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Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in One Day At a Time in Al-Anon points out that we can't simply eliminate our faults. Forcing ourselves to stop a bad habit or compulsion doesn't work. We need to replace the defect with something better. Today's Reminder provides some examples: If I am morose and discontented, I wil...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! I usually post from Courage to Change, but I also keep that book in my office, and with all the snow we got, I can't get to it. (2 hours of shoveling, though! No need to hit the gym today, as it is still snowing, and I know I'll get the opportunity to shovel the driveway again later today.) Today'...

Nadinemel · Nadinemel

I am looking for some game ideas for our conference when we are gathering and between events. Any ideas please?

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading starts with a simple yet bold statement - I will dare to be myself. Six simple words that for me are a great way to start the day! The reminder tells us: I have a right to want what I want and to feel the way I feel. I may not choose to act on those feelings or desires, but I won't hide them from...

loranard · loranard

my name is Lora and my wife is an alcoholic. both of her parents are alcoholics and she also suffers from depression, ptsd, anxiety, and is disassociative. our relationship has been steadily going downhill since I would say...right after we got married in July. she blames me for everything. lit...

MelanieJ · MelanieJ

My daughter (sober 120 days on Jan 14th) was brought home tonight by a co-worker. She was drunk. Things have been going so well and we have been so grateful. She and her 5 year old live with me, the little one is at her other g-ma's tonight, thank God. Anyway, I lost it. Blame, shame, yelling and cryin...

Faintly Falling · Faintly Falling

I had a parent from the school call me to talk to me about how her daughter was upset by my daughter's name calling. My first reaction was to do whatever I could to improve my daughter's behaviour (they are both six) and to protect her daughter from further upset. My daughter is quite full on and, I believe...

JerryF · JerryF

In the 40+ years of recovery including being a therapist in a large in/out recovery program have seen this but once and that was this morning!! It blew me away when the cake pastry past before my eyes as the husband handed it to his recovering wife as she celebrated her 6th year of sobriety as I had to spe...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, January 22 speaks about trusting HP, through prayer and asking for guidance The reading suggests that the temptation to go it alone and force solutions is one of our frequent"go to" actions. I know that i always made up a solution, to my issues such as- deny realit...

Twinkies · Twinkies

The weekend started off on a bad note for me. I took something AH did (or rather, didnt do) personally. But I came and posted here, got my feelings out, and that by itself helped me to regain some perspective. The responses that followed from some of you helped even more and by the end of the evening, my min...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how our recovery is directly affected by the amount of effort we put into it. The writer compares this to a student who may get by in school, but will have minimal results if the student makes a habit of skipping homework, staying up late, missing classes...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/21, discusses how the author was confused about what was their business, they felt they had to take care of everyone, and they could not pay attention to their own needs. Alanon helped them listen and learn to their own body, soul, and HP. They would check in with themself-h...

mamalioness · mamalioness

LET IT BEGIN WITH ME ***************************** Today, I was in a pissy mood...stuff going wrong, stuff coming at me that I didn't like and I tossed a temper tantrum that would scare the squirrrels out of the trees. AFTER I vented my spleen, hitting a busted ole keyboard on a chair and letting lo...

mamalioness · mamalioness

We treasure our "Serenity Prayer" because it brings a new light to us that can dissipate our oldtime and nearly fatal habit of fooling ourselves. In the radiance of this prayer we see that defeat, rightly accepted, need be no disaster. We now know that we do not have to run away, nor ought we again try t...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Its been a couple of months now that Ive been pretty consistent in the way I conduct myself in regards to AHs drinking. When I first made the decision to disengage a year ago, my actions were unpredictable and Im pretty sure AH never knew what to expect from me. I never knew what to expect from me either. It...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Ive come to the realization that I cant change my AH. Been working on accepting that for a while now and Im finally there. Im learning to disengage when hes been drinking (which is pretty much daily now) and doing a pretty good job at it too. Im learning to live my life for me and allow him to join in as he desi...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I was reading through some recent posts today, and one of the 'flavors' that comes up every so often is gender differences - real of perceived - within the rooms of Al-Anon. When I was attending meetings regularly, I lived in a small town of roughly 30,000 people, so there were four Al-Anon meetings ev...

