Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Gretel · Gretel

Not sure if Im in the right place or not. about a year ago I found out that my husband was having an affair. He blamed it on his drinking and a mid life crisis. Hes been in AA, therapy and alcohol free since. He is doing everything possible to make up for what he did but Im still having a very hard time with it....

Lyne · Lyne

So our older dog has to go to the vet and the younger dog is crying because she wants to go. Men are here fixing cracked cement. My tooth broke and I have to wait and see what day next week my dentist will do emergencies. We have a huge bee/hornet flying around the kitchen. And my A wants to drive me to the c...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on one of the diversions alcoholics sometimes use to keep family and friends from interfering with their drinking: creating diversions by accusing or provoking. Often, those who are living with the impact of alcoholism tend to react, to argue, to defend the...

Gretel · Gretel

Do you feel like the recovering alcoholic in your life is back to the old person you knew before? Or that that person is gone for good and now theres a new version? Not a bad version but different? My recovering alcoholic husband just doesnt seem to understand that thats how I view him now. Hes hurt that I f...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

If there's anything I've learned on this recovery journey, it's that an offer of es&h can differ from situation to situation, person to person. I can't assume to know another's feelings and there will be times when I don't think I have anything to offer to someone else. Times when I believe whatev...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/31, discusses how program enables us to explore our hidden motives, secrets, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. Guided by a Power greater than ourselves, we learn to overcome obstacles to our personal growth, such as the effects of alcoholism and a variety of de...

iris52 · iris52

Today I realize that I still fall into brief periods of denial.When I am getting along ok with my husband and I am finding small things that I enjoy.If I have a good day,I tell myself that things are not so bad.For a brief time I can close my eyes to some truths about my life and myself.But then when he is bei...

Lyne · Lyne

I mistakenly gave the daily on 5/31 instead of 6/1 from C2C. Acknowledged my mistake and promptly admitted it! Happy Monday to all.

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a reflection about the fourth step:made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves The writer describes having lived a life of pursuing perfection. He/she felt that any shortcomings were failures, and brought this belief into the approach of t...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

TODAY'S REFLECTION COMES FROM ONE MORE DAY. Quote of the Day: "I expect to pass through life but once. If, therefore, there can be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow human being, let me do it now." --William PennEach night, as we place our heads upon our pillows, we can think...

JerryF · JerryF

This was a very rough day for me starting from when I had to work hard to get up from bed and Keep the Shakes from doing massive negative control over my mind, body, spirt and emotions. I never experienced such a trauma and it wasn't because of cool temperatures because we are not having such. I shook l...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I had to REALLY detach and just "do my thing" today as roommates meet with HOPEFULLY her next landlord got postponed....so I am still "wearing her" but I am keeping cordial distance, not engaging her, not inviting another cycle of drama and chaos....shes telling me "i was crying because she had...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading focuses on the uselessness of worry and fear. We can catastrophize, turning neutral situations into nightmares. In the past, many of us tried to predict disastrous outcomes as a way of protecting ourselves. But this makes us lose touch with what is happening now, and puts us on co...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

The title says it all,that's why I'm back. I have to believe life can be better than this. I have to believe the program works if you work it. I have to believe my higher power will guide me. And I have to believe you all know what you're talking about. That pretty much sums it up.

Bo · Bo

The below is from Al-Anon World Services Organization...yes, Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters...in Virginia Beach, VA... The "Dear Abby" Newspaper Column for June 2 Will Recommend Al-AnonIn communities where editors choose to publish the recommendation to try Al-Anon, it would be appropr...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning all. Today's reading is all about Step Two - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares a story about rushing on a motorcycle to a meditation class, not wanting to be late. Right in front of the class, the bike dumped the author who wa...

seekingdesphelp · seekingdesphelp

Hello,I am new to Alanon.My dog died in my arms on Monday. He was my best buddy. I can't believe he is gone.Tuesday, my Q became violently drunk last night. With the help of my sponsor, I am now at my parents apartment and am ok. They are not living here due to COVID... so I'm all by myself. Which is hard in its...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects that, after living with the effects of the disease of alcoholism for years, many of us felt that good times would never come again. We may have shut our hearts and minds to joy, happiness, our hopes, and dreams. It seemed too painful to hope. We weren'...

