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meagain · meagain

I was on the forums earlier about my step-daughter drinking and raising her 2 daughters, -her hubby was killed 2 years ago. My DH just called his ex. about the situation. They seem to agree she needs to watch her drinking--its "ok" to have a beer here and there!--Anyway DH's daughter is 35...

abbyal · abbyal

A friend sent this and I just had to share it . Accept that some days your the pigeon , and some days your the statue. Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case u have to eat them Always read stuff that will make u look good if u die in the middle of it . Drive carfully , It's not only cars that can be re...

QOD · QOD

It is so frustrating when all I want to do is cut my ties to my AH and move on w/my life. In saying that, I don't mean moving on to another man. But just getting on w/life. Ya know? There always seems to be ties that bind us together. I cut one tie only to find another holding us together. Arrgg. It is so frus...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Practicing these principles in all my affairs.... ...with my mom Convo 8/6: Mom:So, I found you a TV Me: Really? That's great! Mom:So if I give it you before the end of the term it won't distract you from your studies? Me:Uhh No mom Mom: Oh....okay. So, if I send it down with John [step dad], that'll be ok...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was thinking today about where I am and where I've been over the past year since I first came to this board. When I first came I was so scared, I had just moved out of my house after seven years of dealing with heroin addiction and repeated treatments, alcoholism and repeated treatments, a husband who d...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I can't even come up with a title for this post, because as I begin I don't even know where I am going. I just feel the need to vent. We are at a crossroads in our marriage, where I have basically told my AH(sober as far as I know) that it is time to p** or get off the pot. He has me convinced that alcohol/drugs h...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

When my mother raised us (four all together) she went through some hard times like a neighbor shooting our windows out of our house, burning a trailor that we had to get out of that neighborhood, lots of other nightmare events. Eventually when I was twelve we got out but my mother turned very nasty. She u...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((Hey Guys))))))))))) I was reading through the posts on the board.. And I got to thinking about when I first joined this fellowship. It was the 20/01/06. I remember the exact day becuase: that was the day I realised I belonged somewhere. Why I joined it was, because my life was, beyond my c...

Blue eyes · Blue eyes

I have been in Alanon this time around for 5 months.I know its time to work the steps but have a fear of being judged.I am newly married to a recovering spouse of 10years. I have been going to meetings in my area.I also go to AA&Alanon meetings. Thank you Blue eyes

CJC · CJC

So where do I start? I really don't know what to say. I feel very awkward by actually saying this because I have NEVER actually said these words to anybody else....my husband is an alcoholic. He has been an alcoholic ever since I met him 8 years ago, and now 8 years later we have 2 daughters and a home, his d...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

a 9 yr. old boy and an A decide to do laundry? Answer: An insane alanonner whose head spun off her shoulders at "It's not the end of the world." Maybe it's the heat -it's 105, maybe it's the fact that you don't use bleach with everything, maybe it's the mom factor where we're cursed with kid...

sisterlylove · sisterlylove

Hi Everyone, I am here because of an addict in my life. My brother has been strugleing with drug abuse for the past 13 years. I understand this is for AA but does anyone know if there is an NA equivelent?

meagain · meagain

We were at my step-sons wedding on the weekend. MY 35 yr. step-daughter was pretty drunk to say the least. Her hubby was killed 2 years ago. She was really upset about her 2 daughters (10 &; 8) not knowing their father. I told my hubby drinking sure doesn't help the situation. They also had parties w...

maresie2 · maresie2

So while I left the A he managed to get a criminal charge for leaving the scene of an accident. On to of that he has 3 speeding tickets he has not paid an an illegal turn. He somehow seems to be able to think that he can work that out without losing his license good luck. In the interim he's basically totalled t...

graciela43 · graciela43

i am looking for a meeting in spanish, close to my house or as close as it can be if you know of any meeting please emailm me at my son's email adress sevenfold@peoplepc.com

gardengal · gardengal

My father was an alcoholic, and growing up I didnt know any better, it was what it was, everyone lived like this.......or so I thought. My mother was a "bit off" or so I thought, and I didnt understand why she acted the way she did. Now I know, because MY husband became an alcoholic, and I start...

maresie2 · maresie2

My current landlord may have a place I can stay with me and my dogs. Getting there would be an incredible feat. The A is totally bankruptc physically and spiritually. He is at a bottom he has never been at before. I sometimes feel like I'm caryring a dead horse. At other times I feel all the dependency on hi...

