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Nettie · Nettie

So, we go through this program to make ourselves better whether or not we stay with our A. I'm chosing to stay with my A right now, so how does that work with disciplining the children? I tend to think he's hard and unreasonable. However, I can be just the oposite, letting things just...

captcodee · captcodee

Working with an alcoholic is hopeless. I tried to come up with a comprimize, tried to change my behavior, tried to let his behaviour go, nothing works! It is valentine's day, and I asked him not to come home today. Tomorrow, I will make a new decision. I need to figure out if this is worth doing.&...

sdisnie · sdisnie

My dad made me go and file for a restraining order today, in case my AH was to come back to this state to try to get in contact with the kids. I didn't want to do this, and the reason is because if for some reason he comes back to defend himself at the next court date which is in 14 days, I will have...

debilyn · debilyn

I am trying to remember if anyone else has ever talked about this. My A is staying at his friends mom's house with his friend. They are out in the garage. He calls this friend his, "budi" his "partner." Makes me ill. I mean they are in trouble together and everything else together. Where one go...

Lynn · Lynn

Well, I am new here, I see all of you and the stories sound all too familiar. I can say that I have gotten strength from knowing I'm not alone. Although I am alone in my life a lot of the time. My A chooses to go out drinking, and not stay home, he currently has a court date for the last drink...

megan · megan

This was the topic in my Friday night face to face meeting. The leader of the meeting had an eloquent share and then we all shared This weekend I watched my 3 nephews while my brother and his wife spent a romantic weekend in Florida. They are teenagers, 12, 14, and 16. ...

AlaMom · AlaMom

we get the messages - just so long as we get the message. Tonight I was putting youngest to bed and he did not want to sleep in his room because of nightmares last night. To take his mind of the nightmares and ease the fear I read him a story (something I admit to not doing enough of). As I am rea...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i have been keeping myself busy the past few days, and it feels great! i have not thought about my dad and worrying about him. but today something changed. i know it probably sounds corney, but i feel for him today. it's valentine's day, and everyone should have someone that loves them. i have my sister,...

kitty · kitty

Willingness to surrender, a willingness give up & into the process of life & the Program. It is so irritating the way other ppl chime in with their two cents & tell you how you should be living your life or what u should be doing, when their lives are in no state of 'model perfection.' ...

Emafer · Emafer

So, I've now had my most recent "A" boyfriend out of my life, for the most part, for 6 weeks. I've had no contact with him and things have been going really well. However, last week a financial matter came up that we were both responsible for. We thought that it was taken care of up as it turns out, we owe mone...

Cyn · Cyn

Happy Valentines Day to everyone - thanks for the love and support you have all given me!! Cynthia

rtexas · rtexas

I have been doing a lot of reading and thanks for all the feedback you have provided. I have a question.... For those living with an active A who does not think treatment for them is an option... Following the guidelines to make you better. Keeping in mind the 3Cs, detatching from...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i have been trying to stay positive. sometimes it just seems like it is more work to smile than to just sit here and complain. so i have been trying to find motivational things that cheer me up... ONE THING YOU CAN LEARN BY WATCHING THE CLOCK IS THAT IT PASSES TIME BY KEEPING ITS HANDS BUSY.--i find that i...

Barbara · Barbara

Before we go putting ourselves down even more, thinking we really arent worthy of life, can someone please explain "defect of character"?

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

just wanted to update you all. it's been a little over two weeks since my a has went to stay at his mother's. he did slip, which i knew, drank and did coke again, and we had a long talk today. i told him i really hope for his sake whether we have a future or not that he can get back on the aa track and if he does to cal...

Cyn · Cyn

Even though I broke up with my ex 3 months ago - doesnt mean I am truly over him. I thought I was so much further along than I really am. I am so busy doing my three jobs and living my life that I thought he was a distant memory. But not so much. Seems that I put him on the backburner eve...

tea2 · tea2

Hello all- I have a question.. Anyone know how I may tie in Tradition 2 with Concept 4 ??? I am drawing a blank with this.

Or what does Tradition2 and Concept 4 mean to you?

