Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

maresie2 · maresie2

This morning I got up later than usual to go to work. I have a little bit of flexibility in my start time. I have posted before that I live with a codependent woman and her son (I did not know till today he was a drug user). I've been largely holed up in my room for weeks because I had many many run ins with variou...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I thought we could get to know each other a bit more on a personal level since we have alot of new comers. So I am going to ask some questions and feel free to join in. 1. Do you live in the city or country? 2. What is your favorite thing to do? (hobby) 3. Do you have animals? What kind? 4. Do you have children? Age...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family)))))))), Good morning to you all. I hope you've had a wonderful weekend. I have been on vacation this past week and what a riot it was! Learned alot about myself and recovery too. Hubby has been a bit bored since his foot surgery 15 weeks ago. It always seems like my vacations lately...

Shellsmom · Shellsmom

Hi. I am just returning to Al-Anon after about 8 years of trying to do this by myself. I have done almost nothing during that time period but isolate. I have gone for a week at a time without talking to a single human being. I recently had foot surgery and have been unable to get out and about. It has poin...

summergrl83 · summergrl83

My A boyfriend got back from rehab a few days ago, and for the past two nights has been drinking after I went to bed. We live together, so I'm finding that complicates this situation alot. I found that I was really strong and peaceful while he was gone but it's much harder to put things into practice when he...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I got this idea from Friendofyours - great idea by the way! I have thought of some questions and thought I would post them. You don't have to answer if you don't want to, I just thought I would post and see what responses (if any) that I get. Well here are some questions I thought of that would help us to get t...

Kim65 · Kim65

I thought about tagging these thoughts on the end of my "what a jerk" post of a couple days ago. So this is related . . . I see now, after the help of Alanon friends who told me "like it is", just what was going on and I'd like to share that with everyone here. When my son came home that ni...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I was just reading a post by rtexas - what an amazing person (yes you are). Hearing others stories, watching their growth and struggles, talking to one another, supporting one another non-judgmentally - that is what this program is all about. And I love each and every one of you here. Last month my l...

Phil · Phil

Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot!

ally · ally

(((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) Most of you who know me, will know I opened a f2f group in my area. It's been running about three months now. It has had on average between four and eight people every week. I am the only official member who Is allowed to hold a position in the group just now, so I have be...

bobump · bobump

Dave's post got me thinking metaphorically again. I think that it's lost on page two or three if you sort by start date instead of last post so I thought I'd bring it up here and see if anyone could come up with any other Good Ships that Alanon might be to them. Thanks David. Is it an ice cutter, crushing thr...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

lost her husband to cancer Wednesday afternoon. This was one of the most amazing couples you could ever meet. When she told me in Jan. they'd found cancer I was so angry, thinking how unfair this was...especially to happen to them. She's been in program a long time and wouldn't even let me be angry f...

HC2007 · HC2007

Just checkin in real quick, it was super long night , babysitting a A that has been up for days and seeing things and ghosts. Meth is going to be the distruction of this country.... drama drama and more drama... He will sleep probly till tomorrow and I will offer him the tools of recovery if he wants them, i...

lmt123 · lmt123

My Asober told me 2 days ago that his ex had called him complaining of how their daughter, who lives with them and will be 20 in Sept. (same age as my daughter that I just kicked out for not following our house rules and disrespecting me), is starting to act up and show the same behavior that my daughter was s...

Phil · Phil

But It Doesn't Act Like a Disease!One of the difficulties in recognizing alcoholism as a disease is it just plain doesn't seem like one. It doesn't look, sound, smell and it certainly doesn't act like a disease. To make matters worse, generally it denies it exists and resists treatment. Alcoholism h...

ally · ally

Guys, I was listening to a Whitney Houston Cd, and all of a sudden I realised the Lyrics of this song was something all us Alanons need to hear..... "They can't take away my Dignity, because the greatest love of all is happening to me".. I believe that children of our future Teach them well and...

Jamekaticy · Jamekaticy

Here's the logic of an A: I'm having a bad day because of the fallout from the things I did last night while drinking, so I'm not going to keep the appointment with the addictions specialist. He missed work, something he always prided himself on never doing, because he thought he'd called his boss to le...

snapdragon · snapdragon

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&p=3&topicID=11272138

serendipity · serendipity

Hey all, I am in the Bronx,NY visiting with some friends and I tried to look up local meetings but it didn't have any listed for Saturday. That can't be right! So, if anyone has a site that I can go to to get to a meeting tonight I would apperciate it. Or if anyone is near here and knows of a meeting let me kn...

maresie2 · maresie2

I recently found out that the A has a criminal issue in the works realting to his driving which as yo uall know is tremendously reckless. I 've recently been crafting a dream of getting me a place with the dogs and cats. That is a long long long way off but I can see the possibility these days in ways I never co...

