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Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I haven't been on here for a long time. I guess it is because most everything is the same as it was the last time I posted.The one exception is that my marriage is improving. I guess we have both been mellowing out as my husband says. He is definitely an alcoholic so he is my qualifier. I know there are people...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

The funny thing about natural consequences is I don't have to dictate how this will roll out. Boy is feeling the discomfort of his choices which pretty much sucks to be him at the moment. He burned his nose on the inside from all of the vomiting so he had that smell stay with him .. he also came to the real...

JerryF · JerryF

I had an opportunity to remember tools in my program which really helps still and for which I feel deep gratitude. The one I remembered and reused this afternoon was "What was your part in it"? The first time I was given that it ticked me off because it diffused the blame I was using and then brought it...

Freetime · Freetime

Working on Step 4, the writer was frustrated about being asked to recognize their own positive qualities. Positive qualities had not made their life unmanageable, so why bother with them? A sponsor helped the writer see that refusing to look at positive qualities is damaging to self-esteem; it all...

Iamhere · Iamhere

The reading for tomorrow in Courage to Change discusses how we learn in Al-Anon that our well-being cannot depend upon whether or not an alcoholic drinks or gets sober. The alcoholic's behavior is not a reflection of us, it's a reflection of their disease. What is a reflection of us is our own behavio...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hi everyone!!! Its been a while, with house cleaning, deep cleaning, painting, fixing up, vintage furniture finds to make my place look more like what I want.... AND its been hectic in the work place....I have been doing a LOT of steps 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 with my higher power...yes, I said Higher power...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about sponsorship. The author shares that when they were first asked to sponsor someone, they were not sure they had anything to give. But then, they remembered that sponsoring isn't about saving anyone else, it is about being a helper, showing through action...

Sorcha · Sorcha

Hi everyone hope you are all keeping well, I haven't posted in a while. The question I want to ask is not about an alcoholic though I know now that I'm coming at it from someone who has been affected by the disease and actually so has the other person been more than likely. Also, as some of you will know the al...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 7 has been posted to the Step Work Board The link is below Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Please join in and share your thoughts . Here is link to the...

Connection · Connection

I would like to hear from others who are or were married to an alcoholic. What did you find the most challenging? What helped you decide to stay or go?

mamalioness · mamalioness

the 12 step prayer book goes into expectations often times I would have unrealistic expectations and end up disappointed and bitter now I ask me. Is this expectation realistic?? Doable under my capabilities?? If it is reasonable, my HP will give me the power and resources to do it the serenity pray...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for June 26 refers to the spiritual awakening which is discussed in step 12. This spiritual awakening is a realization that we are not alone and helpless. We have accepted and learned certain truths that we are now able to carry to others. The reading suggests that we keep ourselves o...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

UGH ... so I am going into work late today as my youngest is drunk as a skunk and stinks just as bad ... thankfully the puking is left at his friends house and not mine. His friend is more than welcome to come here ... we will be having a discussion with both boys about boundaries, drinking and drugs .. they a...

JerryF · JerryF

Been trying to get on the board for a week and so but have been told my time here has expired and I need to reregister but no allowed to reregister. Guess I will stand out in the hallway and just listen and pray. I've done that before also. I am not computer perfect...Bleah!!

joker · joker

After a lot of agonizing thinking I have decided to sell the house that my ex-alcoholic Bf and I own. He has moved 14 hours away to start a new life and I am here still at the house. I thought of everything and I am done with him and the house and I am ready to move forward with my life. I told him of my decision and...

WestMan · WestMan

I haven't posted on here for some time. For one thing just too busy with kids out of school new job, and trying to sell the house and moving. This seems to be a really low point among those points for me. I don't know if it's just been too much stress or what. But I find myself just being so thin-skinned and raw...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I thought if I separated myself from the alcoholics and drug addicts in my life, my "issues" would be in the past...I didn't realize that there was more to this disease then the yea, I dont' have to call in sick and make up excuses for a hung over ExAH, and no more cleaning up messy bathrooms because he dra...

Jayla · Jayla

If so, how do I send a private message to ask? I am on a mobile device but could get on a computer if that is required. P.S. Iâm not asking my local group bc the people currently running it have not done the steps and they ran off all of the experienced leaders with their gossip and backstabbing. So the local g...

