Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

mjferg · mjferg

I am going to another funeral today, a dear aunt has passed and while we have this going on her brother was driving on a very dark road and struck what he believed to be a deer,he stopped and looked but didn't find anything and drove home.The following day a young woman was found over the hill.He is heartsi...

cspwil · cspwil

My husband is an active alcoholic. He has tried to get help numerous times but always continues to fall off the wagon. When he is drunk (which is always) he is extremely mean to me and goes online and talks sexually to other women. This is a pattern with him and every time he apologizes and I take him bac...

EbbAndFlow · EbbAndFlow

Now. He is on the bed, snoring and muttering to himself. I woke up in love and in his arms, talking about the future names of our children. We made plans to go to the market to buy ingredients to make cioppino. I kissed him goodbye, told him to take it easy, please. Knocked on the door at 3 o'clock PM. Drun...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is about the role that service plays in our recovery. The writer speaks about her experience wmoth Alateen; that she is offered a chance to co-sponsor a group and it ends up being a huge part of her recovery. She feels that she receives far more than she has ever...

Luiza · Luiza

Hi. Some of you might remember me. I has been 14 months since I left my ex AH. I went through homelessness and lost my business. However I managed to stay very happy and positive all the time. At about 2 months ago things changed a lot. I was still homeless and living in a hostel, when I met this man (I will cal...

lisad67 · lisad67

I feel questions pouring out everyday. I feel like i want answers, but is it possible? Yesterdat my ABF andci were discussing the future of our child. It is extremely important to me that he doesnt follow his fathers behaviour.....drinking. i expressed the importance of not modeling alcoholic beha...

cspwil · cspwil

just wondering how the online meetings work...how do I log in to attend one of these meetings

a4l · a4l

this was a vent. Essentially, sometimes we have to let go. More specifically, I have to let go. -- Edited by a4l on Monday 16th of November 2015 03:21:24 AM -- Edited by a4l on Monday 16th of November 2015 03:23:00 AM

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page from One Day at a Time in AlAnon has a great reminder about the powerful impact my attitude toward others can have on myself; in this case, my attitude toward the alcoholic. The reading recalls an oft repeated concept that Alcoholism is a disease, the alcoholic is truly sick, and as such I...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for 11 16 speaks about the slogan:" Let Go and Let God". The reading point out that it would be helpful if we could envision the person that we are turning over to HP, wrapped in love, In a warm blanket. When we have this vision, it is easier to Let go and Let God. The quotes...

hotrod · hotrod

rn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 9 has been posted to the Step work Board. Here is the linkhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t61181260/alanon-s...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for 11 15 speaks about reacting in a hurt and frightened manner if someone looks angry or speaks in an angry voice to me. The reading states that often the person has stuff going on within them and their mood has nothing to do with us. Our reactions, feeling frightened and guilty is .&q...

family members ... inlaws · lisad67

Im very new here and navigating my way through what i have been denying for five years. That my significant other is indeed an addict and alcoholic. His prior relationships have been people with significant disorders of their own. Almost enabling his behavioyr. The biggest influence inhis life is h...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

i made a last ditch mistake of dragging AH to hospital so they could see his irationality..didnt work and that was my mistake However my HP opened a sort of portal of time yesterday when my AH and I were calm and open and rational. we went out for a meal and we were able to discuss and listen to each other abou...

medicmoni · medicmoni

Yesterday, I had a long talk with my ABF. He relapsed Tuesday night, called me, and berated me for everything he could thing of. After getting in some OT at work yesterday, I headed over to his house. When I saw that he was sober, I decided to talk. I let loose with all that had been on my mind since that Tuesd...

missmeliss · missmeliss

And around the wheel turns...gah! Excuse me if this is a little bit venty but I've been holding it in all day!! I mentioned the other day that my mother seems to be having some serious memory problems and I'm concerned for her. We have these conversations and then a few days later she claims we haven't spo...

inlove · inlove

Now I am faced with a dilemma. Stay is a stable, non alcoholic but not program based relationship or follow my heart. This Al Anon man has been extremely loving and supportive to me through an illness which required surgery and treatment and continues to love and support me emotionally while I try to...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So as i type this im trying fall asleep on a make shift bed in my home office. If u folliw me at all u know my ah has been having a two +yr long drunken sexual affair with what was a "familyfriend". I founnd the texts, emails and pics. .a month ago and yet here I am ob the floor. My daughter sleeps rest...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So since my last updat. . I went to a cnslg session at ah request to "work onforgiveness and getting pastmy anger". Needless to say when she heard fromme that i was nit ready for forgiveness and not seeki.g reconciliation, ah immediately felt i was toblame for how the cnslr responded. She tr...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for November 14. talks about Step Six and being "entirely ready to have God remove all our defects of character". It suggests that this entire readiness does not appear in a single flash of light, but instead, as we struggle to make progress we become ready a little at a...

