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PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I saw this posted on another addiction site, and I thought that it was so profound. For me, this is what my marriage was lacking due to Addiction... not love. I am sorry I cannot credit who said it... "Feelings fade but character, integrity, honor, trust and stability is what we want to teach our childre...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter told me she was being verbally abused by her fiancé, but in fact it was her that has relapsed and is abusing him! She lives 2,000 miles away and as we speak, she is dead drunk and being physically abusive to her boyfriend. I begged him to stay with her so she doesn't hurt herself, but I'm tr...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C Reading for 11/19 speaks about using alanon tools on a daily basis so as to overcome the negative, soul destroying effects of the disease of alcoholism. The reading suggests that life is for our growth both mental and spiritual. So that by having the courage to look closely at ourselve...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I feel that it has a lot to do with boundaries. I did not create my own boundaries, in the beginning- that were made around me. I just reacted and assumed that "this is life". It did not work out and I had to come into Alanon to relearn stuff. I read the phrase: Recove...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Shift almost over. Got a 4-day weekend. Might show my gratitude by going to a meeting tomorrow. I might even bring treats. Cranberry white- chocolate chip cookies oughta do it. The job is getting to me and I haven't been doing it that long. But, how many jobs are there that are like walking into a room ful...

2HP · 2HP

Ive seen a few posts on this topic lately. When I first arrived, "acceptance" was very confusing. For my entire life, I had the habit of outward focus. Al-anon helped me to begin a life of ministering to myself as well. It was not a knee jerk decision for me to leave my alcoholic husband, I stayed fo...

DavidG · DavidG

I suffer from exhaustion. Whenever i get into a dry warm space I tend to fall asleep. Over the years, when doing my step 10, I tended to doze off, rather than to become enlightened. I took it from that- that I needed rest. I spent a lot of energy and time trying to mitigate the alcoholic circumstance in m...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 11/18, talks about step 2 and being restored to sanity. The writer says that a sane way of life includes functioning responsibly and realistically, but also having the willingness to play, to take breaks, to have hobbies, and include humor. Dwelling on troubles allows the...

DavidG · DavidG

I am grateful for the feelings that Alanon gives me. Of love and joy- and family. I did have to wade through anger, fear and grief to get here- because that was not dealt with, in my world, in a healthy way. When I was 15 our english teacher was the vicar's wife. I had a schoolfriend who died that yea...

andromeda · andromeda

Hey everyone, I finally started my new position with the company and, nan, I feel out of place, lol. It's an office of all MEN and it's like an old boys' club. they have their ways and I'm just the new chick on the block, so to speak. i have a lot to learn and I've already had so much thrown at me. I found out...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about our call to service. The writer describes praying for Gods will to make sure that being called to service is truly that, and not a way to avoid, manipulate or control something going on in life. When I read this, I remembered the first time I worked the ste...

JerryF · JerryF

Spent the morning reading and double reading from our literature...blessing tools. They remind me of what it was like, what happened after getting into program and what it is like now while following the guidance. This is where and how I feel blessed for real by our program thru my Higher Power. ...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C Reading for 11/12 speaks about using alanon tools on a daily basis. it suggests that many times we are on automatic and neglect our tool box only to discover we are right in the middle of a conflict. Using the steps, slogans and principles constantly helps to build a useful, fulfilling li...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. The reading today discusses Step Six - where we become entirely ready to have God remove all of our defects of character. The writer suggests the readiness didn't/doesn't come in a sudden, blinding flash of enlightenment but rather a little at a time as positive progress is made i...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's author shares that they read somewhere that the things that are urgent are rarely important and the things that are important are rarely urgent. Our author can get so caught up in nagging, trivial matters of day-to-day life, that they forget to spend time on more important pursui...