Overcome · Overcome

Evening Meeting starting in chat room, follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: How to keep a positive attitude in the alcoholic home. -- Edited by Overcome on Friday 18th of January 2019 09:34:48 PM

mamalioness · mamalioness

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. --Carl Jung (1875 - 1961) The best portions of a good man's life, his little, nameless, unremembered acts, of kindness and love. --William WordsworthAlone we can do so little; together we can do so much. --Helen...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm really trying not to react vs respond to what's going on at the moment. If there was a middle finger emoji it would so be flying .. and I apologize I get a little to real with things at times. I am utterly dumbfounded at the moment for someone who "isn't drinking" .. "living a Christian life" the man i...

Freetime · Freetime

When starting out in Al-Anon, the author was disturbed to hear that the best way to help an alcoholic is to focus on ourselves. It seemed heartless to stop helping our loved ones. Then another member shared that our desire to help is compassionate, but our old ways of helping may not be helpful. If we d...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about our own process of self-discovery using Al-Anon. The author discusses that perhaps searching from bar to bar, making scenes in public places and getting hysterical over little things is a bit insane. Often, we (friends and family) are the ones who agonize over the alc...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

OK.. I hope this will make you lol if you're not having a good day. Mine has been one of feeling powerless but just accepting it. So here goes.. I thought I might help the alcoholic in my life and myself to eat a little healthier. We both like desserts but they are often high fat and high sugar and we're beg...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author reflects on an important lesson they have learned in AlAnon - thinking before speaking. The author shares that they used to say everything that came to mind, even if they were not sure if what they said was true. Through work in the program, the autho...

joker · joker

As my dating life unfolds, the one man I had been dating, well last weekend, after 7 months of knowing him, he admitted to me he is an active alcoholic and said you can not leave any alcohol around my home as I will drink it. I was feeling a bit crazy and feeling a bit unstable being around him. I thought it was...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I am rarely at a loss for words, but find myself there tonight. The details are not important - I am. So often, we can get bogged down in the what happened and the summary is my son has relapsed. Of course, as the evidence presented last evening, my mind goes off to the races wondering how long has this be...

El · El

Hello MIP family, I am sure I have written before about the undeniable progression of my AH's disease. It is obviously taking its toll on him physically and cognitively. The times we can be out doing "normal" activities is getting shorter and shorter before he is ready to pass out or even somewhat en...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all Coming up 36 years in Alanon... I am blessed, truly blessed to be here... it was hard at first- and nothing seemed to happen. "now, if not sooner" seems to be the motto at that stage. I am 13 or 14 in this photo. A wee squirt. By age 20 I was 5'6"... This was our family home- our kitchen. I had gotten...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, January,15 speaks about the erroneous assumption that once the alcoholic reaches sobriety all our problems will be solved. The reading points out that this is an illusion. Sobriety is only the first step in building a good life. We both need to work to overcome the emo...

Temple · Temple

Went to see my Primary Care Physician this morning. This is funny--first one in 40 years and he's retiring in 2 months. I'd been seen by his nurse, and therefor contaminated before I ever got to talk to him, and he's this big teddy bear of a man who comes in beaming at me. And I broke down sobbing while he w...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about taking inventory, examining our behavior and participating in our own recovery. The writer describes meetings when a group inventory was taken. The writer felt impatient and anxious to get back to the meeting without the inventory. He/she began t...

Overcome · Overcome

Monday evening meeting starting in the chat room. Follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topics: Unacceptable Behavior and dealing with lies and excuses from the alcoholic. Open topic as it applies to the al-anon program. Overcomer -- Edited by Overcome on Mo...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/14, discusses the author realizing that they could not stop someone else from drinking. They came to understand that by giving up this losing battle, one could become free. Even when the loved one became sober, the author learned that their fears had little to do with the al...

gloves808 · gloves808

Good morning everyone. Had my first visit with the therapist today. Fortunate to meet with someone who I think I am going to stick with, so her personality meshes with my personality very well. We of course covered a lot of basics when it comes to what I want out of therapy/life. It felt good to sit down an...

mamalioness · mamalioness

BIG PROGRESS!!!! I went into work today and told everyone that I was still sore from my back and that I would work as long as it was still comfortable adn then I'm leaving when I get tired and sore.....so the folks may or may NOT get their W2's... I was stiff and a bit sore after 4 hrs.,doing my regular work, s...

