Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading suggests that in order to recover, heal and find real peace/serenity, we must practice total honesty. Living with alcoholics, many of us coped with an ever-shifting situation in which our sense of reality changed from moment to moment. We often adapted by taki...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

On Tuesday night, I went to one of my home groups. They are still meeting online and a few of the members were waffling about re-opening, having in person metings, they think they should wait, have a little patience, etc etc etc. Personally, I'm an in-person kind of guy and I think they should re-open, j...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading that author reflects on a childhood memory - climbing trees to better observe a nest of baby bird, wondering what it must feel like to fly. Today, our author still has deeply spiritual feelings in nature, and the author believes it is likely because nature surrounds us w...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

If you live in The United States of America, it is our Independence Day. A Holiday... a time to Celebrate. If you do not live here, you can still contemplate the idea of CELEBRATION. Paraphrasing from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie: Take time to celebrate. Celebrate your success, your g...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Last night I.met a co.aorker who has a relationship.with his ex wife thst is cery similar to the one I.had with ny qualifier. His health is falling apart, he has stents in his heart, hugh chilesterol, high blood presure. Moreiver he tirned up for work on the wrong day. He does not even kniw what day it i...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/6, talks about that it is in giving that we receive. Instead of questioning what life is giving us, we might benefit more by asking what we ourselves can give. When we reach out to help others in a healthy way, we can move beyond our problems and create an opportunity to change...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I live in Canada. Today is our nations birthday so it's a holiday, right. No rest for the wicked or the weary. It's just another working day for me. Oh well, they pay me by the hour and I like money. I would like to be home today because there's a family group meeting at my place tonight. Like most places, the...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of tradition 7, and the idea of groups being self-supporting. The writer describes first interpreting this as monetary support, that no Alanon groups should be accepting outside donations. After some time the writer realized that it isnt necessa...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Faith isn't faith until it's all you're holding on to.--unknownWho dares to teach must never cease to learn.--John Cotton DanaI have lived in this world just long enough to look carefully the secondtime into things that I am most certain of the first time.--Josh BillingsA lot of growing up takes pla...

dragonfly04 · dragonfly04

This Sunday was pick up of my boyfriend's kids for 30 days. It's been one day and drama already. The 2 children are under 10 years old and the ex-wife bought them phones and sent them with them. She has been calling and texting them like crazy. She asks them questions about everything else but how they are...

NSANMOM24 · NSANMOM24

Hello! I have been looking for support in dealing with my brother's alcoholism. He and I were never close until about a year and a half ago. I was going through a rough time, reached out to him and found out he was going through hell. He has a history of problems with alcohol (I never knew) but had been...

Freetime · Freetime

The author's home Al-Anon group had a standard way of welcoming newcomers, that they had used for many years. One night, the chairperson departed from the usual script. The author was greatly disturbed by this change, and spent the rest of the meeting worrying about the newcomers. What if they di...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Thursday MIP! Sorry for the later than usual post - I took off to golf thinking it was Wednesday...all my days are so similar - ha! Today's reading suggests that Al-Anon helps many of us to identify and change self-destructive behavior. The author mentions procrastination which caused her a...

JerryF · JerryF

for a few days that is as another portion of my life changes and most likely looks like an end. I find out that a possible solution to one of my wife's fears is that we plan and I pack up to go back home to Hawaii. I have to be a different person doing "it" her way or else. Not feeling anything for the moment b...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

This weekend I got a text message from a colleague of mine. I most certainly did not give him my number I gave him a non commital answer to his request to helo him. Then he texted another few times with this sense of entitlement I am one of those people who is #helpful# Now I.am thinking I need not to be s...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... in any group I really like to see feedback. So, the way to get feedback is easy-peasy... I just give it. ... My local meeting now has a zoom meeting- and the numbers have grown. So I found out that there is another member in my home town- a seasoned member from Sydney. I am in no big hurry...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, that author reflects on time spent feeling badly about who we are or what we have done. In the author's opinion, many of us have spent too much time on these thoughts. Perhaps harsh criticism by others or lost perspective has caused us to be overly hard on ourselv...

