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hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change for April 16 has a very important message. It points out that what we go through in life is not as important as how we interpret the experience, and respond to it. To sum it up, we have powerful choices about our attitude in life. Al-Anon opening tells us that changed attitudes can a...

pinkchip · pinkchip

In one week, more crap has gone wrong at work than I could ever imagine possible. I think I complained like a week ago...and it got worse. I know it is just work. I can compartmentalize it some. Most of my staff quit. I will be doing all their work in the meanwhile. PLUS about 3 other crazy incidents happen...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for April 15 speaks about our old attitudes of believing I that we are justified in getting angry at anyone in an alcoholic fog. . It points out that if we accept the truth that alcohol is a disease, we will understand the accusations and outbursts of tempers cannot improve the situati...

Mapper · Mapper

I've been with my husband 10 years and married for almost 5. He has drank almost every single day since I've known him. Sometimes it's 1 or 2 beers and other days it's nonstop drinking from the time he gets home until he goes to bed. He's very high functioning and sometimes people can't even tell he's drun...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi Everyone, Well, this last week has certainly been ... interesting. I got myself into a few situations with active alcoholic friends of my wife that I knew I shouldn't be in, and I had to deal with an unexpected medical issue myself. I think that this last week has been proof to me that AlAnon works w...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Oh wow, I am seething. I got a text this morning from daughter's step-mother telling me that she is concerned that my daughter is staying up too late as she saw her post something on facebook late at night. If it was an isolated incident it wouldn't matter but it has been 9 years of this....letters texts a...

andromeda · andromeda

Tonight I was asked to share my story at a meeting. I had agreed to do this 2 months ago but didn't start preparing until today, LOL. I just prayed for God to guide my words, for him to help me put my thoughts together and for my words to reach those who needed to hear what I had to say. At one point I looked to t...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am stressed to the hilt with two exams this week and more loss of a beautiful al-anon old timer. Also an RN friend of mine has had Crohn's for awhile and just had emergency surgery and lost some intestine and now has a colostomy, just makes me realize you just never know, so dig into this moment! I am hav...

el-cee · el-cee

Just when I think i have got it all worked out. I realize Im at the beginning again. My ego sneaks into my progress and inflates while I am not looking and then I see it and I am like, I thought I dealt with you already!!!!!! I think im still fighting without even realising it. Im thinking I need to get down and...

angelainaz · angelainaz

Hello, I have been to so many meetings and nobody sponsors. It's really hard. I have already worked the 12 steps the past year with a former Sponsor. I just need someone to email or talk to on phone for about 15 minutes a week to vent or get a perspective. My friends don't have experience in this field so th...

hopefortoday29 · hopefortoday29

I long ago gave up expecting every phone call to be perfect, but what sort of approaches do other people take if you receive a phone call from someone who has been drinking? It is something I still struggle with 7 years into the program. Had a call yesterday and all of the isms like insulting and forgettin...

Luiza · Luiza

Hi guys long time no speak. I am having some issues with people at the moment and I am a little bit lost to be honest. I have been on Easter holiday for nearly two weeks now, we are all back to work next Monday. On the last day of work I had an interview with one of the big bosses for my performance review and I got...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I have two exams this week and am feeling the stress this semester of college, but can and will get through it. A great al-anon lady I have known the last several years died last Friday after her liver transplant was rejected by her body. I had been praying for her and missing my sponsor too lately. These...

salvie · salvie

My adult son 23 years old recently married. His wife is from Russia. She - an orphan. My son is a student and does not have enough money to support his family. Before his marriage, I talked to him and his wife that the family is a serious matter. The fact that it means responsibility. I said that I can not gi...

Jozie · Jozie

So Yesterday here in my Little Piece of the World when I Got Off Work it was 75 Degrees Out, I had a Clean Harley, and about 3 Hours of Day light Left so I Jumped on And thought I Would Continue on this Healing Week I have been Having... I Went to My Old Home Place... Which NOW is a Charred Structure that was a Cas...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone: Today's reading in HFT speaks to our Alanon FAMILY. The bond that we feel with one another, for me--in may ways has been even more profound on this website where I have met exactly none of you in person yet feel so very close and connected because of the program. Since coming to A...

Mirandac · Mirandac

Do you find it easier to write out your thoughts and feelings on here than at a ftf meeting. Sometimes i have a hard time verbalizing my feelings and emotions in a group. I do fine with friends where its back and forth to reason things out and think them thru. i am sure this too will pass as i get stronger an...

