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DavidG · DavidG

~sigh~ I made this couple my mum and dad... I believed in them. Lois was most likely the better behaved. Bill had feet of clay... not angel's wings... but he rose from this... ... I visited their home once- in up-state New York... and had this tremendous sense of family. That I had sisters and brothe...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP - Happy August! Today's reading is primary about the three C's we learn in Al-Anon. We did not cause alcoholism, we can't control alcoholism and we can't cure it either. The writer, like so many came to Al-Anon to learn how to get a loved one to stop drinking. The writer had hopes tha...

Elabella · Elabella

Just a question on how you all deal with the lies and deception from the alcoholic? Im having a very hard time with it. For me its kind of a no brainer that if someone lies and is deceitful with you, then theres really no true relationship, especially in a marriage. How do you continue to be in a marriage whe...

Lindie · Lindie

My AH is changing shifts at work , so now I am going to be around AH more on the weekends. When he worked nights, he would be up until 1pm and get up at 8pm. Now he is going to be up from 3pm until 1 am most likely. I go to bed at 9pm. So there is going to be constant 6hrs around him and the drinking. What am I going to d...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, it's Wendy P. I wanted to share about something that happened to me yesterday, and on thinking about it all, I am still amazed at "God's Timing". Even after many years in Alanon, it still can amaze me. On Monday Mornings, I go up town to do my normal Shopping, because I am a planner, had it all worked ou...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm in process of trying to keep my mouth shut. I am feeling my oats so to speak so therefore have a tendency to speak way more bluntly than necessary. It's a character defect and I am aware of it. Some of it could be the anxiety of the trip. While we planned it out the money is going to be tight to get the ki...

lookingup · lookingup

hi everyone, im bringing this topic up in hopes i can hear whats helped others in dealing with foo. i did separate myself for a very long time,so that i could heal, im finding that when i talk with foo,i seem to get sucked in like a vaccume, negative talk ,etc,all that goes with being raised in a A home ,no re...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! I today's reading in Courage to Change the author speaks about a source of friction that had always existed between the author and their alcoholic loved one: housekeeping. The author shares that they are usually so overwhelmed by all the things that need to be done, that they cannot get org...

hotrod · hotrod

Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, July30, my birthday speaks about finding " happiness". The reading suggests that happiness is an 'inside job'and that we cannot be happy all the time but if we are willing to break old habits and work hard to achieve our goal we can change our negative attitudes....

Lindie · Lindie

I went to my first face2face and left with more questions and left feeling more alone. Do you have to ask for a sponsor, or wait until someone offers to be a sponser? I am going to try another meeting with other people there but that is my question about how to get a sponsor?

DavidG · DavidG

Howdy y'all, kia ora koutou... Went to my nearest f2f group last night and there were 11 there! last week, there were three of us... This group has a wide catchment of readers- from all over the world. And we do get good quality Alanon here- because of the love and peace of the programme- and because w...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Reposting this from my files - still seems pretty appropriate today & always, and hope this can be a positive for some of the members..... T There seem to be a lot of posts these days looking for some clarity around what Al-Anon is, and what it is not.... The first segment (in italics) is taken...

Lindie · Lindie

I went to my first alanon meeting this morning and left disappointed. So was just wondering, if there might be another meeting that will be a good fit for myself. I didnt know what to expect at a meeting, but I did expect something more than welcome. I am not wanting to bash Alanon so that is not my intentio...

Elabella · Elabella

Hi- Im really hoping to hear from any of you that have stayed married to the active alcoholic in your lives. How do you do it? Is your marriage normal? By that I mean are you intimate? Can you have a loving, close relationship with the alcoholic? If you have stayed, was it because of the AlAnon program? I j...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/29, suggests finding a suitable Higher Power. Suggestions are given for finding a power greater than ourselves, that we can come to rely upon. These suggestions include: God, good orderly direction, Allah, or the universe. The author says that after Step 2, the rest o...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just having memories of my lifetime. I have been married for 20 years been in the program 33 years & have lived 53 years as of yesterday!But it is all one day at a time! You can plan for the future but not plan the outcome! Not much else to say but the miracles still keep on coming! There is nothing bette...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about all that we can learn from one another in the program, specifically a sponsor/sponsee relationship. The writer describes a young teenager who is unable to find Alateen meetings in her area, so is permitted to attend Alanon meetings. Over time she as...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hi Everyone, I could use some support and encouragement as I begin a new job. I have been doing contract work with one employer for some time now but they have lost many projects and there are less opportunities for work. I have been in touch with a recruiter who had connected me with another employer som...