Phil Devoid · Phil Devoid

Hello everyone, I've been attending weekly Al-anon meetings since May. I need to find a sponcer now but my options are limited. I live in a remote area and the meeting I go to is 35 miles away. There is only one other male that attends reguarly. So I asked myself, why not look for an online sponcer? Is that e...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello all, I never get to post on the weekends because I don't have a computer, but I'm hiding out at my brother's and felt I needed to vent. Yesterday was an extremely emotional day. My "a" has moved out but the kicker is he's hooked up with an unsuspecting female at work and has obviously...

buzzfree · buzzfree

Isn't it funny how those new opportunities or directions in your life just seem to appear out of thin air? I am grateful that I have been able to grow through my participation in this program, or I would be completely lost in a maze of emotions right now. Not to say that what I am facing will be easy by any mea...

Powerless · Powerless

I am so furious that my hands are shaking as I type this. I had set a little bit of money aside and planned on going grocery shopping today. I just went into my purse to get the money and $100.00 was gone. Of course he had no idea were it went. He hadn't seen it. He was the only...

doxie · doxie

Just wanted to thank all who post here. This site has been a tremendous help to me in my recovery. Such experience, warmth and non-judgemental people. I am glad I found you all. Thanks for your service. In Recovery, Doxie

flintfeet · flintfeet

i have not thought about my dad in a few days. i have just been doing "my thing" for the past couple of days. it kind of feels good, not to be wondering and worrying about him. but in the same breathe, i wonder if it is ok. what am i doing? why break the chain today? is this normal?

nycbt · nycbt

I have come a long way. I have a good support system set up. When I first came in didn't have any girlfriends. I didn't leave my husband side. I would call him all the time, follow him around every minutue of the day. I didn't feel comfortable leaving his side for any amount of time. The only time I was...

sallyb · sallyb

Leo, Sorry for the delay... I finally read your question about the Seven Weeks to Sobriety program. The book is by Joan Mathews-Larson and explains how she began to search for a new rehabilitation program after her son had gone through so many failing attempts and tried to kill hims...

angel123 · angel123

click on attachment for reading from forum on continual chalenge,love angel oops forgot to upload -- Edited by angel123 at 00:51, 2006-02-13

angel123 · angel123

click on the link good reading from Forum about turning it over hope you enjoy,love Sharon/angel

Barbara · Barbara

"There are three common places where spiritual energy is stored in great abundance: loneliness, failure and fear. We have to be lead there, because we will never go at our own initiative. These will first feel like descending, or the loss of energy. Only over time will we recognize a new aliveness and...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well this whole situation has been such a rollercoaster of emotions for me. my a has been gone for a little over two weeks, staying at his mothers. i had a really hard time, praying for him to come home, and thinking of ways i could fix this. he was doing meetings and trying to work a program. so i wanted to ma...

confused · confused

We eventually realize that just as the pains of alcoholism had to come before sobriety, emotional turmoil comes before serenity. * I ws reading some posts on the AA board, trying to get some insight into this cunning, insidious and baffling disease and came across this quote. Don't know why but t...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I had a friend tell me something today that kind of hit me and made a lot of sense. First off, for those of you not familiar with my situation, to sum it all up in a nut shell: My A of 16 years (and 4 kids) took a good job offer in another state to try out, and if he liked, would move us all down there.&...

Barbara · Barbara

If I was to buy another book (I have Courage to Change) what would you suggest?

megan · megan

Hi Ops If someone can cover my 7pm meeting I would appreciate it I am running late watching my nephews. If not, there will be a delayed start. thanks for your patience megan

txmom · txmom

Have had an situation come up recently NOT related to alcoholism but still involving chinging my attitude and working an honest program. This is an honest program and we don't use our sponsors as "the good angel" sitting on the right shoulder. But our sponsors can help us work things out...

david62 · david62

Howdy yall! Well I went to a meeting of my other program this morning (church that is..he he) and was sure glad I didnt pick today to sleep late!!! The person who normally leads our "meetings" is on vacation week, so a "guest speaker" was there for us today. This man is retired from leading "meet...

learning76 · learning76

I don't know where else to post this - I can really relate to some of the posts here & I feel in a way this is similar. So maybe some of you will have some suggestions? I'm currently living with my parents (one of the worst decisions I ever took, but it was a learning experience as well). They're not alc...

just me · just me

I am so frustrated! My mom is in the hospital 1 mile from my house and I cannot go there to be with her! I have several friends who live less than 5 miles away and I can get no one to call me back to watch my 4 year old while I check on my mother. The hospital does not allow any kids under the age...

bobump · bobump

I'm a little bummed today. At my F2F this afternoon one of the Alanoners invited us all to their place to watch a tape of someone in our group on TV. (can't say who what when or channel of course, LOL ) I just couldn't go. It would have been a blast! But hey, I have to be grateful that I found such a grea...

