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mamalioness · mamalioness

THE KEY IS WILLINGNESSOnce we have placed the key of willingness in the lockand have the door ever so slightly open, we find thatwe can always open it some more.TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 35The willingness to give up my pride and self-will to aPower greater than myself has proved to be the o...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Intimacy"What many have described as love or intimacy before reaching Program was actually codependence or rigid control." Before we came to program, we thought intimacy was that secret word that pertained to sex and making love. We thought it was about taking care of the other person, doing for...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author suggests that step 7 (Humbly asked HP to remove our shortcomings) is a step that we might take with joy and humor. The author shares that, while they have had the experience of working step seven tearfully and on their knees, that is not the only approach to thi...

luv123 · luv123

so i thought I would write myself a program letter for next time the emotional flashbacks come up.... next time i volunteer at the local food bank. It took me a while to realize what it was that was so hard about it. I was berating myself for just being too tired afterward and for being negative rather tha...

inhealinghands · inhealinghands

Hi there all, thank you for being here as a resource. I'm a returning member of about 3 weeks, though I went to a few meetings about 8 years ago when I was with my A partner. Apparently I wasn't in the place to really understand Alanon back then. Now we have been separated for 2 years, and I see that I am not get...

a4l · a4l

It has been a good long while; some of it due to a lack of internet connection. It was probably a good thing, as I find limiting net time difficult. Like the subject line, I'm facing one of those times when everything is going very well so there has to be one obstacle, in the form of another human being. I...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about gratitude lists and an attitude of gratitude. The writer tells of seeking things to put onto a list in the beginning, and how they did not really feel very grateful when finished at the start of the journey. Their mind was still weighted down with the negative thinking that h...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Before alcohol got its grips into my family, my AH and I had managed to build a strong, healthy emotional foundation for ourselves and our children. We were partners in every sense of the word and I never worried about having to hold it all together by myself. Seeing that foundation begin to slowly crum...

Fedora · Fedora

My spirit is so tired of trying hard. Of trying hard not to be angry, trying hard to let go and let consequences fall as they will, trying to pretend to the world that everything is So Great. Yesterday was so hard. I dragged myself into work and fantasized about telling everyone the truth, "I have an AH....

a4l · a4l

I think I saw one of our members mention phone in meetings a few times. I have a voip plan with unlinmited calls to Australia and really need a meeting. PM me please if you can help?

Bo · Bo

While many people don't believe it, and do not embrace it...alanon is a program of change. We learn to change our -- thinking, mindset, actions, reactions, behavior, and so much more. However, I constantly here...change is not easy. I've learned from a great deal of advanced adult education, learn...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the slogan live and let live. The writer describes having some difficulty with this slogan until hearing a speaker at a meeting compare the concept to tending an acre of land. While it is important to tend the land it is equally important not to go be...

joker · joker

I have been feeling drained by others lately. Maybe its because I have been around a dry drunk friend and he sees all things in a negative way. I feel this person is very needy and its draining me. Yes he has medical issues but what am I to do about it? I can fix the medical pain. I can not take it away. I am not a d...

Naomippb · Naomippb

I am lost on what I should be doing. My husband was discharged a week ago from rehab. I went to several meetings while he was there about relapse prevention and felt like I had a general idea on what my part was. Now I am not sure. My husband tells me what he is thinking and then when I give him my thoughts, then...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/11, speaks of the ability to laugh and forgive ourselves, because some of our defects of character are very hard to shake. The author can recall when at an earlier time they hid in shame from their flaws, and beat themself up. The author wants to try to accept more, and let go o...

WebHelper · WebHelper

Please visit the MIP Al-Anon business forum to participate in a group conscience about the MIP Al-Anon site navigation menu and page design.-- Hidden/Freetime-- Your WebHelper Team

el-cee · el-cee

I thought I would share that miracles just keep happening. Ive been praying and letting go and truly letting God maybe for the first time and after the last crisis it seems that God has answered my prayers. My son has reached out for help and his gf has been reading the books and had some peaceful days. I kn...