Eve Eve Eve · Eve Eve Eve

I just wanted to say thank you for all the support I have recieved here, the tears that have been shed,and laughter that was shared. You were all my rock when I was just a piece of sand. I haven't been on much as my health has and seems to be deteriating fast lately. I am hoping to find a Dr. who can help me with p...

Maria123 · Maria123

August 5th Agenda I. OP SCHEDULE II. MINUTES APPROVAL FROM JULY 8TH. III. TREASURER'S REPORT IV. OLD BUSINESS A. Update on WSO Registration / Permission to use CAL B. FAQ's (Frequently Asked Questions) V. NEW BUS...

lil_pieces · lil_pieces

I'm new to this board. I just needed somewhere to go...talk...after last night. Needing to not feel alone. I don't even know where to start. Found out about a 2 weeks ago that I'm pregnant. I knew the husband was an alcoholic when I married him...but stupid me thought that this time things would be...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((((Everyone))))))) It has been very tough for me to hit the site for any extended period right now, but I am around and read in bits and pieces when I can. Wanted to drop a line and let you know you are all in my thoughts and prayers... even in my absence. It is rare these days that something new is not...

dollface · dollface

How do you draw the line between loving detachment and living separate lives? I am having an extremely hard time dealing with my Ah sobers lack of interest for things he used to enjoy. I understand that he needs to stay away from alcohol in order not to relapse; but I am not the one with the problem and I r...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I invited Ah(supuposedly sober) over to discuss our future. Our older two children are out of state, and our 2.5 yr old could not contain his excitement knowing his daddy was coming over. He will be leaving (a friend is taking him so we can talk), but it broke my heart to see this child run around with gl...

wheelie123 · wheelie123

Good Morning Alanon Family, I don't usually post on the message board but I spend a lot of time in the chatroom. I would like to ask for prayers on behalf of lilac1 she cannot get logged in. Her brother Paul was seriously injured in a fire and is now in intensive care in hospital. Thankyou Pam Helen if you ar...

Christy · Christy

Affirmations are a great way to run up the mountain instead of continuing to go around it and stay in the same holding pattern or stumble and fall back down. The challenge is to just try it and see what happens. Today: Tell yourself I am one with source energy (HP), I am a loving, kind and happy person....

lil_pieces · lil_pieces

so after our big fight which ended with him at the bar and two days of me getting up, going into the office, and coming home late, my AH said something to me about it all. I knew that he was probably confused, hurt, and a little angry that he hadn't seen me in two days, but I needed time away after the hurtful th...

BrandyCane · BrandyCane

Hi I am a new member. My story is long, but I will try and make it short and sweet. My husband is an A. He has been for the last 13 years that we have been together. We are in the middle of a remodel of our 35 year old home. Over the last few weeks he has been drinking more and more. It seems that he is drunk eve...

lonelygirl · lonelygirl

Hello everyone, I've been reading here for a few days and I just feel I need your friendship. I logged in as lonely girl, but I the ironic thing is that I don't think I've had a day to myself for at least 4 years. I have a long sad sob story just like everyone else. I feel so pathetic right now I don't even fe...

getoverit · getoverit

Hi 2 all, I love this a.m. topic, rather a reflection on today's reading o d a a time in alanon..* Shimo, u r so the bomb girl, I do not know what we'd do without u, u precious person.. *Aug 3rd, 07 Today has been a magical day, I think my silly keyboard ( or silly me.. ) changed to the other language it is set for...

HC2007 · HC2007

I know how to make it stop, but I dont like how to make it stop... Its not realy what I want, but I know it is what I should want.... talking in circles to myself my head is spinning.. 20 years with an A, from one substance to another, I long for the days it was alcohol, is that bizarre or what? I love him more then...

david62 · david62

At my weekly meeting after the meeting last nite I was talking with one of my alanut friends about relationships. All of us sitting at the table were divorced, two within the last 3 months. We were talking about the expression batted around here in al-anon sometimes (or in codependent literature) tha...