Powerless · Powerless

My husband came home today with his paycheck...but I am worried that he will slip out after I go to sleep tonight. My ex said he would bring my daughter tonight between 5-6pm...it's 5:22pm and they aren't here yet. What if they don't come? I worry over everything. I don't kno...

crazywoman · crazywoman

help me please! i am in pain! tell me what i should do expect drinking alcoho............ i can not talk to my sponser she must sleeping now and she is sleeping..what i am suppose to do? i can not get beer or anything let me forget the pain .tell me what i should do?i want to fall asleep and wake up in...

confused · confused

I have been reading and posting on this site for about 6 months now. About 2 months ago I started attending f2f meetings and have been doing so since, at least 2 a week. I am building a strong support system for myself, when I choose to reach out to it, which I am still having trouble doing.&nb...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

I am so tired. I feel like I'm starting all over again. I took a lot of crap yesterday and I carried it around like it was gold in a basket. I'm so tired. I'm starting all over again with step one...not like I've not done this a hundred times. I'm so powerless. It'...

Barbara · Barbara

How do you pull yourself out of a slump? I just read Courage to Change "Let Go and Let God". Found a few readings helpful. How do you change your attitude? Physically Im starting to feel better. Spiritually I know my brother is in Gods hands. There's something coming up in my life in March that Im...

Powerless · Powerless

My daughter got here (3 hours late), but her daddy brought her. In fact, his girlfriend and their three other children came as well. It was a nice visit, but not long enough. She enjoyed her gifts. I missed Christmas and her birthday with her so had all of her gifts. Som...

marmare · marmare

The saying when it rains it's pours seems so fitting for this Washingtonian. This has not been the best week of my life. My plate is so full that it feels it will crack and crumble at any moment. First the A with the relapse, his attitude of knowing he can control it now. I was in bed sick...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Merry Go Round Named Denial www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm note spelling

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((Roomies))))))))))))), To all of you who are in the path of the Noreaster/Blizzard please be safe. Hunker down with a good book, lots of blankets, good food and warm beverages. Let us know how you make out, we'll be thinking of you. Please don't travel if you don't have to. Wouldn't wan...

Powerless · Powerless

I went to bed last night excited that I saw my daughter, but focusing on the fact that it was such a short visit. I should have been focusing on the fact I get to visit at all. I tried to stay up with my husband until he fell asleep because I was afraid he would use last night. I don't know why I fe...

Maria123 · Maria123

Hey gang, I just wanted to let y'all know that Missy is struggling here lately. She's lost her internet connection and thus her connection to us. So please keep her in your prayers and if someone wants to give me a call, send me a PM for her number. I've often wondered where we'd be witho...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

For the Alcoholic: GOD BLESS HIM, GOD KEEP HIM, GOD SAVE ME! Me: ;  

Lindy · Lindy

The cycle of life with my A goes like this: he drinks, then starts drinking more, then starts badgering me about everything, then spends more time in the bar, makes mean comments to and about my son, and then there is a huge blow up when I can't take it anymore. The blow-up happened Wednesday night and yes...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

This isn't meant to be a downer, because my spouse and I are still together (miracle of the program). However, I CAN say the emotions of this song really played out in the roller coaster of the drinking and then in the SOBRIETY, too. Saying goodbye to all the zany stuff as we enter pea...

bd · bd

The last 2 weeks have been something else. My dad who is one of the A's in my life just fell apart. His father who lives in another country and who we haven''t seen in 5 years passed away. Then my mother became very ill and had to be taken to the hospital. She will be ok but needs to q...