Freetime · Freetime

The writer of today's page in Courage to Change likes finding out about new ways to work the program. At a meeting, a basket of slogans was passed around, with the idea that each person would take a slogan and try to apply it to their day. The writer got the slogan "Easy Does It." The next day, the writer w...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about making positive changes in recovery. The author suggests that watching her son's silkworms helped her to see how transformations can be made from perceived negatives to positives. Silkworms are fat and greedy creatures, yet out of their own substanc...

joker · joker

I am in a grateful place finally. Its been an incredible painful journey but I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. My daughter who has serious mental health issues and in hospital currently, is making progress. She had been charged a few years back with assault on a police officer and t...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today 3-5 speaks about the basic alanon tools of the Steps and the Serenity prayer.. The reading points out that these simple tools can be used to face any problem even those not caused b the disease of alcoholism . It is suggested that when we are living by the alanon princi...

JerryF · JerryF

Good Morning MIP Family I got triggered by HP to bring this story to the board because it fits so well within the dialogue HP has with me. You will find the story in the January 2017 "The FORUM" on page 3. The FORUM is our monthly magazine and a real winner for me. I came across this offering by Buddy H., of...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that Al-Anon helped them to realize that no one can know what is in their heart or what their needs are unless they share them with others. In addition, the author shares that they cannot expect any one person to meet ALL of their ne...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Man is in love, and loves what vanishes; what more is there to say?~W. B. YeatsThroughout our lives we repeatedly make attachments and lose them. We are taken with the rich color of leaves in the fall, but we know that this beauty will soon be replaced with stark, empty branches. We give ourselves to ca...

Aloha · Aloha

Hi everyone, I've been silent for a while and away from this board. Still going to meetings and working with my sponsor, but I'm finding that I've managed to jump off a cliff recently so wanted to come in and absorb and also reason things out. I was relating to Pinkchip in his post about needing to find the...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello everyone, So, my ex boyfriends ex wife called me today to tell me that he is getting engaged to his new girlfriend, whom he has only been dating for 5-6 months. A part of me was in shock since he claimed he'd never get married and wasn't interested in it EVER again. But, a part of me was grateful that...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/4, discusses the slogan think. The author says at first it was puzzling. But they heard a childs safety rule that said, stop, look, and listen. The author was able to see the similarity in the slogan and the safety rule: before you get into trouble, or say the wrong thing, b...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at the difference between feeling the need to be responsible (for everyone and everything) and the ability to respond appropriately given a situation. Like the writer, when first coming to meetings in the program I didnt feel that I could share anyth...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hi Everyone, I have been mostly reading here recently and trying to gain clarity and wisdom concerning a job opportunity. I am now at the end of a very long process for a position in rehab. At first I felt very invested in securing this job but now I don't know how I feel. I love our program and living recove...

hotrod · hotrod

3Rd step has been poated to the sep boar Please share you conaiderable ESH Thanks

Freetime · Freetime

As we start the month of March, this daily reading addresses the pitfalls of seeking knowledge, waiting for insight as a way to avoid action, and trying to analyze alcoholism. Analyzing and insisting on answers could prevent us from accepting the reality of our situation and facing the fact that we m...

Heather S · Heather S

I've been trying to navigate co-parenting of one young child (7 years old), with her father (we're technically still married but separated 6 years ago), who, until last week, was actively drinking. I'm very adept at detachment with him, but as he has her almost 1/2 the time with no supervision, and sh...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Well, all is fairly well guys considering the big picture. The problem is, I often don't consider the big picture when I forget to work a program. That being said, I'm married now for over 4 years, with my husband for 8 years. We have a great life with 7 pets and this year I celebrated 10 years sober also...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today, February 26 speaks about the fact that at first many who reach out to alanon meetings are in impossible situations. We, in alanon refrain from giving advise as many are not able to take corrective action. The reading suggest that we make a simple statement that no on...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading talks about Step 3 - turning our will and life to the care of a Higher Power, and how it's an ongoing process. For many of us, we are willing to surrender the big issues - felt we had no other choice. Our best efforts had let us down and we clearly were powerless. As the writer progres...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Im struggling with maintaining my boundaries tonight. AH is drinking and as is my usual response these days, I chose to walk away and do my own thing. I was in bed watching tv when he came in and wanted to cuddle. I just couldnt do it. I didnt want to be close to him in that moment. So I started to get up to leave...

