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hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today stresses the importance of iving life ODAT, using alanon tools such as the slogans,the :"one day at a time bookmark ". The reading stresses the importance of having a quiet time in which to pray, meditate and connect with HP We must remember that it is important to solve...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

That's a silly title,I know,but there's a story that goes with it. On Christmas eve I did a good job of just detaching from AH and actually had a calm,peaceful time at a family gathering. Afterwards AH was picking and poking at me but I let it slide off my back and didn't play into it. On Christmas mornin...

Lyne · Lyne

The theme of tomorrows reading, 1/6, is about staying in touch with other alanon members. The writer says that patient listening from others gets burdens off their chest. The person listening by phone or text can help the caller reason things out. The listener can provide support, and the caller...

Fedora · Fedora

Hello everyone. First, happy new year and holiday wishes to you all. Even though I don't know you in person, there are quite a few of you who have provided me with so much hope, encouragement, and understanding, I feel like I need to start with how grateful I am that I found this place. I am being severely...

Bo · Bo

Life is wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. I have so much to be grateful for, and I am, every day, and I live a happy and healthy life, with an attitude of gratitude. I enjoy life, give back, go to some NJ Devils games, a couple of Giants games, I take cooking classes, travel, love my work, and so much more. I...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading talks about making positive changes one day, one small goal, one small risk at a time. We cannot change the past, but we can break out of unhealthy patterns. Taking some tiny action each day can be much more effective than months of inactivity followed by a frenzied attempt to make r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just getting around to posting this year. Lol. It is only January 2nd. I am so grateful that I can still type. It seems trivial in some ways but I am sitting here w/ painful hands. My joints start to act up & I can't keep up. I hope that I can do better or feel better in the future. Anyhow, I am grateful tha...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone and happy 2020! Todays reading begins with a reflection on the suggested welcome that includes ...in Al-Anon we discover that no situation is really hopeless. The reader describes feeling a bit taken aback by this; in his/her experience there definitely were situations th...

DavidG · DavidG

In my journey through the steps- 6 or 8 times... I have moved away from the black and white thinking of my family. "my way or the doorway!" I am sure there are regular visitors here- in this forum. Newcomers come here and are received and supported. I regard myself as a group member. I have always wante...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66185449/alanon-step-1-1-1-20/

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses how we learn in Al-Anon to seek what we need through new/different/healthier places. It suggests that turning to an Alcoholic for affection and support can be like going to the hardware store for bread. When we expect a "good" parent to nurture and support our feelings,...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Hello everyone - after being on and or still regularly reading these boards for the last two years, I am back and looking for some support please until I can get to my next f2f meeting. Long story short, but I have separated from my AH. Things at home had been calmer and AH has reported he had stopped drin...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Happy New Year, MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the "instant-ness" of our society and how the habit of getting other things (instant coffee, money from an ATM, instant breakfast, etc.) in an instant can impact our desire to get instant answers when coming to Al-Anon. Recovery from...

Lyne · Lyne

Good morning MIP. Need to vent for a moment. Im away on my usual after XMas getaway which Ive done for the last 20 or so years. I suffer with a horrible back and its being HORRIBLE! Also, my A seems to be stuck in misery mode, as she cannot tolerate my living apart from her half the week, which I started ab...

hotrod · hotrod

the C2C reading for today, 12-31 speaks about the end of the year and the importance of taking the time to review the year and contemplate our progress We can then thank hp for our success and review what we did to contribute to our success. We will discover that we do play an important ROLL IN OUR...

norasq · norasq

Hi, all, and happy holidays to you. As ever, I am so grateful for this group. I dont post often, but get much support from just reading. i dont have a lot of contact with my ex AH these days but we have a young adult daughter on the autism spectrum who lives with me. He lives in the same town, 5 minutes away. Whe...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/30, is about the choice we have of letting what other people do or say destroy our peace of mind or ruin our day. Do we have to respond to the words of a sick person as though they were the ultimate truth or authority? Do we enjoy the martyr role? Do we need attention and pity? Th...

joker · joker

I was reading on line and I just had a thought cross my mind and wanted some feedback. When it comes to dating, I noticed I pick men who are loners, no friends, no close friendships. They are often alone and disconnected from family. It could be because they destroyed those relationships but I seem to be...

