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HappyToe · HappyToe

Hey everyone. I'm new to the boards. I'm not sure if this will post. The first post I made didn't make it through. I'm a male in my mid 30s and live in the northern part of the USA. I have a fiancee and we have been together for 13+ years. We have 2 boys ages 4 and 8. She is my alcoholic, but I grew up with alcoholic...

bud · bud

I was doing ok until this morning when I found out the my daughter's husband and family ganged up on her and bullied her mercilessly until she broke down the night before their wedding. (wedding was last night) This was over the parent's friend who wanted to bring a date. The parents had invited 90% of th...

New Member · Becks

Hello, I am not too sure how this works, first time to Al-Anon and was looking for someone to chat with. I have heard how much this program can help, I am doing this for myself as well as my loved one. I need help to understand what they are going through. Thanks!

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for Tuesday, September 10 speaks about how we tend to use denial in order to survive in the world. The reading points out that we lie to ourselves in order to feel safe and when we begin to get honest using the Al-Anon tools we find honesty is the best way to face life the reading points out t...

bud · bud

This morning I received an email from the corporate business lawyer demanding people come to work or resign within the obligations of their contract. It was sent to everyone. It had threatening tones. Apparently the business owner changed his mind since he sent a farewell and letter and that the bus...

Jen61 · Jen61

I am starting the steps. I am unclear exactly what questions I should be answering for step 1. Some questions I have read are: Do I accept that I am powerless over alcohol and that our lives ad become unmanageable? List 10 things I am powerless of What does powerless mean to meHow can I let go of trying to...

joker · joker

I read the step boards and these words written by another member, shook me to my core: When AGF relapsed I felt the responsibility to be strong for her, to maintain myself like a pillar so that she would have an anchor... I have spent way too much energy and life analyzing THEIR problem. How they should...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the peacefulness that alanon can bring to our lives. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family, and then spending much of her adult life seeking out ways to fill the emotional void that it left on her. She attempted to be the perfect wi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Good morning, I'm not sure why I do this to myself and I'm def the one doing it .. I decided to go and look at my adopted dad's facebook page .. he recently turned 86 I think a few months ago. You know what he's super blessed to be super active .. this is totally who he is and I'm actually glad for him .. he would h...

pixie · pixie

Haven't been on in a long time. Life has been so busy and I'm coming up on some bigger changes. Some will be good but there's bad things that will change....Like my husbands alcoholism. It's going to get worse. He's been on sick leave for almost a month due to a detached retina. But last winter he decided h...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 9/9, focuses on the difficulty the author sometimes had asking for help. They could have difficulty speaking in a meeting. They froze, and were afraid of the unknown consequences of speaking their pain. The author realized though that HP could speak through others, and t...

Overcome · Overcome

MONDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC)Topics: Change, Fear and GriefThe website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org, po...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

What do you all do on days that things are to good? Not much of a problem to bear. I am trying to find ways to make the good days last. But, I know it is not all up to me. My God & I walk hand in hand. He makes the calls I just walk the walk. It can be frustrating when I cannot follow my plan. Just like they say make...

KT2015 · KT2015

Things were going pretty smoothly in my marriage for quite a while. My AH still drinks but he was trying to control it and respecting my boundaries and treating me civilly and I really thought all the chaos was over. Once in a while he might get a little too drunk but he wouldn't get obnoxious or in my fac...

DavidG · DavidG

...I have done the readings for yesterday, today, and tomorrow- in Hope For Today. It is Sunday morning here- and a cooler day in early spring. Readings from Courage To Change- were a big deal for me. Because I was once so numbed and lost my mind- could not absorb the content. I really enjoy sharing on t...

bud · bud

My daughter and her fiancé came home yesterday. Spending quality time with them this way started dissolving my resentments. I felt it as it started to happen and continued grateful for each moment of releasing. I admit I still am processing resentment for the bullying and the bullied, but now its f...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm still working on not reacting to my X's seriously crazy behavior, it was crazy before and he headed off into pre divorce behavior over the past 2 weeks. I'm sure a LOT has to do with my oldest coming out. I'm totally willing to give people a chance to adjust to a new norm. I don't think it's going to wo...

