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Evelyn123 · Evelyn123

I'm new to all of this, and I'm trying to learn. I've always know my AH drank too much and may have a problem, but a month ago, new information came out and there was no denying he was an alcoholic. He admitted this, and is now in a rehab center for the past 2 weeks. I went to my first Al Anon meeting last week, wh...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... ...it is still chilly here- even though it is supposed to be spring. Slept well and deeply last night. I still get tingling in my little fingers- both hands. This was an age old symptom of migraine- tingling in lips and the fingers- and light in my eyes. These days I take a powe...

Temple · Temple

During the ultrasound, suddenly the line came to me: "In the room, the women come and go... Talking of Michaelangelo." T. S. Eliot, The Lovesong of J. Alfred Prufrock Had to share--Laughter is, to me, very therapeutic. In my first Al-Anon meeting, the sweet young thing...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hi Everyone, It's been awhile. I've been reading here mostly. I just wanted to provide an update about the contract job I have. Many of you were so supportive and encouraging. The job is now being offered as a full time job with benefits. I can apply if I'm interested. I worked so hard at this position to c...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

Can you relate to the place you find yourself in recovery when things go pretty well and you feel strong, but that nagging unsettled feeling persists? You do all of the program things, gratitude list, serenity prayer, but thats feeling sits like a monkey on your back? You dont even know what to call it,...

Ann_Y · Ann_Y

I think my AH is nearing the end of his fight with the disease. He has basically given up and nothing will stop him from his self destruction. He was in the hospital for a week and went right back to the bottle as soon as he was home. He is on full tilt. I moved out and refuse to see him when he is drinking. I keep c...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading discusses learning about the disease of alcoholism -- and also cautions us not to let the disease concept lead us into "analysis paralysis." Our own recovery is our focus, and it is wise not to become obsessed with another person's disease. I apologize for such a short summary. I do...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for Wednesday, October 9 speaks about trusting in God. Many times we are at war with Godh not wanting to surrender our will. I know I was. When I entered program and discovered that I needed to trust HP and surrender because i was powerless it took quite some time for me to surrende...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... A gratitude share...? But even more low-key than that. it is Friday morning here. Cool and overcast. Just finding a little space, in the rooms. Which is a bit of a joke- because there is no door, walls, or a roof! I have been to 1000's of meetings... maybe tens of thousands. I re...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about the Serenity Prayer and how we can use it in recovery. The writer describes a winding road on a hillside from childhood. As a child, the writer had fear that the car would swerve too widely, and they would go over the edge. The writer would grab hold of the do...

andromeda · andromeda

My son is starting to sound a lot like his alcoholic father with a defeatist attitude and beating himself up along the way. He's his own worst critic. Nothing I say really makes a difference so I've started to just back away and let him figure things out for himself. He didn't attend college this past...

a4l · a4l

My mother is an alcoholic in denial. And she is old and not in good health. The actual person inside of her was gifted at end of life care which she did professionally and seemed to be called to do by design many times. She has provided exceptional end of life care for three elderly persons in our family and...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today, October 8 speaks of the importance of gratitude. It suggests that often we arrive at the doors ofr Al-Anon angry and fearful. WE lave lost faith in god and often miss his manacles that often touch our lives Alanon welcomed me in and offered constructive tools to live by s...

Lyne · Lyne

Not a happy Sunday for me, but thanks to program Im not insane or codependent either. I also gave up the doormat club which my A hates. Its nothing new, it started last night and carried into this morning. Im stronger and coping better. I feel sad but Im OK too. My A says very hurtful things that at lea...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have found great relief in this fact and it's actually an internal boundary for me at the moment. I do not need to have all the answers. Probably because I don't know as much as I think I do. My knowledge is based upon my experience some areas I have a lot in and some not so much. This is part of the way I pr...

DavidG · DavidG

... This wasn't planned- it just happened. In my home group we had a different chair each week. If we could be picked the chair for the next meeting, from the current meeting. The chair got to pick how the meeting was run. A reading- from the daily reader, a topic, or whatever. If here was a slight change...

DavidG · DavidG

Our kid brother was the typical lost child. He went away overseas, and over time cut all ties. We knew where he was because we searched for him. Last time I tried to make contact within, unsuccessfully. But I did make contact with his landlord and was able to keep tabs on him. 18 months before he passed th...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer on Monday, 10/7, discusses frustration and impatience when change cannot happen quickly. We learn that things cannot happen on the schedule we want. The author says though, that waiting time does not have to be wasted time. Even times of stillness can be a teaching/learning moment....

