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Unsure how to handle this
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Tonight is AHs birthday. We all went out for breakfast this morning and had cake and ice cream this evening, but beyond that we had no plans - just a quiet night at home. Hes in his man cave drinking of course (its escalated in the past few months and its now become an almost nightly thing), our kids are busy...
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Courage to Change January 2
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Welcome to the New Year, MIP! In today's share, the Author says that turning to an alcoholic for affection and support can be like going to the hardware store to buy bread. Our alcoholic loved ones may not be able to meet our expectations, but, the author suggests, it is our expectations and not our lov...
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Step One
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https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65192709/alanon-step-one-1-1-2019-12-31/PleaseParticipate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this...
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Reflections/thankfulness/gratitude
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As I sat this morning reflecting on 2018, with all of its incredible blessings and struggles I am grateful. To those whom are new, a very warm welcome and a message of hope that you are never alone even when it seems like it cannot get any worse this board has been and is a beacon of light to all of us. It i...
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The next step
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In a few short years, my kids will be off to college. My goal is to be in a position by then to leave my marriage. Of course, it would be incredible if something were to happen before then that would make that unnecessary, but I cant keep holding on to that dream. I need to be prepared. But Im scared and overwh...
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what slogan am i working on today
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EASY DOES IT As I Practice slowing down, breathing, pausing when I'm not sure, I notice life is not so much of a struggle Its OK to go slow when doing a task that requires precision...Its FINE to take it leisurely when I am taking a shower, it is a absolute pleasure ... I am beginning to get shed of the frant...
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I beg your pardon!! I didn't promise you a rose garden
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Next month, February 15th will be my 15th year in recovery When I first got here, (knew I was a lifer but that was as ok as it could be) I expected that NOW I'm in recovery...LIFE is just gonna MAGICALLY get better for me...The dark will become light and no more problems/hardships/pain, etc. because ROSE...
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a look at step one
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as part of keeping things simple, I applied it to my step ONEthe first thing I had to see re: step one is where I had to ADMIT I was powerless over my codependency and anything else, for that matter, that is outside of me In step one, after a struggle, I accepted my powerlessness over anything outside of me...
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Mental Emotional relapsing
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I am grateful to have MIP and the program in my life as outcomes to the affect of the disease can be much worse than they use to be. Mental and Emotional relapsing for me involves living the long past history of alcoholism and my part in it all over again now with the awareness that I was powerless then an...
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C2C, 12/31
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The reading for Monday asks us to take a few minutes to reflect upon the progress we've made during this past year, and to thank those that helped, including HP. The questions the author asked themself included: What did I do to contribute to my success, have I reached out to others in the fellowship...
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How did I grow in 2018???
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Has it been a Year of Growth? Growth This author talks about As any year draws to a close, we should reflect on how we have grown in sobriety. We should also identify changes during the year that enabled us to overcome bad habits and to move closer to better patterns of living. The outcomes do not come wi...
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What am I grateful for today???
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I got a great nights sleep, dogs did not have to use restroom at 3am Went to gym after my strength exercise here and swam laps and really got a good cardo ran into some ladies I swim with and they, all 3 gave me happy new year HUGSSSSS....Loved it I can actually see PROGRESS in me!!! Yaaaaaay program!!!!!!...
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Been awhile
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I joined this group a year ago, give or take. I dove head first into it after having neared what I thought was the end of my rope. I quickly discovered, thanks to this place and some needed perspective, that I still had a lot of rope to go though. I was stronger than I thought. Things had improved at home some...
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Christmas/Expectations/ and al that other stuff
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Hello everyone. It has been a while since I have posted although still come to read daily and respond when I feel I have something to offer. Christmas was pretty terrific this year. We celebrated early to accomadate others schedules which was fine by me . My AD has been struggling with sobriety, on ag...
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Why do I engage?
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My husband sends me mean texts and I respond! Why can't I just ignore him?
