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Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I have two exams this week and am feeling the stress this semester of college, but can and will get through it. A great al-anon lady I have known the last several years died last Friday after her liver transplant was rejected by her body. I had been praying for her and missing my sponsor too lately. These...

salvie · salvie

My adult son 23 years old recently married. His wife is from Russia. She - an orphan. My son is a student and does not have enough money to support his family. Before his marriage, I talked to him and his wife that the family is a serious matter. The fact that it means responsibility. I said that I can not gi...

Jozie · Jozie

So Yesterday here in my Little Piece of the World when I Got Off Work it was 75 Degrees Out, I had a Clean Harley, and about 3 Hours of Day light Left so I Jumped on And thought I Would Continue on this Healing Week I have been Having... I Went to My Old Home Place... Which NOW is a Charred Structure that was a Cas...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone: Today's reading in HFT speaks to our Alanon FAMILY. The bond that we feel with one another, for me--in may ways has been even more profound on this website where I have met exactly none of you in person yet feel so very close and connected because of the program. Since coming to A...

Mirandac · Mirandac

Do you find it easier to write out your thoughts and feelings on here than at a ftf meeting. Sometimes i have a hard time verbalizing my feelings and emotions in a group. I do fine with friends where its back and forth to reason things out and think them thru. i am sure this too will pass as i get stronger an...

JulieT · JulieT

Hello. I'm new in The Forum. I have been to several Al-Anon meetings. I have yet to get a sponsor. I have only spoken one time at a meeting. I'm having trouble participating and working the program. I want and need relief from so much and I can't seem to get myself to a starting point other than showing up ea...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family.... its Prob been 6months since I last stopped by :/ Life in the world of this Disease still lives in my bones, but By the Grace of God there has indeed been alot of Healing, with alot More yet to Do... I Still make 1-2 meetings week, tho we only have 3... But i'm Grateful for those... My 90yr...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family :) How is it the Only time I Can Find my True Perspective is when I Get Lost in Nature? This weekend I Headed off to My Little Get away in the Woods Along side the River and For what Ever Reason, the Moment I Hit that Drive way, Everything, whether Heavy or Light, Just Slowly Starts to Melt awa...

4myboys · 4myboys

I'm going to share something that I haven't told anyone yet. Especially the A. Being separated from him is hard. Trying to show tough love and taking care of myself is still new to me. I love my AH deeply. 18 years of being by someone's side and not being appreciated and given love that i deserve is heartbr...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C 4-`12 reading for today stresses the importance of patience as we work the Al-Anon program. It points out that without patience ,we resort to trying to fix ourselves in a hurry and when that doesn't work, we then begin the destructive self criticism and blame routine that we find in our tool bo...

kspec85 · kspec85

My boyfriend and I were invited to a wedding this weekend. He got trashed drunk and I politely started going to the car. He insisted on staying. I waited in the car for an hour and said screw it i'm leaving. As soon as I got home, I got a call from my friend. Apparently he "found" an entire bottle o...

el-cee · el-cee

Are there different types of us, here at Al-anon, in the way there are different types of alcoholics? The problem drinker has problems that stop when they stop drinking, the alcoholic stops drinking and the problem persists unless treated properly, usually through like minded people. Can it be th...

Tired-of-it · Tired-of-it

Hello! I was a mamber on here about 14 years ago. Obviously, he is still drinking!!! Anyway, he has an appointment for an endoscopy on Wednesday because of years of throwing up the morning after drinking. He would go outside and do this sometimes almost every morning. Of course he always blammed it on w...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T reading for April 13 speaks about the slogan One Day at a Time. It reinforces the idea that much of our precious time is wasted fretting over past mistakes, missed opportunities and what might happen in the future. The reading points out that yesterday has no value except as experiences, to be...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

after his brother[boss also] yelled at him for his taking off work and drinking etc,AH came home with the same sorry apology and the ceremonial in front of me purging of the bottles lol I gave him an ultimatim which I INTEND to carry out! if he drinks again, he will have to sign off on my pension which is ess...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

This post has the potential to be lengthy as i think.it may ve my confession, my admission if life gaving gotten unmanageable. Its no secret that i am married to an alcoholic. . If youve read my posts ever, you kniw my story well. Recently though ive cone to accept my own addiction . , to struggle and suffe...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Oh I wish I could have taken you all with me this weekend!! We had our local Alanon Spring meeting and if any of you have been blessed to hear any of Father Tom W.'s stuff he's a Jesuit Priest or if you get the chance to hear him speak I highly DO recommend it! I will share more of the wisdom he gave .. what I love...

