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DavidG · DavidG

Poco a poco, paso a paso, día por día... Looking forwards. I was stuck, badly stuck, in a dark space. Lost. Not anger- rage! Not fear- terrified. And I had every reason to be. Our AF got to pass away in his own home 20 years ago. I had paid all the bills. He paid his own power bill, but that was all. He got sober...

Fedora · Fedora

Recently I've had some rough times with AH in that I lost my "center" and engaged in useless fights with him. I know better, and I've been contemplating how not to keep going back to zero in my own evolutionary process. Today I was able to go to my office for most of the day and have a good day there. I also go...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reflection speaks about making peace with losses. It begins with a quote from Justin Langley: "There is an end to grief if we have the courage to accept our personal goodness and our ongoing right to happiness." The author suggests that time and trust are needed to make peace with our losses....

mamalioness · mamalioness

well, today was a good day till I found one of my beautiful collectible "love" mugs outside where roommate just left it out there for the dogs to maybe bump into and break I am getting tired of trying to "train" this girl to treat my things with respect, so I told her she cannot use my mugs and cups again.......

Iamhere · Iamhere

My mom has been admitted into the hospital with pneumonia, and presumptive Covid. My father took her, and had to leave her at the door. She's got heart issues, kidney issues and a few other minor issues... Only God knows if she will survive this, yet I am asking you all for prayers. For both of them. T...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I've been biting my dry, tearing fingernails and I have no nails...well, today i pulled a part off my middle finger on left hand so can't type really well... I am in pain, rubbing lotion on it to help it start to grow back and no pain when I type I am here checking in....just can't type so well...when my I...

mamalioness · mamalioness

today I went to work and thankfully the QB online crashed (yes, I am guilty of being glad) I was sooo tired from last nights drama, I hung out and taught the office mgr. who is a sweetheart some things and then left...went home and took a NAP...roommate was picking up her car and I just napped..........we...

mamalioness · mamalioness

************************************************** *********"'I always remember the friendliness and kindness and closeness we allfelt. Later, I could go anyplace in the whole United States and find afriend in A.A.'"--Henrietta D."Gratitude is the heart's memory."--French ProverbFo...

DavidG · DavidG

Not a bad one- just half an hour slip- was enough. I know a "cure" is not likely. But I am making progress, slowly. yesterday I decided that what was broken with me was going to be mended. I have a good chance of achieving this as a goal. I am grateful that I am not a drinker or doper. But I used to be a bing...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

I think I have finally achieved compassion for my AH - after months of anger (in the beginning), frustration and then sadness, which morphed into indifference and now finally, compassion. It feels so fragile, but I am grateful to know that I can feel it, even if it might not be permanent just yet. What...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Fedora · Fedora

My AH interrupted a business meeting between me and a coworker. I could not continue the mtg bc AH would not go away. I got off the meeting and AH proceeded to accuse me of thinking of leaving AH for coworker. This is about as rooted in reality as me having an affair with a giraffe. It took absurd amounts of e...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Another brilliant day and I did NOT work....I did a food run for the church, puttered about the house, and went for a stroll on my bike..... Told roommate that she must step up and share in the housekeeping/cleaning in the common areas...She said "ok" and did some cleaning in the kitchen...I can say wha...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/4, begins with the author stating, Who am I? They thought they knew that answer but actually they didnt. They had been more involved with the alcoholics and everyone else, and lost track of themself. The Steps, and especially 4 & 5, were found to be extremely helpful i...

mamalioness · mamalioness

It's easy to feel grateful when we receive a raise, meet the love of our lifeor watch our children succeed, but spiritual gratitude is notcircumstantial. It arises from a true knowing that God is our Source.We can feel thankful for every day, even in the middle of life'schallenges.--Mary Manin Morr...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Roommate and I are just done shopping for food for the church and now we are at krogers, b/c we BOTH had a hankering for a steak... we are in the parking lot, eating our chocolate candies, finishing them up and there is this lady that roommate knew at the Christian center and she (roommate) hollars, "hey...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

