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hotrod · hotrod

Hello all, we have now paid our "Go Daddy "account in full for the year. Thank you We still need to pay our other vendor, Sparklit and plan on a continuation of the funding drive starting this weekend and intend to cut it off when we get to 1 year @ $17.98/month prepaid. We will turn on Commu...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/13, talks about the difficulty the author had making decisions, and therefore the procrastination that came along with it. The author shared that they never knew what the right answer was, would therefore wait until the very last minute to decide, and never felt confiden...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes I feel like I am holding by a thread. I have my own issues. Today I am dealing w myself & what I need & now my mom is having major issues. Can't catch a break w her. She definitely has dementia. She is still in assisted living. She had an episode after doing great for a very long time. As best...

JerryF · JerryF

like it or not. I got into an argument with my spouse last night. It contained all of the old characteristics from when the disease was raging in my life with the exception of the physical. I hate being controlled and then yet I had no control over my actions thoughts and desires. I was pissed and for...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Happy Mothers Day to all the moms and all celebrating their moms! Wishing you a beautiful day! TT

Lyne · Lyne

HI ! I have posted on the Joy Journal yesterday and Thursday. They are not showing on the feed. Any ideas anyone? Today I feel at peace and that is joy for me. No matter what the day brings, and it may get tricky later on, I will hold on to my peace and joy, OHAT. Lyne

wenyuan · wenyuan

I am proud of myself today. After a difficult week of me slipping back into stinky thinking and bad reactions to my AH, I stuck to my boundary of not driving him to places when he's under any influence unless it's a health emergency. I was usually very vulnerable in this area when he verbally pressures me...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading points out that in Al-Anon, each person speaks only for himself or herself. There is no one authority and it isn't assumed that everyone has had the same experience or the same feelings. Nevertheless, each one of us can share our unique experience and listen for what we have in commo...

hotrod · hotrod

The courage to change readings for today May 6 suggested alcoholism is a disease and in arguing with the disease is a waste of our time and energy. It suggests that we would not argue with the person that had cancer or diabetes suggesting thatwe could stop the symptoms though fighting.If we accept the...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading talks about self-esteem and self-worth. The writer is complimented by another member of her group, and feels undeserving and awkward! Her reactions to the complement helped her realize how far down her feelings of self-worth had sunk while living with an alco...

Skorpi · Skorpi

"Yes, but..." In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on these words, and how they have become a useful tool for identifying times when the author is refusing to accept something over which they are powerless. The author reflects on all the beautiful, wonderful gifts HP has pr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have my share of losses I wouldn't change them if I could. Because I have learned that I don't have to be afraid of tomorrow He is already there!

a4l · a4l

Lost an uncle to cancer last night. He's in another country and I knew he was dying for the last 2 months. So I've been thinking a fair bit about death and life lately. I know he's got his angels on the other side and that his life was torture due to the family disease of which he was a double winner. I'm glad he...

JerryF · JerryF

I had a bit of trouble getting to sleep last evening so got out of bed and came into the livingroom and watched some late night TV with the misses until I was over done on all sides and came in to try the bed again. I opened myself up to relaxing, joyful thoughts and John our founder snuck into my head. I put o...

joker · joker

I just had another ah moment. I was reading on line here and I see where I was wrong. An active alcoholic wants to be the center of attention despite what they say is lies and crap and makes no logical sense. The part where I was wrong is despite knowing this, I fall into the trap of listening to them and liste...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/6, talks about feeling intimidated by Step 5 because it means revealing ones darkest secrets to another person. The author feared rejection yet felt isolated and lonely. After sharing what they seemed most shameful, they learned that they are just like everyone else. R...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 5 has been posted to the Step Boardhttps://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65515417/alanon-step-5-5-1-2019/?page=last#lastPostAnchor Please share your thoughts

JerryF · JerryF

Still with me Argggggh! soooo glad the program is also. My hearing aids crapped out totally and I am living now as if my head is wrapped with a pillow and a tinnitus snake. My audiologist is a gift fro my Higher Power. Her name is Mary which could mean she is really a saint. We did the long test again an...

joker · joker

Reading on line here, I just had an AH moment. By being in toxic abusive active alcoholic relationships, I am abusing myself. I allow active alcoholism (the person using) to abuse me because I have low self esteem and do not value myself. I allow their sickness to become mine and I begin to act and think l...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power of the slogans we use. The writer states that initially he/she discounted the slogans as too simple, trite and not helpful at all. Then the realization struck that he/she had slogans that had been in use such as you should know how I feel, if yo...