QOD · QOD

So my AH has been staying w/his mom and grandma for about the last month - ever since his last binge. Now over that time he has disappeared for a night or a day and used cocaine. But now all of a sudden he is going to meetings, has a sponsor and is talking recovery. Now I would love to see him get his life stra...

Christy · Christy

Hubby and I will be married 20 yrs this November. On the 12th of this month he will be 18 months sober. ((((wooohooo!! Go baby go!!)))) He emailed me yesterday and asked me if I'd like to go to Maui for our anniversary!! For those of you that don't know, he has been living and working in Alaska sin...

serendipity · serendipity

My best friend's 4 year old daughter died last night. She was with my daughters and my mom swimming at a camp. She drown. She was the most incredible little girl and I don't understand. My girls don't understand. This is sensless and there can be no point or lesson in this. I don't know if my mother will ev...

abbyal · abbyal

I can get to the message board and post no problem ,but can't get into the chat room have't been able too for 2 days now . Any suggestions ??? Louise

Loupiness · Loupiness

I've spent many hours trying to define to myself the life I want with my husband, I had an experience today, that demonstrated it loud and clear. I work in Home Health and I went to the home of an older German couple. They'd been married 61 yrs, and had met during the war with only the clothes on their backs...

afglin · afglin

I've heard there is a new alanon book. Does anybody have the title, the price and the catalog number where I can order some for my home group? I have to order daily reading books this wek and was hoping to order the new one, but it's not listed inthe 2007 WSO catalog. LINDA

lilms · lilms

((((((MIP Family)))))) Afternoon all. I have not been around much lately, life has been too busy. I spent the last few weeks arranging my mother's wedding. It was held last week and all went very well. I had a houseful of relatives for a couple of days. You know how they say weddings and funerals br...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((((Everyone))))))) Lately, I have just been drawn to movies that have an underlying current of... an insurmountable strugle to survive. I just realized tonight that I am seeking them out, and even if it's the same one over and over... I just can't change the channel. Many of us are in the midst of...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I was wondering if anyone was at the meeting I spoke at the other night? I could use some ESH in response to what i said. Lanchas

babysteps · babysteps

My sil was released from rehab yesterday, ten days early. My AH has been on the phone with his family a lot over the past 3-weeks analyzing her situation to the nth degree. AH's mother is an alcoholic and their is a strong argument that his father is as well. AH and his parents talk non-stop about the thing...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

How are you doing? Thought I would send you a note to make ya feel special today. hehehe ;) I hope today is going better for you. Please post. FOY

SuSUN · SuSUN

Hi there, I am 58 and my DH is almost 60. He is a quiet well behaved and still working Alcoholic. It has really gotten a hold of his this past 5 to 10 years. He spends most of his time off in the basement drinking and smoking and watching his own choice of TV shows. If I ask him to join me for a show upstairs in the l...

maresie2 · maresie2

This morning I got up later than usual to go to work. I have a little bit of flexibility in my start time. I have posted before that I live with a codependent woman and her son (I did not know till today he was a drug user). I've been largely holed up in my room for weeks because I had many many run ins with variou...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I thought we could get to know each other a bit more on a personal level since we have alot of new comers. So I am going to ask some questions and feel free to join in. 1. Do you live in the city or country? 2. What is your favorite thing to do? (hobby) 3. Do you have animals? What kind? 4. Do you have children? Age...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family)))))))), Good morning to you all. I hope you've had a wonderful weekend. I have been on vacation this past week and what a riot it was! Learned alot about myself and recovery too. Hubby has been a bit bored since his foot surgery 15 weeks ago. It always seems like my vacations lately...

Shellsmom · Shellsmom

Hi. I am just returning to Al-Anon after about 8 years of trying to do this by myself. I have done almost nothing during that time period but isolate. I have gone for a week at a time without talking to a single human being. I recently had foot surgery and have been unable to get out and about. It has poin...

summergrl83 · summergrl83

My A boyfriend got back from rehab a few days ago, and for the past two nights has been drinking after I went to bed. We live together, so I'm finding that complicates this situation alot. I found that I was really strong and peaceful while he was gone but it's much harder to put things into practice when he...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I got this idea from Friendofyours - great idea by the way! I have thought of some questions and thought I would post them. You don't have to answer if you don't want to, I just thought I would post and see what responses (if any) that I get. Well here are some questions I thought of that would help us to get t...

