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Jack1999 · Jack1999

Hello everyone out there. I am the male spouse dealing with an alcoholic wife. We have 2 children together, 6 and 8, and I have a 12yo from my first marriage. I have been very lucky to have had a good career that allows our family to be ok financially in the midst of the chaos others are facing right now. My wi...

OhLuvya · OhLuvya

Counting today it's been 4 days without alcohol. It's only been since Thursday morning that it was decided that he would seek treatment. I am having a hard time with patience right now. So many questions. Why hasn't he chosen a place yet? Why does he HAVE to wait until Sunday to go to his first meeting? Ho...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Sorry for the late start. Today's Daily comes from June 13 of Courage to Change. "In Step 11 I seek to improve my conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation. How I do this is completely up to me." Don't let the G. 0. D. word throw off some of you newcomers. The reading goes on to say that yes, th...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Posting a bit early, because my morning tomorrow will be a chaotic one In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares about their initial reaction to taking step 8 (Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all). The author had a comprehensive list...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

One thing I never managed to do with the qualifier was to make plans. Every holiday was swallowed up by his need to binge In 8 years you would think I would have twigged that but nope I was always engaged in this eternal struggle with him Recently I went to stay with an alcoholic whose disease has progre...

Freetime · Freetime

The reading for June 12 in Courage to Change is about Step Ten. Continuing to take personal inventory and promptly admitting when we are wrong, allows us to de-clutter unhelpful attitudes from our day. Living one day at a time is not just about freeing ourselves from fear of the future, it is also abou...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I'm posting for tomorrow tonight as I'm out the door early to golf! Tomorrow's reading is about Step 9, especially the part that suggests we don't need to make direct amends to those injured if in doing so we might cause further injury. The author struggled with this part of the stop - wondering how to...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 6/8, is interesting, because the writer says they get a certain amount of pleasure from their defects of character, such as revenge, clinging to pride, and spending lots of time thinking about how to punish others. However, the author admits that the defects get in the way of...

Fedora · Fedora

Hello! Today I had a quiet day, so had some time to reflect on a lot of things. First off, it is my 17th wedding anniversary. Nobody in the house remembered that, since one of the two of us was in a booze induced haze for most of the day, and the other of us only spends time fantasizing about being divorced, or...

andromeda · andromeda

Hey everyone. I'm going to make a long story short. February 28: my son had a weird episode while driving where his BP dropped causing him to nearly black out and the subsequently had a panic attack from this episode. Turns out it was because he was unclear of the doctor's order from 2 days prior where sh...

DavidG · DavidG

Kia ora koutou... greetings y'all... ... I like the way funerals are these days. There is a lot more emotion... and kids and grandkids are encouraged to get up and say what they like. For us local people a funeral takes three or four days. Sometimes one... and our mountain folks- just one day- but 30...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's Daily is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. For this reading, she speaks to the 6th Step of Al-Anon... "Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." She speaks of the long and diligent road to progress by working on the first five Steps. This w...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I always prided myself on being resilient. In fact I was from s background of absolute chaos. Therefore chaos does not phase me. Anything remotely normal does because it is alien for me Under pressure I do not make good decisions. Under pressure I get sick which is exactly what happened to me recently...

JerryF · JerryF

Good morning family. Here's hoping you all have a good day planned for yourself with a determination for having it happened. Mine started out with our literature; ODAT, C2C, HFT and one other from my other program that I came to recognize all held a mutual theme of meditation which is what I have bee...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about grieving. The writer describes that as a result of growing up in an alcoholic family, he/she rarely cried. In fact, all feelings were shut off and difficult to express in general. One result of going to Alanon was realizing that grieving was not a sign of...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I don't know exactly how long it has been. But I am ready to get my program in order. I am thinking about Betty & how much she affected my life. I need to get back what I feel I have lost. All the horrible things that are happening hurt & are painful I can & will turn my life over to God. I love you all...

Freetime · Freetime

I didn't like the Third Step when I first came into Al-Anon, but I was so desperate that I figured I would just have to go along with whatever the Steps told me. I did not like the idea of turning my will and my life over to anyone or anything, because experience had taught me not to trust most people. No way...