LiveLaughLove · LiveLaughLove

I looked at the online meeting schedule and it lists a meeting this morning at 10am EST. I just entered the chatroom and there was no host/meeting. Was I looking at an old meeting schedule or did I use the incorrect meeting chatroom link? If so, can someone please share the schedule and/or link for th...

LiveLaughLove · LiveLaughLove

I visited this site several years ago, due to having a difficult time with my ABF and looking for some much needed ESH. I ended up leaving the relationship, because it was apparent that he was not ready to stop drinking and his addiction and related behaviors were bringing me down with him. I was an emo...

Naomippb · Naomippb

My husband left his second stint in rehab 60 days ago. He informed me today that he has had a couple beers since he got out. I guess he felt guilty about lying after we celebrated his 90 days yesterday. I feel so disappointed, not because he had a drink but because he is trying to convince himself and me tha...

joker · joker

I am doing all I can to do self care. However, I am nearing my breaking point. Since Friday, I have been homeless, living at my sisters home. I am in the process of selling my home and all I have received is negative feedback from the state of my home. Not clean enough even though I have spent hours cleaning i...

Freetime · Freetime

Detachment -- that is the topic of today's reading. The writer has come to believe that detachment might sound cold and heartless, but that it actually is loving, because it recognizes that our loved ones have the privilege to be themselves. By intervening in another's struggles, we interfere wi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

When is enough .. enough in any relationship? I accept things in the name of family I would not accept from a casual acquaintance or stranger. When has that line been crossed by family to the point that enough is enough and I am not obligated to continue to try again? I'm currently looking at that in p...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I have been reading posts and a consistent theme is "put the focus back on ourselves". I spent some time outside today, planting some seeds, watering, and just enjoying the beauty of this time of year. I haven't done any painting in a while, so today I worked a little on one--added some "movement" to th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about the willingness to let go of our need to do 'it' by ourselves, and instead listen to ESH and our higher power. The reading opens by reflecting on being so busy staring at the problem(s) that we miss the guidance available. We can and do become better able to move beyond our p...

Elabella · Elabella

So today I started the day by writing in my journal and crying and begging God to give me a sign, an answer, anything to bring me out of what Ill call a really trying year. My answer was to go to AlAnon meeting which I havent done in over a year. So I did and here I am. Happy and grateful to be back. After my last po...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on the experience they had in an AlAnon meeting with completing this sentence: "If only ___________ would happen, I would be happy." Initially, the author and many group members completed this phrase with things like "The a...

Bo · Bo

This was the topic at a meeting I went to last weekend...and the person who did the topic had a very interesting, and very fascinating "slant" or "approach" to the topic of denial. She focused on denial as it relates only to OUR denial, as the loved one of an alcoholic. This had ZERO to do with the denial of...

Wndrwmn · Wndrwmn

I have been going to meetings and getting myself back on track. My exbf has decided to work on himself for the better. He left his toxic relationship and is working on himself. Turns out he was being physically and mentally abused in his toxic relationship. I'm glad he is working on his issues. He wants t...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today, April 30 speaks about each of our actions and points out that most people's actions have selfish motives and that people in AA readily admit this.. The reading suggests that we know that offering Al-Anon to those in need of the comfort found in Alanon is actually construct...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, April 29th, talks about growing up with guilt, blame, harsh criticism, and constant fear. The author learned to feel badly about themself, but knew they werent evil. With help from alanon, the author is able to look at mistakes now without blowing them out of proportion. Th...

Momo · Momo

My dad is only 50, but he is in what they call "the final stage" of alcoholism. He will not admit to his drinking, and so it often feels as though being around him is to submit to a reality that is not my reality. A reality that is extremely mentally ill. I am 25 years old, and I recently moved back home to...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is about step 11. The idea of praying only to be made aware of Higher Powers will for us and the power to carry it out is different than simply praying for our own needs and wants. I certainly continue to catch myself praying for things that I consider needs/wants...