Annie B · Annie B

I have been to Alanon 3 times in person so far, and also seeing a counselor to deal with my husbands addiction issues. He is a binge drinking alcoholic who was long term sober for 3 years up until this year. He saw a counselor for a while and it really helped but at some point he thought he was fine and stopped...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page in Courage to Change focuses on the slogan "How Important Is It?" When we concentrate on a problem or grievance that is bothering us at the moment, we think it is important. But will it still be important next week or next year? Other things could be more important than today's worry: e...

Overcome · Overcome

THURSDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: "Changing the things I can"The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4al...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading discusses Step 7 and the author's experience. When arriving at this step, the writer identified an extensive list of feelings as shortcomings. They humbly asked God to remove their anger, fear and guilt, looking forward to the day when this would happen. Needless to say, the...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's Reading from C2C is about learning to ask for help. The author shares that they, sometimes, when sitting in meetings, don't know how to ask for help. They get stuck inside their pain, and hope that if they don't do anything, the pain will go away. Instead, it grows. The author's fear...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading forTtuesday- 9-3- speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves and then suggests that we embrace the tools of the program so as we can look to ourselves to see exactly what we may be doing that might increase our pain and anxiety By following the basic principles of program we so...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on self care: what it means to us, the importance of it, and how our idea of what it is may change as we practice recovery in the program. The sentence that stands out to me from this page is: The more I work my program, the more I come to understand that I am re...

bud · bud

Oh boy, when it rains it pours. I had finished paying the final payments for the wedding this morning and this evening I heard that the state shut down the place of business where I work. I don't yet know why. I will not be receiving my paycheck from the past few weeks for work completed. I did not hear word f...

Lyne · Lyne

For the Monday reading, 9/2, the writer reflects upon Step 1-thinking about it and feeling about it too. The feeling about it is described in one word: grief. The author has memories of the damage done to family, friends, and themself. And there are many lost years grappling with the disease. Rem...

Overcome · Overcome

Monday morning Meeting Topics: God of my understanding, Boundaries and Excuses Come join us in the Al-Anon chat room. Meeting lasts approximately one hour.

JerryF · JerryF

Yes relapse...I was with family untreated from within the center of this disease and against my will what could I expect even attending "newbie meetings" several times a week. I needed the elders' voices along with the voice of my Higher Power and didn't get what I needed...I got insane. I was abl...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65852773/alanon-step-9/

Giantmisha · Giantmisha

I am new. Last week I finally said the words out loud, my husband is an alcoholic. I am so mad at myself and so tired. It's like I'm in shock. Turns out I wasn't overreacting all those times and I wasn't being dramatic. The drinking really was getting out of hand. And lately the frequency has increase...

Hta7911 · Hta7911

My husband and i have been married 15 years this year. We're 34 &36. He has been drinking since he was a teenager and vodka daily since 2006. Over the past couple of years he drinks a half of 1.75 liters every night. I have no one to talk to because we live in a small town and he's a cop. He use to be fun and sp...

Txbabe1964 · Txbabe1964

Hi, I am txbabe1964. I am new here and just lost. I have a great husband. For 32 years my bf. we had to start raising 4 grandkids 6 years ago. Do to our daughter having ptsd and getting on drugs from it. I lost my mom out of the blue, and so goes our life. Because of this, according to him, he now drinks Every nigh...

El · El

Hi MIP! OK....I could use some ESH on this topic. My brother and his live in girlfriend (who I have only met once) are coming in next weekend for our mother's birthday. In the past he has stayed with us most visits....occasionally staying in a hotel so he could work remotely more easily from a business...

Fedora · Fedora

This has been a "half step forward, three steps back" week for me. Started out feeling pretty solid in my desire to stay focused on ME. Even made some peace with myself that all the money I poured into saving our house from foreclosure is gone, and, in my effort to "save us", have ensured that we are on even...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's reading was complaining about a situation, and their sponsor suggested -- instead of a gratitude list -- that they list all the things they were UNhappy about. Later, when the author was having a good day, the sponsor suggested writing a gratitude list. It turned out that the t...

