Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

ris · ris

Thanks for giving me an outlet! I appreciate your responses and respect your opinions and advise. I will try to make this long story short... My son is almost 25 and has been involved with drugs and alcohol since the age of 17. He has been married to a wonderful girl for almost 4 years...

flintfeet · flintfeet

why do i have to worry about my dad's problems? i feel like it's not fair to have to worry about something i didn't cause, can't control, but i can't accept it. for lack of a better word...this sucks!

findingmyway · findingmyway

Just wanted to say thanks for the chat last night. It was the first time I participated. I was having a bad night and really needed a meeting. It was so comforting to have one available. Thanks to everyone who was there!

sdisnie · sdisnie

I can't believe that it's almost been 2 months since I've seen my AH!!! And now it's been 9 days since I've spoken to him. He's still calling every morning at the same time leaving messages. I really believe he has done some major brain damage to his brain this time. He really s...

2D1S · 2D1S

Does verbal and emotional abuse and Alcholism always go together? I can't seem to separate them and I wonder if the Alcohol is causing the abuse or if this is a separate issue?

Barbara · Barbara

He was sent to NE Med Ctr for his angiogram (after EKG and stress tests) and then on to Dept of Correction. Im thinking if he was sent to the jail maybe now they are focusing on his rehab and his physical is okay? God it sucks when they send them from one place to another and dont contact the family. We don...

2D1S · 2D1S

How do I get through these nights? The lying and sneaking...I can't stand it. How do I ignore it? How do I get rid of the hurt and anger. How do I not be irritable? If I just need a break from my kids because I am boiling over but can't leave because no one is here and no one can come over. Just saying some d...

Lindy · Lindy

Last week my husband and I had a HUGE fight over his drinking. He ended up sitting in a bar all day Thursday (he's laid off from work) and getting sloppy drunk. Of course, he drove home like that. Anyway, we talked on Friday and I told him I would be filing for divorce if he continued drinking. He said he was s...

mastiff · mastiff

Hello all! At the group consience meeting tonight, it was voted in to make the Sunday AM meeting a "Spirtuality Meeting." I thought i'd post here and tell all that weren't there about the change and just exactly what a spirtuality meeting is so here I go ;o) A Spirtuality Meeting...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: I went to see my A and his counselor on Sunday, two days before his release. After much contemplating about the situation, I had decided, even before getting my results that I would give his recovery and mine one last chance together. If he was going to make a solid attempt at this I fe...

laura3098 · laura3098

This looks like a place where I need to be. Nobody seems to understand me and why I refuse to give up on my alcoholic husband. We have been together for 15 years and have to sons. Our younger son is only 4 weeks old and our oldest is 13. Our 13 year old knows his dad is an alcoholic, but their like best friends. I...

2D1S · 2D1S

I have found this out in my experiences with my A. Reasons to drink....because you are pissed off...because you had a great day...because you are celebrating...because you are sad...because you and your wife had a fight...because your child was born...because your child is in the hospital...b...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

Sorry to be harping on about this. A lot of people suggested that my HP could be a person or the group since I am an atheist. But then I don't understand how the steps work. I am good with step one, but after that I don't know what to do. I could believe the group could he...

WakingUp · WakingUp

For those who responded to my previous posts about feeling uncomfortable at my F2F meeting, I did go back last night. It wasn't great, but it wasn't awful either. I would at least like to stick out the 6 months of my service position, if possible.

Jayda · Jayda

My brother constantly verbally abuses my mother. I've talked to her about it a million times. She doesn't deny that he verbally abuses her, but she makes excuses for him like, "it's okay, he's just having a bad day" I wish there was something I could do to stop this.

Barbara · Barbara

Brother was charged with Assault & Battery. Mother thinks it should have been Domestic Abuse and will go back to the lawyer to see if she can lessen the charges. Whats the difference? She does remember being told by the police that its going as A&B but she wasnt thinking clearly.

lmt123 · lmt123

I just found that my daughter has a couple of duffle bags packed with her stuff, clothes, necessities, etc., upstairs in her room. She expressed the desire to move out, because she didn't like having house rules at age 18, even though she is still a senior in high school. I gave her a list of...

