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nj mom · nj mom

hi all, i am the mom to a 19 year old who is struggling in his recovery from alcohol and drugs. i've been attending naranon meetings and they have helped alot. i would like to find a new group that focuses more on the traditions and steps. i was thinking of trying a alanon meeting but i wasn't sure if i would b...

mac57 · mac57

Fallen In the morning springtime air, A gentle breeze is blowing where Winter winds had rushed around the trees, And spun some to the ground. In the forest, autumn leaves, Fallen from the vibrant trees, With broken limbs that found no sun, Released from high, to e...

marmare · marmare

Hi! So after Thursday & Friday of perfectly charming husband, he has slipped. I however, read, prayed, tried not to slip too bad. Stayed calm, did a lot of saying....Let Go Let God, and "quit interupting HP work".....Tonight when he called, I asked...."what are you doing?" his r...

serendipity · serendipity

i did something really stupid. i can't even justify it in my own head, that's how blatently stupid it was.i slept with my ex. no protection, which for me is about the dumbest thing i have ever done and that is saying alot. so, i'm scared. god only knows where he's been or who with. but all i can do about that i...

CastAway · CastAway

I got your email and I'm trying to reach you but my emails to you keep bouncing back! Please let me know if there is another way to find you. And ... thank you.

Becky1 · Becky1

Just got back from Michigan from a VERY stressful weekend (4 days long) to visit my granddaughter who is two. I live in Ohio. The baby is my AH's son's girlfriend's baby, but I couldn't love her more if she were my own flesh and blood. We went camping. OMG. My AH acted like a je...

maresie2 · maresie2

Well the A sulked all weekend then went on a mini binge. He did zero around the house nothing. Then he started drinking smoking and using (I think it was marjuana). I detached detached detached working on plan b, and kept on working. Today he is supposedly back at work and says he doesn't...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

HAVEN'T POSTED IN A WHILE. TRYING TO TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME WITH EX/ABF. As I found out he was cheating! Confronted her,(she was very nice and realized he was using both of us) then confronted him (denied everything and turned it all on me) then I told myself I had closed another chapter in my...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello So, my A/C-addicted hubby was served with divorce papers yesterday. Not the reaction I was expecting. He came home in a cocaine-induced mood (which is his only GOOD mood). He was rather pleasant about the whole thing. Told me I was justified. He was at fault, he screwed up, he'll do what...

Miranda · Miranda

I am so overwhelmed right now. I just don't know what to do. My father gave up on me, he just signed off. While it's relieving that court is over, I'm hurt that it was that easy for him to just forget about me. The guy I love, told me that he loves another girl more than he could ever love me, my brothers leave fo...

kerry5 · kerry5

Business Meeting, Tonight at 7pm est. Hope to see you there. kerry

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone))): After another crisis situation with AH, I sank into a horrible depression last week. I snapped out of it and I have been reading a lot, going to a lot of face to face meetings and getting out of my isolation. The roller coaster is not ending soon it seems. What I have r...

Jeannie · Jeannie

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mac57 · mac57

Hi Roomies, Miracles are things that have no earthly explanation. We see a line of daffodils turned toward the sun in the afternoon light, see the blue sky above us all day, gumdrop sparkling stars all night, with no sense of wonder? We casually notice animals, insects, clouds, ocean...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Just great I spent the last 15 to 30 minutes writing a post. The computer decided to do something wierd and everything dissappeared. Here I go again. Not as long this time. I will just recap last nite. I got home around 9pm. I see that my A, Tina had gotten the truck running.( She was suppose to wait for my...

DoN4me · DoN4me

It was a heartfelt weekend for me. I had a great talk with my A this weekend. Don't know what will be the outcome of it only my HP knows for sure. I can say this much, I am really enjoying who I am becoming. I realize there is a life outside my house. I thank my HP everyday for showing my how to break-free from all...

