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mydrunkbrother · mydrunkbrother

I'm looking for some guidance on what others think of my current situation. I am in AA and so is my wife. (9 years and 5 years) We understand the program well but my older brother still struggles. My parents are also huge enablers to my brother and my mom's health is not good. I have plans to visit my mom...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I did that in my native language because my sister was native also. Her name is Aloha Kela and she has just crossed the line into Akua's hale...God's house. She was easy to love because she was love and I could not help learning from her. I first met her at an AA morning meeting here in Hilo and before s...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

I am trying so hard to stay focused on what matters, and letting go of my BF. It's been since Friday when he ended things with me abruptly, and has not contacted me since. I feel so betrayed. He recently moved 45 min away from me; I know he will be coming my way to go to a class this weekend. I'm really hoping he...

TrishaG · TrishaG

Hello Everyone Thank you for having me on this site. I have posted once before and you were all so helpful. But i never really went into what my life is like now. If you don't mind hearing me, i really need to talk to someone. I moved away from an abusive marriage in 2007. Bought some land, as i was a realtor ba...

LedfootJenny · LedfootJenny

So, my AH has mostly stopped going to meetings but is working the steps with his sponsor while they go camping and fishing a weekend or two a month. I continue to work on me and my serenity and have done a really good job of staying on my side of the street. Last night however, I realized he continues to cro...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

Hello Everyone, I am new to this forum and new to the Al-Anon community. I am reaching out to your community at a very stressful, and confusing time in my life . First I will give you a little back story: In October of 2014 I met a guy that we'll call Irish (to protect his identity of course). I was a new to the d...

joker · joker

My abf keeps talking to me about getting legally married. I am confused about this as I do not believe getting legally married will change anything. He has a strong belief in god however continues to binge drink. He will go for 2 days straight and longer if he is off work. He was drinking the day before aft...

MissBrightside · MissBrightside

Hello all! I'm new here and searching for any words of wisdom/advice I can get from my situation. I'm sorry that this will be kind of long. I was in a relationship with an alcoholic for 3 years. It's actually hard to say exactly how long because we never really ended our relationship. He just kind o...

cfittx23 · cfittx23

Hello. I am still fairly new to all this Al Anon but I love it. I was dating a girl for a year and a half. She became sober early in May and we decided to split ways. It is natural, I think, to wonder that she will get better and things would be fine between us. Also, since I am in a healthier state of mind thr...

Debb · Debb

A coincidence is a little miracle in which God chooses to remain anonymous. I believe that coincidences are littlenudges or love taps from HP on our journey through life. It maybe HPs way of showing us that we are moving in the right direction and think that it is at those times that being thankful is a...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 24 speaks about being in an Al-Anon meeting with others who truly understand the disease of alcoholism and the painful experiences of living with the disease. Many of us, as the results of living with the disease, develop a martyr like attitude. We see ourselves...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just thinking. It is time to branch out & meet new people. I am in the process. Connecting w women of different ages & different backgrounds. It is a nice way to get to know new & interesting people in & out of the program. It I so much easier now that I have al anon.

iShaman · iShaman

I don't want to "bury the lead" so right here at the top of this post is my question: all the definitions I've seen of Dry Drunk seemed to suggest that it pertains exclusively to people that had a drinking problem but don't drink now. That are abstinent, but not sober. That are effectively &qu...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

Today I am full of anxiety over my AS. I have been doing pretty good with detaching with love and just letting him live his own life,without interfering.I had been feeling so much serenity by turning him over to his HP.Every morning when I say my prayers,I ask for help in standing back,staying out of the...

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

My AH has been sober for what is coming up on 4 months. He is starting to slack on meetings and hasn't gone to one in three weeks. Asked him about if he was going tonight after work but he said he probably wouldn't because he may have to work late. I just have to remind myself to let go and let god and that his...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 23 speaks about "reacting "to situations instead of taking the time to process what is going on and then "responding" with our principles intact. Prior to program., the reading points out that many of us respond" in kind", to behav...

laurab · laurab

DS got drunk for several days. Didn't go to work at his new great job. GF and mother of their 3 month old, got an order of protection. Cops came and threw him out. For the first time ever, he took care of himself. Called a detox and went directly there. 4 days later he landed in rehab. Wednesday he leaves afte...

