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twinmom2 · twinmom2

If you have always been afraid of change then making changes doesn't feel so wonderful. I am a creature of habit. I don't like change. Even as a child going to the next grade level gave me anxiety because it was a new teacher, new kids, etc. My AH has always been in constant chan...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

It's funny how much things have changed since I first came here. I have known for many years that even when it seems like the end of the world things get better and life goes on usually for the better. I have been genuinely happy lately. I don't think about my AH nearly so much any more d...

hudsond · hudsond

Hello to all!! You were missed, but I've been very busy and for the most part had a wonderful time! We had a safe trip up to New Jersey and back, we had a great time with my family--yes I think even my husband can say that! We went to New York City and saw the sights--oh I didn't think my legs wou...

Spiritually Calm · Spiritually Calm

I'm really struggling right now with why on earth I put myself and my son through this mind game ... the mind game of alcoholism. It's never easy, there's nothing simple about it. Right now, I can't understand why I spend the time trying to stay one step ahead of the game, always having to th...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) I haven't posted much over the holiday week. I have been off and mostly hit the boards from my office, so it's been tough to get on. All and all the holidays have been a blessing. The kids and I have had a great time, but Mom (my AW) is a whole different story. I calle...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I have a question. I live in a home that is in my husbands name. If I file for divorce and he refuses to sell and would rather have it taken (foreclosed) can I do anything to take ownership since he is an alcoholic? Anyone had this issue? My husband uses financial control over me, just wondering what you t...

Rebecca · Rebecca

"Anyway, when I started to think clearly, when I put my needs first, when I realized I was grieving for something that didn’t exist, I was able to let go. A friend put it very succinctly to me when he said: “you mean you are afraid to let go of something that you d...

Rebecca · Rebecca

anyone see or hear from Twinmom lately? i havent seen a post from her in a while, since she got married actually..... .hope she is o.k. anyone hear from her?

marmare · marmare

Has anyone heard from Dolphin?

Rose · Rose

thank you for responding to my "New Here" message as well as everyone else. I just wanted to write you since you since you also have 3 1/2 yr old twins. I just don't want my son to experience this anymore. i hate that fact that he hears us argue about As' drinking. He even has asked my A recently, what happe...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Gaaaa! I'm applying to graduate school! You'd think it was Harvard. You'd think I was going to MIT. You'd think I was packing up my things and moving half way across the world to the University of Timbuktu. But no. Wright State. School of Graduate Studies. Colle...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Thank you, I just got another offer for that G company the Christain guy who wanted to hire me away from M and G. Listen, I want you back. I am making the effort not to date anyone because my sponcer says I shouldn't. You have to tell me what you want. Because I know you are trying to get dates onlin...

kissers · kissers

I've been friends with someone since high school. A couple years ago, she hit bottom with her alcoholism. I remember all the blaming I was given by deciding to end the friendship because of the many broken promises. She had introduced me to someone years ago and we started dating. He would constantly b...

renah · renah

So I have been relieved that AH has not been drinking but I find that I am still angry and frightened whether he is or isn't. If he is eating loudly I feel angry at his eating loudly. I blame the irritation on him but I need to take a look at myself. (Although it seems...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hello MIP, I am not having a good day.Maybe this is alanon related,maybe not.I just need to reach out.I need to know that I really do exist somewhere for someone.My AH,soon to be ex, would say I am feeling sorry for myself.Maybe I am.But I say I am facing a reality about my life that I have b...

kclady · kclady

I just wanted to tell all of you how much you are helping me with your es&h. I am a long time member of alanon but I have been away for several years. I am reading your posts and I am so glad that I came here. You are ALL beautiful to me.

