Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... This share is a ramble. But i would like to see how it goes. I picture Lois as a saint really. I am sure she had her moments. "Damn your old meetings!" Bill was not a saint really. he was more like a product of his age. Coming through the age of prohibition- in some countries. Coming through the st...

Twinkies · Twinkies

As I continue gaining knowledge and perspective I am starting to understand that there is still some anger for me to process. I really thought that most of what was left was just sadness over the loss of hope for the relationship with AH. But yesterday something triggered a wave of anger and frustratio...

Freetime · Freetime

The sentence that jumped out to me from today's reading: "I began to believe that my life could amount to more than a string of painful days to be survived." Like me, the author came to Al-Anon feeling desperate and lonely.... but then paid attention to members in meetings, worked the steps, got a spon...

mamalioness · mamalioness

When you can't stand criticism you learn to be a perfectionist. --Anonymous I was reading touchstones and saw this and had to share it...Author says its human to make mistakes and to feel incomplete..we are never going to be perfect Author talks about how we are all actually a process..We are not th...

lookingup · lookingup

This is my update from past post of flying to Las Vegas to by with my Daughter n Family,3 half hour flight,so well worth it, I actually made it,never flown in my life stayed in my box in Mississippi, Aim a brave courageous,willing person,was able to over come alot of my fears just by doin it,living in the n...

Pol · Pol

I'm asking for some prayers...this is the worse Christmas that I have ever been through. Two Days ago me and my daughter got into an argument because a boy came to the house(shes 14). An hour later she took off and went missing. I was so scared and my husband left work to go to all her friends houses, to see...

mamalioness · mamalioness

FIRST THINGS FIRST with job bookkeeping closeouts coming up, now, I used to feel overwhelmed...oh my!! so much to do!!! and its only ME well this year is different...Sure!! Lots to do..Payroll Tax deposits, end of year payroll..End of year Financials, adjusting entries, etc., I could go on and on, b...

fishstar · fishstar

Hi, i just discovered Al-Anon & im looking to attend one. If there any group in Nairobi, Kenya or are there members here from Nairobi? Thanks.

Iamhere · Iamhere

"The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." from Lao-tse --- The quote of the day "No one can make me change. No one can stop me from changing. No one really knows how I must change, not even I. Not until I start. I will remember that it only takes a slight shift in direction to begin...

mamalioness · mamalioness

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!! As we approach 2019, may ALL of us experience good health, good wealth, good love and healthy self expression that is my prayer for all of us!!!!!

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, January 1 Suggests that this year is a book of clean blank pages on which we can write a record of our experiences as we move through the days. The daily use of the Al-Anon program will assure us that we can learn lessons, maintain our serenity and act with courage and wisdom...

mamalioness · mamalioness

EASY DOES ITEASY DOES IT, BUT DO ITFIRST THINGS FIRSTHOW IMPORTANT IS IT?JUST FOR TODAYKEEP AN OPEN MINDYOU ARE NOT ALONEKEEP IT SIMPLEKISS = Keep It Simple StupidKISS = Keep It Serenely SimpleHOPE = Happy Our Program ExistsLET GO AND LET GOD LET IT BEGIN WITH ME LISTEN AND LEARNLIVE AND LET LIVEON...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I love to do research, extra stuff, in the course of my recovery..I am surfing different recovery sites, etc., and I came upon this GREAT list on how to Respond rather than react to someone who is spoiling for a fight and drama That's interesting.Let me think about that.Thank you for the information....

mamalioness · mamalioness

ONE DAY AT A TIME ITs only Wednesday and I caught me thinking of all the stuff I got to do on Fri, when I go back to work I caught me and said "FRI isn't here yet--lets enjoy today" and I MADE me breathe...stay in the present, under my warmer throw on couch, watching videos and staying warm...TODAY is all I got...

wp · wp

For anyone visiting this site as a beginner: Our program is based on The Serenity Prayer: God grant us the serenity To accept the things we cannot change, Courage to change the things we can, And wisdom to know the difference. Suggested preamble to the Twelve Steps: Al-Anon has but on...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Tonight is AHs birthday. We all went out for breakfast this morning and had cake and ice cream this evening, but beyond that we had no plans - just a quiet night at home. Hes in his man cave drinking of course (its escalated in the past few months and its now become an almost nightly thing), our kids are busy...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Welcome to the New Year, MIP! In today's share, the Author says that turning to an alcoholic for affection and support can be like going to the hardware store to buy bread. Our alcoholic loved ones may not be able to meet our expectations, but, the author suggests, it is our expectations and not our lov...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65192709/alanon-step-one-1-1-2019-12-31/PleaseParticipate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this...

serenity47 · serenity47

As I sat this morning reflecting on 2018, with all of its incredible blessings and struggles I am grateful. To those whom are new, a very warm welcome and a message of hope that you are never alone even when it seems like it cannot get any worse this board has been and is a beacon of light to all of us. It i...

