Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

sandydd · sandydd

New here, have never joined a group. I have been married for almost 25 years with two grown children. My AH is a functioning one, but when he does drink its hurtful and we get into huge fights. Last night we got into one again. He works out of town and i see him on weekends. Right now i have no idea really h...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 21 speaks about living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that living with this disease, we become fearful and dread change. This is not because life is perfect but because we are familiar with the chaos, think we're in control and dread any change.The r...

Bill S · Bill S

I had a pretty good day going. I had set plans to go to my local Al Anon meeting & I was looking forward to it. I got a call from my Alcoholic and immediately my radar went off. She sounded animated and somewhat stressed. I have been struggling with interpreting my "new wife's" new atti...

LinSC · LinSC

Hoping comments on this question might make me a better participant to newcomers at meetings. linsc

brightyellow · brightyellow

A week or so a go things got bad at home with the drinking and verbal abuse and it was really escalating. My partner of 10 years was saying he was leaving me 'when he gets some money' or 'when he gets his licence' back and so he was saying how bad things are (and how bad I am) and how it was over but wouldn't actu...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I got the opportunity to do the lead last evening at our home group and using the How Al-Anon Works Big Book the meeting took flight. I chose the 9th because of me it is where the "me changing me" process started and has continued for all the time I've been in recovery. At first I just didn't...

Broken513 · Broken513

The meeting itself was amazing. the topic was reaction. So I was really able to relate to it. I didn't share of course. I was a little bit suffocated..I have an issue with dealing with a big group of people..anxiety attacks...but I stayed..a lot of people in a small room...I just kept asking HP to help to...

Jerry F · Jerry F

This is the reading for me which our program is all about. I didn't get it and wouldn't get it the first time I saw it and then for my own peace of mind and serenity I got it every time after even yesterday as my alcoholic son attended the birthday party. He is sick...mind, body, spirit and emotions and w...

RealitySucker · RealitySucker

I think I'm just here to vent, but my head is spinning, so I'm really not sure. Today is my second wedding anniversary. The first conversation AH and I ever had about my perception of his alcohol problem was 3 months before our wedding. Our entire marriage has been consumed by the struggle that is alcoh...

carolm · carolm

As a mother of an adult child with both drug and alcohol problems, how do I stop feeling all this guilt? I think back to all of the times when I made excuses for him, gave him money when I shouldn't have and generally tried to come up with a solution for each of the situations he got himself into. He's 28 years...

Mrs_Odog · Mrs_Odog

Greetings, I'm new to this forum. I'm not new to alanon. I've been to a couple not very helpful meetings. However the last one I attended I learned of sponsorship in alanon. My husband is a recovering alcoholic/addict. My story is in my bio. I know the ins and outs of AA. I'm a stay home/disabled mom. I've...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 20 speaks about making daily gratitude and assets lists, I could readily identify with this reading as it pointed out that the first time we make the lists we may not "feel" very grateful. Regardless of this simple fact we need to continue as we are planting...

Debb · Debb

The slogan, One Day At A Time Provides a practical approach to challenges and fears. We focus our energies on dealing productively with today, and we give up worrying about a future we can not predict or control and about a past we cannot change. It helps us break overwhelming tasks into manageable ste...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey MIP Family - Today is my birthday! In my world, it's been a day that has been forgotten and not often celebrated since we became inflicted with the disease of addiction. I spoke earlier this week of my anxiety over 'it' as I am good at one day at a time most of the while but there are a few days/periods t...

glad · glad

My brother sister and MOM have shut me out since my Dad passed away on June 24 this year. If we do talk at all very cruel things have been said, threats have been made, crazy lies have been told and unfortunately believed by others. There have been lots of lies and for some reason most sad to me is the niece...

Helpangel · Helpangel

Hi everyone. I am refinancing my house to a lower interest rate and the mortgage is in my name only but the title is in both our names. Since we are separated should or shouldn't I go ahead and get my ah off the title of the house when I refinance? The mortgage processor said I can do it either way. My concern i...