txsunshine · txsunshine

Summary: My 24yo stepson has been an addict since he was 15. He's lived with his Mom until the past year where she tricked him into coming to our state, and then told us he can't come back to her. We agreed to let him stay with us and get clean. He continued to use and my husband pretty much turned a blind e...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Thursday! Today's reading from C2C is about Step 8. The author had a long standing issue with guilt for words and actions against others and was able to release herself from the guilt through Step 8. Step 8 suggests we make a list of all people we have harmed and become willing to make amends to th...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

This morning I sat here drinking my coffee like I always do.I was listening to the police scanner,checking the arrest reports online,seeing when certain people were last on messenger or made FB posts.And I also checked the court websites to see if they have any new charges or court dates. That's bee...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, I was talking "furlough" but needed up with 'tour of duty'. Hard to explain why I do this... I took my holiday time- three weeks before and chose to get out there. I can sing old Methodist hymns in Fijian... old family connections. I spent two weeks with Melanesian subsistence farme...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about sponsorship and re-developing self-worth. The author shares that they had never dared to trust anyone the way they trusted their first Al-Anon sponsor. The author felt like a mess, unworthy of saving. When they asked, the author was surprised that their n...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how some of us who grew up with alcoholism learned to care for ourselves, but at the expense of our scope of awareness. In order to care for ourselves, we limited our awareness to the immediate and what was in front of us. The writer describes how coming in...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

You know I'm so grateful for this program and all that it offers. I have been caught in a terrible spin since Sunday pretty much although I slowed down yesterday and have slowed down further today. I am grateful. I am grateful that while I still spin I know when my thoughts are whirling what I can and ca...

jitsuka · jitsuka

Posted on the hope to change aug 25tg, on holiday, feeling trapped, lonely and starting to feel rage. Had real visceral images of absolutely smashing and trashing the house, the car, with a crowbar. I'm sat by the pool practising my mental steps and trying to calm the churn that is my mind. I'v...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today 8- 27 speaks about attending our first Al-Anon meeting. It points out that many are disappointed that they are not given a do's and don't list BUT instead are handed the steps and traditions and asked to believe in the concept of a higher power.The suggestion asks that w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Things are finally calming down. My last post was awhile ago because I didn't want to temp fate. My former MSW was in a car accident that killed his son & left him pretty banged up. So, the thing is that I cried the Friday after it happened & was sure that he wouldn't make it. He seems to be doing OK. I...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism have experienced shame and guilt. Shame being more about our inner selves (thoughts and feelings) and guilt having to do with our outer selves (words and actions). This page not only acknowledges how com...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for today discusses how we could not have known what was happening. Denial is a major symptom of this disease, and one possibility is to just blame the A. We invent ways to survive the constant crises, broken promises, lost hopes, and embarrassments. Sometimes we deny the unpleasant,...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Greetings all. Today's reading in courage is about what motivates our choices and our discovery process of authenticity in recovery. The writer comes to understand that fear ruled their life - Fear of saying No, Fear of showing hurt/anger, fear of being confused - and more - all held deep inside wh...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So my XAH will not email me back, I literally sent one line about Follow up - Can I get an update, surgeries, child support and so on. Thanks. What I wanted to say was a whole different issue .. LOL. I have a very sneaking suspicion that the whole coming out discussion was not what my son shared .. he's ve...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about sponsorship. The author finds joy and recovery in being a sponsor. It is a privilege to hear what a sponsee shares and to see their growth, which is a reminder of the author's progress too. The sponsee's difficulties also provide an opportunity for the sponsor to do some se...

JerryF · JerryF

I did my practice of reading the pages of the day and taking my time with it rather than just scan and run. As I have often been I am impressed with this tool of recovery in my life!! I have often felt that we have an army of gifted mentally and spiritually endowed family members right at my elbow to re-enf...

