Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Lea · Lea

Hello everyone. I am new to this board and just read over some of the postings. You all seem like a pleasant and knowlegable group so I am hoping you will give me some much needed advice. My problem is quite different from the ones I am reading here. It regards a friend, not a family member. My friend is in...

bobump · bobump

I got booted over an hour ago and then couldn't even get to the board. The step board was slow too. This is back but I still can't get into chat. Bob

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hi Group, I feel so ashamed and mad at myself today. Last night I offerred to take my "a" down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needs to get his license back. I offerred because I'm tired of waiting for him to get it together and get this back. It has been 7 years since he has had&nb...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hey all, I read James Frey's book when it first came out so it's been a couple years, and I do not remember as much as I would like to in it. I do remember that I enjoyed his style of writing and the story was good, true or not. I even gave it as a gift to a friend who was going through treatment at the time...

free2bme · free2bme

I've been married to an alcoholic for 20 years now. I left him the 5th year of our marriage with the understanding the only way I would come back was if he stopped drinking (9+ beers ever single night without exception), shortly before the divorce papers were filed he quit & I came back. ...

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Wow, do I need some serious training on how to "detatch with love." I have NO idea. My divorce might be final very soon. My husband often calls me and our daughter, too, while high. He claims he is clean. I don't want to "call him" on it anymore, and I do...

chris52 · chris52

Well it's 23.40 and I haven't been able to get into the chatroom all day.....God knows I have tried!!!! Is it just that it's Friday the 13th???? or is there some other reason when i try to log in I get a message saying I have been blacklisted??? HELP JOHN................Please??

nycbt · nycbt

The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. By May Maloo, writier It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful county lies in between. By Diane Ackerman, writier The greates thing to learn about life is, not to do wh...

nycbt · nycbt

WHERE IS EVERYONE. I HAVE BEEN IN THE CHATROOM FOR OVER A HOUR AND NO ONE BEEN ON????????????????????????

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband gives me a last minute notice that he is going to a late xmas party. I felt bummed in the begin because I couldn't go. Instead of staying upset I set up some stuff for me to do. I went to dinner and then got my nails done. After that I went to the librany and then when the librany closed i wen...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I just got back from a f2f meeting and after the meeting was over they started talking about Dr. Phil which led to Orpah which led to James Frey and that book A Million Little Pieces. Well apparently he lied in the book. I have never read it before, but I remember someone posting about if her cou...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, Sorry to dump this all here ... fact is if I dump it here some good may come of it anywhere else will make a mess. Stinky #1 Made the appointment to put my dog to sleep on Sat, it is best for him and me. I trust HP to take care of everything. I am sad and it is draining my energy. Stinky #2 Dre...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 18 and both of my parents are As. Here are books that I recommend to read that I have found helpful(I haven't read all of them but I have read 3 of them front to back; I have read only a little bit of 9 of them which includes the 3 I read front to back; and 1 I haven't read at a...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I'm sure I don't have the expertise to answer the above question, but I did a google search on this today, after it was the source of a post and many responses today.... Some VERY interesting things are being thrown about - the author is coming under scrutiny for embellishing certain things for '...

elizabeth · elizabeth

When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. Sometimes it will break. At other times, it will simply die off. Then there are those times when for no reason, it will simply fall apart. There will be tiny pieces that are missing, making it impossible to put the thing back together. When a thing no lo...

bobump · bobump

I gotta keep doing this. And I gotta remember what I think Tom said, imagine 'sick, sick, sick' acrossed her forehead. Last night my son asked her to go to his basketball game at 6:15. Her answer is, I'm tired on the weekdays, I'll try to go on the weekends. I saw the look of disappointment. He left I cl...

pixel04 · pixel04

i was on the phone the other night with a good friend of mine. i have had the itch to try teaching as a career, and we were talking about it. i have this itch about three or four times a year, but i have yet to act on it. as usual, i dismissed it. i actually said, out loud, to her: "i couldn't do that. my marriage is...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hi all i feel like i am invisablel!!! i post my pain, my progress and being alone, sometimes this is the ONLY place i can "steal some hugs/comfort" i know my posts are based on the literature and may be kinda boring, but they are medicinal for me.....i have come to the real...

nycbt · nycbt

I am very angry because today I found that my husband was drinnking the little bottles. My every thought is on him. I don't change his mind about going to aa because of the mood I am in. Run away from the situation. My a bring up little matters and making a big deal about it, an me getting defensive. Struggli...

