Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

bobump · bobump

As hard as it is, it's so much easier to set boundries to protect yourself when it's just you and your A. I found myself today though getting angry and getting ready to add to my resentment pile with my A. I remember being in my daughters therapy session w/ just my A and I, trying to figure out some daily...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

I haven't been to a meeting yet. I kinda want to go because I want to be around people who understand and it feels like no one does. But there are two things that make me hesitant: 1) I don't believe in God. In any way shape or form. 2) I don't want to leave my boyfriend and I feel like i...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I've come to find out (if you've been following my nightmare of a story) that not only was my AH an A, a cocaine addict, but also a sex addict, not to mention being bi-polar. He had said he had been living with the guilt of all the times he go out on binge drinks and cheat on me, and told himself if he ever...

findingmyway · findingmyway

Hello everyone. Well, I did it. I told my husband this weekend that I want a divorce. He is absolutely devasted and I feel very sad but I still believe it's the right thing. He made all sorts of promises but I just can't believe him anymore. I won't get into details but I've had many signs from my HP...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone. once again i slipped in keeping my mouth shut. man i wish i could master this over night. today my a came home from work and he said after we get some groceries im gonna go watch the hockey game at my moms house. lately all he has been doing is going to her house and spending all his time wit...

ednaxray · ednaxray

In 1956, the American Medical Association (AMA) stated alcoholism was a disease, as it met the five criteria needed in order to be considered a disease: pattern of symptoms, chronicity, progression, subject to relapse, and treatability.

cdb · cdb

Just an update to let you know Burton, 7 month old mixed lab breed is doing better. He still cannot move his back legs but some feeling is coming back. They are doing physical therapy with him to get some weight on his 4 legs. It is good for me to visit him by getting me out of the house to go see him. I try to keep...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys... just checking in. im tired...just tired. work is becoming a right bore.... same s**t different day... texts from the ex... as usual... last nights one a little different to all the others... i usually get the loving ones..telling me he will always love me..he understands that...

Jayda · Jayda

I know a lot of you probably have problems going to sleep at night like I do...you try to sleep, but you just keep thinking about what is going on in your life and it's hard to turn those thoughts off. One thing that I find helps me is doing crossword puzzles and soduko (a number puzzle) when I first ge...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Tradition Two: "For our group purpose there is but one authority - a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants - they do not govern." Excerpt from Paths to Recovery, p.147, paragraph 2 "...What, then, is the difference between A...

sas · sas

Have you ever felt to embarrassed/afraid to share something that is bothering you because it seems too trivial? I feel this way a lot. As some of you already know I am just beginning my recovery and I have to tell you most days I feel like I need a therapist. Since starting to really look at myself I am d...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone! Sorry it has taken me so long to write a new excerpt. I was going to write something from the book, The Dilemma of The Alcoholic Marriage, but I cannot find it anywhere....guess it is not God's will at the moment. I will look for it again tomorrow. Anyhoo....here goes.... Struggling wi...

Lindy · Lindy

I am sitting here crying...again because it was another bad evening with my alcoholic husband. My previous post was titled Laid off and Drunk. Thanks to those who responded. One thing I forgot to mention in that post was the name calling and the little cut downs that slowly eat at my soul and chip away at...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I am having such a hard time being in my own skin right now. I want someone to be angry with. I want to lash out because I feel so miserable. The past few weeks have been difficult dealing with my husband. His raging behavior came to a culmination late last week in which I had to ha...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: I just came back from the doctor. He took blood and the results should be back on Tuesday. Please pray although I know that I am preparing for the worst. I've researched and read everything, I asked the doctor a million questions and although he was very kind, I still feel an...

Barbara · Barbara

My mother called. She went to the courthouse today and told them about my brother. Fri morn before 9am my mother is to go to the courthouse to get the procedure started. They will then return to her house to get my brother. Take him by cruiser. When they get back to the courthouse he'll meet w/a doctor, get...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Remember ABBOTT and COSTELLO Jokes? Hope you enjoy this one. In today's world, Bud ABBOTT and Lou COSTELLO's famous sketch "Who's on first?" Might have turned out something like this.... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ COSTELLO CALLS TO BUY A COMPUTER FROM ABBOTT . . . . ABB...

amy123 · amy123

I got this from another Al-anon group that I belong to and many people on the chat tonight asked me to post it here. It really has helped me put things in perspective!

