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DavidG · DavidG

...starters... my mum used to say- get up off your backside and do something! {and I thought reading, was doing something. "Rattle your dags!" Or, "get a wriggle on". I was called a lazy little B#####r most than once. I thought was was lazy- but looking back I worked pretty hard. I was on welfare 3...

JerryF · JerryF

"If you keep and open mind you will find help". I sat in last nights meeting with an open mind. One of the members a female originally from Fiji was very clear on how the disease affected her, her family, her culture and future. I understand and understood clearly as a Hawaiian culture national bo...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today in many parts of the world, it is Leap Day. A day added to the Gregorian calendar (as well as other solar calendars) to "even it out." It is supposedly a day in which women can propose to men. It is considered unlucky to marry or have babies on this day. Also, there was an English tradition of '12 glov...

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning/afternoon/evening, MIP! I am posting this a bit early because I have a busy couple of days ahead. The author of the February 28 reading in Courage to Change says that turning things over to a higher power -- the Third Step -- is an ongoing process. At first it was an act of desperation in t...

DavidG · DavidG

This weekend coming we have an outing planned with three grandkids... "The Calalcade" is a round up of walkers, riders and wagons... ...which converge on some small town in our province... I took part in this twice- both walking and riding... but am too busy at the moment... ...camping out in a s...

Lyne · Lyne

I have received the news that Betty is being treated for lung cancer. It may be curable with chemotherapy which has been started. Apparently she is responding well to the treatment. She probably will be out of commission for a little while. Should someone take her Tuesday daily reading just tempo...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading suggests we do NOT have to map out a Master Plan for our recovery - our HP has already done this. We just need to humbly ask for HP's guidance and for willingness to follow the guidance. We learn that we are not alone in our lives and recovery and we learn that we will rec...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Something has changed within me and I am enjoying (but slightly frightened of losing) this current sense of peace/ acceptance. My AH had been living in rented accommodation, but due to alcohol and it's effects on his behaviour was evicted. Due to our weird money set-up as a family, we had no money to h...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading is about making mistakes and making amends. The author reminds us that we all make mistakes, and hopefully, as we grow in our AlAnon program and apply the principles to our lives, we will continue to learn from those mistakes. If a mistake we have made causes harm, we can mak...

Chrismc710 · Chrismc710

Hello, I have been separated from my alcoholic husband a year now. After 37 years of marriage I finally made the decision to start taking care of myself. I am living with my parents with our 19 year old son and my husband got an apartment. I started counseling and joining some Al anon online sites. I have...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/24, talks about the benefits of taking a personal inventory. We cant fix anything if we dont see what needs repair. We can take Step 4 without personal judgement. We can gain healing power from taking the Steps so pain from our past does not have to recur. Reminder: When I c...

kadriliisa · kadriliisa

Does al anon has guidelines for sharing their material in web? Like daily texts.

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

We made a decision last week at my home group business meeting to tell a man whose behavior has been inappropriate towards women Inoue group for awhile that he's no longer welcome. I was taken aback when it was another man who raised the issue and said he'd noticed and was aware of at least one woman who ha...

DavidG · DavidG

Betty has run this seperate board for some time. So long as she is in hospital, maybe someone else could step in, in the meantime? She has been doing a step per months, the Step 2 is due for February...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading deals with the idea of perfectionism. The writer describes work as a seamstress and how before Alanon, she would discard any work that had imperfections. She would not wear the clothing she made, and if anyone ever complimented her work, her instinct was to p...

JerryF · JerryF

That isn't a strange feeling and I hope it isn't for others in the family either. It was a hug warm and close and I didn't question why as I wasn't asking HP for anything special yet it gave me security as the day went on and then I came too understand that today is Anniversary Day here. Today 2/8/2020 i...

Lyne · Lyne

I reached out yesterday for news about Betty, and so far I have not had a response. I'm praying every day for her wellness, and I will post as soon as I here something. Lyne

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... just a general share.Saturday morning here. Dark around the hills... autumn is on its way... a time for us to gather our garden fruits... Our oldest grand-son J. had his 17th birthday yesterday... he has a girl-friend, who is 14. One of my heroes, Brene Brown had eight grandpare...

