry with myself..this guy I have been seeing had called me last Friday again as I had not been returning his calls and I did talk to him...of course, he had a few under his belt... I made a promise to myself w...
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Losing My Emotional Weight
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I had carried around lots of guilt for a while now. I had the frame of mind that I had abandoned my mom and just left her. I realize now that I had to distance myself from her in order to get my head in the right place to take care of me. Through this program, I am learning my faults, my blemi...
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A Daughter Got Married Today
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One is an alcoholic (although currently does not seem to be drinking.) One is a drug addict (although currently not using.) She just got a job. He is having a hard time finding a job due to his prison record. She is pregnant. Both are living with me until she gets...
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Chat Room Has Been Upgraded!
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Hello Everyone,
The java chat entrance to our Al-Anon group chat/meeting room has been upgraded and appears to be working much better than it has for a while now. We installed a completely different java chat program that is really very good, and provides much easier viewing and font size an...
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Always busy
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Today I am staying in my pajamas!!!!! I may take a shower later on. LOL Work and errands the last month have worn me out and I need the rest and comfort of just being home.
My son, 2nd born, arrived from AZ with his wife and three kids last night, this is the first time I have me...
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can someone help
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Me figure this out?? I`m crazy!! My A husband has been gone for a week..I kicked him out.at first he wanted to come home and I said no.I changed my mind and told him I wanted him back..now he doesn`t wanna come back.He`s coming to get his stuff tomorrow and I`m freaking out...I`m physically ill..I can`t s...
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Words of Wisdom
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These words of wisdom were sent to me by a friend:
a) No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission
b) Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be
c) Others can stop you t...
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sometimes it works
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I make progress and then I take a step backwards. For instance I haven't taken a shower an while which is not good. I haven't left the bed room for the whole day. Been eating sugar which I shouldn't be having it. I do any way. So that has affect all the other stuffs today. I always post the good and bad s...
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Just venting
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It turns out that my A hasn't been as wonderful as I thought. He's been drinking and he came to me last night...drunk. I didn't know what to do. Today he is just acting like nothing happened, but I can't be like that. I just don't know what to do anymore. He has been doing h...
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My Heart is burning... and I'm running away
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The last few days I have been having a lot of feelings.... ones which I cannot get a handle on. And on the way home from my f2f meeting tonight I realized that I really don't want to get my hands on them. I want to run as fast as I can away... away from my house... my family... my support... myself. I am scared to...
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the horror of drugs and alcohol.....
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This was written by a young girl who was in jail for drug charges,
and was addicted to crystal meth. She wrote this while in jail.
As you will soon read, she fully grasped the horrors of the drug, as she tells in
this simple, yet profound poem. She was ...
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elizabeth
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How do I let him know I'm there?
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Ok, here's where I was: My husband is a good man (pd bills, cleaned, helped out, stayed home) but drank, accidently broke things, lost things, & usually fell asleep from drinking leaving me emotionally alone. Never emotional, or physcial abuse, rather emotional neglect....
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I did it again
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Today was a hard day. I found out later in the day I didn't take all my meds right. So when my husband asked me to buy something for him that is going to be alot of money. I started to flip out and all my program went out the window. Then he walk out the door.
Then I went out with my frineds to dinner and talked to...
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Hi John
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I can no longer get into the chat room!! All I get is a white window then it
freezes my computer.
I have Java and as you know, been in the room for years.
I read the responses to your post and several others cannot get in or stay in now too.
???? John we neeeeed you. ( c: love,debilyn
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update
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Hello roomies:
Things are going well. My A entered a 28 facility on January 3rd and remains there. I have only spoken to him once, he has sent letters and I am doing very well. At first I thought it would be hard, but amazingly it isn't. I have been busy, work has been very hectic and e...
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feeling better
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My post last night was crazy...I felt crazy.I`m feeling better tonight,calmer anyway. My A is still makeing me feel insane though..sometimes I wonder if it is all my fault.After my post last night I calmed down and went to bed.First thing in the morning the phone is ringing..its him.Being very nice,...
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its kicked off again...
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for people who aren't familiar with my story then heres a quick summary...
my ex boyf was clean and sober for more than 17 mths when i met him...we began dating...for a total of a yr and a half...then his old scumbag friends came back on the scene and he started drinking and doing drugs...i left him..he...
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heartbroken
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Hi all.
This is my first post using a new screen name. Thought it was best to choose something a little more obscure than what I had been using.
I'm heartbroken....I found a used condom (sorry to be gross) in my car yesterday. I guess I never believed that my A would cross that line. I've been on the fen...
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feeling bad feeling good
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An earlier post topic "feelings" got me to thinking about my approach to Al Anon.
I had an on again off again 3 mo. relationship with Al Anon and have since been off for 6 months. I just couldn't figure out why I was going. You see, my husband was...
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Can't get into chat room
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Started a message here and then found a place that it should be posted so I'm sorry for wasting everyone's time. -- Edited by sugarca at 08:10, 2006-01-07
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On hold until things settle down
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I was afraid, but I told my husband today that we need to put trying to get pregnant on hold.
We began trying about a year ago. I did get pregnant but had a miscarriage. He was sober and had been for 4 and 1/2 years.
But Since the new years incident and the fact that he started d...
