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Powerless · Powerless

I went to bed last night excited that I saw my daughter, but focusing on the fact that it was such a short visit. I should have been focusing on the fact I get to visit at all. I tried to stay up with my husband until he fell asleep because I was afraid he would use last night. I don't know why I fe...

Maria123 · Maria123

Hey gang, I just wanted to let y'all know that Missy is struggling here lately. She's lost her internet connection and thus her connection to us. So please keep her in your prayers and if someone wants to give me a call, send me a PM for her number. I've often wondered where we'd be witho...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

For the Alcoholic: GOD BLESS HIM, GOD KEEP HIM, GOD SAVE ME! Me: ;  

Lindy · Lindy

The cycle of life with my A goes like this: he drinks, then starts drinking more, then starts badgering me about everything, then spends more time in the bar, makes mean comments to and about my son, and then there is a huge blow up when I can't take it anymore. The blow-up happened Wednesday night and yes...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

This isn't meant to be a downer, because my spouse and I are still together (miracle of the program). However, I CAN say the emotions of this song really played out in the roller coaster of the drinking and then in the SOBRIETY, too. Saying goodbye to all the zany stuff as we enter pea...

bd · bd

The last 2 weeks have been something else. My dad who is one of the A's in my life just fell apart. His father who lives in another country and who we haven''t seen in 5 years passed away. Then my mother became very ill and had to be taken to the hospital. She will be ok but needs to q...

flintfeet · flintfeet

like i have said before, i tend to be negative about my A. today i read these & i started to feel better. i think i will share them with you. here goes... TO FORGIVE IS TO SET A PRISONER FREE & DICOVER THAT PRISONER WAS YOU! ***i had a hard time forgiving, and i have not all the way, but this is...

cdb · cdb

Hello this is snapper/cdb who you talked to. It helps to post things too so everyone gets to know you and your situation. You are not alone. You can also do searches here on topics similiar to what you need to read. Hope to see you on the message board :) cdb xoxoxoxoxo

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, Well I was able to speak to my husband last night, and he thinks he might be in for a while again, but hopefully this will be it. I mean hopefully this will clear up all the old stuff, and then he can get that out of the way. The hardest part was telling the kids. My oldest is 6, I have a 4 year old, a...

confused · confused

I think that I am doing ok and then whammeee, I am sinking again. I guess the awareness that I am sinking is progress, it allows me to do something about it. I am trying so hard to just do the next right thing, to take things a day at a time, but it is just so hard. Sometimes, especially whe...

Powerless · Powerless

Today has been full of ups and downs. I met with the attorney this morning and he informed me that he had to refer me to an attorney in the state my ex lives in. So now it is back to the drawing board. My daughter is coming for a visit tonight. He is only letting her come because he wa...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i know that some of you guys think that that i have an unhealthy attitude towards the situation with my dad. i'm not trying to hurt anyone's feelings, and it is no one in paticular. i just hear myself tell myself:"it's his fault! it's not a disease! he chose drinking over his family! how could he do...

cdb · cdb

Hello josey, You had asked for prayers recently on a post and I was wondering how things are going now in regards to what you posted and the out of town visit. It is nice to know if our prayers are working in other's lives and if miracles are in progress. I hope things are going well fo...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I thought he was going to disappear, and I felt better because of that thought. He had disconnected his phone and told my dad, (like he had told me the last time I talked to him) that he just wanted to start his life over, in the state he's in. My dad got the impression from him that he just didn'...

Jayda · Jayda

After a couple of weeks of trying to stay clean and get his life together my brother relapsed again. Once again, we tried to help him while he was recovering from being shot in the eye. My mom let him stay at her place for a bit, but as soon as his eye was good enough to be able to put a contact lense in and he coul...

Barbara · Barbara

Mother asked me last night if on Feb 28 I would go to the courthouse with her. My brother is being released from Bridgewater on that day and being brought directly to court. From there the plan is to have him go directly into rehab. We will need to drive him there! He's gonna be BS! Has anyone done this? any a...

sandie123 · sandie123

*My aunt has almost died twice in the last few weeks. They will be doing open heart surgery on her. They are not exactly certain what is causing all of her problems but they say this is a start.It's been a tough couple of weeks. * Last night my daughter broke her arm... we need to go see the orthopedic surg...

mebjk · mebjk

Dear Friends, Thank you for all your posts out here. They mean a lot to me. I have something that I am learning about myself right now, and I hope this will be helpful to someone else. It will also do me good to share. I have been surrounded by alcoholics my whole life. My family has been "leveled" by t...

kitty · kitty

Unlike an "A" alcohol is like a truth serum to me.... Give me a little & I speak the truth, unlike so may others... it does not scare me. I am not afraid of the truth or dos it scare me away. Judge me if u will ~ God does not judge lest he be judged. &...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

This Is Not A Test "We have found a loving, personal God to whom we can turn." Basic Text p. 27 Some of us come into recovery with the impression that life's hardships are a series of cosmic tests designed to teach us something. This belief is readily apparent when something traumatic happens a...