mamalioness · mamalioness

"What worries you, masters you."--Haddon W. RobinsonGod, help me to have the strength to set reasonable limits for myselfand to tell others when I cannot help them. Help me learn to say no.--Melody BeattieGod is watching over me, making my path easy.--Alan CohenThe Way To God"Start the Day with Lov...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Melody Beattie. Talks about choices-we do have choices, more than we let ourselves see when we feel trapped, that is codependency rearing its head. When we hear ourselves say that we have to take care of somebody or we have to try and control that person or we have to behave a certain way or we have to feel...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all. Today's reading talks about the Seventh Step (Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). Simply put, when we take this step, we are asking for help - not begging and not demanding. We don't build ourselves up nor grovel and we are not trying to imp...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- I am going to start with the thought for the day and work back into the reading. Todays thought is simple and powerful: Whatever I concentrate on will become central to my life. Where are we putting the focus and energy in our days? This idea is applied more specifically to the...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/25, explains how denial is a symptom of the effects of alcoholism. In other words, many of us have been living in chaos, worried about our families, full of self-doubt, spiritually, emotionally, and physically depleted, and yet we would pretend everything was just fine....

mamalioness · mamalioness

I don't bring my personal crap to work, but I did open up with the off. mgr. of my little Tues. job, the only one I got, and told her my situation...We had become friends and we share stuff with each other Well, after finding hazzardous stuff she just leaves for the dogs to get into, I texted my boss AND the of...

mamalioness · mamalioness

trying to type with bad finger and it slow going...its sealing and I think I'll lose feeling on the very top of it, but its going really well, considering the severity of the cut I took care of me by deciding not to work tomorrow because this cyclically passive aggressive roommate cycles between being n...

mary_n30 · mary_n30

Hi all, I hope this post is ok -I am brand new to the forum and to al-anon, if this violates any rules please remove it. I have a brother who is spiraling (fourth DUI, fired, about to be homeless) who has three young children that live with him (all under 10). His wife is sober, but enables him (my opinion) sh...

DavidG · DavidG

Had a full week this week... half down on the coast, an half here at home. Stayed at my cousin's in a shipping container- with bed and accoutrements. My cousin doesn't have great boundaries. Her daughter and Sil... are staying over lock-down and beyond in the loft. It was lovely to meet da. for the f...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Well the countdown begins: roommate will be leaving by June 3 which is when her rent expires. I do want us to part in peace and goodwill and I think we will so what did I do today to take care of me? food wise I resisted all the junk foods that I normally get into one stressed out and I was tempted every time I go...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Sorry about the late post, folks! Today's topic is about Enjoyment and is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. She mentions, "Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced." She goes on to say that many of us were raised with the belief that we 'square our shoulders and...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I think it is important at this time to talk about the stressors Mine were: work (always pressure to work more), health (my.health deteriorared badly); displacement (being away from my home); support (i found some new sources of support but I.really need a therapist soon. That is quite a list. Bef...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Had another back spasm on Wednesday and it was pretty bad. Yesterday it felt like a little bit better and today seems the same. So I will be laid up with this for a while I guess. I hope I dont have to get a shot. So thats where I have been, eating my muscle relaxers and lying on my heating pad and stretching. Pa...

Fedora · Fedora

During our latest disagreement about life (which started after AH ruined the end of son's birthday, oh joy), it came out that I consider our relationship broken and am considering divorce. AH got all hysterical and long story short, agreed to consider counseling with me. I don't have much hope that t...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Just for today: I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today: I will be happy. This assume to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, *Most folks are as happy a...

funandsun · funandsun

I am relatively new to Alanon and have been focusing on boundaries with my ABF. I am wondering if some of you can share your boundaries that you have implemented? Thanks!

iris52 · iris52

I know there are some 'old timers' here so I have a question for you.Please tell me what life looks like after a long time in the program when you are still living with your alcoholic (drinking or not). Does it feel like a life of your own? Do you really feel fulfilled? Are you living separate lives but in th...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about reaching self-love through trusting in a higher power. The author started out fearful, thinking that a self-inventory would show that they were hopelessly flawed and unworthy. Working on Steps One, Two, and Three they realized that, although powerless over the effects...

