Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

RachelsMom · RachelsMom

It was one of those "strange" (no really) conversations with Rachel that ended with her saying, "How about I never talk to you ever f****** again". And I hadn't done anything or said anything to warrant that reaction and then I think, "ahhh, there you go again trying to make sense of the actions of an add...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

So last night was rough. Had one of my nightmares involving my Ex-husband. I find it odd that when things are going especially good - I am peaceful, no fires to put out, Ex and I are actually meeting and talking like adults - that I have one of these dreams. This one involved a scenario in which I was at my own...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is one of my favorites. The writer talks about waking up and feeling behind already! Previous to the disease kicking up in life, morning were special and joyous. Not so with the disease. Instead going to bed was stressful as was getting up. The reading continues to discuss cha...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author speaks to the fears many of us had about going to Al-Anon. Many feared that our friends, family, boss, or the alcoholic in our lives would find out that we were going to Al-Anon. Many of us didn't want anyone to know about the problems we faced. The author share...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just heard from my ex ah. He was wanting to make amends. The catch is that he tried to contact me in 2017. I replied through messenger today. My sponsor said it was OK as long as we have no further contact. I am not sure if I did the right thing. Anyone have any ESH on this? I would appreciate any responses. Al...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi there, y'all... ... Step four is big for me too, Betty... I am chairing on the topic at a face to face meeting tonight. I looked that the checklist you pinned up below:- "Am I generous and try to contribute to the group by volunteering?" Oh I am not generous- I am needy and still willing to learn!...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/1, talks about the 3 As: Awareness, Acceptance, Action. The writer says unless the acceptance occurs, action wont be effective. It is very important to sit still, feel the feelings, and come to some acceptance, instead of jumping from awareness to action. The reminder...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about our connection with our HP and the importance of it for our recovery. Like the writer, I was raised in a religious faith that taught me my relationship with God was reverence and a bit of fear. In the program the relationship has felt more like a connected...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65434346/alanon...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about what happens when we reject our higher power and decide that we can take care of our problems all by ourselves. The results can be frustrating and painful. It is like walking around in a dark room and refusing to turn on the light -- we may stumble, hurt ourselves, and not find w...

JerryF · JerryF

If you have this daily publication don't miss the page of the day. For me it reveals a growth awareness in the relationship between patience and compassion. Both of these were missing from my thoughts, feelings and behaviors when I first reach the doors of Al-Anon. I either never learned them or...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

It's 21 years since this happened.13 The Moon, The Stars & The End of Time Excerpt from The Seventh Crow, copyright © 2013 Bernie Schultz (An alternate version of this story was printed in the AA Grapevine, May 2010, under the title Just Friends. That version was later reprinted in a collection of...

DavidG · DavidG

Life? Living...? I have been getting to a face to face meeting... two weeks running, and plan to chair next week... This group here is my home group- however unless I am a visitor to another town- I will mostly do 5 or 6 meetings in a stretch. Because it does take time to trust- either way- I...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about letting go and letting God. When we hold on tightly to something, we sometimes close our eyes, turn our heads away and make our knuckles ache as our fists are clenched. Fingernails may bite into our palms and we just exhaust ourselves. When instead we trus...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that they used to think that living was surviving from crisis to crisis. Thanks to AlAnon's 12 traditions, the author has learned how a healthy family functions. The traditions have made it possible for the author to be a part of...

Twinkies · Twinkies

AH had nothing to drink Tuesday or Wednesday. Tonight instead of the typical case of beer PLUS a six pack that he brings home nearly every other night, he brought home ONLY a six pack and drank only one. Its been at least a year since hes gone this long without getting drunk, aside from during the short vis...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today 3-26 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e diseaseAnd as the first step suggests a disease over which we are powerless. The reading asks what keeps us trying to change this reality by attempting to find solutions.? IT points out that we do have a power der...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/25, talks about initial confusion over what was and was not their responsibility. They list some powerful things like: they are responsible to rid themself of anger and resentment, to be realistic in expectations, to make healthy choices, etc. There is also a list of h...

