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Freetime · Freetime

Today's author has learned that they cannot expect their needs to be met unless they first explain what those needs are. Before program, they did not express their feelings, but expected others to read their mind. When others did not meet their needs, they ended up angry, hurt, pouting, or fuming....

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to Everyone, I would just like to say that I will be thinking of Everyone that can/is going to Betty's Funeral Service. Also, I didn't know Betty for a long time, but what I did know of her, that she was strong in Programme, Loved Alanon,and gave to all who wanted what she had. She gave so much Love and Ca...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses the writer's anxiety on approaching inventory step work in Al-Anon and how the slogan, 'Keep it Simple' brought relief! The writer felt nervous at the thought of having their character defects removed. The want to get better helped the writer believe what others had sh...

2HP · 2HP

and I am having thoughts of Betty joyfully swimming in the ocean of infinity for her well-deserved rest from this life... smiling.. free... unencumbered... swimming... floating... swirling... feeling pity for us, still here. I personally feel her loud encouragement to never forget why I c...

JerryF · JerryF

I have a lot of "self" work including finishing saying good morning here to my family. I still have Betty on my mind too. I have personal improvement tasks also which includes program and other which are necessary for my age of 77. I have been using the VA to help me inventory and tune up my systems....

DavidG · DavidG

3-3 is a big day, at your home, Temple. Hoping the day brings back tender sweet memories. ... The day you arrived in this world, the world was filled with love. ...

Lyne · Lyne

It is with a heavy heart that Im telling you Betty died early this morning. I have asked Peter if there are any details of her funeral he wants shared on the board. This is devastating news for me, and Im sure for many of you. Lyne

JerryF · JerryF

If you go to the Funeral Home site you can find a picture of Betty there and the name of a surviving sister to including in your condolences. There is a bit of additional information also. I will attempt a cultural send of from Clovis CA even though I am about as far away from home country as can be. Th...

Kez · Kez

Hello everyone, I hope you are of good spirits. I need help, please. I have been out of an emotionally abusive marriage now for 6 years but lately have been what I am calling 'invaded' with bad dreams of situations I suffered while in the marriage. I have done so much work on myself and have found my value...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about the slogan "Think". The author shares that they were always puzzled by this slogan - wasn't it "stinking thinking" that had gotten them into "this" mess? The, one day, the author heard a neighbor's child repeating a safety message they had learned in school...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- I am thinking of Betty this morning. This writing is offered up to her. Todays reading is about the complicated nature of detaching with love. The writer describes that having seen the successful recovery program of her father, she prayed for the same for her life partner. W...

lookingup · lookingup

ive just had to put my 14 year old yorky (milo)to rest. he had kidney failure ,i thought he was getting better before i found out he had kidney failure, id begun syrenge feeding him for last 5 days ,he get better then go back down ,took him to vet ,checked his kidneys he had only 5 percent working,yet he was s...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/2, speaks about how helpful CAL literature can be. The writer says they first only used it when in pain, but as time went on, touching base with CAL became a daily practice. Reminder: I have a wealth of information available to me which can help me grow ever freer from the effe...

DavidG · DavidG

...gratitude came my way reluctantly... ...I was very, very stuck. Almost impossible. Not everyone will do this, I am sure- attempt a life story, in about 10 minutes... but i tend to do this once a year. I am 69 years old. Yesterday we spent the day with two grand-kids- and went to a fair day with hor...

Lyne · Lyne

With Peters permission: Bettys wake will be at The Peter Jarema Funeral Home, 129 East 7th Street, (between Avenue A and First Avenue), Thursday March 5, 2-9pm. This is NYC for those who are not local. The funeral service will be at the Immaculate Conception Church, 414 East 14th St., (just off First...

DavidG · DavidG

...starters... my mum used to say- get up off your backside and do something! {and I thought reading, was doing something. "Rattle your dags!" Or, "get a wriggle on". I was called a lazy little B#####r most than once. I thought was was lazy- but looking back I worked pretty hard. I was on welfare 3...

