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aivile · aivile

Hello everyone, I very much need some help. I am struggling to cope, on the receiving end. I am 41, female and had to leave my marriage four Years ago as my husband did not manage to recover from cocaine addiction. I felt seriously let down. After I managed to get free of the mental anguish that that relati...

mamalioness · mamalioness

ONCE is a mistake..human frailty TWICE is a pattern...... I was going to go visit Linda today as its been a couple of day, with work and sorting out my charities and what projects I am doing...Like doing LIFE...one man show taking care of this house....still having to mow some of the yard because the gr...

Crmans · Crmans

Things have peaked to al time low. Last night ended with my AH saying he was done with the marriage. Hes been sober 3 months & his meanness is out of control. I was sobbing begging him not to walk away & talk to me. I said I deserved better than this. He said he had nothing to say to me & he went to be...

Lyne · Lyne

I found the reading for Monday, 6/29, rather interesting. The writer said that both the alcoholic and the alanon person share a common enemy: self-deception. It was said that both people describe different scenarios, each responds differently to what is happening, and neither can see the situ...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everybody: Todays reading is about expectations and unrealistic demands. The writer describes how pre-program he/she spent so much of life having expectations and making demands of everyone. All who fell short were judged harshly, especially the writer him/herself! Coming to Al...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Set others free to achieve and experience the path that leads to theirhighest good and you, too, will become free to find yours.--Melody BeattieLearn a lesson from the redwoods. Let them teach the power ofpatience and calm. Life goes on. Things happen. People change.Times move along. There are sto...

mamalioness · mamalioness

mamalioness wrote: However many holy words you read, However many you speak,What good will they do you, If you do not act upon them?--Buddha ****Action always means more to me then words, unless the speaker has shown me with consistent good fruit that I can trust their wordIf you love somebody, let t...

MCB1970 · MCB1970

This is not how the story is supposed to go: normally the non-drinking spouse in a relationship gets fed up with their partner's drinking and ends the marriage. But my alcoholic wife of 24 years has initiated a divorce from me, despite my years of support as she entered recovery and frequently relapse...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to my Alanon Family, I haven't shared for awhile, as I have been stuck, and doing a lot of Heart searching. I have to be honest, as I was debating whether to share my story with you, as I don't want to keep rehashing it all, but I decided that if what I share can help someone else do it, a different way than w...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon is short but powerful. It explains the meaning of the spiritual awakening mentioned in Step Twelve. The spiritual awakening is a realization that we are not alone and helpless; we have learned certain truths which we are now able to carry on to others in or...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 6/22, discusses the need to bring the focus back on ourselves, and being able to look at the words we are using. Additionally, blaming others gives them power over us, and our power should belong to us, not others. With a change in attitude, we can speak in a more straightforwa...

flower19 · flower19

I have been blessed with a gift by my higher power and I should be happy and apart of me is. However apart of me feels like I dont deserve it. Is this me feeding my need to constantly be the victim in order to stay where im at and not do the soul work. That hurts so much but the outcome is very much beautiful. For t...

mamalioness · mamalioness

All I did this am was remind boss to sign my check because he HAS forgotten me and has left office.....he got pi***d at me and accused me "you don't even say hello to me and you remind me to sign your check, and it IRRITATES me" and this was LOUD and ANGRY coming from him...NOT kind at all I stood up from my...

mamalioness · mamalioness

It's what you learn after you know it all that counts.--John Wooden"Never answer an angry word with an angry word. It's the second onethat makes the quarrel."--W.A. NanceDon't argue for other people's weaknesses. Don't argue for your own.When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn fro...

mamalioness · mamalioness

God, today I give you all of the guilt from my past. Take it from me,and allow me to begin fresh right now. Help me make the amends Ineed to make, then let my guilt go.--Melody Beattie"Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it foregoesrevenge, and dares forgive an injury."-- E. H. ChapinThe vi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Has anyone heard from Cathy recently? I was thinking about her for some reason today. Thanks.

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's daily is about Step Six- becoming ready for God to remove our defects of character -- described as 'those roadblocks that keep me stranded, unable to freely travel life's magnificent boulevard.' The quote truly sums things up splendidly - "God seldom delivers . . . virtues all wrapped in a...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is a fable about a farmer who found a magic flute. The farmer hoped that, by playing the flute all day, he could get his chickens to lay more eggs. At the end of the day, the chickens had laid no more eggs than usual. Someone asked the farmer if they had any success with the m...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Remember how we'd talk every night at bedtime? I miss that.--GodIf you think clothes make no difference, try walking down the streetwithout any.--unknown"The greatest treasures of your life are associated with the peopleyou love and who love you in return."--Brian TracyHalf the failures of thi...