Paloma Negra · Paloma Negra

AH has declined considerably since his inheritance and our move to a property he received. I love him deeply but watching him spend daily on alcohol and drugs what could have been put to beneficial gain such as his talk of starting a construction/contracting business is too much for my own mental heal...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family! Today's reading is about Step 2 which is about possibility and hoe. We come to believe that a Power greater than ourselves COULD restore us to sanity. All that's asked is that we open our minds to the possibility that help is available. We don't have to believe that it WILL h...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Finally! The roommate is finally gone. I got her up early on June 1 and we listened to one of our favorite pastor on Facebook and then I made her get up and at it and I helped her pack and get her stuff in the car and she was out of my house by 11:30 AM I could see after the live Facebook that we watched from one of ou...

Gretel · Gretel

Not sure if Im in the right place or not. about a year ago I found out that my husband was having an affair. He blamed it on his drinking and a mid life crisis. Hes been in AA, therapy and alcohol free since. He is doing everything possible to make up for what he did but Im still having a very hard time with it....

Lyne · Lyne

So our older dog has to go to the vet and the younger dog is crying because she wants to go. Men are here fixing cracked cement. My tooth broke and I have to wait and see what day next week my dentist will do emergencies. We have a huge bee/hornet flying around the kitchen. And my A wants to drive me to the c...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on one of the diversions alcoholics sometimes use to keep family and friends from interfering with their drinking: creating diversions by accusing or provoking. Often, those who are living with the impact of alcoholism tend to react, to argue, to defend the...

Gretel · Gretel

Do you feel like the recovering alcoholic in your life is back to the old person you knew before? Or that that person is gone for good and now theres a new version? Not a bad version but different? My recovering alcoholic husband just doesnt seem to understand that thats how I view him now. Hes hurt that I f...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

If there's anything I've learned on this recovery journey, it's that an offer of es&h can differ from situation to situation, person to person. I can't assume to know another's feelings and there will be times when I don't think I have anything to offer to someone else. Times when I believe whatev...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/31, discusses how program enables us to explore our hidden motives, secrets, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. Guided by a Power greater than ourselves, we learn to overcome obstacles to our personal growth, such as the effects of alcoholism and a variety of de...

iris52 · iris52

Today I realize that I still fall into brief periods of denial.When I am getting along ok with my husband and I am finding small things that I enjoy.If I have a good day,I tell myself that things are not so bad.For a brief time I can close my eyes to some truths about my life and myself.But then when he is bei...

Lyne · Lyne

I mistakenly gave the daily on 5/31 instead of 6/1 from C2C. Acknowledged my mistake and promptly admitted it! Happy Monday to all.

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a reflection about the fourth step:made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves The writer describes having lived a life of pursuing perfection. He/she felt that any shortcomings were failures, and brought this belief into the approach of t...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

TODAY'S REFLECTION COMES FROM ONE MORE DAY. Quote of the Day: "I expect to pass through life but once. If, therefore, there can be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow human being, let me do it now." --William PennEach night, as we place our heads upon our pillows, we can think...

JerryF · JerryF

This was a very rough day for me starting from when I had to work hard to get up from bed and Keep the Shakes from doing massive negative control over my mind, body, spirt and emotions. I never experienced such a trauma and it wasn't because of cool temperatures because we are not having such. I shook l...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I had to REALLY detach and just "do my thing" today as roommates meet with HOPEFULLY her next landlord got postponed....so I am still "wearing her" but I am keeping cordial distance, not engaging her, not inviting another cycle of drama and chaos....shes telling me "i was crying because she had...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading focuses on the uselessness of worry and fear. We can catastrophize, turning neutral situations into nightmares. In the past, many of us tried to predict disastrous outcomes as a way of protecting ourselves. But this makes us lose touch with what is happening now, and puts us on co...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

The title says it all,that's why I'm back. I have to believe life can be better than this. I have to believe the program works if you work it. I have to believe my higher power will guide me. And I have to believe you all know what you're talking about. That pretty much sums it up.

