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Naomippb · Naomippb

My husband left his second stint in rehab 60 days ago. He informed me today that he has had a couple beers since he got out. I guess he felt guilty about lying after we celebrated his 90 days yesterday. I feel so disappointed, not because he had a drink but because he is trying to convince himself and me tha...

joker · joker

I am doing all I can to do self care. However, I am nearing my breaking point. Since Friday, I have been homeless, living at my sisters home. I am in the process of selling my home and all I have received is negative feedback from the state of my home. Not clean enough even though I have spent hours cleaning i...

Freetime · Freetime

Detachment -- that is the topic of today's reading. The writer has come to believe that detachment might sound cold and heartless, but that it actually is loving, because it recognizes that our loved ones have the privilege to be themselves. By intervening in another's struggles, we interfere wi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

When is enough .. enough in any relationship? I accept things in the name of family I would not accept from a casual acquaintance or stranger. When has that line been crossed by family to the point that enough is enough and I am not obligated to continue to try again? I'm currently looking at that in p...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I have been reading posts and a consistent theme is "put the focus back on ourselves". I spent some time outside today, planting some seeds, watering, and just enjoying the beauty of this time of year. I haven't done any painting in a while, so today I worked a little on one--added some "movement" to th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about the willingness to let go of our need to do 'it' by ourselves, and instead listen to ESH and our higher power. The reading opens by reflecting on being so busy staring at the problem(s) that we miss the guidance available. We can and do become better able to move beyond our p...

Elabella · Elabella

So today I started the day by writing in my journal and crying and begging God to give me a sign, an answer, anything to bring me out of what Ill call a really trying year. My answer was to go to AlAnon meeting which I havent done in over a year. So I did and here I am. Happy and grateful to be back. After my last po...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on the experience they had in an AlAnon meeting with completing this sentence: "If only ___________ would happen, I would be happy." Initially, the author and many group members completed this phrase with things like "The a...

Bo · Bo

This was the topic at a meeting I went to last weekend...and the person who did the topic had a very interesting, and very fascinating "slant" or "approach" to the topic of denial. She focused on denial as it relates only to OUR denial, as the loved one of an alcoholic. This had ZERO to do with the denial of...

Wndrwmn · Wndrwmn

I have been going to meetings and getting myself back on track. My exbf has decided to work on himself for the better. He left his toxic relationship and is working on himself. Turns out he was being physically and mentally abused in his toxic relationship. I'm glad he is working on his issues. He wants t...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today, April 30 speaks about each of our actions and points out that most people's actions have selfish motives and that people in AA readily admit this.. The reading suggests that we know that offering Al-Anon to those in need of the comfort found in Alanon is actually construct...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, April 29th, talks about growing up with guilt, blame, harsh criticism, and constant fear. The author learned to feel badly about themself, but knew they werent evil. With help from alanon, the author is able to look at mistakes now without blowing them out of proportion. Th...

Momo · Momo

My dad is only 50, but he is in what they call "the final stage" of alcoholism. He will not admit to his drinking, and so it often feels as though being around him is to submit to a reality that is not my reality. A reality that is extremely mentally ill. I am 25 years old, and I recently moved back home to...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is about step 11. The idea of praying only to be made aware of Higher Powers will for us and the power to carry it out is different than simply praying for our own needs and wants. I certainly continue to catch myself praying for things that I consider needs/wants...

WebHelper · WebHelper

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Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading focuses on "Take what you like and leave the rest." These words show that our program is based on suggestion, not requirements. We as individuals have the power to choose, to disagree, and to work the program in our own time. Reminder: Because I am able to use whatever I find helpfu...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about reaching out to other members in Al-Anon for support or help. The telephone, a lovely modern invention, seems hard to pick up - esp. when we are new in recovery. Many of us have been conditioned to 'not be a burden' yet we find in Al-Anon that reaching out...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Seriously,how do you sleep?how do you just let everything go and get a full nights sleep?How do you learn to stop worrying and thinking of all the "what if's"? It may sound like a silly question but I simply don't know how to turn it all off.I am so worn down from lack of sleep that I have been physically sic...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about the slogan "Easy does it". The author shares that once, they were trying to zip the removable lining back into their coat, but it wasn't working! No matter how much force the author used, the lining zipper would not zip!!! After a while, the author realized th...