Barbara · Barbara

guess the stress test showed up some irregularity. Dont know where they're sending him for this - noone can visit. If he needs a bypass will the family be able to visit?

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

Last night I talked to a friend and pour all my feeling out to him. Pour guy. He doesn't usually call me during the day. Today, he called just to wish me a better day than yesterday and pump me up to put one foot infront of the other and take action. This lasted all through the day.&nbs...

Nettie · Nettie

I found your site today and thought since I was struggling that I would give this a try. This may get long winded, for that I apologize ahead of time. I guess I'll start from what I consider the beginning of our struggle. Seven years ago, my husband was diagnosed with a rare type of cancer....

snodebb · snodebb

I have just found this site and I have been reading some of the things on here and it sounds like my house and my life. I have been with my husband for 15 years and frankly I wonder sometimes what the heck is the matter with me. He was sober for 3 years of our marriage then decieded AA was not for hi...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Someone asked me about my recoverying alcoholic/drug addicted daughter's puppy last night so I thought I would update on the board. His name is burton, almost 8 months old, mixed lab and a source of strength for her sobriety. I put AA puppy because she use to bring him to her AA meeting...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I just happened to find this website http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/ It's got lots and lots of stuff on it about verbal and emotional abuse. I'm just going through it myself, I hope you might find something helpful.

findingmyway · findingmyway

Just found out my husband was arrested for possession of cocaine. He didn't feel the need to share that with me. I found out by accident although he did admit it when I asked. Unbelievable. Can this get any worse?

2D1S · 2D1S

Which works better for kids (under 10) affected by the active A when they are exposed to it every day (I can't hide the verbal abuse that goes with it). Alanon or counseling

Nettie · Nettie

I tried to log in to the chat but was unable. This is the error message I received: Unable to connect : com.ms.security.SecurityExceptionEx : cannot connect to "irc.mipchat.net" Can someone help me?

2D1S · 2D1S

It is coming at me from all sides...feeling a bit hopeless. My husbum is an A...sister uses Meth...mother and father in law and my mother are the worst of enablers and they are constantly making excuses for the addicts behavior (husbum or sister's). No other siblings other than her. I can't seem to get...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

Well I am going back to a meeting tonight. It has only been two days but I feel like I have to try a bunch of different meetings and see what suits me. It is so easy to make up excuses as to why I shouldn't go. I read the little packet on sponsorship. I am not sure when to get a sponsor o...

Kim · Kim

Hey everyone: I am NEGATIVE!!!!!!! Thank you for all your prayers. Kim

2D1S · 2D1S

Has anyone ever just wished that their A would get killed in a drinking and driving crash and just get it over with. Of course not injuring anyone else. Or one of the times they pass out in the car...they would just freeze to death.

lebe27 · lebe27

As some of you may know from message board posts or chat I have a real problem with my father in law. He hates me and I hate him. He is an obnoxious A. He is a sociopath and a real user. As a child he took my A out to bars and put him in harms way as young as 9. He has always used my A o...

Mercedes Dekkers · Mercedes Dekkers

I am in a bit of a bind ........ I don't have anyone to watch my kids to go for the moment to any F2f meeting, there for I am looking for a sponser. CAN ANYONE HELP ? that would be great. Thanks.

Lindy · Lindy

Last week was so horrible I was on this board a lot. I printed out some articles on how to tell if someone is a drunk and I underlined a bunch of it and put it on the coffee table where my laid off alcoholic husband could see if when he finally rolled himself out of bed on Friday morning/afternoon. I threatene...

2D1S · 2D1S

I cant get the chat room to work. When I click on chat room...I get a white box but it says it cannot connect. I am confused

bobump · bobump

this is long but I had to vent..... I'm sitting here waiting to take the 13 yo to school. It's 12:25 and the wife can be home by 12:05. She walks in the door with beer and Mikes hard whatever. I told her, I'm waiting to talk our daughter to school and your finding time to get alcohol? She says she di...