Broken513 · Broken513

Well this is it, in 1 1/2 hours I will be attending my first f2f meeting.. thus far I have been doing these online meetings for a month. nervous? yes.. scared to death really...last night I laid out my clothes like a school girl going to a new school...excited but nervous at the same time. I just say to myse...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 5 has been posted to the Step Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t60892182/9-2015-alanon-step-5/Please join us a...

gillygilly · gillygilly

Today is one year, more or less to the minute, when I asked my partner to leave the house. I didn't know that I was going to say it the minute before I said it. I feel very strongly that my conscious mind wasn't involved at all. It had checked out. It was my body reacting and screaming for change. My consc...

tiiburbo · tiiburbo

Hello, I'm new to this site and support in general. I come from a very large family (I'm the youngest of 6 kids), almost all of whom are alcohol or drug-dependent. Other than my oldest brother who is 15 years older than me, I'm the only to not suffer from addiction, although I do (understandably...) have...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 19 speaks about Step Eight and making a list of all the people we have harmed. The reading notes, that it Is important to review what kind of harm we might do to others,before we can list the people we hurt. We can ask ourselves about situations in which each of our characte...

Debb · Debb

The slogan, Think helps us to remember to think before we act on or react to situations. This slogan helps us make good decisions about how to act. When we apply this slogan, it helps free us from distorted thinking and impulsive, potentially destructive decision-making.THINK .. Thoughtful. Ho...

Mich3lle · Mich3lle

Hello Everyone, I have only just come across Al-anon this last week when my mums key worker suggested I look into local meetings, which I am doing. I have been doing lots of reading recently and have come across lots of info regarding Adult Children of Alcoholics, their personality traits and how futu...

Helpangel · Helpangel

I have been reading some of the posts and I saw one about an anniversary that an ah started drinking again. I started thinking in the past 4 years that my ah and I have been together how many anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, there was a feeling of not good in the air and I have to tell you all of them. My a...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

Hello everyone. I am obviously new here,but not new to Alanon.I have been in recovery for nearly a year.I live in a very small town with only one f2f meeting available each week.I feel I need more than what I am receiving there,therefore I started searching online and ended up here. I hope I can find what...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi all I have not posted for a while but feel the, urge to share this with you all. I have been in recovery for a few years people have alwaystold me to use my phone reach out. I havealways been good at taking calls from others in programme especially New comers. And Idid use, my phone when in a, lot of pain. I...

Debb · Debb

The slogan, How Important Is It helps us to have perspective, to determine what is of most value to us personally, and to avoid being upset over things that are of minimal importance at the moment. It helps free us to appreciate the good things that life offers. WAIT: Why Am I TalkingTGIF!

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 18 speaks about how our growth in Al-Anon is all a process and that time will offer us evidence that the program works. We can see the growth in our lives when we take the time to reflect about where we were a 6 month to a year ago. The longer that we live by these principles...

Confused2379 · Confused2379

Hi, I have not posted in a long time. I read your post frequently. It gives me hope that I might get better. I think I've stepped off the deep end and I'm afraid I won't know how to come back. i have been crying over the breakup of my marriage and my AH drinking again. I was attending 3 or 4 alanon meetings...

Mirandac · Mirandac

I want to apologize to anyone i offended with my last post. i wish i never started it from the start. The subject matters Are things i struggle with, have nothing to do with any of You. You all have been a great help and support and have helped me to keep My sanity. thank you for your warmth and caring. I wil...

Rinn · Rinn

Here's my day: Found out I may have to move (not sure but good chance rental is being sold) Nursing program starts next week, bought my $2,000 text books, getting nervous. Then received an email they are changing the requirements (after accepting us) we now have a biology class also. Last day to regist...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I received roses & orchids from my church family today. My pastor & friend delivered them today. What joy fills my soul. & I am not a member yet. I consider them Friends. I am so grateful for thoughtful people. Just when you think you aren't important someone reminds you. Good thoughts ar...

mjferg · mjferg

I have been looking forward to my fall break from school for so long,it has been a tough and tiring semester.Now as I sit here,in the aftermath of the funeral I look around at the work I am behind on,laundry baskets running over,floors that need swept and mopped, and a host of other chores,I feel overw...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have so much to be grateful for. And nothing to be ungrateful for. No one ever says that they are ungrateful. I find myself wondering if I can find something to share that would benefit others. Maybe I can plant a seed in someone's mind or heart. I know that all this time in the program has made me wiser. Th...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 17 speaks about "people pleasing " and how destructive this can become when we ignore our own needs and sacrifice ourselves and our well-being for the sake of others. The reading points out that it is important to get along with others an know how to work toge...