WebHelper · WebHelper

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Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading focuses on "Take what you like and leave the rest." These words show that our program is based on suggestion, not requirements. We as individuals have the power to choose, to disagree, and to work the program in our own time. Reminder: Because I am able to use whatever I find helpfu...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about reaching out to other members in Al-Anon for support or help. The telephone, a lovely modern invention, seems hard to pick up - esp. when we are new in recovery. Many of us have been conditioned to 'not be a burden' yet we find in Al-Anon that reaching out...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Seriously,how do you sleep?how do you just let everything go and get a full nights sleep?How do you learn to stop worrying and thinking of all the "what if's"? It may sound like a silly question but I simply don't know how to turn it all off.I am so worn down from lack of sleep that I have been physically sic...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about the slogan "Easy does it". The author shares that once, they were trying to zip the removable lining back into their coat, but it wasn't working! No matter how much force the author used, the lining zipper would not zip!!! After a while, the author realized th...

Riley3 · Riley3

It seems venting relates to not being in recovery? I dont think I can absorb anything till I throw it up, so to speak, the ugliness thats grown in me when living with an A. I feel like I have to get the anger, resentment, loneliness, over responsibility, and sadness released before I can move on to a more po...

Paloma Negra · Paloma Negra

Hi all, it's been a long while. ABF and I moved from my home to his family's hometown 6 1/2 months ago after his parents had passed and the A had inherited a property which on paper appeared to promise a more financially secure future. I left a secure job that was paid fairly well for the area but offered no r...

Bo · Bo

Whatever it is you are facing, feeling, hearing, seeing...whatever drama, chaos, havoc, and turmoil you are dealing with and going through...whatever horrific circumstances you are facing...please, please, please...be assured, be certain...that people here...have seen, heard, dealt wit...

Looking for Direction (new member) · CH603

I am the daughter of an alcoholic. I was acutely aware of this at a very young age. In my pre-teen years I took on a parental role. I very often took on the responsibility of protecting, not only my Mom from herself, but protecting and shielding my younger sibling as well. I am now in my 30's and have 3 childr...

hotrod · hotrod

The O DAT reading for April 23 speaks about the power of sarcasm. The reading points out that it is true sarcasm does relieve our pent-up feelings as our remarks are usually very pointed and can secretly provide us great satisfaction. Even though sarcasm is repugnant in itself and is even more dist...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is one of those days when I can get out on my own & enjoy the warmer days of spring. As a lot of us have experienced a long winter. I has been difficult but bearable. We didn't have a lot of natural disasters up here but I am very moved by all the devastation. It breaks my heart to see all of those who are su...

Aloha · Aloha

I had a great laugh at myself this weekend. The exA and I are still in touch. We don't talk every day. We maybe hear from one-another once every few months if even that often. I was on the phone the other day when the ex called. I let him go to voice mail and then after I got off the phone my phone service transcr...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the ability to listen to others and consider other peoples opinions. In my family, I grew up thinking that when someone expressed an opinion that it was an invitation to start an argument. Not necessarily negative- just that there is no way ones insti...

Mattie · Mattie

My ex-AH, and my child's dad, died of alcoholism a year ago this season. He had stopped drinking about six months before, but the side effects were irreversible and one of them got him. (Although he was a secretive drinker, we know he was not drinking because he had recently moved and there were no bot...

JerryF · JerryF

After I had awaken from an Easter Theme Dream and traveled along our beautiful coast line with the sunlit sea side and ocean movement I had the opportunity to see recovery from the disease as a ressurection from certain death. It was meaningful for me as both my alcoholic addict wife and I both had nea...

Skorpi · Skorpi

I've been under a bit of stress this year. Things at work with my program are not going well. My work is fine, my team's work is fine, the revenue is not fine. The revenue is also not within my control or influence. Some big decisions are being made, and they will have a large impact on me and my team. I think...

