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KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

I hate this disease. I work as a manager of a small group of programmers. One of my best ones left, so I have hired a new one on contract to see how he works out. Smart guy, pretty productive, great attitude, fun to work with, everything. So far he has had two bouts of illness, from 2-3 days to a week. Aft...

PennyJenny010115 · PennyJenny010115

Hello all, I have not been on the boards in awhile. I was on here sharing for awhile, and sort of stopped because I was confused about my feelings about wanting to leave my alcholic spouse. I found out things like he had been almost messing around with (at least, maybe completely messing around with) a...

carolm · carolm

Strangely, I'm relieved that my son was arrested yesterday! He was released almost one month ago and lacked the motivation to get into a program on his own so predictably was arrested again for possession. The first thing he said when he called from jail was "at least now you know that I'm safe&q...

texas yankee · texas yankee

I haven't seen my adult son (30) for about two years - he lives several states away where he moved, originally, to live in a halfway house after rehab. It's been about 12 years since he got out of rehab - the halfway house lasted about two weeks - he's never worked a program and while (to my knowledge) he ha...

confused2015 · confused2015

Last night my AH came up to me and asked, what's going on with us, I feel awkward around you and not sure what to do? In a calm and sincere voice I said, really, that's funny cause in the last week you've gone from telling me to stay away from you and don't ever touch you and that you will never touch me to act...

beacheemom · beacheemom

And what is it with all the little white lies A's tell??? Silly everyday things he lies about...stuff that wouldn't even require lying!!!! When he knows I caught him in one he'll just say he was kidding.....

beacheemom · beacheemom

Sick and tired of functioning AH'S problem consuming me. I'm so tired of it that I'm angry for being on this message board venting right now because -once again- it's consuming me. I don't even want to work the steps or go to an online meeting BECAUSE I AM DONE. I just want to be done. I didn't choose this. I...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

Wanted to thank all who responded to my post yesterday, went to a long meeting last night and it did me the world of good. I had a hard time sleeping, I prayed a lot. I woke up feeling detached from my step son situation. I am making fun plans for this weekend to go to a new Texas History Museum in Galveston, Te...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have a challenge for all of you. I am going to try not to complain this coming week. One day at a time will you join me on this quest? I really need support in this area. It is not easy to do because we all find things to complain about: the weather, the traffic, whatever. I could think of so many things but the...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective on my life.{{Wishing you a peaceful and quiet day}} ...

Gaby · Gaby

Hello every one .. It's been a long time and so glad to see some familiar names. Since the last time I was on here my son was doing great in his recovery and after so many months clean he relapsed for a month and I had about enough. I needed peace. God calmed my storm. The less I paid attention to the situation a...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I learn a lot in the rooms from the fellowship and am beyond grateful for the program AND sticking around after the meeting and getting into another meeting with individual members one or one or in small groups just shines my chrome. Got into one after my morning group with an inquisitive new comer...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone-- Today's reading is about someone who seeks out serenity and is told by fellow alanon members to follow a path in the woods that would lead her to a place of seclusion and great beauty. After walking a bit she comes to a fork in the road and is anguished about which direction to go....

MOM2RJB2 · MOM2RJB2

My issue is that my husband drinks beer while driving my 8 year old around. He's not drunk, but my child thinks its ok to do this, and even told me how you can hide it in a plastic cup to get by with it, like his daddy and PaPa do. I have approached his family about this, who all seem to think its ok if its just a fe...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

fool AH is back from his 15 day drinking binge and looks like some bearded emaciated homeless guy from skid row who is in denial about the whole thing and thought he was going to work today ready to face his furious brother/boss. Ok am I being judgemental enough LOL? Actually, I just want him to maintain s...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talked about being stuck and at a standstill due to dissatisfaction of our lives. We are so bogged down, we don't know where we are or where we are going. Taking time to 'Think', and engaging in Al-Anon helps us realize that negativity keeps us at a standstill. While the program sugg...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm dealing with my mom and I just straight up do not want to and I'm lashing out. Honestly it is those justifiable resentments that get me all the time. It's to the point I have cut contact with her at this point I can tell she's being coached in responses via text (they are very rational compared to t...

