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pearlygirrl · pearlygirrl

I'm so confused. There's no meeting available to me tonight, and I'm not good about using the phone list... so I come here. Thank you for being here. Background: My husband is an alcoholic. Has been in rehab, 3 weeks in June, and 2 weeks in August that was mandated by the law.&...

tigerlilli44 · tigerlilli44

I met my friend Byron in 1994 when we went to music school together in Princeton, NJ. He was one of the most charismatic, charming people I had ever met. He charmed you into anything with his smile. He had been pretty sheltered till college and the first week of school he had his first alcoholic drink and t...

sld488 · sld488

Has anyone heard from Jonibaloni? I happened to remember that today was her birthday and was shocked to find her status was deleted. If you are still out there Jonibaloni, Happy Birthday. Not to be confused with Texasjoni21 formally known as Jonibaloni21. (Come to think of it, haven't se...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am on the verge of shutting down again. I will continue to do my readings but I do not want to go into the public. I started going to meetings around Feb/ March of 2006. I suppose I pick the lunch bunch hour because it was bound to be small. Thursday was my first time in awhile I have been able to get to a f2f m...

Lindy · Lindy

I finally succeeded in detaching myself completely from my AH. I probably didn't do this in the exact right way, but it is working. I met someone else who lives about 40 miles from me and I've been spending some time with him. I am not crying on his shoulder or using him as a crutch, but it is nice to spend tim...

Becky1 · Becky1

Well, tomorrow (September 9) is my AH and my 6th wedding anniversary. After the crazy stuff he did the other night, he has calmed down. And I have remained calm throughout. This must surely be God (or HP'S) Blessing on me. Serenity! AHHHH...

greta · greta

I have been reading the posts about sponsorship. Just thought this might be a good question to ask. If you never had one, how would a person know? Do I need one or don't I? I sure didn't think I did at first. I had this wonderful place online...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) ..."boring, workaholic who labels me an Alcoholic" That was the sentiment of a conversation my AW and I had last night. I didn't address boring or workaholic at all... I went ahead and agreed on those. *patting himself on the back* But I didn't pass up the la...

irish54 · irish54

Hi everyone, I'm sorry I haven't posted on here for a long time, but I do visit often and read your ESH often. Thank you for that. You have helped me tremendously. My situation is this; My Son in law was killed in a car accident June 1st. His daughter, my grandaughter's birthday w...

TLC2 · TLC2

Throughtout my life, I have always had trouble with insomnia, it seems to be getting worse.. I have been reading books on the subject, getting pills to help me,even tried drinking myself to oblivion, seemed to work for my A, lol.All THAT did was give me a miserable headache! Nothing seems to wor...

Maria123 · Maria123

My wonderful friends, I am off now. I am going to Texas for the week and won't be back on the boards until Sunday the 17th or so. I am attending an International City Managers Conference in San Antonio which I am excited about and hope to meet up with some of you Texans. Take good care of yo...

sld488 · sld488

Two months ago, my bf's ex decided she wanted her daughter back. Her reason was because my bf/her ex was never home.(he does travel a lot) And she felt like it was not the gf's(me) job to raise their daughter. I have grown to love this little girl as my own. (I shouldn't say little, she...

maresie · maresie

When I am able to take a step back from my relationship with the A I can see I have really been forced into this martyr role. I think that by giving I am showing love. In fact with this specific A there is never enough for him. When he was ill, I was the 'only ' one there for him. All his "friends" sc...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I read last nite Sept 6 Hope for Today about Lone Member Services? Does anyone know how I can find out more about this? I could go for this Lone Member Services. I would appreciate any more information. I am like this Geographically challenged (30 to 45 miles one way), disabled ( I sometimes need help t...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So I've been reading the posts the past few days, reminding myself that each person is in perfect process with their higher power. But I keep noticing a pattern. I don't hear people talk about what their sponsor said. That they have a sponsor. That they're using their sponsor. ...

Strong4myboys · Strong4myboys

Today I am carrying around my ODAT (One Day at a Time in Al-Anon book). I feel too weak to run errands by myself so "she" will be my friend for the day. Do you ever get that feeling like you are the only person in the world that understands your thoughts and feelings? And that you are isolated and completely a...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Thanks for all the kind words yesterday, it really helped me out. There is a story one of my old professors told in class about frogs. Something my sponsor sent me made me think of it and I thought you might want to hear it. It was a biology experiment on cold blooded...

desperate for help · desperate for help

Well, something that i thought would never happen to me in amillion years, happened last night: Husband physically attacked me. He came home drunk and got upset with me b/c he blew into my face and I told him to stop. It started int he bedroom and it ended up throughout the house endi...