bud · bud

Hi dear Family, This morning I received a text message from my cousin that my uncle passed. He was my Dad's brother. I ran outside to the mailbox to retrieve my uncle's birthday card before the mailman picked it up. His birthday is in a few days. I grew up on the same block with my cousins and we were over eac...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about denial. The writer describes becoming more aware of the magnitude of denial and how many areas of our lives it affects. For those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes, using denial was a way to block pain; unfortunately this also included the unintende...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares their experience with obsessive thinking. Like alcoholism, obsessive thinking can be too much to handle. For the author, not starting is the best defense against obsessive thinking because, once started, it gains steam and is hard to interrupt. The author no...

iris52 · iris52

I'm sure some of you roll your eyes when you see my post.What's wrong now?When is she going to finally get it?Well,I feel the same.I am tired of struggling with myself,my problems,my feelings.I'm just plain tired.I keep posting because I think maybe someone is following my struggles and not respond...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

My Ex just texted me that he "Just wanted me to know how angry he was for me leaving him. I thought it was for better or worse." This after he has ghosted me since February. Not that I minded, as we are divorced and I was trying to move on, but trying to be kind and respectful of him. Also, he was paying for our so...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/18, speaks about a time when the writer would avoid an argument rather than deal with an unpleasant situation. The results were not goodthey would become irritable and unreasonable as resentment grew. With program, the author has learned to deal with their problems and...

seekingdesphelp · seekingdesphelp

I am in crisis. I'm New to ALANON. I need a sponsor. I'm in a horrible situation and my partner is a mess. Can someone help me please? I'm stuck during COVID in a large city. I am overwhelmed with ALANON and don't know where to start. I don't know what to do. Could someone help me? I feel so alone.

mamalioness · mamalioness

Self care checklist Somebody really awesome and bright posted a post like this and I thought I would steal some of it its kind of like a quickie step four so Im going to do my end of the checklist Foodate clean today, no junk food Drink plenty of water I did good today ExerciseI got on my cardio total body w...

mamalioness · mamalioness

im unpacking my lovely new futon with which I am very happy and I am using a serrated knife and I am cutting the plastic off and I sliced off the top corner of my index finger like on the very top right of my left index finger I took a piece of flesh along with putting the nail. And it just gushed blood all over th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about 'Keep Coming Back' and what that can mean for one's recovery! It opens with the thought that Al-Anon is a discipline that requires diligence, patience, and consistency for the best results. All tools - meetings, Steps and practicing the principles to e...

Crmans · Crmans

Hi all! Just looking for a venting board. My husband has been sober for almost 6 weeks. (I dont keep track, he just tells me). I know thats brand new in the life of a recovering alcoholic. I am struggling as i feel that not only was he selfish in alcoholism, hes now selfish in recovery. Im not referring to th...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

The daily is taken from Today's Hope. Daily Quote: "The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world." - Marianne Williamson The author of the reading shares that we are creatures of habit. One piece of evidence they say, is the fact that many of us can get st...

Elabella · Elabella

Hi all! Havent been here in a while. Two weeks ago my AH decided to get help and go to medically supervised detox and help from our specialty hospital for addiction and mental health. I didnt push or suggest anything. This was his decision. I (after going through this route last time very unsuccessfull...

mamalioness · mamalioness

well today , I went out for a drive...stopped in this sorta discount, warehouse place near me and found the cutest full sized futon you can use as a couch or a bed...its got legs so I can use risers under the legs and raise it up.....burgundy mattress....4" thick at least.....soooo sweet and it will go gr...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author in Courage to Change dislikes being hugged, and at the end of a meeting would scurry away to avoid it. Growing up, the only kinds of touch they experienced were negative. The Al-Anon members respected that boundary and continued to be warm, welcoming, and nonjudgmental. They sat wi...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I am SO happy to say that Kerry is FINALLY starting her cancer killing pills TODAY!!!! they will monitor her during this process and so today I'll find out more details on how many and whatnot she is taking, but TODAY she begins her road to recovery.....Ohhhh I can't wait for her to begin to feel better...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Lovely day, and roommate was out all day, seeking her new home.... I feel a sense of sadness for her that she cannot seem to find sustainable living arrangements and yet relief and peace that for me it will soon be over....yea, I needed the $$$ but HP is providing for me just fine I will be ok..... today was...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Well, today, i stood to the original eviction notice and she, of course, pleaded and promised change and I just gently said, "no, I am sorry, but I am not doing this merry go round anymore...I wish you the best, honestly I do, but you must leave by Jun 3rd as per original eviction notice given to you 2 week...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares about how much easier they find it to make decisions with the AlAnon program. Prior to program, the author struggled to make decisions because of obsessive thinking about "suffering the consequences". Now, the author instead considers "enjoying the consequ...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Well, this am, roommate decides to do DISHES at 2am , and of COURSE it is on a worknight, wakes me up so i had a bad nights sleep and go to work tired again...Seems that every "night b4 work" she pulls something so today, to take care of me, I told her that this is not working...and I am considering cutting off...