Riley3 · Riley3

It seems venting relates to not being in recovery? I dont think I can absorb anything till I throw it up, so to speak, the ugliness thats grown in me when living with an A. I feel like I have to get the anger, resentment, loneliness, over responsibility, and sadness released before I can move on to a more po...

Paloma Negra · Paloma Negra

Hi all, it's been a long while. ABF and I moved from my home to his family's hometown 6 1/2 months ago after his parents had passed and the A had inherited a property which on paper appeared to promise a more financially secure future. I left a secure job that was paid fairly well for the area but offered no r...

Bo · Bo

Whatever it is you are facing, feeling, hearing, seeing...whatever drama, chaos, havoc, and turmoil you are dealing with and going through...whatever horrific circumstances you are facing...please, please, please...be assured, be certain...that people here...have seen, heard, dealt wit...

Looking for Direction (new member) · CH603

I am the daughter of an alcoholic. I was acutely aware of this at a very young age. In my pre-teen years I took on a parental role. I very often took on the responsibility of protecting, not only my Mom from herself, but protecting and shielding my younger sibling as well. I am now in my 30's and have 3 childr...

hotrod · hotrod

The O DAT reading for April 23 speaks about the power of sarcasm. The reading points out that it is true sarcasm does relieve our pent-up feelings as our remarks are usually very pointed and can secretly provide us great satisfaction. Even though sarcasm is repugnant in itself and is even more dist...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is one of those days when I can get out on my own & enjoy the warmer days of spring. As a lot of us have experienced a long winter. I has been difficult but bearable. We didn't have a lot of natural disasters up here but I am very moved by all the devastation. It breaks my heart to see all of those who are su...

Aloha · Aloha

I had a great laugh at myself this weekend. The exA and I are still in touch. We don't talk every day. We maybe hear from one-another once every few months if even that often. I was on the phone the other day when the ex called. I let him go to voice mail and then after I got off the phone my phone service transcr...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the ability to listen to others and consider other peoples opinions. In my family, I grew up thinking that when someone expressed an opinion that it was an invitation to start an argument. Not necessarily negative- just that there is no way ones insti...

Mattie · Mattie

My ex-AH, and my child's dad, died of alcoholism a year ago this season. He had stopped drinking about six months before, but the side effects were irreversible and one of them got him. (Although he was a secretive drinker, we know he was not drinking because he had recently moved and there were no bot...

JerryF · JerryF

After I had awaken from an Easter Theme Dream and traveled along our beautiful coast line with the sunlit sea side and ocean movement I had the opportunity to see recovery from the disease as a ressurection from certain death. It was meaningful for me as both my alcoholic addict wife and I both had nea...

Skorpi · Skorpi

I've been under a bit of stress this year. Things at work with my program are not going well. My work is fine, my team's work is fine, the revenue is not fine. The revenue is also not within my control or influence. Some big decisions are being made, and they will have a large impact on me and my team. I think...

Michelle4839 · Michelle4839

I am married to a recovering alcoholic/addict who has been sober for a year and a half. He occasionally still plus music on the side (he has a full time day job but he used to be just a night time bar musician.) whenever he plays at a certain bar I get very nervous. And last time He played there, two days ago, h...

KT2015 · KT2015

My fourth step really helped me see that I have a lot of anger. That's not really easy to admit as when I was a kid growing up in an alcoholic home I wasn't allowed to be angry. Expressing anger was not allowed and I didn't feel it was acceptable to even be angry. I was afraid of anger especially my own. I...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/22, talks about the importance of the first 3 steps: admit the areas we are powerless over, we learn about a power greater than ourselves, and we place our will and our lives in the hands of the higher power. We let go of burdens that were not ours in the first place, and we can be...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading discusses the benefits gained by learning the facts about alcoholism. The writer recognizes that alcoholism is a disease, and its sufferers are sick people, not bad people. With this knowledge, we can have realistic expectations and not set ourselves up for disappointment. Kno...

Iamhere · Iamhere

It's been a busy, busy day here - full of fun, meeting, etc. I just wanted to take a moment and wish everyone a Happy Easter! May you all enjoy your day whether you celebrate it formally or not!

