Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 9/23, speaks about the authors character defect of responding in kind-insults with insults, rudeness with rudeness, etc. But they learned they could choose to respond with courtesy, and detach from the negative behavior. They did not have to lower their own standards. T...

Wndrwmn · Wndrwmn

Hope everyone is having a good evening. It has been awhile since I was last on here. A few things have happened, I am facing a dilema. I will have to make a decision. I met a wonderful man who is kind and considerate of me. We started out as friends but have really gotten to know each other better. He wants t...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

So I guess this is going to be a vent-session. This is in regards to my Ex-husband's text that I received at work today. Pertinent back-story: We are on friendly terms. He texts me a lot. As long as he is working his program (as far as I can tell), I don't mind returning texts, sharing funny jokes/stories e...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi Y'all... I have had a love-hate relationship with my higher power... well just surges of anger and old gunk surfacing- and getting in the way of my vision... Sometimes i took down the first word- in the serenity prayer- and made it a direct petition. Sometimes I replace the first word with the wo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning everyone- Todays reading is about recognizing that we may not be comfortable around our own family members. We may find it difficult or even painful to confide in them. We may realize that although we love our family, it might be necessary to limit or completely restrict our time around t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares why they keep coming back to Al-Anon. When the author was new to Al-Anon, they would say "I'm better off now than I was before" I came to the program, I'll keep coming back. When they became frustrated by all the changes they wanted to make in them...

a4l · a4l

But feelings are not facts. I feel like that for this hour. For this evening. Logically I see that this is not so. Realistically I just see more work piling up for me to plow through and I get so overwhelmed at the thought of it. My go to response for many years In the face of overwhelming-ness (lol excuse th...

danyell · danyell

Do all alcoholics lie?? Is this just another one of the typical side effects that come along with it??? The lying is about to make me go crazy. We have been working so hard to rebuild our marriage, rebuild our life and our family. The one thing I ask is for honesty. I am beginning to wonder if he is e...

Lostandscared · Lostandscared

I am to the point of planning on finally going to a meeting tomorrow after work. I have to tell AH something about why Im not going to be home right after work so figure I should tell him what Im doing. Any advice on how to bring it up? Hes not violent so its not that Im scared of him I just dont know how to bring it...

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning, MIP friends! It's still morning where I live. In today's reading, the author says that writing gratitude lists planted a seed -- but did not really improve their negative thinking. Eventually they learned to experience gratitude for little accomplishments they made in everyday l...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is about Step 8. The reading suggests that reviewing our step inventory (4th Step) can help refresh our memories. We can ask ourselves about situations where our defects were present and consider adding names that we've not previously thought of. We can also look at folks on o...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family Just a Note to Let ya's know I'm Still Kicking, Still Sober (8yrs 10 Months, & 16days to be exact :D), and Still Working my Program the Best I Can... One Day at a Time :) Many Wonderful and Not So Wonderful things have happened for me this Year, and Some in the Eyes of Addiction and Some...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is a day where words escape me. I am having some trouble getting the words out. I really need to write to my cousin on this computer but I really don't have a clue what to say to her either. I am not complacent, discouraged or depressed. I just need some time to think things over & access what it is t...

Aloha · Aloha

When I'm getting squirrely I know that it's because I'm starting back down that path of self-will again. Let me preface this with the fact that I don't have any high drama going on in my life. If anything, this is to prove to others than even when you think all your problems are solved - you're not around ac...

hotrod · hotrod

he ODAT reading for Tuesday, September 17 speaks about the importance of working the 12 steps every day regardless of whether we are dealing with alcoholism . The reading suggests that we replace the word alcohol with the name of my problem and move forward it says that we do have power god given t...

Rglaspie · Rglaspie

Hi, my name is Riderck, my experiences are growing up with a mother who was an alcoholic. Any the interactions and experiences I endured during our alcohol-fueled interactions. Has affected how I interact and discipline my children. I am curious to see if others who have similar backgrounds. Are w...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 9/16, looks at how our negative thinking, and expected poor outcomes, may not necessarily come true. In fact, a very persistent feeling is just a feeling, not a prophecy. The author says that a positive outcome is just as likely as a negative one. The author suggests we trus...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Sooo .. lol .. my X does the right thing and pays support it's currently sitting at the distribution center waiting for release .. it's not being released at the moment and no one knows why. The conversations that have taken place make me LOL out loud because it's just so typical of this situation with t...