Freetime · Freetime

In today's reading, the author credits Tradition 10 with being able to have a beneficial relationship with a sponsor, even though the sponsor has very different -- even abhorrent to the author -- political views. Despite those disagreements, the sponsor has provided valuable lessons about seren...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

OK, so I have been triggered and am struggling a bit. Came on here and posted to The Daily, but I am still somewhat unsettled, so I need to get this out. The last two nights, I have seen that my ExRAH has texted me in the wee hours of the night asking, "Are you awake?" "I can't sleep." and then, "Hey, where are...

Lyne · Lyne

Im having trouble holding onto my serenity. Having a serious health problem, not life-threatening but nonetheless awful. My coping is certainly better than it would be without program, but its taking a lot of focus and energy to stay in the moment ODAT. I know what to do as I have a huge tool box, but...

Lyne · Lyne

Update given to me from Bettys boyfriend: Betty is in the hospital and I dont know which one. She does not want any cards, flowers, or visitors. She also does not have a phone in her room. Her boyfriend will let me know about her condition towards the end of the week. I thanked him profusely!

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses unacceptable behavior, as the writer recalls hearing, "We don't have to accept unacceptable behavior" early on in recovery. This concept helped the writer see that the did not have to tolerate violence or abuse, and they always had choices - some neve...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares their experience with the 4th step. When the author wrote their 4th step inventory, they carried a notebook around with them so that they wouldn't eave anything out. The author had the notebook nearby, day and night, and in this way, discovered their first defec...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

So after several serious this time attempts at sobriety and the revolving door of living out and back in, my AH was told he cant be here. Its different this time because he was actually sober when he was asked to leave. It was the alcoholic rage that made me realize this isnt okay. He knows just what to do so...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

So after several serious this time attempts at sobriety and the revolving door of living out and back in, my AH was told he cant be here. Its different this time because he was actually sober when he was asked to leave. It was the alcoholic rage that made me realize this isnt okay. He knows just what to do so...

Marie71 · Marie71

I hope this is okay to post as it is in regards to my belief system. I am a Christian. I pray and I read the Bible. However, and this was the same issue I had years ago while in Alanon, I struggle with being obedient to my God and some of the concepts of Alanon. I know this is what kept me in my marriage far too l...

hotrod · hotrod

Good Morning MIP have been dealing eith a serious medical condition for over a month asking FOR PRAYERS WILL KNOW THURSDAY

JerryF · JerryF

I waited until Thursday and saw no news about how you are doing. Please let us know. ((((hugs))))

DavidG · DavidG

This is a topic that has crossed my mind for quite a while. Now it is time for me to talk about it. I am thinking of a city near here... and how AA and Alanon was run by a couple for many years. Looking forward- I sometimes wonder- what it is like to complete the 12 Steps. I have done this quite a few times...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/17, simply states how difficult it can be to practice faith in HP. Our limited vision, fear, and doubts, can be overcome by turning our will and our life over to the care of God (the God of our understanding). The writer says that when they pray, they demonstrate a willingnes...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... This is my Saturday morning share. I downloaded the 16 approved Alanon slogans. At one time i have tried to memorise all of them- to avoid letting a slogan slip, that was not CAL! I say today: that I used to beat myself over the head with a brick wall! Pretty violent image. I know no...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Sorry for the late post, MIP family! Today's reading is about CONTROL. It speaks of the "gray days." Days that scare us because old feelings come rushing back to us. We feel needy, scared, ashamed. When this happens, it can be difficult to trust ourselves, others, the goodness of life, and the goo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is the analogy of serious thinking (going into our heads) with traveling into a neighborhood. Its been said that our minds can be dangerous neighborhoods to travel into alone. The writer acknowledges that it isnt always possible to talk it through with anot...