To Let Go doesn't mean to stop caring - it means I can't do it for someone else. To Let Go is not to cut myself...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I've done everything I can for years to hold this family together. I believe in marriage, in sickness and in health. I waited years for him to get to where he is now which is finally be completely and totally serious about his sobriety. I thought with counceling and each of us...

11marie11 · 11marie11

Hello, I am a divorced mother of two. My boyfriend in high school of five years had a cocaine problem, my now ex husband also had a cocaine problem. My mother has a tranquilizer addiction! I am now dating a man who is my older brother's best friend. Have known him my whole life. He is a great...

Lily · Lily

My husband is newly sober and I am new to Al-anon (about 5 mos) - I recently found out my husband has made friends w/a female in AA, but he didn't tell me, actually lied to me about it whenever I'd ask because he didn't want me to "think" anything - so I found out by snooping the phone bill. In any event, he prom...

Lindy · Lindy

I am just getting so sick of this pattern of life I'm finding myself in. My husband who is an A that has never been to treatment and won't admit he has a problem, is laid off from work. It's been about a month. Here is the pattern we go through like clockwork. It's becoming very predictable. He goes for a whil...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

To be able to Let Go... to realize that I am only accountable for myself, for my own actions ... to know that I am not responsible for/accountable for others ... that they too have a Higher Power (which is NOT me) that they are accountable to ... that all I need to do is look at myself and change those things a...

debilyn · debilyn

You silly, I don't even know what you mean. I always LOVE your responses. I meant only to clarify MY share. Others have thought I meant I cared what others t hink I really don't. Especially his A friends. Part of my caring for me has been becoming self actualized and caring for how I feel. A...

bobump · bobump

Morning all, I'll leave out the gory details w/ the A and how she was arguing so much that my son went to go to someone elses house he doesn't really like to escape. Saying he could still hear her two houses up the block.....suffice to say, it wasn't the best of days. My 9 yo son is becoming the hou...

goofygrrl · goofygrrl

HI, I am a new member to this site and needing help. My partner of 4 years is to me an alcoholic. When we first met she never drank and she was happy with saying that out loud. She did tell me that she was a recovering drug addicit, and sober for 12 years. Slowing into our realtionship she started to d...

flintfeet · flintfeet

today i just feel like i have posted a lot. i think i am thinking more about my dad today than usual. i don't know why. maybe it's b/c the super bowl is coming up (i know he'll be watching), maybe it's b/c i miss him, maybe i just feel a little more angry than normal. yep i think it is the angry thing. how horribl...

nycbt · nycbt

I have not posted in a while. So far things are going well. I am hanging in there. I have been online here alot so I am doing good that way. I try and spend some time away from the room. I am looking forward to being an op. I am excited.

debilyn · debilyn

I wanted to thank you who responded to my long post. So many wise words you all shared. I do want to make it clear, i am hurt for me, not that I care what anyone thinks of me, meaning who my A husband has said bad things about me to. Again it was the fact that he would do that. It killed something ins...

ednaxray · ednaxray

I am an alcoholic, I need your help. Don't lecture me, blame or scold me. You wouldn't be angry at me for having TB or diabetes. Alcoholism is a disease too. Don't pour out my liquor; it's a waste because I can always find ways of getting more. Don't let me provoke...

jersey1 · jersey1

(the book refered to in this letter is our Big Book) WE OF Alcoholics Anonymous believe that the reader will be interested in the medical estimate of the plan of recovery described in this book. Convincing testimony must surely come from medical men who have had experience with the sufferings of...

flintfeet · flintfeet

my dad is an A. i'll spare you most of the details. but i have a bro and a sis. we decided to have no contact with him b/c of his drinking. well, my bro caved, but my sis and i are staying strong. the problem is that i feel like i am the only one that really cares about it. my bro just wants to pretend that nothing is...