Barbara · Barbara

Ok so we get out of the house or at least mentally leave the scene when our A husbands are drinking. Its the next day that bothers me too. When they are just moody moody moody. How do you deal with that? Again just mentally leave the scene, I know. And hope there's a 3rd day when they dont drink before the cycl...

Barbara · Barbara

ahhh That hot Dunkin Donuts coffee is everything Ive been dreaming of all week! First cup of hot coffee in exactly a week and boy does it taste good. Thank you everyone for your support. Hopefully my mouth is finally healing. Now let the rest of my life get better One Day At A Time.

warped_mind · warped_mind

Hello. I just thought I would come out here and introduce myself. My name is Julia. I am new to this site and to al-anon. I have been in a relationship with an addict for two years and I think it is time for me to change. I need a change because I cannot stand the way I constantly feel. Lonely,despera...

marmare · marmare

Well, my A relapse last Friday, drank again on Superbowl Sunday and now has decided that he should be able to drink whenever he wants. I'm sad......not that he's drinking again but the last 3 months have been so wonderful. Yeah there were times of disagreements but it had nothing to do wit...

Powerless · Powerless

Hello my friends. I am back. I came into a little money and went out and bought a laptop today. I paid up all of our bills and paid our house payment for the next twelve months. I meet with my attorney tomorrow to pay him so I can get custody of my daughter. I still have not be...

jkl · jkl

I Just thought I'd tell you all a little about myself, mostly all I did last time was rant. So My name is Linzie, I just turned 21 a few days ago. My Dad is the A in my life. He and my mother seperated when I was about 16 or 17 but things had been bad for them for years. They fought all the time and I fought wit...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, I am sitting here feeling very overwhelmed. I Just got off the phone with a probation officer from our local court house. My husband went in this morning to quash a warrant he had and they have decided to keep him in the county jail until the 17th at the earliest. He has 65 days he needs to serve...

sallyb · sallyb

I haven't written in two months. A major change has taken place in my life and in my alcoholic/addict's life. Right after Christmas he admitted to me that he had stolen some of my prescription medication and took all of it. That was the last straw for me and I moved out three days late...

hudsond · hudsond

Well I am going out of town today. I will only be gone for one night, but I am extremely nervous. I won't get back until late tomorrow--why it would really make a decision in what he does is beyond me. But for some reason I just keep thinking "what if". See the last couple of times...

Barbara · Barbara

when we're at work and cant do it but the minute we get home all we want to do is stare at the computer screen! lol Someday someday I will do everything I should do for myself/others/etc. But for now maybe what I do need to be doing is taking it easy and staring at the screen! Anyone ever feel like this? They...

Ninababy · Ninababy

Some days I feel like I can detach and some days I can't.. Today I can't... I just keep thinking about all the many empty beer can's I find... all over the house.. and His constant denial of his problem... Like... "I can handle it now" I guess when I find alot of emty beer cans... I know he is n...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone. My family is getting worse as the days go by. I asked my grandmother if she would watch my daughter three evening per week until the end of March. She agreed. I was awarded a chance to go through an entreprenurial workshop for women to start my own business. At the time, I was also looking for a...

nmike · nmike

I just need a place to go to say all this. I went to my meeting Tues and will go to another one on Saturday. "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and that our lives have become unmanageable." My A doesn't drink but I am powerless over him and his actions. He wants to talk about the details of the...

Cyn · Cyn

Had a bad night at work - at the one job that I dont HAVE to be at. I am giving of my time here to finish out the swim season so this team doesnt lose a head coach in the middle of the year. I got frustrated with 3 of my swimmers not working hard in practice and stopped them in the water, looked at them...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi ((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))), I make no claims to this piece of wisdom. It came from my daily email from todaysgift@hazeldon.org. This seems to hit home as the meetings and chats we seemed a little overwhelmed this week. Thought it could help us all: TODAY'S THOUGHT IS: Som...