Raven · Raven

Hello Everyone! For some unknown reason I am unable to enter the chatroom, no matter what way I try to come in. This is working for me, so I thought I would let you all know I am still around, trying patiently to get into the room. I miss you all! If anyone knows how I can get into chat it would b...

lilms · lilms

Hi, This may seem like a silly question but I have seen enough of this in the last bit to wonder. The A in my life smokes an enormous amount of pot. I would say anywhere in between 8 and 12 times a day. Even when she does not drink or is trying to quit drinking she still continues to smoke up bu...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((Family)))))))), Happy New Year! We had a great online meeting this morning. It got me thinking about what we want to do for ourselves this year. Now I'm not talking about working our program, getting healthier etc. Don't get me wrong these are all great things to do. What I am ta...

lilms · lilms

Diva, Do I need to say more?????

lilms

FairyTales · FairyTales

I know that I have spent way too much time on this over the weekend and took the focus off of myself but I just don't know what to do. I got off early on Friday before my husband. Well, I was on the phone about my internet with comcast so my husband called me on my cell phone and ask where I was at.&n...

jennifer9 · jennifer9

I feel hopeless right now and was wondering what to do. I'm recently separated from my A. It's been a long road and through a year of al-anon I've managed to try and treat him with respect and kindness and I've let go of most of the anger. I'm obviously not perfect in this area, but there has been a huge chang...

debilyn · debilyn

I am struggling to keep my home. I am at the point where i am thinking about what I plan to do. decided since my last learning experience I am in a new chapter of my life. I have to find who i am again and what I really want. Been experiencing things I am tired of. When I depend on me I am much happier. When I don'...

debilyn · debilyn

Now my son has gone bonkers. He is bi polar. The last two days he has called and been awful. Sounding so like the A when he emotionally abused me. When he called last night I was shocked how awful he was. Does not cuss much but any is too much for me. I won't go into it. I immediately told my self it is his dis...

mgeneralpatton · mgeneralpatton

I am brand new into Alanon I haven't even went to my first meeting yet I actually went to an AA meeting with my husband and was approached by two different women about Alanon so I decided I would try it out. My problem is that I am having a very hard time right now with my husband being in jail and my family diso...

serendipity · serendipity

i haven't spoken to my ex inlaws in years now. i saw my sil and mil on christmas eve but i didn't speak to them nor they to me and i was fine with that. i actually let it go and really didn't give them any thought at all which is huge progress for me. but my ex sil called the other day and left a message for me to call...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I found a meeting, tomorrow night at 7:00, I can walk to it (about a mile, but I love to walk). I don't want my H to know about it. Is that normal? To tell the truth, I've been terrified that we would find these posts, I even had a nightmare about it. I just feel like I have been so broken down that I need to rebuil...

Jill · Jill

Today begins the second Year of Jill, 2 of 7. I wrote about this a year ago. I realized all our attention had been on my active A husband for the 7 years we’d known each other, and I claimed the next 7 for myself. It’s not easy! I have his complete agreement. He has written me two songs for the Year of Jill, and w...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I want to share with you all the miracles that are happening in my life. The following was sent to me by a member of the group I chair at our church. She came into the group saying that she did not believe in God. I told her that she didn't have to and for the time being she could use mine as h...

abryann · abryann

I am new to the program. My boyfriend is my A. I'm trying to learn how to stop enabling him, so I'm reading a ton of stuff. So many things I'm reading say not to let the A drive when under the influence. This morning about 3 am, my boyfriend came to bed, obviously drunk. When our alarm went off at...

lmw · lmw

Happy New Year (almost). I just got off the phone with the police. My AH was taken to the hospital by ambulance a short time ago. When he sobers up, he'll be charged with DUI again. After hitting a telephone pole and bouncing off a parked car, he made it home, only to pass out in the dr...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Language can be a fascinating thing. One single word can have so many different meanings depending on how it is said, who is reading it, what context it is used in, and so on. One word can be positive to one person, yet negative to another. Why do you suppose that is? I rather suspect it has to do with our own...

Fifi · Fifi

happy new year everyone for me i think this year is truly going to be new...me focusing on new ways of handling my emotions,my relationships,new ways of reaching out for the help i need, new ways of trusting myself and being wrecked by the momentary difficulties, new ways of saying no and knowing t...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

After our last blowout my husband made an effort not to drink (it lasted about 36 hours). What stood out for me were the other behaviors that hte alcohol covered up. We have been married for ten years and there has always been something semi-destrucive he was engulfed in. We've had issues with pornogra...

mmerlino · mmerlino

A friend in recovery just gave this to me. Thought it would be a great way to start the New Year and Day for All Please enjoy and have a Wonderful New Year!! This is from a daily affirmation book: Today I have a fresh start. I choose to begin a new letting go of un...