Diva · Diva

If Isabela's posts suggest to you that she is "dangerously close" to rejecting AlAnon tenets, what must you think of mine? Yours is the attitude I feel is "dangerously close" to suggesting that no one is allowed to disagree with any teachings of AlAnon. I think for myself, and while I agree with AlAnon...

smpoli · smpoli

I had a rude truth awakening this weekend. This is the first weekend my husband actually couldn't drink cuz we went to a camp w/the cancer society. They didn't allow any alcohol. He actually went two nights w/o anything! But, of coarse, as soon as we get home, he had to go buy s...

Lexie · Lexie

Hello dear friends, My son got to court this morning and the judge wasn't there. He was out on sick leave. No one had informed my son's attorney. There was another judge there, but attorney felt that it would be in son's best interest to get a continuance until the other judge came...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well I am new to this have been to a couple of alanon meetings but have difficulty getting there with 3 kids in tow who can't sit still for 5 mins. much less an hour. My alcoholic addict husband is stranded somewhere in Arizona and I get the collect calls begging for money. It's a very very lon...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((Family)))))))))), I had been thinking about posting this since I read it. But Tiger's most recent post really convinced me to do it.

Thank you Tiger. This is from: More on the Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie Stand up to your fear of aband...

debilyn · debilyn

Ok what is going on??? How are you and what are you up to?? love,debilyn

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone, Just need to vent, it feels better usually. Don't know what to think, what to do. I go crazy thinking about things so I try to pray a lot. After confronting AH with the cell phone bill he claimed it was only a friend, that they did date while we were separated this year (I left...

maresie · maresie

Essentially what the A puts me in all the time from morning to night and during my sleep is a double bind. He is always telling me that he does not have time for me or my needs. Yet at the same time, he demands and cajoles and manipulates to get all his needs met. The only thing that matters are hi...

Daisy · Daisy

Hi everyone, I am new to this message board but not to Al Anon. Meetings are hard to get to as they conflict with my work schedule most of the time. I am thankful for this board. I've been reading some posts and I guess I should be lucky my AH does not go into any loud hysterics or become ph...

Becky1 · Becky1

Last night, I went to the Dr. cos my right thumb has been hurting really bad for a couple of weeks. I do assembly work, and use tools, so it has been very hard at work. Anyway, went to Dr., got an x-ray, went to pharmacy. Got home, kissed AH hello, he was fine. Couple of hours later, he i...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello Yesterday, while high on cocaine, my A husband was understanding about being served with divorce papers. Yesterday we agreed to be pleasant about this and maintain a friendly relationship. He was apologetic about how he has screwed us up financially and otherwise. Today, the drugs ha...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hey guys, I am feeling resentment towards my ex bf A, whose been sober 4 months.....some of you know, he and I decided to take a break after his stint in rehab so he could focus on his recovery and me to do the same. He was literally at deaths door and both our sponsors thought it was best for our relation...

valentine · valentine

Hi. I am new to this forum and am writing to ask for some input from those of you who have been through this before. A good friend of mine has a drinking problem and i'm not sure what to do about it. I've spoken with another good friend of mine, who is a recovering alcoholic (and lives in a...

WifeinDespair · WifeinDespair

Hello. I stumbled on this board today and figured that this was a good place to get suggestions and feedback from others. I have read from other postings the advice and understanding that each of you have displayed. I am hoping that perhaps you will be able to enlighten me and help m...

marks girl · marks girl

He called me tonight and was really upset. I talked to him a little but I was at work. He called his sponsor and talked to him. When I got caught up I called him back. I didn't like the way he was talking and the things he was saying. Then he said he was thinking about going to rehab, but he said he didn't tell Ray...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have not spoken to my sponsor for quite a while. She is out of town on an extended holiday. One thing she did say to me was that when I got ready to leave the A he would put a lot of obstacles in my way. Lately he has been staying home all the time. I want to go through all my stuff and get it organized.&nbs...