Jen · Jen

I feel at the end of my rope. My son is suffering our end of this disease, enmeshed with a friend who has an eating disorder. He is 18, not drivers license, won't do school work, won't help around the house, and spends all day either chatting with his friend, or watching YouTube. I'm about at the end of my pa...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading of Courage to Change, the author reminds us that we don't need to map out our perfect plan for recovery, our HP has already done that. All we need to do is ask for HP's guidance and for the willingness to follow that guidance today. The author also shares that there are things we can do t...

Choriste · Choriste

Hi everyone, I am married to a recovering alcoholic and one of the friends I have met through his circle of friends is a woman with whom I attended Al-Anon, shopped, did prep meals, all the fun BFF's do (which was a new thing for me as I have struggled with "normal" friendships). Fast forward to last month...

el-cee · el-cee

So if my son is suffering from the disease of alcoholism and hes still on the merrygoround where he think he just needs enough will power or self control. That his own power can help him and that he just needs to be strong enough. What do you say when you know that he needs to surrender all his own efforts and...

helovesitmore · helovesitmore

I told him on Saturday, I cant do this anymore, Im done, now, hes acting like this is my fault...damn... the problem is, I still love him with every fiber of my being, help

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/25, speaks about how alcoholism teaches self-neglect. The author relates that even with a high fever, they went about their day as usual. In program they have learned that it is OK to give themself extra attention when sick, rest when tired, how to eat a balanced diet, and e...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I got married at the beginning of the year. I have truly broken free of the codependency & dysfunction of old I am living a decent life without the misery of old. However I have lost a 42 year old childhood friend due to overdosing this month, another close friend of mine was drunk and severely injure...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about following the suggested guidelines , traditions and policies of the program. The writer describes the feeling when making a decision to follow the rules (in terms of driving and in traffic) or struggling with the idea of breaking the rules in order to...

JerryF · JerryF

I won't usually fool around on this board because what is done here is so very powerful and beautiful regarding our recovery however where I am and was raised we learn that everything has spirit and for me the Jade flower is evidence of the loving power of my HP and the Mo`o on the vine is also. Just reve...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I feel a little lost & confused. It is only about trying to communicate & not being to understand what people are saying. I have purposely not gotten on here. I guess I don't feel like I have anything to share. I am kind of frustrated though w/ my niece's over-protective nature w/ her 3 week...

texas yankee · texas yankee

I'm beginning to think that if I had to compare Al Anon to sports, it'd have to be a baseball game - but with the pitcher (my alcoholic \ addict loved one) ONLY throwing curve balls, and with each pitch (I'm in the batter's box) breaking a different way and almost impossible to hit ! I think I need to change...

Freetime · Freetime

Making decisions is the topic of today's reading. We can have trouble making decisions by having impossibly high standards, wanting a specific result, or wanting to know in advance all the possible consequences of a decision. Instead, we can ask for and look for help with our decision -- from our HP...

El · El

Good morning, MIP family! I have had the good fortune and feel very blessed to be able to vacation down in warm, sunny Florida. Escaping winter in the northeast for even a week is a nice reprieve. With that being said, it has been obvious to me that I need to rethink future vacation plans with my AH. It s...

RachelsMom · RachelsMom

Hi, I haven't been here lately. So my daughter lives in town now so the problems are clearly visable. She can not function. She can not work and she can not keep from getting in trouble with her landlord. She jeopardizes every act of stability, every opportunity. She is as mean and sneaky as a snake (sorr...

joker · joker

A quick update on my daughter. The police took her under 911 due to death threats toward me and her schizophrenia breakdown. She is in the mental health hospital and heavily medicated. I went to see her and she is participating in groups! WOW, that is a miracle! I had a meeting with the social worker at th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

The writer shares that they and their sponsor have completely different political views and disagree on other issues yet are able to align on program especially about serenity, courage and wisdom. The author suggests if they had insisted on a sponsor with identical political views, they would ha...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Unexpected Disappointments____Acceptance.As life unfolds, we sometimes get unexpected disappointments that seem undeserved -- the car breaks down, a business deal goes sour, or a close friend betrays us. As alcoholics, most of us don't handle such things too well. "Why me, Lord?" we often resp...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Removing the VictimDont others see how much Im hurting? Cant they see I need help? Dont they care?The issue is not whether others see or care. The issue is whether we see and care about ourselves. Often, when we are pointing a finger at others, waiting for them to have compassion for us, its because we...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Today was my birthday. My parents remembered. So did my best friend. My kids didnt remember but theyre teenagers so I wasnt upset over that. AH didnt acknowledge it either. It didnt bother me at first as its a weekday and I assumed hed say or do something once he got home for the evening. But he didnt. And I...