Elabella · Elabella

Hi all, So first off I wanted to ask all of you what you think about us AlAnon folksgoing to open AA meetings by ourselves? I e gone to two already. Last night I went and literally cried from happiness seeing all these wonderful souls fighting for their sobriety and living the best life they can. It made m...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am on a roller coaster right now. It is even affecting my sleep! My ah is acting out. I guess it is all about him. He us a recovering alcoholic but he is mean then nice. He is not facing something that is making him accusatory & flat out bullying me. I am trying not to react but it is hard. He is pushing me &...

Freetime · Freetime

This is a powerful page! The author realizes that life was unmanageable -- not because of facts but because of illusions. Eventually they listened to a suggestion that helped them see the light: The idea that we can control another person is an illusion. Life is better when we let go and let God. Th...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Has anyone ever celebrated their birthday for a month? I am an example of over a week. I have been celebrating sober for the longest time! IT is so nice that so many people want to be w/ me at all except my total family! I guess I am worth it; I just am open to any kind of celebrating. I have to say that even the ov...

MelissaK · MelissaK

Hi guys. A while ago I was a member of this board, and I used the al-anon wisdom I gained to leave an abusive relationship. That was a good thing; this board and the transformitive wisdom I received saved my life, and my child's life too. Unfortunately I didn't do very well myself; once I was free and clear...

Carla61 · Carla61

I know he has a disease, but the anger, mean behavior. It's so hard not to hate this person! He says he no longer loves me, hates me, yada, yada I just want to scream!!

lookingup · lookingup

hi again, just wondered if any one here has had any experience with loved one with tbi,traumatic brain injury my sister was in a bad wreck yrs ago 2014,i think. they came to me the dr,at the time we werent on speaking terms,drugs related reasons. she had emergengy surgery done on her neck due to broken al...

hotrod · hotrod

TheeODATC reading for Tuesday, July 22 speaks about attempting to understand the disease of alcoholism because we think it will help us to better cope with the problem.The reading suggests understanding the disease is not going to help us respond in a different fashion- we need to study the Al-An...

Lindie · Lindie

Here is my situation. I have been married for 30 years, 25 out of those my husband has been an alcoholic. AH will not seek counseling, due to his childhood traumas, he is trying to fix himself by not seeking counseling by self medicating with beer. AH works nights so there is nothing for him to do on his nig...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting early for tomorrow as we have a super early tee time! Tomorrow's reading talks about doormat status, recovery and courage! The author suggests they arrived @ Al-Anon with a history of letting others take advantage and quite a collection of anger, resentments and guilt. The author often...

Elabella · Elabella

Oh my goodness, the last few days I've been on a tear setting boundaries. Today however I'm struggling. My AH just texted and called me from work asking if I could go to the beer store for him. He is working very late, and all beer stores will be closed by the time he is done. He cannot leave work. He has to be t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading from C2C is about step 11 (Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood him, praying for the knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry that out.) The author shares that, for them, doing God's will means that, at a...

MollyWisk · MollyWisk

Tomorrow Im going to attend my first Al Anon meeting!

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/22, discusses placing principles above personalities. The author says that each meeting can be an opportunity to practice this concept. We dont have to like the personalities of the people in our meetings, but we can remember that we all need each other in order to recove...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Don't leave before the miracle. I found mine after over 33 years & 2 husbands. I am so grateful that God gave me all the close relationships I had w/ men. Some will leave a lasting memory. Some will just leave! I am so excited about my future. So many love & have loved me in the past. Today is just ano...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power of a group and the unity within it. The writer describes having grown up in a family that did not communicate well and did not demonstrate unity, but rather isolation. Part of the strength of alanon is coming to a place where others have shared...