Christy · Christy

(((Family))) I'm asking for extra prayers for my nephew Joey, he is my husband's oldest sister's boy. He is in critical condition at this time. After begging for his life and telling the robber he had 3 kids and a wife, when he turned around to get the money the *&*^%#^&** shot him in the back. Then...

lilms · lilms

I went to a funeral on Saturday. So much has been stuck in my head since. Was this person an A? I don't know. I do know that he died alone, and that he was dead for almost 3 days before anyone found him. I do know that he drank what I consider too much but I think my opinion may be ske...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was off work for a good long time for the holiday and haven't been on lately. I just wanted to give an update. I haven't been to f2f meetings lately I'm just really not excited by the group here and there are no others nearby. The A came over for xmas and stayed two nights. When I...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, happy new year...new beginnings! I left my Abf a few weeks ago. I had no choice, his drinking was getting worse and worse. I had to get away and have now severed all ties. He's stopped calling anyway, and stopped pretending we could be friends. I suppose we tried to remain friends so as t...

meagain · meagain

I was wondering if all people were a bit worried because it is New Years Eve-and all the drinking etc. I hope and pray no one is killed by drunken drivers and everyone is safe. Does anyone else have abit of apprehension about tonite?

jaja · jaja

Did I do the wrong thing? I decided I wanted to make this year different than this by opening up a disussion with my A about what's been going on with us these past 3 mos. I did not intend to have a big disussion really - I just wanted to open the door so we can deal with it little by little si...

jewely · jewely

december the 30th 2006 will be marked in the annals of history as the day i LOL. today will be marked as the day COL [cried out loud] neither is done very often. maybe never. we had an incident here today and i did cry out loud. he asked me sarcastically "what is the point"? i replied, "the point i...

ragingchild · ragingchild

I came here Sept/Oct of 2005 a wreck and felt alone and confused. Once I stumbled upon this wonderful population of people like me, I didn't feel alone anymore. I came here with hard earned knowledge of what alcohol can do and came equipped with emotional scars and still gaping wou...

nmike · nmike

I started formulating a plan for myself. It has been 2 years since my AHsober said he was outta here and wanted a divorce. No papers filled as of yet. He threatens and I think that that is part of his game. He lies, withholds info, forgets, won't introduce me to his new friends, and has made some really poor...

Divinity · Divinity

Hi, This is my first time posting on here. I've been with my husband for 9 yrs. We have 2 children together and he has 2 from a previous relationship. When I met him, he was 28 and an active alcoholic. We would go out together in the beginning and I would drink with him. I...

tea2 · tea2

I was thought I would share something positive with you, some of my experience, strength and *hope that I am now reflecting on. I feel this it is part of my healing by being able to do so after my last vent update here. My son turned 17 December 4th. I will gloat a bit too with this – I admit I have a knack for giv...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I reposted to my post a bit back about my A supposed to be having his sister come get him. She never came. My therapist is telling me not to call his sisters back to get him unless I like the drama. I want him out. I need to find a way. When he goes back to work, he said if the door was locked he would beat it down. Ma...

nycbt · nycbt

For New years eve me and my husband spent are time inside watching the ball drop. He has been sober since the summer which life has been great. But it hasn't always been that way, there have been some new years eve that he was so drunk I end up leaving him and going to my friends house and stayed over night bec...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

Since today is Jan 1st, I have decided to take an Internet break from both this board and the chatroom, which at times I find to be addictive and think it best from my mental and emotional as well as physical health to not spend so much time with my head in front of the computer and not being productive in oth...

lmt123 · lmt123

Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy New Year, and wonderful blessings as well. It's hard to type because I punctured my pointer finger Friday with a piece of sharp wood on the tip...sigh...lol. It's looks like it is festering, so I will keep an eye on it. Anyway, I'...

ednaxray · ednaxray

one day last spring i got out of the room..and decided for my mental health..i couldnt come back for awhile. i was tormented..i was loosing sleep, and finding myself pissed ..half the times i came ..and not caring for myself well... looking at a bad mole on my neck wondering if i had cancer...

nycbt · nycbt

Hi everyone I would like to wish everyone a happy new year. Just want you guys to rember that we no longer are alone that we are a family and that we have each other. I know some of you don't think you have someone right now, but you do you have the people here on line. don't forget about us. When you feel lone...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