Stephylou · Stephylou

Hi Everyone, I guess I will start by summarizing my situation. I am 24 and just graduated with a masters degree. I left the house when I was 17 years old and have financially supported myself since. I currently live 4 hours away from my mother and my home town. My mother has always drank. Throughout my ch...

mamalioness · mamalioness

BODY_working tomorrow and Friday so extra rest..workouts at home, easy does it, Keep it simple will be key...eating clean...no processed foods, no eating out, clean, simple foods..lots of fruits, rice, spinache and tomatoe in my power shakes with the fruits...treating my eye with salt water...

mamalioness · mamalioness

As you walk down the fairway of life you must smell the roses, for youonly get to play one round.--Ben Hogan"Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul areinfinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you."--Oscar WildeWhen you get into a tight place and everything goes a...

SDTerrence · SDTerrence

Hey there, hoping to get some helpful feedback around how to approach my sister considering the circumstances described below. Usually, I'd ask my older brother, who has 15+ years sobriety, but I don't want to compromise what my sister shares in confidence to me. Appreciate anyone with helpful rec...

mamalioness · mamalioness

BODY___well after being sick Jan-Feb with what I suspect was Covid--not sure, but I sorta suspect...THEN I get roommate and a severe back spasm that puts me down for 4 days...THEN I cut the crap out of my left index finger and it STILL is not 100%...damage was deep...I get pain, still if using it too much...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am posting early, as I have to take one of my kitties to the vet Sat. morning. June 20th's reading talks about FEAR. How we have developed ways to deal with fear, even some that still hang around even though circumstances may have changed. It speaks of REACTING. It defines reacting as not responding bu...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princess I'm very busy." He wasn't really busy, he was drinking. Next day the young girl asked her daddy if they could go to the circus like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princes...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about step 10; the importance of continually taking personal inventory and admitting our wrongs. The writer describes that while we neednt dwell on imperfections as we are human beings who make mistakes, we also do not have to feel guilt or shame in connecti...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I know, I haven't been here in a while. I been busy. I'm back to work now, been back since the first of June. I was enjoying my 3 month paid vacation, but as we all know, be it pleasant or painful, this too shall pass. And, it did. I also came to terms with the online meetings. I didn't like the app but really it w...

Crmans · Crmans

Hi family. Im failing. Big time. My anger is at an all time high & I cannot contain it. Our fights have become awful. I have said everything I have felt over the past few years. Im failing at the dont say it mean. I am so hurt. Noticing moves him at all. Im losing my sanity. I dont feel like I matter or that I...

Aloha · Aloha

I had an a-ha moment the other day where I was finally able to recognize attempted manipulation. An old acquaintance of mine has decided they want to get in touch with me. This is someone whom I really don't care for and I'm honestly not interested in re-kindling a relationship of any kind with them. The...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in Hope for Today touches on Step Eight. The author found it difficult to think about visiting the grave-site of alcoholic parents, in order to make amends. A sponsor suggested that the author did not have to make amends yet -- they just had to become willing. Thinking about willi...

JerryF · JerryF

After all of the reading here which has caused me to thing and meditate the program and my relationship with my Higher Power I get to practice it again and say..."this works when I work it". I was on the TV watching what I learn from and my spouse was on the phone with a program help. When she is done she com...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting for tomorrow! The reading discusses envy - suggesting that when most of us arrive at Al-Anon, we often resent others whose lives appear less troubled, envying what we think they have. In time, we do discover that each of us is special, with unique skills, interests and opportunities. We l...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Body: did a hell of a workout in the pool with weights and running in the 3.6' of water end, running heaven knows how many laps, the alternating it with swimming, etc., AFTER at home doing abs and arms on my home equip....eating clean...not pigging out so much, (didn't see anything about my weight, bu...