RolliesMom · RolliesMom

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Freetime · Freetime

I just love the July 19 page in ODAT. It points out that our participation in Al-Anon makes us part of a worldwide network of groups that are all working towards the same purpose, and that what we do makes us brothers and sisters with people all around the world, regardless of nationality, race, color,...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so grateful that my Ah is now my friend again. I guess things just work out w/ prayer & patience God can really work miracles. I believe that our marriage is a gift from God. He healed me & now my Ah is not angry or frustrated anymore. But this a one day at a time program. I am just grateful for toda...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Sorry for the late post MIP family. Today's reading talks about recovery being a process, with improvements over time and not overnight! Many come to Al-Anon with a philosophy that if something works, it will work even better and faster if we try harder. Instead, we discover that recovery is a long...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

With 2 different perceptions. I seem to be having this particular life lesson a LOT recently. I just had to laugh at some of the not so silly and the silliness of it all. Maybe it's the absurdity. I have been trying to rebalance my life and my sig other is def a big part and in the picture .. lol. We are go...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hi Everyone, I've been in a bit of a rut lately with service work in Alanon. Our program suggests rotation of service responsibilities so that no one person dominates a particular service position and others can then volunteer and continue to grow. I'm seeing how applying this principle to my own rec...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on how enmeshed they had become with 2 people close to them who were new to recovery. While these two individuals were drinking, the author lost sight of the fact that they could be happy even if the 2 alcoholics were depressed, that the autho...

bud · bud

I do love how this program works and I return time after time for support to trust the process. It's been an unusual month of one life curve ball after the next; nothing life-threatening, but large things nonetheless: 1) My daughter will be married soon and this precipitated a whole new level of crazy...

Elabella · Elabella

Good morning all. Im feeling very sad and ashamed of myself today. Last night I went out with my AH to see a live band play. I made the very HUGE mistake of drinking along with him. Crazy, right? Thats the denial in me thinking its ok to do so. We used to do it all the time without an issue! So why didnt I even thi...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today July 16 speaks about the word :" maturity". I defines maturity as the capacity to withstand the ego destroying experiences and not lose one's perspective in the ego building experiences The reason it defines maturity is that the experts believe that many ofus arrive in...

a4l · a4l

Having re-reviewed some of the literature on family roles, I'm looking at some of my own traits. One of them is the inability not to take "failure" personally. That go to reaction of deeply believing that failing to foresee xyz caused the failure. It is really really hard to shake that beleif! I'm logi...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

OMG. My 15 year old son just opened up to me he is being bullied AGAIN at high school. (was bullied in grade school and had to move schools. Bulllied in Freshman year diffent kids/reasons. Now apparently all sophomore year.) He didn't tell me that anything had happened this year--I had no clue-...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Friday morning my BMF found his BEST ever friend DEAD!!!!! his friend/boss is writing to me on private messenger telling me about it, hinting about ME doing something, trying to find my NOW MIA brother who most likely is drinking his sorrows away... Its sad!! Terrible!!! I knew "Cliffy" for abou...

a4l · a4l

I felt the need to touch base with the literature available on the roles of family members in alcoholic families, ie: the hero, the scapegoat, the lost child, the mascot, the golden child, cheif enabler and addict. Reflecting on the nature of the dis-ease and it's rippling impact accross generation...

Lyne · Lyne

I would like to keep IAH's Joy Journal going. Can we have one for June? I just had joy with my puppy sitting on my lap and attempting to talk to me with noises and licking my face.

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, July 15, talks about practicing our program the best we can at the pace that is right for us. The author suggests not speaking harshly towards others. The writer suggests that a nonjudgmental, listening ear is a great blessing. Reminder: Today I will try to extend to my fell...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It has been a 2 year period of a LOT of growth for me, as well as having to do some hardcore growing up. It is a shame it didn't happen sooner however it is what it is. I have so much further to go without question and right now my hormones are doing me right with where I am at .. LOL. ANYWAYS .. I have a point .. L...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is all about what serenity means for us. So ma y times I have prayed the serenity prayer, as a mantra, to get me through something that felt like a challenge (a difficult student, running another mile, seeing the ex, etc). Todays page is a reminder that serenity...

WildFlower · WildFlower

I know this is a basic question, but these days every little thing that the pharmaceutical companies want to make money from is now called a disease, and then they can sell something to combat it and make a lot of money. I understand that some people have a predisposition to it, and for them to stop drink...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It will be a huge task for me but now that I am officially middle aged, I think it is time! It is mostly for me & I won't publish it! I guess I need to have some legacy by letting the good stuff come out! What do y'all think? Kathleen

Iamhere · Iamhere

Greetings all and apologies for the late post! I did not realize it was Thursday until I was headed to the wrong golf course....I struggle to know what day it is at times just because that's how life works for me! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about recognizing that our feelings are an importa...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's page in Hope for Today had a tendency to isolate because of their fear of not being good enough. One day, walking down the street, they saw a neighbor walking on the other side. They thought about shouting a greeting to the neighbor, but did not do it, and the neighbor turned the co...