Jill · Jill

I am so unfamiliar with this anger. It comes on me BOOM. I am left to repent, but how do I avoid it in the first place? Any advice is welcome. thank you Jill

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Group))) Its been an emotional weekend and holiday for me. Things at home have not really gotten better in fact for me they got worse. My A's attitude towards me all week was defensive and negative. I did my best to tune it out and continue with my recovery and taking care...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello Today's the big day. The attorney is serving my A/cocaine-addicted husband with divorce papers. I'm a bit concerned about his reaction and possible retalliation. I just hope he doesn't come into the house when I'm not here and take things that he shouldn't... or break things. I don't...

maresie2 · maresie2

This past week we got a notice on the yard that it had to be weeded and trimmed up. The A did 5 minutes of it then declared the mower is broken. Keep in mind that he says that the weed trimmer(2 of them) another mower and now this mower given to us by the landlord are all broken. And he has umpteen excuses why he c...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I have not felt totally good for the last couple of days. My back & hip are so stiff nothing is working much. I am just going on as usual. I had an appt today and of course it is a good thing I took my A along. She had to fill out paperwork too. We had a bunch of clothes to donate. I do be...

sandie123 · sandie123

This is driving me totally crazy. I feel like there is something wrong with me. Why can’t I get a true faith or trust in a HP? I see the coincidences and burning bushes. I do believe that there is some form of a power... a higher power that must be guiding this world. There is so much beauty and incredi...

omajoy · omajoy

I will be so happy to see this long weekend end. No good comes of long holiday weekends for us. The problem isn't drinking today...it is not drinking. Once again my son has decided he has had enough of the alcohol and says he is finished. I say "when polar bears live in trees"....not to him, of course. I hav...

maresie2 · maresie2

A friend of mine who is also in the program has been helping me a lot lately to break my stuff down into small pieces and keep working on those pieces. Normally a holiday with the A around would be a nightmare. If he is not drinking or using he is just a lump stuck in the middle of the TV feeling sorry for...

Barbara · Barbara

Moms been subpoened to testify Brother living in small apartment, not working, lost his part time job even Mom wants this over and is willing to take brother back in to live at her condo Me? Im detaching (as well as I can) - its a sick sick family

lmt123 · lmt123

I guess this post is more like me needing to just journal in a safe way. So for what it's worth (if you can stand reading a long post), here goes... I'm feeling really confused about what I want out of my life, and what I need from those who are closest to me. I've felt this way probably...

BeBlessed · BeBlessed

They say that living in a dysfunctional family changes who you are. I believe that being a member of the Al-anon family can also change who you are.

Although I am feeling pretty good right now - as may be reflected in my previous post - I know that this too shall pass (Darn it! I used to...

lani · lani

Hello everyone, I am new here and new to the Al-anon program. My husband of 13 years just returned from treatment and has been home for 5 days. He has been sober for 36 days and is struggling daily to keep himself on track. He is doing okay but, after tonight I am really starting to wonder how much longer I...

daisy2 · daisy2

Hope you can say "YES" to all of these!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..one old love she can imagine going back to.. and one who reminds her how far she has come... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..enough money within her c...

Lexie · Lexie

Hello dear (((((friends))))) My son's sentencing hearing is Tuesday, September 5. I am trusting God for the best outcome, but still have moments of nervousness and anxiety in anticipation. My son has been clean for 18 months now and is doing extremely well in every area of h...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, Well been getting thru minute by minute right now......The addition has totally taken over the addict once again....I can't worry about that.... So happy I start a new job on Tuesday....that is so great...I am very thankful about that......moving f...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have been going through my stuff all weekend and am part the way through the task of being ready. I think that is some of the issue being ready for what God has in store for me. I oftentimes am not ready. I have been overdue on decluttering and getting rid of stuff for more than a year now.&nbs...

WifeinDespair · WifeinDespair

I feel silly asking more from each of you, but already the response has been overwhelming. Thank you for those that posted a response to my original post. Your ideas, suggestions and empathy have already lifted my heart! I think that I am just so thankful to know that I am not alone a...

serendipity · serendipity

my ex just left after spending the day with the kids here at my home. i am feeling so lonlely that i thought about just crawling into his arms. that's pretty low for me. after all he has done and not done to me and for me i know i'm in a bad space to even have that thought in my head. and it's not him. it's me and my f...

daisygrl4 · daisygrl4

HI all. So far it has been 30 hours since I have talked to my A. I know it seems lame to count but it is longest I have ever gone in 5 1/2 years. Yesterday was his family's bbq and I decided not to go to avoid the everyone pretending he's not drinking situation and me crying. I hung up...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, I am so tired of this damn life.....I feel trapped.....I am sick to death of the life of hell I live.....I am trying so very hard to hang on until hub gets a couple of checks....him being out of work has drained us....now that he is back to work the past couple of days have been a living he...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Phew! I was so rattled today at work. The 73 yro man I sit with was hell bent determined to drive his truck into town and buy his liquor. It was said he used to drink the biggest bottle of liquor a day. I saw an empty bottle of vodka when I first started working. I started in the end of March. His...

