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KT2015 · KT2015

Hi All, So I am struggling a bit and would appreciate anyone sharing their experience in this area. For a long time I was in denial about my AHs drinking. It seemed like my AH was very different in different situations and behaved differently and I couldn't predict it but I never associated it with h...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for December 9 speaks about Tradition 11. This powerful Traditional emphasizes the fact that our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion. The reading goes on to point out that this Tradition reinforces the idea that Al-Anon believes that people arrive at...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just want to point out that my only local Alanon meeting is guilty of just talking about the events of the day & sometimes even gossip. We have times when it seems like Alanon is not spoken there. Maybe we struggle so much because we are a small group & several newcomers. I just hope that we can ge...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Sleep just wont come tonight im consumed with worry and so many feelings i cant name. I want to and have told my daughter we are moving outfriday. She says NO. For me it means doing an overnight then coming back.here to get the dresser and rest of clothes on saturday when husb is with daughter. .If he and sh...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about turning away from resentments and toward compassion. In my pre-alanon life I confused compassion with feeling badly for someone and excusing unacceptable behavior. That was an excellent way to set up for feelings of resentment! I am thinking now...

SusieQ314 · SusieQ314

I don't know where else to go. I'm sorry if this is not right. My father was a serious drinker, and when he joined AA my mum joined al-anon. I was a teenager and didn't want to get involved in any place to help myself, and I guess that's how I ended up like this. I started talking to a guy online a couple weeks...

mothernpain14 · mothernpain14

New on here so much pain, so much pain. I feel it is consuming me, and all my life, all my joy, and nothing to live for.

newleaf66 · newleaf66

Hi everyone, One week into sobriety and I am seeing the same old slow slide back. I was amazed after 3 days that the snoring stopped. This was a chronic issue whenever AH drank which was often. My room was almost TOO quiet for sleep! Last night - snoring again - AH admitted to an "O'Doul's"...

Sus · Sus

I'm a very happy person with a very optimistic outlook on life. I appreciate and am grateful for all the wonderful things life has to offer. I have no resentments and don't blame other people for things that happen in my life. I've been in a rocky relationship with a recovering alcoholic for a year. He h...

lisad67 · lisad67

Its been a few weeks without any explosive incidents. Until last night. My abf has a child with someone he had a very brief fling with....a week. She is a convicted felon, drug addict. She has harassed me to no end, and harasses him as well. When he dropped off his child they had words, and as usual he start...

Cindy1954 · Cindy1954

Off and on I have problems with anxiety. It started with the death of my AH boyfriend several years ago. I was put on medication a benzo and now my doctor wants me to get off of it. I deal with an AH sister and her abusiveness. I've had injuries that triggered it. When it happens I don't want to get out...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am two weeks from graduating from nursing school! I have two exams, two care plans and two big papers left and if I pass them all I graduate December 18th. I really am working my hindend off to make this happen and am still struggling to get the good grades I need. I'm passing as of now and really just want t...

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

My husband has been sober now since June. We went away this weekend just the two of us without kids as I had a business trip and he joined me for part of the time. I really didn't know how this was going to go without the kids, spending all of our time with each other and no drinking. I will say that it was fan...

ChipsAreFalling · ChipsAreFalling

I've been attending Al-anon pretty regularly for almost a year (still haven't gotten a sponsor or shared much). My main struggle has been the idea of a HP. I grew up around a lot of religion, not necessarily spirituality - I believe there is a BIG difference. The idea of the God I grew up with in many ways i...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I love all of the updates I'm seeing from over this weekend. It inspires me to share as well. I can't believe where I am in my journey right now. Five years ago I was feeling lost and hopeless- only going to Al-Anon meetings kept me from giving up. My how things have changed. I just returned from a weekend re...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for December 7 speaks about learning to be truly "good to ourselves". The reading points out that, prior to program, we may have thought being good to ourselves meant that we could eat what we wanted, buy everything we wanted to, sleep only a few hours and avoid anything that was...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Roller coaster doesn't cover it however learning to let go of the handle and throw my arms in the air while riding it .. priceless. The ups and downs aren't so fearful or adrenaline inducing which is a good thing. I had already eluded to the fact that no one could have told me a year ago I would be sitting i...