Lyne · Lyne

Im attaching myself to step 3 for sanity and help from HP. Yesterday in our couples session with an addiction counselor, my A stated for the 100th time, she will not drink and will not lie. There is no awareness on her part that she has been saying this for 15 years, maybe longer, and that she cannot cont...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's page was easily hurt by other people's anger or negative moods. It helped to realize that the other person's words or tone were really about what was going on inside that person. The author realized that extreme sensitivity was based on the belief that "I am the focus of everyone...

joker · joker

Its been awhile since I posted. I have been reading on line here and my thinking is a bit saner. Reading and being in recovery makes a difference for the better. December will be 2 years since I last seen the abf. It seems like a lifetime ago. When I look back, its a true miracle I was not killed or seriously i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

& I will take them. I am so grateful that no matter what, God I can handle anything. I am so grateful that this is gratitude month where I am from & it certainly doesn't hurt to be grateful. Even if you don't know what gratitude is or where it comes from, I can tell you that I learned to be grateful whe...

Aloha · Aloha

I wanted to share this - I heard a speaker, Tom B. share this little joke at a talk a few days ago. He said his sponsor once informed him that a laurel is something that you wear on your head. So when you're resting (sitting) on your laurels, you essentially have your head up your... ahem. lol I thought that...

amisfitlife · amisfitlife

My boyfriend has been an addict and alcoholic off and on for 14 years. He has had past stints in rehab and stints in jail. He had been clean 9 months this time. For the first time it felt different like he had truly hit rock bottom. Friday evening he went no contact and still has not surfaced. I have been at...

KT2015 · KT2015

Hi There MIP peeps Things had been trucking along pretty well in our household until yesterday. Yesterday my AH was talking about making a bigger purchase for himself and he mentioned using his bonus money for it. About 4 months or so ago we had a bit of upheaval when he asked me to figure out where all...

JerryF · JerryF

And hopefully only a day only. Geez gonna go sit on my HP's lap and just be quiet and still and hopeful. The majority of people around me are upset and pissed and I am powerless. So what do I gotta do? If I am powerless...turn it over and let it go and not do anything to excite while dodging the flying ob...

Lyne · Lyne

The choice of insanity vs sanity is the topic for the reading on Monday, 11/11. Repeating the same behavior over and over and expecting different results is described as an insane way to live. Looking at Step 3, Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him, c...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

What is the purpose of the blue permalink thing in the upper right corner of our posts? Thanks - TT

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the power of......writing! The writer describes how freeing it is to get thoughts down on paper. It is a form of self reflection, a way to get to know ourselves better, a way to vent when things are difficult and celebrate when lifes moments are good. I wo...

Painful · Painful

Am new to this. I've been with my boyfriend for 14 years and we have kids together. When he drinks he becomes a bully to all of us. We try to walk away but he follows us and keeps bring up are flaws. I know we should not argue with him but we get so mad, frustrated and want to hurt him like he is hurting us. It's alw...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading talks about the disease of alcoholism, and that it is classified as a family disease. It affects not only the drinker but those o us who care about him or her as well. The writer suggests that or some of us, our thinking that's been passed down from generations befor...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... I am back from the northern city. Going there was my goal-set for the year- present for myself. This time i did not isolate- but stayed with friends- in a warm comfortable space. One of my long term goals is to be part of a process- that places ACA D-F in a comfortable spot- between Alanon, AA...

kalotaxidi · kalotaxidi

This past year has been a whirlwind with my pregnancy causing my husband to go off the deep end, a new baby, 3 rehabs, and now a new discovery of infidelity. He was away from the house for 5 months over the summer/early fall, and I let him back in after I saw that he was back to his old self and 3 months sober. Th...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon distinguishes between self-love and love of self. In the author's terms, self-love means a big ego and lack of empathy, while love of self reflects the Biblical phrase "Love thy neighbor as thyself." Only when we value ourselves can we truly love others. R...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yesterday was very action-packed! I am only going to say all of this to put it in print! I had the most craziest day yesterday! First I went to a big box store twice in 2 different cities. But to step back, I was in the first store in line behind my husband. There was an I-phone right on the end of the line sitti...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66021917/step-11-11-1/

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. The author wondered about the "exact nature" of their wrongs - was it the negative actions they took, or something else? For the author, t...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Just had to share this language of letting go November 5 This is so cool I had to share it The relationship just was not working out, and I wanted it so badly. I kept thinking if I just made myself look better, if I just try to be more loving, kind, then he or she would love me. I turned myself inside out to be so...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C Reading for 11/5 speaks about the importance of examining our motives. it suggests that many times we speak in order to change another or to manipulate them into what we want. The reading suggests that having the courage to look closely at ourselves in order to uncover what we sa...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: There are two concepts that strike me from todays reading. First, that we can only be concerned with ourselves and that other peoples behavior (or any of us trying to control it) will not affect our serenity. The sentence that sticks out to me along these lines is: Serenity is a...