2D1S · 2D1S

My life is filled with so many dysfunctional people around me that it is so difficult to find support and help. A friend of mine agreed to help me this evening by watching my kids while my A and I went to marriage counseling. She called me on the way home from work and gave me a huge guilt trip about how...

confused · confused

I was just wondering if anyone might be able to help me figure out what is going on. My A and I are separated, as many of you know. It was a decision I made when he was hospitalized in December. After he was released he went to stay at his Dad's, started and IOP and is going to meetings. He frequently asked abou...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I'm here, I'm trying really hard, it's not working. My deceased Grandmother thought it neccesary to include in her will my name and her decision not to provide anything for me ... I thought of Jennifer but I make no provision for the daughter of my deceased son for reasons best known to me. Thanks for t...

Lea · Lea

My A is not a family member, just a long term friend. Her physical condition is awful. She's 65, probably weighs less than 100lbs, although she is about 5'8" tall. She can barely stand and or walk. Her counseler finally talked her into going into a detox center where they would build her back up so that...

alanon_2002 · alanon_2002

Letting go and letting God.... I was listening to someone tonight on letting go and letting God...and I wanted to share this. It's another of those spiritual laws, that letting go lets God. We can actually inhibit the answer to a prayer by wanting something too much. That can tend toward lust, and...

mollyann · mollyann

I hate secrets. I don't like lying. When I was growing up I was told by my mother to lie. I lied to my teachers, I lied to my grandmother. I learned to lie a lot. It was very easy. Little kids are not emotionally mature enough to know about lying. There is a difference betweem lying about a surprise b...

gardengal · gardengal

I thought that if I stopped enabling the alcoholic in my life, the drinking would stop. When the drinking seemed to get worse instead of better, once again I thought I had done something wrong. I was still trying to control alcoholism and its symptoms, Alanon helped me to learn that I am powerless, I can...

Barbara · Barbara

On the way to Bridgewater brother complained of chest pains. They brought him to Lemuel Shattuck. He spoke w/my mother. She says he sounds broken. They had him in leg irons & cuffs. He is up on assault & battery charges, not domestic abuse charges (which is the same, right?) He wants my mother t...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

I attended my first F2F meeting last night. It was a little strange. I liked it though. I didn't talk. I was feeling shy. The thing that surprised me was that everyone was talking about themselves. No one mentioned their A. Not once. So that got me...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi Ya'll , Ya know we had the discussion in chat about TX and carwashes? Well , here's the picture I was talking about . Thought I might share it with ya'll. LOL!!!!

Love each and everyone of ya, thought ya might get a laugh outta this! Jonibaloni21 -- Edited by jonibal...

7713Elizabeth · 7713Elizabeth

How do you begin to talk to your best friend about his problem when you know he is an alcoholic and he doesn’t know that you know? I live in the USA and he lives in Scotland, but we do spend a lot of time together. We work together via the internet, and have traveled extensively. We went to New Zealand last y...

confused · confused

OMG I acted like such an idiot today. My A seemed to push just the right buttons and everything that I have been keeping in just came flying out of my mouth. Looking at actions and not listening to words, I have been keeping it all in. All the stuff that he says he is going to do, but not doing, well I let is all o...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Good Morning Everyone, Just wanted to say thanks again to those who posted some ESH on my last Friday post. I did take the kids to my mom's. Funny that his house guests did not show up. Of course he was angry with me when I arrived home and started packing; which I don't get because he...

ashraven · ashraven

My A is taking Campral now. It is completely new to me...something I've never heard of before. But it is supposed to help alcoholics overcome their dependency. Anyone else had any experience with it?

jcon · jcon

Hey all, Jcon here, need some help. I am looking for a sponsor and the meetings that i can attend I am the only guy there. Need some suggestions or help in maybe finding an online sponsor temporarily until i can get one where i live or something. Any and a...

jmath31 · jmath31

Hi all! I am a little scaird to write this down becuase I am not very good with words. Here goes. I am in a relationship with a man that has been clean and sober for over 6 years. He is a miracle! I also have A father who also uses drugs. My dilemma lately has been that I have been obe...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

My husband is now home for rehab. I am having such mixed emotions. Just can't even look at him and, not sure how I feel. I realize the road ahead is a very delicate one. Many changes have taken place within me. Trying to focus what is best for me has become cloudy. Trying to put the needs and wants of my childr...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Thanks to all of you for your wonderful caring and sharing your own personal stories. I look forward to reading them daily. Okay, remember, he's the one who told me over the phone that he wanted a divorce, he didn't want to come back home, he didn't want me to fly out to see him, he told me...

