Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate! The Courage to Change reading for today is about Step 4....the writer discovers that many of her virtues were often the source of her misery. The working of Step 4 gave the writer an opportunity to turn upside-down personality traits ri...

JerryF · JerryF

The most important requirement is to keep in contact with my HP and to communicate and learn what is helpful to my peace of mind and serenity. For now; today it is contacting my sponsor and speaking to him about detachment from my Hawaiian home and moving back to the mainland for reason. The reason is t...

Chicagopilot · Chicagopilot

My wife and I have been married for 5 years. She is a recovering addict that has been clean for about 6 years. I bought her a restaurant that she has always wanted 3 months ago, she spent two months rehabbing it and open the last month. About two months ago I noticed a change in her. She was staying at the bar l...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's author reflects on their view of themselves and life. At one point, the author viewed their life as a tragedy, but today, they know that they are a survivor - the author has experienced many challenges, and is a stronger person for those experiences. With the help of their HP, the au...

Albion · Albion

Hi everyone. Looking for some advice. I've been in Al-Anon for a little over a year. Looking to progress in the programme and to do that I will need a sponsor. The meeting I go to only has myself and one other male member who has been in roughly the same time as me. Last night at our meeting we had extended a w...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning all! Happy Tuesday or whatever day/evening it may be in your part of our world. I'm covering for Betty today! The reading today discusses the reality that alcoholism is a family disease and denial is 'real' in both the alcoholic as well as those who are directly or indirectly affected...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 11/25, talks about the writers reluctance to get fully involved with alanon. The writer grew very slowly until a crisis hit, and then was able to take full advantage of all alanon has to offer. They saw there were strengths and skills to be had, and then alanon became a top prior...

DavidG · DavidG

For some reason my closest group has a lot of men in it. This is a novelty for me- because- for the first 30 years I was the only man in my hometown group. This was a mixed blessing, really. Over time I bonded with my home group- and forgot the gender difference. Then I had this familiarity with women- w...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about being willing to do the work we need to do in order to make the changes we want in our lives. The writer describes getting a sponsor after a long time and noticing that her recovery accelerated with the help of another person. This got me thinking about how...

Freetime · Freetime

This reading discusses one of my favorite/fraught topics -- holidays! The author had a difficult childhood where holidays were sad, and as an adult still found them hard. With Al-Anon, the author learned how to reclaim the holidays and created their own enjoyable fun traditions, now spending tim...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. The reading in Courage to Change for today reminds us that we will not be rid of our problems by practicing Al-Anon recovery. Instead, when we are living life on life's terms, Al-Anon gives us the courage and insight to turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones. Length of time in...

DavidG · DavidG

...hi y'all... ...one time I owned 100 sheep, and 600 fruit trees. I hated having the farm- there were family issues involved- but these no longer weigh me down. I got some gates and wire and stuff- and set out to build up a hobby farm. This was a return to the coast where I had worked on a railway gang i...

Aloha · Aloha

I was sharing this with a friend the other day and thought it would be a good fit here. To preface this, when I lived in Hawaii, it was rare for an Al-Anon meeting to end with the Lord's Prayer. Most often it ended with the Serenity Prayer or the Al-Anon Declaration. That's what I "grew up in" for recovery. W...

Temple · Temple

Thank you to everyone who prayed for me and/or held me in good thoughts. It all went swimmingly. I came home energized--had to remind myself I was euphoric and really didn't need to be doing light laundry, probably. I think it was harder on Hubs than it was on me. Yesterday I crashed a little bit and am ev...

DavidG · DavidG

Pain always got in the way of my meditation. And exhaustion. So then I began to focus on that- the reality. I had pain from a young age. In my teens this was mostly about migraine. The thing that set me on my journey was the pain- as I sought answers for this. I found that in past decades that the answers wer...

Fedora · Fedora

So I am waiting for EMTs to call me back and tell me where they're taking my AH.. He was on the first day of a three-day alcohol class mandated by the courts for his DWI and he has a seizure in the middle of class. I am so aggravated. I don't even feel sorry for him. I suspect that he worked himself up into such th...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on joy. Colts, puppies, and little children are full of boundless joy at being alive. The author wonders what happened to their own joy? Living with the disease of alcoholism had broken the author's spirit. AlAnon provides the author with a fellows...

