Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today 4-16 speaks about letting go of obsessing over a problem and allowing solutions to unfold naturally This then proves that our human understanding is unable to conquer many issues and that is the reason we can let go and trust in the God of our understanding.We can let go an...

frostbliss · frostbliss

Hi all, This is my first post on this board. I attend ACOA meetings in my community, but my schedule has been crunchy lately and I've missed several. I have panic disorder and have lived with it since my early 20s. I was well for a long time - even my doctor said I no longer met the criteria for panic disor...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Hello.I thought I would take the leap and hop in to introduce myself. I am currently surrounded by alcoholics and addicts.It seems nearly everyone in my life is one or the other.I feel I am drowning and I don't know how to save myself. I have been daydreaming about running away from all of them and never l...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I really would like to know if anyone has some literature that states the obstacles to success in Al anon? I haven't seen a copy in a long time. We used to read it in my past Al anon group. Haven't seen it for over 20 years.

Riley3 · Riley3

I try to live my life but the A seems to find me. I have to leave the room. We dont talk or I do not want any conversations. I am left to figure out most of the decisions because I cant have a normal conversations. How can I pretend my life isnt falling apart when it is? There is no marriage. I am tired of being wi...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/15, talks about looking for answers from alanon, for all sorts of problems from divorce to finance to emotions. Alanons position is that we must each find our own answers as members suggest meetings, readings, a sponsor, etc. But one exception exists, in the case of violen...

Aloha · Aloha

Something I posted in another thread had me thinking about learning and failure and all that good stuff. Essentially, in that other post, I reasoned out that for me, Al-Anon is a place where I get to learn how to take care of myself spiritually and emotionally. I want to focus in on the "learn" portion of...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about the family of Alanon. There is a particular strength in being near people who can hear our stories and truly know where we have been. Some of us may have had very strong families of origin, feel quite close to our family members but are disillusioned whe...

Lyne · Lyne

To keep my sanity and give myself something special I needed, I bought a condo and live there half time. My son and his family live close by there, and the kids and my A dont speak. This is how the damage from the alcohol affected my life, and of course I cant control anyone. As a tax issue arose, my As usual...

a4l · a4l

I admit it was hard to be back in the foo of enmeshment. It bought out my defensive, aggressive, offensive sides. It was frustrating to think "I" had the answers if only "they" would wake up/quit crying/start living. But now I'm just observing and can see how affected by this disease most of the foo are....

Freetime · Freetime

Quick fixes -- the author of today's reading lists many ways of being impatient when seeking an immediate solution to a difficult situation.Pray "Grant me patience Lord, and hurry!" Expect to take 15 minutes to fix a problem that has existed for 20 years. Make a few program calls and share at a meeti...

a4l · a4l

I am back into the tribal fold which is mostly women. It's been a funny blessing to observe the dynamics at play and I consider myself fortunate to have this living experience. Three women gathered accidentally with one only in common; two of whom are diametrically opposed on a tribal matter. It was in...

Riley3 · Riley3

Its hard to walk the walk. I feel the uncertainty and craziness start creeping in my life. I think I am fine and the anger and resentment starts to surface. I dont dream of getting old. I dream of getting out and escaping total dysfunctionism. I try, I try, I try to pretend I have that perfect home. Heck, I...

Overcome · Overcome

For anyone with problems with someone with a drinking problem, or someone's drinking is giving you problems, please join us in the chat room, at this link: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: Keep It Simple, "Living in the Happy" (Keeping it Positive) and Anger. Overcomer -- E...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading shares many reasons why one would/does continue coming to Al-Anon. No matter the length of time in recovery, most find that we need continual spiritual help to live with or having lived with an alcoholic. The list is noteworthy - - To maintain a rational perspe...

ophelia · ophelia

Hi everyone, I'm wondering what level of contact you've maintained with your SO while they (and you) were going through recovery, and whether you've left it open-ended in terms of eventual outcome while still remaining in contact. My ABF entered AA right after we broke up due to his drinking and has b...

a4l · a4l

OK life's good. My bills are up to date, my children are happy, schools going to be a scrape and pass this semester but hey when pressure hits c's get degrees ( and who knows i might miraculously get Bs I don't really care because these are my non-law electives that I have to do). A major project is almost wr...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, I would like to share on how this Topic has an effect on me. It is going on into the 5th Year that I haven't be allowed to see 3 of my Grand Children, why?. It is because I stood up for them, against their Parents. One is my Son and His Partner. Thankfully, I heard a Lady share one night at a meeting of how sh...