Barbara · Barbara

Does anyone have a title for a picture book to read to children (2nd-5th grade) dealing with parents with drug or alcohol problem?

cdb · cdb

Hello everyone, Long time no chat :) This is an update of my daughter who is the recoverying alcoholic/drug addict in my life. My daughter 21, finally has been staying clean and sober for over 6 months and is struggling still with anxiety and depression. Christmas was hard for her. She went to AA on Ch...

kitty · kitty

it is so easy to step back & be strong for others, when I am weak or confused or otherwise. Hard to swallow your own bitter pills. But just like deep tissue massage, if u don't dig & grind the pain out so it can be released (rather painfully) - the knots just stay deep in your muscle tis...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

SPRING FLING, APRIL 28 -30, 2006 GALESBURG, IL contact phone # 309-484-6012 (Larry) or email: aa_springfling@yahoo.com. (may have to type in) Speakers from Chicago, Pekin, and Kirkwood, IL and...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, We have a huge county event going on Thursday and Friday, and I volunteered to captain a section of my county. I am starting to feel the stress hit me. I don't live in that part of the county, I don't know the resources, and as I keep trying to find them, I am finding there aren't any. I have been give...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

This prayer is over 30 years old ! Do not know if anyone has heard it before, or if it is still around, but it IS beautiful ! Passing it along, as I just stumbled across it this week. Six Step Prayer God, I want to get ready to let go of this OL...

Cyn · Cyn

I had a long talk with a long time friend of mine last night that disturbed me. She recently has gone through this born again Christian thing where she all of a sudden is cramming HER religion down my throat. I have my own faith - I got in touch with it again within the last 4 months - how could I n...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

I got this message from a friend today and it carried a valuable Al-Anon meaning for me. I decided to post it in case it might be valuable to others too... **please note in advance that this is not conference approved if that is a problem for you** “...

Ninababy · Ninababy

My husband was sober 16 years.. all the time I knew him and am married to him.. he is drinking alot now..two weeks ago.. he started drinking again.. never home and drunk when he is... I am feeling constant pain and am going to a meeting on Friday... but.. I don't know how to deal with a drunk? D...

mollyann · mollyann

I haven't dated anyone seriously since my A and I parted ways last May. Seems that I am doing great as long as I am not dating anyone. I met someone a month ago. I also finished my six month zoloft prescription a month ago. This new guy and I hit it off last month. We live in different towns, but i...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: I am in a terrible place and need support. Last night I found out that my A has tested positive for the Hep C antibody. While in treatment he was tested. He will need to follow up once he leaves (1/31) in order to confirm but that is not for another week when he gets out. I can't tell...

debilyn · debilyn

You all know I have this foundation of serenity. I know things will be ok. Also have to say after being so upset by A's words and craziness, I just wanted to check out. Just close my eyes and be done with it. I mean gads ya gotta be some kinda brave person to live past 50 and you must be super courageou...

Amanda · Amanda

I read so many really moving stories on here that tell of so much difficulty with their a(s), when I really have nothing even close to compare or relate to. No DUIs, fights, leaving, coming back, job loss, family problems, violence, threats, hospital emergencies, verbal abuse, stabbing, shooting,...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I'm frustrated this morning. My A is going to go help his Dad later this afternoon move some furniture around. He wants to take the puppy with him. I am angry that I am worrying about him getting high with his family. I'm angry I am worrying about my puppy. I know it is bes...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Clearing the Slate One of the greatest gifts we can give is an open, loving heart. And holding on to negative feelings from past relationships is our greatest barrier to that gift. Most of us have had relationships that have ended. When we examine these relationships, we need to clear the emoti...

mollyann · mollyann

What happened with that new guy? Did you end up contacting him? Are you still seeing him? Also, I liked those posts you did a while ago where you copied some text from recovery books. If you have time to do more, I would love to read more of those posts!! MollyAnn

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The weather here has been nice, then yuck. Have been working jigsaw puzzles (60-100 piece, the Keep It Simple type, so as to not overwhelm myself) I cannot believe what a sense of self mastery it gives me. I can RELY on myself, my own intuition, the puzzle has a b...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

4 days to Virginia Beach to the World Service Office, open house and more. Deadlines are in March!

For information sheet and contacts from Waukegan, IL go to: www.niafg.com

swolves · swolves

I am confused...to say the least. When he left last May, I figured he would be home in a few days...or at most a few weeks, as before...but months went by. Then last summer after I told him I wanted to go visit my family...(2000 miles away...as I have done every year) with the kids for a month...he filed for...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Hi roomies))))), Somewhere, someone posted a question about alcoholism, intelligence and recovery. Forgive me, I can't remember who posted it. My A is extremely intelligent so the question intrigued me enough to do some searching. After checking numerous sites, I came up with...

wille · wille

Hi y'all I so can not get into chat. I dunno whats up with that and I'm not busting rhymes I can not get in. Suggestions? Oceans of love 2 all \/\/ille

CLJ · CLJ

A heartfelt thanks to all for your support and advice. I hope to become more supportive to others once I've worked through my family's present crisis with our A. It is amazing how comforting it is to know that you are not alone and that others experience the same feelings and pain. And that regardless of...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today i really worked by program. i did not react to my dry a. well i had two minor slips then caught myself and told him im not having this conversation until you can learn to talk to me properly, it was amazing to see how quickly he turned around and began treating me like a human being again....

