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jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi Everyone, Due to several confused friends, I am changing my nickname from jonibaloni21 from Texas, with only furbabies and an Ex-bf A , to Texasjoni21 to differentiate from the "other" jonibaloni as everyone is getting confused. I have been here a year now and have had lots of help thru many tr...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Mostly this is just a vent but I'm sure lots of other people experience this frequently if not everyday. I'm so tired of being scapegoated and blamed for things that go wrong in my A's life. He's been late for work twice this week and says, its my responsibility to wake him up. Well, I...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So I've been keeping you updated about how I've been doing and what's been going on with me. And it occured to me about what was really at the core about alot of my feelings. (And you newcomers are entitled to laugh, make comments or whatever you feel, because, yes, this is a commupance of some kind...

BeBlessed · BeBlessed

I heard someone say that "Being a people-pleaser can negatively affect you in many ways. I used to let other people tell me who I was. I played the role assigned to me by my current family and my family of origin. And living and going to school in a small communit...

maresie2 · maresie2

Its funny when you get to that point of not having anymore, I can finally set lots of limits with the A. After all I am not going to entertain it anymore. I can finally say I have had enough. I think it must be my huge martyr complex that made me feel I had to endure. I could never say to him this is n...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

This has been a full day, and it's only 12:30~I went to an al anon meeting, and we had a new comer. Which was good, I suppose. I guess what soured my desire to go back is that there was this one lady who when she's nice, she's fantastic. But when she's mean or whatever....

Like the old saying, if...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Husband moved back home yesterday after being seperated for 6 1/2 weeks. We have talked to each other every day since he moved out - some conversations more pleasant than others but we have seen each other only 4 times since the incident that caused our seperation. After doing my usual ru...

Gramma Pat · Gramma Pat

Thank you for your responses to my problem. I wanted to let you know that my husband walked out of his outpatient assessment. He said he was telling them what he thought of them when they asked him to leave. I don’t know where this man came from. In the 12 years I have known him he...

BeBlessed · BeBlessed

…haven’t really been able to participate in MIP online meetings lately (couple months anway)…able to say welcome and thank you, but not able to share. Have always struggled with living in a shell, feelings of rejections, and I can spot someone who doesn’t like a mile away – even o...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Ok I worked till 8pm on Monday8/7. My A picked me up after work. she slid over to let me drive before I came outside. I was suspicious but wanted to go home. It seems she took my new friend ( the one whose A father ran out of gas and I took him to her house). This new frie...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

14 Hello Dear Friends, I would just like to make a few comments on some of the posts I have been reading.... I have noticed alot of people feeling alone lately....well, in my opinion we are not alone we have the wonderful support of this terriffic program and the lovely people in...

debilyn · debilyn

A's sister called me and told me where he is. He is staying at this old scrum womans apt. I was not concerned he was cheating. On the way there I talked to hp. I thought well maybe his sis was lying. Maybe he won't be there. I was not anxious or mad or anything. No expectations. I did not know an apt. number...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I just wanted to keep y'all posted. I am loathe to admit it, but yes...you were right. God showed up on time. In style. And every detail was attended too. I went to the Woman's Center today and talked to them some more about the situation. The conversation consisted of the followi...

Gramma Pat · Gramma Pat

New, blue, confused, that's me. My husband is a hardcore drinker and has been for many years. He can't stay off the sauce for more than 90 days or so. He went to treatment on the 19th of July because his long time friend and I confronted him with his out of control behavior. He wa...

krise · krise

I went to bed last night and as I was sinking down in the covers I was thinking about my present situation. My AH, whom I have been separated from the last 6 months, just sent me divorce paperwork last week. The agreement is completely one-sided (his side) and I've had to contact lawyers, et...

cher · cher

I need to express my graditude Wed. nite my hubby (an A)dissappease. Once again I think he is on a binge (and I was wrong) Couldn't bare the pain again and found this web site. You pulled me through a very hard time, gave me information to help myself, and it worked.Was what u were doing before worked c...

daisygrl4 · daisygrl4

i really want to talk in the chat room tonight but i can't get in. i try the link and it's the right one the page came up but the place the room should come up is just and empty black box. can anyone help