TxTycoon45 · TxTycoon45

Friends, After several rehab failures, a lost marriage, a DWI and ruined relationship my ex AW has finally found a wonderful program in San Antonio that may, just may help. It's called Outcry in the Barrio. They are a faith based program that has no therapy, no AA meetings, no pills. Just Jesus. 7 days a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

1st of al I tried to not complain for over a week. But my Ah called me on it even though I thought I was doing so well. He was my main stumbling block as he didn't know that I was working on this. I just want to say that even when I am actually improving something gets in the way. I believe I have real growth since...

uva25 · uva25

I'm relatively new to Al Anon but feel i'm getting the hang of it and really enjoy it. I've also read several books on codependency, love addiction, etc. I'm struggling with self diagnose myself. :) I'm really learning to take care of my self after my AW's recent string of issues and then rehab stin...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.{{HUGS}} On this Monday ....

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

This is the email that I sent my ex right after he broke up with me. I never got a response. I haven't heard from him, and am realizing I may not. I'm trying to put my focus elsewhere, but it's SO SO difficult. I have so much love for him. Here it is: Where do I even begin? I am hurt beyond measure. I am confused,...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

All I can say is WOW .. I don't even know where to start ... no job is perfect that's the truth .. I want to say I have never ever worked in a company like this one .. the opportunity to grow and learn is out there all I have to do is take it. It is like having the brass ring on a merry go round and now my destiny is min...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Hello out there, it's been a long time since I've been here. Last year I was changed to the graveyard shift at work. To make the prologue a bit shorter, it had a very bad effect with my health issues. Just a few months ago I finally was able to return to daytime hours and am trying to get my health to a better pl...

laurab · laurab

DS was in a shelter and then in a room at a gym. He had a job interview set up in NYC for Monday. So Sunday he called my 73 year sister, in NYC, who has never lived with anyone as a grownup and asked if he could come and sleep on her couch. She is very fragile, nervous, and gets distressed easily. I can't tell if he...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I was wondering while having breakfast and reading the Al-Anon monthly FORUM magazine how many of the MIP Fellowship also have this tool within arms reach. Like MIP the shares come from all over the world and for me are often right on regarding recovery. Does your meetings have copies and do your g...

mosaicmax · mosaicmax

I really need some specific material regarding detachment. I am eager to start working it, but I don't have anything to teach me. Any suggestions? (None of my meetings have had anything available)

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous,criticize not one bit. I wont find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.{{Wishing you a bright and cheerful Sunday}}

Iamhere · Iamhere

Our lovely Betty is sailing the high seas for the week, so I will try and do some justice to the daily C2C readings. Today's reading begins with discussing our need to look for the similarities in this program vs. the differences. It suggests that we remember why we are all here and while we are all diffe...

mvg · mvg

Today, my AH who is not supposed to have unsupervised contact with kids, came home! And drunk! .I was upstairs, suddenly I hear his voice downstairs talking to the kids...my heart skipped a beat. I came downstairs, there he is, on the couch talking to the kids.Both kids looked scared, teary .Omg! What...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I dont want to do just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show i...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi everyone As I reported a short time ago my favorite alanon Step and tradition meetinhas been experiencing problems with our Meeting room availability at the VA. I did resolve the alanon meeting room issue to the satisfaction of all concerned, so I can really relax when I go on vacation..C2C re...

beacheemom · beacheemom

I don't know what it is, but for some reason, I don't feel like I've been very clear on here. This just hit me and I have to ask... what do you do when: Your AH doesn't do anything wrong but want to be left alone to watch TV and drink? Here's the nightly scenario- he comes home from work on weekdays and just want...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So a couple of days ago I mentioned some stories about how my brain works or doesn't work and how easy it is for me to be very impulsive. My first story is about my first X who had issues with drugs. After my X and I had our altercation, and afterwards he tried to scare me into coming back .. I was staying with...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

Today marks two long weeks since my AH broke it off with me abruptly. As mentioned in my first post he was 7 months sober when we met, and quickly fell "in love"; And 1 1/2 year of sobriety, and 11 months into our relationship is when he cut me off. I've since left 2 voicemails (I'm certain he bloc...

scootypuffjunior · scootypuffjunior

there is back story here... Long story short my step mother died of chirrosis on September 3rd. I had been dealing and continued to deal with a lot of anger before, during and after her death. I'm not mad anymore. the farther i get away from it, the sadder it becomes. My older sister and I coordinated h...