Michelle4839 · Michelle4839

I am married to a recovering alcoholic/addict who has been sober for a year and a half. He occasionally still plus music on the side (he has a full time day job but he used to be just a night time bar musician.) whenever he plays at a certain bar I get very nervous. And last time He played there, two days ago, h...

KT2015 · KT2015

My fourth step really helped me see that I have a lot of anger. That's not really easy to admit as when I was a kid growing up in an alcoholic home I wasn't allowed to be angry. Expressing anger was not allowed and I didn't feel it was acceptable to even be angry. I was afraid of anger especially my own. I...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/22, talks about the importance of the first 3 steps: admit the areas we are powerless over, we learn about a power greater than ourselves, and we place our will and our lives in the hands of the higher power. We let go of burdens that were not ours in the first place, and we can be...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading discusses the benefits gained by learning the facts about alcoholism. The writer recognizes that alcoholism is a disease, and its sufferers are sick people, not bad people. With this knowledge, we can have realistic expectations and not set ourselves up for disappointment. Kno...

Iamhere · Iamhere

It's been a busy, busy day here - full of fun, meeting, etc. I just wanted to take a moment and wish everyone a Happy Easter! May you all enjoy your day whether you celebrate it formally or not!

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about making decisions that affect others as a group. The author shares that many of us have felt anxious when we need to make decisions that will affect family members or other people as a group. Al-Anon's first tradition (Our common welfare should come first. Pe...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses that we get what we give. Often times, we arrive yearning for things we were not getting from the A in our lives. Examples include: courtesy, respect, attention, affection, communication... As we grow and work the program, we come to realize we can not receive what we d...

Aloha · Aloha

It seems like a silly thing to do on an online message board, right? Talk about face-to-face meetings. Posting about my life on a message board like this means utmost anonymity - I guarantee that, especially if I'm extremely cautious about what details I share about my personal life. When I went back t...

