Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

WakingUp · WakingUp

I went to the dr today for a minor thing (follow up to quitting some meds) and she told me I have to quit stressing and take care of myself. I had a complete melt down and cried through the entire time I was there (I'm not a cryer, normally.) She's echoing Al-Anon, and I guess I just don't feel up...

gardengal · gardengal

We know something is very wrong but we cant figure out what it si or we think we have identified the problem but can never seem to solve it. We may suspect that drinkign has something to do with our situaiton, but we dont rea want to think about it: afterall alcoholism can be embarrassing. Or we may be acute...

marmare · marmare

Thank you all! My A did show up, we didn't talk about his drinking very much. He was intoxicated as I thought he would be. He had drank, but I think my brain pictured a stumbling drunk man. We did however talk about feelings, about nothing changing if nothing changes. That b...

lmt123 · lmt123

I just want to thank you all for your encouraging words. It helps to know I'm not alone, although at times of "war" with my daughter I feel helpless and alone. She has not moved out yet...I asked her if she was moving out, and she said no. I said, you have bags pac...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today was a very difficult day.i had to go grocery shopping for the first time on my own. after proscastinating all day i decided to go. i actually did my makeup and hair too and looked and felt great. so i went and got my shopping done with a few hurdles. i couldnt reach some stuff off the top shelves but man...

maresie · maresie

Last year at this time my A came down with a debiliating illness. He developed a muscle disorder that left him in a great deal of pain and virtually bed ridden. I over identified with his illness because I have had my own illness. I did not wait to be asked to help. I jumped right in drew money out...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

Wow! Today was great! The hubby is moving out. He has been packing all day. I have been doing a lot of thumb twittling and not sure what to do. I offered to lend a hand....not to get him out faster, but just to help. He didn't want any. That is fine. He s...

seachange · seachange

I was born in the UK in 1940, in Liverpool. My family was already in great disarray—my mother suffering from mental illness, and my dad an active alcoholic. They were very poor, and moved a lot. Six of their eight children had already died of infantile diseases such as diphtheria a...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i think i am dreaming. who do i think/hope he will be? my father is an A and i no longer am having contact with him. his behavior sickens me...anyway--he is on permenant social security disability (do to his drinking problem). i hold a bit of resentment for this b/c i have epilepsy(seizure disorder) a...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Well, do what you have to do. Get the travel channel on, or checkout a travel video, while on your treadmill, ha, ha. Close your eyes, or actually purchase a bus ticket, or an overnight stay w/a jacuzzi, but add this music for meditation! &...

Taryn · Taryn

I spent a lot of time, composing my thoughts, finding my words, trying to be as coherent as possible while feeling that my sanity was hanging by a thread. Satisfied with my efforts, I clicked the submit button -- but at the same moment, my internet service was interrupted. So it d...

hudsond · hudsond

Well, it has been one hell of a month!!! I knew something had been up, but I couldn't put my finger on it, finally last Tuesday he came home totally high--so much so he was paranoid--if I wasn't so upset about it I would have been laughing. (He was hearing noises.) I just kept thinking--you actually pay so...

Phil · Phil

What is a boundary?A boundary is the: Emotional and physical space between you and another person.Demarcation of where you end and another begins and where you begin and another ends.Limit or line over which you will not allow anyone to cross because of the negative impact of its being crossed in the...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! Just want to share with you that I survived my Al-Anon lead! It was a leap, for sure, because I hadn't done one in about twenty years, and haven't heard any specifically Al-Anon leads--only AA and NA. It felt like doing all the steps at once! Admitting all the unm...

cdb · cdb

I am so sorry to hear about your doggy that was shot. (((((((((doggy))))))) Do you mind sharing anything about the situation or information. I will say prayers for his recovery and if possible, can you update us on him. That is so touching what your A said. It just shows how much they want to quit drinkin...

koala · koala

Hi everybody, I have recently joined and have attended 2 meetings so far. Alcoholism has affected my whole life. I grew up with an alcoholic father who was very abusive ( Sexually. verbally and emotionally) to us 4 children and my mother. I learned at an early age how to walk on eggshells and what...

