Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am kind of sad today. Letting go of people is not easy for me. I have a cousin who won't call me only write me letters via mail. Sometimes I just want to stop writing just to see what would happen. I love her dearly. I don't want to lose touch. When I started to write this post, I really didn't know what I'd say...

DavidG · DavidG

I like growing potatoes, tomatoes and asparagus. They are all three related- and grow naturally on sands behind the tide line. Because I live far inland, the dustbowl of 1878 created the sands and sand dunes here. So when I am on the coast I collect sea weed. I rot it in a barrel and apply it...

Temple · Temple

Love to everybody! Made it though again--surgery and recovery went better; they believe me now that a little anesthetic goes a long way with me. Wasn't as perky when I got home, and have no complaints. I'll find out next week what the pathologists have found. Hope to be up to speed to drive Hubs home from...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance, or rather lack of importance, of money. The author shares that they had previously thought that their troubles would end if they won the lottery. But, would the lottery winnings take away the impact of alcoholism on the family? M...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, I would like to share about expectations that I had versus reality. I am really struggling at the moment, with Christmas,quickly approaching. With the way it seems to be advertised,in Catalogues,etc. What it looks like it supposed to be. Family, closeness, happily ever after. Well, for me tha...

hotrod · hotrod

the C2C reading for Dec. 10 speaks about having the courage to look closely at ourselves so as to see and admit our difficulties. The reading points out that often we focus all our attention on the alcoholic and do not see what we do that hurts us.. We will enjoy spiritual growth by practicing self h...

Aloha · Aloha

I'm curious what this slogan looks like for you. What does letting go and giving your will and life over to the care of your HP mean to you? Do you have any favorite passages from our CAL that sum this up for you perfectly? I'm going to be leading a meeting soon and thought I'd like to touch on the topic Let Go a...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/9, reflects upon attraction rather than promotion as alanons public relations policy. We are asked to keep the focus on ourselves, and do our best to live this program one day at a time. We can try to demonstrate recovery to the best of our ability. By setting a good example...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66118175/step-12-alanon-12-9/

amisfitlife · amisfitlife

Needto release as I am seriously loosing it. My boyfriend has been addicted off & on for many years he had been clean almost 11 months and relapsed. He said once he started to trying cope with life on normal terms he had slowly become more & more depressed. Said once he used he realized he never wa...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how tradition 5 can help transform resentment into compassion. As our program is about keeping the focus on ourselves, compassion starts with self as well. The writer describes being compassionate toward ourselves by working the steps and working...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is 2 days before Thanksgiving & this year I kind of feel a little less grateful! I guess I have been projecting too much; I think about the future w/o children & not being able to have kids to take care of me in my old age. I am only 53. I guess I just don't feel comfortable. I am trying not to feel...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I have this personal rule- which I call 'the two call rule'... I might visit or call up to two times- but if there is no response after that- I find it it time to move on- fresh grazing... ...it applies to family too, really. The terms for me- "goody-two-shoes" and 'beating my head aga...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about anger. The writer went through stages of first denying that they ever felt anger, then being able to recognize it when it was happening, then blaming their anger on the alcoholics and feeling worse than ever. Once they learned to bring the focus back to self, they could look a...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family. I love today's reading....it's about unconditional love, gratitude and letting go of fantasy/fairy tale thinking. The reminder: If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has alread...

el-cee · el-cee

I was wondering what your thoughts are on enabling. I had never really heard the term or understood it. I struggle at times with it. My sons disease has progressed over the last few years. Progressed in a way that looks like he has regressed back to being a teenager that's out of control. After 7 years in a...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on past decision making. Prior to AlAnon, many of us learned to make decisions based on our feelings, as if feelings were facts. Part of the author's Al-Anon recovery is learning that feelings are not facts. Humans are complex, fascinatin...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is all about meditation! It suggests that our program, Al-Anon, leaves the question - What is Meditation - leaves the question open intentionally. We each get to answer the question, and practice meditation by finding our own path. Like...

Lyne · Lyne

My A went to an AA meeting last night for the first time. Her attitude is that everyone there is way worse, shes not drinking (Today), she never got arrested (lucky), shes not drinking all day long , etc. Its exactly that attitude she needs treatment for. Not sure if she will continue.... I need: Ste...

