Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

oddsunflower · oddsunflower

I have been surfing the topics here and doing a ton of reading. I really like the format of this group and thought maybe I should introduce myself a bit. I am a mom of 4 and a wife of 24 years to an alcoholic. I have been working the program on my own (there are not many meetings near my home) since 2016. My AH wen...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/16, is about what the author has learned in alanon: they are not responsible for everything and everyone. Some examples are: -You dont have to understand everything. -You may show your feelings. -One doesnt have to feel threatened by the future. -One doesnt have to feel...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... ... we live 50 mins away from a popular international resort. For that reason we sometimes had international AA or Alanon members speaking at our assemblies held there. [And, I expect some were also double winners! ] One speaker got up- and what a silver tongue! Mo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about detachment, and what a difficult concept it can be, especially for those of us new to Alanon. As I was reading this page I was thinking that for those of us who have lived with and/or loved an alcoholic, this idea is difficult because so much of our energy h...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Hi MIP members! It's been awhile since I've visited the board, but it's great to see some familiar names still here and active. I am so grateful for all the gifts I've received from Al-Anon. And these gifts just keep on giving. I'm feel so much more happy and content in my continued recovery after losing...

DavidG · DavidG

My SO used to gaslight me something horrible. Especially telling me I am angry- when she is. This time last year she had family over from Florida. We were 100 miles from home and she ordered me out of the truck- and left me there. She does this regularly- and I suspect it is a replay of how her FOO used to op...

Freetime · Freetime

The December 13 reading in ODAT tells about a someone who came to Al-Anon in despair, really worked the program, made friends, gained serenity, and achieved a better life. Then it asks the question: Does this person have an obligation to the group, the fellowship, and to newcomers who need help? Th...

DavidG · DavidG

One of the sixteen Alanon slogans- conference approved. I used to fear saying the wrong thing- that someone would jump down my throat. Because that was a predominant fear in my FOO. Had to be constantly on my guard. I try hard to stick to Alanon policy- and sometimes I try far too hard! Another slogan i...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family - happy day to one and all. Today's reading talks about how we can limit ourselves if/when we close our minds based on past experiences, relationships, patterns, habits, etc. The writer speaks from the Alateen perspective and shares doubt about Al-Anon adults, simply bec...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am kind of sad today. Letting go of people is not easy for me. I have a cousin who won't call me only write me letters via mail. Sometimes I just want to stop writing just to see what would happen. I love her dearly. I don't want to lose touch. When I started to write this post, I really didn't know what I'd say...

DavidG · DavidG

I like growing potatoes, tomatoes and asparagus. They are all three related- and grow naturally on sands behind the tide line. Because I live far inland, the dustbowl of 1878 created the sands and sand dunes here. So when I am on the coast I collect sea weed. I rot it in a barrel and apply it...

Temple · Temple

Love to everybody! Made it though again--surgery and recovery went better; they believe me now that a little anesthetic goes a long way with me. Wasn't as perky when I got home, and have no complaints. I'll find out next week what the pathologists have found. Hope to be up to speed to drive Hubs home from...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance, or rather lack of importance, of money. The author shares that they had previously thought that their troubles would end if they won the lottery. But, would the lottery winnings take away the impact of alcoholism on the family? M...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, I would like to share about expectations that I had versus reality. I am really struggling at the moment, with Christmas,quickly approaching. With the way it seems to be advertised,in Catalogues,etc. What it looks like it supposed to be. Family, closeness, happily ever after. Well, for me tha...

hotrod · hotrod

the C2C reading for Dec. 10 speaks about having the courage to look closely at ourselves so as to see and admit our difficulties. The reading points out that often we focus all our attention on the alcoholic and do not see what we do that hurts us.. We will enjoy spiritual growth by practicing self h...