MFran · MFran

My adult daughter A voluntarily checked herself into detox on Monday. The last couple of days have been kind of tough with the physical aspects of detox. Anyway she wants to stay a couple more days and her psychiatrist thinks she should be out of there tomorrow and into a 28 day rehab facil...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i just recently have no contact with my dad. he is an A who chose drinking over his family.i think i am torturing myself. i keep thinking about my dad. i wonder what he is doing, where he is, what he's thinking, who he's with, how he is doing...blah blah blah. i know that he isn't thinking of me, and...

Lindy · Lindy

Living with a laid off alcoholic is draining my energy. I don't know how long I can take this and how long I can keep avoiding a fight. Last night when I walked in the door, my husband was of course drunk. He wasn't stumbling around, which I would've preferred because then at least he would just pass out. He...

bobump · bobump

Why I fired my secretary..... Last Week Was My Birthday And I Didn't Feel Very Well Waking Up That Morning. I Went Downstairs For Breakfast Hoping My Wife Would Be Pleasant And Say, "Happy Birthday!", And Possibly Have A Present For Me. As It Turned Out, She Barely Said Good Morning, Let Alone...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Got this in an email and thought it was rather nice. Feel free to insert the Higher Power of your choice

Monday Wash Day Lord, help me wash away all my selfishness and vanity, so I may serve you with perfect humility through the week ahead. Tuesday Ironing Day Dear Lord, help me iron out al...

flintfeet · flintfeet

my kids are being cheated!! it is my father who is doing this to them. he used to be involved with them. he would drink occasionally, then more and more and now he has gotten so bad that we don't talk to him anymore. he is never sober! so we have no contact with him. it's not good for them & not goo...

kitty · kitty

Something in this morning's meeting reminded me of an expression I picked up along the way & clung close to my heart always. I have been called an old soul, born with a sense of an ability to listen & be empathetic & even transmute other's pain, picking up...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I have really been struggling emotionally these past few days with my "a" and our relationship as some of you know. I have been feeling some real intense mood swings the last couple of weeks. I get bluesy at least once a month

, but I've never really had this overwhelming feeling of s...

JCSunshine · JCSunshine

Hi Everyone, I am new to the forum but not new to addiction. My name is Carla, and I'll try to explain in a nutshell my story. I come from a broken home with an alcoholic father that abused us kids and my mom. He abandoned us for an 18 yr old girl( I was 14 then). 21 years later, he called and wanted to speak with m...

diane53 · diane53

16 years ago my alcoholic husband went to AA and got sober.He has been sober ever since.The relationship seems to have had it's ups and downs but this time it has really hit the bottom.He met someone online,another recovering alcoholic and he wants to persue that relationship.Soon as we can se...

rtexas · rtexas

I had a hard time finding a site I felt would be helpful to post on. I would appreciate some input as I have noone to discuss this with at the moment. My A wife and I have been really struggling for the last 4-5 years. One seperation (her idea after a drunken fling with a bar buddy), many fig...

Lindy · Lindy

My alcoholic (but won't admit it) husband has been laid off now for six weeks. He has been cooking supper and doing dishes, which I appreciate and have told him. Yesterday, he asked me when I would be home for supper. I told him around 5:15. I picked up my son at his after school program and didn't get home u...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i took the 12 Steps to the latrine last night i decided i was going to tile my master bathroom floor....' i dug up all the old linoleum tiles, and i had the floor nice and clean and ready to go!!! things were going GREAT till i got around having to "tile around the toidie" and thats when thi...

learning76 · learning76

Hi! I read the book 'Women Who Love Too Much' & recognised myself in it. Being attracted to 'wrong' men... etc. The author suggests joining Al-Anon or something similar. I'm not sure if I 'qualify' for going there. What do you think? I don't have an alcoholic in my immediate family, except f...

Barbara · Barbara

Half Moon? Sober in the Sun? anyone join any of these organizations?

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, Just a quick note to explain I won't be replying much for a while. I have a reoccuring eye problem called optic neuritis, can be stress related, a side effect of MS or my body just randomly attacking a nerve for no reason. In 4 years they have not found an answer and there is no medi...