JerryF · JerryF

And my wife and I are having fun supporting the growth. Great Grand-Son this time...cutie baby and looks like his Mommy. We are picking out infant cloths and stuff to send so that they know we are involving with it and sharing love. This part of the family doesn't drink or use...Yeeeehaw!! Thank y...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 11/4, talks about the importance of acceptance, especially when dealing with unpleasant realities. The writer learned to have alternative plans ready when they could not count on the alcoholic to come through. By allowing acceptance, the author could give themself cho...

mamalioness · mamalioness

One day at a time in Al-Anon, October 24 Author talks about going to a meeting and hearing many members complaining and moaning about not having what they felt entitled to, or about the alcoholics behavior and generally about their sorry lot in life One brave person spoke up: he or she said that you know...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ...went to my closest f@f Alanon meeting last night. There was one other person there; a different person from last time. It was a great meeting; much better than a one-person meeting, which anyone can do at home. Being November the topic was Step 11. I had already shared on Step 1...

Seahorse7 · Seahorse7

Hello. Years since Ive been here. Sadly my AH has not chosen to help himself all this time and I cannot even raise the topic or it ends up in a horrible fight. Hes getting worse. I just keep my mouth shut and try not to engage but its eating me up. I have chronic anxiety. Im desperately lonely and I know I need s...

Lyne · Lyne

Finding this solution opens many avenues for me, another alanon blessing. Lyne

Temple · Temple

It didn't work, but for those stalwarts still with me, last post on other subject line is "I've got a plan and a great surgeon, and a middle path."

DavidG · DavidG

This younger man appeared on my doorstep. At a vital time of my life. His mum and dad had taken me in and supported me. But i know Fr. was a problem drinker. He was a priest in the Anglican Church. A double binder for a lot of people. He had eventually killed himself... I spent a day with K. He had been only ch...

mamalioness · mamalioness

a nice officer who didn't even know about the call till about 2hrs. ago, came....she tried to, in spite of her paralysis, tried to protect me....we walked her out to the truck and I fell apart.....I totally lost it...............I MISS HER.....I WANNA die!!!1 this hurts so bad....she was my best fri...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author talks about how to tame racing thoughts, and compares it to a horse racing out of control and not obeying the rider's commands. For the horse, repeating the same command louder and louder does not work. The author learned to stop the horse, get his attention, and start again. How c...

Skorpi · Skorpi

With apologies for the lateness of today's post: In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on the way they have made choices throughout their life. Upon reflection, the author realized that most of their choices had been made as a reaction to fear. (An appropriate topic for th...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I remember growing up. My parents were both problem drinkers. There was always a lot of arguing and sometimes fighting which almost always resulted in my mother getting the crap kicked out of her. This always meant a trip to the hotel for us, or sometimes we would go visit my aunt. She lived on a farm. I le...

Chicagopilot · Chicagopilot

After a few weeks of separation from my wife I have decided it is time to get myself to some meetings. My question is would I benefit from Al-anon meetings even though she is a cocaine and opioid abuser? Finding a nar-anon meeting is proving to be much more difficult than an Alanon meeting. It seems to me...