Twinkies · Twinkies

In a few short years, my kids will be off to college. My goal is to be in a position by then to leave my marriage. Of course, it would be incredible if something were to happen before then that would make that unnecessary, but I cant keep holding on to that dream. I need to be prepared. But Im scared and overwh...

mamalioness · mamalioness

EASY DOES IT As I Practice slowing down, breathing, pausing when I'm not sure, I notice life is not so much of a struggle Its OK to go slow when doing a task that requires precision...Its FINE to take it leisurely when I am taking a shower, it is a absolute pleasure ... I am beginning to get shed of the frant...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Next month, February 15th will be my 15th year in recovery When I first got here, (knew I was a lifer but that was as ok as it could be) I expected that NOW I'm in recovery...LIFE is just gonna MAGICALLY get better for me...The dark will become light and no more problems/hardships/pain, etc. because ROSE...

mamalioness · mamalioness

as part of keeping things simple, I applied it to my step ONEthe first thing I had to see re: step one is where I had to ADMIT I was powerless over my codependency and anything else, for that matter, that is outside of me In step one, after a struggle, I accepted my powerlessness over anything outside of me...

JerryF · JerryF

I am grateful to have MIP and the program in my life as outcomes to the affect of the disease can be much worse than they use to be. Mental and Emotional relapsing for me involves living the long past history of alcoholism and my part in it all over again now with the awareness that I was powerless then an...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday asks us to take a few minutes to reflect upon the progress we've made during this past year, and to thank those that helped, including HP. The questions the author asked themself included: What did I do to contribute to my success, have I reached out to others in the fellowship...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Has it been a Year of Growth? Growth This author talks about As any year draws to a close, we should reflect on how we have grown in sobriety. We should also identify changes during the year that enabled us to overcome bad habits and to move closer to better patterns of living. The outcomes do not come wi...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I got a great nights sleep, dogs did not have to use restroom at 3am Went to gym after my strength exercise here and swam laps and really got a good cardo ran into some ladies I swim with and they, all 3 gave me happy new year HUGSSSSS....Loved it I can actually see PROGRESS in me!!! Yaaaaaay program!!!!!!...

Twinkies · Twinkies

I joined this group a year ago, give or take. I dove head first into it after having neared what I thought was the end of my rope. I quickly discovered, thanks to this place and some needed perspective, that I still had a lot of rope to go though. I was stronger than I thought. Things had improved at home some...

serenity47 · serenity47

Hello everyone. It has been a while since I have posted although still come to read daily and respond when I feel I have something to offer. Christmas was pretty terrific this year. We celebrated early to accomadate others schedules which was fine by me . My AD has been struggling with sobriety, on ag...

Carla61 · Carla61

My husband sends me mean texts and I respond! Why can't I just ignore him?

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about how recovery is about choices. The writer starts with the beginning of step 3: Made a decision.. The writer goes on to describe making choices with the decisions in our lives, and choosing to turn over our lives to the will of the God of our understanding....

lookingup · lookingup

my 1st ever plane ride was great,flying back home was even better ,i wasn't least bit nervous.yay me i always had my tools with me ,and used them often,especially walking down town Las Vegas on the strip,to many ppl shoulder to shoulder. loved the time I had with my Daughter n Grandsons,which are now te...