Debb · Debb

Let Go And Let God helps us to let go of trying to control things we can not control. When our attempts at control are not working, when we feel we have run out of options, when we dont know what we can do, this slogan helps us trust that a Power greater than ourselves will help us when the time is right. YANA = Y...

movingforward · movingforward

Hi, I'm new here, as it has become glaringly obvious that my kids dad has chosen alcohol over his family. Heres a brief history: I am a mom of 2 little guys (ages 2 1/2 and 4 months old). We got pregnant by surprise and I wasn't working when I found out I was pregnant. we moved in together and decided to give th...

Debb · Debb

I haven't posted something personal to you all in a while and thought it would be nice to send out a personal hello and how are you all. Been doing very well dealing with AH, thanks to you all and Al-anon. I think that what is the biggest help for me is helping others and sharing my ESH. Looking forward to...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My friend made it right after I posted. I won't let that happen again. I will just leave & have hubby wait for me. By the way I have 20/20 one eye. 20/25 in the other. I thank God for this wonderful blessing & answer to prayer. Never really thought I would be so fortunate to get a chance again at 20/20...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

Hi everyone. I am struggling today. As noted in my last post recovering alcoholic BF broke up with me very abruptly on Friday, and I have not heard from him since. This has been an extremely painful last few days. I dropped his things off at his parents house today and had a heart to heart with his father. I...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Waiting on a friend again. This time for 2 hours. It seems like it happens often anymore. I am waiting here wanting to get on the library computer. I have trouble posting on this phone. My husband needs the phone. That is my complaint for the day.

RealitySucker · RealitySucker

This is probably a silly question to ask and I know I shouldn't be trying to analyze my AH's behavior anyway, but dang it, I just want to try to understand. My AH seems to be avoiding real responsibility. Of course when I type it out it seems so obvious that it IS an alcoholic trait. My AH graduated from a mas...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

It's been a while hasn't it. I come and read but don't post too much....my bad. A little about what has been happening to me. I got a really nice raise at work but in the talk I got called out for my attitude. I was asked to be not so up front and in your face to co-workers. I do a great job they but PLEASE ( l...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

just as i thought.. ah goes away for the weekend and gets totally wasted and now cant drive home and be at work tomorow. didnt need 1 minute in school to predict that... each time he does this, he is in more danger of his brother firing him and 1 step closer to homelessness for the both of us. my cousin who cla...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I finally got a JOB .. WOOT WOOT .. I don't start until Wednesday or Thursday, which is going to make things rough however I have gotten this far I can't quit now and I'm still applying for part-time work as well. I have to dig out as fast as I can. I have to figure out how to get through the next 2 weeks and fig...

Debb · Debb

Live And Let Live has two parts. Let live reminds us to allow others the dignity of making their own decisions and experiencing the consequences of their decisions and choices. By minding our own business, we are freed from feeling responsible for changing other. We also learn to live by taking care o...

ftrvr · ftrvr

I just received a Facebook message from my 36 year old alcoholic son's half-brother. Not too long ago this young man angrily blamed me for my son's problems and I didn't think I would hear from him again, but tonight I got this: "Wanted to let you know (my son) seems to be developing some mental iss...

confused2015 · confused2015

So, I have had a wall up with my AH for the last 2 weeks since I told him I was not dealing with the drinking anymore. Well this weekend I began to slowly let it down, I kissed him a couple times, held his hand in bed, chit chatted some. Well last night he gets mad at me because I had our youngest child use our sh...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Am I alone in this? My AH is still convinced that he doesn't have diabetes which I may be able to accept but he says that he doesn't eat sugar at all or better yet he has been saying that since he hasn't been eating sugar, he can see himself as to not having sugar at all. Just every chance he gets. He is fooling h...

Broken513 · Broken513

Got my books today...3 more coming by the end of the week...today I got One day at a time, Courage to change, and How Al Anon works...just waiting now for Hope for today, Courage to be me and in all our affairs, making crisis work for you.....by the weekend if you cannot find me I'll be locked in my room r...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

good morning everyone: today's reading is about accepting other people for who they are; not expecting change in others but learning to change our own behavior as needed. The reading begins with the writer describing how difficult it has been to talk openly and honestly wits family members. Spea...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm really having a moment today and this has bothered me all weekend .. it's always harder when I'm in more of a panic regarding money. My XAH has decided he doesn't need to pay the State .. he is to pay the County .. what that translates to is him saving 16$ a week because he has to pay through the State. NE...

