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SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm actually doing pretty well staying out of my own head and not invading others .. LOL .. it would make me more comfortable if my X would act out because then I would know we are still operating in the same way. At this point he has either figured out that he needs a court order or not .. it's not my problem n...

lookingup · lookingup

in today's reading talks about keeping our anonymity within meetings, anonymity make it possible to leave all our surnames and labels ,expectations with which we have been burdened outside the alanon rooms, through our commitment to anonymity we can put aside what we are and begin to know who we are...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and happy Friday. Today's reading in C2C is all about self-acceptance and healing. The writer talks about becoming more comfy in his/her own skin through self-acceptance. While the program asks us to recognize and admit our limitations, we are also asked to accept that only a hi...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Today marks 3 weeks of sobriety for my AH. Things seem to be improving between us - weâve shared a few laughs and things seems more fluid and natural between us. And weâve had a positive conversation about our finances and have a tentative plan for going forward now that he purchased the classic car for o...

ling · ling

Can anyone answer this_ how do you work out if you want to stay with your alcoholic whose wobbling on their ice skates and keeps falling over. They may never get up again -and were standing up for 12 years? A bit cryptic and hope you know what I mean. He hasn't wobbled or fallen off for 12 yrs. A non alcoholic...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I love how we share our ESH in recovery. I wanted to share how 'it' works when we work it! My oldest child, 25, is sober about 2.5 months. This is a child who, like me, showed many 'isms' before he ever consumed a mind altering substance. This is a child, like me, who found courage from the first mind-alt...

ChangingTide · ChangingTide

Years ago I attended Al Anon when my ex husband decided to go to AA. I learned a lot there; about his disease....and mine. Now, years later, my son is in his 3rd round of treatment for drug dependency/alcoholism and I realize I need to get myself healthy again. I am looking for meetings in my area that a...

LuvMySun · LuvMySun

I don't know if you all read my post about my son but he is 28- in a downward spiral. My daughter called and said he texted her and asked the name and number for the therapist she recommended to him a while back... I know he KNOWS he has a problem- but I also understand the courage it takes to ask for help. He i...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

My AD is 30 years old and is now in deep financial trouble and homeless. Her boyfriend kicked her out this week and she texted me last month that she is over $10k in debt. The good thing is that she is alive and has a job, even though her wages are now being garnished. I made a couple of suggestions to her via te...

2HP · 2HP

A year ago, I saw Valentines Day fast approaching at a time my son was about to graduate. Now in his early 30s, I thought the time had FINALLY come for him to commit to his long-time, live-in girlfriend, who had followed him and his long academic career while making a happy home for them both. To me, it l...

hotrod · Newbie

Post InfoTOPIC: NewcomerL1983 Newbie Status: OnlinePosts: 1Date: 31m agoIP: 94.2.230.176NewcomerPermalink Reply Quote More Hi Im not too sure how this works. Im new here and to Al-anon. I have heard how much it can help people and Ive realised how desperate I am to get better. My father is an...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses 'help' and what it looked like for most of us before recovery. The writer considered Al-Anon 'heartless' when she first heard that the best way to help an alcoholic was to focus on self. She had decided to not return and one statement changed her mind. She was told that the...

jtpickle · jtpickle

Hi Everyone - Are there any other ideas or suggestions you can give me of how I can mentally separate my AH from this disease? Here's the scenario that plays each night: AH comes home from work, drinks a beer that we can "see" but has already had his vodka or other alcohol of choice by now. He then goes t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in courage to change is about step two - a return to sanity. The author shares that if someone had been observing their actions prior to AlAnon, they would have seemed like the one who was insane. Living with an active alcoholic and trying to control alcoholic behavior resulted in all...

Twinkies · Twinkies

AH and I have been up and down the last few days. Part of it was me, part of it was him. Iâm new to this way of life too and heâs not the only one struggling with his choice to stop drinking. Iâm grateful heâs come to this point - finally, after years of praying, of hoping, of dreaming - weâve finally taken the fi...

Tude · Tude

Hi everyone. My AF who lives on our property has been going to AA a few weeks now. She has a court date over DUI coming up the 24th. When she stopped over to get her mail I asked her what the court date was (i had forgotten it) and if her sponsor was going with her to court.......no. I guess my concerns are if sh...

LuvMySun · LuvMySun

without making this too long- I am scared and worried for my adult son... his dad (my ex husband) was/is alcoholic and my son has been in a downward spiral for months now. I am remarried (since my son was 11- he is now 28) but his Dad has painted my husband as the "bad guy" and my son always craved time and atte...