Freetime · Freetime

I seldom invite people to my house ... not because I don't like people, but because I want to be a "perfect" hostess and am not sure I know how to do that, and I believe it would be too stressful for me. Last night, Christmas Eve, I decided to go to the Al-Anon meeting that's nearest my home. It's usually a b...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the idea of balance, accepting things we cannot change, and finding our sense of serenity. The writer describes having had difficulty with physical balance until a time that he/she felt a connection with the earth and the physical pull of gravity. T...

Hi, new member here · wvlady

Hello everyone! I'm very grateful to have the opportunity to learn from you all. I'm walking down a road that I've been down before and can certainly benefit from any wisdom/experience shared here in this forum. To give you a little history, I was married to an alcoholic for fifteen years. Our marri...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's reading learned at an early age to be in charge of everything. Because adults in the family were not handling the houshold responsibilities, the author had to take it all on. By participating in Al-Anon, they saw how people in the group shared responsibilities. People signe...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

For everyone in my Al anon family: I wish you the happiest of holiday season. No matter where or who you are I ask for peace to lead the way of all your celebrations. I hope that however you celebrate, please remember to seek serenity in all you do! Don't let the hustle & bustle get you stressed over may...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! In today's reading in today's hope, the author reflects on their beliefs about love. In the past, the author experienced relationships with people who were not able to give love freely. Love was used to manipulate or control. Love didn't seem like a positive thing, because it had been use...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses being a victim vs. a volunteer. A very useful lesson learned by most in Al-Anon is that if we don't want to be a doormat, we have to get up off the floor. While we have no control over what others say, do or think, we are responsible or our own choices. The writer suggests that in...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/23, tells an interesting story. The author went to their first alanon meeting to support a friend, found themselves identifying with all the shares, and kept going back. The author felt like an imposter though, because they were positive they didn't even know any alcoh...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi Y'all... some things I go over, again and again... I have noticed lately that the list of these things is getting shorter and shorter. In theory I favour therapy in tandem with time in our 12 Step groups. 100% I always say too- that we are works in progress, and sometimes our groups, also are...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... Christmas day did not got smoothly- but IT WAS sorted out along the way. I feel that i have something to offer ALANON, and any other 12 step group- in fact, any other people. I believe that charity begins at home- so this happens primarily around friends and family. This, of course includ...

DavidG · DavidG

In another programme we are told- "we guess at what normal is." Living with an addict- a drinkers does scramble up anybodies' boundaries. Broadly I felt that the steps gave me norms to live by- and the traditions gave me boundaries. Just reflecting on this stuff. Planning to demonstrate this a bit...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

To all who celebrate, wishing you a day filled with serenity and love. TT

Freetime · Freetime

I don't often dip into the Hope For Today reader, but I am glad I looked at it today. The subject is detaching with love. The writer assumed they would never achieve it. THey couldn't imagine living without resentment. Bitterness was part of their identity. With Al-Anon, they slowly began to real...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, I wanted to share one of my many memories of Christmas, that I have had through out my Life, some Good, some not so good. This one however,always brings a smile to my face when I think of it. When 4 of my Grand Children were younger, I decided to do something very different, I really liked the American w...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I am back @ Step One - admitting that I am powerless, simply because I am a person in recovery and it feels like the right place to be. My Thanksgiving was extremely different than expected, planned or even remotely considered. I've learned in recovery to keep my expectations low, and do reasonably we...

Temple · Temple

Posted this as part of my last, but I do want those of you who have been praying for me and pulling for me to know.. I got the best news yesterday. All clear and nothing scary in residence. And I don't have to have radiation. Thank you all--I know the prayers and support made all the difference. And it sus...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

My homegroup received some sad news last week about one of our members. They'd been absent from the meeting a few weeks. Another member updated us that our meeting member has been diagnosed with lung cancer. Of all of our members, I would say this meeting member is likely the strongest in service to our...

DavidG · DavidG

In my years in Alanon I have seen a lot of outside changes. The emancipation of women, for example. I saw this clearly- in the life of my mum. She left home the day after our youngest brother left school- and she crafted a life and a career for herself. This week i had 100% quality time with our oldest old ti...

DavidG · DavidG

To all my friends here in MIP ALANON... For this of us who celebrate this day... cheers!