Boymom · Boymom

Hello, I am a mom of 2 kids ages 4 and 6 mo. My husband has had a drinking issue as long as I have know him. He is what I would call a binge drinker, it's not that he drinks every night but when he starts he drinks in excess and makes poor choices. It had been a battle between us for years. He thinks he is a normal guy...

Debb · Debb

The slogan, Keep An Open Mind helps us to be open to ideas from sources that we might not have imagined could be helpful. It helps us to take advantage of all opportunities. FAITH = Finding Answers In The HeartHappy Monday!

sandydd · sandydd

New here, have never joined a group. I have been married for almost 25 years with two grown children. My AH is a functioning one, but when he does drink its hurtful and we get into huge fights. Last night we got into one again. He works out of town and i see him on weekends. Right now i have no idea really h...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 21 speaks about living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that living with this disease, we become fearful and dread change. This is not because life is perfect but because we are familiar with the chaos, think we're in control and dread any change.The r...

Bill S · Bill S

I had a pretty good day going. I had set plans to go to my local Al Anon meeting & I was looking forward to it. I got a call from my Alcoholic and immediately my radar went off. She sounded animated and somewhat stressed. I have been struggling with interpreting my "new wife's" new atti...

LinSC · LinSC

Hoping comments on this question might make me a better participant to newcomers at meetings. linsc

brightyellow · brightyellow

A week or so a go things got bad at home with the drinking and verbal abuse and it was really escalating. My partner of 10 years was saying he was leaving me 'when he gets some money' or 'when he gets his licence' back and so he was saying how bad things are (and how bad I am) and how it was over but wouldn't actu...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I got the opportunity to do the lead last evening at our home group and using the How Al-Anon Works Big Book the meeting took flight. I chose the 9th because of me it is where the "me changing me" process started and has continued for all the time I've been in recovery. At first I just didn't...

Broken513 · Broken513

The meeting itself was amazing. the topic was reaction. So I was really able to relate to it. I didn't share of course. I was a little bit suffocated..I have an issue with dealing with a big group of people..anxiety attacks...but I stayed..a lot of people in a small room...I just kept asking HP to help to...

Jerry F · Jerry F

This is the reading for me which our program is all about. I didn't get it and wouldn't get it the first time I saw it and then for my own peace of mind and serenity I got it every time after even yesterday as my alcoholic son attended the birthday party. He is sick...mind, body, spirit and emotions and w...

RealitySucker · RealitySucker

I think I'm just here to vent, but my head is spinning, so I'm really not sure. Today is my second wedding anniversary. The first conversation AH and I ever had about my perception of his alcohol problem was 3 months before our wedding. Our entire marriage has been consumed by the struggle that is alcoh...

carolm · carolm

As a mother of an adult child with both drug and alcohol problems, how do I stop feeling all this guilt? I think back to all of the times when I made excuses for him, gave him money when I shouldn't have and generally tried to come up with a solution for each of the situations he got himself into. He's 28 years...

Mrs_Odog · Mrs_Odog

Greetings, I'm new to this forum. I'm not new to alanon. I've been to a couple not very helpful meetings. However the last one I attended I learned of sponsorship in alanon. My husband is a recovering alcoholic/addict. My story is in my bio. I know the ins and outs of AA. I'm a stay home/disabled mom. I've...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 20 speaks about making daily gratitude and assets lists, I could readily identify with this reading as it pointed out that the first time we make the lists we may not "feel" very grateful. Regardless of this simple fact we need to continue as we are planting...

Debb · Debb

The slogan, One Day At A Time Provides a practical approach to challenges and fears. We focus our energies on dealing productively with today, and we give up worrying about a future we can not predict or control and about a past we cannot change. It helps us break overwhelming tasks into manageable ste...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey MIP Family - Today is my birthday! In my world, it's been a day that has been forgotten and not often celebrated since we became inflicted with the disease of addiction. I spoke earlier this week of my anxiety over 'it' as I am good at one day at a time most of the while but there are a few days/periods t...

glad · glad

My brother sister and MOM have shut me out since my Dad passed away on June 24 this year. If we do talk at all very cruel things have been said, threats have been made, crazy lies have been told and unfortunately believed by others. There have been lots of lies and for some reason most sad to me is the niece...

Helpangel · Helpangel

Hi everyone. I am refinancing my house to a lower interest rate and the mortgage is in my name only but the title is in both our names. Since we are separated should or shouldn't I go ahead and get my ah off the title of the house when I refinance? The mortgage processor said I can do it either way. My concern i...