Kim65 · Kim65

The A ran into my son and his friend in town, and asked them to come cut wood with him to make a little cash. These 20 yr old boys were thrilled, as the A told them he could make $500 in a single day. They waited for him at his place until they got bored and drifted over to a new friend's home. In the meantime, t...

flower · flower

I am still confused, but really appreciate the meetings and support here. You all postede right away and helped me. Thank you. I guess I'm confused on how to help my family and self. Mainly I'm trying to be happy no matter what. I started smoking again which I'm not happy about but with all the stress a...

Leetle · Leetle

When I first arrived at alanon's door in crisis, I heard one day at a time, one minute or second at a time if you have to. It helped me to deal with my obssesive thinking, etc. To calm myself down and figure out what the next best thing was for me. Now, I feel like I have moved on to a different phase of the exa...

getoverit · getoverit

Hello 2 all, Golly, The readings today are so kind of an affirmation to doing the slogan work - its written out like an insurance policy, do the slogans and peace back to serenity is so (2000 ed). The slogan for 8.02.07 that is most enforced here in the reader is, to live and let live. Then the reading is fu...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))) Hello Again....(saw that in a movie, and wanted to say it)..lol Well, for three days, I have cried my eyes out over a lost love. I have been feeling, used, abused, worthless, useless, not good enough, comparing myself to other women, etc!!!(stinki...

david62 · david62

((((Family)))) Here I am on a rainy Saturday afternoon! I had plans today to do some things, which have not happened for one reason or another, the lastest being the continued deluge of my area by rain. Not complaining...too much... as we have been in a drought for the last couple of years and have had...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I found a great website I think someone here may have mentioned it before but I thought it was one I already saw. They had forms and step by step instructions on how to file in NC. And it was a lawyer's website of all things. All I need to be concerned with now is custody and I have a restraining order that'...

serendipity · serendipity

I just tried to send a PM and I sent it to myself (HP trying to tell me something?) Where it says recipient it says my name and then subject is empty. Any suggestions or do I really need to hear what I am saying LOL!

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Sometimes here and there I find myself beating me up for sticking with this as long as I did. I have been with an A or addict or both for the past 14 years of my life. Here I am 36 with 3 kids, a single mom and no prospects and not even enough interest even if I found one. I get a lot of if only's. If only I would h...

Rita G · Rita G

I don't know if we have any MIP members that are in the Minneapolis area, but probably some will have friends or family members in the area. Just wanted to send out good thoughts & prayers for all those affected by this horrible accident. As a DOT (Dept of Transportation) employee, my co-workers we...

bev · bev

went to my mothers-in-laws yesterday to pick up the cell phone bills for the past 3 months{SAH is on my mother-in-law account.well to my surprise that woman he says he didnt do anything with{read earlier post from a few days ago}or really call there was her number on the cell bill starting in aril 7 to ma...

QOD · QOD

Hey Everyone - I don't know how many prayers went out for me yesterday but it worked!!! I called my credit card company this morning and they WERE able to CANCEL the balance transfer I made Monday Night. I am FREE of that debt now. AND I AM THE WISER FOR THE EXPERIENCE!!! Now I will have to do a follow up to...

QOD · QOD

Ok (Carolinagirl, you've already heard all this) - Here goes. I am SOOO STUPID!!! I had a collection agency call me last night. They said that my AH owed just under $8000 on a credit card amd that I was an "Authorized User" and therefore liable for it. I said I was not, that I had checked int...

ddub · ddub

New but understand the 3 C's (sigh of relief) and to get off his back/get on w/my life I never have talked about this with him, somehow it's like a silent rule that's not my business BUT his drinking is a big white elephant in our house the children know I have started attending AlAnon and they are talking...

firstin911 · firstin911

Hello everyone. new to this. I am just overwhelmed right now. I want to know if there is people that are willing to talk with me. my mom is a recovering alcoholic and my dad and brother go to al-anon. recently my dad has been talking to me and stating how he has fear for me and that the relationship that...

ally · ally

(((((((((((Guys))))))))))))) Ok, wait for it...lol Last night I decided to join a date line on the internet. Curious I guess. Well a guy sent me and e.mail, and we got talking. He lives only 30 miles away from me. We got on to msn. Today he sent me an Instant message, and we spoke for two hours. We talked ab...