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- This page begins with the writer describing some discomfort around praying at the close of meetings. In the writers experience there were expectations around prayer, in the sense that there are rules in certain religious/prayer settings and the feeling that there are rig...

MyTwoMiracles · MyTwoMiracles

My husbands one year anniversary of his sobriety and I didnt make a big deal about. Hes upset but honestly I did not I was supposed to have cake. I did congrats him but for him it wasnt enough. I feel so bad. I guess I need to learn more about this journey and join a group to help me as he is private about his jour...

Fedora · Fedora

Hi all. I just came to unload and park awhile. This was a taxing weekend with the AH. I am here just to refocus on me, so I am not going to say anymore about him in this post. This time of year is always taxing, but 2019 is proving to be doubly so. This past week I had many moments where I was walking through a st...

DavidG · DavidG

This time I worked through Christmas and New Year- up on the mountain maintaining an old mining race- which is used, today, for irrigation. I know when to quit- unlike other times in my life. I am 68 now- and had a lifetime of strenuous work. I need to relax now; potter around and keep fit- and...

DavidG · DavidG

I am thinking of this idea, found in Courage To Change, for the 1st of April: ~awareness, acceptance, action~. And, looking back the cover steps 1 thru 3; steps 4 thru 9; and then steps 10, 11, and 12, together. Currently I am thinking of stepping into oldtimer territory, which means working th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading is a wonderful and timely reminder about self-care in recovery. As alcoholism is a three-fold disease - physical, emotional and spiritual - we need to check on our own well-being in these areas as we've been affected! The reading has a lovely checklist that I'll l...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on a saying used in places where people depend on camels for transportation: "Trust in God and tie your camel to a tree." The author shares how vital it is to trust in our HP and to accept what HP chooses for us without resigning ourselves to ou...

hotrod · hotrod

the C2C reading for today, 12-17 speaks about holding resentments. It points out that once we start feeling anger and resentment about an incident we must learn new ways of viewing the happening so as to let go of the negative feelings the reading suggests that instead of feeling the resentm...

oddsunflower · oddsunflower

I have been surfing the topics here and doing a ton of reading. I really like the format of this group and thought maybe I should introduce myself a bit. I am a mom of 4 and a wife of 24 years to an alcoholic. I have been working the program on my own (there are not many meetings near my home) since 2016. My AH wen...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/16, is about what the author has learned in alanon: they are not responsible for everything and everyone. Some examples are: -You dont have to understand everything. -You may show your feelings. -One doesnt have to feel threatened by the future. -One doesnt have to feel...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... ... we live 50 mins away from a popular international resort. For that reason we sometimes had international AA or Alanon members speaking at our assemblies held there. [And, I expect some were also double winners! ] One speaker got up- and what a silver tongue! Mo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about detachment, and what a difficult concept it can be, especially for those of us new to Alanon. As I was reading this page I was thinking that for those of us who have lived with and/or loved an alcoholic, this idea is difficult because so much of our energy h...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Hi MIP members! It's been awhile since I've visited the board, but it's great to see some familiar names still here and active. I am so grateful for all the gifts I've received from Al-Anon. And these gifts just keep on giving. I'm feel so much more happy and content in my continued recovery after losing...

DavidG · DavidG

My SO used to gaslight me something horrible. Especially telling me I am angry- when she is. This time last year she had family over from Florida. We were 100 miles from home and she ordered me out of the truck- and left me there. She does this regularly- and I suspect it is a replay of how her FOO used to op...

Freetime · Freetime

The December 13 reading in ODAT tells about a someone who came to Al-Anon in despair, really worked the program, made friends, gained serenity, and achieved a better life. Then it asks the question: Does this person have an obligation to the group, the fellowship, and to newcomers who need help? Th...

DavidG · DavidG

One of the sixteen Alanon slogans- conference approved. I used to fear saying the wrong thing- that someone would jump down my throat. Because that was a predominant fear in my FOO. Had to be constantly on my guard. I try hard to stick to Alanon policy- and sometimes I try far too hard! Another slogan i...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family - happy day to one and all. Today's reading talks about how we can limit ourselves if/when we close our minds based on past experiences, relationships, patterns, habits, etc. The writer speaks from the Alateen perspective and shares doubt about Al-Anon adults, simply bec...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am kind of sad today. Letting go of people is not easy for me. I have a cousin who won't call me only write me letters via mail. Sometimes I just want to stop writing just to see what would happen. I love her dearly. I don't want to lose touch. When I started to write this post, I really didn't know what I'd say...