Overcome · Overcome

OPEN MEETING starting now in MIP chat room at the link below: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic is: Alcoholism as a disease and open topic as it relates to teh family disease of alcoholism. This is our first Open meeting, to see how they go.

DavidG · DavidG

A new member flew into our group... it sounded like a sparrow hitting a window- thunk! Thinking they could fly straight through? But the response was phenomenal... a soft landing. We have all bin there- many times for some. The empathy is strong. It is very much - o...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading from Courage to Change is about Step 8 (Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.) The author begins by sharing that many of us who have lived with the effects of alcoholism have come to see ourselves as innocent victims of other pe...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today April 9 speaks about denying our feelings in order to protect ourselves. The reading suggests that detachment comes easy to many because we have been using it throughout our lifetime. however we have been detaching with indifference and not love as Al-Anon suggests...

lookingup · lookingup

Hi everyone, just wanted to share something here ,to see if others here have had the same experience or similar, i went to my dr few weeks ago,and because she prescribes me tramadol for my arthritis ,it use to be a non narcotic yrs ago now it's a narcotic as of yrs ago,I take only what's prescribed nothing...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/8, discusses the value of examining the past, but not getting stuck there. The author says for those of us who denied, distorted, or lost touch with painful memories, facing the reality of our past can be a crucial part of our recovery. However, fond memories must also be re...

Twinkies · Twinkies

I made it to my first f2f meeting last week. I was intimidated and nearly talked myself out of it. But I pushed through, took a deep breath, put one foot in front of the other, and made myself walk through the doors. It was a great decision. I felt welcomed and cared for and finally understood. But it also br...

andromeda · andromeda

I have been feeling an internal agitation and wasn't sure where it was coming from. Probably for the past few weeks. Everything is great in my life: new friends, lots of hiking, I'm working out more, work is going really great despite the craziness of tax season, and things with my bf are great too. W...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many tools in the program help us alleviate worry. Step 3 is mentioned, as the decision to turn our will and lives over to God is the humility needed to acknowledge that we are the result of all that has been part of our lives. The difficulties and trium...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Being self-aware & remembering to take care of me. I am not selfless or totally selfish. I have to admit that my ah sometimes challenges me. I have to protect myself from becoming too involved in the disease & less in recovery. Recovery is paramount in dealing w difficult people. I have a new aw...

Aloha · Aloha

Self-care is so often overlooked. I know, for me especially it was overlooked a LOT pre-Al-Anon. I used to think that just exercise and eating right would take care of all my troubles. I've since learned I need balance in my self-care if I want to feel balanced in my life. For me, balance includes physic...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in One Day At A Time in Al-Anon describes the Twelve Steps as a shortcut to using our God-given talents that have been dormant, or like a medicine that can cure us of our despair. When we resist taking these steps, could it be that we have a desire for martyrdom? We want help for the despe...

Fooled · Fooled

Hey all! Long time. Just dropping in to put my thoughts in perspective. My sponsor suggested journaling but I often found when seriously struggling I get some great feedback from here. This place is my roots. So why not go back, right? So to catch up: I'm celebrating my 3rd year in recovery and I'm stil...

RachelsMom · RachelsMom

It was one of those "strange" (no really) conversations with Rachel that ended with her saying, "How about I never talk to you ever f****** again". And I hadn't done anything or said anything to warrant that reaction and then I think, "ahhh, there you go again trying to make sense of the actions of an add...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