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	Continuation of Funding Drive (Preview) Hello all, we have now paid our "Go Daddy "account in full for the year. Thank you We still need to pay our other vendor, Sparklit and plan on a continuation of the funding drive starting this weekend and intend to cut it off when we get to 1 year @ $17.98/month prepaid. We will turn on Commu...	hotrod	14	6056	May 13, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 5/13 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/13, talks about the difficulty the author had making decisions, and therefore the procrastination that came along with it. The author shared that they never knew what the right answer was, would therefore wait until the very last minute to decide, and never felt confiden...	Lyne	5	685	May 13, 2019 by El
	Really in need of support (Preview) Sometimes I feel like I am holding by a thread. I have my own issues. Today I am dealing w myself & what I need & now my mom is having major issues. Can't catch a break w her. She definitely has dementia. She is still in assisted living. She had an episode after doing great for a very long time. As best...	Hoot Nanny	9	3875	May 13, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	If I wont work it ...It will work me (Preview) like it or not. I got into an argument with my spouse last night. It contained all of the old characteristics from when the disease was raging in my life with the exception of the physical. I hate being controlled and then yet I had no control over my actions thoughts and desires. I was pissed and for...	JerryF	9	4459	May 13, 2019 by El
	Happy Mothers Day (Preview) Happy Mothers Day to all the moms and all celebrating their moms! Wishing you a beautiful day! TT	tiredtonite	2	3866	May 12, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Question about the Joy Journal for May (Preview) HI ! I have posted on the Joy Journal yesterday and Thursday. They are not showing on the feed. Any ideas anyone? Today I feel at peace and that is joy for me. No matter what the day brings, and it may get tricky later on, I will hold on to my peace and joy, OHAT. Lyne	Lyne	2	3170	May 12, 2019 by Lyne
	Small baby steps (Preview) I am proud of myself today. After a difficult week of me slipping back into stinky thinking and bad reactions to my AH, I stuck to my boundary of not driving him to places when he's under any influence unless it's a health emergency. I was usually very vulnerable in this area when he verbally pressures me...	wenyuan	11	3976	May 11, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change, May 10 (Preview) Today's reading points out that in Al-Anon, each person speaks only for himself or herself. There is no one authority and it isn't assumed that everyone has had the same experience or the same feelings. Nevertheless, each one of us can share our unique experience and listen for what we have in commo...	Freetime	6	1123	May 10, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C Reading 5-6 (Preview) The courage to change readings for today May 6 suggested alcoholism is a disease and in arguing with the disease is a waste of our time and energy. It suggests that we would not argue with the person that had cancer or diabetes suggesting thatwe could stop the symptoms though fighting.If we accept the...	hotrod	5	2472	May 9, 2019 by El
	Courage to Change 5/9/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading talks about self-esteem and self-worth. The writer is complimented by another member of her group, and feels undeserving and awkward! Her reactions to the complement helped her realize how far down her feelings of self-worth had sunk while living with an alco...	Iamhere	4	1587	May 9, 2019 by El
	Courage to Change May 8 (Preview) "Yes, but..." In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on these words, and how they have become a useful tool for identifying times when the author is refusing to accept something over which they are powerless. The author reflects on all the beautiful, wonderful gifts HP has pr...	Skorpi	4	2186	May 8, 2019 by hotrod
	God's been good! (Preview) I have my share of losses I wouldn't change them if I could. Because I have learned that I don't have to be afraid of tomorrow He is already there!	Hoot Nanny	3	2358	May 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Bit morose. (Preview) Lost an uncle to cancer last night. He's in another country and I knew he was dying for the last 2 months. So I've been thinking a fair bit about death and life lately. I know he's got his angels on the other side and that his life was torture due to the family disease of which he was a double winner. I'm glad he...	a4l	6	2821	May 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Joyful Dream (Preview) I had a bit of trouble getting to sleep last evening so got out of bed and came into the livingroom and watched some late night TV with the misses until I was over done on all sides and came in to try the bed again. I opened myself up to relaxing, joyful thoughts and John our founder snuck into my head. I put o...	JerryF	2	504	May 7, 2019 by El
	wake up to reality (Preview) I just had another ah moment. I was reading on line here and I see where I was wrong. An active alcoholic wants to be the center of attention despite what they say is lies and crap and makes no logical sense. The part where I was wrong is despite knowing this, I fall into the trap of listening to them and liste...	joker	7	551	May 7, 2019 by a4l
	C2C, 5/6 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/6, talks about feeling intimidated by Step 5 because it means revealing ones darkest secrets to another person. The author feared rejection yet felt isolated and lonely. After sharing what they seemed most shameful, they learned that they are just like everyone else. R...	Lyne	4	2267	May 7, 2019 by mamalioness