Boundaries are in tact. Feeling peaceful as heck on this gorgeous day. AH tried to come home from rehab a week ago, skipping sober living. I told him I didnt feel comfortable because of how busy I am, working from home, having my daughter at home doing school, and quite frankly I didnt have the bandwidth...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reflection is taken from Today's Hope. Today is full of endless possibilities and dreams. In many cases, we are limited only by our fear and lack of hope, in others and ourselves. Each new day we are given a clean page to live in our book of life.What freedom we find when we choose to practice the a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays page is about step two and its reference to sanity. The writer describes trying to acknowledge how insanity would be defined for him/her. The idea that he/she was working a recovery program but still engaging in attitudes like resentment, arrogance, and revenge- no...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Thoughts and prayers with IAH as she is away caring for family... While AlAnon teaches many great lessons on the value of patience and 'Live and Let Live', todays reading emphasizes the importance of addressing issues that won't take care of themselves or could lead to extensive damage if unaddress...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I felt terrible giving roommate notice over the A/C thingy and her being combatative over MY need to keep the A/C at 79-80 and use FANS....I'm older, I get cold easier now...but 79 is about my limit...she wanted it colder and we had gotten "into it" over it and when she checked the thermostat and saw that...

DavidG · DavidG

Must be 8 years since we were in the USA. Travelling from New Jersey to New York An.'s mum died in NZ. We were in an okay place since her sister and nieces were in South Dakota- and we were on our way there, after a sojourn in the big apple. Was able to attend Betty's Alanon meeting for a bit of grounding. Als...

Lyne · Lyne

Everytime I open my iPad to MIP, I see Hot Rod all over the place. I sorely miss her and as painful as it is, Im glad to still her name on MIP. Lyne

mamalioness · mamalioness

Another great day, sunny, perfect for bike riding also went to goodwill and just had FUN__Got some really cute designer overrall shorts...plus 4 other pairs....and some fun body sprays and just a few goodies....it felt good, but I NEED to conserve as I don't know how long this virus is going to last,...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Maybe I need to get out more. Maybe I need to stay in. I had to get something in the mail today that couldn't be submitted online. I wore a mask for the first time. It's not a very good one and was very annoying. It caused me to inhale my own breath and although it was fresh leaving the house, that was absolutel...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I go into the kitchen this am and their are dishes in the dish rack, not dried and put away which is what I want....Rack , I use for if I am washing multiple dishes, yea, stick them in the rack, THEN dry and put away.....blender was dirty, AGAIN, so I removed it and cleaned it...I'll bring it back when roo...

WebHelper · WebHelper

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mamalioness · mamalioness

My BFF with cancer, they can't even treat her cancer till they knock out these infections in her body....Urinary tract and kidneys....Her hubs had to call 911 and they took her to hosp. Thurs night I sensed something wrong as I hadn't heard from her on Friday , But by the time I got done with all my "stuff"...

Kati917 · Kati917

Hi! I probably should have visited Al-Anon long ago, but Im not really a social person, or a meetings person, but now Im looking for advice. My husband is an alcoholic who is sober, has been for 19 years (since before I met him) and hasnt relapsed at all. However, our neighboring state made recreational...

JerryF · JerryF

Aloha Family and I am Happy that those of us that are feeling good and great are feeling good and great and those who are not quite there are confident of being on the way. Yes I am of the first group and it has taken two days of working it with my literature and my HP. We have done a great job and this morning...

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning on the first of May, MIP friends! Have you ever read a page in the literature that describes your life so exactly that it's almost scary? Today's page in Hope for Today tells a lot of my story. I came late to this daily reader because I thought it wouldn't relate to me... but this page surel...

Crmans · Crmans

Its been 4 weeks of sobriety for AH. 7 years of us together. I came from a verbally abusive 1st marriage with a bipolar narcissist diagnosed man. When I met my 2nd husband, red flags were flying. I thought, thanks to my ex, I was a bad person & deserved what I was getting. No. I didnt & I dont. I didnt...

Fedora · Fedora

AH is driving me INSANE. All the progress I thought I had made working my program turns out to be progress that I made only bc he was passed out. When he is awake, he is a burden. All bottles of alcohol should be relabeled to say this "excessive consumption of this beverage will turn you in to a Loser. At bes...

mamalioness · mamalioness

another brilliant day I am doing stuff around the house, that has been neglected and doing it in PIECES...NOT going to do the whole thing in a couple of days and wear me out..... roommate asked me if I was gonna work today and I said "yea, i'll fire up the lawnmower WHEN i've had my bike ride AND chatted u...