WendyP · WendyP

I would like to share of how my Higher Power worked His Magic in my life at one stage. I had joined a World Wide Pen Pal group, as well as being a Lone Member at that time,I joined a Lone Members Letter Box, from Head Office, in USA. They had sent me a list of People who I could write to, World Wide. I also had an A...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I saw this posted on another addiction site, and I thought that it was so profound. For me, this is what my marriage was lacking due to Addiction... not love. I am sorry I cannot credit who said it... "Feelings fade but character, integrity, honor, trust and stability is what we want to teach our childre...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter told me she was being verbally abused by her fiancé, but in fact it was her that has relapsed and is abusing him! She lives 2,000 miles away and as we speak, she is dead drunk and being physically abusive to her boyfriend. I begged him to stay with her so she doesn't hurt herself, but I'm tr...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C Reading for 11/19 speaks about using alanon tools on a daily basis so as to overcome the negative, soul destroying effects of the disease of alcoholism. The reading suggests that life is for our growth both mental and spiritual. So that by having the courage to look closely at ourselve...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I feel that it has a lot to do with boundaries. I did not create my own boundaries, in the beginning- that were made around me. I just reacted and assumed that "this is life". It did not work out and I had to come into Alanon to relearn stuff. I read the phrase: Recove...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Shift almost over. Got a 4-day weekend. Might show my gratitude by going to a meeting tomorrow. I might even bring treats. Cranberry white- chocolate chip cookies oughta do it. The job is getting to me and I haven't been doing it that long. But, how many jobs are there that are like walking into a room ful...

2HP · 2HP

Ive seen a few posts on this topic lately. When I first arrived, "acceptance" was very confusing. For my entire life, I had the habit of outward focus. Al-anon helped me to begin a life of ministering to myself as well. It was not a knee jerk decision for me to leave my alcoholic husband, I stayed fo...

DavidG · DavidG

I suffer from exhaustion. Whenever i get into a dry warm space I tend to fall asleep. Over the years, when doing my step 10, I tended to doze off, rather than to become enlightened. I took it from that- that I needed rest. I spent a lot of energy and time trying to mitigate the alcoholic circumstance in m...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 11/18, talks about step 2 and being restored to sanity. The writer says that a sane way of life includes functioning responsibly and realistically, but also having the willingness to play, to take breaks, to have hobbies, and include humor. Dwelling on troubles allows the...

DavidG · DavidG

I am grateful for the feelings that Alanon gives me. Of love and joy- and family. I did have to wade through anger, fear and grief to get here- because that was not dealt with, in my world, in a healthy way. When I was 15 our english teacher was the vicar's wife. I had a schoolfriend who died that yea...

andromeda · andromeda

Hey everyone, I finally started my new position with the company and, nan, I feel out of place, lol. It's an office of all MEN and it's like an old boys' club. they have their ways and I'm just the new chick on the block, so to speak. i have a lot to learn and I've already had so much thrown at me. I found out...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about our call to service. The writer describes praying for Gods will to make sure that being called to service is truly that, and not a way to avoid, manipulate or control something going on in life. When I read this, I remembered the first time I worked the ste...

JerryF · JerryF

Spent the morning reading and double reading from our literature...blessing tools. They remind me of what it was like, what happened after getting into program and what it is like now while following the guidance. This is where and how I feel blessed for real by our program thru my Higher Power. ...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C Reading for 11/12 speaks about using alanon tools on a daily basis. it suggests that many times we are on automatic and neglect our tool box only to discover we are right in the middle of a conflict. Using the steps, slogans and principles constantly helps to build a useful, fulfilling li...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. The reading today discusses Step Six - where we become entirely ready to have God remove all of our defects of character. The writer suggests the readiness didn't/doesn't come in a sudden, blinding flash of enlightenment but rather a little at a time as positive progress is made i...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's author shares that they read somewhere that the things that are urgent are rarely important and the things that are important are rarely urgent. Our author can get so caught up in nagging, trivial matters of day-to-day life, that they forget to spend time on more important pursui...