Twinkies · Twinkies

AH, like many alcoholics I assume, has patterns to his drinking. I have been able to recognize those patterns for a while now even though he still seems oblivious to them. The patterns are likely recognizable to most of you though. Its the anxious or frustrated and must have a drink to cope pattern. Its...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I have had it up to the ceiling with the oroblems related to the oandemic Some people like my former roommate seem to be doing okay with it He gets to work from home I feel like it is a long uphill struggle every day. I know people who have got real depressed from the isolation I have had other issues to th...

mamalioness · mamalioness

it has taken me TWO weeks to fix up the former roommate messed up..had to take SAND paper and clean my stove burner metal thingys to clean them back up.....Lord have mercy!!!! I repaired the 2 beds she collapsed..tested them and they are A-ok...a little handy girl work on my part and I am finally tidied...

DavidG · DavidG

I Feel like I am on a first name terms with Lois. For her- as she was I am one of 100,000's... she was a mother figure for me- in my mind for- years. Now more like a grandma... ...this year my goal was to pursue step 12 and Tradition 5. Sadly the group I was going to down the road to has folded. :( I tried t...

dragonfly04 · dragonfly04

Today has been a rough day. I had a zoom meeting that was to last an hour long. I had to log out half way and say my internet was not working because in the middle of my zoom meeting the alcoholic in my life through a fit. I was embarrassed and just disconnected. I got very upset but held it in. After about 20 min...

freedomssong · freedomssong

Wanted some advise...I'm working on setting boundaries, which is a super challenge as an ACOA whose husband is actively overdrinker/alcoholic. In the past, when I went grocery shopping I always bought him some of his drink of choice and some wine for me. I've decided to stop buying the wine, as I gene...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

How do I really, truly believe a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity? I want to believe that,I really do,but I simply don't. I want to be restored to sanity but I don't believe I will be. Do I blindly trust? Is it about faith? Do I have to fully believe and trust that I will be before it's ev...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Every alcoholic I have ever known tells lies. I have always been really affected by their lies. I would believe them, then I would get angry about them. Then I would spend a lot of time obsesing about what they needed to do. That is because really I made them so so important in my life. Then i would get de...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on Al-Anon and crisis. For many of us, Al-Anon helped us manage with crises that we could not have managed on our own. We learn to rely on a higher power and to see the support around us. We learn that we can live and grow through difficult times....

Bo · Bo

I posted this on another thread/topic...and thought I would post it here... I sometimes describe the period of life when my wife was full-blown in the disease of alcoholism as being this wild, volatile roller-coaster ride. My wife and I were on this wild ride together, sitting next to each other. It w...

OhLuvya · OhLuvya

We had a really good day today. I have been doing a lot of reading. Like A LOT of reading. I reread the things you all posted for me and I like the steps board. And I've started How Al Anon Works. I was able to just breathe through my anxiety and do a few short reads throughout the day and have a good day today. I w...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday,, 6/15, the author looks at their use of sarcasm to make a cutting remark, a snide innuendo, and/or give a scornful sneer. They say they can receive momentary satisfaction by scoring a hit, but by attacking someone nothing gets resolved, and it is not really a desirable beha...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on steps two and three. As I re read these steps I am thinking about the progression of surrender to action. We acknowledge powerlessness in our lives in step one, in step two we come to believe that a higher Power than ourselves can help us restore our liv...

OhLuvya · OhLuvya

I was asked why I was acting crazy. I just looked at him and told him it's because I am living my life like a crazy person. The back and forth. The pushing and pulling. The not knowing what is going to set him off. How many beers do I have left before the man I love turns into the man I can't be around? How long i...

dragonfly04 · dragonfly04

Good Evening, This is my first time on this forum. I did attend Al-Anon many many moons ago. I got divorced in 2010 from an alcoholic. I was single up until 2016. I met a man in my apartment complex and we hit it off right away. We had many things in common and we laughed. I hadn't laughed in many years. We were...

Crmans · Crmans

Hi! Its been awhile since I posted but I read the posts here everyday. I feel so stuck. Im trying but i just cant seem to move past the final lie & hiding. Hes not drinking anymore. He told me awhile ago he was 58 days sober. I congratulated him. Then was ridiculed for not congratulating him at 60 days. I...

MarshallM · MarshallM

Hello all new to Al-Anon looking for members in the Logan Utah area

Jack1999 · Jack1999

Hello everyone out there. I am the male spouse dealing with an alcoholic wife. We have 2 children together, 6 and 8, and I have a 12yo from my first marriage. I have been very lucky to have had a good career that allows our family to be ok financially in the midst of the chaos others are facing right now. My wi...