texas yankee · texas yankee

Happy Mother's Day to all the Moms ! I wanted to share a bit of the continuing saga of my journey - not as a "pat on the back" for myself, and not as any kind of "I've finally figured it all out" milestone, and MOST CERTAINLY NOT because I have any long-term confidence that I'll be on a different, better pat...

Lyne · Lyne

The author for Monday, 5/11, suggests making the relationship with ourself the best it can be. You spend more time with yourself than anyone else, you can value your own company, and be a worthwhile companion! The writer says people affected by alcoholism believe only someone else can fulfill the...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Sorry all! I thought I had posted this at 7am! Good morning everyone and Happy Mother?s Day to all who are celebrating! Today?s reading is about how a willingness to change our perspective about a situation may make all the difference in how it feels to us. The writer describes moving to a new place a...

Lyne · Lyne

As today is Mothers Day, and I have a grown son, I am thinking of the challenge it was raising him. I was married to an A and had my son when I was 21. I had NO recovery whatsoever, and as you can imagine, many mistakes were made. There are two blessings however. The first is that a wonderful therapist in r...

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	Alcohol and affair? (Preview) Not sure if Im in the right place or not. about a year ago I found out that my husband was having an affair. He blamed it on his drinking and a mid life crisis. Hes been in AA, therapy and alcohol free since. He is doing everything possible to make up for what he did but Im still having a very hard time with it....	Gretel	34	2830	Jun 5, 2020 by Bo
	Having a tough day.... (Preview) So our older dog has to go to the vet and the younger dog is crying because she wants to go. Men are here fixing cracked cement. My tooth broke and I have to wait and see what day next week my dentist will do emergencies. We have a huge bee/hornet flying around the kitchen. And my A wants to drive me to the c...	Lyne	11	767	Jun 4, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change June 3 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on one of the diversions alcoholics sometimes use to keep family and friends from interfering with their drinking: creating diversions by accusing or provoking. Often, those who are living with the impact of alcoholism tend to react, to argue, to defend the...	Skorpi	7	985	Jun 4, 2020 by Iamhere
	A different person. (Preview) Do you feel like the recovering alcoholic in your life is back to the old person you knew before? Or that that person is gone for good and now theres a new version? Not a bad version but different? My recovering alcoholic husband just doesnt seem to understand that thats how I view him now. Hes hurt that I f...	Gretel	4	570	Jun 3, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Offering What I Can (Preview) If there's anything I've learned on this recovery journey, it's that an offer of es&h can differ from situation to situation, person to person. I can't assume to know another's feelings and there will be times when I don't think I have anything to offer to someone else. Times when I believe whatev...	tiredtonite	9	681	Jun 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 5/31, our spiritual journey (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/31, discusses how program enables us to explore our hidden motives, secrets, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. Guided by a Power greater than ourselves, we learn to overcome obstacles to our personal growth, such as the effects of alcoholism and a variety of de...	Lyne	3	529	Jun 2, 2020 by Iamhere
	more is being revealed (Preview) Today I realize that I still fall into brief periods of denial.When I am getting along ok with my husband and I am finding small things that I enjoy.If I have a good day,I tell myself that things are not so bad.For a brief time I can close my eyes to some truths about my life and myself.But then when he is bei...	iris52	4	658	Jun 2, 2020 by tiredtonite
	Apology! (Preview) I mistakenly gave the daily on 5/31 instead of 6/1 from C2C. Acknowledged my mistake and promptly admitted it! Happy Monday to all.	Lyne	2	722	Jun 1, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today May 31 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a reflection about the fourth step:made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves The writer describes having lived a life of pursuing perfection. He/she felt that any shortcomings were failures, and brought this belief into the approach of t...	yanksfan51	3	550	May 31, 2020 by Iamhere
