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Mother is mad at ME! Is this where I Let Go/Let God? or push forward w/it?
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Spoke w/my mother today. Told her after she cancelled court Fri morn I called the lady at the courthouse. She got mad! Told me I went behind her back (which I did). Does not see that Ive been hearing soooo much about the abuse for over a year now that its time I finally do something! Told her I can file the rep...
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Barbara
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The addict and birth defects?
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Hello friends,
Does anyone know of any new evidence or studies on the past usage of meth/drugs/alcohol in the male or female and birth defects or future developmental problems? With all the different drugs that addicts may have used that have such toxic chemicals in them, I ca...
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cdb
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so why am I second guessing
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Good Morning!
So I have an opportunity to have this new job. My job satisfaction has been low since last September. This job is for a company that does erosion control, the pay is the same but after 90 days there is pay review and full family benefits, so why am I having problems sealing th...
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marmare
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what goes on at a Business Meeting?
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We're having one at my F2F next Sat
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Barbara
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debilyn :)
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Hello debilyn,
I was channel surfing today and saw part of the Miss Americal Pageant. One of the contestants had a pet pig and it did tricks for her. I thought fondly of you and of all the care and support you have given me. I am glad you have been a part of my life in alanon. cdb :)
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cdb
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realization
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for so long i have been asking how can i tc of myself? how can i get better? i realized that asking my a to leave yesterday was taking care of me in the best way i can. i got away from the madness for yesterday and today. i got to relax. which is what i wanted last night and today. relaxation. no nonsense a...
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notsonew1111
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Living with an angerholic/rageaholic
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Hello friends :)
I came to alanon due to my 21 year old daughter's struggle with alcoholism/drug addiction. She is doing so well now, of course one day at a time :) The program tells us to focus on us which I have done and have been using the alanon tools in other areas of my life too. Recently I talk...
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cdb
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a reading on detachment
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notsonew1111
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Mother postponed taking brother to court
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She just cant do it! Its going to be me going to court to file the report. I do have an older brother but he's mentally handicapped. It needs to be a blood relative and Im it. I did call and speak w/the lady my mother spoke w/yesterday.
This lady said my mother really needs this done. There is a bite mark, la...
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Barbara
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on personal boundaries
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notsonew1111
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Feeling down and tired with the life of an "A"
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Hello group,
I'm really feeling down today and needed to vent in a healthy place. My "a" is supposed to do his DUI course this weekend and low and behold his best friend from school came in to town yesterday. This is a person who he drank with consistently and always got into to trouble wit...
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twinmom2
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rehab...yeah right!
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i keep wondering if my dad caves in and goes to rehab if it is worth his time and their's as well. he doesn't want to quit drinking, doesn't have a problem, can stop whenever he wants to,...ect. i know rehab won't work unless he wants it. i think he would go just to have contact with my bro, sis,and i. i see him...
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flintfeet
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Found a massage from my Higher Power
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This is not from Alanon literature and therefore left me picking my chin up off the floor. Thought I would share it with you all. It's real Step One stuff!!!!
My Love must be brought against every jarring circumstance, every uncertainty, to inject peace.
You have found that your peace must never d...
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mon123
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Caron Foundation-Workshop Information
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Life Enrichment Workshops In an effort to offer Caron Life Enrichment Services to a greater number of our alumni and friends, we have instituted some modifications. The workshops have been reformatted into one-day events that will now be offered within the various regions throug...
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kissers
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? answered ~ emotional protection
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"I just got back w/ an old flame, so I am taking it very, very slowly. Last month I told God I wasn't ready for a relationship & in HP's infinite humor, has proved me wrong again. "
"But the self-protection that is coming from the self-love is a nice surprise, I never knew what it meant t...
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kitty
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Confusion
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I'm hurting badly and just want someone who will understand to "hear" me. My alcoholic husband is playing serious head games with me and I've gotten so caught up in them it's making me sick, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I've gone to Al-Anon meetings for almost 6 yea...