Debb · Debb

Alcoholism is a disease the alcoholic is a sick human being we do not punish people for being sick, is a statement that I hear a lot in Al-Anon meetings. When it comes to real acceptance, my instinctive attitude toward the alcoholic is often hostile, as though he/she were the enemy, willfully bent on hu...

1breathatatime · 1breathatatime

I need support to keep working on myself- doing the steps, and loving myself. When my beloved alcoholic continues to blame me, and I continue to search my character for darkness and unconsciousness, he is relentless and skillful at manipulating the fault on to me- he has been bringing up the word chao...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Our news here in the US is flooded with the events currently happening in Paris. I just want to offer thoughts and prayers to any/all MIP members that may be affected by these events. Prayers for a swift resolution and prayers for peace.

lisad67 · lisad67

Im new here, this is my second topic. I have so many questions and puzzles in my mind i want answered and solved. I am a person who needs an answer or reason for impacts in my life. I realize its not always possible. My boyfriend and i had a bad fight last night. It wasnt as bad as usual, because i gave in much so...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am glad that all of you are out there even if I don't feel right sometimes. I have to remember to not get carried away posting. Just know that I am sincere & have good intentions. I am probably not doing the wrong things or saying the wrong things. Maybe these are the reasons I don't feel like I should b...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for November 13 speaks about the idea that" things that are urgent" are rarely important, and things are important for rarely urgent. This is a very interesting observation I know I prior to alanon used to run about like "Chicken Little " sure that the "...

Helpangel · Helpangel

Does the holidays bring chaos to everyone? My ah who I am separated from has been going to celebrate recovery, a therapist and a pychoanalyst for two months. He has been at the house a lot and we have been getting along ok..now the holidays... Originally I was going somewhere by myself since my daughter...

Theresa B · Theresa B

I'm sitting at my desk at work writing this. I've been here since 5am because I needed to leave the house as my husband began a rampage that started at 3:30 this morning, waking me out of a sound sleep, to tell me how horrible I am and how I drove him into drunkenness last night. Upon entering my office an...

lisad67 · lisad67

I have been with my bf for five yrs. We have a three yo, and my two kids live with us. He is an alcoholic. He drinks everyday. He has been verbally abusive and as i type this he is txting me about how horrible i am. I want to leave him but i have no where to go with three kids and no job. He has made me completely depe...

Debb · Debb

Remember to meditate today even for just 5 minutes. Remember be thankful for the many blessings that come to you each day. You pray in your distress and in your need; would that you might pray also in the fullness of your joy. ~ Kahlil Gibran: The Prophet Be careful today on this Friday the 13th! -- E...

Kate19 · Kate19

OK. The subject line isn't really true. I DO want my alcoholic husband to quit drinking, but there's a big part of me that mourns the loss of "Fun Bobby" (Friends reference, I hope y'all get it). He has decided completely on his own to quit drinking and start attending AA. While I fully suppor...

Char724 · Char724

I am new here. I have never had an AH this close before and although I am familiar with the program due to a recovering late Brother in law, it never hit home like this has. This is my neighbor. His live in has left and moved back twice now,this third time he had no one. I understood he was a drinker, but he was n...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

I start this off that way becayse i swear i just dont know who i am, what i feel or what i think. I do think its startinhlg to sink into my ah that im done. I left this house this morning and have stayed away all day. Let him kno i might go to my parents for dinner and woukd like to bring daughter but that if he would...

mjferg · mjferg

I woke up early this morning with a different feeling, a more peaceful feeling than I have had in a while.I have been so busy with school and the grieving that I feel like I kind of lost myself.Yesterday was a day crammed full of work,I ran errands,I wrote three papers and an essay, studied for a test and to...

medicmoni · medicmoni

Thank you to those that have decided to share your story and struggle. I find solace and strength in knowing that I am not alone in my struggles with my ABF. I have found strength in your encouraging posts, and found myself asking this very question last night and today.I have been wrestling with leavin...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I was disturbed by that topic today as it was the reading we chose at our meeting. I Would rather have almost any other topic today as I wasn't feeling very sane. I didn't try to control the meeting but wanted to share something else. I waited a long time before I shared. I hope no one thought I was having a pr...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for November 12 speaks about applying the tools of Al-Anon to our everyday life. It uses the example of watching and really listening to people in Al-Anon meetings as they share on the difficult problems that they face. By uncritical listening, we can see how they apply the slo...