flintfeet · flintfeet

like i have said before, i tend to be negative about my A. today i read these & i started to feel better. i think i will share them with you. here goes... TO FORGIVE IS TO SET A PRISONER FREE & DICOVER THAT PRISONER WAS YOU! ***i had a hard time forgiving, and i have not all the way, but this is...

cdb · cdb

Hello this is snapper/cdb who you talked to. It helps to post things too so everyone gets to know you and your situation. You are not alone. You can also do searches here on topics similiar to what you need to read. Hope to see you on the message board :) cdb xoxoxoxoxo

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, Well I was able to speak to my husband last night, and he thinks he might be in for a while again, but hopefully this will be it. I mean hopefully this will clear up all the old stuff, and then he can get that out of the way. The hardest part was telling the kids. My oldest is 6, I have a 4 year old, a...

confused · confused

I think that I am doing ok and then whammeee, I am sinking again. I guess the awareness that I am sinking is progress, it allows me to do something about it. I am trying so hard to just do the next right thing, to take things a day at a time, but it is just so hard. Sometimes, especially whe...

Powerless · Powerless

Today has been full of ups and downs. I met with the attorney this morning and he informed me that he had to refer me to an attorney in the state my ex lives in. So now it is back to the drawing board. My daughter is coming for a visit tonight. He is only letting her come because he wa...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i know that some of you guys think that that i have an unhealthy attitude towards the situation with my dad. i'm not trying to hurt anyone's feelings, and it is no one in paticular. i just hear myself tell myself:"it's his fault! it's not a disease! he chose drinking over his family! how could he do...

cdb · cdb

Hello josey, You had asked for prayers recently on a post and I was wondering how things are going now in regards to what you posted and the out of town visit. It is nice to know if our prayers are working in other's lives and if miracles are in progress. I hope things are going well fo...

