Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

andromeda · andromeda

Hey everyone. I'm going to make a long story short. February 28: my son had a weird episode while driving where his BP dropped causing him to nearly black out and the subsequently had a panic attack from this episode. Turns out it was because he was unclear of the doctor's order from 2 days prior where sh...

DavidG · DavidG

Kia ora koutou... greetings y'all... ... I like the way funerals are these days. There is a lot more emotion... and kids and grandkids are encouraged to get up and say what they like. For us local people a funeral takes three or four days. Sometimes one... and our mountain folks- just one day- but 30...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's Daily is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. For this reading, she speaks to the 6th Step of Al-Anon... "Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." She speaks of the long and diligent road to progress by working on the first five Steps. This w...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I always prided myself on being resilient. In fact I was from s background of absolute chaos. Therefore chaos does not phase me. Anything remotely normal does because it is alien for me Under pressure I do not make good decisions. Under pressure I get sick which is exactly what happened to me recently...

JerryF · JerryF

Good morning family. Here's hoping you all have a good day planned for yourself with a determination for having it happened. Mine started out with our literature; ODAT, C2C, HFT and one other from my other program that I came to recognize all held a mutual theme of meditation which is what I have bee...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about grieving. The writer describes that as a result of growing up in an alcoholic family, he/she rarely cried. In fact, all feelings were shut off and difficult to express in general. One result of going to Alanon was realizing that grieving was not a sign of...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I don't know exactly how long it has been. But I am ready to get my program in order. I am thinking about Betty & how much she affected my life. I need to get back what I feel I have lost. All the horrible things that are happening hurt & are painful I can & will turn my life over to God. I love you all...

Freetime · Freetime

I didn't like the Third Step when I first came into Al-Anon, but I was so desperate that I figured I would just have to go along with whatever the Steps told me. I did not like the idea of turning my will and my life over to anyone or anything, because experience had taught me not to trust most people. No way...

Paloma Negra · Paloma Negra

AH has declined considerably since his inheritance and our move to a property he received. I love him deeply but watching him spend daily on alcohol and drugs what could have been put to beneficial gain such as his talk of starting a construction/contracting business is too much for my own mental heal...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family! Today's reading is about Step 2 which is about possibility and hoe. We come to believe that a Power greater than ourselves COULD restore us to sanity. All that's asked is that we open our minds to the possibility that help is available. We don't have to believe that it WILL h...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Finally! The roommate is finally gone. I got her up early on June 1 and we listened to one of our favorite pastor on Facebook and then I made her get up and at it and I helped her pack and get her stuff in the car and she was out of my house by 11:30 AM I could see after the live Facebook that we watched from one of ou...

Gretel · Gretel

Not sure if Im in the right place or not. about a year ago I found out that my husband was having an affair. He blamed it on his drinking and a mid life crisis. Hes been in AA, therapy and alcohol free since. He is doing everything possible to make up for what he did but Im still having a very hard time with it....

Lyne · Lyne

So our older dog has to go to the vet and the younger dog is crying because she wants to go. Men are here fixing cracked cement. My tooth broke and I have to wait and see what day next week my dentist will do emergencies. We have a huge bee/hornet flying around the kitchen. And my A wants to drive me to the c...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on one of the diversions alcoholics sometimes use to keep family and friends from interfering with their drinking: creating diversions by accusing or provoking. Often, those who are living with the impact of alcoholism tend to react, to argue, to defend the...

Gretel · Gretel

Do you feel like the recovering alcoholic in your life is back to the old person you knew before? Or that that person is gone for good and now theres a new version? Not a bad version but different? My recovering alcoholic husband just doesnt seem to understand that thats how I view him now. Hes hurt that I f...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

If there's anything I've learned on this recovery journey, it's that an offer of es&h can differ from situation to situation, person to person. I can't assume to know another's feelings and there will be times when I don't think I have anything to offer to someone else. Times when I believe whatev...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/31, discusses how program enables us to explore our hidden motives, secrets, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. Guided by a Power greater than ourselves, we learn to overcome obstacles to our personal growth, such as the effects of alcoholism and a variety of de...

iris52 · iris52

Today I realize that I still fall into brief periods of denial.When I am getting along ok with my husband and I am finding small things that I enjoy.If I have a good day,I tell myself that things are not so bad.For a brief time I can close my eyes to some truths about my life and myself.But then when he is bei...