hulahoop24 · hulahoop24

My husband stopped drinking in 2008 when he was incarcerated. He has been out and done since 2011. He's exhibited signs of dry drunk since he was arrested and I'm sorry to say, still has the personality, just not the booze. He's been pretty stressed the last couple of months and started going to meeti...

missmeliss · missmeliss

This weekend started out pretty blah. I took daughter to her father's house Friday afternoon, arrived home 6.5 hours later (it used to be 9 or 10 hours so yay) and collapsed into bed at midnight with a book and fell asleep without even turning the page. A messaged me to ask if he could come over. Very predi...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Does anyone else get their adult A child's messages from bill collectors left on their own home phone and letters from the A daughter's bill collectors sent to their home? I have asked my daughter to contact her creditors and give them her OWN address and phone number (she never did). It is possible th...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

since the ultimatium, ah has been sober but is going through that pattern of his,where he tries to do all the things he has needed to do n the house in a frenzy of several days. he believes thats what will prove his attempt at sobriety but it has always backfires..and he starts drinking again. i wish i coul...

Carrie B · Carrie B

After coming home yesterday to my "recovering" alcoholic I found him curled up next to a bottle of vodka on the couch. I immediately remembered the happiness I felt during his sobriety and then fear hit me to my core and I grabbed the bottle, ran to the bathroom so he couldn't catch me and dum...

el-cee · el-cee

I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. My first thoughts were, so and so hurt my feelings because...... i dont like how that was done because.......im going to speak up and say...... you did this and you did that. Whahhhhhh. Do you know what im meaning? My spoilt brat inner child raised its...

hotrod · hotrod

I am back after having a beautiful, exhausting time The C2C reading for today is extremely powerful. It talks about:"Detachment with indifference". I could readily identify with that form of detachment because that's what I first was able to accomplish as I attempted to work this prog...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change today is a powerful reading regarding working the steps and seeing and owning our part in the situations of our lives. The reading goes on to point out that many of us assumed responsibility for everything and thought it was all our fault and many of us place the blame of others and...

John · John

I am amazed, some of you already know what I went through with my son just a few years ago, and if not, I won't go into it now, but I will say he got discharged from prison after 22 months, on Saturday. We worked together today on a paint job, spent time talking, mending our wounds and allowing healing to tak...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today speaks about the power of the Al-Anon program. It points out that spirituality is an important part of our recovery, and without spiritual help .living with or having lived with the disease of alcoholism is too much for most of us. The page goes on to state that the Steps, Tra...

caTinker1809 · caTinker1809

Hi! I'm a bit new to Al-Anon, but i'm looking for some advice/help on how to find a sponsor. If someone could help me with this information or anything that would be awesome! thanks so much! -Callie

lgnutah · lgnutah

Our son has bipolar disorder (wearen't sure-that was hospital diagnosis several years ago). He used alcohol and drugs to self medicate and then addiction became his other crutch to bear. He has not used in over a year (since he moved back in with us at age 29), sees a psychiatrist and takes Rx. He works a...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59996658/alanon-tradition-6/

kabafu · kabafu

Except my Dad and I, my family is just a bunch of drunks. Uncles, Aunts, Cousins, I hate all them, but I still have to live at home until I finish school and can move out. No weekend, no party, no get-together, BBQ, without everyone around me drinking. My Dad is often travelling for work, so I'm many times a...

Mirandac · Mirandac

I had a light bulb momement at my alanon meeting today. When my life had become so unmanageable I had started with the negative self talk in my car. It bacame a tough thing to stop i tried and tried, Even after going to alanon. I just realized today i stopped doing that when i gave over my self will to the car...

Billie · Billie

Hi everyone, this is is very new for me. I have never been to an Al Anon meeting, either in person or on the web. I feel disloyal doing so but am feeling that I must do something. Here is my story and I am sure it resonate for some of you. i believe my husband is an alcoholic. When we met in the 1990's I knew he like...

NoMoreChaos · NoMoreChaos

I had posted this on another page but think it may have been the wrong site so, I'll try posting it here. Hello everyone. I am new to this forum. I am looking for help with a very difficult amend that I need to make. I will try to be very candid here so that you might fully appreciate my situation and my desi...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Got a cutting email from my father tonight (right before bed of course so I'm still up) and at first I was extremely affected. I felt manipulated etc. But getting more involved in Alanon must be helping. I realized suddenly my father is a sick man and he is in pain. Yes he (and my mother) have affected me th...

gabigail · gabigail

My spouse is an alcoholic, but also is a child of an alcoholic and a grandchild to an alcoholic. So, there are times I'm dealing with the symptoms of the alcoholic, and part of that is within me (I'm not ACOA, but deal with codependency, which mimicks the same symptoms). But my spouse is also ACOA and th...