The1975jen · The1975jen

I am a proud member of alanon and go to f2f meetings. My AH is in a 12 step based recovery inpatient and is doing amazing. We live separately but aren't divorcing and intend to stay together assuming he continues on his recovery. My challenge is... I'm struggling. He has admitted he can't remember mos...

Bo · Bo

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author says that confusion is a gift, because it is a message that it's not yet time to act. The example is baking bread. If it's not fully baked yet, we don't take it out of the oven and start eating it. We wait for it to be fully baked. When we are desperate to rush a solution. If we act too soon, bef...

DavidG · DavidG

I am more like a grandmother now- not unusual since my mum and grandma and two aunties bought me up, more than anyone. I am not the sort of person who can get a hammer and a chisel out and talk in a gruff voice. I am not the sort of person who comes home from the supermarket with a dozen tinnies. [I some...

JerryF · JerryF

Good morning family...Hope you are all fine and dandy and spiritually happy and in balance. I don't know how many have elected to subscribe to the Forum, our Al-Anon monthly magazine. We do and often it is the rag that polishes my recovery. This morning I reconnected with a lesson my deceased spons...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Prayers continue Betty for a peaceful outcome. Today's reading discusses how comparing ourselves to others can be a distracting character defect in Al-Anon. The reading suggests that each snowflake is different as well as every thumbprint. Each of us, arriving at Al-Anon...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the ease of detachment with casual friends, where they are not very emotionally involved, compared to how difficult it is to not take on a negative frame of mind if a family member is being critical or grumpy. The author reflects on their o...

Beckon2 · Beckon2

I can't get into the alanon/mip meeting room. I have tried different servers .still can't get in. Thank you for your Help. Silgirl

Beckon2 · Beckon2

Hi all.Miss you. Can't get into the Meeting room. Alanon/mip. beckon

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Dear friends, old and new, I just stopped by to say hello and send my wishes that everyone here is receiving the love and support that I did when I was active on this forum back in 2005-2010 (I can't believe I remember my sign-on and password!) Life has taken its twists and turns, as it does. Still, I hold a s...

DavidG · DavidG

Perfection not progress seemed to be the philosophy of the A. in my life. In my eyes he seldom measured up. But details and stuff used to make him angry- livid- like a three year old. I tailored the programme a bit- so I could embrace all these new ideas. I said: "Expect perfection, but settle for a lit...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/10, discusses how important it is to replace negative thinking with positive action. Imagination and creativity are some of the ways we can practice this. Our program says we should acknowledge our achievements and try to live each day fully. Being creative plants us i...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Is any of the literature available in audio books?

DavidG · DavidG

I made direct amends early on. I surmised- that in the early months of AA new members would "do the steps" as soon as they were de-toxed. To help burn the boats and bridges back to the drinking culture. Today my own amends are more on a Step 10 basis. i had difficulty, initially explaining what Alano...

Aloha · Aloha

https://alanon.activeboard.com/t66257626/group-inventory/

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about leadership and the different forms it can take. The writer describes, through his/her understanding of concept nine, that leadership can come in the form of following program suggestions, inspiring others in that way. For those of us who do not find...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reading talks about finding a sense of ourselves. Do I know myself only in the image that others have made for me? "If we lack a sense of ourselves as people changing, on the move, in a process of growth, then it is easy to let ourselves become fixed, defined, static, lifeless. Other people will...

Freetime · Freetime

The C2C reading for February 7 is about making small changes to move our life in a positive direction. The author gives many examples of small steps that can lead to major strides: get some exercise, listen to music, ask someone to be a sponsor, try a different meeting, contact an old friend, fix someth...

DavidG · DavidG

Ah, it pays to look! Alanon has three readers, and ODAT was the first. I loved books, and still do- more or less my teddy bears... ... [https://ecomm.al-anon.org/ItemDetail?iProductCode=B6-50&CATEGORY=BOOKS]

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I've been reading old posts here lately. Last night I was reading some from 2005 and it kinda surprised me that they weren't really that much different than current ones. When I came here I felt so alone and like my situation is somehow worse or different than others. But reading old posts shows me othe...