A nother · A nother

Hi all. It's been a while since I felt the need to post (though I still read!). I have kept quiet these last months when ah drinks. I don't challenge, try to keep the focus on me and the children, and if I have prior warning of a binge, i sleep at family or friends with the children. The thing is, I have no...

mamalioness · mamalioness

My grateful list for today: our weather has been fairly mild I am successfully, so far into week 2 doing my cleansing diet and I am beginning to feel more clear That I can come to my MIP boards and post and be loved and accepted I believe that gratitude is powerful..It brings me good energy...So every da...

mamalioness · mamalioness

My loving A brother is trying to find our drug addicted brother...He just told me this!!!! From his place in MA , hes been searching for our Bro who is in CA!!! he has called, texted, written everyone he knew out there, commonly with younger Bro (A Bro. went to visit 3 years ago and wisely got numbers of bro...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Step 3: made the decision to turn my life and issues over to my higher power AS I UNDERSTAND IT I've always had issues with trusting anything outside of me: my RX??? FIRST...stop fighting with the HP of another's understanding...Find and connect with my OWN HP..... Mine is within me...and und...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I am healthy and so are my dogs Today promises to be mild weather and I am planning some tennis and swimming my needs are met I learn and grow each day

mamalioness · mamalioness

Addiction claimed another one last night. My oldest sister had a beautiful grandson, my great nephew, he has now lost due to drug addiction He was a heroin addict, I knew this was coming, I knew he was getting worse because my sis and I would talk on the phone about it and his dad my nephew, even had a heart i...

Im · Im

Im shocked.... we were together for almost 3 yrs. He dumped me via text about 1yr ago. We reunited 1 1/2 weeks later. Stayed together for 6 more months and he dumped me via text again. This time no contact for 5 months. He says he was scared about what a future means for us - him moving and changing jobs. He st...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

The daily is taken from Al-Anon's Forum magazine: When we change our lives, we give up old patterns. Some of these old patterns, as harmful as they may have been, were like our best friends. We could turn to them for comfort and escape. After giving them up, and after the first elated feelings of liberat...

mamalioness · mamalioness

DEALING WITH RESENTMENTS I've been reading this Ebook by a Dr. Susan Hass about self care and I took away the following points on her dealing with resentments... Resentments add to stress levels..They cause frustration..The sap your energy Maybe you got sucked into doing that thing again tha...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading begins by pointing out that many of us affected by someone's alcoholism have come to believe it is not safe to trust anyone, get close to anyone, to reveal ourselves, or to care about another person. Yet we miss having close relationships. In Al-Anon, sponsorship can be a way of rega...

Lyne · Lyne

As rough times arise I try to figure out how I've ended up here. Although I am an ACOA, I'm an adult child of anger . Rage actually . But I'm exactly the same as the adult children of alcoholics. My growing up was parallel-no security, no protection, no consistency, and it was a very scary environment...

Bo · Bo

We hear so many things about the holiday's -- Thanksgiving to Christmas (and Hannukah) to New Year's. I've heard it referred to as the Bermuda Triangle, LOL. That said, I understand we can be triggered by people, places, and things. That aside, I want to forget about the "other" more external so calle...

wp · wp

Only requirement is that you become willing to join us. Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization,or institution; does not engage in any controversy, neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self supportin...

Lyne · Lyne

I believe my spouse is drinking. She denies it. I know the signs. I also know she is a skilled liar. It ruined our Xmas night. Today we are leaving for a winter getaway we take every year. We are not in a good place. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change t...

andromeda · andromeda

I have grown more accustomed to change. The older I get, the less set in my ways I become in how I view change, anyway, lol. Today, I find myself so very grateful. I LOVE the condo I'm renting. I couldn't have found a better place with better neighbors. It's quiet, it's decorated the way I want, I love h...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Big, big lessons over the past few weeks, things I am still processing. My oldest is not going back to college and I'm not sure how to handle that one thing I will say is at least they came to me before Christmas the want was to wait until after Christmas and my very wise younger son said umm nooo .. tell mom N...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's Courage to change reading, the author reflects on one of the most useful lessons they've learned in Al-Anon: If I don't want to be a doormat, I have to get up off the floor. The author shares that they have spent plenty of time accepting unacceptable behavior that was directed at...

Aline · Aline

Hi, all! I haven't been around for a while, but Christmas seems like a good time to share some of my progress with you. Its been nearly 5 months since I smoked my last cigarette (!!!) and that's also thanks to Al-Anon and, more specifically, steps 1-3 and a HP, and lost of support from fellow quitters. I'v...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, December 25 Speaks about achieving maturity. The reading points out that a great tool in this process is to learn how to examine our motives, honestly. When we do this, we will discover that we are not always right and will then will open our minds to helpful influence ....