luv123 · luv123

I heard someone at a meeting say how he felt guilty just sitting at this great meeting absorbing all the good shares. That he felt he "should" say something; so he shared. I had an interesting reaction to this. First I was surprised because healing is purpose of Al-anon and I realized that self care is b...

mamalioness · mamalioness

My A brother and I had the most intense, and very satisfying chat today...I told him about my deeeep and intense step 4 work of late and how I felt about me, my program and my progress and how this program has been my saving grace......and HE jumped in and we kinda did a step 4 together...burned half my cel...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the purpose some of our character defects can serve: as defenses for those of us having lived with alcoholism. As the writer states, I also found step 4 quite difficult as any type of flaw or shortcoming felt like a failure on my part. The first time my s...

ophelia · ophelia

Hi everyone, Grateful to find this group. Thanks for reading. I've been with a wonderful man for just under a year and I love him very much. Hands down the best relationship of my middle-aged life and he felt the same. I knew he had a history of heavy drinking but I was not seeing it until last month. Th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Saturday MIP family! I have had a busy week and decided to do some googling on self-care, just for me, just for today. I found 'this' and thought it worthy of sharing. As always, take what you like and leave the rest!Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five thing...

Freetime · Freetime

Worry -- that is the topic of today's reading in our ODAT. Worrying can become a habit where we ruminate on the past and predict that dreadful things will happen in the future. The solution is living one day at a time. Using this manageable amount of time well gives us freedom from yesterday and tomorro...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Happy Thursday to all... Today's topic is about self will vs. God's will. The author is close to the end of a run at a crossroad. The easier, softer way has no view, and is a flatter surface. The challenging route is harder, yet provides a view of the ocean and way better scenery. Th...

lookingup · lookingup

my a brother ( Billy),in a bad way with his using ,now homeless n where to go,praying he can n will see he has got options , ive posted this in more detail on the mip aca board next door,sad situation.......hugs lu,,,all esh welcome.

mamalioness · mamalioness

I wasn't going to share here because it is maybe SOME alanon, lots of ACA, but thought I would share because it is a release for me...a breakthrough for me...You all have read my posts enough to know that my mother from my birth acted as if she didn't want me...I never got hugs..baby pics had my sister and n...

workinprogress · workinprogress

I have a sponsor but as I move through the steps I am becoming unsure my sponsor is right for me. I want to keep growing. I want to keep moving forward, I don't want a sponsor to pander me but I do want to be heard. I want an open conversation, not a one sided one. I am still learning to speak up for myself and ex...

lookingup · lookingup

im grateful to be where im at today in life moving forward, im content with myself,i been managing things pretty well, I plan on enjoying the outside nature again today because I know I can, this desease is insidious, I get a knock on my door every morning from bro,ive been answering ,this am I chose not...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today 3-19 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e disease and a compulsions. The drinker and those interacting with himI have each been affected by the same disease "alcoholism" We believe we know how everyone should behave and try to force our way The reading p...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am trying to get my head back on after at least a week of cloudiness. I am off chocolate for a week. I did it for personal reasons. I might try giving another don't need food abstinence. I realize that this may not have anything to do w/ Program. I am noticing how giving up things have to be filled w/ somethi...

Wndrwmn · Wndrwmn

I started attending AlAnon in 2006 and went to meetings twice a week up until 2014. I moved to a new town far from home for work. I was divorced for a few years and started dating. I could tell it was not a good relationship so I broke it off. I stayed single for a year I found a group it was close to my apt. But I f...

lookingup · lookingup

has anybody here had any problems getting into meeting room,its not letting me in for some reason.....thanks in advance...lu

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author shares about the fourth step topic of self-worth. The author, while working through Blueprint for Progress, noticed that they had always judged themselves on the basis of their accomplishments or on what other people said about them...

El · El

Hello MIP family! I wish I could remember and give credit to the member here who stated that rather than really focusing on herself(?) she was really just distracting herself from her A. I apologize if I am not stating this correctly. However.....it's had me thinking.... I have found different t...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...

