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Hope For Today Mar 31
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Good Morning Everyone-- This reading speaks to our relationship with our Higher Power. Although I never have felt hatred or even fear toward God, I can relate to the reading as far as feeling my relationship with my HP feeling strengthened since coming into the program. I am grateful that growing up...
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Frustrating day at work
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One of those days....actually the whole week. It was filled with drama. Everyone was acting like they wanted to kill each other. Everyone was complaining. It was volatile and umcomfortable. All other admin but me was out...bad planning overall. There were a million fires tg at got lit over stupid cr...
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NAVAJO AREA
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WHERE ARE THERE ALANON MEETINGS IN FARMINGTON NM OR CLOSE TO THE 4 CORNERS (RED MESA AREA?)
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what a difference a year makes
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When I was an alanon newbie, at times I thought some of the member responses were nearly callous in response to the shares on the board. One that came to me (over a year ago) really hurt my feelings and I thought something was wrong with that responder. So now I have almost two years in, and my sister in an...
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Today, I am thankful for...
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The internet! Because our service was disconnected over the weekend, and I wasn't able to pop online for support. SO thankful to have it connected again today! What are you thankful for today?
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Skorpi
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Good books for self help
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Hello, I posted yesterday about my son who is an alcoholic. I got a lot of good advice, but I am still really scared of the whole process. Will I have to live the rest of my life like this? If so, then it is not much of a life to live. Could someone please give me the names of some good books that might help. I...
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Lenora
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Still unmanageable in many areas .. shoulding on me (shame)
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it is so hard to have this many years in program and still recognize the reality of step 1 for me .. know I will always be on it no matter what step i'm on because the powerless to me is many things but lacking clarity (wisdom) is a huge piece of why i am powerless .. shoulding on myself this morning .. should be...
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MeTwo2
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Ambivalent
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Hi everyone! Lately I have been feeling this way towards my AH. Simultaneous mixed feelings of starting to trust and then the I can't trust you hits. I can't really declare how I feel about things. Nothing is going wrong or is horrible, it's just weird. The other day his Probation Officer showed up on ou...
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Flower49
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I Wonder When People say my experiences don't define me....?
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I've always thought the opposite, here on earth my experiences help define who I am. In a sense that you learned something from your experiences good or bad, and you know to watch it next time, or keep your mind open, I think experiences do mold me into a different person for better or worse, and hopefull...
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LinSC
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separation
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I took my husband to treatment at the end of December. We had been separated before that but had discussed our marriage and decided that we were going to stay married. After his 28 day program he decided that he was going to stay where he went to treatment in a halfway house. I was fine with that. I thought w...
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tnwife
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I love you....
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I am simply the physical manifestation of what I was created to be in spirit. A energy of love and light in the world. This was my form prior to any physical form being developed. Now, I am visible, touchable, and simply being carried within the capsulation of my physical being. My life experiences...
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John
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Non-drinking blacouts?
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My AH is sober 83 days. Saturday night he came to bed around 3:30 am (he stays up late all the time) he was acting weird. Like he had been drinking. I got up in the morning and he had cleaned up the kitchen including bagging up two bags of trash to go out. The next day he said "thank you for ba...
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ladybugnessa
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An enlightened morning
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I have been working so hard on focusing on me that I think I may have actually been being more than lovingly detached. I think I've been a bit nasty, just waiting for the next shoe to drop so I could prove to myself what an asshat my qualifier really is. And the fact is, yes, yes he's been making mistakes he...
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GreenerGal
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WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Trust; 3 A's (Awareness, Acceptance, Action); Changing the Things I Can
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WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Trust; 3 A's (Awareness, Acceptance, Action); Changing the Things I Can The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...
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shimo
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ACOA friend needs intervention, what are the steps?
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Hey hey everyone! I have been wanting to do this for awhile but kept thinking things would resolve on their own... lesson learned! My friend, and ex partner (let's call her "Jane"), needs some help. I will give a run-down below of what has went down. Edit: Jane and I only recently (approx....