OhLuvya · OhLuvya

Counting today it's been 4 days without alcohol. It's only been since Thursday morning that it was decided that he would seek treatment. I am having a hard time with patience right now. So many questions. Why hasn't he chosen a place yet? Why does he HAVE to wait until Sunday to go to his first meeting? Ho...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Sorry for the late start. Today's Daily comes from June 13 of Courage to Change. "In Step 11 I seek to improve my conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation. How I do this is completely up to me." Don't let the G. 0. D. word throw off some of you newcomers. The reading goes on to say that yes, th...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Posting a bit early, because my morning tomorrow will be a chaotic one In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares about their initial reaction to taking step 8 (Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all). The author had a comprehensive list...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

One thing I never managed to do with the qualifier was to make plans. Every holiday was swallowed up by his need to binge In 8 years you would think I would have twigged that but nope I was always engaged in this eternal struggle with him Recently I went to stay with an alcoholic whose disease has progre...

Freetime · Freetime

The reading for June 12 in Courage to Change is about Step Ten. Continuing to take personal inventory and promptly admitting when we are wrong, allows us to de-clutter unhelpful attitudes from our day. Living one day at a time is not just about freeing ourselves from fear of the future, it is also abou...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I'm posting for tomorrow tonight as I'm out the door early to golf! Tomorrow's reading is about Step 9, especially the part that suggests we don't need to make direct amends to those injured if in doing so we might cause further injury. The author struggled with this part of the stop - wondering how to...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 6/8, is interesting, because the writer says they get a certain amount of pleasure from their defects of character, such as revenge, clinging to pride, and spending lots of time thinking about how to punish others. However, the author admits that the defects get in the way of...

Fedora · Fedora

Hello! Today I had a quiet day, so had some time to reflect on a lot of things. First off, it is my 17th wedding anniversary. Nobody in the house remembered that, since one of the two of us was in a booze induced haze for most of the day, and the other of us only spends time fantasizing about being divorced, or...