Nettie · Nettie

So I get home from work, pick up our daughter to run an errand and return home to this: A: "There's a meeting tonight so I had my beer and I'm going to the meeting, what do you think about that?" ME: "Fine with me, enjoy" I'm thinking, how crazy is this? What on earth was he trying to prove? ...

kitty · kitty

Talking to a drunk person is like banging your head against a brick wall. Maybe, the wall makes more sense... eventually the wall will tell you, "yeah this does hurt, if you simply surrender, maybe I won't make u pass out w/ a concusion." Imagine working in a day care for ten yrs... ...

Nettie · Nettie

And here we go. I start the f2f meetings, one time and he's already starting. Wanting to know what's going on with "us". I explained that I'm trying to better myself, physically by working out and mentally by going to the meetings. That I needed to find serenity, as they say....

Barbara · Barbara

Sometimes I want to rush things (well ok alot of the time) and Im currently being reminded that its out of my control. I thought my mouth was getting better but no last night I lost another bloodclot. Back to the iced coffee this morn, mushy food for dinner, etc. Not working out either at Curves or WATP. I w...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, I just wanted to thank you all for your support and encouragement. It has been a grounding force in my life to read your posts and to understand that there is hope and happiness could lie a head for me. I spent my first night away from my "a" i did better than I thought I would.&n...

Barbara · Barbara

Just cannot get myself back out of the house after working a fullday and stopping at the gym on the way home. Every once in a while I tell myself I'll return to 2 weekday night meetings but just cannot get myself to them. Anyone else relate? Its dark, its cold, etc.

Cyn · Cyn

I miss you all!! I cant get on the chat room at work - and I dont get home until 10pm everynight and I go right to bed... Only 60 someodd more days of this schedule!!

maresie · maresie

I think maybe my HP meant for me to hook up with my boyfriend to point out my boundarylessness and how little I do self care. I get absolutely furious with my boyfriend about his boundarylessness and how it affects us. Currently our lawn mower is not working and it is because he lent it to a friend wh...

Stormstayed · Stormstayed

Hi, I would just like some input or experiences with your A's drinking and driving. My A had figured out this morning that he didn't have enough liquor to get him through the night and was going to the car to drive into town (we live in the country about 25min out of town) anyways I had the keys to bo...