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MidCenturyModern
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Sticking with the Program
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So, My wife's first court date was yesterday. Just the initial appearance and signature bond. Today, she got a letter notifying her of a sentencing that happened for her refusal to allow a blood test without a warrant. (Since it is her third, the blood draw instead of the breathalyzer was required.)...
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Skorpi
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sometimes I wish...
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I wish that I didn't have to remember things from the past. My cousin was available to me for a long time. Now her daughter has learned that I won't tolerate her the way she is. I can't change her I know but our belief systems are very different. I wanted to be close to her but what I see in her is not healthy for...
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Hoot Nanny
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biting my tongue and holding on
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This is just like trying to not eat fattennng food. I have to bite my tonque not to scream that ah promised to go to his aa meetings etc since he got out of rehab and hasnt. He promised alot of things and i have to use all my strength to not scream about it.. I have to be strong and not touch the piles of paperwork...
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YARNCRAZY
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went to facetoface alanon meeting with bro in law
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we went to a meeting i seldom go to because I need a ride to get there. afterwards, i asked him what he thought. He was less than impressed. he said that it just seemed like a place where people share their stories. He said he didnt understand the hands off approach to the alcoholic. he said that they didnt h...
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Beth Hart, (Song) Setting Me Free
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This is one of the most powerful songs I have heard about a toxic relationship finally being left. It has the sound of empowerment, freedom and independence wrapped into it nicely.
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John
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How to handle it when you know they're drunk or drank and they swear they're not or didn't?
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Hey there Everyone, I would love the groups input on this because I simply don't know how to handle it and I haven't seen it covered in Alanon. Scenerio: I call my AH, I KNOW right away by the sound of his voice that he has used -something- (drugs or alcohol). He is not completely drunk/high, but, I can he...
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Not been in a while, struggling with suicide
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Im 28 and attended alanon consistenly for about 5 years, but havent been in about 3 years, alanon turned my life around, and i still am able to work through alanon concepts and relate them to my everyday life, i just felt i wasnt getting as much from the meetings anymore as i had great compassion and had go...
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Effdee
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Great Weekend :) Still having a few A HA moments :)
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Well another weekend without police involved in my life is a good thing if you don't count the kids and I went out to dinner and wound up being an extremely expensive dinner to the tune of 297$. Poor little waitress ringing us out spoke no English we went for Mexican that night, one of my favorite custome...
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Advice helping someone with addiction
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Hi, my brother's mother in law is addicted to Percoset. She's in her late 70s and is suffering from congestive heart failure, among other aliments. These are prescription drugs that she's become dependent on over time. At times she's admitted she has a problem but other times she's in denial. R...
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Sammy Sunday
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Feeling heartbroken ... AGAIN
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Hi - My daughter is an alcoholic I would LIKE to say a recovering alcoholic , but am not sure She SAYS she is , is doing all the 'right' things eg attending AA , PLUG , inpatient rehab etc , seems sober and says she has stopped drinking and doing well I thought she was making progress but am not sure now My Grand...
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Nannynoo
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New to online meetings - can you explain?
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Hi, I've been on the board for a couple of months and working my own meeting for several years. Considering there are no F2F meetings on Sundays near me, I've enjoyed the online meetings you offer here for those days. Thank you for having them. The strangest thing happened today though - after our meet...
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LedfootJenny
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The defects within us attract us to alcoholics...
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....its nothing to do with love. We might call it 'love,' 'soul mate' etc. I learned it was obsession, compulsion, possessiveness, jealousy, dependancy. Never ever love.
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el-cee
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Dealing w/emotional abuse and terrified
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Hi there. I was directed here by another site, but I'm not sure if it's okay for me to share this due to the fact that I'm an alcoholic myself, and I know that you all are facing pain due to an alcoholic in your own life, but I'll share anyway. I guess just remove the post if you find it inappropriate. I'm marr...
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Llo
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Need to vent and a little support
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Good afternoon, this is my first post so bear with me. I have attended 2 of the on-line meetings and received a lot of benefit, so I am hoping that just typing out my feelings may help me get to a better place. My AW is just recently out of treatment and I am struggling to determine how to cope with some of her b...