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for 12/24 talks about how family and friends of alcoholics stop noticing what is going on with themselves. The author says we deserve to pay attention to our own behavior, thoughts, and feelings. Focusing on ourselves means looking at our own options, instead of the options of others....

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleDon't give your advice before you are called upon. Desiderius Erasmus Hi everyone!!! in this daily, the author stresses the point to NOT give advice..If someone wants the advice?? They will ask for it..Thats is why in 12 steps, we don't go around trying to solicit other folks to join us....

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the gentleness of Alanon. The program suggests practicing the steps, slogans and traditions but is not meant to be a severe list of you must... or even you should... in spite of how some of us may have felt about it when first coming into the program. The w...

KT2015 · KT2015

I find myself reacting to my AH lately. Maybe its the holidays and the stress and maybe its that his drinking has Increased but wowza am I the crazy one these days. Reacting to every button he tries to push. At first I was disheartened by the feeling that I had a backslide but Ive decided not to hold on to...

DavidG · DavidG

hotrod · hotrod

Dear MIP Members -- E

newnoz · newnoz

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Iamhere asked if I could help out today, and I am happy to offer service! The following is taken from The Language of Letting Go GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS For some, the sights and smells of the holidays bring joy and a warm feeling. But, while others are joyously diving into the season, some of us are d...

wp · wp

Just wondering if there is any plan for an alanonathon for Christmas? If not, may I suggest we each think about dropping in chat room Christmas Eve through Christmas night just in case any needy member, new or old, wants to chat? Call it an "open house" ...... Thank you, wp