So last night was rough. Had one of my nightmares involving my Ex-husband. I find it odd that when things are going especially good - I am peaceful, no fires to put out, Ex and I are actually meeting and talking like adults - that I have one of these dreams. This one involved a scenario in which I was at my own...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is one of my favorites. The writer talks about waking up and feeling behind already! Previous to the disease kicking up in life, morning were special and joyous. Not so with the disease. Instead going to bed was stressful as was getting up. The reading continues to discuss cha...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author speaks to the fears many of us had about going to Al-Anon. Many feared that our friends, family, boss, or the alcoholic in our lives would find out that we were going to Al-Anon. Many of us didn't want anyone to know about the problems we faced. The author share...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just heard from my ex ah. He was wanting to make amends. The catch is that he tried to contact me in 2017. I replied through messenger today. My sponsor said it was OK as long as we have no further contact. I am not sure if I did the right thing. Anyone have any ESH on this? I would appreciate any responses. Al...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi there, y'all... ... Step four is big for me too, Betty... I am chairing on the topic at a face to face meeting tonight. I looked that the checklist you pinned up below:- "Am I generous and try to contribute to the group by volunteering?" Oh I am not generous- I am needy and still willing to learn!...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/1, talks about the 3 As: Awareness, Acceptance, Action. The writer says unless the acceptance occurs, action wont be effective. It is very important to sit still, feel the feelings, and come to some acceptance, instead of jumping from awareness to action. The reminder...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about our connection with our HP and the importance of it for our recovery. Like the writer, I was raised in a religious faith that taught me my relationship with God was reverence and a bit of fear. In the program the relationship has felt more like a connected...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65434346/alanon...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about what happens when we reject our higher power and decide that we can take care of our problems all by ourselves. The results can be frustrating and painful. It is like walking around in a dark room and refusing to turn on the light -- we may stumble, hurt ourselves, and not find w...

JerryF · JerryF

If you have this daily publication don't miss the page of the day. For me it reveals a growth awareness in the relationship between patience and compassion. Both of these were missing from my thoughts, feelings and behaviors when I first reach the doors of Al-Anon. I either never learned them or...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

It's 21 years since this happened.13 The Moon, The Stars & The End of Time Excerpt from The Seventh Crow, copyright © 2013 Bernie Schultz (An alternate version of this story was printed in the AA Grapevine, May 2010, under the title Just Friends. That version was later reprinted in a collection of...

DavidG · DavidG

Life? Living...? I have been getting to a face to face meeting... two weeks running, and plan to chair next week... This group here is my home group- however unless I am a visitor to another town- I will mostly do 5 or 6 meetings in a stretch. Because it does take time to trust- either way- I...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about letting go and letting God. When we hold on tightly to something, we sometimes close our eyes, turn our heads away and make our knuckles ache as our fists are clenched. Fingernails may bite into our palms and we just exhaust ourselves. When instead we trus...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that they used to think that living was surviving from crisis to crisis. Thanks to AlAnon's 12 traditions, the author has learned how a healthy family functions. The traditions have made it possible for the author to be a part of...

Twinkies · Twinkies

AH had nothing to drink Tuesday or Wednesday. Tonight instead of the typical case of beer PLUS a six pack that he brings home nearly every other night, he brought home ONLY a six pack and drank only one. Its been at least a year since hes gone this long without getting drunk, aside from during the short vis...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today 3-26 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e diseaseAnd as the first step suggests a disease over which we are powerless. The reading asks what keeps us trying to change this reality by attempting to find solutions.? IT points out that we do have a power der...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/25, talks about initial confusion over what was and was not their responsibility. They list some powerful things like: they are responsible to rid themself of anger and resentment, to be realistic in expectations, to make healthy choices, etc. There is also a list of h...

luv123 · luv123

I heard someone at a meeting say how he felt guilty just sitting at this great meeting absorbing all the good shares. That he felt he "should" say something; so he shared. I had an interesting reaction to this. First I was surprised because healing is purpose of Al-anon and I realized that self care is b...

mamalioness · mamalioness

My A brother and I had the most intense, and very satisfying chat today...I told him about my deeeep and intense step 4 work of late and how I felt about me, my program and my progress and how this program has been my saving grace......and HE jumped in and we kinda did a step 4 together...burned half my cel...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the purpose some of our character defects can serve: as defenses for those of us having lived with alcoholism. As the writer states, I also found step 4 quite difficult as any type of flaw or shortcoming felt like a failure on my part. The first time my s...

ophelia · ophelia

Hi everyone, Grateful to find this group. Thanks for reading. I've been with a wonderful man for just under a year and I love him very much. Hands down the best relationship of my middle-aged life and he felt the same. I knew he had a history of heavy drinking but I was not seeing it until last month. Th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Saturday MIP family! I have had a busy week and decided to do some googling on self-care, just for me, just for today. I found 'this' and thought it worthy of sharing. As always, take what you like and leave the rest!Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five thing...