BeBlessed · BeBlessed

I must say that since I turned my will and life over to the care of God, my life has changed a great deal. Through the fellowship of Al-anon and working the steps I have learned to ask myself question like… 1. what is going on with me? 2. what hurts? 3. what feels good? 4. what do I want? 5. what do I need? 6...

hunnydoll · hunnydoll

Hello, Thank you for your warm welcome. I really needed that. Im looking forward to hearing from you and chating with you. Im so anxious to get started with the steps and traditions. I have been to several local meetings. Im a cocktail waitress and I have such anxiety speaking in public. I know this so...

Leah · Leah

Hello,,,,,hoping you are all doing the best you are able to right now. I am writing in hopes that some of you wise and learned people may be able to offer me somethings I can try with my very alcoholic Father. I can't just ask him not to drink as much as he does, and certainly asking him and expe...

son_of_a · son_of_a

hi everyone, my stepdad is a recently-diagnosed alcoholic. my mom was very dependant on him for many years until his condition worsened. then their roles reversed - she took over all aspects of their lives - managing bills, health & work issues etc. unfortunately, recently m...

marmare · marmare

I have to tell you it is like a light went on inside my head. I think I get it!!!! Tonight my A called on his way home. He is so upset, he has had a lead on a jobsite that has been okaying extra breaks, early outs, on company time. It's a temporary jobsite for my A, but he worked for this compa...

bluebjade · bluebjade

hELLO EVERYONE, I Need some advice. I have heard my A talking about a ballgame taking place this weekend. I have heard conversations about a bonfire and a party. This will take place outside. They will watch or listen to the ballgame in his shop, but they will be getting drunk.&n...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I heard this song in the middle of all the crap last nite. It was so true except the part of being stoned. I don't do that anymore. (rock ) It sucks to feel you live alone when you don't. THREE DAYS GRACE LYRICS "Home" I’ll be coming home Just to be alone Cause I know you’re n...

Diva · Diva

Walking the walk, quite another. I read time and time again that we do not have to allow the behavior of the A to affect our moods. And that only WE are responsible for how we respond to the A's condition. NOTHING and NO ONE can make us feel sad, confused, hurt, angry, frustrated, miserable, or alone....

nmike · nmike

Hi friends, I started back to work last week. It has been hectic ever since. I am having to make alot of adjustments because my facility is being renovated. Also, we have to add another class to make our workload. I am on the run, tired, and frustrated. So in a week and a half I have already embarassed a st...

Gramma Pat · Gramma Pat

I have worked hard this week trying to put thing into order for me to leave my AH. I felt that was best for both of us. . I was sure that I was making the right move. Then..........it seems like doors started to close. I had 3 people who have many years in Al-Anon tell me the program...

Lani · Lani

Personal Power “The deep root of failure in our lives is to think, ‘Oh how useless and powerless I am.’ It is essential to think strongly and forcefully, ‘I can do it,’ without boasting or fretting.” -- Dalai Lama Angeles Arrien says that whether we are male or female, we need to develop three kin...

curious · curious

Well, I made it. I fret about it before going, I got physically ill while there, but I made it through family week. for those of you out there that have had the experience maybe you will understand. For those of you that have not had the experience I wanted to share some of my experienc...

rtexas · rtexas

(((Everyone))) I posted earlier about a delima I was having about helping my in-laws move. Well you offered me some wonderful words, which I didn't read until it was too late. <sigh> I did what I thought was right. Called my in-laws and asked if they wanted my help and as...

bev · bev

my a husband went out tonite,just left about 20 min ago and it is only 7 at nite..he wanted me to drive him to the bar,but i said no told him to just go,i will pick the car up later..he said for me to come down around 9 to be with him,told him i dont like bars,he says but you like karao...

ohera101 · ohera101

Two weeks ago, I told my AH that we couldn't have a relationship 'til he started some real recovery. He has his own place now, and comes by to visit our two year old occasionally. He doesn't show up very often now that I've told him he doesn't have responsibility at our home as an excuse for drinking. My the...