HappyToe · HappyToe

https://alanon.activeboard.com/t65878307/where-my-story-began/.

HappyToe · HappyToe

So I was gonna try to go in order with my story and try to relay my history with addiction. But me and my fiancee, my ah, are having some strife. A little back story that I plan to elaborate on in a later post is this. Roughly a year ago she decided to separate and leave me and take our kids to our homestate and aw...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power in making amends. The writer describes the feeling when someone else in his/her alanon group has made amends toward him/her. The impression was of the humility and strength it took to offer an amends. The writer then describes how much st...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I feel a little bit of grief but not a lot. I guess his being in AA is not as effective as maybe another death might be more painful. I know that this person was trying to stay as healthy as possible. He was taking walks daily for quite awhile & just had a heart attack while he was walking. He died a week ago...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello everyone! So, our company is in budget cuts and I am in a position where I am not in fear of losing my job. Our department is growing. I am a good networker and in the past 1.5 years I've put feelers out to different departments and have made friends across very different groups at my company. It'...

Freetime · Freetime

The reading for September 13 speaks about making the best use of each moment of the day. With just 24 hours in a day to spend, the author talks about using those hours to grow and improve -- applying tools of the program to what is happening. And, a brand new 24 hours can begin at any moment, which helps wh...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about the three A(s) - Awareness, Acceptance and Action. Often when we have problems or changes in our lives, we experience awareness. Acceptance follows, and then action. We often experience discomfort with new found awareness, and most of us are eager to...

HappyToe · HappyToe

Hello again everyone. I'd like to share part of my story. Fortunately for me, it is not the horror story many people have suffered. Though there are parts that I think are rough but worth expressing. My mother gave birth to me in Ohio. My father was never informed of her pregnancy and that is the extent of...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about working the 4th step. Step 4 is making a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself. The author shares that throughout their step 4 work, they experienced a nagging feeling that they were not doing the 4th step right. With the help of their HP, the auth...

HappyToe · HappyToe

Hey everyone. I'm new to the boards. I'm not sure if this will post. The first post I made didn't make it through. I'm a male in my mid 30s and live in the northern part of the USA. I have a fiancee and we have been together for 13+ years. We have 2 boys ages 4 and 8. She is my alcoholic, but I grew up with alcoholic...

bud · bud

I was doing ok until this morning when I found out the my daughter's husband and family ganged up on her and bullied her mercilessly until she broke down the night before their wedding. (wedding was last night) This was over the parent's friend who wanted to bring a date. The parents had invited 90% of th...

New Member · Becks

Hello, I am not too sure how this works, first time to Al-Anon and was looking for someone to chat with. I have heard how much this program can help, I am doing this for myself as well as my loved one. I need help to understand what they are going through. Thanks!

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for Tuesday, September 10 speaks about how we tend to use denial in order to survive in the world. The reading points out that we lie to ourselves in order to feel safe and when we begin to get honest using the Al-Anon tools we find honesty is the best way to face life the reading points out t...

bud · bud

This morning I received an email from the corporate business lawyer demanding people come to work or resign within the obligations of their contract. It was sent to everyone. It had threatening tones. Apparently the business owner changed his mind since he sent a farewell and letter and that the bus...