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	Question stemming from confusion (Preview) So, we go through this program to make ourselves better whether or not we stay with our A. I'm chosing to stay with my A right now, so how does that work with disciplining the children? I tend to think he's hard and unreasonable. However, I can be just the oposite, letting things just...	Nettie	3	397	Feb 15, 2006 by Jeannie
	Split again??? (Preview) Working with an alcoholic is hopeless. I tried to come up with a comprimize, tried to change my behavior, tried to let his behaviour go, nothing works! It is valentine's day, and I asked him not to come home today. Tomorrow, I will make a new decision. I need to figure out if this is worth doing.&...	captcodee	4	501	Feb 14, 2006 by Jeannie
	Restraining order (Preview) My dad made me go and file for a restraining order today, in case my AH was to come back to this state to try to get in contact with the kids. I didn't want to do this, and the reason is because if for some reason he comes back to defend himself at the next court date which is in 14 days, I will have...	sdisnie	6	544	Feb 14, 2006 by Jeannie
	he's in love (Preview) I am trying to remember if anyone else has ever talked about this. My A is staying at his friends mom's house with his friend. They are out in the garage. He calls this friend his, "budi" his "partner." Makes me ill. I mean they are in trouble together and everything else together. Where one go...	debilyn	9	514	Feb 14, 2006 by debilyn
	At a loss (Preview) Well, I am new here, I see all of you and the stories sound all too familiar. I can say that I have gotten strength from knowing I'm not alone. Although I am alone in my life a lot of the time. My A chooses to go out drinking, and not stay home, he currently has a court date for the last drink...	Lynn	9	502	Feb 14, 2006 by Powerless
	Freedom (Preview) This was the topic in my Friday night face to face meeting. The leader of the meeting had an eloquent share and then we all shared This weekend I watched my 3 nephews while my brother and his wife spent a romantic weekend in Florida. They are teenagers, 12, 14, and 16. ...	megan	7	446	Feb 14, 2006 by kitty
	Doesn't matter where... (Preview) we get the messages - just so long as we get the message. Tonight I was putting youngest to bed and he did not want to sleep in his room because of nightmares last night. To take his mind of the nightmares and ease the fear I read him a story (something I admit to not doing enough of). As I am rea...	AlaMom	5	463	Feb 14, 2006 by bd
	no one to love (Preview) i have been keeping myself busy the past few days, and it feels great! i have not thought about my dad and worrying about him. but today something changed. i know it probably sounds corney, but i feel for him today. it's valentine's day, and everyone should have someone that loves them. i have my sister,...	flintfeet	1	396	Feb 14, 2006 by bd
	willngness to surrender (Preview) Willingness to surrender, a willingness give up & into the process of life & the Program. It is so irritating the way other ppl chime in with their two cents & tell you how you should be living your life or what u should be doing, when their lives are in no state of 'model perfection.' ...	kitty	2	472	Feb 14, 2006 by maresie
	Deailing with your "A" (Preview) So, I've now had my most recent "A" boyfriend out of my life, for the most part, for 6 weeks. I've had no contact with him and things have been going really well. However, last week a financial matter came up that we were both responsible for. We thought that it was taken care of up as it turns out, we owe mone...	Emafer	5	515	Feb 14, 2006 by Emafer
	Happy Valentines Day (Preview) Happy Valentines Day to everyone - thanks for the love and support you have all given me!! Cynthia	Cyn	1	345	Feb 14, 2006 by Barbara
	Time for truth (Preview) I have been doing a lot of reading and thanks for all the feedback you have provided. I have a question.... For those living with an active A who does not think treatment for them is an option... Following the guidelines to make you better. Keeping in mind the 3Cs, detatching from...	rtexas	4	429	Feb 14, 2006 by rtexas
	this helps me (Preview) i have been trying to stay positive. sometimes it just seems like it is more work to smile than to just sit here and complain. so i have been trying to find motivational things that cheer me up... ONE THING YOU CAN LEARN BY WATCHING THE CLOCK IS THAT IT PASSES TIME BY KEEPING ITS HANDS BUSY.--i find that i...	flintfeet	2	368	Feb 14, 2006 by doxie
	what is a defect of character? (Preview) Before we go putting ourselves down even more, thinking we really arent worthy of life, can someone please explain "defect of character"?	Barbara	4	574	Feb 14, 2006 by jrtjosey
	progress again... (Preview) just wanted to update you all. it's been a little over two weeks since my a has went to stay at his mother's. he did slip, which i knew, drank and did coke again, and we had a long talk today. i told him i really hope for his sake whether we have a future or not that he can get back on the aa track and if he does to cal...	notsonew1111	4	419	Feb 14, 2006 by Diva