You know this is so weird, but I attached a pic on my very last post of Aisian cops trying to chase an ostrich down with their motorcycles. Here is the pic again, but now as I think of it, it seems like that relates to an al-anon trying to MAKE the A get sober. Sheesh. God has a sense of humor, huh? Stuff lik...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

God! what a night! Having an A in a relationship is a rollercoaster ride to Hell and back. An endless rush of good and bad emotions that leaves us feeling like we have been run over by a dumptruck, catterpillar, then steamroller, with a fresh coating of hot tar. I know that probably didn't make sense bu...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

The following prayer was not made up by me. It is from one of my inspirational books I choose to remain anonymous. It has many different kinds of prayers for different subjects and situations, and it helps me. I am only posting this in hopes that it might touch someone out there who is struggling too. And...

mel123 · mel123

First off I'd like to wish everyone a Happy New Year! I've been coming to this site for over a year now, and it has truly been a blessing, along with my faith in God. My son, who is now 20, struggled with drugs and alcohol. He signed himself into a traditional inpatient rehab. program f...

bear · bear

Just a silly question what is ES&H ?????? Have been reading it loads here and still not worked it out! Thank you xx

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Has anyone ever found it helpful to them in Al-anon to read the AA big Book?

Rebecca · Rebecca

Family i came online last night at 2a.m (irish time) when i was at my lowest. After a really crap and emotionally draining day thanks to my ex-boyf the "A". after a short and brief few days of chatting and trying to reconcile our differances, he had done 2 mths intense rehab and counselling, he has sw...