Mikael · Mikael

My home groups topic next week is healing. Any thoughts, ideas or pages from COL? Thanks

VickiR · VickiR

Hi MIP, writing to check in with some thoughts I am always struggling with. I have a hard time accepting that I feel relief in the face of my XAH following his standard patterns of being an addict. It actually gives me a sense of calm when he acts in a way that is predictable to me. He has some short lived peri...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...

CTKen · CTKen

Hi all, Im new to the group and havent posted before. I dont have a whole lot of people I can talk to about this and felt the need to get it off my chest. I thought this might be an appropriate place to do it.When my wife and I met, we were both heavy drinkers. Wed go out together to the bars just about every night...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/18, talks about ESH. The author says that as alanon members, our own experience, strength, and hope is all we need to help one another recover from the devastating impact of alcoholism. It suggests that the 8th tradition encourages us to help those who really want help, ins...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the magnified sense of responsibility many of us developed who grew up with alcoholism. For us, we became convinced that we were meant to manage it all, fix everything around us, and be focused on everyone around us, rather than our own selves. The writ...

JerryF · JerryF

Keep watch over David G as I just saw the news of an active shooter/ing In New Zealand. David is favorite and blessed MIP Brother and I cannot imagine any harms coming to him and his family. ((((()))))

MellyBobelly · MellyBobelly

Hello people! I didn't intend to post here today so i don't really have a relevant topic to discuss. I popped on to check my messages, and one particularly wonderful MIP member that I chat to asked to see pictures of my new kittens. I don't know how to do that via chat so I shall post them here, because who do...

Freetime · Freetime

The writer of today's page realizes that forgiveness is not the power to judge, condemn, and then bestow forgiveness on someone. It is accepting that we are on an equal footing with every fellow human being. We all have assets and defects. Being self-righteous only separates us from others and mak...

Overcome · Overcome

Come one come all!! Newcomer meeting starting now in meeting room: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topics: Step One: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol; that our lives had become unmanageable. Alcoholism, the family disease and Open topic as it relates to alanon and alc...

mamalioness · mamalioness

this isn't recovery, but its a precious pet I found this horrid wound/scratch on my big dog's left flank and the swelling is huge...I check my pets..dunno HOW or when this happened, but the swelling is so bad I can't take her to vet till Tuesday, and she isn't in pain, just terribly swollen like 6" back fr...

inhealinghands · inhealinghands

Hi again, I don't want to be greedy with all your kind guidance... but I have one very crazy-making issue going on, and I would love some feedback. Basically, I cannot stay calm while waiting for a response to a text message from basically anyone at this point. It doesn't matter who it is, or how low-stak...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is one I love, love, love! It's about a man who sits under a tree on a beautiful day, not realizing it was full of pigeons. In a short while, the pigeons do what pigeons do, and he shouted at them and stormed away resenting the pigeons as well as their 'business'. He then realized tha...

mamalioness · mamalioness

THE KEY IS WILLINGNESSOnce we have placed the key of willingness in the lockand have the door ever so slightly open, we find thatwe can always open it some more.TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 35The willingness to give up my pride and self-will to aPower greater than myself has proved to be the o...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Intimacy"What many have described as love or intimacy before reaching Program was actually codependence or rigid control." Before we came to program, we thought intimacy was that secret word that pertained to sex and making love. We thought it was about taking care of the other person, doing for...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author suggests that step 7 (Humbly asked HP to remove our shortcomings) is a step that we might take with joy and humor. The author shares that, while they have had the experience of working step seven tearfully and on their knees, that is not the only approach to thi...

luv123 · luv123

so i thought I would write myself a program letter for next time the emotional flashbacks come up.... next time i volunteer at the local food bank. It took me a while to realize what it was that was so hard about it. I was berating myself for just being too tired afterward and for being negative rather tha...