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Hope for Today Dec 30
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Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about how recovery is about choices. The writer starts with the beginning of step 3: Made a decision.. The writer goes on to describe making choices with the decisions in our lives, and choosing to turn over our lives to the will of the God of our understanding....
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Back home safe n sound
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my 1st ever plane ride was great,flying back home was even better ,i wasn't least bit nervous.yay me i always had my tools with me ,and used them often,especially walking down town Las Vegas on the strip,to many ppl shoulder to shoulder. loved the time I had with my Daughter n Grandsons,which are now te...
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Would you tell your alcoholic about the effects of their drinking on others?
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Hi all. It's been a while since I felt the need to post (though I still read!). I have kept quiet these last months when ah drinks. I don't challenge, try to keep the focus on me and the children, and if I have prior warning of a binge, i sleep at family or friends with the children. The thing is, I have no...
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What am I grateful for_29 DEC
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My grateful list for today: our weather has been fairly mild I am successfully, so far into week 2 doing my cleansing diet and I am beginning to feel more clear That I can come to my MIP boards and post and be loved and accepted I believe that gratitude is powerful..It brings me good energy...So every da...
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Wonder if he is still alive or will 2019 be another loss to the darkness of addiction for me??
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My loving A brother is trying to find our drug addicted brother...He just told me this!!!! From his place in MA , hes been searching for our Bro who is in CA!!! he has called, texted, written everyone he knew out there, commonly with younger Bro (A Bro. went to visit 3 years ago and wisely got numbers of bro...
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What step am I working on today???
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Step 3: made the decision to turn my life and issues over to my higher power AS I UNDERSTAND IT I've always had issues with trusting anything outside of me: my RX??? FIRST...stop fighting with the HP of another's understanding...Find and connect with my OWN HP..... Mine is within me...and und...
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What am I grateful for _Dec 30
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I am healthy and so are my dogs Today promises to be mild weather and I am planning some tennis and swimming my needs are met I learn and grow each day
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Addiction claimed another one last night
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Addiction claimed another one last night. My oldest sister had a beautiful grandson, my great nephew, he has now lost due to drug addiction He was a heroin addict, I knew this was coming, I knew he was getting worse because my sis and I would talk on the phone about it and his dad my nephew, even had a heart i...
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Sober ex came back asking for a chance
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Im shocked.... we were together for almost 3 yrs. He dumped me via text about 1yr ago. We reunited 1 1/2 weeks later. Stayed together for 6 more months and he dumped me via text again. This time no contact for 5 months. He says he was scared about what a future means for us - him moving and changing jobs. He st...
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12/27/18 From The Forum Magazine
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The daily is taken from Al-Anon's Forum magazine: When we change our lives, we give up old patterns. Some of these old patterns, as harmful as they may have been, were like our best friends. We could turn to them for comfort and escape. After giving them up, and after the first elated feelings of liberat...
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Dealing with resentments
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DEALING WITH RESENTMENTS I've been reading this Ebook by a Dr. Susan Hass about self care and I took away the following points on her dealing with resentments... Resentments add to stress levels..They cause frustration..The sap your energy Maybe you got sucked into doing that thing again tha...
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Courage to Change, December 28
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Today's reading begins by pointing out that many of us affected by someone's alcoholism have come to believe it is not safe to trust anyone, get close to anyone, to reveal ourselves, or to care about another person. Yet we miss having close relationships. In Al-Anon, sponsorship can be a way of rega...
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Why I married twice to alcoholics/addicts
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As rough times arise I try to figure out how I've ended up here. Although I am an ACOA, I'm an adult child of anger . Rage actually . But I'm exactly the same as the adult children of alcoholics. My growing up was parallel-no security, no protection, no consistency, and it was a very scary environment...
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Lyne
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Bad head-space?