Kazbell · Kazbell

HI I am from Australia. Have been married for 22 years to a former AA member who has gone badly off track. He started drinking again 3 years into marriage and it got out of control very quickly, though he still to this day does not admit he has a problem. He has verbally and emotional abused by myself and...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Another brilliant day, but it did not start good...I had to do a lot of detaching as my roommate collapsed a 2nd bed..yea, I got angry, but I was very careful NOT to call her any names, I just said basically I was tired of my stuff being broken, she had to provide her own bed....I was able to fix mine, tha...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's topic in Today's Hope is about the eighth step - making a list of all people we have harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. The author is careful to point out that the eighth step is not about madly dashing about yelling "sorry," it is also not about feeling guilty. It is about begin...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Well the day began as dismal as I am letting go the roommate thing, then my BFF called me: THANK YOU GOD....her insurance company approved, this am, the use of capsules to dry up her cancer..... WEEEEEOOOOOO Now we can move forward to getting her back good again Dr. will arrange for treatments to star...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/27, discusses that if we want self-esteem to grow, we must love and accept ourselves as we are. If we base our self-worth on what we do or what others think of us, we will block self-esteem. We are not perfect, we cant make anyone else perfect, and we cant please everyone. How...

DavidG · DavidG

There is no parade this year. First time since 1915.At 6 a.m. this morning people in our street will go out into the street to remember Anzac Day.It is a big day for Oz and NZ. It remembers a battle we lost- in Turkey- in 1915.I am a member of the veterans' movement in NZ. The sisterhood and brotherhood...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on humility, and how being humble can help us be open in our recovery. The writer describes having grown up with an assumption that he/she could do anything and had the right answers for everyone. All of us who grew up in alcoholism may recognize this as...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reading in C2C talks about reaching out. Using the telephone to reach out to another Al-Anon member. In this day and age, we can forget that talking on the phone can be a good substitute for a F2F meeting! I know it seems kind of "old-fashioned" to actually talk on the phone, but there it is, ready...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I am going to call it a day with this roommateThe three weeks that she has been here, she has collapsed my bed with her 250 pound body, ruined my box spring and mattress, she has burned my skillets because she doesnt put a dab of oil in when she cooks. She continually loads the refrigerator wrong with her st...

DavidG · DavidG

I would have come along to this meeting anyway. How many years ago was it now? 5 years... our local Alanon group was going well. I had become group rep.- the first time for me. But then there was a movement around called "Girl Talk". And I know that people went to it. Probably not in accordance with ...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author was trying to zip a removable lining back into their coat. The zipper would not work, no matter how hard they pushed it! Finally they realized they were trying to zip the lining's zipper into the coat's front zipper -- and once they got it lined up with the matching zipper, it worked. Thi...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today was gorgeous.. played out in yard with dogs, cat has his "cat house" (dogs don't know what a kitty is) My cat was living with my friends up the street while I got his house built....a BIG pen with a "den" to crash out in during the day I put him in his playhouse and thinking the dogs will, after repea...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am struggling today... Fair warning, this will be long, but I felt having my process "out there" would not only help me, but maybe a newcomer as well... b/c I know I just wanted some answers when I first joined, but never got straight answers (b/c we don't give advice to others). I get it now, but it was ve...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and happy Thursday! Today's reading suggests that feeling our feelings is good and real and healthy! So many of us arrive @ Al-Anon in a numb state. Denial takes on many forms, and many of us had denied any hint of anger, joy, sorrow or similar through years of living with alcoholism...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Brilliant...gorgeous day....went to my GF's house and got my CAT back, LOL..Hes been "shacking up" there with his bro., because I was needing an outside play house for him to be in and not just his big crate in the office.....finally got it all put up outside....Dogs are not to be trusted with him yet, s...

Fedora · Fedora

Over the years I've noted that that there are quite a few very wise people on this board, people who seem to have worked the program in depth and have come out on "another side" of living an unmanageable life / crisis lifestyle. It got me thinking: 1) is there ever a time when one feels that one has Recover...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

As you all know I have displaced from my apartment for months. I went to stay with a friend who I know has real.substance abuse issues. It seemed win win Then the Covid Virus hit. Basically ge has been at home working from home for months. His job is now in a precarious position because after all at some p...

