Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Debb · Debb

Todays ODAT suggest that trying to control the alcoholic in our life is like trying to control the tides. It is also suggested that instead, we control our own thoughts, words and actions and therefore leaveroom for our improvement, because it truly is our obligation to have and find a satisfying li...

Fedora · Fedora

Hello! I've been away from this board for awhile but I wanted to come back and say hi. The last year has been challenging. But I am headed in a new and good direction. 5 years ago I landed on this board in a state of desperation. Q had just gotten in trouble for the first time related to alcohol at our shared pl...

Shipshape · Shipshape

I am new here. I have never posted before, but tonight I need support! I am 50 years old. I have been married for 27 years to my husband, whom I love very very much. We have 3 daughters that are all adults and 2 of them still live at home (we are a very close family). I take turns with my sister staying at my...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the power of their imagination. Invited to speak at a different meeting, the author conjured up a large group of serious Al-Anon members meeting in a perfect location with a perfect meeting format. The author's role in this visualization was as the guest sp...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading observes the similarities of the common cold, alcoholism, and us Alanoners: all have definite, observable symptoms (Alanoners: obsession, anxiety, anger, denial, guilt to name just a few) and none chose to have the illness.Unlike a cold, however, alcoholism doesn't go away on i...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Oh do I feel like an idiotI have my clients stuff for a week and I felt kind of icky about one of his kids tax returns but I could not put my finger on it because the filing version looked OK and so he comes today and we are chatting about Social security and I said oh yeah you want to pay Social Security because t...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/5, talks about when the alcoholic finds sobriety. There are still challenges and we may be disappointed to not find the happily ever after ending we were looking for. Problems that were attributed to drinking may still persist. Even longtime alanon members may need ext...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the negative energy spent in resentment and the power of forgiveness. The writer describes feeling much resentment toward an alcoholic mother who was not capable of unconditional love. Before alanon, the writer felt consumed with the energy of res...

WendyP · WendyP

I live in a very strange Country, we have had really bad, long droughts, then destructive Bush Fires, and now there are Floods sweeping the Country, My heart goes out to all the people that are affected by all of it, when I see pictures of the destruction, and the extent, I feel very sad. The Courage it ta...

Lyne · Lyne

Well after four years, my son is ready to give my A a second chance. Now my A could have spent the last number of years working on recovery. She is involved with an OA sponsor, and making some progress. She is still an untreated alcoholic, and what drove my son and his wife away, was her passive aggressi...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's page had a belief that, even when facing difficult struggles in life, they had to push themselves to get things done, otherwise they would turn into a slug. Doing a Fourth Step revealed that by being so hard on themselves, they made their own life unmanageable -- and accomplishe...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Some good things to avoid drama While searching the web for something completely different, I ran across this list of neutral responses... That's interesting.Let me think about that.Thank you for the information.Thank you for supporting me.I'll have to ponder that one.Wow.Hmmmmm.Golly-g...

Debb · Debb

Happy April 1st - MIP Family!Rhymes for April let me singThe pleasures of returning spring .Fools are made, by far the worst,On other days besides the First.~April Rhymes, The Comic Almanack for 1835by William Makepeace Thackeray, Albert Smith, Gilbert à Beckett and The Brothers MayhewTodays OD...

biosphere · biosphere

Hi All, Never thought I'd be here, but now that I am I'm very glad to see the community exists. I have a middle aged sibling who has significant multi organ damage from alcohol abuse. There's a reasonable chance of near term death due to the level of damage, but we're are as optimistic as we can be. Non...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/29, talks about being nicer to ourselves. The damaged self-esteem and the message that we are not good enough, comes from living with alcoholism. The writer recognized that these voices could be silenced! Alanon reminds us that we are lovable and can learn to love ourse...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the role of Al-Anon in the lives of folks who have lived with alcoholism. Al-Anon is the place where many grow up, learn to face the world as it is, and to take responsibility for actions. Members deal with feelings, share about experiences, and learn about th...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Hi all, Ive fallen off the wagon and have been white knuckling it for too long. Im merely surviving again, this last year has me in my knees and face. Life with covid as a nurse working full time hasnt been easy, life with two foster teens this last year hasnt been easy and everything else is falling away. I...