Kim65 · Kim65

I thought about tagging these thoughts on the end of my "what a jerk" post of a couple days ago. So this is related . . . I see now, after the help of Alanon friends who told me "like it is", just what was going on and I'd like to share that with everyone here. When my son came home that ni...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I was just reading a post by rtexas - what an amazing person (yes you are). Hearing others stories, watching their growth and struggles, talking to one another, supporting one another non-judgmentally - that is what this program is all about. And I love each and every one of you here. Last month my l...

Phil · Phil

Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot!

ally · ally

(((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) Most of you who know me, will know I opened a f2f group in my area. It's been running about three months now. It has had on average between four and eight people every week. I am the only official member who Is allowed to hold a position in the group just now, so I have be...

bobump · bobump

Dave's post got me thinking metaphorically again. I think that it's lost on page two or three if you sort by start date instead of last post so I thought I'd bring it up here and see if anyone could come up with any other Good Ships that Alanon might be to them. Thanks David. Is it an ice cutter, crushing thr...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

lost her husband to cancer Wednesday afternoon. This was one of the most amazing couples you could ever meet. When she told me in Jan. they'd found cancer I was so angry, thinking how unfair this was...especially to happen to them. She's been in program a long time and wouldn't even let me be angry f...

HC2007 · HC2007

Just checkin in real quick, it was super long night , babysitting a A that has been up for days and seeing things and ghosts. Meth is going to be the distruction of this country.... drama drama and more drama... He will sleep probly till tomorrow and I will offer him the tools of recovery if he wants them, i...

lmt123 · lmt123

My Asober told me 2 days ago that his ex had called him complaining of how their daughter, who lives with them and will be 20 in Sept. (same age as my daughter that I just kicked out for not following our house rules and disrespecting me), is starting to act up and show the same behavior that my daughter was s...

Phil · Phil

But It Doesn't Act Like a Disease!One of the difficulties in recognizing alcoholism as a disease is it just plain doesn't seem like one. It doesn't look, sound, smell and it certainly doesn't act like a disease. To make matters worse, generally it denies it exists and resists treatment. Alcoholism h...

ally · ally

Guys, I was listening to a Whitney Houston Cd, and all of a sudden I realised the Lyrics of this song was something all us Alanons need to hear..... "They can't take away my Dignity, because the greatest love of all is happening to me".. I believe that children of our future Teach them well and...

Jamekaticy · Jamekaticy

Here's the logic of an A: I'm having a bad day because of the fallout from the things I did last night while drinking, so I'm not going to keep the appointment with the addictions specialist. He missed work, something he always prided himself on never doing, because he thought he'd called his boss to le...

snapdragon · snapdragon

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&p=3&topicID=11272138

serendipity · serendipity

Hey all, I am in the Bronx,NY visiting with some friends and I tried to look up local meetings but it didn't have any listed for Saturday. That can't be right! So, if anyone has a site that I can go to to get to a meeting tonight I would apperciate it. Or if anyone is near here and knows of a meeting let me kn...

maresie2 · maresie2

I recently found out that the A has a criminal issue in the works realting to his driving which as yo uall know is tremendously reckless. I 've recently been crafting a dream of getting me a place with the dogs and cats. That is a long long long way off but I can see the possibility these days in ways I never co...

Eve Eve Eve · Eve Eve Eve

I just wanted to say thank you for all the support I have recieved here, the tears that have been shed,and laughter that was shared. You were all my rock when I was just a piece of sand. I haven't been on much as my health has and seems to be deteriating fast lately. I am hoping to find a Dr. who can help me with p...

Maria123 · Maria123

August 5th Agenda I. OP SCHEDULE II. MINUTES APPROVAL FROM JULY 8TH. III. TREASURER'S REPORT IV. OLD BUSINESS A. Update on WSO Registration / Permission to use CAL B. FAQ's (Frequently Asked Questions) V. NEW BUS...

lil_pieces · lil_pieces

I'm new to this board. I just needed somewhere to go...talk...after last night. Needing to not feel alone. I don't even know where to start. Found out about a 2 weeks ago that I'm pregnant. I knew the husband was an alcoholic when I married him...but stupid me thought that this time things would be...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((((Everyone))))))) It has been very tough for me to hit the site for any extended period right now, but I am around and read in bits and pieces when I can. Wanted to drop a line and let you know you are all in my thoughts and prayers... even in my absence. It is rare these days that something new is not...