bobump · bobump

Small example of not taking care of ourselves. I REALLY need a shower today. LOL. I hate taking them at night cause of the wonderful effects in the morning on the hair. LOL So this morning, I drive the A to work (sharing one car, and I have my f2f today). Get home, my one daughter hasn't gotten up. She ha...

nmike · nmike

Well, the last time I posted I had an appointment with a lawyer just to find out what my rights are married or divorced. I had to turn back because of the icey roads. Maybe this is prophetic because I probably could of made it but I was scared to death of driving on the roads. And I am scared to death to face rea...

ris · ris

Thanks for giving me an outlet! I appreciate your responses and respect your opinions and advise. I will try to make this long story short... My son is almost 25 and has been involved with drugs and alcohol since the age of 17. He has been married to a wonderful girl for almost 4 years...

flintfeet · flintfeet

why do i have to worry about my dad's problems? i feel like it's not fair to have to worry about something i didn't cause, can't control, but i can't accept it. for lack of a better word...this sucks!

findingmyway · findingmyway

Just wanted to say thanks for the chat last night. It was the first time I participated. I was having a bad night and really needed a meeting. It was so comforting to have one available. Thanks to everyone who was there!

sdisnie · sdisnie

I can't believe that it's almost been 2 months since I've seen my AH!!! And now it's been 9 days since I've spoken to him. He's still calling every morning at the same time leaving messages. I really believe he has done some major brain damage to his brain this time. He really s...

2D1S · 2D1S

Does verbal and emotional abuse and Alcholism always go together? I can't seem to separate them and I wonder if the Alcohol is causing the abuse or if this is a separate issue?

Barbara · Barbara

He was sent to NE Med Ctr for his angiogram (after EKG and stress tests) and then on to Dept of Correction. Im thinking if he was sent to the jail maybe now they are focusing on his rehab and his physical is okay? God it sucks when they send them from one place to another and dont contact the family. We don...

2D1S · 2D1S

How do I get through these nights? The lying and sneaking...I can't stand it. How do I ignore it? How do I get rid of the hurt and anger. How do I not be irritable? If I just need a break from my kids because I am boiling over but can't leave because no one is here and no one can come over. Just saying some d...

Lindy · Lindy

Last week my husband and I had a HUGE fight over his drinking. He ended up sitting in a bar all day Thursday (he's laid off from work) and getting sloppy drunk. Of course, he drove home like that. Anyway, we talked on Friday and I told him I would be filing for divorce if he continued drinking. He said he was s...

mastiff · mastiff

Hello all! At the group consience meeting tonight, it was voted in to make the Sunday AM meeting a "Spirtuality Meeting." I thought i'd post here and tell all that weren't there about the change and just exactly what a spirtuality meeting is so here I go ;o) A Spirtuality Meeting...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: I went to see my A and his counselor on Sunday, two days before his release. After much contemplating about the situation, I had decided, even before getting my results that I would give his recovery and mine one last chance together. If he was going to make a solid attempt at this I fe...

laura3098 · laura3098

This looks like a place where I need to be. Nobody seems to understand me and why I refuse to give up on my alcoholic husband. We have been together for 15 years and have to sons. Our younger son is only 4 weeks old and our oldest is 13. Our 13 year old knows his dad is an alcoholic, but their like best friends. I...

2D1S · 2D1S

I have found this out in my experiences with my A. Reasons to drink....because you are pissed off...because you had a great day...because you are celebrating...because you are sad...because you and your wife had a fight...because your child was born...because your child is in the hospital...b...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

Sorry to be harping on about this. A lot of people suggested that my HP could be a person or the group since I am an atheist. But then I don't understand how the steps work. I am good with step one, but after that I don't know what to do. I could believe the group could he...

WakingUp · WakingUp

For those who responded to my previous posts about feeling uncomfortable at my F2F meeting, I did go back last night. It wasn't great, but it wasn't awful either. I would at least like to stick out the 6 months of my service position, if possible.

Jayda · Jayda

My brother constantly verbally abuses my mother. I've talked to her about it a million times. She doesn't deny that he verbally abuses her, but she makes excuses for him like, "it's okay, he's just having a bad day" I wish there was something I could do to stop this.