Carmel 15 · Carmel 15

Since I first posted on here, I've joined face to face Al-anon groups and have identified a sponsor as I've decided to throw myself fully into this programme as i realize even more now how I need help for me and how out of control my own life has become and I have allowed things to get. I thought I was doing...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my luck as it comes, and fit myself to it.Have a great day {{everyone}}.

Mermaid4 · Mermaid4

My first post, and I'm pretty new to the program, though dabbling in it for years. Through my my readings and therapy sessions, I've become a lot better at not enabling, setting boundaries and avoiding trying to solve my husband's problems. I still pick fights when I've hit my limit, but have learned...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 30 speaks about the slogan:"Just for today." It points out that Just for Today, we can take a different point of view and try changing some pattern of behavior that causes problems, just to see what happens. For example, if we are in the habit of responding...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will lean something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.TGIF {{HUGS}}

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 2 speaks about giving service in Al-Anon. It points out that the reason that service is so important is that it usually brings us in frequent contact with newcomers and we are then able to share the vital gifts that we have received, and reflect on our growth at the same...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

here are some miracles and some misery i had today AH's brother called me and actually was borderland polite to me regarding my AH who after 14 days in still in the fair's motel. ah is now in the horrible stage of his binges, weak,dizzy,cant walk or stand,electrolytes veirtually gone and hasnt had his...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t60956386/alanon-step-6-10-2015/Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 1 is an interesting one. It speaks about thoughts racing through our heads. The reading portrays these thoughts as crashing around at alarming speeds bringing up painful memories, broken promises, fears about the future, lost expectations. In other words, chaos. Pri...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I have not been on this board for a very long time but I attend about two f2f meetings a week. I have been in Al-Anon since 2011. I am going through some really hard stuff right now and I'm so grateful to have Al-anon to turn to. I went to three meetings this week, which helped, but they sort of felt helpless an...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.Our minds focus on the past and future when we are fearfuland anxious. Focus on your good qualities and the the giftsthat you have right now.{{HUGS}}

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just that. It is still a challenge for me& it will always be. For some reason she treats me differently than other people. I wonder why? Actually I know. I am always going to be her daughter & I always see the real her. You all pretty much know that she has been ill but now she seems alright. Not muc...

brightyellow · brightyellow

I am so so confused. I know my behaviour is very controlling and less than desirable in dealing with and responding (reacting really) to alcoholism. I absolutely own that. But now I am very, very confused as my partner who hurt me physically the other day is saying that its because he is at his wits end an...

confused2015 · confused2015

So AH got mad at me because I had Wednesday off and never told him. I work the weekend and have to take a day off during the week, guess I just didn't think about it. So yesterday he was pissed as soon as I told him and that went on all day while I was at work. Nasty texts, I tried not to get into it but I had to def...

Cind · Cind

stays with us for more than a few days. We have been through rehabs, and then they recommend sober houses as step downs, but it is a viscous cycle. Now we have exhausted insurance payments for rehab, partial hospitalization or IOPs.

Broken513 · Broken513

And the fun ha begun. AH brought me to my daughter in laws mothers house as we are supposed to leave this morning and head out to Indiana. And of course the phone rings last night and already something is wrong...the dogs this and the dogs that,, says what if we don't get a signal at that distance.... Now o...

joker · joker

My BF came home from work on Saturday and he was sober. I was grateful for that. Sunday, we went to a new church and I did not agree with the teaching. They preached about preaching the word of god and and the people in the church were nice but I felt smothered. People after people gathered around me and I had...