Hopeful11 · Hopeful11

I realize in Al-Anon we dont offer advice. However, Im in crisis mode. I havent slept in the last 24 hours. My qualifier went on a bender last night. Fortunately, it appears he has left (drove his car and drunk because the rest of the whiskey is gone). I am praying he doesnt come back tonight so I can have pe...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hi everyone!!!! its been quite a ride since I was last here... just one trial after another and it was starting to make me ill..The stress was eating me up and i was considering helping me outta this world because I am soooo tired and worn out from the unwanted side of life I sat on the couch and I cried about...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses distorted thinking and forcing solutions. The writer tells about arriving at Al-Anon, and hearing to not make any major decisions for at least 6 months. The writer really wanted to hear, leave the bum instead, so was dismayed. After waiting, the wri...

Jozie · Jozie

So in Reading My Daily today, I Chose to Read the New "50th Annv. ODAT" and I'm Gonna Share it with ya's :) Jan 30th... Most of us come to Al-Anon for help as a last resort. We've tried everything else. Perhaps we've seen its effects on others; it seems to have worked like magic, and we want some of that! Th...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Doing well these days. Learning to let go & let God. Sometimes it is very hard to do. Patience is a good tool to deal w the frustration I have lately. I pursue daily to have a conscious contact w my God. I hope I will continue this journey & am able to live in the here & now.

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the Zen Buddhist saying: "When the student is ready, the teacher appears." This saying reminds the author of Alanon's public relations policy based on attraction, not promotion. The author reflects that, although they learned abo...