paula Q · paula Q

I've just found and joined your site. I'm having another bad night! Don't want to bore you all with the ins and outs but something's not sitting right with me and i can't put my finger on it. I've come to realise that I'm 50% responsible for the dynamics of my alcoholic marriage and there I'm stuck....

daisy2 · daisy2

I gave 4 weeks notice at work!!!!!!!! God , what a relieve!!! I havent spoke about my job, so i put you into a picture. I work for hot tub company last 3 years. I loved it since day one, i had fantastic people around and work was always fun. About a year ago my boss stoped coming to the office and we had to deal...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone: I just got a call from AH who has been unemployed for a while now and our financial situation is going downhill. He says he has a temporary printing position and the guy said it would be for a while, like a month or so. It is the graveyard shift, (who cares, ANYTHING is needed at...

nj mom · nj mom

hi all, i am the mom to a 19 year old who is struggling in his recovery from alcohol and drugs. i've been attending naranon meetings and they have helped alot. i would like to find a new group that focuses more on the traditions and steps. i was thinking of trying a alanon meeting but i wasn't sure if i would b...

mac57 · mac57

Fallen In the morning springtime air, A gentle breeze is blowing where Winter winds had rushed around the trees, And spun some to the ground. In the forest, autumn leaves, Fallen from the vibrant trees, With broken limbs that found no sun, Released from high, to e...

marmare · marmare

Hi! So after Thursday & Friday of perfectly charming husband, he has slipped. I however, read, prayed, tried not to slip too bad. Stayed calm, did a lot of saying....Let Go Let God, and "quit interupting HP work".....Tonight when he called, I asked...."what are you doing?" his r...

serendipity · serendipity

i did something really stupid. i can't even justify it in my own head, that's how blatently stupid it was.i slept with my ex. no protection, which for me is about the dumbest thing i have ever done and that is saying alot. so, i'm scared. god only knows where he's been or who with. but all i can do about that i...

CastAway · CastAway

I got your email and I'm trying to reach you but my emails to you keep bouncing back! Please let me know if there is another way to find you. And ... thank you.

Becky1 · Becky1

Just got back from Michigan from a VERY stressful weekend (4 days long) to visit my granddaughter who is two. I live in Ohio. The baby is my AH's son's girlfriend's baby, but I couldn't love her more if she were my own flesh and blood. We went camping. OMG. My AH acted like a je...

maresie2 · maresie2

Well the A sulked all weekend then went on a mini binge. He did zero around the house nothing. Then he started drinking smoking and using (I think it was marjuana). I detached detached detached working on plan b, and kept on working. Today he is supposedly back at work and says he doesn't...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

HAVEN'T POSTED IN A WHILE. TRYING TO TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME WITH EX/ABF. As I found out he was cheating! Confronted her,(she was very nice and realized he was using both of us) then confronted him (denied everything and turned it all on me) then I told myself I had closed another chapter in my...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello So, my A/C-addicted hubby was served with divorce papers yesterday. Not the reaction I was expecting. He came home in a cocaine-induced mood (which is his only GOOD mood). He was rather pleasant about the whole thing. Told me I was justified. He was at fault, he screwed up, he'll do what...

Miranda · Miranda

I am so overwhelmed right now. I just don't know what to do. My father gave up on me, he just signed off. While it's relieving that court is over, I'm hurt that it was that easy for him to just forget about me. The guy I love, told me that he loves another girl more than he could ever love me, my brothers leave fo...

kerry5 · kerry5

Business Meeting, Tonight at 7pm est. Hope to see you there. kerry

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone))): After another crisis situation with AH, I sank into a horrible depression last week. I snapped out of it and I have been reading a lot, going to a lot of face to face meetings and getting out of my isolation. The roller coaster is not ending soon it seems. What I have r...

Jeannie · Jeannie

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mac57 · mac57

Hi Roomies, Miracles are things that have no earthly explanation. We see a line of daffodils turned toward the sun in the afternoon light, see the blue sky above us all day, gumdrop sparkling stars all night, with no sense of wonder? We casually notice animals, insects, clouds, ocean...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Just great I spent the last 15 to 30 minutes writing a post. The computer decided to do something wierd and everything dissappeared. Here I go again. Not as long this time. I will just recap last nite. I got home around 9pm. I see that my A, Tina had gotten the truck running.( She was suppose to wait for my...