Debb · Debb

Silence, it is suggested, is a blessing when used in times of reflection and meditation, but if used as a way to punish the alcoholic,as to avoid confrontation, can be, "A grim and furious silence" that "can be more crushing and wounding than harsh words". Underthose circumstances, it is suggested...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading in C2C, the author shares about the moment they were able to accept that alcoholism is a disease, which allowed them to more easily separate the person from the disease. The author had been convinced that their loved one could stop drinking if they wanted to, after all, the author t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the feeling of safety that comes from alanon. The writer describes a childhood that featured all of the chaos of an alcoholic home, including a feeling that everyone (including the alcoholic parents) were children together. The writer describes be...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Like many, when today's author first heard Alanon's suggestion that we keep the focus on ourselves, not the alcoholic, they thought that sounded like what they accused the alcoholic of being: inconsiderate, thoughtless, and uncaring. 'That's not who I am' they thought, they were generous and car...

WendyP · WendyP

I have started to, not only find Courage but also put into practice, as I have found sharing on MIP, putting my thoughts, feelings, and my Stories, and myself out there not easy, or comfortable. I have looked at why, and I am making, allowing myself to be very vunerable. But when I look at the other side o...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hey Everyone!!! Hope you all are OK...I am working through a lot of stuff, I had some really tough health issues with stored pain causing back spasms so I got into physical therapy with the help of a trainer and my own research and my back is responding Add to that reading some GREAT books sent to me by a rec...

DavidG · DavidG

...home after a 2 week furlough. We never had holidays- always harvesting fruit through the summer. And hay. I found it really hard to take leave and to relax. Watched our city of Awkvegas [Auckland] come out lock-down... ...with a big yacht race. We got backpackers rates at a high end apartment- bec...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon delves into powerlessness as expressed in Step One. Although we might quibble over whether it means we are powerless over alcohol or over the alcoholic -- it is of course both. But we do have the power to change our own lives. We do not have to submit to degr...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting tomorrow's daily tonight as I am volunteering in the morning followed by golf in the afternoon. The reading discusses how the traditions of Al-Anon Family Groups help us learn how a healthy family group functions. When problems involving others arise, we can turn to the Traditions for gu...

DavidG · DavidG

...should we wait until November to talk about Step 11? If we are learning the steps- yes- likely that is a good idea. But when we are "practising these principals in all our affairs" we can turn to the step we need- for the moment. In my view, anyway. This week I was reflecting on the "meet" in meeting....

john_jpd · john_jpd

I'm so glad there is place like this where there are people who understand this terrible disease. I had a brother who lived with me and was an alcoholic. He died recently this past August from end stage liver failure at the age of 57. I'm having tremendous problems dealing with it. He knew he had liver...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

A powerful spiritual concept in Alanon is that I am no better than the alcoholic and untreated, exhibit some of the same character defects I accused them of having. Today's reading specifically addresses manipulation and control.If I honestly assess my own behavior, I won't have to look far to see w...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Upon awakening, I think about the twenty-four hours ahead. I consider my plans for the day. Before I begin, I ask God to direct my thinking. I read from Courage to Change and from another book. Then, I reach into my god-box and pull out a word or sometimes it's a slogan. Today is was Easy Does It...But Do It...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday, 3/22, the author discusses how worrying becomes the norm. Its a habit difficult to shake off even if we know it serves no purpose. We think about yesterday and tomorrow, and miss the day we have. In alanon we can learn to free ourselves from worry, if we concentrate on a mana...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about what we gravitate toward, what our attitudes do to perception, and the choices we can make. The writer begins by stating that we dont necessarily veer toward what is good for us, but rather what is familiar. In the writers case, negative thinking was p...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about self-worth, one of the topics in the Fourth Step guide in the Blueprint for Progress literature. Working though the step, the author found that they had always judged their value on the basis of accomplishments or what others said. Thus, the author work...

cranberry · cranberry

My AH has been an alcoholic for a long time, longer than the 13 yrs we've been together. We've been on the roller coaster, rehab, bouts of heavy drinking, 5 yrs sobriety, and hospital stays. The past year has been awful and 2021 is not off to a great start. He's become so angry and violent. He's only bee...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Hi peeps. Mel here. I was a member of this forum a few years ago, and the fellowship of this board helped me to leave an abusive relationship. I've been doing OK since- my kid is doing great and I feel like I am thriving. I come here today to talk about my brother Jimmy. My mother has just expressed to me that s...

WendyP · WendyP

I would like to share on my earlier journey with Detachment. I am no longer living with the active phase of Alcoholism, and haven't for some time. I still have a lot of Family members who have both sides of it, the effects and Active. So Detachment is still very important to me. From my earlier Marriage wi...