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	A brand new day... (Preview) ...starters... my mum used to say- get up off your backside and do something! {and I thought reading, was doing something. "Rattle your dags!" Or, "get a wriggle on". I was called a lazy little B#####r most than once. I thought was was lazy- but looking back I worked pretty hard. I was on welfare 3...	DavidG	4	1458	Mar 2, 2020 by DavidG
	Speaking "Our language" (Preview) "If you keep and open mind you will find help". I sat in last nights meeting with an open mind. One of the members a female originally from Fiji was very clear on how the disease affected her, her family, her culture and future. I understand and understood clearly as a Hawaiian culture national bo...	JerryF	9	2508	Mar 1, 2020 by mamalioness
	Saturday's Thoughts 2/29/2020 (Preview) Today in many parts of the world, it is Leap Day. A day added to the Gregorian calendar (as well as other solar calendars) to "even it out." It is supposedly a day in which women can propose to men. It is considered unlucky to marry or have babies on this day. Also, there was an English tradition of '12 glov...	PosiesandPuppies	4	4869	Mar 1, 2020 by yanksfan51
	C2C, February 28 -- Conscious Contact (Preview) Good morning/afternoon/evening, MIP! I am posting this a bit early because I have a busy couple of days ahead. The author of the February 28 reading in Courage to Change says that turning things over to a higher power -- the Third Step -- is an ongoing process. At first it was an act of desperation in t...	Freetime	4	377	Feb 29, 2020 by WendyP
	A letter home, from the front line... (Preview) This weekend coming we have an outing planned with three grandkids... "The Calalcade" is a round up of walkers, riders and wagons... ...which converge on some small town in our province... I took part in this twice- both walking and riding... but am too busy at the moment... ...camping out in a s...	DavidG	4	591	Feb 29, 2020 by DavidG
	News on Betty (Preview) I have received the news that Betty is being treated for lung cancer. It may be curable with chemotherapy which has been started. Apparently she is responding well to the treatment. She probably will be out of commission for a little while. Should someone take her Tuesday daily reading just tempo...	Lyne	23	1948	Feb 28, 2020 by WendyP
	Courage to Change 2/27 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading suggests we do NOT have to map out a Master Plan for our recovery - our HP has already done this. We just need to humbly ask for HP's guidance and for willingness to follow the guidance. We learn that we are not alone in our lives and recovery and we learn that we will rec...	Iamhere	4	442	Feb 27, 2020 by DavidG
	Something has changed (Preview) Something has changed within me and I am enjoying (but slightly frightened of losing) this current sense of peace/ acceptance. My AH had been living in rented accommodation, but due to alcohol and it's effects on his behaviour was evicted. Due to our weird money set-up as a family, we had no money to h...	Bettertomorrow	7	574	Feb 26, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change February 26 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading is about making mistakes and making amends. The author reminds us that we all make mistakes, and hopefully, as we grow in our AlAnon program and apply the principles to our lives, we will continue to learn from those mistakes. If a mistake we have made causes harm, we can mak...	Skorpi	5	609	Feb 26, 2020 by DavidG
	Confused and not sure what do (Preview) Hello, I have been separated from my alcoholic husband a year now. After 37 years of marriage I finally made the decision to start taking care of myself. I am living with my parents with our 19 year old son and my husband got an apartment. I started counseling and joining some Al anon online sites. I have...	Chrismc710	4	616	Feb 25, 2020 by Bo
	C2C, 2/24 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/24, talks about the benefits of taking a personal inventory. We cant fix anything if we dont see what needs repair. We can take Step 4 without personal judgement. We can gain healing power from taking the Steps so pain from our past does not have to recur. Reminder: When I c...	Lyne	2	1249	Feb 24, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Guidelines for sharing al anon daily web? (Preview) Does al anon has guidelines for sharing their material in web? Like daily texts.	kadriliisa	1	1568	Feb 23, 2020 by JerryF
	Conflicting Feelings (Preview) We made a decision last week at my home group business meeting to tell a man whose behavior has been inappropriate towards women Inoue group for awhile that he's no longer welcome. I was taken aback when it was another man who raised the issue and said he'd noticed and was aware of at least one woman who ha...	tiredtonite	22	1041	Feb 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	Steps and Traditions Board... filling in for Betty...? (Preview) Betty has run this seperate board for some time. So long as she is in hospital, maybe someone else could step in, in the meantime? She has been doing a step per months, the Step 2 is due for February...	DavidG	1	1649	Feb 23, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Feb 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading deals with the idea of perfectionism. The writer describes work as a seamstress and how before Alanon, she would discard any work that had imperfections. She would not wear the clothing she made, and if anyone ever complimented her work, her instinct was to p...	yanksfan51	4	384	Feb 23, 2020 by DavidG