Irene66 · Irene66

Hello, I am new to this forum. I am at a loss. I have an adult daughter who drinks nearly daily and doesnt stop until she passes out every time. This has been going on for years and the past year she physically gets sick from drinking, but that doesnt make her stop. Ive helped her financially, emotionally,...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's Reading in Today's Hope is about un-abling. The author shares that it is not helping their child if they do things for him or her that he or she can and should do for themself. By diminishing expectations for the child, the author is diminishing the child's capabilities. Un-ablin...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So .. it's been determined that my X is still in crazy land and keeps sending that train to come pick me up .. I'm very grateful for this program that I do not have to pick up the rope. I'm not sad to have missed the train, it places in me in a very weird position of observer to this. There are so many dynamics t...

bud · bud

HA! Who knew that I would need a tool kit for my daughter's wedding in a few weeks! It has been a year of "stuff" from her future in-laws that she tried so hard to dump on me. It has been a year of growth for me and quite a bit of growing pains as I bloom more into my authenticity. ... as I say "no" if something do...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today 8- 20 speaks about minding our own business and keeping the focus on ourselves. It talks about a member whose hubby joined AA who then assigned herself the task OF attending meetings with him. The reading suggests that at this point it does seem like a child thinking t...

Lyne · Lyne

My A believes she no longer needs help and that includes our couples' counseling with an addiction-trained therapist. In the past I have insisted her getting help is a condition of our staying together. Today I told her it is her decision. This is huge progress for me, thanks to program. I do not ha...

PinkInk · PinkInk

Hi there, I am obviously new here and to the whole idea of Al-anon. I went to a local group (6 people) just over a year ago and attended one meeting. Decided it wasn't for me as it felt like they were implying my friend (It's complicated) was bad and needed to not be in my life (impossible). I felt uncomforta...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 8/19, talks about not be able to trust the one you love. It caused the author disappointment of broken promises, contradictions, and outright lies. But they began to realize that most of the heartache came from their own refusal to accept reality. The author started learn...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Still tired and still adjusting to what's going on. My youngest went back to school and unfortunately I behaved like a responsible adult and not that it's bad that I did that however he heard no and that didn't go over well. That child hears no and OMG you would think the world would end big time. The bi...