Fedora · Fedora

So I come home from an appointment this afternoon and AH is pretty much passed out. I woke him up briefly bc I made noise but he had That Look (when it is Booze Sleepy vs actual sleepy) so I just let him alone and got dressed to exercise (I jog around our block). 30 min later I come back and he is still sleeping o...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/20, discusses how the writer starting learning that it was to to be themself. They used to feel embarrassed, tried to keep quiet, attempted to reveal very little about themself, when actually sharing was the key to healing. They had experienced years of criticism and hum...

mamalioness · mamalioness

today was bright and sunny and perfect temperature, so i went on a bike ride, then visited my elderly friend who had a HUGE box of goodies for me...2 cans salmon, wild caught, 2 boxes of cheerios, peanut butter, BUNCHES of can stuff for the church, non fat milk solids for my coffee when I run out of the crem...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today was a day of Light stuff around the house...doggie bath and doing laundry and that was IT.... got some videos off my favorite site and just relaxed it rained and stormed in the earlier part of the day so I snuggled in my bed and took a nap...ooooh it felt good listening to the rain patter on the roof, p...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Hi all - been a long time since Ive been on here. Needed a break I guess in order to process some of the things Id started to confront. Real forward progress has been slow but meaningful. Since Ive been here, Ive gotten a job and am no longer dependent on my AH financially. By that I mean that, if I had to, I cou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reflection speaks about being patient. The author shares that we get what we want out of the program over time. If we want a better way of life, the diminishment of pain, or love, we will find it by working the program. Over time, our lives can improve a great deal through the 12 step pro...

Crmans · Crmans

Good evening. Going on week #3 of realization of Hs alcoholism. To say the ups & downs of my emotions are unpredictable would be a very fair statement, but the waves are not as overwhelming thanks to tapping into Al-Anon. Today my H & I had a very open conversation & I must admit truth hurts....

mamalioness · mamalioness

WEll, we might have gotten some good news: its the small cell cancer, and the easiest to treat.... PILLS if the insurance company pays for them and it much easier on her body...it supposedly dries up the cancer or shrinks it down...so much info , I got a bit confused, but they are like 4 capsules per day a...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I went to work, and b4 I even started this job, I told the boss, i only work mornings...today, I think he wanted me to stay all day and I reminded him that mornings , concentrating at this level is too tiring and I need to have my bbreak and "I'll see you next week..I will get you up to date" and I left after 4-1...