Aloha · Aloha

I'm curious what this slogan looks like for you. What does letting go and giving your will and life over to the care of your HP mean to you? Do you have any favorite passages from our CAL that sum this up for you perfectly? I'm going to be leading a meeting soon and thought I'd like to touch on the topic Let Go a...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/9, reflects upon attraction rather than promotion as alanons public relations policy. We are asked to keep the focus on ourselves, and do our best to live this program one day at a time. We can try to demonstrate recovery to the best of our ability. By setting a good example...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66118175/step-12-alanon-12-9/

amisfitlife · amisfitlife

Needto release as I am seriously loosing it. My boyfriend has been addicted off & on for many years he had been clean almost 11 months and relapsed. He said once he started to trying cope with life on normal terms he had slowly become more & more depressed. Said once he used he realized he never wa...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how tradition 5 can help transform resentment into compassion. As our program is about keeping the focus on ourselves, compassion starts with self as well. The writer describes being compassionate toward ourselves by working the steps and working...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is 2 days before Thanksgiving & this year I kind of feel a little less grateful! I guess I have been projecting too much; I think about the future w/o children & not being able to have kids to take care of me in my old age. I am only 53. I guess I just don't feel comfortable. I am trying not to feel...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I have this personal rule- which I call 'the two call rule'... I might visit or call up to two times- but if there is no response after that- I find it it time to move on- fresh grazing... ...it applies to family too, really. The terms for me- "goody-two-shoes" and 'beating my head aga...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about anger. The writer went through stages of first denying that they ever felt anger, then being able to recognize it when it was happening, then blaming their anger on the alcoholics and feeling worse than ever. Once they learned to bring the focus back to self, they could look a...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family. I love today's reading....it's about unconditional love, gratitude and letting go of fantasy/fairy tale thinking. The reminder: If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has alread...

el-cee · el-cee

I was wondering what your thoughts are on enabling. I had never really heard the term or understood it. I struggle at times with it. My sons disease has progressed over the last few years. Progressed in a way that looks like he has regressed back to being a teenager that's out of control. After 7 years in a...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on past decision making. Prior to AlAnon, many of us learned to make decisions based on our feelings, as if feelings were facts. Part of the author's Al-Anon recovery is learning that feelings are not facts. Humans are complex, fascinatin...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is all about meditation! It suggests that our program, Al-Anon, leaves the question - What is Meditation - leaves the question open intentionally. We each get to answer the question, and practice meditation by finding our own path. Like...

Lyne · Lyne

My A went to an AA meeting last night for the first time. Her attitude is that everyone there is way worse, shes not drinking (Today), she never got arrested (lucky), shes not drinking all day long , etc. Its exactly that attitude she needs treatment for. Not sure if she will continue.... I need: Ste...

Lyne · Lyne

In the writing for Monday, 12/2, the author discusses how easy it is for them to focus on their loved ones limitations. But they say all that does is keep the focus off themself, and nothing ever gets resolved. We are reminded to admit our powerlessness, as to avoid feeling hopeless, bitter, and/or f...

MicheleD123 · MicheleD123

Hi! Im new on here. My boyfriend is currently living at a sober house after completing a 30 day rehab program. He asked for space so that he could focus on his recovery while I focus on mine. However, Im having a difficult time taking the space and constantly wondering why he isnt reaching out to me. He has...

DavidG · DavidG

As a kid- I was "keen as mustard"... always eager to learn and to grow emotionally. But I had issues beyond my control- hurdles. I shift away from cliches... mostly... and am practical really. The secrets of life I learned were all inside of the Alanon program... but some, sometimes were hard to f...

DavidG · DavidG

We sometimes avoid these steps in our groups. The too-hard basket. My personal opinion is that- in a mature group members might to these in a group, long before they pick up a sponsor. Tradition 10 is a great one for all twelve step groups. Our old timers were non-believers, hebrews, catholics a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- I hope the holiday season is off to a great start for everyone! We have celebrated Thanksgiving here, started getting Christmas decorations out, and I am eating every carb in sight, so the holidays are officially underway:). Todays reading is about detachment with love. The...

Temple · Temple

I seem to have posted my update on a Business Board. Some gifted person please fix? Update: I have now been officially diagnosed. The disease is "in situ." I was pleased to hear that--less complicated, somehow and good prognosis. However, the remedies offered seemed a tad draconian, either way....

Temple · Temple

Some question marks came up and we will be repeating the surgery, but less extensively, on one side next week, perhaps. The goal is still the same--avoid radiology. I really like my surgeon and am fine with the decision. I'm just zapped. I'm extremely fatigued. Antibiotic aftereffects? I d...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

i decided to catch a flight on Wednesday to California to help my adult daughter get into a treatment facility again. She has completely gone off the rails. There is so much going on here, as I'm finding out. There was some abuse between her and her fiancé while they were both inebriated. Before I could g...