Debb · Debb

The slogan, Let It Begin With Me helps us to keep the focus on and be responsible for our own actions and behaviors. This slogan helps us to take action to change the things we can change and to take the responsibility to get our own needs met, rather than waiting for others to change or to meet our needs for...

Broken513 · Broken513

The good part: Well.... I did it...sort of..well I will be doing it......called a phone number that a friend gave me to a friend of hers that has been going to al anon meetings for years...she was very delightful to talk to......she said she would sit with me at the f2f Sat morning and even hold my hand if I...

mvg · mvg

hi guys..is there a way somehow to print or have a list of how many times I've logged in? I know it sounds silly but since I'm not able to attend f2f meetings yet..I'm starting here. .my case worker wants a "report" of my log ins. Just to make sure I am surfing this website..any help would be ap...

jml2012 · jml2012

My now ex partner is a recovering alcoholic (he may have relapsed now for all I know) In summary, we were together for around 11 years. The first 6 he was an active drinker (the drinking was always the excuse for his bad behavior), the last 5 he was sober (no excuse for his bad behavior). I thought if he coul...

Rinn · Rinn

It has been a while since I posted. More than a year actually. I have done a lot of work on 'ME' after leaving my addict ex-husband. Over the past few years I have really improved a lot. I got emotionally and financially back on my feet. I worked my butt off and was accepted into a Nursing program and hav...

annie-dresden · annie-dresden

Hi everyone This is the very first time I use al-anon in my life! I mean, not using al-anon, but getting in touch with you folks On my way in the last weeks I came to this al-anon site and when I ticked 18 of these 20 questions I knew I needed to get in touch, to do something after all. I am German, a free spritit,...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Still no job and trying not to go on meltdown mode, we are making due and doing ok. It's just kind of scary. It is what it is and I will get to where I need to be .. it's the flipping waiting that is driving me crazy. Some funny things that happened is having as much free time as I do I have to get out of the apart...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have a little more information on the two situations that have been going on around me. My friends son is in rehab however not by his choice. So good news bad news kind of thing. My heart dropped when she told me exactly how bad things had really gotten. Maybe at least the seeds of recovery are startin...

mjferg · mjferg

Even in this darkness I am able to see God's mighty power at work.Finals are over and I have a long fall break before I go back to class.I have been concerned about having so much time on my hands after the funeral,I wasn't quite sure how I would cope.Well, yesterday a friend of mine called and said a tiny ki...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 16 speaks about "negative thoughts" and suggests that in the midst of a crisis these thoughts tell us the worst-case scenario and It is easy to think that they reflect the truth. The reading goes on to explain" feelings are not facts" and that...

Debb · Debb

Just For Today: The slogan, Just For Today tells us that things are more manageable when we deal with and live in the present. Things that seem way too difficult to manage long term may seem more manageable if we deal with them just for today. We can move forward in small steps rather than be overwhelmed b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I can see & I am so amazed by it! I feel a sense of relief & now I don't have to wait any longer. Those who have been following my posts probably have noticed the frustration that I had been going through. I know that all of you were waiting for the results of my eye procedure. I am happy to say that all w...

mjferg · mjferg

My finals were yesterday,I gave my speech and my instructor said it was amazing,the best she had ever heard from a student!She gave me an A plus.I felt amazing, as if I had uncovered some secret desire that has been hidden in my heart.When I was a little girl I spent a lot of time in my room reading,writing...

Iamhere · Iamhere

song....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tIZitK6_IMQ "...

Debb · Debb

First Things First: The slogan, First Things First helps us to set reasonable priorities and to keep a realistic perspective. This slogan helps us to make choices we are comfortable with, and to act with balance rather than react to crises. {{HUGS To Everyone}}

amf · amf

Hi! I have been in Al-Anon for a year and currently have a sponsor with whom I work the steps (on step 8). I attend two meetings a week. One is my home group and the other is an open AA meeting. I semi-regularly attend a "How Al-Anon works" book study. I hold a service position in my home group. Wh...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I come to this online message board to learn the alanon tools because all the meetings that are a reasonable driving distance for me are either listed as closed or are at night (I dont drive at night). There are lots of AA meetings that are open or in the daytime, but not alanon. Can I get a sponsor through...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good mothing everyone- Today's reading is about making amends. The writer notes that her most profound experience with making amends came from receiving amends from someone else in the fellowship. I have not had that particular experience, but I do remember as I was working the steps with my spon...