JerryF · JerryF

"If you keep and open mind you will find help". I sat in last nights meeting with an open mind. One of the members a female originally from Fiji was very clear on how the disease affected her, her family, her culture and future. I understand and understood clearly as a Hawaiian culture national bo...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today in many parts of the world, it is Leap Day. A day added to the Gregorian calendar (as well as other solar calendars) to "even it out." It is supposedly a day in which women can propose to men. It is considered unlucky to marry or have babies on this day. Also, there was an English tradition of '12 glov...

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning/afternoon/evening, MIP! I am posting this a bit early because I have a busy couple of days ahead. The author of the February 28 reading in Courage to Change says that turning things over to a higher power -- the Third Step -- is an ongoing process. At first it was an act of desperation in t...

DavidG · DavidG

This weekend coming we have an outing planned with three grandkids... "The Calalcade" is a round up of walkers, riders and wagons... ...which converge on some small town in our province... I took part in this twice- both walking and riding... but am too busy at the moment... ...camping out in a s...

Lyne · Lyne

I have received the news that Betty is being treated for lung cancer. It may be curable with chemotherapy which has been started. Apparently she is responding well to the treatment. She probably will be out of commission for a little while. Should someone take her Tuesday daily reading just tempo...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading suggests we do NOT have to map out a Master Plan for our recovery - our HP has already done this. We just need to humbly ask for HP's guidance and for willingness to follow the guidance. We learn that we are not alone in our lives and recovery and we learn that we will rec...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Something has changed within me and I am enjoying (but slightly frightened of losing) this current sense of peace/ acceptance. My AH had been living in rented accommodation, but due to alcohol and it's effects on his behaviour was evicted. Due to our weird money set-up as a family, we had no money to h...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading is about making mistakes and making amends. The author reminds us that we all make mistakes, and hopefully, as we grow in our AlAnon program and apply the principles to our lives, we will continue to learn from those mistakes. If a mistake we have made causes harm, we can mak...

Chrismc710 · Chrismc710

Hello, I have been separated from my alcoholic husband a year now. After 37 years of marriage I finally made the decision to start taking care of myself. I am living with my parents with our 19 year old son and my husband got an apartment. I started counseling and joining some Al anon online sites. I have...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/24, talks about the benefits of taking a personal inventory. We cant fix anything if we dont see what needs repair. We can take Step 4 without personal judgement. We can gain healing power from taking the Steps so pain from our past does not have to recur. Reminder: When I c...

kadriliisa · kadriliisa

Does al anon has guidelines for sharing their material in web? Like daily texts.

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

We made a decision last week at my home group business meeting to tell a man whose behavior has been inappropriate towards women Inoue group for awhile that he's no longer welcome. I was taken aback when it was another man who raised the issue and said he'd noticed and was aware of at least one woman who ha...

DavidG · DavidG

Betty has run this seperate board for some time. So long as she is in hospital, maybe someone else could step in, in the meantime? She has been doing a step per months, the Step 2 is due for February...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading deals with the idea of perfectionism. The writer describes work as a seamstress and how before Alanon, she would discard any work that had imperfections. She would not wear the clothing she made, and if anyone ever complimented her work, her instinct was to p...

JerryF · JerryF

That isn't a strange feeling and I hope it isn't for others in the family either. It was a hug warm and close and I didn't question why as I wasn't asking HP for anything special yet it gave me security as the day went on and then I came too understand that today is Anniversary Day here. Today 2/8/2020 i...

Lyne · Lyne

I reached out yesterday for news about Betty, and so far I have not had a response. I'm praying every day for her wellness, and I will post as soon as I here something. Lyne

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... just a general share.Saturday morning here. Dark around the hills... autumn is on its way... a time for us to gather our garden fruits... Our oldest grand-son J. had his 17th birthday yesterday... he has a girl-friend, who is 14. One of my heroes, Brene Brown had eight grandpare...