JerryF · JerryF

I cannot and would not forget this family on Thanksgiving morning for all you have done and are still doing for my recovery; peace of mind, spirit and sanity. I am drenched in gratitude because so far the disease has not been able to knock the doors of my peace of mind and sanity off of it's hinges. I can g...

DavidG · DavidG

We weren't dirt poor. The generation before me had gone barefoot to school, summer and boots in winter. I wrote a local history and one lady told me that their feet got hard and calloused in the summer. I do have a shoe story, which I won't tell now. But we were poor by the standards of our time. And out...

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning, MIP! I hope everyone is having some joy today. The November 29 reading is about control. The writer had many reasons to be in control -- it meant being an adult, being cool, looking good on the outside, not feeling what was happening on the inside, and exhausting themselves while help...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi It's WendyP. I have found and still am finding that working this Recovery Programme, is not easy. I have been challenged many, many, times as to staying in here, and going through the tough times, especially introducing changes within my Life. I have shed many tears, and have/had lots of Fears...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate! The Courage to Change reading for today is about Step 4....the writer discovers that many of her virtues were often the source of her misery. The working of Step 4 gave the writer an opportunity to turn upside-down personality traits ri...

JerryF · JerryF

The most important requirement is to keep in contact with my HP and to communicate and learn what is helpful to my peace of mind and serenity. For now; today it is contacting my sponsor and speaking to him about detachment from my Hawaiian home and moving back to the mainland for reason. The reason is t...

Chicagopilot · Chicagopilot

My wife and I have been married for 5 years. She is a recovering addict that has been clean for about 6 years. I bought her a restaurant that she has always wanted 3 months ago, she spent two months rehabbing it and open the last month. About two months ago I noticed a change in her. She was staying at the bar l...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's author reflects on their view of themselves and life. At one point, the author viewed their life as a tragedy, but today, they know that they are a survivor - the author has experienced many challenges, and is a stronger person for those experiences. With the help of their HP, the au...

Albion · Albion

Hi everyone. Looking for some advice. I've been in Al-Anon for a little over a year. Looking to progress in the programme and to do that I will need a sponsor. The meeting I go to only has myself and one other male member who has been in roughly the same time as me. Last night at our meeting we had extended a w...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning all! Happy Tuesday or whatever day/evening it may be in your part of our world. I'm covering for Betty today! The reading today discusses the reality that alcoholism is a family disease and denial is 'real' in both the alcoholic as well as those who are directly or indirectly affected...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 11/25, talks about the writers reluctance to get fully involved with alanon. The writer grew very slowly until a crisis hit, and then was able to take full advantage of all alanon has to offer. They saw there were strengths and skills to be had, and then alanon became a top prior...

DavidG · DavidG

For some reason my closest group has a lot of men in it. This is a novelty for me- because- for the first 30 years I was the only man in my hometown group. This was a mixed blessing, really. Over time I bonded with my home group- and forgot the gender difference. Then I had this familiarity with women- w...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about being willing to do the work we need to do in order to make the changes we want in our lives. The writer describes getting a sponsor after a long time and noticing that her recovery accelerated with the help of another person. This got me thinking about how...

Freetime · Freetime

This reading discusses one of my favorite/fraught topics -- holidays! The author had a difficult childhood where holidays were sad, and as an adult still found them hard. With Al-Anon, the author learned how to reclaim the holidays and created their own enjoyable fun traditions, now spending tim...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. The reading in Courage to Change for today reminds us that we will not be rid of our problems by practicing Al-Anon recovery. Instead, when we are living life on life's terms, Al-Anon gives us the courage and insight to turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones. Length of time in...

DavidG · DavidG

...hi y'all... ...one time I owned 100 sheep, and 600 fruit trees. I hated having the farm- there were family issues involved- but these no longer weigh me down. I got some gates and wire and stuff- and set out to build up a hobby farm. This was a return to the coast where I had worked on a railway gang i...

Aloha · Aloha

I was sharing this with a friend the other day and thought it would be a good fit here. To preface this, when I lived in Hawaii, it was rare for an Al-Anon meeting to end with the Lord's Prayer. Most often it ended with the Serenity Prayer or the Al-Anon Declaration. That's what I "grew up in" for recovery. W...