	Step 5 posted (Preview) Step 5 has been posted to the Step Boardhttps://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65515417/alanon-step-5-5-1-2019/?page=last#lastPostAnchor Please share your thoughts	hotrod	4	3467	May 6, 2019 by hotrod
	Compulsion of the mind allergy of the body.... (Preview) Still with me Argggggh! soooo glad the program is also. My hearing aids crapped out totally and I am living now as if my head is wrapped with a pillow and a tinnitus snake. My audiologist is a gift fro my Higher Power. Her name is Mary which could mean she is really a saint. We did the long test again an...	JerryF	10	3914	May 6, 2019 by JerryF
	Abusing myself (Preview) Reading on line here, I just had an AH moment. By being in toxic abusive active alcoholic relationships, I am abusing myself. I allow active alcoholism (the person using) to abuse me because I have low self esteem and do not value myself. I allow their sickness to become mine and I begin to act and think l...	joker	11	2926	May 5, 2019 by wenyuan
	Hope for Today May 5 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power of the slogans we use. The writer states that initially he/she discounted the slogans as too simple, trite and not helpful at all. Then the realization struck that he/she had slogans that had been in use such as you should know how I feel, if yo...	yanksfan51	4	2081	May 5, 2019 by mamalioness
	Online meeting (Preview) I looked at the online meeting schedule and it lists a meeting this morning at 10am EST. I just entered the chatroom and there was no host/meeting. Was I looking at an old meeting schedule or did I use the incorrect meeting chatroom link? If so, can someone please share the schedule and/or link for th...	LiveLaughLove	2	2792	May 5, 2019 by hotrod
	Returning newbie (Preview) I visited this site several years ago, due to having a difficult time with my ABF and looking for some much needed ESH. I ended up leaving the relationship, because it was apparent that he was not ready to stop drinking and his addiction and related behaviors were bringing me down with him. I was an emo...	LiveLaughLove	4	2499	May 5, 2019 by Lyne
	Relapse (Preview) My husband left his second stint in rehab 60 days ago. He informed me today that he has had a couple beers since he got out. I guess he felt guilty about lying after we celebrated his 90 days yesterday. I feel so disappointed, not because he had a drink but because he is trying to convince himself and me tha...	Naomippb	5	3311	May 4, 2019 by Lyne
	Feeling overwelmed (Preview) I am doing all I can to do self care. However, I am nearing my breaking point. Since Friday, I have been homeless, living at my sisters home. I am in the process of selling my home and all I have received is negative feedback from the state of my home. Not clean enough even though I have spent hours cleaning i...	joker	5	2633	May 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C, May 3rd (Preview) Detachment -- that is the topic of today's reading. The writer has come to believe that detachment might sound cold and heartless, but that it actually is loving, because it recognizes that our loved ones have the privilege to be themselves. By intervening in another's struggles, we interfere wi...	Freetime	5	1619	May 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	When is enough .. enough? (Preview) When is enough .. enough in any relationship? I accept things in the name of family I would not accept from a casual acquaintance or stranger. When has that line been crossed by family to the point that enough is enough and I am not obligated to continue to try again? I'm currently looking at that in p...	SerenityRUS	19	1029	May 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	Let's focus on US and what we have been doing to make our lives better (Preview) I have been reading posts and a consistent theme is "put the focus back on ourselves". I spent some time outside today, planting some seeds, watering, and just enjoying the beauty of this time of year. I haven't done any painting in a while, so today I worked a little on one--added some "movement" to th...	lgnutah	8	2250	May 2, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 5/2/19 (Preview) Today's reading talks about the willingness to let go of our need to do 'it' by ourselves, and instead listen to ESH and our higher power. The reading opens by reflecting on being so busy staring at the problem(s) that we miss the guidance available. We can and do become better able to move beyond our p...	Iamhere	5	770	May 2, 2019 by JerryF
	I am back after a year of trials and tribulations... (Preview) So today I started the day by writing in my journal and crying and begging God to give me a sign, an answer, anything to bring me out of what Ill call a really trying year. My answer was to go to AlAnon meeting which I havent done in over a year. So I did and here I am. Happy and grateful to be back. After my last po...	Elabella	16	7810	May 2, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change May 1 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on the experience they had in an AlAnon meeting with completing this sentence: "If only ___________ would happen, I would be happy." Initially, the author and many group members completed this phrase with things like "The a...	Skorpi	5	704	May 1, 2019 by JerryF
	Denial... (Preview) This was the topic at a meeting I went to last weekend...and the person who did the topic had a very interesting, and very fascinating "slant" or "approach" to the topic of denial. She focused on denial as it relates only to OUR denial, as the loved one of an alcoholic. This had ZERO to do with the denial of...	Bo	37	4007	Apr 30, 2019 by Freetime