sandie123 · sandie123

I go to 3 different F2F meetings and each one has a different effect on me. One I feel like I can say anything. The second one I have trouble saying anything at all... so I ususally remain quiet. The third one is sort of in-between. I have have phone lists for all of them.&...

jmath31 · jmath31

Can anyone recommend a step book that i could buy. I would really like to start writing and getting a sponsor. thanks

Kim2 · Kim2

I was wondering if I should try taking a doctor prescribed anti-depressant until I have some more of the program to build on. I try to stay away from prescribed drugs when possible but I'm feeling really down and it's starting to affect me physically and spiritually. Any experience anyo...

Cyn · Cyn

I went to Florida this weekend to visit my new friend who I met in Chicago. I had a blast - he took me to Sanibel Island for the weekend which was gorgeous, bought me two dozen roses, treated me to a terrific trip. We crammed alot in two days - went to the beach both days to watch the sunset, sunri...

red hook · red hook

Hi, Been in Alanon for 15 years, & have often wondered about closing with the "Our Father". Finally, a member pointed out that from his position as a non-Christian, this prayer could not be said. I am a Christian , but it disturbs me to see the group, holding hands & saying the "Our Father", &...

2D1S · 2D1S

I want to be able to just say that my husband is a drunk and then just pretend like he doesn't exist. But how do I do that and go on about my days when my daughter can't even have a sleepover with her friends at our house because I never know if or what kind of shape my A will come home in. I can't take the risk that I...

Barbara · Barbara

She filed the report. There was enough from talking with my brother to have him arrested for elderly abuse charges without her having to testify. I called the courthouse to see "what happened" yesterday as my mother called me today to call me a liar, say I knew what was going on when I have no idea, etc....