dollface · dollface

How do you draw the line between loving detachment and living separate lives? I am having an extremely hard time dealing with my Ah sobers lack of interest for things he used to enjoy. I understand that he needs to stay away from alcohol in order not to relapse; but I am not the one with the problem and I r...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I invited Ah(supuposedly sober) over to discuss our future. Our older two children are out of state, and our 2.5 yr old could not contain his excitement knowing his daddy was coming over. He will be leaving (a friend is taking him so we can talk), but it broke my heart to see this child run around with gl...

wheelie123 · wheelie123

Good Morning Alanon Family, I don't usually post on the message board but I spend a lot of time in the chatroom. I would like to ask for prayers on behalf of lilac1 she cannot get logged in. Her brother Paul was seriously injured in a fire and is now in intensive care in hospital. Thankyou Pam Helen if you ar...

Christy · Christy

Affirmations are a great way to run up the mountain instead of continuing to go around it and stay in the same holding pattern or stumble and fall back down. The challenge is to just try it and see what happens. Today: Tell yourself I am one with source energy (HP), I am a loving, kind and happy person....

lil_pieces · lil_pieces

so after our big fight which ended with him at the bar and two days of me getting up, going into the office, and coming home late, my AH said something to me about it all. I knew that he was probably confused, hurt, and a little angry that he hadn't seen me in two days, but I needed time away after the hurtful th...

BrandyCane · BrandyCane

Hi I am a new member. My story is long, but I will try and make it short and sweet. My husband is an A. He has been for the last 13 years that we have been together. We are in the middle of a remodel of our 35 year old home. Over the last few weeks he has been drinking more and more. It seems that he is drunk eve...

lonelygirl · lonelygirl

Hello everyone, I've been reading here for a few days and I just feel I need your friendship. I logged in as lonely girl, but I the ironic thing is that I don't think I've had a day to myself for at least 4 years. I have a long sad sob story just like everyone else. I feel so pathetic right now I don't even fe...