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about making decisions that affect others as a group. The author shares that many of us have felt anxious when we need to make decisions that will affect family members or other people as a group. Al-Anon's first tradition (Our common welfare should come first. Pe...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses that we get what we give. Often times, we arrive yearning for things we were not getting from the A in our lives. Examples include: courtesy, respect, attention, affection, communication... As we grow and work the program, we come to realize we can not receive what we d...

Aloha · Aloha

It seems like a silly thing to do on an online message board, right? Talk about face-to-face meetings. Posting about my life on a message board like this means utmost anonymity - I guarantee that, especially if I'm extremely cautious about what details I share about my personal life. When I went back t...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today 4-16 speaks about letting go of obsessing over a problem and allowing solutions to unfold naturally This then proves that our human understanding is unable to conquer many issues and that is the reason we can let go and trust in the God of our understanding.We can let go an...

frostbliss · frostbliss

Hi all, This is my first post on this board. I attend ACOA meetings in my community, but my schedule has been crunchy lately and I've missed several. I have panic disorder and have lived with it since my early 20s. I was well for a long time - even my doctor said I no longer met the criteria for panic disor...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Hello.I thought I would take the leap and hop in to introduce myself. I am currently surrounded by alcoholics and addicts.It seems nearly everyone in my life is one or the other.I feel I am drowning and I don't know how to save myself. I have been daydreaming about running away from all of them and never l...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I really would like to know if anyone has some literature that states the obstacles to success in Al anon? I haven't seen a copy in a long time. We used to read it in my past Al anon group. Haven't seen it for over 20 years.

Riley3 · Riley3

I try to live my life but the A seems to find me. I have to leave the room. We dont talk or I do not want any conversations. I am left to figure out most of the decisions because I cant have a normal conversations. How can I pretend my life isnt falling apart when it is? There is no marriage. I am tired of being wi...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/15, talks about looking for answers from alanon, for all sorts of problems from divorce to finance to emotions. Alanons position is that we must each find our own answers as members suggest meetings, readings, a sponsor, etc. But one exception exists, in the case of violen...

Aloha · Aloha

Something I posted in another thread had me thinking about learning and failure and all that good stuff. Essentially, in that other post, I reasoned out that for me, Al-Anon is a place where I get to learn how to take care of myself spiritually and emotionally. I want to focus in on the "learn" portion of...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about the family of Alanon. There is a particular strength in being near people who can hear our stories and truly know where we have been. Some of us may have had very strong families of origin, feel quite close to our family members but are disillusioned whe...

Lyne · Lyne

To keep my sanity and give myself something special I needed, I bought a condo and live there half time. My son and his family live close by there, and the kids and my A dont speak. This is how the damage from the alcohol affected my life, and of course I cant control anyone. As a tax issue arose, my As usual...

a4l · a4l

I admit it was hard to be back in the foo of enmeshment. It bought out my defensive, aggressive, offensive sides. It was frustrating to think "I" had the answers if only "they" would wake up/quit crying/start living. But now I'm just observing and can see how affected by this disease most of the foo are....

Freetime · Freetime

Quick fixes -- the author of today's reading lists many ways of being impatient when seeking an immediate solution to a difficult situation.Pray "Grant me patience Lord, and hurry!" Expect to take 15 minutes to fix a problem that has existed for 20 years. Make a few program calls and share at a meeti...

a4l · a4l

I am back into the tribal fold which is mostly women. It's been a funny blessing to observe the dynamics at play and I consider myself fortunate to have this living experience. Three women gathered accidentally with one only in common; two of whom are diametrically opposed on a tribal matter. It was in...

Riley3 · Riley3

Its hard to walk the walk. I feel the uncertainty and craziness start creeping in my life. I think I am fine and the anger and resentment starts to surface. I dont dream of getting old. I dream of getting out and escaping total dysfunctionism. I try, I try, I try to pretend I have that perfect home. Heck, I...