Temple · Temple

Thank you to everyone who prayed for me and/or held me in good thoughts. It all went swimmingly. I came home energized--had to remind myself I was euphoric and really didn't need to be doing light laundry, probably. I think it was harder on Hubs than it was on me. Yesterday I crashed a little bit and am ev...

DavidG · DavidG

Pain always got in the way of my meditation. And exhaustion. So then I began to focus on that- the reality. I had pain from a young age. In my teens this was mostly about migraine. The thing that set me on my journey was the pain- as I sought answers for this. I found that in past decades that the answers wer...

Fedora · Fedora

So I am waiting for EMTs to call me back and tell me where they're taking my AH.. He was on the first day of a three-day alcohol class mandated by the courts for his DWI and he has a seizure in the middle of class. I am so aggravated. I don't even feel sorry for him. I suspect that he worked himself up into such th...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on joy. Colts, puppies, and little children are full of boundless joy at being alive. The author wonders what happened to their own joy? Living with the disease of alcoholism had broken the author's spirit. AlAnon provides the author with a fellows...

WendyP · WendyP

I would like to share of how my Higher Power worked His Magic in my life at one stage. I had joined a World Wide Pen Pal group, as well as being a Lone Member at that time,I joined a Lone Members Letter Box, from Head Office, in USA. They had sent me a list of People who I could write to, World Wide. I also had an A...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I saw this posted on another addiction site, and I thought that it was so profound. For me, this is what my marriage was lacking due to Addiction... not love. I am sorry I cannot credit who said it... "Feelings fade but character, integrity, honor, trust and stability is what we want to teach our childre...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter told me she was being verbally abused by her fiancé, but in fact it was her that has relapsed and is abusing him! She lives 2,000 miles away and as we speak, she is dead drunk and being physically abusive to her boyfriend. I begged him to stay with her so she doesn't hurt herself, but I'm tr...