	REFLECTION 5/30/20 (Preview) TODAY'S REFLECTION COMES FROM ONE MORE DAY. Quote of the Day: "I expect to pass through life but once. If, therefore, there can be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow human being, let me do it now." --William PennEach night, as we place our heads upon our pillows, we can think...	PosiesandPuppies	2	572	May 31, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Mind...Body...Spirit and emotions (Preview) This was a very rough day for me starting from when I had to work hard to get up from bed and Keep the Shakes from doing massive negative control over my mind, body, spirt and emotions. I never experienced such a trauma and it wasn't because of cool temperatures because we are not having such. I shook l...	JerryF	9	508	May 31, 2020 by Maresie888
	Roommate's meeting got POSTPONED (Preview) I had to REALLY detach and just "do my thing" today as roommates meet with HOPEFULLY her next landlord got postponed....so I am still "wearing her" but I am keeping cordial distance, not engaging her, not inviting another cycle of drama and chaos....shes telling me "i was crying because she had...	mamalioness	2	442	May 30, 2020 by Temple
	C2C, May 29 (Preview) Today's reading focuses on the uselessness of worry and fear. We can catastrophize, turning neutral situations into nightmares. In the past, many of us tried to predict disastrous outcomes as a way of protecting ourselves. But this makes us lose touch with what is happening now, and puts us on co...	Freetime	5	597	May 30, 2020 by iris52
	I Can't Do This On My Own (Preview) The title says it all,that's why I'm back. I have to believe life can be better than this. I have to believe the program works if you work it. I have to believe my higher power will guide me. And I have to believe you all know what you're talking about. That pretty much sums it up.	SunnyFrogs	39	1902	May 29, 2020 by Bo
	Attraction...Not Promotion... (Preview) The below is from Al-Anon World Services Organization...yes, Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters...in Virginia Beach, VA... The "Dear Abby" Newspaper Column for June 2 Will Recommend Al-AnonIn communities where editors choose to publish the recommendation to try Al-Anon, it would be appropr...	Bo	2	621	May 29, 2020 by andromeda
	Courage to Change 5/28 (Preview) Good morning all. Today's reading is all about Step Two - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares a story about rushing on a motorcycle to a meditation class, not wanting to be late. Right in front of the class, the bike dumped the author who wa...	Iamhere	5	539	May 29, 2020 by mamalioness
	Darling dog died on Monday, Q violently drunk on Tuesday. Need to create a web of support. I don't know where to start. (Preview) Hello,I am new to Alanon.My dog died in my arms on Monday. He was my best buddy. I can't believe he is gone.Tuesday, my Q became violently drunk last night. With the help of my sponsor, I am now at my parents apartment and am ok. They are not living here due to COVID... so I'm all by myself. Which is hard in its...	seekingdesphelp	6	3732	May 28, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change April 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects that, after living with the effects of the disease of alcoholism for years, many of us felt that good times would never come again. We may have shut our hearts and minds to joy, happiness, our hopes, and dreams. It seemed too painful to hope. We weren'...	Skorpi	4	511	May 28, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_WEDNESDAY (Preview) "What worries you, masters you."--Haddon W. RobinsonGod, help me to have the strength to set reasonable limits for myselfand to tell others when I cannot help them. Help me learn to say no.--Melody BeattieGod is watching over me, making my path easy.--Alan CohenThe Way To God"Start the Day with Lov...	mamalioness	2	461	May 28, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Language of letting go-May 27 (Preview) Melody Beattie. Talks about choices-we do have choices, more than we let ourselves see when we feel trapped, that is codependency rearing its head. When we hear ourselves say that we have to take care of somebody or we have to try and control that person or we have to behave a certain way or we have to feel...	mamalioness	1	494	May 28, 2020 by sunmustshine
	Courage to Change 5/21 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all. Today's reading talks about the Seventh Step (Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). Simply put, when we take this step, we are asking for help - not begging and not demanding. We don't build ourselves up nor grovel and we are not trying to imp...	Iamhere	6	628	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today May 24 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- I am going to start with the thought for the day and work back into the reading. Todays thought is simple and powerful: Whatever I concentrate on will become central to my life. Where are we putting the focus and energy in our days? This idea is applied more specifically to the...	yanksfan51	8	644	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	C2C, 5/25, denial (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/25, explains how denial is a symptom of the effects of alcoholism. In other words, many of us have been living in chaos, worried about our families, full of self-doubt, spiritually, emotionally, and physically depleted, and yet we would pretend everything was just fine....	