debilyn · debilyn

I still have addresses. Just been so sick, well now, and am poor now.lol but will get them off to you. I did not forget. love,debilyn

artygirl · artygirl

Hello All... If you've been keeping up, I'm in the process of filing for divorce from my A/cocaine-addicted husband. He doesn't know my plan... yet. I was thinking about writing him a letter. He's very hard to communicate with (imagine that!) and avoids conversation with me lately. I would li...

gardengal · gardengal

For years I blamed the A's in my life for whatever "I" was feeling that day. If he wouldnt have done this or that, I wouldnt be feeling this way today etc. If my sadness/worry/anger would flare up it would be due to his actions. I would isolate from friends and family, I would sit at home and cry, sink into th...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone.... What a nutty time this is. I can’t believe one can feel so many emotions at once. Now AH feels horrible after this week, being drunk all the time, threatening to have his car repossessed, the mortgage behind, me finding out about the phone calls wit...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((Family)))))))))), Well it is now officially my Alanon 1 year anniversary.

I came here exactly one year ago, afraid, unsure, confused, shy and beyond lonely. How I found this site I don't recall. Must have been HP leading the way. I didn't...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) I struggle with this on a daily basis in my personal life. Interesting thing is I am a manager in a large company and I don't have this issue at work. I have the hardest time seperating what "I" want as opposed to deciding which of the expectations of the A's in my life I need to...

purpleraven · purpleraven

one thing my A says most often when we're in any level of disagreement is: "you're holding me emotional hostage." uhh, what? i don't ever know what to say to him, other than "that's not my intention, i don't even think that way." he continues to say it. eventually, i realized, he's saying it about himsel...

marmare · marmare

My tongue may have a hole in it....but inside I feel I did the right thing. My A and I have been dancing the same, very old dance since my mother's funeral. In his mind, he swears I have been here 4 1/2 months...nearly 5! I have been here since June 12th.....I have stuck to my guns...