MizzB · MizzB

Last night A EX-BF came round without announcement and wanted to dry out here. I asked my parents to come over because I dind't want my first weekend alone to be alone, so there was nowhere for him to sleep. He was lost and scared and breaking and I had to turn him round to send him back to his hotel. I know tha...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

Hi friends I just want to drop this here. I would love some help seeing this with program eyes. We are packing up our apartment. I only have a few more days before I leave. I need to get all the stuff out. That includes my AH's stuff. I still can't talk to him so I have to make judgement calls on everything - ev...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 16 points out that we react instantly to situations and forget to THINK and pray before we RESPOND. /It suggest that this is a personality flaw and indicates that many of our irrational reactions are automatic and if we take the time to THINK we will respond in a ore const...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So I had a good laugh at myself over the weekend .. at the moment it looks like there will be more court. I know shocking right?? LOL. Oi. I'm going to see what he has going on I'm not the one jumping to file, I have no intension .. it plays to my favor. I know I'm horrible however after doing this for 7 year...

joker · joker

I have been working hard on my recovery. I have been doing a lot of processing and its been so hard. I had a break down yesterday. I had not had been grocery shopping for awhile as it reminds me of the alcoholic. Well, yesterday I finally faced my fear and got groceries. Well, that was a trigger big time. I go...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have been missing my mom lately. I haven't talked to her in sometime. It is going to get cold here & I may feel the coldness the most. My mom is safe in a hospital & has not contacted me at all. I had to find out from a friend where she is. I am suffering from a bit of guilt getting rid of her stuff & b...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

Ok so I have talked to some other people in 1:1 meetings and it seems like there is that opinion that by me not sharing my feelings with AH that I am codependent and just allowing the situation to go on to a certain extent. Because the drinking has become more frequent and he is definitely trying to hide it...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Call my mom or not? Might be toxic & a mistake. I want to know for sure. She may be angry. Do I take a risk? Boundaries in place.

MizzB · MizzB

I finally told ABF we were over after a bad week last week and then another MIA event last night. And he has found somewhere else to stay for a week and then he's moving out. I am heartbroken that it had to come to this. I did everything I could. I know he's not a bad person, but the decision to drink is done whil...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the importance of setting boundaries for ourselves in relationship to others. Many of us have felt we must avoid setting boundaries our of fear that we may upset someone else. I think of this as always my discomfort before yours. What I have noticed s...

Lyne · Lyne

Stay in the day you have: The writer discusses learning about a crisis involving an alcoholic he/she loves. She began worrying, projecting, dreading the outcome, and could not even focus at work. She remembered the slogan, ODAT. She realized that the worrying could not protect her, yet it was r...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My morning meeting (AA) started off normally and I was prepared to leave early to attend the Saturday Al-Anon group with my spouse until a heavily tattooed male broke into the meeting speaking loudly and rapidly and because of my marginal hearing I didn't get much other something about a cell phone...

tats · tats

Hello everyone, im brand new to alanon and i am finally reaching out out of desperation. My husband is an active alcoholic, after 9 yrs being sober he started again at a party and never stopped, that was a little over 2 yrs ago now....2 agonizing years. i feel like im living in groundhog day where each day...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi everyone, I havent posted in so long. Overall life since splitting with AH has been such a blessing. I feel joy and lightness where I hadnt in so long. My struggles with AH are in his manipulation- he does not want this marriage to end and he is throwing everything at me, trying to shame me into trying ag...

lookingup · lookingup

today;s reading is about our joining alanon and finding the personal spiritual freedom to choose the HP of or own understanding. It suggests the because we are free to do this we can embrace a HP that we trust and can turn our life over to.The reading suggests that as we practice program our unders...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Some days back there was a post on this board which I can no longer locate. It was about a window that now appears on the entrance of the MIP Alanon Chatroom which requires that you check it off in order to get into the chatroom for a meeting. When you check off this box and hit Connect, you get a Green Line loa...

jtpickle · jtpickle

Hi Everyone - I'm wondering if someone could clarify or explain the don't from the sticky: "Don't resent the method of recovery". I'm not sure exactly how to understand this. Does this mean how they choose to recover - by themselves or via a 12 step program? It's confusing to me but probably only be...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