Lyne · Lyne

I mistakenly gave the daily on 5/31 instead of 6/1 from C2C. Acknowledged my mistake and promptly admitted it! Happy Monday to all.

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a reflection about the fourth step:made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves The writer describes having lived a life of pursuing perfection. He/she felt that any shortcomings were failures, and brought this belief into the approach of t...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

TODAY'S REFLECTION COMES FROM ONE MORE DAY. Quote of the Day: "I expect to pass through life but once. If, therefore, there can be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow human being, let me do it now." --William PennEach night, as we place our heads upon our pillows, we can think...

JerryF · JerryF

This was a very rough day for me starting from when I had to work hard to get up from bed and Keep the Shakes from doing massive negative control over my mind, body, spirt and emotions. I never experienced such a trauma and it wasn't because of cool temperatures because we are not having such. I shook l...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I had to REALLY detach and just "do my thing" today as roommates meet with HOPEFULLY her next landlord got postponed....so I am still "wearing her" but I am keeping cordial distance, not engaging her, not inviting another cycle of drama and chaos....shes telling me "i was crying because she had...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading focuses on the uselessness of worry and fear. We can catastrophize, turning neutral situations into nightmares. In the past, many of us tried to predict disastrous outcomes as a way of protecting ourselves. But this makes us lose touch with what is happening now, and puts us on co...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

The title says it all,that's why I'm back. I have to believe life can be better than this. I have to believe the program works if you work it. I have to believe my higher power will guide me. And I have to believe you all know what you're talking about. That pretty much sums it up.

Bo · Bo

The below is from Al-Anon World Services Organization...yes, Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters...in Virginia Beach, VA... The "Dear Abby" Newspaper Column for June 2 Will Recommend Al-AnonIn communities where editors choose to publish the recommendation to try Al-Anon, it would be appropr...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning all. Today's reading is all about Step Two - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares a story about rushing on a motorcycle to a meditation class, not wanting to be late. Right in front of the class, the bike dumped the author who wa...

seekingdesphelp · seekingdesphelp

Hello,I am new to Alanon.My dog died in my arms on Monday. He was my best buddy. I can't believe he is gone.Tuesday, my Q became violently drunk last night. With the help of my sponsor, I am now at my parents apartment and am ok. They are not living here due to COVID... so I'm all by myself. Which is hard in its...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects that, after living with the effects of the disease of alcoholism for years, many of us felt that good times would never come again. We may have shut our hearts and minds to joy, happiness, our hopes, and dreams. It seemed too painful to hope. We weren'...

mamalioness · mamalioness

"What worries you, masters you."--Haddon W. RobinsonGod, help me to have the strength to set reasonable limits for myselfand to tell others when I cannot help them. Help me learn to say no.--Melody BeattieGod is watching over me, making my path easy.--Alan CohenThe Way To God"Start the Day with Lov...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Melody Beattie. Talks about choices-we do have choices, more than we let ourselves see when we feel trapped, that is codependency rearing its head. When we hear ourselves say that we have to take care of somebody or we have to try and control that person or we have to behave a certain way or we have to feel...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all. Today's reading talks about the Seventh Step (Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). Simply put, when we take this step, we are asking for help - not begging and not demanding. We don't build ourselves up nor grovel and we are not trying to imp...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- I am going to start with the thought for the day and work back into the reading. Todays thought is simple and powerful: Whatever I concentrate on will become central to my life. Where are we putting the focus and energy in our days? This idea is applied more specifically to the...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/25, explains how denial is a symptom of the effects of alcoholism. In other words, many of us have been living in chaos, worried about our families, full of self-doubt, spiritually, emotionally, and physically depleted, and yet we would pretend everything was just fine....

mamalioness · mamalioness

I don't bring my personal crap to work, but I did open up with the off. mgr. of my little Tues. job, the only one I got, and told her my situation...We had become friends and we share stuff with each other Well, after finding hazzardous stuff she just leaves for the dogs to get into, I texted my boss AND the of...

mamalioness · mamalioness

trying to type with bad finger and it slow going...its sealing and I think I'll lose feeling on the very top of it, but its going really well, considering the severity of the cut I took care of me by deciding not to work tomorrow because this cyclically passive aggressive roommate cycles between being n...

mary_n30 · mary_n30

Hi all, I hope this post is ok -I am brand new to the forum and to al-anon, if this violates any rules please remove it. I have a brother who is spiraling (fourth DUI, fired, about to be homeless) who has three young children that live with him (all under 10). His wife is sober, but enables him (my opinion) sh...