JerryF · JerryF

I wondered if that would work....LOL

Lyne · Lyne

Character Defects: The writer speaks of becoming entirely ready for God to remove her defects of character, Step 6. She talks about the hours of wasted time focusing on self-pity. She could not grow or move forward stuck in this thinking. She says her HP removes her defects by helping her see them...

a4l · a4l

Today I am grateful for an able body and able mind. I am grateful for the coffee in my hand and the solid as a boulder coffee machine I insisted on bringing here lol. I am truly grateful for my sobriety. It's not always easy but I can say at the least I'm facing life honestly. Honesty might not count for m...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the part of tradition five that states: ...encouraging and understanding our alcoholic relatives. The writer and I reacted the same way when hearing this for the first time-why would I be spending my time trying to help an alcoholic? For me this r...

exiled · exiled

Like everyone, I have a long story, but I'll try to stick to what is immediately relevant. Separated from my husband 10 months ago, and came back a week ago for a "trial", a chance to practice and see if all that he has said over the last 10 months about changing is true. He is a very successful, functional...

hotrod · hotrod

he C2C reading June 23 speaks about the Al-Anon principle of learning to be honest with ourselves. The reading suggests that we do this to cultivate our spiritual growth . The reading also suggests that such honesty allows us to really look at ourselves, share these discoveries with other...

mamakat71 · mamakat71

I am learning that nothing changes if nothing changes the hard way. AH was sober for maybe a week... we went to our second marriage counseling today and he was definitely intoxicated. Of course I am hurt and disappointed. I tried to express my hurt in a calm way, but there is no calm way to communicate...

Freetime · Freetime

This page talks about blaming others for our feelings, and how the words we use are important. Talking about our feelings in a healthier way, we can express ourselves without blaming. When we can do this, we are no longer a victim. Quote: "We learn in time that it is not subjects which are controversial...

Jan2018 · Jan2018

Now I know what a trigger is. For me: an ambulance with sirens and lights flashing stopped 4-way traffic so it could make it through the intersection. And I wondered: who was inside? Whose life was hanging in the balance; who may be clinging to life; what mother (father) would be given a jolt to their...

kakr444 · kakr444

My husband has been "sober" for 12 weeks after an in-patient rehab stay. We have a vacation home that has open bottles of liquor and he was adamant about leaving it there for other people (his counselor said it was up to him). However, I have twice seen the alcohol level decreasing in the bottle and of cou...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's Courage to Change talks about meditation. Simply defined by the dictionary, it means "to think contemplatively". Contemplate is further defined as "to view thoughtfully". The writer suggests that each quiet moment found to calm the mind and think through a day is meditating. When we a...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I wanted to let you know that the investigation was closed. I chose to have another meeting with hr because more things have occurred with my boss. I'll spare you the drama. I worked my program and was true to myself in those situations. It was hard to go to hr and complain about my supervisor a second time...

lookingup · lookingup

as some of you remember some of my older posts here of my daughter and family living over seas in Okinawa Japan ,for the last 11 yrs ,are now arriving back into the states to live out the rest of sil air force , they will be living in Las Vegas,enrolling my g,son into college there,then the other 2 g,sons.wi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi mip! I'm traveling again, so today's topic is from today's hope. The author shares that the theme of letting go can apply to many aspects of life, and when we let go, we are able to enjoy the fullness that is life. When we let go of our cares and worries, we free our minds to enjoy the wonders around us. ...

joker · joker

I have not been on the board for a bit, but its now 6 months since the active alcoholic bf left the house, he insisted no one will take him out off. He was absolutely sure that none will remove him from this house he is attached to. The police removed him and he suddenly moved to another province. I am in Canad...

a4l · a4l

So, I've been stuck in a horrible dark place for a few months. It's something I have to watch out for, the old black dog, comes to visit me every so often. On Friday, without much thinking, I began to plan for a better week. So, today, being Monday where I am, I woke up at 5.30.No kids around, they rise at 6.45...

oceanpine · oceanpine

I just signed myself and my teenagers up for this conference! I am so excited, because we donât have Alateen here, so this will be their first exposure... with a bunch of other teens getting introuced the steps, traditions, sharing, speakers etc. It is only a couple hours from my home, and a friend has o...

lookingup · lookingup

ive just noticed I haven't been logging out of this room, my ? Is,,,should I be logging out every time ? with not logging out does it keep my lookingup screen name up....thank you in advance. ive got another day of planned events to do,I'm grateful to be having things to do everyday or every other day, thi...