Jen61 · Jen61

I am starting the steps. I am unclear exactly what questions I should be answering for step 1. Some questions I have read are: Do I accept that I am powerless over alcohol and that our lives ad become unmanageable? List 10 things I am powerless of What does powerless mean to meHow can I let go of trying to...

joker · joker

I read the step boards and these words written by another member, shook me to my core: When AGF relapsed I felt the responsibility to be strong for her, to maintain myself like a pillar so that she would have an anchor... I have spent way too much energy and life analyzing THEIR problem. How they should...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the peacefulness that alanon can bring to our lives. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family, and then spending much of her adult life seeking out ways to fill the emotional void that it left on her. She attempted to be the perfect wi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Good morning, I'm not sure why I do this to myself and I'm def the one doing it .. I decided to go and look at my adopted dad's facebook page .. he recently turned 86 I think a few months ago. You know what he's super blessed to be super active .. this is totally who he is and I'm actually glad for him .. he would h...

pixie · pixie

Haven't been on in a long time. Life has been so busy and I'm coming up on some bigger changes. Some will be good but there's bad things that will change....Like my husbands alcoholism. It's going to get worse. He's been on sick leave for almost a month due to a detached retina. But last winter he decided h...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 9/9, focuses on the difficulty the author sometimes had asking for help. They could have difficulty speaking in a meeting. They froze, and were afraid of the unknown consequences of speaking their pain. The author realized though that HP could speak through others, and t...

Overcome · Overcome

MONDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC)Topics: Change, Fear and GriefThe website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org, po...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

What do you all do on days that things are to good? Not much of a problem to bear. I am trying to find ways to make the good days last. But, I know it is not all up to me. My God & I walk hand in hand. He makes the calls I just walk the walk. It can be frustrating when I cannot follow my plan. Just like they say make...

KT2015 · KT2015

Things were going pretty smoothly in my marriage for quite a while. My AH still drinks but he was trying to control it and respecting my boundaries and treating me civilly and I really thought all the chaos was over. Once in a while he might get a little too drunk but he wouldn't get obnoxious or in my fac...

DavidG · DavidG

...I have done the readings for yesterday, today, and tomorrow- in Hope For Today. It is Sunday morning here- and a cooler day in early spring. Readings from Courage To Change- were a big deal for me. Because I was once so numbed and lost my mind- could not absorb the content. I really enjoy sharing on t...

bud · bud

My daughter and her fiancé came home yesterday. Spending quality time with them this way started dissolving my resentments. I felt it as it started to happen and continued grateful for each moment of releasing. I admit I still am processing resentment for the bullying and the bullied, but now its f...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm still working on not reacting to my X's seriously crazy behavior, it was crazy before and he headed off into pre divorce behavior over the past 2 weeks. I'm sure a LOT has to do with my oldest coming out. I'm totally willing to give people a chance to adjust to a new norm. I don't think it's going to wo...

Annie B · Annie B

I have been to Alanon 3 times in person so far, and also seeing a counselor to deal with my husbands addiction issues. He is a binge drinking alcoholic who was long term sober for 3 years up until this year. He saw a counselor for a while and it really helped but at some point he thought he was fine and stopped...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page in Courage to Change focuses on the slogan "How Important Is It?" When we concentrate on a problem or grievance that is bothering us at the moment, we think it is important. But will it still be important next week or next year? Other things could be more important than today's worry: e...

Overcome · Overcome

THURSDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: "Changing the things I can"The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4al...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading discusses Step 7 and the author's experience. When arriving at this step, the writer identified an extensive list of feelings as shortcomings. They humbly asked God to remove their anger, fear and guilt, looking forward to the day when this would happen. Needless to say, the...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's Reading from C2C is about learning to ask for help. The author shares that they, sometimes, when sitting in meetings, don't know how to ask for help. They get stuck inside their pain, and hope that if they don't do anything, the pain will go away. Instead, it grows. The author's fear...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading forTtuesday- 9-3- speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves and then suggests that we embrace the tools of the program so as we can look to ourselves to see exactly what we may be doing that might increase our pain and anxiety By following the basic principles of program we so...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on self care: what it means to us, the importance of it, and how our idea of what it is may change as we practice recovery in the program. The sentence that stands out to me from this page is: The more I work my program, the more I come to understand that I am re...

bud · bud

Oh boy, when it rains it pours. I had finished paying the final payments for the wedding this morning and this evening I heard that the state shut down the place of business where I work. I don't yet know why. I will not be receiving my paycheck from the past few weeks for work completed. I did not hear word f...