Becky1 · Becky1

My daughter had her sonogram today, and I went with her and her husband...it was amazing! IT IS GOING TO BE A GIRL LOVE IN RECOVERY, BECKY1

Becky1 · Becky1

We had a good weekend together, AH and I. Went to a party, danced, laughed, kissed. Went out to eat with a friend Monday night. Tuesday night (last night) he was acting irritable when I got home, so I mowed a little, then went to Walmart. Got home, he was still acting like a jerk. Started grouching abou...

bobump · bobump

Here at the NJ Alnon Convention. Leave me a msg if your in town, would be great to put a face w/ the name. You can also leave msg for room 1010. :) Wife and son are with me. Bob

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Friends))) Thanks to all for the prayers for "D". HP works in ways that only he knows what is best for us. Our friend got worse last night but did not call us until this morning. I could tell immediately while talking with him he was not in his right mind. So, AH and I decided we needed to i...

debilyn · debilyn

A few days ago my son needed his father, my A, to sign off on some papers. My son is buying my other house he grew up in. So the A actually agreed to go do it with Mac. Mac went to pick him up and the A would not get into the car with Mac. He has a nice car, is an honorable man. A was paranoid. (A knows Mac was going to do...

NANUKE · NANUKE

Hi Family, As a follow-up to the in-law situation (I'm Nobody's Convenience which I posted a few days ago) I informed them (nephew and this aunt) that I was turning over the aunt's banking, medication and general care to her nephew. I suggested we meet at the bank today at which time, I turned over a bla...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have decided it's time, I hope that moving to a different county this month won't affect my ability to file. I don't really have the money but I SO want to be done!!! Hey QOD...can I borrow a grand to pay for a lawyer? LOL... Really I am going to have to file on my own and have no idea what I'm doing and ther...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone, A new woman started at my office. She seemed really nice. She asked me to go to lunch, we went to a local spot. She kept talking incessantly. I would say something and there was no response. She would immediately pick up and keep talking again incessantly. I thought that it was because she wa...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Just for today, name three things that YOU are grateful for. 1)I am grateful my entire family has their health 2)I am grateful we have food to eat and lots of it. 3)I am grateful for reality TV to let me know that I am not crazy ;)

Loupiness · Loupiness

In earlier posts I wrote how my AHsober asked if his A affair could be at our Open House for our business. Well, it didn't happen, but the whole experience really was what I needed to push me toward resolution. I saw how distorted his thinking really is, and how little he thinks of me. Then yesterday we spo...