DavidG · DavidG

I like growing potatoes, tomatoes and asparagus. They are all three related- and grow naturally on sands behind the tide line. Because I live far inland, the dustbowl of 1878 created the sands and sand dunes here. So when I am on the coast I collect sea weed. I rot it in a barrel and apply it...

Temple · Temple

Love to everybody! Made it though again--surgery and recovery went better; they believe me now that a little anesthetic goes a long way with me. Wasn't as perky when I got home, and have no complaints. I'll find out next week what the pathologists have found. Hope to be up to speed to drive Hubs home from...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance, or rather lack of importance, of money. The author shares that they had previously thought that their troubles would end if they won the lottery. But, would the lottery winnings take away the impact of alcoholism on the family? M...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, I would like to share about expectations that I had versus reality. I am really struggling at the moment, with Christmas,quickly approaching. With the way it seems to be advertised,in Catalogues,etc. What it looks like it supposed to be. Family, closeness, happily ever after. Well, for me tha...

hotrod · hotrod

the C2C reading for Dec. 10 speaks about having the courage to look closely at ourselves so as to see and admit our difficulties. The reading points out that often we focus all our attention on the alcoholic and do not see what we do that hurts us.. We will enjoy spiritual growth by practicing self h...

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	C2C Reading Tues 1-7 (Preview) The C2C reading for today stresses the importance of iving life ODAT, using alanon tools such as the slogans,the :"one day at a time bookmark ". The reading stresses the importance of having a quiet time in which to pray, meditate and connect with HP We must remember that it is important to solve...	hotrod	5	2259	Jan 7, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	I'm Back For Cookies (Preview) That's a silly title,I know,but there's a story that goes with it. On Christmas eve I did a good job of just detaching from AH and actually had a calm,peaceful time at a family gathering. Afterwards AH was picking and poking at me but I let it slide off my back and didn't play into it. On Christmas mornin...	SunnyFrogs	9	711	Jan 7, 2020 by el-cee
	C2C, 1/6 (Preview) The theme of tomorrows reading, 1/6, is about staying in touch with other alanon members. The writer says that patient listening from others gets burdens off their chest. The person listening by phone or text can help the caller reason things out. The listener can provide support, and the caller...	Lyne	3	2862	Jan 6, 2020 by El
	Holiday with Family and AH - crawling back to this group for sustenance (Preview) Hello everyone. First, happy new year and holiday wishes to you all. Even though I don't know you in person, there are quite a few of you who have provided me with so much hope, encouragement, and understanding, I feel like I need to start with how grateful I am that I found this place. I am being severely...	Fedora	6	747	Jan 6, 2020 by Aloha
	A slip. Relapse. (Preview) Life is wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. I have so much to be grateful for, and I am, every day, and I live a happy and healthy life, with an attitude of gratitude. I enjoy life, give back, go to some NJ Devils games, a couple of Giants games, I take cooking classes, travel, love my work, and so much more. I...	Bo	12	2139	Jan 5, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change, 1/3 - Baby Steps (Preview) Today's reading talks about making positive changes one day, one small goal, one small risk at a time. We cannot change the past, but we can break out of unhealthy patterns. Taking some tiny action each day can be much more effective than months of inactivity followed by a frenzied attempt to make r...	Freetime	5	584	Jan 5, 2020 by DavidG
	my 1st post of the new year! (Preview) I just getting around to posting this year. Lol. It is only January 2nd. I am so grateful that I can still type. It seems trivial in some ways but I am sitting here w/ painful hands. My joints start to act up & I can't keep up. I hope that I can do better or feel better in the future. Anyhow, I am grateful tha...	Hoot Nanny	6	4462	Jan 5, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Jan 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone and happy 2020! Todays reading begins with a reflection on the suggested welcome that includes ...in Al-Anon we discover that no situation is really hopeless. The reader describes feeling a bit taken aback by this; in his/her experience there definitely were situations th...	yanksfan51	5	525	Jan 5, 2020 by Bo