Debb · Debb

I have been learning the knack of listening uncritically to everything I hear. If we are consistently focused on our own negativity and confusion, then we are unable to hear and listen to what is being said to us, therefore we do not learn. It is a privilege of wisdom to listen ~ O.W. HolmesHonestly wo...

missmeliss · missmeliss

My mum is only 58. But her memory has been bad for a long time and maybe a year ago I finally figured out she wasn't asking me the same questions over and over because she was trying to wind me up, she honestly didn't remember having asked me a few minutes ago. Well it's getting so much worse. This isn't alcoh...

Debb · Debb

Have you noticed that when you react too emotionally to a situation, even an unjustified verbal attack, it really can make you sick, with actual physical symptoms? Al-Anon has taught me to keep my own well being in mind; I try to detach when the storm clouds of tension and temper appear. This is healt...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for November 11 speaks about the insanity of the disease of alcoholism. It defines the word insanity as; "doing something the same way over and over and expecting different results. I can certainly identify with this action, because I did this continually - I thought my wa...

andromeda · andromeda

So, I was reviewing some old notes from an Al Anon convention I went to back in July. The speaker asked us these 4 key questions, which I will ask of all of you. This is a great exercise to bring back centeredness and to bring God back into the equation of working your steps: 1. How can I make better contac...

jamky · jamky

I know it's a cleche' people say dont take your loved ones for granted. I have seen it several times this week alone. But tonight I had to say goodbye to my soulmate of 24 years. I had always pictured us growing old together, sitting on a porch in our rockingchairs watching our grandchildren play... all o...

PUPPY · PUPPY

I had a worry that as soon as my son contacted us two weeks ago and told us he's been sober and wants to re established his relationship with us that I would start reverting back to my codependent . He called me on Monday to ask if we could all get together on Saturday.. I said I would call him back after I check...

el-cee · el-cee

I got up this morning, said hello to my higher power, got focussed on my program before I even got out of bed. The morning went so smoothly as if my higher power was telling me something. So right from the off I was presented with choices. My sons gf hurt her leg and took a day off work. Right away I felt some ju...

Lee8375 · Lee8375

May seem a daft question and I know that in some situations the answer may be more to do with personal safety but at what point should someone completely throw the towel in and give up on someone they love. Is it when the loved one stops trying, is it when they revert to type and the full/empty bottles &...

finn · finn

I am leading a meeting on anonymity because it has come up that it can be uncomfortable when you meet a fellow member in public and someone asks "How do you know that person"? I haven't found any information in any of my books that give ideas about this subject.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I don't want to repeat myself over & over again but it is happening again just quieter. I am not on the library computer but on my tablet in the library. Another lesson in tolerance. This guy needs help & I totally get it. My day went OK after leaving here yesterday. I am working on serenity for tod...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

I cant even begin to describe how bad this day was. I met with legal consult, email fought with my ah all day. .Niw im the problem, have always been the problem and yet i say the affair was my last straw. .Claims he shouodve taken last straw years ago when i stopped loving and caring and needing. And hes now o...

Shakti · Shakti

so today is my alcoholic sons birthday and we were supposed to go out for dinner. but he arrives to my home hungover from the evening before! looking terrible. i was hurt disappointed that even for this special day he made no effort to remain ok. so i decided to cancel our dinner bookings was tempted to th...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- This reading is about the power of writing in terms of our recovery. Being able to freely express feelings, get them down on paper and even read them through more objectively we all ways that have been helpful to me in healing. Posting on this site and feeling the support of your...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I might be like him at times but there is a man in the library who can't keep quiet & yelling at the top of his lungs. He is trying to be overly helpful & is getting on my nerves somewhat. This might determine how long I am on here. God has a sense of humor because I have to tolerate & be patient w/ ot...

Yankeerose · Yankeerose

Hi everyone! I haven't posted in a few months but I do read everyone else's posts almost every day and find lots of strength and hope. Just a little update: we closed on our house on Sept 10 and are all moved into our new condo which is a very nice place just a bit tight for the 4 of us but we are saving money by b...