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	One day at a time... (Preview) Poco a poco, paso a paso, día por día... Looking forwards. I was stuck, badly stuck, in a dark space. Lost. Not anger- rage! Not fear- terrified. And I had every reason to be. Our AF got to pass away in his own home 20 years ago. I had paid all the bills. He paid his own power bill, but that was all. He got sober...	DavidG	3	1158	May 8, 2020 by Temple
	Exercise in taking stock of my words before I say them and mulling over the alcoholics world view. (Preview) Recently I've had some rough times with AH in that I lost my "center" and engaged in useless fights with him. I know better, and I've been contemplating how not to keep going back to zero in my own evolutionary process. Today I was able to go to my office for most of the day and have a good day there. I also go...	Fedora	8	948	May 8, 2020 by SerenityRUS
	Today's Hope May 6 (Preview) Today's reflection speaks about making peace with losses. It begins with a quote from Justin Langley: "There is an end to grief if we have the courage to accept our personal goodness and our ongoing right to happiness." The author suggests that time and trust are needed to make peace with our losses....	Skorpi	1	825	May 8, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_MONDAY (Preview) well, today was a good day till I found one of my beautiful collectible "love" mugs outside where roommate just left it out there for the dogs to maybe bump into and break I am getting tired of trying to "train" this girl to treat my things with respect, so I told her she cannot use my mugs and cups again.......	mamalioness	6	899	May 7, 2020 by Maresie888
	No Good Topic Title Comes to Mind ( 1 2 ) (Preview) My mom has been admitted into the hospital with pneumonia, and presumptive Covid. My father took her, and had to leave her at the door. She's got heart issues, kidney issues and a few other minor issues... Only God knows if she will survive this, yet I am asking you all for prayers. For both of them. T...	Iamhere	60	2169	May 7, 2020 by iris52
	I got an "owie" (Preview) I've been biting my dry, tearing fingernails and I have no nails...well, today i pulled a part off my middle finger on left hand so can't type really well... I am in pain, rubbing lotion on it to help it start to grow back and no pain when I type I am here checking in....just can't type so well...when my I...	mamalioness	2	1749	May 7, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_TUESDAY (Preview) today I went to work and thankfully the QB online crashed (yes, I am guilty of being glad) I was sooo tired from last nights drama, I hung out and taught the office mgr. who is a sweetheart some things and then left...went home and took a NAP...roommate was picking up her car and I just napped..........we...	mamalioness	1	825	May 7, 2020 by Maresie888
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_TUESDAY (Preview) ************************************************ *******"'I always remember the friendliness and kindness and closeness we allfelt. Later, I could go anyplace in the whole United States and find afriend in A.A.'"--Henrietta D."Gratitude is the heart's memory."--French ProverbFo...	mamalioness	3	1301	May 6, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Relapse- gulp! (Preview) Not a bad one- just half an hour slip- was enough. I know a "cure" is not likely. But I am making progress, slowly. yesterday I decided that what was broken with me was going to be mended. I have a good chance of achieving this as a goal. I am grateful that I am not a drinker or doper. But I used to be a bing...	DavidG	7	366	May 5, 2020 by DavidG
	The next stage in recovery (Preview) I think I have finally achieved compassion for my AH - after months of anger (in the beginning), frustration and then sadness, which morphed into indifference and now finally, compassion. It feels so fragile, but I am grateful to know that I can feel it, even if it might not be permanent just yet. What...	Bettertomorrow	12	1299	May 5, 2020 by Fedora
	The day after quarantine (Preview)	mamalioness	2	1134	May 5, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	just a short note; enduring a short moment (Preview) My AH interrupted a business meeting between me and a coworker. I could not continue the mtg bc AH would not go away. I got off the meeting and AH proceeded to accuse me of thinking of leaving AH for coworker. This is about as rooted in reality as me having an affair with a giraffe. It took absurd amounts of e...	Fedora	11	1143	May 5, 2020 by Fedora
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_SUNDAY (Preview) Another brilliant day and I did NOT work....I did a food run for the church, puttered about the house, and went for a stroll on my bike..... Told roommate that she must step up and share in the housekeeping/cleaning in the common areas...She said "ok" and did some cleaning in the kitchen...I can say wha...	mamalioness	5	820	May 4, 2020 by mamalioness
	C2C, 5/4–Who am I? (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/4, begins with the author stating, Who am I? They thought they knew that answer but actually they didnt. They had been more involved with the alcoholics and everyone else, and lost track of themself. The Steps, and especially 4 & 5, were found to be extremely helpful i...	Lyne	4	297	May 4, 2020 by DavidG
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_SUNDAY (Preview) It's easy to feel grateful when we receive a raise, meet the love of our lifeor watch our children succeed, but spiritual gratitude is notcircumstantial. It arises from a true knowing that God is our Source.We can feel thankful for every day, even in the middle of life'schallenges.--Mary Manin Morr...	mamalioness	2	260	May 4, 2020 by tiredtonite