JulieT · JulieT

Hello. I'm new in The Forum. I have been to several Al-Anon meetings. I have yet to get a sponsor. I have only spoken one time at a meeting. I'm having trouble participating and working the program. I want and need relief from so much and I can't seem to get myself to a starting point other than showing up ea...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family.... its Prob been 6months since I last stopped by :/ Life in the world of this Disease still lives in my bones, but By the Grace of God there has indeed been alot of Healing, with alot More yet to Do... I Still make 1-2 meetings week, tho we only have 3... But i'm Grateful for those... My 90yr...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family :) How is it the Only time I Can Find my True Perspective is when I Get Lost in Nature? This weekend I Headed off to My Little Get away in the Woods Along side the River and For what Ever Reason, the Moment I Hit that Drive way, Everything, whether Heavy or Light, Just Slowly Starts to Melt awa...

4myboys · 4myboys

I'm going to share something that I haven't told anyone yet. Especially the A. Being separated from him is hard. Trying to show tough love and taking care of myself is still new to me. I love my AH deeply. 18 years of being by someone's side and not being appreciated and given love that i deserve is heartbr...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C 4-`12 reading for today stresses the importance of patience as we work the Al-Anon program. It points out that without patience ,we resort to trying to fix ourselves in a hurry and when that doesn't work, we then begin the destructive self criticism and blame routine that we find in our tool bo...

kspec85 · kspec85

My boyfriend and I were invited to a wedding this weekend. He got trashed drunk and I politely started going to the car. He insisted on staying. I waited in the car for an hour and said screw it i'm leaving. As soon as I got home, I got a call from my friend. Apparently he "found" an entire bottle o...

el-cee · el-cee

Are there different types of us, here at Al-anon, in the way there are different types of alcoholics? The problem drinker has problems that stop when they stop drinking, the alcoholic stops drinking and the problem persists unless treated properly, usually through like minded people. Can it be th...

Tired-of-it · Tired-of-it

Hello! I was a mamber on here about 14 years ago. Obviously, he is still drinking!!! Anyway, he has an appointment for an endoscopy on Wednesday because of years of throwing up the morning after drinking. He would go outside and do this sometimes almost every morning. Of course he always blammed it on w...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T reading for April 13 speaks about the slogan One Day at a Time. It reinforces the idea that much of our precious time is wasted fretting over past mistakes, missed opportunities and what might happen in the future. The reading points out that yesterday has no value except as experiences, to be...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

after his brother[boss also] yelled at him for his taking off work and drinking etc,AH came home with the same sorry apology and the ceremonial in front of me purging of the bottles lol I gave him an ultimatim which I INTEND to carry out! if he drinks again, he will have to sign off on my pension which is ess...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

This post has the potential to be lengthy as i think.it may ve my confession, my admission if life gaving gotten unmanageable. Its no secret that i am married to an alcoholic. . If youve read my posts ever, you kniw my story well. Recently though ive cone to accept my own addiction . , to struggle and suffe...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Oh I wish I could have taken you all with me this weekend!! We had our local Alanon Spring meeting and if any of you have been blessed to hear any of Father Tom W.'s stuff he's a Jesuit Priest or if you get the chance to hear him speak I highly DO recommend it! I will share more of the wisdom he gave .. what I love...

hulahoop24 · hulahoop24

My husband stopped drinking in 2008 when he was incarcerated. He has been out and done since 2011. He's exhibited signs of dry drunk since he was arrested and I'm sorry to say, still has the personality, just not the booze. He's been pretty stressed the last couple of months and started going to meeti...

missmeliss · missmeliss

This weekend started out pretty blah. I took daughter to her father's house Friday afternoon, arrived home 6.5 hours later (it used to be 9 or 10 hours so yay) and collapsed into bed at midnight with a book and fell asleep without even turning the page. A messaged me to ask if he could come over. Very predi...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Does anyone else get their adult A child's messages from bill collectors left on their own home phone and letters from the A daughter's bill collectors sent to their home? I have asked my daughter to contact her creditors and give them her OWN address and phone number (she never did). It is possible th...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

since the ultimatium, ah has been sober but is going through that pattern of his,where he tries to do all the things he has needed to do n the house in a frenzy of several days. he believes thats what will prove his attempt at sobriety but it has always backfires..and he starts drinking again. i wish i coul...