	Woke up this morning feeling HP holding on to me. (Preview) That isn't a strange feeling and I hope it isn't for others in the family either. It was a hug warm and close and I didn't question why as I wasn't asking HP for anything special yet it gave me security as the day went on and then I came too understand that today is Anniversary Day here. Today 2/8/2020 i...	JerryF	18	1804	Feb 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	Betty (Preview) I reached out yesterday for news about Betty, and so far I have not had a response. I'm praying every day for her wellness, and I will post as soon as I here something. Lyne	Lyne	8	2489	Feb 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	Progress, not perfection... (Preview) Hi y'all... just a general share.Saturday morning here. Dark around the hills... autumn is on its way... a time for us to gather our garden fruits... Our oldest grand-son J. had his 17th birthday yesterday... he has a girl-friend, who is 14. One of my heroes, Brene Brown had eight grandpare...	DavidG	4	856	Feb 22, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change, 2/21 (Preview) In today's reading, the author credits Tradition 10 with being able to have a beneficial relationship with a sponsor, even though the sponsor has very different -- even abhorrent to the author -- political views. Despite those disagreements, the sponsor has provided valuable lessons about seren...	Freetime	4	604	Feb 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	JADE'ing (Preview) OK, so I have been triggered and am struggling a bit. Came on here and posted to The Daily, but I am still somewhat unsettled, so I need to get this out. The last two nights, I have seen that my ExRAH has texted me in the wee hours of the night asking, "Are you awake?" "I can't sleep." and then, "Hey, where are...	PosiesandPuppies	21	2256	Feb 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	Serenity, where are you? (Preview) Im having trouble holding onto my serenity. Having a serious health problem, not life-threatening but nonetheless awful. My coping is certainly better than it would be without program, but its taking a lot of focus and energy to stay in the moment ODAT. I know what to do as I have a huge tool box, but...	Lyne	8	733	Feb 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	News about our Betty! (Preview) Update given to me from Bettys boyfriend: Betty is in the hospital and I dont know which one. She does not want any cards, flowers, or visitors. She also does not have a phone in her room. Her boyfriend will let me know about her condition towards the end of the week. I thanked him profusely!	Lyne	17	2137	Feb 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 2/20 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses unacceptable behavior, as the writer recalls hearing, "We don't have to accept unacceptable behavior" early on in recovery. This concept helped the writer see that the did not have to tolerate violence or abuse, and they always had choices - some neve...	Iamhere	2	1163	Feb 20, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change February 19 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares their experience with the 4th step. When the author wrote their 4th step inventory, they carried a notebook around with them so that they wouldn't eave anything out. The author had the notebook nearby, day and night, and in this way, discovered their first defec...	Skorpi	5	1500	Feb 19, 2020 by Iamhere
	Change and Insecurity (Preview) So after several serious this time attempts at sobriety and the revolving door of living out and back in, my AH was told he cant be here. Its different this time because he was actually sober when he was asked to leave. It was the alcoholic rage that made me realize this isnt okay. He knows just what to do so...	sunmustshine	9	1460	Feb 19, 2020 by Bo
	Change and Insecurity (Preview) So after several serious this time attempts at sobriety and the revolving door of living out and back in, my AH was told he cant be here. Its different this time because he was actually sober when he was asked to leave. It was the alcoholic rage that made me realize this isnt okay. He knows just what to do so...	sunmustshine	2	1299	Feb 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	my faith and alanon (Preview) I hope this is okay to post as it is in regards to my belief system. I am a Christian. I pray and I read the Bible. However, and this was the same issue I had years ago while in Alanon, I struggle with being obedient to my God and some of the concepts of Alanon. I know this is what kept me in my marriage far too l...	Marie71	27	2438	Feb 18, 2020 by DavidG