Tude · Tude

I don't understand the chat lingo to get into the meeting. I keep getting errors and it won't allow me to sign on. I have a warning in my address bar saying the site isn't secure etc. When I add the exception to my antivirus program I still get the same message. I even tried IE and no luck. Any suggestions? Th...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for June 19 speaks about Working Step 4 . The reading suggests that this Step is a long-term undertaking because as long as we remain blind to the flaws that create so much chaos for us,we must continue to search out these defects by doing an inventory day after day trying to face our...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello Family... I Had An Al-Anon Friend Once make a Statement to me that Kinda Took me by Surprise, She Stated She Didn't know I was So "Sensitive" because I Personally had Never Seen myself this way, but over the last Couple of Years, working on my recovery, Sobriety & Spirituality... Welp She wa...

Tude · Tude

Hi everyone. We took a fishing trip and left my AF in charge. It's been over 6 months since her disappearing act while caring for our house, pets and flock..........while we were out of state. I was a good bit nervous but she got her 5 mo chip in AA and stays close to her sponsor, attends 5 meetings a week etc...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step five: Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nture of our wrongs. The writer mentions how difficult this step was because of shame for the defects and shortcomings, and distrust that anyone else could accept a pers...

Lyne · Lyne

Envy: The writer discusses how we can feel resentful of people that have less troubled lives. But he discovered that he was special and actually had everything he needed. He learned to trust that HP knew what was good for him. He goes on to say that envy is a waste of time, and resentment puts wedges b...

Jerry F · Jerry F

At yesterday mornings meeting a woman issued lots of language on taking her 4th step after which I thanked her for mentioning mine. Her experiences were much like the ones I have had. We all had a bit of a laugh at how that works and then it stuck with me right up until I went to bed and to sleep. I starte...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family... I have been away for some time and Just wanted to Speak a Bit about How things have done a 180 in my Recovery World of Worlds, as Some here know I came from an Alcoholic home and Found MIP weeks after I lost my AFather to this Disease... I have 4 Siblings (All A's), and I Have many of A-Gene...

Jayla · Jayla

Hello all. Iâm hoping for your ESH once again. I recently had a situation with my bf (the one who treats me quite well but wonât tell me what his job is) that I am feeling turned around on. * My 4 year old recently said that my bf showed him a game to play with his body I found concerning. Now I know this child is n...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I feel no desire to give my STBXRAH a Father's Day card. I know from being a member, that I am under no obligation to give him one to validate him... or to validate I am a "good" person. So I just wanted to put my thoughts down in case it helps someone else. Early in our marriage, we always gave each other cards...

Jlsdoll85 · Jlsdoll85

I just need some guidance and advice, maybe a little confirmation that Im not completely crazy. My husband of 13 years, has been being more distant the past month or so. He hangs around a group of guys who are 10 years younger than him(theyre in their 20s) and I barely spend any time with him any more, whic...

lookingup · lookingup

The C2C reading June 16 speaks about the Al-Anon principle of allowing others to experience the consequences of their actions, We know the alcoholic needs to hit bottom and become uncomfortable with the old behavior as they can do something about it . We therefore need to learn to detach with loveano...

Overcome · Overcome

June 16, 2018SATURDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM EST (7AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: JADE - Do not: Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain to the alcoholic in the future and Open topic.The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to joi...

HeyThere321 · HeyThere321

Hello everyone, please give me some advice on how to proceed in the following situation. My husband has had addictions for many years (drugs in the past, and alcohol/gambling the last few years). As a result of the lying/drinking/gambling, we have not had a good relationship the last few years. Most...

Freetime · Freetime

Hello everyone! Today's page speaks about the state of mind we are in when we first come into these rooms. We are preoccupied with someone else's drinking. The author discusses Step One in two parts. The first part, that we are powerless over alcohol, is very hard for us to accept. It is much easie...

ling · ling

HI AH has just admitted to drinking again. I was pleased he told me and i had compassion. However later he was watching a humorous programme on tv. I don't know why but I asked him if he was really unhappy. He said he was and it really upset me. I went upstairs not knowing what to do. I later came down and I was a...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP Family - Happy Thursday....Today's reading talks about Step 12 and all that is received as one works recovery. Al-Anon gives us an understanding of this disease, tools to change our lives, courage to use them and a safe place to share and hear ESH. Many of us want recovery for our fam...

shrnp · shrnp

It has been a longtime since I have posted on here. My life was going pretty good. My ex-a still is not drinking and that is great. Now, I am having a big problem with my son. He met a woman who is a drug addict. They got engaged and are living together only after 2 weeks of seeing each other. He had dated her a co...