CLJ · CLJ

Hi I am new to the board but not to the sorrow of living with a beloved person who is alcoholic. He relapsed a couple days ago after 2 years of sobriety. He is nearing end stage and this just blew his position on the liver transplant list. In my panic, I demanded he return to treatment...

mollyann · mollyann

Does anyone have any real life experience with long term antidepressant use? I have read a lot online. I take zoloft. I am meeting with my doctor this morning about long term use. Has anyone had to go off of it while pregnant? MollyAnn

Barbara · Barbara

Mother calls today and says younger brother (42?) BIT HER! As at least 2 of you know my brothers been having problems for a few years now. Still lives with mother, etc. Mother's been saying he drinks too much, has a temper, etc. Today she called and said HE BIT HER! I told her to put a restrainin...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

My computer crashed and I lost everything--just getting things back together. I still don't know what the future holds but my husband is still sober--it will be 3 months in 2 days. For now our life is better than I ever imagined. He's a new person. We're a family again. We'...

allison · allison

Late last night my A husband called...drunk:( He started calling me awful names..before I would have gotten pissed off and retailiated with some mean comments,hollering back etc.Well not this night.I was calm and actually nice.I said...I love you and will not say hurtful things to you,cal...

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	trying to figure out how to detach from this (Preview) As hard as it is, it's so much easier to set boundries to protect yourself when it's just you and your A. I found myself today though getting angry and getting ready to add to my resentment pile with my A. I remember being in my daughters therapy session w/ just my A and I, trying to figure out some daily...	bobump	8	508	Jan 27, 2006 by maresie
	Questions about Al-Anon (Preview) I haven't been to a meeting yet. I kinda want to go because I want to be around people who understand and it feels like no one does. But there are two things that make me hesitant: 1) I don't believe in God. In any way shape or form. 2) I don't want to leave my boyfriend and I feel like i...	paintthinnr	7	527	Jan 27, 2006 by lin0606
	Is it common that A's have many addictions? (Preview) I've come to find out (if you've been following my nightmare of a story) that not only was my AH an A, a cocaine addict, but also a sex addict, not to mention being bi-polar. He had said he had been living with the guilt of all the times he go out on binge drinks and cheat on me, and told himself if he ever...	sdisnie	10	511	Jan 27, 2006 by maresie
	I did it (Preview) Hello everyone. Well, I did it. I told my husband this weekend that I want a divorce. He is absolutely devasted and I feel very sad but I still believe it's the right thing. He made all sorts of promises but I just can't believe him anymore. I won't get into details but I've had many signs from my HP...	findingmyway	5	481	Jan 27, 2006 by findingmyway
	i slipped (Preview) hi everyone. once again i slipped in keeping my mouth shut. man i wish i could master this over night. today my a came home from work and he said after we get some groceries im gonna go watch the hockey game at my moms house. lately all he has been doing is going to her house and spending all his time wit...	notsonew1111	6	454	Jan 27, 2006 by Rebecca
	alcoholism (Preview) In 1956, the American Medical Association (AMA) stated alcoholism was a disease, as it met the five criteria needed in order to be considered a disease: pattern of symptoms, chronicity, progression, subject to relapse, and treatability.	ednaxray	7	697	Jan 27, 2006 by John_R
	A daughter's dog doing better :) (Preview) Just an update to let you know Burton, 7 month old mixed lab breed is doing better. He still cannot move his back legs but some feeling is coming back. They are doing physical therapy with him to get some weight on his 4 legs. It is good for me to visit him by getting me out of the house to go see him. I try to keep...	cdb	11	483	Jan 27, 2006 by kat4u
	life...oh its weary world! (Preview) hi guys... just checking in. im tired...just tired. work is becoming a right bore.... same s**t different day... texts from the ex... as usual... last nights one a little different to all the others... i usually get the loving ones..telling me he will always love me..he understands that...	Rebecca	5	544	Jan 27, 2006 by Cyn