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	seeing an A with new eyes (Preview) This morning I got up later than usual to go to work. I have a little bit of flexibility in my start time. I have posted before that I live with a codependent woman and her son (I did not know till today he was a drug user). I've been largely holed up in my room for weeks because I had many many run ins with variou...	maresie2	2	473	Aug 6, 2007 by maresie2
	Who are we? (Preview) I thought we could get to know each other a bit more on a personal level since we have alot of new comers. So I am going to ask some questions and feel free to join in. 1. Do you live in the city or country? 2. What is your favorite thing to do? (hobby) 3. Do you have animals? What kind? 4. Do you have children? Age...	Friendofyours	13	1103	Aug 6, 2007 by sweetums
	Being spontaneous can be exhausting! (Preview) ((((((((Family)))))))), Good morning to you all. I hope you've had a wonderful weekend. I have been on vacation this past week and what a riot it was! Learned alot about myself and recovery too. Hubby has been a bit bored since his foot surgery 15 weeks ago. It always seems like my vacations lately...	Karilynn	6	718	Aug 6, 2007 by sweetums
	Feeling Hopeless and Lonely (Preview) Hi. I am just returning to Al-Anon after about 8 years of trying to do this by myself. I have done almost nothing during that time period but isolate. I have gone for a week at a time without talking to a single human being. I recently had foot surgery and have been unable to get out and about. It has poin...	Shellsmom	12	815	Aug 6, 2007 by carosie
	Setting boundaries (Preview) My A boyfriend got back from rehab a few days ago, and for the past two nights has been drinking after I went to bed. We live together, so I'm finding that complicates this situation alot. I found that I was really strong and peaceful while he was gone but it's much harder to put things into practice when he...	summergrl83	5	653	Aug 6, 2007 by Karilynn
	who are we? a different version (Preview) I got this idea from Friendofyours - great idea by the way! I have thought of some questions and thought I would post them. You don't have to answer if you don't want to, I just thought I would post and see what responses (if any) that I get. Well here are some questions I thought of that would help us to get t...	Lanchas	10	592	Aug 5, 2007 by Kim65
	Anger, resentment and pain (Preview) I thought about tagging these thoughts on the end of my "what a jerk" post of a couple days ago. So this is related . . . I see now, after the help of Alanon friends who told me "like it is", just what was going on and I'd like to share that with everyone here. When my son came home that ni...	Kim65	6	519	Aug 5, 2007 by mhgal
	Grieving yet Joyful (Preview) I was just reading a post by rtexas - what an amazing person (yes you are). Hearing others stories, watching their growth and struggles, talking to one another, supporting one another non-judgmentally - that is what this program is all about. And I love each and every one of you here. Last month my l...	kismetstrand	13	911	Aug 5, 2007 by kismetstrand
	Blame (Preview) Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot!	Phil	7	387	Aug 5, 2007 by Diva
	FEELING GOOD TODAY (Preview) (((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) Most of you who know me, will know I opened a f2f group in my area. It's been running about three months now. It has had on average between four and eight people every week. I am the only official member who Is allowed to hold a position in the group just now, so I have be...	ally	3	585	Aug 5, 2007 by afmom03
	RE: The Good Ship "Al-Anon" (Preview) Dave's post got me thinking metaphorically again. I think that it's lost on page two or three if you sort by start date instead of last post so I thought I'd bring it up here and see if anyone could come up with any other Good Ships that Alanon might be to them. Thanks David. Is it an ice cutter, crushing thr...	bobump	10	1128	Aug 5, 2007 by david62
	My sponsor (Preview) lost her husband to cancer Wednesday afternoon. This was one of the most amazing couples you could ever meet. When she told me in Jan. they'd found cancer I was so angry, thinking how unfair this was...especially to happen to them. She's been in program a long time and wouldn't even let me be angry f...	Lunamoth	6	523	Aug 5, 2007 by wp
	Day 6 and its over ...for now (Preview) Just checkin in real quick, it was super long night , babysitting a A that has been up for days and seeing things and ghosts. Meth is going to be the distruction of this country.... drama drama and more drama... He will sleep probly till tomorrow and I will offer him the tools of recovery if he wants them, i...	HC2007	5	578	Aug 4, 2007 by wp
	no more kids! (Preview) My Asober told me 2 days ago that his ex had called him complaining of how their daughter, who lives with them and will be 20 in Sept. (same age as my daughter that I just kicked out for not following our house rules and disrespecting me), is starting to act up and show the same behavior that my daughter was s...	lmt123	2	499	Aug 4, 2007 by wp
	Sharing...Alcoholism As A Disease (Preview) But It Doesn't Act Like a Disease!One of the difficulties in recognizing alcoholism as a disease is it just plain doesn't seem like one. It doesn't look, sound, smell and it certainly doesn't act like a disease. To make matters worse, generally it denies it exists and resists treatment. Alcoholism h...	Phil	9	617	Aug 4, 2007 by Lanchas