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	Lois W. ... (Preview) Hi y'all... This share is a ramble. But i would like to see how it goes. I picture Lois as a saint really. I am sure she had her moments. "Damn your old meetings!" Bill was not a saint really. he was more like a product of his age. Coming through the age of prohibition- in some countries. Coming through the st...	DavidG	7	2676	Jan 4, 2019 by DavidG
	Processing anger (long - Sorry!) (Preview) As I continue gaining knowledge and perspective I am starting to understand that there is still some anger for me to process. I really thought that most of what was left was just sadness over the loss of hope for the relationship with AH. But yesterday something triggered a wave of anger and frustratio...	Twinkies	5	2547	Jan 4, 2019 by KT2015
	Courage to Change, January 4 (Preview) The sentence that jumped out to me from today's reading: "I began to believe that my life could amount to more than a string of painful days to be survived." Like me, the author came to Al-Anon feeling desperate and lonely.... but then paid attention to members in meetings, worked the steps, got a spon...	Freetime	4	483	Jan 4, 2019 by Iamhere
	if you can't stand criticism, you learn to be a perfectionist (Preview) When you can't stand criticism you learn to be a perfectionist. --Anonymous I was reading touchstones and saw this and had to share it...Author says its human to make mistakes and to feel incomplete..we are never going to be perfect Author talks about how we are all actually a process..We are not th...	mamalioness	5	2062	Jan 4, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Trip to vegas (Preview) This is my update from past post of flying to Las Vegas to by with my Daughter n Family,3 half hour flight,so well worth it, I actually made it,never flown in my life stayed in my box in Mississippi, Aim a brave courageous,willing person,was able to over come alot of my fears just by doin it,living in the n...	lookingup	13	819	Jan 4, 2019 by mamalioness
	Letting go of my daughter. (Preview) I'm asking for some prayers...this is the worse Christmas that I have ever been through. Two Days ago me and my daughter got into an argument because a boy came to the house(shes 14). An hour later she took off and went missing. I was so scared and my husband left work to go to all her friends houses, to see...	Pol	21	3358	Jan 3, 2019 by mamalioness
	Slogan for Thursday (Preview) FIRST THINGS FIRST with job bookkeeping closeouts coming up, now, I used to feel overwhelmed...oh my!! so much to do!!! and its only ME well this year is different...Sure!! Lots to do..Payroll Tax deposits, end of year payroll..End of year Financials, adjusting entries, etc., I could go on and on, b...	mamalioness	0	2101	Jan 3, 2019 by mamalioness
	Al-Anon in Nairobi, Kenya? (Preview) Hi, i just discovered Al-Anon & im looking to attend one. If there any group in Nairobi, Kenya or are there members here from Nairobi? Thanks.	fishstar	5	3653	Jan 3, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change 1-3-19 (Preview) "The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." from Lao-tse --- The quote of the day "No one can make me change. No one can stop me from changing. No one really knows how I must change, not even I. Not until I start. I will remember that it only takes a slight shift in direction to begin...	Iamhere	5	330	Jan 3, 2019 by mamalioness
	HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!! (Preview) HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!! As we approach 2019, may ALL of us experience good health, good wealth, good love and healthy self expression that is my prayer for all of us!!!!!	mamalioness	6	3738	Jan 2, 2019 by tiredtonite
	ODAT READING Jan 1 2019 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, January 1 Suggests that this year is a book of clean blank pages on which we can write a record of our experiences as we move through the days. The daily use of the Al-Anon program will assure us that we can learn lessons, maintain our serenity and act with courage and wisdom...	hotrod	6	1927	Jan 2, 2019 by mamalioness
	the Golden SLOGANS (Preview) EASY DOES ITEASY DOES IT, BUT DO ITFIRST THINGS FIRSTHOW IMPORTANT IS IT?JUST FOR TODAYKEEP AN OPEN MINDYOU ARE NOT ALONEKEEP IT SIMPLEKISS = Keep It Simple StupidKISS = Keep It Serenely SimpleHOPE = Happy Our Program ExistsLET GO AND LET GOD LET IT BEGIN WITH ME LISTEN AND LEARNLIVE AND LET LIVEON...	mamalioness	1	3248	Jan 2, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	How to absolutely difuse the drama kings and queens (Preview) I love to do research, extra stuff, in the course of my recovery..I am surfing different recovery sites, etc., and I came upon this GREAT list on how to Respond rather than react to someone who is spoiling for a fight and drama That's interesting.Let me think about that.Thank you for the information....	mamalioness	9	1764	Jan 2, 2019 by tiredtonite
	what slogan applies to me today??? (Preview) ONE DAY AT A TIME ITs only Wednesday and I caught me thinking of all the stuff I got to do on Fri, when I go back to work I caught me and said "FRI isn't here yet--lets enjoy today" and I MADE me breathe...stay in the present, under my warmer throw on couch, watching videos and staying warm...TODAY is all I got...	mamalioness	2	2573	Jan 2, 2019 by mamalioness