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi roomies, Last night was an odd night. Kids and I got home and as soon as I walked in I knew my "A" was high like meth high. Why is that odd? He wasn't even home. I just felt it. I have learned to trust certain instincts of mine, because over the years I have learned to know the difference between my sickn...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Goes hand in hand. Its a dance that seems to get old after a while and I find myself wishing to get off the dance floor sometimes. Coming to Alanon is like getting off the dance floor for me. Getting real with myself and my wants and desires. It feels weird to let the A dance by him...

omajoy · omajoy

I have read posts here for weeks and have posted a few myself. To be honest, I don't think anyone of you out there, regardless of your experiences, can really help anyone else. Oh, we can give our hugs and our support, but when the chips are truly down, you just have to go it alone. That is me. Alone. Most of y...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, We had a weekend round-up here in the northeast corner of Arizona. Many people come from afar every year. My AHsober was around because we had taken our son to the airport to fly back to start his second year of college. I asked my H to go with me to the roundup. The main reason is that there i...

Jill · Jill

We went to my brother’s wedding last weekend. My new sister in law’s stepmother was the pariah of the whole group – so controlling, didn’t “let” her ancient husband do what he wanted, etc. You guessed it – her husband is a very active alcoholic and she’s his keeper. I thank this program and you all for hel...

debilyn · debilyn

Is anyone near cape cod massachusets? spelled wrong I am sure. I don't need much. I am attempting to help someone who's mom died now she is homeless. thanks debilyn

whittibo · whittibo

I just found your site last night and have been reading some posts. I have shared my problems with friends on another board (pet board) and the advice was to go to Al-Anon. It's not feasible in my life to attend meetings. I am not good in groups, I don't want to go, and don't have the tim...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi group.... I get nervous, really nervous, when I see so many posts about alternative ways for people to gain sobriety... Yes, there are other ways, and yes, there are small percentages of people who are living testaments to those other ways.... Here is something I cut and paste...

doxie · doxie

I woke up EARLY this morning and couldn't get this stuff outta my head, so here I am! Let me start by saying that I need to get this down, I know this is a safe place. So I choose to do it here. These are my opinions only and this is what is working in my life. Doxie's therapy 101 to herself I guess.

...

daisygrl4 · daisygrl4

Hi all. I have been trying to log onto the online chats but for some reason it won't work for me. So I figured I would try this. I have been with my boyfriend (an A) for 5 1/2 years now. We met at college and He has drank all of our relationship. I don't know really where to start. My A is very mean when he drinks. H...

maresie2 · maresie2

On the weekend the A crashed my truck again. The whole side is all dented. He has no remorse nothing. He is like a psychopath. All he can say is "Me Me Me Me and some more me's". I know I can no longer live this life of his crazy chaos, lies and psychoapathism. I have been working on plan B for...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I woke up this morning almost relieved and refreshed. Start of day two living my life for my HP and me!

I realized some more about myself. I know I love myself enough now. So I have started making future plans for myself personal goals that I want to ...

shadow1 · shadow1

I just wanted to clairfy something. We seem to have 2 shadow's now. I have been getting alot of private messages in chat room, on the message board and email asking me, if the other shadow's posts are mine. They are not. Shadow1 on the message bo...

lmt123 · lmt123

I don't know which Alanon tool I used last nite, but I'm sure I used one, LOL! My 18 year old daughter (eaten up by anger towards her dad, my ex) did her usual nightly routine last nite. Bear with me now...

We live in this old house that we are remodeling, and the upstairs is se...

bluebjade · bluebjade

Hello All, first of all I want to say that finding MIP, is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. All of the post, have brought to light, so many things that I have been sweeping under the rug for so long now. Yesterday, my A, who for once was not drinking, so I took this opportuni...

marmare · marmare

Wow, how quickly we can slip back into our old ways...it happens in a matter of seconds. I then question why am I doing this.....I am sure with all the focus on my mother and caring for her in her final days I haven't worked my program. I am finding myself an emotional mess and listening to my A...

serendipity · serendipity

the only thing i'm not is hungry. not in the food sense anyway. almost all my life i have had a sleep disorder. the only times i haven't have been when i was content in a relationship or feeling secure in my grandparents home. so more often than not i just can't sleep. i have tried it all. massage worked but m...