Freetime · Freetime

In today's reading, the author credits Tradition 10 with being able to have a beneficial relationship with a sponsor, even though the sponsor has very different -- even abhorrent to the author -- political views. Despite those disagreements, the sponsor has provided valuable lessons about seren...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

OK, so I have been triggered and am struggling a bit. Came on here and posted to The Daily, but I am still somewhat unsettled, so I need to get this out. The last two nights, I have seen that my ExRAH has texted me in the wee hours of the night asking, "Are you awake?" "I can't sleep." and then, "Hey, where are...

Lyne · Lyne

Im having trouble holding onto my serenity. Having a serious health problem, not life-threatening but nonetheless awful. My coping is certainly better than it would be without program, but its taking a lot of focus and energy to stay in the moment ODAT. I know what to do as I have a huge tool box, but...

Lyne · Lyne

Update given to me from Bettys boyfriend: Betty is in the hospital and I dont know which one. She does not want any cards, flowers, or visitors. She also does not have a phone in her room. Her boyfriend will let me know about her condition towards the end of the week. I thanked him profusely!

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses unacceptable behavior, as the writer recalls hearing, "We don't have to accept unacceptable behavior" early on in recovery. This concept helped the writer see that the did not have to tolerate violence or abuse, and they always had choices - some neve...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares their experience with the 4th step. When the author wrote their 4th step inventory, they carried a notebook around with them so that they wouldn't eave anything out. The author had the notebook nearby, day and night, and in this way, discovered their first defec...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

So after several serious this time attempts at sobriety and the revolving door of living out and back in, my AH was told he cant be here. Its different this time because he was actually sober when he was asked to leave. It was the alcoholic rage that made me realize this isnt okay. He knows just what to do so...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

So after several serious this time attempts at sobriety and the revolving door of living out and back in, my AH was told he cant be here. Its different this time because he was actually sober when he was asked to leave. It was the alcoholic rage that made me realize this isnt okay. He knows just what to do so...

Marie71 · Marie71

I hope this is okay to post as it is in regards to my belief system. I am a Christian. I pray and I read the Bible. However, and this was the same issue I had years ago while in Alanon, I struggle with being obedient to my God and some of the concepts of Alanon. I know this is what kept me in my marriage far too l...

hotrod · hotrod

Good Morning MIP have been dealing eith a serious medical condition for over a month asking FOR PRAYERS WILL KNOW THURSDAY

JerryF · JerryF

I waited until Thursday and saw no news about how you are doing. Please let us know. ((((hugs))))

DavidG · DavidG

This is a topic that has crossed my mind for quite a while. Now it is time for me to talk about it. I am thinking of a city near here... and how AA and Alanon was run by a couple for many years. Looking forward- I sometimes wonder- what it is like to complete the 12 Steps. I have done this quite a few times...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/17, simply states how difficult it can be to practice faith in HP. Our limited vision, fear, and doubts, can be overcome by turning our will and our life over to the care of God (the God of our understanding). The writer says that when they pray, they demonstrate a willingnes...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... This is my Saturday morning share. I downloaded the 16 approved Alanon slogans. At one time i have tried to memorise all of them- to avoid letting a slogan slip, that was not CAL! I say today: that I used to beat myself over the head with a brick wall! Pretty violent image. I know no...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Sorry for the late post, MIP family! Today's reading is about CONTROL. It speaks of the "gray days." Days that scare us because old feelings come rushing back to us. We feel needy, scared, ashamed. When this happens, it can be difficult to trust ourselves, others, the goodness of life, and the goo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is the analogy of serious thinking (going into our heads) with traveling into a neighborhood. Its been said that our minds can be dangerous neighborhoods to travel into alone. The writer acknowledges that it isnt always possible to talk it through with anot...

The1975jen · The1975jen

I am a proud member of alanon and go to f2f meetings. My AH is in a 12 step based recovery inpatient and is doing amazing. We live separately but aren't divorcing and intend to stay together assuming he continues on his recovery. My challenge is... I'm struggling. He has admitted he can't remember mos...

Bo · Bo

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author says that confusion is a gift, because it is a message that it's not yet time to act. The example is baking bread. If it's not fully baked yet, we don't take it out of the oven and start eating it. We wait for it to be fully baked. When we are desperate to rush a solution. If we act too soon, bef...