cleoleo 12 · cleoleo 12

My husband 29 years sober, was involved professionally with a women for 6 months, she treated me horribly, and treated hubby, well exceptionally nice. Lets just say her marketing skills were what most prostitutes use to mark them selves, and she is a professional landscape architect..... We had a...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Well. . 17 years. .2 div mediation sessions and the mediator will be sending iur agreement via email.in aweek for our review and then process it with court. We spent yesterday texting and argueing, screaming and threatening lawyers. This morning he relented did the 180* and said lets do.this right a...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Since working this new job close to 5 months, I have been commuting 2 hours a day. This caused me to stop going to the gym and pack on about 25 pounds. I feel gross and that is affecting everything. I have been in a go to work, come home, and sit on my ass funk. Work is so so. It has issues but the crazy ER type of ch...

notsureanymore · notsureanymore

Hi My husband is an alcoholic. We have been through many issues with this problem. It was so bad a few years ago that he lost his job and was not interested in anything except getting drunk. I finally gave him an ultimatum, either stop drinking and get a job or leave. He chose to get a job. He is now work...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for December 6 speaks about anger. It points out that the feeling of anger did give us the illusion of power for a little while but that kind of false security always was short lived and then pain of the guilt and shame followedI must point out that when I worked my first 4th step I discovered t...

GypsyGirl · GypsyGirl

my husband has been clean and sober for 25 years. He claims our sex issues have always been a problem for him (ED, Low libido, other problems). Is that common with recovered alcoholics? Does the years of alcohol abuse ruin the way your body reacts and performs sexually. I don't know much about alcoholi...

OceanTide · OceanTide

XA just emailed me. Like a status update of his life and how some of his past caught up with him. Totally irrelevant to my life...part of me wants to reply and say sorry to hear, too bad on that, and congrats on another chip. I MUST NOT REPLY. My side of the street is quiet and life is calm. Grief is hard, but no...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for December 5 is a powerful reading that points out the value of "gratitude." It suggests that many of us are so busy looking at the negative happenings of our lives that we neglect to look at what is good and rewarding these include our family, friends, children and furry crea...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I just wanted to pause and tell each of you that I hope you have a great day! I also wanted to wish you each a peaceful and serene weekend! Some of you know that I took a risk, and went to the lake for a girls weekend with High School friends. Mind you, I've been out of High School for 35+ years, so it was a bit sc...

joker · joker

I am so grateful for this board. I feel I belong now and can so relate to all the stories. I have work to do on myself. I have been working on my 4th step and its been good, I have work to do on myself. My Abf by the grace of god is now going on 3 months sobriety. This is a man that could not stay sober for more than 3 da...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Divirce papers should be ready in a week. Im feeling odd. I dont belong anywhere. Im staying at house until something is legally binding. . In about another week. I have everything moved but me, my clothes and wellmy daughter. Sges not helping. . Didnt expect she would. . Jyst not sure how to proceed on T...

KT2015 · KT2015

So my AH really wanted to come to my work holiday party. I would rather go on my own to be honest. I have always felt that way about work events. Anyway, he insisted so I am bringing him tonight. So this afternoon I was working from home. He has taken the afternoon off. I go into the kitchen after somet...

OhioWriter · OhioWriter

My AH stopped drinking 3 months ago. I'm proud of him for stopping (health reasons) but what a change in him. I know he's knew at sobriety, but on a typical day he comes home and goes to bed to watch Shark Tank. Every day. He rarely leaves the bedroom. We've only been married a few years and most of our free t...

Jerry F · Jerry F

make living with an alcoholic addict seem mind heh? Is the foreign spammer being put to boundary? I would do it and don't know how....I'm powerless.

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for December 4 speaks about "feelings". It points out that many of us make choices based on our" feelings," thinking, incorrectly that feelings are facts.For example, . If we're frightened about taking an action then we have avoided it. By so doing we leave n...

a4l · a4l

I tried. I really, really tried. But I could not be the better person. For most of my adult life, I have been determined not to be the one who blamed her parents for her shortcomings. And I still do not hold her responsible for my choices. I own those. Yet, when I cast an eye back, I didn't have too much of...

Mink · Mink

Hi Everyone! I am new here and new to al-anon. Im not sure how to go about all this.. So I will start with telling a bit of my history. I have been married to a high functioning alcoholic for 25 years. He has a very good job and supports his family well. His drinking never affects his job. However, the m...

CoopsMom · CoopsMom

Thanksgiving weekend for AH was an epic bender that ended with me threatening to call the police if he came back to the house (from a day at the bars). He had been horrible and intoxicated since Tuesday and was now threatening to throw our house guests to the curb because my brother-in-law used AH's favo...

newleaf66 · newleaf66

Hello everyone, I had a conversation with my AH in which I told him basically that I was done. I would like him to get treatment, gave him the names and tel numbers of some good inpatient rehab detox centers and then said I hoped that he would go. I did not issue any ultimatum but told him the kids and I are a...