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	Need your help please (Preview) I was on the forums earlier about my step-daughter drinking and raising her 2 daughters, -her hubby was killed 2 years ago. My DH just called his ex. about the situation. They seem to agree she needs to watch her drinking--its "ok" to have a beer here and there!--Anyway DH's daughter is 35...	meagain	5	760	Aug 8, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Ways to deal with the burdens in your life ( humor ) (Preview) A friend sent this and I just had to share it . Accept that some days your the pigeon , and some days your the statue. Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case u have to eat them Always read stuff that will make u look good if u die in the middle of it . Drive carfully , It's not only cars that can be re...	abbyal	2	452	Aug 8, 2007 by Karilynn
	Just want to cut ties completely (Preview) It is so frustrating when all I want to do is cut my ties to my AH and move on w/my life. In saying that, I don't mean moving on to another man. But just getting on w/life. Ya know? There always seems to be ties that bind us together. I cut one tie only to find another holding us together. Arrgg. It is so frus...	QOD	8	694	Aug 8, 2007 by QOD
	Practicing these principles in all my affairs (Preview) Practicing these principles in all my affairs.... ...with my mom Convo 8/6: Mom:So, I found you a TV Me: Really? That's great! Mom:So if I give it you before the end of the term it won't distract you from your studies? Me:Uhh No mom Mom: Oh....okay. So, if I send it down with John [step dad], that'll be ok...	Tiger2006	2	456	Aug 8, 2007 by lin0606
	The long and winding road...(long & winding LOL) (Preview) I was thinking today about where I am and where I've been over the past year since I first came to this board. When I first came I was so scared, I had just moved out of my house after seven years of dealing with heroin addiction and repeated treatments, alcoholism and repeated treatments, a husband who d...	carolinagirl	7	1252	Aug 7, 2007 by Maria123
	???? (Preview) I can't even come up with a title for this post, because as I begin I don't even know where I am going. I just feel the need to vent. We are at a crossroads in our marriage, where I have basically told my AH(sober as far as I know) that it is time to p** or get off the pot. He has me convinced that alcohol/drugs h...	Loupiness	11	901	Aug 7, 2007 by Loupiness
	I need to know why I do this. (Preview) When my mother raised us (four all together) she went through some hard times like a neighbor shooting our windows out of our house, burning a trailor that we had to get out of that neighborhood, lots of other nightmare events. Eventually when I was twelve we got out but my mother turned very nasty. She u...	Friendofyours	11	734	Aug 7, 2007 by Friendofyours
	REMEMBERING MY INTRODUCTION TO AL-ANON(FOR NEWBIES) (Preview) (((((((((((((Hey Guys))))))))))) I was reading through the posts on the board.. And I got to thinking about when I first joined this fellowship. It was the 20/01/06. I remember the exact day becuase: that was the day I realised I belonged somewhere. Why I joined it was, because my life was, beyond my c...	ally	1	1309	Aug 7, 2007 by cc
	I need a Sponser (Preview) I have been in Alanon this time around for 5 months.I know its time to work the steps but have a fear of being judged.I am newly married to a recovering spouse of 10years. I have been going to meetings in my area.I also go to AA&Alanon meetings. Thank you Blue eyes	Blue eyes	2	577	Aug 7, 2007 by getoverit
	New here and admitting (Preview) So where do I start? I really don't know what to say. I feel very awkward by actually saying this because I have NEVER actually said these words to anybody else....my husband is an alcoholic. He has been an alcoholic ever since I met him 8 years ago, and now 8 years later we have 2 daughters and a home, his d...	CJC	11	801	Aug 7, 2007 by CJC
	What do you get when... (Preview) a 9 yr. old boy and an A decide to do laundry? Answer: An insane alanonner whose head spun off her shoulders at "It's not the end of the world." Maybe it's the heat -it's 105, maybe it's the fact that you don't use bleach with everything, maybe it's the mom factor where we're cursed with kid...	Lunamoth	3	529	Aug 7, 2007 by Kim65
	new here... (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am here because of an addict in my life. My brother has been strugleing with drug abuse for the past 13 years. I understand this is for AA but does anyone know if there is an NA equivelent?	sisterlylove	2	562	Aug 7, 2007 by QOD
	Help at explaining............ (Preview) We were at my step-sons wedding on the weekend. MY 35 yr. step-daughter was pretty drunk to say the least. Her hubby was killed 2 years ago. She was really upset about her 2 daughters (10 &; 8) not knowing their father. I told my hubby drinking sure doesn't help the situation. They also had parties w...	meagain	3	607	Aug 7, 2007 by Friendofyours
	the latest saga (Preview) So while I left the A he managed to get a criminal charge for leaving the scene of an accident. On to of that he has 3 speeding tickets he has not paid an an illegal turn. He somehow seems to be able to think that he can work that out without losing his license good luck. In the interim he's basically totalled t...	maresie2	2	499	Aug 7, 2007 by Friendofyours