DoN4me · DoN4me

It was a heartfelt weekend for me. I had a great talk with my A this weekend. Don't know what will be the outcome of it only my HP knows for sure. I can say this much, I am really enjoying who I am becoming. I realize there is a life outside my house. I thank my HP everyday for showing my how to break-free from all...

Jill · Jill

I am so unfamiliar with this anger. It comes on me BOOM. I am left to repent, but how do I avoid it in the first place? Any advice is welcome. thank you Jill

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Group))) Its been an emotional weekend and holiday for me. Things at home have not really gotten better in fact for me they got worse. My A's attitude towards me all week was defensive and negative. I did my best to tune it out and continue with my recovery and taking care...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello Today's the big day. The attorney is serving my A/cocaine-addicted husband with divorce papers. I'm a bit concerned about his reaction and possible retalliation. I just hope he doesn't come into the house when I'm not here and take things that he shouldn't... or break things. I don't...

maresie2 · maresie2

This past week we got a notice on the yard that it had to be weeded and trimmed up. The A did 5 minutes of it then declared the mower is broken. Keep in mind that he says that the weed trimmer(2 of them) another mower and now this mower given to us by the landlord are all broken. And he has umpteen excuses why he c...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I have not felt totally good for the last couple of days. My back & hip are so stiff nothing is working much. I am just going on as usual. I had an appt today and of course it is a good thing I took my A along. She had to fill out paperwork too. We had a bunch of clothes to donate. I do be...

sandie123 · sandie123

This is driving me totally crazy. I feel like there is something wrong with me. Why can’t I get a true faith or trust in a HP? I see the coincidences and burning bushes. I do believe that there is some form of a power... a higher power that must be guiding this world. There is so much beauty and incredi...

omajoy · omajoy

I will be so happy to see this long weekend end. No good comes of long holiday weekends for us. The problem isn't drinking today...it is not drinking. Once again my son has decided he has had enough of the alcohol and says he is finished. I say "when polar bears live in trees"....not to him, of course. I hav...