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mattymags
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What too much coffee looks like and sounds like on me at 2 AM.
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John
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C2C 3-29
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The C2C reading for today is a perfect reminder to keep the focus on ourselves, and listen to the loud voices within that are telling us that were not good enough. The reading points out that this is not the truth, and it is a caused by damaged self-esteem that is a result of living with the disease of al...
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hotrod
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How do you handle it?
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Just wondering if anyone has tips on how to handle when A wakes up in a $hit mood (probably due to a hangover) and with a few choice statement attempts to ruin your whole day just as you step out the door. This AM I was getting ready to leave and had to communicate a few things about our son to my AH before leav...
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CoopsMom
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Infuriated
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I am trying to handle this feeling of infuriation but I can't seem to get my tools to work. I am feeling like my blood pressure is through the roof and I can't seem to calm down. I had to go out of town to a conference etc. and I was stuck for childcare, so I agreed that my ex-AH would come to this house and take c...
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Mattie
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Sunday Morning Meeting starting in 10 minutes.. topic - Letting Go and Letting God
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http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html
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John
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Update and a question
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Hi to ((all)) I've been isolating because I have been feeling low. I tried to go to a couple of f2f meetings but turns out that I am recognisable and that made me feel like I shouldn't be there. Like many of you, I work in mental health and it is so hard that we are expected not to participate in these programs...
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rainbow
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need for approval is a prison
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I still have a certain need for approval in my life at times. Im changing. I dont want to need anyone elses approval. As soon as i need it then they have my power and control me. I am good enough or else pee off really. For example, i love my sister but she can be hard to be with, she gives a little and withdraws s...
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ODAT 3-28
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The ODAT reading for today speaks about attending alanon meetings and listening to the opening. Here it is explained that the purpose of our fellowship is to support each other as we grow and change.. We are asked to share our experience in using alanon tools, the strength we gain from doing so b...
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Bottled up emotions
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Boy do I have some bottled up emotions. Went to my third f2f meeting today at lunch. Didn't talk but at the end one of he members was walking out of the meeting with me and just ask who my A was. Started bawling right on the spot and really couldn't stop for an hour. Thank god for two of the nice members who s...
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Jazzie18
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Thinking again
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I really could have used a f2f tonight. My boys had ball games so I was unable to make one on time. I started reading paths to recovery a few nights ago, so I'm trying to understand the steps! I can't believe it's taken me 18 years to believe alcoholism is a disease! Still haven't quit accepted it yet. Getti...
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4myboys
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Revelation--Step One is NOT as easy as it sounds..
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I met with Sponsor #1 yesterday. We discussed step one. 1. We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable. Now I truly thought that this was going to be an easy step. I know that I have no control over him. I know that I have no control over his alcoholism or...
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ladybugnessa
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what do you do when there is nothing to do?
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Although I am walking in the rain today, I am wondering what y'all do when you have nothing in particular to do? Maybe I should dance in the rain???? I need to focus & really need some feedback & your opinions on what to do except get online? The floor is yours. Kathleen
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Hoot Nanny
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here I sit!
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Some really good things have happened lately but today I am sitting on a very uncomfortable chair so I won't be long. I am still grateful for everything that is going right. I am happy to say that spring has sprung. I had that the most beautiful walk in a long time. The winter here was mild. I am going to go ge...
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Hoot Nanny
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ODAT 3-27
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The ODA T today speaks about Al-Anon fundamentals. It suggests that when we attend meetings and may be feeling out of sorts , we look around and begin to be judgmental of others. Then we must remind ourselves why we are attending Al-Anon meetings.. We are at Al-Anon meetings with the sole purpose o...
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hotrod
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probably weird.
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This is a little bit difficult to write about. I suppose it is about guilt after living with an A and small children, and when is it alright to stop being guilty and ashamed and start being a whole parent again? I did something today that was a bit out of character for me. I'm not sure how I feel about it. For m...