Paisley74 · Paisley74

My husband and I have been married for over 5 years. For at least the past 3 years I have suspected his is an alcoholic. I have confronted him more times than i can even count. He always denied, said I had the problem with his drinking not him, said everyone drinks, said he doesn't miss work because of drink...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So I have been reminded that I am so not in control .. my car has been out of commission since last week. My girlfriend's husband who I just don't like and I think I figured it out .. there is part me and part he reminds me of my XAH. God has a wicked sense of humor .. lol .. the husband offered to fix my car for fr...

mjferg · mjferg

On top of everything else I have been going through I am in finals week at school.It is good for me though,I am glad I am busy.I will say the worse thing I can do is lay in my bed.My mind starts twisting things all around and has me feeling responsible for every tragic event that ever happened in my life.I tu...

deacon · deacon

Alcoholics make of their lives and, despite our attempts to detach, of others. My son is presently in another country far across the ocean and a couple of continents. His visa expired some time ago and he knows he is going to have to leave and come home. He met a girl when he was there, fell in love and now.....

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 14 speaks about the destructive habits that we develop having lived with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that because of many painful lessons and experiences, we tend to lose the ability to "Hope", sink into despair, shut down our feelings and ref...

Helpangel · Helpangel

After a painful weekend and thinking we are finally done bc of everything I wrote (boundary vs control) he said well I read it again today and now it's not that bad and that he is sorry we fought and he causes so many problems. Say what??? Why is it that when he ends it I hurt but I'm ok. Why can't I say I'm sorry...

ACoffman · ACoffman

Last week I found our three year old in my front yard unattended. My husband drove to daycare to pick her up, drunk, and left her in the yard when he got home. I pulled around the corner minutes after he came home thank god. I took his keys and wallet and called his mother to come get him. We are now separated....