andromeda · andromeda

I have been doing serious journaling recently and what came to light through some prayer and hitting my knees, is that my base fear is the fear of being made fun of. My dad was a master at belittling me, making me feel like I'll never measure up, heckling me, criticizing me regularly, etc. I was always s...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone-- Today's reading is about including our HP in all our affairs. If I could describe myself one way before program and one way since I have been working a program it would be: before program-- willful. Since program-- willing. That's not to say I don't have plenty of days when I...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.Short and sweet .... "Just For Today" Al-anon Quotes.{{HUGS To Everyone}}

mjferg · mjferg

I have become more aware of myself lately, which is good,my daughter and I are animal lovers and we have several already,we recently came upon a stray kitten and tried to save him.He was tiny,had been abandoned and almost hit by a car.I don't even think he should have been taken from his mama yet.I looke...

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

I need some advice here. My AH has been sober for going on four months. We have been invited out to dinner with some friends of ours that we use to socialize with before he got sober. They do not know what is going on and I feel like that should be my AH who provides those details. I am a bit worried as this c...

Iamhere · Iamhere

So - my active son reached out to me this morning. He is coming over to visit. He texted only so I don't know his current state. Last I knew, he was involved in the marijuana maintenance program sprinkled with some bar hopping. We've not seen each other or talked in almost 6 weeks. I've been praying al...

Debb · Debb

Meditation sitting quietly and letting the mud settle ~ Al-anonAs Lao Tzu put it, Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until the right action arises by itself?Try setting aside 15 minutes per day, and dedicate it to simply sit in solitu...