	JUST A THOUGHT.... (Preview) Guys, I was listening to a Whitney Houston Cd, and all of a sudden I realised the Lyrics of this song was something all us Alanons need to hear..... "They can't take away my Dignity, because the greatest love of all is happening to me".. I believe that children of our future Teach them well and...	ally	3	472	Aug 4, 2007 by Friendofyours
	I knew I shouldn't have hoped (Preview) Here's the logic of an A: I'm having a bad day because of the fallout from the things I did last night while drinking, so I'm not going to keep the appointment with the addictions specialist. He missed work, something he always prided himself on never doing, because he thought he'd called his boss to le...	Jamekaticy	1	488	Aug 4, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Continuing Cycle (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&p=3&topicID=11272138	snapdragon	6	691	Aug 4, 2007 by cleothe2
	meetings in the bronx (Preview) Hey all, I am in the Bronx,NY visiting with some friends and I tried to look up local meetings but it didn't have any listed for Saturday. That can't be right! So, if anyone has a site that I can go to to get to a meeting tonight I would apperciate it. Or if anyone is near here and knows of a meeting let me kn...	serendipity	1	7086	Aug 4, 2007 by ally
	dreaming (Preview) I recently found out that the A has a criminal issue in the works realting to his driving which as yo uall know is tremendously reckless. I 've recently been crafting a dream of getting me a place with the dogs and cats. That is a long long long way off but I can see the possibility these days in ways I never co...	maresie2	5	512	Aug 4, 2007 by serendipity
	Eve (Preview) I just wanted to say thank you for all the support I have recieved here, the tears that have been shed,and laughter that was shared. You were all my rock when I was just a piece of sand. I haven't been on much as my health has and seems to be deteriating fast lately. I am hoping to find a Dr. who can help me with p...	Eve Eve Eve	2	291	Aug 4, 2007 by belle1
	Sunday, August 5th Agenda, 9:00 PM Eastern Standard Time (Preview) August 5th Agenda I. OP SCHEDULE II. MINUTES APPROVAL FROM JULY 8TH. III. TREASURER'S REPORT IV. OLD BUSINESS A. Update on WSO Registration / Permission to use CAL B. FAQ's (Frequently Asked Questions) V. NEW BUS...	Maria123	2	331	Aug 4, 2007 by weggie
	NEW Just needed to talk (Preview) I'm new to this board. I just needed somewhere to go...talk...after last night. Needing to not feel alone. I don't even know where to start. Found out about a 2 weeks ago that I'm pregnant. I knew the husband was an alcoholic when I married him...but stupid me thought that this time things would be...	lil_pieces	10	550	Aug 4, 2007 by Jamekaticy
	Still here... still amazed (Preview) (((((((Everyone))))))) It has been very tough for me to hit the site for any extended period right now, but I am around and read in bits and pieces when I can. Wanted to drop a line and let you know you are all in my thoughts and prayers... even in my absence. It is rare these days that something new is not...	rtexas	10	705	Aug 4, 2007 by Karilynn
	How do I draw the line? (Preview) How do you draw the line between loving detachment and living separate lives? I am having an extremely hard time dealing with my Ah sobers lack of interest for things he used to enjoy. I understand that he needs to stay away from alcohol in order not to relapse; but I am not the one with the problem and I r...	dollface	9	897	Aug 4, 2007 by Jamekaticy
	Give Me Strength! (Preview) I invited Ah(supuposedly sober) over to discuss our future. Our older two children are out of state, and our 2.5 yr old could not contain his excitement knowing his daddy was coming over. He will be leaving (a friend is taking him so we can talk), but it broke my heart to see this child run around with gl...	Loupiness	5	337	Aug 4, 2007 by Jamekaticy
	Prayer Request (Preview) Good Morning Alanon Family, I don't usually post on the message board but I spend a lot of time in the chatroom. I would like to ask for prayers on behalf of lilac1 she cannot get logged in. Her brother Paul was seriously injured in a fire and is now in intensive care in hospital. Thankyou Pam Helen if you ar...	wheelie123	12	624	Aug 4, 2007 by wp
	Affirmations, I DBL Dawg Dare!!!!! (Preview) Affirmations are a great way to run up the mountain instead of continuing to go around it and stay in the same holding pattern or stumble and fall back down. The challenge is to just try it and see what happens. Today: Tell yourself I am one with source energy (HP), I am a loving, kind and happy person....	Christy	10	591	Aug 4, 2007 by bobump
	Can be so hard to remain calm (Preview) so after our big fight which ended with him at the bar and two days of me getting up, going into the office, and coming home late, my AH said something to me about it all. I knew that he was probably confused, hurt, and a little angry that he hadn't seen me in two days, but I needed time away after the hurtful th...	lil_pieces	3	466	Aug 3, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Desperate! (Preview) Hi I am a new member. My story is long, but I will try and make it short and sweet. My husband is an A. He has been for the last 13 years that we have been together. We are in the middle of a remodel of our 35 year old home. Over the last few weeks he has been drinking more and more. It seems that he is drunk eve...	BrandyCane	2	444	Aug 3, 2007 by rtexas