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	new here, need some advice, tired so very tired of living with this (Preview) New here, have never joined a group. I have been married for almost 25 years with two grown children. My AH is a functioning one, but when he does drink its hurtful and we get into huge fights. Last night we got into one again. He works out of town and i see him on weekends. Right now i have no idea really h...	sandydd	4	477	Sep 21, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-21 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 21 speaks about living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that living with this disease, we become fearful and dread change. This is not because life is perfect but because we are familiar with the chaos, think we're in control and dread any change.The r...	hotrod	2	467	Sep 21, 2015 by Iamhere
	Working Hard but Struggling to Release Control (Preview) I had a pretty good day going. I had set plans to go to my local Al Anon meeting & I was looking forward to it. I got a call from my Alcoholic and immediately my radar went off. She sounded animated and somewhat stressed. I have been struggling with interpreting my "new wife's" new atti...	Bill S	9	671	Sep 21, 2015 by Mattie
	What makes people afraid to go to F2F Meetings? (Preview) Hoping comments on this question might make me a better participant to newcomers at meetings. linsc	LinSC	17	663	Sep 21, 2015 by carolm
	I don't know whether I should revoke the charges? (Preview) A week or so a go things got bad at home with the drinking and verbal abuse and it was really escalating. My partner of 10 years was saying he was leaving me 'when he gets some money' or 'when he gets his licence' back and so he was saying how bad things are (and how bad I am) and how it was over but wouldn't actu...	brightyellow	30	1073	Sep 20, 2015 by brightyellow
	A 9th step group... (Preview) I got the opportunity to do the lead last evening at our home group and using the How Al-Anon Works Big Book the meeting took flight. I chose the 9th because of me it is where the "me changing me" process started and has continued for all the time I've been in recovery. At first I just didn't...	Jerry F	8	603	Sep 20, 2015 by tiredtonite
	First f2f experience (Preview) The meeting itself was amazing. the topic was reaction. So I was really able to relate to it. I didn't share of course. I was a little bit suffocated..I have an issue with dealing with a big group of people..anxiety attacks...but I stayed..a lot of people in a small room...I just kept asking HP to help to...	Broken513	7	601	Sep 20, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Sept 20th ...ODAT (Preview) This is the reading for me which our program is all about. I didn't get it and wouldn't get it the first time I saw it and then for my own peace of mind and serenity I got it every time after even yesterday as my alcoholic son attended the birthday party. He is sick...mind, body, spirit and emotions and w...	Jerry F	2	647	Sep 20, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	My husband relapsed on our wedding anniversary. (Preview) I think I'm just here to vent, but my head is spinning, so I'm really not sure. Today is my second wedding anniversary. The first conversation AH and I ever had about my perception of his alcohol problem was 3 months before our wedding. Our entire marriage has been consumed by the struggle that is alcoh...	RealitySucker	25	1012	Sep 20, 2015 by Mrs_Odog
	Feeling guilt for my child's problems (Preview) As a mother of an adult child with both drug and alcohol problems, how do I stop feeling all this guilt? I think back to all of the times when I made excuses for him, gave him money when I shouldn't have and generally tried to come up with a solution for each of the situations he got himself into. He's 28 years...	carolm	13	654	Sep 20, 2015 by ftrvr
	In need of a sponsor (Preview) Greetings, I'm new to this forum. I'm not new to alanon. I've been to a couple not very helpful meetings. However the last one I attended I learned of sponsorship in alanon. My husband is a recovering alcoholic/addict. My story is in my bio. I know the ins and outs of AA. I'm a stay home/disabled mom. I've...	Mrs_Odog	1	418	Sep 20, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-20 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 20 speaks about making daily gratitude and assets lists, I could readily identify with this reading as it pointed out that the first time we make the lists we may not "feel" very grateful. Regardless of this simple fact we need to continue as we are planting...	hotrod	2	537	Sep 20, 2015 by Iamhere
	Slogan for Today – One Day At A Time - 9/20/15 (Preview) The slogan, One Day At A Time Provides a practical approach to challenges and fears. We focus our energies on dealing productively with today, and we give up worrying about a future we can not predict or control and about a past we cannot change. It helps us break overwhelming tasks into manageable ste...	Debb	2	270	Sep 20, 2015 by Iamhere
	Today's my Birthday - I'm throwing my own Party HERE! (Preview) Hey MIP Family - Today is my birthday! In my world, it's been a day that has been forgotten and not often celebrated since we became inflicted with the disease of addiction. I spoke earlier this week of my anxiety over 'it' as I am good at one day at a time most of the while but there are a few days/periods t...	Iamhere	14	872	Sep 20, 2015 by Iamhere
	horse of a different color in a different race (Preview) My brother sister and MOM have shut me out since my Dad passed away on June 24 this year. If we do talk at all very cruel things have been said, threats have been made, crazy lies have been told and unfortunately believed by others. There have been lots of lies and for some reason most sad to me is the niece...	glad	5	559	Sep 19, 2015 by a4l