Fedora · Fedora

My AH and his mom apparently got into things (via texting) last night. I managed to stay out of it by feigning sleepiness when AH tried to wake me up after only 4 hrs of sleep. My MIL and I get along well; I think we respect each other even though we live at completely opposite ends of the political spectrum...

aivile · aivile

Hello everyone, I very much need some help. I am struggling to cope, on the receiving end. I am 41, female and had to leave my marriage four Years ago as my husband did not manage to recover from cocaine addiction. I felt seriously let down. After I managed to get free of the mental anguish that that relati...

mamalioness · mamalioness

ONCE is a mistake..human frailty TWICE is a pattern...... I was going to go visit Linda today as its been a couple of day, with work and sorting out my charities and what projects I am doing...Like doing LIFE...one man show taking care of this house....still having to mow some of the yard because the gr...

Crmans · Crmans

Things have peaked to al time low. Last night ended with my AH saying he was done with the marriage. Hes been sober 3 months & his meanness is out of control. I was sobbing begging him not to walk away & talk to me. I said I deserved better than this. He said he had nothing to say to me & he went to be...

Lyne · Lyne

I found the reading for Monday, 6/29, rather interesting. The writer said that both the alcoholic and the alanon person share a common enemy: self-deception. It was said that both people describe different scenarios, each responds differently to what is happening, and neither can see the situ...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everybody: Todays reading is about expectations and unrealistic demands. The writer describes how pre-program he/she spent so much of life having expectations and making demands of everyone. All who fell short were judged harshly, especially the writer him/herself! Coming to Al...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Set others free to achieve and experience the path that leads to theirhighest good and you, too, will become free to find yours.--Melody BeattieLearn a lesson from the redwoods. Let them teach the power ofpatience and calm. Life goes on. Things happen. People change.Times move along. There are sto...

mamalioness · mamalioness

mamalioness wrote: However many holy words you read, However many you speak,What good will they do you, If you do not act upon them?--Buddha ****Action always means more to me then words, unless the speaker has shown me with consistent good fruit that I can trust their wordIf you love somebody, let t...

MCB1970 · MCB1970

This is not how the story is supposed to go: normally the non-drinking spouse in a relationship gets fed up with their partner's drinking and ends the marriage. But my alcoholic wife of 24 years has initiated a divorce from me, despite my years of support as she entered recovery and frequently relapse...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to my Alanon Family, I haven't shared for awhile, as I have been stuck, and doing a lot of Heart searching. I have to be honest, as I was debating whether to share my story with you, as I don't want to keep rehashing it all, but I decided that if what I share can help someone else do it, a different way than w...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon is short but powerful. It explains the meaning of the spiritual awakening mentioned in Step Twelve. The spiritual awakening is a realization that we are not alone and helpless; we have learned certain truths which we are now able to carry on to others in or...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 6/22, discusses the need to bring the focus back on ourselves, and being able to look at the words we are using. Additionally, blaming others gives them power over us, and our power should belong to us, not others. With a change in attitude, we can speak in a more straightforwa...

flower19 · flower19

I have been blessed with a gift by my higher power and I should be happy and apart of me is. However apart of me feels like I dont deserve it. Is this me feeding my need to constantly be the victim in order to stay where im at and not do the soul work. That hurts so much but the outcome is very much beautiful. For t...

mamalioness · mamalioness

All I did this am was remind boss to sign my check because he HAS forgotten me and has left office.....he got pi***d at me and accused me "you don't even say hello to me and you remind me to sign your check, and it IRRITATES me" and this was LOUD and ANGRY coming from him...NOT kind at all I stood up from my...

mamalioness · mamalioness

It's what you learn after you know it all that counts.--John Wooden"Never answer an angry word with an angry word. It's the second onethat makes the quarrel."--W.A. NanceDon't argue for other people's weaknesses. Don't argue for your own.When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn fro...

mamalioness · mamalioness

God, today I give you all of the guilt from my past. Take it from me,and allow me to begin fresh right now. Help me make the amends Ineed to make, then let my guilt go.--Melody Beattie"Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it foregoesrevenge, and dares forgive an injury."-- E. H. ChapinThe vi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Has anyone heard from Cathy recently? I was thinking about her for some reason today. Thanks.

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's daily is about Step Six- becoming ready for God to remove our defects of character -- described as 'those roadblocks that keep me stranded, unable to freely travel life's magnificent boulevard.' The quote truly sums things up splendidly - "God seldom delivers . . . virtues all wrapped in a...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is a fable about a farmer who found a magic flute. The farmer hoped that, by playing the flute all day, he could get his chickens to lay more eggs. At the end of the day, the chickens had laid no more eggs than usual. Someone asked the farmer if they had any success with the m...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Remember how we'd talk every night at bedtime? I miss that.--GodIf you think clothes make no difference, try walking down the streetwithout any.--unknown"The greatest treasures of your life are associated with the peopleyou love and who love you in return."--Brian TracyHalf the failures of thi...