Lyne · Lyne

For Monday, 10/28, the author discusses their attitudes towards others, both negative and positive. They note when they accept someone unconditionally, they feel safer. On the other hand, when defensive and impatient, the author expects others to be unkind to them. The writer says its in thei...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Haven't been around much recently. I was sick a while ago, bad cold, it got really bad one day so i went to the hospital with the hopes of getting some heavy duty antibiotics. They didn't let me leave for 6 days. Turns out I had pneumonia in both lungs and was suffering a side effect of one of my diabetes med...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today October 29 speaks about being sensitive and blaming others for our feelings. The reading provides an example of someone who has taken a woman's inventory about her weight which enraged the person , who pointed out their concerns. the person who had taken issue wi...

expat78 · expat78

I'm new to Al-Anon. My husband is an alcoholic and is currently in a 28 day rehab program and has just finished his first week. He left after one day previously, but checked himself back in. I'm an American living in his home country of Ireland (we met in the states and moved back three years ago). We have t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares that, when they first came to Al-Anon, they heard some people say that they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic. Naturally, the author thought these people were crazy. Weren't the alcoholics the cause of everyone's problems in Al-Anon? And yet, the a...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Working a program is hard work, it isnt easy becoming aware of yourself. It was not easy for me to stop blaming everything about myself on my parents, and my ex alcoholic husband after getting away from all my abusers, I took time alone with my kids in tow and went to al-anon meetings, found a sponsor and w...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter who has been to rehab 7 times and sober living twice, got engaged to a heavy drinker about 6 months ago, after dating for almost 4 years. He has been witness to 3 of her relapses, two of which have required 30 day rehabs. Since the engagement, she has relapsed again, and appears they both...

DavidG · DavidG

I used to hear: "I am my own worst enemy!" That is about self-sabotage. And I have seen it in other often- where it is much easier to detect. But in myself- pernicious! I have seen myself in East Texas- admittedly in a stressful situation- trying to put diesel in a petrol rental car. Admittedly the co...