Aloha · Aloha

I thought I'd share this as I'm pretty sure most here can relate. I hope you can see it. It's pretty funny, actually. This seems to be how my mind operates a lot of the time. Really it's my spiritual disease personified. I'm going through this period knowing truly that everything just IS and God's got eve...

andromeda · andromeda

Hi everyone! Quick question and this may trigger those who are sensitive to talk about drinking and stupid stuff that goes along with it. So, my bf and I were out with friends for dinner and lots of pool day drinking yesterday. He and I had a very drunk talk about our relationship and it didn't go the way...

lookingup · lookingup

know its been a long time since posted ,summer time has been hectic with saleing old furniture and replaceing furniture then projects out the wazoo. ive been slacking on my recovery work i feel it big time,trying to get it all back going again, i read in 1 of my daily about problems growing up in the a home...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I forget from time to time because I'm suppose to be the angry one that when I stop engaging with my XAH how much rage he is carrying. We have been split for 7 years now and divorced for almost 5 years and he is so angry. The problem is he takes this out on me not realizing it's really not "me" he's hurting. So...

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	A Love Story... (Preview) ~sigh~ I made this couple my mum and dad... I believed in them. Lois was most likely the better behaved. Bill had feet of clay... not angel's wings... but he rose from this... ... I visited their home once- in up-state New York... and had this tremendous sense of family. That I had sisters and brothe...	DavidG	6	2787	Aug 1, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 8/1/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP - Happy August! Today's reading is primary about the three C's we learn in Al-Anon. We did not cause alcoholism, we can't control alcoholism and we can't cure it either. The writer, like so many came to Al-Anon to learn how to get a loved one to stop drinking. The writer had hopes tha...	Iamhere	2	2573	Aug 1, 2019 by Lyne
	Lies & Deception.... (Preview) Just a question on how you all deal with the lies and deception from the alcoholic? Im having a very hard time with it. For me its kind of a no brainer that if someone lies and is deceitful with you, then theres really no true relationship, especially in a marriage. How do you continue to be in a marriage whe...	Elabella	16	3587	Aug 1, 2019 by 2HP
	I need to find the strength (Preview) My AH is changing shifts at work , so now I am going to be around AH more on the weekends. When he worked nights, he would be up until 1pm and get up at 8pm. Now he is going to be up from 3pm until 1 am most likely. I go to bed at 9pm. So there is going to be constant 6hrs around him and the drinking. What am I going to d...	Lindie	8	1652	Aug 1, 2019 by Iamhere
	God's Timing (Preview) Hi, it's Wendy P. I wanted to share about something that happened to me yesterday, and on thinking about it all, I am still amazed at "God's Timing". Even after many years in Alanon, it still can amaze me. On Monday Mornings, I go up town to do my normal Shopping, because I am a planner, had it all worked ou...	WendyP	8	712	Jul 31, 2019 by WendyP
	Trying to keep my mouth shut (Preview) I'm in process of trying to keep my mouth shut. I am feeling my oats so to speak so therefore have a tendency to speak way more bluntly than necessary. It's a character defect and I am aware of it. Some of it could be the anxiety of the trip. While we planned it out the money is going to be tight to get the ki...	SerenityRUS	6	783	Jul 31, 2019 by Iamhere
	FOO (Preview) hi everyone, im bringing this topic up in hopes i can hear whats helped others in dealing with foo. i did separate myself for a very long time,so that i could heal, im finding that when i talk with foo,i seem to get sucked in like a vaccume, negative talk ,etc,all that goes with being raised in a A home ,no re...	lookingup	4	1000	Jul 31, 2019 by lookingup
	Courage to Change July 31 (Preview) Hello MIP! I today's reading in Courage to Change the author speaks about a source of friction that had always existed between the author and their alcoholic loved one: housekeeping. The author shares that they are usually so overwhelmed by all the things that need to be done, that they cannot get org...	Skorpi	4	1714	Jul 31, 2019 by El
	C2C reading Tuesday 7-30 (Preview) Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, July30, my birthday speaks about finding " happiness". The reading suggests that happiness is an 'inside job'and that we cannot be happy all the time but if we are willing to break old habits and work hard to achieve our goal we can change our negative attitudes....	hotrod	8	491	Jul 31, 2019 by bud