Confronted Meeting Member · tiredtonite

Hi Everyone I'm working through some feelings after confronting a guy in my meeting about inappropriate behavior towards me. I have set a boundary with him and been clear but he is attention seeking and continues to ignore my personal boundary. Another member confronted him recently with our dist...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about one of the early lessons many of us learn in AlAnon - we do not need to tolerate unacceptable behavior. The author shares that they learned early in the program that they need not tolerate violence or abuse, and that they had choices they had not recognized be...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today, February 19 speaks about attending alanon meetings: learning how to listen to others and to our own inner voice so we can make our own decisions. The reading point out alanon members do not give advise nor tell anyone to leave a marriage even if the situation appears ho...

texas yankee · texas yankee

If you are completely happy with your spiritual situation and have a rock-solid faith in your religious \ spiritual situation of choice, or if you only read conference approved literature, this recommendation probably isn't for you - but if you're like I was (faith challenged, constantly questio...

Junipurr · Junipurr

Hi allI am in a full out codependency relapse. I know I need to get back to face to face meetings. It feels awkward to go back. My AH has a past history of being a mean, obnoxious drunk and got sober in 2010 when he worked a rigorous AA program with a sponsor, a 90/90, he even sponsored someone.He stopped goin...

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	WILLINGNESS (Preview) THE KEY IS WILLINGNESSOnce we have placed the key of willingness in the lockand have the door ever so slightly open, we find thatwe can always open it some more.TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 35The willingness to give up my pride and self-will to aPower greater than myself has proved to be the o...	mamalioness	16	4702	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	INTIMACY (Preview) Intimacy"What many have described as love or intimacy before reaching Program was actually codependence or rigid control." Before we came to program, we thought intimacy was that secret word that pertained to sex and making love. We thought it was about taking care of the other person, doing for...	mamalioness	7	6047	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change March 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author suggests that step 7 (Humbly asked HP to remove our shortcomings) is a step that we might take with joy and humor. The author shares that, while they have had the experience of working step seven tearfully and on their knees, that is not the only approach to thi...	Skorpi	6	585	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	Letter to self on emotions (Preview) so i thought I would write myself a program letter for next time the emotional flashbacks come up.... next time i volunteer at the local food bank. It took me a while to realize what it was that was so hard about it. I was berating myself for just being too tired afterward and for being negative rather tha...	luv123	9	2292	Mar 14, 2019 by JerryF
	Pretty new and could use guidance of any kind (Preview) Hi there all, thank you for being here as a resource. I'm a returning member of about 3 weeks, though I went to a few meetings about 8 years ago when I was with my A partner. Apparently I wasn't in the place to really understand Alanon back then. Now we have been separated for 2 years, and I see that I am not get...	inhealinghands	13	2228	Mar 14, 2019 by JerryF
	choosing interpretation of life's challenges (Preview) It has been a good long while; some of it due to a lack of internet connection. It was probably a good thing, as I find limiting net time difficult. Like the subject line, I'm facing one of those times when everything is going very well so there has to be one obstacle, in the form of another human being. I...	a4l	13	4605	Mar 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 9/20/18 (Preview) Today's reading is about gratitude lists and an attitude of gratitude. The writer tells of seeking things to put onto a list in the beginning, and how they did not really feel very grateful when finished at the start of the journey. Their mind was still weighted down with the negative thinking that h...	Iamhere	9	593	Mar 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Shoring up my own foundation (Preview) Before alcohol got its grips into my family, my AH and I had managed to build a strong, healthy emotional foundation for ourselves and our children. We were partners in every sense of the word and I never worried about having to hold it all together by myself. Seeing that foundation begin to slowly crum...	Twinkies	6	700	Mar 13, 2019 by KT2015