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	was this control? (Preview) I'm so confused. There's no meeting available to me tonight, and I'm not good about using the phone list... so I come here. Thank you for being here. Background: My husband is an alcoholic. Has been in rehab, 3 weeks in June, and 2 weeks in August that was mandated by the law.&...	pearlygirrl	5	477	Sep 9, 2006 by maresie2
	Death of a friend (long) (Preview) I met my friend Byron in 1994 when we went to music school together in Princeton, NJ. He was one of the most charismatic, charming people I had ever met. He charmed you into anything with his smile. He had been pretty sheltered till college and the first week of school he had his first alcoholic drink and t...	tigerlilli44	6	522	Sep 9, 2006 by maresie2
	Jonibaloni where are you? (Preview) Has anyone heard from Jonibaloni? I happened to remember that today was her birthday and was shocked to find her status was deleted. If you are still out there Jonibaloni, Happy Birthday. Not to be confused with Texasjoni21 formally known as Jonibaloni21. (Come to think of it, haven't se...	sld488	0	249	Sep 9, 2006 by sld488
	I do not need people in my life anymore. (Preview) I am on the verge of shutting down again. I will continue to do my readings but I do not want to go into the public. I started going to meetings around Feb/ March of 2006. I suppose I pick the lunch bunch hour because it was bound to be small. Thursday was my first time in awhile I have been able to get to a f2f m...	hmrnrnmm	6	434	Sep 9, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Decision to divorce has been made (Preview) I finally succeeded in detaching myself completely from my AH. I probably didn't do this in the exact right way, but it is working. I met someone else who lives about 40 miles from me and I've been spending some time with him. I am not crying on his shoulder or using him as a crutch, but it is nice to spend tim...	Lindy	5	586	Sep 9, 2006 by Tammy
	Blessed Be the Tie That Binds (Preview) Well, tomorrow (September 9) is my AH and my 6th wedding anniversary. After the crazy stuff he did the other night, he has calmed down. And I have remained calm throughout. This must surely be God (or HP'S) Blessing on me. Serenity! AHHHH...	Becky1	7	440	Sep 9, 2006 by Karilynn
	What does a sponsor do for you? (Preview) I have been reading the posts about sponsorship. Just thought this might be a good question to ask. If you never had one, how would a person know? Do I need one or don't I? I sure didn't think I did at first. I had this wonderful place online...	greta	4	810	Sep 9, 2006 by greta
	Trying to not take it personally (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) ..."boring, workaholic who labels me an Alcoholic" That was the sentiment of a conversation my AW and I had last night. I didn't address boring or workaholic at all... I went ahead and agreed on those. patting himself on the back But I didn't pass up the la...	rtexas	8	510	Sep 9, 2006 by Tiger2006
	what do I do? (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm sorry I haven't posted on here for a long time, but I do visit often and read your ESH often. Thank you for that. You have helped me tremendously. My situation is this; My Son in law was killed in a car accident June 1st. His daughter, my grandaughter's birthday w...	irish54	6	518	Sep 9, 2006 by TLC2
	Let go and let God (Preview) Throughtout my life, I have always had trouble with insomnia, it seems to be getting worse.. I have been reading books on the subject, getting pills to help me,even tried drinking myself to oblivion, seemed to work for my A, lol.All THAT did was give me a miserable headache! Nothing seems to wor...	TLC2	6	480	Sep 9, 2006 by TLC2
	Be Away for a while (Preview) My wonderful friends, I am off now. I am going to Texas for the week and won't be back on the boards until Sunday the 17th or so. I am attending an International City Managers Conference in San Antonio which I am excited about and hope to meet up with some of you Texans. Take good care of yo...	Maria123	7	358	Sep 9, 2006 by Barbara
	Wisdom to know the difference (Preview) Two months ago, my bf's ex decided she wanted her daughter back. Her reason was because my bf/her ex was never home.(he does travel a lot) And she felt like it was not the gf's(me) job to raise their daughter. I have grown to love this little girl as my own. (I shouldn't say little, she...	sld488	4	548	Sep 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	martyrdom (Preview) When I am able to take a step back from my relationship with the A I can see I have really been forced into this martyr role. I think that by giving I am showing love. In fact with this specific A there is never enough for him. When he was ill, I was the 'only ' one there for him. All his "friends" sc...	maresie	1	382	Sep 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	My turn...Lone Member Services??prayers for my SS hearing needed (Preview) I read last nite Sept 6 Hope for Today about Lone Member Services? Does anyone know how I can find out more about this? I could go for this Lone Member Services. I would appreciate any more information. I am like this Geographically challenged (30 to 45 miles one way), disabled ( I sometimes need help t...	hmrnrnmm	6	1590	Sep 9, 2006 by leo