	This board is a good reminder for me (Preview) Even though I broke up with my ex 3 months ago - doesnt mean I am truly over him. I thought I was so much further along than I really am. I am so busy doing my three jobs and living my life that I thought he was a distant memory. But not so much. Seems that I put him on the backburner eve...	Cyn	1	344	Feb 13, 2006 by just me
	Tradition and Concept Question (Preview) Hello all- I have a question.. Anyone know how I may tie in Tradition 2 with Concept 4 ??? I am drawing a blank with this. Or what does Tradition2 and Concept 4 mean to *you*?	tea2	2	430	Feb 13, 2006 by Flora123
	olline sponcer? (Preview) Hello everyone, I've been attending weekly Al-anon meetings since May. I need to find a sponcer now but my options are limited. I live in a remote area and the meeting I go to is 35 miles away. There is only one other male that attends reguarly. So I asked myself, why not look for an online sponcer? Is that e...	Phil Devoid	5	446	Feb 13, 2006 by Barbara
	I think I'm finally grieving (Preview) Hello all, I never get to post on the weekends because I don't have a computer, but I'm hiding out at my brother's and felt I needed to vent. Yesterday was an extremely emotional day. My "a" has moved out but the kicker is he's hooked up with an unsuspecting female at work and has obviously...	twinmom2	4	420	Feb 13, 2006 by Lindy
	Another New Direction (Preview) Isn't it funny how those new opportunities or directions in your life just seem to appear out of thin air? I am grateful that I have been able to grow through my participation in this program, or I would be completely lost in a maze of emotions right now. Not to say that what I am facing will be easy by any mea...	buzzfree	8	540	Feb 13, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Furious (Preview) I am so furious that my hands are shaking as I type this. I had set a little bit of money aside and planned on going grocery shopping today. I just went into my purse to get the money and $100.00 was gone. Of course he had no idea were it went. He hadn't seen it. He was the only...	Powerless	6	438	Feb 13, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Thanks to all (Preview) Just wanted to thank all who post here. This site has been a tremendous help to me in my recovery. Such experience, warmth and non-judgemental people. I am glad I found you all. Thanks for your service. In Recovery, Doxie	doxie	1	338	Feb 13, 2006 by tea2
	is this healthy? (Preview) i have not thought about my dad in a few days. i have just been doing "my thing" for the past couple of days. it kind of feels good, not to be wondering and worrying about him. but in the same breathe, i wonder if it is ok. what am i doing? why break the chain today? is this normal?	flintfeet	4	419	Feb 13, 2006 by Gailey
	support system (Preview) I have come a long way. I have a good support system set up. When I first came in didn't have any girlfriends. I didn't leave my husband side. I would call him all the time, follow him around every minutue of the day. I didn't feel comfortable leaving his side for any amount of time. The only time I was...	nycbt	6	444	Feb 13, 2006 by nycbt
	For Leo (Preview) Leo, Sorry for the delay... I finally read your question about the Seven Weeks to Sobriety program. The book is by Joan Mathews-Larson and explains how she began to search for a new rehabilitation program after her son had gone through so many failing attempts and tried to kill hims...	sallyb	1	428	Feb 13, 2006 by leo
	continual challenge (Preview) click on attachment for reading from forum on continual chalenge,love angel oops forgot to upload -- Edited by angel123 at 00:51, 2006-02-13	angel123	0	340	Feb 13, 2006 by angel123
	turning it over (Preview) click on the link good reading from Forum about turning it over hope you enjoy,love Sharon/angel	angel123	1	379	Feb 13, 2006 by Lynn
	Spiritual energy - Higher Power (Preview) "There are three common places where spiritual energy is stored in great abundance: loneliness, failure and fear. We have to be lead there, because we will never go at our own initiative. These will first feel like descending, or the loss of energy. Only over time will we recognize a new aliveness and...	Barbara	2	362	Feb 13, 2006 by Lynn
	feeling different (Preview) well this whole situation has been such a rollercoaster of emotions for me. my a has been gone for a little over two weeks, staying at his mothers. i had a really hard time, praying for him to come home, and thinking of ways i could fix this. he was doing meetings and trying to work a program. so i wanted to ma...	notsonew1111	5	373	Feb 12, 2006 by Lynn
	a quote to share (Preview) We eventually realize that just as the pains of alcoholism had to come before sobriety, emotional turmoil comes before serenity. * I ws reading some posts on the AA board, trying to get some insight into this cunning, insidious and baffling disease and came across this quote. Don't know why but t...	confused	2	350	Feb 12, 2006 by Lynn