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	About LOVE (Preview) I saw this posted on another addiction site, and I thought that it was so profound. For me, this is what my marriage was lacking due to Addiction... not love. I am sorry I cannot credit who said it... "Feelings fade but character, integrity, honor, trust and stability is what we want to teach our childre...	PosiesandPuppies	18	4729	Nov 20, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Tough decision! (Preview) My adult daughter told me she was being verbally abused by her fiancé, but in fact it was her that has relapsed and is abusing him! She lives 2,000 miles away and as we speak, she is dead drunk and being physically abusive to her boyfriend. I begged him to stay with her so she doesn't hurt herself, but I'm tr...	Buckeye Girl	3	3983	Nov 20, 2019 by Aloha
	C2C reading 11-19 (Preview) The C2C Reading for 11/19 speaks about using alanon tools on a daily basis so as to overcome the negative, soul destroying effects of the disease of alcoholism. The reading suggests that life is for our growth both mental and spiritual. So that by having the courage to look closely at ourselve...	hotrod	4	2615	Nov 19, 2019 by Iamhere
	So much anxiety!! (Preview) My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...	Buckeye Girl	2	771	Nov 19, 2019 by 2HP
	Minding my own business- live and let live... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I feel that it has a lot to do with boundaries. I did not create my own boundaries, in the beginning- that were made around me. I just reacted and assumed that "this is life". It did not work out and I had to come into Alanon to relearn stuff. I read the phrase: Recove...	DavidG	1	2064	Nov 19, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Anxiety overload! (Preview) My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...	Buckeye Girl	15	13794	Nov 19, 2019 by Maresie888
	Just Checking To See What Condition my condition is in (Preview) Shift almost over. Got a 4-day weekend. Might show my gratitude by going to a meeting tomorrow. I might even bring treats. Cranberry white- chocolate chip cookies oughta do it. The job is getting to me and I haven't been doing it that long. But, how many jobs are there that are like walking into a room ful...	Wolfie55	7	3607	Nov 18, 2019 by Maresie888
	Acceptance (Preview) Ive seen a few posts on this topic lately. When I first arrived, "acceptance" was very confusing. For my entire life, I had the habit of outward focus. Al-anon helped me to begin a life of ministering to myself as well. It was not a knee jerk decision for me to leave my alcoholic husband, I stayed fo...	2HP	20	5327	Nov 18, 2019 by JerryF
	Step 1, or Step 10...??? (Preview) I suffer from exhaustion. Whenever i get into a dry warm space I tend to fall asleep. Over the years, when doing my step 10, I tended to doze off, rather than to become enlightened. I took it from that- that I needed rest. I spent a lot of energy and time trying to mitigate the alcoholic circumstance in m...	DavidG	1	741	Nov 18, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 11/18 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 11/18, talks about step 2 and being restored to sanity. The writer says that a sane way of life includes functioning responsibly and realistically, but also having the willingness to play, to take breaks, to have hobbies, and include humor. Dwelling on troubles allows the...	Lyne	4	1830	Nov 18, 2019 by Iamhere
	Loss, of a brother... (Preview) I am grateful for the feelings that Alanon gives me. Of love and joy- and family. I did have to wade through anger, fear and grief to get here- because that was not dealt with, in my world, in a healthy way. When I was 15 our english teacher was the vicar's wife. I had a schoolfriend who died that yea...	DavidG	11	2869	Nov 17, 2019 by DavidG
	Started new job m (Preview) Hey everyone, I finally started my new position with the company and, nan, I feel out of place, lol. It's an office of all MEN and it's like an old boys' club. they have their ways and I'm just the new chick on the block, so to speak. i have a lot to learn and I've already had so much thrown at me. I found out...	andromeda	8	806	Nov 17, 2019 by 1911A1
	Hope for Today Nov 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about our call to service. The writer describes praying for Gods will to make sure that being called to service is truly that, and not a way to avoid, manipulate or control something going on in life. When I read this, I remembered the first time I worked the ste...	yanksfan51	3	1574	Nov 17, 2019 by DavidG
	Literature trigger this morning. (Preview) Spent the morning reading and double reading from our literature...blessing tools. They remind me of what it was like, what happened after getting into program and what it is like now while following the guidance. This is where and how I feel blessed for real by our program thru my Higher Power. ...	JerryF	6	520	Nov 16, 2019 by JerryF