Emafer · Emafer

I'm feeling incredibly restless lately. Especially during the day. I feel like there is so much I want to do and I just can't get myself focused to do it. And then I'm beating myself up for not being more productive. And I woke up feeling so tired. I feel like I've been so tired all the time. Yet, the the thou...

Emafer · Emafer

I just wanted to share how much I LOVE this book. If you guys haven't read or worked with this, I just want to HIGHLY reccomend it. I've started going to a lit. meeting on this book and hearing the testemonies has been incredibly helpful to me lately.

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Good Afternoon Group, A friend came to me this morning and opened up that she was having trouble in her life, with her emotions, her job, and disappointments that she has encountered in her immediate past. I really tried to just listen and not give advice because I always seem to do that with pe...

Kim · Kim

Well, my Dad went to the doctor affiliated with Sloan-Kettering today. A more realistic outlook of this cancer is that due to the recurrence it is not curable. It can be treated with hormone therapy for a while, several years even, however, eventually the cancer will become resistant and grow. Basic...

elizabeth · elizabeth

THE MAN IN THE GLASS When you get what you want in your struggle for self, and the world makes you king for a day, just go to the mirror and look at yourself and see what That Man has to say. For it isn’t your father or mother or wife whose judgment upon you must pass. The fellow wh...

sas · sas

Hello all! I recently read a post about the negativity dominating this board. I am new to the board and have been reading everyday and sometimes responding to posts. I have to agree with the earlier posting in that there does seem to be a lot of sadness on the board.&...

flumpy · flumpy

Hi all, Just though I would drop a line to let you all know that I will no longer be comming here. It has become apparent to me that this place is one of the contributing factors of my depression, hearing all of you talk about your 'A's' with - in some cases compleate disgust, hatered and lothing. I am...

confused · confused

Today I am feeling my mind racing again and I do not seem to be able to stop it. My A is still staying at his dad's house. We speak daily and I see him frequently, he even went to some of the boy's basketball games this past weekend. He is attending his meetings, going to his after care etc. I am trying to stay af...

tea2 · tea2

Happy Birthday to our dear al-anon friend Bobump

Lots and Lots of Well Wishes

mollyann · mollyann

I am struggling with the idea of believing in a HP. I read posts where people turn things over to HP, HP speaks to them, etc. I have been working on finding a spiritual path. I pray, but it mostly feels like I am talking to myself. I use a lot of affirmations, and that makes sense to me.&nbs...

gardengal · gardengal

Rather than responding to a situation, I caught myself "reacting " to it--------just as I had before I came to alanon. My first thought was I had taken a gaint step backwards. Then I stopped I laughed when I realized what I was doing. My next thought was I had taken a giant leap forward ...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i don't care if i get esh or not!! i am making my new year resolution to PRACTICE what i have learned!! and if i WRITE it enough, and SAY it enough, it will be implanted in my brain......PRACTICING all the GOOD stuff i have learned these past two...

Therese · Therese

Hi Everyone, I missed my alanon meeting due tonight so I am posting this and going to call someone tomorrow from my group. Last week the presentation was on the seventh step and the presenter said that she found that the primary character defect she became willing to let go was the fact that she...

Christy · Christy

I just gotta say I think this Board rocks!!!!! It seems that negativity seems to get so much attention, when in reality I rarely see negativity here. When it does come up, more times then not it is coming from a negative place in someone's heart and thier perception of a situation. Mostly I...

WakingUp · WakingUp

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this question, or if I should post on the N/A forums....but for those of you who have some knowledge, I'll start with here. As told in other posts, my a daughter just got married and I have invited her new husband to stay with us until they get their own pl...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i went to my third f2f last night and enjoyed it. there were more people then last time when there was only three of us. i shared and i was so nervous i actually shook lol. but what made me share was the fact that what i had to say could help someone else. i also bought a book called how alanon works and i can...