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	i'm new to alanon (Preview) hi all, i am the mom to a 19 year old who is struggling in his recovery from alcohol and drugs. i've been attending naranon meetings and they have helped alot. i would like to find a new group that focuses more on the traditions and steps. i was thinking of trying a alanon meeting but i wasn't sure if i would b...	nj mom	9	528	Sep 7, 2006 by mel123
	a poem by mac (Preview) Fallen In the morning springtime air, A gentle breeze is blowing where Winter winds had rushed around the trees, And spun some to the ground. In the forest, autumn leaves, Fallen from the vibrant trees, With broken limbs that found no sun, Released from high, to e...	mac57	11	528	Sep 7, 2006 by mel123
	A semi-new cycle (Preview) Hi! So after Thursday & Friday of perfectly charming husband, he has slipped. I however, read, prayed, tried not to slip too bad. Stayed calm, did a lot of saying....Let Go Let God, and "quit interupting HP work".....Tonight when he called, I asked...."what are you doing?" his r...	marmare	5	418	Sep 6, 2006 by maresie2
	just need some support (Preview) i did something really stupid. i can't even justify it in my own head, that's how blatently stupid it was.i slept with my ex. no protection, which for me is about the dumbest thing i have ever done and that is saying alot. so, i'm scared. god only knows where he's been or who with. but all i can do about that i...	serendipity	5	457	Sep 6, 2006 by Christy
	Mac57???? (Preview) I got your email and I'm trying to reach you but my emails to you keep bouncing back! Please let me know if there is another way to find you. And ... thank you.	CastAway	1	377	Sep 6, 2006 by mac57
	2 A's and a 2 year Old (Preview) Just got back from Michigan from a VERY stressful weekend (4 days long) to visit my granddaughter who is two. I live in Ohio. The baby is my AH's son's girlfriend's baby, but I couldn't love her more if she were my own flesh and blood. We went camping. OMG. My AH acted like a je...	Becky1	4	490	Sep 6, 2006 by peewee
	non stop dramarama (Preview) Well the A sulked all weekend then went on a mini binge. He did zero around the house nothing. Then he started drinking smoking and using (I think it was marjuana). I detached detached detached working on plan b, and kept on working. Today he is supposedly back at work and says he doesn't...	maresie2	5	631	Sep 6, 2006 by twinmom2
	What else can happen????? (Preview) HAVEN'T POSTED IN A WHILE. TRYING TO TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME WITH EX/ABF. As I found out he was cheating! Confronted her,(she was very nice and realized he was using both of us) then confronted him (denied everything and turned it all on me) then I told myself I had closed another chapter in my...	sisdragonfly1957	4	505	Sep 6, 2006 by hersh
	now I'm confused! (Preview) Hello So, my A/C-addicted hubby was served with divorce papers yesterday. Not the reaction I was expecting. He came home in a cocaine-induced mood (which is his only GOOD mood). He was rather pleasant about the whole thing. Told me I was justified. He was at fault, he screwed up, he'll do what...	artygirl	3	386	Sep 6, 2006 by hersh
	Terrified, please help. (Preview) I am so overwhelmed right now. I just don't know what to do. My father gave up on me, he just signed off. While it's relieving that court is over, I'm hurt that it was that easy for him to just forget about me. The guy I love, told me that he loves another girl more than he could ever love me, my brothers leave fo...	Miranda	12	603	Sep 6, 2006 by hersh
	Business Meeting (Preview) Business Meeting, Tonight at 7pm est. Hope to see you there. kerry	kerry5	0	335	Sep 6, 2006 by kerry5
	Walking through the fear..... (Preview) (((Hi everyone))): After another crisis situation with AH, I sank into a horrible depression last week. I snapped out of it and I have been reading a lot, going to a lot of face to face meetings and getting out of my isolation. The roller coaster is not ending soon it seems. What I have r...	hersh	3	506	Sep 6, 2006 by Gailey
	My family pictures (Preview)     &...	Jeannie	5	452	Sep 6, 2006 by Karilynn
	Miracles (Preview) Hi Roomies, Miracles are things that have no earthly explanation. We see a line of daffodils turned toward the sun in the afternoon light, see the blue sky above us all day, gumdrop sparkling stars all night, with no sense of wonder? We casually notice animals, insects, clouds, ocean...	mac57	12	690	Sep 6, 2006 by ET
	What else can I do to get away? (Preview) Just great I spent the last 15 to 30 minutes writing a post. The computer decided to do something wierd and everything dissappeared. Here I go again. Not as long this time. I will just recap last nite. I got home around 9pm. I see that my A, Tina had gotten the truck running.( She was suppose to wait for my...	hmrnrnmm	4	379	Sep 5, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Jealousy (Preview) It was a heartfelt weekend for me. I had a great talk with my A this weekend. Don't know what will be the outcome of it only my HP knows for sure. I can say this much, I am really enjoying who I am becoming. I realize there is a life outside my house. I thank my HP everyday for showing my how to break-free from all...	DoN4me	3	403	Sep 5, 2006 by maresie2
	Help I was out of control (Preview) I am so unfamiliar with this anger. It comes on me BOOM. I am left to repent, but how do I avoid it in the first place? Any advice is welcome. thank you Jill	Jill	5	568	Sep 5, 2006 by Jill