	What is Al-anon? (Preview) For anyone visiting this site as a beginner: Our program is based on The Serenity Prayer: God grant us the serenity To accept the things we cannot change, Courage to change the things we can, And wisdom to know the difference. Suggested preamble to the Twelve Steps: Al-Anon has but on...	wp	2	3083	Jan 2, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Unsure how to handle this (Preview) Tonight is AHs birthday. We all went out for breakfast this morning and had cake and ice cream this evening, but beyond that we had no plans - just a quiet night at home. Hes in his man cave drinking of course (its escalated in the past few months and its now become an almost nightly thing), our kids are busy...	Twinkies	8	2307	Jan 2, 2019 by Temple
	Courage to Change January 2 (Preview) Welcome to the New Year, MIP! In today's share, the Author says that turning to an alcoholic for affection and support can be like going to the hardware store to buy bread. Our alcoholic loved ones may not be able to meet our expectations, but, the author suggests, it is our expectations and not our lov...	Skorpi	5	2667	Jan 2, 2019 by Iamhere
	Step One (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65192709/alanon-step-one-1-1-2019-12-31/PleaseParticipate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this...	hotrod	3	2506	Jan 1, 2019 by Iamhere
	Reflections/thankfulness/gratitude (Preview) As I sat this morning reflecting on 2018, with all of its incredible blessings and struggles I am grateful. To those whom are new, a very warm welcome and a message of hope that you are never alone even when it seems like it cannot get any worse this board has been and is a beacon of light to all of us. It i...	serenity47	6	1257	Jan 1, 2019 by Bo
	The next step (Preview) In a few short years, my kids will be off to college. My goal is to be in a position by then to leave my marriage. Of course, it would be incredible if something were to happen before then that would make that unnecessary, but I cant keep holding on to that dream. I need to be prepared. But Im scared and overwh...	Twinkies	7	2531	Jan 1, 2019 by Bettertomorrow
	what slogan am i working on today (Preview) EASY DOES IT As I Practice slowing down, breathing, pausing when I'm not sure, I notice life is not so much of a struggle Its OK to go slow when doing a task that requires precision...Its FINE to take it leisurely when I am taking a shower, it is a absolute pleasure ... I am beginning to get shed of the frant...	mamalioness	2	2982	Jan 1, 2019 by Maresie
	I beg your pardon!! I didn't promise you a rose garden (Preview) Next month, February 15th will be my 15th year in recovery When I first got here, (knew I was a lifer but that was as ok as it could be) I expected that NOW I'm in recovery...LIFE is just gonna MAGICALLY get better for me...The dark will become light and no more problems/hardships/pain, etc. because ROSE...	mamalioness	1	4225	Jan 1, 2019 by JerryF
	a look at step one (Preview) as part of keeping things simple, I applied it to my step ONEthe first thing I had to see re: step one is where I had to ADMIT I was powerless over my codependency and anything else, for that matter, that is outside of me In step one, after a struggle, I accepted my powerlessness over anything outside of me...	mamalioness	3	3955	Dec 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	Mental Emotional relapsing (Preview) I am grateful to have MIP and the program in my life as outcomes to the affect of the disease can be much worse than they use to be. Mental and Emotional relapsing for me involves living the long past history of alcoholism and my part in it all over again now with the awareness that I was powerless then an...	JerryF	8	3883	Dec 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	C2C, 12/31 (Preview) The reading for Monday asks us to take a few minutes to reflect upon the progress we've made during this past year, and to thank those that helped, including HP. The questions the author asked themself included: What did I do to contribute to my success, have I reached out to others in the fellowship...	Lyne	5	838	Dec 31, 2018 by Iamhere
	How did I grow in 2018??? (Preview) Has it been a Year of Growth? Growth This author talks about As any year draws to a close, we should reflect on how we have grown in sobriety. We should also identify changes during the year that enabled us to overcome bad habits and to move closer to better patterns of living. The outcomes do not come wi...	mamalioness	2	1771	Dec 31, 2018 by hotrod
	What am I grateful for today??? (Preview) I got a great nights sleep, dogs did not have to use restroom at 3am Went to gym after my strength exercise here and swam laps and really got a good cardo ran into some ladies I swim with and they, all 3 gave me happy new year HUGSSSSS....Loved it I can actually see PROGRESS in me!!! Yaaaaaay program!!!!!!...	mamalioness	2	2687	Dec 31, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Been awhile (Preview) I joined this group a year ago, give or take. I dove head first into it after having neared what I thought was the end of my rope. I quickly discovered, thanks to this place and some needed perspective, that I still had a lot of rope to go though. I was stronger than I thought. Things had improved at home some...	Twinkies	5	2669	Dec 31, 2018 by Maresie
	Christmas/Expectations/ and al that other stuff (Preview) Hello everyone. It has been a while since I have posted although still come to read daily and respond when I feel I have something to offer. Christmas was pretty terrific this year. We celebrated early to accomadate others schedules which was fine by me . My AD has been struggling with sobriety, on ag...	serenity47	6	4477	Dec 30, 2018 by Maresie