Overcome · Overcome

For anyone with problems with someone with a drinking problem, or someone's drinking is giving you problems, please join us in the chat room, at this link: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: Keep It Simple, "Living in the Happy" (Keeping it Positive) and Anger. Overcomer -- E...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading shares many reasons why one would/does continue coming to Al-Anon. No matter the length of time in recovery, most find that we need continual spiritual help to live with or having lived with an alcoholic. The list is noteworthy - - To maintain a rational perspe...

ophelia · ophelia

Hi everyone, I'm wondering what level of contact you've maintained with your SO while they (and you) were going through recovery, and whether you've left it open-ended in terms of eventual outcome while still remaining in contact. My ABF entered AA right after we broke up due to his drinking and has b...

a4l · a4l

OK life's good. My bills are up to date, my children are happy, schools going to be a scrape and pass this semester but hey when pressure hits c's get degrees ( and who knows i might miraculously get Bs I don't really care because these are my non-law electives that I have to do). A major project is almost wr...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, I would like to share on how this Topic has an effect on me. It is going on into the 5th Year that I haven't be allowed to see 3 of my Grand Children, why?. It is because I stood up for them, against their Parents. One is my Son and His Partner. Thankfully, I heard a Lady share one night at a meeting of how sh...

Overcome · Overcome

OPEN MEETING starting now in MIP chat room at the link below: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic is: Alcoholism as a disease and open topic as it relates to teh family disease of alcoholism. This is our first Open meeting, to see how they go.

DavidG · DavidG

A new member flew into our group... it sounded like a sparrow hitting a window- thunk! Thinking they could fly straight through? But the response was phenomenal... a soft landing. We have all bin there- many times for some. The empathy is strong. It is very much - o...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading from Courage to Change is about Step 8 (Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.) The author begins by sharing that many of us who have lived with the effects of alcoholism have come to see ourselves as innocent victims of other pe...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today April 9 speaks about denying our feelings in order to protect ourselves. The reading suggests that detachment comes easy to many because we have been using it throughout our lifetime. however we have been detaching with indifference and not love as Al-Anon suggests...

