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I've been fixed....
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By one of our members more astute that I at computer savy name restored to Jerry F...whew!! Only one reflection in the mirror again....Big Mahalo (((((hugs)))))
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Jerry F
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Dialing it back.
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I've been tearing my hair out worrying at something and it finally dawned on me to have a look at it with the diagnostic section of my al-anon tool kit. Glad I remembered that I have it! See, I have taken on a reasonably hefty study load for the coming months. I've just started 2 new online subjects (I can co...
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missmeliss
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Courage to Change Reading 12-13
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C2C reading for December 13 points out that Al-Anon helps us to balance our lives as if we are a riding on a bicycle. When using the alanon tools we are able to carry vitality into everyday because we learn to do this by : applying the. steps and slogans to various situations ." Live and let live...
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hotrod
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spouse's drinking buddies have returned
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When I heard the news that my spouse's drinking buddies, a couple, have moved back from CA., I have to be honest and admit it did sting for about 5 minutes. And then I realized that those people did not cause my spouse's lying, sneaking, and dangerous driving. Furthermore, from my alanon toolbox come...
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Lyne
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New to the program - hurting hard
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My partner has struggled with addiction the entire 13 years we've been together. We've always made it through each "episode" together, quite worse for wear but learning more each time. I'm afraid this one is going to break us, and I'm desperate for it to not break me in the process. I've onl...
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itsjustmenow
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Courage to Change reading 12-12
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The C2C reading for December 12 speaks about having a" closed mind." It states that when we first come into program, we bring this attitude to meetings , think we know it all and no one can tell us anything, and consequently we don't hear the powerful message of the program and are not teachab...
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hotrod
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Mom relapsed
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I'm the 20 year old daughter of an alcoholic mother.She has been an alcoholic my entire life, and lost custody of my brother and I as a kids. My 50 year old mother tried to kill herself a year ago and then was in rehab for several months and did GREAT. It was like meeting a new version of my mother I'd never s...
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HappySad
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Am I home now?
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I had to get back home quick and in the process had to change some of my looks and sounds...Now Jerry Eff (lol) because the puter that Jerry F was using and buried in died very quietly and left me wondering how could I get back home now. Frustrating to have to reset everything back up again cause the old me is...
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Jerry Eff
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Pressing problem
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My ABF got a call early this morning that his cousin had a manic break at his friends and to please come help. I have work this morning but I told him if he needs me I will come with him. He said he was not sure that was upto me. I'm learning not to give help unless asked but I can't help but feel uneasy about not go...
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ItsAllAboutMeMC
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Real Growth and Change
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As I have plodded along on my journey trying to grasp and understand myself, I realize that the pain subsides and I emerge from the darkness with a knowledge that I can trust myself to make decisions. I was shopping the other day and I needed some items for my home, I wasn't sure which would work best so I...
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mjferg
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I stayed out of the rabbit hole!
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So often my AH starts a conversation with me about work, or family, or some friend of mine that he doesn't care for and while it starts out pleasant and normal there is always this weird twist where he starts to get defensive and wants me to agree with whatever his point is "Your boss has to stop treat...
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newleaf66
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sharing positive encouragement
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I realize I haven't shared in a while, I have been studying for finals and writing essays and papers. My brain feels like jelly , this semester has been a rough one, but I have made it. My grades are good. I am amazed I was able to function this semester with the amount of stress I have had. After the death of m...
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mjferg
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New-How Do I Give Up Resentments?
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My wife is a recovering alcoholic. She's over one year sober and I'm very proud of her, but I'm pissed at how she "recovers". During her downfall into complete alcoholism I picked up a lot of the slack with our 3 kids. I maintained the house, cooked dinner, drove them to sports, worked my full...
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aplcr0331
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Need clarification
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Can someone explain to me what place principles before personality mean. I just do not understand what this saying means.