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missmeliss
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good morning gratitude, nice to run into you.
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Good morning all. On thinking of gratitude, my 2 year old daughter comes skipping out of bed, resplendent in stripey lime green socks on her hands and a grin. Wow! A year ago, I was cursing my stupidity in having children. Today, I am grateful of the work, the company, the gorgeous moments and the love th...
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a4l
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It's over
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On Sunday night my husband came home at midnight after a week long business trip. He'd been drinking on the plane. I kicked him out right there and then. He didn't even have time to bring in his suitcases. I simply lost it, not control of my anger, but my faith that it would ever get better. I was remarkabl...
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Mich
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tears again
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They say that depression is anger turned inwards,I have struggled with depression for years.Right now I am very down,feeling overwhelmed.I suppose I am realizing that a lot of my coping skills and things that I learned, or didn't learn has contributed to where I am right now.They say ignorance is bl...
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mjferg
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Baffling Disease
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Hi Everyone, Well, push is really coming to shove, and I have got to have my thesis to committee next Monday! EEek! I am taking a few days off this week to wrap things up. This weekend was incredibly baffling to me, especially after the week I had last week. My wife has been sober since last Monday, and we...
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Skorpi
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Things just keep getting better with al-anon
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Today is my one year anniversary of dating the greatest and healthiest man I could have ever dreamed up. I am so grateful to al-anon for teaching me how to make the changes within to be able to stop repeating the old habits and find healthier people to surround myself with. Life has only gotten better th...
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Breakingfree
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red flags??
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So I have been struggling with some decisions as to where I want to live next,my rental situation isn't going too well here,so I have been checking into some possibilities.My daughter wants to go to culinary school and there is one in another state where I have an ex,we talk once in awhile and chat on fac...
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mjferg
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another tragic loss due to alcohol
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A family member of mine lost an uncle today because of liver disease.So sad, he wasn't very old,just shows the power of this disease.
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mjferg
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C2C 3-26
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The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about accepting alcoholism as a disease. It points out that alcoholism iss very similar to Alzheimer's disease. This is because we see our loved ones slip away and they are not even aware that it is happening.. The reading points out that although...
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When others focus more on the alcoholic than you do.
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Since the car accident, my AH has separated from some of our mutual friends. In some ways its a good thing, because they are the "partiers" and there is always beer and whiskey flowing. But I have also come to realize it's a way for him to avoid the consequences. They are angry at him for dr...
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Nice Quote
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March 26 "Having an honest relationship with my sponsor allowed me an honest relationship with myself and others."
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Mike B
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Tradition 5
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http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59893091/alanon-tradition-5/
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C2C 3-25
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Great topic in the Courage to Change today. It speaks about being confused over what are our responsibilities and what is another's. It states that we are responsible to be; Loyal to our values, to please ourselves first; to keep an open mind; to detach with love; to rid ourselves of anger and resentme...
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hotrod
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Still struggling with the dysfunctional co worker
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I am still struggling, any experience strength and hope is appreciated. Last week, my wonderful student was working with me all week, she was in spring break. We got all kinds of work done, old papers boxed up, some thrown away dating back to 2000. DC was not there until Friday. She followed me around lo...
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mercedes1959
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what has alanon given you?
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Alanon has given me a life worth living. It sounds like an exageration, too good to be true but it has given me tools to see clearly the facts of my life and to accept them and take action to change things to make my life better, this in turn has made things better for my whole family. The three c's, awareness...
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el-cee
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life is short, what are you waiting on?
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Alanon has taught me that life is for living, not merely existing, not putting up with unacceptable behaviour and sitting stuck in self pity waiting for a knight in shining armour to come and solve all my problems. The time for living my life is now, today. Taking pleasure and enjoying each day the bes...
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el-cee
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C2C 3-23
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Courage to Change reading for March 23rd speaks about the deep pain and sadness over the dashed hopes broken dreams that dwells deep within us after living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that Al-Anon helps us to face these destructive painful emotions of the past. We can best face th...
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