DavidG · DavidG

I am more like a grandmother now- not unusual since my mum and grandma and two aunties bought me up, more than anyone. I am not the sort of person who can get a hammer and a chisel out and talk in a gruff voice. I am not the sort of person who comes home from the supermarket with a dozen tinnies. [I some...

JerryF · JerryF

Good morning family...Hope you are all fine and dandy and spiritually happy and in balance. I don't know how many have elected to subscribe to the Forum, our Al-Anon monthly magazine. We do and often it is the rag that polishes my recovery. This morning I reconnected with a lesson my deceased spons...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Prayers continue Betty for a peaceful outcome. Today's reading discusses how comparing ourselves to others can be a distracting character defect in Al-Anon. The reading suggests that each snowflake is different as well as every thumbprint. Each of us, arriving at Al-Anon...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the ease of detachment with casual friends, where they are not very emotionally involved, compared to how difficult it is to not take on a negative frame of mind if a family member is being critical or grumpy. The author reflects on their o...

Beckon2 · Beckon2

I can't get into the alanon/mip meeting room. I have tried different servers .still can't get in. Thank you for your Help. Silgirl

Beckon2 · Beckon2

Hi all.Miss you. Can't get into the Meeting room. Alanon/mip. beckon

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Dear friends, old and new, I just stopped by to say hello and send my wishes that everyone here is receiving the love and support that I did when I was active on this forum back in 2005-2010 (I can't believe I remember my sign-on and password!) Life has taken its twists and turns, as it does. Still, I hold a s...

DavidG · DavidG

Perfection not progress seemed to be the philosophy of the A. in my life. In my eyes he seldom measured up. But details and stuff used to make him angry- livid- like a three year old. I tailored the programme a bit- so I could embrace all these new ideas. I said: "Expect perfection, but settle for a lit...