	so tired of trying (Preview) My spirit is so tired of trying hard. Of trying hard not to be angry, trying hard to let go and let consequences fall as they will, trying to pretend to the world that everything is So Great. Yesterday was so hard. I dragged myself into work and fantasized about telling everyone the truth, "I have an AH....	Fedora	10	3181	Mar 12, 2019 by luv123
	anyone iin australia know of any phone in meetings? (Preview) I think I saw one of our members mention phone in meetings a few times. I have a voip plan with unlinmited calls to Australia and really need a meeting. PM me please if you can help?	a4l	4	4164	Mar 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Change... (Preview) While many people don't believe it, and do not embrace it...alanon is a program of change. We learn to change our -- thinking, mindset, actions, reactions, behavior, and so much more. However, I constantly here...change is not easy. I've learned from a great deal of advanced adult education, learn...	Bo	4	4254	Mar 12, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Mar 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the slogan live and let live. The writer describes having some difficulty with this slogan until hearing a speaker at a meeting compare the concept to tending an acre of land. While it is important to tend the land it is equally important not to go be...	yanksfan51	5	799	Mar 11, 2019 by DavidG
	Drained (Preview) I have been feeling drained by others lately. Maybe its because I have been around a dry drunk friend and he sees all things in a negative way. I feel this person is very needy and its draining me. Yes he has medical issues but what am I to do about it? I can fix the medical pain. I can not take it away. I am not a d...	joker	6	4330	Mar 11, 2019 by Bo
	My part in the recovery process (Preview) I am lost on what I should be doing. My husband was discharged a week ago from rehab. I went to several meetings while he was there about relapse prevention and felt like I had a general idea on what my part was. Now I am not sure. My husband tells me what he is thinking and then when I give him my thoughts, then...	Naomippb	7	4142	Mar 11, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, 3/11 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/11, speaks of the ability to laugh and forgive ourselves, because some of our defects of character are very hard to shake. The author can recall when at an earlier time they hid in shame from their flaws, and beat themself up. The author wants to try to accept more, and let go o...	Lyne	3	2563	Mar 11, 2019 by El
	Group Conscience Request: Navigation Menu and Web Page Design (Preview) Please visit the MIP Al-Anon business forum to participate in a group conscience about the MIP Al-Anon site navigation menu and page design.-- Hidden/Freetime-- Your WebHelper Team	WebHelper	0	3852	Mar 11, 2019 by WebHelper
	Hope and miracles (Preview) I thought I would share that miracles just keep happening. Ive been praying and letting go and truly letting God maybe for the first time and after the last crisis it seems that God has answered my prayers. My son has reached out for help and his gf has been reading the books and had some peaceful days. I kn...	el-cee	12	3357	Mar 11, 2019 by el-cee
	Courage to Change, March 8 (Preview) The writer of today's page in Courage to Change likes finding out about new ways to work the program. At a meeting, a basket of slogans was passed around, with the idea that each person would take a slogan and try to apply it to their day. The writer got the slogan "Easy Does It." The next day, the writer w...	Freetime	6	784	Mar 9, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 3/7/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about making positive changes in recovery. The author suggests that watching her son's silkworms helped her to see how transformations can be made from perceived negatives to positives. Silkworms are fat and greedy creatures, yet out of their own substanc...	Iamhere	3	4810	Mar 7, 2019 by El
	Seeing positive changes (Preview) I am in a grateful place finally. Its been an incredible painful journey but I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. My daughter who has serious mental health issues and in hospital currently, is making progress. She had been charged a few years back with assault on a police officer and t...	joker	4	2383	Mar 6, 2019 by luv123
	ODAT REading 3-5 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today 3-5 speaks about the basic alanon tools of the Steps and the Serenity prayer.. The reading points out that these simple tools can be used to face any problem even those not caused b the disease of alcoholism . It is suggested that when we are living by the alanon princi...	hotrod	8	2257	Mar 6, 2019 by luv123
	Sometimes a dirty windshield will do... (Preview) Good Morning MIP Family I got triggered by HP to bring this story to the board because it fits so well within the dialogue HP has with me. You will find the story in the January 2017 "The FORUM" on page 3. The FORUM is our monthly magazine and a real winner for me. I came across this offering by Buddy H., of...	JerryF	7	5389	Mar 6, 2019 by luv123