Jozie · Jozie

Hey Family... To Say I've had a Blessed Holiday would be an Understatement... I have Had So Many Wonderful Moments with my Kids, Grandkids, Nieces & Nephews, Mom, Siblings, and Friends...Even got a New Puppy to Love... and Her Name too is "Jozie" :D But For what ever Reason, My Heart is Just In Such...

mamalioness · mamalioness

the "kids" are playing waaay past our bedtime....older dog got sick and tired of the play so she got up, off her nice towel and LEFT...She is in the office, in her crate, crashed out on her stuff toys..... It 11pm so I'm gonna tell these kids to go to bed.... Got you these 2 videos...when you click on them, t...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I made a NEW friend who is in recovery like me..we had a GREAT chat at coffee grateful that I have a warm, dry place to sleep in this soggy, cold weather

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

https://alanon.activeboard.com/t52215254/this-horrible-disease-took-away-my-ah-last-night/

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning, MIP Family -- That is exactly the topic of today's reading. The author feels lucky to have found a second family where they can speak freely, be accepted as they are, have the dignity to solve their own problems, and are freely given the empathy and love that they deserve just by being the...

Twinkies · Twinkies

The kids are staying at my parents house tonight. I was hoping since they were gone, maybe AH and I could do something together. Maybe dinner or a movie. I brought it up to him but he chose instead to do what he does most nights - relax in his man cave with his faithful companion Sam Adams. While my days are bu...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses worry. The author suggests that when we succumb to worry, we open a Pandora's box of terrifying pictures, paranoid voices and relentless self-criticism. When we give substance to this worry, we lose touch with reality, and typically nothing useful...

mamalioness · mamalioness

The slogan says let go and let God, I just say let go let my higher power and boy was I tested with that this afternoon when I came home I fired up my computer and the profile would not load, I kept getting an error so I did deal let go and let God. And I also paused and prayed. I took deep breaths and said OK, will g...

Temple · Temple

When I came home from the hospital the second time, everything was very rosy around here. Husband had gotten enough of a scare about losing me to be over hisownself, and I had had my night of forgiveness and acceptance and all. And everything was more loving than it's been in decades. And I asked him on...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's C2C speaks about one of my own character defects: looking outside myself for approval. The author shares that when the approval of others becomes necessary in order for us to feel satisfaction in our own good works, when the applause of others become THE reason for our behavior o...

JerryF · JerryF

I saw some pictures posted on facebook by our grand daughter in law of the great grand kids. How stunning in beauty they are!! I desire to hug/hold them again while they are "up there" and we are "down here" oceans apart. We found out that grand son/daughter are separated...so soon after being marri...

Temple · Temple

Tom-- So glad to see you on the board. Would love to hear how it is working out with the new GF, should you decide to share. You are able to sit up and type, so I am encouraged. Well that was pretty snarky, wasn't it. You've been forgiving me for a long time,and I hope you continue. And I really do want you to b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Not looking for a diagnosis or anything. I just need to share a few things that have been happening. Actually if I shared what I really feel would anyone really care? Sometimes when I go to any kind of meeting, it seems that I always feel uncomfortable when I leave. I can't believe I have after 33 years in t...

Temple · Temple

Thanks for the reminder about Psycho-Cybernetics. I read it a million years ago and forgot. Have to see if I still have it, or get another copy. I've read every self-help book and New Thought kind of thing, it seems, and lots of it has been helpful. I tend to be a "sampler" and always moving onto the next...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I realize as I get older that there are a couple of things going on .. first off my mom just can't help herself .. and second off .. it's not going to change. I was a bad daughter and didn't call during the holidays which sends my mother into panic mode that I'm angry with her .. I'm not angry .. I just don't wan...

norasq · norasq

Hi, all -- I don't often post here but in between my local meetings, I read a lot here and get a lot of strength and clarity from all of you. I am posting because I have been struggling a bit since my ex-husband ("R)") announced that he'd decided to go to rehab, and then entered rehab on Dec. 17. We were marrie...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Hi family! I am struggling today... I would say not with the same issues, but you know, it all circles back to Letting Go and lack of control. Here is the backstory - My Kid is now 18. He struggles with anxiety. He has had periodic episodes of such high anxiety, that he begins crying and has a panic attack. T...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Each Day a New Beginning The Chinese say that water is the most powerful element, because it is perfectly nonresistant. It can wear away a rock and sweep all before it. --Florence Scovel Shinn **Florence talks about nonresistance being the key to serenity and better karmic energy in our lives....

mamalioness · mamalioness

Down with another back spasm but I see a change in me. I didnt go nuts with anger, I didnt curse it and God for this horrible pain. I just immediately started deep breathing, took a whole med instead of 1/2. Immediately started stretching, did everything that you do when you first are stricken with one o...

hotrod · hotrod

he ODAT Reading for today, January 8 speaks about A time when sobriety arrives in the home. The reading suggests that when this happens-- ll is not always followed by roses and sweet music but that we need to be aware and grateful for the small blessings that do arrive with sobriety By applying...