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Kim2
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HP answers our prayers
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Today was a better day & I'm feeling stronger in myself. I know when I reach out in pain, not only is it a release of it all but then it quiets my mind & I can usually get an answer or sign from HP. When I feel helpless or lost, & call on God i can feel those under your skin shivers...&n...
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kitty
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New. Please help!
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Hi. I am new here. I am thinking about going to Al-Anon. I have never been before. My father was an alcoholic, but he quit before I was born. The thing that is giving me trouble though is my boyfriend. I have been with him for almost four years and I love him more tha...
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paintthinnr
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Prayers needed for families
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((((((((((((Hello roomies)))))))))))))))),
Exactly 24 hours ago, my apartment complex had a major fire which destroyed completely 1 building and 1/2 of another. 24 families are now homeless, and another 24 are displaced because they had to turn of the utilities in the lower part of the compl...
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Karilynn
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I feel like me again
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HI everyone,
I haven't been on the board to much lately. But tonight as i went to bed something made me get up and write this. Its all good. I have been online a little over a year now. When I first came I was mad at the world. Why did I have to pick a drunk to fall in love with...
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nikkilou
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Alcohol and seizures
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My daughter had a seizure tonight and was taken to the hospital by ambulance. The doctor at the emergency said that since all of her tests were normal, more than likely the seizure was alcohol related. Have any of you experienced anything like this with your A?
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MFran
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I filed a report with Elder Services
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Do they usually take these seriously? I called the Hotline 800# and they referred me to her district. Explained some of it, took 15mins
So now Ive spoken with the Courthouse and with Elder Services. Do I need to call the police too or see what happens?
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Barbara
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i did it again...hopefully for good
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tonight my a came home from work and started playing his stupid mind games again and was so ignorant. he said he didnt need aa and wasnt going anymore. kept calling me names and all that other lovely stuff. so i said thats it, get your stuff together and get out. im done with this. im not sitting around wait...
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notsonew1111
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Insanity= doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome
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That pretty much sums up my life. INSANITY .. !!! I keep hoping that my marriage will improve that things will get better.. But they dont.. The merry go round keeps going and I just continue to ride.. Why ?? What am I so afraid of ? Why do I let someone belittle me and tre...
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Tammy
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Driving drunk last night
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Things are getting much, much worse for me now. I had a HUGE argument with my husband (my A) on Wednesday night. I told him for the thousandth time I was tired of his drinking, he called me a bitch and I told him I would rather be a bitch than an alcoholic. I thought that giant argument might wake him up to this...
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Lindy
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trying to figure out how to detach from this
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As hard as it is, it's so much easier to set boundries to protect yourself when it's just you and your A.
I found myself today though getting angry and getting ready to add to my resentment pile with my A. I remember being in my daughters therapy session w/ just my A and I, trying to figure out some daily...
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bobump
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Questions about Al-Anon
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I haven't been to a meeting yet. I kinda want to go because I want to be around people who understand and it feels like no one does. But there are two things that make me hesitant:
1) I don't believe in God. In any way shape or form.
2) I don't want to leave my boyfriend and I feel like i...
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paintthinnr
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Is it common that A's have many addictions?
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I've come to find out (if you've been following my nightmare of a story) that not only was my AH an A, a cocaine addict, but also a sex addict, not to mention being bi-polar. He had said he had been living with the guilt of all the times he go out on binge drinks and cheat on me, and told himself if he ever...
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I did it
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Hello everyone.
Well, I did it. I told my husband this weekend that I want a divorce. He is absolutely devasted and I feel very sad but I still believe it's the right thing. He made all sorts of promises but I just can't believe him anymore. I won't get into details but I've had many signs from my HP...
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findingmyway
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i slipped
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hi everyone. once again i slipped in keeping my mouth shut. man i wish i could master this over night. today my a came home from work and he said after we get some groceries im gonna go watch the hockey game at my moms house. lately all he has been doing is going to her house and spending all his time wit...
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alcoholism
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In 1956, the American Medical Association (AMA) stated alcoholism was a disease, as it met the five criteria needed in order to be considered a disease: pattern of symptoms, chronicity, progression, subject to relapse, and treatability.