Cilla · Cilla

So sorry that I haven't been on lately. I just moved last month and between unpacking and having my thyroid do another dive on me, my mind has been scattered. Here are the details for the 12 Step Senerity Weekend.... my hope is to be there but am not sure if I'm will c...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Making Changes (Preview) If you have always been afraid of change then making changes doesn't feel so wonderful. I am a creature of habit. I don't like change. Even as a child going to the next grade level gave me anxiety because it was a new teacher, new kids, etc. My AH has always been in constant chan...	twinmom2	2	412	Jan 4, 2007 by david62
	I feel so much better (Preview) It's funny how much things have changed since I first came here. I have known for many years that even when it seems like the end of the world things get better and life goes on usually for the better. I have been genuinely happy lately. I don't think about my AH nearly so much any more d...	carolinagirl	4	385	Jan 4, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Back from trip and ready to go (Preview) Hello to all!! You were missed, but I've been very busy and for the most part had a wonderful time! We had a safe trip up to New Jersey and back, we had a great time with my family--yes I think even my husband can say that! We went to New York City and saw the sights--oh I didn't think my legs wou...	hudsond	4	417	Jan 3, 2007 by CJ
	Remind me why we do this? (Preview) I'm really struggling right now with why on earth I put myself and my son through this mind game ... the mind game of alcoholism. It's never easy, there's nothing simple about it. Right now, I can't understand why I spend the time trying to stay one step ahead of the game, always having to th...	Spiritually Calm	6	805	Jan 3, 2007 by nmike
	She understands now... and it breaks my heart. (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) I haven't posted much over the holiday week. I have been off and mostly hit the boards from my office, so it's been tough to get on. All and all the holidays have been a blessing. The kids and I have had a great time, but Mom (my AW) is a whole different story. I calle...	rtexas	11	746	Jan 3, 2007 by Becky1
	Sueing a spouse? (Preview) I have a question. I live in a home that is in my husbands name. If I file for divorce and he refuses to sell and would rather have it taken (foreclosed) can I do anything to take ownership since he is an alcoholic? Anyone had this issue? My husband uses financial control over me, just wondering what you t...	Friendofyours	9	657	Jan 3, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Agree 100% wit Ditto (Preview) "Anyway, when I started to think clearly, when I put my needs first, when I realized I was grieving for something that didn’t exist, I was able to let go. A friend put it very succinctly to me when he said: “you mean you are afraid to let go of something that you d...	Rebecca	1	332	Jan 3, 2007 by ditto
	Missing Persons...... (Preview) anyone see or hear from Twinmom lately? i havent seen a post from her in a while, since she got married actually..... .hope she is o.k. anyone hear from her?	Rebecca	3	478	Jan 3, 2007 by twinmom2
	Dolphin? (Preview) Has anyone heard from Dolphin?	marmare	1	371	Jan 3, 2007 by shadow1
	twinmom2 ?? (Preview) thank you for responding to my "New Here" message as well as everyone else. I just wanted to write you since you since you also have 3 1/2 yr old twins. I just don't want my son to experience this anymore. i hate that fact that he hears us argue about As' drinking. He even has asked my A recently, what happe...	Rose	4	409	Jan 3, 2007 by Rose
	Gaaa! I'm applying to graduate school! (Preview) Gaaaa! I'm applying to graduate school! You'd think it was Harvard. You'd think I was going to MIT. You'd think I was packing up my things and moving half way across the world to the University of Timbuktu. But no. Wright State. School of Graduate Studies. Colle...	Tiger2006	16	607	Jan 3, 2007 by rtexas
	Email from A...ERRRRRRRRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!! (Preview) Thank you, I just got another offer for that G company the Christain guy who wanted to hire me away from M and G. Listen, I want you back. I am making the effort not to date anyone because my sponcer says I shouldn't. You have to tell me what you want. Because I know you are trying to get dates onlin...	carolinagirl	8	641	Jan 3, 2007 by marmare
	Looking at friendships that harm me (Preview) I've been friends with someone since high school. A couple years ago, she hit bottom with her alcoholism. I remember all the blaming I was given by deciding to end the friendship because of the many broken promises. She had introduced me to someone years ago and we started dating. He would constantly b...	kissers	3	516	Jan 3, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Not Drinking and I am still angry (Preview) So I have been relieved that AH has not been drinking but I find that I am still angry and frightened whether he is or isn't. If he is eating loudly I feel angry at his eating loudly. I blame the irritation on him but I need to take a look at myself. (Although it seems...	renah	5	569	Jan 3, 2007 by Tiger2006
	don't read this because I don't exist (Preview) Hello MIP, I am not having a good day.Maybe this is alanon related,maybe not.I just need to reach out.I need to know that I really do exist somewhere for someone.My AH,soon to be ex, would say I am feeling sorry for myself.Maybe I am.But I say I am facing a reality about my life that I have b...	drucilla06	25	958	Jan 3, 2007 by hudsond