	Let the chips fall where they may (Preview) (((Hello Group))) Its been an emotional weekend and holiday for me. Things at home have not really gotten better in fact for me they got worse. My A's attitude towards me all week was defensive and negative. I did my best to tune it out and continue with my recovery and taking care...	twinmom2	3	551	Sep 5, 2006 by Tiger2006
	dropping the bomb (Preview) Hello Today's the big day. The attorney is serving my A/cocaine-addicted husband with divorce papers. I'm a bit concerned about his reaction and possible retalliation. I just hope he doesn't come into the house when I'm not here and take things that he shouldn't... or break things. I don't...	artygirl	5	400	Sep 5, 2006 by hersh
	giving up trying to get him to do... (Preview) This past week we got a notice on the yard that it had to be weeded and trimmed up. The A did 5 minutes of it then declared the mower is broken. Keep in mind that he says that the weed trimmer(2 of them) another mower and now this mower given to us by the landlord are all broken. And he has umpteen excuses why he c...	maresie2	4	539	Sep 5, 2006 by maresie2
	what is the difference between being a doormat & not fighting? (Preview) GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I have not felt totally good for the last couple of days. My back & hip are so stiff nothing is working much. I am just going on as usual. I had an appt today and of course it is a good thing I took my A along. She had to fill out paperwork too. We had a bunch of clothes to donate. I do be...	hmrnrnmm	7	778	Sep 5, 2006 by Tiger2006
	No Faith in a HP (Preview) This is driving me totally crazy. I feel like there is something wrong with me. Why can’t I get a true faith or trust in a HP? I see the coincidences and burning bushes. I do believe that there is some form of a power... a higher power that must be guiding this world. There is so much beauty and incredi...	sandie123	14	784	Sep 5, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Thankfully, holiday weekend over (Preview) I will be so happy to see this long weekend end. No good comes of long holiday weekends for us. The problem isn't drinking today...it is not drinking. Once again my son has decided he has had enough of the alcohol and says he is finished. I say "when polar bears live in trees"....not to him, of course. I hav...	omajoy	3	531	Sep 5, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Being stuck/getting unstuck (Preview) A friend of mine who is also in the program has been helping me a lot lately to break my stuff down into small pieces and keep working on those pieces. Normally a holiday with the A around would be a nightmare. If he is not drinking or using he is just a lump stuck in the middle of the TV feeling sorry for...	maresie2	2	523	Sep 5, 2006 by Tiger2006
	brothers courtdate is Tues (Preview) Moms been subpoened to testify Brother living in small apartment, not working, lost his part time job even Mom wants this over and is willing to take brother back in to live at her condo Me? Im detaching (as well as I can) - its a sick sick family	Barbara	2	339	Sep 5, 2006 by Barbara
	thought i was handling things ok... (Preview) I guess this post is more like me needing to just journal in a safe way. So for what it's worth (if you can stand reading a long post), here goes... I'm feeling really confused about what I want out of my life, and what I need from those who are closest to me. I've felt this way probably...	lmt123	3	569	Sep 4, 2006 by peewee
	Surrender...Let Go and Let God (Preview) They say that living in a dysfunctional family changes who you are. I believe that being a member of the Al-anon family can also change who you are. Although I am feeling pretty good right now - as may be reflected in my previous post - I know that this too shall pass (Darn it! I used to...	BeBlessed	3	434	Sep 4, 2006 by beachbaby
	Hi (Preview) Hello everyone, I am new here and new to the Al-anon program. My husband of 13 years just returned from treatment and has been home for 5 days. He has been sober for 36 days and is struggling daily to keep himself on track. He is doing okay but, after tonight I am really starting to wonder how much longer I...	lani	7	489	Sep 4, 2006 by lani
	Every woman..... (Preview) Hope you can say "YES" to all of these!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..one old love she can imagine going back to.. and one who reminds her how far she has come... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..enough money within her c...	daisy2	3	548	Sep 4, 2006 by sallyb
	Son's courtdate (Preview) Hello dear (((((friends))))) My son's sentencing hearing is Tuesday, September 5. I am trusting God for the best outcome, but still have moments of nervousness and anxiety in anticipation. My son has been clean for 18 months now and is doing extremely well in every area of h...	Lexie	5	444	Sep 4, 2006 by mel123
	I Have The Faith (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, Well been getting thru minute by minute right now......The addition has totally taken over the addict once again....I can't worry about that.... So happy I start a new job on Tuesday....that is so great...I am very thankful about that......moving f...	Andrea12	8	537	Sep 4, 2006 by mel123