	Trouble sleeping (Preview) I know a lot of you probably have problems going to sleep at night like I do...you try to sleep, but you just keep thinking about what is going on in your life and it's hard to turn those thoughts off. One thing that I find helps me is doing crossword puzzles and soduko (a number puzzle) when I first ge...	Jayda	4	451	Jan 27, 2006 by kat4u
	Trusted Servants (Preview) Tradition Two: "For our group purpose there is but one authority - a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants - they do not govern." Excerpt from Paths to Recovery, p.147, paragraph 2 "...What, then, is the difference between A...	kismetstrand	2	2613	Jan 27, 2006 by david62
	Does anyone ELSE ever feel this way???? (Preview) Have you ever felt to embarrassed/afraid to share something that is bothering you because it seems too trivial? I feel this way a lot. As some of you already know I am just beginning my recovery and I have to tell you most days I feel like I need a therapist. Since starting to really look at myself I am d...	sas	9	635	Jan 27, 2006 by sas
	Alanon Book Excerpt #3 (Preview) Hi everyone! Sorry it has taken me so long to write a new excerpt. I was going to write something from the book, The Dilemma of The Alcoholic Marriage, but I cannot find it anywhere....guess it is not God's will at the moment. I will look for it again tomorrow. Anyhoo....here goes.... Struggling wi...	kissers	3	565	Jan 27, 2006 by bobump
	Suggestions for dealing with name calling and cut downs (Preview) I am sitting here crying...again because it was another bad evening with my alcoholic husband. My previous post was titled Laid off and Drunk. Thanks to those who responded. One thing I forgot to mention in that post was the name calling and the little cut downs that slowly eat at my soul and chip away at...	Lindy	10	578	Jan 27, 2006 by TLC2
	Beaten Down (Preview) I am having such a hard time being in my own skin right now. I want someone to be angry with. I want to lash out because I feel so miserable. The past few weeks have been difficult dealing with my husband. His raging behavior came to a culmination late last week in which I had to ha...	AlaMom	10	514	Jan 27, 2006 by wille
	went to the doctor today (Preview) Hello all: I just came back from the doctor. He took blood and the results should be back on Tuesday. Please pray although I know that I am preparing for the worst. I've researched and read everything, I asked the doctor a million questions and although he was very kind, I still feel an...	Kim	6	539	Jan 27, 2006 by TLC2
	Bridgewater, MA Correctional Institution - brother may be going tomorrow (Preview) My mother called. She went to the courthouse today and told them about my brother. Fri morn before 9am my mother is to go to the courthouse to get the procedure started. They will then return to her house to get my brother. Take him by cruiser. When they get back to the courthouse he'll meet w/a doctor, get...	Barbara	5	892	Jan 27, 2006 by Barbara
	Off Topic Humor (Preview) Remember ABBOTT and COSTELLO Jokes? Hope you enjoy this one. In today's world, Bud ABBOTT and Lou COSTELLO's famous sketch "Who's on first?" Might have turned out something like this.... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ COSTELLO CALLS TO BUY A COMPUTER FROM ABBOTT . . . . ABB...	kismetstrand	3	567	Jan 27, 2006 by sparkette
	Letting Go (Preview) I got this from another Al-anon group that I belong to and many people on the chat tonight asked me to post it here. It really has helped me put things in perspective! To Let Go doesn't mean to stop caring - it means I can't do it for someone else. To Let Go is not to cut myself...	amy123	5	432	Jan 26, 2006 by maresie
	How do I just let it go? If I ever have to see him again? (Preview) I've done everything I can for years to hold this family together. I believe in marriage, in sickness and in health. I waited years for him to get to where he is now which is finally be completely and totally serious about his sobriety. I thought with counceling and each of us...	sdisnie	7	490	Jan 26, 2006 by maresie
	new- could this be a problem? Not sure! (Preview) Hello, I am a divorced mother of two. My boyfriend in high school of five years had a cocaine problem, my now ex husband also had a cocaine problem. My mother has a tranquilizer addiction! I am now dating a man who is my older brother's best friend. Have known him my whole life. He is a great...	11marie11	5	654	Jan 26, 2006 by maresie
	Letting Go of Jealousy & Fear (Preview) My husband is newly sober and I am new to Al-anon (about 5 mos) - I recently found out my husband has made friends w/a female in AA, but he didn't tell me, actually lied to me about it whenever I'd ask because he didn't want me to "think" anything - so I found out by snooping the phone bill. In any event, he prom...	Lily	1	505	Jan 26, 2006 by maresie