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A daughter's dog doing better :)
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Just an update to let you know Burton, 7 month old mixed lab breed is doing better. He still cannot move his back legs but some feeling is coming back. They are doing physical therapy with him to get some weight on his 4 legs. It is good for me to visit him by getting me out of the house to go see him. I try to keep...
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cdb
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life...oh its weary world!
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hi guys...
just checking in. im tired...just tired. work is becoming a right bore.... same s**t different day... texts from the ex... as usual... last nights one a little different to all the others...
i usually get the loving ones..telling me he will always love me..he understands that...
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Rebecca
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Trouble sleeping
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I know a lot of you probably have problems going to sleep at night like I do...you try to sleep, but you just keep thinking about what is going on in your life and it's hard to turn those thoughts off. One thing that I find helps me is doing crossword puzzles and soduko (a number puzzle) when I first ge...
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Jayda
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Trusted Servants
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Tradition Two: "For our group purpose there is but one authority - a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants - they do not govern."
Excerpt from Paths to Recovery, p.147, paragraph 2 "...What, then, is the difference between A...
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Does anyone ELSE ever feel this way????
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Have you ever felt to embarrassed/afraid to share something that is bothering you because it seems too trivial? I feel this way a lot.
As some of you already know I am just beginning my recovery and I have to tell you most days I feel like I need a therapist. Since starting to really look at myself I am d...
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Alanon Book Excerpt #3
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Hi everyone!
Sorry it has taken me so long to write a new excerpt. I was going to write something from the book, The Dilemma of The Alcoholic Marriage, but I cannot find it anywhere....guess it is not God's will at the moment. I will look for it again tomorrow. Anyhoo....here goes....
Struggling wi...
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Suggestions for dealing with name calling and cut downs
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I am sitting here crying...again because it was another bad evening with my alcoholic husband. My previous post was titled Laid off and Drunk. Thanks to those who responded. One thing I forgot to mention in that post was the name calling and the little cut downs that slowly eat at my soul and chip away at...
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Lindy
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Beaten Down
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I am having such a hard time being in my own skin right now. I want someone to be angry with. I want to lash out because I feel so miserable. The past few weeks have been difficult dealing with my husband. His raging behavior came to a culmination late last week in which I had to ha...
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AlaMom
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went to the doctor today
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Hello all:
I just came back from the doctor. He took blood and the results should be back on Tuesday. Please pray although I know that I am preparing for the worst. I've researched and read everything, I asked the doctor a million questions and although he was very kind, I still feel an...
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Kim
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Bridgewater, MA Correctional Institution - brother may be going tomorrow
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My mother called. She went to the courthouse today and told them about my brother. Fri morn before 9am my mother is to go to the courthouse to get the procedure started. They will then return to her house to get my brother. Take him by cruiser. When they get back to the courthouse he'll meet w/a doctor, get...
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Barbara
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Off Topic Humor
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Remember ABBOTT and COSTELLO Jokes? Hope you enjoy this one. In today's world, Bud ABBOTT and Lou COSTELLO's famous sketch "Who's on first?" Might have turned out something like this.... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ COSTELLO CALLS TO BUY A COMPUTER FROM ABBOTT . . . . ABB...
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kismetstrand
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Letting Go
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I got this from another Al-anon group that I belong to and many people on the chat tonight asked me to post it here. It really has helped me put things in perspective! 
To Let Go doesn't mean to stop caring - it means I can't do it for someone else. To Let Go is not to cut myself...
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amy123
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How do I just let it go? If I ever have to see him again?
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I've done everything I can for years to hold this family together. I believe in marriage, in sickness and in health. I waited years for him to get to where he is now which is finally be completely and totally serious about his sobriety. I thought with counceling and each of us...
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sdisnie
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new- could this be a problem? Not sure!
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Hello,
I am a divorced mother of two. My boyfriend in high school of five years had a cocaine problem, my now ex husband also had a cocaine problem. My mother has a tranquilizer addiction! I am now dating a man who is my older brother's best friend. Have known him my whole life. He is a great...