Broken513 · Broken513

Well this is it, in 1 1/2 hours I will be attending my first f2f meeting.. thus far I have been doing these online meetings for a month. nervous? yes.. scared to death really...last night I laid out my clothes like a school girl going to a new school...excited but nervous at the same time. I just say to myse...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 5 has been posted to the Step Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t60892182/9-2015-alanon-step-5/Please join us a...

gillygilly · gillygilly

Today is one year, more or less to the minute, when I asked my partner to leave the house. I didn't know that I was going to say it the minute before I said it. I feel very strongly that my conscious mind wasn't involved at all. It had checked out. It was my body reacting and screaming for change. My consc...

tiiburbo · tiiburbo

Hello, I'm new to this site and support in general. I come from a very large family (I'm the youngest of 6 kids), almost all of whom are alcohol or drug-dependent. Other than my oldest brother who is 15 years older than me, I'm the only to not suffer from addiction, although I do (understandably...) have...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 19 speaks about Step Eight and making a list of all the people we have harmed. The reading notes, that it Is important to review what kind of harm we might do to others,before we can list the people we hurt. We can ask ourselves about situations in which each of our characte...

Debb · Debb

The slogan, Think helps us to remember to think before we act on or react to situations. This slogan helps us make good decisions about how to act. When we apply this slogan, it helps free us from distorted thinking and impulsive, potentially destructive decision-making.THINK .. Thoughtful. Ho...

Mich3lle · Mich3lle

Hello Everyone, I have only just come across Al-anon this last week when my mums key worker suggested I look into local meetings, which I am doing. I have been doing lots of reading recently and have come across lots of info regarding Adult Children of Alcoholics, their personality traits and how futu...

Helpangel · Helpangel

I have been reading some of the posts and I saw one about an anniversary that an ah started drinking again. I started thinking in the past 4 years that my ah and I have been together how many anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, there was a feeling of not good in the air and I have to tell you all of them. My a...