Jerry F · Jerry F

The Eagle won In Dallas...I'm ecstatic but not crazy yet. She's become more of a fan and I'm becoming brain dead. lol I'm done ...need serenity now. (((hugs)))

Iamhere · Iamhere

Some of you may remember that I attended my HS reunion (35 years) this year, maybe in May. I remember RSVP'ing and being excited in the beginning. As it got closer to the event, I began to second guess my choice to go, be fearful and anxious about seeing people, and answering any questions related to my...

hardheadedwoman · hardheadedwoman

I have recently accepted the fact that I have been living with a AH for many years. I am beginning to learn about alcoholism and the role it is playing in our lives. I thought my husband was just an emotionally unavailable, unaffectionate, stubborn, argumentative, immature, selfish, uncaring, inc...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

And not so much .. LOL .. I really am my own worst enemy .. I guess the good news is that I have awareness of that and I really am trying to do things differently. I'm sorting through some feelings and things that are going on at the moment, what can I change, what can let go of and what do I need to address. The...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi friends~Ah yes the holiday is approaching. My spouse is attempting not to drink, and my son and daughter-in-law are trying to loose a little weight. My sister-in-law knows my spouse has a drinking problem and a few years back, did not serve alcohol. I thought that was so sensitive and supportiv...

el-cee · el-cee

One of the symptoms or shortcomings that came into my awareness early on in alanon was my immaturity. I seriously had a really child like view of what my world should look like. Maybe i was exposed to a bit too much tv, disney or fairytales about princesses and happy ever afters. I wanted the fairytale an...

joker · joker

Since my last post, its by a true miracle and prayers that my alcoholic bf that could not stay sober for more than 3 days has been sober now for 5 weeks. Its a miracle. However, now the nightmare is starting all over again. He is very unmotivated and deeply depressed. All he has energy for is to eat and sleep...