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	I fly into a rage with my alcoholic partner. How can I stop? angry abusive lies stealing frustration alcoholic addiction fighting (Preview) Hello everyone, I very much need some help. I am struggling to cope, on the receiving end. I am 41, female and had to leave my marriage four Years ago as my husband did not manage to recover from cocaine addiction. I felt seriously let down. After I managed to get free of the mental anguish that that relati...	aivile	11	3006	Jun 30, 2020 by Jen61
	ONCE is human/imperfection__TWICE is a pattern (Preview) ONCE is a mistake..human frailty TWICE is a pattern...... I was going to go visit Linda today as its been a couple of day, with work and sorting out my charities and what projects I am doing...Like doing LIFE...one man show taking care of this house....still having to mow some of the yard because the gr...	mamalioness	0	325	Jun 29, 2020 by mamalioness
	Support needed (Preview) Things have peaked to al time low. Last night ended with my AH saying he was done with the marriage. Hes been sober 3 months & his meanness is out of control. I was sobbing begging him not to walk away & talk to me. I said I deserved better than this. He said he had nothing to say to me & he went to be...	Crmans	6	398	Jun 29, 2020 by Maresie888
	ODAT in alanon, 6/29 (Preview) I found the reading for Monday, 6/29, rather interesting. The writer said that both the alcoholic and the alanon person share a common enemy: self-deception. It was said that both people describe different scenarios, each responds differently to what is happening, and neither can see the situ...	Lyne	3	352	Jun 29, 2020 by Iamhere
	HFT June 28 (Preview) Good morning everybody: Todays reading is about expectations and unrealistic demands. The writer describes how pre-program he/she spent so much of life having expectations and making demands of everyone. All who fell short were judged harshly, especially the writer him/herself! Coming to Al...	yanksfan51	3	432	Jun 28, 2020 by DavidG
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_SATURDAY (Preview) Set others free to achieve and experience the path that leads to theirhighest good and you, too, will become free to find yours.--Melody BeattieLearn a lesson from the redwoods. Let them teach the power ofpatience and calm. Life goes on. Things happen. People change.Times move along. There are sto...	mamalioness	1	288	Jun 27, 2020 by mamalioness
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_FRIDAY (Preview) mamalioness wrote: However many holy words you read, However many you speak,What good will they do you, If you do not act upon them?--Buddha ****Action always means more to me then words, unless the speaker has shown me with consistent good fruit that I can trust their wordIf you love somebody, let t...	mamalioness	1	282	Jun 27, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	New here: My wife is an alcoholic and she is initiating divorce from me (Preview) This is not how the story is supposed to go: normally the non-drinking spouse in a relationship gets fed up with their partner's drinking and ends the marriage. But my alcoholic wife of 24 years has initiated a divorce from me, despite my years of support as she entered recovery and frequently relapse...	MCB1970	2	546	Jun 27, 2020 by Iamhere
	Shame and Guilt (Preview) Hi to my Alanon Family, I haven't shared for awhile, as I have been stuck, and doing a lot of Heart searching. I have to be honest, as I was debating whether to share my story with you, as I don't want to keep rehashing it all, but I decided that if what I share can help someone else do it, a different way than w...	WendyP	8	397	Jun 26, 2020 by WendyP
	ODAAT, June 26 (Preview) Today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon is short but powerful. It explains the meaning of the spiritual awakening mentioned in Step Twelve. The spiritual awakening is a realization that we are not alone and helpless; we have learned certain truths which we are now able to carry on to others in or...	Freetime	4	499	Jun 26, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C, 6/22, improving communications (Preview) The reading for Monday, 6/22, discusses the need to bring the focus back on ourselves, and being able to look at the words we are using. Additionally, blaming others gives them power over us, and our power should belong to us, not others. With a change in attitude, we can speak in a more straightforwa...	Lyne	6	375	Jun 26, 2020 by Maresie888
	When good things happen. Do you feel like you deserve it? (Preview) I have been blessed with a gift by my higher power and I should be happy and apart of me is. However apart of me feels like I dont deserve it. Is this me feeding my need to constantly be the victim in order to stay where im at and not do the soul work. That hurts so much but the outcome is very much beautiful. For t...	flower19	10	484	Jun 26, 2020 by Maresie888
	Talk about standing my ground--Holy moly!!!! (Preview) All I did this am was remind boss to sign my check because he HAS forgotten me and has left office.....he got pi***d at me and accused me "you don't even say hello to me and you remind me to sign your check, and it IRRITATES me" and this was LOUD and ANGRY coming from him...NOT kind at all I stood up from my...	mamalioness	5	373	Jun 26, 2020 by Maresie888
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_THURSDAY (Preview) It's what you learn after you know it all that counts.--John Wooden"Never answer an angry word with an angry word. It's the second onethat makes the quarrel."--W.A. NanceDon't argue for other people's weaknesses. Don't argue for your own.When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn fro...	mamalioness	1	262	Jun 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_WEDNESDAY (Preview) God, today I give you all of the guilt from my past. Take it from me,and allow me to begin fresh right now. Help me make the amends Ineed to make, then let my guilt go.--Melody Beattie"Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it foregoesrevenge, and dares forgive an injury."-- E. H. ChapinThe vi...	mamalioness	2	245	Jun 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	Cathy ?? (Preview) Has anyone heard from Cathy recently? I was thinking about her for some reason today. Thanks.	SerenityRUS	4	380	Jun 25, 2020 by JerryF