Jerry F · Jerry F

It is that time of the year when reflection on our recovery tools is practiced. The readings for December 1 in both books for me is right on and brought a lot of gratitude I have for the program with memories of how it all started. If you have the readers I invite you to review the writings from our other m...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for December 3 speaks about meditation. The reading points out that Al-Anon does not tell us how to meditate but suggests that we can draw on the experiences of other Al-Anon members to find out what would work for us. It points out that some people practice meditation by remember...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I pulled my phone out in an AA meeting today. In this particular meeting, it's not unusual to see people doing this though in other meetings around town, I would not. Anyhow, this person new to the meeting with 30 days sober took it upon themselves to lecture me about it and then I overheard him going up to...

missmeliss · missmeliss

ABF and I are getting along like a house on fire. It's super romantic and sweet. I love you SO much. I miss you. He comes to stay for maybe 5 days each month now and we are all over each other. And I have to be real and honest with myself; it's all of the good stuff and none of the bad. There is no reality; our relat...

Helpangel · Helpangel

Hello, it's been awhile since I posted. My ah moved out in July and has been taking meds and seeing specialist and maybe has been sober two months this time. Before the holidays my family where all going to be in different places and I was going to run up to the mountains by myself. Then my ah and I were getti...

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

hi there, I have been in al-anon for about 1 1/2 years. My qualifiers are many, but my most frustrating issue to deal with is setting boundaries with my addict son. My husband does not attend al-anon so he does not have the same insight as I do.... Thanks to al-anon. my addict son is clearly not working a pr...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

um. Yeah... My ex Abf of 4 years decided to start AA. Stopped drinking. We had moved in together in August. Deep breaths here, lol. Ended badly this week. As it goes, he slowly stopped meetings due to his work schedule and started telling me he wasn't an A and didn't want to go to meetings and this 90 days t...

ItsAllAboutMeMC · ItsAllAboutMeMC

I found out today that my ABF has been checking to see if I am where I say I am. As far as I know he has never done that before. I have never given him a reason to think I might lie. The only thing I can think is he thinks I'm seeing someone else. However that is not the case I am very much in love with my boyfriend....

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for 12- 2 speaks about the slogan "Let it begin with me" It points out that instead of spending time blaming, judging, critiquing others, we could turn our attention and focus back on to ourselves and see what in me needs changing. That by changing ourselves we truly...

lookingup · lookingup

I do have many atutile problems and bad behavior patterns left without any trust after several relationship breakups,I know it's got to be me not all them,I love the man I'm with now but he has his issues ,but my idea of a relationship should be ,isn't what I get I'm thinking a knight in shineing armor,ha...

lgnutah · lgnutah

On Sunday, at church the pastor preached on "Hope". Hope is such a wonderful, uplifting concept. But is hope sometime just a fantasy created by me? I realized that hope; my hope, my wish, my desire, my fantasy that my A will stop being an A, and will somehow turn back into that sweet, gentle...

wp · wp

I haven't posted here for a very long time. Today I'm working hard to stay calm and let go of small resentments. The A has been sober for a couple of years for which I'm super grateful. Without a program his old ways pop up now and then especially at his former "down time" 5 oclock! ...

AnnM · AnnM

I was awakened this morning by my mother calling. She almost never calls and she has recently been having some health issues, so my first thought was that something had happened to her and her husband was using her phone to let me know. (I like him, but he wasn't the man who raised me, so feel a little weird...

marie57 · marie57

I regularly attended alanon years ago. Besides reading here regularly, I am considering attending local meetings again. I have been with my husband for 30 years. He has been an active drinker for as long as I have known him and I learned detachment a long time ago. In the past year he has developed quite...

a4l · a4l

So my mother is coming to visit from overseas. She asked if that will be alright, and that she misses us. I have already said I'm not going to discuss family, men and a few other things. But I was happy to talk about kids, outsiders, work and life in general. I feel sad though. Its funny when you redefine a re...

ItsAllAboutMeMC · ItsAllAboutMeMC

I have been overwhelmed with anxiety today. I'm trying very hard to clear my head and breath but its hard. Being in love with an addict is a heavy thing. It does not help that I am not well enough to know how to deal with this and the uncertainty in my life. I know I have to give it over to my HP but sometimes the t...