	looking for al-anon meeting in arizona,el mirage (Preview) i am looking for a meeting in spanish, close to my house or as close as it can be if you know of any meeting please emailm me at my son's email adress sevenfold@peoplepc.com	graciela43	1	456	Aug 7, 2007 by SLS
	Have you forgiven your parents for any mistakes they made in your upbringing? (Preview) My father was an alcoholic, and growing up I didnt know any better, it was what it was, everyone lived like this.......or so I thought. My mother was a "bit off" or so I thought, and I didnt understand why she acted the way she did. Now I know, because MY husband became an alcoholic, and I start...	gardengal	11	734	Aug 7, 2007 by Nedsaid
	prayers up please (Preview) My current landlord may have a place I can stay with me and my dogs. Getting there would be an incredible feat. The A is totally bankruptc physically and spiritually. He is at a bottom he has never been at before. I sometimes feel like I'm caryring a dead horse. At other times I feel all the dependency on hi...	maresie2	7	603	Aug 7, 2007 by carolinagirl
	AH is doing the "Recovery Thing" & I am skeptical (Preview) So my AH has been staying w/his mom and grandma for about the last month - ever since his last binge. Now over that time he has disappeared for a night or a day and used cocaine. But now all of a sudden he is going to meetings, has a sponsor and is talking recovery. Now I would love to see him get his life stra...	QOD	5	1274	Aug 7, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Have to share. (Preview) Hubby and I will be married 20 yrs this November. On the 12th of this month he will be 18 months sober. ((((wooohooo!! Go baby go!!)))) He emailed me yesterday and asked me if I'd like to go to Maui for our anniversary!! For those of you that don't know, he has been living and working in Alaska sin...	Christy	9	580	Aug 7, 2007 by Karilynn
	I need some prayers (Preview) My best friend's 4 year old daughter died last night. She was with my daughters and my mom swimming at a camp. She drown. She was the most incredible little girl and I don't understand. My girls don't understand. This is sensless and there can be no point or lesson in this. I don't know if my mother will ev...	serendipity	23	772	Aug 7, 2007 by lilac1
	Help (Preview) I can get to the message board and post no problem ,but can't get into the chat room have't been able too for 2 days now . Any suggestions ??? Louise	abbyal	2	488	Aug 7, 2007 by abbyal
	To Truly Love... (Preview) I've spent many hours trying to define to myself the life I want with my husband, I had an experience today, that demonstrated it loud and clear. I work in Home Health and I went to the home of an older German couple. They'd been married 61 yrs, and had met during the war with only the clothes on their backs...	Loupiness	6	547	Aug 6, 2007 by Blue eyes
	new alanon book? (Preview) I've heard there is a new alanon book. Does anybody have the title, the price and the catalog number where I can order some for my home group? I have to order daily reading books this wek and was hoping to order the new one, but it's not listed inthe 2007 WSO catalog. LINDA	afglin	3	442	Aug 6, 2007 by Blue eyes
	Update (Preview) ((((((MIP Family)))))) Afternoon all. I have not been around much lately, life has been too busy. I spent the last few weeks arranging my mother's wedding. It was held last week and all went very well. I had a houseful of relatives for a couple of days. You know how they say weddings and funerals br...	lilms	3	427	Aug 6, 2007 by Christy
	Stay the course... (Preview) (((((((Everyone))))))) Lately, I have just been drawn to movies that have an underlying current of... an insurmountable strugle to survive. I just realized tonight that I am seeking them out, and even if it's the same one over and over... I just can't change the channel. Many of us are in the midst of...	rtexas	11	571	Aug 6, 2007 by Jen
	meetings (Preview) I was wondering if anyone was at the meeting I spoke at the other night? I could use some ESH in response to what i said. Lanchas	Lanchas	0	443	Aug 6, 2007 by Lanchas
	Witnessing something very unpleasant (Preview) My sil was released from rehab yesterday, ten days early. My AH has been on the phone with his family a lot over the past 3-weeks analyzing her situation to the nth degree. AH's mother is an alcoholic and their is a strong argument that his father is as well. AH and his parents talk non-stop about the thing...	babysteps	5	564	Aug 6, 2007 by abbyal
	Debilyn (Preview) How are you doing? Thought I would send you a note to make ya feel special today. hehehe ;) I hope today is going better for you. Please post. FOY	Friendofyours	0	413	Aug 6, 2007 by Friendofyours
	New and I can see a long road ahead.... (Preview) Hi there, I am 58 and my DH is almost 60. He is a quiet well behaved and still working Alcoholic. It has really gotten a hold of his this past 5 to 10 years. He spends most of his time off in the basement drinking and smoking and watching his own choice of TV shows. If I ask him to join me for a show upstairs in the l...	SuSUN	3	623	Aug 6, 2007 by Friendofyours
	seeing an A with new eyes (Preview) This morning I got up later than usual to go to work. I have a little bit of flexibility in my start time. I have posted before that I live with a codependent woman and her son (I did not know till today he was a drug user). I've been largely holed up in my room for weeks because I had many many run ins with variou...	maresie2	2	553	Aug 6, 2007 by maresie2