	another newbie (Preview) Hello everyone, I've been reading here for a few days and I just feel I need your friendship. I logged in as lonely girl, but I the ironic thing is that I don't think I've had a day to myself for at least 4 years. I have a long sad sob story just like everyone else. I feel so pathetic right now I don't even fe...	lonelygirl	10	413	Aug 3, 2007 by lil_pieces
	Today's a.m. topic (Preview) Hi 2 all, I love this a.m. topic, rather a reflection on today's reading o d a a time in alanon..* Shimo, u r so the bomb girl, I do not know what we'd do without u, u precious person.. *Aug 3rd, 07 Today has been a magical day, I think my silly keyboard ( or silly me.. ) changed to the other language it is set for...	getoverit	0	254	Aug 3, 2007 by getoverit
	I want off this ride... (Preview) I know how to make it stop, but I dont like how to make it stop... Its not realy what I want, but I know it is what I should want.... talking in circles to myself my head is spinning.. 20 years with an A, from one substance to another, I long for the days it was alcohol, is that bizarre or what? I love him more then...	HC2007	11	624	Aug 3, 2007 by HC2007
	Are Our Pickers Broken??? (Preview) At my weekly meeting after the meeting last nite I was talking with one of my alanut friends about relationships. All of us sitting at the table were divorced, two within the last 3 months. We were talking about the expression batted around here in al-anon sometimes (or in codependent literature) tha...	david62	12	736	Aug 3, 2007 by kismetstrand
	What a jerk . . . (Preview) The A ran into my son and his friend in town, and asked them to come cut wood with him to make a little cash. These 20 yr old boys were thrilled, as the A told them he could make $500 in a single day. They waited for him at his place until they got bored and drifted over to a new friend's home. In the meantime, t...	Kim65	5	2187	Aug 3, 2007 by Kim65
	confused (Preview) I am still confused, but really appreciate the meetings and support here. You all postede right away and helped me. Thank you. I guess I'm confused on how to help my family and self. Mainly I'm trying to be happy no matter what. I started smoking again which I'm not happy about but with all the stress a...	flower	4	363	Aug 3, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Taking care of myself every moment (Preview) When I first arrived at alanon's door in crisis, I heard one day at a time, one minute or second at a time if you have to. It helped me to deal with my obssesive thinking, etc. To calm myself down and figure out what the next best thing was for me. Now, I feel like I have moved on to a different phase of the exa...	Leetle	2	486	Aug 3, 2007 by Jerry F
	eight, the second zero seven readings o d a a t alanon (Preview) Hello 2 all, Golly, The readings today are so kind of an affirmation to doing the slogan work - its written out like an insurance policy, do the slogans and peace back to serenity is so (2000 ed). The slogan for 8.02.07 that is most enforced here in the reader is, to live and let live. Then the reading is fu...	getoverit	1	525	Aug 3, 2007 by aunitedway
	PICKING UP THE TOOLS OF AL-ANON (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))) Hello Again....(saw that in a movie, and wanted to say it)..lol Well, for three days, I have cried my eyes out over a lost love. I have been feeling, used, abused, worthless, useless, not good enough, comparing myself to other women, etc!!!(stinki...	ally	4	513	Aug 3, 2007 by Barbs45
	The Good Ship "Al-Anon" (Preview) ((((Family)))) Here I am on a rainy Saturday afternoon! I had plans today to do some things, which have not happened for one reason or another, the lastest being the continued deluge of my area by rain. Not complaining...too much... as we have been in a drought for the last couple of years and have had...	david62	12	1059	Aug 3, 2007 by bobump
	I found the forms and directions (Preview) I found a great website I think someone here may have mentioned it before but I thought it was one I already saw. They had forms and step by step instructions on how to file in NC. And it was a lawyer's website of all things. All I need to be concerned with now is custody and I have a restraining order that'...	carolinagirl	6	431	Aug 2, 2007 by maresie2
	private messaging mix up (Preview) I just tried to send a PM and I sent it to myself (HP trying to tell me something?) Where it says recipient it says my name and then subject is empty. Any suggestions or do I really need to hear what I am saying LOL!	serendipity	2	354	Aug 2, 2007 by tea2
	Life's too short. (Preview) Sometimes here and there I find myself beating me up for sticking with this as long as I did. I have been with an A or addict or both for the past 14 years of my life. Here I am 36 with 3 kids, a single mom and no prospects and not even enough interest even if I found one. I get a lot of if only's. If only I would h...	carolinagirl	9	564	Aug 2, 2007 by NANUKE
	Prayers for all those in Minneapolis (Preview) I don't know if we have any MIP members that are in the Minneapolis area, but probably some will have friends or family members in the area. Just wanted to send out good thoughts & prayers for all those affected by this horrible accident. As a DOT (Dept of Transportation) employee, my co-workers we...	Rita G	3	2654	Aug 2, 2007 by ally
	what a bad nite (Preview) went to my mothers-in-laws yesterday to pick up the cell phone bills for the past 3 months{SAH is on my mother-in-law account.well to my surprise that woman he says he didnt do anything with{read earlier post from a few days ago}or really call there was her number on the cell bill starting in aril 7 to ma...	bev	5	477	Aug 2, 2007 by bev