Joycie · Joycie

ok well one of my friend'd mother is a drug addict, and she had just recently (like a week ago) got out of rehab she graduated and everything, and the DAY she got out, she went and did drugs and got arrested, and is now either looking at 5 years in prison or one year in jail and one year on probation... I know wh...

nycbt · nycbt

Finally my husband wanted to have sex it has been along time. I wanted to do it as well. But when it came down to it I couldn't get in to it. I felt bad. I hope I didn't discourage him. (sorry about the content.) It has been a long time since we did it. I am the one that wants to do it all the time, but he doesn't. So t...

ednaxray · ednaxray

where oh where has the step work board gone? oh where oh where can it be?

ragingchild · ragingchild

I saw my mom yesterday. It was really good. I had some pics of my wedding and a few others remade and a few copies made of them. I gave her some copies and she was really happy. She's so small and frail though, needs some weight on her bones, but other than that she's okay. I...

Barbara · Barbara

But I really want to know why chat moves soooooo slow? I mean its hard to keep going with it being that slow! I waited till the person speaking finished before I asked my question. I know I didnt put my "hand" up but wanted to know before I left. I cant hang around for that -- Edited by Barbara at 12:47, 2006...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today was such a mess. the pms monster has shown up again lol. im lacking sleep and had to move two units today. they switched spots. thats right...every patient and everything in their rooms up two floors and vice versa. everyone was a nutcase. all day i said to myself just for today i can put up with this...

Joycie · Joycie

Wasted by: Carrie Underwood This song is by Carrie Underwood, and it is on her cd "Some Hearts" I have that Cd I heard this song, and I loved it, it reminded me of my A. Another song on that Cd was "Jesus take the wheel" which about her finding her higher power, to me those to songs clicked together, so I j...

BettyJane · BettyJane

This is my first time here. Both of my parents are alcoholics. Mom, dad, brother and sister #1 live near Phoenix; sister #2 and I live near Chicago. Mom is 80, dad is 83 and very, very ill. Any time I try to talk to my 2 older sisters (I am the ...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I listen to my heart I listen to the wind howling Blowing away my hair I know it is you Telling me that you care I feel your touch I hear your voice When all I have to do is make that one choice Just to listen to my heart I am throwing the dart...

Jule_cat21 · Jule_cat21

In my attempt to remain focused on my own issues, I’ve been thinking about feelings that have crept up on me since his alcoholism has reared its ugly head again. I understand that I’m worrisome about things I cannot control and I’m insecure. I think these things have led to poor choic...

GSDGIRL36 · GSDGIRL36

As you know my husband is in rehab. He's been ok, but today we talked about what would've happened EVENTUALLY, if he hadn't of gotten help. He acted surprised that I would've left him, although we had many many arguments prior to that and he packed up a couple of times. Now he's depressed and can't get pas...

elizabeth · elizabeth

Do something fun today. If you're relaxing, let yourself relax, without guilt, without worrying about the work that is undone. If you're with loved ones, let yourself love them, and let them love you. Let yourself feel close. Let yourself enjoy your work, for that can be pleasurable too. If you're do...

UncleLou · UncleLou

I'm beginning to see the meaning of 'living in the day' and the thing that comes to mind is I need to keep my emotions in the moment. The only emotions that count are the ones I'm feeling right now. Yesterday's are gone, and to relive the past ones does me no good (resentments), and tomorrow's are a w...

Flora123 · Flora123

I needed to "vent", and, hopefully, listen to other alanon members' views. Feel really down. Last thing I wanted to hear - you have been blacklisted. What? Why? I have only been in room half hour last night, could not get in the night before, why am I blacklisted? My head knows it is something to do wi...

bobump · bobump

OK for those of you who are used to my warped sense of humor, I maybe have sucked you in w/ the Topic. For the rest of ya, I may have sucked you in w/ the Topic. ;) I'm not quite sure how to describe my program right now. I don't know whether I'm allowing my A to push my buttons and I've come...

sandie123 · sandie123

I just got back from an al-anon meeting. It was a good one for me. For some reason I feel comfortable to share from my heart at this meeting. Last week all I did was cry at this meeting. I was worried about going back tonight but they accepted me with no hesitation. I shared tonight about how I am having troub...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hi everyone, Hope you are all well...I am a bit disappointed with a friend of mine..she and I met in F2F al-anon meetings..and tnite we were on the phone..She has asked me how things were going with this man I have been seeing. I trusted in her as a friend and she put me down for ...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Today's thought is: Seeking growth We are where we are for a reason. As long as that reason remains, we remain where we are. If we aren't where we think we should be, working the program will help us get to where our deepest self longs to be. This is growth.And growth is work. We must be willing to do t...

greeneyedgirl · greeneyedgirl

Hi all, Thanks to everyone for making me feel so welcome. It sure is nice to have a space to feel safe in. I thought I would share something that happened today that I found funny, because the (recovering) alcoholic in my life is my partner. I told her about this board and that I'm going back to f2f...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Hello family)))))))))))))))))), I just called the surgeon about my biopsies I had on Friday.