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about choices that we have in our life. How do we know if we are making the right choice? What if we pick the wrong path? The writer describes a feeling of chaos when he/she goes to an alanon mtg. The group mentions a path outside that will lead to a decided and p...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter has relapsed again, and m so worried about her! I woke up a few minutes ago from a terrible nightmare about her, and had a panic attack. She lives about 2,000 miles away, in a different time zone, and I really want to text to see if she is ok, but don't want her fiancé to intercept. should t...

Freetime · Freetime

In today's ODAT reading, members talk about how they handle blaming and finger-pointing directed at them by someone else. One member does not internalize the harsh words or argue with them, but tries to have compassion when someone is lashing out because of their need to unload their own guilt. Ano...

JerryF · JerryF

Don't know how many times I am going to loose it again...this time was 4 or 5 yet what is important is getting it back right? Last 2 times I messaged one of the very special family members here and wallah!! I got the connection back. Tricky HP...must be making sure I connect with that special sister. ...

Feelinglostanddesperate · Feelinglostanddesperate

Hello All, This is my first time posting. A few years back my family and I found out that my brother was an alcoholic. He is still and always will be an alcoholic, but he is in a very bad state currently. Just about a year ago he and his new wife split up, they sold their home, and he moved in with my parents wit...

texas yankee · texas yankee

Maybe I'm getting old and overly critical, but I'm wondering about a few things I've seen happening lately in a couple of the F2F meetings I go to - thanks in advance for any guidance. 1 - sharing that goes on, and on, and on, and on . . . . - I know sometimes people are burdened and feel the need to unload in a s...

andromeda · andromeda

So, change happens right? UGH.......A few weeks ago my company announced they will be doing layoffs, which were to start last week. I was on vacation last week and was getting all the bad news updates whenever I had cell service. They laid off 600 people. My department is always short staffed so we di...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 1 speaks about the FACT THAT OFTEN WE FIND our thoughts racing through our minds recalling broken promises which simply helps to generate fear and anxiety . We are familiar with this chaos and one that we recognize. it is a single that our lives have become unmanag...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday. The reading today is about compassion and how many of us arrive no entirely certain what it is. By process of elimination, we do know it is NOT: Seeking Revenge, Holding Grudges, Calling Names, Screaming or Throwing Things in Anger. Many of us find that we had r...

Fedora · Fedora

How to you practice detachment when you live in the same house, sleep in the same bed? My spouse is experiencing the effects of his disease (career and property wise) and he started making noises about killing himself. Last night when all this got going, I tried to mentally prepare myself. I couldn't r...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's author reflects on the importance of service work in their own recovery program. The author shares that they find it essential to their recovery to help their Al-Anon home group by accepting various responsibilities needed to keep things running smoothly. One of the benefits o...

Lyne · Lyne

Reading for Monday, 9/30: The writer reflects upon Just for Today, trying something new! The day can be about learning something new about oneself, and whether one fails or succeedssomething can still be learned. You can try changing a behavior pattern or having a different response. This day c...

KT2015 · KT2015

Yesterday I caught myself. I caught myself being "irritable and unreasonable without knowing it". A few years ago my sponsor and I discussed how I know when my life is unmanageable. at that point I identified it's when I am not taking care of myself. Then I added recently when I find myself getting...

Lil99 · Lil99

Hello everyone, At the moment I'm in a bit of a dilemma, so I've been asking for guidance from my Higher Power and praying for his will (not my will). However I'm really struggling to hear the answers, I don't know if I'm just deaf to it or missing the point. How do you know where/when your Higher Power is...

hotrod · hotrod

The O DAT reading for today,September 24 speaks about the importance of using the tools of the program in order to change our thinking. It points out that this is not an easy task indeed nothing is more difficul tin life. AA literature suggests that if we stopped throwing aroind blame . we can take...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I shouldn't say back again; I never really left, I just haven't been sharing, been reading, the equivalent of listening. Nancy and I have been attending a face-to-face meeting once a week, does us a lot of good. Well, it does ME a lot of good, you'd have to ask HER if it's helping her. I'm getting up there i...