Lyne · Lyne

In the writing for Monday, 12/2, the author discusses how easy it is for them to focus on their loved ones limitations. But they say all that does is keep the focus off themself, and nothing ever gets resolved. We are reminded to admit our powerlessness, as to avoid feeling hopeless, bitter, and/or f...

MicheleD123 · MicheleD123

Hi! Im new on here. My boyfriend is currently living at a sober house after completing a 30 day rehab program. He asked for space so that he could focus on his recovery while I focus on mine. However, Im having a difficult time taking the space and constantly wondering why he isnt reaching out to me. He has...

DavidG · DavidG

As a kid- I was "keen as mustard"... always eager to learn and to grow emotionally. But I had issues beyond my control- hurdles. I shift away from cliches... mostly... and am practical really. The secrets of life I learned were all inside of the Alanon program... but some, sometimes were hard to f...

DavidG · DavidG

We sometimes avoid these steps in our groups. The too-hard basket. My personal opinion is that- in a mature group members might to these in a group, long before they pick up a sponsor. Tradition 10 is a great one for all twelve step groups. Our old timers were non-believers, hebrews, catholics a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- I hope the holiday season is off to a great start for everyone! We have celebrated Thanksgiving here, started getting Christmas decorations out, and I am eating every carb in sight, so the holidays are officially underway:). Todays reading is about detachment with love. The...

Temple · Temple

I seem to have posted my update on a Business Board. Some gifted person please fix? Update: I have now been officially diagnosed. The disease is "in situ." I was pleased to hear that--less complicated, somehow and good prognosis. However, the remedies offered seemed a tad draconian, either way....

Temple · Temple

Some question marks came up and we will be repeating the surgery, but less extensively, on one side next week, perhaps. The goal is still the same--avoid radiology. I really like my surgeon and am fine with the decision. I'm just zapped. I'm extremely fatigued. Antibiotic aftereffects? I d...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

i decided to catch a flight on Wednesday to California to help my adult daughter get into a treatment facility again. She has completely gone off the rails. There is so much going on here, as I'm finding out. There was some abuse between her and her fiancé while they were both inebriated. Before I could g...

JerryF · JerryF

I cannot and would not forget this family on Thanksgiving morning for all you have done and are still doing for my recovery; peace of mind, spirit and sanity. I am drenched in gratitude because so far the disease has not been able to knock the doors of my peace of mind and sanity off of it's hinges. I can g...

DavidG · DavidG

We weren't dirt poor. The generation before me had gone barefoot to school, summer and boots in winter. I wrote a local history and one lady told me that their feet got hard and calloused in the summer. I do have a shoe story, which I won't tell now. But we were poor by the standards of our time. And out...

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning, MIP! I hope everyone is having some joy today. The November 29 reading is about control. The writer had many reasons to be in control -- it meant being an adult, being cool, looking good on the outside, not feeling what was happening on the inside, and exhausting themselves while help...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi It's WendyP. I have found and still am finding that working this Recovery Programme, is not easy. I have been challenged many, many, times as to staying in here, and going through the tough times, especially introducing changes within my Life. I have shed many tears, and have/had lots of Fears...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate! The Courage to Change reading for today is about Step 4....the writer discovers that many of her virtues were often the source of her misery. The working of Step 4 gave the writer an opportunity to turn upside-down personality traits ri...

JerryF · JerryF

The most important requirement is to keep in contact with my HP and to communicate and learn what is helpful to my peace of mind and serenity. For now; today it is contacting my sponsor and speaking to him about detachment from my Hawaiian home and moving back to the mainland for reason. The reason is t...

Chicagopilot · Chicagopilot

My wife and I have been married for 5 years. She is a recovering addict that has been clean for about 6 years. I bought her a restaurant that she has always wanted 3 months ago, she spent two months rehabbing it and open the last month. About two months ago I noticed a change in her. She was staying at the bar l...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's author reflects on their view of themselves and life. At one point, the author viewed their life as a tragedy, but today, they know that they are a survivor - the author has experienced many challenges, and is a stronger person for those experiences. With the help of their HP, the au...