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	New here (Preview) Hey everyone. I'm new to the boards. I'm not sure if this will post. The first post I made didn't make it through. I'm a male in my mid 30s and live in the northern part of the USA. I have a fiancee and we have been together for 13+ years. We have 2 boys ages 4 and 8. She is my alcoholic, but I grew up with alcoholic...	HappyToe	13	1224	Sep 11, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Is this on my side of the street? (Preview) I was doing ok until this morning when I found out the my daughter's husband and family ganged up on her and bullied her mercilessly until she broke down the night before their wedding. (wedding was last night) This was over the parent's friend who wanted to bring a date. The parents had invited 90% of th...	bud	11	5366	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	New Member (Preview) Hello, I am not too sure how this works, first time to Al-Anon and was looking for someone to chat with. I have heard how much this program can help, I am doing this for myself as well as my loved one. I need help to understand what they are going through. Thanks!	Becks	8	3342	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	C2C Reading 9=10 (Preview) The C2C reading for Tuesday, September 10 speaks about how we tend to use denial in order to survive in the world. The reading points out that we lie to ourselves in order to feel safe and when we begin to get honest using the Al-Anon tools we find honesty is the best way to face life the reading points out t...	hotrod	7	5937	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	held hostage at work– support please (Preview) This morning I received an email from the corporate business lawyer demanding people come to work or resign within the obligations of their contract. It was sent to everyone. It had threatening tones. Apparently the business owner changed his mind since he sent a farewell and letter and that the bus...	bud	27	13672	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	Step 1 (Preview) I am starting the steps. I am unclear exactly what questions I should be answering for step 1. Some questions I have read are: Do I accept that I am powerless over alcohol and that our lives ad become unmanageable? List 10 things I am powerless of What does powerless mean to meHow can I let go of trying to...	Jen61	10	1953	Sep 10, 2019 by bud
	STEP 1 (Preview) I read the step boards and these words written by another member, shook me to my core: When AGF relapsed I felt the responsibility to be strong for her, to maintain myself like a pillar so that she would have an anchor... I have spent way too much energy and life analyzing THEIR problem. How they should...	joker	9	916	Sep 10, 2019 by hotrod
	Hope for Today Sept 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the peacefulness that alanon can bring to our lives. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family, and then spending much of her adult life seeking out ways to fill the emotional void that it left on her. She attempted to be the perfect wi...	yanksfan51	6	3021	Sep 9, 2019 by mamalioness
	Lightening bolts galore .. (Preview) Good morning, I'm not sure why I do this to myself and I'm def the one doing it .. I decided to go and look at my adopted dad's facebook page .. he recently turned 86 I think a few months ago. You know what he's super blessed to be super active .. this is totally who he is and I'm actually glad for him .. he would h...	SerenityRUS	9	3298	Sep 9, 2019 by Bo
	changes (Preview) Haven't been on in a long time. Life has been so busy and I'm coming up on some bigger changes. Some will be good but there's bad things that will change....Like my husbands alcoholism. It's going to get worse. He's been on sick leave for almost a month due to a detached retina. But last winter he decided h...	pixie	6	3485	Sep 9, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C, 9/9 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 9/9, focuses on the difficulty the author sometimes had asking for help. They could have difficulty speaking in a meeting. They froze, and were afraid of the unknown consequences of speaking their pain. The author realized though that HP could speak through others, and t...	Lyne	6	983	Sep 9, 2019 by Iamhere
	Monday Morning Meeting starting NOW (Preview) MONDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC)Topics: Change, Fear and GriefThe website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org, po...	Overcome	0	633	Sep 9, 2019 by Overcome
	what do you do when things are too mellow? (Preview) What do you all do on days that things are to good? Not much of a problem to bear. I am trying to find ways to make the good days last. But, I know it is not all up to me. My God & I walk hand in hand. He makes the calls I just walk the walk. It can be frustrating when I cannot follow my plan. Just like they say make...	Hoot Nanny	8	2149	Sep 9, 2019 by Aloha
	Just when I think I don't need a program I get reminders of how much I do (Preview) Things were going pretty smoothly in my marriage for quite a while. My AH still drinks but he was trying to control it and respecting my boundaries and treating me civilly and I really thought all the chaos was over. Once in a while he might get a little too drunk but he wouldn't get obnoxious or in my fac...	KT2015	8	473	Sep 8, 2019 by Maresie888