	Why do I engage? (Preview) My husband sends me mean texts and I respond! Why can't I just ignore him?	Carla61	8	2980	Dec 30, 2018 by Carla61
	Hope for Today Dec 30 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about how recovery is about choices. The writer starts with the beginning of step 3: Made a decision.. The writer goes on to describe making choices with the decisions in our lives, and choosing to turn over our lives to the will of the God of our understanding....	yanksfan51	4	1837	Dec 30, 2018 by Iamhere
	Back home safe n sound Pics of me far left daughter gson gson sil daughters bil bil daughter sil sister gson my son my dil.....and Bella fur baby.had a blast. (Preview) my 1st ever plane ride was great,flying back home was even better ,i wasn't least bit nervous.yay me i always had my tools with me ,and used them often,especially walking down town Las Vegas on the strip,to many ppl shoulder to shoulder. loved the time I had with my Daughter n Grandsons,which are now te...	lookingup	5	4284	Dec 30, 2018 by Iamhere
	Would you tell your alcoholic about the effects of their drinking on others? (Preview) Hi all. It's been a while since I felt the need to post (though I still read!). I have kept quiet these last months when ah drinks. I don't challenge, try to keep the focus on me and the children, and if I have prior warning of a binge, i sleep at family or friends with the children. The thing is, I have no...	A nother	12	1921	Dec 30, 2018 by KT2015
	What am I grateful for_29 DEC (Preview) My grateful list for today: our weather has been fairly mild I am successfully, so far into week 2 doing my cleansing diet and I am beginning to feel more clear That I can come to my MIP boards and post and be loved and accepted I believe that gratitude is powerful..It brings me good energy...So every da...	mamalioness	1	2625	Dec 30, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Wonder if he is still alive or will 2019 be another loss to the darkness of addiction for me?? (Preview) My loving A brother is trying to find our drug addicted brother...He just told me this!!!! From his place in MA , hes been searching for our Bro who is in CA!!! he has called, texted, written everyone he knew out there, commonly with younger Bro (A Bro. went to visit 3 years ago and wisely got numbers of bro...	mamalioness	5	3434	Dec 30, 2018 by Maresie
	What step am I working on today??? (Preview) Step 3: made the decision to turn my life and issues over to my higher power AS I UNDERSTAND IT I've always had issues with trusting anything outside of me: my RX??? FIRST...stop fighting with the HP of another's understanding...Find and connect with my OWN HP..... Mine is within me...and und...	mamalioness	1	3361	Dec 30, 2018 by hotrod
	What am I grateful for _Dec 30 (Preview) I am healthy and so are my dogs Today promises to be mild weather and I am planning some tennis and swimming my needs are met I learn and grow each day	mamalioness	2	2904	Dec 30, 2018 by mamalioness
	Addiction claimed another one last night (Preview) Addiction claimed another one last night. My oldest sister had a beautiful grandson, my great nephew, he has now lost due to drug addiction He was a heroin addict, I knew this was coming, I knew he was getting worse because my sis and I would talk on the phone about it and his dad my nephew, even had a heart i...	mamalioness	19	3157	Dec 29, 2018 by mamalioness
	Sober ex came back asking for a chance (Preview) Im shocked.... we were together for almost 3 yrs. He dumped me via text about 1yr ago. We reunited 1 1/2 weeks later. Stayed together for 6 more months and he dumped me via text again. This time no contact for 5 months. He says he was scared about what a future means for us - him moving and changing jobs. He st...	Im	12	3648	Dec 29, 2018 by Bo
	12/27/18 From The Forum Magazine (Preview) The daily is taken from Al-Anon's Forum magazine: When we change our lives, we give up old patterns. Some of these old patterns, as harmful as they may have been, were like our best friends. We could turn to them for comfort and escape. After giving them up, and after the first elated feelings of liberat...	PosiesandPuppies	9	2213	Dec 29, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Dealing with resentments (Preview) DEALING WITH RESENTMENTS I've been reading this Ebook by a Dr. Susan Hass about self care and I took away the following points on her dealing with resentments... Resentments add to stress levels..They cause frustration..The sap your energy Maybe you got sucked into doing that thing again tha...	mamalioness	4	1892	Dec 28, 2018 by Maresie
	Courage to Change, December 28 (Preview) Today's reading begins by pointing out that many of us affected by someone's alcoholism have come to believe it is not safe to trust anyone, get close to anyone, to reveal ourselves, or to care about another person. Yet we miss having close relationships. In Al-Anon, sponsorship can be a way of rega...	Freetime	4	627	Dec 28, 2018 by Lyne
	Why I married twice to alcoholics/addicts (Preview) As rough times arise I try to figure out how I've ended up here. Although I am an ACOA, I'm an adult child of anger . Rage actually . But I'm exactly the same as the adult children of alcoholics. My growing up was parallel-no security, no protection, no consistency, and it was a very scary environment...	Lyne	5	800	Dec 27, 2018 by mamalioness
	Bad head-space? (Preview) We hear so many things about the holiday's -- Thanksgiving to Christmas (and Hannukah) to New Year's. I've heard it referred to as the Bermuda Triangle, LOL. That said, I understand we can be triggered by people, places, and things. That aside, I want to forget about the "other" more external so calle...	Bo	21	825	Dec 27, 2018 by mamalioness