Temple · Temple

I never thought I'd have to worry about this. Nothing in the family since 3 generations back. But then I did have roughly a gazillion chest X-rays last December. Saw a new, really nice doctor yesterday. Hubs had been waiting for 6 months to see him, had an appt. Tuesday and asked if he'd see me (he didn't...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power of our relationship with our Higher Power. Specifically, the writer notes that after realizing he has difficulties in his intimate relationship with his wife, he realizes that what is really missing is his spiritual connection to his hig...

DavidG · DavidG

... Claiming my space- "in the rooms" and claiming my space in the world. In the alcoholic home the boundaries are blurred- and sometimes non-existent. Chaos and crisis... ...and sometimes, calm. I went to my nearest f2f meeting and there was another person there. I reflect- that in this neck of t...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I think things have finally settled down for the most part there are still some things to address and I will .. at least I feel like I'm moving in the right direction .. OMG .. what a nightmare all this has been lately there's obviously some money lesson here and I'm really trying which is super frustratin...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi Y'all... Tradition 5- is about the purpose of Alanon. I needed to look at this this morning and meditate on the meaning. Much Of the time I am content to post and reflect on readings from out three readers. Today I am able to read and think clearly- to absorb the meaning of things. The old me u...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I very near and dear friend's adult child is struggling with addiction and has been for a while. AC at home for now and there is an intervention being staged, don't know how that's going to workout I just pray that my friend is able to let go and let God with the situation and she's willing to accept if h...

Freetime · Freetime

Tomorrow's reading in Courage to Change speaks about physical abuse. Al-Anon recognizes that decisions about staying or leaving relationships are up to the individual. But it also emphasizes our personal responsibility to take care of ourselves and to be honest about our situation. We can be p...

hotrod · hotrod

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Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author shares that they find themselves taking the third step (Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.) over and over again. However, they usually wait until they are overwhelmed before turning the overwhelming pro...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family and Happy Thursday. Today's reading discusses feelings and how our gentle program suggests that feelings are neither good nor bad - they are simply just a part of who we are. The writer believed that anger, resentment, jealousy and fear were 'bad' feelings when first coming...

cmarsh4 · cmarsh4

My husband and I have been married for 30 plus years. He was a highly functional alcoholic for 20 years. He still went to work, he was never physically abusive and was a good father. In the last few years his drinking got worse and worse. I quit wanting to go places with him because he always insisted...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hello hope everyone having a great day! My ah is back to his drinking its been 4 months now and it seams the lies he told 3 years ago he seams to repeat the same lies for his reasonings example: im late because someone didnt come to work on time I would believe it but every day 2 hours late!! Why cant the alcoho...

cfgc1215 · cfgc1215

Hello. I am new here and I am in need of some advice. A quick background: I am 32 and my partner is 28. I met my partner almost 2 years ago, and I didn't know off the bat he was an alcoholic. I come from an entire family of alcoholics, but it is something I just didn't figure out until a few months into our relatio...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I am honored to share this day of birth with Jerry, my brother from another mother! I am humbled to share this day with you and am sending your blessed birthday wishes from my place in this grand world to your island that you love and cherish. Thank you for being part of my chosen recovery family - make it...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 9/23, speaks about the authors character defect of responding in kind-insults with insults, rudeness with rudeness, etc. But they learned they could choose to respond with courtesy, and detach from the negative behavior. They did not have to lower their own standards. T...

Wndrwmn · Wndrwmn

Hope everyone is having a good evening. It has been awhile since I was last on here. A few things have happened, I am facing a dilema. I will have to make a decision. I met a wonderful man who is kind and considerate of me. We started out as friends but have really gotten to know each other better. He wants t...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

So I guess this is going to be a vent-session. This is in regards to my Ex-husband's text that I received at work today. Pertinent back-story: We are on friendly terms. He texts me a lot. As long as he is working his program (as far as I can tell), I don't mind returning texts, sharing funny jokes/stories e...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi Y'all... I have had a love-hate relationship with my higher power... well just surges of anger and old gunk surfacing- and getting in the way of my vision... Sometimes i took down the first word- in the serenity prayer- and made it a direct petition. Sometimes I replace the first word with the wo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning everyone- Todays reading is about recognizing that we may not be comfortable around our own family members. We may find it difficult or even painful to confide in them. We may realize that although we love our family, it might be necessary to limit or completely restrict our time around t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares why they keep coming back to Al-Anon. When the author was new to Al-Anon, they would say "I'm better off now than I was before" I came to the program, I'll keep coming back. When they became frustrated by all the changes they wanted to make in them...