Lyne	8	586	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	WOW!!! the truth and a good reputation (Preview) I don't bring my personal crap to work, but I did open up with the off. mgr. of my little Tues. job, the only one I got, and told her my situation...We had become friends and we share stuff with each other Well, after finding hazzardous stuff she just leaves for the dogs to get into, I texted my boss AND the of...	mamalioness	0	487	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_MONDAY_could use some prayer (Preview) trying to type with bad finger and it slow going...its sealing and I think I'll lose feeling on the very top of it, but its going really well, considering the severity of the cut I took care of me by deciding not to work tomorrow because this cyclically passive aggressive roommate cycles between being n...	mamalioness	2	412	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	New - looking for how others handled kids in a situation (Preview) Hi all, I hope this post is ok -I am brand new to the forum and to al-anon, if this violates any rules please remove it. I have a brother who is spiraling (fourth DUI, fired, about to be homeless) who has three young children that live with him (all under 10). His wife is sober, but enables him (my opinion) sh...	mary_n30	12	613	May 26, 2020 by mary_n30
	...my week... (Preview) Had a full week this week... half down on the coast, an half here at home. Stayed at my cousin's in a shipping container- with bed and accoutrements. My cousin doesn't have great boundaries. Her daughter and Sil... are staying over lock-down and beyond in the loft. It was lovely to meet da. for the f...	DavidG	6	770	May 25, 2020 by DavidG
	Self care inventory-Saturday night (Preview) Well the countdown begins: roommate will be leaving by June 3 which is when her rent expires. I do want us to part in peace and goodwill and I think we will so what did I do today to take care of me? food wise I resisted all the junk foods that I normally get into one stressed out and I was tempted every time I go...	mamalioness	2	1166	May 24, 2020 by Bo
	Daily Saturday 05/23/20 (Preview) Sorry about the late post, folks! Today's topic is about Enjoyment and is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. She mentions, "Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced." She goes on to say that many of us were raised with the belief that we 'square our shoulders and...	PosiesandPuppies	2	504	May 23, 2020 by Iamhere
	Stressors (Preview) I think it is important at this time to talk about the stressors Mine were: work (always pressure to work more), health (my.health deteriorared badly); displacement (being away from my home); support (i found some new sources of support but I.really need a therapist soon. That is quite a list. Bef...	Maresie888	9	1758	May 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	I am here just sick with my back (Preview) Had another back spasm on Wednesday and it was pretty bad. Yesterday it felt like a little bit better and today seems the same. So I will be laid up with this for a while I guess. I hope I dont have to get a shot. So thats where I have been, eating my muscle relaxers and lying on my heating pad and stretching. Pa...	mamalioness	11	671	May 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	AH doesn't want to be "branded" an alcoholic. umm.... (Preview) During our latest disagreement about life (which started after AH ruined the end of son's birthday, oh joy), it came out that I consider our relationship broken and am considering divorce. AH got all hysterical and long story short, agreed to consider counseling with me. I don't have much hope that t...	Fedora	19	2732	May 23, 2020 by Bo
	Reminder Just for Today (Preview) Just for today: I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today: I will be happy. This assume to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, *Most folks are as happy a...	SerenityRUS	9	826	May 23, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Boundaries ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I am relatively new to Alanon and have been focusing on boundaries with my ABF. I am wondering if some of you can share your boundaries that you have implemented? Thanks!	funandsun	45	2387	May 23, 2020 by SunnyFrogs
	question for 'old timers' delete (Preview) I know there are some 'old timers' here so I have a question for you.Please tell me what life looks like after a long time in the program when you are still living with your alcoholic (drinking or not). Does it feel like a life of your own? Do you really feel fulfilled? Are you living separate lives but in th...	iris52	12	1612	May 22, 2020 by Doingmybest