Stephylou · Stephylou

Hi Everyone, I guess I will start by summarizing my situation. I am 24 and just graduated with a masters degree. I left the house when I was 17 years old and have financially supported myself since. I currently live 4 hours away from my mother and my home town. My mother has always drank. Throughout my ch...

mamalioness · mamalioness

BODY_working tomorrow and Friday so extra rest..workouts at home, easy does it, Keep it simple will be key...eating clean...no processed foods, no eating out, clean, simple foods..lots of fruits, rice, spinache and tomatoe in my power shakes with the fruits...treating my eye with salt water...

mamalioness · mamalioness

As you walk down the fairway of life you must smell the roses, for youonly get to play one round.--Ben Hogan"Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul areinfinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you."--Oscar WildeWhen you get into a tight place and everything goes a...

SDTerrence · SDTerrence

Hey there, hoping to get some helpful feedback around how to approach my sister considering the circumstances described below. Usually, I'd ask my older brother, who has 15+ years sobriety, but I don't want to compromise what my sister shares in confidence to me. Appreciate anyone with helpful rec...

mamalioness · mamalioness

BODY___well after being sick Jan-Feb with what I suspect was Covid--not sure, but I sorta suspect...THEN I get roommate and a severe back spasm that puts me down for 4 days...THEN I cut the crap out of my left index finger and it STILL is not 100%...damage was deep...I get pain, still if using it too much...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am posting early, as I have to take one of my kitties to the vet Sat. morning. June 20th's reading talks about FEAR. How we have developed ways to deal with fear, even some that still hang around even though circumstances may have changed. It speaks of REACTING. It defines reacting as not responding bu...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princess I'm very busy." He wasn't really busy, he was drinking. Next day the young girl asked her daddy if they could go to the circus like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princes...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about step 10; the importance of continually taking personal inventory and admitting our wrongs. The writer describes that while we neednt dwell on imperfections as we are human beings who make mistakes, we also do not have to feel guilt or shame in connecti...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I know, I haven't been here in a while. I been busy. I'm back to work now, been back since the first of June. I was enjoying my 3 month paid vacation, but as we all know, be it pleasant or painful, this too shall pass. And, it did. I also came to terms with the online meetings. I didn't like the app but really it w...

Crmans · Crmans

Hi family. Im failing. Big time. My anger is at an all time high & I cannot contain it. Our fights have become awful. I have said everything I have felt over the past few years. Im failing at the dont say it mean. I am so hurt. Noticing moves him at all. Im losing my sanity. I dont feel like I matter or that I...

Aloha · Aloha

I had an a-ha moment the other day where I was finally able to recognize attempted manipulation. An old acquaintance of mine has decided they want to get in touch with me. This is someone whom I really don't care for and I'm honestly not interested in re-kindling a relationship of any kind with them. The...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in Hope for Today touches on Step Eight. The author found it difficult to think about visiting the grave-site of alcoholic parents, in order to make amends. A sponsor suggested that the author did not have to make amends yet -- they just had to become willing. Thinking about willi...

JerryF · JerryF

After all of the reading here which has caused me to thing and meditate the program and my relationship with my Higher Power I get to practice it again and say..."this works when I work it". I was on the TV watching what I learn from and my spouse was on the phone with a program help. When she is done she com...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting for tomorrow! The reading discusses envy - suggesting that when most of us arrive at Al-Anon, we often resent others whose lives appear less troubled, envying what we think they have. In time, we do discover that each of us is special, with unique skills, interests and opportunities. We l...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Body: did a hell of a workout in the pool with weights and running in the 3.6' of water end, running heaven knows how many laps, the alternating it with swimming, etc., AFTER at home doing abs and arms on my home equip....eating clean...not pigging out so much, (didn't see anything about my weight, bu...