Lyne · Lyne

Im attaching myself to step 3 for sanity and help from HP. Yesterday in our couples session with an addiction counselor, my A stated for the 100th time, she will not drink and will not lie. There is no awareness on her part that she has been saying this for 15 years, maybe longer, and that she cannot cont...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's page was easily hurt by other people's anger or negative moods. It helped to realize that the other person's words or tone were really about what was going on inside that person. The author realized that extreme sensitivity was based on the belief that "I am the focus of everyone...

joker · joker

Its been awhile since I posted. I have been reading on line here and my thinking is a bit saner. Reading and being in recovery makes a difference for the better. December will be 2 years since I last seen the abf. It seems like a lifetime ago. When I look back, its a true miracle I was not killed or seriously i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

& I will take them. I am so grateful that no matter what, God I can handle anything. I am so grateful that this is gratitude month where I am from & it certainly doesn't hurt to be grateful. Even if you don't know what gratitude is or where it comes from, I can tell you that I learned to be grateful whe...

Aloha · Aloha

I wanted to share this - I heard a speaker, Tom B. share this little joke at a talk a few days ago. He said his sponsor once informed him that a laurel is something that you wear on your head. So when you're resting (sitting) on your laurels, you essentially have your head up your... ahem. lol I thought that...

amisfitlife · amisfitlife

My boyfriend has been an addict and alcoholic off and on for 14 years. He has had past stints in rehab and stints in jail. He had been clean 9 months this time. For the first time it felt different like he had truly hit rock bottom. Friday evening he went no contact and still has not surfaced. I have been at...

KT2015 · KT2015

Hi There MIP peeps Things had been trucking along pretty well in our household until yesterday. Yesterday my AH was talking about making a bigger purchase for himself and he mentioned using his bonus money for it. About 4 months or so ago we had a bit of upheaval when he asked me to figure out where all...

JerryF · JerryF

And hopefully only a day only. Geez gonna go sit on my HP's lap and just be quiet and still and hopeful. The majority of people around me are upset and pissed and I am powerless. So what do I gotta do? If I am powerless...turn it over and let it go and not do anything to excite while dodging the flying ob...

Lyne · Lyne

The choice of insanity vs sanity is the topic for the reading on Monday, 11/11. Repeating the same behavior over and over and expecting different results is described as an insane way to live. Looking at Step 3, Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him, c...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

What is the purpose of the blue permalink thing in the upper right corner of our posts? Thanks - TT

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the power of......writing! The writer describes how freeing it is to get thoughts down on paper. It is a form of self reflection, a way to get to know ourselves better, a way to vent when things are difficult and celebrate when lifes moments are good. I wo...

Painful · Painful

Am new to this. I've been with my boyfriend for 14 years and we have kids together. When he drinks he becomes a bully to all of us. We try to walk away but he follows us and keeps bring up are flaws. I know we should not argue with him but we get so mad, frustrated and want to hurt him like he is hurting us. It's alw...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading talks about the disease of alcoholism, and that it is classified as a family disease. It affects not only the drinker but those o us who care about him or her as well. The writer suggests that or some of us, our thinking that's been passed down from generations befor...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... I am back from the northern city. Going there was my goal-set for the year- present for myself. This time i did not isolate- but stayed with friends- in a warm comfortable space. One of my long term goals is to be part of a process- that places ACA D-F in a comfortable spot- between Alanon, AA...

kalotaxidi · kalotaxidi

This past year has been a whirlwind with my pregnancy causing my husband to go off the deep end, a new baby, 3 rehabs, and now a new discovery of infidelity. He was away from the house for 5 months over the summer/early fall, and I let him back in after I saw that he was back to his old self and 3 months sober. Th...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon distinguishes between self-love and love of self. In the author's terms, self-love means a big ego and lack of empathy, while love of self reflects the Biblical phrase "Love thy neighbor as thyself." Only when we value ourselves can we truly love others. R...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yesterday was very action-packed! I am only going to say all of this to put it in print! I had the most craziest day yesterday! First I went to a big box store twice in 2 different cities. But to step back, I was in the first store in line behind my husband. There was an I-phone right on the end of the line sitti...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66021917/step-11-11-1/