a4l · a4l

But feelings are not facts. I feel like that for this hour. For this evening. Logically I see that this is not so. Realistically I just see more work piling up for me to plow through and I get so overwhelmed at the thought of it. My go to response for many years In the face of overwhelming-ness (lol excuse th...

danyell · danyell

Do all alcoholics lie?? Is this just another one of the typical side effects that come along with it??? The lying is about to make me go crazy. We have been working so hard to rebuild our marriage, rebuild our life and our family. The one thing I ask is for honesty. I am beginning to wonder if he is e...

Lostandscared · Lostandscared

I am to the point of planning on finally going to a meeting tomorrow after work. I have to tell AH something about why Im not going to be home right after work so figure I should tell him what Im doing. Any advice on how to bring it up? Hes not violent so its not that Im scared of him I just dont know how to bring it...

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning, MIP friends! It's still morning where I live. In today's reading, the author says that writing gratitude lists planted a seed -- but did not really improve their negative thinking. Eventually they learned to experience gratitude for little accomplishments they made in everyday l...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is about Step 8. The reading suggests that reviewing our step inventory (4th Step) can help refresh our memories. We can ask ourselves about situations where our defects were present and consider adding names that we've not previously thought of. We can also look at folks on o...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family Just a Note to Let ya's know I'm Still Kicking, Still Sober (8yrs 10 Months, & 16days to be exact :D), and Still Working my Program the Best I Can... One Day at a Time :) Many Wonderful and Not So Wonderful things have happened for me this Year, and Some in the Eyes of Addiction and Some...