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	Relapse (Preview) My husband left his second stint in rehab 60 days ago. He informed me today that he has had a couple beers since he got out. I guess he felt guilty about lying after we celebrated his 90 days yesterday. I feel so disappointed, not because he had a drink but because he is trying to convince himself and me tha...	Naomippb	5	4027	May 4, 2019 by Lyne
	Feeling overwelmed (Preview) I am doing all I can to do self care. However, I am nearing my breaking point. Since Friday, I have been homeless, living at my sisters home. I am in the process of selling my home and all I have received is negative feedback from the state of my home. Not clean enough even though I have spent hours cleaning i...	joker	5	2812	May 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C, May 3rd (Preview) Detachment -- that is the topic of today's reading. The writer has come to believe that detachment might sound cold and heartless, but that it actually is loving, because it recognizes that our loved ones have the privilege to be themselves. By intervening in another's struggles, we interfere wi...	Freetime	5	1781	May 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	When is enough .. enough? (Preview) When is enough .. enough in any relationship? I accept things in the name of family I would not accept from a casual acquaintance or stranger. When has that line been crossed by family to the point that enough is enough and I am not obligated to continue to try again? I'm currently looking at that in p...	SerenityRUS	19	1218	May 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	Let's focus on US and what we have been doing to make our lives better (Preview) I have been reading posts and a consistent theme is "put the focus back on ourselves". I spent some time outside today, planting some seeds, watering, and just enjoying the beauty of this time of year. I haven't done any painting in a while, so today I worked a little on one--added some "movement" to th...	lgnutah	8	2426	May 2, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 5/2/19 (Preview) Today's reading talks about the willingness to let go of our need to do 'it' by ourselves, and instead listen to ESH and our higher power. The reading opens by reflecting on being so busy staring at the problem(s) that we miss the guidance available. We can and do become better able to move beyond our p...	Iamhere	5	932	May 2, 2019 by JerryF
	I am back after a year of trials and tribulations... (Preview) So today I started the day by writing in my journal and crying and begging God to give me a sign, an answer, anything to bring me out of what Ill call a really trying year. My answer was to go to AlAnon meeting which I havent done in over a year. So I did and here I am. Happy and grateful to be back. After my last po...	Elabella	16	9830	May 2, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change May 1 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on the experience they had in an AlAnon meeting with completing this sentence: "If only ___________ would happen, I would be happy." Initially, the author and many group members completed this phrase with things like "The a...	Skorpi	5	900	May 1, 2019 by JerryF
	Denial... (Preview) This was the topic at a meeting I went to last weekend...and the person who did the topic had a very interesting, and very fascinating "slant" or "approach" to the topic of denial. She focused on denial as it relates only to OUR denial, as the loved one of an alcoholic. This had ZERO to do with the denial of...	Bo	37	4730	Apr 30, 2019 by Freetime
	Changes... (Preview) I have been going to meetings and getting myself back on track. My exbf has decided to work on himself for the better. He left his toxic relationship and is working on himself. Turns out he was being physically and mentally abused in his toxic relationship. I'm glad he is working on his issues. He wants t...	Wndrwmn	4	2803	Apr 30, 2019 by Bo
	ODAT Reading Tuesday 4-30 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today, April 30 speaks about each of our actions and points out that most people's actions have selfish motives and that people in AA readily admit this.. The reading suggests that we know that offering Al-Anon to those in need of the comfort found in Alanon is actually construct...	hotrod	6	991	Apr 30, 2019 by Aloha
	C2C, 4/29 (Preview) The reading for Monday, April 29th, talks about growing up with guilt, blame, harsh criticism, and constant fear. The author learned to feel badly about themself, but knew they werent evil. With help from alanon, the author is able to look at mistakes now without blowing them out of proportion. Th...	Lyne	5	8290	Apr 29, 2019 by Iamhere
	Me and my dad in his final stage (Preview) My dad is only 50, but he is in what they call "the final stage" of alcoholism. He will not admit to his drinking, and so it often feels as though being around him is to submit to a reality that is not my reality. A reality that is extremely mentally ill. I am 25 years old, and I recently moved back home to...	Momo	6	4748	Apr 29, 2019 by Bo
	Hope for Today Apr 28 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is about step 11. The idea of praying only to be made aware of Higher Powers will for us and the power to carry it out is different than simply praying for our own needs and wants. I certainly continue to catch myself praying for things that I consider needs/wants...	yanksfan51	6	850	Apr 28, 2019 by Riley3