Albion · Albion

Hi everyone. Looking for some advice. I've been in Al-Anon for a little over a year. Looking to progress in the programme and to do that I will need a sponsor. The meeting I go to only has myself and one other male member who has been in roughly the same time as me. Last night at our meeting we had extended a w...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning all! Happy Tuesday or whatever day/evening it may be in your part of our world. I'm covering for Betty today! The reading today discusses the reality that alcoholism is a family disease and denial is 'real' in both the alcoholic as well as those who are directly or indirectly affected...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 11/25, talks about the writers reluctance to get fully involved with alanon. The writer grew very slowly until a crisis hit, and then was able to take full advantage of all alanon has to offer. They saw there were strengths and skills to be had, and then alanon became a top prior...

DavidG · DavidG

For some reason my closest group has a lot of men in it. This is a novelty for me- because- for the first 30 years I was the only man in my hometown group. This was a mixed blessing, really. Over time I bonded with my home group- and forgot the gender difference. Then I had this familiarity with women- w...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about being willing to do the work we need to do in order to make the changes we want in our lives. The writer describes getting a sponsor after a long time and noticing that her recovery accelerated with the help of another person. This got me thinking about how...

Freetime · Freetime

This reading discusses one of my favorite/fraught topics -- holidays! The author had a difficult childhood where holidays were sad, and as an adult still found them hard. With Al-Anon, the author learned how to reclaim the holidays and created their own enjoyable fun traditions, now spending tim...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. The reading in Courage to Change for today reminds us that we will not be rid of our problems by practicing Al-Anon recovery. Instead, when we are living life on life's terms, Al-Anon gives us the courage and insight to turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones. Length of time in...

DavidG · DavidG

...hi y'all... ...one time I owned 100 sheep, and 600 fruit trees. I hated having the farm- there were family issues involved- but these no longer weigh me down. I got some gates and wire and stuff- and set out to build up a hobby farm. This was a return to the coast where I had worked on a railway gang i...

Aloha · Aloha

I was sharing this with a friend the other day and thought it would be a good fit here. To preface this, when I lived in Hawaii, it was rare for an Al-Anon meeting to end with the Lord's Prayer. Most often it ended with the Serenity Prayer or the Al-Anon Declaration. That's what I "grew up in" for recovery. W...

Temple · Temple

Thank you to everyone who prayed for me and/or held me in good thoughts. It all went swimmingly. I came home energized--had to remind myself I was euphoric and really didn't need to be doing light laundry, probably. I think it was harder on Hubs than it was on me. Yesterday I crashed a little bit and am ev...

DavidG · DavidG

Pain always got in the way of my meditation. And exhaustion. So then I began to focus on that- the reality. I had pain from a young age. In my teens this was mostly about migraine. The thing that set me on my journey was the pain- as I sought answers for this. I found that in past decades that the answers wer...

Fedora · Fedora

So I am waiting for EMTs to call me back and tell me where they're taking my AH.. He was on the first day of a three-day alcohol class mandated by the courts for his DWI and he has a seizure in the middle of class. I am so aggravated. I don't even feel sorry for him. I suspect that he worked himself up into such th...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on joy. Colts, puppies, and little children are full of boundless joy at being alive. The author wonders what happened to their own joy? Living with the disease of alcoholism had broken the author's spirit. AlAnon provides the author with a fellows...

WendyP · WendyP

I would like to share of how my Higher Power worked His Magic in my life at one stage. I had joined a World Wide Pen Pal group, as well as being a Lone Member at that time,I joined a Lone Members Letter Box, from Head Office, in USA. They had sent me a list of People who I could write to, World Wide. I also had an A...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I saw this posted on another addiction site, and I thought that it was so profound. For me, this is what my marriage was lacking due to Addiction... not love. I am sorry I cannot credit who said it... "Feelings fade but character, integrity, honor, trust and stability is what we want to teach our childre...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter told me she was being verbally abused by her fiancé, but in fact it was her that has relapsed and is abusing him! She lives 2,000 miles away and as we speak, she is dead drunk and being physically abusive to her boyfriend. I begged him to stay with her so she doesn't hurt herself, but I'm tr...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C Reading for 11/19 speaks about using alanon tools on a daily basis so as to overcome the negative, soul destroying effects of the disease of alcoholism. The reading suggests that life is for our growth both mental and spiritual. So that by having the courage to look closely at ourselve...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I feel that it has a lot to do with boundaries. I did not create my own boundaries, in the beginning- that were made around me. I just reacted and assumed that "this is life". It did not work out and I had to come into Alanon to relearn stuff. I read the phrase: Recove...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Shift almost over. Got a 4-day weekend. Might show my gratitude by going to a meeting tomorrow. I might even bring treats. Cranberry white- chocolate chip cookies oughta do it. The job is getting to me and I haven't been doing it that long. But, how many jobs are there that are like walking into a room ful...