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	New to all this... Advice? (Preview) I'm new to all of this, and I'm trying to learn. I've always know my AH drank too much and may have a problem, but a month ago, new information came out and there was no denying he was an alcoholic. He admitted this, and is now in a rehab center for the past 2 weeks. I went to my first Al Anon meeting last week, wh...	Evelyn123	4	2431	Oct 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Saturday morning share... steps 10 and 11... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... ...it is still chilly here- even though it is supposed to be spring. Slept well and deeply last night. I still get tingling in my little fingers- both hands. This was an age old symptom of migraine- tingling in lips and the fingers- and light in my eyes. These days I take a powe...	DavidG	7	3178	Oct 12, 2019 by Temple
	Must have engaged a nerve (Preview) During the ultrasound, suddenly the line came to me: "In the room, the women come and go... Talking of Michaelangelo." T. S. Eliot, The Lovesong of J. Alfred Prufrock Had to share--Laughter is, to me, very therapeutic. In my first Al-Anon meeting, the sweet young thing...	Temple	5	2058	Oct 12, 2019 by Temple
	Update on Job (Preview) Hi Everyone, It's been awhile. I've been reading here mostly. I just wanted to provide an update about the contract job I have. Many of you were so supportive and encouraging. The job is now being offered as a full time job with benefits. I can apply if I'm interested. I worked so hard at this position to c...	tiredtonite	5	2327	Oct 12, 2019 by mamalioness
	Knowing the Need (Preview) Can you relate to the place you find yourself in recovery when things go pretty well and you feel strong, but that nagging unsettled feeling persists? You do all of the program things, gratitude list, serenity prayer, but thats feeling sits like a monkey on your back? You dont even know what to call it,...	sunmustshine	5	4077	Oct 12, 2019 by Maresie888
	Welfare checks? (Preview) I think my AH is nearing the end of his fight with the disease. He has basically given up and nothing will stop him from his self destruction. He was in the hospital for a week and went right back to the bottle as soon as he was home. He is on full tilt. I moved out and refuse to see him when he is drinking. I keep c...	Ann_Y	6	2510	Oct 12, 2019 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change, October 11 (Preview) Today's reading discusses learning about the disease of alcoholism -- and also cautions us not to let the disease concept lead us into "analysis paralysis." Our own recovery is our focus, and it is wise not to become obsessed with another person's disease. I apologize for such a short summary. I do...	Freetime	6	2348	Oct 11, 2019 by El
	C2C Reading 10-9 (Preview) C2C reading for Wednesday, October 9 speaks about trusting in God. Many times we are at war with Godh not wanting to surrender our will. I know I was. When I entered program and discovered that I needed to trust HP and surrender because i was powerless it took quite some time for me to surrende...	hotrod	4	2231	Oct 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	Just a regular share... (Preview) Hi y'all... A gratitude share...? But even more low-key than that. it is Friday morning here. Cool and overcast. Just finding a little space, in the rooms. Which is a bit of a joke- because there is no door, walls, or a roof! I have been to 1000's of meetings... maybe tens of thousands. I re...	DavidG	1	2188	Oct 10, 2019 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 10/10 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about the Serenity Prayer and how we can use it in recovery. The writer describes a winding road on a hillside from childhood. As a child, the writer had fear that the car would swerve too widely, and they would go over the edge. The writer would grab hold of the do...	Iamhere	1	3970	Oct 10, 2019 by Lyne
	My son is directionless (Preview) My son is starting to sound a lot like his alcoholic father with a defeatist attitude and beating himself up along the way. He's his own worst critic. Nothing I say really makes a difference so I've started to just back away and let him figure things out for himself. He didn't attend college this past...	andromeda	15	1270	Oct 9, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Tested by what is indeed testing. (Preview) My mother is an alcoholic in denial. And she is old and not in good health. The actual person inside of her was gifted at end of life care which she did professionally and seemed to be called to do by design many times. She has provided exceptional end of life care for three elderly persons in our family and...	a4l	12	5537	Oct 9, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	C2C 10-8 (Preview) The C2C reading for today, October 8 speaks of the importance of gratitude. It suggests that often we arrive at the doors ofr Al-Anon angry and fearful. WE lave lost faith in god and often miss his manacles that often touch our lives Alanon welcomed me in and offered constructive tools to live by s...	hotrod	9	1832	Oct 8, 2019 by mamalioness
	Rough time with A (Preview) Not a happy Sunday for me, but thanks to program Im not insane or codependent either. I also gave up the doormat club which my A hates. Its nothing new, it started last night and carried into this morning. Im stronger and coping better. I feel sad but Im OK too. My A says very hurtful things that at lea...	Lyne	7	759	Oct 8, 2019 by Maresie888
	I don't have to have all the answers .. (Preview) I have found great relief in this fact and it's actually an internal boundary for me at the moment. I do not need to have all the answers. Probably because I don't know as much as I think I do. My knowledge is based upon my experience some areas I have a lot in and some not so much. This is part of the way I pr...	SerenityRUS	6	845	Oct 8, 2019 by Maresie888