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	New Here (Preview) I have been surfing the topics here and doing a ton of reading. I really like the format of this group and thought maybe I should introduce myself a bit. I am a mom of 4 and a wife of 24 years to an alcoholic. I have been working the program on my own (there are not many meetings near my home) since 2016. My AH wen...	oddsunflower	6	2443	Dec 17, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 12.16 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/16, is about what the author has learned in alanon: they are not responsible for everything and everyone. Some examples are: -You dont have to understand everything. -You may show your feelings. -One doesnt have to feel threatened by the future. -One doesnt have to feel...	Lyne	7	722	Dec 16, 2019 by Bo
	Gratitood... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... ... we live 50 mins away from a popular international resort. For that reason we sometimes had international AA or Alanon members speaking at our assemblies held there. [And, I expect some were also double winners! ] One speaker got up- and what a silver tongue! Mo...	DavidG	4	1073	Dec 16, 2019 by DavidG
	Hope for Today 12/15 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about detachment, and what a difficult concept it can be, especially for those of us new to Alanon. As I was reading this page I was thinking that for those of us who have lived with and/or loved an alcoholic, this idea is difficult because so much of our energy h...	yanksfan51	6	2352	Dec 15, 2019 by yanksfan51
	Hello and an Update (Preview) Hi MIP members! It's been awhile since I've visited the board, but it's great to see some familiar names still here and active. I am so grateful for all the gifts I've received from Al-Anon. And these gifts just keep on giving. I'm feel so much more happy and content in my continued recovery after losing...	Green Eyes	4	4203	Dec 14, 2019 by Iamhere
	Gaslighting- an ultimatum passed... (Preview) My SO used to gaslight me something horrible. Especially telling me I am angry- when she is. This time last year she had family over from Florida. We were 100 miles from home and she ordered me out of the truck- and left me there. She does this regularly- and I suspect it is a replay of how her FOO used to op...	DavidG	13	3743	Dec 14, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	ODAT 12/13 (Preview) The December 13 reading in ODAT tells about a someone who came to Al-Anon in despair, really worked the program, made friends, gained serenity, and achieved a better life. Then it asks the question: Does this person have an obligation to the group, the fellowship, and to newcomers who need help? Th...	Freetime	3	4210	Dec 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	First things first... (Preview) One of the sixteen Alanon slogans- conference approved. I used to fear saying the wrong thing- that someone would jump down my throat. Because that was a predominant fear in my FOO. Had to be constantly on my guard. I try hard to stick to Alanon policy- and sometimes I try far too hard! Another slogan i...	DavidG	1	3926	Dec 13, 2019 by Temple
	Courage to Change 12/12 (Preview) Good morning MIP family - happy day to one and all. Today's reading talks about how we can limit ourselves if/when we close our minds based on past experiences, relationships, patterns, habits, etc. The writer speaks from the Alateen perspective and shares doubt about Al-Anon adults, simply bec...	Iamhere	1	2269	Dec 12, 2019 by Aloha
	it doesn't have to be sad... (Preview) I am kind of sad today. Letting go of people is not easy for me. I have a cousin who won't call me only write me letters via mail. Sometimes I just want to stop writing just to see what would happen. I love her dearly. I don't want to lose touch. When I started to write this post, I really didn't know what I'd say...	Hoot Nanny	5	1254	Dec 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Shifting sands often reveal ordinary things... (Preview) I like growing potatoes, tomatoes and asparagus. They are all three related- and grow naturally on sands behind the tide line. Because I live far inland, the dustbowl of 1878 created the sands and sand dunes here. So when I am on the coast I collect sea weed. I rot it in a barrel and apply it...	DavidG	4	4025	Dec 11, 2019 by Temple
	Still here--still blessed (Preview) Love to everybody! Made it though again--surgery and recovery went better; they believe me now that a little anesthetic goes a long way with me. Wasn't as perky when I got home, and have no complaints. I'll find out next week what the pathologists have found. Hope to be up to speed to drive Hubs home from...	Temple	5	7913	Dec 11, 2019 by Temple
	Courage to Change December 11 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance, or rather lack of importance, of money. The author shares that they had previously thought that their troubles would end if they won the lottery. But, would the lottery winnings take away the impact of alcoholism on the family? M...	Skorpi	4	4797	Dec 11, 2019 by DavidG
	Expectations (Preview) Hi, I would like to share about expectations that I had versus reality. I am really struggling at the moment, with Christmas,quickly approaching. With the way it seems to be advertised,in Catalogues,etc. What it looks like it supposed to be. Family, closeness, happily ever after. Well, for me tha...	WendyP	15	5096	Dec 10, 2019 by Temple
	C2C Reading 12-10 (Preview) the C2C reading for Dec. 10 speaks about having the courage to look closely at ourselves so as to see and admit our difficulties. The reading points out that often we focus all our attention on the alcoholic and do not see what we do that hurts us.. We will enjoy spiritual growth by practicing self h...	hotrod	4	664	Dec 10, 2019 by Iamhere