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	Courage to Change, 3/6 (Preview) Today's author has learned that they cannot expect their needs to be met unless they first explain what those needs are. Before program, they did not express their feelings, but expected others to read their mind. When others did not meet their needs, they ended up angry, hurt, pouting, or fuming....	Freetime	4	616	Mar 6, 2020 by Lyne
	Farewell to Betty, (Preview) Hi to Everyone, I would just like to say that I will be thinking of Everyone that can/is going to Betty's Funeral Service. Also, I didn't know Betty for a long time, but what I did know of her, that she was strong in Programme, Loved Alanon,and gave to all who wanted what she had. She gave so much Love and Ca...	WendyP	4	1665	Mar 5, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 3/5 (Preview) Today's reading discusses the writer's anxiety on approaching inventory step work in Al-Anon and how the slogan, 'Keep it Simple' brought relief! The writer felt nervous at the thought of having their character defects removed. The want to get better helped the writer believe what others had sh...	Iamhere	3	1598	Mar 5, 2020 by DavidG
	morning has broken... (Preview) and I am having thoughts of Betty joyfully swimming in the ocean of infinity for her well-deserved rest from this life... smiling.. free... unencumbered... swimming... floating... swirling... feeling pity for us, still here. I personally feel her loud encouragement to never forget why I c...	2HP	3	1235	Mar 5, 2020 by Iamhere
	It's an on and off morning and day. (Preview) I have a lot of "self" work including finishing saying good morning here to my family. I still have Betty on my mind too. I have personal improvement tasks also which includes program and other which are necessary for my age of 77. I have been using the VA to help me inventory and tune up my systems....	JerryF	7	624	Mar 5, 2020 by JerryF
	Happy Birthday, Temple... (Preview) 3-3 is a big day, at your home, Temple. Hoping the day brings back tender sweet memories. ... The day you arrived in this world, the world was filled with love. ...	DavidG	7	1627	Mar 4, 2020 by Temple
	Betty (Preview) It is with a heavy heart that Im telling you Betty died early this morning. I have asked Peter if there are any details of her funeral he wants shared on the board. This is devastating news for me, and Im sure for many of you. Lyne	Lyne	38	1857	Mar 4, 2020 by SerenityRUS
	Additional to Betty (Preview) If you go to the Funeral Home site you can find a picture of Betty there and the name of a surviving sister to including in your condolences. There is a bit of additional information also. I will attempt a cultural send of from Clovis CA even though I am about as far away from home country as can be. Th...	JerryF	10	746	Mar 4, 2020 by Maresie888
	I Need Help (Preview) Hello everyone, I hope you are of good spirits. I need help, please. I have been out of an emotionally abusive marriage now for 6 years but lately have been what I am calling 'invaded' with bad dreams of situations I suffered while in the marriage. I have done so much work on myself and have found my value...	Kez	12	2244	Mar 4, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change March 4 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about the slogan "Think". The author shares that they were always puzzled by this slogan - wasn't it "stinking thinking" that had gotten them into "this" mess? The, one day, the author heard a neighbor's child repeating a safety message they had learned in school...	Skorpi	3	463	Mar 4, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today 3/1 (Preview) Good morning everyone- I am thinking of Betty this morning. This writing is offered up to her. Todays reading is about the complicated nature of detaching with love. The writer describes that having seen the successful recovery program of her father, she prayed for the same for her life partner. W...	yanksfan51	7	2630	Mar 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	grieving the loss of a pet (Preview) ive just had to put my 14 year old yorky (milo)to rest. he had kidney failure ,i thought he was getting better before i found out he had kidney failure, id begun syrenge feeding him for last 5 days ,he get better then go back down ,took him to vet ,checked his kidneys he had only 5 percent working,yet he was s...	lookingup	18	3688	Mar 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 3/2 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/2, speaks about how helpful CAL literature can be. The writer says they first only used it when in pain, but as time went on, touching base with CAL became a daily practice. Reminder: I have a wealth of information available to me which can help me grow ever freer from the effe...	Lyne	4	562	Mar 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	My Story... a Step One share... (Preview) ...gratitude came my way reluctantly... ...I was very, very stuck. Almost impossible. Not everyone will do this, I am sure- attempt a life story, in about 10 minutes... but i tend to do this once a year. I am 69 years old. Yesterday we spent the day with two grand-kids- and went to a fair day with hor...	DavidG	2	2862	Mar 3, 2020 by DavidG