Lyne · Lyne

For the Monday reading, 9/2, the writer reflects upon Step 1-thinking about it and feeling about it too. The feeling about it is described in one word: grief. The author has memories of the damage done to family, friends, and themself. And there are many lost years grappling with the disease. Rem...

Overcome · Overcome

Monday morning Meeting Topics: God of my understanding, Boundaries and Excuses Come join us in the Al-Anon chat room. Meeting lasts approximately one hour.

JerryF · JerryF

Yes relapse...I was with family untreated from within the center of this disease and against my will what could I expect even attending "newbie meetings" several times a week. I needed the elders' voices along with the voice of my Higher Power and didn't get what I needed...I got insane. I was abl...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65852773/alanon-step-9/

Giantmisha · Giantmisha

I am new. Last week I finally said the words out loud, my husband is an alcoholic. I am so mad at myself and so tired. It's like I'm in shock. Turns out I wasn't overreacting all those times and I wasn't being dramatic. The drinking really was getting out of hand. And lately the frequency has increase...

Hta7911 · Hta7911

My husband and i have been married 15 years this year. We're 34 &36. He has been drinking since he was a teenager and vodka daily since 2006. Over the past couple of years he drinks a half of 1.75 liters every night. I have no one to talk to because we live in a small town and he's a cop. He use to be fun and sp...

Txbabe1964 · Txbabe1964

Hi, I am txbabe1964. I am new here and just lost. I have a great husband. For 32 years my bf. we had to start raising 4 grandkids 6 years ago. Do to our daughter having ptsd and getting on drugs from it. I lost my mom out of the blue, and so goes our life. Because of this, according to him, he now drinks Every nigh...

El · El

Hi MIP! OK....I could use some ESH on this topic. My brother and his live in girlfriend (who I have only met once) are coming in next weekend for our mother's birthday. In the past he has stayed with us most visits....occasionally staying in a hotel so he could work remotely more easily from a business...