LOL .. there is a story here and it made me LOL to myself today. Way back in early, early pre alanon, right at the beginning of my journey with alanon. My XAH and I lived on a farm. It wasn't ours .. we were renting. Landlords lived next door .. they were fun .. NOT. My XAH decided he was going to build a wi...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I don't know if any MIP Family member shared this survey questionnaire before however it was just shared with me and I felt it might be helpful here. Takes about 20 minutes to fill out and is very supportive and informative. If you don't want to ...not and issue... just for those who are supportive w...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I am seriously struggling to keep my big fat mouth shut and it is a challenge in ways that would boggle the mind at this point. I am frustrated with the people in my life, ALL of them .. LOL .. I have hormones screaming and honestly it is surprising I haven't acted out worse than I have at the moment. Mostly...

ling · ling

Hi not sure if I'm posting this right as I'm a bit technophobic. To put in picture briefly I'm in dilemma as I can't sit and watch him drink (he doesnt want siezures - hes had three) and i can't stand it and don't want to be controlled when to go out. Where to on tap? We have no children (he has) and I have no fami...

allywoo · allywoo

Hi all, my AH and I are separated he lives with his parents. We have 2 dogs and he comes to visit them and walk them frequently, I have been very reasonable in allowing him to do this considering how badly he has treated myself and the kids. However on every visit I never know what mood he is going to be in, we h...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP - happy Thursday. Today's Quote from Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism --- "For me, alcoholism has proven to be a bittersweet legacy - bitter, because of the pain I suffered, and sweet, because if it weren't for that pain, I wouldn't have searched for and found a better way of living." Today'...

Tude · Tude

Hi all, Where is the line that goes from compulsive liar to addiction based lies? I have tried to post this a few times today and have been embarrassed to ask. The AF in my life has a horrific lying issue. It totally blows my mind andnnnn sets me on edge more than when she relapses. No honesty=no relations...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

It's been awhile since I've posted here, but I do still read this board every now and then (usually right around my Al-Anon anniversary, which will be 9 years in February). Just wanted to share that life is good, and certainly that is an understatement compared to 9 years ago when I walked into my first A...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just want to give y'all an update on my mom. She is getting guardianship from the state. I will not be responsible for her. It is now out of my hands. I thank HP for looking out for her. Some might think it isharsh including family members. I just need to know that I am doing the right thing. She us very ill. ...

hiraeth · hiraeth

Hi I have a friend whose husband's alcoholism is progressing, but they are both in denial about it. I am watching the illness worsen, as it always does, with his behavior growing more and more destructive. I am familiar with alcoholism as both my parents and various family members are alcoholics. I'm...

CarlyH · CarlyH

hi, ive posted some grim depressive stuff on here since October. my Relationship with Ex came to An abrupt end and it wasnt my choice and I found it hard. Massively hard. I had self doubt no confidence and I was broken the fact they wouldnt speak or acknowledgw or show any remorse was probably the most...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

Hi all, I just have something I really want to share and I hope that by letting it go here, I can start to move on. I am flooded with self-doubt and self hate at the moment. I posted in an earlier post about deciding to go to my home country to be with my family during the time when my husband is in his 8 month r...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about breaking the cycle of worry and fear. The author shares that when they focus on worry and fear, their thoughts can become obsessive, they can become relentlessly critical of themselves, and lose the ability to accomplish anything useful. F...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I have been working through the "Blueprint for Progress" booklet and I am not sure if it's because of that or what, but I woke up this morning with this thought... I have been having a hard time with blaming my spouse for the end of our 29 year marriage. While it is true that the alcoholism and addictive beh...

jessiefred86 · jessiefred86

My... boyfriend (?) and I met a little over a year ago at the beginning of a relapse for him. Of course, the depth of his addiction were not known to me until we were too far gone, so to speak. 2 rehabs and a heat layer and here we are. Heâs been sober for a longer period of time than Iâve ever known him to be, and I...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am just posting to update now & then. I am not in any crisis I have to tell myself. If only my mom wasn't. From what I am getting, she is now AWOL. I have yet to hear from her. She hasn't called or I haven't gotten a call. I guess this affects me in 3 ways: I am grateful I am not her, I am saddened of she being mi...

Carmine · Carmine

I have been working for four years with a group of people on publishing a book. The book launch is next month. I would very much love to be there. Last month my AH said I should go. Today, just out of the blue, he says I have no business going to that event, no one needs me there. I said nothing. Did not ask for an...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for January 9 speaks about how confusing and disturbing,living with the disease of alcoholism can be. It suggests that often we reject God and the help we can receive . Without the God of our understanding going it alone only makes matters worse. When we finally see that going it ...