	A homeless lady brings a gift!!!!! (Preview) Roommate and I are just done shopping for food for the church and now we are at krogers, b/c we BOTH had a hankering for a steak... we are in the parking lot, eating our chocolate candies, finishing them up and there is this lady that roommate knew at the Christian center and she (roommate) hollars, "hey...	mamalioness	6	404	May 4, 2020 by Maresie888
	Which to Do? (Preview) Boundaries are in tact. Feeling peaceful as heck on this gorgeous day. AH tried to come home from rehab a week ago, skipping sober living. I told him I didnt feel comfortable because of how busy I am, working from home, having my daughter at home doing school, and quite frankly I didnt have the bandwidth...	sunmustshine	5	299	May 3, 2020 by JerryF
	Hope For Today 5/2/20 (Preview) Today's reflection is taken from Today's Hope. Today is full of endless possibilities and dreams. In many cases, we are limited only by our fear and lack of hope, in others and ourselves. Each new day we are given a clean page to live in our book of life.What freedom we find when we choose to practice the a...	PosiesandPuppies	5	266	May 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today May 3 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays page is about step two and its reference to sanity. The writer describes trying to acknowledge how insanity would be defined for him/her. The idea that he/she was working a recovery program but still engaging in attitudes like resentment, arrogance, and revenge- no...	yanksfan51	4	255	May 3, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C 4/30/20 Takin' Care of Business (Preview) Thoughts and prayers with IAH as she is away caring for family... While AlAnon teaches many great lessons on the value of patience and 'Live and Let Live', todays reading emphasizes the importance of addressing issues that won't take care of themselves or could lead to extensive damage if unaddress...	Enigmatic	7	386	May 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_SATURDAY----You are NOT gonna believe this one!!!!!!! (Preview) I felt terrible giving roommate notice over the A/C thingy and her being combatative over MY need to keep the A/C at 79-80 and use FANS....I'm older, I get cold easier now...but 79 is about my limit...she wanted it colder and we had gotten "into it" over it and when she checked the thermostat and saw that...	mamalioness	12	1480	May 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	Dreams and Schemes... (Preview) Must be 8 years since we were in the USA. Travelling from New Jersey to New York An.'s mum died in NZ. We were in an okay place since her sister and nieces were in South Dakota- and we were on our way there, after a sojourn in the big apple. Was able to attend Betty's Alanon meeting for a bit of grounding. Als...	DavidG	6	1214	May 3, 2020 by newnoz
	Missing Betty (Preview) Everytime I open my iPad to MIP, I see Hot Rod all over the place. I sorely miss her and as painful as it is, Im glad to still her name on MIP. Lyne	Lyne	22	1131	May 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_FRIDAY (Preview) Another great day, sunny, perfect for bike riding also went to goodwill and just had FUN__Got some really cute designer overrall shorts...plus 4 other pairs....and some fun body sprays and just a few goodies....it felt good, but I NEED to conserve as I don't know how long this virus is going to last,...	mamalioness	1	283	May 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	It's Unnerving (Preview) Maybe I need to get out more. Maybe I need to stay in. I had to get something in the mail today that couldn't be submitted online. I wore a mask for the first time. It's not a very good one and was very annoying. It caused me to inhale my own breath and although it was fresh leaving the house, that was absolutel...	tiredtonite	28	1963	May 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_SATURDAY (Preview) I go into the kitchen this am and their are dishes in the dish rack, not dried and put away which is what I want....Rack , I use for if I am washing multiple dishes, yea, stick them in the rack, THEN dry and put away.....blender was dirty, AGAIN, so I removed it and cleaned it...I'll bring it back when roo...	mamalioness	3	234	May 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	7th Tradition for Forum Hosting (Preview) It's time for voluntary contributions to support our MIP forums. We are currently paid up through May 2020, and need $215.76 to extend that through the next 12 months. The donation link is below. Please note that the form says Al-Anon Family Groups, but donations will support all the forums on MIP...	WebHelper	4	3827	May 2, 2020 by WebHelper
	BFF in hospital....NOT good (Preview) My BFF with cancer, they can't even treat her cancer till they knock out these infections in her body....Urinary tract and kidneys....Her hubs had to call 911 and they took her to hosp. Thurs night I sensed something wrong as I hadn't heard from her on Friday , But by the time I got done with all my "stuff"...	mamalioness	9	329	May 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	New to this, looking for advice (Preview) Hi! I probably should have visited Al-Anon long ago, but Im not really a social person, or a meetings person, but now Im looking for advice. My husband is an alcoholic who is sober, has been for 19 years (since before I met him) and hasnt relapsed at all. However, our neighboring state made recreational...	Kati917	8	1312	May 2, 2020 by Bo
	Gracious what Evening and now what a Morning (Preview) Aloha Family and I am Happy that those of us that are feeling good and great are feeling good and great and those who are not quite there are confident of being on the way. Yes I am of the first group and it has taken two days of working it with my literature and my HP. We have done a great job and this morning...	JerryF	4	1724	May 2, 2020 by Lyne