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unsure
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My A wants me to take some money out of savings to pay our daycare bill so that he has money to go drink. I don't want to do this, but I do NOT want to fight about it, so I am willing to do it to avoid an argument. I am not sure what to do. I really don't have the energy to fight with him, but I don't want to help him eith...
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About the lying…
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Me again, here again with another huge question but not sure where else to turn. What to do you do when you know your A is lying to you? I guess it doesn't do any good to argue or press them on it but then it doesn't help either if you have to pretend you believe when you don't… it isn't natural.
For the last we...
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Update
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Thank you all so much for the much needed support. Today I got good news. I am going to be able to go to school and still get help from the county! So I won't have to go back to childcare, I will get some office skills under my belt and go in that direction. Thank you HP!!!!!!...
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In Her Name (Chelsea)
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As some of you know a friend of my 15 year old son chose to take her life. She shot herself and lived for about 12 hours.
My son wrote these words and music. I wish you could hear it, it's really beautiful.
Just wanted to share.
IN HER NAME (Chelsea)
Girl, I wish you would have told me about all yo...
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NOone is messin with my recovery
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Hope for Today - January 6 I see more clearly how I have grown in the Al-Anon program as I recall my past behavior and my misunderstanding of the nature of alcoholism. I didnot know or believe that alcoholism is a disease. I truly believed that the alcoholic in my life couldcontrol or stop the drinking...
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AlAnon conference questions
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Can parents attend AlAteen w/their teen? What about that speaker meeting 230-330? My son has never attended and right now isnt showing interest. Im thinking for $10 may as well sign him up just in case he wants to attend. I mean they're having pizza! lol
How many workshops are in that 830am-11pm time...
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I dont deserve this!!
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The past two days - I have been SOOO busy I dont even think I have much time to think about my ex. My new business is underway - but some issues popped up with my self-esteem the last couple of days that is getting me freaked out.
First I get treated like a princess by some guy I dont even rememb...
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Checking in from the library again
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Hey guys. I a, checking in from the library again. Things are okay, or as okay as they can be. Ex wouldn't let me see or speak to my daughter over the holidays. I went up there the MOnday before Christmas because his girlfriend called me and told me they had a fight and she would g...
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Feelings
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I get really sad reading some of the posts on here - about the sadness in peoples lives because of this disease. I start to think that maybe I dont belong here - that my issue was with one person who I have decided to cut out of my life but then remember the craziness of my mother that has affected me my e...
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grief burst, I just need a hug
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HI, I miss all my chat friends, but no way will the window open for me..several things go wrong..don't know how to fix it. I really appreciated your support of me..and caring. Some days are better than others..and today, I just really lost it, cried, been awhile for those bitter stinging tears to reapp...
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emotionally unavailable
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My therapist tells me that I am attracted to men who are emotionally unavailable. Looking at my dating history, I know that is true.
I took a six month break from dating after I broke up an A. I have been working really hard on improving myself and I want to choose heal...
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feeling sad tonight
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last thursday my a called me repeatidly at work then showed up after I quit taking his calls in fear I would get fired.I told him to leave...he did after my boss walked up.after he left my daughter called to let me know that he took off the doorknob on the door and also took the phone cord off the phone.I left...
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setting boundaries or nagging?
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Hi - I'm new to this group. Need some advice. I'm involved with an alcoholic. I've recently started going to Al-Anon and I think it is going to help a lot but I'm rather shy and am not comfortable calling up members of the group to talk to at yet even though there are a few things I'm grap...
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Baker acting husband??
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I have been doing everything in my power to find a way to help my husband. I know he wants help but is feeling isolated. His brother has come to realize how bad his brother (my husband) is. I think I am going to suggest baker acting him. They will hold him for three days and he can go from there. I know I can forc...
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He called in sick again to work
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When will he realize he's an alcoholic? No wonder he cant go on family vacations w/us - he takes all his time off being hungover!
Please tell me how to get through his not going to work cos to me he's a lazy ass
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Barbara
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Happy New Year and a Quick update
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Hello Friends and Happy New Year!
I hope all of you had a nice holiday. I enjoyed my kids and my family as well as my week vacation. My "a" tried to behave himself, but slipped at my mom's Christmas day. He got pretty drunk but thankfully all the other relatives had left and all the ki...
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i have NO guilt at all, takin care of ME
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WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 04, 2006
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>.
Separating from Family Issues
We can draw a healthy line, a healthy boundary, between our nuclear family and ourselves. We can separate ourselves f...
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i want compassion...but don't want to give it back
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My spouse is attempting for help, a few meetings, counseling, yet drinking at the same time. Althought he has considerably cut down. He's admitted he has a problem, but hasn't decided to completely forever give it up.
I'm not perfect, & when I try a diet, or to change...
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Thanks to you all -
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Thank you all so much for being here. My life is a lot better today than it was for years and years, and it is because of the experience, strength, hope, and love I have found in Alanon.
I think I am going in and out of denial. I want to let go of my life, of my obsessions, of my anxiety, but I still think I can...
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Divorce and kids questions
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Last night the topic of divorce came up between me and my kids. My daughter who is 8 is happy she says, as long as I get custody. She and her Dad don't get along very well. But my son, who is five, started crying and was worried that his Dad would be sad without us. It nearly broke me...
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Believing your "A"
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When do you believe your "A". When he's been drinking or when he's sober. And can you even tell? I don't mean things like lyring about taking out the trash or not. But when he tells you that he loves you and things like that. Is "En Vino Veritas" true???
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