	Courage to Change March 6 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that Al-Anon helped them to realize that no one can know what is in their heart or what their needs are unless they share them with others. In addition, the author shares that they cannot expect any one person to meet ALL of their ne...	Skorpi	7	881	Mar 6, 2019 by DavidG
	ATTACHMENTS (Preview) Man is in love, and loves what vanishes; what more is there to say?~W. B. YeatsThroughout our lives we repeatedly make attachments and lose them. We are taken with the rich color of leaves in the fall, but we know that this beauty will soon be replaced with stark, empty branches. We give ourselves to ca...	mamalioness	5	1962	Mar 6, 2019 by mamalioness
	Circling back around (Preview) Hi everyone, I've been silent for a while and away from this board. Still going to meetings and working with my sponsor, but I'm finding that I've managed to jump off a cliff recently so wanted to come in and absorb and also reason things out. I was relating to Pinkchip in his post about needing to find the...	Aloha	13	3256	Mar 6, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	The places our minds take us (Preview) Hello everyone, So, my ex boyfriends ex wife called me today to tell me that he is getting engaged to his new girlfriend, whom he has only been dating for 5-6 months. A part of me was in shock since he claimed he'd never get married and wasn't interested in it EVER again. But, a part of me was grateful that...	andromeda	12	1175	Mar 5, 2019 by tiredtonite
	C2C, 3/4 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/4, discusses the slogan think. The author says at first it was puzzling. But they heard a childs safety rule that said, stop, look, and listen. The author was able to see the similarity in the slogan and the safety rule: before you get into trouble, or say the wrong thing, b...	Lyne	2	1644	Mar 4, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Mar 3 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at the difference between feeling the need to be responsible (for everyone and everything) and the ability to respond appropriately given a situation. Like the writer, when first coming to meetings in the program I didnt feel that I could share anyth...	yanksfan51	4	4861	Mar 3, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Program, Work, Expectations, Confusion (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have been mostly reading here recently and trying to gain clarity and wisdom concerning a job opportunity. I am now at the end of a very long process for a position in rehab. At first I felt very invested in securing this job but now I don't know how I feel. I love our program and living recove...	tiredtonite	7	2560	Mar 2, 2019 by tiredtonite
	3RD Step (Preview) 3Rd step has been poated to the sep boar Please share you conaiderable ESH Thanks	hotrod	1	1705	Mar 1, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change, March 1 (Preview) As we start the month of March, this daily reading addresses the pitfalls of seeking knowledge, waiting for insight as a way to avoid action, and trying to analyze alcoholism. Analyzing and insisting on answers could prevent us from accepting the reality of our situation and facing the fact that we m...	Freetime	3	3826	Mar 1, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Navigating Co-Parenting with the Alcoholic co-parenting (Preview) I've been trying to navigate co-parenting of one young child (7 years old), with her father (we're technically still married but separated 6 years ago), who, until last week, was actively drinking. I'm very adept at detachment with him, but as he has her almost 1/2 the time with no supervision, and sh...	Heather S	2	689	Mar 1, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Checking in with gratitude and neuroses (Preview) Well, all is fairly well guys considering the big picture. The problem is, I often don't consider the big picture when I forget to work a program. That being said, I'm married now for over 4 years, with my husband for 8 years. We have a great life with 7 pets and this year I celebrated 10 years sober also...	pinkchip	15	3662	Mar 1, 2019 by mamalioness
	ODAT 2-26 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today, February 26 speaks about the fact that at first many who reach out to alanon meetings are in impossible situations. We, in alanon refrain from giving advise as many are not able to take corrective action. The reading suggest that we make a simple statement that no on...	hotrod	8	3245	Mar 1, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 2/28/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading talks about Step 3 - turning our will and life to the care of a Higher Power, and how it's an ongoing process. For many of us, we are willing to surrender the big issues - felt we had no other choice. Our best efforts had let us down and we clearly were powerless. As the writer progres...	Iamhere	7	1684	Mar 1, 2019 by mamalioness