	No topic. Just rambling. (Preview) So I've been reading the posts the past few days, reminding myself that each person is in perfect process with their higher power. But I keep noticing a pattern. I don't hear people talk about what their sponsor said. That they have a sponsor. That they're using their sponsor. ...	Tiger2006	8	503	Sep 8, 2006 by lin0606
	ODAT is my friend today (Preview) Today I am carrying around my ODAT (One Day at a Time in Al-Anon book). I feel too weak to run errands by myself so "she" will be my friend for the day. Do you ever get that feeling like you are the only person in the world that understands your thoughts and feelings? And that you are isolated and completely a...	Strong4myboys	3	368	Sep 8, 2006 by Diva
	The frog experiment (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Thanks for all the kind words yesterday, it really helped me out. There is a story one of my old professors told in class about frogs. Something my sponsor sent me made me think of it and I thought you might want to hear it. It was a biology experiment on cold blooded...	rtexas	6	380	Sep 8, 2006 by Diva
	Husband hit rock bottom (Preview) Well, something that i thought would never happen to me in amillion years, happened last night: Husband physically attacked me. He came home drunk and got upset with me b/c he blew into my face and I told him to stop. It started int he bedroom and it ended up throughout the house endi...	desperate for help	12	459	Sep 8, 2006 by jkiss03
	Canadianguy (Preview) If Isabela's posts suggest to you that she is "dangerously close" to rejecting AlAnon tenets, what must you think of mine? Yours is the attitude I feel is "dangerously close" to suggesting that no one is allowed to disagree with any teachings of AlAnon. I think for myself, and while I agree with AlAnon...	Diva	5	561	Sep 8, 2006 by debilyn
	A truth awakening! (Preview) I had a rude truth awakening this weekend. This is the first weekend my husband actually couldn't drink cuz we went to a camp w/the cancer society. They didn't allow any alcohol. He actually went two nights w/o anything! But, of coarse, as soon as we get home, he had to go buy s...	smpoli	3	340	Sep 8, 2006 by mel123
	son's court date continued (Preview) Hello dear friends, My son got to court this morning and the judge wasn't there. He was out on sick leave. No one had informed my son's attorney. There was another judge there, but attorney felt that it would be in son's best interest to get a continuance until the other judge came...	Lexie	5	442	Sep 8, 2006 by mel123
	Just moved out (Preview) Well I am new to this have been to a couple of alanon meetings but have difficulty getting there with 3 kids in tow who can't sit still for 5 mins. much less an hour. My alcoholic addict husband is stranded somewhere in Arizona and I get the collect calls begging for money. It's a very very lon...	carolinagirl	7	551	Sep 8, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Abandoment (Preview) (((((((((Family)))))))))), I had been thinking about posting this since I read it. But Tiger's most recent post really convinced me to do it. Thank you Tiger. This is from: More on the Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie Stand up to your fear of aband...	Karilynn	6	443	Sep 8, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Isabala where are you?? (Preview) Ok what is going on??? How are you and what are you up to?? love,debilyn	debilyn	1	329	Sep 8, 2006 by isabela40
	Panic feelings... (Preview) Hi everyone, Just need to vent, it feels better usually. Don't know what to think, what to do. I go crazy thinking about things so I try to pray a lot. After confronting AH with the cell phone bill he claimed it was only a friend, that they did date while we were separated this year (I left...	hersh	5	393	Sep 8, 2006 by Jerry F
	the double bind (Preview) Essentially what the A puts me in all the time from morning to night and during my sleep is a double bind. He is always telling me that he does not have time for me or my needs. Yet at the same time, he demands and cajoles and manipulates to get all his needs met. The only thing that matters are hi...	maresie	4	421	Sep 8, 2006 by Jerry F
	Lonely (Preview) Hi everyone, I am new to this message board but not to Al Anon. Meetings are hard to get to as they conflict with my work schedule most of the time. I am thankful for this board. I've been reading some posts and I guess I should be lucky my AH does not go into any loud hysterics or become ph...	Daisy	7	368	Sep 8, 2006 by Daisy
	I Live in A Crazy House (Preview) Last night, I went to the Dr. cos my right thumb has been hurting really bad for a couple of weeks. I do assembly work, and use tools, so it has been very hard at work. Anyway, went to Dr., got an x-ray, went to pharmacy. Got home, kissed AH hello, he was fine. Couple of hours later, he i...	Becky1	14	413	Sep 7, 2006 by isabela40
	just as I predicted (Preview) Hello Yesterday, while high on cocaine, my A husband was understanding about being served with divorce papers. Yesterday we agreed to be pleasant about this and maintain a friendly relationship. He was apologetic about how he has screwed us up financially and otherwise. Today, the drugs ha...	artygirl	5	401	Sep 7, 2006 by artygirl