Broken513 · Broken513

I thought I was doing good! I thought I used my tools well last week after my dog was killed. However I have realized I am still blaming both myself and my AH for what happened. I had to make a choice that day, go to the grocery store which would have taken me maybe an hour...or go see my mother who I had not seen...

Kate19 · Kate19

I attended an AA meeting with my husband last night where he picked up his second white chip. His first was last year about this time and he was sober for 3 months before he relapsed. This last period of drinking had progressed very quickly. For the first time in our marriage A became a serious problem. I s...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

Here we go back on the merrygoround again.....I know advice is not usually given on these boards but I was just wodering if anyone has any experience having a spouse removed from the home without having them arrested or a restraining order which is permanent. I moved out with my two girls a year ago due t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is about the sometimes difficult concept of detachment with love. Just as the writer acknowledged, when I first came into the program I also thought about detachment as cold, uncaring, the opposite of love. As I have worked my own recovery and understood mor...

cspwil · cspwil

So my ah has been sober for about 2 weeks. Today he exploded on me....which I was able to use my boundaries and remove myself from the situation. Well he ended up going out and I am pretty sure he went to the liquor store and bought himself something to drink. Hes home now and being distant which I'm letti...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm finding myself picking arguments with my mate or ab,he don't drink very much anymore since he has gotten some health issues but as I was thinking it was all him my sister pointed out to me that my ab can't do nothing right that I don't fuss on him everyday ,I've since caught myself doing this very thing...

Smama · Smama

I don't know what to do or where to turn anymore. I am a mother of 3 little girls and another one on the way. I home school my children and do not work. My husband of 7 years is an alcoholic mostly at night during weekdays and starts drinking in the noon on weekends, maybe once in a while he will have a day here...

OceanTide · OceanTide

I thought I would put a message out to the universe to get it off my chest and to HP. From there it is not mine anymore... Dear XABF, I was thinking of you and I hope you got your three-month chip today. I know 2015 has been a challenging year, but I hope you are gaining ground. I know you have struggled and I kno...