Carrie B · Carrie B

After coming home yesterday to my "recovering" alcoholic I found him curled up next to a bottle of vodka on the couch. I immediately remembered the happiness I felt during his sobriety and then fear hit me to my core and I grabbed the bottle, ran to the bathroom so he couldn't catch me and dum...

el-cee · el-cee

I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. My first thoughts were, so and so hurt my feelings because...... i dont like how that was done because.......im going to speak up and say...... you did this and you did that. Whahhhhhh. Do you know what im meaning? My spoilt brat inner child raised its...

hotrod · hotrod

I am back after having a beautiful, exhausting time The C2C reading for today is extremely powerful. It talks about:"Detachment with indifference". I could readily identify with that form of detachment because that's what I first was able to accomplish as I attempted to work this prog...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change today is a powerful reading regarding working the steps and seeing and owning our part in the situations of our lives. The reading goes on to point out that many of us assumed responsibility for everything and thought it was all our fault and many of us place the blame of others and...

John · John

I am amazed, some of you already know what I went through with my son just a few years ago, and if not, I won't go into it now, but I will say he got discharged from prison after 22 months, on Saturday. We worked together today on a paint job, spent time talking, mending our wounds and allowing healing to tak...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today speaks about the power of the Al-Anon program. It points out that spirituality is an important part of our recovery, and without spiritual help .living with or having lived with the disease of alcoholism is too much for most of us. The page goes on to state that the Steps, Tra...

caTinker1809 · caTinker1809

Hi! I'm a bit new to Al-Anon, but i'm looking for some advice/help on how to find a sponsor. If someone could help me with this information or anything that would be awesome! thanks so much! -Callie

lgnutah · lgnutah

Our son has bipolar disorder (wearen't sure-that was hospital diagnosis several years ago). He used alcohol and drugs to self medicate and then addiction became his other crutch to bear. He has not used in over a year (since he moved back in with us at age 29), sees a psychiatrist and takes Rx. He works a...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59996658/alanon-tradition-6/

kabafu · kabafu

Except my Dad and I, my family is just a bunch of drunks. Uncles, Aunts, Cousins, I hate all them, but I still have to live at home until I finish school and can move out. No weekend, no party, no get-together, BBQ, without everyone around me drinking. My Dad is often travelling for work, so I'm many times a...

Mirandac · Mirandac

I had a light bulb momement at my alanon meeting today. When my life had become so unmanageable I had started with the negative self talk in my car. It bacame a tough thing to stop i tried and tried, Even after going to alanon. I just realized today i stopped doing that when i gave over my self will to the car...

Billie · Billie

Hi everyone, this is is very new for me. I have never been to an Al Anon meeting, either in person or on the web. I feel disloyal doing so but am feeling that I must do something. Here is my story and I am sure it resonate for some of you. i believe my husband is an alcoholic. When we met in the 1990's I knew he like...

NoMoreChaos · NoMoreChaos

I had posted this on another page but think it may have been the wrong site so, I'll try posting it here. Hello everyone. I am new to this forum. I am looking for help with a very difficult amend that I need to make. I will try to be very candid here so that you might fully appreciate my situation and my desi...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Got a cutting email from my father tonight (right before bed of course so I'm still up) and at first I was extremely affected. I felt manipulated etc. But getting more involved in Alanon must be helping. I realized suddenly my father is a sick man and he is in pain. Yes he (and my mother) have affected me th...

gabigail · gabigail

My spouse is an alcoholic, but also is a child of an alcoholic and a grandchild to an alcoholic. So, there are times I'm dealing with the symptoms of the alcoholic, and part of that is within me (I'm not ACOA, but deal with codependency, which mimicks the same symptoms). But my spouse is also ACOA and th...

CoopsMom · CoopsMom

I used to get endless promises about stopping drinking and making changes. Of course this never happens, since Al-Anon I now have the occasional ability to just ignore him and know it's the disease feeding me the BS I want to hear. BUT lately there are no more empty promises. My AH now likes to throw hims...

Venera · Venera

Hi! Any thoughts are SO welcome on this:))) Shortly about the situation. Married 10 years, drinking was always a problem, denied in the beginning by both, now I think we both know there is alcoholism. Last year has been picking up the fruits of the disease at the highest point such as 3 jobs lost, DUI, n...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning MIP: Today's reading is about turning our lives, and our situations, our worries over to the care of our HP. This is a great reminder for me that my will isn't the thing that knows best for me. I have come to learn that the things that have happened and are happening and will happen in my life...

rt · rt

hi everyone, new here. I guess, I don't really know what else to do at this point. So, for starters when I met my husband, he drank heavily -- but I didn't pay much mind to it because he was in his early 20's, and I had grown up with an alcoholic mother and brother-- basically, this was normal to me. I also ha...

andromeda · andromeda

Ok, so last night (after I posted about the divorce being filed) my son came to me and told me that his dad said some things last Sunday while he was spending the night. Apparently, STBXAH said that I was pawning ds off on him. Dad also kept saying, "You don't have to stay here if you don't want to, I c...