	C2C 11-12 (Preview) The C2C Reading for 11/12 speaks about using alanon tools on a daily basis. it suggests that many times we are on automatic and neglect our tool box only to discover we are right in the middle of a conflict. Using the steps, slogans and principles constantly helps to build a useful, fulfilling li...	hotrod	3	4087	Nov 16, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 11/14 (Preview) Good morning MIP. The reading today discusses Step Six - where we become entirely ready to have God remove all of our defects of character. The writer suggests the readiness didn't/doesn't come in a sudden, blinding flash of enlightenment but rather a little at a time as positive progress is made i...	Iamhere	1	1415	Nov 15, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change November 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's author shares that they read somewhere that the things that are urgent are rarely important and the things that are important are rarely urgent. Our author can get so caught up in nagging, trivial matters of day-to-day life, that they forget to spend time on more important pursui...	Skorpi	4	661	Nov 15, 2019 by mamalioness
	How easy it is for my A to lie (Preview) Im attaching myself to step 3 for sanity and help from HP. Yesterday in our couples session with an addiction counselor, my A stated for the 100th time, she will not drink and will not lie. There is no awareness on her part that she has been saying this for 15 years, maybe longer, and that she cannot cont...	Lyne	9	3239	Nov 15, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, November 14 (Preview) The author of today's page was easily hurt by other people's anger or negative moods. It helped to realize that the other person's words or tone were really about what was going on inside that person. The author realized that extreme sensitivity was based on the belief that "I am the focus of everyone...	Freetime	3	1407	Nov 15, 2019 by DavidG
	Changes (Preview) Its been awhile since I posted. I have been reading on line here and my thinking is a bit saner. Reading and being in recovery makes a difference for the better. December will be 2 years since I last seen the abf. It seems like a lifetime ago. When I look back, its a true miracle I was not killed or seriously i...	joker	3	1762	Nov 15, 2019 by Bo
	blessings just keep coming! (Preview) & I will take them. I am so grateful that no matter what, God I can handle anything. I am so grateful that this is gratitude month where I am from & it certainly doesn't hurt to be grateful. Even if you don't know what gratitude is or where it comes from, I can tell you that I learned to be grateful whe...	Hoot Nanny	3	392	Nov 14, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Resting on your laurels (Preview) I wanted to share this - I heard a speaker, Tom B. share this little joke at a talk a few days ago. He said his sponsor once informed him that a laurel is something that you wear on your head. So when you're resting (sitting) on your laurels, you essentially have your head up your... ahem. lol I thought that...	Aloha	2	1822	Nov 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Relapse (Preview) My boyfriend has been an addict and alcoholic off and on for 14 years. He has had past stints in rehab and stints in jail. He had been clean 9 months this time. For the first time it felt different like he had truly hit rock bottom. Friday evening he went no contact and still has not surfaced. I have been at...	amisfitlife	4	2634	Nov 12, 2019 by Bo
	touched a nerve (Preview) Hi There MIP peeps Things had been trucking along pretty well in our household until yesterday. Yesterday my AH was talking about making a bigger purchase for himself and he mentioned using his bonus money for it. About 4 months or so ago we had a bit of upheaval when he asked me to figure out where all...	KT2015	6	1720	Nov 12, 2019 by 2HP
	One of those days (Preview) And hopefully only a day only. Geez gonna go sit on my HP's lap and just be quiet and still and hopeful. The majority of people around me are upset and pissed and I am powerless. So what do I gotta do? If I am powerless...turn it over and let it go and not do anything to excite while dodging the flying ob...	JerryF	13	1965	Nov 11, 2019 by JerryF
	C2C, 11/11 (Preview) The choice of insanity vs sanity is the topic for the reading on Monday, 11/11. Repeating the same behavior over and over and expecting different results is described as an insane way to live. Looking at Step 3, Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him, c...	Lyne	3	1122	Nov 11, 2019 by Iamhere
	Site Question (Preview) What is the purpose of the blue permalink thing in the upper right corner of our posts? Thanks - TT	tiredtonite	2	1442	Nov 11, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Hope for Today Nov 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the power of......writing! The writer describes how freeing it is to get thoughts down on paper. It is a form of self reflection, a way to get to know ourselves better, a way to vent when things are difficult and celebrate when lifes moments are good. I wo...	yanksfan51	4	661	Nov 10, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Don't know what to do (Preview) Am new to this. I've been with my boyfriend for 14 years and we have kids together. When he drinks he becomes a bully to all of us. We try to walk away but he follows us and keeps bring up are flaws. I know we should not argue with him but we get so mad, frustrated and want to hurt him like he is hurting us. It's alw...	Painful	10	5333	Nov 10, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 11/7 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading talks about the disease of alcoholism, and that it is classified as a family disease. It affects not only the drinker but those o us who care about him or her as well. The writer suggests that or some of us, our thinking that's been passed down from generations befor...	Iamhere	5	459	Nov 9, 2019 by Maresie888