Freetime · Freetime

Worry -- that is the topic of today's reading in our ODAT. Worrying can become a habit where we ruminate on the past and predict that dreadful things will happen in the future. The solution is living one day at a time. Using this manageable amount of time well gives us freedom from yesterday and tomorro...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Happy Thursday to all... Today's topic is about self will vs. God's will. The author is close to the end of a run at a crossroad. The easier, softer way has no view, and is a flatter surface. The challenging route is harder, yet provides a view of the ocean and way better scenery. Th...

lookingup · lookingup

my a brother ( Billy),in a bad way with his using ,now homeless n where to go,praying he can n will see he has got options , ive posted this in more detail on the mip aca board next door,sad situation.......hugs lu,,,all esh welcome.

mamalioness · mamalioness

I wasn't going to share here because it is maybe SOME alanon, lots of ACA, but thought I would share because it is a release for me...a breakthrough for me...You all have read my posts enough to know that my mother from my birth acted as if she didn't want me...I never got hugs..baby pics had my sister and n...

workinprogress · workinprogress

I have a sponsor but as I move through the steps I am becoming unsure my sponsor is right for me. I want to keep growing. I want to keep moving forward, I don't want a sponsor to pander me but I do want to be heard. I want an open conversation, not a one sided one. I am still learning to speak up for myself and ex...

lookingup · lookingup

im grateful to be where im at today in life moving forward, im content with myself,i been managing things pretty well, I plan on enjoying the outside nature again today because I know I can, this desease is insidious, I get a knock on my door every morning from bro,ive been answering ,this am I chose not...