Patches · Patches

I have to go home tonight to visit my mom, bro and A-dad. It was my b-day on Sunday and my bro is having surgery today, so I really have to go. I never know what to expect when I go home and I get physically ill before I go home. I guess my A-dad is on anti-depresents now, which is good, but I h...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone: Well, I slipped big time. I was feeling so sure of myself and calm and everything seemed to be okay. AH called around 9:30, said he would be home soon. I have learned not to expect much, so I didn't really. I fell asleep. I wake up and look outside, worried...

gardengal · gardengal

I find myself daily worrying about things I have no control over. I find myself time to time dwelling in the past with feelings of guilt. Guilt for what? Guilt because I didnt do everything I could, or the I should have's , when the A was still here. Or guilt for things I did when the A was here?. My reactions...

Mike5056 · Mike5056

Hi all Thought I have bent your collective ears so much the last couple of weeks with my "woe is me" attitude that I would post a more upbeat message to the forums. It has been a good week. To put it in context, ten years ago I would have said that it has been a pretty nondescript week. Today though that is...

debilyn · debilyn

I woke this morn. thinking that I had done enough. Then I had an email from a great alanon sis, TT who basically thru me a rope to grab as I was falling into the pit. I have done all the footwork I am willing to do. The rest is out of my hands. I feel ok about if he is found, they know to contact me. If he is ok,...

CoffeeBean3 · CoffeeBean3

Hello, All........ I am very much confused by myself today; hoping you guys could help me decipher my feelings a bit. This weekend has completely thrown me into a tailspin. My A has been active for at least eight years. In the last two years, I slowly began to notice that I wasn't feeli...

Valhalla · Valhalla

Let judging, criticizing, trying to figure out, manipulating events, 'circling the wagons' with my fellow alanons in the face of my own selfish desires of what I want for my alcoholic? Looking at other alcoholics who are not even a direct portion of my life and allowing them to rent space in my head a...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Everyone))) It has been a while since I have posted anything. Just working my program and staying extremely busy with work and family. Things were sailing along just fine with my A until Friday night. He went out to a bar with some friends to listen to a band and when he came hom...

allygirl · allygirl

I have trouble opening up with people. I have a sponsor who I talk to on a regular basis, as well as good friends and even family.

But I just don't know how to talk about how I'm doing. I always end up talking about superficial things, or what my husband is doing or how my kids are....

dwell · dwell

My A husband recently decided to quit drinking and go to AA meetings. He went to a doctor and got Lirium to help him. He started taking that on Friday night (last drink was Thursday night), and has been to two AA meetings a day since. I was so happy that he'd come to this decision by himself (he ran int...

lovescoping · lovescoping

Hi, Does this sound familar to anyone? It seems to be a pattern that I have seen since my AH started drinking again. So many times I am the one he is mad at the next day. He gives me the cold shoulder because I might have said something about his drinking that offended him. Well...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

So we lost power last nite till around 6am. I could not sleep & was burning up. It was in the 80's here. I opened a window & it did not help not a breeze one. My A slept like a snoring baby. I took my new sleep pills & I think it has the opposite effect on me. I could not shut my bra...

debilyn · debilyn

Ok here is the next step in my footwork. If my A is not found, and I am well enough, I am packing up my horse, Chief, and we are heading to town. Actually I will have someone trailor him over there. We are going to hit the streets and cause attention so maybe people will really take me seriou...

daisygrl4 · daisygrl4

HI all. I wrote my first post yesterday and I REALLY appreciate the responses. I can't believe how much a few responses helps and gets me thinking. My question tonight is what are face to face meetings like? For some reason I am so nervous about attending one. Can I get...

Shadow · Shadow

Last night my A who started as a drug addict and to overcome that he started drinking, you know you can’t break a habit you only replace it with another one. He chose A. My A went to the gym and worked out for 3 hours than came home. When I got home from work we got into an argument and he than prece...

Anita · Anita

Hi folks, I haven't posted for a long time but I thought I'd update you all. I was having issues with my husband's drinking a couple of months ago and gave him an ultimatum...alcohol or me. Happily, he chose me. We did a lot of talking and it turns out that somehow he'd gotten into th...

meglet · meglet

Hi everyone. I've spent the last few hours lurking and reading. I think I've found a wonderful place. I have an a boyfriend. He's been in AA and sober for nearly 5 months. I'm so very proud of him. The issue that we're both dealing with is that we thought him getting so...

cyan23 · cyan23

I am new here - although I have been in need of this place for so very long. I really never understood that I also had a problem. I lived with an abusive alcoholic for 12 years, but I was strong enough to not deal with it. I avoided the heart of the issue so many times - deciding that...

annmarie · annmarie

He's draining the life out of me. Constant fault finding and criticism......says he doesn't want to argue! He wants to tell me all my faults at great length...and then for me to apologise...and realise how wrong I am...and then I won't be causing all these arguments!!!! He just won't leave me a...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I want to thank all of you for your prayers, thoughts, and fantastic suggestions. I've called in some scripts to the pharmacy, and I see my councelor today. I also have my home group BBQ. *Is Very Excited!