inhealinghands · inhealinghands

Hi there all, thank you for being here as a resource. I'm a returning member of about 3 weeks, though I went to a few meetings about 8 years ago when I was with my A partner. Apparently I wasn't in the place to really understand Alanon back then. Now we have been separated for 2 years, and I see that I am not get...

a4l · a4l

It has been a good long while; some of it due to a lack of internet connection. It was probably a good thing, as I find limiting net time difficult. Like the subject line, I'm facing one of those times when everything is going very well so there has to be one obstacle, in the form of another human being. I...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about gratitude lists and an attitude of gratitude. The writer tells of seeking things to put onto a list in the beginning, and how they did not really feel very grateful when finished at the start of the journey. Their mind was still weighted down with the negative thinking that h...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Before alcohol got its grips into my family, my AH and I had managed to build a strong, healthy emotional foundation for ourselves and our children. We were partners in every sense of the word and I never worried about having to hold it all together by myself. Seeing that foundation begin to slowly crum...

Fedora · Fedora

My spirit is so tired of trying hard. Of trying hard not to be angry, trying hard to let go and let consequences fall as they will, trying to pretend to the world that everything is So Great. Yesterday was so hard. I dragged myself into work and fantasized about telling everyone the truth, "I have an AH....

a4l · a4l

I think I saw one of our members mention phone in meetings a few times. I have a voip plan with unlinmited calls to Australia and really need a meeting. PM me please if you can help?