2HP · 2HP

Ive seen a few posts on this topic lately. When I first arrived, "acceptance" was very confusing. For my entire life, I had the habit of outward focus. Al-anon helped me to begin a life of ministering to myself as well. It was not a knee jerk decision for me to leave my alcoholic husband, I stayed fo...

DavidG · DavidG

I suffer from exhaustion. Whenever i get into a dry warm space I tend to fall asleep. Over the years, when doing my step 10, I tended to doze off, rather than to become enlightened. I took it from that- that I needed rest. I spent a lot of energy and time trying to mitigate the alcoholic circumstance in m...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 11/18, talks about step 2 and being restored to sanity. The writer says that a sane way of life includes functioning responsibly and realistically, but also having the willingness to play, to take breaks, to have hobbies, and include humor. Dwelling on troubles allows the...

DavidG · DavidG

I am grateful for the feelings that Alanon gives me. Of love and joy- and family. I did have to wade through anger, fear and grief to get here- because that was not dealt with, in my world, in a healthy way. When I was 15 our english teacher was the vicar's wife. I had a schoolfriend who died that yea...

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	it doesn't have to be sad... (Preview) I am kind of sad today. Letting go of people is not easy for me. I have a cousin who won't call me only write me letters via mail. Sometimes I just want to stop writing just to see what would happen. I love her dearly. I don't want to lose touch. When I started to write this post, I really didn't know what I'd say...	Hoot Nanny	5	1227	Dec 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Shifting sands often reveal ordinary things... (Preview) I like growing potatoes, tomatoes and asparagus. They are all three related- and grow naturally on sands behind the tide line. Because I live far inland, the dustbowl of 1878 created the sands and sand dunes here. So when I am on the coast I collect sea weed. I rot it in a barrel and apply it...	DavidG	4	3892	Dec 11, 2019 by Temple
	Still here--still blessed (Preview) Love to everybody! Made it though again--surgery and recovery went better; they believe me now that a little anesthetic goes a long way with me. Wasn't as perky when I got home, and have no complaints. I'll find out next week what the pathologists have found. Hope to be up to speed to drive Hubs home from...	Temple	5	7601	Dec 11, 2019 by Temple
	Courage to Change December 11 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance, or rather lack of importance, of money. The author shares that they had previously thought that their troubles would end if they won the lottery. But, would the lottery winnings take away the impact of alcoholism on the family? M...	Skorpi	4	4615	Dec 11, 2019 by DavidG
	Expectations (Preview) Hi, I would like to share about expectations that I had versus reality. I am really struggling at the moment, with Christmas,quickly approaching. With the way it seems to be advertised,in Catalogues,etc. What it looks like it supposed to be. Family, closeness, happily ever after. Well, for me tha...	WendyP	15	4908	Dec 10, 2019 by Temple
	C2C Reading 12-10 (Preview) the C2C reading for Dec. 10 speaks about having the courage to look closely at ourselves so as to see and admit our difficulties. The reading points out that often we focus all our attention on the alcoholic and do not see what we do that hurts us.. We will enjoy spiritual growth by practicing self h...	hotrod	4	645	Dec 10, 2019 by Iamhere
	Let Go and Let God (Preview) I'm curious what this slogan looks like for you. What does letting go and giving your will and life over to the care of your HP mean to you? Do you have any favorite passages from our CAL that sum this up for you perfectly? I'm going to be leading a meeting soon and thought I'd like to touch on the topic Let Go a...	Aloha	5	2447	Dec 10, 2019 by Aloha
	C2C, 12/9 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/9, reflects upon attraction rather than promotion as alanons public relations policy. We are asked to keep the focus on ourselves, and do our best to live this program one day at a time. We can try to demonstrate recovery to the best of our ability. By setting a good example...	Lyne	2	616	Dec 9, 2019 by Iamhere
	Step 12 (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66118175/step-12-alanon-12-9/	hotrod	1	697	Dec 9, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Struggling (Preview) Needto release as I am seriously loosing it. My boyfriend has been addicted off & on for many years he had been clean almost 11 months and relapsed. He said once he started to trying cope with life on normal terms he had slowly become more & more depressed. Said once he used he realized he never wa...	amisfitlife	4	1038	Dec 9, 2019 by Aloha