* Dad called Mom this morning to tat...

MSKM301 · MSKM301

I can't believe I'm doing, what I'm doing...I promised myself I would take it differently this time. I kept telling myself over and over again tonight.'remember the three c's". I prayed, but I keep calling his cell phone. Of course he's not answering it. I now also think there is serious gambling invo...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I really need to be in class right now, but I also know that if I don't tell SOMEONE what's going on, I'm gonna lose it in class. I mean, I'm at the point where I want to yell at each driver in the road to take the road test again, obviously you don't know how to drive; I want to tell the lady in the neighboring cub...

Christy · Christy

HI ((friends))) I've been so blessed lately and I'm so grateful. Things, odd things just keep happening, although they are becoming more normal then odd. Well, I guess they aren't odd if you have faith.. Among the many blessings this family has recieved lately (big huge ones) in sequence...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hey Everyone, I will get right to the point, my ex bf went to rehab 4 months ago, spent 30 days in rehab and has been very active in AA since. Ok, so, he doesnt contact me once he gets back from rehab, his sponsor says its best we stay away from each other, work our own program, I agree. He lived with...

GoingCrazyinNC · GoingCrazyinNC

Okay let me get started....I grew up in an alcoholic family. My dad drank and so did both of my brothers. My brothers are now deceased (died in drunk driving accidents) and I am now the only child. I feel a lot of pressure from that! I feel a lot of guilt when I can't always...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

When People have pet peeves, you'd be surprised how many times they pet them.