Twinkies · Twinkies

11 days sober for AH and I feel like Iâm the one about to crack. Thereâs been very little communication between us aside from general pleasantries until Friday, when we did have a real conversation - nothing alcohol related. Then back to nothing much yesterday. Thereâs a huge wall between us and even t...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

For about the last 6 months, I have been attending 5 or 6 alanon meetings a week. I go to the meetings, but didn't get a sponsor and rarely share. I just listen. The weather where I live has gotten really icy and snowy, with temperatures well below zero. About a month ago, I started using the weather as an ex...

lookingup · lookingup

ive been searching all over for me an apartment,I live in a house I rent right now been looking for a change , and im so excited to say I've finally found where I want to go,for some here remember me downsizing for a long time now, pits finally happening ,the way it came about was strange is why I know without...

Tude · Tude

It's been so long since I worked the 12 Steps, I had forgotten the hidden things they can bring up. I was of course, focusing on all the things that were driving me crazy when I came back into Al-anon. Those things that are buried, bring up pain, embarrassment,anxiety and all sorts of just yuk surfaced!...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

I just want to share and leave this here that I have a lot of fear surrounding the coming transition. I have to speak to our land lord today. I am ready to pay the lease as long as it takes to find a new tennant and I want to uphold my contractual obligations but I am fearful about him being angry at me and I stil...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am very sorry about trying something new that I didn't know I did & appreciate Betty for drawing attention to it. It was so nice of her to mention in a post. I am so grateful that pencil have erasers. Much more to post about my mom. She is out the hands of the county we live in & probably won't be seen...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

I havnt seen my XAH in 2 years. Yet I use Alanon principles everyday. I love and live with a wonderful guy who happens to be a hoarder and has his share of anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. It is a challenging relationship and we have the usual misunderstandings. However, at the beginning we set rules o...

Lee51 · Lee51

I haven't posted in awhile, but have been attending meetings when I can, though do not yet have a sponsor. For awhile I thought I was gaining some ground, but am starting to wonder if I was just kidding myself. The holiday was a bad one for me with family scattered across the country, the anniversary of my...