	I don't believe his leaving is a result of his alcoholism/addictions (Preview) I had a friend tell me something today that kind of hit me and made a lot of sense. First off, for those of you not familiar with my situation, to sum it all up in a nut shell: My A of 16 years (and 4 kids) took a good job offer in another state to try out, and if he liked, would move us all down there.&...	sdisnie	6	458	Feb 12, 2006 by diane53
	Besides Courage to Change what would you suggest for 2nd book? (Preview) If I was to buy another book (I have Courage to Change) what would you suggest?	Barbara	6	415	Feb 12, 2006 by doxie
	Sunday 7pm meeting coverage (Preview) Hi Ops If someone can cover my 7pm meeting I would appreciate it I am running late watching my nephews. If not, there will be a delayed start. thanks for your patience megan	megan	2	307	Feb 12, 2006 by megan
	Talking to our sponsor (Preview) Have had an situation come up recently NOT related to alcoholism but still involving chinging my attitude and working an honest program. This is an honest program and we don't use our sponsors as "the good angel" sitting on the right shoulder. But our sponsors can help us work things out...	txmom	1	371	Feb 12, 2006 by david62
	A Special Sunday "Meeting" (Preview) Howdy yall! Well I went to a meeting of my other program this morning (church that is..he he) and was sure glad I didnt pick today to sleep late!!! The person who normally leads our "meetings" is on vacation week, so a "guest speaker" was there for us today. This man is retired from leading "meet...	david62	3	653	Feb 12, 2006 by doxie
	Granny Ill Me Confused - Suggestions? (Preview) I don't know where else to post this - I can really relate to some of the posts here & I feel in a way this is similar. So maybe some of you will have some suggestions? I'm currently living with my parents (one of the worst decisions I ever took, but it was a learning experience as well). They're not alc...	learning76	4	349	Feb 12, 2006 by learning76
	Who will ever be there for me? (Preview) I am so frustrated! My mom is in the hospital 1 mile from my house and I cannot go there to be with her! I have several friends who live less than 5 miles away and I can get no one to call me back to watch my 4 year old while I check on my mother. The hospital does not allow any kids under the age...	just me	3	405	Feb 12, 2006 by Flora123
	bummer and gratitude (Preview) I'm a little bummed today. At my F2F this afternoon one of the Alanoners invited us all to their place to watch a tape of someone in our group on TV. (can't say who what when or channel of course, LOL ) I just couldn't go. It would have been a blast! But hey, I have to be grateful that I found such a grea...	bobump	6	334	Feb 12, 2006 by bob6502
	How do I stop worrying? (Preview) My husband came home today with his paycheck...but I am worried that he will slip out after I go to sleep tonight. My ex said he would bring my daughter tonight between 5-6pm...it's 5:22pm and they aren't here yet. What if they don't come? I worry over everything. I don't kno...	Powerless	6	605	Feb 12, 2006 by learning76
	sorry i just can not stop drinking (Preview) help me please! i am in pain! tell me what i should do expect drinking alcoho............ i can not talk to my sponser she must sleeping now and she is sleeping..what i am suppose to do? i can not get beer or anything let me forget the pain .tell me what i should do?i want to fall asleep and wake up in...	crazywoman	10	485	Feb 12, 2006 by Andrea12
	i have an idea - please read (Preview) I have been reading and posting on this site for about 6 months now. About 2 months ago I started attending f2f meetings and have been doing so since, at least 2 a week. I am building a strong support system for myself, when I choose to reach out to it, which I am still having trouble doing.&nb...	confused	2	377	Feb 12, 2006 by lin0606
	Crap (Preview) I am so tired. I feel like I'm starting all over again. I took a lot of crap yesterday and I carried it around like it was gold in a basket. I'm so tired. I'm starting all over again with step one...not like I've not done this a hundred times. I'm so powerless. It'...	Lunamoth	4	421	Feb 12, 2006 by confused
	trying to get out of a slump and get more positive (Preview) How do you pull yourself out of a slump? I just read Courage to Change "Let Go and Let God". Found a few readings helpful. How do you change your attitude? Physically Im starting to feel better. Spiritually I know my brother is in Gods hands. There's something coming up in my life in March that Im...	Barbara	6	475	Feb 12, 2006 by gardengal
	MY DAUGHTER CAME!!!! (Preview) My daughter got here (3 hours late), but her daddy brought her. In fact, his girlfriend and their three other children came as well. It was a nice visit, but not long enough. She enjoyed her gifts. I missed Christmas and her birthday with her so had all of her gifts. Som...	Powerless	6	500	Feb 12, 2006 by gardengal
	Rain Rain go AWAY (Preview) The saying when it rains it's pours seems so fitting for this Washingtonian. This has not been the best week of my life. My plate is so full that it feels it will crack and crumble at any moment. First the A with the relapse, his attitude of knowing he can control it now. I was in bed sick...	marmare	4	406	Feb 12, 2006 by nmike