Temple · Temple

Anybody have first-hand experience? I feel as if I am at the bottom of a well. Sound echoes. Can't see well, feel detached. This is with present surroundings; feel more connected to posts and PMS. I had some episodes when I was 12, maybe 13. I called it "being dizzy." I felt as if sound was coming from...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/7, speaks of the value of taking a half hour for oneself each day. The author says if a half hour seems to long, start with 5 minutes and work up to the half hour. The author often uses this time to pray or meditate, so they can find peace and power with HP. The author has also foun...

Maresie · Maresie

For me for most of my life the holidays were this huge problem every year. I really bought into a lot of myths about Christmas and indeed all the holidays. I felt even more sensitive around the holidays. One year I went with the now ex A to this lovely seaside resort I let his behavior spoil it all for me...

Overcome · Overcome

Tonight's Topics are: Building Trust with HP Follow this linK to get in the room: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It has been a good year so far but I have already had challenges. I just know that there will be more to come. I am not deluding myself at all. The end of last year was difficult but now that it is over, I can breathe. Today is my Al anon birthday or anniversary. It has been 33 years since I walked into my first me...

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	ODAT - January 25 (Preview) Today's reading in One Day At a Time in Al-Anon points out that we can't simply eliminate our faults. Forcing ourselves to stop a bad habit or compulsion doesn't work. We need to replace the defect with something better. Today's Reminder provides some examples: If I am morose and discontented, I wil...	Freetime	4	1118	Jan 25, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Today's Share: January 23 (Preview) Hello MIP! I usually post from Courage to Change, but I also keep that book in my office, and with all the snow we got, I can't get to it. (2 hours of shoveling, though! No need to hit the gym today, as it is still snowing, and I know I'll get the opportunity to shovel the driveway again later today.) Today'...	Skorpi	7	7483	Jan 25, 2019 by mamalioness
	Game ideas for a conference (Preview) I am looking for some game ideas for our conference when we are gathering and between events. Any ideas please?	Nadinemel	2	2313	Jan 25, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1/24/19 (Preview) Today's reading starts with a simple yet bold statement - I will dare to be myself. Six simple words that for me are a great way to start the day! The reminder tells us: I have a right to want what I want and to feel the way I feel. I may not choose to act on those feelings or desires, but I won't hide them from...	Iamhere	6	780	Jan 24, 2019 by mamalioness
	someone help (Preview) my name is Lora and my wife is an alcoholic. both of her parents are alcoholics and she also suffers from depression, ptsd, anxiety, and is disassociative. our relationship has been steadily going downhill since I would say...right after we got married in July. she blames me for everything. lit...	loranard	22	2301	Jan 24, 2019 by Hbgchick
	Relapse after 120 days (Preview) My daughter (sober 120 days on Jan 14th) was brought home tonight by a co-worker. She was drunk. Things have been going so well and we have been so grateful. She and her 5 year old live with me, the little one is at her other g-ma's tonight, thank God. Anyway, I lost it. Blame, shame, yelling and cryin...	MelanieJ	12	5765	Jan 24, 2019 by Maresie
	Sitting with an old unpleasant feeling (Preview) I had a parent from the school call me to talk to me about how her daughter was upset by my daughter's name calling. My first reaction was to do whatever I could to improve my daughter's behaviour (they are both six) and to protect her daughter from further upset. My daughter is quite full on and, I believe...	Faintly Falling	4	1041	Jan 24, 2019 by Maresie
	Well I never.... (Preview) In the 40+ years of recovery including being a therapist in a large in/out recovery program have seen this but once and that was this morning!! It blew me away when the cake pastry past before my eyes as the husband handed it to his recovering wife as she celebrated her 6th year of sobriety as I had to spe...	JerryF	5	2368	Jan 23, 2019 by Twinkies
	ODAT Reading 1-22-2019 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, January 22 speaks about trusting HP, through prayer and asking for guidance The reading suggests that the temptation to go it alone and force solutions is one of our frequent"go to" actions. I know that i always made up a solution, to my issues such as- deny realit...	hotrod	5	820	Jan 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	Little moments can have a big impact (Preview) The weekend started off on a bad note for me. I took something AH did (or rather, didnt do) personally. But I came and posted here, got my feelings out, and that by itself helped me to regain some perspective. The responses that followed from some of you helped even more and by the end of the evening, my min...	Twinkies	6	800	Jan 22, 2019 by 2HP