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	Wondering .. (Preview) I'm actually doing pretty well staying out of my own head and not invading others .. LOL .. it would make me more comfortable if my X would act out because then I would know we are still operating in the same way. At this point he has either figured out that he needs a court order or not .. it's not my problem n...	SerenityRUS	1	531	Jan 21, 2018 by Aline
	CTC Jan 20,2018 (Preview) in today's reading talks about keeping our anonymity within meetings, anonymity make it possible to leave all our surnames and labels ,expectations with which we have been burdened outside the alanon rooms, through our commitment to anonymity we can put aside what we are and begin to know who we are...	lookingup	8	550	Jan 20, 2018 by Tude
	Courage to Change 1/19/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP and happy Friday. Today's reading in C2C is all about self-acceptance and healing. The writer talks about becoming more comfy in his/her own skin through self-acceptance. While the program asks us to recognize and admit our limitations, we are also asked to accept that only a hi...	Iamhere	7	517	Jan 20, 2018 by Maresie
	3weeks in... (Preview) Today marks 3 weeks of sobriety for my AH. Things seem to be improving between us - weâve shared a few laughs and things seems more fluid and natural between us. And weâve had a positive conversation about our finances and have a tentative plan for going forward now that he purchased the classic car for o...	Twinkies	12	593	Jan 20, 2018 by Tude
	ice skating (Preview) Can anyone answer this_ how do you work out if you want to stay with your alcoholic whose wobbling on their ice skates and keeps falling over. They may never get up again -and were standing up for 12 years? A bit cryptic and hope you know what I mean. He hasn't wobbled or fallen off for 12 yrs. A non alcoholic...	ling	8	651	Jan 20, 2018 by Tude
	Hope in Recovery (Preview) I love how we share our ESH in recovery. I wanted to share how 'it' works when we work it! My oldest child, 25, is sober about 2.5 months. This is a child who, like me, showed many 'isms' before he ever consumed a mind altering substance. This is a child, like me, who found courage from the first mind-alt...	Iamhere	5	2229	Jan 19, 2018 by Iamhere
	A long time coming (Preview) Years ago I attended Al Anon when my ex husband decided to go to AA. I learned a lot there; about his disease....and mine. Now, years later, my son is in his 3rd round of treatment for drug dependency/alcoholism and I realize I need to get myself healthy again. I am looking for meetings in my area that a...	ChangingTide	9	664	Jan 19, 2018 by Tude
	A glimmer of home? (Preview) I don't know if you all read my post about my son but he is 28- in a downward spiral. My daughter called and said he texted her and asked the name and number for the therapist she recommended to him a while back... I know he KNOWS he has a problem- but I also understand the courage it takes to ask for help. He i...	LuvMySun	9	637	Jan 19, 2018 by Tude
	My Sister is Trying to "Save" my AD (Preview) My AD is 30 years old and is now in deep financial trouble and homeless. Her boyfriend kicked her out this week and she texted me last month that she is over $10k in debt. The good thing is that she is alive and has a job, even though her wages are now being garnished. I made a couple of suggestions to her via te...	Green Eyes	13	1305	Jan 19, 2018 by Tude
	Walking down a different street (Preview) A year ago, I saw Valentines Day fast approaching at a time my son was about to graduate. Now in his early 30s, I thought the time had FINALLY come for him to commit to his long-time, live-in girlfriend, who had followed him and his long academic career while making a happy home for them both. To me, it l...	2HP	8	789	Jan 19, 2018 by Maresie
	new comer posting moved from the Business Board (Preview) Post InfoTOPIC: NewcomerL1983 Newbie Status: OnlinePosts: 1Date: 31m agoIP: 94.2.230.176NewcomerPermalink Reply Quote More Hi Im not too sure how this works. Im new here and to Al-anon. I have heard how much it can help people and Ive realised how desperate I am to get better. My father is an...	hotrod	6	589	Jan 18, 2018 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 1/18/18 (Preview) Today's reading discusses 'help' and what it looked like for most of us before recovery. The writer considered Al-Anon 'heartless' when she first heard that the best way to help an alcoholic was to focus on self. She had decided to not return and one statement changed her mind. She was told that the...	Iamhere	5	538	Jan 18, 2018 by Iamhere
	Ideas needed to mentally separate AH from the disease (Preview) Hi Everyone - Are there any other ideas or suggestions you can give me of how I can mentally separate my AH from this disease? Here's the scenario that plays each night: AH comes home from work, drinks a beer that we can "see" but has already had his vodka or other alcohol of choice by now. He then goes t...	jtpickle	5	598	Jan 18, 2018 by jtpickle
	Courage to Change January 17 (Preview) Today's reading in courage to change is about step two - a return to sanity. The author shares that if someone had been observing their actions prior to AlAnon, they would have seemed like the one who was insane. Living with an active alcoholic and trying to control alcoholic behavior resulted in all...	Skorpi	6	671	Jan 18, 2018 by Aline
	Letting it all go (Preview) AH and I have been up and down the last few days. Part of it was me, part of it was him. Iâm new to this way of life too and heâs not the only one struggling with his choice to stop drinking. Iâm grateful heâs come to this point - finally, after years of praying, of hoping, of dreaming - weâve finally taken the fi...	Twinkies	11	681	Jan 17, 2018 by MaggieRuth