Bo · Bo

The below is from Al-Anon World Services Organization...yes, Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters...in Virginia Beach, VA... The "Dear Abby" Newspaper Column for June 2 Will Recommend Al-AnonIn communities where editors choose to publish the recommendation to try Al-Anon, it would be appropr...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning all. Today's reading is all about Step Two - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares a story about rushing on a motorcycle to a meditation class, not wanting to be late. Right in front of the class, the bike dumped the author who wa...

seekingdesphelp · seekingdesphelp

Hello,I am new to Alanon.My dog died in my arms on Monday. He was my best buddy. I can't believe he is gone.Tuesday, my Q became violently drunk last night. With the help of my sponsor, I am now at my parents apartment and am ok. They are not living here due to COVID... so I'm all by myself. Which is hard in its...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects that, after living with the effects of the disease of alcoholism for years, many of us felt that good times would never come again. We may have shut our hearts and minds to joy, happiness, our hopes, and dreams. It seemed too painful to hope. We weren'...

mamalioness · mamalioness

"What worries you, masters you."--Haddon W. RobinsonGod, help me to have the strength to set reasonable limits for myselfand to tell others when I cannot help them. Help me learn to say no.--Melody BeattieGod is watching over me, making my path easy.--Alan CohenThe Way To God"Start the Day with Lov...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Melody Beattie. Talks about choices-we do have choices, more than we let ourselves see when we feel trapped, that is codependency rearing its head. When we hear ourselves say that we have to take care of somebody or we have to try and control that person or we have to behave a certain way or we have to feel...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all. Today's reading talks about the Seventh Step (Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). Simply put, when we take this step, we are asking for help - not begging and not demanding. We don't build ourselves up nor grovel and we are not trying to imp...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- I am going to start with the thought for the day and work back into the reading. Todays thought is simple and powerful: Whatever I concentrate on will become central to my life. Where are we putting the focus and energy in our days? This idea is applied more specifically to the...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/25, explains how denial is a symptom of the effects of alcoholism. In other words, many of us have been living in chaos, worried about our families, full of self-doubt, spiritually, emotionally, and physically depleted, and yet we would pretend everything was just fine....

mamalioness · mamalioness

I don't bring my personal crap to work, but I did open up with the off. mgr. of my little Tues. job, the only one I got, and told her my situation...We had become friends and we share stuff with each other Well, after finding hazzardous stuff she just leaves for the dogs to get into, I texted my boss AND the of...

mamalioness · mamalioness

trying to type with bad finger and it slow going...its sealing and I think I'll lose feeling on the very top of it, but its going really well, considering the severity of the cut I took care of me by deciding not to work tomorrow because this cyclically passive aggressive roommate cycles between being n...

mary_n30 · mary_n30

Hi all, I hope this post is ok -I am brand new to the forum and to al-anon, if this violates any rules please remove it. I have a brother who is spiraling (fourth DUI, fired, about to be homeless) who has three young children that live with him (all under 10). His wife is sober, but enables him (my opinion) sh...

DavidG · DavidG

Had a full week this week... half down on the coast, an half here at home. Stayed at my cousin's in a shipping container- with bed and accoutrements. My cousin doesn't have great boundaries. Her daughter and Sil... are staying over lock-down and beyond in the loft. It was lovely to meet da. for the f...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Well the countdown begins: roommate will be leaving by June 3 which is when her rent expires. I do want us to part in peace and goodwill and I think we will so what did I do today to take care of me? food wise I resisted all the junk foods that I normally get into one stressed out and I was tempted every time I go...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Sorry about the late post, folks! Today's topic is about Enjoyment and is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. She mentions, "Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced." She goes on to say that many of us were raised with the belief that we 'square our shoulders and...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I think it is important at this time to talk about the stressors Mine were: work (always pressure to work more), health (my.health deteriorared badly); displacement (being away from my home); support (i found some new sources of support but I.really need a therapist soon. That is quite a list. Bef...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Had another back spasm on Wednesday and it was pretty bad. Yesterday it felt like a little bit better and today seems the same. So I will be laid up with this for a while I guess. I hope I dont have to get a shot. So thats where I have been, eating my muscle relaxers and lying on my heating pad and stretching. Pa...