KT2015 · KT2015

I am finding that other people's illnesses are getting to me and I'm trying to control. My AH had a drunken episode this weekend that sent me reeling. His drinking has been bad and the more he drinks the more I focus on him until I lose sight of my own life. I shared about this at my meeting and got some gre...

gabigail · gabigail

Hi everyone- So, Ive been helping my friend who is deep in the struggles of her AH, and she finally has reached out to me in help. Things blew up when I stopped by last night. Her husband was so drunk and asking me why I was there (I told him visiting), and he immediately got suspicious, yelling, etc. I did no...

mamakat71 · mamakat71

It's definetly been a rough few weeks. Coming on here and finding a f2f meeting has kept me going. My AH and I have decided together to try marriage counseling in addition to his recovery program and mine through Al-anon. We both have the understanding that we may come out on the other side and decide...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for June 12 speaks about having a sense of humor and suggests that it would be great if we could go to the market and purchase a huge supply of humor so that we can use that to lighten our view of many situations and life in general. The reading goes on to recommend that the next time we r...

mamakat71 · mamakat71

I am feeling so frustrated today. We had a nice day yesterday and then we tried to talk about fixing some things with the moving of "our" bank accounts to only be told that I need to earn back his trust and he needs to take things one day at a time?????? Wait a minute here, I am confused. I thought things ha...

Pol · Pol

I'm not new to alanon but its the first time in years that I have put my foot forward to try and work the program consistantly. I would say I'm past the first three steps but I've decided to do a worksheet I've found online for step one. I will be attending a local meeting tonight but I feel it will probably no...