	Wake and funeral arrangements for Betty (Preview) With Peters permission: Bettys wake will be at The Peter Jarema Funeral Home, 129 East 7th Street, (between Avenue A and First Avenue), Thursday March 5, 2-9pm. This is NYC for those who are not local. The funeral service will be at the Immaculate Conception Church, 414 East 14th St., (just off First...	Lyne	7	1791	Mar 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	A brand new day... (Preview) ...starters... my mum used to say- get up off your backside and do something! {and I thought reading, was doing something. "Rattle your dags!" Or, "get a wriggle on". I was called a lazy little B#####r most than once. I thought was was lazy- but looking back I worked pretty hard. I was on welfare 3...	DavidG	4	1653	Mar 2, 2020 by DavidG
	Speaking "Our language" (Preview) "If you keep and open mind you will find help". I sat in last nights meeting with an open mind. One of the members a female originally from Fiji was very clear on how the disease affected her, her family, her culture and future. I understand and understood clearly as a Hawaiian culture national bo...	JerryF	9	2794	Mar 1, 2020 by mamalioness
	Saturday's Thoughts 2/29/2020 (Preview) Today in many parts of the world, it is Leap Day. A day added to the Gregorian calendar (as well as other solar calendars) to "even it out." It is supposedly a day in which women can propose to men. It is considered unlucky to marry or have babies on this day. Also, there was an English tradition of '12 glov...	PosiesandPuppies	4	5810	Mar 1, 2020 by yanksfan51
	C2C, February 28 -- Conscious Contact (Preview) Good morning/afternoon/evening, MIP! I am posting this a bit early because I have a busy couple of days ahead. The author of the February 28 reading in Courage to Change says that turning things over to a higher power -- the Third Step -- is an ongoing process. At first it was an act of desperation in t...	Freetime	4	474	Feb 29, 2020 by WendyP
	A letter home, from the front line... (Preview) This weekend coming we have an outing planned with three grandkids... "The Calalcade" is a round up of walkers, riders and wagons... ...which converge on some small town in our province... I took part in this twice- both walking and riding... but am too busy at the moment... ...camping out in a s...	DavidG	4	708	Feb 29, 2020 by DavidG
	News on Betty (Preview) I have received the news that Betty is being treated for lung cancer. It may be curable with chemotherapy which has been started. Apparently she is responding well to the treatment. She probably will be out of commission for a little while. Should someone take her Tuesday daily reading just tempo...	Lyne	23	2158	Feb 28, 2020 by WendyP
	Courage to Change 2/27 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading suggests we do NOT have to map out a Master Plan for our recovery - our HP has already done this. We just need to humbly ask for HP's guidance and for willingness to follow the guidance. We learn that we are not alone in our lives and recovery and we learn that we will rec...	Iamhere	4	519	Feb 27, 2020 by DavidG
	Something has changed (Preview) Something has changed within me and I am enjoying (but slightly frightened of losing) this current sense of peace/ acceptance. My AH had been living in rented accommodation, but due to alcohol and it's effects on his behaviour was evicted. Due to our weird money set-up as a family, we had no money to h...	Bettertomorrow	7	686	Feb 26, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change February 26 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading is about making mistakes and making amends. The author reminds us that we all make mistakes, and hopefully, as we grow in our AlAnon program and apply the principles to our lives, we will continue to learn from those mistakes. If a mistake we have made causes harm, we can mak...	Skorpi	5	774	Feb 26, 2020 by DavidG
	Confused and not sure what do (Preview) Hello, I have been separated from my alcoholic husband a year now. After 37 years of marriage I finally made the decision to start taking care of myself. I am living with my parents with our 19 year old son and my husband got an apartment. I started counseling and joining some Al anon online sites. I have...	Chrismc710	4	738	Feb 25, 2020 by Bo
	C2C, 2/24 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/24, talks about the benefits of taking a personal inventory. We cant fix anything if we dont see what needs repair. We can take Step 4 without personal judgement. We can gain healing power from taking the Steps so pain from our past does not have to recur. Reminder: When I c...	Lyne	2	1433	Feb 24, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Guidelines for sharing al anon daily web? (Preview) Does al anon has guidelines for sharing their material in web? Like daily texts.	kadriliisa	1	1779	Feb 23, 2020 by JerryF
	Conflicting Feelings (Preview) We made a decision last week at my home group business meeting to tell a man whose behavior has been inappropriate towards women Inoue group for awhile that he's no longer welcome. I was taken aback when it was another man who raised the issue and said he'd noticed and was aware of at least one woman who ha...	tiredtonite	22	1158	Feb 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	Steps and Traditions Board... filling in for Betty...? (Preview) Betty has run this seperate board for some time. So long as she is in hospital, maybe someone else could step in, in the meantime? She has been doing a step per months, the Step 2 is due for February...	DavidG	1	1862	Feb 23, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Feb 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading deals with the idea of perfectionism. The writer describes work as a seamstress and how before Alanon, she would discard any work that had imperfections. She would not wear the clothing she made, and if anyone ever complimented her work, her instinct was to p...	yanksfan51	4	496	Feb 23, 2020 by DavidG