	Hope for Today Jan 20 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how our recovery is directly affected by the amount of effort we put into it. The writer compares this to a student who may get by in school, but will have minimal results if the student makes a habit of skipping homework, staying up late, missing classes...	yanksfan51	6	888	Jan 21, 2019 by mamalioness
	C2C, 1/21 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/21, discusses how the author was confused about what was their business, they felt they had to take care of everyone, and they could not pay attention to their own needs. Alanon helped them listen and learn to their own body, soul, and HP. They would check in with themself-h...	Lyne	6	816	Jan 21, 2019 by mamalioness
	My slogan for today (Preview) LET IT BEGIN WITH ME *************************** Today, I was in a pissy mood...stuff going wrong, stuff coming at me that I didn't like and I tossed a temper tantrum that would scare the squirrrels out of the trees. AFTER I vented my spleen, hitting a busted ole keyboard on a chair and letting lo...**	mamalioness	7	836	Jan 21, 2019 by Temple
	A look at the Serenity Prayer (Preview) We treasure our "Serenity Prayer" because it brings a new light to us that can dissipate our oldtime and nearly fatal habit of fooling ourselves. In the radiance of this prayer we see that defeat, rightly accepted, need be no disaster. We now know that we do not have to run away, nor ought we again try t...	mamalioness	5	945	Jan 21, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Can you simply stop talking about it? (Preview) Its been a couple of months now that Ive been pretty consistent in the way I conduct myself in regards to AHs drinking. When I first made the decision to disengage a year ago, my actions were unpredictable and Im pretty sure AH never knew what to expect from me. I never knew what to expect from me either. It...	Twinkies	7	6861	Jan 21, 2019 by Twinkies
	Why does it hurt so much? (Preview) Ive come to the realization that I cant change my AH. Been working on accepting that for a while now and Im finally there. Im learning to disengage when hes been drinking (which is pretty much daily now) and doing a pretty good job at it too. Im learning to live my life for me and allow him to join in as he desi...	Twinkies	11	1219	Jan 21, 2019 by Twinkies
	Men in Al-Anon (Preview) I was reading through some recent posts today, and one of the 'flavors' that comes up every so often is gender differences - real of perceived - within the rooms of Al-Anon. When I was attending meetings regularly, I lived in a small town of roughly 30,000 people, so there were four Al-Anon meetings ev...	canadianguy	6	1756	Jan 20, 2019 by DavidG
	Meeting starting in chat room (Preview) Evening Meeting starting in chat room, follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: How to keep a positive attitude in the alcoholic home. -- Edited by Overcome on Friday 18th of January 2019 09:34:48 PM	Overcome	1	616	Jan 19, 2019 by Loser1963
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_17 JAN (Preview) Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. --Carl Jung (1875 - 1961) The best portions of a good man's life, his little, nameless, unremembered acts, of kindness and love. --William WordsworthAlone we can do so little; together we can do so much. --Helen...	mamalioness	5	674	Jan 19, 2019 by Temple
	Irritated .. (Preview) I'm really trying not to react vs respond to what's going on at the moment. If there was a middle finger emoji it would so be flying .. and I apologize I get a little to real with things at times. I am utterly dumbfounded at the moment for someone who "isn't drinking" .. "living a Christian life" the man i...	SerenityRUS	9	860	Jan 19, 2019 by Maresie
	Courage to Change, January 18 (Preview) When starting out in Al-Anon, the author was disturbed to hear that the best way to help an alcoholic is to focus on ourselves. It seemed heartless to stop helping our loved ones. Then another member shared that our desire to help is compassionate, but our old ways of helping may not be helpful. If we d...	Freetime	9	714	Jan 18, 2019 by Freetime