Bo · Bo

While many people don't believe it, and do not embrace it...alanon is a program of change. We learn to change our -- thinking, mindset, actions, reactions, behavior, and so much more. However, I constantly here...change is not easy. I've learned from a great deal of advanced adult education, learn...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Bad night (Preview) It was one of those "strange" (no really) conversations with Rachel that ended with her saying, "How about I never talk to you ever f****** again". And I hadn't done anything or said anything to warrant that reaction and then I think, "ahhh, there you go again trying to make sense of the actions of an add...	RachelsMom	28	5430	Apr 4, 2019 by serenity47
	Nitghtmares (Preview) So last night was rough. Had one of my nightmares involving my Ex-husband. I find it odd that when things are going especially good - I am peaceful, no fires to put out, Ex and I are actually meeting and talking like adults - that I have one of these dreams. This one involved a scenario in which I was at my own...	PosiesandPuppies	8	1476	Apr 4, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 4/4/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is one of my favorites. The writer talks about waking up and feeling behind already! Previous to the disease kicking up in life, morning were special and joyous. Not so with the disease. Instead going to bed was stressful as was getting up. The reading continues to discuss cha...	Iamhere	4	1992	Apr 4, 2019 by Lyne
	Courage to Change April 3 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author speaks to the fears many of us had about going to Al-Anon. Many feared that our friends, family, boss, or the alcoholic in our lives would find out that we were going to Al-Anon. Many of us didn't want anyone to know about the problems we faced. The author share...	Skorpi	6	2048	Apr 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	Amends (Preview) I just heard from my ex ah. He was wanting to make amends. The catch is that he tried to contact me in 2017. I replied through messenger today. My sponsor said it was OK as long as we have no further contact. I am not sure if I did the right thing. Anyone have any ESH on this? I would appreciate any responses. Al...	Hoot Nanny	13	4267	Apr 2, 2019 by Iamhere
	Just a general share... (Preview) Hi there, y'all... ... Step four is big for me too, Betty... I am chairing on the topic at a face to face meeting tonight. I looked that the checklist you pinned up below:- "Am I generous and try to contribute to the group by volunteering?" Oh I am not generous- I am needy and still willing to learn!...	DavidG	4	557	Apr 2, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/1 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/1, talks about the 3 As: Awareness, Acceptance, Action. The writer says unless the acceptance occurs, action wont be effective. It is very important to sit still, feel the feelings, and come to some acceptance, instead of jumping from awareness to action. The reminder...	Lyne	5	549	Apr 1, 2019 by DavidG
	Hope for Today 3/31 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about our connection with our HP and the importance of it for our recovery. Like the writer, I was raised in a religious faith that taught me my relationship with God was reverence and a bit of fear. In the program the relationship has felt more like a connected...	yanksfan51	5	1384	Mar 31, 2019 by Iamhere
	Step 4 posted to the Step board (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65434346/alanon...	hotrod	1	405	Mar 31, 2019 by Iamhere
	ODAT March 29 (Preview) Today's reading is about what happens when we reject our higher power and decide that we can take care of our problems all by ourselves. The results can be frustrating and painful. It is like walking around in a dark room and refusing to turn on the light -- we may stumble, hurt ourselves, and not find w...	Freetime	6	1618	Mar 30, 2019 by andromeda
	HOPE FOR TODAY...3/27 (Preview) If you have this daily publication don't miss the page of the day. For me it reveals a growth awareness in the relationship between patience and compassion. Both of these were missing from my thoughts, feelings and behaviors when I first reach the doors of Al-Anon. I either never learned them or...	JerryF	5	3627	Mar 29, 2019 by JerryF
	The Moon The Stars And The End of Time (Preview) It's 21 years since this happened.13 The Moon, The Stars & The End of Time Excerpt from The Seventh Crow, copyright © 2013 Bernie Schultz (An alternate version of this story was printed in the AA Grapevine, May 2010, under the title Just Friends. That version was later reprinted in a collection of...	Wolfie55	7	3614	Mar 28, 2019 by Aline
	How important is it...? (Preview) Life? Living...? I have been getting to a face to face meeting... two weeks running, and plan to chair next week... This group here is my home group- however unless I am a visitor to another town- I will mostly do 5 or 6 meetings in a stretch. Because it does take time to trust- either way- I...	DavidG	6	1094	Mar 28, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change 3/28/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about letting go and letting God. When we hold on tightly to something, we sometimes close our eyes, turn our heads away and make our knuckles ache as our fists are clenched. Fingernails may bite into our palms and we just exhaust ourselves. When instead we trus...	Iamhere	4	1096	Mar 28, 2019 by El