a4l · a4l

it still aches but not as much as clinging to the rope and getting whiplashed. I seperated from my husband, though he did move back in a few times before finally moving to live above a bar. Sometimes we get along, sometimes we don't but overall he's still someone I call a friend. However, as as are loathe t...

el-cee · el-cee

You know how you can read something over and over and hear it over and over but you dont quite get it? Well, ive only just come to realise that alcoholism is a family disease!!! Its taken me 3 years for that one to penetrate. This program just keeps giving me more and more. I was listening to aa speakers on y...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Am told to keep down and stay quiet so am doing that. I came to check in and listen and learn. You all are the same dedicated family I put aside with love just before going to be self-responsible. I'm back home now more of just a jelly fish in the moment following AFG suggestions and listening t...

andromeda · andromeda

I am having mixed emotions, mostly sadness. Not sad about the marriage ending but sad for my xah and where he is today. He showed up at court (we filed at the same time: I filed the petition and he signed the acceptance of service) 20 minutes late and reeking of alcohol. He was mean and made snarky comme...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I'm confused by this term. I see a lot of people using it to describe 1. Newly sober behavior 2. Dry drunk behavior 3. Behaviors they just don't like or agree with 4. Jerky A-hole behavior 5. Erratic behavior To me, sober people show a lot of the behaviors that are mentioned too. Alcoholics don't have...

Nannynoo · Nannynoo

It is difficult , but we HAVE to do it My situation is I HAVE to stay strong for my 7 yr old Grandsons sake who is in foster care at present but social services are going to reassess me to look after him So it is VITAL I stay strong with my DD who is an alcoholic She is down right now and her sister is worried abo...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

Realizing how many expectations I had about moving out. Moved myself and kids out Friday, AH didn't change his behavior the last weeks we were there, just mainly sulked and moped around. the expectations I had on this change included 1) me being happier/relieved - really not there yet, why did I thi...