	Your experience, strength and hope. (Preview) I just wanted to tell all of you how much you are helping me with your es&h. I am a long time member of alanon but I have been away for several years. I am reading your posts and I am so glad that I came here. You are ALL beautiful to me.	kclady	4	412	Jan 3, 2007 by twinmom2
	Hello! (Preview) Hello Everyone! For some unknown reason I am unable to enter the chatroom, no matter what way I try to come in. This is working for me, so I thought I would let you all know I am still around, trying patiently to get into the room. I miss you all! If anyone knows how I can get into chat it would b...	Raven	22	1134	Jan 3, 2007 by elzbeth
	Question for the double winners (Preview) Hi, This may seem like a silly question but I have seen enough of this in the last bit to wonder. The A in my life smokes an enormous amount of pot. I would say anywhere in between 8 and 12 times a day. Even when she does not drink or is trying to quit drinking she still continues to smoke up bu...	lilms	7	723	Jan 3, 2007 by nmike
	Reconnecting with oneself (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))), Happy New Year! We had a great online meeting this morning. It got me thinking about what we want to do for ourselves this year. Now I'm not talking about working our program, getting healthier etc. Don't get me wrong these are all great things to do. What I am ta...	Karilynn	5	659	Jan 3, 2007 by nmike
	FOR DIVA (Preview) Diva, Do I need to say more????? lilms	lilms	1	381	Jan 3, 2007 by debilyn
	I'm not sure what to do (Preview) I know that I have spent way too much time on this over the weekend and took the focus off of myself but I just don't know what to do. I got off early on Friday before my husband. Well, I was on the phone about my internet with comcast so my husband called me on my cell phone and ask where I was at.&n...	FairyTales	8	581	Jan 3, 2007 by debilyn
	Dilemma (Preview) I feel hopeless right now and was wondering what to do. I'm recently separated from my A. It's been a long road and through a year of al-anon I've managed to try and treat him with respect and kindness and I've let go of most of the anger. I'm obviously not perfect in this area, but there has been a huge chang...	jennifer9	8	477	Jan 2, 2007 by CJ
	talking out loud about an alanoner coming alive (Preview) I am struggling to keep my home. I am at the point where i am thinking about what I plan to do. decided since my last learning experience I am in a new chapter of my life. I have to find who i am again and what I really want. Been experiencing things I am tired of. When I depend on me I am much happier. When I don'...	debilyn	12	672	Jan 2, 2007 by debilyn
	abusive son (Preview) Now my son has gone bonkers. He is bi polar. The last two days he has called and been awful. Sounding so like the A when he emotionally abused me. When he called last night I was shocked how awful he was. Does not cuss much but any is too much for me. I won't go into it. I immediately told my self it is his dis...	debilyn	9	565	Jan 2, 2007 by debilyn
	Inlaws who needs 'em (Preview) I am brand new into Alanon I haven't even went to my first meeting yet I actually went to an AA meeting with my husband and was approached by two different women about Alanon so I decided I would try it out. My problem is that I am having a very hard time right now with my husband being in jail and my family diso...	mgeneralpatton	7	483	Jan 2, 2007 by lin0606
	hp knows when i'm ready (Preview) i haven't spoken to my ex inlaws in years now. i saw my sil and mil on christmas eve but i didn't speak to them nor they to me and i was fine with that. i actually let it go and really didn't give them any thought at all which is huge progress for me. but my ex sil called the other day and left a message for me to call...	serendipity	3	413	Jan 2, 2007 by Christy
	Found a meeting (Preview) I found a meeting, tomorrow night at 7:00, I can walk to it (about a mile, but I love to walk). I don't want my H to know about it. Is that normal? To tell the truth, I've been terrified that we would find these posts, I even had a nightmare about it. I just feel like I have been so broken down that I need to rebuil...	RainyJamie	5	498	Jan 2, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Year 2 of the Year of Me (Preview) Today begins the second Year of Jill, 2 of 7. I wrote about this a year ago. I realized all our attention had been on my active A husband for the 7 years we’d known each other, and I claimed the next 7 for myself. It’s not easy! I have his complete agreement. He has written me two songs for the Year of Jill, and w...	Jill	5	454	Jan 2, 2007 by Tammy
	A good share (Preview) I want to share with you all the miracles that are happening in my life. The following was sent to me by a member of the group I chair at our church. She came into the group saying that she did not believe in God. I told her that she didn't have to and for the time being she could use mine as h...	Mobirdie	0	389	Jan 2, 2007 by Mobirdie
	Am I doing the wrong thing? (Preview) I am new to the program. My boyfriend is my A. I'm trying to learn how to stop enabling him, so I'm reading a ton of stuff. So many things I'm reading say not to let the A drive when under the influence. This morning about 3 am, my boyfriend came to bed, obviously drunk. When our alarm went off at...	abryann	9	598	Jan 2, 2007 by CJ