	Changes... (Preview) I have been going to meetings and getting myself back on track. My exbf has decided to work on himself for the better. He left his toxic relationship and is working on himself. Turns out he was being physically and mentally abused in his toxic relationship. I'm glad he is working on his issues. He wants t...	Wndrwmn	4	2205	Apr 30, 2019 by Bo
	ODAT Reading Tuesday 4-30 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today, April 30 speaks about each of our actions and points out that most people's actions have selfish motives and that people in AA readily admit this.. The reading suggests that we know that offering Al-Anon to those in need of the comfort found in Alanon is actually construct...	hotrod	6	817	Apr 30, 2019 by Aloha
	C2C, 4/29 (Preview) The reading for Monday, April 29th, talks about growing up with guilt, blame, harsh criticism, and constant fear. The author learned to feel badly about themself, but knew they werent evil. With help from alanon, the author is able to look at mistakes now without blowing them out of proportion. Th...	Lyne	5	6759	Apr 29, 2019 by Iamhere
	Me and my dad in his final stage (Preview) My dad is only 50, but he is in what they call "the final stage" of alcoholism. He will not admit to his drinking, and so it often feels as though being around him is to submit to a reality that is not my reality. A reality that is extremely mentally ill. I am 25 years old, and I recently moved back home to...	Momo	6	3925	Apr 29, 2019 by Bo
	Hope for Today Apr 28 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is about step 11. The idea of praying only to be made aware of Higher Powers will for us and the power to carry it out is different than simply praying for our own needs and wants. I certainly continue to catch myself praying for things that I consider needs/wants...	yanksfan51	6	681	Apr 28, 2019 by Riley3
	Donations needed for web hosting renewal (Preview) Our GoDaddy bill of $187.87 is due in May. This supports our Miracles In Progress web hosting and domain registration. If you are able, please contribute in gratitude for what MIP provides to us. Click here to donate via PayPal or Credit/Debit card or use the button below.	WebHelper	15	5118	Apr 28, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change, April 26 (Preview) Today's reading focuses on "Take what you like and leave the rest." These words show that our program is based on suggestion, not requirements. We as individuals have the power to choose, to disagree, and to work the program in our own time. Reminder: Because I am able to use whatever I find helpfu...	Freetime	8	4633	Apr 27, 2019 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 4/25/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about reaching out to other members in Al-Anon for support or help. The telephone, a lovely modern invention, seems hard to pick up - esp. when we are new in recovery. Many of us have been conditioned to 'not be a burden' yet we find in Al-Anon that reaching out...	Iamhere	6	1797	Apr 25, 2019 by El
	How Do You Sleep? (Preview) Seriously,how do you sleep?how do you just let everything go and get a full nights sleep?How do you learn to stop worrying and thinking of all the "what if's"? It may sound like a silly question but I simply don't know how to turn it all off.I am so worn down from lack of sleep that I have been physically sic...	SunnyFrogs	16	4633	Apr 25, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change April 24 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about the slogan "Easy does it". The author shares that once, they were trying to zip the removable lining back into their coat, but it wasn't working! No matter how much force the author used, the lining zipper would not zip!!! After a while, the author realized th...	Skorpi	7	652	Apr 24, 2019 by Riley3
	The First Phase .. (Preview) It seems venting relates to not being in recovery? I dont think I can absorb anything till I throw it up, so to speak, the ugliness thats grown in me when living with an A. I feel like I have to get the anger, resentment, loneliness, over responsibility, and sadness released before I can move on to a more po...	Riley3	9	2513	Apr 24, 2019 by 2HP
	Hopping off the merry-go-round (Preview) Hi all, it's been a long while. ABF and I moved from my home to his family's hometown 6 1/2 months ago after his parents had passed and the A had inherited a property which on paper appeared to promise a more financially secure future. I left a secure job that was paid fairly well for the area but offered no r...	Paloma Negra	3	2795	Apr 24, 2019 by Iamhere
	To the newcomers and beginners...a very important message... (Preview) Whatever it is you are facing, feeling, hearing, seeing...whatever drama, chaos, havoc, and turmoil you are dealing with and going through...whatever horrific circumstances you are facing...please, please, please...be assured, be certain...that people here...have seen, heard, dealt wit...	Bo	12	1749	Apr 24, 2019 by 1911A1
	Looking for Direction (new member) (Preview) I am the daughter of an alcoholic. I was acutely aware of this at a very young age. In my pre-teen years I took on a parental role. I very often took on the responsibility of protecting, not only my Mom from herself, but protecting and shielding my younger sibling as well. I am now in my 30's and have 3 childr...	CH603	6	709	Apr 23, 2019 by JerryF