I'M FINE!

It is a good thing when the surgeon, the nurse and I were laughing in the procedure room so hard that we had to sto...

DeAnna · DeAnna

I've at least 20# to lose. I don't want to be known as his fatty, but rather his wife who needs to lose 20#. I'm trying so hard to see that in him. I'm not married to an alcoholic.........I'm married to a man who has alcoholism. When I think of it this way, it makes me realize w...

kitty · kitty

If Principles are more important than anything, then healing is what we ought to be focused on. If someone comes into chat they ought to be embraced when they are reaching out, having a nervous breakdown or are feeling hopeless or suicidal, not told, "to go away" as I have witnesse...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone, Over the holidays during my alone time I decided to do some nice things for myself. I didn't call them resolutions because that sounds like work, these are not work just refocus and care for me. So it is the New take care of me thing I guess. I went back to work on the friend's house toda...

WakingUp · WakingUp

Who else can I tell? Only you who understand. Yesterday my a daughter got married. (Thank you all for prayers & good thoughts.) Today I find out from a neighbor (to whom she tells EVERYTHING) that my new son-in-law has violated probation and the police are looking for him! AND he's...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone, Maybe this is an odd topic but I am a little off balance about this. Due to my feelings about alcohol which have ranged from disgust to outright hatred for the last few years, I would be surprised if I had imbibed in more than 10 drinks in the last 4 years. I have never had a problem with alc...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	advice needed (Preview) Hello everyone. I am new to this board and just read over some of the postings. You all seem like a pleasant and knowlegable group so I am hoping you will give me some much needed advice. My problem is quite different from the ones I am reading here. It regards a friend, not a family member. My friend is in...	Lea	4	489	Jan 14, 2006 by bobump
	is the chatroom down? (Preview) I got booted over an hour ago and then couldn't even get to the board. The step board was slow too. This is back but I still can't get into chat. Bob	bobump	9	417	Jan 14, 2006 by John_R
	Lost my focus and my head this morning (Preview) Hi Group, I feel so ashamed and mad at myself today. Last night I offerred to take my "a" down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needs to get his license back. I offerred because I'm tired of waiting for him to get it together and get this back. It has been 7 years since he has had&nb...	twinmom2	7	517	Jan 14, 2006 by Jerry F
	Funny about James Frey (Preview) Hey all, I read James Frey's book when it first came out so it's been a couple years, and I do not remember as much as I would like to in it. I do remember that I enjoyed his style of writing and the story was good, true or not. I even gave it as a gift to a friend who was going through treatment at the time...	Jennifer	4	581	Jan 13, 2006 by Jeannie
	New Here, looking for support (Preview) I've been married to an alcoholic for 20 years now. I left him the 5th year of our marriage with the understanding the only way I would come back was if he stopped drinking (9+ beers ever single night without exception), shortly before the divorce papers were filed he quit & I came back. ...	free2bme	7	529	Jan 13, 2006 by lin0606
	How to deal with him? (Preview) Wow, do I need some serious training on how to "detatch with love." I have NO idea. My divorce might be final very soon. My husband often calls me and our daughter, too, while high. He claims he is clean. I don't want to "call him" on it anymore, and I do...	phoebemoonpie	7	655	Jan 13, 2006 by lin0606
	I thought chatroom had been fixed? (Preview) Well it's 23.40 and I haven't been able to get into the chatroom all day.....God knows I have tried!!!! Is it just that it's Friday the 13th???? or is there some other reason when i try to log in I get a message saying I have been blacklisted??? HELP JOHN................Please??	chris52	0	376	Jan 13, 2006 by chris52
	some saying (Preview) The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. By May Maloo, writier It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful county lies in between. By Diane Ackerman, writier The greates thing to learn about life is, not to do wh...	nycbt	0	429	Jan 13, 2006 by nycbt
	WHERE IS EVERYONE (Preview) WHERE IS EVERYONE. I HAVE BEEN IN THE CHATROOM FOR OVER A HOUR AND NO ONE BEEN ON????????????????????????	nycbt	1	447	Jan 13, 2006 by tea2