	Courage to Change 1/17/19 (Preview) Today's reading talks about our own process of self-discovery using Al-Anon. The author discusses that perhaps searching from bar to bar, making scenes in public places and getting hysterical over little things is a bit insane. Often, we (friends and family) are the ones who agonize over the alc...	Iamhere	6	608	Jan 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	My Half Baked Idea (Preview) OK.. I hope this will make you lol if you're not having a good day. Mine has been one of feeling powerless but just accepting it. So here goes.. I thought I might help the alcoholic in my life and myself to eat a little healthier. We both like desserts but they are often high fat and high sugar and we're beg...	tiredtonite	9	946	Jan 17, 2019 by wp
	Courage to Change January 16 (Preview) In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author reflects on an important lesson they have learned in AlAnon - thinking before speaking. The author shares that they used to say everything that came to mind, even if they were not sure if what they said was true. Through work in the program, the autho...	Skorpi	8	689	Jan 17, 2019 by El
	Received validation (Preview) As my dating life unfolds, the one man I had been dating, well last weekend, after 7 months of knowing him, he admitted to me he is an active alcoholic and said you can not leave any alcohol around my home as I will drink it. I was feeling a bit crazy and feeling a bit unstable being around him. I thought it was...	joker	6	714	Jan 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	Relapse and Denial (Preview) I am rarely at a loss for words, but find myself there tonight. The details are not important - I am. So often, we can get bogged down in the what happened and the summary is my son has relapsed. Of course, as the evidence presented last evening, my mind goes off to the races wondering how long has this be...	Iamhere	25	1041	Jan 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	Watching the progression (Preview) Hello MIP family, I am sure I have written before about the undeniable progression of my AH's disease. It is obviously taking its toll on him physically and cognitively. The times we can be out doing "normal" activities is getting shorter and shorter before he is ready to pass out or even somewhat en...	El	5	672	Jan 16, 2019 by Iamhere
	Some memories... (Preview) Hi y'all Coming up 36 years in Alanon... I am blessed, truly blessed to be here... it was hard at first- and nothing seemed to happen. "now, if not sooner" seems to be the motto at that stage. I am 13 or 14 in this photo. A wee squirt. By age 20 I was 5'6"... This was our family home- our kitchen. I had gotten...	DavidG	6	670	Jan 16, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT Reading 1-15-2019 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, January,15 speaks about the erroneous assumption that once the alcoholic reaches sobriety all our problems will be solved. The reading points out that this is an illusion. Sobriety is only the first step in building a good life. We both need to work to overcome the emo...	hotrod	5	670	Jan 15, 2019 by hotrod
	Prayers/good thoughts, etc. requested (Preview) Went to see my Primary Care Physician this morning. This is funny--first one in 40 years and he's retiring in 2 months. I'd been seen by his nurse, and therefor contaminated before I ever got to talk to him, and he's this big teddy bear of a man who comes in beaming at me. And I broke down sobbing while he w...	Temple	24	1154	Jan 15, 2019 by Temple
	Jan 13 Hope for Today (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about taking inventory, examining our behavior and participating in our own recovery. The writer describes meetings when a group inventory was taken. The writer felt impatient and anxious to get back to the meeting without the inventory. He/she began t...	yanksfan51	11	800	Jan 15, 2019 by mamalioness
	Monday evening meeting starting in the chat room (Preview) Monday evening meeting starting in the chat room. Follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topics: Unacceptable Behavior and dealing with lies and excuses from the alcoholic. Open topic as it applies to the al-anon program. Overcomer -- Edited by Overcome on Mo...	Overcome	0	551	Jan 14, 2019 by Overcome
	C2C, 1/14 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/14, discusses the author realizing that they could not stop someone else from drinking. They came to understand that by giving up this losing battle, one could become free. Even when the loved one became sober, the author learned that their fears had little to do with the al...	Lyne	3	547	Jan 14, 2019 by hotrod
	Therapy visits (Preview) Good morning everyone. Had my first visit with the therapist today. Fortunate to meet with someone who I think I am going to stick with, so her personality meshes with my personality very well. We of course covered a lot of basics when it comes to what I want out of therapy/life. It felt good to sit down an...	gloves808	12	877	Jan 13, 2019 by Maresie