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. The author wondered about the "exact nature" of their wrongs - was it the negative actions they took, or something else? For the author, t...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Just had to share this language of letting go November 5 This is so cool I had to share it The relationship just was not working out, and I wanted it so badly. I kept thinking if I just made myself look better, if I just try to be more loving, kind, then he or she would love me. I turned myself inside out to be so...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C Reading for 11/5 speaks about the importance of examining our motives. it suggests that many times we speak in order to change another or to manipulate them into what we want. The reading suggests that having the courage to look closely at ourselves in order to uncover what we sa...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: There are two concepts that strike me from todays reading. First, that we can only be concerned with ourselves and that other peoples behavior (or any of us trying to control it) will not affect our serenity. The sentence that sticks out to me along these lines is: Serenity is a...

JerryF · JerryF

And my wife and I are having fun supporting the growth. Great Grand-Son this time...cutie baby and looks like his Mommy. We are picking out infant cloths and stuff to send so that they know we are involving with it and sharing love. This part of the family doesn't drink or use...Yeeeehaw!! Thank y...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 11/4, talks about the importance of acceptance, especially when dealing with unpleasant realities. The writer learned to have alternative plans ready when they could not count on the alcoholic to come through. By allowing acceptance, the author could give themself cho...

mamalioness · mamalioness

One day at a time in Al-Anon, October 24 Author talks about going to a meeting and hearing many members complaining and moaning about not having what they felt entitled to, or about the alcoholics behavior and generally about their sorry lot in life One brave person spoke up: he or she said that you know...