DavidG · DavidG

Had a full week this week... half down on the coast, an half here at home. Stayed at my cousin's in a shipping container- with bed and accoutrements. My cousin doesn't have great boundaries. Her daughter and Sil... are staying over lock-down and beyond in the loft. It was lovely to meet da. for the f...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Well the countdown begins: roommate will be leaving by June 3 which is when her rent expires. I do want us to part in peace and goodwill and I think we will so what did I do today to take care of me? food wise I resisted all the junk foods that I normally get into one stressed out and I was tempted every time I go...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Sorry about the late post, folks! Today's topic is about Enjoyment and is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. She mentions, "Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced." She goes on to say that many of us were raised with the belief that we 'square our shoulders and...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I think it is important at this time to talk about the stressors Mine were: work (always pressure to work more), health (my.health deteriorared badly); displacement (being away from my home); support (i found some new sources of support but I.really need a therapist soon. That is quite a list. Bef...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Had another back spasm on Wednesday and it was pretty bad. Yesterday it felt like a little bit better and today seems the same. So I will be laid up with this for a while I guess. I hope I dont have to get a shot. So thats where I have been, eating my muscle relaxers and lying on my heating pad and stretching. Pa...

Fedora · Fedora

During our latest disagreement about life (which started after AH ruined the end of son's birthday, oh joy), it came out that I consider our relationship broken and am considering divorce. AH got all hysterical and long story short, agreed to consider counseling with me. I don't have much hope that t...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Just for today: I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today: I will be happy. This assume to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, *Most folks are as happy a...

funandsun · funandsun

I am relatively new to Alanon and have been focusing on boundaries with my ABF. I am wondering if some of you can share your boundaries that you have implemented? Thanks!

iris52 · iris52

I know there are some 'old timers' here so I have a question for you.Please tell me what life looks like after a long time in the program when you are still living with your alcoholic (drinking or not). Does it feel like a life of your own? Do you really feel fulfilled? Are you living separate lives but in th...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about reaching self-love through trusting in a higher power. The author started out fearful, thinking that a self-inventory would show that they were hopelessly flawed and unworthy. Working on Steps One, Two, and Three they realized that, although powerless over the effects...

bud · bud

Hi dear Family, This morning I received a text message from my cousin that my uncle passed. He was my Dad's brother. I ran outside to the mailbox to retrieve my uncle's birthday card before the mailman picked it up. His birthday is in a few days. I grew up on the same block with my cousins and we were over eac...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about denial. The writer describes becoming more aware of the magnitude of denial and how many areas of our lives it affects. For those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes, using denial was a way to block pain; unfortunately this also included the unintende...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares their experience with obsessive thinking. Like alcoholism, obsessive thinking can be too much to handle. For the author, not starting is the best defense against obsessive thinking because, once started, it gains steam and is hard to interrupt. The author no...

iris52 · iris52

I'm sure some of you roll your eyes when you see my post.What's wrong now?When is she going to finally get it?Well,I feel the same.I am tired of struggling with myself,my problems,my feelings.I'm just plain tired.I keep posting because I think maybe someone is following my struggles and not respond...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

My Ex just texted me that he "Just wanted me to know how angry he was for me leaving him. I thought it was for better or worse." This after he has ghosted me since February. Not that I minded, as we are divorced and I was trying to move on, but trying to be kind and respectful of him. Also, he was paying for our so...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/18, speaks about a time when the writer would avoid an argument rather than deal with an unpleasant situation. The results were not goodthey would become irritable and unreasonable as resentment grew. With program, the author has learned to deal with their problems and...