	How did I take care of me today???? (Preview) BIG PROGRESS!!!! I went into work today and told everyone that I was still sore from my back and that I would work as long as it was still comfortable adn then I'm leaving when I get tired and sore.....so the folks may or may NOT get their W2's... I was stiff and a bit sore after 4 hrs.,doing my regular work, s...	mamalioness	7	669	Jan 13, 2019 by mamalioness
	My Soul Just Hurts! (Preview) Hey Family... To Say I've had a Blessed Holiday would be an Understatement... I have Had So Many Wonderful Moments with my Kids, Grandkids, Nieces & Nephews, Mom, Siblings, and Friends...Even got a New Puppy to Love... and Her Name too is "Jozie" :D But For what ever Reason, My Heart is Just In Such...	Jozie	11	921	Jan 12, 2019 by Temple
	TEMPLE (Preview) the "kids" are playing waaay past our bedtime....older dog got sick and tired of the play so she got up, off her nice towel and LEFT...She is in the office, in her crate, crashed out on her stuff toys..... It 11pm so I'm gonna tell these kids to go to bed.... Got you these 2 videos...when you click on them, t...	mamalioness	4	678	Jan 12, 2019 by Temple
	what am i grateful for today (Preview) I made a NEW friend who is in recovery like me..we had a GREAT chat at coffee grateful that I have a warm, dry place to sleep in this soggy, cold weather	mamalioness	6	2107	Jan 11, 2019 by tiredtonite
	A New Start (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t52215254/this-horrible-disease-took-away-my-ah-last-night/	Green Eyes	8	933	Jan 11, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change, January 11 (Preview) Good morning, MIP Family -- That is exactly the topic of today's reading. The author feels lucky to have found a second family where they can speak freely, be accepted as they are, have the dignity to solve their own problems, and are freely given the empathy and love that they deserve just by being the...	Freetime	6	655	Jan 11, 2019 by Lyne
	Stepping out of my comfort zone tonight (Preview) The kids are staying at my parents house tonight. I was hoping since they were gone, maybe AH and I could do something together. Maybe dinner or a movie. I brought it up to him but he chose instead to do what he does most nights - relax in his man cave with his faithful companion Sam Adams. While my days are bu...	Twinkies	10	636	Jan 10, 2019 by Mattie
	Courage to Change 1/10/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses worry. The author suggests that when we succumb to worry, we open a Pandora's box of terrifying pictures, paranoid voices and relentless self-criticism. When we give substance to this worry, we lose touch with reality, and typically nothing useful...	Iamhere	5	569	Jan 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	Let go. Let HP (Preview) The slogan says let go and let God, I just say let go let my higher power and boy was I tested with that this afternoon when I came home I fired up my computer and the profile would not load, I kept getting an error so I did deal let go and let God. And I also paused and prayed. I took deep breaths and said OK, will g...	mamalioness	2	2245	Jan 10, 2019 by Lyne
	If I told you this already, forgive me. Bear of very small mind presently. (Preview) When I came home from the hospital the second time, everything was very rosy around here. Husband had gotten enough of a scare about losing me to be over hisownself, and I had had my night of forgiveness and acceptance and all. And everything was more loving than it's been in decades. And I asked him on...	Temple	4	545	Jan 9, 2019 by Temple
	Courage to Change January 9 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's C2C speaks about one of my own character defects: looking outside myself for approval. The author shares that when the approval of others becomes necessary in order for us to feel satisfaction in our own good works, when the applause of others become THE reason for our behavior o...	Skorpi	6	628	Jan 9, 2019 by hotrod
	In God's time... (Preview) I saw some pictures posted on facebook by our grand daughter in law of the great grand kids. How stunning in beauty they are!! I desire to hug/hold them again while they are "up there" and we are "down here" oceans apart. We found out that grand son/daughter are separated...so soon after being marri...	JerryF	11	746	Jan 9, 2019 by el-cee
	Canadian Guy (Preview) Tom-- So glad to see you on the board. Would love to hear how it is working out with the new GF, should you decide to share. You are able to sit up and type, so I am encouraged. Well that was pretty snarky, wasn't it. You've been forgiving me for a long time,and I hope you continue. And I really do want you to b...	Temple	4	568	Jan 8, 2019 by andromeda