	Interesting Site (Preview) Merry Go Round Named Denial www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm note spelling	wallsal55	1	343	Feb 12, 2006 by chris52
	Blizzard Buddies (Preview) (((((((((Roomies))))))))))))), To all of you who are in the path of the Noreaster/Blizzard please be safe. Hunker down with a good book, lots of blankets, good food and warm beverages. Let us know how you make out, we'll be thinking of you. Please don't travel if you don't have to. Wouldn't wan...	Karilynn	2	375	Feb 11, 2006 by tea2
	I bought the paint (Preview) I went to bed last night excited that I saw my daughter, but focusing on the fact that it was such a short visit. I should have been focusing on the fact I get to visit at all. I tried to stay up with my husband until he fell asleep because I was afraid he would use last night. I don't know why I fe...	Powerless	2	365	Feb 11, 2006 by doxie
	missylost (Preview) Hey gang, I just wanted to let y'all know that Missy is struggling here lately. She's lost her internet connection and thus her connection to us. So please keep her in your prayers and if someone wants to give me a call, send me a PM for her number. I've often wondered where we'd be witho...	Maria123	0	355	Feb 11, 2006 by Maria123
	My Favorite Prayers (Preview) For the Alcoholic: GOD BLESS HIM, GOD KEEP HIM, GOD SAVE ME! Me: ;	wallsal55	0	286	Feb 11, 2006 by wallsal55
	Calm before the next storm (Preview) The cycle of life with my A goes like this: he drinks, then starts drinking more, then starts badgering me about everything, then spends more time in the bar, makes mean comments to and about my son, and then there is a huge blow up when I can't take it anymore. The blow-up happened Wednesday night and yes...	Lindy	6	423	Feb 11, 2006 by wallsal55
	Singalong (relationship blues?) (Preview) This isn't meant to be a downer, because my spouse and I are still together (miracle of the program). However, I CAN say the emotions of this song really played out in the roller coaster of the drinking and then in the SOBRIETY, too. Saying goodbye to all the zany stuff as we enter pea...	wallsal55	2	351	Feb 11, 2006 by wallsal55
	My dad and every excuse (Preview) The last 2 weeks have been something else. My dad who is one of the A's in my life just fell apart. His father who lives in another country and who we haven''t seen in 5 years passed away. Then my mother became very ill and had to be taken to the hospital. She will be ok but needs to q...	bd	4	510	Feb 11, 2006 by Powerless
	i'll share with u-- (Preview) like i have said before, i tend to be negative about my A. today i read these & i started to feel better. i think i will share them with you. here goes... TO FORGIVE IS TO SET A PRISONER FREE & DICOVER THAT PRISONER WAS YOU! ***i had a hard time forgiving, and i have not all the way, but this is...	flintfeet	5	355	Feb 11, 2006 by Maria123
	welcome sicntired :) (Preview) Hello this is snapper/cdb who you talked to. It helps to post things too so everyone gets to know you and your situation. You are not alone. You can also do searches here on topics similiar to what you need to read. Hope to see you on the message board :) cdb xoxoxoxoxo	cdb	0	323	Feb 11, 2006 by cdb
	Telling the kids (Preview) Hello All, Well I was able to speak to my husband last night, and he thinks he might be in for a while again, but hopefully this will be it. I mean hopefully this will clear up all the old stuff, and then he can get that out of the way. The hardest part was telling the kids. My oldest is 6, I have a 4 year old, a...	Dolphin123	5	376	Feb 10, 2006 by leo
	my a and I in parallel universes (Preview) I think that I am doing ok and then whammeee, I am sinking again. I guess the awareness that I am sinking is progress, it allows me to do something about it. I am trying so hard to just do the next right thing, to take things a day at a time, but it is just so hard. Sometimes, especially whe...	confused	5	416	Feb 10, 2006 by Powerless
	Ups and downs of the day (Preview) Today has been full of ups and downs. I met with the attorney this morning and he informed me that he had to refer me to an attorney in the state my ex lives in. So now it is back to the drawing board. My daughter is coming for a visit tonight. He is only letting her come because he wa...	Powerless	1	381	Feb 10, 2006 by cdb
	some of you (Preview) i know that some of you guys think that that i have an unhealthy attitude towards the situation with my dad. i'm not trying to hurt anyone's feelings, and it is no one in paticular. i just hear myself tell myself:"it's his fault! it's not a disease! he chose drinking over his family! how could he do...	flintfeet	5	441	Feb 10, 2006 by cdb
	jrtjosey,, update? (Preview) Hello josey, You had asked for prayers recently on a post and I was wondering how things are going now in regards to what you posted and the out of town visit. It is nice to know if our prayers are working in other's lives and if miracles are in progress. I hope things are going well fo...	cdb	4	386	Feb 10, 2006 by cdb
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