CoopsMom · CoopsMom

I used to get endless promises about stopping drinking and making changes. Of course this never happens, since Al-Anon I now have the occasional ability to just ignore him and know it's the disease feeding me the BS I want to hear. BUT lately there are no more empty promises. My AH now likes to throw hims...

Venera · Venera

Hi! Any thoughts are SO welcome on this:))) Shortly about the situation. Married 10 years, drinking was always a problem, denied in the beginning by both, now I think we both know there is alcoholism. Last year has been picking up the fruits of the disease at the highest point such as 3 jobs lost, DUI, n...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning MIP: Today's reading is about turning our lives, and our situations, our worries over to the care of our HP. This is a great reminder for me that my will isn't the thing that knows best for me. I have come to learn that the things that have happened and are happening and will happen in my life...

rt · rt

hi everyone, new here. I guess, I don't really know what else to do at this point. So, for starters when I met my husband, he drank heavily -- but I didn't pay much mind to it because he was in his early 20's, and I had grown up with an alcoholic mother and brother-- basically, this was normal to me. I also ha...

andromeda · andromeda

Ok, so last night (after I posted about the divorce being filed) my son came to me and told me that his dad said some things last Sunday while he was spending the night. Apparently, STBXAH said that I was pawning ds off on him. Dad also kept saying, "You don't have to stay here if you don't want to, I c...

a4l · a4l

it still aches but not as much as clinging to the rope and getting whiplashed. I seperated from my husband, though he did move back in a few times before finally moving to live above a bar. Sometimes we get along, sometimes we don't but overall he's still someone I call a friend. However, as as are loathe t...

el-cee · el-cee

You know how you can read something over and over and hear it over and over but you dont quite get it? Well, ive only just come to realise that alcoholism is a family disease!!! Its taken me 3 years for that one to penetrate. This program just keeps giving me more and more. I was listening to aa speakers on y...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Am told to keep down and stay quiet so am doing that. I came to check in and listen and learn. You all are the same dedicated family I put aside with love just before going to be self-responsible. I'm back home now more of just a jelly fish in the moment following AFG suggestions and listening t...

andromeda · andromeda

I am having mixed emotions, mostly sadness. Not sad about the marriage ending but sad for my xah and where he is today. He showed up at court (we filed at the same time: I filed the petition and he signed the acceptance of service) 20 minutes late and reeking of alcohol. He was mean and made snarky comme...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I'm confused by this term. I see a lot of people using it to describe 1. Newly sober behavior 2. Dry drunk behavior 3. Behaviors they just don't like or agree with 4. Jerky A-hole behavior 5. Erratic behavior To me, sober people show a lot of the behaviors that are mentioned too. Alcoholics don't have...

Nannynoo · Nannynoo

It is difficult , but we HAVE to do it My situation is I HAVE to stay strong for my 7 yr old Grandsons sake who is in foster care at present but social services are going to reassess me to look after him So it is VITAL I stay strong with my DD who is an alcoholic She is down right now and her sister is worried abo...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

Realizing how many expectations I had about moving out. Moved myself and kids out Friday, AH didn't change his behavior the last weeks we were there, just mainly sulked and moped around. the expectations I had on this change included 1) me being happier/relieved - really not there yet, why did I thi...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

2nd trip to rehab didnt help ah. or should i say, he didnt follow through on it at all. I am going through the same sad,angry,empty feeling while he repeats the same ah behavior he always does. I must get off this treadmill or i will completely lose myself. Yes, I have been applying alanon tools but they ar...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- It's been a while since I've posted, although I have been here reading and learning along with all of you. I am having a tough time with something and am going to get it off my chest. I will do my best to make a long story shorter. A couple of years ago, in a last ditch effort to try an...

anxious · anxious

My daughter is a single mom with 2 children . Girls. She had been in a very abusive relationship with the father of her children. I got her out of that - and she was at a women's shelter for a while. Then housing. Things worked good for 2 years until I bought a mobile home for them as a family home.She was supp...

WebD · WebD

My AD has had a problem for a couple of years, but managed to live her life, school, work etc. most recently she started dating a guy with a record for drugs who was on probation. She ended up staying there many nights and then I found out from her friends, there were domestic assault issues with his past...