Freetime · Freetime

Judgmental -- The writer of today's page doesn't use that word, but describes a compulsion with focusing on other people, and knowing exactly how other people should behave. By always trying to impose their own rules on others, the writer was neglecting their own life. We don't know what is best for...

Debb · Debb

Todays ODAT reading discusses living with an alcoholic and the subsequent distortion in our thinking,in particular how it can lead to blaming all our problems on the bottle." It is that distortion/blamethat blurs the "truth that we must look within ourselves in order to take responsibility for o...

JerryF · JerryF

I've been sleeping with a wide open mind for the last few days and why? The ladies of Al-Anon thats why. I will always be beyond grateful to the program and to the ladies who were here and caught me wandering around the front doors looking for ???? As I've mentioned, if there was one thing I knew when I...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading from C2C reminds us that no problem lasts forever. No matter how large or central a problem may seem, like other experiences in our ever-changing life, it is sure to pass. Each experience can help us grow because difficult situations bring out qualities that might not ha...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I'm just curious,do you guys practice detachment on a full time basis with an A or just as needed? I'm getting much better at detaching when AH is in a funk. He does have good days and can be quite charming,fun,kind,etc. On those days I've been engaging. The thing is though, I am finding myself feeling...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

'Acceptance and surrender open all doors to AlAnon'...pretty powerful statement in today's reading, and a problem if we believe they meaning simply giving in or letting someone roll us.If I'm using the concepts as Alanon intended, Acceptance involves admitting there exist things we cannot chan...

DavidG · DavidG

I am always terrified of getting things wrong. Of course one person might say it is wrong- and the next person say it was okay. I was kicked out of home- after sticking up for my kid sister. For me it was a betrayal. A devastating experience. It was the last straw- that changed the course of my life. I be...

mamamary1964 · mamamary1964

So, last week we told our daughter she had to leave if she wouldn't get help. We talked and she actually said she wanted to go and had a safe place to stay. All was peaceful - until yesterday! She called her father and asked to come home, he told her yes if she would follow the rules. She came home, I typed...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/15, explores the act of forgiveness. The writer used to think that forgiveness gave them power and control over others. The thinking changed when they realized that behaving self-righteously only gave them suffering! This happens when we separate ourselves from fel...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- In todays reading the writer remembers hearing about the twelve steps being broken into four categories: steps 1-3 about giving up (admitting powerlessness), steps 4-6 about owning up (accountability), 7-9 about making up (amends) and 10-12 about keeping up (working at p...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Couple weeks ago, Nancy's daughter passed away. Heart attack. That was rough. The family came together and took care of each other. Last week, I lost a cousin who died suddenly from an aneurysm. So, I don't always like or understand god's plan for me. I take comfort knowing He walks beside me and like th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses Step Seven - Humbly asked HiWm to remove our shortcomings." Often times, we consider this step with seriousness, dread and humility. Instead, we are asked to consider joy and even humor. The author suggests that a sign that we've actually gotten humble enough to ask our...

Debb · Debb

Todays ODAT talks about living in the days of calamity and hysteria, when alcoholism rules the way we lived and approachedour daily lives. But now that we have found Al-Anon we have the opportunity to see our problems with a better sense ofproportion and balance.Todays Reminder:Now that I am in Al-...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and happy Saturday. Today's reading talks about getting our needs met and asking for help. Many of us, BR (Before Recovery), expected those close to us to know what we were feeling without us telling them. When we were angry and wanted to argue, sometimes we silently fumed. When w...

Freetime · Freetime

I couldn't decide which reading I like better, so I will share both. ODAT for March 12 says that we can be just as sick as alcoholics, with an obsession to "save" them. For our well-being, we need to learn that we cannot live another's life. When we focus on ourselves, this reading suggests, it is more...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their Al-Anon work of reversing old ways of thinking. The author had been in the habit of playing it safe, avoiding risk, and avoiding painful feelings. However, life is one risk after another, and some amount of pain is unavoidable. Ra...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page looks at a symptom of our sickness: anger and condemnation toward others, justified by a (likely unrecognized) belief that what we do is right and what others do is wrong. These (seemingly) uncontrollable outbursts offer a kind of relief, but pay us poorly over time.Reminder: When I lo...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/8, describes a vivid picture of how many of us were, upon arrival in alanon: discouraged mind, tormenting ourself, thinking in circles, feeling like there was no air, and feeling tangled and confused. Nothing seemed straight or clear. Many of us were in a constant state...