Fedora · Fedora

During our latest disagreement about life (which started after AH ruined the end of son's birthday, oh joy), it came out that I consider our relationship broken and am considering divorce. AH got all hysterical and long story short, agreed to consider counseling with me. I don't have much hope that t...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Just for today: I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today: I will be happy. This assume to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, *Most folks are as happy a...

funandsun · funandsun

I am relatively new to Alanon and have been focusing on boundaries with my ABF. I am wondering if some of you can share your boundaries that you have implemented? Thanks!

iris52 · iris52

I know there are some 'old timers' here so I have a question for you.Please tell me what life looks like after a long time in the program when you are still living with your alcoholic (drinking or not). Does it feel like a life of your own? Do you really feel fulfilled? Are you living separate lives but in th...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about reaching self-love through trusting in a higher power. The author started out fearful, thinking that a self-inventory would show that they were hopelessly flawed and unworthy. Working on Steps One, Two, and Three they realized that, although powerless over the effects...

bud · bud

Hi dear Family, This morning I received a text message from my cousin that my uncle passed. He was my Dad's brother. I ran outside to the mailbox to retrieve my uncle's birthday card before the mailman picked it up. His birthday is in a few days. I grew up on the same block with my cousins and we were over eac...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about denial. The writer describes becoming more aware of the magnitude of denial and how many areas of our lives it affects. For those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes, using denial was a way to block pain; unfortunately this also included the unintende...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares their experience with obsessive thinking. Like alcoholism, obsessive thinking can be too much to handle. For the author, not starting is the best defense against obsessive thinking because, once started, it gains steam and is hard to interrupt. The author no...

iris52 · iris52

I'm sure some of you roll your eyes when you see my post.What's wrong now?When is she going to finally get it?Well,I feel the same.I am tired of struggling with myself,my problems,my feelings.I'm just plain tired.I keep posting because I think maybe someone is following my struggles and not respond...