	Hope for Today Dec 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how tradition 5 can help transform resentment into compassion. As our program is about keeping the focus on ourselves, compassion starts with self as well. The writer describes being compassionate toward ourselves by working the steps and working...	yanksfan51	4	971	Dec 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	just another Thanksgiving & a reason to be grateful! (Preview) Today is 2 days before Thanksgiving & this year I kind of feel a little less grateful! I guess I have been projecting too much; I think about the future w/o children & not being able to have kids to take care of me in my old age. I am only 53. I guess I just don't feel comfortable. I am trying not to feel...	Hoot Nanny	7	1008	Dec 7, 2019 by Maresie888
	A tough time- but hope... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I have this personal rule- which I call 'the two call rule'... I might visit or call up to two times- but if there is no response after that- I find it it time to move on- fresh grazing... ...it applies to family too, really. The terms for me- "goody-two-shoes" and 'beating my head aga...	DavidG	9	2789	Dec 6, 2019 by Temple
	Courage to Change, 12/6 - Anger (Preview) Today's reading is about anger. The writer went through stages of first denying that they ever felt anger, then being able to recognize it when it was happening, then blaming their anger on the alcoholics and feeling worse than ever. Once they learned to bring the focus back to self, they could look a...	Freetime	4	2338	Dec 6, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 12/5 (Preview) Good morning MIP family. I love today's reading....it's about unconditional love, gratitude and letting go of fantasy/fairy tale thinking. The reminder: If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has alread...	Iamhere	1	2677	Dec 6, 2019 by Lyne
	Enabling (Preview) I was wondering what your thoughts are on enabling. I had never really heard the term or understood it. I struggle at times with it. My sons disease has progressed over the last few years. Progressed in a way that looks like he has regressed back to being a teenager that's out of control. After 7 years in a...	el-cee	14	2965	Dec 4, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change December 4 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on past decision making. Prior to AlAnon, many of us learned to make decisions based on our feelings, as if feelings were facts. Part of the author's Al-Anon recovery is learning that feelings are not facts. Humans are complex, fascinatin...	Skorpi	4	698	Dec 4, 2019 by Freetime
	Courage to Change 12/3 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is all about meditation! It suggests that our program, Al-Anon, leaves the question - What is Meditation - leaves the question open intentionally. We each get to answer the question, and practice meditation by finding our own path. Like...	Iamhere	2	2227	Dec 3, 2019 by DavidG
	Anger (Preview) My A went to an AA meeting last night for the first time. Her attitude is that everyone there is way worse, shes not drinking (Today), she never got arrested (lucky), shes not drinking all day long , etc. Its exactly that attitude she needs treatment for. Not sure if she will continue.... I need: Ste...	Lyne	14	7877	Dec 3, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, 12/2 (Preview) In the writing for Monday, 12/2, the author discusses how easy it is for them to focus on their loved ones limitations. But they say all that does is keep the focus off themself, and nothing ever gets resolved. We are reminded to admit our powerlessness, as to avoid feeling hopeless, bitter, and/or f...	Lyne	2	6407	Dec 3, 2019 by tiredtonite
	New Recovered AA Advice on Romantic Partner (Preview) Hi! Im new on here. My boyfriend is currently living at a sober house after completing a 30 day rehab program. He asked for space so that he could focus on his recovery while I focus on mine. However, Im having a difficult time taking the space and constantly wondering why he isnt reaching out to me. He has...	MicheleD123	5	2389	Dec 3, 2019 by Aloha
	Giving thanks- tradition 5... (Preview) As a kid- I was "keen as mustard"... always eager to learn and to grow emotionally. But I had issues beyond my control- hurdles. I shift away from cliches... mostly... and am practical really. The secrets of life I learned were all inside of the Alanon program... but some, sometimes were hard to f...	DavidG	2	4696	Dec 2, 2019 by DavidG