	Resentment again (Preview) Hey guys, I am feeling resentment towards my ex bf A, whose been sober 4 months.....some of you know, he and I decided to take a break after his stint in rehab so he could focus on his recovery and me to do the same. He was literally at deaths door and both our sponsors thought it was best for our relation...	beachbaby	5	326	Sep 7, 2006 by maresie
	Where to start? (Preview) Hi. I am new to this forum and am writing to ask for some input from those of you who have been through this before. A good friend of mine has a drinking problem and i'm not sure what to do about it. I've spoken with another good friend of mine, who is a recovering alcoholic (and lives in a...	valentine	4	319	Sep 7, 2006 by valentine
	Feedback needed (Preview) Hello. I stumbled on this board today and figured that this was a good place to get suggestions and feedback from others. I have read from other postings the advice and understanding that each of you have displayed. I am hoping that perhaps you will be able to enlighten me and help m...	WifeinDespair	6	371	Sep 7, 2006 by carolinagirl
	mark is in rehab (Preview) He called me tonight and was really upset. I talked to him a little but I was at work. He called his sponsor and talked to him. When I got caught up I called him back. I didn't like the way he was talking and the things he was saying. Then he said he was thinking about going to rehab, but he said he didn't tell Ray...	marks girl	7	348	Sep 7, 2006 by marks girl
	sponsors words coming to haunt me (Preview) I have not spoken to my sponsor for quite a while. She is out of town on an extended holiday. One thing she did say to me was that when I got ready to leave the A he would put a lot of obstacles in my way. Lately he has been staying home all the time. I want to go through all my stuff and get it organized.&nbs...	maresie2	4	512	Sep 7, 2006 by Tiger2006
	clarity needed (Preview) I've just found and joined your site. I'm having another bad night! Don't want to bore you all with the ins and outs but something's not sitting right with me and i can't put my finger on it. I've come to realise that I'm 50% responsible for the dynamics of my alcoholic marriage and there I'm stuck....	paula Q	5	363	Sep 7, 2006 by paula Q
	I finally did it!!!! (Preview) I gave 4 weeks notice at work!!!!!!!! God , what a relieve!!! I havent spoke about my job, so i put you into a picture. I work for hot tub company last 3 years. I loved it since day one, i had fantastic people around and work was always fun. About a year ago my boss stoped coming to the office and we had to deal...	daisy2	5	326	Sep 7, 2006 by daisy2
	Please say a prayer.... (Preview) Hi everyone: I just got a call from AH who has been unemployed for a while now and our financial situation is going downhill. He says he has a temporary printing position and the guy said it would be for a while, like a month or so. It is the graveyard shift, (who cares, ANYTHING is needed at...	hersh	8	335	Sep 7, 2006 by mel123
	i'm new to alanon (Preview) hi all, i am the mom to a 19 year old who is struggling in his recovery from alcohol and drugs. i've been attending naranon meetings and they have helped alot. i would like to find a new group that focuses more on the traditions and steps. i was thinking of trying a alanon meeting but i wasn't sure if i would b...	nj mom	9	457	Sep 7, 2006 by mel123
	a poem by mac (Preview) Fallen In the morning springtime air, A gentle breeze is blowing where Winter winds had rushed around the trees, And spun some to the ground. In the forest, autumn leaves, Fallen from the vibrant trees, With broken limbs that found no sun, Released from high, to e...	mac57	11	464	Sep 7, 2006 by mel123
	A semi-new cycle (Preview) Hi! So after Thursday & Friday of perfectly charming husband, he has slipped. I however, read, prayed, tried not to slip too bad. Stayed calm, did a lot of saying....Let Go Let God, and "quit interupting HP work".....Tonight when he called, I asked...."what are you doing?" his r...	marmare	5	344	Sep 6, 2006 by maresie2
	just need some support (Preview) i did something really stupid. i can't even justify it in my own head, that's how blatently stupid it was.i slept with my ex. no protection, which for me is about the dumbest thing i have ever done and that is saying alot. so, i'm scared. god only knows where he's been or who with. but all i can do about that i...	serendipity	5	381	Sep 6, 2006 by Christy
	Mac57???? (Preview) I got your email and I'm trying to reach you but my emails to you keep bouncing back! Please let me know if there is another way to find you. And ... thank you.	CastAway	1	305	Sep 6, 2006 by mac57
	2 A's and a 2 year Old (Preview) Just got back from Michigan from a VERY stressful weekend (4 days long) to visit my granddaughter who is two. I live in Ohio. The baby is my AH's son's girlfriend's baby, but I couldn't love her more if she were my own flesh and blood. We went camping. OMG. My AH acted like a je...	Becky1	4	427	Sep 6, 2006 by peewee
	non stop dramarama (Preview) Well the A sulked all weekend then went on a mini binge. He did zero around the house nothing. Then he started drinking smoking and using (I think it was marjuana). I detached detached detached working on plan b, and kept on working. Today he is supposedly back at work and says he doesn't...	maresie2	5	564	Sep 6, 2006 by twinmom2