TeaP · TeaP

I have known my spouse to be an alcoholic for a decade. It became obvious his behavior was apparent to everyone- when preschool called 5yrs ago. Despite promises and low dark moments, he wont seek help. Where his low point lies- is much farther than I can follow. I reached my breaking point with him at t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: In todays reading the writer describes being surprised at something heard at a meeting: that we (friends and family of alcoholics) can find contentment and even happiness whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not. Like many of us who came to alanon, the writer figured th...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I canot believe it has been one year since Betty's untimely death. One year ago I wrote about feeling that Betty showed me great kindness and patience when I was in a terrible place. That dark hole that had swallowed me up when I first came to al anon. One year later I am writing that Betty showed me it wa...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I'm grateful for: A roof over my head Food/heat and all the basic necessities that we all take for granted All my loved ones My dog This place How about you? What are you grateful for today?

DavidG · DavidG

I always wanted to belong. To a family and to a community. I tried to force solutions- because i was so desperate. So wanting to escape deep my sense of abandonment. This group has a business board where we can discuss group based issues. It is used from time to time. I practise a certain amount o...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Thought I had forgiven everything, but the latest crisis caused by alcoholism feels unforgivable. Every day I ask my Higher Power to HELP me overcome the hurt. Any advice out there on forgiveness?