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	it strikes again! (Preview) I hate this disease. I work as a manager of a small group of programmers. One of my best ones left, so I have hired a new one on contract to see how he works out. Smart guy, pretty productive, great attitude, fun to work with, everything. So far he has had two bouts of illness, from 2-3 days to a week. Aft...	KennyFenderjazz	5	721	Oct 7, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	How did you ask for a divorce from a scary AH? (Preview) Hello all, I have not been on the boards in awhile. I was on here sharing for awhile, and sort of stopped because I was confused about my feelings about wanting to leave my alcholic spouse. I found out things like he had been almost messing around with (at least, maybe completely messing around with) a...	PennyJenny010115	9	695	Oct 7, 2015 by missmeliss
	He's back in jail! (Preview) Strangely, I'm relieved that my son was arrested yesterday! He was released almost one month ago and lacked the motivation to get into a program on his own so predictably was arrested again for possession. The first thing he said when he called from jail was "at least now you know that I'm safe&q...	carolm	15	759	Oct 7, 2015 by laurab
	What to talk about ? (Preview) I haven't seen my adult son (30) for about two years - he lives several states away where he moved, originally, to live in a halfway house after rehab. It's been about 12 years since he got out of rehab - the halfway house lasted about two weeks - he's never worked a program and while (to my knowledge) he ha...	texas yankee	15	847	Oct 7, 2015 by texas yankee
	sober talk (Preview) Last night my AH came up to me and asked, what's going on with us, I feel awkward around you and not sure what to do? In a calm and sincere voice I said, really, that's funny cause in the last week you've gone from telling me to stay away from you and don't ever touch you and that you will never touch me to act...	confused2015	6	758	Oct 7, 2015 by confused2015
	lies!!! (Preview) And what is it with all the little white lies A's tell??? Silly everyday things he lies about...stuff that wouldn't even require lying!!!! When he knows I caught him in one he'll just say he was kidding.....	beacheemom	7	819	Oct 7, 2015 by Em280672
	ready to walk away... I think. (Preview) Sick and tired of functioning AH'S problem consuming me. I'm so tired of it that I'm angry for being on this message board venting right now because -once again- it's consuming me. I don't even want to work the steps or go to an online meeting BECAUSE I AM DONE. I just want to be done. I didn't choose this. I...	beacheemom	8	839	Oct 7, 2015 by Em280672
	Just checking in (Preview) Wanted to thank all who responded to my post yesterday, went to a long meeting last night and it did me the world of good. I had a hard time sleeping, I prayed a lot. I woke up feeling detached from my step son situation. I am making fun plans for this weekend to go to a new Texas History Museum in Galveston, Te...	mercedes1959	3	472	Oct 6, 2015 by Jerry F
	I have a challenge... (Preview) I have a challenge for all of you. I am going to try not to complain this coming week. One day at a time will you join me on this quest? I really need support in this area. It is not easy to do because we all find things to complain about: the weather, the traffic, whatever. I could think of so many things but the...	Hoot Nanny	16	746	Oct 6, 2015 by missmeliss
	Just For Today ~ Quiet ~ 10/06/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective on my life.{{Wishing you a peaceful and quiet day}} ...	Debb	2	358	Oct 6, 2015 by Debb
	It's been a while... (Preview) Hello every one .. It's been a long time and so glad to see some familiar names. Since the last time I was on here my son was doing great in his recovery and after so many months clean he relapsed for a month and I had about enough. I needed peace. God calmed my storm. The less I paid attention to the situation a...	Gaby	2	551	Oct 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	The meeting after the meeting (Preview) I learn a lot in the rooms from the fellowship and am beyond grateful for the program AND sticking around after the meeting and getting into another meeting with individual members one or one or in small groups just shines my chrome. Got into one after my morning group with an inquisitive new comer...	Jerry F	8	775	Oct 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today. Oct 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone-- Today's reading is about someone who seeks out serenity and is told by fellow alanon members to follow a path in the woods that would lead her to a place of seclusion and great beauty. After walking a bit she comes to a fork in the road and is anguished about which direction to go....	yanksfan51	1	493	Oct 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	Husband Drinks while driving my son /Need advice (Preview) My issue is that my husband drinks beer while driving my 8 year old around. He's not drunk, but my child thinks its ok to do this, and even told me how you can hide it in a plastic cup to get by with it, like his daddy and PaPa do. I have approached his family about this, who all seem to think its ok if its just a fe...	MOM2RJB2	14	5099	Oct 5, 2015 by Jerry F