	Hope for Today - May 1 (Preview) Good morning on the first of May, MIP friends! Have you ever read a page in the literature that describes your life so exactly that it's almost scary? Today's page in Hope for Today tells a lot of my story. I came late to this daily reader because I thought it wouldn't relate to me... but this page surel...	Freetime	2	1113	May 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	Frustrated (Preview) Its been 4 weeks of sobriety for AH. 7 years of us together. I came from a verbally abusive 1st marriage with a bipolar narcissist diagnosed man. When I met my 2nd husband, red flags were flying. I thought, thanks to my ex, I was a bad person & deserved what I was getting. No. I didnt & I dont. I didnt...	Crmans	7	374	May 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	It's just a good thing I don't own a weapon. (Preview) AH is driving me INSANE. All the progress I thought I had made working my program turns out to be progress that I made only bc he was passed out. When he is awake, he is a burden. All bottles of alcohol should be relabeled to say this "excessive consumption of this beverage will turn you in to a Loser. At bes...	Fedora	10	523	May 1, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_THURSDAY (Preview) another brilliant day I am doing stuff around the house, that has been neglected and doing it in PIECES...NOT going to do the whole thing in a couple of days and wear me out..... roommate asked me if I was gonna work today and I said "yea, i'll fire up the lawnmower WHEN i've had my bike ride AND chatted u...	mamalioness	1	231	May 1, 2020 by Maresie888
	Taken out Intervention Order, need advice on next step (Preview) HI I am from Australia. Have been married for 22 years to a former AA member who has gone badly off track. He started drinking again 3 years into marriage and it got out of control very quickly, though he still to this day does not admit he has a problem. He has verbally and emotional abused by myself and...	Kazbell	4	1057	May 1, 2020 by Bo
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_WEDNESDAY (Preview) Another brilliant day, but it did not start good...I had to do a lot of detaching as my roommate collapsed a 2nd bed..yea, I got angry, but I was very careful NOT to call her any names, I just said basically I was tired of my stuff being broken, she had to provide her own bed....I was able to fix mine, tha...	mamalioness	1	738	Apr 30, 2020 by Maresie888
	Today's Hope April 29 (Preview) Today's topic in Today's Hope is about the eighth step - making a list of all people we have harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. The author is careful to point out that the eighth step is not about madly dashing about yelling "sorry," it is also not about feeling guilty. It is about begin...	Skorpi	2	765	Apr 29, 2020 by Freetime
	LATEST ON BFF (Preview) Well the day began as dismal as I am letting go the roommate thing, then my BFF called me: THANK YOU GOD....her insurance company approved, this am, the use of capsules to dry up her cancer..... WEEEEEOOOOOO Now we can move forward to getting her back good again Dr. will arrange for treatments to star...	mamalioness	12	497	Apr 28, 2020 by mamalioness
	C2C, 4/27, how self-esteem grows (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/27, discusses that if we want self-esteem to grow, we must love and accept ourselves as we are. If we base our self-worth on what we do or what others think of us, we will block self-esteem. We are not perfect, we cant make anyone else perfect, and we cant please everyone. How...	Lyne	3	339	Apr 27, 2020 by 2HP
	Anzac Day. (Preview) There is no parade this year. First time since 1915.At 6 a.m. this morning people in our street will go out into the street to remember Anzac Day.It is a big day for Oz and NZ. It remembers a battle we lost- in Turkey- in 1915.I am a member of the veterans' movement in NZ. The sisterhood and brotherhood...	DavidG	6	1251	Apr 26, 2020 by a4l
	Hope for Today Apr 26 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on humility, and how being humble can help us be open in our recovery. The writer describes having grown up with an assumption that he/she could do anything and had the right answers for everyone. All of us who grew up in alcoholism may recognize this as...	yanksfan51	3	389	Apr 26, 2020 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 04/25/20 (Preview) Today's reading in C2C talks about reaching out. Using the telephone to reach out to another Al-Anon member. In this day and age, we can forget that talking on the phone can be a good substitute for a F2F meeting! I know it seems kind of "old-fashioned" to actually talk on the phone, but there it is, ready...	PosiesandPuppies	4	1163	Apr 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	Calling it a day (Preview) I am going to call it a day with this roommateThe three weeks that she has been here, she has collapsed my bed with her 250 pound body, ruined my box spring and mattress, she has burned my skillets because she doesnt put a dab of oil in when she cooks. She continually loads the refrigerator wrong with her st...	mamalioness	17	1102	Apr 25, 2020 by a4l
	...looking forwards... (Preview) I would have come along to this meeting anyway. How many years ago was it now? 5 years... our local Alanon group was going well. I had become group rep.- the first time for me. But then there was a movement around called "Girl Talk". And I know that people went to it. Probably not in accordance with ...	DavidG	4	1062	Apr 25, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 4/24 - Easy Does It (Preview) Today's author was trying to zip a removable lining back into their coat. The zipper would not work, no matter how hard they pushed it! Finally they realized they were trying to zip the lining's zipper into the coat's front zipper -- and once they got it lined up with the matching zipper, it worked. Thi...	Freetime	8	1278	Apr 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_FRIDAY (Preview) Today was gorgeous.. played out in yard with dogs, cat has his "cat house" (dogs don't know what a kitty is) My cat was living with my friends up the street while I got his house built....a BIG pen with a "den" to crash out in during the day I put him in his playhouse and thinking the dogs will, after repea...	