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	How do I stay out of denial but still lovingly detached (Preview) Hi All, So I am struggling a bit and would appreciate anyone sharing their experience in this area. For a long time I was in denial about my AHs drinking. It seemed like my AH was very different in different situations and behaved differently and I couldn't predict it but I never associated it with h...	KT2015	8	653	Dec 9, 2015 by Iamhere
	Courage 2 Change 12-9 (Preview) C2C reading for December 9 speaks about Tradition 11. This powerful Traditional emphasizes the fact that our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion. The reading goes on to point out that this Tradition reinforces the idea that Al-Anon believes that people arrive at...	hotrod	2	487	Dec 9, 2015 by Iamhere
	briefly one day at a time reader Dec 8 (Preview) I just want to point out that my only local Alanon meeting is guilty of just talking about the events of the day & sometimes even gossip. We have times when it seems like Alanon is not spoken there. Maybe we struggle so much because we are a small group & several newcomers. I just hope that we can ge...	Hoot Nanny	2	578	Dec 9, 2015 by Iamhere
	tonight. . (Preview) Sleep just wont come tonight im consumed with worry and so many feelings i cant name. I want to and have told my daughter we are moving outfriday. She says NO. For me it means doing an overnight then coming back.here to get the dresser and rest of clothes on saturday when husb is with daughter. .If he and sh...	Theoceancalls	4	853	Dec 9, 2015 by YARNCRAZY
	Hope for today dec 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about turning away from resentments and toward compassion. In my pre-alanon life I confused compassion with feeling badly for someone and excusing unacceptable behavior. That was an excellent way to set up for feelings of resentment! I am thinking now...	yanksfan51	7	601	Dec 8, 2015 by Iamhere
	New on here, first post (Preview) I don't know where else to go. I'm sorry if this is not right. My father was a serious drinker, and when he joined AA my mum joined al-anon. I was a teenager and didn't want to get involved in any place to help myself, and I guess that's how I ended up like this. I started talking to a guy online a couple weeks...	SusieQ314	7	828	Dec 8, 2015 by Iamhere
	SO MUCH PAIN. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT (Preview) New on here so much pain, so much pain. I feel it is consuming me, and all my life, all my joy, and nothing to live for.	mothernpain14	4	702	Dec 8, 2015 by Iamhere
	One week in and AH starting to slide... (Preview) Hi everyone, One week into sobriety and I am seeing the same old slow slide back. I was amazed after 3 days that the snoring stopped. This was a chronic issue whenever AH drank which was often. My room was almost TOO quiet for sleep! Last night - snoring again - AH admitted to an "O'Doul's"...	newleaf66	7	617	Dec 8, 2015 by ChipsAreFalling
	Not sure if Al Anon is for me ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I'm a very happy person with a very optimistic outlook on life. I appreciate and am grateful for all the wonderful things life has to offer. I have no resentments and don't blame other people for things that happen in my life. I've been in a rocky relationship with a recovering alcoholic for a year. He h...	Sus	67	1876	Dec 8, 2015 by Sus
	sick to my stomach (Preview) Its been a few weeks without any explosive incidents. Until last night. My abf has a child with someone he had a very brief fling with....a week. She is a convicted felon, drug addict. She has harassed me to no end, and harasses him as well. When he dropped off his child they had words, and as usual he start...	lisad67	8	724	Dec 7, 2015 by missmeliss
	Anxiety (Preview) Off and on I have problems with anxiety. It started with the death of my AH boyfriend several years ago. I was put on medication a benzo and now my doctor wants me to get off of it. I deal with an AH sister and her abusiveness. I've had injuries that triggered it. When it happens I don't want to get out...	Cindy1954	8	757	Dec 7, 2015 by missmeliss
	It's been awhile! Update..... (Preview) I am two weeks from graduating from nursing school! I have two exams, two care plans and two big papers left and if I pass them all I graduate December 18th. I really am working my hindend off to make this happen and am still struggling to get the good grades I need. I'm passing as of now and really just want t...	Breakingfree	15	914	Dec 7, 2015 by andromeda
	Proud of my husband (Preview) My husband has been sober now since June. We went away this weekend just the two of us without kids as I had a business trip and he joined me for part of the time. I really didn't know how this was going to go without the kids, spending all of our time with each other and no drinking. I will say that it was fan...	Jazzie18	9	804	Dec 7, 2015 by Jazzie18
	I guess "more was revealed"/HP (Preview) I've been attending Al-anon pretty regularly for almost a year (still haven't gotten a sponsor or shared much). My main struggle has been the idea of a HP. I grew up around a lot of religion, not necessarily spirituality - I believe there is a BIG difference. The idea of the God I grew up with in many ways i...	ChipsAreFalling	9	690	Dec 7, 2015 by Jazzie18
	Update- Step 12 (Preview) I love all of the updates I'm seeing from over this weekend. It inspires me to share as well. I can't believe where I am in my journey right now. Five years ago I was feeling lost and hopeless- only going to Al-Anon meetings kept me from giving up. My how things have changed. I just returned from a weekend re...	Green Eyes	7	637	Dec 7, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 12 -7 (Preview) C2C reading for December 7 speaks about learning to be truly "good to ourselves". The reading points out that, prior to program, we may have thought being good to ourselves meant that we could eat what we wanted, buy everything we wanted to, sleep only a few hours and avoid anything that was...	hotrod	4	527	Dec 7, 2015 by hotrod