	Let Go and Let God (Preview) I'm curious what this slogan looks like for you. What does letting go and giving your will and life over to the care of your HP mean to you? Do you have any favorite passages from our CAL that sum this up for you perfectly? I'm going to be leading a meeting soon and thought I'd like to touch on the topic Let Go a...	Aloha	5	2576	Dec 10, 2019 by Aloha
	C2C, 12/9 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/9, reflects upon attraction rather than promotion as alanons public relations policy. We are asked to keep the focus on ourselves, and do our best to live this program one day at a time. We can try to demonstrate recovery to the best of our ability. By setting a good example...	Lyne	2	634	Dec 9, 2019 by Iamhere
	Step 12 (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66118175/step-12-alanon-12-9/	hotrod	1	717	Dec 9, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Struggling (Preview) Needto release as I am seriously loosing it. My boyfriend has been addicted off & on for many years he had been clean almost 11 months and relapsed. He said once he started to trying cope with life on normal terms he had slowly become more & more depressed. Said once he used he realized he never wa...	amisfitlife	4	1059	Dec 9, 2019 by Aloha
	Hope for Today Dec 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how tradition 5 can help transform resentment into compassion. As our program is about keeping the focus on ourselves, compassion starts with self as well. The writer describes being compassionate toward ourselves by working the steps and working...	yanksfan51	4	991	Dec 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	just another Thanksgiving & a reason to be grateful! (Preview) Today is 2 days before Thanksgiving & this year I kind of feel a little less grateful! I guess I have been projecting too much; I think about the future w/o children & not being able to have kids to take care of me in my old age. I am only 53. I guess I just don't feel comfortable. I am trying not to feel...	Hoot Nanny	7	1032	Dec 7, 2019 by Maresie888
	A tough time- but hope... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I have this personal rule- which I call 'the two call rule'... I might visit or call up to two times- but if there is no response after that- I find it it time to move on- fresh grazing... ...it applies to family too, really. The terms for me- "goody-two-shoes" and 'beating my head aga...	DavidG	9	2870	Dec 6, 2019 by Temple
	Courage to Change, 12/6 - Anger (Preview) Today's reading is about anger. The writer went through stages of first denying that they ever felt anger, then being able to recognize it when it was happening, then blaming their anger on the alcoholics and feeling worse than ever. Once they learned to bring the focus back to self, they could look a...	Freetime	4	2438	Dec 6, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 12/5 (Preview) Good morning MIP family. I love today's reading....it's about unconditional love, gratitude and letting go of fantasy/fairy tale thinking. The reminder: If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has alread...	Iamhere	1	2809	Dec 6, 2019 by Lyne
	Enabling (Preview) I was wondering what your thoughts are on enabling. I had never really heard the term or understood it. I struggle at times with it. My sons disease has progressed over the last few years. Progressed in a way that looks like he has regressed back to being a teenager that's out of control. After 7 years in a...	el-cee	14	3061	Dec 4, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change December 4 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on past decision making. Prior to AlAnon, many of us learned to make decisions based on our feelings, as if feelings were facts. Part of the author's Al-Anon recovery is learning that feelings are not facts. Humans are complex, fascinatin...	Skorpi	4	719	Dec 4, 2019 by Freetime
	Courage to Change 12/3 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is all about meditation! It suggests that our program, Al-Anon, leaves the question - What is Meditation - leaves the question open intentionally. We each get to answer the question, and practice meditation by finding our own path. Like...	Iamhere	2	2320	Dec 3, 2019 by DavidG
	Anger (Preview) My A went to an AA meeting last night for the first time. Her attitude is that everyone there is way worse, shes not drinking (Today), she never got arrested (lucky), shes not drinking all day long , etc. Its exactly that attitude she needs treatment for. Not sure if she will continue.... I need: Ste...	Lyne	14	8172	Dec 3, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, 12/2 (Preview) In the writing for Monday, 12/2, the author discusses how easy it is for them to focus on their loved ones limitations. But they say all that does is keep the focus off themself, and nothing ever gets resolved. We are reminded to admit our powerlessness, as to avoid feeling hopeless, bitter, and/or f...	Lyne	2	6622	Dec 3, 2019 by tiredtonite
	New Recovered AA Advice on Romantic Partner (Preview) Hi! Im new on here. My boyfriend is currently living at a sober house after completing a 30 day rehab program. He asked for space so that he could focus on his recovery while I focus on mine. However, Im having a difficult time taking the space and constantly wondering why he isnt reaching out to me. He has...	MicheleD123	5	2451	Dec 3, 2019 by Aloha
	Giving thanks- tradition 5... (Preview) As a kid- I was "keen as mustard"... always eager to learn and to grow emotionally. But I had issues beyond my control- hurdles. I shift away from cliches... mostly... and am practical really. The secrets of life I learned were all inside of the Alanon program... but some, sometimes were hard to f...	DavidG	2	4891	Dec 2, 2019 by DavidG