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	it has been awhile (Preview) I haven't been on here for a long time. I guess it is because most everything is the same as it was the last time I posted.The one exception is that my marriage is improving. I guess we have both been mellowing out as my husband says. He is definitely an alcoholic so he is my qualifier. I know there are people...	Hoot Nanny	8	1711	Jun 29, 2018 by wp
	Funny thing about natural consequences .. (Preview) The funny thing about natural consequences is I don't have to dictate how this will roll out. Boy is feeling the discomfort of his choices which pretty much sucks to be him at the moment. He burned his nose on the inside from all of the vomiting so he had that smell stay with him .. he also came to the real...	SerenityRUS	9	542	Jun 29, 2018 by Tude
	Tools (Preview) I had an opportunity to remember tools in my program which really helps still and for which I feel deep gratitude. The one I remembered and reused this afternoon was "What was your part in it"? The first time I was given that it ticked me off because it diffused the blame I was using and then brought it...	JerryF	11	522	Jun 29, 2018 by Jozie
	C2C - 6/29 (Preview) Working on Step 4, the writer was frustrated about being asked to recognize their own positive qualities. Positive qualities had not made their life unmanageable, so why bother with them? A sponsor helped the writer see that refusing to look at positive qualities is damaging to self-esteem; it all...	Freetime	3	387	Jun 29, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 6/28/18 (Preview) The reading for tomorrow in Courage to Change discusses how we learn in Al-Anon that our well-being cannot depend upon whether or not an alcoholic drinks or gets sober. The alcoholic's behavior is not a reflection of us, it's a reflection of their disease. What is a reflection of us is our own behavio...	Iamhere	6	480	Jun 28, 2018 by Iamhere
	can't do life w/out my HP so more changing within (Preview) Hi everyone!!! Its been a while, with house cleaning, deep cleaning, painting, fixing up, vintage furniture finds to make my place look more like what I want.... AND its been hectic in the work place....I have been doing a LOT of steps 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 with my higher power...yes, I said Higher power...	mamalioness	8	541	Jun 28, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change June 27 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about sponsorship. The author shares that when they were first asked to sponsor someone, they were not sure they had anything to give. But then, they remembered that sponsoring isn't about saving anyone else, it is about being a helper, showing through action...	Skorpi	5	449	Jun 28, 2018 by mamalioness
	How to handle resentment towards a friend (Preview) Hi everyone hope you are all keeping well, I haven't posted in a while. The question I want to ask is not about an alcoholic though I know now that I'm coming at it from someone who has been affected by the disease and actually so has the other person been more than likely. Also, as some of you will know the al...	Sorcha	3	535	Jun 27, 2018 by sunmustshine
	Step 7 posted to the Step board (Preview) Step 7 has been posted to the Step Work Board The link is below Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Please join in and share your thoughts . Here is link to the...	hotrod	0	410	Jun 27, 2018 by hotrod
	Wanting to hear what it is like for you to be married to an alcoholic (Preview) I would like to hear from others who are or were married to an alcoholic. What did you find the most challenging? What helped you decide to stay or go?	Connection	19	3125	Jun 27, 2018 by JerryF
	The 12 step prayer book Jun 24 (Preview) the 12 step prayer book goes into expectations often times I would have unrealistic expectations and end up disappointed and bitter now I ask me. Is this expectation realistic?? Doable under my capabilities?? If it is reasonable, my HP will give me the power and resources to do it the serenity pray...	mamalioness	2	463	Jun 26, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 6-26-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for June 26 refers to the spiritual awakening which is discussed in step 12. This spiritual awakening is a realization that we are not alone and helpless. We have accepted and learned certain truths that we are now able to carry to others. The reading suggests that we keep ourselves o...	hotrod	6	427	Jun 26, 2018 by Freetime
	First teenage incident .. (Preview) UGH ... so I am going into work late today as my youngest is drunk as a skunk and stinks just as bad ... thankfully the puking is left at his friends house and not mine. His friend is more than welcome to come here ... we will be having a discussion with both boys about boundaries, drinking and drugs .. they a...	SerenityRUS	10	519	Jun 26, 2018 by Iamhere
	Need a program for the program (Preview) Been trying to get on the board for a week and so but have been told my time here has expired and I need to reregister but no allowed to reregister. Guess I will stand out in the hallway and just listen and pray. I've done that before also. I am not computer perfect...Bleah!!	JerryF	7	495	Jun 26, 2018 by JerryF
	Moving forward (Preview) After a lot of agonizing thinking I have decided to sell the house that my ex-alcoholic Bf and I own. He has moved 14 hours away to start a new life and I am here still at the house. I thought of everything and I am done with him and the house and I am ready to move forward with my life. I told him of my decision and...	joker	4	529	Jun 26, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Stuck in the mire (Preview) I haven't posted on here for some time. For one thing just too busy with kids out of school new job, and trying to sell the house and moving. This seems to be a really low point among those points for me. I don't know if it's just been too much stress or what. But I find myself just being so thin-skinned and raw...	WestMan	19	747	Jun 25, 2018 by WestMan