	Plan B (Preview) I have been going through my stuff all weekend and am part the way through the task of being ready. I think that is some of the issue being ready for what God has in store for me. I oftentimes am not ready. I have been overdue on decluttering and getting rid of stuff for more than a year now.&nbs...	maresie2	4	502	Sep 4, 2006 by Maria123
	more questions (Preview) I feel silly asking more from each of you, but already the response has been overwhelming. Thank you for those that posted a response to my original post. Your ideas, suggestions and empathy have already lifted my heart! I think that I am just so thankful to know that I am not alone a...	WifeinDespair	6	470	Sep 4, 2006 by canadianguy
	trying not to be needy (Preview) my ex just left after spending the day with the kids here at my home. i am feeling so lonlely that i thought about just crawling into his arms. that's pretty low for me. after all he has done and not done to me and for me i know i'm in a bad space to even have that thought in my head. and it's not him. it's me and my f...	serendipity	4	660	Sep 4, 2006 by Zyperiris
	longest time (Preview) HI all. So far it has been 30 hours since I have talked to my A. I know it seems lame to count but it is longest I have ever gone in 5 1/2 years. Yesterday was his family's bbq and I decided not to go to avoid the everyone pretending he's not drinking situation and me crying. I hung up...	daisygrl4	5	401	Sep 4, 2006 by Zyperiris
	Another Day in Hell (Preview) Hello Friends, I am so tired of this damn life.....I feel trapped.....I am sick to death of the life of hell I live.....I am trying so very hard to hang on until hub gets a couple of checks....him being out of work has drained us....now that he is back to work the past couple of days have been a living he...	Andrea12	13	531	Sep 3, 2006 by maresie2
	I need help. stressful day at work, dealing with a 73 yro alcoholic who was forced to quit in Jan. no program, not his idea, he still wants to drink (Preview) Phew! I was so rattled today at work. The 73 yro man I sit with was hell bent determined to drive his truck into town and buy his liquor. It was said he used to drink the biggest bottle of liquor a day. I saw an empty bottle of vodka when I first started working. I started in the end of March. His...	hmrnrnmm	7	512	Sep 3, 2006 by isabela40
	Alot of Changes Since Turning It Over (Preview) I must say that since I turned my will and life over to the care of God, my life has changed a great deal. Through the fellowship of Al-anon and working the steps I have learned to ask myself question like… 1. what is going on with me? 2. what hurts? 3. what feels good? 4. what do I want? 5. what do I need? 6...	BeBlessed	3	523	Sep 3, 2006 by Diva
	Thank you for your warm welcome (Preview) Hello, Thank you for your warm welcome. I really needed that. Im looking forward to hearing from you and chating with you. Im so anxious to get started with the steps and traditions. I have been to several local meetings. Im a cocktail waitress and I have such anxiety speaking in public. I know this so...	hunnydoll	3	408	Sep 3, 2006 by Maria123
	So Sad & Frustrated,,,,,what to do? (Preview) Hello,,,,,hoping you are all doing the best you are able to right now. I am writing in hopes that some of you wise and learned people may be able to offer me somethings I can try with my very alcoholic Father. I can't just ask him not to drink as much as he does, and certainly asking him and expe...	Leah	4	940	Sep 3, 2006 by Andrea12
	convincing mom to attend alanon (Preview) hi everyone, my stepdad is a recently-diagnosed alcoholic. my mom was very dependant on him for many years until his condition worsened. then their roles reversed - she took over all aspects of their lives - managing bills, health & work issues etc. unfortunately, recently m...	son_of_a	4	562	Sep 3, 2006 by isabela40
	I need to really listen to those voices.... (Preview) I have to tell you it is like a light went on inside my head. I think I get it!!!! Tonight my A called on his way home. He is so upset, he has had a lead on a jobsite that has been okaying extra breaks, early outs, on company time. It's a temporary jobsite for my A, but he worked for this compa...	marmare	2	459	Sep 3, 2006 by Christy
	BALLGAME NIGHT (Preview) hELLO EVERYONE, I Need some advice. I have heard my A talking about a ballgame taking place this weekend. I have heard conversations about a bonfire and a party. This will take place outside. They will watch or listen to the ballgame in his shop, but they will be getting drunk.&n...	bluebjade	2	359	Sep 2, 2006 by lin0606
	song lyrics "home" how true! maybe you can relate too (Preview) I heard this song in the middle of all the crap last nite. It was so true except the part of being stoned. I don't do that anymore. (rock ) It sucks to feel you live alone when you don't. THREE DAYS GRACE LYRICS "Home" I’ll be coming home Just to be alone Cause I know you’re n...	hmrnrnmm	1	1142	Sep 2, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Talking the talk is one thing... (Preview) Walking the walk, quite another. I read time and time again that we do not have to allow the behavior of the A to affect our moods. And that only WE are responsible for how we respond to the A's condition. NOTHING and NO ONE can make us feel sad, confused, hurt, angry, frustrated, miserable, or alone....	Diva	7	884	Sep 2, 2006 by isabela40