	FOOL BACK FROM FAIR (Preview) fool AH is back from his 15 day drinking binge and looks like some bearded emaciated homeless guy from skid row who is in denial about the whole thing and thought he was going to work today ready to face his furious brother/boss. Ok am I being judgemental enough LOL? Actually, I just want him to maintain s...	YARNCRAZY	6	610	Oct 5, 2015 by Jen61
	C2C for 10/5/15 (Preview) Today's reading talked about being stuck and at a standstill due to dissatisfaction of our lives. We are so bogged down, we don't know where we are or where we are going. Taking time to 'Think', and engaging in Al-Anon helps us realize that negativity keeps us at a standstill. While the program sugg...	Iamhere	2	603	Oct 5, 2015 by Raven Juniper
	Toxic Relationships .. (Preview) I'm dealing with my mom and I just straight up do not want to and I'm lashing out. Honestly it is those justifiable resentments that get me all the time. It's to the point I have cut contact with her at this point I can tell she's being coached in responses via text (they are very rational compared to t...	SerenityRUS	4	758	Oct 5, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	The Outcry in the Barrio (Preview) Friends, After several rehab failures, a lost marriage, a DWI and ruined relationship my ex AW has finally found a wonderful program in San Antonio that may, just may help. It's called Outcry in the Barrio. They are a faith based program that has no therapy, no AA meetings, no pills. Just Jesus. 7 days a...	TxTycoon45	2	2893	Oct 5, 2015 by Iamhere
	don't know where i am going w this (Preview) 1st of al I tried to not complain for over a week. But my Ah called me on it even though I thought I was doing so well. He was my main stumbling block as he didn't know that I was working on this. I just want to say that even when I am actually improving something gets in the way. I believe I have real growth since...	Hoot Nanny	3	634	Oct 5, 2015 by Iamhere
	companionship vs codependency (Preview) I'm relatively new to Al Anon but feel i'm getting the hang of it and really enjoy it. I've also read several books on codependency, love addiction, etc. I'm struggling with self diagnose myself. :) I'm really learning to take care of my self after my AW's recent string of issues and then rehab stin...	uva25	5	681	Oct 5, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Just For Today ~ Program ~10/05/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.{{HUGS}} On this Monday ....	Debb	2	447	Oct 5, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	The Email (Preview) This is the email that I sent my ex right after he broke up with me. I never got a response. I haven't heard from him, and am realizing I may not. I'm trying to put my focus elsewhere, but it's SO SO difficult. I have so much love for him. Here it is: Where do I even begin? I am hurt beyond measure. I am confused,...	Restless Soul	11	877	Oct 5, 2015 by Carmel 15
	New Job .. (Preview) All I can say is WOW .. I don't even know where to start ... no job is perfect that's the truth .. I want to say I have never ever worked in a company like this one .. the opportunity to grow and learn is out there all I have to do is take it. It is like having the brass ring on a merry go round and now my destiny is min...	SerenityRUS	10	498	Oct 4, 2015 by Jen61
	like riding a bike? (Preview) Hello out there, it's been a long time since I've been here. Last year I was changed to the graveyard shift at work. To make the prologue a bit shorter, it had a very bad effect with my health issues. Just a few months ago I finally was able to return to daytime hours and am trying to get my health to a better pl...	Raven Juniper	6	733	Oct 4, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Now I have two to worry about (Preview) DS was in a shelter and then in a room at a gym. He had a job interview set up in NYC for Monday. So Sunday he called my 73 year sister, in NYC, who has never lived with anyone as a grownup and asked if he could come and sleep on her couch. She is very fragile, nervous, and gets distressed easily. I can't tell if he...	laurab	4	768	Oct 4, 2015 by Jerry F
	The Forum (Preview) I was wondering while having breakfast and reading the Al-Anon monthly FORUM magazine how many of the MIP Fellowship also have this tool within arms reach. Like MIP the shares come from all over the world and for me are often right on regarding recovery. Does your meetings have copies and do your g...	Jerry F	2	580	Oct 4, 2015 by Iamhere
	Detachment (Preview) I really need some specific material regarding detachment. I am eager to start working it, but I don't have anything to teach me. Any suggestions? (None of my meetings have had anything available)	mosaicmax	6	3272	Oct 4, 2015 by Ifnotforgrace
	Just For Today ~ Agreeable ~ 10/04/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous,criticize not one bit. I wont find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.{{Wishing you a bright and cheerful Sunday}}	Debb	3	510	Oct 4, 2015 by Ifnotforgrace
	C2C (Courage to Change) for 10/4/15 (Preview) Our lovely Betty is sailing the high seas for the week, so I will try and do some justice to the daily C2C readings. Today's reading begins with discussing our need to look for the similarities in this program vs. the differences. It suggests that we remember why we are all here and while we are all diffe...	Iamhere	1	420	Oct 4, 2015 by Debb