	Laid off and drunk (Preview) I am just getting so sick of this pattern of life I'm finding myself in. My husband who is an A that has never been to treatment and won't admit he has a problem, is laid off from work. It's been about a month. Here is the pattern we go through like clockwork. It's becoming very predictable. He goes for a whil...	Lindy	4	552	Jan 26, 2006 by lin0606
	Accountability (Preview) To be able to Let Go... to realize that I am only accountable for myself, for my own actions ... to know that I am not responsible for/accountable for others ... that they too have a Higher Power (which is NOT me) that they are accountable to ... that all I need to do is look at myself and change those things a...	kismetstrand	1	659	Jan 26, 2006 by canadianguy
	TLC2 (Preview) You silly, I don't even know what you mean. I always LOVE your responses. I meant only to clarify MY share. Others have thought I meant I cared what others t hink I really don't. Especially his A friends. Part of my caring for me has been becoming self actualized and caring for how I feel. A...	debilyn	1	403	Jan 26, 2006 by TLC2
	Heartbroken (Preview) Morning all, I'll leave out the gory details w/ the A and how she was arguing so much that my son went to go to someone elses house he doesn't really like to escape. Saying he could still hear her two houses up the block.....suffice to say, it wasn't the best of days. My 9 yo son is becoming the hou...	bobump	15	561	Jan 26, 2006 by kat4u
	new here, partner is drinking (Preview) HI, I am a new member to this site and needing help. My partner of 4 years is to me an alcoholic. When we first met she never drank and she was happy with saying that out loud. She did tell me that she was a recovering drug addicit, and sober for 12 years. Slowing into our realtionship she started to d...	goofygrrl	13	725	Jan 26, 2006 by goofygrrl
	i am horrible! (Preview) today i just feel like i have posted a lot. i think i am thinking more about my dad today than usual. i don't know why. maybe it's b/c the super bowl is coming up (i know he'll be watching), maybe it's b/c i miss him, maybe i just feel a little more angry than normal. yep i think it is the angry thing. how horribl...	flintfeet	8	500	Jan 26, 2006 by kat4u
	doing better (Preview) I have not posted in a while. So far things are going well. I am hanging in there. I have been online here alot so I am doing good that way. I try and spend some time away from the room. I am looking forward to being an op. I am excited.	nycbt	5	425	Jan 26, 2006 by mollyann
	thank you (Preview) I wanted to thank you who responded to my long post. So many wise words you all shared. I do want to make it clear, i am hurt for me, not that I care what anyone thinks of me, meaning who my A husband has said bad things about me to. Again it was the fact that he would do that. It killed something ins...	debilyn	3	400	Jan 26, 2006 by Flora123
	the alcoholic letter again (Preview) I am an alcoholic, I need your help. Don't lecture me, blame or scold me. You wouldn't be angry at me for having TB or diabetes. Alcoholism is a disease too. Don't pour out my liquor; it's a waste because I can always find ways of getting more. Don't let me provoke...	ednaxray	7	1093	Jan 26, 2006 by Lindy
	THE DR.'s OPINION (Preview) (the book refered to in this letter is our Big Book) WE OF Alcoholics Anonymous believe that the reader will be interested in the medical estimate of the plan of recovery described in this book. Convincing testimony must surely come from medical men who have had experience with the sufferings of...	jersey1	0	467	Jan 26, 2006 by jersey1
	i'm the only one (Preview) my dad is an A. i'll spare you most of the details. but i have a bro and a sis. we decided to have no contact with him b/c of his drinking. well, my bro caved, but my sis and i are staying strong. the problem is that i feel like i am the only one that really cares about it. my bro just wants to pretend that nothing is...	flintfeet	5	572	Jan 26, 2006 by cdb
	picture book for kids -story of parents w/alcohol or drug problems? (Preview) Does anyone have a title for a picture book to read to children (2nd-5th grade) dealing with parents with drug or alcohol problem?	Barbara	8	1172	Jan 26, 2006 by cdb
	The A and her dog (Preview) Hello everyone, Long time no chat :) This is an update of my daughter who is the recoverying alcoholic/drug addict in my life. My daughter 21, finally has been staying clean and sober for over 6 months and is struggling still with anxiety and depression. Christmas was hard for her. She went to AA on Ch...	cdb	9	509	Jan 26, 2006 by kitty