	Courage to Change 5/22 (Preview) Today's reading is about reaching self-love through trusting in a higher power. The author started out fearful, thinking that a self-inventory would show that they were hopelessly flawed and unworthy. Working on Steps One, Two, and Three they realized that, although powerless over the effects...	Freetime	5	640	May 22, 2020 by Bo
	News by text - support appreciated. (Preview) Hi dear Family, This morning I received a text message from my cousin that my uncle passed. He was my Dad's brother. I ran outside to the mailbox to retrieve my uncle's birthday card before the mailman picked it up. His birthday is in a few days. I grew up on the same block with my cousins and we were over eac...	bud	17	1445	May 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today May 17 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about denial. The writer describes becoming more aware of the magnitude of denial and how many areas of our lives it affects. For those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes, using denial was a way to block pain; unfortunately this also included the unintende...	yanksfan51	5	1291	May 20, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change May 20 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares their experience with obsessive thinking. Like alcoholism, obsessive thinking can be too much to handle. For the author, not starting is the best defense against obsessive thinking because, once started, it gains steam and is hard to interrupt. The author no...	Skorpi	3	1465	May 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	maybe this is a good thing (Preview) I'm sure some of you roll your eyes when you see my post.What's wrong now?When is she going to finally get it?Well,I feel the same.I am tired of struggling with myself,my problems,my feelings.I'm just plain tired.I keep posting because I think maybe someone is following my struggles and not respond...	iris52	13	2108	May 19, 2020 by Freetime
	Just wanted support from people who get it (Preview) My Ex just texted me that he "Just wanted me to know how angry he was for me leaving him. I thought it was for better or worse." This after he has ghosted me since February. Not that I minded, as we are divorced and I was trying to move on, but trying to be kind and respectful of him. Also, he was paying for our so...	PosiesandPuppies	20	2030	May 19, 2020 by 2HP
	C2C, 5/18-adversity (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/18, speaks about a time when the writer would avoid an argument rather than deal with an unpleasant situation. The results were not goodthey would become irritable and unreasonable as resentment grew. With program, the author has learned to deal with their problems and...	Lyne	4	595	May 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	In Desperate Need of a Sponsor (Preview) I am in crisis. I'm New to ALANON. I need a sponsor. I'm in a horrible situation and my partner is a mess. Can someone help me please? I'm stuck during COVID in a large city. I am overwhelmed with ALANON and don't know where to start. I don't know what to do. Could someone help me? I feel so alone.	seekingdesphelp	7	934	May 18, 2020 by WendyP
	Self care checklist (Preview) Self care checklist Somebody really awesome and bright posted a post like this and I thought I would steal some of it its kind of like a quickie step four so Im going to do my end of the checklist Foodate clean today, no junk food Drink plenty of water I did good today ExerciseI got on my cardio total body w...	mamalioness	0	1701	May 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	The self saboteur strikes again (Preview) im unpacking my lovely new futon with which I am very happy and I am using a serrated knife and I am cutting the plastic off and I sliced off the top corner of my index finger like on the very top right of my left index finger I took a piece of flesh along with putting the nail. And it just gushed blood all over th...	mamalioness	7	1722	May 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 5/14 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about 'Keep Coming Back' and what that can mean for one's recovery! It opens with the thought that Al-Anon is a discipline that requires diligence, patience, and consistency for the best results. All tools - meetings, Steps and practicing the principles to e...	Iamhere	10	1537	May 17, 2020 by Iamhere
	Not feeling heard (Preview) Hi all! Just looking for a venting board. My husband has been sober for almost 6 weeks. (I dont keep track, he just tells me). I know thats brand new in the life of a recovering alcoholic. I am struggling as i feel that not only was he selfish in alcoholism, hes now selfish in recovery. Im not referring to th...	Crmans	16	721	May 16, 2020 by Bo
	Today's Hope 5/16/20 (Preview) The daily is taken from Today's Hope. Daily Quote: "The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world." - Marianne Williamson The author of the reading shares that we are creatures of habit. One piece of evidence they say, is the fact that many of us can get st...	PosiesandPuppies	4	575	May 16, 2020 by mamalioness