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	ODAT Reading 4-16 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today 4-16 speaks about letting go of obsessing over a problem and allowing solutions to unfold naturally This then proves that our human understanding is unable to conquer many issues and that is the reason we can let go and trust in the God of our understanding.We can let go an...	hotrod	7	3720	Apr 18, 2019 by mamalioness
	Anxiety, PTSD, head exploding (Preview) Hi all, This is my first post on this board. I attend ACOA meetings in my community, but my schedule has been crunchy lately and I've missed several. I have panic disorder and have lived with it since my early 20s. I was well for a long time - even my doctor said I no longer met the criteria for panic disor...	frostbliss	18	4110	Apr 16, 2019 by ophelia
	Hello,New Here (Preview) Hello.I thought I would take the leap and hop in to introduce myself. I am currently surrounded by alcoholics and addicts.It seems nearly everyone in my life is one or the other.I feel I am drowning and I don't know how to save myself. I have been daydreaming about running away from all of them and never l...	SunnyFrogs	11	896	Apr 16, 2019 by Jen61
	does anyone know the obstacles to success... (Preview) I really would like to know if anyone has some literature that states the obstacles to success in Al anon? I haven't seen a copy in a long time. We used to read it in my past Al anon group. Haven't seen it for over 20 years.	Hoot Nanny	5	1935	Apr 16, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	What this anxiety... (Preview) I try to live my life but the A seems to find me. I have to leave the room. We dont talk or I do not want any conversations. I am left to figure out most of the decisions because I cant have a normal conversations. How can I pretend my life isnt falling apart when it is? There is no marriage. I am tired of being wi...	Riley3	4	2521	Apr 15, 2019 by DavidG
	C2C, 4/15 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/15, talks about looking for answers from alanon, for all sorts of problems from divorce to finance to emotions. Alanons position is that we must each find our own answers as members suggest meetings, readings, a sponsor, etc. But one exception exists, in the case of violen...	Lyne	3	1819	Apr 15, 2019 by Freetime
	Consistency and frequency to see growth in our program (Preview) Something I posted in another thread had me thinking about learning and failure and all that good stuff. Essentially, in that other post, I reasoned out that for me, Al-Anon is a place where I get to learn how to take care of myself spiritually and emotionally. I want to focus in on the "learn" portion of...	Aloha	7	2332	Apr 14, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Apr 14 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about the family of Alanon. There is a particular strength in being near people who can hear our stories and truly know where we have been. Some of us may have had very strong families of origin, feel quite close to our family members but are disillusioned whe...	yanksfan51	6	504	Apr 14, 2019 by Iamhere
	Merry Go Round with A (Preview) To keep my sanity and give myself something special I needed, I bought a condo and live there half time. My son and his family live close by there, and the kids and my A dont speak. This is how the damage from the alcohol affected my life, and of course I cant control anyone. As a tax issue arose, my As usual...	Lyne	10	2263	Apr 14, 2019 by Iamhere
	Learning opportunities (Preview) I admit it was hard to be back in the foo of enmeshment. It bought out my defensive, aggressive, offensive sides. It was frustrating to think "I" had the answers if only "they" would wake up/quit crying/start living. But now I'm just observing and can see how affected by this disease most of the foo are....	a4l	4	2078	Apr 13, 2019 by a4l
	Courage to Change, April 12 (Preview) Quick fixes -- the author of today's reading lists many ways of being impatient when seeking an immediate solution to a difficult situation.Pray "Grant me patience Lord, and hurry!" Expect to take 15 minutes to fix a problem that has existed for 20 years. Make a few program calls and share at a meeti...	Freetime	4	540	Apr 12, 2019 by El
	Taking inventory (Preview) I am back into the tribal fold which is mostly women. It's been a funny blessing to observe the dynamics at play and I consider myself fortunate to have this living experience. Three women gathered accidentally with one only in common; two of whom are diametrically opposed on a tribal matter. It was in...	a4l	3	429	Apr 12, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Trying to survive the craziness (Preview) Its hard to walk the walk. I feel the uncertainty and craziness start creeping in my life. I think I am fine and the anger and resentment starts to surface. I dont dream of getting old. I dream of getting out and escaping total dysfunctionism. I try, I try, I try to pretend I have that perfect home. Heck, I...	Riley3	10	633	Apr 12, 2019 by Bo
	Closed Meeting now starting (Preview) For anyone with problems with someone with a drinking problem, or someone's drinking is giving you problems, please join us in the chat room, at this link: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: Keep It Simple, "Living in the Happy" (Keeping it Positive) and Anger. Overcomer -- E...	Overcome	3	434	Apr 11, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 4/11/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading shares many reasons why one would/does continue coming to Al-Anon. No matter the length of time in recovery, most find that we need continual spiritual help to live with or having lived with an alcoholic. The list is noteworthy - - To maintain a rational perspe...	Iamhere	3	432	Apr 11, 2019 by Freetime