	Feeling angry (Preview) Today, my AH who is not supposed to have unsupervised contact with kids, came home! And drunk! .I was upstairs, suddenly I hear his voice downstairs talking to the kids...my heart skipped a beat. I came downstairs, there he is, on the couch talking to the kids.Both kids looked scared, teary .Omg! What...	mvg	4	527	Oct 4, 2015 by Lyne
	Just For Today ~ 10/03/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I dont want to do just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show i...	Debb	4	656	Oct 4, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 10-3 (Preview) Hi everyone As I reported a short time ago my favorite alanon Step and tradition meetinhas been experiencing problems with our Meeting room availability at the VA. I did resolve the alanon meeting room issue to the satisfaction of all concerned, so I can really relax when I go on vacation..C2C re...	hotrod	4	672	Oct 3, 2015 by maryjane
	sorry but one more thing.. a question really. (Preview) I don't know what it is, but for some reason, I don't feel like I've been very clear on here. This just hit me and I have to ask... what do you do when: Your AH doesn't do anything wrong but want to be left alone to watch TV and drink? Here's the nightly scenario- he comes home from work on weekdays and just want...	beacheemom	11	651	Oct 3, 2015 by Debb
	My Two Stories .. (Preview) So a couple of days ago I mentioned some stories about how my brain works or doesn't work and how easy it is for me to be very impulsive. My first story is about my first X who had issues with drugs. After my X and I had our altercation, and afterwards he tried to scare me into coming back .. I was staying with...	SerenityRUS	3	554	Oct 3, 2015 by Iamhere
	Trying to detach (Preview) Today marks two long weeks since my AH broke it off with me abruptly. As mentioned in my first post he was 7 months sober when we met, and quickly fell "in love"; And 1 1/2 year of sobriety, and 11 months into our relationship is when he cut me off. I've since left 2 voicemails (I'm certain he bloc...	Restless Soul	5	752	Oct 2, 2015 by Jerry F
	I guess I'm not angry anymore. (Preview) there is back story here... Long story short my step mother died of chirrosis on September 3rd. I had been dealing and continued to deal with a lot of anger before, during and after her death. I'm not mad anymore. the farther i get away from it, the sadder it becomes. My older sister and I coordinated h...	scootypuffjunior	5	679	Oct 2, 2015 by maryjane
	Partner in rehab and struggling again. (Preview) Since I first posted on here, I've joined face to face Al-anon groups and have identified a sponsor as I've decided to throw myself fully into this programme as i realize even more now how I need help for me and how out of control my own life has become and I have allowed things to get. I thought I was doing...	Carmel 15	2	832	Oct 2, 2015 by maryjane
	Just For Today ~ 10/01/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my luck as it comes, and fit myself to it.Have a great day {{everyone}}.	Debb	4	375	Oct 2, 2015 by Iamhere
	Feeling the need to tell him what he did - advice welcome (Preview) My first post, and I'm pretty new to the program, though dabbling in it for years. Through my my readings and therapy sessions, I've become a lot better at not enabling, setting boundaries and avoiding trying to solve my husband's problems. I still pick fights when I've hit my limit, but have learned...	Mermaid4	16	1287	Oct 2, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-30 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 30 speaks about the slogan:"Just for today." It points out that Just for Today, we can take a different point of view and try changing some pattern of behavior that causes problems, just to see what happens. For example, if we are in the habit of responding...	hotrod	4	646	Oct 2, 2015 by Iamhere
	Just For Today ~ 10/02/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will lean something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.TGIF {{HUGS}}	Debb	2	383	Oct 2, 2015 by Carmel 15
	C2C 10-2 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 2 speaks about giving service in Al-Anon. It points out that the reason that service is so important is that it usually brings us in frequent contact with newcomers and we are then able to share the vital gifts that we have received, and reflect on our growth at the same...	hotrod	0	386	Oct 2, 2015 by hotrod
	miracles & misery (Preview) here are some miracles and some misery i had today AH's brother called me and actually was borderland polite to me regarding my AH who after 14 days in still in the fair's motel. ah is now in the horrible stage of his binges, weak,dizzy,cant walk or stand,electrolytes veirtually gone and hasnt had his...	YARNCRAZY	5	613	Oct 2, 2015 by hotrod
	Step 6 posted (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t60956386/alanon-step-6-10-2015/Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of	hotrod	0	372	Oct 1, 2015 by hotrod
	C2C 10-1 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 1 is an interesting one. It speaks about thoughts racing through our heads. The reading portrays these thoughts as crashing around at alarming speeds bringing up painful memories, broken promises, fears about the future, lost expectations. In other words, chaos. Pri...	hotrod	2	502	Oct 1, 2015 by Debb