	Steps 2 and 3... (Preview) We sometimes avoid these steps in our groups. The too-hard basket. My personal opinion is that- in a mature group members might to these in a group, long before they pick up a sponsor. Tradition 10 is a great one for all twelve step groups. Our old timers were non-believers, hebrews, catholics a...	DavidG	1	9749	Dec 1, 2019 by Temple
	Hope for Today Dec 1 (Preview) Good morning everyone- I hope the holiday season is off to a great start for everyone! We have celebrated Thanksgiving here, started getting Christmas decorations out, and I am eating every carb in sight, so the holidays are officially underway:). Todays reading is about detachment with love. The...	yanksfan51	4	828	Dec 1, 2019 by yanksfan51
	I don't know how I got there and can't find my way back. (Preview) I seem to have posted my update on a Business Board. Some gifted person please fix? Update: I have now been officially diagnosed. The disease is "in situ." I was pleased to hear that--less complicated, somehow and good prognosis. However, the remedies offered seemed a tad draconian, either way....	Temple	28	1531	Dec 1, 2019 by Temple
	Earmarks of a Saga? (Preview) Some question marks came up and we will be repeating the surgery, but less extensively, on one side next week, perhaps. The goal is still the same--avoid radiology. I really like my surgeon and am fine with the decision. I'm just zapped. I'm extremely fatigued. Antibiotic aftereffects? I d...	Temple	7	1867	Dec 1, 2019 by Temple
	Fearful mom!! (Preview) i decided to catch a flight on Wednesday to California to help my adult daughter get into a treatment facility again. She has completely gone off the rails. There is so much going on here, as I'm finding out. There was some abuse between her and her fiancé while they were both inebriated. Before I could g...	Buckeye Girl	8	6616	Nov 30, 2019 by Maresie888
	OF COURSE...HAPPY THANKSGIVING MIP FAMILY... (Preview) I cannot and would not forget this family on Thanksgiving morning for all you have done and are still doing for my recovery; peace of mind, spirit and sanity. I am drenched in gratitude because so far the disease has not been able to knock the doors of my peace of mind and sanity off of it's hinges. I can g...	JerryF	6	1018	Nov 30, 2019 by DavidG
	Fears and projections... (Preview) We weren't dirt poor. The generation before me had gone barefoot to school, summer and boots in winter. I wrote a local history and one lady told me that their feet got hard and calloused in the summer. I do have a shoe story, which I won't tell now. But we were poor by the standards of our time. And out...	DavidG	2	2614	Nov 30, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change, 11/29 (Preview) Good morning, MIP! I hope everyone is having some joy today. The November 29 reading is about control. The writer had many reasons to be in control -- it meant being an adult, being cool, looking good on the outside, not feeling what was happening on the inside, and exhausting themselves while help...	Freetime	3	2481	Nov 29, 2019 by DavidG
	Boundaries (Preview) Hi It's WendyP. I have found and still am finding that working this Recovery Programme, is not easy. I have been challenged many, many, times as to staying in here, and going through the tough times, especially introducing changes within my Life. I have shed many tears, and have/had lots of Fears...	WendyP	5	1028	Nov 29, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 11/28 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate! The Courage to Change reading for today is about Step 4....the writer discovers that many of her virtues were often the source of her misery. The working of Step 4 gave the writer an opportunity to turn upside-down personality traits ri...	Iamhere	3	3889	Nov 28, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Fulfilling my recovery requirements (Preview) The most important requirement is to keep in contact with my HP and to communicate and learn what is helpful to my peace of mind and serenity. For now; today it is contacting my sponsor and speaking to him about detachment from my Hawaiian home and moving back to the mainland for reason. The reason is t...	JerryF	11	3231	Nov 28, 2019 by JerryF
	Wife and cocaine ( 1 2 ) (Preview) My wife and I have been married for 5 years. She is a recovering addict that has been clean for about 6 years. I bought her a restaurant that she has always wanted 3 months ago, she spent two months rehabbing it and open the last month. About two months ago I noticed a change in her. She was staying at the bar l...	Chicagopilot	60	10157	Nov 28, 2019 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change November 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's author reflects on their view of themselves and life. At one point, the author viewed their life as a tragedy, but today, they know that they are a survivor - the author has experienced many challenges, and is a stronger person for those experiences. With the help of their HP, the au...	Skorpi	5	2081	Nov 27, 2019 by Skorpi