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	Another goodbye and a tragedy in the family (Preview) I am going to another funeral today, a dear aunt has passed and while we have this going on her brother was driving on a very dark road and struck what he believed to be a deer,he stopped and looked but didn't find anything and drove home.The following day a young woman was found over the hill.He is heartsi...	mjferg	3	358	Nov 17, 2015 by Jerry F
	new to this and need advice (Preview) My husband is an active alcoholic. He has tried to get help numerous times but always continues to fall off the wagon. When he is drunk (which is always) he is extremely mean to me and goes online and talks sexually to other women. This is a pattern with him and every time he apologizes and I take him bac...	cspwil	11	770	Nov 17, 2015 by Dave2554
	First Vent (Preview) Now. He is on the bed, snoring and muttering to himself. I woke up in love and in his arms, talking about the future names of our children. We made plans to go to the market to buy ingredients to make cioppino. I kissed him goodbye, told him to take it easy, please. Knocked on the door at 3 o'clock PM. Drun...	EbbAndFlow	8	477	Nov 17, 2015 by confused2015
	Hope for Today Nov 17 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is about the role that service plays in our recovery. The writer speaks about her experience wmoth Alateen; that she is offered a chance to co-sponsor a group and it ends up being a huge part of her recovery. She feels that she receives far more than she has ever...	yanksfan51	2	494	Nov 17, 2015 by Iamhere
	Hello again. Not alcohol but feelings. (Preview) Hi. Some of you might remember me. I has been 14 months since I left my ex AH. I went through homelessness and lost my business. However I managed to stay very happy and positive all the time. At about 2 months ago things changed a lot. I was still homeless and living in a hostel, when I met this man (I will cal...	Luiza	10	673	Nov 16, 2015 by Jerry F
	An Alcoholics denial (Preview) I feel questions pouring out everyday. I feel like i want answers, but is it possible? Yesterdat my ABF andci were discussing the future of our child. It is extremely important to me that he doesnt follow his fathers behaviour.....drinking. i expressed the importance of not modeling alcoholic beha...	lisad67	6	1716	Nov 16, 2015 by Jerry F
	online meetings (Preview) just wondering how the online meetings work...how do I log in to attend one of these meetings	cspwil	1	396	Nov 16, 2015 by OceanTide
	cutting off diseased people. (Preview) this was a vent. Essentially, sometimes we have to let go. More specifically, I have to let go. -- Edited by a4l on Monday 16th of November 2015 03:21:24 AM -- Edited by a4l on Monday 16th of November 2015 03:23:00 AM	a4l	6	745	Nov 16, 2015 by Debb
	ODAT 11/15 Am I Poisoning Myself? (Preview) Today's page from One Day at a Time in AlAnon has a great reminder about the powerful impact my attitude toward others can have on myself; in this case, my attitude toward the alcoholic. The reading recalls an oft repeated concept that Alcoholism is a disease, the alcoholic is truly sick, and as such I...	Enigmatic	5	581	Nov 16, 2015 by el-cee
	Courage to Change reading for 11-16 (Preview) C2C reading for 11 16 speaks about the slogan:" Let Go and Let God". The reading point out that it would be helpful if we could envision the person that we are turning over to HP, wrapped in love, In a warm blanket. When we have this vision, it is easier to Let go and Let God. The quotes...	hotrod	1	376	Nov 16, 2015 by Iamhere
	Step 9 (Preview) rn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 9 has been posted to the Step work Board. Here is the linkhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t61181260/alanon-s...	hotrod	1	2108	Nov 16, 2015 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change reading for 11-15 (Preview) C2C reading for 11 15 speaks about reacting in a hurt and frightened manner if someone looks angry or speaks in an angry voice to me. The reading states that often the person has stuff going on within them and their mood has nothing to do with us. Our reactions, feeling frightened and guilty is .&q...	hotrod	1	513	Nov 16, 2015 by Iamhere
	family members ... inlaws (Preview) Im very new here and navigating my way through what i have been denying for five years. That my significant other is indeed an addict and alcoholic. His prior relationships have been people with significant disorders of their own. Almost enabling his behavioyr. The biggest influence inhis life is h...	lisad67	11	602	Nov 16, 2015 by a4l
	awareness and detaching (Preview) i made a last ditch mistake of dragging AH to hospital so they could see his irationality..didnt work and that was my mistake However my HP opened a sort of portal of time yesterday when my AH and I were calm and open and rational. we went out for a meal and we were able to discuss and listen to each other abou...	YARNCRAZY	6	637	Nov 15, 2015 by YARNCRAZY
	No closure... (Preview) Yesterday, I had a long talk with my ABF. He relapsed Tuesday night, called me, and berated me for everything he could thing of. After getting in some OT at work yesterday, I headed over to his house. When I saw that he was sober, I decided to talk. I let loose with all that had been on my mind since that Tuesd...	medicmoni	5	731	Nov 15, 2015 by missmeliss
	Icky Sunday (Preview) And around the wheel turns...gah! Excuse me if this is a little bit venty but I've been holding it in all day!! I mentioned the other day that my mother seems to be having some serious memory problems and I'm concerned for her. We have these conversations and then a few days later she claims we haven't spo...	missmeliss	10	584	Nov 15, 2015 by missmeliss