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	Not sure why I waited so long... (Preview) Hello everyone out there. I am the male spouse dealing with an alcoholic wife. We have 2 children together, 6 and 8, and I have a 12yo from my first marriage. I have been very lucky to have had a good career that allows our family to be ok financially in the midst of the chaos others are facing right now. My wi...	Jack1999	7	388	Jun 14, 2020 by Bo
	Frustrated (Preview) Counting today it's been 4 days without alcohol. It's only been since Thursday morning that it was decided that he would seek treatment. I am having a hard time with patience right now. So many questions. Why hasn't he chosen a place yet? Why does he HAVE to wait until Sunday to go to his first meeting? Ho...	OhLuvya	5	303	Jun 14, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change 6/13/20 (Preview) Sorry for the late start. Today's Daily comes from June 13 of Courage to Change. "In Step 11 I seek to improve my conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation. How I do this is completely up to me." Don't let the G. 0. D. word throw off some of you newcomers. The reading goes on to say that yes, th...	PosiesandPuppies	3	282	Jun 14, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change June 10 (Preview) Posting a bit early, because my morning tomorrow will be a chaotic one In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares about their initial reaction to taking step 8 (Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all). The author had a comprehensive list...	Skorpi	5	272	Jun 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	Making plans (Preview) One thing I never managed to do with the qualifier was to make plans. Every holiday was swallowed up by his need to binge In 8 years you would think I would have twigged that but nope I was always engaged in this eternal struggle with him Recently I went to stay with an alcoholic whose disease has progre...	Maresie888	18	508	Jun 12, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change, 6/12 (Preview) The reading for June 12 in Courage to Change is about Step Ten. Continuing to take personal inventory and promptly admitting when we are wrong, allows us to de-clutter unhelpful attitudes from our day. Living one day at a time is not just about freeing ourselves from fear of the future, it is also abou...	Freetime	3	347	Jun 12, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 6/11 (Preview) I'm posting for tomorrow tonight as I'm out the door early to golf! Tomorrow's reading is about Step 9, especially the part that suggests we don't need to make direct amends to those injured if in doing so we might cause further injury. The author struggled with this part of the stop - wondering how to...	Iamhere	4	506	Jun 11, 2020 by JerryF
	C2C, 6/8, character defects (Preview) The reading for Monday, 6/8, is interesting, because the writer says they get a certain amount of pleasure from their defects of character, such as revenge, clinging to pride, and spending lots of time thinking about how to punish others. However, the author admits that the defects get in the way of...	Lyne	4	363	Jun 11, 2020 by Maresie888
	day of reflection (Preview) Hello! Today I had a quiet day, so had some time to reflect on a lot of things. First off, it is my 17th wedding anniversary. Nobody in the house remembered that, since one of the two of us was in a booze induced haze for most of the day, and the other of us only spends time fantasizing about being divorced, or...	Fedora	5	349	Jun 10, 2020 by Maresie888
	Assisting adult children (Preview) Hey everyone. I'm going to make a long story short. February 28: my son had a weird episode while driving where his BP dropped causing him to nearly black out and the subsequently had a panic attack from this episode. Turns out it was because he was unclear of the doctor's order from 2 days prior where sh...	andromeda	16	544	Jun 9, 2020 by Maresie888
	Saying bye bye to an old timer... (Preview) Kia ora koutou... greetings y'all... ... I like the way funerals are these days. There is a lot more emotion... and kids and grandkids are encouraged to get up and say what they like. For us local people a funeral takes three or four days. Sometimes one... and our mountain folks- just one day- but 30...	DavidG	4	353	Jun 9, 2020 by Temple
	Saturday 6/6/20 (Preview) Today's Daily is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. For this reading, she speaks to the 6th Step of Al-Anon... *"Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character."* She speaks of the long and diligent road to progress by working on the first five Steps. This w...	PosiesandPuppies	4	259	Jun 9, 2020 by Maresie888
	Resilience (Preview) I always prided myself on being resilient. In fact I was from s background of absolute chaos. Therefore chaos does not phase me. Anything remotely normal does because it is alien for me Under pressure I do not make good decisions. Under pressure I get sick which is exactly what happened to me recently...	Maresie888	10	567	Jun 9, 2020 by Maresie888
	Our literature and meditation (Preview) Good morning family. Here's hoping you all have a good day planned for yourself with a determination for having it happened. Mine started out with our literature; ODAT, C2C, HFT and one other from my other program that I came to recognize all held a mutual theme of meditation which is what I have bee...	JerryF	6	332	Jun 8, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today June 7 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about grieving. The writer describes that as a result of growing up in an alcoholic family, he/she rarely cried. In fact, all feelings were shut off and difficult to express in general. One result of going to Alanon was realizing that grieving was not a sign of...	yanksfan51	3	263	Jun 7, 2020 by Iamhere