	Sponsorship (Preview) Hi everyone. Looking for some advice. I've been in Al-Anon for a little over a year. Looking to progress in the programme and to do that I will need a sponsor. The meeting I go to only has myself and one other male member who has been in roughly the same time as me. Last night at our meeting we had extended a w...	Albion	5	5997	Nov 27, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 11/26 (Preview) Good morning all! Happy Tuesday or whatever day/evening it may be in your part of our world. I'm covering for Betty today! The reading today discusses the reality that alcoholism is a family disease and denial is 'real' in both the alcoholic as well as those who are directly or indirectly affected...	Iamhere	3	4152	Nov 26, 2019 by DavidG
	C2C, 11/15 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 11/25, talks about the writers reluctance to get fully involved with alanon. The writer grew very slowly until a crisis hit, and then was able to take full advantage of all alanon has to offer. They saw there were strengths and skills to be had, and then alanon became a top prior...	Lyne	2	2997	Nov 25, 2019 by Iamhere
	Phone call from our local assembly... (Preview) For some reason my closest group has a lot of men in it. This is a novelty for me- because- for the first 30 years I was the only man in my hometown group. This was a mixed blessing, really. Over time I bonded with my home group- and forgot the gender difference. Then I had this familiarity with women- w...	DavidG	4	1286	Nov 24, 2019 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Nov 24 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about being willing to do the work we need to do in order to make the changes we want in our lives. The writer describes getting a sponsor after a long time and noticing that her recovery accelerated with the help of another person. This got me thinking about how...	yanksfan51	3	4561	Nov 24, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today, 11/22 (Preview) This reading discusses one of my favorite/fraught topics -- holidays! The author had a difficult childhood where holidays were sad, and as an adult still found them hard. With Al-Anon, the author learned how to reclaim the holidays and created their own enjoyable fun traditions, now spending tim...	Freetime	3	1289	Nov 24, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 11/21 (Preview) Good morning MIP. The reading in Courage to Change for today reminds us that we will not be rid of our problems by practicing Al-Anon recovery. Instead, when we are living life on life's terms, Al-Anon gives us the courage and insight to turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones. Length of time in...	Iamhere	3	1821	Nov 21, 2019 by DavidG
	Learning to live, one day at a time... (Preview) ...hi y'all... ...one time I owned 100 sheep, and 600 fruit trees. I hated having the farm- there were family issues involved- but these no longer weigh me down. I got some gates and wire and stuff- and set out to build up a hobby farm. This was a return to the coast where I had worked on a railway gang i...	DavidG	18	2425	Nov 21, 2019 by DavidG
	The Lord's Prayer in meetings (Preview) I was sharing this with a friend the other day and thought it would be a good fit here. To preface this, when I lived in Hawaii, it was rare for an Al-Anon meeting to end with the Lord's Prayer. Most often it ended with the Serenity Prayer or the Al-Anon Declaration. That's what I "grew up in" for recovery. W...	Aloha	3	2724	Nov 21, 2019 by canadianguy
	Thanks and Blessings (Preview) Thank you to everyone who prayed for me and/or held me in good thoughts. It all went swimmingly. I came home energized--had to remind myself I was euphoric and really didn't need to be doing light laundry, probably. I think it was harder on Hubs than it was on me. Yesterday I crashed a little bit and am ev...	Temple	6	6379	Nov 21, 2019 by Temple
	Step 11- notes... (Preview) Pain always got in the way of my meditation. And exhaustion. So then I began to focus on that- the reality. I had pain from a young age. In my teens this was mostly about migraine. The thing that set me on my journey was the pain- as I sought answers for this. I found that in past decades that the answers wer...	DavidG	1	6421	Nov 21, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	seizure at an alcohol class (Preview) So I am waiting for EMTs to call me back and tell me where they're taking my AH.. He was on the first day of a three-day alcohol class mandated by the courts for his DWI and he has a seizure in the middle of class. I am so aggravated. I don't even feel sorry for him. I suspect that he worked himself up into such th...	Fedora	26	5041	Nov 21, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change November 20 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on joy. Colts, puppies, and little children are full of boundless joy at being alive. The author wonders what happened to their own joy? Living with the disease of alcoholism had broken the author's spirit. AlAnon provides the author with a fellows...	Skorpi	5	5147	Nov 20, 2019 by JerryF