	This group, this forum... (Preview) In my journey through the steps- 6 or 8 times... I have moved away from the black and white thinking of my family. "my way or the doorway!" I am sure there are regular visitors here- in this forum. Newcomers come here and are received and supported. I regard myself as a group member. I have always wante...	DavidG	3	2945	Jan 4, 2020 by Bo
	sTEP 1 (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66185449/alanon-step-1-1-1-20/	hotrod	4	2518	Jan 4, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change - 1/2 (Preview) Today's reading discusses how we learn in Al-Anon to seek what we need through new/different/healthier places. It suggests that turning to an Alcoholic for affection and support can be like going to the hardware store for bread. When we expect a "good" parent to nurture and support our feelings,...	Iamhere	6	600	Jan 2, 2020 by Temple
	Looking for some support please (Preview) Hello everyone - after being on and or still regularly reading these boards for the last two years, I am back and looking for some support please until I can get to my next f2f meeting. Long story short, but I have separated from my AH. Things at home had been calmer and AH has reported he had stopped drin...	Bettertomorrow	17	3510	Jan 1, 2020 by JerryF
	Courage to Change January 1 (Preview) Happy New Year, MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the "instant-ness" of our society and how the habit of getting other things (instant coffee, money from an ATM, instant breakfast, etc.) in an instant can impact our desire to get instant answers when coming to Al-Anon. Recovery from...	Skorpi	4	3370	Jan 1, 2020 by Lyne
	New attitude (Preview) Good morning MIP. Need to vent for a moment. Im away on my usual after XMas getaway which Ive done for the last 20 or so years. I suffer with a horrible back and its being HORRIBLE! Also, my A seems to be stuck in misery mode, as she cannot tolerate my living apart from her half the week, which I started ab...	Lyne	13	1025	Jan 1, 2020 by JerryF
	C2C Reading 12-31 (Preview) the C2C reading for today, 12-31 speaks about the end of the year and the importance of taking the time to review the year and contemplate our progress We can then thank hp for our success and review what we did to contribute to our success. We will discover that we do play an important ROLL IN OUR...	hotrod	6	3379	Dec 31, 2019 by Iamhere
	Letting him sink, letting go and letting god (Preview) Hi, all, and happy holidays to you. As ever, I am so grateful for this group. I dont post often, but get much support from just reading. i dont have a lot of contact with my ex AH these days but we have a young adult daughter on the autism spectrum who lives with me. He lives in the same town, 5 minutes away. Whe...	norasq	12	6796	Dec 30, 2019 by JerryF
	C2C, 12/30 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/30, is about the choice we have of letting what other people do or say destroy our peace of mind or ruin our day. Do we have to respond to the words of a sick person as though they were the ultimate truth or authority? Do we enjoy the martyr role? Do we need attention and pity? Th...	Lyne	3	2256	Dec 30, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Patterns (Preview) I was reading on line and I just had a thought cross my mind and wanted some feedback. When it comes to dating, I noticed I pick men who are loners, no friends, no close friendships. They are often alone and disconnected from family. It could be because they destroyed those relationships but I seem to be...	joker	8	2164	Dec 30, 2019 by Aloha
	A Christmas miracle (Preview) I seldom invite people to my house ... not because I don't like people, but because I want to be a "perfect" hostess and am not sure I know how to do that, and I believe it would be too stressful for me. Last night, Christmas Eve, I decided to go to the Al-Anon meeting that's nearest my home. It's usually a b...	Freetime	10	646	Dec 30, 2019 by Aloha
	Hope for Today Dec 29 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the idea of balance, accepting things we cannot change, and finding our sense of serenity. The writer describes having had difficulty with physical balance until a time that he/she felt a connection with the earth and the physical pull of gravity. T...	yanksfan51	3	2436	Dec 29, 2019 by hotrod
	Hi, new member here (Preview) Hello everyone! I'm very grateful to have the opportunity to learn from you all. I'm walking down a road that I've been down before and can certainly benefit from any wisdom/experience shared here in this forum. To give you a little history, I was married to an alcoholic for fifteen years. Our marri...	wvlady	24	9938	Dec 28, 2019 by Maresie888
	HOPE FOR TODAY, 12/27 (Preview) The author of today's reading learned at an early age to be in charge of everything. Because adults in the family were not handling the houshold responsibilities, the author had to take it all on. By participating in Al-Anon, they saw how people in the group shared responsibilities. People signe...	Freetime	5	1065	Dec 27, 2019 by DavidG