	Courage to Change 6/25 (Preview) Today's daily is about Step Six- becoming ready for God to remove our defects of character -- described as 'those roadblocks that keep me stranded, unable to freely travel life's magnificent boulevard.' The quote truly sums things up splendidly - "God seldom delivers . . . virtues all wrapped in a...	Iamhere	1	267	Jun 25, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change June 24 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is a fable about a farmer who found a magic flute. The farmer hoped that, by playing the flute all day, he could get his chickens to lay more eggs. At the end of the day, the chickens had laid no more eggs than usual. Someone asked the farmer if they had any success with the m...	Skorpi	3	321	Jun 24, 2020 by DavidG
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_TUESDAY (Preview) Remember how we'd talk every night at bedtime? I miss that.--GodIf you think clothes make no difference, try walking down the streetwithout any.--unknown"The greatest treasures of your life are associated with the peopleyou love and who love you in return."--Brian TracyHalf the failures of thi...	mamalioness	2	259	Jun 24, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Newcomer. Is it a bad idea to move into the house with an alcoholic parent? (Preview) Hi Everyone, I guess I will start by summarizing my situation. I am 24 and just graduated with a masters degree. I left the house when I was 17 years old and have financially supported myself since. I currently live 4 hours away from my mother and my home town. My mother has always drank. Throughout my ch...	Stephylou	4	467	Jun 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	For my Body, mind and spirit on MONDAY (Preview) BODY_working tomorrow and Friday so extra rest..workouts at home, easy does it, Keep it simple will be key...eating clean...no processed foods, no eating out, clean, simple foods..lots of fruits, rice, spinache and tomatoe in my power shakes with the fruits...treating my eye with salt water...	mamalioness	1	293	Jun 23, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_MONDAY (Preview) As you walk down the fairway of life you must smell the roses, for youonly get to play one round.--Ben Hogan"Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul areinfinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you."--Oscar WildeWhen you get into a tight place and everything goes a...	mamalioness	1	302	Jun 23, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Feedback? My sister started drinking again 90 days after rehab (Preview) Hey there, hoping to get some helpful feedback around how to approach my sister considering the circumstances described below. Usually, I'd ask my older brother, who has 15+ years sobriety, but I don't want to compromise what my sister shares in confidence to me. Appreciate anyone with helpful rec...	SDTerrence	8	406	Jun 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	For my Body, mind and spirit on Sunday (Preview) BODY___well after being sick Jan-Feb with what I suspect was Covid--not sure, but I sorta suspect...THEN I get roommate and a severe back spasm that puts me down for 4 days...THEN I cut the crap out of my left index finger and it STILL is not 100%...damage was deep...I get pain, still if using it too much...	mamalioness	1	328	Jun 22, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C 6/20/20 (Preview) I am posting early, as I have to take one of my kitties to the vet Sat. morning. June 20th's reading talks about FEAR. How we have developed ways to deal with fear, even some that still hang around even though circumstances may have changed. It speaks of REACTING. It defines reacting as not responding bu...	PosiesandPuppies	10	670	Jun 22, 2020 by Maresie888
	Please Daddy Don't Cry (Preview) One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princess I'm very busy." He wasn't really busy, he was drinking. Next day the young girl asked her daddy if they could go to the circus like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princes...	Wolfie55	3	284	Jun 21, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	HFT June 21 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about step 10; the importance of continually taking personal inventory and admitting our wrongs. The writer describes that while we neednt dwell on imperfections as we are human beings who make mistakes, we also do not have to feel guilt or shame in connecti...	yanksfan51	4	387	Jun 21, 2020 by Iamhere
	Participation is the key to Harmony (Preview) I know, I haven't been here in a while. I been busy. I'm back to work now, been back since the first of June. I was enjoying my 3 month paid vacation, but as we all know, be it pleasant or painful, this too shall pass. And, it did. I also came to terms with the online meetings. I didn't like the app but really it w...	Wolfie55	5	393	Jun 21, 2020 by Iamhere
	Failing (Preview) Hi family. Im failing. Big time. My anger is at an all time high & I cannot contain it. Our fights have become awful. I have said everything I have felt over the past few years. Im failing at the dont say it mean. I am so hurt. Noticing moves him at all. Im losing my sanity. I dont feel like I matter or that I...	Crmans	6	421	Jun 21, 2020 by Lyne