	How do you maintain boundaries (Preview) Im struggling with maintaining my boundaries tonight. AH is drinking and as is my usual response these days, I chose to walk away and do my own thing. I was in bed watching tv when he came in and wanted to cuddle. I just couldnt do it. I didnt want to be close to him in that moment. So I started to get up to leave...	Twinkies	8	548	Feb 28, 2019 by JerryF
	I'm so tired. What do I do next? (Preview) I feel at the end of my rope. My son is suffering our end of this disease, enmeshed with a friend who has an eating disorder. He is 18, not drivers license, won't do school work, won't help around the house, and spends all day either chatting with his friend, or watching YouTube. I'm about at the end of my pa...	Jen	9	2485	Feb 27, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Courage to Change February 27 (Preview) In today's reading of Courage to Change, the author reminds us that we don't need to map out our perfect plan for recovery, our HP has already done that. All we need to do is ask for HP's guidance and for the willingness to follow that guidance today. The author also shares that there are things we can do t...	Skorpi	6	953	Feb 27, 2019 by El
	Your ES&H please - friend who's on her pity pot - boundaries and detachment for me (Preview) Hi everyone, I am married to a recovering alcoholic and one of the friends I have met through his circle of friends is a woman with whom I attended Al-Anon, shopped, did prep meals, all the fun BFF's do (which was a new thing for me as I have struggled with "normal" friendships). Fast forward to last month...	Choriste	11	3731	Feb 26, 2019 by Iamhere
	How much is too much? (Preview) So if my son is suffering from the disease of alcoholism and hes still on the merrygoround where he think he just needs enough will power or self control. That his own power can help him and that he just needs to be strong enough. What do you say when you know that he needs to surrender all his own efforts and...	el-cee	13	2351	Feb 26, 2019 by Bo
	ending it (Preview) I told him on Saturday, I cant do this anymore, Im done, now, hes acting like this is my fault...damn... the problem is, I still love him with every fiber of my being, help	helovesitmore	10	2192	Feb 25, 2019 by Kcsnooze
	C2C, 2/25 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/25, speaks about how alcoholism teaches self-neglect. The author relates that even with a high fever, they went about their day as usual. In program they have learned that it is OK to give themself extra attention when sick, rest when tired, how to eat a balanced diet, and e...	Lyne	5	1052	Feb 25, 2019 by El
	Longtime....Update (Preview) I got married at the beginning of the year. I have truly broken free of the codependency & dysfunction of old I am living a decent life without the misery of old. However I have lost a 42 year old childhood friend due to overdosing this month, another close friend of mine was drunk and severely injure...	Breakingfree	9	3474	Feb 25, 2019 by pinkchip
	Hope for Today Feb 24 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about following the suggested guidelines , traditions and policies of the program. The writer describes the feeling when making a decision to follow the rules (in terms of driving and in traffic) or struggling with the idea of breaking the rules in order to...	yanksfan51	6	725	Feb 24, 2019 by DavidG
	Jade and resident (Preview) I won't usually fool around on this board because what is done here is so very powerful and beautiful regarding our recovery however where I am and was raised we learn that everything has spirit and for me the Jade flower is evidence of the loving power of my HP and the Mo`o on the vine is also. Just reve...	JerryF	11	3730	Feb 24, 2019 by mamalioness
	a little lost & confused... (Preview) Today I feel a little lost & confused. It is only about trying to communicate & not being to understand what people are saying. I have purposely not gotten on here. I guess I don't feel like I have anything to share. I am kind of frustrated though w/ my niece's over-protective nature w/ her 3 week...	Hoot Nanny	6	3340	Feb 23, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Time to ramp up my program and focus on ME, and staying serene ! (Preview) I'm beginning to think that if I had to compare Al Anon to sports, it'd have to be a baseball game - but with the pitcher (my alcoholic \ addict loved one) ONLY throwing curve balls, and with each pitch (I'm in the batter's box) breaking a different way and almost impossible to hit ! I think I need to change...	texas yankee	7	1009	Feb 22, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change, February 22 (Preview) Making decisions is the topic of today's reading. We can have trouble making decisions by having impossibly high standards, wanting a specific result, or wanting to know in advance all the possible consequences of a decision. Instead, we can ask for and look for help with our decision -- from our HP...	Freetime	7	2233	Feb 22, 2019 by El