	It doesn't just magically go away (Preview) I thought if I separated myself from the alcoholics and drug addicts in my life, my "issues" would be in the past...I didn't realize that there was more to this disease then the yea, I dont' have to call in sick and make up excuses for a hung over ExAH, and no more cleaning up messy bathrooms because he dra...	mamalioness	2	451	Jun 25, 2018 by mamalioness
	I can ask for a sponsor from this group right? (Preview) If so, how do I send a private message to ask? I am on a mobile device but could get on a computer if that is required. P.S. Iâm not asking my local group bc the people currently running it have not done the steps and they ran off all of the experienced leaders with their gossip and backstabbing. So the local g...	Jayla	4	475	Jun 25, 2018 by DavidG
	Hah!! (Preview) I wondered if that would work....LOL	JerryF	0	400	Jun 25, 2018 by JerryF
	C2C, 6/25 (Preview) Character Defects: The writer speaks of becoming entirely ready for God to remove her defects of character, Step 6. She talks about the hours of wasted time focusing on self-pity. She could not grow or move forward stuck in this thinking. She says her HP removes her defects by helping her see them...	Lyne	7	450	Jun 25, 2018 by Tude
	Gratitude list. (Preview) Today I am grateful for an able body and able mind. I am grateful for the coffee in my hand and the solid as a boulder coffee machine I insisted on bringing here lol. I am truly grateful for my sobriety. It's not always easy but I can say at the least I'm facing life honestly. Honesty might not count for m...	a4l	10	574	Jun 24, 2018 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today June 24 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the part of tradition five that states: ...encouraging and understanding our alcoholic relatives. The writer and I reacted the same way when hearing this for the first time-why would I be spending my time trying to help an alcoholic? For me this r...	yanksfan51	7	466	Jun 24, 2018 by Iamhere
	New to Al Anon-help me understand (Preview) Like everyone, I have a long story, but I'll try to stick to what is immediately relevant. Separated from my husband 10 months ago, and came back a week ago for a "trial", a chance to practice and see if all that he has said over the last 10 months about changing is true. He is a very successful, functional...	exiled	9	570	Jun 24, 2018 by Bo
	C2C reading 6-23 (Preview) he C2C reading June 23 speaks about the Al-Anon principle of learning to be honest with ourselves. The reading suggests that we do this to cultivate our spiritual growth . The reading also suggests that such honesty allows us to really look at ourselves, share these discoveries with other...	hotrod	6	508	Jun 23, 2018 by Iamhere
	just when you think you are getting it (Preview) I am learning that nothing changes if nothing changes the hard way. AH was sober for maybe a week... we went to our second marriage counseling today and he was definitely intoxicated. Of course I am hurt and disappointed. I tried to express my hurt in a calm way, but there is no calm way to communicate...	mamakat71	9	2544	Jun 23, 2018 by tiredtonite
	C2C - 6/22 (Preview) This page talks about blaming others for our feelings, and how the words we use are important. Talking about our feelings in a healthier way, we can express ourselves without blaming. When we can do this, we are no longer a victim. Quote: "We learn in time that it is not subjects which are controversial...	Freetime	4	524	Jun 22, 2018 by Iamhere
	Triggered- An ambulance through an intersection (Preview) Now I know what a trigger is. For me: an ambulance with sirens and lights flashing stopped 4-way traffic so it could make it through the intersection. And I wondered: who was inside? Whose life was hanging in the balance; who may be clinging to life; what mother (father) would be given a jolt to their...	Jan2018	3	2300	Jun 22, 2018 by Jan2018
	What to do if pretty sure "sober" husband is drinking (Preview) My husband has been "sober" for 12 weeks after an in-patient rehab stay. We have a vacation home that has open bottles of liquor and he was adamant about leaving it there for other people (his counselor said it was up to him). However, I have twice seen the alcohol level decreasing in the bottle and of cou...	kakr444	8	964	Jun 21, 2018 by Mattie
	Courage to Change 6/21/18 (Preview) Today's Courage to Change talks about meditation. Simply defined by the dictionary, it means "to think contemplatively". Contemplate is further defined as "to view thoughtfully". The writer suggests that each quiet moment found to calm the mind and think through a day is meditating. When we a...	Iamhere	4	625	Jun 21, 2018 by Tude
	Latest Update in Work (Preview) I wanted to let you know that the investigation was closed. I chose to have another meeting with hr because more things have occurred with my boss. I'll spare you the drama. I worked my program and was true to myself in those situations. It was hard to go to hr and complain about my supervisor a second time...	tiredtonite	9	602	Jun 20, 2018 by tiredtonite
	Daughter in route (Preview) as some of you remember some of my older posts here of my daughter and family living over seas in Okinawa Japan ,for the last 11 yrs ,are now arriving back into the states to live out the rest of sil air force , they will be living in Las Vegas,enrolling my g,son into college there,then the other 2 g,sons.wi...	lookingup	9	2000	Jun 20, 2018 by tiredtonite