	How Great My Higher Power is. (Preview) I would like to share of how my Higher Power worked His Magic in my life at one stage. I had joined a World Wide Pen Pal group, as well as being a Lone Member at that time,I joined a Lone Members Letter Box, from Head Office, in USA. They had sent me a list of People who I could write to, World Wide. I also had an A...	WendyP	5	4661	Nov 20, 2019 by Temple
	About LOVE (Preview) I saw this posted on another addiction site, and I thought that it was so profound. For me, this is what my marriage was lacking due to Addiction... not love. I am sorry I cannot credit who said it... "Feelings fade but character, integrity, honor, trust and stability is what we want to teach our childre...	PosiesandPuppies	18	6357	Nov 20, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Tough decision! (Preview) My adult daughter told me she was being verbally abused by her fiancé, but in fact it was her that has relapsed and is abusing him! She lives 2,000 miles away and as we speak, she is dead drunk and being physically abusive to her boyfriend. I begged him to stay with her so she doesn't hurt herself, but I'm tr...	Buckeye Girl	3	5383	Nov 20, 2019 by Aloha
	C2C reading 11-19 (Preview) The C2C Reading for 11/19 speaks about using alanon tools on a daily basis so as to overcome the negative, soul destroying effects of the disease of alcoholism. The reading suggests that life is for our growth both mental and spiritual. So that by having the courage to look closely at ourselve...	hotrod	4	3760	Nov 19, 2019 by Iamhere
	So much anxiety!! (Preview) My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...	Buckeye Girl	2	1049	Nov 19, 2019 by 2HP
	Minding my own business- live and let live... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I feel that it has a lot to do with boundaries. I did not create my own boundaries, in the beginning- that were made around me. I just reacted and assumed that "this is life". It did not work out and I had to come into Alanon to relearn stuff. I read the phrase: Recove...	DavidG	1	2916	Nov 19, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Anxiety overload! (Preview) My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...	Buckeye Girl	15	18978	Nov 19, 2019 by Maresie888
	Just Checking To See What Condition my condition is in (Preview) Shift almost over. Got a 4-day weekend. Might show my gratitude by going to a meeting tomorrow. I might even bring treats. Cranberry white- chocolate chip cookies oughta do it. The job is getting to me and I haven't been doing it that long. But, how many jobs are there that are like walking into a room ful...	Wolfie55	7	4689	Nov 18, 2019 by Maresie888
	Acceptance (Preview) Ive seen a few posts on this topic lately. When I first arrived, "acceptance" was very confusing. For my entire life, I had the habit of outward focus. Al-anon helped me to begin a life of ministering to myself as well. It was not a knee jerk decision for me to leave my alcoholic husband, I stayed fo...	2HP	20	7043	Nov 18, 2019 by JerryF
	Step 1, or Step 10...??? (Preview) I suffer from exhaustion. Whenever i get into a dry warm space I tend to fall asleep. Over the years, when doing my step 10, I tended to doze off, rather than to become enlightened. I took it from that- that I needed rest. I spent a lot of energy and time trying to mitigate the alcoholic circumstance in m...	DavidG	1	975	Nov 18, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 11/18 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 11/18, talks about step 2 and being restored to sanity. The writer says that a sane way of life includes functioning responsibly and realistically, but also having the willingness to play, to take breaks, to have hobbies, and include humor. Dwelling on troubles allows the...	Lyne	4	2691	Nov 18, 2019 by Iamhere
	Loss, of a brother... (Preview) I am grateful for the feelings that Alanon gives me. Of love and joy- and family. I did have to wade through anger, fear and grief to get here- because that was not dealt with, in my world, in a healthy way. When I was 15 our english teacher was the vicar's wife. I had a schoolfriend who died that yea...	DavidG	11	3820	Nov 17, 2019 by DavidG
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