	Steps 2 and 3... (Preview) We sometimes avoid these steps in our groups. The too-hard basket. My personal opinion is that- in a mature group members might to these in a group, long before they pick up a sponsor. Tradition 10 is a great one for all twelve step groups. Our old timers were non-believers, hebrews, catholics a...	DavidG	1	10129	Dec 1, 2019 by Temple
	Hope for Today Dec 1 (Preview) Good morning everyone- I hope the holiday season is off to a great start for everyone! We have celebrated Thanksgiving here, started getting Christmas decorations out, and I am eating every carb in sight, so the holidays are officially underway:). Todays reading is about detachment with love. The...	yanksfan51	4	852	Dec 1, 2019 by yanksfan51
	I don't know how I got there and can't find my way back. (Preview) I seem to have posted my update on a Business Board. Some gifted person please fix? Update: I have now been officially diagnosed. The disease is "in situ." I was pleased to hear that--less complicated, somehow and good prognosis. However, the remedies offered seemed a tad draconian, either way....	Temple	28	1561	Dec 1, 2019 by Temple
	Earmarks of a Saga? (Preview) Some question marks came up and we will be repeating the surgery, but less extensively, on one side next week, perhaps. The goal is still the same--avoid radiology. I really like my surgeon and am fine with the decision. I'm just zapped. I'm extremely fatigued. Antibiotic aftereffects? I d...	Temple	7	1896	Dec 1, 2019 by Temple
	Fearful mom!! (Preview) i decided to catch a flight on Wednesday to California to help my adult daughter get into a treatment facility again. She has completely gone off the rails. There is so much going on here, as I'm finding out. There was some abuse between her and her fiancé while they were both inebriated. Before I could g...	Buckeye Girl	8	6848	Nov 30, 2019 by Maresie888
	OF COURSE...HAPPY THANKSGIVING MIP FAMILY... (Preview) I cannot and would not forget this family on Thanksgiving morning for all you have done and are still doing for my recovery; peace of mind, spirit and sanity. I am drenched in gratitude because so far the disease has not been able to knock the doors of my peace of mind and sanity off of it's hinges. I can g...	JerryF	6	1040	Nov 30, 2019 by DavidG
	Fears and projections... (Preview) We weren't dirt poor. The generation before me had gone barefoot to school, summer and boots in winter. I wrote a local history and one lady told me that their feet got hard and calloused in the summer. I do have a shoe story, which I won't tell now. But we were poor by the standards of our time. And out...	DavidG	2	2740	Nov 30, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change, 11/29 (Preview) Good morning, MIP! I hope everyone is having some joy today. The November 29 reading is about control. The writer had many reasons to be in control -- it meant being an adult, being cool, looking good on the outside, not feeling what was happening on the inside, and exhausting themselves while help...	Freetime	3	2597	Nov 29, 2019 by DavidG
	Boundaries (Preview) Hi It's WendyP. I have found and still am finding that working this Recovery Programme, is not easy. I have been challenged many, many, times as to staying in here, and going through the tough times, especially introducing changes within my Life. I have shed many tears, and have/had lots of Fears...	WendyP	5	1055	Nov 29, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 11/28 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate! The Courage to Change reading for today is about Step 4....the writer discovers that many of her virtues were often the source of her misery. The working of Step 4 gave the writer an opportunity to turn upside-down personality traits ri...	Iamhere	3	4059	Nov 28, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Fulfilling my recovery requirements (Preview) The most important requirement is to keep in contact with my HP and to communicate and learn what is helpful to my peace of mind and serenity. For now; today it is contacting my sponsor and speaking to him about detachment from my Hawaiian home and moving back to the mainland for reason. The reason is t...	JerryF	11	3370	Nov 28, 2019 by JerryF
	Wife and cocaine ( 1 2 ) (Preview) My wife and I have been married for 5 years. She is a recovering addict that has been clean for about 6 years. I bought her a restaurant that she has always wanted 3 months ago, she spent two months rehabbing it and open the last month. About two months ago I noticed a change in her. She was staying at the bar l...	Chicagopilot	60	10465	Nov 28, 2019 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change November 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's author reflects on their view of themselves and life. At one point, the author viewed their life as a tragedy, but today, they know that they are a survivor - the author has experienced many challenges, and is a stronger person for those experiences. With the help of their HP, the au...	Skorpi	5	2156	Nov 27, 2019 by Skorpi
	Sponsorship (Preview) Hi everyone. Looking for some advice. I've been in Al-Anon for a little over a year. Looking to progress in the programme and to do that I will need a sponsor. The meeting I go to only has myself and one other male member who has been in roughly the same time as me. Last night at our meeting we had extended a w...	Albion	5	6182	Nov 27, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 11/26 (Preview) Good morning all! Happy Tuesday or whatever day/evening it may be in your part of our world. I'm covering for Betty today! The reading today discusses the reality that alcoholism is a family disease and denial is 'real' in both the alcoholic as well as those who are directly or indirectly affected...	Iamhere	3	4317	Nov 26, 2019 by DavidG