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	C2C, 9/23 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 9/23, speaks about the authors character defect of responding in kind-insults with insults, rudeness with rudeness, etc. But they learned they could choose to respond with courtesy, and detach from the negative behavior. They did not have to lower their own standards. T...	Lyne	3	2349	Sep 23, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Decisions... (Preview) Hope everyone is having a good evening. It has been awhile since I was last on here. A few things have happened, I am facing a dilema. I will have to make a decision. I met a wonderful man who is kind and considerate of me. We started out as friends but have really gotten to know each other better. He wants t...	Wndrwmn	10	4951	Sep 23, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Had my serenity shattered today, need the calm of MIP! ( 1 2 ) (Preview) So I guess this is going to be a vent-session. This is in regards to my Ex-husband's text that I received at work today. Pertinent back-story: We are on friendly terms. He texts me a lot. As long as he is working his program (as far as I can tell), I don't mind returning texts, sharing funny jokes/stories e...	PosiesandPuppies	45	6835	Sep 22, 2019 by Maresie888
	Step 12 to Step One... right round the clock... (Preview) Hi Y'all... I have had a love-hate relationship with my higher power... well just surges of anger and old gunk surfacing- and getting in the way of my vision... Sometimes i took down the first word- in the serenity prayer- and made it a direct petition. Sometimes I replace the first word with the wo...	DavidG	4	2465	Sep 22, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Sept 22 (Preview) Good Morning everyone- Todays reading is about recognizing that we may not be comfortable around our own family members. We may find it difficult or even painful to confide in them. We may realize that although we love our family, it might be necessary to limit or completely restrict our time around t...	yanksfan51	5	527	Sep 22, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change September 18 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares why they keep coming back to Al-Anon. When the author was new to Al-Anon, they would say "I'm better off now than I was before" I came to the program, I'll keep coming back. When they became frustrated by all the changes they wanted to make in them...	Skorpi	7	933	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	Feeling as if everything falls apart (Preview) But feelings are not facts. I feel like that for this hour. For this evening. Logically I see that this is not so. Realistically I just see more work piling up for me to plow through and I get so overwhelmed at the thought of it. My go to response for many years In the face of overwhelming-ness (lol excuse th...	a4l	11	2160	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	How to deal with the lying? (Preview) Do all alcoholics lie?? Is this just another one of the typical side effects that come along with it??? The lying is about to make me go crazy. We have been working so hard to rebuild our marriage, rebuild our life and our family. The one thing I ask is for honesty. I am beginning to wonder if he is e...	danyell	25	12938	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	Telling AH about Meetings (Preview) I am to the point of planning on finally going to a meeting tomorrow after work. I have to tell AH something about why Im not going to be home right after work so figure I should tell him what Im doing. Any advice on how to bring it up? Hes not violent so its not that Im scared of him I just dont know how to bring it...	Lostandscared	11	4488	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	C2C September 20 -- Gratitude (Preview) Good morning, MIP friends! It's still morning where I live. In today's reading, the author says that writing gratitude lists planted a seed -- but did not really improve their negative thinking. Eventually they learned to experience gratitude for little accomplishments they made in everyday l...	Freetime	4	692	Sep 21, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 9/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is about Step 8. The reading suggests that reviewing our step inventory (4th Step) can help refresh our memories. We can ask ourselves about situations where our defects were present and consider adding names that we've not previously thought of. We can also look at folks on o...	Iamhere	5	2505	Sep 21, 2019 by bud
	Hello Family...Back again :) (Preview) Hello MIP Family Just a Note to Let ya's know I'm Still Kicking, Still Sober (8yrs 10 Months, & 16days to be exact :D), and Still Working my Program the Best I Can... One Day at a Time :) Many Wonderful and Not So Wonderful things have happened for me this Year, and Some in the Eyes of Addiction and Some...	Jozie	19	4844	Sep 19, 2019 by mamalioness
	don't know what to say? (Preview) Today is a day where words escape me. I am having some trouble getting the words out. I really need to write to my cousin on this computer but I really don't have a clue what to say to her either. I am not complacent, discouraged or depressed. I just need some time to think things over & access what it is t...	Hoot Nanny	2	2356	Sep 18, 2019 by Lyne
	Getting squirrely (Preview) When I'm getting squirrely I know that it's because I'm starting back down that path of self-will again. Let me preface this with the fact that I don't have any high drama going on in my life. If anything, this is to prove to others than even when you think all your problems are solved - you're not around ac...	Aloha	10	6465	Sep 17, 2019 by Maresie888