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	Trickle down effect of Alcoholics (Preview) I'm looking for some guidance on what others think of my current situation. I am in AA and so is my wife. (9 years and 5 years) We understand the program well but my older brother still struggles. My parents are also huge enablers to my brother and my mom's health is not good. I have plans to visit my mom...	mydrunkbrother	5	798	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	Aloha Piha Aloha Kela...au hui ho. (Preview) I did that in my native language because my sister was native also. Her name is Aloha Kela and she has just crossed the line into Akua's hale...God's house. She was easy to love because she was love and I could not help learning from her. I first met her at an AA morning meeting here in Hilo and before s...	Jerry F	5	681	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	Still struggling (Preview) I am trying so hard to stay focused on what matters, and letting go of my BF. It's been since Friday when he ended things with me abruptly, and has not contacted me since. I feel so betrayed. He recently moved 45 min away from me; I know he will be coming my way to go to a class this weekend. I'm really hoping he...	Restless Soul	4	638	Sep 24, 2015 by Restless Soul
	Introduction in Full (Preview) Hello Everyone Thank you for having me on this site. I have posted once before and you were all so helpful. But i never really went into what my life is like now. If you don't mind hearing me, i really need to talk to someone. I moved away from an abusive marriage in 2007. Bought some land, as i was a realtor ba...	TrishaG	8	518	Sep 24, 2015 by Jerry F
	Baffled by Boundaries (Preview) So, my AH has mostly stopped going to meetings but is working the steps with his sponsor while they go camping and fishing a weekend or two a month. I continue to work on me and my serenity and have done a really good job of staying on my side of the street. Last night however, I realized he continues to cro...	LedfootJenny	7	795	Sep 24, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	Broken hearted (Preview) Hello Everyone, I am new to this forum and new to the Al-Anon community. I am reaching out to your community at a very stressful, and confusing time in my life . First I will give you a little back story: In October of 2014 I met a guy that we'll call Irish (to protect his identity of course). I was a new to the d...	Restless Soul	10	717	Sep 24, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	feeling pressured by alcoholic (Preview) My abf keeps talking to me about getting legally married. I am confused about this as I do not believe getting legally married will change anything. He has a strong belief in god however continues to binge drink. He will go for 2 days straight and longer if he is off work. He was drinking the day before aft...	joker	4	725	Sep 24, 2015 by Debb
	Being replaced by someone new (Preview) Hello all! I'm new here and searching for any words of wisdom/advice I can get from my situation. I'm sorry that this will be kind of long. I was in a relationship with an alcoholic for 3 years. It's actually hard to say exactly how long because we never really ended our relationship. He just kind o...	MissBrightside	6	723	Sep 24, 2015 by Iamhere
	Possible to get back with an ex who is now sober? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Hello. I am still fairly new to all this Al Anon but I love it. I was dating a girl for a year and a half. She became sober early in May and we decided to split ways. It is natural, I think, to wonder that she will get better and things would be fine between us. Also, since I am in a healthier state of mind thr...	cfittx23	56	8104	Sep 24, 2015 by cfittx23
	On God & Coincidences ~ 9/24/15 (Preview) A coincidence is a little miracle in which God chooses to remain anonymous. I believe that coincidences are littlenudges or love taps from HP on our journey through life. It maybe HPs way of showing us that we are moving in the right direction and think that it is at those times that being thankful is a...	Debb	4	763	Sep 24, 2015 by MissBrightside
	C2C 9-24 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 24 speaks about being in an Al-Anon meeting with others who truly understand the disease of alcoholism and the painful experiences of living with the disease. Many of us, as the results of living with the disease, develop a martyr like attitude. We see ourselves...	hotrod	1	521	Sep 24, 2015 by Iamhere
	where do i go from here? (Preview) Just thinking. It is time to branch out & meet new people. I am in the process. Connecting w women of different ages & different backgrounds. It is a nice way to get to know new & interesting people in & out of the program. It I so much easier now that I have al anon.	Hoot Nanny	2	583	Sep 23, 2015 by Iamhere
	Question about Dry Drunkedness Family Disease Family Disease Dry Dry Drunk ACA Recovery PTSD (Preview) I don't want to "bury the lead" so right here at the top of this post is my question: all the definitions I've seen of Dry Drunk seemed to suggest that it pertains exclusively to people that had a drinking problem but don't drink now. That are abstinent, but not sober. That are effectively &qu...	iShaman	10	9173	Sep 23, 2015 by hotrod
	Letting Go (Preview) Today I am full of anxiety over my AS. I have been doing pretty good with detaching with love and just letting him live his own life,without interfering.I had been feeling so much serenity by turning him over to his HP.Every morning when I say my prayers,I ask for help in standing back,staying out of the...	SoggySlippers	9	763	Sep 23, 2015 by carolm
	AH starting to slack on going to meetings (Preview) My AH has been sober for what is coming up on 4 months. He is starting to slack on meetings and hasn't gone to one in three weeks. Asked him about if he was going tonight after work but he said he probably wouldn't because he may have to work late. I just have to remind myself to let go and let god and that his...	Jazzie18	4	664	Sep 23, 2015 by Debb