	Spotting manipulation (Preview) I had an a-ha moment the other day where I was finally able to recognize attempted manipulation. An old acquaintance of mine has decided they want to get in touch with me. This is someone whom I really don't care for and I'm honestly not interested in re-kindling a relationship of any kind with them. The...	Aloha	5	500	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today - June 19 (Preview) Today's reading in Hope for Today touches on Step Eight. The author found it difficult to think about visiting the grave-site of alcoholic parents, in order to make amends. A sponsor suggested that the author did not have to make amends yet -- they just had to become willing. Thinking about willi...	Freetime	5	330	Jun 19, 2020 by DavidG
	Doing my own inventory...at the right time. (Preview) After all of the reading here which has caused me to thing and meditate the program and my relationship with my Higher Power I get to practice it again and say..."this works when I work it". I was on the TV watching what I learn from and my spouse was on the phone with a program help. When she is done she com...	JerryF	15	488	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 6/18 (Preview) Posting for tomorrow! The reading discusses envy - suggesting that when most of us arrive at Al-Anon, we often resent others whose lives appear less troubled, envying what we think they have. In time, we do discover that each of us is special, with unique skills, interests and opportunities. We l...	Iamhere	8	434	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	For my Body, mind and spirit on THURSDAY (Preview) Body: did a hell of a workout in the pool with weights and running in the 3.6' of water end, running heaven knows how many laps, the alternating it with swimming, etc., AFTER at home doing abs and arms on my home equip....eating clean...not pigging out so much, (didn't see anything about my weight, bu...	mamalioness	2	301	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	The old chicken or egg question (Preview) AH, like many alcoholics I assume, has patterns to his drinking. I have been able to recognize those patterns for a while now even though he still seems oblivious to them. The patterns are likely recognizable to most of you though. Its the anxious or frustrated and must have a drink to cope pattern. Its...	Twinkies	11	1066	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	Bucket full steo 3 (Preview) I have had it up to the ceiling with the oroblems related to the oandemic Some people like my former roommate seem to be doing okay with it He gets to work from home I feel like it is a long uphill struggle every day. I know people who have got real depressed from the isolation I have had other issues to th...	Maresie888	14	419	Jun 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	So sorry, its been a while__Body__Mind__Spirit (Preview) it has taken me TWO weeks to fix up the former roommate messed up..had to take SAND paper and clean my stove burner metal thingys to clean them back up.....Lord have mercy!!!! I repaired the 2 beds she collapsed..tested them and they are A-ok...a little handy girl work on my part and I am finally tidied...	mamalioness	4	274	Jun 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	Listening to Lois... (Preview) I Feel like I am on a first name terms with Lois. For her- as she was I am one of 100,000's... she was a mother figure for me- in my mind for- years. Now more like a grandma... ...this year my goal was to pursue step 12 and Tradition 5. Sadly the group I was going to down the road to has folded. :( I tried t...	DavidG	5	486	Jun 18, 2020 by DavidG
	Sad and crazy (Preview) Today has been a rough day. I had a zoom meeting that was to last an hour long. I had to log out half way and say my internet was not working because in the middle of my zoom meeting the alcoholic in my life through a fit. I was embarrassed and just disconnected. I got very upset but held it in. After about 20 min...	dragonfly04	7	491	Jun 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	Grocery Shopping/Alcohol Purchasing? (Preview) Wanted some advise...I'm working on setting boundaries, which is a super challenge as an ACOA whose husband is actively overdrinker/alcoholic. In the past, when I went grocery shopping I always bought him some of his drink of choice and some wine for me. I've decided to stop buying the wine, as I gene...	freedomssong	9	756	Jun 18, 2020 by JerryF
	How Do I Believe? (Preview) How do I really, truly believe a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity? I want to believe that,I really do,but I simply don't. I want to be restored to sanity but I don't believe I will be. Do I blindly trust? Is it about faith? Do I have to fully believe and trust that I will be before it's ev...	SunnyFrogs	11	496	Jun 18, 2020 by Aloha
	Lies lies lies lies (Preview) Every alcoholic I have ever known tells lies. I have always been really affected by their lies. I would believe them, then I would get angry about them. Then I would spend a lot of time obsesing about what they needed to do. That is because really I made them so so important in my life. Then i would get de...	Maresie888	11	389	Jun 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change June 17 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on Al-Anon and crisis. For many of us, Al-Anon helped us manage with crises that we could not have managed on our own. We learn to rely on a higher power and to see the support around us. We learn that we can live and grow through difficult times....	Skorpi	3	313	Jun 17, 2020 by Iamhere
	The roller-coaster ride... (Preview) I posted this on another thread/topic...and thought I would post it here... I sometimes describe the period of life when my wife was full-blown in the disease of alcoholism as being this wild, volatile roller-coaster ride. My wife and I were on this wild ride together, sitting next to each other. It w...	Bo	17	686	Jun 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Good day (Preview) We had a really good day today. I have been doing a lot of reading. Like A LOT of reading. I reread the things you all posted for me and I like the steps board. And I've started How Al Anon Works. I was able to just breathe through my anxiety and do a few short reads throughout the day and have a good day today. I w...	OhLuvya	4	309	Jun 16, 2020 by JerryF