	Just here to wish... (Preview) For everyone in my Al anon family: I wish you the happiest of holiday season. No matter where or who you are I ask for peace to lead the way of all your celebrations. I hope that however you celebrate, please remember to seek serenity in all you do! Don't let the hustle & bustle get you stressed over may...	Hoot Nanny	5	2197	Dec 26, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	Today's Hope December 25 (Preview) Hello mip! In today's reading in today's hope, the author reflects on their beliefs about love. In the past, the author experienced relationships with people who were not able to give love freely. Love was used to manipulate or control. Love didn't seem like a positive thing, because it had been use...	Skorpi	4	1815	Dec 26, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 12/26 (Preview) Today's reading discusses being a victim vs. a volunteer. A very useful lesson learned by most in Al-Anon is that if we don't want to be a doormat, we have to get up off the floor. While we have no control over what others say, do or think, we are responsible or our own choices. The writer suggests that in...	Iamhere	3	1867	Dec 26, 2019 by DavidG
	C2C, 12/23 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/23, tells an interesting story. The author went to their first alanon meeting to support a friend, found themselves identifying with all the shares, and kept going back. The author felt like an imposter though, because they were positive they didn't even know any alcoh...	Lyne	3	4834	Dec 26, 2019 by Iamhere
	Me and treatment, as a family member. [Trigger- reference to suicide.] (Preview) Hi Y'all... some things I go over, again and again... I have noticed lately that the list of these things is getting shorter and shorter. In theory I favour therapy in tandem with time in our 12 Step groups. 100% I always say too- that we are works in progress, and sometimes our groups, also are...	DavidG	8	4510	Dec 25, 2019 by DavidG
	Steps 11, and 12... (Preview) Hi y'all... Christmas day did not got smoothly- but IT WAS sorted out along the way. I feel that i have something to offer ALANON, and any other 12 step group- in fact, any other people. I believe that charity begins at home- so this happens primarily around friends and family. This, of course includ...	DavidG	0	1924	Dec 25, 2019 by DavidG
	How do the Steps work? (Preview) In another programme we are told- "we guess at what normal is." Living with an addict- a drinkers does scramble up anybodies' boundaries. Broadly I felt that the steps gave me norms to live by- and the traditions gave me boundaries. Just reflecting on this stuff. Planning to demonstrate this a bit...	DavidG	10	5445	Dec 25, 2019 by Bo
	Merry Christmas (Preview) To all who celebrate, wishing you a day filled with serenity and love. TT	tiredtonite	3	3999	Dec 25, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today, 12/20 (Preview) I don't often dip into the Hope For Today reader, but I am glad I looked at it today. The subject is detaching with love. The writer assumed they would never achieve it. THey couldn't imagine living without resentment. Bitterness was part of their identity. With Al-Anon, they slowly began to real...	Freetime	6	987	Dec 24, 2019 by DavidG
	Wonderful Memories of Christmas (Preview) Hi, I wanted to share one of my many memories of Christmas, that I have had through out my Life, some Good, some not so good. This one however,always brings a smile to my face when I think of it. When 4 of my Grand Children were younger, I decided to do something very different, I really liked the American w...	WendyP	5	5613	Dec 24, 2019 by Maresie888
	Life, Love and Recovery (Preview) I am back @ Step One - admitting that I am powerless, simply because I am a person in recovery and it feels like the right place to be. My Thanksgiving was extremely different than expected, planned or even remotely considered. I've learned in recovery to keep my expectations low, and do reasonably we...	Iamhere	19	5325	Dec 24, 2019 by Maresie888
	I think a new thread with my good news may be needed. (Preview) Posted this as part of my last, but I do want those of you who have been praying for me and pulling for me to know.. I got the best news yesterday. All clear and nothing scary in residence. And I don't have to have radiation. Thank you all--I know the prayers and support made all the difference. And it sus...	Temple	16	3590	Dec 24, 2019 by Maresie888
	We Really are like Family (Preview) My homegroup received some sad news last week about one of our members. They'd been absent from the meeting a few weeks. Another member updated us that our meeting member has been diagnosed with lung cancer. Of all of our members, I would say this meeting member is likely the strongest in service to our...	tiredtonite	10	1623	Dec 24, 2019 by Maresie888