	AA and court... (Preview) Hi everyone. My AF who lives on our property has been going to AA a few weeks now. She has a court date over DUI coming up the 24th. When she stopped over to get her mail I asked her what the court date was (i had forgotten it) and if her sponsor was going with her to court.......no. I guess my concerns are if sh...	Tude	6	577	Jan 17, 2018 by Maresie
	scared and worried for my son adult son downward spirla (Preview) without making this too long- I am scared and worried for my adult son... his dad (my ex husband) was/is alcoholic and my son has been in a downward spiral for months now. I am remarried (since my son was 11- he is now 28) but his Dad has painted my husband as the "bad guy" and my son always craved time and atte...	LuvMySun	15	753	Jan 17, 2018 by hotrod
	THe guilt, the fear, the sadness (Preview) Last night A EX-BF came round without announcement and wanted to dry out here. I asked my parents to come over because I dind't want my first weekend alone to be alone, so there was nowhere for him to sleep. He was lost and scared and breaking and I had to turn him round to send him back to his hotel. I know tha...	MizzB	4	643	Jan 17, 2018 by Maresie
	freaking out (Preview) Hi friends I just want to drop this here. I would love some help seeing this with program eyes. We are packing up our apartment. I only have a few more days before I leave. I need to get all the stuff out. That includes my AH's stuff. I still can't talk to him so I have to make judgement calls on everything - ev...	AnnieFenk321	6	588	Jan 17, 2018 by Tude
	C2C reading 1-16-2018 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 16 points out that we react instantly to situations and forget to THINK and pray before we RESPOND. /It suggest that this is a personality flaw and indicates that many of our irrational reactions are automatic and if we take the time to THINK we will respond in a ore const...	hotrod	7	596	Jan 16, 2018 by Hoot Nanny
	More revealed .. (Preview) So I had a good laugh at myself over the weekend .. at the moment it looks like there will be more court. I know shocking right?? LOL. Oi. I'm going to see what he has going on I'm not the one jumping to file, I have no intension .. it plays to my favor. I know I'm horrible however after doing this for 7 year...	SerenityRUS	9	591	Jan 16, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Progress forward (Preview) I have been working hard on my recovery. I have been doing a lot of processing and its been so hard. I had a break down yesterday. I had not had been grocery shopping for awhile as it reminds me of the alcoholic. Well, yesterday I finally faced my fear and got groceries. Well, that was a trigger big time. I go...	joker	9	601	Jan 16, 2018 by Tude
	missing her (Preview) I have been missing my mom lately. I haven't talked to her in sometime. It is going to get cold here & I may feel the coldness the most. My mom is safe in a hospital & has not contacted me at all. I had to find out from a friend where she is. I am suffering from a bit of guilt getting rid of her stuff & b...	Hoot Nanny	5	646	Jan 16, 2018 by Tude
	Need advice on neigh open to AH (Preview) Ok so I have talked to some other people in 1:1 meetings and it seems like there is that opinion that by me not sharing my feelings with AH that I am codependent and just allowing the situation to go on to a certain extent. Because the drinking has become more frequent and he is definitely trying to hide it...	Dancer66	21	1055	Jan 16, 2018 by Maresie
	should I or shouldn't I? (Preview) Call my mom or not? Might be toxic & a mistake. I want to know for sure. She may be angry. Do I take a risk? Boundaries in place.	Hoot Nanny	3	513	Jan 15, 2018 by Iamhere
	The End (Preview) I finally told ABF we were over after a bad week last week and then another MIA event last night. And he has found somewhere else to stay for a week and then he's moving out. I am heartbroken that it had to come to this. I did everything I could. I know he's not a bad person, but the decision to drink is done whil...	MizzB	15	861	Jan 15, 2018 by Maresie
	Hope for Today Jan 14 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the importance of setting boundaries for ourselves in relationship to others. Many of us have felt we must avoid setting boundaries our of fear that we may upset someone else. I think of this as always my discomfort before yours. What I have noticed s...	yanksfan51	9	584	Jan 15, 2018 by Tude
	C2C, 1/15 (Preview) Stay in the day you have: The writer discusses learning about a crisis involving an alcoholic he/she loves. She began worrying, projecting, dreading the outcome, and could not even focus at work. She remembered the slogan, ODAT. She realized that the worrying could not protect her, yet it was r...	Lyne	9	734	Jan 15, 2018 by Tude
	Everybit a meeting topic (Preview) My morning meeting (AA) started off normally and I was prepared to leave early to attend the Saturday Al-Anon group with my spouse until a heavily tattooed male broke into the meeting speaking loudly and rapidly and because of my marginal hearing I didn't get much other something about a cell phone...	Jerry F	9	543	Jan 14, 2018 by bud
	Brand newand scared (Preview) Hello everyone, im brand new to alanon and i am finally reaching out out of desperation. My husband is an active alcoholic, after 9 yrs being sober he started again at a party and never stopped, that was a little over 2 yrs ago now....2 agonizing years. i feel like im living in groundhog day where each day...	tats	13	720	Jan 14, 2018 by tats
	Drinking at a visit (Preview) Hi everyone, I havent posted in so long. Overall life since splitting with AH has been such a blessing. I feel joy and lightness where I hadnt in so long. My struggles with AH are in his manipulation- he does not want this marriage to end and he is throwing everything at me, trying to shame me into trying ag...	VickiR	16	2020	Jan 13, 2018 by Aline