	Today's Hope June 20 (Preview) Hi mip! I'm traveling again, so today's topic is from today's hope. The author shares that the theme of letting go can apply to many aspects of life, and when we let go, we are able to enjoy the fullness that is life. When we let go of our cares and worries, we free our minds to enjoy the wonders around us. ...	Skorpi	7	1968	Jun 20, 2018 by Tude
	How time changes things (Preview) I have not been on the board for a bit, but its now 6 months since the active alcoholic bf left the house, he insisted no one will take him out off. He was absolutely sure that none will remove him from this house he is attached to. The police removed him and he suddenly moved to another province. I am in Canad...	joker	2	469	Jun 20, 2018 by sunmustshine
	One day at a time, climbing out of depression. (Preview) So, I've been stuck in a horrible dark place for a few months. It's something I have to watch out for, the old black dog, comes to visit me every so often. On Friday, without much thinking, I began to plan for a better week. So, today, being Monday where I am, I woke up at 5.30.No kids around, they rise at 6.45...	a4l	10	1814	Jun 20, 2018 by WestMan
	AA/Alanon/Alateen conference in Colorado (Preview) I just signed myself and my teenagers up for this conference! I am so excited, because we donât have Alateen here, so this will be their first exposure... with a bunch of other teens getting introuced the steps, traditions, sharing, speakers etc. It is only a couple hours from my home, and a friend has o...	oceanpine	2	2200	Jun 19, 2018 by Iamhere
	Logging out (Preview) ive just noticed I haven't been logging out of this room, my ? Is,,,should I be logging out every time ? with not logging out does it keep my lookingup screen name up....thank you in advance. ive got another day of planned events to do,I'm grateful to be having things to do everyday or every other day, thi...	lookingup	3	2138	Jun 19, 2018 by lookingup
	Chat room? (Preview) I don't understand the chat lingo to get into the meeting. I keep getting errors and it won't allow me to sign on. I have a warning in my address bar saying the site isn't secure etc. When I add the exception to my antivirus program I still get the same message. I even tried IE and no luck. Any suggestions? Th...	Tude	6	473	Jun 19, 2018 by courage101
	ODAT Reading 6-19 (Preview) The ODAT reading for June 19 speaks about Working Step 4 . The reading suggests that this Step is a long-term undertaking because as long as we remain blind to the flaws that create so much chaos for us,we must continue to search out these defects by doing an inventory day after day trying to face our...	hotrod	5	1491	Jun 19, 2018 by Iamhere
	When a Compliment Goes Bad...At First! (Preview) Hello Family... I Had An Al-Anon Friend Once make a Statement to me that Kinda Took me by Surprise, She Stated She Didn't know I was So "Sensitive" because I Personally had Never Seen myself this way, but over the last Couple of Years, working on my recovery, Sobriety & Spirituality... Welp She wa...	Jozie	6	2025	Jun 19, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Back from vacation and tools..... (Preview) Hi everyone. We took a fishing trip and left my AF in charge. It's been over 6 months since her disappearing act while caring for our house, pets and flock..........while we were out of state. I was a good bit nervous but she got her 5 mo chip in AA and stays close to her sponsor, attends 5 meetings a week etc...	Tude	5	1387	Jun 18, 2018 by Tude
	Hope for Today June 17 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step five: Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nture of our wrongs. The writer mentions how difficult this step was because of shame for the defects and shortcomings, and distrust that anyone else could accept a pers...	yanksfan51	5	462	Jun 18, 2018 by DavidG
	C2C, 6/18 (Preview) Envy: The writer discusses how we can feel resentful of people that have less troubled lives. But he discovered that he was special and actually had everything he needed. He learned to trust that HP knew what was good for him. He goes on to say that envy is a waste of time, and resentment puts wedges b...	Lyne	4	486	Jun 18, 2018 by mamakat71
	4th Stepped... (Preview) At yesterday mornings meeting a woman issued lots of language on taking her 4th step after which I thanked her for mentioning mine. Her experiences were much like the ones I have had. We all had a bit of a laugh at how that works and then it stuck with me right up until I went to bed and to sleep. I starte...	Jerry F	7	970	Jun 18, 2018 by Jozie
	It Works if We Work it... (Preview) Hello MIP Family... I have been away for some time and Just wanted to Speak a Bit about How things have done a 180 in my Recovery World of Worlds, as Some here know I came from an Alcoholic home and Found MIP weeks after I lost my AFather to this Disease... I have 4 Siblings (All A's), and I Have many of A-Gene...	Jozie	11	2121	Jun 18, 2018 by Tude
	Need ESH re: boundaries with children (Preview) Hello all. Iâm hoping for your ESH once again. I recently had a situation with my bf (the one who treats me quite well but wonât tell me what his job is) that I am feeling turned around on. * My 4 year old recently said that my bf showed him a game to play with his body I found concerning. Now I know this child is n...	Jayla	21	1342	Jun 18, 2018 by Tude