Twinkies · Twinkies

AH, like many alcoholics I assume, has patterns to his drinking. I have been able to recognize those patterns for a while now even though he still seems oblivious to them. The patterns are likely recognizable to most of you though. Its the anxious or frustrated and must have a drink to cope pattern. Its...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I have had it up to the ceiling with the oroblems related to the oandemic Some people like my former roommate seem to be doing okay with it He gets to work from home I feel like it is a long uphill struggle every day. I know people who have got real depressed from the isolation I have had other issues to th...

mamalioness · mamalioness

it has taken me TWO weeks to fix up the former roommate messed up..had to take SAND paper and clean my stove burner metal thingys to clean them back up.....Lord have mercy!!!! I repaired the 2 beds she collapsed..tested them and they are A-ok...a little handy girl work on my part and I am finally tidied...

DavidG · DavidG

I Feel like I am on a first name terms with Lois. For her- as she was I am one of 100,000's... she was a mother figure for me- in my mind for- years. Now more like a grandma... ...this year my goal was to pursue step 12 and Tradition 5. Sadly the group I was going to down the road to has folded. :( I tried t...

dragonfly04 · dragonfly04

Today has been a rough day. I had a zoom meeting that was to last an hour long. I had to log out half way and say my internet was not working because in the middle of my zoom meeting the alcoholic in my life through a fit. I was embarrassed and just disconnected. I got very upset but held it in. After about 20 min...

freedomssong · freedomssong

Wanted some advise...I'm working on setting boundaries, which is a super challenge as an ACOA whose husband is actively overdrinker/alcoholic. In the past, when I went grocery shopping I always bought him some of his drink of choice and some wine for me. I've decided to stop buying the wine, as I gene...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

How do I really, truly believe a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity? I want to believe that,I really do,but I simply don't. I want to be restored to sanity but I don't believe I will be. Do I blindly trust? Is it about faith? Do I have to fully believe and trust that I will be before it's ev...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Every alcoholic I have ever known tells lies. I have always been really affected by their lies. I would believe them, then I would get angry about them. Then I would spend a lot of time obsesing about what they needed to do. That is because really I made them so so important in my life. Then i would get de...