	I'm back! (Preview) I don't know exactly how long it has been. But I am ready to get my program in order. I am thinking about Betty & how much she affected my life. I need to get back what I feel I have lost. All the horrible things that are happening hurt & are painful I can & will turn my life over to God. I love you all...	Hoot Nanny	5	350	Jun 7, 2020 by yanksfan51
	C2C, June 5 - Step Three, and Who Cares? (Preview) I didn't like the Third Step when I first came into Al-Anon, but I was so desperate that I figured I would just have to go along with whatever the Steps told me. I did not like the idea of turning my will and my life over to anyone or anything, because experience had taught me not to trust most people. No way...	Freetime	6	390	Jun 6, 2020 by Bo
	Conflicted about deciding to leave (Preview) AH has declined considerably since his inheritance and our move to a property he received. I love him deeply but watching him spend daily on alcohol and drugs what could have been put to beneficial gain such as his talk of starting a construction/contracting business is too much for my own mental heal...	Paloma Negra	13	626	Jun 5, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 6/4 (Preview) Good morning MIP family! Today's reading is about Step 2 which is about possibility and hoe. We come to believe that a Power greater than ourselves COULD restore us to sanity. All that's asked is that we open our minds to the possibility that help is available. We don't have to believe that it WILL h...	Iamhere	5	386	Jun 5, 2020 by mamalioness
	Roommate is finally gone (Preview) Finally! The roommate is finally gone. I got her up early on June 1 and we listened to one of our favorite pastor on Facebook and then I made her get up and at it and I helped her pack and get her stuff in the car and she was out of my house by 11:30 AM I could see after the live Facebook that we watched from one of ou...	mamalioness	6	354	Jun 5, 2020 by mamalioness
	Alcohol and affair? (Preview) Not sure if Im in the right place or not. about a year ago I found out that my husband was having an affair. He blamed it on his drinking and a mid life crisis. Hes been in AA, therapy and alcohol free since. He is doing everything possible to make up for what he did but Im still having a very hard time with it....	Gretel	34	1965	Jun 5, 2020 by Bo
	Having a tough day.... (Preview) So our older dog has to go to the vet and the younger dog is crying because she wants to go. Men are here fixing cracked cement. My tooth broke and I have to wait and see what day next week my dentist will do emergencies. We have a huge bee/hornet flying around the kitchen. And my A wants to drive me to the c...	Lyne	11	577	Jun 4, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change June 3 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on one of the diversions alcoholics sometimes use to keep family and friends from interfering with their drinking: creating diversions by accusing or provoking. Often, those who are living with the impact of alcoholism tend to react, to argue, to defend the...	Skorpi	7	707	Jun 4, 2020 by Iamhere
	A different person. (Preview) Do you feel like the recovering alcoholic in your life is back to the old person you knew before? Or that that person is gone for good and now theres a new version? Not a bad version but different? My recovering alcoholic husband just doesnt seem to understand that thats how I view him now. Hes hurt that I f...	Gretel	4	367	Jun 3, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Offering What I Can (Preview) If there's anything I've learned on this recovery journey, it's that an offer of es&h can differ from situation to situation, person to person. I can't assume to know another's feelings and there will be times when I don't think I have anything to offer to someone else. Times when I believe whatev...	tiredtonite	9	462	Jun 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 5/31, our spiritual journey (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/31, discusses how program enables us to explore our hidden motives, secrets, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. Guided by a Power greater than ourselves, we learn to overcome obstacles to our personal growth, such as the effects of alcoholism and a variety of de...	Lyne	3	331	Jun 2, 2020 by Iamhere
	more is being revealed (Preview) Today I realize that I still fall into brief periods of denial.When I am getting along ok with my husband and I am finding small things that I enjoy.If I have a good day,I tell myself that things are not so bad.For a brief time I can close my eyes to some truths about my life and myself.But then when he is bei...	iris52	4	449	Jun 2, 2020 by tiredtonite
	Apology! (Preview) I mistakenly gave the daily on 5/31 instead of 6/1 from C2C. Acknowledged my mistake and promptly admitted it! Happy Monday to all.	Lyne	2	491	Jun 1, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today May 31 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a reflection about the fourth step:made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves The writer describes having lived a life of pursuing perfection. He/she felt that any shortcomings were failures, and brought this belief into the approach of t...	yanksfan51	3	352	May 31, 2020 by Iamhere
	REFLECTION 5/30/20 (Preview) TODAY'S REFLECTION COMES FROM ONE MORE DAY. Quote of the Day: "I expect to pass through life but once. If, therefore, there can be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow human being, let me do it now." --William PennEach night, as we place our heads upon our pillows, we can think...	PosiesandPuppies	2	365	May 31, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Mind...Body...Spirit and emotions (Preview) This was a very rough day for me starting from when I had to work hard to get up from bed and Keep the Shakes from doing massive negative control over my mind, body, spirt and emotions. I never experienced such a trauma and it wasn't because of cool temperatures because we are not having such. I shook l...	JerryF	9	332	May 31, 2020 by Maresie888