Jill · Jill

Today I was comparing my yoga posture to that of the teacher. I am new at it. When she referenced our heads ON THE FLOOR (mine wouldn't even come close), I realized it was closer today than it was last time. I need to be faithful to trying, and I trust I will progress. I know that's how this works, too. I'm no...

tjk · tjk

I feel like I can't handle it anymore. He drinks usually 2 750 ML Whiskey or Vodka a week. All I do is worry about him. I tell him how I feel and he either jokes about, tells me to just worry about myself, or turns it around and says that there are things I do that bother him but he doesn't bug me about it. If I get r...

el-cee · el-cee

Everythjng is perfect. Just as it should be. Right in this moment is happiness and peace. Unhappiness, anxiety, worry is not about this very moment, its about yesterday and tomorrow. I cant change yesterday and tomorrow so i will stay where the peace is, right here in this moment.

hopefortoday29 · hopefortoday29

Hi, I am trying new things in al-anon right now because I am not in a position at the moment to get to regular face to face meetings. I have a sponsor and some al-anon friends but I am missing the contact of having that readily available source of community. I have tried the phone bridge meetings which are w...

missmeliss · missmeliss

For years now I have allowed my daughter to go to her fathers house for Christmas and Easter. In my mind, she would have lots more fun there as they have little kids and make a big deal out of these festivals. I spent last Christmas sitting alone in a room being sad. I had it in my mind that spending these happ...

LinSC · LinSC

acronym for "DON'T EVEN NO I AM LYING" ! how perfect is this....

el-cee · el-cee

I learned i was an enabler to alcoholics. It meant i helped the disease grow strong, i gave money, a soft place to land, excuses and lies for the drinker, let them verbally abuse me, put up with anything that was thrown at me, and what i didnt realise was that this encouraged and assisted the drinking. Th...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Today is a good day . I got out of the hospital last Thursday and put on the right meds and hopeful I can stay in the moment and in the day . I let myself become a wreck and ended up having a mental emtional breakdown that lead me in the hospital . I was running around with my head cut off , worried about the week th...