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joker
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wavering and scared with a 2 year old
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Hello, I have tried to exist in the same household and support the alcoholic father of my child for awhile now but he just simply isn't doing what he should do to get his own treatment. He has supposedly 'stopped' drinking but I catch him slip up here and there and his mental condition after doing so is ver...
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aetemp
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confused
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I keep getting myself into relationship problems. Just when things are finally making progress with my current bf, him being sober for 3 months, an ex will show up from the dark and my old feelings that I had buried comes rushing back. This has got to do with my first husband. We were together for 2 years a...
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joker
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Courage to Change 12-11
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The C2C reading for December 11 speaks about being sure that all our problems would be solved if we had enough money. The reading goes on to say that the truth is that money would not take away the effects that alcoholism has had on my family, nor would it make a drinker sober. It is important to look at wh...
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hotrod
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Let Go Let God
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"I'm freaking out jonsin like h***l" was the text I received 20 minutes before leaving work..I took a deep breath and sent him the number to a NA friend..I dunno.. Thanks to this program I was able to detach..and just send program information instead of racing out of the office and driving f...
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ceewi
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BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!!!
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FOUND A APARTMENT AND AM MOVING THERE IN LESS THAN A WEEK. ITS A BIT MORE MONEY THAN I PLANNED BUT ITS PERFECT. RIGHT ON 2 BUSLINES,TWOO BLOCKS FROM EVERY MARKET 24 HR DRUG STORE ,MY BANK AND TONS OF FAST FOOD/STORES. 1 NICE SIZE BEDROOM PLACE,GROUND FLOOR IN SMALL HOMEY BUILDING WITH SMALL POOL!!! HERE...
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YARNCRAZY
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Close call today - I ALMOST reacted - but I ended up responding
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I got a text from my son today that he had to move - again - he had been living in a normal, residential house with two other guys - they got along fine and all seemed good - unfortunately, the owner of the house (the Mother of one of the guys), has decided to sell the house - and they need to be out by the 1st - I sus...
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texas yankee
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Starting to feel compassion for AH
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So after I called a program friend for the first time she said a few things to try to help me feel compassionate towards my AH. She offered up the visual of wrapping him in a blanket and offering him up to HP because I can't manage him anymore (truth is I never could). Even though my first image was me wrapp...
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KT2015
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Surprise!!
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December 9th meeting of Wednesday Night Turning Point AFG...our home group and had no idea what would happen or who would show up...Yowzers!! My deceased mother's birthday is December 9th and when I sat down looking at one of the pages of the day it hit me...all of it...pre-recovery and post. My h...
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Jerry F
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Courage to Change 12-10
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C2C reading for December 10 speaks about beginning days in working the program , when . we discover that we are so focused on others, that we are not able to see where they leave off that we begin. We have truly lost our sense of what is appropriate and cannot distinguish between acceptable and unacce...
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hotrod
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New to the group
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Hello Everyone, I am new to this group. Let me tell you a little about myself. I am married, have two children and I am a substance abuse counselor and a psychologist. I am here today because my son is in the Army National Guard and came home from his last deployment with a drinking problem that has escalat...
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Armymom
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Balancing act
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No two addicts are the same..they can both use the same drug and have different reactions. Last night mine told me he needed to go to rehab..I was really stunned because I had no idea he was still using..I mean how many meth addicts eat and sleep lol I told him I loved him, but hated his disease and would sti...
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ceewi
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A realisation of the cunningness of alcoholism
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The last few days I've had a realization of what i've read others refer to as the cunningness of alcoholism. My partner is returning in a few days from rehab after 5 months. In the last couple of weeks he has ditched his aa and na meetings and now says he doesn't want to go to them when he is out as they depre...
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Carmel 15
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Need to talk
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So, it's been a while since I've been on here, but a background: my partner is an alcoholic, he quit drinking in May but was never really sober, more abstained from alcohol. In September, he started drinking again, stopped for a month, drank in October, stopped for a month, and went full on back to "...