	Is this healthy? (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm wondering what level of contact you've maintained with your SO while they (and you) were going through recovery, and whether you've left it open-ended in terms of eventual outcome while still remaining in contact. My ABF entered AA right after we broke up due to his drinking and has b...	ophelia	16	1042	Apr 11, 2019 by Bo
	Constant anxiety :-( (Preview) OK life's good. My bills are up to date, my children are happy, schools going to be a scrape and pass this semester but hey when pressure hits c's get degrees ( and who knows i might miraculously get Bs I don't really care because these are my non-law electives that I have to do). A major project is almost wr...	a4l	14	2486	Apr 11, 2019 by Riley3
	Courage to Change / Courage to Be Me. (Preview) Hi, I would like to share on how this Topic has an effect on me. It is going on into the 5th Year that I haven't be allowed to see 3 of my Grand Children, why?. It is because I stood up for them, against their Parents. One is my Son and His Partner. Thankfully, I heard a Lady share one night at a meeting of how sh...	WendyP	16	1168	Apr 11, 2019 by hotrod
	OPEN MEETING now starting (Preview) OPEN MEETING starting now in MIP chat room at the link below: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic is: Alcoholism as a disease and open topic as it relates to teh family disease of alcoholism. This is our first Open meeting, to see how they go.	Overcome	0	375	Apr 10, 2019 by Overcome
	So proud... (Preview) A new member flew into our group... it sounded like a sparrow hitting a window- thunk! Thinking they could fly straight through? But the response was phenomenal... a soft landing. We have all bin there- many times for some. The empathy is strong. It is very much - o...	DavidG	4	437	Apr 10, 2019 by hotrod
	Courage to Change April 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading from Courage to Change is about Step 8 (Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.) The author begins by sharing that many of us who have lived with the effects of alcoholism have come to see ourselves as innocent victims of other pe...	Skorpi	5	689	Apr 10, 2019 by El
	C2C reading 4-9 (Preview) The C2C reading for today April 9 speaks about denying our feelings in order to protect ourselves. The reading suggests that detachment comes easy to many because we have been using it throughout our lifetime. however we have been detaching with indifference and not love as Al-Anon suggests...	hotrod	6	595	Apr 9, 2019 by El
	New experiences (Preview) Hi everyone, just wanted to share something here ,to see if others here have had the same experience or similar, i went to my dr few weeks ago,and because she prescribes me tramadol for my arthritis ,it use to be a non narcotic yrs ago now it's a narcotic as of yrs ago,I take only what's prescribed nothing...	lookingup	7	655	Apr 9, 2019 by lookingup
	C2C, 4/8 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/8, discusses the value of examining the past, but not getting stuck there. The author says for those of us who denied, distorted, or lost touch with painful memories, facing the reality of our past can be a crucial part of our recovery. However, fond memories must also be re...	Lyne	7	674	Apr 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Harsh realities (Preview) I made it to my first f2f meeting last week. I was intimidated and nearly talked myself out of it. But I pushed through, took a deep breath, put one foot in front of the other, and made myself walk through the doors. It was a great decision. I felt welcomed and cared for and finally understood. But it also br...	Twinkies	8	1868	Apr 8, 2019 by Bo
	On edge and FEAR creeping in (Preview) I have been feeling an internal agitation and wasn't sure where it was coming from. Probably for the past few weeks. Everything is great in my life: new friends, lots of hiking, I'm working out more, work is going really great despite the craziness of tax season, and things with my bf are great too. W...	andromeda	22	3839	Apr 8, 2019 by Bo
	Hope for Today Apr 7 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many tools in the program help us alleviate worry. Step 3 is mentioned, as the decision to turn our will and lives over to God is the humility needed to acknowledge that we are the result of all that has been part of our lives. The difficulties and trium...	yanksfan51	3	1908	Apr 7, 2019 by JerryF
	Out of the bondage of self (Preview) Being self-aware & remembering to take care of me. I am not selfless or totally selfish. I have to admit that my ah sometimes challenges me. I have to protect myself from becoming too involved in the disease & less in recovery. Recovery is paramount in dealing w difficult people. I have a new aw...	Hoot Nanny	6	2309	Apr 7, 2019 by Bo
	Some additional tools that help my self-care (Preview) Self-care is so often overlooked. I know, for me especially it was overlooked a LOT pre-Al-Anon. I used to think that just exercise and eating right would take care of all my troubles. I've since learned I need balance in my self-care if I want to feel balanced in my life. For me, balance includes physic...	Aloha	3	1102	Apr 5, 2019 by El
	ODAT, April 5 (Preview) Today's reading in One Day At A Time in Al-Anon describes the Twelve Steps as a shortcut to using our God-given talents that have been dormant, or like a medicine that can cure us of our despair. When we resist taking these steps, could it be that we have a desire for martyrdom? We want help for the despe...	Freetime	4	2179	Apr 5, 2019 by El