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	April 8, 2021 – ODAT – Control (Preview) Todays ODAT suggest that trying to control the alcoholic in our life is like trying to control the tides. It is also suggested that instead, we control our own thoughts, words and actions and therefore leaveroom for our improvement, because it truly is our obligation to have and find a satisfying li...	Debb	6	355	Apr 8, 2021 by Maresie888
	Came back to say hi. (Preview) Hello! I've been away from this board for awhile but I wanted to come back and say hi. The last year has been challenging. But I am headed in a new and good direction. 5 years ago I landed on this board in a state of desperation. Q had just gotten in trouble for the first time related to alcohol at our shared pl...	Fedora	6	900	Apr 8, 2021 by Bettertomorrow
	Tired..Tired..Tired of lies (Preview) I am new here. I have never posted before, but tonight I need support! I am 50 years old. I have been married for 27 years to my husband, whom I love very very much. We have 3 daughters that are all adults and 2 of them still live at home (we are a very close family). I take turns with my sister staying at my...	Shipshape	10	470	Apr 8, 2021 by Bettertomorrow
	Courage to Change April 7 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the power of their imagination. Invited to speak at a different meeting, the author conjured up a large group of serious Al-Anon members meeting in a perfect location with a perfect meeting format. The author's role in this visualization was as the guest sp...	Skorpi	5	376	Apr 7, 2021 by DavidG
	4/6/21 Courage to Change (C2C) – Our Symptoms (Preview) Today's reading observes the similarities of the common cold, alcoholism, and us Alanoners: all have definite, observable symptoms (Alanoners: obsession, anxiety, anger, denial, guilt to name just a few) and none chose to have the illness.Unlike a cold, however, alcoholism doesn't go away on i...	Enigmatic	6	625	Apr 6, 2021 by Iamhere
	Not really Al-Anon but I feel like such an idiot (Preview) Oh do I feel like an idiotI have my clients stuff for a week and I felt kind of icky about one of his kids tax returns but I could not put my finger on it because the filing version looked OK and so he comes today and we are chatting about Social security and I said oh yeah you want to pay Social Security because t...	mamalioness	3	388	Apr 6, 2021 by mamalioness
	C2C, 4/5 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/5, talks about when the alcoholic finds sobriety. There are still challenges and we may be disappointed to not find the happily ever after ending we were looking for. Problems that were attributed to drinking may still persist. Even longtime alanon members may need ext...	Lyne	5	404	Apr 5, 2021 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today April 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the negative energy spent in resentment and the power of forgiveness. The writer describes feeling much resentment toward an alcoholic mother who was not capable of unconditional love. Before alanon, the writer felt consumed with the energy of res...	yanksfan51	5	1365	Apr 5, 2021 by Maresie888
	Making Amends (Preview) I live in a very strange Country, we have had really bad, long droughts, then destructive Bush Fires, and now there are Floods sweeping the Country, My heart goes out to all the people that are affected by all of it, when I see pictures of the destruction, and the extent, I feel very sad. The Courage it ta...	WendyP	6	767	Apr 5, 2021 by mamalioness
	Passive aggressiveness (Preview) Well after four years, my son is ready to give my A a second chance. Now my A could have spent the last number of years working on recovery. She is involved with an OA sponsor, and making some progress. She is still an untreated alcoholic, and what drove my son and his wife away, was her passive aggressi...	Lyne	4	425	Apr 5, 2021 by DavidG
	Courage to Change, April 2 -- Easy Does It (Preview) The author of today's page had a belief that, even when facing difficult struggles in life, they had to push themselves to get things done, otherwise they would turn into a slug. Doing a Fourth Step revealed that by being so hard on themselves, they made their own life unmanageable -- and accomplishe...	Freetime	5	642	Apr 4, 2021 by mamalioness
	Some good things to say and actions to avoid drama (Preview) Some good things to avoid drama While searching the web for something completely different, I ran across this list of neutral responses... That's interesting.Let me think about that.Thank you for the information.Thank you for supporting me.I'll have to ponder that one.Wow.Hmmmmm.Golly-g...	mamalioness	8	1826	Apr 4, 2021 by mamalioness
	April 1, 2021 – ODAT – Contentment (Preview) Happy April 1st - MIP Family!Rhymes for April let me singThe pleasures of returning spring .Fools are made, by far the worst,On other days besides the First.~April Rhymes, The Comic Almanack for 1835by William Makepeace Thackeray, Albert Smith, Gilbert à Beckett and The Brothers MayhewTodays OD...	Debb	8	990	Apr 2, 2021 by DavidG
	Strategies for working with Enabling Partners who themselves are Alcoholics Enabler Strategy Communications Partner (Preview) Hi All, Never thought I'd be here, but now that I am I'm very glad to see the community exists. I have a middle aged sibling who has significant multi organ damage from alcohol abuse. There's a reasonable chance of near term death due to the level of damage, but we're are as optimistic as we can be. Non...	biosphere	7	3578	Apr 1, 2021 by Maresie888