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	Courage to Change 11/28 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate! The Courage to Change reading for today is about Step 4....the writer discovers that many of her virtues were often the source of her misery. The working of Step 4 gave the writer an opportunity to turn upside-down personality traits ri...	Iamhere	3	3333	Nov 28, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Fulfilling my recovery requirements (Preview) The most important requirement is to keep in contact with my HP and to communicate and learn what is helpful to my peace of mind and serenity. For now; today it is contacting my sponsor and speaking to him about detachment from my Hawaiian home and moving back to the mainland for reason. The reason is t...	JerryF	11	2730	Nov 28, 2019 by JerryF
	Wife and cocaine ( 1 2 ) (Preview) My wife and I have been married for 5 years. She is a recovering addict that has been clean for about 6 years. I bought her a restaurant that she has always wanted 3 months ago, she spent two months rehabbing it and open the last month. About two months ago I noticed a change in her. She was staying at the bar l...	Chicagopilot	60	8705	Nov 28, 2019 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change November 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's author reflects on their view of themselves and life. At one point, the author viewed their life as a tragedy, but today, they know that they are a survivor - the author has experienced many challenges, and is a stronger person for those experiences. With the help of their HP, the au...	Skorpi	5	1717	Nov 27, 2019 by Skorpi
	Sponsorship (Preview) Hi everyone. Looking for some advice. I've been in Al-Anon for a little over a year. Looking to progress in the programme and to do that I will need a sponsor. The meeting I go to only has myself and one other male member who has been in roughly the same time as me. Last night at our meeting we had extended a w...	Albion	5	5145	Nov 27, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 11/26 (Preview) Good morning all! Happy Tuesday or whatever day/evening it may be in your part of our world. I'm covering for Betty today! The reading today discusses the reality that alcoholism is a family disease and denial is 'real' in both the alcoholic as well as those who are directly or indirectly affected...	Iamhere	3	3552	Nov 26, 2019 by DavidG
	C2C, 11/15 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 11/25, talks about the writers reluctance to get fully involved with alanon. The writer grew very slowly until a crisis hit, and then was able to take full advantage of all alanon has to offer. They saw there were strengths and skills to be had, and then alanon became a top prior...	Lyne	2	2534	Nov 25, 2019 by Iamhere
	Phone call from our local assembly... (Preview) For some reason my closest group has a lot of men in it. This is a novelty for me- because- for the first 30 years I was the only man in my hometown group. This was a mixed blessing, really. Over time I bonded with my home group- and forgot the gender difference. Then I had this familiarity with women- w...	DavidG	4	1129	Nov 24, 2019 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Nov 24 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about being willing to do the work we need to do in order to make the changes we want in our lives. The writer describes getting a sponsor after a long time and noticing that her recovery accelerated with the help of another person. This got me thinking about how...	yanksfan51	3	3914	Nov 24, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today, 11/22 (Preview) This reading discusses one of my favorite/fraught topics -- holidays! The author had a difficult childhood where holidays were sad, and as an adult still found them hard. With Al-Anon, the author learned how to reclaim the holidays and created their own enjoyable fun traditions, now spending tim...	Freetime	3	1134	Nov 24, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 11/21 (Preview) Good morning MIP. The reading in Courage to Change for today reminds us that we will not be rid of our problems by practicing Al-Anon recovery. Instead, when we are living life on life's terms, Al-Anon gives us the courage and insight to turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones. Length of time in...	Iamhere	3	1677	Nov 21, 2019 by DavidG
	Learning to live, one day at a time... (Preview) ...hi y'all... ...one time I owned 100 sheep, and 600 fruit trees. I hated having the farm- there were family issues involved- but these no longer weigh me down. I got some gates and wire and stuff- and set out to build up a hobby farm. This was a return to the coast where I had worked on a railway gang i...	DavidG	18	2102	Nov 21, 2019 by DavidG
	The Lord's Prayer in meetings (Preview) I was sharing this with a friend the other day and thought it would be a good fit here. To preface this, when I lived in Hawaii, it was rare for an Al-Anon meeting to end with the Lord's Prayer. Most often it ended with the Serenity Prayer or the Al-Anon Declaration. That's what I "grew up in" for recovery. W...	Aloha	3	2422	Nov 21, 2019 by canadianguy
	Thanks and Blessings (Preview) Thank you to everyone who prayed for me and/or held me in good thoughts. It all went swimmingly. I came home energized--had to remind myself I was euphoric and really didn't need to be doing light laundry, probably. I think it was harder on Hubs than it was on me. Yesterday I crashed a little bit and am ev...	Temple	6	5489	Nov 21, 2019 by Temple