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Needing Advise (Preview) Thanks for giving me an outlet! I appreciate your responses and respect your opinions and advise. I will try to make this long story short... My son is almost 25 and has been involved with drugs and alcohol since the age of 17. He has been married to a wonderful girl for almost 4 years...	ris	5	512	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	why??? (Preview) why do i have to worry about my dad's problems? i feel like it's not fair to have to worry about something i didn't cause, can't control, but i can't accept it. for lack of a better word...this sucks!	flintfeet	4	520	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	Thank You (Preview) Just wanted to say thanks for the chat last night. It was the first time I participated. I was having a bad night and really needed a meeting. It was so comforting to have one available. Thanks to everyone who was there!	findingmyway	1	381	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	Still trying to let him go (Preview) I can't believe that it's almost been 2 months since I've seen my AH!!! And now it's been 9 days since I've spoken to him. He's still calling every morning at the same time leaving messages. I really believe he has done some major brain damage to his brain this time. He really s...	sdisnie	3	611	Feb 3, 2006 by Kim
	verbal and emotional abuse (Preview) Does verbal and emotional abuse and Alcholism always go together? I can't seem to separate them and I wonder if the Alcohol is causing the abuse or if this is a separate issue?	2D1S	9	956	Feb 3, 2006 by ashraven
	2/3update - 2/2 my brothers whereabouts (Preview) He was sent to NE Med Ctr for his angiogram (after EKG and stress tests) and then on to Dept of Correction. Im thinking if he was sent to the jail maybe now they are focusing on his rehab and his physical is okay? God it sucks when they send them from one place to another and dont contact the family. We don...	Barbara	3	541	Feb 3, 2006 by Flora123
	bad nights (Preview) How do I get through these nights? The lying and sneaking...I can't stand it. How do I ignore it? How do I get rid of the hurt and anger. How do I not be irritable? If I just need a break from my kids because I am boiling over but can't leave because no one is here and no one can come over. Just saying some d...	2D1S	10	499	Feb 3, 2006 by paintthinnr
	Selfish alcoholics (Preview) Last week my husband and I had a HUGE fight over his drinking. He ended up sitting in a bar all day Thursday (he's laid off from work) and getting sloppy drunk. Of course, he drove home like that. Anyway, we talked on Friday and I told him I would be filing for divorce if he continued drinking. He said he was s...	Lindy	7	833	Feb 3, 2006 by Lindy
	New Spirituality Meeting starts this Sunday AM, hope to see you all there!!!! (Preview) Hello all! At the group consience meeting tonight, it was voted in to make the Sunday AM meeting a "Spirtuality Meeting." I thought i'd post here and tell all that weren't there about the change and just exactly what a spirtuality meeting is so here I go ;o) A Spirtuality Meeting...	mastiff	2	397	Feb 3, 2006 by Faith73
	My A is back home (Preview) Hello all: I went to see my A and his counselor on Sunday, two days before his release. After much contemplating about the situation, I had decided, even before getting my results that I would give his recovery and mine one last chance together. If he was going to make a solid attempt at this I fe...	Kim	6	698	Feb 3, 2006 by twinmom2
	He needs to stop...... (Preview) This looks like a place where I need to be. Nobody seems to understand me and why I refuse to give up on my alcoholic husband. We have been together for 15 years and have to sons. Our younger son is only 4 weeks old and our oldest is 13. Our 13 year old knows his dad is an alcoholic, but their like best friends. I...	laura3098	7	524	Feb 3, 2006 by KathyS
	reasons to drink (Preview) I have found this out in my experiences with my A. Reasons to drink....because you are pissed off...because you had a great day...because you are celebrating...because you are sad...because you and your wife had a fight...because your child was born...because your child is in the hospital...b...	2D1S	10	584	Feb 3, 2006 by KathyS
	more hp questions. short. (Preview) Sorry to be harping on about this. A lot of people suggested that my HP could be a person or the group since I am an atheist. But then I don't understand how the steps work. I am good with step one, but after that I don't know what to do. I could believe the group could he...	paintthinnr	8	583	Feb 3, 2006 by KathyS
	Went Back to F2F (Preview) For those who responded to my previous posts about feeling uncomfortable at my F2F meeting, I did go back last night. It wasn't great, but it wasn't awful either. I would at least like to stick out the 6 months of my service position, if possible.	WakingUp	3	406	Feb 3, 2006 by kitty
	A verbally abuses our mother (Preview) My brother constantly verbally abuses my mother. I've talked to her about it a million times. She doesn't deny that he verbally abuses her, but she makes excuses for him like, "it's okay, he's just having a bad day" I wish there was something I could do to stop this.	Jayda	3	515	Feb 3, 2006 by Barbara