	Legal question about house and quit claim (Preview) Hi everyone. I am refinancing my house to a lower interest rate and the mortgage is in my name only but the title is in both our names. Since we are separated should or shouldn't I go ahead and get my ah off the title of the house when I refinance? The mortgage processor said I can do it either way. My concern i...	Helpangel	9	657	Sep 19, 2015 by Helpangel
	Today is the day. TY all (Preview) Well this is it, in 1 1/2 hours I will be attending my first f2f meeting.. thus far I have been doing these online meetings for a month. nervous? yes.. scared to death really...last night I laid out my clothes like a school girl going to a new school...excited but nervous at the same time. I just say to myse...	Broken513	8	585	Sep 19, 2015 by Jen61
	Step 5 (Preview) Step 5 has been posted to the Step Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t60892182/9-2015-alanon-step-5/Please join us a...	hotrod	3	469	Sep 19, 2015 by Iamhere
	One year on (Preview) Today is one year, more or less to the minute, when I asked my partner to leave the house. I didn't know that I was going to say it the minute before I said it. I feel very strongly that my conscious mind wasn't involved at all. It had checked out. It was my body reacting and screaming for change. My consc...	gillygilly	8	619	Sep 19, 2015 by Jerry F
	New to Al-Anon family group (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this site and support in general. I come from a very large family (I'm the youngest of 6 kids), almost all of whom are alcohol or drug-dependent. Other than my oldest brother who is 15 years older than me, I'm the only to not suffer from addiction, although I do (understandably...) have...	tiiburbo	7	526	Sep 19, 2015 by hotrod
	C2C 9-19 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 19 speaks about Step Eight and making a list of all the people we have harmed. The reading notes, that it Is important to review what kind of harm we might do to others,before we can list the people we hurt. We can ask ourselves about situations in which each of our characte...	hotrod	1	411	Sep 19, 2015 by Iamhere
	Slogan for Today – Think - 9/19/15 (Preview) The slogan, Think helps us to remember to think before we act on or react to situations. This slogan helps us make good decisions about how to act. When we apply this slogan, it helps free us from distorted thinking and impulsive, potentially destructive decision-making.THINK .. Thoughtful. Ho...	Debb	2	553	Sep 19, 2015 by Iamhere
	Adult Child of an Alcoholic or not? (Preview) Hello Everyone, I have only just come across Al-anon this last week when my mums key worker suggested I look into local meetings, which I am doing. I have been doing lots of reading recently and have come across lots of info regarding Adult Children of Alcoholics, their personality traits and how futu...	Mich3lle	10	650	Sep 19, 2015 by tiiburbo
	When is enough? (Preview) I have been reading some of the posts and I saw one about an anniversary that an ah started drinking again. I started thinking in the past 4 years that my ah and I have been together how many anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, there was a feeling of not good in the air and I have to tell you all of them. My a...	Helpangel	12	725	Sep 19, 2015 by tiiburbo
	Hello! (Preview) Hello everyone. I am obviously new here,but not new to Alanon.I have been in recovery for nearly a year.I live in a very small town with only one f2f meeting available each week.I feel I need more than what I am receiving there,therefore I started searching online and ended up here. I hope I can find what...	SoggySlippers	9	714	Sep 18, 2015 by Jerry F
	phone ????? (Preview) Hi all I have not posted for a while but feel the, urge to share this with you all. I have been in recovery for a few years people have alwaystold me to use my phone reach out. I havealways been good at taking calls from others in programme especially New comers. And Idid use, my phone when in a, lot of pain. I...	Tracy	1	487	Sep 18, 2015 by Iamhere
	Slogan for Today – How Important Is It - 9/18/15 (Preview) The slogan, How Important Is It helps us to have perspective, to determine what is of most value to us personally, and to avoid being upset over things that are of minimal importance at the moment. It helps free us to appreciate the good things that life offers. WAIT: Why Am I TalkingTGIF!	Debb	3	694	Sep 18, 2015 by Jill
	C2C 9-18 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 18 speaks about how our growth in Al-Anon is all a process and that time will offer us evidence that the program works. We can see the growth in our lives when we take the time to reflect about where we were a 6 month to a year ago. The longer that we live by these principles...	hotrod	6	573	Sep 18, 2015 by andromeda
	It's been a long time (Preview) Hi, I have not posted in a long time. I read your post frequently. It gives me hope that I might get better. I think I've stepped off the deep end and I'm afraid I won't know how to come back. i have been crying over the breakup of my marriage and my AH drinking again. I was attending 3 or 4 alanon meetings...	Confused2379	8	658	Sep 18, 2015 by hotrod
	Sorry (Preview) I want to apologize to anyone i offended with my last post. i wish i never started it from the start. The subject matters Are things i struggle with, have nothing to do with any of You. You all have been a great help and support and have helped me to keep My sanity. thank you for your warmth and caring. I wil...	Mirandac	17	831	Sep 18, 2015 by Mirandac