	what is wrong w/ me? (Preview) Not looking for a diagnosis or anything. I just need to share a few things that have been happening. Actually if I shared what I really feel would anyone really care? Sometimes when I go to any kind of meeting, it seems that I always feel uncomfortable when I leave. I can't believe I have after 33 years in t...	Hoot Nanny	3	694	Jan 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	To Jerry (Preview) Thanks for the reminder about Psycho-Cybernetics. I read it a million years ago and forgot. Have to see if I still have it, or get another copy. I've read every self-help book and New Thought kind of thing, it seems, and lots of it has been helpful. I tend to be a "sampler" and always moving onto the next...	Temple	12	675	Jan 8, 2019 by Temple
	A story about my mom .. lol (Preview) I realize as I get older that there are a couple of things going on .. first off my mom just can't help herself .. and second off .. it's not going to change. I was a bad daughter and didn't call during the holidays which sends my mother into panic mode that I'm angry with her .. I'm not angry .. I just don't wan...	SerenityRUS	6	4050	Jan 8, 2019 by mamalioness
	Struggling with ex-A in rehab (Preview) Hi, all -- I don't often post here but in between my local meetings, I read a lot here and get a lot of strength and clarity from all of you. I am posting because I have been struggling a bit since my ex-husband ("R)") announced that he'd decided to go to rehab, and then entered rehab on Dec. 17. We were marrie...	norasq	14	900	Jan 8, 2019 by norasq
	Asking for some input, please (Preview) Hi family! I am struggling today... I would say not with the same issues, but you know, it all circles back to Letting Go and lack of control. Here is the backstory - My Kid is now 18. He struggles with anxiety. He has had periodic episodes of such high anxiety, that he begins crying and has a panic attack. T...	PosiesandPuppies	25	3244	Jan 8, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	NON-resistance_09 Jan (Each day a new beginning) (Preview) Each Day a New Beginning The Chinese say that water is the most powerful element, because it is perfectly nonresistant. It can wear away a rock and sweep all before it. --Florence Scovel Shinn **Florence talks about nonresistance being the key to serenity and better karmic energy in our lives....	mamalioness	3	576	Jan 8, 2019 by mamalioness
	Down with another back spasm but I see change in me (Preview) Down with another back spasm but I see a change in me. I didnt go nuts with anger, I didnt curse it and God for this horrible pain. I just immediately started deep breathing, took a whole med instead of 1/2. Immediately started stretching, did everything that you do when you first are stricken with one o...	mamalioness	15	2841	Jan 8, 2019 by mamalioness
	odat Reading 1-8-2019 (Preview) he ODAT Reading for today, January 8 speaks about A time when sobriety arrives in the home. The reading suggests that when this happens-- ll is not always followed by roses and sweet music but that we need to be aware and grateful for the small blessings that do arrive with sobriety By applying...	hotrod	4	668	Jan 8, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Disassociative Reaction? (Preview) Anybody have first-hand experience? I feel as if I am at the bottom of a well. Sound echoes. Can't see well, feel detached. This is with present surroundings; feel more connected to posts and PMS. I had some episodes when I was 12, maybe 13. I called it "being dizzy." I felt as if sound was coming from...	Temple	7	589	Jan 7, 2019 by mamalioness
	C2C, 1/7 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/7, speaks of the value of taking a half hour for oneself each day. The author says if a half hour seems to long, start with 5 minutes and work up to the half hour. The author often uses this time to pray or meditate, so they can find peace and power with HP. The author has also foun...	Lyne	5	563	Jan 7, 2019 by hotrod
	The holidays (Preview) For me for most of my life the holidays were this huge problem every year. I really bought into a lot of myths about Christmas and indeed all the holidays. I felt even more sensitive around the holidays. One year I went with the now ex A to this lovely seaside resort I let his behavior spoil it all for me...	Maresie	5	572	Jan 7, 2019 by mamalioness
	Sunday Evening Meeting starting (Preview) Tonight's Topics are: Building Trust with HP Follow this linK to get in the room: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html	Overcome	2	514	Jan 6, 2019 by Overcome
	a good year so far! (Preview) It has been a good year so far but I have already had challenges. I just know that there will be more to come. I am not deluding myself at all. The end of last year was difficult but now that it is over, I can breathe. Today is my Al anon birthday or anniversary. It has been 33 years since I walked into my first me...	Hoot Nanny	5	2270	Jan 6, 2019 by tiredtonite
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