Barbara · Barbara

Brother was charged with Assault & Battery. Mother thinks it should have been Domestic Abuse and will go back to the lawyer to see if she can lessen the charges. Whats the difference? She does remember being told by the police that its going as A&B but she wasnt thinking clearly.

lmt123 · lmt123

I just found that my daughter has a couple of duffle bags packed with her stuff, clothes, necessities, etc., upstairs in her room. She expressed the desire to move out, because she didn't like having house rules at age 18, even though she is still a senior in high school. I gave her a list of...

Barbara · Barbara

guess the stress test showed up some irregularity. Dont know where they're sending him for this - noone can visit. If he needs a bypass will the family be able to visit?

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

Last night I talked to a friend and pour all my feeling out to him. Pour guy. He doesn't usually call me during the day. Today, he called just to wish me a better day than yesterday and pump me up to put one foot infront of the other and take action. This lasted all through the day.&nbs...

Nettie · Nettie

I found your site today and thought since I was struggling that I would give this a try. This may get long winded, for that I apologize ahead of time. I guess I'll start from what I consider the beginning of our struggle. Seven years ago, my husband was diagnosed with a rare type of cancer....

snodebb · snodebb

I have just found this site and I have been reading some of the things on here and it sounds like my house and my life. I have been with my husband for 15 years and frankly I wonder sometimes what the heck is the matter with me. He was sober for 3 years of our marriage then decieded AA was not for hi...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Someone asked me about my recoverying alcoholic/drug addicted daughter's puppy last night so I thought I would update on the board. His name is burton, almost 8 months old, mixed lab and a source of strength for her sobriety. I put AA puppy because she use to bring him to her AA meeting...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I just happened to find this website http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/ It's got lots and lots of stuff on it about verbal and emotional abuse. I'm just going through it myself, I hope you might find something helpful.

findingmyway · findingmyway

Just found out my husband was arrested for possession of cocaine. He didn't feel the need to share that with me. I found out by accident although he did admit it when I asked. Unbelievable. Can this get any worse?

2D1S · 2D1S

Which works better for kids (under 10) affected by the active A when they are exposed to it every day (I can't hide the verbal abuse that goes with it). Alanon or counseling

Nettie · Nettie

I tried to log in to the chat but was unable. This is the error message I received: Unable to connect : com.ms.security.SecurityExceptionEx : cannot connect to "irc.mipchat.net" Can someone help me?

2D1S · 2D1S

It is coming at me from all sides...feeling a bit hopeless. My husbum is an A...sister uses Meth...mother and father in law and my mother are the worst of enablers and they are constantly making excuses for the addicts behavior (husbum or sister's). No other siblings other than her. I can't seem to get...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

Well I am going back to a meeting tonight. It has only been two days but I feel like I have to try a bunch of different meetings and see what suits me. It is so easy to make up excuses as to why I shouldn't go. I read the little packet on sponsorship. I am not sure when to get a sponsor o...

Kim · Kim

Hey everyone: I am NEGATIVE!!!!!!! Thank you for all your prayers. Kim

2D1S · 2D1S

Has anyone ever just wished that their A would get killed in a drinking and driving crash and just get it over with. Of course not injuring anyone else. Or one of the times they pass out in the car...they would just freeze to death.

lebe27 · lebe27

As some of you may know from message board posts or chat I have a real problem with my father in law. He hates me and I hate him. He is an obnoxious A. He is a sociopath and a real user. As a child he took my A out to bars and put him in harms way as young as 9. He has always used my A o...

Mercedes Dekkers · Mercedes Dekkers

I am in a bit of a bind ........ I don't have anyone to watch my kids to go for the moment to any F2f meeting, there for I am looking for a sponser. CAN ANYONE HELP ? that would be great. Thanks.

Lindy · Lindy

Last week was so horrible I was on this board a lot. I printed out some articles on how to tell if someone is a drunk and I underlined a bunch of it and put it on the coffee table where my laid off alcoholic husband could see if when he finally rolled himself out of bed on Friday morning/afternoon. I threatene...

2D1S · 2D1S

I cant get the chat room to work. When I click on chat room...I get a white box but it says it cannot connect. I am confused

bobump · bobump

this is long but I had to vent..... I'm sitting here waiting to take the 13 yo to school. It's 12:25 and the wife can be home by 12:05. She walks in the door with beer and Mikes hard whatever. I told her, I'm waiting to talk our daughter to school and your finding time to get alcohol? She says she di...