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	I bought the paint (Preview) I went to bed last night excited that I saw my daughter, but focusing on the fact that it was such a short visit. I should have been focusing on the fact I get to visit at all. I tried to stay up with my husband until he fell asleep because I was afraid he would use last night. I don't know why I fe...	Powerless	2	435	Feb 11, 2006 by doxie
	missylost (Preview) Hey gang, I just wanted to let y'all know that Missy is struggling here lately. She's lost her internet connection and thus her connection to us. So please keep her in your prayers and if someone wants to give me a call, send me a PM for her number. I've often wondered where we'd be witho...	Maria123	0	408	Feb 11, 2006 by Maria123
	My Favorite Prayers (Preview) For the Alcoholic: GOD BLESS HIM, GOD KEEP HIM, GOD SAVE ME! Me: ;	wallsal55	0	337	Feb 11, 2006 by wallsal55
	Calm before the next storm (Preview) The cycle of life with my A goes like this: he drinks, then starts drinking more, then starts badgering me about everything, then spends more time in the bar, makes mean comments to and about my son, and then there is a huge blow up when I can't take it anymore. The blow-up happened Wednesday night and yes...	Lindy	6	474	Feb 11, 2006 by wallsal55
	Singalong (relationship blues?) (Preview) This isn't meant to be a downer, because my spouse and I are still together (miracle of the program). However, I CAN say the emotions of this song really played out in the roller coaster of the drinking and then in the SOBRIETY, too. Saying goodbye to all the zany stuff as we enter pea...	wallsal55	2	409	Feb 11, 2006 by wallsal55
	My dad and every excuse (Preview) The last 2 weeks have been something else. My dad who is one of the A's in my life just fell apart. His father who lives in another country and who we haven''t seen in 5 years passed away. Then my mother became very ill and had to be taken to the hospital. She will be ok but needs to q...	bd	4	561	Feb 11, 2006 by Powerless
	i'll share with u-- (Preview) like i have said before, i tend to be negative about my A. today i read these & i started to feel better. i think i will share them with you. here goes... TO FORGIVE IS TO SET A PRISONER FREE & DICOVER THAT PRISONER WAS YOU! ***i had a hard time forgiving, and i have not all the way, but this is...	flintfeet	5	406	Feb 11, 2006 by Maria123
	welcome sicntired :) (Preview) Hello this is snapper/cdb who you talked to. It helps to post things too so everyone gets to know you and your situation. You are not alone. You can also do searches here on topics similiar to what you need to read. Hope to see you on the message board :) cdb xoxoxoxoxo	cdb	0	369	Feb 11, 2006 by cdb
	Telling the kids (Preview) Hello All, Well I was able to speak to my husband last night, and he thinks he might be in for a while again, but hopefully this will be it. I mean hopefully this will clear up all the old stuff, and then he can get that out of the way. The hardest part was telling the kids. My oldest is 6, I have a 4 year old, a...	Dolphin123	5	428	Feb 10, 2006 by leo
	my a and I in parallel universes (Preview) I think that I am doing ok and then whammeee, I am sinking again. I guess the awareness that I am sinking is progress, it allows me to do something about it. I am trying so hard to just do the next right thing, to take things a day at a time, but it is just so hard. Sometimes, especially whe...	confused	5	483	Feb 10, 2006 by Powerless
	Ups and downs of the day (Preview) Today has been full of ups and downs. I met with the attorney this morning and he informed me that he had to refer me to an attorney in the state my ex lives in. So now it is back to the drawing board. My daughter is coming for a visit tonight. He is only letting her come because he wa...	Powerless	1	432	Feb 10, 2006 by cdb
	some of you (Preview) i know that some of you guys think that that i have an unhealthy attitude towards the situation with my dad. i'm not trying to hurt anyone's feelings, and it is no one in paticular. i just hear myself tell myself:"it's his fault! it's not a disease! he chose drinking over his family! how could he do...	flintfeet	5	495	Feb 10, 2006 by cdb
	jrtjosey,, update? (Preview) Hello josey, You had asked for prayers recently on a post and I was wondering how things are going now in regards to what you posted and the out of town visit. It is nice to know if our prayers are working in other's lives and if miracles are in progress. I hope things are going well fo...	cdb	4	443	Feb 10, 2006 by cdb
	He's messing with me horribly now (Preview) I thought he was going to disappear, and I felt better because of that thought. He had disconnected his phone and told my dad, (like he had told me the last time I talked to him) that he just wanted to start his life over, in the state he's in. My dad got the impression from him that he just didn'...	sdisnie	5	460	Feb 10, 2006 by TLC2
	Brother relapsed...again (Preview) After a couple of weeks of trying to stay clean and get his life together my brother relapsed again. Once again, we tried to help him while he was recovering from being shot in the eye. My mom let him stay at her place for a bit, but as soon as his eye was good enough to be able to put a contact lense in and he coul...	Jayda	3	437	Feb 10, 2006 by kat4u