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	C2C 4-16 (Preview) The Courage to Change for April 16 has a very important message. It points out that what we go through in life is not as important as how we interpret the experience, and respond to it. To sum it up, we have powerful choices about our attitude in life. Al-Anon opening tells us that changed attitudes can a...	hotrod	0	383	Apr 16, 2015 by hotrod
	Stress. My head is going to pop. (Preview) In one week, more crap has gone wrong at work than I could ever imagine possible. I think I complained like a week ago...and it got worse. I know it is just work. I can compartmentalize it some. Most of my staff quit. I will be doing all their work in the meanwhile. PLUS about 3 other crazy incidents happen...	pinkchip	32	1044	Apr 16, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	ODAT 4-15 (Preview) The ODAT reading for April 15 speaks about our old attitudes of believing I that we are justified in getting angry at anyone in an alcoholic fog. . It points out that if we accept the truth that alcohol is a disease, we will understand the accusations and outbursts of tempers cannot improve the situati...	hotrod	4	376	Apr 15, 2015 by hotrod
	Husband gets out of inpatient treatment tomorrow. (Preview) I've been with my husband 10 years and married for almost 5. He has drank almost every single day since I've known him. Sometimes it's 1 or 2 beers and other days it's nonstop drinking from the time he gets home until he goes to bed. He's very high functioning and sometimes people can't even tell he's drun...	Mapper	22	923	Apr 15, 2015 by Jen61
	Working on serenity (Preview) Hi Everyone, Well, this last week has certainly been ... interesting. I got myself into a few situations with active alcoholic friends of my wife that I knew I shouldn't be in, and I had to deal with an unexpected medical issue myself. I think that this last week has been proof to me that AlAnon works w...	Skorpi	13	570	Apr 15, 2015 by Skorpi
	seething (Preview) Oh wow, I am seething. I got a text this morning from daughter's step-mother telling me that she is concerned that my daughter is staying up too late as she saw her post something on facebook late at night. If it was an isolated incident it wouldn't matter but it has been 9 years of this....letters texts a...	missmeliss	27	1028	Apr 15, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Feeling emotional(in a good way) (Preview) Tonight I was asked to share my story at a meeting. I had agreed to do this 2 months ago but didn't start preparing until today, LOL. I just prayed for God to guide my words, for him to help me put my thoughts together and for my words to reach those who needed to hear what I had to say. At one point I looked to t...	andromeda	6	498	Apr 15, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Not sure what I am going through, but it's different by far (Preview) I am stressed to the hilt with two exams this week and more loss of a beautiful al-anon old timer. Also an RN friend of mine has had Crohn's for awhile and just had emergency surgery and lost some intestine and now has a colostomy, just makes me realize you just never know, so dig into this moment! I am hav...	Breakingfree	4	636	Apr 15, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Why is spirituality so frustrating? (Preview) Just when I think i have got it all worked out. I realize Im at the beginning again. My ego sneaks into my progress and inflates while I am not looking and then I see it and I am like, I thought I dealt with you already!!!!!! I think im still fighting without even realising it. Im thinking I need to get down and...	el-cee	10	573	Apr 15, 2015 by hotrod
	Need a sponsor (Preview) Hello, I have been to so many meetings and nobody sponsors. It's really hard. I have already worked the 12 steps the past year with a former Sponsor. I just need someone to email or talk to on phone for about 15 minutes a week to vent or get a perspective. My friends don't have experience in this field so th...	angelainaz	5	686	Apr 14, 2015 by angelainaz
	Alcoholic Phone Calls (Preview) I long ago gave up expecting every phone call to be perfect, but what sort of approaches do other people take if you receive a phone call from someone who has been drinking? It is something I still struggle with 7 years into the program. Had a call yesterday and all of the isms like insulting and forgettin...	hopefortoday29	12	877	Apr 14, 2015 by lgnutah
	I am getting scared of people. (Preview) Hi guys long time no speak. I am having some issues with people at the moment and I am a little bit lost to be honest. I have been on Easter holiday for nearly two weeks now, we are all back to work next Monday. On the last day of work I had an interview with one of the big bosses for my performance review and I got...	Luiza	8	780	Apr 14, 2015 by Luiza
	Life just keeps coming full speed ahead (Preview) I have two exams this week and am feeling the stress this semester of college, but can and will get through it. A great al-anon lady I have known the last several years died last Friday after her liver transplant was rejected by her body. I had been praying for her and missing my sponsor too lately. These...	Breakingfree	5	635	Apr 14, 2015 by Breakingfree
	fear and guilt (Preview) My adult son 23 years old recently married. His wife is from Russia. She - an orphan. My son is a student and does not have enough money to support his family. Before his marriage, I talked to him and his wife that the family is a serious matter. The fact that it means responsibility. I said that I can not gi...	salvie	3	511	Apr 14, 2015 by hotrod