	CTC,,,,01-13-2018 reading for today. (Preview) today;s reading is about our joining alanon and finding the personal spiritual freedom to choose the HP of or own understanding. It suggests the because we are free to do this we can embrace a HP that we trust and can turn our life over to.The reading suggests that as we practice program our unders...	lookingup	5	523	Jan 13, 2018 by lookingup
	Looking for an Update on Alanon Chatrrom Entrance (Preview) Some days back there was a post on this board which I can no longer locate. It was about a window that now appears on the entrance of the MIP Alanon Chatroom which requires that you check it off in order to get into the chatroom for a meeting. When you check off this box and hit Connect, you get a Green Line loa...	tiredtonite	2	603	Jan 13, 2018 by tiredtonite
	Clarification on a "Don't" from the Sticky (Preview) Hi Everyone - I'm wondering if someone could clarify or explain the don't from the sticky: "Don't resent the method of recovery". I'm not sure exactly how to understand this. Does this mean how they choose to recover - by themselves or via a 12 step program? It's confusing to me but probably only be...	jtpickle	2	879	Jan 13, 2018 by Iamhere
	Windmills (Preview) LOL .. there is a story here and it made me LOL to myself today. Way back in early, early pre alanon, right at the beginning of my journey with alanon. My XAH and I lived on a farm. It wasn't ours .. we were renting. Landlords lived next door .. they were fun .. NOT. My XAH decided he was going to build a wi...	SerenityRUS	4	606	Jan 13, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Al-Anon Survey (Preview) I don't know if any MIP Family member shared this survey questionnaire before however it was just shared with me and I felt it might be helpful here. Takes about 20 minutes to fill out and is very supportive and informative. If you don't want to ...not and issue... just for those who are supportive w...	Jerry F	6	1393	Jan 12, 2018 by lookingup
	Can't keep my mouth shut .. (Preview) I am seriously struggling to keep my big fat mouth shut and it is a challenge in ways that would boggle the mind at this point. I am frustrated with the people in my life, ALL of them .. LOL .. I have hormones screaming and honestly it is surprising I haven't acted out worse than I have at the moment. Mostly...	SerenityRUS	11	941	Jan 12, 2018 by serenity47
	new to this (Preview) Hi not sure if I'm posting this right as I'm a bit technophobic. To put in picture briefly I'm in dilemma as I can't sit and watch him drink (he doesnt want siezures - hes had three) and i can't stand it and don't want to be controlled when to go out. Where to on tap? We have no children (he has) and I have no fami...	ling	10	793	Jan 12, 2018 by ling
	There are no winners (Preview) Hi all, my AH and I are separated he lives with his parents. We have 2 dogs and he comes to visit them and walk them frequently, I have been very reasonable in allowing him to do this considering how badly he has treated myself and the kids. However on every visit I never know what mood he is going to be in, we h...	allywoo	7	684	Jan 12, 2018 by AnnieFenk321
	Courage to Change 1/11/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP - happy Thursday. Today's Quote from Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism --- "For me, alcoholism has proven to be a bittersweet legacy - bitter, because of the pain I suffered, and sweet, because if it weren't for that pain, I wouldn't have searched for and found a better way of living." Today'...	Iamhere	5	626	Jan 11, 2018 by Iamhere
	Honesty....this may be naive or just plain ignorant! (Preview) Hi all, Where is the line that goes from compulsive liar to addiction based lies? I have tried to post this a few times today and have been embarrassed to ask. The AF in my life has a horrific lying issue. It totally blows my mind andnnnn sets me on edge more than when she relapses. No honesty=no relations...	Tude	7	795	Jan 11, 2018 by Iamhere
	Dropping By to Say Hi (Preview) It's been awhile since I've posted here, but I do still read this board every now and then (usually right around my Al-Anon anniversary, which will be 9 years in February). Just wanted to share that life is good, and certainly that is an understatement compared to 9 years ago when I walked into my first A...	Green Eyes	5	636	Jan 11, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	real quick update (Preview) I just want to give y'all an update on my mom. She is getting guardianship from the state. I will not be responsible for her. It is now out of my hands. I thank HP for looking out for her. Some might think it isharsh including family members. I just need to know that I am doing the right thing. She us very ill. ...	Hoot Nanny	2	563	Jan 11, 2018 by Lyne
	what would have helped you? (Preview) Hi I have a friend whose husband's alcoholism is progressing, but they are both in denial about it. I am watching the illness worsen, as it always does, with his behavior growing more and more destructive. I am familiar with alcoholism as both my parents and various family members are alcoholics. I'm...	hiraeth	7	731	Jan 11, 2018 by hiraeth
	Focusing on you for a change (Preview) hi, ive posted some grim depressive stuff on here since October. my Relationship with Ex came to An abrupt end and it wasnt my choice and I found it hard. Massively hard. I had self doubt no confidence and I was broken the fact they wouldnt speak or acknowledgw or show any remorse was probably the most...	CarlyH	5	608	Jan 10, 2018 by Jerry F