2D1S · 2D1S

My life is filled with so many dysfunctional people around me that it is so difficult to find support and help. A friend of mine agreed to help me this evening by watching my kids while my A and I went to marriage counseling. She called me on the way home from work and gave me a huge guilt trip about how...

confused · confused

I was just wondering if anyone might be able to help me figure out what is going on. My A and I are separated, as many of you know. It was a decision I made when he was hospitalized in December. After he was released he went to stay at his Dad's, started and IOP and is going to meetings. He frequently asked abou...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I'm here, I'm trying really hard, it's not working. My deceased Grandmother thought it neccesary to include in her will my name and her decision not to provide anything for me ... I thought of Jennifer but I make no provision for the daughter of my deceased son for reasons best known to me. Thanks for t...

Lea · Lea

My A is not a family member, just a long term friend. Her physical condition is awful. She's 65, probably weighs less than 100lbs, although she is about 5'8" tall. She can barely stand and or walk. Her counseler finally talked her into going into a detox center where they would build her back up so that...

alanon_2002 · alanon_2002

Letting go and letting God.... I was listening to someone tonight on letting go and letting God...and I wanted to share this. It's another of those spiritual laws, that letting go lets God. We can actually inhibit the answer to a prayer by wanting something too much. That can tend toward lust, and...

mollyann · mollyann

I hate secrets. I don't like lying. When I was growing up I was told by my mother to lie. I lied to my teachers, I lied to my grandmother. I learned to lie a lot. It was very easy. Little kids are not emotionally mature enough to know about lying. There is a difference betweem lying about a surprise b...

gardengal · gardengal

I thought that if I stopped enabling the alcoholic in my life, the drinking would stop. When the drinking seemed to get worse instead of better, once again I thought I had done something wrong. I was still trying to control alcoholism and its symptoms, Alanon helped me to learn that I am powerless, I can...