	Roommate's meeting got POSTPONED (Preview) I had to REALLY detach and just "do my thing" today as roommates meet with HOPEFULLY her next landlord got postponed....so I am still "wearing her" but I am keeping cordial distance, not engaging her, not inviting another cycle of drama and chaos....shes telling me "i was crying because she had...	mamalioness	2	284	May 30, 2020 by Temple
	C2C, May 29 (Preview) Today's reading focuses on the uselessness of worry and fear. We can catastrophize, turning neutral situations into nightmares. In the past, many of us tried to predict disastrous outcomes as a way of protecting ourselves. But this makes us lose touch with what is happening now, and puts us on co...	Freetime	5	382	May 30, 2020 by iris52
	I Can't Do This On My Own (Preview) The title says it all,that's why I'm back. I have to believe life can be better than this. I have to believe the program works if you work it. I have to believe my higher power will guide me. And I have to believe you all know what you're talking about. That pretty much sums it up.	SunnyFrogs	39	1525	May 29, 2020 by Bo
	Attraction...Not Promotion... (Preview) The below is from Al-Anon World Services Organization...yes, Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters...in Virginia Beach, VA... The "Dear Abby" Newspaper Column for June 2 Will Recommend Al-AnonIn communities where editors choose to publish the recommendation to try Al-Anon, it would be appropr...	Bo	2	413	May 29, 2020 by andromeda
	Courage to Change 5/28 (Preview) Good morning all. Today's reading is all about Step Two - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares a story about rushing on a motorcycle to a meditation class, not wanting to be late. Right in front of the class, the bike dumped the author who wa...	Iamhere	5	369	May 29, 2020 by mamalioness
	Darling dog died on Monday, Q violently drunk on Tuesday. Need to create a web of support. I don't know where to start. (Preview) Hello,I am new to Alanon.My dog died in my arms on Monday. He was my best buddy. I can't believe he is gone.Tuesday, my Q became violently drunk last night. With the help of my sponsor, I am now at my parents apartment and am ok. They are not living here due to COVID... so I'm all by myself. Which is hard in its...	seekingdesphelp	6	2881	May 28, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change April 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects that, after living with the effects of the disease of alcoholism for years, many of us felt that good times would never come again. We may have shut our hearts and minds to joy, happiness, our hopes, and dreams. It seemed too painful to hope. We weren'...	Skorpi	4	326	May 28, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_WEDNESDAY (Preview) "What worries you, masters you."--Haddon W. RobinsonGod, help me to have the strength to set reasonable limits for myselfand to tell others when I cannot help them. Help me learn to say no.--Melody BeattieGod is watching over me, making my path easy.--Alan CohenThe Way To God"Start the Day with Lov...	mamalioness	2	276	May 28, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Language of letting go-May 27 (Preview) Melody Beattie. Talks about choices-we do have choices, more than we let ourselves see when we feel trapped, that is codependency rearing its head. When we hear ourselves say that we have to take care of somebody or we have to try and control that person or we have to behave a certain way or we have to feel...	mamalioness	1	284	May 28, 2020 by sunmustshine
	Courage to Change 5/21 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all. Today's reading talks about the Seventh Step (Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). Simply put, when we take this step, we are asking for help - not begging and not demanding. We don't build ourselves up nor grovel and we are not trying to imp...	Iamhere	6	414	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today May 24 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- I am going to start with the thought for the day and work back into the reading. Todays thought is simple and powerful: Whatever I concentrate on will become central to my life. Where are we putting the focus and energy in our days? This idea is applied more specifically to the...	yanksfan51	8	459	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	C2C, 5/25, denial (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/25, explains how denial is a symptom of the effects of alcoholism. In other words, many of us have been living in chaos, worried about our families, full of self-doubt, spiritually, emotionally, and physically depleted, and yet we would pretend everything was just fine....	Lyne	8	381	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	WOW!!! the truth and a good reputation (Preview) I don't bring my personal crap to work, but I did open up with the off. mgr. of my little Tues. job, the only one I got, and told her my situation...We had become friends and we share stuff with each other Well, after finding hazzardous stuff she just leaves for the dogs to get into, I texted my boss AND the of...	mamalioness	0	302	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_MONDAY_could use some prayer (Preview) trying to type with bad finger and it slow going...its sealing and I think I'll lose feeling on the very top of it, but its going really well, considering the severity of the cut I took care of me by deciding not to work tomorrow because this cyclically passive aggressive roommate cycles between being n...	mamalioness	2	260	May 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	New - looking for how others handled kids in a situation (Preview) Hi all, I hope this post is ok -I am brand new to the forum and to al-anon, if this violates any rules please remove it. I have a brother who is spiraling (fourth DUI, fired, about to be homeless) who has three young children that live with him (all under 10). His wife is sober, but enables him (my opinion) sh...	mary_n30	12	412	May 26, 2020 by mary_n30