	C2C, 3/29 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/29, talks about being nicer to ourselves. The damaged self-esteem and the message that we are not good enough, comes from living with alcoholism. The writer recognized that these voices could be silenced! Alanon reminds us that we are lovable and can learn to love ourse...	Lyne	5	391	Apr 1, 2021 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change March 31 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the role of Al-Anon in the lives of folks who have lived with alcoholism. Al-Anon is the place where many grow up, learn to face the world as it is, and to take responsibility for actions. Members deal with feelings, share about experiences, and learn about th...	Skorpi	7	1163	Apr 1, 2021 by Maresie888
	It’s been a long time! (Preview) Hi all, Ive fallen off the wagon and have been white knuckling it for too long. Im merely surviving again, this last year has me in my knees and face. Life with covid as a nurse working full time hasnt been easy, life with two foster teens this last year hasnt been easy and everything else is falling away. I...	Breakingfree	16	3009	Mar 31, 2021 by mamalioness
	March 25, 2021 – ODAT – How to properly use Silence (Preview) Silence, it is suggested, is a blessing when used in times of reflection and meditation, but if used as a way to punish the alcoholic,as to avoid confrontation, can be, "A grim and furious silence" that "can be more crushing and wounding than harsh words". Underthose circumstances, it is suggested...	Debb	4	500	Mar 31, 2021 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change March 24 (Preview) In today's reading in C2C, the author shares about the moment they were able to accept that alcoholism is a disease, which allowed them to more easily separate the person from the disease. The author had been convinced that their loved one could stop drinking if they wanted to, after all, the author t...	Skorpi	8	1113	Mar 31, 2021 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today March 28 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the feeling of safety that comes from alanon. The writer describes a childhood that featured all of the chaos of an alcoholic home, including a feeling that everyone (including the alcoholic parents) were children together. The writer describes be...	yanksfan51	7	2227	Mar 31, 2021 by Maresie888
	3/30/21 Courage to Change - Focus on Ourselves, Unloving? (Preview) Like many, when today's author first heard Alanon's suggestion that we keep the focus on ourselves, not the alcoholic, they thought that sounded like what they accused the alcoholic of being: inconsiderate, thoughtless, and uncaring. 'That's not who I am' they thought, they were generous and car...	Enigmatic	6	1063	Mar 31, 2021 by mamalioness
	The Power of Recovery. (Preview) I have started to, not only find Courage but also put into practice, as I have found sharing on MIP, putting my thoughts, feelings, and my Stories, and myself out there not easy, or comfortable. I have looked at why, and I am making, allowing myself to be very vunerable. But when I look at the other side o...	WendyP	5	907	Mar 29, 2021 by mamalioness
	No!! I did not die..Just LOADS on my plate and I missed you all (Preview) Hey Everyone!!! Hope you all are OK...I am working through a lot of stuff, I had some really tough health issues with stored pain causing back spasms so I got into physical therapy with the help of a trainer and my own research and my back is responding Add to that reading some GREAT books sent to me by a rec...	mamalioness	10	396	Mar 29, 2021 by mamalioness
	Step 12 ... (Preview) ...home after a 2 week furlough. We never had holidays- always harvesting fruit through the summer. And hay. I found it really hard to take leave and to relax. Watched our city of Awkvegas [Auckland] come out lock-down... ...with a big yacht race. We got backpackers rates at a high end apartment- bec...	DavidG	5	331	Mar 29, 2021 by DavidG
	ODAT - March 26 - Powerlessness and Acceptance (Preview) Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon delves into powerlessness as expressed in Step One. Although we might quibble over whether it means we are powerless over alcohol or over the alcoholic -- it is of course both. But we do have the power to change our own lives. We do not have to submit to degr...	Freetime	9	2565	Mar 28, 2021 by DavidG
	C2C 3/26 (Preview) Posting tomorrow's daily tonight as I am volunteering in the morning followed by golf in the afternoon. The reading discusses how the traditions of Al-Anon Family Groups help us learn how a healthy family group functions. When problems involving others arise, we can turn to the Traditions for gu...	Iamhere	6	622	Mar 28, 2021 by mamalioness
	Where is the "meet" in meeting. Step 11. (Preview) ...should we wait until November to talk about Step 11? If we are learning the steps- yes- likely that is a good idea. But when we are "practising these principals in all our affairs" we can turn to the step we need- for the moment. In my view, anyway. This week I was reflecting on the "meet" in meeting....	DavidG	5	463	Mar 28, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Brother's Death from Liver Failure-Guilt (Preview) I'm so glad there is place like this where there are people who understand this terrible disease. I had a brother who lived with me and was an alcoholic. He died recently this past August from end stage liver failure at the age of 57. I'm having tremendous problems dealing with it. He knew he had liver...	john_jpd	29	4513	Mar 27, 2021 by Debb
	3/23/21 ODAT in Alanon – Our Own Manipulation (Preview) A powerful spiritual concept in Alanon is that I am no better than the alcoholic and untreated, exhibit some of the same character defects I accused them of having. Today's reading specifically addresses manipulation and control.If I honestly assess my own behavior, I won't have to look far to see w...	Enigmatic	3	492	Mar 23, 2021 by Iamhere
	Easy Does It...But Do It (Preview) Upon awakening, I think about the twenty-four hours ahead. I consider my plans for the day. Before I begin, I ask God to direct my thinking. I read from Courage to Change and from another book. Then, I reach into my god-box and pull out a word or sometimes it's a slogan. Today is was Easy Does It...But Do It...	Wolfie55	4	3084	Mar 23, 2021 by a4l