	Time out is time well spent... (Preview) Hi y'all... I am back from the northern city. Going there was my goal-set for the year- present for myself. This time i did not isolate- but stayed with friends- in a warm comfortable space. One of my long term goals is to be part of a process- that places ACA D-F in a comfortable spot- between Alanon, AA...	DavidG	0	3123	Nov 9, 2019 by DavidG
	Cheating and where to go from here (Preview) This past year has been a whirlwind with my pregnancy causing my husband to go off the deep end, a new baby, 3 rehabs, and now a new discovery of infidelity. He was away from the house for 5 months over the summer/early fall, and I let him back in after I saw that he was back to his old self and 3 months sober. Th...	kalotaxidi	12	4084	Nov 9, 2019 by Bo
	ODAT 11/8 (Preview) Today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon distinguishes between self-love and love of self. In the author's terms, self-love means a big ego and lack of empathy, while love of self reflects the Biblical phrase "Love thy neighbor as thyself." Only when we value ourselves can we truly love others. R...	Freetime	4	3385	Nov 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	2 good deeds & one event w/ anxiety! (Preview) Yesterday was very action-packed! I am only going to say all of this to put it in print! I had the most craziest day yesterday! First I went to a big box store twice in 2 different cities. But to step back, I was in the first store in line behind my husband. There was an I-phone right on the end of the line sitti...	Hoot Nanny	5	2884	Nov 8, 2019 by Bo
	Step 11 posted (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66021917/step-11-11-1/	hotrod	5	5074	Nov 7, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change November 6 (Preview) In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. The author wondered about the "exact nature" of their wrongs - was it the negative actions they took, or something else? For the author, t...	Skorpi	4	2329	Nov 6, 2019 by Iamhere
	Just had to share this language of letting go November 5 (Preview) Just had to share this language of letting go November 5 This is so cool I had to share it The relationship just was not working out, and I wanted it so badly. I kept thinking if I just made myself look better, if I just try to be more loving, kind, then he or she would love me. I turned myself inside out to be so...	mamalioness	3	3029	Nov 6, 2019 by mamalioness
	C2 C Reading 11-5 (Preview) The C2C Reading for 11/5 speaks about the importance of examining our motives. it suggests that many times we speak in order to change another or to manipulate them into what we want. The reading suggests that having the courage to look closely at ourselves in order to uncover what we sa...	hotrod	7	459	Nov 5, 2019 by Wolfie55
	Nov 3 Hope for Today (Preview) Good morning Everyone: There are two concepts that strike me from todays reading. First, that we can only be concerned with ourselves and that other peoples behavior (or any of us trying to control it) will not affect our serenity. The sentence that sticks out to me along these lines is: Serenity is a...	yanksfan51	6	1446	Nov 5, 2019 by Maresie888
	The family continues to grow (Preview) And my wife and I are having fun supporting the growth. Great Grand-Son this time...cutie baby and looks like his Mommy. We are picking out infant cloths and stuff to send so that they know we are involving with it and sharing love. This part of the family doesn't drink or use...Yeeeehaw!! Thank y...	JerryF	9	2158	Nov 5, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C, 11/4 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 11/4, talks about the importance of acceptance, especially when dealing with unpleasant realities. The writer learned to have alternative plans ready when they could not count on the alcoholic to come through. By allowing acceptance, the author could give themself cho...	Lyne	6	3898	Nov 5, 2019 by Maresie888
	One day at a time in Al-Anon, October 24 (Preview) One day at a time in Al-Anon, October 24 Author talks about going to a meeting and hearing many members complaining and moaning about not having what they felt entitled to, or about the alcoholics behavior and generally about their sorry lot in life One brave person spoke up: he or she said that you know...	mamalioness	12	3094	Nov 5, 2019 by mamalioness
	A catch-up share, and when is enough sharing enough...? (Preview) Hi y'all... ...went to my closest f@f Alanon meeting last night. There was one other person there; a different person from last time. It was a great meeting; much better than a one-person meeting, which anyone can do at home. Being November the topic was Step 11. I had already shared on Step 1...	DavidG	1	2574	Nov 4, 2019 by Freetime
	Al-Anon for atheists and introverts (Preview) Hello. Years since Ive been here. Sadly my AH has not chosen to help himself all this time and I cannot even raise the topic or it ends up in a horrible fight. Hes getting worse. I just keep my mouth shut and try not to engage but its eating me up. I have chronic anxiety. Im desperately lonely and I know I need s...	Seahorse7	10	4796	Nov 3, 2019 by Seahorse7
	11/4 continued (Preview) Finding this solution opens many avenues for me, another alanon blessing. Lyne	Lyne	0	1879	Nov 3, 2019 by Lyne
	tried to change subject to "Never mind-got back to bus board. (Preview) It didn't work, but for those stalwarts still with me, last post on other subject line is "I've got a plan and a great surgeon, and a middle path."	Temple	5	5424	Nov 3, 2019 by Temple