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	New Nick I Picked! (Preview) Hi Everyone, Due to several confused friends, I am changing my nickname from jonibaloni21 from Texas, with only furbabies and an Ex-bf A , to Texasjoni21 to differentiate from the "other" jonibaloni as everyone is getting confused. I have been here a year now and have had lots of help thru many tr...	jonibaloni21	0	386	Aug 11, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	How did I get scapegoated for all that goes wrong with the A? (Preview) Mostly this is just a vent but I'm sure lots of other people experience this frequently if not everyday. I'm so tired of being scapegoated and blamed for things that go wrong in my A's life. He's been late for work twice this week and says, its my responsibility to wake him up. Well, I...	twinmom2	2	626	Aug 11, 2006 by maresie2
	Living Easy Does It (Preview) So I've been keeping you updated about how I've been doing and what's been going on with me. And it occured to me about what was really at the core about alot of my feelings. (And you newcomers are entitled to laugh, make comments or whatever you feel, because, yes, this is a commupance of some kind...	Tiger2006	2	513	Aug 11, 2006 by maresie2
	Hope for the people-pleaser (Preview) I heard someone say that "Being a people-pleaser can negatively affect you in many ways. I used to let other people tell me who I was. I played the role assigned to me by my current family and my family of origin. And living and going to school in a small communit...	BeBlessed	3	570	Aug 11, 2006 by maresie2
	Being up against it. (Preview) Its funny when you get to that point of not having anymore, I can finally set lots of limits with the A. After all I am not going to entertain it anymore. I can finally say I have had enough. I think it must be my huge martyr complex that made me feel I had to endure. I could never say to him this is n...	maresie2	4	527	Aug 11, 2006 by maresie2
	Another day, another update (Preview) This has been a full day, and it's only 12:30~I went to an al anon meeting, and we had a new comer. Which was good, I suppose. I guess what soured my desire to go back is that there was this one lady who when she's nice, she's fantastic. But when she's mean or whatever.... Like the old saying, if...	Tiger2006	3	385	Aug 11, 2006 by maresie2
	Elephant in my living room... (Preview) Husband moved back home yesterday after being seperated for 6 1/2 weeks. We have talked to each other every day since he moved out - some conversations more pleasant than others but we have seen each other only 4 times since the incident that caused our seperation. After doing my usual ru...	AlaMom	6	516	Aug 11, 2006 by hummingbird
	Thanks-this is a great site with great folks (Preview) Thank you for your responses to my problem. I wanted to let you know that my husband walked out of his outpatient assessment. He said he was telling them what he thought of them when they asked him to leave. I don’t know where this man came from. In the 12 years I have known him he...	Gramma Pat	1	414	Aug 11, 2006 by abbyal
	Gotta Be... (Preview) …haven’t really been able to participate in MIP online meetings lately (couple months anway)…able to say welcome and thank you, but not able to share. Have always struggled with living in a shell, feelings of rejections, and I can spot someone who doesn’t like a mile away – even o...	BeBlessed	4	350	Aug 11, 2006 by Tiger2006
	hmm, advice, questions or comments? I am at my witts end. (Preview) Ok I worked till 8pm on Monday8/7. My A picked me up after work. she slid over to let me drive before I came outside. I was suspicious but wanted to go home. It seems she took my new friend ( the one whose A father ran out of gas and I took him to her house). This new frie...	hmrnrnmm	4	602	Aug 11, 2006 by Tiger2006
	We are not Alone, thanks for the Love (Preview) 14 Hello Dear Friends, I would just like to make a few comments on some of the posts I have been reading.... I have noticed alot of people feeling alone lately....well, in my opinion we are not alone we have the wonderful support of this terriffic program and the lovely people in...	Andrea12	7	483	Aug 11, 2006 by annmarie
	missed my chance (Preview) A's sister called me and told me where he is. He is staying at this old scrum womans apt. I was not concerned he was cheating. On the way there I talked to hp. I thought well maybe his sis was lying. Maybe he won't be there. I was not anxious or mad or anything. No expectations. I did not know an apt. number...	debilyn	13	583	Aug 10, 2006 by Jeannie
	Things are getting better (Preview) I just wanted to keep y'all posted. I am loathe to admit it, but yes...you were right. God showed up on time. In style. And every detail was attended too. I went to the Woman's Center today and talked to them some more about the situation. The conversation consisted of the followi...	Tiger2006	8	549	Aug 10, 2006 by debilyn
	New, Blue, Confused (Preview) New, blue, confused, that's me. My husband is a hardcore drinker and has been for many years. He can't stay off the sauce for more than 90 days or so. He went to treatment on the 19th of July because his long time friend and I confronted him with his out of control behavior. He wa...	Gramma Pat	3	429	Aug 10, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Moments of peace in the midst of turmoil (Preview) I went to bed last night and as I was sinking down in the covers I was thinking about my present situation. My AH, whom I have been separated from the last 6 months, just sent me divorce paperwork last week. The agreement is completely one-sided (his side) and I've had to contact lawyers, et...	krise	7	473	Aug 10, 2006 by Dolphin123