	i did a get job (Preview) Yesterday my husband gives me a last minute notice that he is going to a late xmas party. I felt bummed in the begin because I couldn't go. Instead of staying upset I set up some stuff for me to do. I went to dinner and then got my nails done. After that I went to the librany and then when the librany closed i wen...	nycbt	8	492	Jan 13, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Does anyone know? (Preview) Hi all, I just got back from a f2f meeting and after the meeting was over they started talking about Dr. Phil which led to Orpah which led to James Frey and that book A Million Little Pieces. Well apparently he lied in the book. I have never read it before, but I remember someone posting about if her cou...	Dolphin123	4	524	Jan 13, 2006 by Diva
	A bunch of stink think clogging my brain (Preview) Hello everyone, Sorry to dump this all here ... fact is if I dump it here some good may come of it anywhere else will make a mess. Stinky #1 Made the appointment to put my dog to sleep on Sat, it is best for him and me. I trust HP to take care of everything. I am sad and it is draining my energy. Stinky #2 Dre...	Jennifer	5	515	Jan 13, 2006 by Jennifer
	Helpful Books (Preview) I'm 18 and both of my parents are As. Here are books that I recommend to read that I have found helpful(I haven't read all of them but I have read 3 of them front to back; I have read only a little bit of 9 of them which includes the 3 I read front to back; and 1 I haven't read at a...	Lanchas	2	451	Jan 13, 2006 by doxie
	"A Million Little Pieces" - fact or fiction?? (Preview) I'm sure I don't have the expertise to answer the above question, but I did a google search on this today, after it was the source of a post and many responses today.... Some VERY interesting things are being thrown about - the author is coming under scrutiny for embellishing certain things for '...	canadianguy	8	1377	Jan 12, 2006 by Jeannie
	I will know peace when...........I learn to let go. (Preview) When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. Sometimes it will break. At other times, it will simply die off. Then there are those times when for no reason, it will simply fall apart. There will be tiny pieces that are missing, making it impossible to put the thing back together. When a thing no lo...	elizabeth	4	540	Jan 12, 2006 by sandy
	Keep it Shut Stupid ! (Preview) I gotta keep doing this. And I gotta remember what I think Tom said, imagine 'sick, sick, sick' acrossed her forehead. Last night my son asked her to go to his basketball game at 6:15. Her answer is, I'm tired on the weekdays, I'll try to go on the weekends. I saw the look of disappointment. He left I cl...	bobump	11	584	Jan 12, 2006 by maresie
	getting ahead of myself (Preview) i was on the phone the other night with a good friend of mine. i have had the itch to try teaching as a career, and we were talking about it. i have this itch about three or four times a year, but i have yet to act on it. as usual, i dismissed it. i actually said, out loud, to her: "i couldn't do that. my marriage is...	pixel04	4	464	Jan 12, 2006 by mebjk
	i'll be around...just not so much (Preview) hi all i feel like i am invisablel!!! i post my pain, my progress and being alone, sometimes this is the ONLY place i can "steal some hugs/comfort" i know my posts are based on the literature and may be kinda boring, but they are medicinal for me.....i have come to the real...	rosie light shines	13	683	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	then and now (Preview) I am very angry because today I found that my husband was drinnking the little bottles. My every thought is on him. I don't change his mind about going to aa because of the mood I am in. Run away from the situation. My a bring up little matters and making a big deal about it, an me getting defensive. Struggli...	nycbt	3	442	Jan 12, 2006 by Feather
	Restlessness (Preview) I'm feeling incredibly restless lately. Especially during the day. I feel like there is so much I want to do and I just can't get myself focused to do it. And then I'm beating myself up for not being more productive. And I woke up feeling so tired. I feel like I've been so tired all the time. Yet, the the thou...	Emafer	6	511	Jan 12, 2006 by Emafer
	How Al-Anon Works (Preview) I just wanted to share how much I LOVE this book. If you guys haven't read or worked with this, I just want to HIGHLY reccomend it. I've started going to a lit. meeting on this book and hearing the testemonies has been incredibly helpful to me lately.	Emafer	3	482	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Trying no to give advice... (Preview) Good Afternoon Group, A friend came to me this morning and opened up that she was having trouble in her life, with her emotions, her job, and disappointments that she has encountered in her immediate past. I really tried to just listen and not give advice because I always seem to do that with pe...	twinmom2	3	593	Jan 12, 2006 by rosie light shines