	It has been a year and we aren't through it yet! (Preview) Roller coaster doesn't cover it however learning to let go of the handle and throw my arms in the air while riding it .. priceless. The ups and downs aren't so fearful or adrenaline inducing which is a good thing. I had already eluded to the fact that no one could have told me a year ago I would be sitting i...	SerenityRUS	7	725	Dec 7, 2015 by Green Eyes
	husbands lack of boundaries emotional affair feeding the ego (Preview) My husband 29 years sober, was involved professionally with a women for 6 months, she treated me horribly, and treated hubby, well exceptionally nice. Lets just say her marketing skills were what most prostitutes use to mark them selves, and she is a professional landscape architect..... We had a...	cleoleo 12	6	794	Dec 6, 2015 by Jerry F
	bitter sweet sad relief (Preview) Well. . 17 years. .2 div mediation sessions and the mediator will be sending iur agreement via email.in aweek for our review and then process it with court. We spent yesterday texting and argueing, screaming and threatening lawyers. This morning he relented did the 180* and said lets do.this right a...	Theoceancalls	12	933	Dec 6, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Self-care has been lacking (Preview) Since working this new job close to 5 months, I have been commuting 2 hours a day. This caused me to stop going to the gym and pack on about 25 pounds. I feel gross and that is affecting everything. I have been in a go to work, come home, and sit on my ass funk. Work is so so. It has issues but the crazy ER type of ch...	pinkchip	10	710	Dec 6, 2015 by Breakingfree
	what to do (Preview) Hi My husband is an alcoholic. We have been through many issues with this problem. It was so bad a few years ago that he lost his job and was not interested in anything except getting drunk. I finally gave him an ultimatum, either stop drinking and get a job or leave. He chose to get a job. He is now work...	notsureanymore	2	551	Dec 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 12-6 (Preview) C2C reading for December 6 speaks about anger. It points out that the feeling of anger did give us the illusion of power for a little while but that kind of false security always was short lived and then pain of the guilt and shame followedI must point out that when I worked my first 4th step I discovered t...	hotrod	3	555	Dec 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	do recovered alcoholics have trouble with sex (Preview) my husband has been clean and sober for 25 years. He claims our sex issues have always been a problem for him (ED, Low libido, other problems). Is that common with recovered alcoholics? Does the years of alcohol abuse ruin the way your body reacts and performs sexually. I don't know much about alcoholi...	GypsyGirl	4	523	Dec 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	Help friends! (Preview) XA just emailed me. Like a status update of his life and how some of his past caught up with him. Totally irrelevant to my life...part of me wants to reply and say sorry to hear, too bad on that, and congrats on another chip. I MUST NOT REPLY. My side of the street is quiet and life is calm. Grief is hard, but no...	OceanTide	16	803	Dec 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change reading 12-5 (Preview) C2C reading for December 5 is a powerful reading that points out the value of "gratitude." It suggests that many of us are so busy looking at the negative happenings of our lives that we neglect to look at what is good and rewarding these include our family, friends, children and furry crea...	hotrod	3	659	Dec 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	Happy Friday MIP Family & Road Trip (Preview) I just wanted to pause and tell each of you that I hope you have a great day! I also wanted to wish you each a peaceful and serene weekend! Some of you know that I took a risk, and went to the lake for a girls weekend with High School friends. Mind you, I've been out of High School for 35+ years, so it was a bit sc...	Iamhere	11	756	Dec 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	alcoholic distant (Preview) I am so grateful for this board. I feel I belong now and can so relate to all the stories. I have work to do on myself. I have been working on my 4th step and its been good, I have work to do on myself. My Abf by the grace of god is now going on 3 months sobriety. This is a man that could not stay sober for more than 3 da...	joker	5	665	Dec 6, 2015 by tiredtonite
	feeling out of sorts (Preview) Divirce papers should be ready in a week. Im feeling odd. I dont belong anywhere. Im staying at house until something is legally binding. . In about another week. I have everything moved but me, my clothes and wellmy daughter. Sges not helping. . Didnt expect she would. . Jyst not sure how to proceed on T...	Theoceancalls	2	457	Dec 5, 2015 by hotrod
	Not sure what to do or say (Preview) So my AH really wanted to come to my work holiday party. I would rather go on my own to be honest. I have always felt that way about work events. Anyway, he insisted so I am bringing him tonight. So this afternoon I was working from home. He has taken the afternoon off. I go into the kitchen after somet...	KT2015	7	579	Dec 5, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	He stopped drinking...doesn't seem to like me anymore (Preview) My AH stopped drinking 3 months ago. I'm proud of him for stopping (health reasons) but what a change in him. I know he's knew at sobriety, but on a typical day he comes home and goes to bed to watch Shark Tank. Every day. He rarely leaves the bedroom. We've only been married a few years and most of our free t...	OhioWriter	5	661	Dec 4, 2015 by ChipsAreFalling