	u roomies r great (Preview) I need to express my graditude Wed. nite my hubby (an A)dissappease. Once again I think he is on a binge (and I was wrong) Couldn't bare the pain again and found this web site. You pulled me through a very hard time, gave me information to help myself, and it worked.Was what u were doing before worked c...	cher	3	391	Aug 10, 2006 by Andrea12
	chat room (Preview) i really want to talk in the chat room tonight but i can't get in. i try the link and it's the right one the page came up but the place the room should come up is just and empty black box. can anyone help	daisygrl4	2	395	Aug 10, 2006 by Becky1
	Gotta Love 2am phone calls. (Preview) Hi roomies, Last night was an odd night. Kids and I got home and as soon as I walked in I knew my "A" was high like meth high. Why is that odd? He wasn't even home. I just felt it. I have learned to trust certain instincts of mine, because over the years I have learned to know the difference between my sickn...	Dolphin123	9	598	Aug 10, 2006 by hersh
	The addict and the codependent (Preview) Goes hand in hand. Its a dance that seems to get old after a while and I find myself wishing to get off the dance floor sometimes. Coming to Alanon is like getting off the dance floor for me. Getting real with myself and my wants and desires. It feels weird to let the A dance by him...	twinmom2	5	785	Aug 10, 2006 by maire rua
	No heart or soul left (Preview) I have read posts here for weeks and have posted a few myself. To be honest, I don't think anyone of you out there, regardless of your experiences, can really help anyone else. Oh, we can give our hugs and our support, but when the chips are truly down, you just have to go it alone. That is me. Alone. Most of y...	omajoy	12	645	Aug 10, 2006 by omajoy
	Weekend roundup and AHsober went with... (Preview) Hi Alanoners, We had a weekend round-up here in the northeast corner of Arizona. Many people come from afar every year. My AHsober was around because we had taken our son to the airport to fly back to start his second year of college. I asked my H to go with me to the roundup. The main reason is that there i...	nmike	2	476	Aug 10, 2006 by athena12
	Depending on the Promise (Preview) We went to my brother’s wedding last weekend. My new sister in law’s stepmother was the pariah of the whole group – so controlling, didn’t “let” her ancient husband do what he wanted, etc. You guessed it – her husband is a very active alcoholic and she’s his keeper. I thank this program and you all for hel...	Jill	5	438	Aug 10, 2006 by annmarie
	Need help (Preview) Is anyone near cape cod massachusets? spelled wrong I am sure. I don't need much. I am attempting to help someone who's mom died now she is homeless. thanks debilyn	debilyn	5	465	Aug 9, 2006 by nikkilou
	New. Not sure where to start (Preview) I just found your site last night and have been reading some posts. I have shared my problems with friends on another board (pet board) and the advice was to go to Al-Anon. It's not feasible in my life to attend meetings. I am not good in groups, I don't want to go, and don't have the tim...	whittibo	11	581	Aug 9, 2006 by drucilla06
	Is AA the "only" way to sobriety? (Preview) Hi group.... I get nervous, really nervous, when I see so many posts about alternative ways for people to gain sobriety... Yes, there are other ways, and yes, there are small percentages of people who are living testaments to those other ways.... Here is something I cut and paste...	canadianguy	12	4843	Aug 9, 2006 by Jill
	I'm tired of being the victim, I want a life (Preview) I woke up EARLY this morning and couldn't get this stuff outta my head, so here I am! Let me start by saying that I need to get this down, I know this is a safe place. So I choose to do it here. These are my opinions only and this is what is working in my life. Doxie's therapy 101 to herself I guess. ...	doxie	9	612	Aug 9, 2006 by maresie2
	new and fed up (Preview) Hi all. I have been trying to log onto the online chats but for some reason it won't work for me. So I figured I would try this. I have been with my boyfriend (an A) for 5 1/2 years now. We met at college and He has drank all of our relationship. I don't know really where to start. My A is very mean when he drinks. H...	daisygrl4	14	548	Aug 9, 2006 by Katastrophe
	the A crashed my truck again ! (Preview) On the weekend the A crashed my truck again. The whole side is all dented. He has no remorse nothing. He is like a psychopath. All he can say is "Me Me Me Me and some more me's". I know I can no longer live this life of his crazy chaos, lies and psychoapathism. I have been working on plan B for...	maresie2	6	432	Aug 9, 2006 by maresie2
	New Beginning - ODAT (Preview) I woke up this morning almost relieved and refreshed. Start of day two living my life for my HP and me! I realized some more about myself. I know I love myself enough now. So I have started making future plans for myself personal goals that I want to ...	DoN4me	2	402	Aug 9, 2006 by MsgBo
	Just to clairfy things (Preview) I just wanted to clairfy something. We seem to have 2 shadow's now. I have been getting alot of private messages in chat room, on the message board and email asking me, if the other shadow's posts are mine. They are not. Shadow1 on the message bo...	shadow1	2	436	Aug 9, 2006 by Dolphin123