seekingdesphelp · seekingdesphelp

I am in crisis. I'm New to ALANON. I need a sponsor. I'm in a horrible situation and my partner is a mess. Can someone help me please? I'm stuck during COVID in a large city. I am overwhelmed with ALANON and don't know where to start. I don't know what to do. Could someone help me? I feel so alone.

mamalioness · mamalioness

Self care checklist Somebody really awesome and bright posted a post like this and I thought I would steal some of it its kind of like a quickie step four so Im going to do my end of the checklist Foodate clean today, no junk food Drink plenty of water I did good today ExerciseI got on my cardio total body w...

mamalioness · mamalioness

im unpacking my lovely new futon with which I am very happy and I am using a serrated knife and I am cutting the plastic off and I sliced off the top corner of my index finger like on the very top right of my left index finger I took a piece of flesh along with putting the nail. And it just gushed blood all over th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about 'Keep Coming Back' and what that can mean for one's recovery! It opens with the thought that Al-Anon is a discipline that requires diligence, patience, and consistency for the best results. All tools - meetings, Steps and practicing the principles to e...

Crmans · Crmans

Hi all! Just looking for a venting board. My husband has been sober for almost 6 weeks. (I dont keep track, he just tells me). I know thats brand new in the life of a recovering alcoholic. I am struggling as i feel that not only was he selfish in alcoholism, hes now selfish in recovery. Im not referring to th...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

The daily is taken from Today's Hope. Daily Quote: "The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world." - Marianne Williamson The author of the reading shares that we are creatures of habit. One piece of evidence they say, is the fact that many of us can get st...

Elabella · Elabella

Hi all! Havent been here in a while. Two weeks ago my AH decided to get help and go to medically supervised detox and help from our specialty hospital for addiction and mental health. I didnt push or suggest anything. This was his decision. I (after going through this route last time very unsuccessfull...