	Woke up this morning feeling HP holding on to me. (Preview) That isn't a strange feeling and I hope it isn't for others in the family either. It was a hug warm and close and I didn't question why as I wasn't asking HP for anything special yet it gave me security as the day went on and then I came too understand that today is Anniversary Day here. Today 2/8/2020 i...	JerryF	18	2009	Feb 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	Betty (Preview) I reached out yesterday for news about Betty, and so far I have not had a response. I'm praying every day for her wellness, and I will post as soon as I here something. Lyne	Lyne	8	2878	Feb 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	Progress, not perfection... (Preview) Hi y'all... just a general share.Saturday morning here. Dark around the hills... autumn is on its way... a time for us to gather our garden fruits... Our oldest grand-son J. had his 17th birthday yesterday... he has a girl-friend, who is 14. One of my heroes, Brene Brown had eight grandpare...	DavidG	4	973	Feb 22, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change, 2/21 (Preview) In today's reading, the author credits Tradition 10 with being able to have a beneficial relationship with a sponsor, even though the sponsor has very different -- even abhorrent to the author -- political views. Despite those disagreements, the sponsor has provided valuable lessons about seren...	Freetime	4	741	Feb 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	JADE'ing (Preview) OK, so I have been triggered and am struggling a bit. Came on here and posted to The Daily, but I am still somewhat unsettled, so I need to get this out. The last two nights, I have seen that my ExRAH has texted me in the wee hours of the night asking, "Are you awake?" "I can't sleep." and then, "Hey, where are...	PosiesandPuppies	21	2507	Feb 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	Serenity, where are you? (Preview) Im having trouble holding onto my serenity. Having a serious health problem, not life-threatening but nonetheless awful. My coping is certainly better than it would be without program, but its taking a lot of focus and energy to stay in the moment ODAT. I know what to do as I have a huge tool box, but...	Lyne	8	851	Feb 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	News about our Betty! (Preview) Update given to me from Bettys boyfriend: Betty is in the hospital and I dont know which one. She does not want any cards, flowers, or visitors. She also does not have a phone in her room. Her boyfriend will let me know about her condition towards the end of the week. I thanked him profusely!	Lyne	17	2361	Feb 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 2/20 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses unacceptable behavior, as the writer recalls hearing, "We don't have to accept unacceptable behavior" early on in recovery. This concept helped the writer see that the did not have to tolerate violence or abuse, and they always had choices - some neve...	Iamhere	2	1316	Feb 20, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change February 19 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares their experience with the 4th step. When the author wrote their 4th step inventory, they carried a notebook around with them so that they wouldn't eave anything out. The author had the notebook nearby, day and night, and in this way, discovered their first defec...	Skorpi	5	1689	Feb 19, 2020 by Iamhere
	Change and Insecurity (Preview) So after several serious this time attempts at sobriety and the revolving door of living out and back in, my AH was told he cant be here. Its different this time because he was actually sober when he was asked to leave. It was the alcoholic rage that made me realize this isnt okay. He knows just what to do so...	sunmustshine	9	1643	Feb 19, 2020 by Bo
	Change and Insecurity (Preview) So after several serious this time attempts at sobriety and the revolving door of living out and back in, my AH was told he cant be here. Its different this time because he was actually sober when he was asked to leave. It was the alcoholic rage that made me realize this isnt okay. He knows just what to do so...	sunmustshine	2	1475	Feb 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	my faith and alanon (Preview) I hope this is okay to post as it is in regards to my belief system. I am a Christian. I pray and I read the Bible. However, and this was the same issue I had years ago while in Alanon, I struggle with being obedient to my God and some of the concepts of Alanon. I know this is what kept me in my marriage far too l...	Marie71	27	2768	Feb 18, 2020 by DavidG