	Donations needed for web hosting renewal (Preview) Our GoDaddy bill of $187.87 is due in May. This supports our Miracles In Progress web hosting and domain registration. If you are able, please contribute in gratitude for what MIP provides to us. Click here to donate via PayPal or Credit/Debit card or use the button below.	WebHelper	15	6410	Apr 28, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change, April 26 (Preview) Today's reading focuses on "Take what you like and leave the rest." These words show that our program is based on suggestion, not requirements. We as individuals have the power to choose, to disagree, and to work the program in our own time. Reminder: Because I am able to use whatever I find helpfu...	Freetime	8	5979	Apr 27, 2019 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 4/25/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about reaching out to other members in Al-Anon for support or help. The telephone, a lovely modern invention, seems hard to pick up - esp. when we are new in recovery. Many of us have been conditioned to 'not be a burden' yet we find in Al-Anon that reaching out...	Iamhere	6	1975	Apr 25, 2019 by El
	How Do You Sleep? (Preview) Seriously,how do you sleep?how do you just let everything go and get a full nights sleep?How do you learn to stop worrying and thinking of all the "what if's"? It may sound like a silly question but I simply don't know how to turn it all off.I am so worn down from lack of sleep that I have been physically sic...	SunnyFrogs	16	5807	Apr 25, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change April 24 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about the slogan "Easy does it". The author shares that once, they were trying to zip the removable lining back into their coat, but it wasn't working! No matter how much force the author used, the lining zipper would not zip!!! After a while, the author realized th...	Skorpi	7	832	Apr 24, 2019 by Riley3
	The First Phase .. (Preview) It seems venting relates to not being in recovery? I dont think I can absorb anything till I throw it up, so to speak, the ugliness thats grown in me when living with an A. I feel like I have to get the anger, resentment, loneliness, over responsibility, and sadness released before I can move on to a more po...	Riley3	9	3018	Apr 24, 2019 by 2HP
	Hopping off the merry-go-round (Preview) Hi all, it's been a long while. ABF and I moved from my home to his family's hometown 6 1/2 months ago after his parents had passed and the A had inherited a property which on paper appeared to promise a more financially secure future. I left a secure job that was paid fairly well for the area but offered no r...	Paloma Negra	3	3321	Apr 24, 2019 by Iamhere
	To the newcomers and beginners...a very important message... (Preview) Whatever it is you are facing, feeling, hearing, seeing...whatever drama, chaos, havoc, and turmoil you are dealing with and going through...whatever horrific circumstances you are facing...please, please, please...be assured, be certain...that people here...have seen, heard, dealt wit...	Bo	12	1977	Apr 24, 2019 by 1911A1
	Looking for Direction (new member) (Preview) I am the daughter of an alcoholic. I was acutely aware of this at a very young age. In my pre-teen years I took on a parental role. I very often took on the responsibility of protecting, not only my Mom from herself, but protecting and shielding my younger sibling as well. I am now in my 30's and have 3 childr...	CH603	6	886	Apr 23, 2019 by JerryF
	ODAT Reading 4-23 (Preview) The O DAT reading for April 23 speaks about the power of sarcasm. The reading points out that it is true sarcasm does relieve our pent-up feelings as our remarks are usually very pointed and can secretly provide us great satisfaction. Even though sarcasm is repugnant in itself and is even more dist...	hotrod	4	2963	Apr 23, 2019 by JerryF
	a beautiful monday morning... (Preview) It is one of those days when I can get out on my own & enjoy the warmer days of spring. As a lot of us have experienced a long winter. I has been difficult but bearable. We didn't have a lot of natural disasters up here but I am very moved by all the devastation. It breaks my heart to see all of those who are su...	Hoot Nanny	5	2707	Apr 23, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	My silly imagination (Preview) I had a great laugh at myself this weekend. The exA and I are still in touch. We don't talk every day. We maybe hear from one-another once every few months if even that often. I was on the phone the other day when the ex called. I let him go to voice mail and then after I got off the phone my phone service transcr...	Aloha	6	3108	Apr 23, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Apr 21 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the ability to listen to others and consider other peoples opinions. In my family, I grew up thinking that when someone expressed an opinion that it was an invitation to start an argument. Not necessarily negative- just that there is no way ones insti...	yanksfan51	6	886	Apr 22, 2019 by DavidG
	Just a lot of sadness (Preview) My ex-AH, and my child's dad, died of alcoholism a year ago this season. He had stopped drinking about six months before, but the side effects were irreversible and one of them got him. (Although he was a secretive drinker, we know he was not drinking because he had recently moved and there were no bot...	Mattie	14	3807	Apr 22, 2019 by andromeda
	At my morning meeting (Preview) After I had awaken from an Easter Theme Dream and traveled along our beautiful coast line with the sunlit sea side and ocean movement I had the opportunity to see recovery from the disease as a ressurection from certain death. It was meaningful for me as both my alcoholic addict wife and I both had nea...	JerryF	5	2633	Apr 22, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Big changes, easier to handle with AlAnon :-) (Preview) I've been under a bit of stress this year. Things at work with my program are not going well. My work is fine, my team's work is fine, the revenue is not fine. The revenue is also not within my control or influence. Some big decisions are being made, and they will have a large impact on me and my team. I think...	Skorpi	11	3398	Apr 22, 2019 by Bo