	The courage to look at myself... (Preview) Hi friends, I started back to work last week. It has been hectic ever since. I am having to make alot of adjustments because my facility is being renovated. Also, we have to add another class to make our workload. I am on the run, tired, and frustrated. So in a week and a half I have already embarassed a st...	nmike	3	415	Sep 2, 2006 by Maria123
	Questioning Leaving (Preview) I have worked hard this week trying to put thing into order for me to leave my AH. I felt that was best for both of us. . I was sure that I was making the right move. Then..........it seems like doors started to close. I had 3 people who have many years in Al-Anon tell me the program...	Gramma Pat	8	491	Sep 2, 2006 by Maria123
	PERSONAL POWER: Quotes (Preview) Personal Power “The deep root of failure in our lives is to think, ‘Oh how useless and powerless I am.’ It is essential to think strongly and forcefully, ‘I can do it,’ without boasting or fretting.” -- Dalai Lama Angeles Arrien says that whether we are male or female, we need to develop three kin...	Lani	1	378	Sep 2, 2006 by Maria123
	Back from Family week (Preview) Well, I made it. I fret about it before going, I got physically ill while there, but I made it through family week. for those of you out there that have had the experience maybe you will understand. For those of you that have not had the experience I wanted to share some of my experienc...	curious	3	417	Sep 2, 2006 by Maria123
	My feet are not set in cement! (Preview) (((Everyone))) I posted earlier about a delima I was having about helping my in-laws move. Well you offered me some wonderful words, which I didn't read until it was too late. <sigh> I did what I thought was right. Called my in-laws and asked if they wanted my help and as...	rtexas	4	571	Sep 2, 2006 by Maria123
	well the a went out tonite (Preview) my a husband went out tonite,just left about 20 min ago and it is only 7 at nite..he wanted me to drive him to the bar,but i said no told him to just go,i will pick the car up later..he said for me to come down around 9 to be with him,told him i dont like bars,he says but you like karao...	bev	2	463	Sep 2, 2006 by Maria123
	Update (Preview) Two weeks ago, I told my AH that we couldn't have a relationship 'til he started some real recovery. He has his own place now, and comes by to visit our two year old occasionally. He doesn't show up very often now that I've told him he doesn't have responsibility at our home as an excuse for drinking. My the...	ohera101	3	363	Sep 2, 2006 by Maria123
	tp the people I am sending books to (Preview) I still have addresses. Just been so sick, well now, and am poor now.lol but will get them off to you. I did not forget. love,debilyn	debilyn	0	403	Sep 2, 2006 by debilyn
	A letter to the A? (Preview) Hello All... If you've been keeping up, I'm in the process of filing for divorce from my A/cocaine-addicted husband. He doesn't know my plan... yet. I was thinking about writing him a letter. He's very hard to communicate with (imagine that!) and avoids conversation with me lately. I would li...	artygirl	6	475	Sep 2, 2006 by debilyn
	CAN I AVOID BLAMING OTHERS AND "TRY" TO IMPROVE MY OWN CIRCUMSTANCES? (Preview) For years I blamed the A's in my life for whatever "I" was feeling that day. If he wouldnt have done this or that, I wouldnt be feeling this way today etc. If my sadness/worry/anger would flare up it would be due to his actions. I would isolate from friends and family, I would sit at home and cry, sink into th...	gardengal	5	793	Sep 1, 2006 by serendipity
	Emotions Run Amuck.... (Preview) Hi everyone.... What a nutty time this is. I can’t believe one can feel so many emotions at once. Now AH feels horrible after this week, being drunk all the time, threatening to have his car repossessed, the mortgage behind, me finding out about the phone calls wit...	hersh	3	514	Sep 1, 2006 by Jill
	Alanon anniversayr (Preview) (((((((((((((Family)))))))))), Well it is now officially my Alanon 1 year anniversary. I came here exactly one year ago, afraid, unsure, confused, shy and beyond lonely. How I found this site I don't recall. Must have been HP leading the way. I didn't...	Karilynn	9	461	Sep 1, 2006 by tea2
	So hard to know my own mind... (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) I struggle with this on a daily basis in my personal life. Interesting thing is I am a manager in a large company and I don't have this issue at work. I have the hardest time seperating what "I" want as opposed to deciding which of the expectations of the A's in my life I need to...	rtexas	6	506	Sep 1, 2006 by Jennifer
	emotional hostages? (Preview) one thing my A says most often when we're in any level of disagreement is: "you're holding me emotional hostage." uhh, what? i don't ever know what to say to him, other than "that's not my intention, i don't even think that way." he continues to say it. eventually, i realized, he's saying it about himsel...	purpleraven	7	4480	Sep 1, 2006 by purpleraven
	Voices in my head & My tongue may have a hole.... (Preview) My tongue may have a hole in it....but inside I feel I did the right thing. My A and I have been dancing the same, very old dance since my mother's funeral. In his mind, he swears I have been here 4 1/2 months...nearly 5! I have been here since June 12th.....I have stuck to my guns...	marmare	2	594	Sep 1, 2006 by david62
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