	Step 11- notes... (Preview) Pain always got in the way of my meditation. And exhaustion. So then I began to focus on that- the reality. I had pain from a young age. In my teens this was mostly about migraine. The thing that set me on my journey was the pain- as I sought answers for this. I found that in past decades that the answers wer...	DavidG	1	5543	Nov 21, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	seizure at an alcohol class (Preview) So I am waiting for EMTs to call me back and tell me where they're taking my AH.. He was on the first day of a three-day alcohol class mandated by the courts for his DWI and he has a seizure in the middle of class. I am so aggravated. I don't even feel sorry for him. I suspect that he worked himself up into such th...	Fedora	26	4386	Nov 21, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change November 20 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on joy. Colts, puppies, and little children are full of boundless joy at being alive. The author wonders what happened to their own joy? Living with the disease of alcoholism had broken the author's spirit. AlAnon provides the author with a fellows...	Skorpi	5	4299	Nov 20, 2019 by JerryF
	How Great My Higher Power is. (Preview) I would like to share of how my Higher Power worked His Magic in my life at one stage. I had joined a World Wide Pen Pal group, as well as being a Lone Member at that time,I joined a Lone Members Letter Box, from Head Office, in USA. They had sent me a list of People who I could write to, World Wide. I also had an A...	WendyP	5	4057	Nov 20, 2019 by Temple
	About LOVE (Preview) I saw this posted on another addiction site, and I thought that it was so profound. For me, this is what my marriage was lacking due to Addiction... not love. I am sorry I cannot credit who said it... "Feelings fade but character, integrity, honor, trust and stability is what we want to teach our childre...	PosiesandPuppies	18	5489	Nov 20, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Tough decision! (Preview) My adult daughter told me she was being verbally abused by her fiancé, but in fact it was her that has relapsed and is abusing him! She lives 2,000 miles away and as we speak, she is dead drunk and being physically abusive to her boyfriend. I begged him to stay with her so she doesn't hurt herself, but I'm tr...	Buckeye Girl	3	4616	Nov 20, 2019 by Aloha
	C2C reading 11-19 (Preview) The C2C Reading for 11/19 speaks about using alanon tools on a daily basis so as to overcome the negative, soul destroying effects of the disease of alcoholism. The reading suggests that life is for our growth both mental and spiritual. So that by having the courage to look closely at ourselve...	hotrod	4	3143	Nov 19, 2019 by Iamhere
	So much anxiety!! (Preview) My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...	Buckeye Girl	2	898	Nov 19, 2019 by 2HP
	Minding my own business- live and let live... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I feel that it has a lot to do with boundaries. I did not create my own boundaries, in the beginning- that were made around me. I just reacted and assumed that "this is life". It did not work out and I had to come into Alanon to relearn stuff. I read the phrase: Recove...	DavidG	1	2487	Nov 19, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Anxiety overload! (Preview) My adult daughter has relapsed again and again over the past few months after getting engaged. She has begged her boyfriend, who has a drinking problem also, to go to AA meetings and therapy with her. He refuses and says it's her problem, not his. Now he is verbally abusing her. Last weekend he got into a...	Buckeye Girl	15	16193	Nov 19, 2019 by Maresie888
	Just Checking To See What Condition my condition is in (Preview) Shift almost over. Got a 4-day weekend. Might show my gratitude by going to a meeting tomorrow. I might even bring treats. Cranberry white- chocolate chip cookies oughta do it. The job is getting to me and I haven't been doing it that long. But, how many jobs are there that are like walking into a room ful...	Wolfie55	7	4083	Nov 18, 2019 by Maresie888
	Acceptance (Preview) Ive seen a few posts on this topic lately. When I first arrived, "acceptance" was very confusing. For my entire life, I had the habit of outward focus. Al-anon helped me to begin a life of ministering to myself as well. It was not a knee jerk decision for me to leave my alcoholic husband, I stayed fo...	2HP	20	6124	Nov 18, 2019 by JerryF
	Step 1, or Step 10...??? (Preview) I suffer from exhaustion. Whenever i get into a dry warm space I tend to fall asleep. Over the years, when doing my step 10, I tended to doze off, rather than to become enlightened. I took it from that- that I needed rest. I spent a lot of energy and time trying to mitigate the alcoholic circumstance in m...	DavidG	1	843	Nov 18, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 11/18 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 11/18, talks about step 2 and being restored to sanity. The writer says that a sane way of life includes functioning responsibly and realistically, but also having the willingness to play, to take breaks, to have hobbies, and include humor. Dwelling on troubles allows the...	Lyne	4	2216	Nov 18, 2019 by Iamhere
	Loss, of a brother... (Preview) I am grateful for the feelings that Alanon gives me. Of love and joy- and family. I did have to wade through anger, fear and grief to get here- because that was not dealt with, in my world, in a healthy way. When I was 15 our english teacher was the vicar's wife. I had a schoolfriend who died that yea...	DavidG	11	3292	Nov 17, 2019 by DavidG