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	Courage to Change 7/9 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading suggests that in order to recover, heal and find real peace/serenity, we must practice total honesty. Living with alcoholics, many of us coped with an ever-shifting situation in which our sense of reality changed from moment to moment. We often adapted by taki...	Iamhere	5	381	Jul 10, 2020 by Maresie888
	If You Want God to Laugh, Tell Him Your Plans (Preview) On Tuesday night, I went to one of my home groups. They are still meeting online and a few of the members were waffling about re-opening, having in person metings, they think they should wait, have a little patience, etc etc etc. Personally, I'm an in-person kind of guy and I think they should re-open, j...	Wolfie55	1	405	Jul 9, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change July 8 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading that author reflects on a childhood memory - climbing trees to better observe a nest of baby bird, wondering what it must feel like to fly. Today, our author still has deeply spiritual feelings in nature, and the author believes it is likely because nature surrounds us w...	Skorpi	5	437	Jul 8, 2020 by DavidG
	Saturday 7/4/2020 (Preview) If you live in The United States of America, it is our Independence Day. A Holiday... a time to Celebrate. If you do not live here, you can still contemplate the idea of CELEBRATION. Paraphrasing from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie: Take time to celebrate. Celebrate your success, your g...	PosiesandPuppies	4	464	Jul 7, 2020 by DavidG
	Another view point (Preview) Last night I.met a co.aorker who has a relationship.with his ex wife thst is cery similar to the one I.had with ny qualifier. His health is falling apart, he has stents in his heart, hugh chilesterol, high blood presure. Moreiver he tirned up for work on the wrong day. He does not even kniw what day it i...	Maresie888	6	525	Jul 7, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 7/6, a way to change ourselves (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/6, talks about that it is in giving that we receive. Instead of questioning what life is giving us, we might benefit more by asking what we ourselves can give. When we reach out to help others in a healthy way, we can move beyond our problems and create an opportunity to change...	Lyne	2	441	Jul 6, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	The Meeting You Miss Might Be The One You Need (Preview) I live in Canada. Today is our nations birthday so it's a holiday, right. No rest for the wicked or the weary. It's just another working day for me. Oh well, they pay me by the hour and I like money. I would like to be home today because there's a family group meeting at my place tonight. Like most places, the...	Wolfie55	11	511	Jul 6, 2020 by 2HP
	Hope for Today July 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of tradition 7, and the idea of groups being self-supporting. The writer describes first interpreting this as monetary support, that no Alanon groups should be accepting outside donations. After some time the writer realized that it isnt necessa...	yanksfan51	3	427	Jul 5, 2020 by Iamhere
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_SATURDAY (Preview) Faith isn't faith until it's all you're holding on to.--unknownWho dares to teach must never cease to learn.--John Cotton DanaI have lived in this world just long enough to look carefully the secondtime into things that I am most certain of the first time.--Josh BillingsA lot of growing up takes pla...	mamalioness	2	361	Jul 4, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Dealing with the alcoholics in my life (Preview) This Sunday was pick up of my boyfriend's kids for 30 days. It's been one day and drama already. The 2 children are under 10 years old and the ex-wife bought them phones and sent them with them. She has been calling and texting them like crazy. She asks them questions about everything else but how they are...	dragonfly04	13	485	Jul 4, 2020 by Iamhere
	New here : What can I do, how can I help best... (Preview) Hello! I have been looking for support in dealing with my brother's alcoholism. He and I were never close until about a year and a half ago. I was going through a rough time, reached out to him and found out he was going through hell. He has a history of problems with alcohol (I never knew) but had been...	NSANMOM24	6	561	Jul 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 7/3 (Preview) The author's home Al-Anon group had a standard way of welcoming newcomers, that they had used for many years. One night, the chairperson departed from the usual script. The author was greatly disturbed by this change, and spent the rest of the meeting worrying about the newcomers. What if they di...	Freetime	4	444	Jul 3, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 7/2 (Preview) Happy Thursday MIP! Sorry for the later than usual post - I took off to golf thinking it was Wednesday...all my days are so similar - ha! Today's reading suggests that Al-Anon helps many of us to identify and change self-destructive behavior. The author mentions procrastination which caused her a...	Iamhere	2	485	Jul 3, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Going quiet for a while... (Preview) for a few days that is as another portion of my life changes and most likely looks like an end. I find out that a possible solution to one of my wife's fears is that we plan and I pack up to go back home to Hawaii. I have to be a different person doing "it" her way or else. Not feeling anything for the moment b...	JerryF	12	554	Jul 3, 2020 by Bettertomorrow