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	Life just keeps coming full speed ahead (Preview) I have two exams this week and am feeling the stress this semester of college, but can and will get through it. A great al-anon lady I have known the last several years died last Friday after her liver transplant was rejected by her body. I had been praying for her and missing my sponsor too lately. These...	Breakingfree	5	631	Apr 14, 2015 by Breakingfree
	fear and guilt (Preview) My adult son 23 years old recently married. His wife is from Russia. She - an orphan. My son is a student and does not have enough money to support his family. Before his marriage, I talked to him and his wife that the family is a serious matter. The fact that it means responsibility. I said that I can not gi...	salvie	3	506	Apr 14, 2015 by hotrod
	A Hard Step Back in Time... (Preview) So Yesterday here in my Little Piece of the World when I Got Off Work it was 75 Degrees Out, I had a Clean Harley, and about 3 Hours of Day light Left so I Jumped on And thought I Would Continue on this Healing Week I have been Having... I Went to My Old Home Place... Which NOW is a Charred Structure that was a Cas...	Jozie	3	464	Apr 14, 2015 by hotrod
	Hope For Today Apr 14 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone: Today's reading in HFT speaks to our Alanon FAMILY. The bond that we feel with one another, for me--in may ways has been even more profound on this website where I have met exactly none of you in person yet feel so very close and connected because of the program. Since coming to A...	yanksfan51	2	592	Apr 14, 2015 by hotrod
	Verbal vs writing (Preview) Do you find it easier to write out your thoughts and feelings on here than at a ftf meeting. Sometimes i have a hard time verbalizing my feelings and emotions in a group. I do fine with friends where its back and forth to reason things out and think them thru. i am sure this too will pass as i get stronger an...	Mirandac	6	594	Apr 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	My own insanity today (Preview) Hello. I'm new in The Forum. I have been to several Al-Anon meetings. I have yet to get a sponsor. I have only spoken one time at a meeting. I'm having trouble participating and working the program. I want and need relief from so much and I can't seem to get myself to a starting point other than showing up ea...	JulieT	6	700	Apr 13, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Resentments & Guilt? (Preview) Hello MIP Family.... its Prob been 6months since I last stopped by :/ Life in the world of this Disease still lives in my bones, but By the Grace of God there has indeed been alot of Healing, with alot More yet to Do... I Still make 1-2 meetings week, tho we only have 3... But i'm Grateful for those... My 90yr...	Jozie	6	640	Apr 13, 2015 by Breakingfree
	WOW What a Ride… (Preview) Hello MIP Family :) How is it the Only time I Can Find my True Perspective is when I Get Lost in Nature? This weekend I Headed off to My Little Get away in the Woods Along side the River and For what Ever Reason, the Moment I Hit that Drive way, Everything, whether Heavy or Light, Just Slowly Starts to Melt awa...	Jozie	5	498	Apr 13, 2015 by Breakingfree
	If the A moves on (Preview) I'm going to share something that I haven't told anyone yet. Especially the A. Being separated from him is hard. Trying to show tough love and taking care of myself is still new to me. I love my AH deeply. 18 years of being by someone's side and not being appreciated and given love that i deserve is heartbr...	4myboys	21	1008	Apr 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	C2C 4=12 (Preview) C2C 4-`12 reading for today stresses the importance of patience as we work the Al-Anon program. It points out that without patience ,we resort to trying to fix ourselves in a hurry and when that doesn't work, we then begin the destructive self criticism and blame routine that we find in our tool bo...	hotrod	3	386	Apr 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	I need to vent terribly. (Preview) My boyfriend and I were invited to a wedding this weekend. He got trashed drunk and I politely started going to the car. He insisted on staying. I waited in the car for an hour and said screw it i'm leaving. As soon as I got home, I got a call from my friend. Apparently he "found" an entire bottle o...	kspec85	2	502	Apr 13, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Type of Alanoner (Preview) Are there different types of us, here at Al-anon, in the way there are different types of alcoholics? The problem drinker has problems that stop when they stop drinking, the alcoholic stops drinking and the problem persists unless treated properly, usually through like minded people. Can it be th...	el-cee	6	589	Apr 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	Dammage from Throwing up Damage to esopagus (Preview) Hello! I was a mamber on here about 14 years ago. Obviously, he is still drinking!!! Anyway, he has an appointment for an endoscopy on Wednesday because of years of throwing up the morning after drinking. He would go outside and do this sometimes almost every morning. Of course he always blammed it on w...	Tired-of-it	3	363	Apr 13, 2015 by Tired-of-it
	C2C 4-13 (Preview) The ODA T reading for April 13 speaks about the slogan One Day at a Time. It reinforces the idea that much of our precious time is wasted fretting over past mistakes, missed opportunities and what might happen in the future. The reading points out that yesterday has no value except as experiences, to be...	hotrod	3	342	Apr 13, 2015 by andromeda