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11marie11
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Letting Go of Jealousy & Fear
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My husband is newly sober and I am new to Al-anon (about 5 mos) - I recently found out my husband has made friends w/a female in AA, but he didn't tell me, actually lied to me about it whenever I'd ask because he didn't want me to "think" anything - so I found out by snooping the phone bill. In any event, he prom...
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Lily
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Laid off and drunk
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I am just getting so sick of this pattern of life I'm finding myself in. My husband who is an A that has never been to treatment and won't admit he has a problem, is laid off from work. It's been about a month. Here is the pattern we go through like clockwork. It's becoming very predictable. He goes for a whil...
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Lindy
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Accountability
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To be able to Let Go... to realize that I am only accountable for myself, for my own actions ... to know that I am not responsible for/accountable for others ... that they too have a Higher Power (which is NOT me) that they are accountable to ... that all I need to do is look at myself and change those things a...
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kismetstrand
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TLC2
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You silly, I don't even know what you mean. I always LOVE your
responses.
I meant only to clarify MY share. Others have thought I meant I cared what others t hink
I really don't. Especially his A friends.
Part of my caring for me has been becoming self actualized and caring for how
I feel. A...
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debilyn
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Heartbroken
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Morning all,
I'll leave out the gory details w/ the A and how she was arguing so much that my son went to go to someone elses house he doesn't really like to escape. Saying he could still hear her two houses up the block.....suffice to say, it wasn't the best of days.
My 9 yo son is becoming the hou...
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bobump
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new here, partner is drinking
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HI, I am a new member to this site and needing help.
My partner of 4 years is to me an alcoholic. When we first met she never drank and she was happy with saying that out loud. She did tell me that she was a recovering drug addicit, and sober for 12 years. Slowing into our realtionship she started to d...
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goofygrrl
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i am horrible!
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today i just feel like i have posted a lot. i think i am thinking more about my dad today than usual. i don't know why. maybe it's b/c the super bowl is coming up (i know he'll be watching), maybe it's b/c i miss him, maybe i just feel a little more angry than normal. yep i think it is the angry thing. how horribl...
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flintfeet
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doing better
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I have not posted in a while. So far things are going well. I am hanging in there. I have been online here alot so I am doing good that way. I try and spend some time away from the room. I am looking forward to being an op. I am excited.
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nycbt
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thank you
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I wanted to thank you who responded to my long post.
So many wise words you all shared. I do want to make it clear, i am hurt for me, not
that I care what anyone thinks of me, meaning who my A husband has said
bad things about me to.
Again it was the fact that he would do that. It killed something ins...
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debilyn
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the alcoholic letter again
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I am an alcoholic, I need your help. Don't lecture me, blame or scold me. You wouldn't be angry at me for having TB or diabetes. Alcoholism is a disease too. Don't pour out my liquor; it's a waste because I can always find ways of getting more. Don't let me provoke...
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THE DR.'s OPINION
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(the book refered to in this letter is our Big Book)
WE OF Alcoholics Anonymous believe that the reader will be interested in the medical estimate of the plan of recovery described in this book. Convincing testimony must surely come from medical men who have had experience with the sufferings of...
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jersey1
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i'm the only one
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my dad is an A. i'll spare you most of the details. but i have a bro and a sis. we decided to have no contact with him b/c of his drinking. well, my bro caved, but my sis and i are staying strong. the problem is that i feel like i am the only one that really cares about it. my bro just wants to pretend that nothing is...
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flintfeet
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picture book for kids -story of parents w/alcohol or drug problems?
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Does anyone have a title for a picture book to read to children (2nd-5th grade) dealing with parents with drug or alcohol problem?
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Barbara
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The A and her dog
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Hello everyone,
Long time no chat :) This is an update of my daughter who is the recoverying alcoholic/drug addict in my life. My daughter 21, finally has been staying clean and sober for over 6 months and is struggling still with anxiety and depression. Christmas was hard for her. She went to AA on Ch...
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cdb
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strong for others
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it is so easy to step back & be strong for others, when I am weak or confused or otherwise. Hard to swallow your own bitter pills. But just like deep tissue massage, if u don't dig & grind the pain out so it can be released (rather painfully) - the knots just stay deep in your muscle tis...
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kitty
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