	strong for others (Preview) it is so easy to step back & be strong for others, when I am weak or confused or otherwise. Hard to swallow your own bitter pills. But just like deep tissue massage, if u don't dig & grind the pain out so it can be released (rather painfully) - the knots just stay deep in your muscle tis...	kitty	5	575	Jan 26, 2006 by cdb
	In Illinois, a 13th Ann. SRING FLING (Preview) SPRING FLING, APRIL 28 -30, 2006 GALESBURG, IL contact phone # 309-484-6012 (Larry) or email: aa_springfling@yahoo.com. (may have to type in) Speakers from Chicago, Pekin, and Kirkwood, IL and...	wallsal55	1	390	Jan 26, 2006 by cdb
	What Have I Done? (Preview) Hi all, We have a huge county event going on Thursday and Friday, and I volunteered to captain a section of my county. I am starting to feel the stress hit me. I don't live in that part of the county, I don't know the resources, and as I keep trying to find them, I am finding there aren't any. I have been give...	Dolphin123	4	459	Jan 26, 2006 by cdb
	Sixth Step Prayer-Beautiful ! (Preview) This prayer is over 30 years old ! Do not know if anyone has heard it before, or if it is still around, but it IS beautiful ! Passing it along, as I just stumbled across it this week. Six Step Prayer God, I want to get ready to let go of this OL...	wallsal55	1	2178	Jan 26, 2006 by cdb
	I have faith - why do others need to judge it (Preview) I had a long talk with a long time friend of mine last night that disturbed me. She recently has gone through this born again Christian thing where she all of a sudden is cramming HER religion down my throat. I have my own faith - I got in touch with it again within the last 4 months - how could I n...	Cyn	6	466	Jan 26, 2006 by cdb
	Great Al-Anon advice (Preview) I got this message from a friend today and it carried a valuable Al-Anon meaning for me. I decided to post it in case it might be valuable to others too... please note in advance that this is not conference approved if that is a problem for you “...	Emmie11	3	696	Jan 26, 2006 by cdb
	I need support.. I am so alone (Preview) My husband was sober 16 years.. all the time I knew him and am married to him.. he is drinking alot now..two weeks ago.. he started drinking again.. never home and drunk when he is... I am feeling constant pain and am going to a meeting on Friday... but.. I don't know how to deal with a drunk? D...	Ninababy	12	531	Jan 26, 2006 by leo
	I am slipping (Preview) I haven't dated anyone seriously since my A and I parted ways last May. Seems that I am doing great as long as I am not dating anyone. I met someone a month ago. I also finished my six month zoloft prescription a month ago. This new guy and I hit it off last month. We live in different towns, but i...	mollyann	11	490	Jan 26, 2006 by maresie
	HEALTH AT RISK (Preview) Hello all: I am in a terrible place and need support. Last night I found out that my A has tested positive for the Hep C antibody. While in treatment he was tested. He will need to follow up once he leaves (1/31) in order to confirm but that is not for another week when he gets out. I can't tell...	Kim	8	602	Jan 25, 2006 by maresie
	insanity is contagious (Preview) You all know I have this foundation of serenity. I know things will be ok. Also have to say after being so upset by A's words and craziness, I just wanted to check out. Just close my eyes and be done with it. I mean gads ya gotta be some kinda brave person to live past 50 and you must be super courageou...	debilyn	8	610	Jan 25, 2006 by maresie
	I feel kind of bad (Preview) I read so many really moving stories on here that tell of so much difficulty with their a(s), when I really have nothing even close to compare or relate to. No DUIs, fights, leaving, coming back, job loss, family problems, violence, threats, hospital emergencies, verbal abuse, stabbing, shooting,...	Amanda	7	595	Jan 25, 2006 by gknee
	lost serenity if found please contact ... (Preview) I'm frustrated this morning. My A is going to go help his Dad later this afternoon move some furniture around. He wants to take the puppy with him. I am angry that I am worrying about him getting high with his family. I'm angry I am worrying about my puppy. I know it is bes...	Jennifer	5	478	Jan 25, 2006 by Jennifer
	making amends to my "cyber buddies" (Preview) Clearing the Slate One of the greatest gifts we can give is an open, loving heart. And holding on to negative feelings from past relationships is our greatest barrier to that gift. Most of us have had relationships that have ended. When we examine these relationships, we need to clear the emoti...	rosie light shines	7	569	Jan 25, 2006 by angelinme908