	Step 12... (Preview) ...I have done the readings for yesterday, today, and tomorrow- in Hope For Today. It is Sunday morning here- and a cooler day in early spring. Readings from Courage To Change- were a big deal for me. Because I was once so numbed and lost my mind- could not absorb the content. I really enjoy sharing on t...	DavidG	5	506	Sep 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Processing resentment :-) (Preview) My daughter and her fiancé came home yesterday. Spending quality time with them this way started dissolving my resentments. I felt it as it started to happen and continued grateful for each moment of releasing. I admit I still am processing resentment for the bullying and the bullied, but now its f...	bud	17	3422	Sep 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Crazy talk .. (Preview) I'm still working on not reacting to my X's seriously crazy behavior, it was crazy before and he headed off into pre divorce behavior over the past 2 weeks. I'm sure a LOT has to do with my oldest coming out. I'm totally willing to give people a chance to adjust to a new norm. I don't think it's going to wo...	SerenityRUS	8	571	Sep 7, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Confused wondering if I did the right thing... (Preview) I have been to Alanon 3 times in person so far, and also seeing a counselor to deal with my husbands addiction issues. He is a binge drinking alcoholic who was long term sober for 3 years up until this year. He saw a counselor for a while and it really helped but at some point he thought he was fine and stopped...	Annie B	7	3460	Sep 7, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, Sept 6 - How Important Is It? (Preview) Today's page in Courage to Change focuses on the slogan "How Important Is It?" When we concentrate on a problem or grievance that is bothering us at the moment, we think it is important. But will it still be important next week or next year? Other things could be more important than today's worry: e...	Freetime	5	415	Sep 6, 2019 by Maresie888
	THURSDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING (Preview) THURSDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: "Changing the things I can"The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4al...	Overcome	1	312	Sep 6, 2019 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 9/5 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading discusses Step 7 and the author's experience. When arriving at this step, the writer identified an extensive list of feelings as shortcomings. They humbly asked God to remove their anger, fear and guilt, looking forward to the day when this would happen. Needless to say, the...	Iamhere	3	1800	Sep 5, 2019 by Lyne
	Courage to Change Sept. 4 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's Reading from C2C is about learning to ask for help. The author shares that they, sometimes, when sitting in meetings, don't know how to ask for help. They get stuck inside their pain, and hope that if they don't do anything, the pain will go away. Instead, it grows. The author's fear...	Skorpi	5	1046	Sep 5, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT reading 9-3 (Preview) The ODAT reading forTtuesday- 9-3- speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves and then suggests that we embrace the tools of the program so as we can look to ourselves to see exactly what we may be doing that might increase our pain and anxiety By following the basic principles of program we so...	hotrod	6	1587	Sep 3, 2019 by bud
	Hope for Today Sept1 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on self care: what it means to us, the importance of it, and how our idea of what it is may change as we practice recovery in the program. The sentence that stands out to me from this page is: The more I work my program, the more I come to understand that I am re...	yanksfan51	6	764	Sep 3, 2019 by DavidG
	when it rains... it pours... lost my job (Preview) Oh boy, when it rains it pours. I had finished paying the final payments for the wedding this morning and this evening I heard that the state shut down the place of business where I work. I don't yet know why. I will not be receiving my paycheck from the past few weeks for work completed. I did not hear word f...	bud	33	1209	Sep 2, 2019 by Maresie888
	C2C, 9/2 (Preview) For the Monday reading, 9/2, the writer reflects upon Step 1-thinking about it and feeling about it too. The feeling about it is described in one word: grief. The author has memories of the damage done to family, friends, and themself. And there are many lost years grappling with the disease. Rem...	Lyne	5	2081	Sep 2, 2019 by Iamhere
	Monday morning Meeting (Preview) Monday morning Meeting Topics: God of my understanding, Boundaries and Excuses Come join us in the Al-Anon chat room. Meeting lasts approximately one hour.	Overcome	0	3518	Sep 2, 2019 by Overcome
	Relapse!! Don't ever doubt (Preview) Yes relapse...I was with family untreated from within the center of this disease and against my will what could I expect even attending "newbie meetings" several times a week. I needed the elders' voices along with the voice of my Higher Power and didn't get what I needed...I got insane. I was abl...	JerryF	13	3918	Sep 1, 2019 by Maresie888
	Step 9 (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65852773/alanon-step-9/	hotrod	1	2164	Aug 31, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Just need to say it (Preview) I am new. Last week I finally said the words out loud, my husband is an alcoholic. I am so mad at myself and so tired. It's like I'm in shock. Turns out I wasn't overreacting all those times and I wasn't being dramatic. The drinking really was getting out of hand. And lately the frequency has increase...	Giantmisha	8	4089	Aug 31, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Newbie. Need advice (Preview) My husband and i have been married 15 years this year. We're 34 &36. He has been drinking since he was a teenager and vodka daily since 2006. Over the past couple of years he drinks a half of 1.75 liters every night. I have no one to talk to because we live in a small town and he's a cop. He use to be fun and sp...	Hta7911	9	4866	Aug 31, 2019 by hotrod