	Started new job m (Preview) Hey everyone, I finally started my new position with the company and, nan, I feel out of place, lol. It's an office of all MEN and it's like an old boys' club. they have their ways and I'm just the new chick on the block, so to speak. i have a lot to learn and I've already had so much thrown at me. I found out...	andromeda	8	895	Nov 17, 2019 by 1911A1
	Hope for Today Nov 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about our call to service. The writer describes praying for Gods will to make sure that being called to service is truly that, and not a way to avoid, manipulate or control something going on in life. When I read this, I remembered the first time I worked the ste...	yanksfan51	3	1941	Nov 17, 2019 by DavidG
	Literature trigger this morning. (Preview) Spent the morning reading and double reading from our literature...blessing tools. They remind me of what it was like, what happened after getting into program and what it is like now while following the guidance. This is where and how I feel blessed for real by our program thru my Higher Power. ...	JerryF	6	614	Nov 16, 2019 by JerryF
	C2C 11-12 (Preview) The C2C Reading for 11/12 speaks about using alanon tools on a daily basis. it suggests that many times we are on automatic and neglect our tool box only to discover we are right in the middle of a conflict. Using the steps, slogans and principles constantly helps to build a useful, fulfilling li...	hotrod	3	4658	Nov 16, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 11/14 (Preview) Good morning MIP. The reading today discusses Step Six - where we become entirely ready to have God remove all of our defects of character. The writer suggests the readiness didn't/doesn't come in a sudden, blinding flash of enlightenment but rather a little at a time as positive progress is made i...	Iamhere	1	1615	Nov 15, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change November 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's author shares that they read somewhere that the things that are urgent are rarely important and the things that are important are rarely urgent. Our author can get so caught up in nagging, trivial matters of day-to-day life, that they forget to spend time on more important pursui...	Skorpi	4	763	Nov 15, 2019 by mamalioness
	How easy it is for my A to lie (Preview) Im attaching myself to step 3 for sanity and help from HP. Yesterday in our couples session with an addiction counselor, my A stated for the 100th time, she will not drink and will not lie. There is no awareness on her part that she has been saying this for 15 years, maybe longer, and that she cannot cont...	Lyne	9	3755	Nov 15, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, November 14 (Preview) The author of today's page was easily hurt by other people's anger or negative moods. It helped to realize that the other person's words or tone were really about what was going on inside that person. The author realized that extreme sensitivity was based on the belief that "I am the focus of everyone...	Freetime	3	1494	Nov 15, 2019 by DavidG
	Changes (Preview) Its been awhile since I posted. I have been reading on line here and my thinking is a bit saner. Reading and being in recovery makes a difference for the better. December will be 2 years since I last seen the abf. It seems like a lifetime ago. When I look back, its a true miracle I was not killed or seriously i...	joker	3	1964	Nov 15, 2019 by Bo
	blessings just keep coming! (Preview) & I will take them. I am so grateful that no matter what, God I can handle anything. I am so grateful that this is gratitude month where I am from & it certainly doesn't hurt to be grateful. Even if you don't know what gratitude is or where it comes from, I can tell you that I learned to be grateful whe...	Hoot Nanny	3	484	Nov 14, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Resting on your laurels (Preview) I wanted to share this - I heard a speaker, Tom B. share this little joke at a talk a few days ago. He said his sponsor once informed him that a laurel is something that you wear on your head. So when you're resting (sitting) on your laurels, you essentially have your head up your... ahem. lol I thought that...	Aloha	2	2112	Nov 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Relapse (Preview) My boyfriend has been an addict and alcoholic off and on for 14 years. He has had past stints in rehab and stints in jail. He had been clean 9 months this time. For the first time it felt different like he had truly hit rock bottom. Friday evening he went no contact and still has not surfaced. I have been at...	amisfitlife	4	3042	Nov 12, 2019 by Bo
	touched a nerve (Preview) Hi There MIP peeps Things had been trucking along pretty well in our household until yesterday. Yesterday my AH was talking about making a bigger purchase for himself and he mentioned using his bonus money for it. About 4 months or so ago we had a bit of upheaval when he asked me to figure out where all...	KT2015	6	2049	Nov 12, 2019 by 2HP
	One of those days (Preview) And hopefully only a day only. Geez gonna go sit on my HP's lap and just be quiet and still and hopeful. The majority of people around me are upset and pissed and I am powerless. So what do I gotta do? If I am powerless...turn it over and let it go and not do anything to excite while dodging the flying ob...	JerryF	13	2178	Nov 11, 2019 by JerryF
	C2C, 11/11 (Preview) The choice of insanity vs sanity is the topic for the reading on Monday, 11/11. Repeating the same behavior over and over and expecting different results is described as an insane way to live. Looking at Step 3, Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him, c...	Lyne	3	1303	Nov 11, 2019 by Iamhere