	Who are we? (Preview) I thought we could get to know each other a bit more on a personal level since we have alot of new comers. So I am going to ask some questions and feel free to join in. 1. Do you live in the city or country? 2. What is your favorite thing to do? (hobby) 3. Do you have animals? What kind? 4. Do you have children? Age...	Friendofyours	13	1190	Aug 6, 2007 by sweetums
	Being spontaneous can be exhausting! (Preview) ((((((((Family)))))))), Good morning to you all. I hope you've had a wonderful weekend. I have been on vacation this past week and what a riot it was! Learned alot about myself and recovery too. Hubby has been a bit bored since his foot surgery 15 weeks ago. It always seems like my vacations lately...	Karilynn	6	798	Aug 6, 2007 by sweetums
	Feeling Hopeless and Lonely (Preview) Hi. I am just returning to Al-Anon after about 8 years of trying to do this by myself. I have done almost nothing during that time period but isolate. I have gone for a week at a time without talking to a single human being. I recently had foot surgery and have been unable to get out and about. It has poin...	Shellsmom	12	912	Aug 6, 2007 by carosie
	Setting boundaries (Preview) My A boyfriend got back from rehab a few days ago, and for the past two nights has been drinking after I went to bed. We live together, so I'm finding that complicates this situation alot. I found that I was really strong and peaceful while he was gone but it's much harder to put things into practice when he...	summergrl83	5	746	Aug 6, 2007 by Karilynn
	who are we? a different version (Preview) I got this idea from Friendofyours - great idea by the way! I have thought of some questions and thought I would post them. You don't have to answer if you don't want to, I just thought I would post and see what responses (if any) that I get. Well here are some questions I thought of that would help us to get t...	Lanchas	10	681	Aug 5, 2007 by Kim65
	Anger, resentment and pain (Preview) I thought about tagging these thoughts on the end of my "what a jerk" post of a couple days ago. So this is related . . . I see now, after the help of Alanon friends who told me "like it is", just what was going on and I'd like to share that with everyone here. When my son came home that ni...	Kim65	6	596	Aug 5, 2007 by mhgal
	Grieving yet Joyful (Preview) I was just reading a post by rtexas - what an amazing person (yes you are). Hearing others stories, watching their growth and struggles, talking to one another, supporting one another non-judgmentally - that is what this program is all about. And I love each and every one of you here. Last month my l...	kismetstrand	13	988	Aug 5, 2007 by kismetstrand
	Blame (Preview) Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot!	Phil	7	504	Aug 5, 2007 by Diva
	FEELING GOOD TODAY (Preview) (((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) Most of you who know me, will know I opened a f2f group in my area. It's been running about three months now. It has had on average between four and eight people every week. I am the only official member who Is allowed to hold a position in the group just now, so I have be...	ally	3	666	Aug 5, 2007 by afmom03
	RE: The Good Ship "Al-Anon" (Preview) Dave's post got me thinking metaphorically again. I think that it's lost on page two or three if you sort by start date instead of last post so I thought I'd bring it up here and see if anyone could come up with any other Good Ships that Alanon might be to them. Thanks David. Is it an ice cutter, crushing thr...	bobump	10	1272	Aug 5, 2007 by david62
	My sponsor (Preview) lost her husband to cancer Wednesday afternoon. This was one of the most amazing couples you could ever meet. When she told me in Jan. they'd found cancer I was so angry, thinking how unfair this was...especially to happen to them. She's been in program a long time and wouldn't even let me be angry f...	Lunamoth	6	606	Aug 5, 2007 by wp
	Day 6 and its over ...for now (Preview) Just checkin in real quick, it was super long night , babysitting a A that has been up for days and seeing things and ghosts. Meth is going to be the distruction of this country.... drama drama and more drama... He will sleep probly till tomorrow and I will offer him the tools of recovery if he wants them, i...	HC2007	5	659	Aug 4, 2007 by wp
	no more kids! (Preview) My Asober told me 2 days ago that his ex had called him complaining of how their daughter, who lives with them and will be 20 in Sept. (same age as my daughter that I just kicked out for not following our house rules and disrespecting me), is starting to act up and show the same behavior that my daughter was s...	lmt123	2	593	Aug 4, 2007 by wp
	Sharing...Alcoholism As A Disease (Preview) But It Doesn't Act Like a Disease!One of the difficulties in recognizing alcoholism as a disease is it just plain doesn't seem like one. It doesn't look, sound, smell and it certainly doesn't act like a disease. To make matters worse, generally it denies it exists and resists treatment. Alcoholism h...	Phil	9	691	Aug 4, 2007 by Lanchas
	JUST A THOUGHT.... (Preview) Guys, I was listening to a Whitney Houston Cd, and all of a sudden I realised the Lyrics of this song was something all us Alanons need to hear..... "They can't take away my Dignity, because the greatest love of all is happening to me".. I believe that children of our future Teach them well and...	ally	3	559	Aug 4, 2007 by Friendofyours