	a new update (Preview) Well, my Dad went to the doctor affiliated with Sloan-Kettering today. A more realistic outlook of this cancer is that due to the recurrence it is not curable. It can be treated with hormone therapy for a while, several years even, however, eventually the cancer will become resistant and grow. Basic...	Kim	7	528	Jan 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	The man in the glass...... (Preview) THE MAN IN THE GLASS When you get what you want in your struggle for self, and the world makes you king for a day, just go to the mirror and look at yourself and see what That Man has to say. For it isn’t your father or mother or wife whose judgment upon you must pass. The fellow wh...	elizabeth	4	477	Jan 12, 2006 by twinmom2
	beyond codependency (Preview) Hello all! I recently read a post about the negativity dominating this board. I am new to the board and have been reading everyday and sometimes responding to posts. I have to agree with the earlier posting in that there does seem to be a lot of sadness on the board.&...	sas	8	539	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Being me without you.(no offence) (Preview) Hi all, Just though I would drop a line to let you all know that I will no longer be comming here. It has become apparent to me that this place is one of the contributing factors of my depression, hearing all of you talk about your 'A's' with - in some cases compleate disgust, hatered and lothing. I am...	flumpy	11	613	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Fear - needing some ESH (Preview) Today I am feeling my mind racing again and I do not seem to be able to stop it. My A is still staying at his dad's house. We speak daily and I see him frequently, he even went to some of the boy's basketball games this past weekend. He is attending his meetings, going to his after care etc. I am trying to stay af...	confused	4	564	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	A Freinds B'day (Preview) Happy Birthday to our dear al-anon friend Bobump Lots and Lots of Well Wishes	tea2	10	575	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	believing in HP (Preview) I am struggling with the idea of believing in a HP. I read posts where people turn things over to HP, HP speaks to them, etc. I have been working on finding a spiritual path. I pray, but it mostly feels like I am talking to myself. I use a lot of affirmations, and that makes sense to me.&nbs...	mollyann	6	518	Jan 12, 2006 by toto12
	A GIANT LEAP FORWARD (Preview) Rather than responding to a situation, I caught myself "reacting " to it--------just as I had before I came to alanon. My first thought was I had taken a gaint step backwards. Then I stopped I laughed when I realized what I was doing. My next thought was I had taken a giant leap forward ...	gardengal	3	503	Jan 12, 2006 by bobump
	whatever i have 2 do to recover..i am gonna DO it!!! (Preview) i don't care if i get esh or not!! i am making my new year resolution to PRACTICE what i have learned!! and if i WRITE it enough, and SAY it enough, it will be implanted in my brain......PRACTICING all the GOOD stuff i have learned these past two...	rosie light shines	1	475	Jan 12, 2006 by just me
	step work (Preview) Hi Everyone, I missed my alanon meeting due tonight so I am posting this and going to call someone tomorrow from my group. Last week the presentation was on the seventh step and the presenter said that she found that the primary character defect she became willing to let go was the fact that she...	Therese	1	509	Jan 12, 2006 by just me
	Board Negativity? (Preview) I just gotta say I think this Board rocks!!!!! It seems that negativity seems to get so much attention, when in reality I rarely see negativity here. When it does come up, more times then not it is coming from a negative place in someone's heart and thier perception of a situation. Mostly I...	Christy	7	604	Jan 12, 2006 by gardengal
	How serious is this? (Preview) I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this question, or if I should post on the N/A forums....but for those of you who have some knowledge, I'll start with here. As told in other posts, my a daughter just got married and I have invited her new husband to stay with us until they get their own pl...	WakingUp	5	504	Jan 11, 2006 by WakingUp