	C2C, 11/15 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 11/25, talks about the writers reluctance to get fully involved with alanon. The writer grew very slowly until a crisis hit, and then was able to take full advantage of all alanon has to offer. They saw there were strengths and skills to be had, and then alanon became a top prior...	Lyne	2	3098	Nov 25, 2019 by Iamhere
	Phone call from our local assembly... (Preview) For some reason my closest group has a lot of men in it. This is a novelty for me- because- for the first 30 years I was the only man in my hometown group. This was a mixed blessing, really. Over time I bonded with my home group- and forgot the gender difference. Then I had this familiarity with women- w...	DavidG	4	1314	Nov 24, 2019 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Nov 24 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about being willing to do the work we need to do in order to make the changes we want in our lives. The writer describes getting a sponsor after a long time and noticing that her recovery accelerated with the help of another person. This got me thinking about how...	yanksfan51	3	4757	Nov 24, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today, 11/22 (Preview) This reading discusses one of my favorite/fraught topics -- holidays! The author had a difficult childhood where holidays were sad, and as an adult still found them hard. With Al-Anon, the author learned how to reclaim the holidays and created their own enjoyable fun traditions, now spending tim...	Freetime	3	1310	Nov 24, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 11/21 (Preview) Good morning MIP. The reading in Courage to Change for today reminds us that we will not be rid of our problems by practicing Al-Anon recovery. Instead, when we are living life on life's terms, Al-Anon gives us the courage and insight to turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones. Length of time in...	Iamhere	3	1850	Nov 21, 2019 by DavidG
	Learning to live, one day at a time... (Preview) ...hi y'all... ...one time I owned 100 sheep, and 600 fruit trees. I hated having the farm- there were family issues involved- but these no longer weigh me down. I got some gates and wire and stuff- and set out to build up a hobby farm. This was a return to the coast where I had worked on a railway gang i...	DavidG	18	2519	Nov 21, 2019 by DavidG
	The Lord's Prayer in meetings (Preview) I was sharing this with a friend the other day and thought it would be a good fit here. To preface this, when I lived in Hawaii, it was rare for an Al-Anon meeting to end with the Lord's Prayer. Most often it ended with the Serenity Prayer or the Al-Anon Declaration. That's what I "grew up in" for recovery. W...	Aloha	3	2812	Nov 21, 2019 by canadianguy
	Thanks and Blessings (Preview) Thank you to everyone who prayed for me and/or held me in good thoughts. It all went swimmingly. I came home energized--had to remind myself I was euphoric and really didn't need to be doing light laundry, probably. I think it was harder on Hubs than it was on me. Yesterday I crashed a little bit and am ev...	Temple	6	6654	Nov 21, 2019 by Temple
	Step 11- notes... (Preview) Pain always got in the way of my meditation. And exhaustion. So then I began to focus on that- the reality. I had pain from a young age. In my teens this was mostly about migraine. The thing that set me on my journey was the pain- as I sought answers for this. I found that in past decades that the answers wer...	DavidG	1	6735	Nov 21, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	seizure at an alcohol class (Preview) So I am waiting for EMTs to call me back and tell me where they're taking my AH.. He was on the first day of a three-day alcohol class mandated by the courts for his DWI and he has a seizure in the middle of class. I am so aggravated. I don't even feel sorry for him. I suspect that he worked himself up into such th...	Fedora	26	5256	Nov 21, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change November 20 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on joy. Colts, puppies, and little children are full of boundless joy at being alive. The author wonders what happened to their own joy? Living with the disease of alcoholism had broken the author's spirit. AlAnon provides the author with a fellows...	Skorpi	5	5397	Nov 20, 2019 by JerryF
	How Great My Higher Power is. (Preview) I would like to share of how my Higher Power worked His Magic in my life at one stage. I had joined a World Wide Pen Pal group, as well as being a Lone Member at that time,I joined a Lone Members Letter Box, from Head Office, in USA. They had sent me a list of People who I could write to, World Wide. I also had an A...	WendyP	5	4822	Nov 20, 2019 by Temple
	About LOVE (Preview) I saw this posted on another addiction site, and I thought that it was so profound. For me, this is what my marriage was lacking due to Addiction... not love. I am sorry I cannot credit who said it... "Feelings fade but character, integrity, honor, trust and stability is what we want to teach our childre...	PosiesandPuppies	18	6608	Nov 20, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Tough decision! (Preview) My adult daughter told me she was being verbally abused by her fiancé, but in fact it was her that has relapsed and is abusing him! She lives 2,000 miles away and as we speak, she is dead drunk and being physically abusive to her boyfriend. I begged him to stay with her so she doesn't hurt herself, but I'm tr...	Buckeye Girl	3	5580	Nov 20, 2019 by Aloha
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