	ODAT in alanon, 3/22 (Preview) In the reading for Monday, 3/22, the author discusses how worrying becomes the norm. Its a habit difficult to shake off even if we know it serves no purpose. We think about yesterday and tomorrow, and miss the day we have. In alanon we can learn to free ourselves from worry, if we concentrate on a mana...	Lyne	6	962	Mar 22, 2021 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Mar 21 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about what we gravitate toward, what our attitudes do to perception, and the choices we can make. The writer begins by stating that we dont necessarily veer toward what is good for us, but rather what is familiar. In the writers case, negative thinking was p...	yanksfan51	8	1060	Mar 22, 2021 by Debb
	C2C - 3/20 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about self-worth, one of the topics in the Fourth Step guide in the Blueprint for Progress literature. Working though the step, the author found that they had always judged their value on the basis of accomplishments or what others said. Thus, the author work...	Iamhere	5	415	Mar 21, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	Good Mom? Bad Mom? Bad Wife (Preview) My AH has been an alcoholic for a long time, longer than the 13 yrs we've been together. We've been on the roller coaster, rehab, bouts of heavy drinking, 5 yrs sobriety, and hospital stays. The past year has been awful and 2021 is not off to a great start. He's become so angry and violent. He's only bee...	cranberry	6	2036	Mar 20, 2021 by sunmustshine
	My Brother Jimmy (Preview) Hi peeps. Mel here. I was a member of this forum a few years ago, and the fellowship of this board helped me to leave an abusive relationship. I've been doing OK since- my kid is doing great and I feel like I am thriving. I come here today to talk about my brother Jimmy. My mother has just expressed to me that s...	Youknowme	8	3975	Mar 20, 2021 by sunmustshine
	More on Detachment (Preview) I would like to share on my earlier journey with Detachment. I am no longer living with the active phase of Alcoholism, and haven't for some time. I still have a lot of Family members who have both sides of it, the effects and Active. So Detachment is still very important to me. From my earlier Marriage wi...	WendyP	6	1161	Mar 20, 2021 by sunmustshine
	Courage to Change, March 19 - Judgement (Preview) Judgmental -- The writer of today's page doesn't use that word, but describes a compulsion with focusing on other people, and knowing exactly how other people should behave. By always trying to impose their own rules on others, the writer was neglecting their own life. We don't know what is best for...	Freetime	6	856	Mar 19, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	March 18, 2021 – ODAT – Truth (Preview) Todays ODAT reading discusses living with an alcoholic and the subsequent distortion in our thinking,in particular how it can lead to blaming all our problems on the bottle." It is that distortion/blamethat blurs the "truth that we must look within ourselves in order to take responsibility for o...	Debb	4	3186	Mar 18, 2021 by JerryF
	Ladies of Recovery (Preview) I've been sleeping with a wide open mind for the last few days and why? The ladies of Al-Anon thats why. I will always be beyond grateful to the program and to the ladies who were here and caught me wandering around the front doors looking for ???? As I've mentioned, if there was one thing I knew when I...	JerryF	6	1526	Mar 18, 2021 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change March 17 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading from C2C reminds us that no problem lasts forever. No matter how large or central a problem may seem, like other experiences in our ever-changing life, it is sure to pass. Each experience can help us grow because difficult situations bring out qualities that might not ha...	Skorpi	4	404	Mar 17, 2021 by DavidG
	Detaching As Needed Or Full Time? (Preview) I'm just curious,do you guys practice detachment on a full time basis with an A or just as needed? I'm getting much better at detaching when AH is in a funk. He does have good days and can be quite charming,fun,kind,etc. On those days I've been engaging. The thing is though, I am finding myself feeling...	SunnyFrogs	27	3185	Mar 16, 2021 by DavidG
	3/16/21 ODAT in AlAnon – Acceptance, Surrender…Weakness? (Preview) 'Acceptance and surrender open all doors to AlAnon'...pretty powerful statement in today's reading, and a problem if we believe they meaning simply giving in or letting someone roll us.If I'm using the concepts as Alanon intended, Acceptance involves admitting there exist things we cannot chan...	Enigmatic	4	3182	Mar 16, 2021 by Iamhere
	Boundaries in Alanon- fear... (Preview) I am always terrified of getting things wrong. Of course one person might say it is wrong- and the next person say it was okay. I was kicked out of home- after sticking up for my kid sister. For me it was a betrayal. A devastating experience. It was the last straw- that changed the course of my life. I be...	DavidG	6	511	Mar 16, 2021 by DavidG
	She's Back (Preview) So, last week we told our daughter she had to leave if she wouldn't get help. We talked and she actually said she wanted to go and had a safe place to stay. All was peaceful - until yesterday! She called her father and asked to come home, he told her yes if she would follow the rules. She came home, I typed...	mamamary1964	17	3033	Mar 15, 2021 by mamamary1964