	C2C, Monday, 6/15, sarcasm (Preview) In the reading for Monday,, 6/15, the author looks at their use of sarcasm to make a cutting remark, a snide innuendo, and/or give a scornful sneer. They say they can receive momentary satisfaction by scoring a hit, but by attacking someone nothing gets resolved, and it is not really a desirable beha...	Lyne	3	281	Jun 15, 2020 by Bo
	Hope for Today June 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on steps two and three. As I re read these steps I am thinking about the progression of surrender to action. We acknowledge powerlessness in our lives in step one, in step two we come to believe that a higher Power than ourselves can help us restore our liv...	yanksfan51	4	397	Jun 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	I'm crazy (Preview) I was asked why I was acting crazy. I just looked at him and told him it's because I am living my life like a crazy person. The back and forth. The pushing and pulling. The not knowing what is going to set him off. How many beers do I have left before the man I love turns into the man I can't be around? How long i...	OhLuvya	11	1276	Jun 14, 2020 by OhLuvya
	Making Decisions (Preview) Good Evening, This is my first time on this forum. I did attend Al-Anon many many moons ago. I got divorced in 2010 from an alcoholic. I was single up until 2016. I met a man in my apartment complex and we hit it off right away. We had many things in common and we laughed. I hadn't laughed in many years. We were...	dragonfly04	3	319	Jun 14, 2020 by JerryF
	Stuck (Preview) Hi! Its been awhile since I posted but I read the posts here everyday. I feel so stuck. Im trying but i just cant seem to move past the final lie & hiding. Hes not drinking anymore. He told me awhile ago he was 58 days sober. I congratulated him. Then was ridiculed for not congratulating him at 60 days. I...	Crmans	15	520	Jun 14, 2020 by Maresie888
	Logan UT (Preview) Hello all new to Al-Anon looking for members in the Logan Utah area	MarshallM	4	613	Jun 14, 2020 by Bo
	Not sure why I waited so long... (Preview) Hello everyone out there. I am the male spouse dealing with an alcoholic wife. We have 2 children together, 6 and 8, and I have a 12yo from my first marriage. I have been very lucky to have had a good career that allows our family to be ok financially in the midst of the chaos others are facing right now. My wi...	Jack1999	7	383	Jun 14, 2020 by Bo
	Frustrated (Preview) Counting today it's been 4 days without alcohol. It's only been since Thursday morning that it was decided that he would seek treatment. I am having a hard time with patience right now. So many questions. Why hasn't he chosen a place yet? Why does he HAVE to wait until Sunday to go to his first meeting? Ho...	OhLuvya	5	298	Jun 14, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change 6/13/20 (Preview) Sorry for the late start. Today's Daily comes from June 13 of Courage to Change. "In Step 11 I seek to improve my conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation. How I do this is completely up to me." Don't let the G. 0. D. word throw off some of you newcomers. The reading goes on to say that yes, th...	PosiesandPuppies	3	274	Jun 14, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change June 10 (Preview) Posting a bit early, because my morning tomorrow will be a chaotic one In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares about their initial reaction to taking step 8 (Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all). The author had a comprehensive list...	Skorpi	5	268	Jun 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	Making plans (Preview) One thing I never managed to do with the qualifier was to make plans. Every holiday was swallowed up by his need to binge In 8 years you would think I would have twigged that but nope I was always engaged in this eternal struggle with him Recently I went to stay with an alcoholic whose disease has progre...	Maresie888	18	500	Jun 12, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change, 6/12 (Preview) The reading for June 12 in Courage to Change is about Step Ten. Continuing to take personal inventory and promptly admitting when we are wrong, allows us to de-clutter unhelpful attitudes from our day. Living one day at a time is not just about freeing ourselves from fear of the future, it is also abou...	Freetime	3	341	Jun 12, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 6/11 (Preview) I'm posting for tomorrow tonight as I'm out the door early to golf! Tomorrow's reading is about Step 9, especially the part that suggests we don't need to make direct amends to those injured if in doing so we might cause further injury. The author struggled with this part of the stop - wondering how to...	Iamhere	4	490	Jun 11, 2020 by JerryF
	C2C, 6/8, character defects (Preview) The reading for Monday, 6/8, is interesting, because the writer says they get a certain amount of pleasure from their defects of character, such as revenge, clinging to pride, and spending lots of time thinking about how to punish others. However, the author admits that the defects get in the way of...	Lyne	4	350	Jun 11, 2020 by Maresie888
	day of reflection (Preview) Hello! Today I had a quiet day, so had some time to reflect on a lot of things. First off, it is my 17th wedding anniversary. Nobody in the house remembered that, since one of the two of us was in a booze induced haze for most of the day, and the other of us only spends time fantasizing about being divorced, or...	Fedora	5	340	Jun 10, 2020 by Maresie888
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