	Being helpful (Preview) This weekend I got a text message from a colleague of mine. I most certainly did not give him my number I gave him a non commital answer to his request to helo him. Then he texted another few times with this sense of entitlement I am one of those people who is #helpful# Now I.am thinking I need not to be s...	Maresie888	20	668	Jul 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	Update- just a quiet share... (Preview) Hi y'all... in any group I really like to see feedback. So, the way to get feedback is easy-peasy... I just give it. ... My local meeting now has a zoom meeting- and the numbers have grown. So I found out that there is another member in my home town- a seasoned member from Sydney. I am in no big hurry...	DavidG	2	392	Jul 2, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change July 1 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, that author reflects on time spent feeling badly about who we are or what we have done. In the author's opinion, many of us have spent too much time on these thoughts. Perhaps harsh criticism by others or lost perspective has caused us to be overly hard on ourselv...	Skorpi	4	403	Jul 1, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Wishing I could invite my MIL to AlAnon but .... (Preview) My AH and his mom apparently got into things (via texting) last night. I managed to stay out of it by feigning sleepiness when AH tried to wake me up after only 4 hrs of sleep. My MIL and I get along well; I think we respect each other even though we live at completely opposite ends of the political spectrum...	Fedora	5	546	Jun 30, 2020 by Bo
	I fly into a rage with my alcoholic partner. How can I stop? angry abusive lies stealing frustration alcoholic addiction fighting (Preview) Hello everyone, I very much need some help. I am struggling to cope, on the receiving end. I am 41, female and had to leave my marriage four Years ago as my husband did not manage to recover from cocaine addiction. I felt seriously let down. After I managed to get free of the mental anguish that that relati...	aivile	11	3537	Jun 30, 2020 by Jen61
	ONCE is human/imperfection__TWICE is a pattern (Preview) ONCE is a mistake..human frailty TWICE is a pattern...... I was going to go visit Linda today as its been a couple of day, with work and sorting out my charities and what projects I am doing...Like doing LIFE...one man show taking care of this house....still having to mow some of the yard because the gr...	mamalioness	0	395	Jun 29, 2020 by mamalioness
	Support needed (Preview) Things have peaked to al time low. Last night ended with my AH saying he was done with the marriage. Hes been sober 3 months & his meanness is out of control. I was sobbing begging him not to walk away & talk to me. I said I deserved better than this. He said he had nothing to say to me & he went to be...	Crmans	6	482	Jun 29, 2020 by Maresie888
	ODAT in alanon, 6/29 (Preview) I found the reading for Monday, 6/29, rather interesting. The writer said that both the alcoholic and the alanon person share a common enemy: self-deception. It was said that both people describe different scenarios, each responds differently to what is happening, and neither can see the situ...	Lyne	3	427	Jun 29, 2020 by Iamhere
	HFT June 28 (Preview) Good morning everybody: Todays reading is about expectations and unrealistic demands. The writer describes how pre-program he/she spent so much of life having expectations and making demands of everyone. All who fell short were judged harshly, especially the writer him/herself! Coming to Al...	yanksfan51	3	526	Jun 28, 2020 by DavidG
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_SATURDAY (Preview) Set others free to achieve and experience the path that leads to theirhighest good and you, too, will become free to find yours.--Melody BeattieLearn a lesson from the redwoods. Let them teach the power ofpatience and calm. Life goes on. Things happen. People change.Times move along. There are sto...	mamalioness	1	362	Jun 27, 2020 by mamalioness
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_FRIDAY (Preview) mamalioness wrote: However many holy words you read, However many you speak,What good will they do you, If you do not act upon them?--Buddha ****Action always means more to me then words, unless the speaker has shown me with consistent good fruit that I can trust their wordIf you love somebody, let t...	mamalioness	1	358	Jun 27, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	New here: My wife is an alcoholic and she is initiating divorce from me (Preview) This is not how the story is supposed to go: normally the non-drinking spouse in a relationship gets fed up with their partner's drinking and ends the marriage. But my alcoholic wife of 24 years has initiated a divorce from me, despite my years of support as she entered recovery and frequently relapse...	MCB1970	2	650	Jun 27, 2020 by Iamhere
	Shame and Guilt (Preview) Hi to my Alanon Family, I haven't shared for awhile, as I have been stuck, and doing a lot of Heart searching. I have to be honest, as I was debating whether to share my story with you, as I don't want to keep rehashing it all, but I decided that if what I share can help someone else do it, a different way than w...	WendyP	8	481	Jun 26, 2020 by WendyP
	ODAAT, June 26 (Preview) Today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon is short but powerful. It explains the meaning of the spiritual awakening mentioned in Step Twelve. The spiritual awakening is a realization that we are not alone and helpless; we have learned certain truths which we are now able to carry on to others in or...	Freetime	4	604	Jun 26, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C, 6/22, improving communications (Preview) The reading for Monday, 6/22, discusses the need to bring the focus back on ourselves, and being able to look at the words we are using. Additionally, blaming others gives them power over us, and our power should belong to us, not others. With a change in attitude, we can speak in a more straightforwa...	Lyne	6	428	Jun 26, 2020 by Maresie888
	When good things happen. Do you feel like you deserve it? (Preview) I have been blessed with a gift by my higher power and I should be happy and apart of me is. However apart of me feels like I dont deserve it. Is this me feeding my need to constantly be the victim in order to stay where im at and not do the soul work. That hurts so much but the outcome is very much beautiful. For t...	flower19	10	582	Jun 26, 2020 by Maresie888