	I think I used my Alanon tools last nite...(kinda long) (Preview) I don't know which Alanon tool I used last nite, but I'm sure I used one, LOL! My 18 year old daughter (eaten up by anger towards her dad, my ex) did her usual nightly routine last nite. Bear with me now... We live in this old house that we are remodeling, and the upstairs is se...	lmt123	4	396	Aug 9, 2006 by lmt123
	Did I take a step? (Preview) Hello All, first of all I want to say that finding MIP, is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. All of the post, have brought to light, so many things that I have been sweeping under the rug for so long now. Yesterday, my A, who for once was not drinking, so I took this opportuni...	bluebjade	12	788	Aug 9, 2006 by RichardA
	So many excuses (Preview) Wow, how quickly we can slip back into our old ways...it happens in a matter of seconds. I then question why am I doing this.....I am sure with all the focus on my mother and caring for her in her final days I haven't worked my program. I am finding myself an emotional mess and listening to my A...	marmare	7	701	Aug 9, 2006 by Dolphin123
	H.A.L.T. (Preview) the only thing i'm not is hungry. not in the food sense anyway. almost all my life i have had a sleep disorder. the only times i haven't have been when i was content in a relationship or feeling secure in my grandparents home. so more often than not i just can't sleep. i have tried it all. massage worked but m...	serendipity	2	363	Aug 9, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Scared to go home tonight (Preview) I have to go home tonight to visit my mom, bro and A-dad. It was my b-day on Sunday and my bro is having surgery today, so I really have to go. I never know what to expect when I go home and I get physically ill before I go home. I guess my A-dad is on anti-depresents now, which is good, but I h...	Patches	3	447	Aug 9, 2006 by drucilla06
	Big Slip.... (Preview) Hi everyone: Well, I slipped big time. I was feeling so sure of myself and calm and everything seemed to be okay. AH called around 9:30, said he would be home soon. I have learned not to expect much, so I didn't really. I fell asleep. I wake up and look outside, worried...	hersh	9	521	Aug 9, 2006 by drucilla06
	Are you living just for today? Or are you living in the past worrying about the future? (Preview) I find myself daily worrying about things I have no control over. I find myself time to time dwelling in the past with feelings of guilt. Guilt for what? Guilt because I didnt do everything I could, or the I should have's , when the A was still here. Or guilt for things I did when the A was here?. My reactions...	gardengal	6	467	Aug 9, 2006 by Karilynn
	A good week (Preview) Hi all Thought I have bent your collective ears so much the last couple of weeks with my "woe is me" attitude that I would post a more upbeat message to the forums. It has been a good week. To put it in context, ten years ago I would have said that it has been a pretty nondescript week. Today though that is...	Mike5056	8	546	Aug 9, 2006 by Mike5056
	short thoughts (Preview) I woke this morn. thinking that I had done enough. Then I had an email from a great alanon sis, TT who basically thru me a rope to grab as I was falling into the pit. I have done all the footwork I am willing to do. The rest is out of my hands. I feel ok about if he is found, they know to contact me. If he is ok,...	debilyn	5	452	Aug 8, 2006 by Jeannie
	What Does This Mean? (Preview) Hello, All........ I am very much confused by myself today; hoping you guys could help me decipher my feelings a bit. This weekend has completely thrown me into a tailspin. My A has been active for at least eight years. In the last two years, I slowly began to notice that I wasn't feeli...	CoffeeBean3	7	651	Aug 8, 2006 by CoffeeBean3
	Let WHAT begin with me????? (Preview) Let judging, criticizing, trying to figure out, manipulating events, 'circling the wagons' with my fellow alanons in the face of my own selfish desires of what I want for my alcoholic? Looking at other alcoholics who are not even a direct portion of my life and allowing them to rent space in my head a...	Valhalla	5	579	Aug 8, 2006 by Valhalla
	My A has relapsed...I'm sad and scared (Preview) (((Everyone))) It has been a while since I have posted anything. Just working my program and staying extremely busy with work and family. Things were sailing along just fine with my A until Friday night. He went out to a bar with some friends to listen to a band and when he came hom...	twinmom2	6	505	Aug 8, 2006 by canadianguy
	How to open up? (Preview) I have trouble opening up with people. I have a sponsor who I talk to on a regular basis, as well as good friends and even family. But I just don't know how to talk about how I'm doing. I always end up talking about superficial things, or what my husband is doing or how my kids are....	allygirl	4	506	Aug 8, 2006 by canadianguy
	He's just quit - I should be happy - what's wrong with me? (Preview) My A husband recently decided to quit drinking and go to AA meetings. He went to a doctor and got Lirium to help him. He started taking that on Friday night (last drink was Thursday night), and has been to two AA meetings a day since. I was so happy that he'd come to this decision by himself (he ran int...	dwell	10	582	Aug 8, 2006 by Jerry F
	He's the one that drank, but I'm the one he's mad at??? (Preview) Hi, Does this sound familar to anyone? It seems to be a pattern that I have seen since my AH started drinking again. So many times I am the one he is mad at the next day. He gives me the cold shoulder because I might have said something about his drinking that offended him. Well...	lovescoping	5	503	Aug 8, 2006 by maresie2