	Courage to Change March 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that they used to think that living was surviving from crisis to crisis. Thanks to AlAnon's 12 traditions, the author has learned how a healthy family functions. The traditions have made it possible for the author to be a part of...	Skorpi	5	3191	Mar 27, 2019 by El
	I hate not believing (Preview) AH had nothing to drink Tuesday or Wednesday. Tonight instead of the typical case of beer PLUS a six pack that he brings home nearly every other night, he brought home ONLY a six pack and drank only one. Its been at least a year since hes gone this long without getting drunk, aside from during the short vis...	Twinkies	20	4569	Mar 26, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	ODAT REading 3-26 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today 3-26 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e diseaseAnd as the first step suggests a disease over which we are powerless. The reading asks what keeps us trying to change this reality by attempting to find solutions.? IT points out that we do have a power der...	hotrod	5	3140	Mar 26, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 3/25 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/25, talks about initial confusion over what was and was not their responsibility. They list some powerful things like: they are responsible to rid themself of anger and resentment, to be realistic in expectations, to make healthy choices, etc. There is also a list of h...	Lyne	5	1332	Mar 25, 2019 by mamalioness
	Learning EMOTIONAL BOUNDARIES (Preview) I heard someone at a meeting say how he felt guilty just sitting at this great meeting absorbing all the good shares. That he felt he "should" say something; so he shared. I had an interesting reaction to this. First I was surprised because healing is purpose of Al-anon and I realized that self care is b...	luv123	5	3828	Mar 25, 2019 by Aloha
	He MIGHT work the steps with me?????? (Preview) My A brother and I had the most intense, and very satisfying chat today...I told him about my deeeep and intense step 4 work of late and how I felt about me, my program and my progress and how this program has been my saving grace......and HE jumped in and we kinda did a step 4 together...burned half my cel...	mamalioness	5	800	Mar 24, 2019 by JerryF
	Hope for Today Mar 24 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the purpose some of our character defects can serve: as defenses for those of us having lived with alcoholism. As the writer states, I also found step 4 quite difficult as any type of flaw or shortcoming felt like a failure on my part. The first time my s...	yanksfan51	9	2019	Mar 24, 2019 by JerryF
	Can't get my head around it (Preview) Hi everyone, Grateful to find this group. Thanks for reading. I've been with a wonderful man for just under a year and I love him very much. Hands down the best relationship of my middle-aged life and he felt the same. I knew he had a history of heavy drinking but I was not seeing it until last month. Th...	ophelia	20	1315	Mar 23, 2019 by JerryF
	Self Care - 12 Inspirational Steps to Consider (Preview) Happy Saturday MIP family! I have had a busy week and decided to do some googling on self-care, just for me, just for today. I found 'this' and thought it worthy of sharing. As always, take what you like and leave the rest!Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five thing...	Iamhere	6	2189	Mar 23, 2019 by Iamhere
	ODAT - March 22 (Preview) Worry -- that is the topic of today's reading in our ODAT. Worrying can become a habit where we ruminate on the past and predict that dreadful things will happen in the future. The solution is living one day at a time. Using this manageable amount of time well gives us freedom from yesterday and tomorro...	Freetime	5	1262	Mar 23, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 3/21/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Happy Thursday to all... Today's topic is about self will vs. God's will. The author is close to the end of a run at a crossroad. The easier, softer way has no view, and is a flatter surface. The challenging route is harder, yet provides a view of the ocean and way better scenery. Th...	Iamhere	5	1888	Mar 23, 2019 by mamalioness
	Needing prayers (Preview) my a brother ( Billy),in a bad way with his using ,now homeless n where to go,praying he can n will see he has got options , ive posted this in more detail on the mip aca board next door,sad situation.......hugs lu,,,all esh welcome.	lookingup	22	6431	Mar 23, 2019 by lookingup
	WHEN she was my MOM (Preview) I wasn't going to share here because it is maybe SOME alanon, lots of ACA, but thought I would share because it is a release for me...a breakthrough for me...You all have read my posts enough to know that my mother from my birth acted as if she didn't want me...I never got hugs..baby pics had my sister and n...	mamalioness	11	863	Mar 23, 2019 by luv123
	Sponsorship Questions (Preview) I have a sponsor but as I move through the steps I am becoming unsure my sponsor is right for me. I want to keep growing. I want to keep moving forward, I don't want a sponsor to pander me but I do want to be heard. I want an open conversation, not a one sided one. I am still learning to speak up for myself and ex...	workinprogress	9	4596	Mar 23, 2019 by Iamhere
	GA (Preview) im grateful to be where im at today in life moving forward, im content with myself,i been managing things pretty well, I plan on enjoying the outside nature again today because I know I can, this desease is insidious, I get a knock on my door every morning from bro,ive been answering ,this am I chose not...	lookingup	7	4546	Mar 22, 2019 by Bo