	odat READING 9-17 (Preview) he ODAT reading for Tuesday, September 17 speaks about the importance of working the 12 steps every day regardless of whether we are dealing with alcoholism . The reading suggests that we replace the word alcohol with the name of my problem and move forward it says that we do have power god given t...	hotrod	6	812	Sep 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	Parenting Skills (Preview) Hi, my name is Riderck, my experiences are growing up with a mother who was an alcoholic. Any the interactions and experiences I endured during our alcohol-fueled interactions. Has affected how I interact and discipline my children. I am curious to see if others who have similar backgrounds. Are w...	Rglaspie	3	4161	Sep 17, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	C2C, 9/16 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 9/16, looks at how our negative thinking, and expected poor outcomes, may not necessarily come true. In fact, a very persistent feeling is just a feeling, not a prophecy. The author says that a positive outcome is just as likely as a negative one. The author suggests we trus...	Lyne	5	793	Sep 16, 2019 by Iamhere
	Forehead smack (Preview) Sooo .. lol .. my X does the right thing and pays support it's currently sitting at the distribution center waiting for release .. it's not being released at the moment and no one knows why. The conversations that have taken place make me LOL out loud because it's just so typical of this situation with t...	SerenityRUS	13	2395	Sep 16, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	More of my story - Becoming me (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t65878307/where-my-story-began/.	HappyToe	2	6594	Sep 16, 2019 by Maresie888
	Something current. (Preview) So I was gonna try to go in order with my story and try to relay my history with addiction. But me and my fiancee, my ah, are having some strife. A little back story that I plan to elaborate on in a later post is this. Roughly a year ago she decided to separate and leave me and take our kids to our homestate and aw...	HappyToe	6	3081	Sep 16, 2019 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Sept 15 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power in making amends. The writer describes the feeling when someone else in his/her alanon group has made amends toward him/her. The impression was of the humility and strength it took to offer an amends. The writer then describes how much st...	yanksfan51	5	592	Sep 15, 2019 by Iamhere
	when someone in the program dies? (Preview) I feel a little bit of grief but not a lot. I guess his being in AA is not as effective as maybe another death might be more painful. I know that this person was trying to stay as healthy as possible. He was taking walks daily for quite awhile & just had a heart attack while he was walking. He died a week ago...	Hoot Nanny	4	3375	Sep 14, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	CAREER ADVICE (Preview) Hello everyone! So, our company is in budget cuts and I am in a position where I am not in fear of losing my job. Our department is growing. I am a good networker and in the past 1.5 years I've put feelers out to different departments and have made friends across very different groups at my company. It'...	andromeda	19	3279	Sep 14, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change, Friday 9/13 (Preview) The reading for September 13 speaks about making the best use of each moment of the day. With just 24 hours in a day to spend, the author talks about using those hours to grow and improve -- applying tools of the program to what is happening. And, a brand new 24 hours can begin at any moment, which helps wh...	Freetime	5	1263	Sep 13, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 9/12 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about the three A(s) - Awareness, Acceptance and Action. Often when we have problems or changes in our lives, we experience awareness. Acceptance follows, and then action. We often experience discomfort with new found awareness, and most of us are eager to...	Iamhere	5	3438	Sep 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Where my story began (Preview) Hello again everyone. I'd like to share part of my story. Fortunately for me, it is not the horror story many people have suffered. Though there are parts that I think are rough but worth expressing. My mother gave birth to me in Ohio. My father was never informed of her pregnancy and that is the extent of...	HappyToe	10	2241	Sep 11, 2019 by HappyToe
	Courage to Change September 11 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about working the 4th step. Step 4 is making a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself. The author shares that throughout their step 4 work, they experienced a nagging feeling that they were not doing the 4th step right. With the help of their HP, the auth...	Skorpi	2	4072	Sep 11, 2019 by Iamhere