	ODAT Reading 4-23 (Preview) The O DAT reading for April 23 speaks about the power of sarcasm. The reading points out that it is true sarcasm does relieve our pent-up feelings as our remarks are usually very pointed and can secretly provide us great satisfaction. Even though sarcasm is repugnant in itself and is even more dist...	hotrod	4	2486	Apr 23, 2019 by JerryF
	a beautiful monday morning... (Preview) It is one of those days when I can get out on my own & enjoy the warmer days of spring. As a lot of us have experienced a long winter. I has been difficult but bearable. We didn't have a lot of natural disasters up here but I am very moved by all the devastation. It breaks my heart to see all of those who are su...	Hoot Nanny	5	2263	Apr 23, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	My silly imagination (Preview) I had a great laugh at myself this weekend. The exA and I are still in touch. We don't talk every day. We maybe hear from one-another once every few months if even that often. I was on the phone the other day when the ex called. I let him go to voice mail and then after I got off the phone my phone service transcr...	Aloha	6	2607	Apr 23, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Apr 21 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the ability to listen to others and consider other peoples opinions. In my family, I grew up thinking that when someone expressed an opinion that it was an invitation to start an argument. Not necessarily negative- just that there is no way ones insti...	yanksfan51	6	711	Apr 22, 2019 by DavidG
	Just a lot of sadness (Preview) My ex-AH, and my child's dad, died of alcoholism a year ago this season. He had stopped drinking about six months before, but the side effects were irreversible and one of them got him. (Although he was a secretive drinker, we know he was not drinking because he had recently moved and there were no bot...	Mattie	14	3293	Apr 22, 2019 by andromeda
	At my morning meeting (Preview) After I had awaken from an Easter Theme Dream and traveled along our beautiful coast line with the sunlit sea side and ocean movement I had the opportunity to see recovery from the disease as a ressurection from certain death. It was meaningful for me as both my alcoholic addict wife and I both had nea...	JerryF	5	2209	Apr 22, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Big changes, easier to handle with AlAnon :-) (Preview) I've been under a bit of stress this year. Things at work with my program are not going well. My work is fine, my team's work is fine, the revenue is not fine. The revenue is also not within my control or influence. Some big decisions are being made, and they will have a large impact on me and my team. I think...	Skorpi	11	2655	Apr 22, 2019 by Bo
	How to deal with my husbands relapse (Preview) I am married to a recovering alcoholic/addict who has been sober for a year and a half. He occasionally still plus music on the side (he has a full time day job but he used to be just a night time bar musician.) whenever he plays at a certain bar I get very nervous. And last time He played there, two days ago, h...	Michelle4839	6	1022	Apr 22, 2019 by Bo
	Anger (Preview) My fourth step really helped me see that I have a lot of anger. That's not really easy to admit as when I was a kid growing up in an alcoholic home I wasn't allowed to be angry. Expressing anger was not allowed and I didn't feel it was acceptable to even be angry. I was afraid of anger especially my own. I...	KT2015	19	5400	Apr 22, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, 4/22 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/22, talks about the importance of the first 3 steps: admit the areas we are powerless over, we learn about a power greater than ourselves, and we place our will and our lives in the hands of the higher power. We let go of burdens that were not ours in the first place, and we can be...	Lyne	3	364	Apr 22, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change, April 19 (Preview) Today's reading discusses the benefits gained by learning the facts about alcoholism. The writer recognizes that alcoholism is a disease, and its sufferers are sick people, not bad people. With this knowledge, we can have realistic expectations and not set ourselves up for disappointment. Kno...	Freetime	10	1155	Apr 22, 2019 by Riley3
	Happy Easter MIP (Preview) It's been a busy, busy day here - full of fun, meeting, etc. I just wanted to take a moment and wish everyone a Happy Easter! May you all enjoy your day whether you celebrate it formally or not!	Iamhere	6	518	Apr 21, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change April 17 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about making decisions that affect others as a group. The author shares that many of us have felt anxious when we need to make decisions that will affect family members or other people as a group. Al-Anon's first tradition (Our common welfare should come first. Pe...	Skorpi	5	604	Apr 20, 2019 by Lyne
	Courage to Change 4//18/19 (Preview) Today's reading discusses that we get what we give. Often times, we arrive yearning for things we were not getting from the A in our lives. Examples include: courtesy, respect, attention, affection, communication... As we grow and work the program, we come to realize we can not receive what we d...	Iamhere	7	3570	Apr 19, 2019 by El
	Face-to-face meetings and fellowship (Preview) It seems like a silly thing to do on an online message board, right? Talk about face-to-face meetings. Posting about my life on a message board like this means utmost anonymity - I guarantee that, especially if I'm extremely cautious about what details I share about my personal life. When I went back t...	Aloha	8	3110	Apr 18, 2019 by Bo
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