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	Dr Tells Me to Take Care of Myself (Preview) I went to the dr today for a minor thing (follow up to quitting some meds) and she told me I have to quit stressing and take care of myself. I had a complete melt down and cried through the entire time I was there (I'm not a cryer, normally.) She's echoing Al-Anon, and I guess I just don't feel up...	WakingUp	6	516	Feb 4, 2006 by Jayda
	We know something is wrong, but-------- (Preview) We know something is very wrong but we cant figure out what it si or we think we have identified the problem but can never seem to solve it. We may suspect that drinkign has something to do with our situaiton, but we dont rea want to think about it: afterall alcoholism can be embarrassing. Or we may be acute...	gardengal	3	530	Feb 4, 2006 by bcanuck
	Last Night (Preview) Thank you all! My A did show up, we didn't talk about his drinking very much. He was intoxicated as I thought he would be. He had drank, but I think my brain pictured a stumbling drunk man. We did however talk about feelings, about nothing changing if nothing changes. That b...	marmare	4	519	Feb 4, 2006 by leo
	thanks for all the encouragement... (Preview) I just want to thank you all for your encouraging words. It helps to know I'm not alone, although at times of "war" with my daughter I feel helpless and alone. She has not moved out yet...I asked her if she was moving out, and she said no. I said, you have bags pac...	lmt123	9	613	Feb 4, 2006 by Maria123
	miss independent (Preview) today was a very difficult day.i had to go grocery shopping for the first time on my own. after proscastinating all day i decided to go. i actually did my makeup and hair too and looked and felt great. so i went and got my shopping done with a few hurdles. i couldnt reach some stuff off the top shelves but man...	notsonew1111	6	498	Feb 4, 2006 by Cyn
	overidentification (Preview) Last year at this time my A came down with a debiliating illness. He developed a muscle disorder that left him in a great deal of pain and virtually bed ridden. I over identified with his illness because I have had my own illness. I did not wait to be asked to help. I jumped right in drew money out...	maresie	5	512	Feb 4, 2006 by WakingUp
	What a great day! (Preview) Wow! Today was great! The hubby is moving out. He has been packing all day. I have been doing a lot of thumb twittling and not sure what to do. I offered to lend a hand....not to get him out faster, but just to help. He didn't want any. That is fine. He s...	ZiggyDoodles	3	522	Feb 4, 2006 by confused
	My abbreviated "Lead"--it's still fairly long! (Preview) I was born in the UK in 1940, in Liverpool. My family was already in great disarray—my mother suffering from mental illness, and my dad an active alcoholic. They were very poor, and moved a lot. Six of their eight children had already died of infantile diseases such as diphtheria a...	seachange	5	602	Feb 4, 2006 by seachange
	i'm dreaming (Preview) i think i am dreaming. who do i think/hope he will be? my father is an A and i no longer am having contact with him. his behavior sickens me...anyway--he is on permenant social security disability (do to his drinking problem). i hold a bit of resentment for this b/c i have epilepsy(seizure disorder) a...	flintfeet	2	451	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	BREAKAWAY - (Sing-A-Long) (Preview) Well, do what you have to do. Get the travel channel on, or checkout a travel video, while on your treadmill, ha, ha. Close your eyes, or actually purchase a bus ticket, or an overnight stay w/a jacuzzi, but add this music for meditation! &...	wallsal55	0	493	Feb 4, 2006 by wallsal55
	Newbie Post (2nd attempt) (Preview) I spent a lot of time, composing my thoughts, finding my words, trying to be as coherent as possible while feeling that my sanity was hanging by a thread. Satisfied with my efforts, I clicked the submit button -- but at the same moment, my internet service was interrupted. So it d...	Taryn	7	601	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	strangely enough calm (Preview) Well, it has been one hell of a month!!! I knew something had been up, but I couldn't put my finger on it, finally last Tuesday he came home totally high--so much so he was paranoid--if I wasn't so upset about it I would have been laughing. (He was hearing noises.) I just kept thinking--you actually pay so...	hudsond	6	478	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	An Article On Boundaries (Preview) What is a boundary?A boundary is the: Emotional and physical space between you and another person.Demarcation of where you end and another begins and where you begin and another ends.Limit or line over which you will not allow anyone to cross because of the negative impact of its being crossed in the...	Phil	5	789	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	Al-Anon Lead (Preview) Hi Everyone! Just want to share with you that I survived my Al-Anon lead! It was a leap, for sure, because I hadn't done one in about twenty years, and haven't heard any specifically Al-Anon leads--only AA and NA. It felt like doing all the steps at once! Admitting all the unm...	seachange	6	1570	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	Hudsond/about your doggy? (Preview) I am so sorry to hear about your doggy that was shot. (((((((((doggy))))))) Do you mind sharing anything about the situation or information. I will say prayers for his recovery and if possible, can you update us on him. That is so touching what your A said. It just shows how much they want to quit drinkin...	