	I fell in love with someone over the years in Al Anon (Preview) Now I am faced with a dilemma. Stay is a stable, non alcoholic but not program based relationship or follow my heart. This Al Anon man has been extremely loving and supportive to me through an illness which required surgery and treatment and continues to love and support me emotionally while I try to...	inlove	13	627	Nov 15, 2015 by inlove
	tired worn out angry depressed. . (Preview) So as i type this im trying fall asleep on a make shift bed in my home office. If u folliw me at all u know my ah has been having a two +yr long drunken sexual affair with what was a "familyfriend". I founnd the texts, emails and pics. .a month ago and yet here I am ob the floor. My daughter sleeps rest...	Theoceancalls	5	420	Nov 15, 2015 by milkwood
	update and encouragement (Preview) So since my last updat. . I went to a cnslg session at ah request to "work onforgiveness and getting pastmy anger". Needless to say when she heard fromme that i was nit ready for forgiveness and not seeki.g reconciliation, ah immediately felt i was toblame for how the cnslr responded. She tr...	Theoceancalls	2	580	Nov 14, 2015 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 11-14 (Preview) The C2C reading for November 14. talks about Step Six and being "entirely ready to have God remove all our defects of character". It suggests that this entire readiness does not appear in a single flash of light, but instead, as we struggle to make progress we become ready a little at a...	hotrod	3	445	Nov 14, 2015 by Theoceancalls
	One Day At A Time Quotes ~ Alcoholism ~ 11/14/15 (Preview) Alcoholism is a disease the alcoholic is a sick human being we do not punish people for being sick, is a statement that I hear a lot in Al-Anon meetings. When it comes to real acceptance, my instinctive attitude toward the alcoholic is often hostile, as though he/she were the enemy, willfully bent on hu...	Debb	2	1821	Nov 14, 2015 by Iamhere
	Not sure where to begin really, feeling so hopeless and constantly blamed. Needing some insight & ongoing support/TLC (Preview) I need support to keep working on myself- doing the steps, and loving myself. When my beloved alcoholic continues to blame me, and I continue to search my character for darkness and unconsciousness, he is relentless and skillful at manipulating the fault on to me- he has been bringing up the word chao...	1breathatatime	11	691	Nov 14, 2015 by Mattie
	Thoughts & Prayers for any MIP family in Paris/Italy (Preview) Our news here in the US is flooded with the events currently happening in Paris. I just want to offer thoughts and prayers to any/all MIP members that may be affected by these events. Prayers for a swift resolution and prayers for peace.	Iamhere	4	228	Nov 14, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	symptoms (Preview) Im new here, this is my second topic. I have so many questions and puzzles in my mind i want answered and solved. I am a person who needs an answer or reason for impacts in my life. I realize its not always possible. My boyfriend and i had a bad fight last night. It wasnt as bad as usual, because i gave in much so...	lisad67	7	745	Nov 13, 2015 by YARNCRAZY
	I wasn't going to post: (Preview) I am glad that all of you are out there even if I don't feel right sometimes. I have to remember to not get carried away posting. Just know that I am sincere & have good intentions. I am probably not doing the wrong things or saying the wrong things. Maybe these are the reasons I don't feel like I should b...	Hoot Nanny	3	534	Nov 13, 2015 by Debb
	Courage to Change 11-13 (Preview) The C2C reading for November 13 speaks about the idea that" things that are urgent" are rarely important, and things are important for rarely urgent. This is a very interesting observation I know I prior to alanon used to run about like "Chicken Little " sure that the "...	hotrod	3	572	Nov 13, 2015 by Debb
	Holidays (Preview) Does the holidays bring chaos to everyone? My ah who I am separated from has been going to celebrate recovery, a therapist and a pychoanalyst for two months. He has been at the house a lot and we have been getting along ok..now the holidays... Originally I was going somewhere by myself since my daughter...	Helpangel	7	696	Nov 13, 2015 by Iamhere
	So very tired (Preview) I'm sitting at my desk at work writing this. I've been here since 5am because I needed to leave the house as my husband began a rampage that started at 3:30 this morning, waking me out of a sound sleep, to tell me how horrible I am and how I drove him into drunkenness last night. Upon entering my office an...	Theresa B	13	451	Nov 13, 2015 by Freetime
	new here need help (Preview) I have been with my bf for five yrs. We have a three yo, and my two kids live with us. He is an alcoholic. He drinks everyday. He has been verbally abusive and as i type this he is txting me about how horrible i am. I want to leave him but i have no where to go with three kids and no job. He has made me completely depe...	lisad67	18	681	Nov 13, 2015 by Freetime
	One Day At A Time Quotes ~ Remember ~ 11/13/15 (Preview) Remember to meditate today even for just 5 minutes. Remember be thankful for the many blessings that come to you each day. You pray in your distress and in your need; would that you might pray also in the fullness of your joy. ~ Kahlil Gibran: The Prophet Be careful today on this Friday the 13th! -- E...	Debb	3	367	Nov 13, 2015 by Iamhere
	I don't want my husband to quit drinking... (Preview) OK. The subject line isn't really true. I DO want my alcoholic husband to quit drinking, but there's a big part of me that mourns the loss of "Fun Bobby" (Friends reference, I hope y'all get it). He has decided completely on his own to quit drinking and start attending AA. While I fully suppor...	Kate19	17	4134	Nov 12, 2015 by maryjane