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	Assisting adult children (Preview) Hey everyone. I'm going to make a long story short. February 28: my son had a weird episode while driving where his BP dropped causing him to nearly black out and the subsequently had a panic attack from this episode. Turns out it was because he was unclear of the doctor's order from 2 days prior where sh...	andromeda	16	541	Jun 9, 2020 by Maresie888
	Saying bye bye to an old timer... (Preview) Kia ora koutou... greetings y'all... ... I like the way funerals are these days. There is a lot more emotion... and kids and grandkids are encouraged to get up and say what they like. For us local people a funeral takes three or four days. Sometimes one... and our mountain folks- just one day- but 30...	DavidG	4	346	Jun 9, 2020 by Temple
	Saturday 6/6/20 (Preview) Today's Daily is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. For this reading, she speaks to the 6th Step of Al-Anon... *"Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character."* She speaks of the long and diligent road to progress by working on the first five Steps. This w...	PosiesandPuppies	4	255	Jun 9, 2020 by Maresie888
	Resilience (Preview) I always prided myself on being resilient. In fact I was from s background of absolute chaos. Therefore chaos does not phase me. Anything remotely normal does because it is alien for me Under pressure I do not make good decisions. Under pressure I get sick which is exactly what happened to me recently...	Maresie888	10	538	Jun 9, 2020 by Maresie888
	Our literature and meditation (Preview) Good morning family. Here's hoping you all have a good day planned for yourself with a determination for having it happened. Mine started out with our literature; ODAT, C2C, HFT and one other from my other program that I came to recognize all held a mutual theme of meditation which is what I have bee...	JerryF	6	322	Jun 8, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today June 7 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about grieving. The writer describes that as a result of growing up in an alcoholic family, he/she rarely cried. In fact, all feelings were shut off and difficult to express in general. One result of going to Alanon was realizing that grieving was not a sign of...	yanksfan51	3	258	Jun 7, 2020 by Iamhere
	I'm back! (Preview) I don't know exactly how long it has been. But I am ready to get my program in order. I am thinking about Betty & how much she affected my life. I need to get back what I feel I have lost. All the horrible things that are happening hurt & are painful I can & will turn my life over to God. I love you all...	Hoot Nanny	5	339	Jun 7, 2020 by yanksfan51
	C2C, June 5 - Step Three, and Who Cares? (Preview) I didn't like the Third Step when I first came into Al-Anon, but I was so desperate that I figured I would just have to go along with whatever the Steps told me. I did not like the idea of turning my will and my life over to anyone or anything, because experience had taught me not to trust most people. No way...	Freetime	6	382	Jun 6, 2020 by Bo
	Conflicted about deciding to leave (Preview) AH has declined considerably since his inheritance and our move to a property he received. I love him deeply but watching him spend daily on alcohol and drugs what could have been put to beneficial gain such as his talk of starting a construction/contracting business is too much for my own mental heal...	Paloma Negra	13	622	Jun 5, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 6/4 (Preview) Good morning MIP family! Today's reading is about Step 2 which is about possibility and hoe. We come to believe that a Power greater than ourselves COULD restore us to sanity. All that's asked is that we open our minds to the possibility that help is available. We don't have to believe that it WILL h...	Iamhere	5	382	Jun 5, 2020 by mamalioness
	Roommate is finally gone (Preview) Finally! The roommate is finally gone. I got her up early on June 1 and we listened to one of our favorite pastor on Facebook and then I made her get up and at it and I helped her pack and get her stuff in the car and she was out of my house by 11:30 AM I could see after the live Facebook that we watched from one of ou...	mamalioness	6	349	Jun 5, 2020 by mamalioness
	Alcohol and affair? (Preview) Not sure if Im in the right place or not. about a year ago I found out that my husband was having an affair. He blamed it on his drinking and a mid life crisis. Hes been in AA, therapy and alcohol free since. He is doing everything possible to make up for what he did but Im still having a very hard time with it....	Gretel	34	1889	Jun 5, 2020 by Bo
	Having a tough day.... (Preview) So our older dog has to go to the vet and the younger dog is crying because she wants to go. Men are here fixing cracked cement. My tooth broke and I have to wait and see what day next week my dentist will do emergencies. We have a huge bee/hornet flying around the kitchen. And my A wants to drive me to the c...	Lyne	11	567	Jun 4, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change June 3 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on one of the diversions alcoholics sometimes use to keep family and friends from interfering with their drinking: creating diversions by accusing or provoking. Often, those who are living with the impact of alcoholism tend to react, to argue, to defend the...	Skorpi	7	674	Jun 4, 2020 by Iamhere