	One step forward, two steps back... (Preview) Hi all! Havent been here in a while. Two weeks ago my AH decided to get help and go to medically supervised detox and help from our specialty hospital for addiction and mental health. I didnt push or suggest anything. This was his decision. I (after going through this route last time very unsuccessfull...	Elabella	11	707	May 16, 2020 by Bo
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_FRIDAY (Preview) well today , I went out for a drive...stopped in this sorta discount, warehouse place near me and found the cutest full sized futon you can use as a couch or a bed...its got legs so I can use risers under the legs and raise it up.....burgundy mattress....4" thick at least.....soooo sweet and it will go gr...	mamalioness	1	894	May 16, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, May 15 - Hugs (Preview) Today's author in Courage to Change dislikes being hugged, and at the end of a meeting would scurry away to avoid it. Growing up, the only kinds of touch they experienced were negative. The Al-Anon members respected that boundary and continued to be warm, welcoming, and nonjudgmental. They sat wi...	Freetime	5	1459	May 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	KERRY starts cancer meds TODAY (Preview) I am SO happy to say that Kerry is FINALLY starting her cancer killing pills TODAY!!!! they will monitor her during this process and so today I'll find out more details on how many and whatnot she is taking, but TODAY she begins her road to recovery.....Ohhhh I can't wait for her to begin to feel better...	mamalioness	12	1408	May 15, 2020 by Iamhere
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_THURSDAY (Preview) Lovely day, and roommate was out all day, seeking her new home.... I feel a sense of sadness for her that she cannot seem to find sustainable living arrangements and yet relief and peace that for me it will soon be over....yea, I needed the $$$ but HP is providing for me just fine I will be ok..... today was...	mamalioness	0	510	May 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_WEDNESDAY (Preview) Well, today, i stood to the original eviction notice and she, of course, pleaded and promised change and I just gently said, "no, I am sorry, but I am not doing this merry go round anymore...I wish you the best, honestly I do, but you must leave by Jun 3rd as per original eviction notice given to you 2 week...	mamalioness	4	1964	May 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, May 13 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares about how much easier they find it to make decisions with the AlAnon program. Prior to program, the author struggled to make decisions because of obsessive thinking about "suffering the consequences". Now, the author instead considers "enjoying the consequ...	Skorpi	2	1276	May 13, 2020 by tiredtonite
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_TUESDAY (Preview) Well, this am, roommate decides to do DISHES at 2am , and of COURSE it is on a worknight, wakes me up so i had a bad nights sleep and go to work tired again...Seems that every "night b4 work" she pulls something so today, to take care of me, I told her that this is not working...and I am considering cutting off...	mamalioness	5	1309	May 13, 2020 by mamalioness
	And even MORE Progress, in VERY small steps, and small victories . . . . (Preview) Happy Mother's Day to all the Moms ! I wanted to share a bit of the continuing saga of my journey - not as a "pat on the back" for myself, and not as any kind of "I've finally figured it all out" milestone, and MOST CERTAINLY NOT because I have any long-term confidence that I'll be on a different, better pat...	texas yankee	10	1748	May 12, 2020 by Iamhere
	C2C, 5/11, befriending ourself (Preview) The author for Monday, 5/11, suggests making the relationship with ourself the best it can be. You spend more time with yourself than anyone else, you can value your own company, and be a worthwhile companion! The writer says people affected by alcoholism believe only someone else can fulfill the...	Lyne	5	612	May 12, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today May 10 (Preview) Sorry all! I thought I had posted this at 7am! Good morning everyone and Happy Mother?s Day to all who are celebrating! Today?s reading is about how a willingness to change our perspective about a situation may make all the difference in how it feels to us. The writer describes moving to a new place a...	yanksfan51	5	737	May 12, 2020 by Iamhere
	Reflections on being a mom (Preview) As today is Mothers Day, and I have a grown son, I am thinking of the challenge it was raising him. I was married to an A and had my son when I was 21. I had NO recovery whatsoever, and as you can imagine, many mistakes were made. There are two blessings however. The first is that a wonderful therapist in r...	Lyne	9	1992	May 12, 2020 by Iamhere
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