	Another DUI - Happy New Year! (Preview) Happy New Year (almost). I just got off the phone with the police. My AH was taken to the hospital by ambulance a short time ago. When he sobers up, he'll be charged with DUI again. After hitting a telephone pole and bouncing off a parked car, he made it home, only to pass out in the dr...	lmw	9	617	Jan 2, 2007 by maresie2
	Words (how we see them) (Preview) Language can be a fascinating thing. One single word can have so many different meanings depending on how it is said, who is reading it, what context it is used in, and so on. One word can be positive to one person, yet negative to another. Why do you suppose that is? I rather suspect it has to do with our own...	kismetstrand	1	512	Jan 2, 2007 by barisax
	my mantra (Preview) happy new year everyone for me i think this year is truly going to be new...me focusing on new ways of handling my emotions,my relationships,new ways of reaching out for the help i need, new ways of trusting myself and being wrecked by the momentary difficulties, new ways of saying no and knowing t...	Fifi	9	644	Jan 2, 2007 by nycbt
	All the other addictions (Preview) After our last blowout my husband made an effort not to drink (it lasted about 36 hours). What stood out for me were the other behaviors that hte alcohol covered up. We have been married for ten years and there has always been something semi-destrucive he was engulfed in. We've had issues with pornogra...	RainyJamie	3	889	Jan 2, 2007 by nycbt
	Welcoming a new Day and a New year (Preview) *A friend in recovery just gave this to me. Thought it would be* *a great way to start the New Year and Day for All* *Please enjoy and have a Wonderful New Year!!* This is from a daily affirmation book: Today I have a fresh start. I choose to begin a new letting go of un...	mmerlino	1	569	Jan 2, 2007 by nycbt
	Prayers please? (Preview) (((Family))) I'm asking for extra prayers for my nephew Joey, he is my husband's oldest sister's boy. He is in critical condition at this time. After begging for his life and telling the robber he had 3 kids and a wife, when he turned around to get the money the &^%#^&** shot him in the back. Then...	Christy	35	1079	Jan 2, 2007 by Christy
	a funeral and a house fire (Preview) I went to a funeral on Saturday. So much has been stuck in my head since. Was this person an A? I don't know. I do know that he died alone, and that he was dead for almost 3 days before anyone found him. I do know that he drank what I consider too much but I think my opinion may be ske...	lilms	12	633	Jan 2, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Update (Preview) I was off work for a good long time for the holiday and haven't been on lately. I just wanted to give an update. I haven't been to f2f meetings lately I'm just really not excited by the group here and there are no others nearby. The A came over for xmas and stayed two nights. When I...	carolinagirl	1	380	Jan 2, 2007 by CJ
	new beginnings (Preview) Hi everyone, happy new year...new beginnings! I left my Abf a few weeks ago. I had no choice, his drinking was getting worse and worse. I had to get away and have now severed all ties. He's stopped calling anyway, and stopped pretending we could be friends. I suppose we tried to remain friends so as t...	annmarie	1	356	Jan 2, 2007 by MsgBo
	New Years Eve (Preview) I was wondering if all people were a bit worried because it is New Years Eve-and all the drinking etc. I hope and pray no one is killed by drunken drivers and everyone is safe. Does anyone else have abit of apprehension about tonite?	meagain	4	502	Jan 2, 2007 by nycbt
	I started the new year bringing up old stuff. Wrong? (Preview) Did I do the wrong thing? I decided I wanted to make this year different than this by opening up a disussion with my A about what's been going on with us these past 3 mos. I did not intend to have a big disussion really - I just wanted to open the door so we can deal with it little by little si...	jaja	1	373	Jan 2, 2007 by Mobirdie
	LOL...... History (Preview) december the 30th 2006 will be marked in the annals of history as the day i LOL. today will be marked as the day COL [cried out loud] neither is done very often. maybe never. we had an incident here today and i did cry out loud. he asked me sarcastically "what is the point"? i replied, "the point i...	jewely	2	379	Jan 2, 2007 by jewely
	One year and a few months ago..... (Preview) I came here Sept/Oct of 2005 a wreck and felt alone and confused. Once I stumbled upon this wonderful population of people like me, I didn't feel alone anymore. I came here with hard earned knowledge of what alcohol can do and came equipped with emotional scars and still gaping wou...	ragingchild	0	351	Jan 2, 2007 by ragingchild
	Taking a stand (Preview) I started formulating a plan for myself. It has been 2 years since my AHsober said he was outta here and wanted a divorce. No papers filled as of yet. He threatens and I think that that is part of his game. He lies, withholds info, forgets, won't introduce me to his new friends, and has made some really poor...	nmike	2	474	Jan 2, 2007 by CJ
	Want to talk to someone in similiar situation (Preview) Hi, This is my first time posting on here. I've been with my husband for 9 yrs. We have 2 children together and he has 2 from a previous relationship. When I met him, he was 28 and an active alcoholic. We would go out together in the beginning and I would drink with him. I...	Divinity	6	458	Jan 2, 2007 by lmw