	Ultimatim (Preview) after his brother[boss also] yelled at him for his taking off work and drinking etc,AH came home with the same sorry apology and the ceremonial in front of me purging of the bottles lol I gave him an ultimatim which I INTEND to carry out! if he drinks again, he will have to sign off on my pension which is ess...	YARNCRAZY	7	448	Apr 13, 2015 by el-cee
	i may be the sober one but im still addicted. . . (Preview) This post has the potential to be lengthy as i think.it may ve my confession, my admission if life gaving gotten unmanageable. Its no secret that i am married to an alcoholic. . If youve read my posts ever, you kniw my story well. Recently though ive cone to accept my own addiction . , to struggle and suffe...	Theoceancalls	7	568	Apr 12, 2015 by Mirandac
	This weekend!! (Preview) Oh I wish I could have taken you all with me this weekend!! We had our local Alanon Spring meeting and if any of you have been blessed to hear any of Father Tom W.'s stuff he's a Jesuit Priest or if you get the chance to hear him speak I highly DO recommend it! I will share more of the wisdom he gave .. what I love...	SerenityRUS	7	1019	Apr 12, 2015 by Irish7
	Not sure where to start (Preview) My husband stopped drinking in 2008 when he was incarcerated. He has been out and done since 2011. He's exhibited signs of dry drunk since he was arrested and I'm sorry to say, still has the personality, just not the booze. He's been pretty stressed the last couple of months and started going to meeti...	hulahoop24	9	585	Apr 12, 2015 by hotrod
	A Yay weekend. (Preview) This weekend started out pretty blah. I took daughter to her father's house Friday afternoon, arrived home 6.5 hours later (it used to be 9 or 10 hours so yay) and collapsed into bed at midnight with a book and fell asleep without even turning the page. A messaged me to ask if he could come over. Very predi...	missmeliss	2	351	Apr 12, 2015 by hotrod
	Adult A daughter doesn't pay her bills, gives MY phone number and address to creditors (Preview) Does anyone else get their adult A child's messages from bill collectors left on their own home phone and letters from the A daughter's bill collectors sent to their home? I have asked my daughter to contact her creditors and give them her OWN address and phone number (she never did). It is possible th...	lgnutah	7	802	Apr 12, 2015 by xeno59
	What do you think ? (Preview) since the ultimatium, ah has been sober but is going through that pattern of his,where he tries to do all the things he has needed to do n the house in a frenzy of several days. he believes thats what will prove his attempt at sobriety but it has always backfires..and he starts drinking again. i wish i coul...	YARNCRAZY	5	547	Apr 12, 2015 by pinkchip
	So have you hit rock bottom yet? (Preview) After coming home yesterday to my "recovering" alcoholic I found him curled up next to a bottle of vodka on the couch. I immediately remembered the happiness I felt during his sobriety and then fear hit me to my core and I grabbed the bottle, ran to the bathroom so he couldn't catch me and dum...	Carrie B	15	3231	Apr 11, 2015 by el-cee
	self pity alert (Preview) I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. My first thoughts were, so and so hurt my feelings because...... i dont like how that was done because.......im going to speak up and say...... you did this and you did that. Whahhhhhh. Do you know what im meaning? My spoilt brat inner child raised its...	el-cee	8	978	Apr 11, 2015 by GreenerGal
	C2C 4-9 (Preview) I am back after having a beautiful, exhausting time The C2C reading for today is extremely powerful. It talks about:"Detachment with indifference". I could readily identify with that form of detachment because that's what I first was able to accomplish as I attempted to work this prog...	hotrod	8	528	Apr 11, 2015 by ntd2001
	C2C 4-10 (Preview) The Courage to Change today is a powerful reading regarding working the steps and seeing and owning our part in the situations of our lives. The reading goes on to point out that many of us assumed responsibility for everything and thought it was all our fault and many of us place the blame of others and...	hotrod	2	423	Apr 11, 2015 by Debb
	Son released from prison this past Saturday. (Preview) I am amazed, some of you already know what I went through with my son just a few years ago, and if not, I won't go into it now, but I will say he got discharged from prison after 22 months, on Saturday. We worked together today on a paint job, spent time talking, mending our wounds and allowing healing to tak...	John	11	864	Apr 11, 2015 by xeno59
	C2C 4-11 (Preview) The C2C reading for today speaks about the power of the Al-Anon program. It points out that spirituality is an important part of our recovery, and without spiritual help .living with or having lived with the disease of alcoholism is too much for most of us. The page goes on to state that the Steps, Tra...	hotrod	2	680	Apr 11, 2015 by Debb
	Finding a Sponsor - Newcomer to Al-Anon (Preview) Hi! I'm a bit new to Al-Anon, but i'm looking for some advice/help on how to find a sponsor. If someone could help me with this information or anything that would be awesome! thanks so much! -Callie	caTinker1809	5	632	Apr 11, 2015 by Mirandac
	She told him off, now I bear the brunt of it. :( (Preview) Our son has bipolar disorder (wearen't sure-that was hospital diagnosis several years ago). He used alcohol and drugs to self medicate and then addiction became his other crutch to bear. He has not used in over a year (since he moved back in with us at age 29), sees a psychiatrist and takes Rx. He works a...	lgnutah	5	908	Apr 11, 2015 by xeno59