	C2C Reading 3-19 (Preview) The C2C reading for today 3-19 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e disease and a compulsions. The drinker and those interacting with himI have each been affected by the same disease "alcoholism" We believe we know how everyone should behave and try to force our way The reading p...	hotrod	6	2195	Mar 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	why am I here? for recovery of course. (Preview) I am trying to get my head back on after at least a week of cloudiness. I am off chocolate for a week. I did it for personal reasons. I might try giving another don't need food abstinence. I realize that this may not have anything to do w/ Program. I am noticing how giving up things have to be filled w/ somethi...	Hoot Nanny	4	771	Mar 22, 2019 by Bo
	Coming back to Alanon (Preview) I started attending AlAnon in 2006 and went to meetings twice a week up until 2014. I moved to a new town far from home for work. I was divorced for a few years and started dating. I could tell it was not a good relationship so I broke it off. I stayed single for a year I found a group it was close to my apt. But I f...	Wndrwmn	12	2696	Mar 21, 2019 by Iamhere
	meeting room (Preview) has anybody here had any problems getting into meeting room,its not letting me in for some reason.....thanks in advance...lu	lookingup	4	686	Mar 21, 2019 by lookingup
	Courage to Change March 20 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author shares about the fourth step topic of self-worth. The author, while working through Blueprint for Progress, noticed that they had always judged themselves on the basis of their accomplishments or on what other people said about them...	Skorpi	5	594	Mar 20, 2019 by Iamhere
	Distracting Myself (Preview) Hello MIP family! I wish I could remember and give credit to the member here who stated that rather than really focusing on herself(?) she was really just distracting herself from her A. I apologize if I am not stating this correctly. However.....it's had me thinking.... I have found different t...	El	6	654	Mar 20, 2019 by El
	Sleeping problems (Preview) I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...	Buckeye Girl	6	600	Mar 19, 2019 by Bo
	Healing (Preview) My home groups topic next week is healing. Any thoughts, ideas or pages from COL? Thanks	Mikael	8	2372	Mar 18, 2019 by JerryF
	More thoughts and questions (Preview) Hi MIP, writing to check in with some thoughts I am always struggling with. I have a hard time accepting that I feel relief in the face of my XAH following his standard patterns of being an addict. It actually gives me a sense of calm when he acts in a way that is predictable to me. He has some short lived peri...	VickiR	12	2204	Mar 18, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Sleeping issues (Preview) I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...	Buckeye Girl	4	596	Mar 18, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hoping for the best... (Preview) Hi all, Im new to the group and havent posted before. I dont have a whole lot of people I can talk to about this and felt the need to get it off my chest. I thought this might be an appropriate place to do it.When my wife and I met, we were both heavy drinkers. Wed go out together to the bars just about every night...	CTKen	7	4001	Mar 18, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, 3/18 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/18, talks about ESH. The author says that as alanon members, our own experience, strength, and hope is all we need to help one another recover from the devastating impact of alcoholism. It suggests that the 8th tradition encourages us to help those who really want help, ins...	Lyne	4	419	Mar 18, 2019 by El
	Hope for Today Mar 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the magnified sense of responsibility many of us developed who grew up with alcoholism. For us, we became convinced that we were meant to manage it all, fix everything around us, and be focused on everyone around us, rather than our own selves. The writ...	yanksfan51	4	1204	Mar 18, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Asking my HP to (Preview) Keep watch over David G as I just saw the news of an active shooter/ing In New Zealand. David is favorite and blessed MIP Brother and I cannot imagine any harms coming to him and his family. ((((()))))	JerryF	10	2303	Mar 15, 2019 by Jill
	Hi folks :-) and also, KITTENS! (Preview) Hello people! I didn't intend to post here today so i don't really have a relevant topic to discuss. I popped on to check my messages, and one particularly wonderful MIP member that I chat to asked to see pictures of my new kittens. I don't know how to do that via chat so I shall post them here, because who do...	MellyBobelly	13	880	Mar 15, 2019 by inhealinghands
	Courage to Change, March 15 (Preview) The writer of today's page realizes that forgiveness is not the power to judge, condemn, and then bestow forgiveness on someone. It is accepting that we are on an equal footing with every fellow human being. We all have assets and defects. Being self-righteous only separates us from others and mak...	Freetime	5	2402	Mar 15, 2019 by Iamhere
	Newcomer meeting starting now! (Preview) Come one come all!! Newcomer meeting starting now in meeting room: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topics: Step One: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol; that our lives had become unmanageable. Alcoholism, the family disease and Open topic as it relates to alanon and alc...	Overcome	2	1281	Mar 15, 2019 by Bo