	A Hard Step Back in Time... (Preview) So Yesterday here in my Little Piece of the World when I Got Off Work it was 75 Degrees Out, I had a Clean Harley, and about 3 Hours of Day light Left so I Jumped on And thought I Would Continue on this Healing Week I have been Having... I Went to My Old Home Place... Which NOW is a Charred Structure that was a Cas...	Jozie	3	469	Apr 14, 2015 by hotrod
	Hope For Today Apr 14 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone: Today's reading in HFT speaks to our Alanon FAMILY. The bond that we feel with one another, for me--in may ways has been even more profound on this website where I have met exactly none of you in person yet feel so very close and connected because of the program. Since coming to A...	yanksfan51	2	596	Apr 14, 2015 by hotrod
	Verbal vs writing (Preview) Do you find it easier to write out your thoughts and feelings on here than at a ftf meeting. Sometimes i have a hard time verbalizing my feelings and emotions in a group. I do fine with friends where its back and forth to reason things out and think them thru. i am sure this too will pass as i get stronger an...	Mirandac	6	603	Apr 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	My own insanity today (Preview) Hello. I'm new in The Forum. I have been to several Al-Anon meetings. I have yet to get a sponsor. I have only spoken one time at a meeting. I'm having trouble participating and working the program. I want and need relief from so much and I can't seem to get myself to a starting point other than showing up ea...	JulieT	6	703	Apr 13, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Resentments & Guilt? (Preview) Hello MIP Family.... its Prob been 6months since I last stopped by :/ Life in the world of this Disease still lives in my bones, but By the Grace of God there has indeed been alot of Healing, with alot More yet to Do... I Still make 1-2 meetings week, tho we only have 3... But i'm Grateful for those... My 90yr...	Jozie	6	649	Apr 13, 2015 by Breakingfree
	WOW What a Ride… (Preview) Hello MIP Family :) How is it the Only time I Can Find my True Perspective is when I Get Lost in Nature? This weekend I Headed off to My Little Get away in the Woods Along side the River and For what Ever Reason, the Moment I Hit that Drive way, Everything, whether Heavy or Light, Just Slowly Starts to Melt awa...	Jozie	5	502	Apr 13, 2015 by Breakingfree
	If the A moves on (Preview) I'm going to share something that I haven't told anyone yet. Especially the A. Being separated from him is hard. Trying to show tough love and taking care of myself is still new to me. I love my AH deeply. 18 years of being by someone's side and not being appreciated and given love that i deserve is heartbr...	4myboys	21	1013	Apr 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	C2C 4=12 (Preview) C2C 4-`12 reading for today stresses the importance of patience as we work the Al-Anon program. It points out that without patience ,we resort to trying to fix ourselves in a hurry and when that doesn't work, we then begin the destructive self criticism and blame routine that we find in our tool bo...	hotrod	3	390	Apr 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	I need to vent terribly. (Preview) My boyfriend and I were invited to a wedding this weekend. He got trashed drunk and I politely started going to the car. He insisted on staying. I waited in the car for an hour and said screw it i'm leaving. As soon as I got home, I got a call from my friend. Apparently he "found" an entire bottle o...	kspec85	2	506	Apr 13, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Type of Alanoner (Preview) Are there different types of us, here at Al-anon, in the way there are different types of alcoholics? The problem drinker has problems that stop when they stop drinking, the alcoholic stops drinking and the problem persists unless treated properly, usually through like minded people. Can it be th...	el-cee	6	593	Apr 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	Dammage from Throwing up Damage to esopagus (Preview) Hello! I was a mamber on here about 14 years ago. Obviously, he is still drinking!!! Anyway, he has an appointment for an endoscopy on Wednesday because of years of throwing up the morning after drinking. He would go outside and do this sometimes almost every morning. Of course he always blammed it on w...	Tired-of-it	3	367	Apr 13, 2015 by Tired-of-it
	C2C 4-13 (Preview) The ODA T reading for April 13 speaks about the slogan One Day at a Time. It reinforces the idea that much of our precious time is wasted fretting over past mistakes, missed opportunities and what might happen in the future. The reading points out that yesterday has no value except as experiences, to be...	hotrod	3	346	Apr 13, 2015 by andromeda
	Ultimatim (Preview) after his brother[boss also] yelled at him for his taking off work and drinking etc,AH came home with the same sorry apology and the ceremonial in front of me purging of the bottles lol I gave him an ultimatim which I INTEND to carry out! if he drinks again, he will have to sign off on my pension which is ess...	YARNCRAZY	7	452	Apr 13, 2015 by el-cee
	i may be the sober one but im still addicted. . . (Preview) This post has the potential to be lengthy as i think.it may ve my confession, my admission if life gaving gotten unmanageable. Its no secret that i am married to an alcoholic. . If youve read my posts ever, you kniw my story well. Recently though ive cone to accept my own addiction . , to struggle and suffe...	Theoceancalls	7	573	Apr 12, 2015 by Mirandac
	This weekend!! (Preview) Oh I wish I could have taken you all with me this weekend!! We had our local Alanon Spring meeting and if any of you have been blessed to hear any of Father Tom W.'s stuff he's a Jesuit Priest or if you get the chance to hear him speak I highly DO recommend it! I will share more of the wisdom he gave .. what I love...	SerenityRUS	7	1067	Apr 12, 2015 by Irish7