	for kissers (Preview) What happened with that new guy? Did you end up contacting him? Are you still seeing him? Also, I liked those posts you did a while ago where you copied some text from recovery books. If you have time to do more, I would love to read more of those posts!! MollyAnn	mollyann	1	450	Jan 25, 2006 by kissers
	Jigsaw Puzzles/January Self Mastery! (Preview) The weather here has been nice, then yuck. Have been working jigsaw puzzles (60-100 piece, the Keep It Simple type, so as to not overwhelm myself) I cannot believe what a sense of self mastery it gives me. I can RELY on myself, my own intuition, the puzzle has a b...	wallsal55	3	736	Jan 25, 2006 by wallsal55
	Alanon's 55th Birthday Party--Midwest Bus Trip to Virgingia Beach VA. (Preview) 4 days to Virginia Beach to the World Service Office, open house and more. Deadlines are in March! For information sheet and contacts from Waukegan, IL go to: www.niafg.com	wallsal55	0	367	Jan 25, 2006 by wallsal55
	he wants to come home (Preview) I am confused...to say the least. When he left last May, I figured he would be home in a few days...or at most a few weeks, as before...but months went by. Then last summer after I told him I wanted to go visit my family...(2000 miles away...as I have done every year) with the kids for a month...he filed for...	swolves	6	585	Jan 25, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Alcoholism and Intelligence (Preview) ((((((((Hi roomies))))), Somewhere, someone posted a question about alcoholism, intelligence and recovery. Forgive me, I can't remember who posted it. My A is extremely intelligent so the question intrigued me enough to do some searching. After checking numerous sites, I came up with...	Karilynn	4	514	Jan 25, 2006 by Amanda
	chat server stuff (Preview) Hi y'all I so can not get into chat. I dunno whats up with that and I'm not busting rhymes I can not get in. Suggestions? Oceans of love 2 all \/\/ille	wille	2	400	Jan 25, 2006 by leo
	Thanks To All (Preview) A heartfelt thanks to all for your support and advice. I hope to become more supportive to others once I've worked through my family's present crisis with our A. It is amazing how comforting it is to know that you are not alone and that others experience the same feelings and pain. And that regardless of...	CLJ	0	368	Jan 25, 2006 by CLJ
	progress for me (Preview) today i really worked by program. i did not react to my dry a. well i had two minor slips then caught myself and told him im not having this conversation until you can learn to talk to me properly, it was amazing to see how quickly he turned around and began treating me like a human being again....	notsonew1111	1	407	Jan 25, 2006 by cdb
	'Newbie'-Hi, Trying to Detach... (Preview) Hi I am new to the board but not to the sorrow of living with a beloved person who is alcoholic. He relapsed a couple days ago after 2 years of sobriety. He is nearing end stage and this just blew his position on the liver transplant list. In my panic, I demanded he return to treatment...	CLJ	4	436	Jan 25, 2006 by notsonew1111
	antidepressants - long term effects (Preview) Does anyone have any real life experience with long term antidepressant use? I have read a lot online. I take zoloft. I am meeting with my doctor this morning about long term use. Has anyone had to go off of it while pregnant? MollyAnn	mollyann	5	487	Jan 24, 2006 by browneyes
	what should i/ do I need to do? (Preview) Mother calls today and says younger brother (42?) BIT HER! As at least 2 of you know my brothers been having problems for a few years now. Still lives with mother, etc. Mother's been saying he drinks too much, has a temper, etc. Today she called and said HE BIT HER! I told her to put a restrainin...	Barbara	5	583	Jan 24, 2006 by Amanda
	nearing 3 months now (Preview) My computer crashed and I lost everything--just getting things back together. I still don't know what the future holds but my husband is still sober--it will be 3 months in 2 days. For now our life is better than I ever imagined. He's a new person. We're a family again. We'...	mom to 2	2	503	Jan 24, 2006 by Amanda
	proud of myself (Preview) Late last night my A husband called...drunk:( He started calling me awful names..before I would have gotten pissed off and retailiated with some mean comments,hollering back etc.Well not this night.I was calm and actually nice.I said...I love you and will not say hurtful things to you,cal...	allison	3	456	Jan 24, 2006 by Amanda
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