	I am having a really hard time! :( (Preview) Hi all, I just have something I really want to share and I hope that by letting it go here, I can start to move on. I am flooded with self-doubt and self hate at the moment. I posted in an earlier post about deciding to go to my home country to be with my family during the time when my husband is in his 8 month r...	AnnieFenk321	6	702	Jan 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change January 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about breaking the cycle of worry and fear. The author shares that when they focus on worry and fear, their thoughts can become obsessive, they can become relentlessly critical of themselves, and lose the ability to accomplish anything useful. F...	Skorpi	8	1140	Jan 10, 2018 by DavidG
	Insight on leaving my spouse (Preview) I have been working through the "Blueprint for Progress" booklet and I am not sure if it's because of that or what, but I woke up this morning with this thought... I have been having a hard time with blaming my spouse for the end of our 29 year marriage. While it is true that the alcoholism and addictive beh...	PosiesandPuppies	9	767	Jan 10, 2018 by Enigmatic
	Post-rehab relationship (Preview) My... boyfriend (?) and I met a little over a year ago at the beginning of a relapse for him. Of course, the depth of his addiction were not known to me until we were too far gone, so to speak. 2 rehabs and a heat layer and here we are. Heâs been sober for a longer period of time than Iâve ever known him to be, and I...	jessiefred86	4	596	Jan 10, 2018 by Tude
	just like to post (Preview) I am just posting to update now & then. I am not in any crisis I have to tell myself. If only my mom wasn't. From what I am getting, she is now AWOL. I have yet to hear from her. She hasn't called or I haven't gotten a call. I guess this affects me in 3 ways: I am grateful I am not her, I am saddened of she being mi...	Hoot Nanny	5	591	Jan 10, 2018 by Jerry F
	Not allowed to go to a book launch! (Preview) I have been working for four years with a group of people on publishing a book. The book launch is next month. I would very much love to be there. Last month my AH said I should go. Today, just out of the blue, he says I have no business going to that event, no one needs me there. I said nothing. Did not ask for an...	Carmine	6	667	Jan 10, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	ODAT Reading 1-9-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for January 9 speaks about how confusing and disturbing,living with the disease of alcoholism can be. It suggests that often we reject God and the help we can receive . Without the God of our understanding going it alone only makes matters worse. When we finally see that going it ...	hotrod	4	648	Jan 9, 2018 by mamalioness
	Walking on eggshells (Preview) 11 days sober for AH and I feel like Iâm the one about to crack. Thereâs been very little communication between us aside from general pleasantries until Friday, when we did have a real conversation - nothing alcohol related. Then back to nothing much yesterday. Thereâs a huge wall between us and even t...	Twinkies	9	832	Jan 9, 2018 by sad_dog_mommy
	Help! (Preview) For about the last 6 months, I have been attending 5 or 6 alanon meetings a week. I go to the meetings, but didn't get a sponsor and rarely share. I just listen. The weather where I live has gotten really icy and snowy, with temperatures well below zero. About a month ago, I started using the weather as an ex...	Buckeye Girl	5	592	Jan 9, 2018 by hotrod
	Great news (Preview) ive been searching all over for me an apartment,I live in a house I rent right now been looking for a change , and im so excited to say I've finally found where I want to go,for some here remember me downsizing for a long time now, pits finally happening ,the way it came about was strange is why I know without...	lookingup	10	596	Jan 9, 2018 by Tude
	Trusting the process (Preview) It's been so long since I worked the 12 Steps, I had forgotten the hidden things they can bring up. I was of course, focusing on all the things that were driving me crazy when I came back into Al-anon. Those things that are buried, bring up pain, embarrassment,anxiety and all sorts of just yuk surfaced!...	Tude	12	653	Jan 9, 2018 by Iamhere
	fears and dealing with my mother (Preview) I just want to share and leave this here that I have a lot of fear surrounding the coming transition. I have to speak to our land lord today. I am ready to pay the lease as long as it takes to find a new tennant and I want to uphold my contractual obligations but I am fearful about him being angry at me and I stil...	AnnieFenk321	7	625	Jan 9, 2018 by Iamhere
	sorry about the business section mistake (Preview) I am very sorry about trying something new that I didn't know I did & appreciate Betty for drawing attention to it. It was so nice of her to mention in a post. I am so grateful that pencil have erasers. Much more to post about my mom. She is out the hands of the county we live in & probably won't be seen...	Hoot Nanny	2	467	Jan 8, 2018 by Iamhere
	New Year update (Preview) I havnt seen my XAH in 2 years. Yet I use Alanon principles everyday. I love and live with a wonderful guy who happens to be a hoarder and has his share of anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. It is a challenging relationship and we have the usual misunderstandings. However, at the beginning we set rules o...	YARNCRAZY	4	466	Jan 8, 2018 by Iamhere
	Nowhere to go (Preview) I haven't posted in awhile, but have been attending meetings when I can, though do not yet have a sponsor. For awhile I thought I was gaining some ground, but am starting to wonder if I was just kidding myself. The holiday was a bad one for me with family scattered across the country, the anniversary of my...	Lee51	12	2934	Jan 8, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
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