	Our friend from Inja (Preview) make living with an alcoholic addict seem mind heh? Is the foreign spammer being put to boundary? I would do it and don't know how....I'm powerless.	Jerry F	4	425	Dec 4, 2015 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 12-4 (Preview) The C2C reading for December 4 speaks about "feelings". It points out that many of us make choices based on our" feelings," thinking, incorrectly that feelings are facts.For example, . If we're frightened about taking an action then we have avoided it. By so doing we leave n...	hotrod	7	632	Dec 4, 2015 by Yankeerose
	implosion (Preview) I tried. I really, really tried. But I could not be the better person. For most of my adult life, I have been determined not to be the one who blamed her parents for her shortcomings. And I still do not hold her responsible for my choices. I own those. Yet, when I cast an eye back, I didn't have too much of...	a4l	9	687	Dec 4, 2015 by Mirandac
	Newbie to Al-anon (Preview) Hi Everyone! I am new here and new to al-anon. Im not sure how to go about all this.. So I will start with telling a bit of my history. I have been married to a high functioning alcoholic for 25 years. He has a very good job and supports his family well. His drinking never affects his job. However, the m...	Mink	12	666	Dec 4, 2015 by milkwood
	I had to set the dreaded boundary (Preview) Thanksgiving weekend for AH was an epic bender that ended with me threatening to call the police if he came back to the house (from a day at the bars). He had been horrible and intoxicated since Tuesday and was now threatening to throw our house guests to the curb because my brother-in-law used AH's favo...	CoopsMom	4	772	Dec 3, 2015 by Iamhere
	Hopeful and detached from the outcome (Preview) Hello everyone, I had a conversation with my AH in which I told him basically that I was done. I would like him to get treatment, gave him the names and tel numbers of some good inpatient rehab detox centers and then said I hoped that he would go. I did not issue any ultimatum but told him the kids and I are a...	newleaf66	5	517	Dec 3, 2015 by Iamhere
	One Day at a Time and Courage to Change (Preview) It is that time of the year when reflection on our recovery tools is practiced. The readings for December 1 in both books for me is right on and brought a lot of gratitude I have for the program with memories of how it all started. If you have the readers I invite you to review the writings from our other m...	Jerry F	6	618	Dec 3, 2015 by newleaf66
	Courage to Change 12-3 (Preview) The C2C reading for December 3 speaks about meditation. The reading points out that Al-Anon does not tell us how to meditate but suggests that we can draw on the experiences of other Al-Anon members to find out what would work for us. It points out that some people practice meditation by remember...	hotrod	2	425	Dec 3, 2015 by Jerry F
	Angry and disgusted with self. Bleh. (Preview) I pulled my phone out in an AA meeting today. In this particular meeting, it's not unusual to see people doing this though in other meetings around town, I would not. Anyhow, this person new to the meeting with 30 days sober took it upon themselves to lecture me about it and then I overheard him going up to...	pinkchip	17	872	Dec 3, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Need to remember to stop forgetting. (Preview) ABF and I are getting along like a house on fire. It's super romantic and sweet. I love you SO much. I miss you. He comes to stay for maybe 5 days each month now and we are all over each other. And I have to be real and honest with myself; it's all of the good stuff and none of the bad. There is no reality; our relat...	missmeliss	4	564	Dec 3, 2015 by Mattie
	Finding strength (Preview) Hello, it's been awhile since I posted. My ah moved out in July and has been taking meds and seeing specialist and maybe has been sober two months this time. Before the holidays my family where all going to be in different places and I was going to run up to the mountains by myself. Then my ah and I were getti...	Helpangel	2	520	Dec 3, 2015 by hotrod
	Need help with boundries (Preview) hi there, I have been in al-anon for about 1 1/2 years. My qualifiers are many, but my most frustrating issue to deal with is setting boundaries with my addict son. My husband does not attend al-anon so he does not have the same insight as I do.... Thanks to al-anon. my addict son is clearly not working a pr...	Sallygcoe	5	639	Dec 3, 2015 by Iamhere
	fighting with an alcoholic (Preview) um. Yeah... My ex Abf of 4 years decided to start AA. Stopped drinking. We had moved in together in August. Deep breaths here, lol. Ended badly this week. As it goes, he slowly stopped meetings due to his work schedule and started telling me he wasn't an A and didn't want to go to meetings and this 90 days t...	giraffe13	13	956	Dec 2, 2015 by texas yankee
	Have to get it out I messed up (Preview) I found out today that my ABF has been checking to see if I am where I say I am. As far as I know he has never done that before. I have never given him a reason to think I might lie. The only thing I can think is he thinks I'm seeing someone else. However that is not the case I am very much in love with my boyfriend....	ItsAllAboutMeMC	3	550	Dec 2, 2015 by OceanTide
	Courage to Change 12 -2 (Preview) The C2C reading for 12- 2 speaks about the slogan "Let it begin with me" It points out that instead of spending time blaming, judging, critiquing others, we could turn our attention and focus back on to ourselves and see what in me needs changing. That by changing ourselves we truly...	hotrod	3	626	Dec 2, 2015 by hotrod