	I drained my battery- but glad of it... Steps 10, 11 and 12... (Preview) This younger man appeared on my doorstep. At a vital time of my life. His mum and dad had taken me in and supported me. But i know Fr. was a problem drinker. He was a priest in the Anglican Church. A double binder for a lot of people. He had eventually killed himself... I spent a day with K. He had been only ch...	DavidG	1	3553	Nov 3, 2019 by Lyne
	SHE's gone (Preview) a nice officer who didn't even know about the call till about 2hrs. ago, came....she tried to, in spite of her paralysis, tried to protect me....we walked her out to the truck and I fell apart.....I totally lost it...............I MISS HER.....I WANNA die!!!1 this hurts so bad....she was my best fri...	mamalioness	31	3623	Nov 2, 2019 by mamalioness
	C2C, November 1 (Preview) Today's author talks about how to tame racing thoughts, and compares it to a horse racing out of control and not obeying the rider's commands. For the horse, repeating the same command louder and louder does not work. The author learned to stop the horse, get his attention, and start again. How c...	Freetime	6	620	Nov 2, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change October 31 (Preview) With apologies for the lateness of today's post: In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on the way they have made choices throughout their life. Upon reflection, the author realized that most of their choices had been made as a reaction to fear. (An appropriate topic for th...	Skorpi	2	1409	Nov 1, 2019 by Lyne
	The Cage (Preview) I remember growing up. My parents were both problem drinkers. There was always a lot of arguing and sometimes fighting which almost always resulted in my mother getting the crap kicked out of her. This always meant a trip to the hotel for us, or sometimes we would go visit my aunt. She lived on a farm. I le...	Wolfie55	5	3242	Nov 1, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Meeting help (Preview) After a few weeks of separation from my wife I have decided it is time to get myself to some meetings. My question is would I benefit from Al-anon meetings even though she is a cocaine and opioid abuser? Finding a nar-anon meeting is proving to be much more difficult than an Alanon meeting. It seems to me...	Chicagopilot	10	675	Oct 31, 2019 by Freetime
	C2C, 10/28 (Preview) For Monday, 10/28, the author discusses their attitudes towards others, both negative and positive. They note when they accept someone unconditionally, they feel safer. On the other hand, when defensive and impatient, the author expects others to be unkind to them. The writer says its in thei...	Lyne	5	3071	Oct 31, 2019 by Maresie888
	Life Just Happens (Preview) Haven't been around much recently. I was sick a while ago, bad cold, it got really bad one day so i went to the hospital with the hopes of getting some heavy duty antibiotics. They didn't let me leave for 6 days. Turns out I had pneumonia in both lungs and was suffering a side effect of one of my diabetes med...	Wolfie55	10	3366	Oct 30, 2019 by Wolfie55
	C2C reading 10-29 (Preview) The C2C reading for today October 29 speaks about being sensitive and blaming others for our feelings. The reading provides an example of someone who has taken a woman's inventory about her weight which enraged the person , who pointed out their concerns. the person who had taken issue wi...	hotrod	7	2181	Oct 30, 2019 by Maresie888
	For those that left... ah leaving (Preview) I'm new to Al-Anon. My husband is an alcoholic and is currently in a 28 day rehab program and has just finished his first week. He left after one day previously, but checked himself back in. I'm an American living in his home country of Ireland (we met in the states and moved back three years ago). We have t...	expat78	6	5099	Oct 30, 2019 by Aloha
	Courage to Change October 30 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares that, when they first came to Al-Anon, they heard some people say that they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic. Naturally, the author thought these people were crazy. Weren't the alcoholics the cause of everyone's problems in Al-Anon? And yet, the a...	Skorpi	4	936	Oct 30, 2019 by Iamhere
	A work in progress (Preview) Working a program is hard work, it isnt easy becoming aware of yourself. It was not easy for me to stop blaming everything about myself on my parents, and my ex alcoholic husband after getting away from all my abusers, I took time alone with my kids in tow and went to al-anon meetings, found a sponsor and w...	Breakingfree	10	782	Oct 30, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Abusive situation- Advice needed! (Preview) My adult daughter who has been to rehab 7 times and sober living twice, got engaged to a heavy drinker about 6 months ago, after dating for almost 4 years. He has been witness to 3 of her relapses, two of which have required 30 day rehabs. Since the engagement, she has relapsed again, and appears they both...	Buckeye Girl	4	3896	Oct 29, 2019 by mamalioness
	Freedom from fear... (Preview) I used to hear: "I am my own worst enemy!" That is about self-sabotage. And I have seen it in other often- where it is much easier to detect. But in myself- pernicious! I have seen myself in East Texas- admittedly in a stressful situation- trying to put diesel in a petrol rental car. Admittedly the co...	DavidG	5	3039	Oct 29, 2019 by DavidG
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