	went crazy tuesday, back on track now (Preview) I have not been on this board for a very long time but I attend about two f2f meetings a week. I have been in Al-Anon since 2011. I am going through some really hard stuff right now and I'm so grateful to have Al-anon to turn to. I went to three meetings this week, which helped, but they sort of felt helpless an...	Michelle814	11	765	Oct 1, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	Just For Today ~ 9/30/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.Our minds focus on the past and future when we are fearfuland anxious. Focus on your good qualities and the the giftsthat you have right now.{{HUGS}}	Debb	6	689	Sep 30, 2015 by Ifnotforgrace
	my mom is visiting for now (Preview) Just that. It is still a challenge for me& it will always be. For some reason she treats me differently than other people. I wonder why? Actually I know. I am always going to be her daughter & I always see the real her. You all pretty much know that she has been ill but now she seems alright. Not muc...	Hoot Nanny	0	380	Sep 30, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	Could we both be DV perpetrators? (Preview) I am so so confused. I know my behaviour is very controlling and less than desirable in dealing with and responding (reacting really) to alcoholism. I absolutely own that. But now I am very, very confused as my partner who hurt me physically the other day is saying that its because he is at his wits end an...	brightyellow	20	898	Sep 30, 2015 by Mattie
	what is my actual worth? (Preview) So AH got mad at me because I had Wednesday off and never told him. I work the weekend and have to take a day off during the week, guess I just didn't think about it. So yesterday he was pissed as soon as I told him and that went on all day while I was at work. Nasty texts, I tried not to get into it but I had to def...	confused2015	14	880	Sep 30, 2015 by andromeda
	what can I do? My 23 year old keeps getting kicked out of sober houses for drinking. We have break downs when she (Preview) stays with us for more than a few days. We have been through rehabs, and then they recommend sober houses as step downs, but it is a viscous cycle. Now we have exhausted insurance payments for rehab, partial hospitalization or IOPs.	Cind	3	576	Sep 30, 2015 by Iamhere
	What next? (Preview) And the fun ha begun. AH brought me to my daughter in laws mothers house as we are supposed to leave this morning and head out to Indiana. And of course the phone rings last night and already something is wrong...the dogs this and the dogs that,, says what if we don't get a signal at that distance.... Now o...	Broken513	3	546	Sep 30, 2015 by Iamhere
	Need to vent before I react (Preview) My BF came home from work on Saturday and he was sober. I was grateful for that. Sunday, we went to a new church and I did not agree with the teaching. They preached about preaching the word of god and and the people in the church were nice but I felt smothered. People after people gathered around me and I had...	joker	3	741	Sep 29, 2015 by Iamhere
	The root of my fears (Preview) I have been doing serious journaling recently and what came to light through some prayer and hitting my knees, is that my base fear is the fear of being made fun of. My dad was a master at belittling me, making me feel like I'll never measure up, heckling me, criticizing me regularly, etc. I was always s...	andromeda	12	808	Sep 29, 2015 by Jerry F
	Hope for today sept 29 (Preview) Good morning everyone-- Today's reading is about including our HP in all our affairs. If I could describe myself one way before program and one way since I have been working a program it would be: before program-- willful. Since program-- willing. That's not to say I don't have plenty of days when I...	yanksfan51	4	620	Sep 29, 2015 by confused2015
	Just For Today ~ 9/29/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.Short and sweet .... "Just For Today" Al-anon Quotes.{{HUGS To Everyone}}	Debb	3	583	Sep 29, 2015 by Iamhere
	Learning to take care of me! (Preview) I have become more aware of myself lately, which is good,my daughter and I are animal lovers and we have several already,we recently came upon a stray kitten and tried to save him.He was tiny,had been abandoned and almost hit by a car.I don't even think he should have been taken from his mama yet.I looke...	mjferg	1	622	Sep 29, 2015 by Iamhere
	Socializing with old friends (Preview) I need some advice here. My AH has been sober for going on four months. We have been invited out to dinner with some friends of ours that we use to socialize with before he got sober. They do not know what is going on and I feel like that should be my AH who provides those details. I am a bit worried as this c...	Jazzie18	6	807	Sep 28, 2015 by RealitySucker
	Wish Me Success & Prayers Please.... (Preview) So - my active son reached out to me this morning. He is coming over to visit. He texted only so I don't know his current state. Last I knew, he was involved in the marijuana maintenance program sprinkled with some bar hopping. We've not seen each other or talked in almost 6 weeks. I've been praying al...	Iamhere	18	871	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	A Thought for Today ~ Let The Mud Settle ~ 9/27/15 (Preview) Meditation sitting quietly and letting the mud settle ~ Al-anonAs Lao Tzu put it, Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until the right action arises by itself?Try setting aside 15 minutes per day, and dedicate it to simply sit in solitu...	Debb	2	539	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
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