	C2C 9-23 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 23 speaks about "reacting "to situations instead of taking the time to process what is going on and then "responding" with our principles intact. Prior to program., the reading points out that many of us respond" in kind", to behav...	hotrod	3	578	Sep 23, 2015 by Debb
	It's the last time (Preview) DS got drunk for several days. Didn't go to work at his new great job. GF and mother of their 3 month old, got an order of protection. Cops came and threw him out. For the first time ever, he took care of himself. Called a detox and went directly there. 4 days later he landed in rehab. Wednesday he leaves afte...	laurab	25	1155	Sep 23, 2015 by laurab
	Slogan for Today – Let Go And Let God - 9/23/15 (Preview) Let Go And Let God helps us to let go of trying to control things we can not control. When our attempts at control are not working, when we feel we have run out of options, when we dont know what we can do, this slogan helps us trust that a Power greater than ourselves will help us when the time is right. YANA = Y...	Debb	6	876	Sep 23, 2015 by Iamhere
	New here, looking for advice/support/i don't know (Preview) Hi, I'm new here, as it has become glaringly obvious that my kids dad has chosen alcohol over his family. Heres a brief history: I am a mom of 2 little guys (ages 2 1/2 and 4 months old). We got pregnant by surprise and I wasn't working when I found out I was pregnant. we moved in together and decided to give th...	movingforward	4	792	Sep 23, 2015 by Jazzie18
	Just a Post To Say Hi and Update (Preview) I haven't posted something personal to you all in a while and thought it would be nice to send out a personal hello and how are you all. Been doing very well dealing with AH, thanks to you all and Al-anon. I think that what is the biggest help for me is helping others and sharing my ESH. Looking forward to...	Debb	2	449	Sep 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	she showed up right away (Preview) My friend made it right after I posted. I won't let that happen again. I will just leave & have hubby wait for me. By the way I have 20/20 one eye. 20/25 in the other. I thank God for this wonderful blessing & answer to prayer. Never really thought I would be so fortunate to get a chance again at 20/20...	Hoot Nanny	3	521	Sep 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	Struggling (Preview) Hi everyone. I am struggling today. As noted in my last post recovering alcoholic BF broke up with me very abruptly on Friday, and I have not heard from him since. This has been an extremely painful last few days. I dropped his things off at his parents house today and had a heart to heart with his father. I...	Restless Soul	6	579	Sep 22, 2015 by Restless Soul
	i hate waiting! (Preview) Waiting on a friend again. This time for 2 hours. It seems like it happens often anymore. I am waiting here wanting to get on the library computer. I have trouble posting on this phone. My husband needs the phone. That is my complaint for the day.	Hoot Nanny	0	561	Sep 22, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	Is this an alcoholic trait or...? (Preview) This is probably a silly question to ask and I know I shouldn't be trying to analyze my AH's behavior anyway, but dang it, I just want to try to understand. My AH seems to be avoiding real responsibility. Of course when I type it out it seems so obvious that it IS an alcoholic trait. My AH graduated from a mas...	RealitySucker	8	734	Sep 22, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Hi Everyone (Preview) It's been a while hasn't it. I come and read but don't post too much....my bad. A little about what has been happening to me. I got a really nice raise at work but in the talk I got called out for my attitude. I was asked to be not so up front and in your face to co-workers. I do a great job they but PLEASE ( l...	Cathyinaz	6	628	Sep 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	fool at the fair (Preview) just as i thought.. ah goes away for the weekend and gets totally wasted and now cant drive home and be at work tomorow. didnt need 1 minute in school to predict that... each time he does this, he is in more danger of his brother firing him and 1 step closer to homelessness for the both of us. my cousin who cla...	YARNCRAZY	6	650	Sep 22, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	FINALLY!!! (Preview) I finally got a JOB .. WOOT WOOT .. I don't start until Wednesday or Thursday, which is going to make things rough however I have gotten this far I can't quit now and I'm still applying for part-time work as well. I have to dig out as fast as I can. I have to figure out how to get through the next 2 weeks and fig...	SerenityRUS	13	627	Sep 22, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	Slogan for Today – Live And Let Live - 9/22/15 (Preview) Live And Let Live has two parts. Let live reminds us to allow others the dignity of making their own decisions and experiencing the consequences of their decisions and choices. By minding our own business, we are freed from feeling responsible for changing other. We also learn to live by taking care o...	Debb	6	4366	Sep 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	Sick at Heart (Preview) I just received a Facebook message from my 36 year old alcoholic son's half-brother. Not too long ago this young man angrily blamed me for my son's problems and I didn't think I would hear from him again, but tonight I got this: "Wanted to let you know (my son) seems to be developing some mental iss...	ftrvr	8	786	Sep 22, 2015 by LinSC