	UPDATE: Great News Everyone!!! (Preview) Hey Everyone - I don't know how many prayers went out for me yesterday but it worked!!! I called my credit card company this morning and they WERE able to CANCEL the balance transfer I made Monday Night. I am FREE of that debt now. AND I AM THE WISER FOR THE EXPERIENCE!!! Now I will have to do a follow up to...	QOD	8	464	Aug 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	Boy am I STUPID!!! (Preview) Ok (Carolinagirl, you've already heard all this) - Here goes. I am SOOO STUPID!!! I had a collection agency call me last night. They said that my AH owed just under $8000 on a credit card amd that I was an "Authorized User" and therefore liable for it. I said I was not, that I had checked int...	QOD	16	612	Aug 2, 2007 by mhgal
	acknowledge the white elephant? (Preview) New but understand the 3 C's (sigh of relief) and to get off his back/get on w/my life I never have talked about this with him, somehow it's like a silent rule that's not my business BUT his drinking is a big white elephant in our house the children know I have started attending AlAnon and they are talking...	ddub	5	721	Aug 2, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	I would like some help (Preview) Hello everyone. new to this. I am just overwhelmed right now. I want to know if there is people that are willing to talk with me. my mom is a recovering alcoholic and my dad and brother go to al-anon. recently my dad has been talking to me and stating how he has fear for me and that the relationship that...	firstin911	5	693	Aug 2, 2007 by Tiger2006
	IS THIS A NORMAL THING TO DO???? (Preview) (((((((((((Guys))))))))))))) Ok, wait for it...lol Last night I decided to join a date line on the internet. Curious I guess. Well a guy sent me and e.mail, and we got talking. He lives only 30 miles away from me. We got on to msn. Today he sent me an Instant message, and we spoke for two hours. We talked ab...	ally	9	561	Aug 2, 2007 by mhgal
	It's gonna Be A .......... (Preview) My daughter had her sonogram today, and I went with her and her husband...it was amazing! IT IS GOING TO BE A GIRL LOVE IN RECOVERY, BECKY1	Becky1	10	488	Aug 2, 2007 by Rita G
	Wedding Ring Cut In Two (Preview) We had a good weekend together, AH and I. Went to a party, danced, laughed, kissed. Went out to eat with a friend Monday night. Tuesday night (last night) he was acting irritable when I got home, so I mowed a little, then went to Walmart. Got home, he was still acting like a jerk. Started grouching abou...	Becky1	12	637	Aug 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	Greetings from Jal-Con ! ! (Preview) Here at the NJ Alnon Convention. Leave me a msg if your in town, would be great to put a face w/ the name. You can also leave msg for room 1010. :) Wife and son are with me. Bob	bobump	8	587	Aug 2, 2007 by bobump
	Update on my friend (Preview) (((Friends))) Thanks to all for the prayers for "D". HP works in ways that only he knows what is best for us. Our friend got worse last night but did not call us until this morning. I could tell immediately while talking with him he was not in his right mind. So, AH and I decided we needed to i...	twinmom2	5	482	Aug 1, 2007 by maresie2
	It is hard to wrap my mind around this (Preview) A few days ago my son needed his father, my A, to sign off on some papers. My son is buying my other house he grew up in. So the A actually agreed to go do it with Mac. Mac went to pick him up and the A would not get into the car with Mac. He has a nice car, is an honorable man. A was paranoid. (A knows Mac was going to do...	debilyn	10	630	Aug 1, 2007 by Alanoner
	Shifting into Recovery Mode, Thank you God!! (Preview) Hi Family, As a follow-up to the in-law situation (I'm Nobody's Convenience which I posted a few days ago) I informed them (nephew and this aunt) that I was turning over the aunt's banking, medication and general care to her nephew. I suggested we meet at the bank today at which time, I turned over a bla...	NANUKE	4	497	Aug 1, 2007 by mhgal
	It's time to file for divorce (Preview) I have decided it's time, I hope that moving to a different county this month won't affect my ability to file. I don't really have the money but I SO want to be done!!! Hey QOD...can I borrow a grand to pay for a lawyer? LOL... Really I am going to have to file on my own and have no idea what I'm doing and ther...	carolinagirl	3	497	Aug 1, 2007 by SLS
	Awareness (Preview) Hi everyone, A new woman started at my office. She seemed really nice. She asked me to go to lunch, we went to a local spot. She kept talking incessantly. I would say something and there was no response. She would immediately pick up and keep talking again incessantly. I thought that it was because she wa...	kissers	3	284	Aug 1, 2007 by maire rua
	What are you Thankful for today? (Preview) Just for today, name three things that YOU are grateful for. 1)I am grateful my entire family has their health 2)I am grateful we have food to eat and lots of it. 3)I am grateful for reality TV to let me know that I am not crazy ;)	Friendofyours	13	390	Aug 1, 2007 by twinmom2
	If it's the right thing, why do I feel so lousy? (Preview) In earlier posts I wrote how my AHsober asked if his A affair could be at our Open House for our business. Well, it didn't happen, but the whole experience really was what I needed to push me toward resolution. I saw how distorted his thinking really is, and how little he thinks of me. Then yesterday we spo...	Loupiness	8	751	Aug 1, 2007 by carolinagirl
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