	How do you find a sponser? (Preview) I went to my first face2face and left with more questions and left feeling more alone. Do you have to ask for a sponsor, or wait until someone offers to be a sponser? I am going to try another meeting with other people there but that is my question about how to get a sponsor?	Lindie	3	1604	Jul 30, 2019 by Lindie
	Our HP works in mysterious ways...??? (Preview) Howdy y'all, kia ora koutou... Went to my nearest f2f group last night and there were 11 there! last week, there were three of us... This group has a wide catchment of readers- from all over the world. And we do get good quality Alanon here- because of the love and peace of the programme- and because w...	DavidG	3	1553	Jul 30, 2019 by DavidG
	What is Al-Anon? What is Al-Anon NOT? (Preview) Reposting this from my files - still seems pretty appropriate today & always, and hope this can be a positive for some of the members..... T There seem to be a lot of posts these days looking for some clarity around what Al-Anon is, and what it is not.... The first segment (in italics) is taken...	canadianguy	13	4453	Jul 30, 2019 by Aloha
	Are All Alanon Meetings The Same? (Preview) I went to my first alanon meeting this morning and left disappointed. So was just wondering, if there might be another meeting that will be a good fit for myself. I didnt know what to expect at a meeting, but I did expect something more than welcome. I am not wanting to bash Alanon so that is not my intentio...	Lindie	5	1493	Jul 30, 2019 by Aloha
	Any people out there who stayed married to an active alcoholic? (Preview) Hi- Im really hoping to hear from any of you that have stayed married to the active alcoholic in your lives. How do you do it? Is your marriage normal? By that I mean are you intimate? Can you have a loving, close relationship with the alcoholic? If you have stayed, was it because of the AlAnon program? I j...	Elabella	23	4516	Jul 29, 2019 by a4l
	C2C, 7/29 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/29, suggests finding a suitable Higher Power. Suggestions are given for finding a power greater than ourselves, that we can come to rely upon. These suggestions include: God, good orderly direction, Allah, or the universe. The author says that after Step 2, the rest o...	Lyne	3	1817	Jul 29, 2019 by Iamhere
	20 years 33 years & 53 years one day at a time! (Preview) Just having memories of my lifetime. I have been married for 20 years been in the program 33 years & have lived 53 years as of yesterday!But it is all one day at a time! You can plan for the future but not plan the outcome! Not much else to say but the miracles still keep on coming! There is nothing bette...	Hoot Nanny	3	2588	Jul 29, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today July 28 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about all that we can learn from one another in the program, specifically a sponsor/sponsee relationship. The writer describes a young teenager who is unable to find Alateen meetings in her area, so is permitted to attend Alanon meetings. Over time she as...	yanksfan51	4	1069	Jul 28, 2019 by Iamhere
	Confidence Shaky with New Job (Preview) Hi Everyone, I could use some support and encouragement as I begin a new job. I have been doing contract work with one employer for some time now but they have lost many projects and there are less opportunities for work. I have been in touch with a recruiter who had connected me with another employer som...	tiredtonite	15	4031	Jul 27, 2019 by tiredtonite
	went fo another AA meeting alone.... (Preview) Hi all, So first off I wanted to ask all of you what you think about us AlAnon folksgoing to open AA meetings by ourselves? I e gone to two already. Last night I went and literally cried from happiness seeing all these wonderful souls fighting for their sobriety and living the best life they can. It made m...	Elabella	12	3195	Jul 27, 2019 by Jen61
	Mean then nice! (Preview) I am on a roller coaster right now. It is even affecting my sleep! My ah is acting out. I guess it is all about him. He us a recovering alcoholic but he is mean then nice. He is not facing something that is making him accusatory & flat out bullying me. I am trying not to react but it is hard. He is pushing me &...	Hoot Nanny	9	785	Jul 27, 2019 by lookingup
	C2C, July 25 - Illusions (Preview) This is a powerful page! The author realizes that life was unmanageable -- not because of facts but because of illusions. Eventually they listened to a suggestion that helped them see the light: The idea that we can control another person is an illusion. Life is better when we let go and let God. Th...	Freetime	6	1465	Jul 27, 2019 by lookingup