	PRAYERS PLEASE (Preview) Good Morning MIP have been dealing eith a serious medical condition for over a month asking FOR PRAYERS WILL KNOW THURSDAY	hotrod	34	2323	Feb 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Betty? (Preview) I waited until Thursday and saw no news about how you are doing. Please let us know. ((((hugs))))	JerryF	14	1558	Feb 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Long-timers, old-timers, or 12 Steppers... ??? (Preview) This is a topic that has crossed my mind for quite a while. Now it is time for me to talk about it. I am thinking of a city near here... and how AA and Alanon was run by a couple for many years. Looking forward- I sometimes wonder- what it is like to complete the 12 Steps. I have done this quite a few times...	DavidG	0	2908	Feb 17, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C, 2/17 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/17, simply states how difficult it can be to practice faith in HP. Our limited vision, fear, and doubts, can be overcome by turning our will and our life over to the care of God (the God of our understanding). The writer says that when they pray, they demonstrate a willingnes...	Lyne	3	4686	Feb 17, 2020 by Iamhere
	Listen, and learn... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... This is my Saturday morning share. I downloaded the 16 approved Alanon slogans. At one time i have tried to memorise all of them- to avoid letting a slogan slip, that was not CAL! I say today: that I used to beat myself over the head with a brick wall! Pretty violent image. I know no...	DavidG	3	464	Feb 17, 2020 by JerryF
	Thought for Today 2/15 (Preview) Sorry for the late post, MIP family! Today's reading is about CONTROL. It speaks of the "gray days." Days that scare us because old feelings come rushing back to us. We feel needy, scared, ashamed. When this happens, it can be difficult to trust ourselves, others, the goodness of life, and the goo...	PosiesandPuppies	5	1167	Feb 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Feb 16 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is the analogy of serious thinking (going into our heads) with traveling into a neighborhood. Its been said that our minds can be dangerous neighborhoods to travel into alone. The writer acknowledges that it isnt always possible to talk it through with anot...	yanksfan51	5	565	Feb 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	struggling with the past (Preview) I am a proud member of alanon and go to f2f meetings. My AH is in a 12 step based recovery inpatient and is doing amazing. We live separately but aren't divorcing and intend to stay together assuming he continues on his recovery. My challenge is... I'm struggling. He has admitted he can't remember mos...	The1975jen	8	663	Feb 16, 2020 by Maresie888
	Forgiveness... (Preview) Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.	Bo	7	789	Feb 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, February 14 (Preview) Today's author says that confusion is a gift, because it is a message that it's not yet time to act. The example is baking bread. If it's not fully baked yet, we don't take it out of the oven and start eating it. We wait for it to be fully baked. When we are desperate to rush a solution. If we act too soon, bef...	Freetime	3	461	Feb 14, 2020 by Iamhere
	Mum's famous words... (Preview) I am more like a grandmother now- not unusual since my mum and grandma and two aunties bought me up, more than anyone. I am not the sort of person who can get a hammer and a chisel out and talk in a gruff voice. I am not the sort of person who comes home from the supermarket with a dozen tinnies. [I some...	DavidG	1	530	Feb 14, 2020 by tiredtonite
	The Forum..2/2020 (Preview) Good morning family...Hope you are all fine and dandy and spiritually happy and in balance. I don't know how many have elected to subscribe to the Forum, our Al-Anon monthly magazine. We do and often it is the rag that polishes my recovery. This morning I reconnected with a lesson my deceased spons...	JerryF	3	497	Feb 13, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change 2/13 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Prayers continue Betty for a peaceful outcome. Today's reading discusses how comparing ourselves to others can be a distracting character defect in Al-Anon. The reading suggests that each snowflake is different as well as every thumbprint. Each of us, arriving at Al-Anon...	Iamhere	2	487	Feb 13, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change February 12 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the ease of detachment with casual friends, where they are not very emotionally involved, compared to how difficult it is to not take on a negative frame of mind if a family member is being critical or grumpy. The author reflects on their o...	Skorpi	4	673	Feb 12, 2020 by Beckon2
	RE: MIP meeting room (Preview) I can't get into the alanon/mip meeting room. I have tried different servers .still can't get in. Thank you for your Help. Silgirl	Beckon2	0	547	Feb 12, 2020 by Beckon2
	I can't get into the meeting room.Help! Silgirl (Preview) Hi all.Miss you. Can't get into the Meeting room. Alanon/mip. beckon	Beckon2	0	329	Feb 12, 2020 by Beckon2
	Update on Rocky38 (Preview) Dear friends, old and new, I just stopped by to say hello and send my wishes that everyone here is receiving the love and support that I did when I was active on this forum back in 2005-2010 (I can't believe I remember my sign-on and password!) Life has taken its twists and turns, as it does. Still, I hold a s...	Rocky38	3	450	Feb 12, 2020 by Iamhere