	third f2f (Preview) well i went to my third f2f last night and enjoyed it. there were more people then last time when there was only three of us. i shared and i was so nervous i actually shook lol. but what made me share was the fact that what i had to say could help someone else. i also bought a book called how alanon works and i can...	notsonew1111	6	463	Jan 11, 2006 by maresie
	what do I say (Preview) ok well one of my friend'd mother is a drug addict, and she had just recently (like a week ago) got out of rehab she graduated and everything, and the DAY she got out, she went and did drugs and got arrested, and is now either looking at 5 years in prison or one year in jail and one year on probation... I know wh...	Joycie	3	593	Jan 11, 2006 by ajt62
	Hard (Preview) Finally my husband wanted to have sex it has been along time. I wanted to do it as well. But when it came down to it I couldn't get in to it. I felt bad. I hope I didn't discourage him. (sorry about the content.) It has been a long time since we did it. I am the one that wants to do it all the time, but he doesn't. So t...	nycbt	7	517	Jan 11, 2006 by notsonew1111
	step work board? (Preview) where oh where has the step work board gone? oh where oh where can it be?	ednaxray	2	486	Jan 11, 2006 by angelinme908
	I saw my mom (Preview) I saw my mom yesterday. It was really good. I had some pics of my wedding and a few others remade and a few copies made of them. I gave her some copies and she was really happy. She's so small and frail though, needs some weight on her bones, but other than that she's okay. I...	ragingchild	3	460	Jan 11, 2006 by notsonew1111
	ok i was in chat (Preview) But I really want to know why chat moves soooooo slow? I mean its hard to keep going with it being that slow! I waited till the person speaking finished before I asked my question. I know I didnt put my "hand" up but wanted to know before I left. I cant hang around for that -- Edited by Barbara at 12:47, 2006...	Barbara	15	1050	Jan 11, 2006 by notsonew1111
	just for today (Preview) today was such a mess. the pms monster has shown up again lol. im lacking sleep and had to move two units today. they switched spots. thats right...every patient and everything in their rooms up two floors and vice versa. everyone was a nutcase. all day i said to myself just for today i can put up with this...	notsonew1111	1	468	Jan 11, 2006 by marmare
	Wasted (Preview) Wasted by: Carrie Underwood This song is by Carrie Underwood, and it is on her cd "Some Hearts" I have that Cd I heard this song, and I loved it, it reminded me of my A. Another song on that Cd was "Jesus take the wheel" which about her finding her higher power, to me those to songs clicked together, so I j...	Joycie	1	548	Jan 11, 2006 by marmare
	Newbie Needs Assistance (Preview) This is my first time here. Both of my parents are alcoholics. Mom, dad, brother and sister #1 live near Phoenix; sister #2 and I live near Chicago. Mom is 80, dad is 83 and very, very ill. Any time I try to talk to my 2 older sisters (I am the ...	BettyJane	6	597	Jan 11, 2006 by Flora123
	My most recent poem I wrote:I listen to my heart (Preview) I listen to my heart I listen to the wind howling Blowing away my hair I know it is you Telling me that you care I feel your touch I hear your voice When all I have to do is make that one choice Just to listen to my heart I am throwing the dart...	Lauren ashley	4	439	Jan 11, 2006 by Flora123
	Getting in touch with my insecurities (Preview) In my attempt to remain focused on my own issues, I’ve been thinking about feelings that have crept up on me since his alcoholism has reared its ugly head again. I understand that I’m worrisome about things I cannot control and I’m insecure. I think these things have led to poor choic...	Jule_cat21	3	481	Jan 11, 2006 by maresie
	The "Pity Pot" (Preview) As you know my husband is in rehab. He's been ok, but today we talked about what would've happened EVENTUALLY, if he hadn't of gotten help. He acted surprised that I would've left him, although we had many many arguments prior to that and he packed up a couple of times. Now he's depressed and can't get pas...	GSDGIRL36	3	4423	Jan 11, 2006 by hudsond
	daily reflections (Preview) Do something fun today. If you're relaxing, let yourself relax, without guilt, without worrying about the work that is undone. If you're with loved ones, let yourself love them, and let them love you. Let yourself feel close. Let yourself enjoy your work, for that can be pleasurable too. If you're do...	elizabeth	1	2878	Jan 11, 2006 by bobump