	does anyone celebrate? (Preview) Has anyone ever celebrated their birthday for a month? I am an example of over a week. I have been celebrating sober for the longest time! IT is so nice that so many people want to be w/ me at all except my total family! I guess I am worth it; I just am open to any kind of celebrating. I have to say that even the ov...	Hoot Nanny	4	367	Jul 27, 2019 by lookingup
	Lost ring and stuff (Preview) Hi guys. A while ago I was a member of this board, and I used the al-anon wisdom I gained to leave an abusive relationship. That was a good thing; this board and the transformitive wisdom I received saved my life, and my child's life too. Unfortunately I didn't do very well myself; once I was free and clear...	MelissaK	16	502	Jul 27, 2019 by Temple
	So hard to differentiate between the disease (Preview) I know he has a disease, but the anger, mean behavior. It's so hard not to hate this person! He says he no longer loves me, hates me, yada, yada I just want to scream!!	Carla61	5	1613	Jul 26, 2019 by bud
	reaching out (Preview) hi again, just wondered if any one here has had any experience with loved one with tbi,traumatic brain injury my sister was in a bad wreck yrs ago 2014,i think. they came to me the dr,at the time we werent on speaking terms,drugs related reasons. she had emergengy surgery done on her neck due to broken al...	lookingup	11	1775	Jul 25, 2019 by lookingup
	ODAT reading 7-23 (Preview) TheeODATC reading for Tuesday, July 22 speaks about attempting to understand the disease of alcoholism because we think it will help us to better cope with the problem.The reading suggests understanding the disease is not going to help us respond in a different fashion- we need to study the Al-An...	hotrod	4	3709	Jul 25, 2019 by Aloha
	Need to let go of the fear (Preview) Here is my situation. I have been married for 30 years, 25 out of those my husband has been an alcoholic. AH will not seek counseling, due to his childhood traumas, he is trying to fix himself by not seeking counseling by self medicating with beer. AH works nights so there is nothing for him to do on his nig...	Lindie	7	533	Jul 25, 2019 by Lindie
	Courage to Change 7/24/19 (Preview) Posting early for tomorrow as we have a super early tee time! Tomorrow's reading talks about doormat status, recovery and courage! The author suggests they arrived @ Al-Anon with a history of letting others take advantage and quite a collection of anger, resentments and guilt. The author often...	Iamhere	2	557	Jul 25, 2019 by hotrod
	HELP WITH BOUNDARIES.. (Preview) Oh my goodness, the last few days I've been on a tear setting boundaries. Today however I'm struggling. My AH just texted and called me from work asking if I could go to the beer store for him. He is working very late, and all beer stores will be closed by the time he is done. He cannot leave work. He has to be t...	Elabella	19	2969	Jul 24, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change July 24 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading from C2C is about step 11 (Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood him, praying for the knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry that out.) The author shares that, for them, doing God's will means that, at a...	Skorpi	4	482	Jul 24, 2019 by Iamhere
	New here (Preview) Tomorrow Im going to attend my first Al Anon meeting!	MollyWisk	11	510	Jul 23, 2019 by Jill
	C2C, 7/22 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/22, discusses placing principles above personalities. The author says that each meeting can be an opportunity to practice this concept. We dont have to like the personalities of the people in our meetings, but we can remember that we all need each other in order to recove...	Lyne	8	1632	Jul 22, 2019 by canadianguy
	miracles everywhere! (Preview) Don't leave before the miracle. I found mine after over 33 years & 2 husbands. I am so grateful that God gave me all the close relationships I had w/ men. Some will leave a lasting memory. Some will just leave! I am so excited about my future. So many love & have loved me in the past. Today is just ano...	Hoot Nanny	6	2029	Jul 22, 2019 by hotrod
	Hope for Today July 21 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power of a group and the unity within it. The writer describes having grown up in a family that did not communicate well and did not demonstrate unity, but rather isolation. Part of the strength of alanon is coming to a place where others have shared...	yanksfan51	5	1503	Jul 21, 2019 by DavidG
	I've been told I am not an enabler yet I know I need help (Preview) Help	RolliesMom	8	3661	Jul 20, 2019 by Bo