	anyone been to court to take person from jail to rehab? (Preview) Mother asked me last night if on Feb 28 I would go to the courthouse with her. My brother is being released from Bridgewater on that day and being brought directly to court. From there the plan is to have him go directly into rehab. We will need to drive him there! He's gonna be BS! Has anyone done this? any a...	Barbara	1	387	Feb 10, 2006 by Flora123
	Prayers Please (Preview) My aunt has almost died twice in the last few weeks. They will be doing open heart surgery on her. They are not exactly certain what is causing all of her problems but they say this is a start.It's been a tough couple of weeks. Last night my daughter broke her arm... we need to go see the orthopedic surg...	sandie123	8	464	Feb 10, 2006 by Karilynn
	Anxiety and me (Preview) Dear Friends, Thank you for all your posts out here. They mean a lot to me. I have something that I am learning about myself right now, and I hope this will be helpful to someone else. It will also do me good to share. I have been surrounded by alcoholics my whole life. My family has been "leveled" by t...	mebjk	0	378	Feb 10, 2006 by mebjk
	Unique TRUTH (Preview) Unlike an "A" alcohol is like a truth serum to me.... Give me a little & I speak the truth, unlike so may others... it does not scare me. I am not afraid of the truth or dos it scare me away. Judge me if u will ~ God does not judge lest he be judged. &...	kitty	1	423	Feb 10, 2006 by rosie light shines
	WOW!!! evidence HP does NOT test us (Preview) This Is Not A Test "We have found a loving, personal God to whom we can turn." Basic Text p. 27 Some of us come into recovery with the impression that life's hardships are a series of cosmic tests designed to teach us something. This belief is readily apparent when something traumatic happens a...	rosie light shines	5	481	Feb 10, 2006 by notsonew1111
	dealing with those moods - ugh (Preview) Ok so we get out of the house or at least mentally leave the scene when our A husbands are drinking. Its the next day that bothers me too. When they are just moody moody moody. How do you deal with that? Again just mentally leave the scene, I know. And hope there's a 3rd day when they dont drink before the cycl...	Barbara	2	380	Feb 10, 2006 by Lindy
	ahhh One of life's simple pleasure is mine right now! (Preview) ahhh That hot Dunkin Donuts coffee is everything Ive been dreaming of all week! First cup of hot coffee in exactly a week and boy does it taste good. Thank you everyone for your support. Hopefully my mouth is finally healing. Now let the rest of my life get better One Day At A Time.	Barbara	1	383	Feb 10, 2006 by mebjk
	Hi, I am new (Preview) Hello. I just thought I would come out here and introduce myself. My name is Julia. I am new to this site and to al-anon. I have been in a relationship with an addict for two years and I think it is time for me to change. I need a change because I cannot stand the way I constantly feel. Lonely,despera...	warped_mind	7	576	Feb 10, 2006 by mebjk
	And the Cycle begins again (Preview) Well, my A relapse last Friday, drank again on Superbowl Sunday and now has decided that he should be able to drink whenever he wants. I'm sad......not that he's drinking again but the last 3 months have been so wonderful. Yeah there were times of disagreements but it had nothing to do wit...	marmare	4	436	Feb 10, 2006 by Nettie
	I am back (Preview) Hello my friends. I am back. I came into a little money and went out and bought a laptop today. I paid up all of our bills and paid our house payment for the next twelve months. I meet with my attorney tomorrow to pay him so I can get custody of my daughter. I still have not be...	Powerless	4	417	Feb 10, 2006 by gardengal
	Doing a little better.... (Preview) I Just thought I'd tell you all a little about myself, mostly all I did last time was rant. So My name is Linzie, I just turned 21 a few days ago. My Dad is the A in my life. He and my mother seperated when I was about 16 or 17 but things had been bad for them for years. They fought all the time and I fought wit...	jkl	2	462	Feb 10, 2006 by leo
	Jail (Preview) Hello All, I am sitting here feeling very overwhelmed. I Just got off the phone with a probation officer from our local court house. My husband went in this morning to quash a warrant he had and they have decided to keep him in the county jail until the 17th at the earliest. He has 65 days he needs to serve...	Dolphin123	8	518	Feb 10, 2006 by leo
	A new life (Preview) I haven't written in two months. A major change has taken place in my life and in my alcoholic/addict's life. Right after Christmas he admitted to me that he had stolen some of my prescription medication and took all of it. That was the last straw for me and I moved out three days late...	sallyb	7	614	Feb 10, 2006 by leo
	Nervous-going out of town (Preview) Well I am going out of town today. I will only be gone for one night, but I am extremely nervous. I won't get back until late tomorrow--why it would really make a decision in what he does is beyond me. But for some reason I just keep thinking "what if". See the last couple of times...	hudsond	5	410	Feb 10, 2006 by leo
	putting our lives back on track sounds like a good idea (Preview) when we're at work and cant do it but the minute we get home all we want to do is stare at the computer screen! lol Someday someday I will do everything I should do for myself/others/etc. But for now maybe what I do need to be doing is taking it easy and staring at the screen! Anyone ever feel like this? They...	Barbara	1	418	Feb 10, 2006 by sas