	How to deal with my husbands relapse (Preview) I am married to a recovering alcoholic/addict who has been sober for a year and a half. He occasionally still plus music on the side (he has a full time day job but he used to be just a night time bar musician.) whenever he plays at a certain bar I get very nervous. And last time He played there, two days ago, h...	Michelle4839	6	1323	Apr 22, 2019 by Bo
	Anger (Preview) My fourth step really helped me see that I have a lot of anger. That's not really easy to admit as when I was a kid growing up in an alcoholic home I wasn't allowed to be angry. Expressing anger was not allowed and I didn't feel it was acceptable to even be angry. I was afraid of anger especially my own. I...	KT2015	19	6323	Apr 22, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, 4/22 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/22, talks about the importance of the first 3 steps: admit the areas we are powerless over, we learn about a power greater than ourselves, and we place our will and our lives in the hands of the higher power. We let go of burdens that were not ours in the first place, and we can be...	Lyne	3	562	Apr 22, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change, April 19 (Preview) Today's reading discusses the benefits gained by learning the facts about alcoholism. The writer recognizes that alcoholism is a disease, and its sufferers are sick people, not bad people. With this knowledge, we can have realistic expectations and not set ourselves up for disappointment. Kno...	Freetime	10	1326	Apr 22, 2019 by Riley3
	Happy Easter MIP (Preview) It's been a busy, busy day here - full of fun, meeting, etc. I just wanted to take a moment and wish everyone a Happy Easter! May you all enjoy your day whether you celebrate it formally or not!	Iamhere	6	678	Apr 21, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change April 17 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about making decisions that affect others as a group. The author shares that many of us have felt anxious when we need to make decisions that will affect family members or other people as a group. Al-Anon's first tradition (Our common welfare should come first. Pe...	Skorpi	5	767	Apr 20, 2019 by Lyne
	Courage to Change 4//18/19 (Preview) Today's reading discusses that we get what we give. Often times, we arrive yearning for things we were not getting from the A in our lives. Examples include: courtesy, respect, attention, affection, communication... As we grow and work the program, we come to realize we can not receive what we d...	Iamhere	7	4702	Apr 19, 2019 by El
	Face-to-face meetings and fellowship (Preview) It seems like a silly thing to do on an online message board, right? Talk about face-to-face meetings. Posting about my life on a message board like this means utmost anonymity - I guarantee that, especially if I'm extremely cautious about what details I share about my personal life. When I went back t...	Aloha	8	4005	Apr 18, 2019 by Bo
	ODAT Reading 4-16 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today 4-16 speaks about letting go of obsessing over a problem and allowing solutions to unfold naturally This then proves that our human understanding is unable to conquer many issues and that is the reason we can let go and trust in the God of our understanding.We can let go an...	hotrod	7	4677	Apr 18, 2019 by mamalioness
	Anxiety, PTSD, head exploding (Preview) Hi all, This is my first post on this board. I attend ACOA meetings in my community, but my schedule has been crunchy lately and I've missed several. I have panic disorder and have lived with it since my early 20s. I was well for a long time - even my doctor said I no longer met the criteria for panic disor...	frostbliss	18	5258	Apr 16, 2019 by ophelia
	Hello,New Here (Preview) Hello.I thought I would take the leap and hop in to introduce myself. I am currently surrounded by alcoholics and addicts.It seems nearly everyone in my life is one or the other.I feel I am drowning and I don't know how to save myself. I have been daydreaming about running away from all of them and never l...	SunnyFrogs	11	1052	Apr 16, 2019 by Jen61
	does anyone know the obstacles to success... (Preview) I really would like to know if anyone has some literature that states the obstacles to success in Al anon? I haven't seen a copy in a long time. We used to read it in my past Al anon group. Haven't seen it for over 20 years.	Hoot Nanny	5	2366	Apr 16, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	What this anxiety... (Preview) I try to live my life but the A seems to find me. I have to leave the room. We dont talk or I do not want any conversations. I am left to figure out most of the decisions because I cant have a normal conversations. How can I pretend my life isnt falling apart when it is? There is no marriage. I am tired of being wi...	Riley3	4	3229	Apr 15, 2019 by DavidG
	C2C, 4/15 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/15, talks about looking for answers from alanon, for all sorts of problems from divorce to finance to emotions. Alanons position is that we must each find our own answers as members suggest meetings, readings, a sponsor, etc. But one exception exists, in the case of violen...	Lyne	3	2367	Apr 15, 2019 by Freetime