	whats the difference btwn Domestic Abuse & Assault and Battery? (Preview) Brother was charged with Assault & Battery. Mother thinks it should have been Domestic Abuse and will go back to the lawyer to see if she can lessen the charges. Whats the difference? She does remember being told by the police that its going as A&B but she wasnt thinking clearly.	Barbara	4	596	Feb 3, 2006 by cdb
	encouragement needed...(this is long, sorry) (Preview) I just found that my daughter has a couple of duffle bags packed with her stuff, clothes, necessities, etc., upstairs in her room. She expressed the desire to move out, because she didn't like having house rules at age 18, even though she is still a senior in high school. I gave her a list of...	lmt123	11	537	Feb 3, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	brother is having a cardiac catheter today (Preview) guess the stress test showed up some irregularity. Dont know where they're sending him for this - noone can visit. If he needs a bypass will the family be able to visit?	Barbara	2	399	Feb 3, 2006 by John_R
	This day went to the pitts (Preview) Last night I talked to a friend and pour all my feeling out to him. Pour guy. He doesn't usually call me during the day. Today, he called just to wish me a better day than yesterday and pump me up to put one foot infront of the other and take action. This lasted all through the day.&nbs...	ZiggyDoodles	5	493	Feb 2, 2006 by marmare
	New to the site (Preview) I found your site today and thought since I was struggling that I would give this a try. This may get long winded, for that I apologize ahead of time. I guess I'll start from what I consider the beginning of our struggle. Seven years ago, my husband was diagnosed with a rare type of cancer....	Nettie	7	467	Feb 2, 2006 by Lonesome
	new to this site (Preview) I have just found this site and I have been reading some of the things on here and it sounds like my house and my life. I have been with my husband for 15 years and frankly I wonder sometimes what the heck is the matter with me. He was sober for 3 years of our marriage then decieded AA was not for hi...	snodebb	7	413	Feb 2, 2006 by snodebb
	Daughter's injured AA puppy update.... (Preview) Hello friends, Someone asked me about my recoverying alcoholic/drug addicted daughter's puppy last night so I thought I would update on the board. His name is burton, almost 8 months old, mixed lab and a source of strength for her sobriety. I put AA puppy because she use to bring him to her AA meeting...	cdb	10	466	Feb 2, 2006 by cdb
	For 2D1S (Preview) I just happened to find this website http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/ It's got lots and lots of stuff on it about verbal and emotional abuse. I'm just going through it myself, I hope you might find something helpful.	dogscribe	1	405	Feb 2, 2006 by 2D1S
	unbelievable (Preview) Just found out my husband was arrested for possession of cocaine. He didn't feel the need to share that with me. I found out by accident although he did admit it when I asked. Unbelievable. Can this get any worse?	findingmyway	3	395	Feb 2, 2006 by Diva
	which works better (Preview) Which works better for kids (under 10) affected by the active A when they are exposed to it every day (I can't hide the verbal abuse that goes with it). Alanon or counseling	2D1S	5	454	Feb 2, 2006 by Diva
	Unable to connect (Preview) I tried to log in to the chat but was unable. This is the error message I received: Unable to connect : com.ms.security.SecurityExceptionEx : cannot connect to "irc.mipchat.net" Can someone help me?	Nettie	2	425	Feb 2, 2006 by Nettie
	from all sides (Preview) It is coming at me from all sides...feeling a bit hopeless. My husbum is an A...sister uses Meth...mother and father in law and my mother are the worst of enablers and they are constantly making excuses for the addicts behavior (husbum or sister's). No other siblings other than her. I can't seem to get...	2D1S	4	477	Feb 2, 2006 by Christy
	longish and random. sponsor? (Preview) Well I am going back to a meeting tonight. It has only been two days but I feel like I have to try a bunch of different meetings and see what suits me. It is so easy to make up excuses as to why I shouldn't go. I read the little packet on sponsorship. I am not sure when to get a sponsor o...	paintthinnr	3	452	Feb 2, 2006 by bobump
	got my results (Preview) Hey everyone: I am NEGATIVE!!!!!!! Thank you for all your prayers. Kim	Kim	14	512	Feb 2, 2006 by sdisnie
	thoughts (Preview) Has anyone ever just wished that their A would get killed in a drinking and driving crash and just get it over with. Of course not injuring anyone else. Or one of the times they pass out in the car...they would just freeze to death.	2D1S	7	498	Feb 2, 2006 by sdisnie
	Father in Law (Preview) As some of you may know from message board posts or chat I have a real problem with my father in law. He hates me and I hate him. He is an obnoxious A. He is a sociopath and a real user. As a child he took my A out to bars and put him in harms way as young as 9. He has always used my A o...	lebe27	4	423	Feb 2, 2006 by cdb