	Not sure where to start (Preview) My husband stopped drinking in 2008 when he was incarcerated. He has been out and done since 2011. He's exhibited signs of dry drunk since he was arrested and I'm sorry to say, still has the personality, just not the booze. He's been pretty stressed the last couple of months and started going to meeti...	hulahoop24	9	589	Apr 12, 2015 by hotrod
	A Yay weekend. (Preview) This weekend started out pretty blah. I took daughter to her father's house Friday afternoon, arrived home 6.5 hours later (it used to be 9 or 10 hours so yay) and collapsed into bed at midnight with a book and fell asleep without even turning the page. A messaged me to ask if he could come over. Very predi...	missmeliss	2	355	Apr 12, 2015 by hotrod
	Adult A daughter doesn't pay her bills, gives MY phone number and address to creditors (Preview) Does anyone else get their adult A child's messages from bill collectors left on their own home phone and letters from the A daughter's bill collectors sent to their home? I have asked my daughter to contact her creditors and give them her OWN address and phone number (she never did). It is possible th...	lgnutah	7	806	Apr 12, 2015 by xeno59
	What do you think ? (Preview) since the ultimatium, ah has been sober but is going through that pattern of his,where he tries to do all the things he has needed to do n the house in a frenzy of several days. he believes thats what will prove his attempt at sobriety but it has always backfires..and he starts drinking again. i wish i coul...	YARNCRAZY	5	551	Apr 12, 2015 by pinkchip
	So have you hit rock bottom yet? (Preview) After coming home yesterday to my "recovering" alcoholic I found him curled up next to a bottle of vodka on the couch. I immediately remembered the happiness I felt during his sobriety and then fear hit me to my core and I grabbed the bottle, ran to the bathroom so he couldn't catch me and dum...	Carrie B	15	3325	Apr 11, 2015 by el-cee
	self pity alert (Preview) I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. My first thoughts were, so and so hurt my feelings because...... i dont like how that was done because.......im going to speak up and say...... you did this and you did that. Whahhhhhh. Do you know what im meaning? My spoilt brat inner child raised its...	el-cee	8	983	Apr 11, 2015 by GreenerGal
	C2C 4-9 (Preview) I am back after having a beautiful, exhausting time The C2C reading for today is extremely powerful. It talks about:"Detachment with indifference". I could readily identify with that form of detachment because that's what I first was able to accomplish as I attempted to work this prog...	hotrod	8	531	Apr 11, 2015 by ntd2001
	C2C 4-10 (Preview) The Courage to Change today is a powerful reading regarding working the steps and seeing and owning our part in the situations of our lives. The reading goes on to point out that many of us assumed responsibility for everything and thought it was all our fault and many of us place the blame of others and...	hotrod	2	427	Apr 11, 2015 by Debb
	Son released from prison this past Saturday. (Preview) I am amazed, some of you already know what I went through with my son just a few years ago, and if not, I won't go into it now, but I will say he got discharged from prison after 22 months, on Saturday. We worked together today on a paint job, spent time talking, mending our wounds and allowing healing to tak...	John	11	871	Apr 11, 2015 by xeno59
	C2C 4-11 (Preview) The C2C reading for today speaks about the power of the Al-Anon program. It points out that spirituality is an important part of our recovery, and without spiritual help .living with or having lived with the disease of alcoholism is too much for most of us. The page goes on to state that the Steps, Tra...	hotrod	2	687	Apr 11, 2015 by Debb
	Finding a Sponsor - Newcomer to Al-Anon (Preview) Hi! I'm a bit new to Al-Anon, but i'm looking for some advice/help on how to find a sponsor. If someone could help me with this information or anything that would be awesome! thanks so much! -Callie	caTinker1809	5	636	Apr 11, 2015 by Mirandac
	She told him off, now I bear the brunt of it. :( (Preview) Our son has bipolar disorder (wearen't sure-that was hospital diagnosis several years ago). He used alcohol and drugs to self medicate and then addiction became his other crutch to bear. He has not used in over a year (since he moved back in with us at age 29), sees a psychiatrist and takes Rx. He works a...	lgnutah	5	912	Apr 11, 2015 by xeno59
	Tradition 6 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59996658/alanon-tradition-6/	hotrod	0	530	Apr 11, 2015 by hotrod
	I hate my family (Preview) Except my Dad and I, my family is just a bunch of drunks. Uncles, Aunts, Cousins, I hate all them, but I still have to live at home until I finish school and can move out. No weekend, no party, no get-together, BBQ, without everyone around me drinking. My Dad is often travelling for work, so I'm many times a...	kabafu	7	2634	Apr 11, 2015 by xeno59
	Self talk (Preview) I had a light bulb momement at my alanon meeting today. When my life had become so unmanageable I had started with the negative self talk in my car. It bacame a tough thing to stop i tried and tried, Even after going to alanon. I just realized today i stopped doing that when i gave over my self will to the car...	Mirandac	8	654	Apr 11, 2015 by Mirandac
	New to the forum (Preview) Hi everyone, this is is very new for me. I have never been to an Al Anon meeting, either in person or on the web. I feel disloyal doing so but am feeling that I must do something. Here is my story and I am sure it resonate for some of you. i believe my husband is an alcoholic. When we met in the 1990's I knew he like...	Billie	18	755	Apr 10, 2015 by Mirandac