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Kab915
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New to group - pains of a daughter
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Instead of spending another sleepless night of tossing and turning I thought I would finally face my reality head on and accept this pain in my heart. To be able to talk to people who understand the pain and maybe have suggestions to help get through these dark days. The story... I was born to an alcoholi...
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LonelyDaughter
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How do I stay out of denial but still lovingly detached
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Hi All, So I am struggling a bit and would appreciate anyone sharing their experience in this area. For a long time I was in denial about my AHs drinking. It seemed like my AH was very different in different situations and behaved differently and I couldn't predict it but I never associated it with h...
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KT2015
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Courage 2 Change 12-9
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C2C reading for December 9 speaks about Tradition 11. This powerful Traditional emphasizes the fact that our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion. The reading goes on to point out that this Tradition reinforces the idea that Al-Anon believes that people arrive at...
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hotrod
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briefly one day at a time reader Dec 8
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I just want to point out that my only local Alanon meeting is guilty of just talking about the events of the day & sometimes even gossip. We have times when it seems like Alanon is not spoken there. Maybe we struggle so much because we are a small group & several newcomers. I just hope that we can ge...
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Hoot Nanny
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tonight. .
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Sleep just wont come tonight im consumed with worry and so many feelings i cant name. I want to and have told my daughter we are moving outfriday. She says NO. For me it means doing an overnight then coming back.here to get the dresser and rest of clothes on saturday when husb is with daughter. .If he and sh...
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Theoceancalls
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Hope for today dec 8
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Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about turning away from resentments and toward compassion. In my pre-alanon life I confused compassion with feeling badly for someone and excusing unacceptable behavior. That was an excellent way to set up for feelings of resentment! I am thinking now...
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yanksfan51
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New on here, first post
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I don't know where else to go. I'm sorry if this is not right. My father was a serious drinker, and when he joined AA my mum joined al-anon. I was a teenager and didn't want to get involved in any place to help myself, and I guess that's how I ended up like this. I started talking to a guy online a couple weeks...
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SusieQ314
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SO MUCH PAIN. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT
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New on here so much pain, so much pain. I feel it is consuming me, and all my life, all my joy, and nothing to live for.
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mothernpain14
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One week in and AH starting to slide...
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Hi everyone, One week into sobriety and I am seeing the same old slow slide back. I was amazed after 3 days that the snoring stopped. This was a chronic issue whenever AH drank which was often. My room was almost TOO quiet for sleep! Last night - snoring again - AH admitted to an "O'Doul's"...
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newleaf66
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Not sure if Al Anon is for me
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I'm a very happy person with a very optimistic outlook on life. I appreciate and am grateful for all the wonderful things life has to offer. I have no resentments and don't blame other people for things that happen in my life.
I've been in a rocky relationship with a recovering alcoholic for a year. He h...
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Sus
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sick to my stomach
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Its been a few weeks without any explosive incidents. Until last night. My abf has a child with someone he had a very brief fling with....a week. She is a convicted felon, drug addict. She has harassed me to no end, and harasses him as well. When he dropped off his child they had words, and as usual he start...
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lisad67
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Anxiety
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Off and on I have problems with anxiety. It started with the death of my AH boyfriend several years ago. I was put on medication a benzo and now my doctor wants me to get off of it. I deal with an AH sister and her abusiveness. I've had injuries that triggered it. When it happens I don't want to get out...
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Cindy1954
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It's been awhile! Update.....
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I am two weeks from graduating from nursing school! I have two exams, two care plans and two big papers left and if I pass them all I graduate December 18th. I really am working my hindend off to make this happen and am still struggling to get the good grades I need. I'm passing as of now and really just want t...
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Breakingfree
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Proud of my husband
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My husband has been sober now since June. We went away this weekend just the two of us without kids as I had a business trip and he joined me for part of the time. I really didn't know how this was going to go without the kids, spending all of our time with each other and no drinking. I will say that it was fan...