	PRAYERS PLEASE (Preview) Good Morning MIP have been dealing eith a serious medical condition for over a month asking FOR PRAYERS WILL KNOW THURSDAY	hotrod	34	2503	Feb 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Betty? (Preview) I waited until Thursday and saw no news about how you are doing. Please let us know. ((((hugs))))	JerryF	14	1654	Feb 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Long-timers, old-timers, or 12 Steppers... ??? (Preview) This is a topic that has crossed my mind for quite a while. Now it is time for me to talk about it. I am thinking of a city near here... and how AA and Alanon was run by a couple for many years. Looking forward- I sometimes wonder- what it is like to complete the 12 Steps. I have done this quite a few times...	DavidG	0	3473	Feb 17, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C, 2/17 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/17, simply states how difficult it can be to practice faith in HP. Our limited vision, fear, and doubts, can be overcome by turning our will and our life over to the care of God (the God of our understanding). The writer says that when they pray, they demonstrate a willingnes...	Lyne	3	5431	Feb 17, 2020 by Iamhere
	Listen, and learn... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... This is my Saturday morning share. I downloaded the 16 approved Alanon slogans. At one time i have tried to memorise all of them- to avoid letting a slogan slip, that was not CAL! I say today: that I used to beat myself over the head with a brick wall! Pretty violent image. I know no...	DavidG	3	583	Feb 17, 2020 by JerryF
	Thought for Today 2/15 (Preview) Sorry for the late post, MIP family! Today's reading is about CONTROL. It speaks of the "gray days." Days that scare us because old feelings come rushing back to us. We feel needy, scared, ashamed. When this happens, it can be difficult to trust ourselves, others, the goodness of life, and the goo...	PosiesandPuppies	5	1341	Feb 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Feb 16 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is the analogy of serious thinking (going into our heads) with traveling into a neighborhood. Its been said that our minds can be dangerous neighborhoods to travel into alone. The writer acknowledges that it isnt always possible to talk it through with anot...	yanksfan51	5	694	Feb 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	struggling with the past (Preview) I am a proud member of alanon and go to f2f meetings. My AH is in a 12 step based recovery inpatient and is doing amazing. We live separately but aren't divorcing and intend to stay together assuming he continues on his recovery. My challenge is... I'm struggling. He has admitted he can't remember mos...	The1975jen	8	775	Feb 16, 2020 by Maresie888
	Forgiveness... (Preview) Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.	Bo	7	908	Feb 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, February 14 (Preview) Today's author says that confusion is a gift, because it is a message that it's not yet time to act. The example is baking bread. If it's not fully baked yet, we don't take it out of the oven and start eating it. We wait for it to be fully baked. When we are desperate to rush a solution. If we act too soon, bef...	Freetime	3	567	Feb 14, 2020 by Iamhere
	Mum's famous words... (Preview) I am more like a grandmother now- not unusual since my mum and grandma and two aunties bought me up, more than anyone. I am not the sort of person who can get a hammer and a chisel out and talk in a gruff voice. I am not the sort of person who comes home from the supermarket with a dozen tinnies. [I some...	DavidG	1	645	Feb 14, 2020 by tiredtonite
	The Forum..2/2020 (Preview) Good morning family...Hope you are all fine and dandy and spiritually happy and in balance. I don't know how many have elected to subscribe to the Forum, our Al-Anon monthly magazine. We do and often it is the rag that polishes my recovery. This morning I reconnected with a lesson my deceased spons...	JerryF	3	596	Feb 13, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change 2/13 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Prayers continue Betty for a peaceful outcome. Today's reading discusses how comparing ourselves to others can be a distracting character defect in Al-Anon. The reading suggests that each snowflake is different as well as every thumbprint. Each of us, arriving at Al-Anon...	Iamhere	2	582	Feb 13, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change February 12 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the ease of detachment with casual friends, where they are not very emotionally involved, compared to how difficult it is to not take on a negative frame of mind if a family member is being critical or grumpy. The author reflects on their o...	Skorpi	4	826	Feb 12, 2020 by Beckon2
	RE: MIP meeting room (Preview) I can't get into the alanon/mip meeting room. I have tried different servers .still can't get in. Thank you for your Help. Silgirl	Beckon2	0	688	Feb 12, 2020 by Beckon2
	I can't get into the meeting room.Help! Silgirl (Preview) Hi all.Miss you. Can't get into the Meeting room. Alanon/mip. beckon	Beckon2	0	504	Feb 12, 2020 by Beckon2
	Update on Rocky38 (Preview) Dear friends, old and new, I just stopped by to say hello and send my wishes that everyone here is receiving the love and support that I did when I was active on this forum back in 2005-2010 (I can't believe I remember my sign-on and password!) Life has taken its twists and turns, as it does. Still, I hold a s...	Rocky38	3	536	Feb 12, 2020 by Iamhere
	Perfection... (Preview) Perfection not progress seemed to be the philosophy of the A. in my life. In my eyes he seldom measured up. But details and stuff used to make him angry- livid- like a three year old. I tailored the programme a bit- so I could embrace all these new ideas. I said: "Expect perfection, but settle for a lit...	DavidG	5	767	Feb 11, 2020 by DavidG
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