	Letting down the wall (Preview) So, I have had a wall up with my AH for the last 2 weeks since I told him I was not dealing with the drinking anymore. Well this weekend I began to slowly let it down, I kissed him a couple times, held his hand in bed, chit chatted some. Well last night he gets mad at me because I had our youngest child use our sh...	confused2015	14	860	Sep 22, 2015 by Debb
	am I alone in this? (Preview) Am I alone in this? My AH is still convinced that he doesn't have diabetes which I may be able to accept but he says that he doesn't eat sugar at all or better yet he has been saying that since he hasn't been eating sugar, he can see himself as to not having sugar at all. Just every chance he gets. He is fooling h...	Hoot Nanny	5	660	Sep 22, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	Got my books FINALLY! (Preview) Got my books today...3 more coming by the end of the week...today I got One day at a time, Courage to change, and How Al Anon works...just waiting now for Hope for today, Courage to be me and in all our affairs, making crisis work for you.....by the weekend if you cannot find me I'll be locked in my room r...	Broken513	7	648	Sep 22, 2015 by Enigmatic
	Hope for today sept 22 (Preview) good morning everyone: today's reading is about accepting other people for who they are; not expecting change in others but learning to change our own behavior as needed. The reading begins with the writer describing how difficult it has been to talk openly and honestly wits family members. Spea...	yanksfan51	3	559	Sep 22, 2015 by yanksfan51
	Distorted Thinking .. (Preview) I'm really having a moment today and this has bothered me all weekend .. it's always harder when I'm in more of a panic regarding money. My XAH has decided he doesn't need to pay the State .. he is to pay the County .. what that translates to is him saving 16$ a week because he has to pay through the State. NE...	SerenityRUS	7	1064	Sep 21, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Hello, new and looking for advise (Preview) Hello, I am a mom of 2 kids ages 4 and 6 mo. My husband has had a drinking issue as long as I have know him. He is what I would call a binge drinker, it's not that he drinks every night but when he starts he drinks in excess and makes poor choices. It had been a battle between us for years. He thinks he is a normal guy...	Boymom	8	778	Sep 21, 2015 by Mattie
	Slogan for Today – Keep An Open Mind - 9/21/15 (Preview) The slogan, Keep An Open Mind helps us to be open to ideas from sources that we might not have imagined could be helpful. It helps us to take advantage of all opportunities. FAITH = Finding Answers In The HeartHappy Monday!	Debb	2	1194	Sep 21, 2015 by Iamhere
	new here, need some advice, tired so very tired of living with this (Preview) New here, have never joined a group. I have been married for almost 25 years with two grown children. My AH is a functioning one, but when he does drink its hurtful and we get into huge fights. Last night we got into one again. He works out of town and i see him on weekends. Right now i have no idea really h...	sandydd	4	569	Sep 21, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-21 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 21 speaks about living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that living with this disease, we become fearful and dread change. This is not because life is perfect but because we are familiar with the chaos, think we're in control and dread any change.The r...	hotrod	2	560	Sep 21, 2015 by Iamhere
	Working Hard but Struggling to Release Control (Preview) I had a pretty good day going. I had set plans to go to my local Al Anon meeting & I was looking forward to it. I got a call from my Alcoholic and immediately my radar went off. She sounded animated and somewhat stressed. I have been struggling with interpreting my "new wife's" new atti...	Bill S	9	773	Sep 21, 2015 by Mattie
	What makes people afraid to go to F2F Meetings? (Preview) Hoping comments on this question might make me a better participant to newcomers at meetings. linsc	LinSC	17	770	Sep 21, 2015 by carolm
	I don't know whether I should revoke the charges? (Preview) A week or so a go things got bad at home with the drinking and verbal abuse and it was really escalating. My partner of 10 years was saying he was leaving me 'when he gets some money' or 'when he gets his licence' back and so he was saying how bad things are (and how bad I am) and how it was over but wouldn't actu...	brightyellow	30	1190	Sep 20, 2015 by brightyellow
	A 9th step group... (Preview) I got the opportunity to do the lead last evening at our home group and using the How Al-Anon Works Big Book the meeting took flight. I chose the 9th because of me it is where the "me changing me" process started and has continued for all the time I've been in recovery. At first I just didn't...	Jerry F	8	695	Sep 20, 2015 by tiredtonite
	First f2f experience (Preview) The meeting itself was amazing. the topic was reaction. So I was really able to relate to it. I didn't share of course. I was a little bit suffocated..I have an issue with dealing with a big group of people..anxiety attacks...but I stayed..a lot of people in a small room...I just kept asking HP to help to...	Broken513	7	699	Sep 20, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Sept 20th ...ODAT (Preview) This is the reading for me which our program is all about. I didn't get it and wouldn't get it the first time I saw it and then for my own peace of mind and serenity I got it every time after even yesterday as my alcoholic son attended the birthday party. He is sick...mind, body, spirit and emotions and w...	Jerry F	2	787	Sep 20, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	My husband relapsed on our wedding anniversary. (Preview) I think I'm just here to vent, but my head is spinning, so I'm really not sure. Today is my second wedding anniversary. The first conversation AH and I ever had about my perception of his alcohol problem was 3 months before our wedding. Our entire marriage has been consumed by the struggle that is alcoh...	RealitySucker	25	1110	Sep 20, 2015 by Mrs_Odog