	Me problems (Preview) I do have many atutile problems and bad behavior patterns left without any trust after several relationship breakups,I know it's got to be me not all them,I love the man I'm with now but he has his issues ,but my idea of a relationship should be ,isn't what I get I'm thinking a knight in shineing armor,ha...	lookingup	1	460	Dec 2, 2015 by hotrod
	Letting go.....of who your A used to be but isn't anymore (Preview) On Sunday, at church the pastor preached on "Hope". Hope is such a wonderful, uplifting concept. But is hope sometime just a fantasy created by me? I realized that hope; my hope, my wish, my desire, my fantasy that my A will stop being an A, and will somehow turn back into that sweet, gentle...	lgnutah	7	836	Dec 2, 2015 by giraffe13
	sober and at times irritating (Preview) I haven't posted here for a very long time. Today I'm working hard to stay calm and let go of small resentments. The A has been sober for a couple of years for which I'm super grateful. Without a program his old ways pop up now and then especially at his former "down time" 5 oclock! ...	wp	3	457	Dec 2, 2015 by Jill
	Grief, f2f meeting, and counting days (Preview) I was awakened this morning by my mother calling. She almost never calls and she has recently been having some health issues, so my first thought was that something had happened to her and her husband was using her phone to let me know. (I like him, but he wasn't the man who raised me, so feel a little weird...	AnnM	8	631	Dec 2, 2015 by AnnM
	Wanting a change (Preview) I regularly attended alanon years ago. Besides reading here regularly, I am considering attending local meetings again. I have been with my husband for 30 years. He has been an active drinker for as long as I have known him and I learned detachment a long time ago. In the past year he has developed quite...	marie57	4	463	Dec 1, 2015 by tiredtonite
	approaching visit. (Preview) So my mother is coming to visit from overseas. She asked if that will be alright, and that she misses us. I have already said I'm not going to discuss family, men and a few other things. But I was happy to talk about kids, outsiders, work and life in general. I feel sad though. Its funny when you redefine a re...	a4l	8	735	Dec 1, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Having a hard day (Preview) I have been overwhelmed with anxiety today. I'm trying very hard to clear my head and breath but its hard. Being in love with an addict is a heavy thing. It does not help that I am not well enough to know how to deal with this and the uncertainty in my life. I know I have to give it over to my HP but sometimes the t...	ItsAllAboutMeMC	1	375	Dec 1, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Having a hard time letting go of blame (Preview) I thought I was doing good! I thought I used my tools well last week after my dog was killed. However I have realized I am still blaming both myself and my AH for what happened. I had to make a choice that day, go to the grocery store which would have taken me maybe an hour...or go see my mother who I had not seen...	Broken513	13	841	Dec 1, 2015 by Yankeerose
	White Chip (Preview) I attended an AA meeting with my husband last night where he picked up his second white chip. His first was last year about this time and he was sober for 3 months before he relapsed. This last period of drinking had progressed very quickly. For the first time in our marriage A became a serious problem. I s...	Kate19	4	587	Dec 1, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Trying to get him out of the house.... (Preview) Here we go back on the merrygoround again.....I know advice is not usually given on these boards but I was just wodering if anyone has any experience having a spouse removed from the home without having them arrested or a restraining order which is permanent. I moved out with my two girls a year ago due t...	Hopefull15	2	573	Dec 1, 2015 by Jerry F
	Hope for Today dec 1 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is about the sometimes difficult concept of detachment with love. Just as the writer acknowledged, when I first came into the program I also thought about detachment as cold, uncaring, the opposite of love. As I have worked my own recovery and understood mor...	yanksfan51	4	541	Dec 1, 2015 by Jerry F
	bad day today (Preview) So my ah has been sober for about 2 weeks. Today he exploded on me....which I was able to use my boundaries and remove myself from the situation. Well he ended up going out and I am pretty sure he went to the liquor store and bought himself something to drink. Hes home now and being distant which I'm letti...	cspwil	4	642	Nov 30, 2015 by Jerry F
	My argueing (Preview) I'm finding myself picking arguments with my mate or ab,he don't drink very much anymore since he has gotten some health issues but as I was thinking it was all him my sister pointed out to me that my ab can't do nothing right that I don't fuss on him everyday ,I've since caught myself doing this very thing...	lookingup	3	611	Nov 30, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	SAHM and Homeschoolingmom with Alcoholic husband (Preview) I don't know what to do or where to turn anymore. I am a mother of 3 little girls and another one on the way. I home school my children and do not work. My husband of 7 years is an alcoholic mostly at night during weekdays and starts drinking in the noon on weekends, maybe once in a while he will have a day here...	Smama	5	611	Nov 30, 2015 by Smama
	Putting it out to the universe (Preview) I thought I would put a message out to the universe to get it off my chest and to HP. From there it is not mine anymore... Dear XABF, I was thinking of you and I hope you got your three-month chip today. I know 2015 has been a challenging year, but I hope you are gaining ground. I know you have struggled and I kno...	OceanTide	2	457	Nov 30, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
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