	Lesson on Living, Loving and Growing (Preview) I was thought I would share something positive with you, some of my experience, strength and *hope that I am now reflecting on. I feel this it is part of my healing by being able to do so after my last vent update here. My son turned 17 December 4th. I will gloat a bit too with this – I admit I have a knack for giv...	tea2	10	729	Jan 1, 2007 by tea2
	To clarify about my A and I--need some help on how to fix it. (Preview) I reposted to my post a bit back about my A supposed to be having his sister come get him. She never came. My therapist is telling me not to call his sisters back to get him unless I like the drama. I want him out. I need to find a way. When he goes back to work, he said if the door was locked he would beat it down. Ma...	hippietrippiechick	1	470	Jan 1, 2007 by debilyn
	MY NEW YEAR (Preview) For New years eve me and my husband spent are time inside watching the ball drop. He has been sober since the summer which life has been great. But it hasn't always been that way, there have been some new years eve that he was so drunk I end up leaving him and going to my friends house and stayed over night bec...	nycbt	3	359	Jan 1, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Taking a break from here (Preview) Since today is Jan 1st, I have decided to take an Internet break from both this board and the chatroom, which at times I find to be addictive and think it best from my mental and emotional as well as physical health to not spend so much time with my head in front of the computer and not being productive in oth...	DanaAngel	1	449	Jan 1, 2007 by peewee
	HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! BLESSINGS TO YOU ALL... (Preview) Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy New Year, and wonderful blessings as well. It's hard to type because I punctured my pointer finger Friday with a piece of sharp wood on the tip...sigh...lol. It's looks like it is festering, so I will keep an eye on it. Anyway, I'...	lmt123	2	347	Jan 1, 2007 by Karilynn
	amends, or however you spell it.. (Preview) one day last spring i got out of the room..and decided for my mental health..i couldnt come back for awhile. i was tormented..i was loosing sleep, and finding myself pissed ..half the times i came ..and not caring for myself well... looking at a bad mole on my neck wondering if i had cancer...	ednaxray	13	1254	Jan 1, 2007 by lovette
	HAPPY NEW YEAR (Preview) Hi everyone I would like to wish everyone a happy new year. Just want you guys to rember that we no longer are alone that we are a family and that we have each other. I know some of you don't think you have someone right now, but you do you have the people here on line. don't forget about us. When you feel lone...	nycbt	0	317	Jan 1, 2007 by nycbt
	Funny analogy I just thought up about us and the A (Preview) You know this is so weird, but I attached a pic on my very last post of Aisian cops trying to chase an ostrich down with their motorcycles. Here is the pic again, but now as I think of it, it seems like that relates to an al-anon trying to MAKE the A get sober. Sheesh. God has a sense of humor, huh? Stuff lik...	hippietrippiechick	4	404	Jan 1, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	I think my A is finally going to go to bed (Preview) God! what a night! Having an A in a relationship is a rollercoaster ride to Hell and back. An endless rush of good and bad emotions that leaves us feeling like we have been run over by a dumptruck, catterpillar, then steamroller, with a fresh coating of hot tar. I know that probably didn't make sense bu...	hippietrippiechick	3	383	Jan 1, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Prayer for New Beginnings--from one of my inspirational prayer books (Preview) The following prayer was not made up by me. It is from one of my inspirational books I choose to remain anonymous. It has many different kinds of prayers for different subjects and situations, and it helps me. I am only posting this in hopes that it might touch someone out there who is struggling too. And...	hippietrippiechick	2	888	Jan 1, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	What a difference a year makes..... (Preview) First off I'd like to wish everyone a Happy New Year! I've been coming to this site for over a year now, and it has truly been a blessing, along with my faith in God. My son, who is now 20, struggled with drugs and alcohol. He signed himself into a traditional inpatient rehab. program f...	mel123	5	553	Jan 1, 2007 by mel123
	ES&H (Preview) Just a silly question what is ES&H ?????? Have been reading it loads here and still not worked it out! Thank you xx	bear	7	547	Jan 1, 2007 by artygirl
	I HAVE A QUESTION on other conference approved literature-- (Preview) Has anyone ever found it helpful to them in Al-anon to read the AA big Book?	hippietrippiechick	8	387	Jan 1, 2007 by lin0606
	A new ME is needed for a NEW Year (Preview) Family i came online last night at 2a.m (irish time) when i was at my lowest. After a really crap and emotionally draining day thanks to my ex-boyf the "A". after a short and brief few days of chatting and trying to reconcile our differances, he had done 2 mths intense rehab and counselling, he has sw...	Rebecca	0	363	Jan 1, 2007 by Rebecca
	12 Step Weekend - Oberlin Ohio (Preview) So sorry that I haven't been on lately. I just moved last month and between unpacking and having my thyroid do another dive on me, my mind has been scattered. Here are the details for the 12 Step Senerity Weekend.... my hope is to be there but am not sure if I'm will c...	Cilla	0	1370	Jan 1, 2007 by Cilla
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