	Feeling guilt for my child's problems (Preview) As a mother of an adult child with both drug and alcohol problems, how do I stop feeling all this guilt? I think back to all of the times when I made excuses for him, gave him money when I shouldn't have and generally tried to come up with a solution for each of the situations he got himself into. He's 28 years...	carolm	13	769	Sep 20, 2015 by ftrvr
	In need of a sponsor (Preview) Greetings, I'm new to this forum. I'm not new to alanon. I've been to a couple not very helpful meetings. However the last one I attended I learned of sponsorship in alanon. My husband is a recovering alcoholic/addict. My story is in my bio. I know the ins and outs of AA. I'm a stay home/disabled mom. I've...	Mrs_Odog	1	515	Sep 20, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-20 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 20 speaks about making daily gratitude and assets lists, I could readily identify with this reading as it pointed out that the first time we make the lists we may not "feel" very grateful. Regardless of this simple fact we need to continue as we are planting...	hotrod	2	637	Sep 20, 2015 by Iamhere
	Slogan for Today – One Day At A Time - 9/20/15 (Preview) The slogan, One Day At A Time Provides a practical approach to challenges and fears. We focus our energies on dealing productively with today, and we give up worrying about a future we can not predict or control and about a past we cannot change. It helps us break overwhelming tasks into manageable ste...	Debb	2	366	Sep 20, 2015 by Iamhere
	Today's my Birthday - I'm throwing my own Party HERE! (Preview) Hey MIP Family - Today is my birthday! In my world, it's been a day that has been forgotten and not often celebrated since we became inflicted with the disease of addiction. I spoke earlier this week of my anxiety over 'it' as I am good at one day at a time most of the while but there are a few days/periods t...	Iamhere	14	1013	Sep 20, 2015 by Iamhere
	horse of a different color in a different race (Preview) My brother sister and MOM have shut me out since my Dad passed away on June 24 this year. If we do talk at all very cruel things have been said, threats have been made, crazy lies have been told and unfortunately believed by others. There have been lots of lies and for some reason most sad to me is the niece...	glad	5	670	Sep 19, 2015 by a4l
	Legal question about house and quit claim (Preview) Hi everyone. I am refinancing my house to a lower interest rate and the mortgage is in my name only but the title is in both our names. Since we are separated should or shouldn't I go ahead and get my ah off the title of the house when I refinance? The mortgage processor said I can do it either way. My concern i...	Helpangel	9	754	Sep 19, 2015 by Helpangel
	Today is the day. TY all (Preview) Well this is it, in 1 1/2 hours I will be attending my first f2f meeting.. thus far I have been doing these online meetings for a month. nervous? yes.. scared to death really...last night I laid out my clothes like a school girl going to a new school...excited but nervous at the same time. I just say to myse...	Broken513	8	682	Sep 19, 2015 by Jen61
	Step 5 (Preview) Step 5 has been posted to the Step Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t60892182/9-2015-alanon-step-5/Please join us a...	hotrod	3	562	Sep 19, 2015 by Iamhere
	One year on (Preview) Today is one year, more or less to the minute, when I asked my partner to leave the house. I didn't know that I was going to say it the minute before I said it. I feel very strongly that my conscious mind wasn't involved at all. It had checked out. It was my body reacting and screaming for change. My consc...	gillygilly	8	718	Sep 19, 2015 by Jerry F
	New to Al-Anon family group (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this site and support in general. I come from a very large family (I'm the youngest of 6 kids), almost all of whom are alcohol or drug-dependent. Other than my oldest brother who is 15 years older than me, I'm the only to not suffer from addiction, although I do (understandably...) have...	tiiburbo	7	624	Sep 19, 2015 by hotrod
	C2C 9-19 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 19 speaks about Step Eight and making a list of all the people we have harmed. The reading notes, that it Is important to review what kind of harm we might do to others,before we can list the people we hurt. We can ask ourselves about situations in which each of our characte...	hotrod	1	513	Sep 19, 2015 by Iamhere
	Slogan for Today – Think - 9/19/15 (Preview) The slogan, Think helps us to remember to think before we act on or react to situations. This slogan helps us make good decisions about how to act. When we apply this slogan, it helps free us from distorted thinking and impulsive, potentially destructive decision-making.THINK .. Thoughtful. Ho...	Debb	2	646	Sep 19, 2015 by Iamhere
	Adult Child of an Alcoholic or not? (Preview) Hello Everyone, I have only just come across Al-anon this last week when my mums key worker suggested I look into local meetings, which I am doing. I have been doing lots of reading recently and have come across lots of info regarding Adult Children of Alcoholics, their personality traits and how futu...	Mich3lle	10	748	Sep 19, 2015 by tiiburbo
	When is enough? (Preview) I have been reading some of the posts and I saw one about an anniversary that an ah started drinking again. I started thinking in the past 4 years that my ah and I have been together how many anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, there was a feeling of not good in the air and I have to tell you all of them. My a...	Helpangel	12	830	Sep 19, 2015 by tiiburbo
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