	Crossroads (Preview) Hey all! Long time. Just dropping in to put my thoughts in perspective. My sponsor suggested journaling but I often found when seriously struggling I get some great feedback from here. This place is my roots. So why not go back, right? So to catch up: I'm celebrating my 3rd year in recovery and I'm stil...	Fooled	6	2387	Apr 4, 2019 by a4l
	Bad night (Preview) It was one of those "strange" (no really) conversations with Rachel that ended with her saying, "How about I never talk to you ever f****** again". And I hadn't done anything or said anything to warrant that reaction and then I think, "ahhh, there you go again trying to make sense of the actions of an add...	RachelsMom	28	6109	Apr 4, 2019 by serenity47
	Nitghtmares (Preview) So last night was rough. Had one of my nightmares involving my Ex-husband. I find it odd that when things are going especially good - I am peaceful, no fires to put out, Ex and I are actually meeting and talking like adults - that I have one of these dreams. This one involved a scenario in which I was at my own...	PosiesandPuppies	8	1721	Apr 4, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 4/4/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is one of my favorites. The writer talks about waking up and feeling behind already! Previous to the disease kicking up in life, morning were special and joyous. Not so with the disease. Instead going to bed was stressful as was getting up. The reading continues to discuss cha...	Iamhere	4	2304	Apr 4, 2019 by Lyne
	Courage to Change April 3 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author speaks to the fears many of us had about going to Al-Anon. Many feared that our friends, family, boss, or the alcoholic in our lives would find out that we were going to Al-Anon. Many of us didn't want anyone to know about the problems we faced. The author share...	Skorpi	6	2384	Apr 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	Amends (Preview) I just heard from my ex ah. He was wanting to make amends. The catch is that he tried to contact me in 2017. I replied through messenger today. My sponsor said it was OK as long as we have no further contact. I am not sure if I did the right thing. Anyone have any ESH on this? I would appreciate any responses. Al...	Hoot Nanny	13	4720	Apr 2, 2019 by Iamhere
	Just a general share... (Preview) Hi there, y'all... ... Step four is big for me too, Betty... I am chairing on the topic at a face to face meeting tonight. I looked that the checklist you pinned up below:- "Am I generous and try to contribute to the group by volunteering?" Oh I am not generous- I am needy and still willing to learn!...	DavidG	4	624	Apr 2, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/1 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/1, talks about the 3 As: Awareness, Acceptance, Action. The writer says unless the acceptance occurs, action wont be effective. It is very important to sit still, feel the feelings, and come to some acceptance, instead of jumping from awareness to action. The reminder...	Lyne	5	617	Apr 1, 2019 by DavidG
	Hope for Today 3/31 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about our connection with our HP and the importance of it for our recovery. Like the writer, I was raised in a religious faith that taught me my relationship with God was reverence and a bit of fear. In the program the relationship has felt more like a connected...	yanksfan51	5	1454	Mar 31, 2019 by Iamhere
	Step 4 posted to the Step board (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65434346/alanon...	hotrod	1	458	Mar 31, 2019 by Iamhere
	ODAT March 29 (Preview) Today's reading is about what happens when we reject our higher power and decide that we can take care of our problems all by ourselves. The results can be frustrating and painful. It is like walking around in a dark room and refusing to turn on the light -- we may stumble, hurt ourselves, and not find w...	Freetime	6	1802	Mar 30, 2019 by andromeda
	HOPE FOR TODAY...3/27 (Preview) If you have this daily publication don't miss the page of the day. For me it reveals a growth awareness in the relationship between patience and compassion. Both of these were missing from my thoughts, feelings and behaviors when I first reach the doors of Al-Anon. I either never learned them or...	JerryF	5	4087	Mar 29, 2019 by JerryF
	The Moon The Stars And The End of Time (Preview) It's 21 years since this happened.13 The Moon, The Stars & The End of Time Excerpt from The Seventh Crow, copyright © 2013 Bernie Schultz (An alternate version of this story was printed in the AA Grapevine, May 2010, under the title Just Friends. That version was later reprinted in a collection of...	Wolfie55	7	4023	Mar 28, 2019 by Aline
	How important is it...? (Preview) Life? Living...? I have been getting to a face to face meeting... two weeks running, and plan to chair next week... This group here is my home group- however unless I am a visitor to another town- I will mostly do 5 or 6 meetings in a stretch. Because it does take time to trust- either way- I...	DavidG	6	1168	Mar 28, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change 3/28/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about letting go and letting God. When we hold on tightly to something, we sometimes close our eyes, turn our heads away and make our knuckles ache as our fists are clenched. Fingernails may bite into our palms and we just exhaust ourselves. When instead we trus...	Iamhere	4	1156	Mar 28, 2019 by El