	Talk about standing my ground--Holy moly!!!! (Preview) All I did this am was remind boss to sign my check because he HAS forgotten me and has left office.....he got pi***d at me and accused me "you don't even say hello to me and you remind me to sign your check, and it IRRITATES me" and this was LOUD and ANGRY coming from him...NOT kind at all I stood up from my...	mamalioness	5	444	Jun 26, 2020 by Maresie888
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_THURSDAY (Preview) It's what you learn after you know it all that counts.--John Wooden"Never answer an angry word with an angry word. It's the second onethat makes the quarrel."--W.A. NanceDon't argue for other people's weaknesses. Don't argue for your own.When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn fro...	mamalioness	1	358	Jun 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_WEDNESDAY (Preview) God, today I give you all of the guilt from my past. Take it from me,and allow me to begin fresh right now. Help me make the amends Ineed to make, then let my guilt go.--Melody Beattie"Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it foregoesrevenge, and dares forgive an injury."-- E. H. ChapinThe vi...	mamalioness	2	304	Jun 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	Cathy ?? (Preview) Has anyone heard from Cathy recently? I was thinking about her for some reason today. Thanks.	SerenityRUS	4	429	Jun 25, 2020 by JerryF
	Courage to Change 6/25 (Preview) Today's daily is about Step Six- becoming ready for God to remove our defects of character -- described as 'those roadblocks that keep me stranded, unable to freely travel life's magnificent boulevard.' The quote truly sums things up splendidly - "God seldom delivers . . . virtues all wrapped in a...	Iamhere	1	335	Jun 25, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change June 24 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is a fable about a farmer who found a magic flute. The farmer hoped that, by playing the flute all day, he could get his chickens to lay more eggs. At the end of the day, the chickens had laid no more eggs than usual. Someone asked the farmer if they had any success with the m...	Skorpi	3	383	Jun 24, 2020 by DavidG
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_TUESDAY (Preview) Remember how we'd talk every night at bedtime? I miss that.--GodIf you think clothes make no difference, try walking down the streetwithout any.--unknown"The greatest treasures of your life are associated with the peopleyou love and who love you in return."--Brian TracyHalf the failures of thi...	mamalioness	2	336	Jun 24, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Newcomer. Is it a bad idea to move into the house with an alcoholic parent? (Preview) Hi Everyone, I guess I will start by summarizing my situation. I am 24 and just graduated with a masters degree. I left the house when I was 17 years old and have financially supported myself since. I currently live 4 hours away from my mother and my home town. My mother has always drank. Throughout my ch...	Stephylou	4	548	Jun 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	For my Body, mind and spirit on MONDAY (Preview) BODY_working tomorrow and Friday so extra rest..workouts at home, easy does it, Keep it simple will be key...eating clean...no processed foods, no eating out, clean, simple foods..lots of fruits, rice, spinache and tomatoe in my power shakes with the fruits...treating my eye with salt water...	mamalioness	1	339	Jun 23, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_MONDAY (Preview) As you walk down the fairway of life you must smell the roses, for youonly get to play one round.--Ben Hogan"Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul areinfinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you."--Oscar WildeWhen you get into a tight place and everything goes a...	mamalioness	1	335	Jun 23, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Feedback? My sister started drinking again 90 days after rehab (Preview) Hey there, hoping to get some helpful feedback around how to approach my sister considering the circumstances described below. Usually, I'd ask my older brother, who has 15+ years sobriety, but I don't want to compromise what my sister shares in confidence to me. Appreciate anyone with helpful rec...	SDTerrence	8	488	Jun 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	For my Body, mind and spirit on Sunday (Preview) BODY___well after being sick Jan-Feb with what I suspect was Covid--not sure, but I sorta suspect...THEN I get roommate and a severe back spasm that puts me down for 4 days...THEN I cut the crap out of my left index finger and it STILL is not 100%...damage was deep...I get pain, still if using it too much...	mamalioness	1	461	Jun 22, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C 6/20/20 (Preview) I am posting early, as I have to take one of my kitties to the vet Sat. morning. June 20th's reading talks about FEAR. How we have developed ways to deal with fear, even some that still hang around even though circumstances may have changed. It speaks of REACTING. It defines reacting as not responding bu...	PosiesandPuppies	10	746	Jun 22, 2020 by Maresie888
	Please Daddy Don't Cry (Preview) One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princess I'm very busy." He wasn't really busy, he was drinking. Next day the young girl asked her daddy if they could go to the circus like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princes...	Wolfie55	3	369	Jun 21, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	HFT June 21 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about step 10; the importance of continually taking personal inventory and admitting our wrongs. The writer describes that while we neednt dwell on imperfections as we are human beings who make mistakes, we also do not have to feel guilt or shame in connecti...	yanksfan51	4	473	Jun 21, 2020 by Iamhere