	I am new...embarrassed, and lost. (Preview) Hi, I am txbabe1964. I am new here and just lost. I have a great husband. For 32 years my bf. we had to start raising 4 grandkids 6 years ago. Do to our daughter having ptsd and getting on drugs from it. I lost my mom out of the blue, and so goes our life. Because of this, according to him, he now drinks Every nigh...	Txbabe1964	8	4916	Aug 31, 2019 by Maresie888
	Overnight company (Preview) Hi MIP! OK....I could use some ESH on this topic. My brother and his live in girlfriend (who I have only met once) are coming in next weekend for our mother's birthday. In the past he has stayed with us most visits....occasionally staying in a hotel so he could work remotely more easily from a business...	El	18	4910	Aug 31, 2019 by Maresie888
	My short term memory about not engaging with an alcoholic needs work (Preview) This has been a "half step forward, three steps back" week for me. Started out feeling pretty solid in my desire to stay focused on ME. Even made some peace with myself that all the money I poured into saving our house from foreclosure is gone, and, in my effort to "save us", have ensured that we are on even...	Fedora	6	2309	Aug 31, 2019 by Maresie888
	C2C - August 30 - Reframing (Preview) The author of today's reading was complaining about a situation, and their sponsor suggested -- instead of a gratitude list -- that they list all the things they were UNhappy about. Later, when the author was having a good day, the sponsor suggested writing a gratitude list. It turned out that the t...	Freetime	6	407	Aug 30, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hello, new, am I on the right track? (Preview) Summary: My 24yo stepson has been an addict since he was 15. He's lived with his Mom until the past year where she tricked him into coming to our state, and then told us he can't come back to her. We agreed to let him stay with us and get clean. He continued to use and my husband pretty much turned a blind e...	txsunshine	2	2117	Aug 29, 2019 by canadianguy
	Courage to Change 8/29 (Preview) Happy Thursday! Today's reading from C2C is about Step 8. The author had a long standing issue with guilt for words and actions against others and was able to release herself from the guilt through Step 8. Step 8 suggests we make a list of all people we have harmed and become willing to make amends to th...	Iamhere	1	439	Aug 29, 2019 by hotrod
	My Morning Routine Ruins My Day (Preview) This morning I sat here drinking my coffee like I always do.I was listening to the police scanner,checking the arrest reports online,seeing when certain people were last on messenger or made FB posts.And I also checked the court websites to see if they have any new charges or court dates. That's bee...	SunnyFrogs	20	4588	Aug 29, 2019 by Iamhere
	Step 12- taking the message to the world... (Preview) Hi y'all, I was talking "furlough" but needed up with 'tour of duty'. Hard to explain why I do this... I took my holiday time- three weeks before and chose to get out there. I can sing old Methodist hymns in Fijian... old family connections. I spent two weeks with Melanesian subsistence farme...	DavidG	2	400	Aug 29, 2019 by Lyne
	Courage to Change August 28 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about sponsorship and re-developing self-worth. The author shares that they had never dared to trust anyone the way they trusted their first Al-Anon sponsor. The author felt like a mess, unworthy of saving. When they asked, the author was surprised that their n...	Skorpi	4	1658	Aug 29, 2019 by hotrod
	Hope for Today Aug 25 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how some of us who grew up with alcoholism learned to care for ourselves, but at the expense of our scope of awareness. In order to care for ourselves, we limited our awareness to the immediate and what was in front of us. The writer describes how coming in...	yanksfan51	11	4093	Aug 29, 2019 by DavidG
	And it continues .. (Preview) You know I'm so grateful for this program and all that it offers. I have been caught in a terrible spin since Sunday pretty much although I slowed down yesterday and have slowed down further today. I am grateful. I am grateful that while I still spin I know when my thoughts are whirling what I can and ca...	SerenityRUS	3	1274	Aug 28, 2019 by andromeda
	Feeling rage (Preview) Posted on the hope to change aug 25tg, on holiday, feeling trapped, lonely and starting to feel rage. Had real visceral images of absolutely smashing and trashing the house, the car, with a crowbar. I'm sat by the pool practising my mental steps and trying to calm the churn that is my mind. I'v...	jitsuka	12	2119	Aug 28, 2019 by jitsuka
	C2 C READING FOR 8-27 (Preview) The C2C reading for today 8- 27 speaks about attending our first Al-Anon meeting. It points out that many are disappointed that they are not given a do's and don't list BUT instead are handed the steps and traditions and asked to believe in the concept of a higher power.The suggestion asks that w...	hotrod	5	6794	Aug 27, 2019 by Iamhere
	things are calming down... (Preview) Things are finally calming down. My last post was awhile ago because I didn't want to temp fate. My former MSW was in a car accident that killed his son & left him pretty banged up. So, the thing is that I cried the Friday after it happened & was sure that he wouldn't make it. He seems to be doing OK. I...	Hoot Nanny	3	3666	Aug 27, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Aug 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism have experienced shame and guilt. Shame being more about our inner selves (thoughts and feelings) and guilt having to do with our outer selves (words and actions). This page not only acknowledges how com...	yanksfan51	4	1902	Aug 27, 2019 by Fedora