	A quick Step 10... (Preview) In my years in Alanon I have seen a lot of outside changes. The emancipation of women, for example. I saw this clearly- in the life of my mum. She left home the day after our youngest brother left school- and she crafted a life and a career for herself. This week i had 100% quality time with our oldest old ti...	DavidG	1	4482	Dec 24, 2019 by Lyne
	Nadolig Llawen, Feliz Naidad, Kai Karaiti Hari, Mele Kalikimaka, Happy ChrIstmas, Y'all... (Preview) To all my friends here in MIP ALANON... For this of us who celebrate this day... cheers!	DavidG	0	4008	Dec 24, 2019 by DavidG
	Hope for Today 12/22 (Preview) Good morning everyone- This page begins with the writer describing some discomfort around praying at the close of meetings. In the writers experience there were expectations around prayer, in the sense that there are rules in certain religious/prayer settings and the feeling that there are rig...	yanksfan51	4	715	Dec 22, 2019 by El
	I failed (Preview) My husbands one year anniversary of his sobriety and I didnt make a big deal about. Hes upset but honestly I did not I was supposed to have cake. I did congrats him but for him it wasnt enough. I feel so bad. I guess I need to learn more about this journey and join a group to help me as he is private about his jour...	MyTwoMiracles	14	5963	Dec 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	rough weekend (Preview) Hi all. I just came to unload and park awhile. This was a taxing weekend with the AH. I am here just to refocus on me, so I am not going to say anymore about him in this post. This time of year is always taxing, but 2019 is proving to be doubly so. This past week I had many moments where I was walking through a st...	Fedora	14	6393	Dec 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	Time for a holiday break... [a ramble]... (Preview) This time I worked through Christmas and New Year- up on the mountain maintaining an old mining race- which is used, today, for irrigation. I know when to quit- unlike other times in my life. I am 68 now- and had a lifetime of strenuous work. I need to relax now; potter around and keep fit- and...	DavidG	2	3746	Dec 21, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Taking those steps... (Preview) I am thinking of this idea, found in Courage To Change, for the 1st of April: ~awareness, acceptance, action~. And, looking back the cover steps 1 thru 3; steps 4 thru 9; and then steps 10, 11, and 12, together. Currently I am thinking of stepping into oldtimer territory, which means working th...	DavidG	1	2656	Dec 20, 2019 by Lyne
	Courage to Change 12/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading is a wonderful and timely reminder about self-care in recovery. As alcoholism is a three-fold disease - physical, emotional and spiritual - we need to check on our own well-being in these areas as we've been affected! The reading has a lovely checklist that I'll l...	Iamhere	3	3484	Dec 19, 2019 by El
	Courage to Change December 18 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on a saying used in places where people depend on camels for transportation: "Trust in God and tie your camel to a tree." The author shares how vital it is to trust in our HP and to accept what HP chooses for us without resigning ourselves to ou...	Skorpi	7	3900	Dec 18, 2019 by hotrod
	C2C 12-17 (Preview) the C2C reading for today, 12-17 speaks about holding resentments. It points out that once we start feeling anger and resentment about an incident we must learn new ways of viewing the happening so as to let go of the negative feelings the reading suggests that instead of feeling the resentm...	hotrod	5	2904	Dec 18, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	New Here (Preview) I have been surfing the topics here and doing a ton of reading. I really like the format of this group and thought maybe I should introduce myself a bit. I am a mom of 4 and a wife of 24 years to an alcoholic. I have been working the program on my own (there are not many meetings near my home) since 2016. My AH wen...	oddsunflower	6	2369	Dec 17, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 12.16 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/16, is about what the author has learned in alanon: they are not responsible for everything and everyone. Some examples are: -You dont have to understand everything. -You may show your feelings. -One doesnt have to feel threatened by the future. -One doesnt have to feel...	Lyne	7	653	Dec 16, 2019 by Bo
	Gratitood... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... ... we live 50 mins away from a popular international resort. For that reason we sometimes had international AA or Alanon members speaking at our assemblies held there. [And, I expect some were also double winners! ] One speaker got up- and what a silver tongue! Mo...	DavidG	4	1001	Dec 16, 2019 by DavidG