	looking for a sponser (Preview) I am in a bit of a bind ........ I don't have anyone to watch my kids to go for the moment to any F2f meeting, there for I am looking for a sponser. CAN ANYONE HELP ? that would be great. Thanks.	Mercedes Dekkers	2	379	Feb 2, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	The up and down rollar coaster (Preview) Last week was so horrible I was on this board a lot. I printed out some articles on how to tell if someone is a drunk and I underlined a bunch of it and put it on the coffee table where my laid off alcoholic husband could see if when he finally rolled himself out of bed on Friday morning/afternoon. I threatene...	Lindy	4	572	Feb 2, 2006 by Donna
	chat room (Preview) I cant get the chat room to work. When I click on chat room...I get a white box but it says it cannot connect. I am confused	2D1S	2	417	Feb 2, 2006 by 2D1S
	if I'd keep my mouth shut I could avoid this drama (Preview) this is long but I had to vent..... I'm sitting here waiting to take the 13 yo to school. It's 12:25 and the wife can be home by 12:05. She walks in the door with beer and Mikes hard whatever. I told her, I'm waiting to talk our daughter to school and your finding time to get alcohol? She says she di...	bobump	8	613	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	dysfunction (Preview) My life is filled with so many dysfunctional people around me that it is so difficult to find support and help. A friend of mine agreed to help me this evening by watching my kids while my A and I went to marriage counseling. She called me on the way home from work and gave me a huge guilt trip about how...	2D1S	6	558	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	scared and lonely (Preview) I was just wondering if anyone might be able to help me figure out what is going on. My A and I are separated, as many of you know. It was a decision I made when he was hospitalized in December. After he was released he went to stay at his Dad's, started and IOP and is going to meetings. He frequently asked abou...	confused	5	528	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	Flattened (Preview) I'm here, I'm trying really hard, it's not working. My deceased Grandmother thought it neccesary to include in her will my name and her decision not to provide anything for me ... I thought of Jennifer but I make no provision for the daughter of my deceased son for reasons best known to me. Thanks for t...	Jennifer	4	392	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	I don't know what to do (Preview) My A is not a family member, just a long term friend. Her physical condition is awful. She's 65, probably weighs less than 100lbs, although she is about 5'8" tall. She can barely stand and or walk. Her counseler finally talked her into going into a detox center where they would build her back up so that...	Lea	6	470	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	Letting go and letting God.... (Preview) Letting go and letting God.... I was listening to someone tonight on letting go and letting God...and I wanted to share this. It's another of those spiritual laws, that letting go lets God. We can actually inhibit the answer to a prayer by wanting something too much. That can tend toward lust, and...	alanon_2002	3	394	Feb 1, 2006 by alanon_2002
	secrets and lying (Preview) I hate secrets. I don't like lying. When I was growing up I was told by my mother to lie. I lied to my teachers, I lied to my grandmother. I learned to lie a lot. It was very easy. Little kids are not emotionally mature enough to know about lying. There is a difference betweem lying about a surprise b...	mollyann	6	785	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	ITS HARD TO STOP ACTING AS i HAVE IN THE PAST (Preview) I thought that if I stopped enabling the alcoholic in my life, the drinking would stop. When the drinking seemed to get worse instead of better, once again I thought I had done something wrong. I was still trying to control alcoholism and its symptoms, Alanon helped me to learn that I am powerless, I can...	gardengal	2	406	Feb 1, 2006 by mebjk
	brother didnt make it to Bridgewater - chestpains went to Lemuel Shattuck Hosp (Preview) On the way to Bridgewater brother complained of chest pains. They brought him to Lemuel Shattuck. He spoke w/my mother. She says he sounds broken. They had him in leg irons & cuffs. He is up on assault & battery charges, not domestic abuse charges (which is the same, right?) He wants my mother t...	Barbara	7	499	Feb 1, 2006 by Barbara
	First Meeting (Preview) I attended my first F2F meeting last night. It was a little strange. I liked it though. I didn't talk. I was feeling shy. The thing that surprised me was that everyone was talking about themselves. No one mentioned their A. Not once. So that got me...	paintthinnr	7	437	Feb 1, 2006 by mebjk
	Cowboy Washes Cow in Carwash (Preview) Hi Ya'll , Ya know we had the discussion in chat about TX and carwashes? Well , here's the picture I was talking about . Thought I might share it with ya'll. LOL!!!! Love each and everyone of ya, thought ya might get a laugh outta this! Jonibaloni21 -- Edited by jonibal...	jonibaloni21	5	601	Feb 1, 2006 by Flora123