	...my week... (Preview) Had a full week this week... half down on the coast, an half here at home. Stayed at my cousin's in a shipping container- with bed and accoutrements. My cousin doesn't have great boundaries. Her daughter and Sil... are staying over lock-down and beyond in the loft. It was lovely to meet da. for the f...	DavidG	6	521	May 25, 2020 by DavidG
	Self care inventory-Saturday night (Preview) Well the countdown begins: roommate will be leaving by June 3 which is when her rent expires. I do want us to part in peace and goodwill and I think we will so what did I do today to take care of me? food wise I resisted all the junk foods that I normally get into one stressed out and I was tempted every time I go...	mamalioness	2	837	May 24, 2020 by Bo
	Daily Saturday 05/23/20 (Preview) Sorry about the late post, folks! Today's topic is about Enjoyment and is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. She mentions, "Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced." She goes on to say that many of us were raised with the belief that we 'square our shoulders and...	PosiesandPuppies	2	292	May 23, 2020 by Iamhere
	Stressors (Preview) I think it is important at this time to talk about the stressors Mine were: work (always pressure to work more), health (my.health deteriorared badly); displacement (being away from my home); support (i found some new sources of support but I.really need a therapist soon. That is quite a list. Bef...	Maresie888	9	1273	May 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	I am here just sick with my back (Preview) Had another back spasm on Wednesday and it was pretty bad. Yesterday it felt like a little bit better and today seems the same. So I will be laid up with this for a while I guess. I hope I dont have to get a shot. So thats where I have been, eating my muscle relaxers and lying on my heating pad and stretching. Pa...	mamalioness	11	449	May 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	AH doesn't want to be "branded" an alcoholic. umm.... (Preview) During our latest disagreement about life (which started after AH ruined the end of son's birthday, oh joy), it came out that I consider our relationship broken and am considering divorce. AH got all hysterical and long story short, agreed to consider counseling with me. I don't have much hope that t...	Fedora	19	2061	May 23, 2020 by Bo
	Reminder Just for Today (Preview) Just for today: I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today: I will be happy. This assume to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, *Most folks are as happy a...	SerenityRUS	9	572	May 23, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Boundaries ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I am relatively new to Alanon and have been focusing on boundaries with my ABF. I am wondering if some of you can share your boundaries that you have implemented? Thanks!	funandsun	45	1893	May 23, 2020 by SunnyFrogs
	question for 'old timers' delete (Preview) I know there are some 'old timers' here so I have a question for you.Please tell me what life looks like after a long time in the program when you are still living with your alcoholic (drinking or not). Does it feel like a life of your own? Do you really feel fulfilled? Are you living separate lives but in th...	iris52	12	1303	May 22, 2020 by Doingmybest
	Courage to Change 5/22 (Preview) Today's reading is about reaching self-love through trusting in a higher power. The author started out fearful, thinking that a self-inventory would show that they were hopelessly flawed and unworthy. Working on Steps One, Two, and Three they realized that, although powerless over the effects...	Freetime	5	415	May 22, 2020 by Bo
	News by text - support appreciated. (Preview) Hi dear Family, This morning I received a text message from my cousin that my uncle passed. He was my Dad's brother. I ran outside to the mailbox to retrieve my uncle's birthday card before the mailman picked it up. His birthday is in a few days. I grew up on the same block with my cousins and we were over eac...	bud	17	1073	May 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today May 17 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about denial. The writer describes becoming more aware of the magnitude of denial and how many areas of our lives it affects. For those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes, using denial was a way to block pain; unfortunately this also included the unintende...	yanksfan51	5	904	May 20, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change May 20 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares their experience with obsessive thinking. Like alcoholism, obsessive thinking can be too much to handle. For the author, not starting is the best defense against obsessive thinking because, once started, it gains steam and is hard to interrupt. The author no...	Skorpi	3	1037	May 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	maybe this is a good thing (Preview) I'm sure some of you roll your eyes when you see my post.What's wrong now?When is she going to finally get it?Well,I feel the same.I am tired of struggling with myself,my problems,my feelings.I'm just plain tired.I keep posting because I think maybe someone is following my struggles and not respond...	iris52	13	1646	May 19, 2020 by Freetime
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