mamalioness	0	997	Apr 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	Thoughts? (Preview) I am struggling today... Fair warning, this will be long, but I felt having my process "out there" would not only help me, but maybe a newcomer as well... b/c I know I just wanted some answers when I first joined, but never got straight answers (b/c we don't give advice to others). I get it now, but it was ve...	PosiesandPuppies	19	1303	Apr 24, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 4//23 (Preview) Good morning MIP and happy Thursday! Today's reading suggests that feeling our feelings is good and real and healthy! So many of us arrive @ Al-Anon in a numb state. Denial takes on many forms, and many of us had denied any hint of anger, joy, sorrow or similar through years of living with alcoholism...	Iamhere	6	1537	Apr 24, 2020 by mamalioness
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_THURSDAY (Preview) Brilliant...gorgeous day....went to my GF's house and got my CAT back, LOL..Hes been "shacking up" there with his bro., because I was needing an outside play house for him to be in and not just his big crate in the office.....finally got it all put up outside....Dogs are not to be trusted with him yet, s...	mamalioness	0	1095	Apr 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	Is there such a thing as "recovered" versus "in recovery" (Preview) Over the years I've noted that that there are quite a few very wise people on this board, people who seem to have worked the program in depth and have come out on "another side" of living an unmanageable life / crisis lifestyle. It got me thinking: 1) is there ever a time when one feels that one has Recover...	Fedora	9	1499	Apr 23, 2020 by JerryF
	Riding the storms (Preview) As you all know I have displaced from my apartment for months. I went to stay with a friend who I know has real.substance abuse issues. It seemed win win Then the Covid Virus hit. Basically ge has been at home working from home for months. His job is now in a precarious position because after all at some p...	Maresie888	16	1165	Apr 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	sad and funny at same time (Preview) So I come home from an appointment this afternoon and AH is pretty much passed out. I woke him up briefly bc I made noise but he had That Look (when it is Booze Sleepy vs actual sleepy) so I just let him alone and got dressed to exercise (I jog around our block). 30 min later I come back and he is still sleeping o...	Fedora	7	479	Apr 23, 2020 by Fedora
	C2C, 4/20, feeling safe to be myself (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/20, discusses how the writer starting learning that it was to to be themself. They used to feel embarrassed, tried to keep quiet, attempted to reveal very little about themself, when actually sharing was the key to healing. They had experienced years of criticism and hum...	Lyne	9	1157	Apr 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_MONDAY (Preview) today was bright and sunny and perfect temperature, so i went on a bike ride, then visited my elderly friend who had a HUGE box of goodies for me...2 cans salmon, wild caught, 2 boxes of cheerios, peanut butter, BUNCHES of can stuff for the church, non fat milk solids for my coffee when I run out of the crem...	mamalioness	2	1521	Apr 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_WEDNESDAY (Preview) Today was a day of Light stuff around the house...doggie bath and doing laundry and that was IT.... got some videos off my favorite site and just relaxed it rained and stormed in the earlier part of the day so I snuggled in my bed and took a nap...ooooh it felt good listening to the rain patter on the roof, p...	mamalioness	1	765	Apr 22, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	2 Steps forward, 1.75 steps back (Preview) Hi all - been a long time since Ive been on here. Needed a break I guess in order to process some of the things Id started to confront. Real forward progress has been slow but meaningful. Since Ive been here, Ive gotten a job and am no longer dependent on my AH financially. By that I mean that, if I had to, I cou...	Twinkies	11	1288	Apr 22, 2020 by mamalioness
	Today's Hope April 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reflection speaks about being patient. The author shares that we get what we want out of the program over time. If we want a better way of life, the diminishment of pain, or love, we will find it by working the program. Over time, our lives can improve a great deal through the 12 step pro...	Skorpi	3	814	Apr 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	Ugly truth (Preview) Good evening. Going on week #3 of realization of Hs alcoholism. To say the ups & downs of my emotions are unpredictable would be a very fair statement, but the waves are not as overwhelming thanks to tapping into Al-Anon. Today my H & I had a very open conversation & I must admit truth hurts....	Crmans	5	430	Apr 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	UPDATE on my BFF (Preview) WEll, we might have gotten some good news: its the small cell cancer, and the easiest to treat.... PILLS if the insurance company pays for them and it much easier on her body...it supposedly dries up the cancer or shrinks it down...so much info , I got a bit confused, but they are like 4 capsules per day a...	mamalioness	6	348	Apr 22, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_TUESDAY (Preview) I went to work, and b4 I even started this job, I told the boss, i only work mornings...today, I think he wanted me to stay all day and I reminded him that mornings , concentrating at this level is too tiring and I need to have my bbreak and "I'll see you next week..I will get you up to date" and I left after 4-1...	mamalioness	5	1333	Apr 22, 2020 by Maresie888
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