cdb	3	477	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	newcomer difficulty with the idea of detachment (Preview) Hi everybody, I have recently joined and have attended 2 meetings so far. Alcoholism has affected my whole life. I grew up with an alcoholic father who was very abusive ( Sexually. verbally and emotionally) to us 4 children and my mother. I learned at an early age how to walk on eggshells and what...	koala	9	833	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	not taking care of ourselves...small example. (Preview) Small example of not taking care of ourselves. I REALLY need a shower today. LOL. I hate taking them at night cause of the wonderful effects in the morning on the hair. LOL So this morning, I drive the A to work (sharing one car, and I have my f2f today). Get home, my one daughter hasn't gotten up. She ha...	bobump	9	735	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	No progress ..... (Preview) Well, the last time I posted I had an appointment with a lawyer just to find out what my rights are married or divorced. I had to turn back because of the icey roads. Maybe this is prophetic because I probably could of made it but I was scared to death of driving on the roads. And I am scared to death to face rea...	nmike	4	489	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	Needing Advise (Preview) Thanks for giving me an outlet! I appreciate your responses and respect your opinions and advise. I will try to make this long story short... My son is almost 25 and has been involved with drugs and alcohol since the age of 17. He has been married to a wonderful girl for almost 4 years...	ris	5	562	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	why??? (Preview) why do i have to worry about my dad's problems? i feel like it's not fair to have to worry about something i didn't cause, can't control, but i can't accept it. for lack of a better word...this sucks!	flintfeet	4	567	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	Thank You (Preview) Just wanted to say thanks for the chat last night. It was the first time I participated. I was having a bad night and really needed a meeting. It was so comforting to have one available. Thanks to everyone who was there!	findingmyway	1	425	Feb 4, 2006 by maresie
	Still trying to let him go (Preview) I can't believe that it's almost been 2 months since I've seen my AH!!! And now it's been 9 days since I've spoken to him. He's still calling every morning at the same time leaving messages. I really believe he has done some major brain damage to his brain this time. He really s...	sdisnie	3	651	Feb 3, 2006 by Kim
	verbal and emotional abuse (Preview) Does verbal and emotional abuse and Alcholism always go together? I can't seem to separate them and I wonder if the Alcohol is causing the abuse or if this is a separate issue?	2D1S	9	1010	Feb 3, 2006 by ashraven
	2/3update - 2/2 my brothers whereabouts (Preview) He was sent to NE Med Ctr for his angiogram (after EKG and stress tests) and then on to Dept of Correction. Im thinking if he was sent to the jail maybe now they are focusing on his rehab and his physical is okay? God it sucks when they send them from one place to another and dont contact the family. We don...	Barbara	3	609	Feb 3, 2006 by Flora123
	bad nights (Preview) How do I get through these nights? The lying and sneaking...I can't stand it. How do I ignore it? How do I get rid of the hurt and anger. How do I not be irritable? If I just need a break from my kids because I am boiling over but can't leave because no one is here and no one can come over. Just saying some d...	2D1S	10	543	Feb 3, 2006 by paintthinnr
	Selfish alcoholics (Preview) Last week my husband and I had a HUGE fight over his drinking. He ended up sitting in a bar all day Thursday (he's laid off from work) and getting sloppy drunk. Of course, he drove home like that. Anyway, we talked on Friday and I told him I would be filing for divorce if he continued drinking. He said he was s...	Lindy	7	882	Feb 3, 2006 by Lindy
	New Spirituality Meeting starts this Sunday AM, hope to see you all there!!!! (Preview) Hello all! At the group consience meeting tonight, it was voted in to make the Sunday AM meeting a "Spirtuality Meeting." I thought i'd post here and tell all that weren't there about the change and just exactly what a spirtuality meeting is so here I go ;o) A Spirtuality Meeting...	mastiff	2	442	Feb 3, 2006 by Faith73
	My A is back home (Preview) Hello all: I went to see my A and his counselor on Sunday, two days before his release. After much contemplating about the situation, I had decided, even before getting my results that I would give his recovery and mine one last chance together. If he was going to make a solid attempt at this I fe...	Kim	6	743	Feb 3, 2006 by twinmom2
	He needs to stop...... (Preview) This looks like a place where I need to be. Nobody seems to understand me and why I refuse to give up on my alcoholic husband. We have been together for 15 years and have to sons. Our younger son is only 4 weeks old and our oldest is 13. Our 13 year old knows his dad is an alcoholic, but their like best friends. I...	laura3098	7	597	Feb 3, 2006 by KathyS