	A different person. (Preview) Do you feel like the recovering alcoholic in your life is back to the old person you knew before? Or that that person is gone for good and now theres a new version? Not a bad version but different? My recovering alcoholic husband just doesnt seem to understand that thats how I view him now. Hes hurt that I f...	Gretel	4	362	Jun 3, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Offering What I Can (Preview) If there's anything I've learned on this recovery journey, it's that an offer of es&h can differ from situation to situation, person to person. I can't assume to know another's feelings and there will be times when I don't think I have anything to offer to someone else. Times when I believe whatev...	tiredtonite	9	454	Jun 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 5/31, our spiritual journey (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/31, discusses how program enables us to explore our hidden motives, secrets, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. Guided by a Power greater than ourselves, we learn to overcome obstacles to our personal growth, such as the effects of alcoholism and a variety of de...	Lyne	3	323	Jun 2, 2020 by Iamhere
	more is being revealed (Preview) Today I realize that I still fall into brief periods of denial.When I am getting along ok with my husband and I am finding small things that I enjoy.If I have a good day,I tell myself that things are not so bad.For a brief time I can close my eyes to some truths about my life and myself.But then when he is bei...	iris52	4	443	Jun 2, 2020 by tiredtonite
	Apology! (Preview) I mistakenly gave the daily on 5/31 instead of 6/1 from C2C. Acknowledged my mistake and promptly admitted it! Happy Monday to all.	Lyne	2	485	Jun 1, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today May 31 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a reflection about the fourth step:made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves The writer describes having lived a life of pursuing perfection. He/she felt that any shortcomings were failures, and brought this belief into the approach of t...	yanksfan51	3	322	May 31, 2020 by Iamhere
	REFLECTION 5/30/20 (Preview) TODAY'S REFLECTION COMES FROM ONE MORE DAY. Quote of the Day: "I expect to pass through life but once. If, therefore, there can be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow human being, let me do it now." --William PennEach night, as we place our heads upon our pillows, we can think...	PosiesandPuppies	2	343	May 31, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Mind...Body...Spirit and emotions (Preview) This was a very rough day for me starting from when I had to work hard to get up from bed and Keep the Shakes from doing massive negative control over my mind, body, spirt and emotions. I never experienced such a trauma and it wasn't because of cool temperatures because we are not having such. I shook l...	JerryF	9	326	May 31, 2020 by Maresie888
	Roommate's meeting got POSTPONED (Preview) I had to REALLY detach and just "do my thing" today as roommates meet with HOPEFULLY her next landlord got postponed....so I am still "wearing her" but I am keeping cordial distance, not engaging her, not inviting another cycle of drama and chaos....shes telling me "i was crying because she had...	mamalioness	2	283	May 30, 2020 by Temple
	C2C, May 29 (Preview) Today's reading focuses on the uselessness of worry and fear. We can catastrophize, turning neutral situations into nightmares. In the past, many of us tried to predict disastrous outcomes as a way of protecting ourselves. But this makes us lose touch with what is happening now, and puts us on co...	Freetime	5	361	May 30, 2020 by iris52
	I Can't Do This On My Own (Preview) The title says it all,that's why I'm back. I have to believe life can be better than this. I have to believe the program works if you work it. I have to believe my higher power will guide me. And I have to believe you all know what you're talking about. That pretty much sums it up.	SunnyFrogs	39	1497	May 29, 2020 by Bo
	Attraction...Not Promotion... (Preview) The below is from Al-Anon World Services Organization...yes, Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters...in Virginia Beach, VA... The "Dear Abby" Newspaper Column for June 2 Will Recommend Al-AnonIn communities where editors choose to publish the recommendation to try Al-Anon, it would be appropr...	Bo	2	404	May 29, 2020 by andromeda
	Courage to Change 5/28 (Preview) Good morning all. Today's reading is all about Step Two - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares a story about rushing on a motorcycle to a meditation class, not wanting to be late. Right in front of the class, the bike dumped the author who wa...	Iamhere	5	363	May 29, 2020 by mamalioness
	Darling dog died on Monday, Q violently drunk on Tuesday. Need to create a web of support. I don't know where to start. (Preview) Hello,I am new to Alanon.My dog died in my arms on Monday. He was my best buddy. I can't believe he is gone.Tuesday, my Q became violently drunk last night. With the help of my sponsor, I am now at my parents apartment and am ok. They are not living here due to COVID... so I'm all by myself. Which is hard in its...	seekingdesphelp	6	2795	May 28, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change April 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects that, after living with the effects of the disease of alcoholism for years, many of us felt that good times would never come again. We may have shut our hearts and minds to joy, happiness, our hopes, and dreams. It seemed too painful to hope. We weren'...	Skorpi	4	287	May 28, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_WEDNESDAY (Preview) "What worries you, masters you."--Haddon W. RobinsonGod, help me to have the strength to set reasonable limits for myselfand to tell others when I cannot help them. Help me learn to say no.--Melody BeattieGod is watching over me, making my path easy.--Alan CohenThe Way To God"Start the Day with Lov...	mamalioness	2	272	May 28, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Language of letting go-May 27 (Preview) Melody Beattie. Talks about choices-we do have choices, more than we let ourselves see when we feel trapped, that is codependency rearing its head. When we hear ourselves say that we have to take care of somebody or we have to try and control that person or we have to behave a certain way or we have to feel...	mamalioness	1	261	May 28, 2020 by sunmustshine