	Just my thoughts on Father's Day (Preview) I feel no desire to give my STBXRAH a Father's Day card. I know from being a member, that I am under no obligation to give him one to validate him... or to validate I am a "good" person. So I just wanted to put my thoughts down in case it helps someone else. Early in our marriage, we always gave each other cards...	PosiesandPuppies	12	651	Jun 17, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Am I crazy (Preview) I just need some guidance and advice, maybe a little confirmation that Im not completely crazy. My husband of 13 years, has been being more distant the past month or so. He hangs around a group of guys who are 10 years younger than him(theyre in their 20s) and I barely spend any time with him any more, whic...	Jlsdoll85	12	2371	Jun 17, 2018 by Jerry F
	CTC ,,, 6/15 (Preview) The C2C reading June 16 speaks about the Al-Anon principle of allowing others to experience the consequences of their actions, We know the alcoholic needs to hit bottom and become uncomfortable with the old behavior as they can do something about it . We therefore need to learn to detach with loveano...	lookingup	4	395	Jun 16, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Saturday morning Meeting starting NOW!!! (Preview) June 16, 2018SATURDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM EST (7AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: JADE - Do not: Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain to the alcoholic in the future and Open topic.The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to joi...	Overcome	1	2677	Jun 16, 2018 by hotrod
	Need advice please (Preview) Hello everyone, please give me some advice on how to proceed in the following situation. My husband has had addictions for many years (drugs in the past, and alcohol/gambling the last few years). As a result of the lying/drinking/gambling, we have not had a good relationship the last few years. Most...	HeyThere321	4	578	Jun 15, 2018 by hotrod
	ODAT - 6/15 (Preview) Hello everyone! Today's page speaks about the state of mind we are in when we first come into these rooms. We are preoccupied with someone else's drinking. The author discusses Step One in two parts. The first part, that we are powerless over alcohol, is very hard for us to accept. It is much easie...	Freetime	5	460	Jun 15, 2018 by Iamhere
	feel awful (Preview) HI AH has just admitted to drinking again. I was pleased he told me and i had compassion. However later he was watching a humorous programme on tv. I don't know why but I asked him if he was really unhappy. He said he was and it really upset me. I went upstairs not knowing what to do. I later came down and I was a...	ling	11	1752	Jun 15, 2018 by Finding grace
	Courage to Change 6/14/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP Family - Happy Thursday....Today's reading talks about Step 12 and all that is received as one works recovery. Al-Anon gives us an understanding of this disease, tools to change our lives, courage to use them and a safe place to share and hear ESH. Many of us want recovery for our fam...	Iamhere	4	563	Jun 14, 2018 by Iamhere
	I really need someone to talk to. (Preview) It has been a longtime since I have posted on here. My life was going pretty good. My ex-a still is not drinking and that is great. Now, I am having a big problem with my son. He met a woman who is a drug addict. They got engaged and are living together only after 2 weeks of seeing each other. He had dated her a co...	shrnp	7	612	Jun 14, 2018 by Bo
	other people's illnesses getting the best of me (Preview) I am finding that other people's illnesses are getting to me and I'm trying to control. My AH had a drunken episode this weekend that sent me reeling. His drinking has been bad and the more he drinks the more I focus on him until I lose sight of my own life. I shared about this at my meeting and got some gre...	KT2015	6	2016	Jun 14, 2018 by Lyne
	Detachment/ defusing slogans/ESH (Preview) Hi everyone- So, Ive been helping my friend who is deep in the struggles of her AH, and she finally has reached out to me in help. Things blew up when I stopped by last night. Her husband was so drunk and asking me why I was there (I told him visiting), and he immediately got suspicious, yelling, etc. I did no...	gabigail	4	932	Jun 14, 2018 by Bo
	thank you for your support (Preview) It's definetly been a rough few weeks. Coming on here and finding a f2f meeting has kept me going. My AH and I have decided together to try marriage counseling in addition to his recovery program and mine through Al-anon. We both have the understanding that we may come out on the other side and decide...	mamakat71	2	2070	Jun 13, 2018 by mamakat71
	ODAT reading 6-12-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for June 12 speaks about having a sense of humor and suggests that it would be great if we could go to the market and purchase a huge supply of humor so that we can use that to lighten our view of many situations and life in general. The reading goes on to recommend that the next time we r...	hotrod	8	2730	Jun 13, 2018 by hotrod
	feeling frustrated (Preview) I am feeling so frustrated today. We had a nice day yesterday and then we tried to talk about fixing some things with the moving of "our" bank accounts to only be told that I need to earn back his trust and he needs to take things one day at a time?????? Wait a minute here, I am confused. I thought things ha...	mamakat71	15	719	Jun 13, 2018 by Bo
	Working Step One with out a sponsor? (Preview) I'm not new to alanon but its the first time in years that I have put my foot forward to try and work the program consistantly. I would say I'm past the first three steps but I've decided to do a worksheet I've found online for step one. I will be attending a local meeting tonight but I feel it will probably no...	Pol	9	921	Jun 13, 2018 by Jozie
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