	Hope for Today 12/15 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about detachment, and what a difficult concept it can be, especially for those of us new to Alanon. As I was reading this page I was thinking that for those of us who have lived with and/or loved an alcoholic, this idea is difficult because so much of our energy h...	yanksfan51	6	2152	Dec 15, 2019 by yanksfan51
	Hello and an Update (Preview) Hi MIP members! It's been awhile since I've visited the board, but it's great to see some familiar names still here and active. I am so grateful for all the gifts I've received from Al-Anon. And these gifts just keep on giving. I'm feel so much more happy and content in my continued recovery after losing...	Green Eyes	4	3894	Dec 14, 2019 by Iamhere
	Gaslighting- an ultimatum passed... (Preview) My SO used to gaslight me something horrible. Especially telling me I am angry- when she is. This time last year she had family over from Florida. We were 100 miles from home and she ordered me out of the truck- and left me there. She does this regularly- and I suspect it is a replay of how her FOO used to op...	DavidG	13	3411	Dec 14, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	ODAT 12/13 (Preview) The December 13 reading in ODAT tells about a someone who came to Al-Anon in despair, really worked the program, made friends, gained serenity, and achieved a better life. Then it asks the question: Does this person have an obligation to the group, the fellowship, and to newcomers who need help? Th...	Freetime	3	3955	Dec 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	First things first... (Preview) One of the sixteen Alanon slogans- conference approved. I used to fear saying the wrong thing- that someone would jump down my throat. Because that was a predominant fear in my FOO. Had to be constantly on my guard. I try hard to stick to Alanon policy- and sometimes I try far too hard! Another slogan i...	DavidG	1	3584	Dec 13, 2019 by Temple
	Courage to Change 12/12 (Preview) Good morning MIP family - happy day to one and all. Today's reading talks about how we can limit ourselves if/when we close our minds based on past experiences, relationships, patterns, habits, etc. The writer speaks from the Alateen perspective and shares doubt about Al-Anon adults, simply bec...	Iamhere	1	2109	Dec 12, 2019 by Aloha
	it doesn't have to be sad... (Preview) I am kind of sad today. Letting go of people is not easy for me. I have a cousin who won't call me only write me letters via mail. Sometimes I just want to stop writing just to see what would happen. I love her dearly. I don't want to lose touch. When I started to write this post, I really didn't know what I'd say...	Hoot Nanny	5	1181	Dec 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Shifting sands often reveal ordinary things... (Preview) I like growing potatoes, tomatoes and asparagus. They are all three related- and grow naturally on sands behind the tide line. Because I live far inland, the dustbowl of 1878 created the sands and sand dunes here. So when I am on the coast I collect sea weed. I rot it in a barrel and apply it...	DavidG	4	3747	Dec 11, 2019 by Temple
	Still here--still blessed (Preview) Love to everybody! Made it though again--surgery and recovery went better; they believe me now that a little anesthetic goes a long way with me. Wasn't as perky when I got home, and have no complaints. I'll find out next week what the pathologists have found. Hope to be up to speed to drive Hubs home from...	Temple	5	7300	Dec 11, 2019 by Temple
	Courage to Change December 11 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance, or rather lack of importance, of money. The author shares that they had previously thought that their troubles would end if they won the lottery. But, would the lottery winnings take away the impact of alcoholism on the family? M...	Skorpi	4	4457	Dec 11, 2019 by DavidG
	Expectations (Preview) Hi, I would like to share about expectations that I had versus reality. I am really struggling at the moment, with Christmas,quickly approaching. With the way it seems to be advertised,in Catalogues,etc. What it looks like it supposed to be. Family, closeness, happily ever after. Well, for me tha...	WendyP	15	4721	Dec 10, 2019 by Temple
	C2C Reading 12-10 (Preview) the C2C reading for Dec. 10 speaks about having the courage to look closely at ourselves so as to see and admit our difficulties. The reading points out that often we focus all our attention on the alcoholic and do not see what we do that hurts us.. We will enjoy spiritual growth by practicing self h...	hotrod	4	606	Dec 10, 2019 by Iamhere
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