	SOS_PRAYER needed (Preview) this isn't recovery, but its a precious pet I found this horrid wound/scratch on my big dog's left flank and the swelling is huge...I check my pets..dunno HOW or when this happened, but the swelling is so bad I can't take her to vet till Tuesday, and she isn't in pain, just terribly swollen like 6" back fr...	mamalioness	20	6453	Mar 15, 2019 by mamalioness
	Slogans/ideas for waiting quietly? (Preview) Hi again, I don't want to be greedy with all your kind guidance... but I have one very crazy-making issue going on, and I would love some feedback. Basically, I cannot stay calm while waiting for a response to a text message from basically anyone at this point. It doesn't matter who it is, or how low-stak...	inhealinghands	8	4117	Mar 15, 2019 by milkwood
	Courage to Change 3/14/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is one I love, love, love! It's about a man who sits under a tree on a beautiful day, not realizing it was full of pigeons. In a short while, the pigeons do what pigeons do, and he shouted at them and stormed away resenting the pigeons as well as their 'business'. He then realized tha...	Iamhere	8	479	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	WILLINGNESS (Preview) THE KEY IS WILLINGNESSOnce we have placed the key of willingness in the lockand have the door ever so slightly open, we find thatwe can always open it some more.TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 35The willingness to give up my pride and self-will to aPower greater than myself has proved to be the o...	mamalioness	16	4548	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	INTIMACY (Preview) Intimacy"What many have described as love or intimacy before reaching Program was actually codependence or rigid control." Before we came to program, we thought intimacy was that secret word that pertained to sex and making love. We thought it was about taking care of the other person, doing for...	mamalioness	7	5817	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change March 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author suggests that step 7 (Humbly asked HP to remove our shortcomings) is a step that we might take with joy and humor. The author shares that, while they have had the experience of working step seven tearfully and on their knees, that is not the only approach to thi...	Skorpi	6	576	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	Letter to self on emotions (Preview) so i thought I would write myself a program letter for next time the emotional flashbacks come up.... next time i volunteer at the local food bank. It took me a while to realize what it was that was so hard about it. I was berating myself for just being too tired afterward and for being negative rather tha...	luv123	9	2249	Mar 14, 2019 by JerryF
	Pretty new and could use guidance of any kind (Preview) Hi there all, thank you for being here as a resource. I'm a returning member of about 3 weeks, though I went to a few meetings about 8 years ago when I was with my A partner. Apparently I wasn't in the place to really understand Alanon back then. Now we have been separated for 2 years, and I see that I am not get...	inhealinghands	13	2176	Mar 14, 2019 by JerryF
	choosing interpretation of life's challenges (Preview) It has been a good long while; some of it due to a lack of internet connection. It was probably a good thing, as I find limiting net time difficult. Like the subject line, I'm facing one of those times when everything is going very well so there has to be one obstacle, in the form of another human being. I...	a4l	13	4459	Mar 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 9/20/18 (Preview) Today's reading is about gratitude lists and an attitude of gratitude. The writer tells of seeking things to put onto a list in the beginning, and how they did not really feel very grateful when finished at the start of the journey. Their mind was still weighted down with the negative thinking that h...	Iamhere	9	587	Mar 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Shoring up my own foundation (Preview) Before alcohol got its grips into my family, my AH and I had managed to build a strong, healthy emotional foundation for ourselves and our children. We were partners in every sense of the word and I never worried about having to hold it all together by myself. Seeing that foundation begin to slowly crum...	Twinkies	6	687	Mar 13, 2019 by KT2015
	so tired of trying (Preview) My spirit is so tired of trying hard. Of trying hard not to be angry, trying hard to let go and let consequences fall as they will, trying to pretend to the world that everything is So Great. Yesterday was so hard. I dragged myself into work and fantasized about telling everyone the truth, "I have an AH....	Fedora	10	3062	Mar 12, 2019 by luv123
	anyone iin australia know of any phone in meetings? (Preview) I think I saw one of our members mention phone in meetings a few times. I have a voip plan with unlinmited calls to Australia and really need a meeting. PM me please if you can help?	a4l	4	4015	Mar 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Change... (Preview) While many people don't believe it, and do not embrace it...alanon is a program of change. We learn to change our -- thinking, mindset, actions, reactions, behavior, and so much more. However, I constantly here...change is not easy. I've learned from a great deal of advanced adult education, learn...	Bo	4	4108	Mar 12, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
«First < 1 … 48 49 50 51 52 … 822 > Last» \| Page of 822 sorted by

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.