	Participation is the key to Harmony (Preview) I know, I haven't been here in a while. I been busy. I'm back to work now, been back since the first of June. I was enjoying my 3 month paid vacation, but as we all know, be it pleasant or painful, this too shall pass. And, it did. I also came to terms with the online meetings. I didn't like the app but really it w...	Wolfie55	5	493	Jun 21, 2020 by Iamhere
	Failing (Preview) Hi family. Im failing. Big time. My anger is at an all time high & I cannot contain it. Our fights have become awful. I have said everything I have felt over the past few years. Im failing at the dont say it mean. I am so hurt. Noticing moves him at all. Im losing my sanity. I dont feel like I matter or that I...	Crmans	6	513	Jun 21, 2020 by Lyne
	Spotting manipulation (Preview) I had an a-ha moment the other day where I was finally able to recognize attempted manipulation. An old acquaintance of mine has decided they want to get in touch with me. This is someone whom I really don't care for and I'm honestly not interested in re-kindling a relationship of any kind with them. The...	Aloha	5	580	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today - June 19 (Preview) Today's reading in Hope for Today touches on Step Eight. The author found it difficult to think about visiting the grave-site of alcoholic parents, in order to make amends. A sponsor suggested that the author did not have to make amends yet -- they just had to become willing. Thinking about willi...	Freetime	5	421	Jun 19, 2020 by DavidG
	Doing my own inventory...at the right time. (Preview) After all of the reading here which has caused me to thing and meditate the program and my relationship with my Higher Power I get to practice it again and say..."this works when I work it". I was on the TV watching what I learn from and my spouse was on the phone with a program help. When she is done she com...	JerryF	15	580	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 6/18 (Preview) Posting for tomorrow! The reading discusses envy - suggesting that when most of us arrive at Al-Anon, we often resent others whose lives appear less troubled, envying what we think they have. In time, we do discover that each of us is special, with unique skills, interests and opportunities. We l...	Iamhere	8	484	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	For my Body, mind and spirit on THURSDAY (Preview) Body: did a hell of a workout in the pool with weights and running in the 3.6' of water end, running heaven knows how many laps, the alternating it with swimming, etc., AFTER at home doing abs and arms on my home equip....eating clean...not pigging out so much, (didn't see anything about my weight, bu...	mamalioness	2	368	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	The old chicken or egg question (Preview) AH, like many alcoholics I assume, has patterns to his drinking. I have been able to recognize those patterns for a while now even though he still seems oblivious to them. The patterns are likely recognizable to most of you though. Its the anxious or frustrated and must have a drink to cope pattern. Its...	Twinkies	11	1214	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	Bucket full steo 3 (Preview) I have had it up to the ceiling with the oroblems related to the oandemic Some people like my former roommate seem to be doing okay with it He gets to work from home I feel like it is a long uphill struggle every day. I know people who have got real depressed from the isolation I have had other issues to th...	Maresie888	14	486	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	So sorry, its been a while__Body__Mind__Spirit (Preview) it has taken me TWO weeks to fix up the former roommate messed up..had to take SAND paper and clean my stove burner metal thingys to clean them back up.....Lord have mercy!!!! I repaired the 2 beds she collapsed..tested them and they are A-ok...a little handy girl work on my part and I am finally tidied...	mamalioness	4	332	Jun 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	Listening to Lois... (Preview) I Feel like I am on a first name terms with Lois. For her- as she was I am one of 100,000's... she was a mother figure for me- in my mind for- years. Now more like a grandma... ...this year my goal was to pursue step 12 and Tradition 5. Sadly the group I was going to down the road to has folded. :( I tried t...	DavidG	5	557	Jun 18, 2020 by DavidG
	Sad and crazy (Preview) Today has been a rough day. I had a zoom meeting that was to last an hour long. I had to log out half way and say my internet was not working because in the middle of my zoom meeting the alcoholic in my life through a fit. I was embarrassed and just disconnected. I got very upset but held it in. After about 20 min...	dragonfly04	7	567	Jun 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	Grocery Shopping/Alcohol Purchasing? (Preview) Wanted some advise...I'm working on setting boundaries, which is a super challenge as an ACOA whose husband is actively overdrinker/alcoholic. In the past, when I went grocery shopping I always bought him some of his drink of choice and some wine for me. I've decided to stop buying the wine, as I gene...	freedomssong	9	813	Jun 18, 2020 by JerryF
	How Do I Believe? (Preview) How do I really, truly believe a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity? I want to believe that,I really do,but I simply don't. I want to be restored to sanity but I don't believe I will be. Do I blindly trust? Is it about faith? Do I have to fully believe and trust that I will be before it's ev...	SunnyFrogs	11	578	Jun 18, 2020 by Aloha
	Lies lies lies lies (Preview) Every alcoholic I have ever known tells lies. I have always been really affected by their lies. I would believe them, then I would get angry about them. Then I would spend a lot of time obsesing about what they needed to do. That is because really I made them so so important in my life. Then i would get de...	Maresie888	11	452	Jun 18, 2020 by Maresie888
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