	Tradition 6 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59996658/alanon-tradition-6/	hotrod	0	525	Apr 11, 2015 by hotrod
	I hate my family (Preview) Except my Dad and I, my family is just a bunch of drunks. Uncles, Aunts, Cousins, I hate all them, but I still have to live at home until I finish school and can move out. No weekend, no party, no get-together, BBQ, without everyone around me drinking. My Dad is often travelling for work, so I'm many times a...	kabafu	7	2593	Apr 11, 2015 by xeno59
	Self talk (Preview) I had a light bulb momement at my alanon meeting today. When my life had become so unmanageable I had started with the negative self talk in my car. It bacame a tough thing to stop i tried and tried, Even after going to alanon. I just realized today i stopped doing that when i gave over my self will to the car...	Mirandac	8	648	Apr 11, 2015 by Mirandac
	New to the forum (Preview) Hi everyone, this is is very new for me. I have never been to an Al Anon meeting, either in person or on the web. I feel disloyal doing so but am feeling that I must do something. Here is my story and I am sure it resonate for some of you. i believe my husband is an alcoholic. When we met in the 1990's I knew he like...	Billie	18	751	Apr 10, 2015 by Mirandac
	9th step help (Preview) I had posted this on another page but think it may have been the wrong site so, I'll try posting it here. Hello everyone. I am new to this forum. I am looking for help with a very difficult amend that I need to make. I will try to be very candid here so that you might fully appreciate my situation and my desi...	NoMoreChaos	4	576	Apr 10, 2015 by Jerry F
	Yes!!! (Preview) Got a cutting email from my father tonight (right before bed of course so I'm still up) and at first I was extremely affected. I felt manipulated etc. But getting more involved in Alanon must be helping. I realized suddenly my father is a sick man and he is in pain. Yes he (and my mother) have affected me th...	WorkingThroughIt	7	447	Apr 10, 2015 by hotrod
	ACOA and alcoholic- what to do? (Preview) My spouse is an alcoholic, but also is a child of an alcoholic and a grandchild to an alcoholic. So, there are times I'm dealing with the symptoms of the alcoholic, and part of that is within me (I'm not ACOA, but deal with codependency, which mimicks the same symptoms). But my spouse is also ACOA and th...	gabigail	9	856	Apr 10, 2015 by WorkingThroughIt
	Which is worse, a pity party or the lies? (Preview) I used to get endless promises about stopping drinking and making changes. Of course this never happens, since Al-Anon I now have the occasional ability to just ignore him and know it's the disease feeding me the BS I want to hear. BUT lately there are no more empty promises. My AH now likes to throw hims...	CoopsMom	10	586	Apr 10, 2015 by pinkchip
	How to find God's will? (Preview) Hi! Any thoughts are SO welcome on this:))) Shortly about the situation. Married 10 years, drinking was always a problem, denied in the beginning by both, now I think we both know there is alcoholism. Last year has been picking up the fruits of the disease at the highest point such as 3 jobs lost, DUI, n...	Venera	6	2419	Apr 10, 2015 by el-cee
	Hope For Today April 7 (Preview) Good morning MIP: Today's reading is about turning our lives, and our situations, our worries over to the care of our HP. This is a great reminder for me that my will isn't the thing that knows best for me. I have come to learn that the things that have happened and are happening and will happen in my life...	yanksfan51	7	914	Apr 9, 2015 by ntd2001
	new (Preview) hi everyone, new here. I guess, I don't really know what else to do at this point. So, for starters when I met my husband, he drank heavily -- but I didn't pay much mind to it because he was in his early 20's, and I had grown up with an alcoholic mother and brother-- basically, this was normal to me. I also ha...	rt	9	539	Apr 9, 2015 by rt
	NOW....I'm ticked off (Preview) Ok, so last night (after I posted about the divorce being filed) my son came to me and told me that his dad said some things last Sunday while he was spending the night. Apparently, STBXAH said that I was pawning ds off on him. Dad also kept saying, "You don't have to stay here if you don't want to, I c...	andromeda	6	657	Apr 9, 2015 by andromeda
	detaching with love. (Preview) it still aches but not as much as clinging to the rope and getting whiplashed. I seperated from my husband, though he did move back in a few times before finally moving to live above a bar. Sometimes we get along, sometimes we don't but overall he's still someone I call a friend. However, as as are loathe t...	a4l	3	529	Apr 9, 2015 by hotrod
	realisation (Preview) You know how you can read something over and over and hear it over and over but you dont quite get it? Well, ive only just come to realise that alcoholism is a family disease!!! Its taken me 3 years for that one to penetrate. This program just keeps giving me more and more. I was listening to aa speakers on y...	el-cee	3	464	Apr 9, 2015 by hotrod
	(((((Family))))) (Preview) Am told to keep down and stay quiet so am doing that. I came to check in and listen and learn. You all are the same dedicated family I put aside with love just before going to be self-responsible. I'm back home now more of just a jelly fish in the moment following AFG suggestions and listening t...	Jerry F	12	580	Apr 8, 2015 by Jozie
	Divorce papers filed today (Preview) I am having mixed emotions, mostly sadness. Not sad about the marriage ending but sad for my xah and where he is today. He showed up at court (we filed at the same time: I filed the petition and he signed the acceptance of service) 20 minutes late and reeking of alcohol. He was mean and made snarky comme...	andromeda	14	695	Apr 8, 2015 by andromeda