	How we dealt with group conscience, in the good old days... (Preview) ... This wasn't planned- it just happened. In my home group we had a different chair each week. If we could be picked the chair for the next meeting, from the current meeting. The chair got to pick how the meeting was run. A reading- from the daily reader, a topic, or whatever. If here was a slight change...	DavidG	23	6518	Oct 7, 2019 by Bo
	Grief and Closure (Preview) Our kid brother was the typical lost child. He went away overseas, and over time cut all ties. We knew where he was because we searched for him. Last time I tried to make contact within, unsuccessfully. But I did make contact with his landlord and was able to keep tabs on him. 18 months before he passed th...	DavidG	7	612	Oct 7, 2019 by Temple
	C2C, 10/7 (Preview) The writer on Monday, 10/7, discusses frustration and impatience when change cannot happen quickly. We learn that things cannot happen on the schedule we want. The author says though, that waiting time does not have to be wasted time. Even times of stillness can be a teaching/learning moment....	Lyne	5	2115	Oct 7, 2019 by El
	Hope for Today Oct6 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about choices that we have in our life. How do we know if we are making the right choice? What if we pick the wrong path? The writer describes a feeling of chaos when he/she goes to an alanon mtg. The group mentions a path outside that will lead to a decided and p...	yanksfan51	3	727	Oct 6, 2019 by DavidG
	Help!! (Preview) My adult daughter has relapsed again, and m so worried about her! I woke up a few minutes ago from a terrible nightmare about her, and had a panic attack. She lives about 2,000 miles away, in a different time zone, and I really want to text to see if she is ok, but don't want her fiancé to intercept. should t...	Buckeye Girl	3	2261	Oct 5, 2019 by Iamhere
	ODAT, October 4 (Preview) In today's ODAT reading, members talk about how they handle blaming and finger-pointing directed at them by someone else. One member does not internalize the harsh words or argue with them, but tries to have compassion when someone is lashing out because of their need to unload their own guilt. Ano...	Freetime	4	590	Oct 4, 2019 by Iamhere
	I got the connection back Again!! (Preview) Don't know how many times I am going to loose it again...this time was 4 or 5 yet what is important is getting it back right? Last 2 times I messaged one of the very special family members here and wallah!! I got the connection back. Tricky HP...must be making sure I connect with that special sister. ...	JerryF	5	2128	Oct 4, 2019 by JerryF
	How to deal with a very tough and scary situation (Preview) Hello All, This is my first time posting. A few years back my family and I found out that my brother was an alcoholic. He is still and always will be an alcoholic, but he is in a very bad state currently. Just about a year ago he and his new wife split up, they sold their home, and he moved in with my parents wit...	Feelinglostanddesperate	8	2707	Oct 3, 2019 by Bo
	F2F meeting dynamics - outside the bounds of Al Anon? (Preview) Maybe I'm getting old and overly critical, but I'm wondering about a few things I've seen happening lately in a couple of the F2F meetings I go to - thanks in advance for any guidance. 1 - sharing that goes on, and on, and on, and on . . . . - I know sometimes people are burdened and feel the need to unload in a s...	texas yankee	15	2693	Oct 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	UPDATE ON THE JOB (Preview) So, change happens right? UGH.......A few weeks ago my company announced they will be doing layoffs, which were to start last week. I was on vacation last week and was getting all the bad news updates whenever I had cell service. They laid off 600 people. My department is always short staffed so we di...	andromeda	11	6110	Oct 3, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	C2C Reading 10-01 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 1 speaks about the FACT THAT OFTEN WE FIND our thoughts racing through our minds recalling broken promises which simply helps to generate fear and anxiety . We are familiar with this chaos and one that we recognize. it is a single that our lives have become unmanag...	hotrod	4	1841	Oct 3, 2019 by bud
	Courage to Change 10/3 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday. The reading today is about compassion and how many of us arrive no entirely certain what it is. By process of elimination, we do know it is NOT: Seeking Revenge, Holding Grudges, Calling Names, Screaming or Throwing Things in Anger. Many of us find that we had r...	Iamhere	6	488	Oct 3, 2019 by bud
	Detachment when you are in the same house? (Preview) How to you practice detachment when you live in the same house, sleep in the same bed? My spouse is experiencing the effects of his disease (career and property wise) and he started making noises about killing himself. Last night when all this got going, I tried to mentally prepare myself. I couldn't r...	Fedora	20	4089	Oct 2, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to change October 2 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's author reflects on the importance of service work in their own recovery program. The author shares that they find it essential to their recovery to help their Al-Anon home group by accepting various responsibilities needed to keep things running smoothly. One of the benefits o...	Skorpi	2	551	Oct 2, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 9/30 (Preview) Reading for Monday, 9/30: The writer reflects upon Just for Today, trying something new! The day can be about learning something new about oneself, and whether one fails or succeedssomething can still be learned. You can try changing a behavior pattern or having a different response. This day c...	Lyne	4	4731	Oct 1, 2019 by DavidG