	ODAT - July 19 - Worldwide Fellowship (Preview) I just love the July 19 page in ODAT. It points out that our participation in Al-Anon makes us part of a worldwide network of groups that are all working towards the same purpose, and that what we do makes us brothers and sisters with people all around the world, regardless of nationality, race, color,...	Freetime	4	1916	Jul 19, 2019 by Iamhere
	what can I say? (Preview) I am so grateful that my Ah is now my friend again. I guess things just work out w/ prayer & patience God can really work miracles. I believe that our marriage is a gift from God. He healed me & now my Ah is not angry or frustrated anymore. But this a one day at a time program. I am just grateful for toda...	Hoot Nanny	5	1660	Jul 19, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	Courage to Change 7/18/19 (Preview) Sorry for the late post MIP family. Today's reading talks about recovery being a process, with improvements over time and not overnight! Many come to Al-Anon with a philosophy that if something works, it will work even better and faster if we try harder. Instead, we discover that recovery is a long...	Iamhere	2	2041	Jul 18, 2019 by bud
	2 different agendas .. (Preview) With 2 different perceptions. I seem to be having this particular life lesson a LOT recently. I just had to laugh at some of the not so silly and the silliness of it all. Maybe it's the absurdity. I have been trying to rebalance my life and my sig other is def a big part and in the picture .. lol. We are go...	SerenityRUS	4	1645	Jul 18, 2019 by bud
	Service Work in the Program Has Rewards (Preview) Hi Everyone, I've been in a bit of a rut lately with service work in Alanon. Our program suggests rotation of service responsibilities so that no one person dominates a particular service position and others can then volunteer and continue to grow. I'm seeing how applying this principle to my own rec...	tiredtonite	3	1719	Jul 17, 2019 by hotrod
	Courage to Change July 17 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on how enmeshed they had become with 2 people close to them who were new to recovery. While these two individuals were drinking, the author lost sight of the fact that they could be happy even if the 2 alcoholics were depressed, that the autho...	Skorpi	4	1535	Jul 17, 2019 by bud
	Re-found my voice & Anxiety - support please! (Preview) I do love how this program works and I return time after time for support to trust the process. It's been an unusual month of one life curve ball after the next; nothing life-threatening, but large things nonetheless: 1) My daughter will be married soon and this precipitated a whole new level of crazy...	bud	14	3112	Jul 17, 2019 by bud
	Relapse to old behaviours... (Preview) Good morning all. Im feeling very sad and ashamed of myself today. Last night I went out with my AH to see a live band play. I made the very HUGE mistake of drinking along with him. Crazy, right? Thats the denial in me thinking its ok to do so. We used to do it all the time without an issue! So why didnt I even thi...	Elabella	11	2612	Jul 17, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT reading 7-16 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today July 16 speaks about the word :" maturity". I defines maturity as the capacity to withstand the ego destroying experiences and not lose one's perspective in the ego building experiences The reason it defines maturity is that the experts believe that many ofus arrive in...	hotrod	5	938	Jul 16, 2019 by a4l
	Need some perspective. (Preview) Having re-reviewed some of the literature on family roles, I'm looking at some of my own traits. One of them is the inability not to take "failure" personally. That go to reaction of deeply believing that failing to foresee xyz caused the failure. It is really really hard to shake that beleif! I'm logi...	a4l	5	691	Jul 16, 2019 by a4l
	Teen having problems-- ia it due to AH? (Preview) OMG. My 15 year old son just opened up to me he is being bullied AGAIN at high school. (was bullied in grade school and had to move schools. Bulllied in Freshman year diffent kids/reasons. Now apparently all sophomore year.) He didn't tell me that anything had happened this year--I had no clue-...	Dancer66	7	1323	Jul 16, 2019 by canadianguy
	A Brother found our dear friend DEAD- Now hes MIA (Preview) Friday morning my BMF found his BEST ever friend DEAD!!!!! his friend/boss is writing to me on private messenger telling me about it, hinting about ME doing something, trying to find my NOW MIA brother who most likely is drinking his sorrows away... Its sad!! Terrible!!! I knew "Cliffy" for abou...	mamalioness	8	806	Jul 16, 2019 by hotrod
	Alcoholic family roles. (Preview) I felt the need to touch base with the literature available on the roles of family members in alcoholic families, ie: the hero, the scapegoat, the lost child, the mascot, the golden child, cheif enabler and addict. Reflecting on the nature of the dis-ease and it's rippling impact accross generation...	a4l	8	1639	Jul 16, 2019 by a4l