	9th step help (Preview) I had posted this on another page but think it may have been the wrong site so, I'll try posting it here. Hello everyone. I am new to this forum. I am looking for help with a very difficult amend that I need to make. I will try to be very candid here so that you might fully appreciate my situation and my desi...	NoMoreChaos	4	580	Apr 10, 2015 by Jerry F
	Yes!!! (Preview) Got a cutting email from my father tonight (right before bed of course so I'm still up) and at first I was extremely affected. I felt manipulated etc. But getting more involved in Alanon must be helping. I realized suddenly my father is a sick man and he is in pain. Yes he (and my mother) have affected me th...	WorkingThroughIt	7	451	Apr 10, 2015 by hotrod
	ACOA and alcoholic- what to do? (Preview) My spouse is an alcoholic, but also is a child of an alcoholic and a grandchild to an alcoholic. So, there are times I'm dealing with the symptoms of the alcoholic, and part of that is within me (I'm not ACOA, but deal with codependency, which mimicks the same symptoms). But my spouse is also ACOA and th...	gabigail	9	861	Apr 10, 2015 by WorkingThroughIt
	Which is worse, a pity party or the lies? (Preview) I used to get endless promises about stopping drinking and making changes. Of course this never happens, since Al-Anon I now have the occasional ability to just ignore him and know it's the disease feeding me the BS I want to hear. BUT lately there are no more empty promises. My AH now likes to throw hims...	CoopsMom	10	591	Apr 10, 2015 by pinkchip
	How to find God's will? (Preview) Hi! Any thoughts are SO welcome on this:))) Shortly about the situation. Married 10 years, drinking was always a problem, denied in the beginning by both, now I think we both know there is alcoholism. Last year has been picking up the fruits of the disease at the highest point such as 3 jobs lost, DUI, n...	Venera	6	2451	Apr 10, 2015 by el-cee
	Hope For Today April 7 (Preview) Good morning MIP: Today's reading is about turning our lives, and our situations, our worries over to the care of our HP. This is a great reminder for me that my will isn't the thing that knows best for me. I have come to learn that the things that have happened and are happening and will happen in my life...	yanksfan51	7	918	Apr 9, 2015 by ntd2001
	new (Preview) hi everyone, new here. I guess, I don't really know what else to do at this point. So, for starters when I met my husband, he drank heavily -- but I didn't pay much mind to it because he was in his early 20's, and I had grown up with an alcoholic mother and brother-- basically, this was normal to me. I also ha...	rt	9	543	Apr 9, 2015 by rt
	NOW....I'm ticked off (Preview) Ok, so last night (after I posted about the divorce being filed) my son came to me and told me that his dad said some things last Sunday while he was spending the night. Apparently, STBXAH said that I was pawning ds off on him. Dad also kept saying, "You don't have to stay here if you don't want to, I c...	andromeda	6	661	Apr 9, 2015 by andromeda
	detaching with love. (Preview) it still aches but not as much as clinging to the rope and getting whiplashed. I seperated from my husband, though he did move back in a few times before finally moving to live above a bar. Sometimes we get along, sometimes we don't but overall he's still someone I call a friend. However, as as are loathe t...	a4l	3	531	Apr 9, 2015 by hotrod
	realisation (Preview) You know how you can read something over and over and hear it over and over but you dont quite get it? Well, ive only just come to realise that alcoholism is a family disease!!! Its taken me 3 years for that one to penetrate. This program just keeps giving me more and more. I was listening to aa speakers on y...	el-cee	3	467	Apr 9, 2015 by hotrod
	(((((Family))))) (Preview) Am told to keep down and stay quiet so am doing that. I came to check in and listen and learn. You all are the same dedicated family I put aside with love just before going to be self-responsible. I'm back home now more of just a jelly fish in the moment following AFG suggestions and listening t...	Jerry F	12	584	Apr 8, 2015 by Jozie
	Divorce papers filed today (Preview) I am having mixed emotions, mostly sadness. Not sad about the marriage ending but sad for my xah and where he is today. He showed up at court (we filed at the same time: I filed the petition and he signed the acceptance of service) 20 minutes late and reeking of alcohol. He was mean and made snarky comme...	andromeda	14	699	Apr 8, 2015 by andromeda
	Alcoholic behavior (Preview) I'm confused by this term. I see a lot of people using it to describe 1. Newly sober behavior 2. Dry drunk behavior 3. Behaviors they just don't like or agree with 4. Jerky A-hole behavior 5. Erratic behavior To me, sober people show a lot of the behaviors that are mentioned too. Alcoholics don't have...	pinkchip	17	755	Apr 8, 2015 by Mirandac
	Staying strong (Preview) It is difficult , but we HAVE to do it My situation is I HAVE to stay strong for my 7 yr old Grandsons sake who is in foster care at present but social services are going to reassess me to look after him So it is VITAL I stay strong with my DD who is an alcoholic She is down right now and her sister is worried abo...	Nannynoo	26	939	Apr 8, 2015 by pinkchip
	Expectations (Preview) Realizing how many expectations I had about moving out. Moved myself and kids out Friday, AH didn't change his behavior the last weeks we were there, just mainly sulked and moped around. the expectations I had on this change included 1) me being happier/relieved - really not there yet, why did I thi...	Kerrymom	2	391	Apr 8, 2015 by yanksfan51
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