	C2C, 3/15 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/15, explores the act of forgiveness. The writer used to think that forgiveness gave them power and control over others. The thinking changed when they realized that behaving self-righteously only gave them suffering! This happens when we separate ourselves from fel...	Lyne	3	1612	Mar 15, 2021 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today March 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone- In todays reading the writer remembers hearing about the twelve steps being broken into four categories: steps 1-3 about giving up (admitting powerlessness), steps 4-6 about owning up (accountability), 7-9 about making up (amends) and 10-12 about keeping up (working at p...	yanksfan51	4	2423	Mar 14, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	Lemons and Peaches (Preview) Couple weeks ago, Nancy's daughter passed away. Heart attack. That was rough. The family came together and took care of each other. Last week, I lost a cousin who died suddenly from an aneurysm. So, I don't always like or understand god's plan for me. I take comfort knowing He walks beside me and like th...	Wolfie55	6	437	Mar 14, 2021 by JerryF
	C2C 3/13 (Preview) Today's reading discusses Step Seven - Humbly asked HiWm to remove our shortcomings." Often times, we consider this step with seriousness, dread and humility. Instead, we are asked to consider joy and even humor. The author suggests that a sign that we've actually gotten humble enough to ask our...	Iamhere	3	1078	Mar 14, 2021 by Lyne
	March 11, 2021 – ODAT – We No Longer Despair (Preview) Todays ODAT talks about living in the days of calamity and hysteria, when alcoholism rules the way we lived and approachedour daily lives. But now that we have found Al-Anon we have the opportunity to see our problems with a better sense ofproportion and balance.Todays Reminder:Now that I am in Al-...	Debb	6	2440	Mar 13, 2021 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 3/6 (Preview) Good morning MIP and happy Saturday. Today's reading talks about getting our needs met and asking for help. Many of us, BR (Before Recovery), expected those close to us to know what we were feeling without us telling them. When we were angry and wanted to argue, sometimes we silently fumed. When w...	Iamhere	2	1313	Mar 13, 2021 by Lyne
	March 12 - C2C and ODAT (Preview) I couldn't decide which reading I like better, so I will share both. ODAT for March 12 says that we can be just as sick as alcoholics, with an obsession to "save" them. For our well-being, we need to learn that we cannot live another's life. When we focus on ourselves, this reading suggests, it is more...	Freetime	4	705	Mar 12, 2021 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change March 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their Al-Anon work of reversing old ways of thinking. The author had been in the habit of playing it safe, avoiding risk, and avoiding painful feelings. However, life is one risk after another, and some amount of pain is unavoidable. Ra...	Skorpi	6	496	Mar 10, 2021 by JerryF
	3/9/21 ODAT in AlAnon – Anger (Preview) Today's page looks at a symptom of our sickness: anger and condemnation toward others, justified by a (likely unrecognized) belief that what we do is right and what others do is wrong. These (seemingly) uncontrollable outbursts offer a kind of relief, but pay us poorly over time.Reminder: When I lo...	Enigmatic	6	384	Mar 9, 2021 by DavidG
	ODAT in alanon, 3/8 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/8, describes a vivid picture of how many of us were, upon arrival in alanon: discouraged mind, tormenting ourself, thinking in circles, feeling like there was no air, and feeling tangled and confused. Nothing seemed straight or clear. Many of us were in a constant state...	Lyne	6	333	Mar 9, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	Moving forward? Or standing still? (Preview) I have known my spouse to be an alcoholic for a decade. It became obvious his behavior was apparent to everyone- when preschool called 5yrs ago. Despite promises and low dark moments, he wont seek help. Where his low point lies- is much farther than I can follow. I reached my breaking point with him at t...	TeaP	4	521	Mar 9, 2021 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today March 7 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: In todays reading the writer describes being surprised at something heard at a meeting: that we (friends and family of alcoholics) can find contentment and even happiness whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not. Like many of us who came to alanon, the writer figured th...	yanksfan51	6	1338	Mar 7, 2021 by Iamhere
	Betty 2021 (Preview) I canot believe it has been one year since Betty's untimely death. One year ago I wrote about feeling that Betty showed me great kindness and patience when I was in a terrible place. That dark hole that had swallowed me up when I first came to al anon. One year later I am writing that Betty showed me it wa...	Maresie888	9	933	Mar 7, 2021 by DavidG
	Today I Am Grateful... (Preview) I'm grateful for: A roof over my head Food/heat and all the basic necessities that we all take for granted All my loved ones My dog This place How about you? What are you grateful for today?	SunnyFrogs	10	396	Mar 7, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Group conscience- thoughts and hopes... Tradition 2. (Preview) I always wanted to belong. To a family and to a community. I tried to force solutions- because i was so desperate. So wanting to escape deep my sense of abandonment. This group has a business board where we can discuss group based issues. It is used from time to time. I practise a certain amount o...	DavidG	2	316	Mar 7, 2021 by Lyne
	Forgiving my AH (Preview) Thought I had forgiven everything, but the latest crisis caused by alcoholism feels unforgivable. Every day I ask my Higher Power to HELP me overcome the hurt. Any advice out there on forgiveness?	Bbrave	10	1477	Mar 7, 2021 by duffs
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