	C2C, 8/26 (Preview) The reading for today discusses how we could not have known what was happening. Denial is a major symptom of this disease, and one possibility is to just blame the A. We invent ways to survive the constant crises, broken promises, lost hopes, and embarrassments. Sometimes we deny the unpleasant,...	Lyne	1	3647	Aug 26, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 8/22 (Preview) Greetings all. Today's reading in courage is about what motivates our choices and our discovery process of authenticity in recovery. The writer comes to understand that fear ruled their life - Fear of saying No, Fear of showing hurt/anger, fear of being confused - and more - all held deep inside wh...	Iamhere	6	3458	Aug 24, 2019 by bud
	New direction .. (Preview) So my XAH will not email me back, I literally sent one line about Follow up - Can I get an update, surgeries, child support and so on. Thanks. What I wanted to say was a whole different issue .. LOL. I have a very sneaking suspicion that the whole coming out discussion was not what my son shared .. he's ve...	SerenityRUS	2	3156	Aug 24, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today, August 23 - Sponsorship (Preview) Today's reading is about sponsorship. The author finds joy and recovery in being a sponsor. It is a privilege to hear what a sponsee shares and to see their growth, which is a reminder of the author's progress too. The sponsee's difficulties also provide an opportunity for the sponsor to do some se...	Freetime	4	2282	Aug 23, 2019 by hotrod
	The power of our literature (Preview) I did my practice of reading the pages of the day and taking my time with it rather than just scan and run. As I have often been I am impressed with this tool of recovery in my life!! I have often felt that we have an army of gifted mentally and spiritually endowed family members right at my elbow to re-enf...	JerryF	2	2233	Aug 22, 2019 by bud
	Newbie Here - Adult Child Alcoholic (Preview) Hello, I am new to this forum. I am at a loss. I have an adult daughter who drinks nearly daily and doesnt stop until she passes out every time. This has been going on for years and the past year she physically gets sick from drinking, but that doesnt make her stop. Ive helped her financially, emotionally,...	Irene66	3	1692	Aug 22, 2019 by canadianguy
	Today's Hope August 21 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's Reading in Today's Hope is about un-abling. The author shares that it is not helping their child if they do things for him or her that he or she can and should do for themself. By diminishing expectations for the child, the author is diminishing the child's capabilities. Un-ablin...	Skorpi	5	635	Aug 22, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	And more is revealed .. (Preview) So .. it's been determined that my X is still in crazy land and keeps sending that train to come pick me up .. I'm very grateful for this program that I do not have to pick up the rope. I'm not sad to have missed the train, it places in me in a very weird position of observer to this. There are so many dynamics t...	SerenityRUS	8	699	Aug 22, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Tools for my daughter's wedding needed (Preview) HA! Who knew that I would need a tool kit for my daughter's wedding in a few weeks! It has been a year of "stuff" from her future in-laws that she tried so hard to dump on me. It has been a year of growth for me and quite a bit of growing pains as I bloom more into my authenticity. ... as I say "no" if something do...	bud	10	4169	Aug 21, 2019 by bud
	ODAT Reading 8-20 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today 8- 20 speaks about minding our own business and keeping the focus on ourselves. It talks about a member whose hubby joined AA who then assigned herself the task OF attending meetings with him. The reading suggests that at this point it does seem like a child thinking t...	hotrod	7	506	Aug 21, 2019 by KT2015
	Good focus, good boundaries (Preview) My A believes she no longer needs help and that includes our couples' counseling with an addiction-trained therapist. In the past I have insisted her getting help is a condition of our staying together. Today I told her it is her decision. This is huge progress for me, thanks to program. I do not ha...	Lyne	8	847	Aug 21, 2019 by KT2015
	Newbie here! (Preview) Hi there, I am obviously new here and to the whole idea of Al-anon. I went to a local group (6 people) just over a year ago and attended one meeting. Decided it wasn't for me as it felt like they were implying my friend (It's complicated) was bad and needed to not be in my life (impossible). I felt uncomforta...	PinkInk	15	4785	Aug 20, 2019 by KT2015
	C2C, 8/19 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 8/19, talks about not be able to trust the one you love. It caused the author disappointment of broken promises, contradictions, and outright lies. But they began to realize that most of the heartache came from their own refusal to accept reality. The author started learn...	Lyne	4	1569	Aug 19, 2019 by Lil99
	Update :) (Preview) Still tired and still adjusting to what's going on. My youngest went back to school and unfortunately I behaved like a responsible adult and not that it's bad that I did that however he heard no and that didn't go over well. That child hears no and OMG you would think the world would end big time. The bi...	SerenityRUS	13	5070	Aug 19, 2019 by SerenityRUS
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