	What is "Detachment?" (Preview) Some days I feel like I can detach and some days I can't.. Today I can't... I just keep thinking about all the many empty beer can's I find... all over the house.. and His constant denial of his problem... Like... "I can handle it now" I guess when I find alot of emty beer cans... I know he is n...	Ninababy	6	879	Feb 10, 2006 by lildee
	The Toxicity In My Family Is Coming At Full Force (Preview) Hi everyone. My family is getting worse as the days go by. I asked my grandmother if she would watch my daughter three evening per week until the end of March. She agreed. I was awarded a chance to go through an entreprenurial workshop for women to start my own business. At the time, I was also looking for a...	kissers	1	440	Feb 10, 2006 by lin0606
	Need a place to go.... (Preview) I just need a place to go to say all this. I went to my meeting Tues and will go to another one on Saturday. "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and that our lives have become unmanageable." My A doesn't drink but I am powerless over him and his actions. He wants to talk about the details of the...	nmike	8	551	Feb 10, 2006 by koala
	A non-alanon gripe (Preview) Had a bad night at work - at the one job that I dont HAVE to be at. I am giving of my time here to finish out the swim season so this team doesnt lose a head coach in the middle of the year. I got frustrated with 3 of my swimmers not working hard in practice and stopped them in the water, looked at them...	Cyn	11	568	Feb 10, 2006 by sandie123
	Keeping it simple/moving day (Preview) Hi ((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))), I make no claims to this piece of wisdom. It came from my daily email from todaysgift@hazeldon.org. This seems to hit home as the meetings and chats we seemed a little overwhelmed this week. Thought it could help us all: TODAY'S THOUGHT IS: Som...	Karilynn	5	603	Feb 10, 2006 by whitie
	Feeling worn out (Preview) My adult daughter A voluntarily checked herself into detox on Monday. The last couple of days have been kind of tough with the physical aspects of detox. Anyway she wants to stay a couple more days and her psychiatrist thinks she should be out of there tomorrow and into a 28 day rehab facil...	MFran	1	413	Feb 10, 2006 by jkl
	torturing myself... (Preview) i just recently have no contact with my dad. he is an A who chose drinking over his family.i think i am torturing myself. i keep thinking about my dad. i wonder what he is doing, where he is, what he's thinking, who he's with, how he is doing...blah blah blah. i know that he isn't thinking of me, and...	flintfeet	5	597	Feb 9, 2006 by Flora123
	Couldn't stop the fight last night (Preview) Living with a laid off alcoholic is draining my energy. I don't know how long I can take this and how long I can keep avoiding a fight. Last night when I walked in the door, my husband was of course drunk. He wasn't stumbling around, which I would've preferred because then at least he would just pass out. He...	Lindy	4	543	Feb 9, 2006 by Flora123
	expectations will get ya..... (Preview) Why I fired my secretary..... Last Week Was My Birthday And I Didn't Feel Very Well Waking Up That Morning. I Went Downstairs For Breakfast Hoping My Wife Would Be Pleasant And Say, "Happy Birthday!", And Possibly Have A Present For Me. As It Turned Out, She Barely Said Good Morning, Let Alone...	bobump	7	475	Feb 9, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Prayers (Preview) Got this in an email and thought it was rather nice. Feel free to insert the Higher Power of your choice Monday Wash Day Lord, help me wash away all my selfishness and vanity, so I may serve you with perfect humility through the week ahead. Tuesday Ironing Day Dear Lord, help me iron out al...	kismetstrand	2	415	Feb 9, 2006 by bobump
	my kids are cheated! (Preview) *my kids are being cheated!!* it is my father who is doing this to them. he used to be involved with them. he would drink occasionally, then more and more and now he has gotten so bad that we don't talk to him anymore. he is never sober! so we have no contact with him. it's not good for them & not goo...	flintfeet	3	466	Feb 9, 2006 by canadianguy
	spirits in the material world (Preview) Something in this morning's meeting reminded me of an expression I picked up along the way & clung close to my heart always. I have been called an old soul, born with a sense of an ability to listen & be empathetic & even transmute other's pain, picking up...	kitty	4	653	Feb 9, 2006 by bobump
	I feel like I'm losing it... (Preview) I have really been struggling emotionally these past few days with my "a" and our relationship as some of you know. I have been feeling some real intense mood swings the last couple of weeks. I get bluesy at least once a month , but I've never really had this overwhelming feeling of s...	twinmom2	5	602	Feb 9, 2006 by maresie
	My Story (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am new to the forum but not new to addiction. My name is Carla, and I'll try to explain in a nutshell my story. I come from a broken home with an alcoholic father that abused us kids and my mom. He abandoned us for an 18 yr old girl( I was 14 then). 21 years later, he called and wanted to speak with m...	JCSunshine	7	531	Feb 9, 2006 by maresie
	feeling so empty (Preview) 16 years ago my alcoholic husband went to AA and got sober.He has been sober ever since.The relationship seems to have had it's ups and downs but this time it has really hit the bottom.He met someone online,another recovering alcoholic and he wants to persue that relationship.Soon as we can se...	diane53	12	654	Feb 9, 2006 by maresie