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We hear so many things about the holiday's -- Thanksgiving to Christmas (and Hannukah) to New Year's. I've heard it referred to as the Bermuda Triangle, LOL. That said, I understand we can be triggered by people, places, and things. That aside, I want to forget about the "other" more external so calle...
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What does Al-anon expect of me?
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Only requirement is that you become willing to join us. Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization,or institution; does not engage in any controversy, neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self supportin...
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Not so good here
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I believe my spouse is drinking. She denies it. I know the signs. I also know she is a skilled liar. It ruined our Xmas night. Today we are leaving for a winter getaway we take every year. We are not in a good place. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change t...
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CHANGE
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I have grown more accustomed to change. The older I get, the less set in my ways I become in how I view change, anyway, lol. Today, I find myself so very grateful. I LOVE the condo I'm renting. I couldn't have found a better place with better neighbors. It's quiet, it's decorated the way I want, I love h...
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Helping me helps my loved ones ..
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Big, big lessons over the past few weeks, things I am still processing. My oldest is not going back to college and I'm not sure how to handle that one thing I will say is at least they came to me before Christmas the want was to wait until after Christmas and my very wise younger son said umm nooo .. tell mom N...
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Courage to Change December 26
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Hello MIP! In today's Courage to change reading, the author reflects on one of the most useful lessons they've learned in Al-Anon: If I don't want to be a doormat, I have to get up off the floor. The author shares that they have spent plenty of time accepting unacceptable behavior that was directed at...
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Sharing progress - grateful this Christmas
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Hi, all! I haven't been around for a while, but Christmas seems like a good time to share some of my progress with you. Its been nearly 5 months since I smoked my last cigarette (!!!) and that's also thanks to Al-Anon and, more specifically, steps 1-3 and a HP, and lost of support from fellow quitters. I'v...
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ODAT Reading 12-25
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The ODAT Reading for today, December 25 Speaks about achieving maturity. The reading points out that a great tool in this process is to learn how to examine our motives, honestly. When we do this, we will discover that we are not always right and will then will open our minds to helpful influence ....
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C2C, 12/24
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The reading for 12/24 talks about how family and friends of alcoholics stop noticing what is going on with themselves. The author says we deserve to pay attention to our own behavior, thoughts, and feelings. Focusing on ourselves means looking at our own options, instead of the options of others....
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KEEP IT SIMPLE_20 Dec
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Keep It SimpleDon't give your advice before you are called upon. Desiderius Erasmus Hi everyone!!! in this daily, the author stresses the point to NOT give advice..If someone wants the advice?? They will ask for it..Thats is why in 12 steps, we don't go around trying to solicit other folks to join us....
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Hope for Today Dec 22
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the gentleness of Alanon. The program suggests practicing the steps, slogans and traditions but is not meant to be a severe list of you must... or even you should... in spite of how some of us may have felt about it when first coming into the program. The w...
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Reacting
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I find myself reacting to my AH lately. Maybe its the holidays and the stress and maybe its that his drinking has Increased but wowza am I the crazy one these days. Reacting to every button he tries to push. At first I was disheartened by the feeling that I had a backslide but Ive decided not to hold on to...
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A happy festive season in Alanon... Kaitapu Hari, Mele Kalikimaka, Nadolig Llawen, Merry Christmas.
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WARM WISHES FOR THIS HOLIDAY SEASON
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Thank you all so much! ( hope this works)
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The Daily 12/20/18
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Iamhere asked if I could help out today, and I am happy to offer service! The following is taken from The Language of Letting Go GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS For some, the sights and smells of the holidays bring joy and a warm feeling. But, while others are joyously diving into the season, some of us are d...
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Christmas open house
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Just wondering if there is any plan for an alanonathon for Christmas? If not, may I suggest we each think about dropping in chat room Christmas Eve through Christmas night just in case any needy member, new or old, wants to chat? Call it an "open house" ...... Thank you, wp
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Keep it simple_22 Dec
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Keep It SimpleIt is possible to be different and still be right.--Anne Wilson Schaef Hello everyone!!! this writer points out that each of us is special...in some ways we are all different..and that is a GOOD thing...Think of the world if we were exactly the same--All of us, carbon copies of each ot...