	Perfection... (Preview) Perfection not progress seemed to be the philosophy of the A. in my life. In my eyes he seldom measured up. But details and stuff used to make him angry- livid- like a three year old. I tailored the programme a bit- so I could embrace all these new ideas. I said: "Expect perfection, but settle for a lit...	DavidG	5	647	Feb 11, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C, 2/10 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/10, discusses how important it is to replace negative thinking with positive action. Imagination and creativity are some of the ways we can practice this. Our program says we should acknowledge our achievements and try to live each day fully. Being creative plants us i...	Lyne	4	511	Feb 11, 2020 by Jill
	Audio Books (Preview) Is any of the literature available in audio books?	SunnyFrogs	3	393	Feb 10, 2020 by Aloha
	Making amends to kids... (Preview) I made direct amends early on. I surmised- that in the early months of AA new members would "do the steps" as soon as they were de-toxed. To help burn the boats and bridges back to the drinking culture. Today my own amends are more on a Step 10 basis. i had difficulty, initially explaining what Alano...	DavidG	7	475	Feb 10, 2020 by Bo
	Group Inventory discussion has been moved to the business board (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t66257626/group-inventory/	Aloha	3	508	Feb 10, 2020 by Aloha
	Hope for Today Feb 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about leadership and the different forms it can take. The writer describes, through his/her understanding of concept nine, that leadership can come in the form of following program suggestions, inspiring others in that way. For those of us who do not find...	yanksfan51	1	441	Feb 9, 2020 by Iamhere
	Today's Hope 2/8/20 (Preview) Today's reading talks about finding a sense of ourselves. Do I know myself only in the image that others have made for me? "If we lack a sense of ourselves as people changing, on the move, in a process of growth, then it is easy to let ourselves become fixed, defined, static, lifeless. Other people will...	PosiesandPuppies	3	471	Feb 9, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change, February 7 (Preview) The C2C reading for February 7 is about making small changes to move our life in a positive direction. The author gives many examples of small steps that can lead to major strides: get some exercise, listen to music, ask someone to be a sponsor, try a different meeting, contact an old friend, fix someth...	Freetime	6	504	Feb 8, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	A new book...??? One Day At A Time. (Preview) Ah, it pays to look! Alanon has three readers, and ODAT was the first. I loved books, and still do- more or less my teddy bears... ... [https://ecomm.al-anon.org/ItemDetail?iProductCode=B6-50&CATEGORY=BOOKS]	DavidG	4	642	Feb 8, 2020 by Lyne
	Some Things Never Change (Preview) I've been reading old posts here lately. Last night I was reading some from 2005 and it kinda surprised me that they weren't really that much different than current ones. When I came here I felt so alone and like my situation is somehow worse or different than others. But reading old posts shows me othe...	SunnyFrogs	7	582	Feb 7, 2020 by JerryF
	Help (Preview) I realize in Al-Anon we dont offer advice. However, Im in crisis mode. I havent slept in the last 24 hours. My qualifier went on a bender last night. Fortunately, it appears he has left (drove his car and drunk because the rest of the whiskey is gone). I am praying he doesnt come back tonight so I can have pe...	Hopeful11	27	898	Feb 6, 2020 by Hopeful11
	the LAST resort!!! (Preview) Hi everyone!!!! its been quite a ride since I was last here... just one trial after another and it was starting to make me ill..The stress was eating me up and i was considering helping me outta this world because I am soooo tired and worn out from the unwanted side of life I sat on the couch and I cried about...	mamalioness	21	909	Feb 6, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 2/6 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses distorted thinking and forcing solutions. The writer tells about arriving at Al-Anon, and hearing to not make any major decisions for at least 6 months. The writer really wanted to hear, leave the bum instead, so was dismayed. After waiting, the wri...	Iamhere	3	574	Feb 6, 2020 by JerryF
	New ODAT Got Me! (Preview) So in Reading My Daily today, I Chose to Read the New "50th Annv. ODAT" and I'm Gonna Share it with ya's :) Jan 30th... Most of us come to Al-Anon for help as a last resort. We've tried everything else. Perhaps we've seen its effects on others; it seems to have worked like magic, and we want some of that! Th...	Jozie	5	671	Feb 5, 2020 by mamalioness
	Just a few minutes to say hi (Preview) Doing well these days. Learning to let go & let God. Sometimes it is very hard to do. Patience is a good tool to deal w the frustration I have lately. I pursue daily to have a conscious contact w my God. I hope I will continue this journey & am able to live in the here & now.	Hoot Nanny	5	538	Feb 5, 2020 by Jozie
	Courage to Change February 5 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the Zen Buddhist saying: "When the student is ready, the teacher appears." This saying reminds the author of Alanon's public relations policy based on attraction, not promotion. The author reflects that, although they learned abo...	Skorpi	6	463	Feb 5, 2020 by Maresie888
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