	Courage to Change March 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that they used to think that living was surviving from crisis to crisis. Thanks to AlAnon's 12 traditions, the author has learned how a healthy family functions. The traditions have made it possible for the author to be a part of...	Skorpi	5	3554	Mar 27, 2019 by El
	I hate not believing (Preview) AH had nothing to drink Tuesday or Wednesday. Tonight instead of the typical case of beer PLUS a six pack that he brings home nearly every other night, he brought home ONLY a six pack and drank only one. Its been at least a year since hes gone this long without getting drunk, aside from during the short vis...	Twinkies	20	5078	Mar 26, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	ODAT REading 3-26 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today 3-26 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e diseaseAnd as the first step suggests a disease over which we are powerless. The reading asks what keeps us trying to change this reality by attempting to find solutions.? IT points out that we do have a power der...	hotrod	5	3516	Mar 26, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 3/25 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/25, talks about initial confusion over what was and was not their responsibility. They list some powerful things like: they are responsible to rid themself of anger and resentment, to be realistic in expectations, to make healthy choices, etc. There is also a list of h...	Lyne	5	1402	Mar 25, 2019 by mamalioness
	Learning EMOTIONAL BOUNDARIES (Preview) I heard someone at a meeting say how he felt guilty just sitting at this great meeting absorbing all the good shares. That he felt he "should" say something; so he shared. I had an interesting reaction to this. First I was surprised because healing is purpose of Al-anon and I realized that self care is b...	luv123	5	4323	Mar 25, 2019 by Aloha
	He MIGHT work the steps with me?????? (Preview) My A brother and I had the most intense, and very satisfying chat today...I told him about my deeeep and intense step 4 work of late and how I felt about me, my program and my progress and how this program has been my saving grace......and HE jumped in and we kinda did a step 4 together...burned half my cel...	mamalioness	5	854	Mar 24, 2019 by JerryF
	Hope for Today Mar 24 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the purpose some of our character defects can serve: as defenses for those of us having lived with alcoholism. As the writer states, I also found step 4 quite difficult as any type of flaw or shortcoming felt like a failure on my part. The first time my s...	yanksfan51	9	2326	Mar 24, 2019 by JerryF
	Can't get my head around it (Preview) Hi everyone, Grateful to find this group. Thanks for reading. I've been with a wonderful man for just under a year and I love him very much. Hands down the best relationship of my middle-aged life and he felt the same. I knew he had a history of heavy drinking but I was not seeing it until last month. Th...	ophelia	20	1398	Mar 23, 2019 by JerryF
	Self Care - 12 Inspirational Steps to Consider (Preview) Happy Saturday MIP family! I have had a busy week and decided to do some googling on self-care, just for me, just for today. I found 'this' and thought it worthy of sharing. As always, take what you like and leave the rest!Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five thing...	Iamhere	6	2495	Mar 23, 2019 by Iamhere
	ODAT - March 22 (Preview) Worry -- that is the topic of today's reading in our ODAT. Worrying can become a habit where we ruminate on the past and predict that dreadful things will happen in the future. The solution is living one day at a time. Using this manageable amount of time well gives us freedom from yesterday and tomorro...	Freetime	5	1324	Mar 23, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 3/21/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Happy Thursday to all... Today's topic is about self will vs. God's will. The author is close to the end of a run at a crossroad. The easier, softer way has no view, and is a flatter surface. The challenging route is harder, yet provides a view of the ocean and way better scenery. Th...	Iamhere	5	2192	Mar 23, 2019 by mamalioness
	Needing prayers (Preview) my a brother ( Billy),in a bad way with his using ,now homeless n where to go,praying he can n will see he has got options , ive posted this in more detail on the mip aca board next door,sad situation.......hugs lu,,,all esh welcome.	lookingup	22	7426	Mar 23, 2019 by lookingup
	WHEN she was my MOM (Preview) I wasn't going to share here because it is maybe SOME alanon, lots of ACA, but thought I would share because it is a release for me...a breakthrough for me...You all have read my posts enough to know that my mother from my birth acted as if she didn't want me...I never got hugs..baby pics had my sister and n...	mamalioness	11	925	Mar 23, 2019 by luv123
	Sponsorship Questions (Preview) I have a sponsor but as I move through the steps I am becoming unsure my sponsor is right for me. I want to keep growing. I want to keep moving forward, I don't want a sponsor to pander me but I do want to be heard. I want an open conversation, not a one sided one. I am still learning to speak up for myself and ex...	workinprogress	9	5144	Mar 23, 2019 by Iamhere
	GA (Preview) im grateful to be where im at today in life moving forward, im content with myself,i been managing things pretty well, I plan on enjoying the outside nature again today because I know I can, this desease is insidious, I get a knock on my door every morning from bro,ive been answering ,this am I chose not...	lookingup	7	5315	Mar 22, 2019 by Bo
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