	When you love an AH , who says they do not love you the same. (Preview) I am new here. I have never had an AH this close before and although I am familiar with the program due to a recovering late Brother in law, it never hit home like this has. This is my neighbor. His live in has left and moved back twice now,this third time he had no one. I understood he was a drinker, but he was n...	Char724	3	489	Nov 12, 2015 by tiredtonite
	this disease messes with everything (Preview) I start this off that way becayse i swear i just dont know who i am, what i feel or what i think. I do think its startinhlg to sink into my ah that im done. I left this house this morning and have stayed away all day. Let him kno i might go to my parents for dinner and woukd like to bring daughter but that if he would...	Theoceancalls	14	652	Nov 12, 2015 by Theoceancalls
	a struggle with being critical of myself (Preview) I woke up early this morning with a different feeling, a more peaceful feeling than I have had in a while.I have been so busy with school and the grieving that I feel like I kind of lost myself.Yesterday was a day crammed full of work,I ran errands,I wrote three papers and an essay, studied for a test and to...	mjferg	4	694	Nov 12, 2015 by Mattie
	Asking myself daily: Do I stay or do I go? (Preview) Thank you to those that have decided to share your story and struggle. I find solace and strength in knowing that I am not alone in my struggles with my ABF. I have found strength in your encouraging posts, and found myself asking this very question last night and today.I have been wrestling with leavin...	medicmoni	6	763	Nov 12, 2015 by medicmoni
	insanity (Preview) I was disturbed by that topic today as it was the reading we chose at our meeting. I Would rather have almost any other topic today as I wasn't feeling very sane. I didn't try to control the meeting but wanted to share something else. I waited a long time before I shared. I hope no one thought I was having a pr...	Hoot Nanny	6	870	Nov 12, 2015 by hotrod
	Courage to Change Reading for 11-12 (Preview) The C2C reading for November 12 speaks about applying the tools of Al-Anon to our everyday life. It uses the example of watching and really listening to people in Al-Anon meetings as they share on the difficult problems that they face. By uncritical listening, we can see how they apply the slo...	hotrod	1	442	Nov 12, 2015 by Iamhere
	One Day At A Time Quotes ~ Listening ~ 11/12/15 (Preview) I have been learning the knack of listening uncritically to everything I hear. If we are consistently focused on our own negativity and confusion, then we are unable to hear and listen to what is being said to us, therefore we do not learn. It is a privilege of wisdom to listen ~ O.W. HolmesHonestly wo...	Debb	2	474	Nov 12, 2015 by el-cee
	Say something? Let it be? Ugh! (Preview) My mum is only 58. But her memory has been bad for a long time and maybe a year ago I finally figured out she wasn't asking me the same questions over and over because she was trying to wind me up, she honestly didn't remember having asked me a few minutes ago. Well it's getting so much worse. This isn't alcoh...	missmeliss	12	621	Nov 11, 2015 by Mattie
	One Day At A Time Quotes ~ Peace of Mind ~ 11/11/15 (Preview) Have you noticed that when you react too emotionally to a situation, even an unjustified verbal attack, it really can make you sick, with actual physical symptoms? Al-Anon has taught me to keep my own well being in mind; I try to detach when the storm clouds of tension and temper appear. This is healt...	Debb	2	433	Nov 11, 2015 by missmeliss
	C2C 11-11 (Preview) The C2C reading for November 11 speaks about the insanity of the disease of alcoholism. It defines the word insanity as; "doing something the same way over and over and expecting different results. I can certainly identify with this action, because I did this continually - I thought my wa...	hotrod	3	410	Nov 11, 2015 by Iamhere
	Things I took from convention (Preview) So, I was reviewing some old notes from an Al Anon convention I went to back in July. The speaker asked us these 4 key questions, which I will ask of all of you. This is a great exercise to bring back centeredness and to bring God back into the equation of working your steps: 1. How can I make better contac...	andromeda	4	510	Nov 11, 2015 by Iamhere
	Please stop the madness (Preview) I know it's a cleche' people say dont take your loved ones for granted. I have seen it several times this week alone. But tonight I had to say goodbye to my soulmate of 24 years. I had always pictured us growing old together, sitting on a porch in our rockingchairs watching our grandchildren play... all o...	jamky	7	590	Nov 11, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Detachment (Preview) I had a worry that as soon as my son contacted us two weeks ago and told us he's been sober and wants to re established his relationship with us that I would start reverting back to my codependent . He called me on Monday to ask if we could all get together on Saturday.. I said I would call him back after I check...	PUPPY	9	646	Nov 11, 2015 by Debb
	HP's will = happiness (Preview) I got up this morning, said hello to my higher power, got focussed on my program before I even got out of bed. The morning went so smoothly as if my higher power was telling me something. So right from the off I was presented with choices. My sons gf hurt her leg and took a day off work. Right away I felt some ju...	el-cee	3	517	Nov 11, 2015 by Debb