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I invaded his privacy- his inventory
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Hi everyone. So, this will be my first time doing anything regarding al-anon. I joined my bf on two regular AA meetings about 4 years ago to get an idea of what he was going through. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 7 years. I saw him struggle, fall, and get sober again during all this time. I'v...
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C2C, December 21
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The author of today's reading in Courage to Change was surprised to hear that when we make a list of the people we have harmed, we can put ourselves at the top of the list. They had previously thought that it was wrong to think of themselves, and that it was their duty to care for everyone else. By not tak...
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can you get addicted to MIP?
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Strange topic, huh? I guess I shouldn't have brought it up I guess. But seriously, I have so many addictions & have mentioned before that I am having some caffeine withdrawals but no real headaches. It has been 4 days since I really over-indulged. This brings to a point: In early sobriety & bey...
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Trying to keep distance from BILs stuff
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Hi folks It is interesting that most of my previous posts have been in relation to my brother-in-law. He survives my sister who died from bowel cancer over two years ago. I have previously written about my difficulties dealing with him in relation to minding their children and I had some fantastic ins...
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Courage to Change - 12/13/18
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Today's reading compares working recovery in Al-Anon to flying down a hill on a bicycle - a feeling of being tremendously alive in perfect balance. One of many tools that helps us get and stay 'there' is Live and let live. The writer suggests working to embrace whatever life brings with all the joys an...
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Courage to Change December 19
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Hello MIP! Today's courage to change speaks to the impact of living with the disease of alcoholism. The author shares that alcoholism is a physical, emotional, and spiritual disease and that we who live with the impact of the disease can benefit by checking on our own well being by checking in on our p...
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Giving back kinda ...sorta.
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My wife and I are sitting down in the garage watching the neighbors, new and old driving pass the house and our garage sale signs. We are having a "best offer" sale as we rid ourselves of many different personals which have supported our life in Hilo for the past 25 years. We are "best offering" these...
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ODAT Reading 12-18-2018
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The ODAT Reading for today, December 18 speaks about sharing at an Al-Anon meeting. The reading suggests that before we go to the meeting that we make a determination that when we speak we will share something helpful and constructive so that everybody that is. attending can benefit. It su...
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my not so favorite aunt!
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I am writing to you about somewhat of a miracle. That is how I see it in a way! I was praying for my enemies recently & she popped up! I wrote a very nice prayer to her as if I was praying for myself. The thing is we don't speak much or really have any contact. So, as I was praying, giving it my all, time went by...
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Gratefully triggered....
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What a awesome busy recovering Saturday!! I went to my home AA group and took some tree plants from my yard to share with the fellowship and when there expressed how the trees supported my culture of birth and my culture of recovery choice. The trees are known to support healing for the body; childre...
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does anyone know Terry Gorski & his work?
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I was wondering if any of you are familiar of a speaker & counselor named Theodore Gorski? He deals w/ a lot of recovery issues & is very frank. I just recently found an actual cassette tape of his & it is really heavy. Not w/o humor of course. I don't even know where I got it! Anyhow, I think I am...
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When things are going right ..
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I have reached a different sense of awareness during the holidays. I have lived most of my life in chaos and now that things have leveled out that's not to say things are perfect and I don't expect them to be however the level of chaos is outweighed by the level of calm and it's usually intense chaos whic...
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Note to self
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Seek out the good. Don't dwell on the pain. Enjoy the day. Lyne
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C2C, 12/17
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The reading for 12/17 discusses the suggestion to pray for those they resent. Initially they could not follow this suggestion, but as time went on the author says it has become one of the most effective tools of their recovery. The author developed a new way of thinking about the situation, and deci...
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