	Courage to Change 5/21 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all. Today's reading talks about the Seventh Step (Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). Simply put, when we take this step, we are asking for help - not begging and not demanding. We don't build ourselves up nor grovel and we are not trying to imp...	Iamhere	6	376	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today May 24 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- I am going to start with the thought for the day and work back into the reading. Todays thought is simple and powerful: Whatever I concentrate on will become central to my life. Where are we putting the focus and energy in our days? This idea is applied more specifically to the...	yanksfan51	8	434	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	C2C, 5/25, denial (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/25, explains how denial is a symptom of the effects of alcoholism. In other words, many of us have been living in chaos, worried about our families, full of self-doubt, spiritually, emotionally, and physically depleted, and yet we would pretend everything was just fine....	Lyne	8	370	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	WOW!!! the truth and a good reputation (Preview) I don't bring my personal crap to work, but I did open up with the off. mgr. of my little Tues. job, the only one I got, and told her my situation...We had become friends and we share stuff with each other Well, after finding hazzardous stuff she just leaves for the dogs to get into, I texted my boss AND the of...	mamalioness	0	269	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_MONDAY_could use some prayer (Preview) trying to type with bad finger and it slow going...its sealing and I think I'll lose feeling on the very top of it, but its going really well, considering the severity of the cut I took care of me by deciding not to work tomorrow because this cyclically passive aggressive roommate cycles between being n...	mamalioness	2	255	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	New - looking for how others handled kids in a situation (Preview) Hi all, I hope this post is ok -I am brand new to the forum and to al-anon, if this violates any rules please remove it. I have a brother who is spiraling (fourth DUI, fired, about to be homeless) who has three young children that live with him (all under 10). His wife is sober, but enables him (my opinion) sh...	mary_n30	12	404	May 26, 2020 by mary_n30
	...my week... (Preview) Had a full week this week... half down on the coast, an half here at home. Stayed at my cousin's in a shipping container- with bed and accoutrements. My cousin doesn't have great boundaries. Her daughter and Sil... are staying over lock-down and beyond in the loft. It was lovely to meet da. for the f...	DavidG	6	512	May 25, 2020 by DavidG
	Self care inventory-Saturday night (Preview) Well the countdown begins: roommate will be leaving by June 3 which is when her rent expires. I do want us to part in peace and goodwill and I think we will so what did I do today to take care of me? food wise I resisted all the junk foods that I normally get into one stressed out and I was tempted every time I go...	mamalioness	2	809	May 24, 2020 by Bo
	Daily Saturday 05/23/20 (Preview) Sorry about the late post, folks! Today's topic is about Enjoyment and is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. She mentions, "Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced." She goes on to say that many of us were raised with the belief that we 'square our shoulders and...	PosiesandPuppies	2	278	May 23, 2020 by Iamhere
	Stressors (Preview) I think it is important at this time to talk about the stressors Mine were: work (always pressure to work more), health (my.health deteriorared badly); displacement (being away from my home); support (i found some new sources of support but I.really need a therapist soon. That is quite a list. Bef...	Maresie888	9	1224	May 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	I am here just sick with my back (Preview) Had another back spasm on Wednesday and it was pretty bad. Yesterday it felt like a little bit better and today seems the same. So I will be laid up with this for a while I guess. I hope I dont have to get a shot. So thats where I have been, eating my muscle relaxers and lying on my heating pad and stretching. Pa...	mamalioness	11	441	May 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	AH doesn't want to be "branded" an alcoholic. umm.... (Preview) During our latest disagreement about life (which started after AH ruined the end of son's birthday, oh joy), it came out that I consider our relationship broken and am considering divorce. AH got all hysterical and long story short, agreed to consider counseling with me. I don't have much hope that t...	Fedora	19	2005	May 23, 2020 by Bo
	Reminder Just for Today (Preview) Just for today: I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today: I will be happy. This assume to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, *Most folks are as happy a...	SerenityRUS	9	517	May 23, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Boundaries ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I am relatively new to Alanon and have been focusing on boundaries with my ABF. I am wondering if some of you can share your boundaries that you have implemented? Thanks!	funandsun	45	1871	May 23, 2020 by SunnyFrogs