	Rethinking vacations (Preview) Good morning, MIP family! I have had the good fortune and feel very blessed to be able to vacation down in warm, sunny Florida. Escaping winter in the northeast for even a week is a nice reprieve. With that being said, it has been obvious to me that I need to rethink future vacation plans with my AH. It s...	El	8	2698	Feb 22, 2019 by El
	Daughter gives up (Preview) Hi, I haven't been here lately. So my daughter lives in town now so the problems are clearly visable. She can not function. She can not work and she can not keep from getting in trouble with her landlord. She jeopardizes every act of stability, every opportunity. She is as mean and sneaky as a snake (sorr...	RachelsMom	31	4812	Feb 22, 2019 by RachelsMom
	Seeing some progress (Preview) A quick update on my daughter. The police took her under 911 due to death threats toward me and her schizophrenia breakdown. She is in the mental health hospital and heavily medicated. I went to see her and she is participating in groups! WOW, that is a miracle! I had a meeting with the social worker at th...	joker	4	1852	Feb 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 2/21/19 (Preview) The writer shares that they and their sponsor have completely different political views and disagree on other issues yet are able to align on program especially about serenity, courage and wisdom. The author suggests if they had insisted on a sponsor with identical political views, they would ha...	Iamhere	3	2426	Feb 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	DISAPPOINTMENTS (Preview) Unexpected Disappointments____Acceptance.As life unfolds, we sometimes get unexpected disappointments that seem undeserved -- the car breaks down, a business deal goes sour, or a close friend betrays us. As alcoholics, most of us don't handle such things too well. "Why me, Lord?" we often resp...	mamalioness	7	979	Feb 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	VICTIM (Preview) Removing the VictimDont others see how much Im hurting? Cant they see I need help? Dont they care?The issue is not whether others see or care. The issue is whether we see and care about ourselves. Often, when we are pointing a finger at others, waiting for them to have compassion for us, its because we...	mamalioness	6	1740	Feb 21, 2019 by mamalioness
	Gave myself a gift (Preview) Today was my birthday. My parents remembered. So did my best friend. My kids didnt remember but theyre teenagers so I wasnt upset over that. AH didnt acknowledge it either. It didnt bother me at first as its a weekday and I assumed hed say or do something once he got home for the evening. But he didnt. And I...	Twinkies	11	1961	Feb 20, 2019 by Bo
	Confronted Meeting Member (Preview) Hi Everyone I'm working through some feelings after confronting a guy in my meeting about inappropriate behavior towards me. I have set a boundary with him and been clear but he is attention seeking and continues to ignore my personal boundary. Another member confronted him recently with our dist...	tiredtonite	6	3551	Feb 20, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change February 20 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about one of the early lessons many of us learn in AlAnon - we do not need to tolerate unacceptable behavior. The author shares that they learned early in the program that they need not tolerate violence or abuse, and that they had choices they had not recognized be...	Skorpi	5	2494	Feb 20, 2019 by Iamhere
	ODAT READING 2-19 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today, February 19 speaks about attending alanon meetings: learning how to listen to others and to our own inner voice so we can make our own decisions. The reading point out alanon members do not give advise nor tell anyone to leave a marriage even if the situation appears ho...	hotrod	4	1405	Feb 20, 2019 by DavidG
	Reading recommendation (not conference approved literature) (Preview) If you are completely happy with your spiritual situation and have a rock-solid faith in your religious \ spiritual situation of choice, or if you only read conference approved literature, this recommendation probably isn't for you - but if you're like I was (faith challenged, constantly questio...	texas yankee	4	3453	Feb 19, 2019 by mamalioness
	To gently confront or just say nothing.... (Preview) Hi allI am in a full out codependency relapse. I know I need to get back to face to face meetings. It feels awkward to go back. My AH has a past history of being a mean, obnoxious drunk and got sober in 2010 when he worked a rigorous AA program with a sponsor, a 90/90, he even sponsored someone.He stopped goin...	Junipurr	15	2249	Feb 19, 2019 by Bo
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