	a stressfull day, happy to have al anon! (Preview) Here's my day: Found out I may have to move (not sure but good chance rental is being sold) Nursing program starts next week, bought my $2,000 text books, getting nervous. Then received an email they are changing the requirements (after accepting us) we now have a biology class also. Last day to regist...	Rinn	3	421	Sep 17, 2015 by Rinn
	roses & orchids (Preview) I received roses & orchids from my church family today. My pastor & friend delivered them today. What joy fills my soul. & I am not a member yet. I consider them Friends. I am so grateful for thoughtful people. Just when you think you aren't important someone reminds you. Good thoughts ar...	Hoot Nanny	4	396	Sep 17, 2015 by tiredtonite
	The aftermath (Preview) I have been looking forward to my fall break from school for so long,it has been a tough and tiring semester.Now as I sit here,in the aftermath of the funeral I look around at the work I am behind on,laundry baskets running over,floors that need swept and mopped, and a host of other chores,I feel overw...	mjferg	2	527	Sep 17, 2015 by Debb
	good day for gratitude (Preview) I have so much to be grateful for. And nothing to be ungrateful for. No one ever says that they are ungrateful. I find myself wondering if I can find something to share that would benefit others. Maybe I can plant a seed in someone's mind or heart. I know that all this time in the program has made me wiser. Th...	Hoot Nanny	4	462	Sep 17, 2015 by hotrod
	C2C 9-17 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 17 speaks about "people pleasing " and how destructive this can become when we ignore our own needs and sacrifice ourselves and our well-being for the sake of others. The reading points out that it is important to get along with others an know how to work toge...	hotrod	2	436	Sep 17, 2015 by Iamhere
	Slogan for Today – Let It Begin With Me - 9/17/15 (Preview) The slogan, Let It Begin With Me helps us to keep the focus on and be responsible for our own actions and behaviors. This slogan helps us to take action to change the things we can change and to take the responsibility to get our own needs met, rather than waiting for others to change or to meet our needs for...	Debb	3	994	Sep 17, 2015 by Iamhere
	AH spoils a good day but I dont care!!! (Preview) The good part: Well.... I did it...sort of..well I will be doing it......called a phone number that a friend gave me to a friend of hers that has been going to al anon meetings for years...she was very delightful to talk to......she said she would sit with me at the f2f Sat morning and even hold my hand if I...	Broken513	5	706	Sep 17, 2015 by confused2015
	Log in inquiry (Preview) hi guys..is there a way somehow to print or have a list of how many times I've logged in? I know it sounds silly but since I'm not able to attend f2f meetings yet..I'm starting here. .my case worker wants a "report" of my log ins. Just to make sure I am surfing this website..any help would be ap...	mvg	2	350	Sep 17, 2015 by mvg
	Alcoholism really is a family disease (Preview) My now ex partner is a recovering alcoholic (he may have relapsed now for all I know) In summary, we were together for around 11 years. The first 6 he was an active drinker (the drinking was always the excuse for his bad behavior), the last 5 he was sober (no excuse for his bad behavior). I thought if he coul...	jml2012	12	1031	Sep 17, 2015 by jml2012
	Realising how much I still have to work on me. (Preview) It has been a while since I posted. More than a year actually. I have done a lot of work on 'ME' after leaving my addict ex-husband. Over the past few years I have really improved a lot. I got emotionally and financially back on my feet. I worked my butt off and was accepted into a Nursing program and hav...	Rinn	6	646	Sep 17, 2015 by Rinn
	my chaos (Preview) Hi everyone This is the very first time I use al-anon in my life! I mean, not using al-anon, but getting in touch with you folks On my way in the last weeks I came to this al-anon site and when I ticked 18 of these 20 questions I knew I needed to get in touch, to do something after all. I am German, a free spritit,...	annie-dresden	19	1231	Sep 17, 2015 by Rinn
	Still waiting .. (Preview) Still no job and trying not to go on meltdown mode, we are making due and doing ok. It's just kind of scary. It is what it is and I will get to where I need to be .. it's the flipping waiting that is driving me crazy. Some funny things that happened is having as much free time as I do I have to get out of the apart...	SerenityRUS	3	519	Sep 16, 2015 by Iamhere
	Prayer update .. (Preview) I have a little more information on the two situations that have been going on around me. My friends son is in rehab however not by his choice. So good news bad news kind of thing. My heart dropped when she told me exactly how bad things had really gotten. Maybe at least the seeds of recovery are startin...	SerenityRUS	4	439	Sep 16, 2015 by Green Eyes
	There is always love (Preview) Even in this darkness I am able to see God's mighty power at work.Finals are over and I have a long fall break before I go back to class.I have been concerned about having so much time on my hands after the funeral,I wasn't quite sure how I would cope.Well, yesterday a friend of mine called and said a tiny ki...	mjferg	6	647	Sep 16, 2015 by Debb
	C2C 9-16 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 16 speaks about "negative thoughts" and suggests that in the midst of a crisis these thoughts tell us the worst-case scenario and It is easy to think that they reflect the truth. The reading goes on to explain" feelings are not facts" and that...	hotrod	4	479	Sep 16, 2015 by Iamhere