	Site Question (Preview) What is the purpose of the blue permalink thing in the upper right corner of our posts? Thanks - TT	tiredtonite	2	1626	Nov 11, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Hope for Today Nov 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the power of......writing! The writer describes how freeing it is to get thoughts down on paper. It is a form of self reflection, a way to get to know ourselves better, a way to vent when things are difficult and celebrate when lifes moments are good. I wo...	yanksfan51	4	761	Nov 10, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Don't know what to do (Preview) Am new to this. I've been with my boyfriend for 14 years and we have kids together. When he drinks he becomes a bully to all of us. We try to walk away but he follows us and keeps bring up are flaws. I know we should not argue with him but we get so mad, frustrated and want to hurt him like he is hurting us. It's alw...	Painful	10	6195	Nov 10, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 11/7 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading talks about the disease of alcoholism, and that it is classified as a family disease. It affects not only the drinker but those o us who care about him or her as well. The writer suggests that or some of us, our thinking that's been passed down from generations befor...	Iamhere	5	559	Nov 9, 2019 by Maresie888
	Time out is time well spent... (Preview) Hi y'all... I am back from the northern city. Going there was my goal-set for the year- present for myself. This time i did not isolate- but stayed with friends- in a warm comfortable space. One of my long term goals is to be part of a process- that places ACA D-F in a comfortable spot- between Alanon, AA...	DavidG	0	3595	Nov 9, 2019 by DavidG
	Cheating and where to go from here (Preview) This past year has been a whirlwind with my pregnancy causing my husband to go off the deep end, a new baby, 3 rehabs, and now a new discovery of infidelity. He was away from the house for 5 months over the summer/early fall, and I let him back in after I saw that he was back to his old self and 3 months sober. Th...	kalotaxidi	12	4579	Nov 9, 2019 by Bo
	ODAT 11/8 (Preview) Today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon distinguishes between self-love and love of self. In the author's terms, self-love means a big ego and lack of empathy, while love of self reflects the Biblical phrase "Love thy neighbor as thyself." Only when we value ourselves can we truly love others. R...	Freetime	4	3860	Nov 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	2 good deeds & one event w/ anxiety! (Preview) Yesterday was very action-packed! I am only going to say all of this to put it in print! I had the most craziest day yesterday! First I went to a big box store twice in 2 different cities. But to step back, I was in the first store in line behind my husband. There was an I-phone right on the end of the line sitti...	Hoot Nanny	5	3314	Nov 8, 2019 by Bo
	Step 11 posted (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66021917/step-11-11-1/	hotrod	5	5872	Nov 7, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change November 6 (Preview) In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. The author wondered about the "exact nature" of their wrongs - was it the negative actions they took, or something else? For the author, t...	Skorpi	4	2752	Nov 6, 2019 by Iamhere
	Just had to share this language of letting go November 5 (Preview) Just had to share this language of letting go November 5 This is so cool I had to share it The relationship just was not working out, and I wanted it so badly. I kept thinking if I just made myself look better, if I just try to be more loving, kind, then he or she would love me. I turned myself inside out to be so...	mamalioness	3	3474	Nov 6, 2019 by mamalioness
	C2 C Reading 11-5 (Preview) The C2C Reading for 11/5 speaks about the importance of examining our motives. it suggests that many times we speak in order to change another or to manipulate them into what we want. The reading suggests that having the courage to look closely at ourselves in order to uncover what we sa...	hotrod	7	559	Nov 5, 2019 by Wolfie55
	Nov 3 Hope for Today (Preview) Good morning Everyone: There are two concepts that strike me from todays reading. First, that we can only be concerned with ourselves and that other peoples behavior (or any of us trying to control it) will not affect our serenity. The sentence that sticks out to me along these lines is: Serenity is a...	yanksfan51	6	1734	Nov 5, 2019 by Maresie888
	The family continues to grow (Preview) And my wife and I are having fun supporting the growth. Great Grand-Son this time...cutie baby and looks like his Mommy. We are picking out infant cloths and stuff to send so that they know we are involving with it and sharing love. This part of the family doesn't drink or use...Yeeeehaw!! Thank y...	JerryF	9	2406	Nov 5, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C, 11/4 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 11/4, talks about the importance of acceptance, especially when dealing with unpleasant realities. The writer learned to have alternative plans ready when they could not count on the alcoholic to come through. By allowing acceptance, the author could give themself cho...	Lyne	6	4490	Nov 5, 2019 by Maresie888
	One day at a time in Al-Anon, October 24 (Preview) One day at a time in Al-Anon, October 24 Author talks about going to a meeting and hearing many members complaining and moaning about not having what they felt entitled to, or about the alcoholics behavior and generally about their sorry lot in life One brave person spoke up: he or she said that you know...	mamalioness	12	3539	Nov 5, 2019 by mamalioness
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