	reasons to drink (Preview) I have found this out in my experiences with my A. Reasons to drink....because you are pissed off...because you had a great day...because you are celebrating...because you are sad...because you and your wife had a fight...because your child was born...because your child is in the hospital...b...	2D1S	10	658	Feb 3, 2006 by KathyS
	more hp questions. short. (Preview) Sorry to be harping on about this. A lot of people suggested that my HP could be a person or the group since I am an atheist. But then I don't understand how the steps work. I am good with step one, but after that I don't know what to do. I could believe the group could he...	paintthinnr	8	640	Feb 3, 2006 by KathyS
	Went Back to F2F (Preview) For those who responded to my previous posts about feeling uncomfortable at my F2F meeting, I did go back last night. It wasn't great, but it wasn't awful either. I would at least like to stick out the 6 months of my service position, if possible.	WakingUp	3	459	Feb 3, 2006 by kitty
	A verbally abuses our mother (Preview) My brother constantly verbally abuses my mother. I've talked to her about it a million times. She doesn't deny that he verbally abuses her, but she makes excuses for him like, "it's okay, he's just having a bad day" I wish there was something I could do to stop this.	Jayda	3	569	Feb 3, 2006 by Barbara
	whats the difference btwn Domestic Abuse & Assault and Battery? (Preview) Brother was charged with Assault & Battery. Mother thinks it should have been Domestic Abuse and will go back to the lawyer to see if she can lessen the charges. Whats the difference? She does remember being told by the police that its going as A&B but she wasnt thinking clearly.	Barbara	4	673	Feb 3, 2006 by cdb
	encouragement needed...(this is long, sorry) (Preview) I just found that my daughter has a couple of duffle bags packed with her stuff, clothes, necessities, etc., upstairs in her room. She expressed the desire to move out, because she didn't like having house rules at age 18, even though she is still a senior in high school. I gave her a list of...	lmt123	11	576	Feb 3, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	brother is having a cardiac catheter today (Preview) guess the stress test showed up some irregularity. Dont know where they're sending him for this - noone can visit. If he needs a bypass will the family be able to visit?	Barbara	2	448	Feb 3, 2006 by John_R
	This day went to the pitts (Preview) Last night I talked to a friend and pour all my feeling out to him. Pour guy. He doesn't usually call me during the day. Today, he called just to wish me a better day than yesterday and pump me up to put one foot infront of the other and take action. This lasted all through the day.&nbs...	ZiggyDoodles	5	540	Feb 2, 2006 by marmare
	New to the site (Preview) I found your site today and thought since I was struggling that I would give this a try. This may get long winded, for that I apologize ahead of time. I guess I'll start from what I consider the beginning of our struggle. Seven years ago, my husband was diagnosed with a rare type of cancer....	Nettie	7	519	Feb 2, 2006 by Lonesome
	new to this site (Preview) I have just found this site and I have been reading some of the things on here and it sounds like my house and my life. I have been with my husband for 15 years and frankly I wonder sometimes what the heck is the matter with me. He was sober for 3 years of our marriage then decieded AA was not for hi...	snodebb	7	462	Feb 2, 2006 by snodebb
	Daughter's injured AA puppy update.... (Preview) Hello friends, Someone asked me about my recoverying alcoholic/drug addicted daughter's puppy last night so I thought I would update on the board. His name is burton, almost 8 months old, mixed lab and a source of strength for her sobriety. I put AA puppy because she use to bring him to her AA meeting...	cdb	10	515	Feb 2, 2006 by cdb
	For 2D1S (Preview) I just happened to find this website http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/ It's got lots and lots of stuff on it about verbal and emotional abuse. I'm just going through it myself, I hope you might find something helpful.	dogscribe	1	446	Feb 2, 2006 by 2D1S
	unbelievable (Preview) Just found out my husband was arrested for possession of cocaine. He didn't feel the need to share that with me. I found out by accident although he did admit it when I asked. Unbelievable. Can this get any worse?	findingmyway	3	439	Feb 2, 2006 by Diva
	which works better (Preview) Which works better for kids (under 10) affected by the active A when they are exposed to it every day (I can't hide the verbal abuse that goes with it). Alanon or counseling	2D1S	5	500	Feb 2, 2006 by Diva
	Unable to connect (Preview) I tried to log in to the chat but was unable. This is the error message I received: Unable to connect : com.ms.security.SecurityExceptionEx : cannot connect to "irc.mipchat.net" Can someone help me?	Nettie	2	466	Feb 2, 2006 by Nettie
	from all sides (Preview) It is coming at me from all sides...feeling a bit hopeless. My husbum is an A...sister uses Meth...mother and father in law and my mother are the worst of enablers and they are constantly making excuses for the addicts behavior (husbum or sister's). No other siblings other than her. I can't seem to get...	2D1S	4	518	Feb 2, 2006 by Christy