	At what point does detachment with love move to detachment (Preview) May seem a daft question and I know that in some situations the answer may be more to do with personal safety but at what point should someone completely throw the towel in and give up on someone they love. Is it when the loved one stops trying, is it when they revert to type and the full/empty bottles &...	Lee8375	15	1024	Nov 10, 2015 by Shakti
	How to introduce an Al Anon member that you meet in public. How to say you know each other??? Anonymity when meeting a member in public (Preview) I am leading a meeting on anonymity because it has come up that it can be uncomfortable when you meet a fellow member in public and someone asks "How do you know that person"? I haven't found any information in any of my books that give ideas about this subject.	finn	8	602	Nov 10, 2015 by maryjane
	same thing different day! (Preview) I don't want to repeat myself over & over again but it is happening again just quieter. I am not on the library computer but on my tablet in the library. Another lesson in tolerance. This guy needs help & I totally get it. My day went OK after leaving here yesterday. I am working on serenity for tod...	Hoot Nanny	4	524	Nov 10, 2015 by Iamhere
	horrible day? (Preview) I cant even begin to describe how bad this day was. I met with legal consult, email fought with my ah all day. .Niw im the problem, have always been the problem and yet i say the affair was my last straw. .Claims he shouodve taken last straw years ago when i stopped loving and caring and needing. And hes now o...	Theoceancalls	12	667	Nov 10, 2015 by YARNCRAZY
	confused (Preview) so today is my alcoholic sons birthday and we were supposed to go out for dinner. but he arrives to my home hungover from the evening before! looking terrible. i was hurt disappointed that even for this special day he made no effort to remain ok. so i decided to cancel our dinner bookings was tempted to th...	Shakti	4	467	Nov 10, 2015 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Nov 10 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- This reading is about the power of writing in terms of our recovery. Being able to freely express feelings, get them down on paper and even read them through more objectively we all ways that have been helpful to me in healing. Posting on this site and feeling the support of your...	yanksfan51	3	417	Nov 10, 2015 by andromeda
	disturbing man in the library...Patience & Tolerance (Preview) I might be like him at times but there is a man in the library who can't keep quiet & yelling at the top of his lungs. He is trying to be overly helpful & is getting on my nerves somewhat. This might determine how long I am on here. God has a sense of humor because I have to tolerate & be patient w/ ot...	Hoot Nanny	5	524	Nov 9, 2015 by Jerry F
	Always looking for more.... (Preview) Hi everyone! I haven't posted in a few months but I do read everyone else's posts almost every day and find lots of strength and hope. Just a little update: we closed on our house on Sept 10 and are all moved into our new condo which is a very nice place just a bit tight for the 4 of us but we are saving money by b...	Yankeerose	8	612	Nov 9, 2015 by Yankeerose
	My wife just lost her serenity... (Preview) The Eagle won In Dallas...I'm ecstatic but not crazy yet. She's become more of a fan and I'm becoming brain dead. lol I'm done ...need serenity now. (((hugs)))	Jerry F	4	506	Nov 9, 2015 by Jerry F
	Excitement and Anxiety over Road Trip (Preview) Some of you may remember that I attended my HS reunion (35 years) this year, maybe in May. I remember RSVP'ing and being excited in the beginning. As it got closer to the event, I began to second guess my choice to go, be fearful and anxious about seeing people, and answering any questions related to my...	Iamhere	13	666	Nov 9, 2015 by Iamhere
	?New to Group so many questions (Preview) I have recently accepted the fact that I have been living with a AH for many years. I am beginning to learn about alcoholism and the role it is playing in our lives. I thought my husband was just an emotionally unavailable, unaffectionate, stubborn, argumentative, immature, selfish, uncaring, inc...	hardheadedwoman	23	1070	Nov 9, 2015 by a4l
	Changes .. (Preview) And not so much .. LOL .. I really am my own worst enemy .. I guess the good news is that I have awareness of that and I really am trying to do things differently. I'm sorting through some feelings and things that are going on at the moment, what can I change, what can let go of and what do I need to address. The...	SerenityRUS	6	1037	Nov 9, 2015 by Debb
	Thanksgiving (Preview) Hi friends~Ah yes the holiday is approaching. My spouse is attempting not to drink, and my son and daughter-in-law are trying to loose a little weight. My sister-in-law knows my spouse has a drinking problem and a few years back, did not serve alcohol. I thought that was so sensitive and supportiv...	Lyne	6	786	Nov 9, 2015 by Lyne
	alcoholism and fairy tales (Preview) One of the symptoms or shortcomings that came into my awareness early on in alanon was my immaturity. I seriously had a really child like view of what my world should look like. Maybe i was exposed to a bit too much tv, disney or fairytales about princesses and happy ever afters. I wanted the fairytale an...	el-cee	9	817	Nov 9, 2015 by ABM
	Dealing with a sober ABF (Preview) Since my last post, its by a true miracle and prayers that my alcoholic bf that could not stay sober for more than 3 days has been sober now for 5 weeks. Its a miracle. However, now the nightmare is starting all over again. He is very unmotivated and deeply depressed. All he has energy for is to eat and sleep...	joker	4	673	Nov 9, 2015 by milkwood
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