	How do you help a friend? (Preview) How do you begin to talk to your best friend about his problem when you know he is an alcoholic and he doesn’t know that you know? I live in the USA and he lives in Scotland, but we do spend a lot of time together. We work together via the internet, and have traveled extensively. We went to New Zealand last y...	7713Elizabeth	4	395	Feb 1, 2006 by notsonew1111
	how fast i spin out of control ESH please (Preview) OMG I acted like such an idiot today. My A seemed to push just the right buttons and everything that I have been keeping in just came flying out of my mouth. Looking at actions and not listening to words, I have been keeping it all in. All the stuff that he says he is going to do, but not doing, well I let is all o...	confused	5	474	Feb 1, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Made some big realizations this weekend... (Preview) Good Morning Everyone, Just wanted to say thanks again to those who posted some ESH on my last Friday post. I did take the kids to my mom's. Funny that his house guests did not show up. Of course he was angry with me when I arrived home and started packing; which I don't get because he...	twinmom2	3	381	Feb 1, 2006 by Rebecca
	Campral (Preview) My A is taking Campral now. It is completely new to me...something I've never heard of before. But it is supposed to help alcoholics overcome their dependency. Anyone else had any experience with it?	ashraven	3	471	Feb 1, 2006 by ashraven
	Sponsor (Preview) Hey all, Jcon here, need some help. I am looking for a sponsor and the meetings that i can attend I am the only guy there. Need some suggestions or help in maybe finding an online sponsor temporarily until i can get one where i live or something. Any and a...	jcon	3	431	Feb 1, 2006 by John_R
	Newbie (Preview) Hi all! I am a little scaird to write this down becuase I am not very good with words. Here goes. I am in a relationship with a man that has been clean and sober for over 6 years. He is a miracle! I also have A father who also uses drugs. My dilemma lately has been that I have been obe...	jmath31	7	545	Feb 1, 2006 by paintthinnr
	Trying Hard (Preview) My husband is now home for rehab. I am having such mixed emotions. Just can't even look at him and, not sure how I feel. I realize the road ahead is a very delicate one. Many changes have taken place within me. Trying to focus what is best for me has become cloudy. Trying to put the needs and wants of my childr...	Andrea12	2	388	Feb 1, 2006 by NottaClu
	What the heck is his deal now?! I just need to focus on me and my kids (Preview) Thanks to all of you for your wonderful caring and sharing your own personal stories. I look forward to reading them daily. Okay, remember, he's the one who told me over the phone that he wanted a divorce, he didn't want to come back home, he didn't want me to fly out to see him, he told me...	sdisnie	4	477	Feb 1, 2006 by Lindy
	I Could Use some ESH (Preview) I go to 3 different F2F meetings and each one has a different effect on me. One I feel like I can say anything. The second one I have trouble saying anything at all... so I ususally remain quiet. The third one is sort of in-between. I have have phone lists for all of them.&...	sandie123	5	562	Feb 1, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Step book (Preview) Can anyone recommend a step book that i could buy. I would really like to start writing and getting a sponsor. thanks	jmath31	2	520	Feb 1, 2006 by kitty
	Anti-Depressants (Preview) I was wondering if I should try taking a doctor prescribed anti-depressant until I have some more of the program to build on. I try to stay away from prescribed drugs when possible but I'm feeling really down and it's starting to affect me physically and spiritually. Any experience anyo...	Kim2	8	572	Jan 31, 2006 by notsonew1111
	A bit of reflecting (Preview) I went to Florida this weekend to visit my new friend who I met in Chicago. I had a blast - he took me to Sanibel Island for the weekend which was gorgeous, bought me two dozen roses, treated me to a terrific trip. We crammed alot in two days - went to the beach both days to watch the sunset, sunri...	Cyn	2	575	Jan 31, 2006 by cdb
	Spiritual, or Religious prayer. (Preview) Hi, Been in Alanon for 15 years, & have often wondered about closing with the "Our Father". Finally, a member pointed out that from his position as a non-Christian, this prayer could not be said. I am a Christian , but it disturbs me to see the group, holding hands & saying the "Our Father", &...	red hook	8	1188	Jan 31, 2006 by red hook
	How do I do it? (Preview) I want to be able to just say that my husband is a drunk and then just pretend like he doesn't exist. But how do I do that and go on about my days when my daughter can't even have a sleepover with her friends at our house because I never know if or what kind of shape my A will come home in. I can't take the risk that I...	2D1S	6	622	Jan 31, 2006 by 2D1S
	my mother filed - brother started his 30days at Bridgewater yesterday! (Preview) She filed the report. There was enough from talking with my brother to have him arrested for elderly abuse charges without her having to testify. I called the courthouse to see "what happened" yesterday as my mother called me today to call me a liar, say I knew what was going on when I have no idea, etc....	Barbara	2	376	Jan 31, 2006 by bobump
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