	longish and random. sponsor? (Preview) Well I am going back to a meeting tonight. It has only been two days but I feel like I have to try a bunch of different meetings and see what suits me. It is so easy to make up excuses as to why I shouldn't go. I read the little packet on sponsorship. I am not sure when to get a sponsor o...	paintthinnr	3	497	Feb 2, 2006 by bobump
	got my results (Preview) Hey everyone: I am NEGATIVE!!!!!!! Thank you for all your prayers. Kim	Kim	14	562	Feb 2, 2006 by sdisnie
	thoughts (Preview) Has anyone ever just wished that their A would get killed in a drinking and driving crash and just get it over with. Of course not injuring anyone else. Or one of the times they pass out in the car...they would just freeze to death.	2D1S	7	541	Feb 2, 2006 by sdisnie
	Father in Law (Preview) As some of you may know from message board posts or chat I have a real problem with my father in law. He hates me and I hate him. He is an obnoxious A. He is a sociopath and a real user. As a child he took my A out to bars and put him in harms way as young as 9. He has always used my A o...	lebe27	4	475	Feb 2, 2006 by cdb
	looking for a sponser (Preview) I am in a bit of a bind ........ I don't have anyone to watch my kids to go for the moment to any F2f meeting, there for I am looking for a sponser. CAN ANYONE HELP ? that would be great. Thanks.	Mercedes Dekkers	2	430	Feb 2, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	The up and down rollar coaster (Preview) Last week was so horrible I was on this board a lot. I printed out some articles on how to tell if someone is a drunk and I underlined a bunch of it and put it on the coffee table where my laid off alcoholic husband could see if when he finally rolled himself out of bed on Friday morning/afternoon. I threatene...	Lindy	4	610	Feb 2, 2006 by Donna
	chat room (Preview) I cant get the chat room to work. When I click on chat room...I get a white box but it says it cannot connect. I am confused	2D1S	2	457	Feb 2, 2006 by 2D1S
	if I'd keep my mouth shut I could avoid this drama (Preview) this is long but I had to vent..... I'm sitting here waiting to take the 13 yo to school. It's 12:25 and the wife can be home by 12:05. She walks in the door with beer and Mikes hard whatever. I told her, I'm waiting to talk our daughter to school and your finding time to get alcohol? She says she di...	bobump	8	662	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	dysfunction (Preview) My life is filled with so many dysfunctional people around me that it is so difficult to find support and help. A friend of mine agreed to help me this evening by watching my kids while my A and I went to marriage counseling. She called me on the way home from work and gave me a huge guilt trip about how...	2D1S	6	605	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	scared and lonely (Preview) I was just wondering if anyone might be able to help me figure out what is going on. My A and I are separated, as many of you know. It was a decision I made when he was hospitalized in December. After he was released he went to stay at his Dad's, started and IOP and is going to meetings. He frequently asked abou...	confused	5	571	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	Flattened (Preview) I'm here, I'm trying really hard, it's not working. My deceased Grandmother thought it neccesary to include in her will my name and her decision not to provide anything for me ... I thought of Jennifer but I make no provision for the daughter of my deceased son for reasons best known to me. Thanks for t...	Jennifer	4	438	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	I don't know what to do (Preview) My A is not a family member, just a long term friend. Her physical condition is awful. She's 65, probably weighs less than 100lbs, although she is about 5'8" tall. She can barely stand and or walk. Her counseler finally talked her into going into a detox center where they would build her back up so that...	Lea	6	522	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	Letting go and letting God.... (Preview) Letting go and letting God.... I was listening to someone tonight on letting go and letting God...and I wanted to share this. It's another of those spiritual laws, that letting go lets God. We can actually inhibit the answer to a prayer by wanting something too much. That can tend toward lust, and...	alanon_2002	3	435	Feb 1, 2006 by alanon_2002
	secrets and lying (Preview) I hate secrets. I don't like lying. When I was growing up I was told by my mother to lie. I lied to my teachers, I lied to my grandmother. I learned to lie a lot. It was very easy. Little kids are not emotionally mature enough to know about lying. There is a difference betweem lying about a surprise b...	mollyann	6	847	Feb 1, 2006 by maresie
	ITS HARD TO STOP ACTING AS i HAVE IN THE PAST (Preview) I thought that if I stopped enabling the alcoholic in my life, the drinking would stop. When the drinking seemed to get worse instead of better, once again I thought I had done something wrong. I was still trying to control alcoholism and its symptoms, Alanon helped me to learn that I am powerless, I can...	gardengal	2	455	Feb 1, 2006 by mebjk
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