	Consistency and frequency to see growth in our program (Preview) Something I posted in another thread had me thinking about learning and failure and all that good stuff. Essentially, in that other post, I reasoned out that for me, Al-Anon is a place where I get to learn how to take care of myself spiritually and emotionally. I want to focus in on the "learn" portion of...	Aloha	7	3032	Apr 14, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Apr 14 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about the family of Alanon. There is a particular strength in being near people who can hear our stories and truly know where we have been. Some of us may have had very strong families of origin, feel quite close to our family members but are disillusioned whe...	yanksfan51	6	666	Apr 14, 2019 by Iamhere
	Merry Go Round with A (Preview) To keep my sanity and give myself something special I needed, I bought a condo and live there half time. My son and his family live close by there, and the kids and my A dont speak. This is how the damage from the alcohol affected my life, and of course I cant control anyone. As a tax issue arose, my As usual...	Lyne	10	2968	Apr 14, 2019 by Iamhere
	Learning opportunities (Preview) I admit it was hard to be back in the foo of enmeshment. It bought out my defensive, aggressive, offensive sides. It was frustrating to think "I" had the answers if only "they" would wake up/quit crying/start living. But now I'm just observing and can see how affected by this disease most of the foo are....	a4l	4	2692	Apr 13, 2019 by a4l
	Courage to Change, April 12 (Preview) Quick fixes -- the author of today's reading lists many ways of being impatient when seeking an immediate solution to a difficult situation.Pray "Grant me patience Lord, and hurry!" Expect to take 15 minutes to fix a problem that has existed for 20 years. Make a few program calls and share at a meeti...	Freetime	4	742	Apr 12, 2019 by El
	Taking inventory (Preview) I am back into the tribal fold which is mostly women. It's been a funny blessing to observe the dynamics at play and I consider myself fortunate to have this living experience. Three women gathered accidentally with one only in common; two of whom are diametrically opposed on a tribal matter. It was in...	a4l	3	604	Apr 12, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Trying to survive the craziness (Preview) Its hard to walk the walk. I feel the uncertainty and craziness start creeping in my life. I think I am fine and the anger and resentment starts to surface. I dont dream of getting old. I dream of getting out and escaping total dysfunctionism. I try, I try, I try to pretend I have that perfect home. Heck, I...	Riley3	10	823	Apr 12, 2019 by Bo
	Closed Meeting now starting (Preview) For anyone with problems with someone with a drinking problem, or someone's drinking is giving you problems, please join us in the chat room, at this link: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: Keep It Simple, "Living in the Happy" (Keeping it Positive) and Anger. Overcomer -- E...	Overcome	3	590	Apr 11, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 4/11/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading shares many reasons why one would/does continue coming to Al-Anon. No matter the length of time in recovery, most find that we need continual spiritual help to live with or having lived with an alcoholic. The list is noteworthy - - To maintain a rational perspe...	Iamhere	3	608	Apr 11, 2019 by Freetime
	Is this healthy? (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm wondering what level of contact you've maintained with your SO while they (and you) were going through recovery, and whether you've left it open-ended in terms of eventual outcome while still remaining in contact. My ABF entered AA right after we broke up due to his drinking and has b...	ophelia	16	1228	Apr 11, 2019 by Bo
	Constant anxiety :-( (Preview) OK life's good. My bills are up to date, my children are happy, schools going to be a scrape and pass this semester but hey when pressure hits c's get degrees ( and who knows i might miraculously get Bs I don't really care because these are my non-law electives that I have to do). A major project is almost wr...	a4l	14	3198	Apr 11, 2019 by Riley3
	Courage to Change / Courage to Be Me. (Preview) Hi, I would like to share on how this Topic has an effect on me. It is going on into the 5th Year that I haven't be allowed to see 3 of my Grand Children, why?. It is because I stood up for them, against their Parents. One is my Son and His Partner. Thankfully, I heard a Lady share one night at a meeting of how sh...	WendyP	16	1367	Apr 11, 2019 by hotrod
	OPEN MEETING now starting (Preview) OPEN MEETING starting now in MIP chat room at the link below: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic is: Alcoholism as a disease and open topic as it relates to teh family disease of alcoholism. This is our first Open meeting, to see how they go.	Overcome	0	551	Apr 10, 2019 by Overcome
	So proud... (Preview) A new member flew into our group... it sounded like a sparrow hitting a window- thunk! Thinking they could fly straight through? But the response was phenomenal... a soft landing. We have all bin there- many times for some. The empathy is strong. It is very much - o...	DavidG	4	602	Apr 10, 2019 by hotrod
	Courage to Change April 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading from Courage to Change is about Step 8 (Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.) The author begins by sharing that many of us who have lived with the effects of alcoholism have come to see ourselves as innocent victims of other pe...	Skorpi	5	1039	Apr 10, 2019 by El
	C2C reading 4-9 (Preview) The C2C reading for today April 9 speaks about denying our feelings in order to protect ourselves. The reading suggests that detachment comes easy to many because we have been using it throughout our lifetime. however we have been detaching with indifference and not love as Al-Anon suggests...	hotrod	6	791	Apr 9, 2019 by El
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