	Not a good day, but at least I'm sober (Preview) I'm beginning to see the meaning of 'living in the day' and the thing that comes to mind is I need to keep my emotions in the moment. The only emotions that count are the ones I'm feeling right now. Yesterday's are gone, and to relive the past ones does me no good (resentments), and tomorrow's are a w...	UncleLou	7	555	Jan 11, 2006 by TLC2
	I Needed Chat Room - But.... (Preview) I needed to "vent", and, hopefully, listen to other alanon members' views. Feel really down. Last thing I wanted to hear - you have been blacklisted. What? Why? I have only been in room half hour last night, could not get in the night before, why am I blacklisted? My head knows it is something to do wi...	Flora123	14	591	Jan 11, 2006 by John_R
	Checking for Skid Marks (Preview) OK for those of you who are used to my warped sense of humor, I maybe have sucked you in w/ the Topic. For the rest of ya, I may have sucked you in w/ the Topic. ;) I'm not quite sure how to describe my program right now. I don't know whether I'm allowing my A to push my buttons and I've come...	bobump	7	603	Jan 10, 2006 by maresie
	Emotional Struggle (Preview) I just got back from an al-anon meeting. It was a good one for me. For some reason I feel comfortable to share from my heart at this meeting. Last week all I did was cry at this meeting. I was worried about going back tonight but they accepted me with no hesitation. I shared tonight about how I am having troub...	sandie123	6	507	Jan 10, 2006 by Jennifer
	Disappointed with a friend (Preview) Hi everyone, Hope you are all well...I am a bit disappointed with a friend of mine..she and I met in F2F al-anon meetings..and tnite we were on the phone..She has asked me how things were going with this man I have been seeing. I trusted in her as a friend and she put me down for ...	Diane43	5	467	Jan 10, 2006 by Diane43
	i am growing by keeping it simple (Preview) Today's thought is: Seeking growth We are where we are for a reason. As long as that reason remains, we remain where we are. If we aren't where we think we should be, working the program will help us get to where our deepest self longs to be. This is growth.And growth is work. We must be willing to do t...	rosie light shines	2	452	Jan 10, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Just checking in.... (Preview) Hi all, Thanks to everyone for making me feel so welcome. It sure is nice to have a space to feel safe in. I thought I would share something that happened today that I found funny, because the (recovering) alcoholic in my life is my partner. I told her about this board and that I'm going back to f2f...	greeneyedgirl	1	431	Jan 10, 2006 by Diane43
	I'm fine! (Preview) ((((((((((((((Hello family)))))))))))))))))), I just called the surgeon about my biopsies I had on Friday. I'M FINE! It is a good thing when the surgeon, the nurse and I were laughing in the procedure room so hard that we had to sto...	Karilynn	8	681	Jan 10, 2006 by Diane43
	a new view... (Preview) I've at least 20# to lose. I don't want to be known as his fatty, but rather his wife who needs to lose 20#. I'm trying so hard to see that in him. I'm not married to an alcoholic.........I'm married to a man who has alcoholism. When I think of it this way, it makes me realize w...	DeAnna	3	459	Jan 10, 2006 by sas
	kinder gentler chat room (Preview) If Principles are more important than anything, then healing is what we ought to be focused on. If someone comes into chat they ought to be embraced when they are reaching out, having a nervous breakdown or are feeling hopeless or suicidal, not told, "to go away" as I have witnesse...	kitty	7	550	Jan 10, 2006 by Flora123
	taking care of me - update (Preview) Hello Everyone, Over the holidays during my alone time I decided to do some nice things for myself. I didn't call them resolutions because that sounds like work, these are not work just refocus and care for me. So it is the New take care of me thing I guess. I went back to work on the friend's house toda...	Jennifer	2	522	Jan 10, 2006 by Emafer
	Another Blow (Preview) Who else can I tell? Only you who understand. Yesterday my a daughter got married. (Thank you all for prayers & good thoughts.) Today I find out from a neighbor (to whom she tells EVERYTHING) that my new son-in-law has violated probation and the police are looking for him! AND he's...	WakingUp	8	574	Jan 10, 2006 by WakingUp
	Question about my drinking (Preview) Hello Everyone, Maybe this is an odd topic but I am a little off balance about this. Due to my feelings about alcohol which have ranged from disgust to outright hatred for the last few years, I would be surprised if I had imbibed in more than 10 drinks in the last 4 years. I have never had a problem with alc...	Jennifer	8	664	Jan 10, 2006 by Emafer
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