	What else can happen????? (Preview) HAVEN'T POSTED IN A WHILE. TRYING TO TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME WITH EX/ABF. As I found out he was cheating! Confronted her,(she was very nice and realized he was using both of us) then confronted him (denied everything and turned it all on me) then I told myself I had closed another chapter in my...	sisdragonfly1957	4	442	Sep 6, 2006 by hersh
	now I'm confused! (Preview) Hello So, my A/C-addicted hubby was served with divorce papers yesterday. Not the reaction I was expecting. He came home in a cocaine-induced mood (which is his only GOOD mood). He was rather pleasant about the whole thing. Told me I was justified. He was at fault, he screwed up, he'll do what...	artygirl	3	311	Sep 6, 2006 by hersh
	Terrified, please help. (Preview) I am so overwhelmed right now. I just don't know what to do. My father gave up on me, he just signed off. While it's relieving that court is over, I'm hurt that it was that easy for him to just forget about me. The guy I love, told me that he loves another girl more than he could ever love me, my brothers leave fo...	Miranda	12	538	Sep 6, 2006 by hersh
	Business Meeting (Preview) Business Meeting, Tonight at 7pm est. Hope to see you there. kerry	kerry5	0	262	Sep 6, 2006 by kerry5
	Walking through the fear..... (Preview) (((Hi everyone))): After another crisis situation with AH, I sank into a horrible depression last week. I snapped out of it and I have been reading a lot, going to a lot of face to face meetings and getting out of my isolation. The roller coaster is not ending soon it seems. What I have r...	hersh	3	442	Sep 6, 2006 by Gailey
	My family pictures (Preview)     &...	Jeannie	5	385	Sep 6, 2006 by Karilynn
	Miracles (Preview) Hi Roomies, Miracles are things that have no earthly explanation. We see a line of daffodils turned toward the sun in the afternoon light, see the blue sky above us all day, gumdrop sparkling stars all night, with no sense of wonder? We casually notice animals, insects, clouds, ocean...	mac57	12	627	Sep 6, 2006 by ET
	What else can I do to get away? (Preview) Just great I spent the last 15 to 30 minutes writing a post. The computer decided to do something wierd and everything dissappeared. Here I go again. Not as long this time. I will just recap last nite. I got home around 9pm. I see that my A, Tina had gotten the truck running.( She was suppose to wait for my...	hmrnrnmm	4	311	Sep 5, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Jealousy (Preview) It was a heartfelt weekend for me. I had a great talk with my A this weekend. Don't know what will be the outcome of it only my HP knows for sure. I can say this much, I am really enjoying who I am becoming. I realize there is a life outside my house. I thank my HP everyday for showing my how to break-free from all...	DoN4me	3	336	Sep 5, 2006 by maresie2
	Help I was out of control (Preview) I am so unfamiliar with this anger. It comes on me BOOM. I am left to repent, but how do I avoid it in the first place? Any advice is welcome. thank you Jill	Jill	5	483	Sep 5, 2006 by Jill
	Let the chips fall where they may (Preview) (((Hello Group))) Its been an emotional weekend and holiday for me. Things at home have not really gotten better in fact for me they got worse. My A's attitude towards me all week was defensive and negative. I did my best to tune it out and continue with my recovery and taking care...	twinmom2	3	478	Sep 5, 2006 by Tiger2006
	dropping the bomb (Preview) Hello Today's the big day. The attorney is serving my A/cocaine-addicted husband with divorce papers. I'm a bit concerned about his reaction and possible retalliation. I just hope he doesn't come into the house when I'm not here and take things that he shouldn't... or break things. I don't...	artygirl	5	329	Sep 5, 2006 by hersh
	giving up trying to get him to do... (Preview) This past week we got a notice on the yard that it had to be weeded and trimmed up. The A did 5 minutes of it then declared the mower is broken. Keep in mind that he says that the weed trimmer(2 of them) another mower and now this mower given to us by the landlord are all broken. And he has umpteen excuses why he c...	maresie2	4	468	Sep 5, 2006 by maresie2
	what is the difference between being a doormat & not fighting? (Preview) GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I have not felt totally good for the last couple of days. My back & hip are so stiff nothing is working much. I am just going on as usual. I had an appt today and of course it is a good thing I took my A along. She had to fill out paperwork too. We had a bunch of clothes to donate. I do be...	hmrnrnmm	7	672	Sep 5, 2006 by Tiger2006
	No Faith in a HP (Preview) This is driving me totally crazy. I feel like there is something wrong with me. Why can’t I get a true faith or trust in a HP? I see the coincidences and burning bushes. I do believe that there is some form of a power... a higher power that must be guiding this world. There is so much beauty and incredi...	sandie123	14	667	Sep 5, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Thankfully, holiday weekend over (Preview) I will be so happy to see this long weekend end. No good comes of long holiday weekends for us. The problem isn't drinking today...it is not drinking. Once again my son has decided he has had enough of the alcohol and says he is finished. I say "when polar bears live in trees"....not to him, of course. I hav...	omajoy	3	463	Sep 5, 2006 by Tiger2006
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