	So anyway more on my soap opera of a life (long & somewhat boring) (Preview) So we lost power last nite till around 6am. I could not sleep & was burning up. It was in the 80's here. I opened a window & it did not help not a breeze one. My A slept like a snoring baby. I took my new sleep pills & I think it has the opposite effect on me. I could not shut my bra...	hmrnrnmm	4	538	Aug 8, 2006 by maresie2
	Your eccentric alanon sister (Preview) Ok here is the next step in my footwork. If my A is not found, and I am well enough, I am packing up my horse, Chief, and we are heading to town. Actually I will have someone trailor him over there. We are going to hit the streets and cause attention so maybe people will really take me seriou...	debilyn	6	544	Aug 8, 2006 by Jerry F
	face to face meetings??? (Preview) HI all. I wrote my first post yesterday and I REALLY appreciate the responses. I can't believe how much a few responses helps and gets me thinking. My question tonight is what are face to face meetings like? For some reason I am so nervous about attending one. Can I get...	daisygrl4	8	595	Aug 8, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Disgusted and venting (Preview) Last night my A who started as a drug addict and to overcome that he started drinking, you know you can’t break a habit you only replace it with another one. He chose A. My A went to the gym and worked out for 3 hours than came home. When I got home from work we got into an argument and he than prece...	Shadow	8	463	Aug 8, 2006 by shadow1
	Update (Preview) Hi folks, I haven't posted for a long time but I thought I'd update you all. I was having issues with my husband's drinking a couple of months ago and gave him an ultimatum...alcohol or me. Happily, he chose me. We did a lot of talking and it turns out that somehow he'd gotten into th...	Anita	3	372	Aug 8, 2006 by hersh
	New here - Does the selfishness get better? (Preview) Hi everyone. I've spent the last few hours lurking and reading. I think I've found a wonderful place. I have an a boyfriend. He's been in AA and sober for nearly 5 months. I'm so very proud of him. The issue that we're both dealing with is that we thought him getting so...	meglet	9	490	Aug 8, 2006 by nycbt
	So - I am in recovery - who knew (Preview) I am new here - although I have been in need of this place for so very long. I really never understood that I also had a problem. I lived with an abusive alcoholic for 12 years, but I was strong enough to not deal with it. I avoided the heart of the issue so many times - deciding that...	cyan23	5	491	Aug 8, 2006 by canadianguy
	drained (Preview) He's draining the life out of me. Constant fault finding and criticism......says he doesn't want to argue! He wants to tell me all my faults at great length...and then for me to apologise...and realise how wrong I am...and then I won't be causing all these arguments!!!! He just won't leave me a...	annmarie	6	442	Aug 8, 2006 by Rita G
	Today is a much better day (Preview) I want to thank all of you for your prayers, thoughts, and fantastic suggestions. I've called in some scripts to the pharmacy, and I see my councelor today. I also have my home group BBQ. Is Very Excited! Dad called Mom this morning to tat...	Tiger2006	2	448	Aug 8, 2006 by rtexas
	I'm crazed!!! (Preview) I can't believe I'm doing, what I'm doing...I promised myself I would take it differently this time. I kept telling myself over and over again tonight.'remember the three c's". I prayed, but I keep calling his cell phone. Of course he's not answering it. I now also think there is serious gambling invo...	MSKM301	4	402	Aug 8, 2006 by beachbaby
	Have no idea for a good title but need y'all anyway (Preview) I really need to be in class right now, but I also know that if I don't tell SOMEONE what's going on, I'm gonna lose it in class. I mean, I'm at the point where I want to yell at each driver in the road to take the road test again, obviously you don't know how to drive; I want to tell the lady in the neighboring cub...	Tiger2006	6	423	Aug 7, 2006 by doxie
	HP comes thru again :) (Preview) HI ((friends))) I've been so blessed lately and I'm so grateful. Things, odd things just keep happening, although they are becoming more normal then odd. Well, I guess they aren't odd if you have faith.. Among the many blessings this family has recieved lately (big huge ones) in sequence...	Christy	4	486	Aug 7, 2006 by doxie
	Mtg w/ExABF tonight (Preview) Hey Everyone, I will get right to the point, my ex bf went to rehab 4 months ago, spent 30 days in rehab and has been very active in AA since. Ok, so, he doesnt contact me once he gets back from rehab, his sponsor says its best we stay away from each other, work our own program, I agree. He lived with...	beachbaby	2	359	Aug 7, 2006 by serendipity
	Looking for help and advice (Preview) Okay let me get started....I grew up in an alcoholic family. My dad drank and so did both of my brothers. My brothers are now deceased (died in drunk driving accidents) and I am now the only child. I feel a lot of pressure from that! I feel a lot of guilt when I can't always...	GoingCrazyinNC	3	416	Aug 7, 2006 by Christy
	Quote for Today (Preview) When People have pet peeves, you'd be surprised how many times they pet them.	wallsal55	1	391	Aug 7, 2006 by tea2
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