	Follow in IAH's footsteps--June Joy? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I would like to keep IAH's Joy Journal going. Can we have one for June? I just had joy with my puppy sitting on my lap and attempting to talk to me with noises and licking my face.	Lyne	57	5341	Jul 15, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 7/15 (Preview) The reading for Monday, July 15, talks about practicing our program the best we can at the pace that is right for us. The author suggests not speaking harshly towards others. The writer suggests that a nonjudgmental, listening ear is a great blessing. Reminder: Today I will try to extend to my fell...	Lyne	4	479	Jul 15, 2019 by El
	Pretty Excited :) (Preview) It has been a 2 year period of a LOT of growth for me, as well as having to do some hardcore growing up. It is a shame it didn't happen sooner however it is what it is. I have so much further to go without question and right now my hormones are doing me right with where I am at .. LOL. ANYWAYS .. I have a point .. L...	SerenityRUS	6	1718	Jul 14, 2019 by andromeda
	Hope for Today July 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is all about what serenity means for us. So ma y times I have prayed the serenity prayer, as a mantra, to get me through something that felt like a challenge (a difficult student, running another mile, seeing the ex, etc). Todays page is a reminder that serenity...	yanksfan51	5	330	Jul 14, 2019 by Iamhere
	Why is excessive alcohol consumption called a disease? (Preview) I know this is a basic question, but these days every little thing that the pharmaceutical companies want to make money from is now called a disease, and then they can sell something to combat it and make a lot of money. I understand that some people have a predisposition to it, and for them to stop drink...	WildFlower	36	3766	Jul 13, 2019 by DavidG
	really short! I am going to write my memoir! (Preview) It will be a huge task for me but now that I am officially middle aged, I think it is time! It is mostly for me & I won't publish it! I guess I need to have some legacy by letting the good stuff come out! What do y'all think? Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	13	2179	Jul 13, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	C2C - July 11 (Preview) Greetings all and apologies for the late post! I did not realize it was Thursday until I was headed to the wrong golf course....I struggle to know what day it is at times just because that's how life works for me! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about recognizing that our feelings are an importa...	Iamhere	2	390	Jul 13, 2019 by Lyne
	Hope for Today, July 12 - Starting Over (Preview) The author of today's page in Hope for Today had a tendency to isolate because of their fear of not being good enough. One day, walking down the street, they saw a neighbor walking on the other side. They thought about shouting a greeting to the neighbor, but did not do it, and the neighbor turned the co...	Freetime	6	335	Jul 12, 2019 by DavidG
	That monkey mind (Preview) I thought I'd share this as I'm pretty sure most here can relate. I hope you can see it. It's pretty funny, actually. This seems to be how my mind operates a lot of the time. Really it's my spiritual disease personified. I'm going through this period knowing truly that everything just IS and God's got eve...	Aloha	9	3678	Jul 12, 2019 by lookingup
	DRUNK SPEAK and LOVe (Preview) Hi everyone! Quick question and this may trigger those who are sensitive to talk about drinking and stupid stuff that goes along with it. So, my bf and I were out with friends for dinner and lots of pool day drinking yesterday. He and I had a very drunk talk about our relationship and it didn't go the way...	andromeda	25	3899	Jul 11, 2019 by andromeda
	hi family group (Preview) know its been a long time since posted ,summer time has been hectic with saleing old furniture and replaceing furniture then projects out the wazoo. ive been slacking on my recovery work i feel it big time,trying to get it all back going again, i read in 1 of my daily about problems growing up in the a home...	lookingup	5	365	Jul 11, 2019 by lookingup
	Taking a moment .. (Preview) I forget from time to time because I'm suppose to be the angry one that when I stop engaging with my XAH how much rage he is carrying. We have been split for 7 years now and divorced for almost 5 years and he is so angry. The problem is he takes this out on me not realizing it's really not "me" he's hurting. So...	SerenityRUS	2	313	Jul 11, 2019 by SerenityRUS
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