	question for 'old timers' delete (Preview) I know there are some 'old timers' here so I have a question for you.Please tell me what life looks like after a long time in the program when you are still living with your alcoholic (drinking or not). Does it feel like a life of your own? Do you really feel fulfilled? Are you living separate lives but in th...	iris52	12	1275	May 22, 2020 by Doingmybest
	Courage to Change 5/22 (Preview) Today's reading is about reaching self-love through trusting in a higher power. The author started out fearful, thinking that a self-inventory would show that they were hopelessly flawed and unworthy. Working on Steps One, Two, and Three they realized that, although powerless over the effects...	Freetime	5	406	May 22, 2020 by Bo
	News by text - support appreciated. (Preview) Hi dear Family, This morning I received a text message from my cousin that my uncle passed. He was my Dad's brother. I ran outside to the mailbox to retrieve my uncle's birthday card before the mailman picked it up. His birthday is in a few days. I grew up on the same block with my cousins and we were over eac...	bud	17	1041	May 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today May 17 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about denial. The writer describes becoming more aware of the magnitude of denial and how many areas of our lives it affects. For those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes, using denial was a way to block pain; unfortunately this also included the unintende...	yanksfan51	5	876	May 20, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change May 20 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares their experience with obsessive thinking. Like alcoholism, obsessive thinking can be too much to handle. For the author, not starting is the best defense against obsessive thinking because, once started, it gains steam and is hard to interrupt. The author no...	Skorpi	3	990	May 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	maybe this is a good thing (Preview) I'm sure some of you roll your eyes when you see my post.What's wrong now?When is she going to finally get it?Well,I feel the same.I am tired of struggling with myself,my problems,my feelings.I'm just plain tired.I keep posting because I think maybe someone is following my struggles and not respond...	iris52	13	1597	May 19, 2020 by Freetime
	Just wanted support from people who get it (Preview) My Ex just texted me that he "Just wanted me to know how angry he was for me leaving him. I thought it was for better or worse." This after he has ghosted me since February. Not that I minded, as we are divorced and I was trying to move on, but trying to be kind and respectful of him. Also, he was paying for our so...	PosiesandPuppies	20	1575	May 19, 2020 by 2HP
	C2C, 5/18-adversity (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/18, speaks about a time when the writer would avoid an argument rather than deal with an unpleasant situation. The results were not goodthey would become irritable and unreasonable as resentment grew. With program, the author has learned to deal with their problems and...	Lyne	4	339	May 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	In Desperate Need of a Sponsor (Preview) I am in crisis. I'm New to ALANON. I need a sponsor. I'm in a horrible situation and my partner is a mess. Can someone help me please? I'm stuck during COVID in a large city. I am overwhelmed with ALANON and don't know where to start. I don't know what to do. Could someone help me? I feel so alone.	seekingdesphelp	7	706	May 18, 2020 by WendyP
	Self care checklist (Preview) Self care checklist Somebody really awesome and bright posted a post like this and I thought I would steal some of it its kind of like a quickie step four so Im going to do my end of the checklist Foodate clean today, no junk food Drink plenty of water I did good today ExerciseI got on my cardio total body w...	mamalioness	0	1209	May 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	The self saboteur strikes again (Preview) im unpacking my lovely new futon with which I am very happy and I am using a serrated knife and I am cutting the plastic off and I sliced off the top corner of my index finger like on the very top right of my left index finger I took a piece of flesh along with putting the nail. And it just gushed blood all over th...	mamalioness	7	1243	May 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 5/14 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about 'Keep Coming Back' and what that can mean for one's recovery! It opens with the thought that Al-Anon is a discipline that requires diligence, patience, and consistency for the best results. All tools - meetings, Steps and practicing the principles to e...	Iamhere	10	1122	May 17, 2020 by Iamhere
	Not feeling heard (Preview) Hi all! Just looking for a venting board. My husband has been sober for almost 6 weeks. (I dont keep track, he just tells me). I know thats brand new in the life of a recovering alcoholic. I am struggling as i feel that not only was he selfish in alcoholism, hes now selfish in recovery. Im not referring to th...	Crmans	16	464	May 16, 2020 by Bo
	Today's Hope 5/16/20 (Preview) The daily is taken from Today's Hope. Daily Quote: "The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world." - Marianne Williamson The author of the reading shares that we are creatures of habit. One piece of evidence they say, is the fact that many of us can get st...	PosiesandPuppies	4	320	May 16, 2020 by mamalioness
	One step forward, two steps back... (Preview) Hi all! Havent been here in a while. Two weeks ago my AH decided to get help and go to medically supervised detox and help from our specialty hospital for addiction and mental health. I didnt push or suggest anything. This was his decision. I (after going through this route last time very unsuccessfull...	Elabella	11	462	May 16, 2020 by Bo
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