	I knew I shouldn't have hoped (Preview) Here's the logic of an A: I'm having a bad day because of the fallout from the things I did last night while drinking, so I'm not going to keep the appointment with the addictions specialist. He missed work, something he always prided himself on never doing, because he thought he'd called his boss to le...	Jamekaticy	1	563	Aug 4, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Continuing Cycle (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&p=3&topicID=11272138	snapdragon	6	785	Aug 4, 2007 by cleothe2
	meetings in the bronx (Preview) Hey all, I am in the Bronx,NY visiting with some friends and I tried to look up local meetings but it didn't have any listed for Saturday. That can't be right! So, if anyone has a site that I can go to to get to a meeting tonight I would apperciate it. Or if anyone is near here and knows of a meeting let me kn...	serendipity	1	7752	Aug 4, 2007 by ally
	dreaming (Preview) I recently found out that the A has a criminal issue in the works realting to his driving which as yo uall know is tremendously reckless. I 've recently been crafting a dream of getting me a place with the dogs and cats. That is a long long long way off but I can see the possibility these days in ways I never co...	maresie2	5	609	Aug 4, 2007 by serendipity
	Eve (Preview) I just wanted to say thank you for all the support I have recieved here, the tears that have been shed,and laughter that was shared. You were all my rock when I was just a piece of sand. I haven't been on much as my health has and seems to be deteriating fast lately. I am hoping to find a Dr. who can help me with p...	Eve Eve Eve	2	407	Aug 4, 2007 by belle1
	Sunday, August 5th Agenda, 9:00 PM Eastern Standard Time (Preview) August 5th Agenda I. OP SCHEDULE II. MINUTES APPROVAL FROM JULY 8TH. III. TREASURER'S REPORT IV. OLD BUSINESS A. Update on WSO Registration / Permission to use CAL B. FAQ's (Frequently Asked Questions) V. NEW BUS...	Maria123	2	406	Aug 4, 2007 by weggie
	NEW Just needed to talk (Preview) I'm new to this board. I just needed somewhere to go...talk...after last night. Needing to not feel alone. I don't even know where to start. Found out about a 2 weeks ago that I'm pregnant. I knew the husband was an alcoholic when I married him...but stupid me thought that this time things would be...	lil_pieces	10	642	Aug 4, 2007 by Jamekaticy
	Still here... still amazed (Preview) (((((((Everyone))))))) It has been very tough for me to hit the site for any extended period right now, but I am around and read in bits and pieces when I can. Wanted to drop a line and let you know you are all in my thoughts and prayers... even in my absence. It is rare these days that something new is not...	rtexas	10	797	Aug 4, 2007 by Karilynn
	How do I draw the line? (Preview) How do you draw the line between loving detachment and living separate lives? I am having an extremely hard time dealing with my Ah sobers lack of interest for things he used to enjoy. I understand that he needs to stay away from alcohol in order not to relapse; but I am not the one with the problem and I r...	dollface	9	986	Aug 4, 2007 by Jamekaticy
	Give Me Strength! (Preview) I invited Ah(supuposedly sober) over to discuss our future. Our older two children are out of state, and our 2.5 yr old could not contain his excitement knowing his daddy was coming over. He will be leaving (a friend is taking him so we can talk), but it broke my heart to see this child run around with gl...	Loupiness	5	419	Aug 4, 2007 by Jamekaticy
	Prayer Request (Preview) Good Morning Alanon Family, I don't usually post on the message board but I spend a lot of time in the chatroom. I would like to ask for prayers on behalf of lilac1 she cannot get logged in. Her brother Paul was seriously injured in a fire and is now in intensive care in hospital. Thankyou Pam Helen if you ar...	wheelie123	12	702	Aug 4, 2007 by wp
	Affirmations, I DBL Dawg Dare!!!!! (Preview) Affirmations are a great way to run up the mountain instead of continuing to go around it and stay in the same holding pattern or stumble and fall back down. The challenge is to just try it and see what happens. Today: Tell yourself I am one with source energy (HP), I am a loving, kind and happy person....	Christy	10	670	Aug 4, 2007 by bobump
	Can be so hard to remain calm (Preview) so after our big fight which ended with him at the bar and two days of me getting up, going into the office, and coming home late, my AH said something to me about it all. I knew that he was probably confused, hurt, and a little angry that he hadn't seen me in two days, but I needed time away after the hurtful th...	lil_pieces	3	549	Aug 3, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Desperate! (Preview) Hi I am a new member. My story is long, but I will try and make it short and sweet. My husband is an A. He has been for the last 13 years that we have been together. We are in the middle of a remodel of our 35 year old home. Over the last few weeks he has been drinking more and more. It seems that he is drunk eve...	BrandyCane	2	540	Aug 3, 2007 by rtexas
	another newbie (Preview) Hello everyone, I've been reading here for a few days and I just feel I need your friendship. I logged in as lonely girl, but I the ironic thing is that I don't think I've had a day to myself for at least 4 years. I have a long sad sob story just like everyone else. I feel so pathetic right now I don't even fe...	lonelygirl	10	502	Aug 3, 2007 by lil_pieces
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