	What does Al-anon expect of me? (Preview) Only requirement is that you become willing to join us. Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization,or institution; does not engage in any controversy, neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self supportin...	wp	5	3218	Dec 27, 2018 by Maresie
	Not so good here (Preview) I believe my spouse is drinking. She denies it. I know the signs. I also know she is a skilled liar. It ruined our Xmas night. Today we are leaving for a winter getaway we take every year. We are not in a good place. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change t...	Lyne	9	3350	Dec 27, 2018 by Maresie
	CHANGE (Preview) I have grown more accustomed to change. The older I get, the less set in my ways I become in how I view change, anyway, lol. Today, I find myself so very grateful. I LOVE the condo I'm renting. I couldn't have found a better place with better neighbors. It's quiet, it's decorated the way I want, I love h...	andromeda	13	2841	Dec 27, 2018 by Maresie
	Helping me helps my loved ones .. (Preview) Big, big lessons over the past few weeks, things I am still processing. My oldest is not going back to college and I'm not sure how to handle that one thing I will say is at least they came to me before Christmas the want was to wait until after Christmas and my very wise younger son said umm nooo .. tell mom N...	SerenityRUS	1	343	Dec 26, 2018 by andromeda
	Courage to Change December 26 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's Courage to change reading, the author reflects on one of the most useful lessons they've learned in Al-Anon: If I don't want to be a doormat, I have to get up off the floor. The author shares that they have spent plenty of time accepting unacceptable behavior that was directed at...	Skorpi	3	462	Dec 26, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Sharing progress - grateful this Christmas (Preview) Hi, all! I haven't been around for a while, but Christmas seems like a good time to share some of my progress with you. Its been nearly 5 months since I smoked my last cigarette (!!!) and that's also thanks to Al-Anon and, more specifically, steps 1-3 and a HP, and lost of support from fellow quitters. I'v...	Aline	5	1876	Dec 26, 2018 by Aline
	ODAT Reading 12-25 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, December 25 Speaks about achieving maturity. The reading points out that a great tool in this process is to learn how to examine our motives, honestly. When we do this, we will discover that we are not always right and will then will open our minds to helpful influence ....	hotrod	4	1768	Dec 25, 2018 by Aline
	C2C, 12/24 (Preview) The reading for 12/24 talks about how family and friends of alcoholics stop noticing what is going on with themselves. The author says we deserve to pay attention to our own behavior, thoughts, and feelings. Focusing on ourselves means looking at our own options, instead of the options of others....	Lyne	3	2184	Dec 25, 2018 by mamalioness
	KEEP IT SIMPLE_20 Dec (Preview) Keep It SimpleDon't give your advice before you are called upon. Desiderius Erasmus Hi everyone!!! in this daily, the author stresses the point to NOT give advice..If someone wants the advice?? They will ask for it..Thats is why in 12 steps, we don't go around trying to solicit other folks to join us....	mamalioness	4	484	Dec 24, 2018 by Maresie
	Hope for Today Dec 22 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the gentleness of Alanon. The program suggests practicing the steps, slogans and traditions but is not meant to be a severe list of you must... or even you should... in spite of how some of us may have felt about it when first coming into the program. The w...	yanksfan51	6	1003	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Reacting (Preview) I find myself reacting to my AH lately. Maybe its the holidays and the stress and maybe its that his drinking has Increased but wowza am I the crazy one these days. Reacting to every button he tries to push. At first I was disheartened by the feeling that I had a backslide but Ive decided not to hold on to...	KT2015	12	3590	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	A happy festive season in Alanon... Kaitapu Hari, Mele Kalikimaka, Nadolig Llawen, Merry Christmas. (Preview)	DavidG	8	402	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	WARM WISHES FOR THIS HOLIDAY SEASON (Preview) Dear MIP Members -- E	hotrod	4	3422	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Thank you all so much! ( hope this works) Holidays gratitude (Preview)	newnoz	9	2600	Dec 23, 2018 by ginnyc
	The Daily 12/20/18 (Preview) Iamhere asked if I could help out today, and I am happy to offer service! The following is taken from The Language of Letting Go GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS For some, the sights and smells of the holidays bring joy and a warm feeling. But, while others are joyously diving into the season, some of us are d...	PosiesandPuppies	7	523	Dec 23, 2018 by andromeda
	Christmas open house (Preview) Just wondering if there is any plan for an alanonathon for Christmas? If not, may I suggest we each think about dropping in chat room Christmas Eve through Christmas night just in case any needy member, new or old, wants to chat? Call it an "open house" ...... Thank you, wp	wp	2	1482	Dec 23, 2018 by hotrod
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