	recognizing when my life has become unmanagable (Preview) Yesterday I caught myself. I caught myself being "irritable and unreasonable without knowing it". A few years ago my sponsor and I discussed how I know when my life is unmanageable. at that point I identified it's when I am not taking care of myself. Then I added recently when I find myself getting...	KT2015	5	1058	Oct 1, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Asking for guidance (Preview) Hello everyone, At the moment I'm in a bit of a dilemma, so I've been asking for guidance from my Higher Power and praying for his will (not my will). However I'm really struggling to hear the answers, I don't know if I'm just deaf to it or missing the point. How do you know where/when your Higher Power is...	Lil99	8	3114	Oct 1, 2019 by Lil99
	ODAT 9-24 (Preview) The O DAT reading for today,September 24 speaks about the importance of using the tools of the program in order to change our thinking. It points out that this is not an easy task indeed nothing is more difficul tin life. AA literature suggests that if we stopped throwing aroind blame . we can take...	hotrod	3	1703	Sep 30, 2019 by mamalioness
	Back again.... (Preview) I shouldn't say back again; I never really left, I just haven't been sharing, been reading, the equivalent of listening. Nancy and I have been attending a face-to-face meeting once a week, does us a lot of good. Well, it does ME a lot of good, you'd have to ask HER if it's helping her. I'm getting up there i...	Wolfie55	7	983	Sep 30, 2019 by mamalioness
	Well Rats! (Preview) I never thought I'd have to worry about this. Nothing in the family since 3 generations back. But then I did have roughly a gazillion chest X-rays last December. Saw a new, really nice doctor yesterday. Hubs had been waiting for 6 months to see him, had an appt. Tuesday and asked if he'd see me (he didn't...	Temple	15	5140	Sep 30, 2019 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Sept 29 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power of our relationship with our Higher Power. Specifically, the writer notes that after realizing he has difficulties in his intimate relationship with his wife, he realizes that what is really missing is his spiritual connection to his hig...	yanksfan51	6	900	Sep 30, 2019 by mamalioness
	A table-top step 10... (Preview) ... Claiming my space- "in the rooms" and claiming my space in the world. In the alcoholic home the boundaries are blurred- and sometimes non-existent. Chaos and crisis... ...and sometimes, calm. I went to my nearest f2f meeting and there was another person there. I reflect- that in this neck of t...	DavidG	1	4025	Sep 30, 2019 by hotrod
	Finally settling down .. (Preview) I think things have finally settled down for the most part there are still some things to address and I will .. at least I feel like I'm moving in the right direction .. OMG .. what a nightmare all this has been lately there's obviously some money lesson here and I'm really trying which is super frustratin...	SerenityRUS	9	4831	Sep 30, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Tradition 5... (Preview) Hi Y'all... Tradition 5- is about the purpose of Alanon. I needed to look at this this morning and meditate on the meaning. Much Of the time I am content to post and reflect on readings from out three readers. Today I am able to read and think clearly- to absorb the meaning of things. The old me u...	DavidG	4	3633	Sep 29, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Prayers Please ... (Preview) I very near and dear friend's adult child is struggling with addiction and has been for a while. AC at home for now and there is an intervention being staged, don't know how that's going to workout I just pray that my friend is able to let go and let God with the situation and she's willing to accept if h...	SerenityRUS	13	3791	Sep 28, 2019 by andromeda
	C2C, September 27 - Personal Safety (Preview) Tomorrow's reading in Courage to Change speaks about physical abuse. Al-Anon recognizes that decisions about staying or leaving relationships are up to the individual. But it also emphasizes our personal responsibility to take care of ourselves and to be honest about our situation. We can be p...	Freetime	4	4729	Sep 27, 2019 by Lyne
	Business Board (Preview) https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com/t65922748/group-conscience-on-guidelines-for-posting/	hotrod	0	3626	Sep 26, 2019 by hotrod
	Courage to Change September 25 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author shares that they find themselves taking the third step (Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.) over and over again. However, they usually wait until they are overwhelmed before turning the overwhelming pro...	Skorpi	8	4362	Sep 26, 2019 by bud
	Courage to Change 9/26 (Preview) Good morning MIP family and Happy Thursday. Today's reading discusses feelings and how our gentle program suggests that feelings are neither good nor bad - they are simply just a part of who we are. The writer believed that anger, resentment, jealousy and fear were 'bad' feelings when first coming...	Iamhere	4	1385	Sep 26, 2019 by bud
	It seems I am struggling more with his recovery than the 20 years of addiction (Preview) My husband and I have been married for 30 plus years. He was a highly functional alcoholic for 20 years. He still went to work, he was never physically abusive and was a good father. In the last few years his drinking got worse and worse. I quit wanting to go places with him because he always insisted...	cmarsh4	9	4292	Sep 25, 2019 by Bo
	History repeats (Preview) Hello hope everyone having a great day! My ah is back to his drinking its been 4 months now and it seams the lies he told 3 years ago he seams to repeat the same lies for his reasonings example: im late because someone didnt come to work on time I would believe it but every day 2 hours late!! Why cant the alcoho...	Wisdom67	8	1923	Sep 24, 2019 by Bo