	New here (Preview) Hey everyone. I'm new to the boards. I'm not sure if this will post. The first post I made didn't make it through. I'm a male in my mid 30s and live in the northern part of the USA. I have a fiancee and we have been together for 13+ years. We have 2 boys ages 4 and 8. She is my alcoholic, but I grew up with alcoholic...	HappyToe	13	1330	Sep 11, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Is this on my side of the street? (Preview) I was doing ok until this morning when I found out the my daughter's husband and family ganged up on her and bullied her mercilessly until she broke down the night before their wedding. (wedding was last night) This was over the parent's friend who wanted to bring a date. The parents had invited 90% of th...	bud	11	6258	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	New Member (Preview) Hello, I am not too sure how this works, first time to Al-Anon and was looking for someone to chat with. I have heard how much this program can help, I am doing this for myself as well as my loved one. I need help to understand what they are going through. Thanks!	Becks	8	3906	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	C2C Reading 9=10 (Preview) The C2C reading for Tuesday, September 10 speaks about how we tend to use denial in order to survive in the world. The reading points out that we lie to ourselves in order to feel safe and when we begin to get honest using the Al-Anon tools we find honesty is the best way to face life the reading points out t...	hotrod	7	6964	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	held hostage at work– support please (Preview) This morning I received an email from the corporate business lawyer demanding people come to work or resign within the obligations of their contract. It was sent to everyone. It had threatening tones. Apparently the business owner changed his mind since he sent a farewell and letter and that the bus...	bud	27	15984	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	Step 1 (Preview) I am starting the steps. I am unclear exactly what questions I should be answering for step 1. Some questions I have read are: Do I accept that I am powerless over alcohol and that our lives ad become unmanageable? List 10 things I am powerless of What does powerless mean to meHow can I let go of trying to...	Jen61	10	2059	Sep 10, 2019 by bud
	STEP 1 (Preview) I read the step boards and these words written by another member, shook me to my core: When AGF relapsed I felt the responsibility to be strong for her, to maintain myself like a pillar so that she would have an anchor... I have spent way too much energy and life analyzing THEIR problem. How they should...	joker	9	1022	Sep 10, 2019 by hotrod
	Hope for Today Sept 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the peacefulness that alanon can bring to our lives. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family, and then spending much of her adult life seeking out ways to fill the emotional void that it left on her. She attempted to be the perfect wi...	yanksfan51	6	3611	Sep 9, 2019 by mamalioness
	Lightening bolts galore .. (Preview) Good morning, I'm not sure why I do this to myself and I'm def the one doing it .. I decided to go and look at my adopted dad's facebook page .. he recently turned 86 I think a few months ago. You know what he's super blessed to be super active .. this is totally who he is and I'm actually glad for him .. he would h...	SerenityRUS	9	4021	Sep 9, 2019 by Bo
	changes (Preview) Haven't been on in a long time. Life has been so busy and I'm coming up on some bigger changes. Some will be good but there's bad things that will change....Like my husbands alcoholism. It's going to get worse. He's been on sick leave for almost a month due to a detached retina. But last winter he decided h...	pixie	6	4140	Sep 9, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C, 9/9 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 9/9, focuses on the difficulty the author sometimes had asking for help. They could have difficulty speaking in a meeting. They froze, and were afraid of the unknown consequences of speaking their pain. The author realized though that HP could speak through others, and t...	Lyne	6	1108	Sep 9, 2019 by Iamhere
	Monday Morning Meeting starting NOW (Preview) MONDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC)Topics: Change, Fear and GriefThe website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org, po...	Overcome	0	748	Sep 9, 2019 by Overcome
	what do you do when things are too mellow? (Preview) What do you all do on days that things are to good? Not much of a problem to bear. I am trying to find ways to make the good days last. But, I know it is not all up to me. My God & I walk hand in hand. He makes the calls I just walk the walk. It can be frustrating when I cannot follow my plan. Just like they say make...	Hoot Nanny	8	2546	Sep 9, 2019 by Aloha
	Just when I think I don't need a program I get reminders of how much I do (Preview) Things were going pretty smoothly in my marriage for quite a while. My AH still drinks but he was trying to control it and respecting my boundaries and treating me civilly and I really thought all the chaos was over. Once in a while he might get a little too drunk but he wouldn't get obnoxious or in my fac...	KT2015	8	601	Sep 8, 2019 by Maresie888
	Step 12... (Preview) ...I have done the readings for yesterday, today, and tomorrow- in Hope For Today. It is Sunday morning here- and a cooler day in early spring. Readings from Courage To Change- were a big deal for me. Because I was once so numbed and lost my mind- could not absorb the content. I really enjoy sharing on t...	DavidG	5	615	Sep 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Processing resentment :-) (Preview) My daughter and her fiancé came home yesterday. Spending quality time with them this way started dissolving my resentments. I felt it as it started to happen and continued grateful for each moment of releasing. I admit I still am processing resentment for the bullying and the bullied, but now its f...	bud	17	3945	Sep 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Crazy talk .. (Preview) I'm still working on not reacting to my X's seriously crazy behavior, it was crazy before and he headed off into pre divorce behavior over the past 2 weeks. I'm sure a LOT has to do with my oldest coming out. I'm totally willing to give people a chance to adjust to a new norm. I don't think it's going to wo...	SerenityRUS	8	668	Sep 7, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Confused wondering if I did the right thing... (Preview) I have been to Alanon 3 times in person so far, and also seeing a counselor to deal with my husbands addiction issues. He is a binge drinking alcoholic who was long term sober for 3 years up until this year. He saw a counselor for a while and it really helped but at some point he thought he was fine and stopped...	Annie B	7	4025	Sep 7, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, Sept 6 - How Important Is It? (Preview) Today's page in Courage to Change focuses on the slogan "How Important Is It?" When we concentrate on a problem or grievance that is bothering us at the moment, we think it is important. But will it still be important next week or next year? Other things could be more important than today's worry: e...	Freetime	5	521	Sep 6, 2019 by Maresie888
	THURSDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING (Preview) THURSDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: "Changing the things I can"The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4al...	Overcome	1	406	Sep 6, 2019 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 9/5 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading discusses Step 7 and the author's experience. When arriving at this step, the writer identified an extensive list of feelings as shortcomings. They humbly asked God to remove their anger, fear and guilt, looking forward to the day when this would happen. Needless to say, the...	Iamhere	3	2180	Sep 5, 2019 by Lyne
	Courage to Change Sept. 4 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's Reading from C2C is about learning to ask for help. The author shares that they, sometimes, when sitting in meetings, don't know how to ask for help. They get stuck inside their pain, and hope that if they don't do anything, the pain will go away. Instead, it grows. The author's fear...	Skorpi	5	1171	Sep 5, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT reading 9-3 (Preview) The ODAT reading forTtuesday- 9-3- speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves and then suggests that we embrace the tools of the program so as we can look to ourselves to see exactly what we may be doing that might increase our pain and anxiety By following the basic principles of program we so...	hotrod	6	1699	Sep 3, 2019 by bud
	Hope for Today Sept1 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on self care: what it means to us, the importance of it, and how our idea of what it is may change as we practice recovery in the program. The sentence that stands out to me from this page is: The more I work my program, the more I come to understand that I am re...	yanksfan51	6	863	Sep 3, 2019 by DavidG
	when it rains... it pours... lost my job (Preview) Oh boy, when it rains it pours. I had finished paying the final payments for the wedding this morning and this evening I heard that the state shut down the place of business where I work. I don't yet know why. I will not be receiving my paycheck from the past few weeks for work completed. I did not hear word f...	bud	33	1301	Sep 2, 2019 by Maresie888
	C2C, 9/2 (Preview) For the Monday reading, 9/2, the writer reflects upon Step 1-thinking about it and feeling about it too. The feeling about it is described in one word: grief. The author has memories of the damage done to family, friends, and themself. And there are many lost years grappling with the disease. Rem...	Lyne	5	2508	Sep 2, 2019 by Iamhere
	Monday morning Meeting (Preview) Monday morning Meeting Topics: God of my understanding, Boundaries and Excuses Come join us in the Al-Anon chat room. Meeting lasts approximately one hour.	Overcome	0	4089	Sep 2, 2019 by Overcome
	Relapse!! Don't ever doubt (Preview) Yes relapse...I was with family untreated from within the center of this disease and against my will what could I expect even attending "newbie meetings" several times a week. I needed the elders' voices along with the voice of my Higher Power and didn't get what I needed...I got insane. I was abl...	JerryF	13	4492	Sep 1, 2019 by Maresie888
	Step 9 (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65852773/alanon-step-9/	hotrod	1	2448	Aug 31, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Just need to say it (Preview) I am new. Last week I finally said the words out loud, my husband is an alcoholic. I am so mad at myself and so tired. It's like I'm in shock. Turns out I wasn't overreacting all those times and I wasn't being dramatic. The drinking really was getting out of hand. And lately the frequency has increase...	Giantmisha	8	4657	Aug 31, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Newbie. Need advice (Preview) My husband and i have been married 15 years this year. We're 34 &36. He has been drinking since he was a teenager and vodka daily since 2006. Over the past couple of years he drinks a half of 1.75 liters every night. I have no one to talk to because we live in a small town and he's a cop. He use to be fun and sp...	Hta7911	9	5515	Aug 31, 2019 by hotrod
	I am new...embarrassed, and lost. (Preview) Hi, I am txbabe1964. I am new here and just lost. I have a great husband. For 32 years my bf. we had to start raising 4 grandkids 6 years ago. Do to our daughter having ptsd and getting on drugs from it. I lost my mom out of the blue, and so goes our life. Because of this, according to him, he now drinks Every nigh...	Txbabe1964	8	5600	Aug 31, 2019 by Maresie888
	Overnight company (Preview) Hi MIP! OK....I could use some ESH on this topic. My brother and his live in girlfriend (who I have only met once) are coming in next weekend for our mother's birthday. In the past he has stayed with us most visits....occasionally staying in a hotel so he could work remotely more easily from a business...	El	18	5704	Aug 31, 2019 by Maresie888
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