	Newbie wanting to vent... (Preview) I had a hard time finding a site I felt would be helpful to post on. I would appreciate some input as I have noone to discuss this with at the moment. My A wife and I have been really struggling for the last 4-5 years. One seperation (her idea after a drunken fling with a bar buddy), many fig...	rtexas	11	606	Feb 9, 2006 by rtexas
	Opted out of the fight last night (Preview) My alcoholic (but won't admit it) husband has been laid off now for six weeks. He has been cooking supper and doing dishes, which I appreciate and have told him. Yesterday, he asked me when I would be home for supper. I told him around 5:15. I picked up my son at his after school program and didn't get home u...	Lindy	4	524	Feb 9, 2006 by maresie
	i took the 12steps to the latrine (Preview) i took the 12 Steps to the latrine last night i decided i was going to tile my master bathroom floor....' i dug up all the old linoleum tiles, and i had the floor nice and clean and ready to go!!! things were going GREAT till i got around having to "tile around the toidie" and thats when thi...	rosie light shines	9	519	Feb 9, 2006 by kitty
	Advice needed (Preview) Hi! I read the book 'Women Who Love Too Much' & recognised myself in it. Being attracted to 'wrong' men... etc. The author suggests joining Al-Anon or something similar. I'm not sure if I 'qualify' for going there. What do you think? I don't have an alcoholic in my immediate family, except f...	learning76	8	455	Feb 9, 2006 by learning76
	What AA/AlAnon affilities? are you involved with? (Preview) Half Moon? Sober in the Sun? anyone join any of these organizations?	Barbara	5	481	Feb 9, 2006 by abbyal
	Thank you and absence (Preview) Hello everyone, Just a quick note to explain I won't be replying much for a while. I have a reoccuring eye problem called optic neuritis, can be stress related, a side effect of MS or my body just randomly attacking a nerve for no reason. In 4 years they have not found an answer and there is no medi...	Jennifer	4	530	Feb 9, 2006 by jkl
	Absolute Craziness (Preview) So I get home from work, pick up our daughter to run an errand and return home to this: A: "There's a meeting tonight so I had my beer and I'm going to the meeting, what do you think about that?" ME: "Fine with me, enjoy" I'm thinking, how crazy is this? What on earth was he trying to prove? ...	Nettie	4	468	Feb 8, 2006 by lin0606
	drunken monekys (for newbies) (Preview) Talking to a drunk person is like banging your head against a brick wall. Maybe, the wall makes more sense... eventually the wall will tell you, "yeah this does hurt, if you simply surrender, maybe I won't make u pass out w/ a concusion." Imagine working in a day care for ten yrs... ...	kitty	6	481	Feb 8, 2006 by notsonew1111
	And so it begins (Preview) And here we go. I start the f2f meetings, one time and he's already starting. Wanting to know what's going on with "us". I explained that I'm trying to better myself, physically by working out and mentally by going to the meetings. That I needed to find serenity, as they say....	Nettie	4	453	Feb 8, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Easy Does It comes to mind this morning (Preview) Sometimes I want to rush things (well ok alot of the time) and Im currently being reminded that its out of my control. I thought my mouth was getting better but no last night I lost another bloodclot. Back to the iced coffee this morn, mushy food for dinner, etc. Not working out either at Curves or WATP. I w...	Barbara	3	471	Feb 8, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Thank you for the encouragement (Preview) Hello Group, I just wanted to thank you all for your support and encouragement. It has been a grounding force in my life to read your posts and to understand that there is hope and happiness could lie a head for me. I spent my first night away from my "a" i did better than I thought I would.&n...	twinmom2	2	379	Feb 8, 2006 by Rebecca
	anyone else have trouble getting to those nighttime meetings after working all day? (Preview) Just cannot get myself back out of the house after working a fullday and stopping at the gym on the way home. Every once in a while I tell myself I'll return to 2 weekday night meetings but just cannot get myself to them. Anyone else relate? Its dark, its cold, etc.	Barbara	6	522	Feb 8, 2006 by Scamper
	Miss you guys (Preview) I miss you all!! I cant get on the chat room at work - and I dont get home until 10pm everynight and I go right to bed... Only 60 someodd more days of this schedule!!	Cyn	3	442	Feb 8, 2006 by Scamper
	Boundarylessness (Preview) I think maybe my HP meant for me to hook up with my boyfriend to point out my boundarylessness and how little I do self care. I get absolutely furious with my boyfriend about his boundarylessness and how it affects us. Currently our lawn mower is not working and it is because he lent it to a friend wh...	maresie	5	589	Feb 8, 2006 by maresie
	Drinking and Driving (Preview) Hi, I would just like some input or experiences with your A's drinking and driving. My A had figured out this morning that he didn't have enough liquor to get him through the night and was going to the car to drive into town (we live in the country about 25min out of town) anyways I had the keys to bo...	Stormstayed	6	629	Feb 8, 2006 by Lindy
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