	New here - need advice - partner hiding alcohol (Preview) Hello. I am new here and I am in need of some advice. A quick background: I am 32 and my partner is 28. I met my partner almost 2 years ago, and I didn't know off the bat he was an alcoholic. I come from an entire family of alcoholics, but it is something I just didn't figure out until a few months into our relatio...	cfgc1215	11	1467	Sep 23, 2019 by canadianguy
	Happy Birthday Jerry! (Preview) I am honored to share this day of birth with Jerry, my brother from another mother! I am humbled to share this day with you and am sending your blessed birthday wishes from my place in this grand world to your island that you love and cherish. Thank you for being part of my chosen recovery family - make it...	Iamhere	17	4537	Sep 23, 2019 by canadianguy
	C2C, 9/23 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 9/23, speaks about the authors character defect of responding in kind-insults with insults, rudeness with rudeness, etc. But they learned they could choose to respond with courtesy, and detach from the negative behavior. They did not have to lower their own standards. T...	Lyne	3	2200	Sep 23, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Decisions... (Preview) Hope everyone is having a good evening. It has been awhile since I was last on here. A few things have happened, I am facing a dilema. I will have to make a decision. I met a wonderful man who is kind and considerate of me. We started out as friends but have really gotten to know each other better. He wants t...	Wndrwmn	10	4686	Sep 23, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Had my serenity shattered today, need the calm of MIP! ( 1 2 ) (Preview) So I guess this is going to be a vent-session. This is in regards to my Ex-husband's text that I received at work today. Pertinent back-story: We are on friendly terms. He texts me a lot. As long as he is working his program (as far as I can tell), I don't mind returning texts, sharing funny jokes/stories e...	PosiesandPuppies	45	6450	Sep 22, 2019 by Maresie888
	Step 12 to Step One... right round the clock... (Preview) Hi Y'all... I have had a love-hate relationship with my higher power... well just surges of anger and old gunk surfacing- and getting in the way of my vision... Sometimes i took down the first word- in the serenity prayer- and made it a direct petition. Sometimes I replace the first word with the wo...	DavidG	4	2304	Sep 22, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Sept 22 (Preview) Good Morning everyone- Todays reading is about recognizing that we may not be comfortable around our own family members. We may find it difficult or even painful to confide in them. We may realize that although we love our family, it might be necessary to limit or completely restrict our time around t...	yanksfan51	5	479	Sep 22, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change September 18 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares why they keep coming back to Al-Anon. When the author was new to Al-Anon, they would say "I'm better off now than I was before" I came to the program, I'll keep coming back. When they became frustrated by all the changes they wanted to make in them...	Skorpi	7	879	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	Feeling as if everything falls apart (Preview) But feelings are not facts. I feel like that for this hour. For this evening. Logically I see that this is not so. Realistically I just see more work piling up for me to plow through and I get so overwhelmed at the thought of it. My go to response for many years In the face of overwhelming-ness (lol excuse th...	a4l	11	2025	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	How to deal with the lying? (Preview) Do all alcoholics lie?? Is this just another one of the typical side effects that come along with it??? The lying is about to make me go crazy. We have been working so hard to rebuild our marriage, rebuild our life and our family. The one thing I ask is for honesty. I am beginning to wonder if he is e...	danyell	25	12254	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	Telling AH about Meetings (Preview) I am to the point of planning on finally going to a meeting tomorrow after work. I have to tell AH something about why Im not going to be home right after work so figure I should tell him what Im doing. Any advice on how to bring it up? Hes not violent so its not that Im scared of him I just dont know how to bring it...	Lostandscared	11	4228	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	C2C September 20 -- Gratitude (Preview) Good morning, MIP friends! It's still morning where I live. In today's reading, the author says that writing gratitude lists planted a seed -- but did not really improve their negative thinking. Eventually they learned to experience gratitude for little accomplishments they made in everyday l...	Freetime	4	638	Sep 21, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 9/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is about Step 8. The reading suggests that reviewing our step inventory (4th Step) can help refresh our memories. We can ask ourselves about situations where our defects were present and consider adding names that we've not previously thought of. We can also look at folks on o...	Iamhere	5	2352	Sep 21, 2019 by bud
	Hello Family...Back again :) (Preview) Hello MIP Family Just a Note to Let ya's know I'm Still Kicking, Still Sober (8yrs 10 Months, & 16days to be exact :D), and Still Working my Program the Best I Can... One Day at a Time :) Many Wonderful and Not So Wonderful things have happened for me this Year, and Some in the Eyes of Addiction and Some...	Jozie	19	4586	Sep 19, 2019 by mamalioness
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