	Alcoholic behavior (Preview) I'm confused by this term. I see a lot of people using it to describe 1. Newly sober behavior 2. Dry drunk behavior 3. Behaviors they just don't like or agree with 4. Jerky A-hole behavior 5. Erratic behavior To me, sober people show a lot of the behaviors that are mentioned too. Alcoholics don't have...	pinkchip	17	750	Apr 8, 2015 by Mirandac
	Staying strong (Preview) It is difficult , but we HAVE to do it My situation is I HAVE to stay strong for my 7 yr old Grandsons sake who is in foster care at present but social services are going to reassess me to look after him So it is VITAL I stay strong with my DD who is an alcoholic She is down right now and her sister is worried abo...	Nannynoo	26	934	Apr 8, 2015 by pinkchip
	Expectations (Preview) Realizing how many expectations I had about moving out. Moved myself and kids out Friday, AH didn't change his behavior the last weeks we were there, just mainly sulked and moped around. the expectations I had on this change included 1) me being happier/relieved - really not there yet, why did I thi...	Kerrymom	2	387	Apr 8, 2015 by yanksfan51
	FEELINGS (Preview) 2nd trip to rehab didnt help ah. or should i say, he didnt follow through on it at all. I am going through the same sad,angry,empty feeling while he repeats the same ah behavior he always does. I must get off this treadmill or i will completely lose myself. Yes, I have been applying alanon tools but they ar...	YARNCRAZY	3	379	Apr 7, 2015 by Irish7
	having a hard time today (Preview) Good morning Everyone- It's been a while since I've posted, although I have been here reading and learning along with all of you. I am having a tough time with something and am going to get it off my chest. I will do my best to make a long story shorter. A couple of years ago, in a last ditch effort to try an...	yanksfan51	12	840	Apr 7, 2015 by Truth
	Drug addiction ??? (Preview) My daughter is a single mom with 2 children . Girls. She had been in a very abusive relationship with the father of her children. I got her out of that - and she was at a women's shelter for a while. Then housing. Things worked good for 2 years until I bought a mobile home for them as a family home.She was supp...	anxious	7	724	Apr 7, 2015 by anxious
	Need Help dealing with the emotions caused by 22 yr old AD (Preview) My AD has had a problem for a couple of years, but managed to live her life, school, work etc. most recently she started dating a guy with a record for drugs who was on probation. She ended up staying there many nights and then I found out from her friends, there were domestic assault issues with his past...	WebD	14	702	Apr 7, 2015 by hightlyfavored
	My Progress (Preview) Today I was comparing my yoga posture to that of the teacher. I am new at it. When she referenced our heads ON THE FLOOR (mine wouldn't even come close), I realized it was closer today than it was last time. I need to be faithful to trying, and I trust I will progress. I know that's how this works, too. I'm no...	Jill	4	425	Apr 7, 2015 by Breakingfree
	New to board - husband alcoholic (Preview) I feel like I can't handle it anymore. He drinks usually 2 750 ML Whiskey or Vodka a week. All I do is worry about him. I tell him how I feel and he either jokes about, tells me to just worry about myself, or turns it around and says that there are things I do that bother him but he doesn't bug me about it. If I get r...	tjk	9	682	Apr 7, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	right here, right now..... (Preview) Everythjng is perfect. Just as it should be. Right in this moment is happiness and peace. Unhappiness, anxiety, worry is not about this very moment, its about yesterday and tomorrow. I cant change yesterday and tomorrow so i will stay where the peace is, right here in this moment.	el-cee	9	494	Apr 7, 2015 by Debb
	New to the forum (Preview) Hi, I am trying new things in al-anon right now because I am not in a position at the moment to get to regular face to face meetings. I have a sponsor and some al-anon friends but I am missing the contact of having that readily available source of community. I have tried the phone bridge meetings which are w...	hopefortoday29	8	699	Apr 6, 2015 by ntd2001
	Easter this and Easter that. (Preview) For years now I have allowed my daughter to go to her fathers house for Christmas and Easter. In my mind, she would have lots more fun there as they have little kids and make a big deal out of these festivals. I spent last Christmas sitting alone in a room being sad. I had it in my mind that spending these happ...	missmeliss	7	728	Apr 6, 2015 by Breakingfree
	DENIAL (Preview) acronym for "DON'T EVEN NO I AM LYING" ! how perfect is this....	LinSC	7	871	Apr 6, 2015 by el-cee
	helped to die (Preview) I learned i was an enabler to alcoholics. It meant i helped the disease grow strong, i gave money, a soft place to land, excuses and lies for the drinker, let them verbally abuse me, put up with anything that was thrown at me, and what i didnt realise was that this encouraged and assisted the drinking. Th...	el-cee	21	1007	Apr 6, 2015 by Lenora
	Happy easter (Preview) Today is a good day . I got out of the hospital last Thursday and put on the right meds and hopeful I can stay in the moment and in the day . I let myself become a wreck and ended up having a mental emtional breakdown that lead me in the hospital . I was running around with my head cut off , worried about the week th...	Wisdom67	6	586	Apr 6, 2015 by Jerry F
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