	Slogan for Today – Just For Today - 9/16/15 (Preview) Just For Today: The slogan, Just For Today tells us that things are more manageable when we deal with and live in the present. Things that seem way too difficult to manage long term may seem more manageable if we deal with them just for today. We can move forward in small steps rather than be overwhelmed b...	Debb	5	1456	Sep 16, 2015 by Broken513
	words cannot describe. (Preview) I can see & I am so amazed by it! I feel a sense of relief & now I don't have to wait any longer. Those who have been following my posts probably have noticed the frustration that I had been going through. I know that all of you were waiting for the results of my eye procedure. I am happy to say that all w...	Hoot Nanny	6	736	Sep 15, 2015 by tiredtonite
	finals week (Preview) My finals were yesterday,I gave my speech and my instructor said it was amazing,the best she had ever heard from a student!She gave me an A plus.I felt amazing, as if I had uncovered some secret desire that has been hidden in my heart.When I was a little girl I spent a lot of time in my room reading,writing...	mjferg	5	466	Sep 15, 2015 by hotrod
	Slightly Off-Topic - Song Lyrics that I am Digging Right Now... (Preview) song....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tIZitK6_IMQ "...	Iamhere	8	718	Sep 15, 2015 by hotrod
	Slogan for Today – First Things First - 9/15/15 (Preview) First Things First: The slogan, First Things First helps us to set reasonable priorities and to keep a realistic perspective. This slogan helps us to make choices we are comfortable with, and to act with balance rather than react to crises. {{HUGS To Everyone}}	Debb	5	703	Sep 15, 2015 by Rinn
	Sponsor Help Sponsor (Preview) Hi! I have been in Al-Anon for a year and currently have a sponsor with whom I work the steps (on step 8). I attend two meetings a week. One is my home group and the other is an open AA meeting. I semi-regularly attend a "How Al-Anon works" book study. I hold a service position in my home group. Wh...	amf	5	6400	Sep 15, 2015 by amf
	Local alanon meetings are all at night or are "closed" meetings (Preview) I come to this online message board to learn the alanon tools because all the meetings that are a reasonable driving distance for me are either listed as closed or are at night (I dont drive at night). There are lots of AA meetings that are open or in the daytime, but not alanon. Can I get a sponsor through...	lgnutah	8	685	Sep 15, 2015 by RealitySucker
	Hope for Today sept 15- sorry posted w no topic (Preview) Good mothing everyone- Today's reading is about making amends. The writer notes that her most profound experience with making amends came from receiving amends from someone else in the fellowship. I have not had that particular experience, but I do remember as I was working the steps with my spon...	yanksfan51	4	500	Sep 15, 2015 by Broken513
	this should be a relief, but it isn't (Preview) My husband and I have been married for over 5 years. For at least the past 3 years I have suspected his is an alcoholic. I have confronted him more times than i can even count. He always denied, said I had the problem with his drinking not him, said everyone drinks, said he doesn't miss work because of drink...	Paisley74	5	615	Sep 14, 2015 by Iamhere
	Praciticing my program .. (Preview) So I have been reminded that I am so not in control .. my car has been out of commission since last week. My girlfriend's husband who I just don't like and I think I figured it out .. there is part me and part he reminds me of my XAH. God has a wicked sense of humor .. lol .. the husband offered to fix my car for fr...	SerenityRUS	7	628	Sep 14, 2015 by Jen61
	my speech (Preview) On top of everything else I have been going through I am in finals week at school.It is good for me though,I am glad I am busy.I will say the worse thing I can do is lay in my bed.My mind starts twisting things all around and has me feeling responsible for every tragic event that ever happened in my life.I tu...	mjferg	4	652	Sep 14, 2015 by Debb
	What a mess! (Preview) Alcoholics make of their lives and, despite our attempts to detach, of others. My son is presently in another country far across the ocean and a couple of continents. His visa expired some time ago and he knows he is going to have to leave and come home. He met a girl when he was there, fell in love and now.....	deacon	3	591	Sep 14, 2015 by Debb
	C2C 9-14 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 14 speaks about the destructive habits that we develop having lived with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that because of many painful lessons and experiences, we tend to lose the ability to "Hope", sink into despair, shut down our feelings and ref...	hotrod	4	501	Sep 14, 2015 by Debb
	Boundaries- OMG he came around! (Preview) After a painful weekend and thinking we are finally done bc of everything I wrote (boundary vs control) he said well I read it again today and now it's not that bad and that he is sorry we fought and he causes so many problems. Say what??? Why is it that when he ends it I hurt but I'm ok. Why can't I say I'm sorry...	Helpangel	4	615	Sep 14, 2015 by Debb
	What should I do? Opinions wanted please (Preview) Last week I found our three year old in my front yard unattended. My husband drove to daycare to pick her up, drunk, and left her in the yard when he got home. I pulled around the corner minutes after he came home thank god. I took his keys and wallet and called his mother to come get him. We are now separated....	ACoffman	9	690	Sep 14, 2015 by Rinn
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