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Jazzie18
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I guess "more was revealed"/HP
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I've been attending Al-anon pretty regularly for almost a year (still haven't gotten a sponsor or shared much). My main struggle has been the idea of a HP. I grew up around a lot of religion, not necessarily spirituality - I believe there is a BIG difference. The idea of the God I grew up with in many ways i...
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ChipsAreFalling
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Update- Step 12
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I love all of the updates I'm seeing from over this weekend. It inspires me to share as well. I can't believe where I am in my journey right now. Five years ago I was feeling lost and hopeless- only going to Al-Anon meetings kept me from giving up. My how things have changed. I just returned from a weekend re...
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Green Eyes
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Courage to Change 12 -7
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C2C reading for December 7 speaks about learning to be truly "good to ourselves". The reading points out that, prior to program, we may have thought being good to ourselves meant that we could eat what we wanted, buy everything we wanted to, sleep only a few hours and avoid anything that was...
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hotrod
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It has been a year and we aren't through it yet!
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Roller coaster doesn't cover it however learning to let go of the handle and throw my arms in the air while riding it .. priceless. The ups and downs aren't so fearful or adrenaline inducing which is a good thing. I had already eluded to the fact that no one could have told me a year ago I would be sitting i...
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SerenityRUS
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husbands lack of boundaries
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My husband 29 years sober, was involved professionally with a women for 6 months, she treated me horribly, and treated hubby, well exceptionally nice. Lets just say her marketing skills were what most prostitutes use to mark them selves, and she is a professional landscape architect..... We had a...
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cleoleo 12
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bitter sweet sad relief
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Well. . 17 years. .2 div mediation sessions and the mediator will be sending iur agreement via email.in aweek for our review and then process it with court. We spent yesterday texting and argueing, screaming and threatening lawyers. This morning he relented did the 180* and said lets do.this right a...
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Theoceancalls
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Self-care has been lacking
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Since working this new job close to 5 months, I have been commuting 2 hours a day. This caused me to stop going to the gym and pack on about 25 pounds. I feel gross and that is affecting everything. I have been in a go to work, come home, and sit on my ass funk. Work is so so. It has issues but the crazy ER type of ch...
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pinkchip
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what to do
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Hi My husband is an alcoholic. We have been through many issues with this problem. It was so bad a few years ago that he lost his job and was not interested in anything except getting drunk. I finally gave him an ultimatum, either stop drinking and get a job or leave. He chose to get a job. He is now work...
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notsureanymore
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Courage to Change 12-6
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C2C reading for December 6 speaks about anger. It points out that the feeling of anger did give us the illusion of power for a little while but that kind of false security always was short lived and then pain of the guilt and shame followedI must point out that when I worked my first 4th step I discovered t...
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hotrod
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do recovered alcoholics have trouble with sex
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my husband has been clean and sober for 25 years. He claims our sex issues have always been a problem for him (ED, Low libido, other problems). Is that common with recovered alcoholics? Does the years of alcohol abuse ruin the way your body reacts and performs sexually. I don't know much about alcoholi...
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GypsyGirl
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Help friends!
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XA just emailed me. Like a status update of his life and how some of his past caught up with him. Totally irrelevant to my life...part of me wants to reply and say sorry to hear, too bad on that, and congrats on another chip. I MUST NOT REPLY. My side of the street is quiet and life is calm. Grief is hard, but no...
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OceanTide
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Courage to Change reading 12-5
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C2C reading for December 5 is a powerful reading that points out the value of "gratitude." It suggests that many of us are so busy looking at the negative happenings of our lives that we neglect to look at what is good and rewarding these include our family, friends, children and furry crea...
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hotrod
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Happy Friday MIP Family & Road Trip
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I just wanted to pause and tell each of you that I hope you have a great day! I also wanted to wish you each a peaceful and serene weekend! Some of you know that I took a risk, and went to the lake for a girls weekend with High School friends. Mind you, I've been out of High School for 35+ years, so it was a bit sc...
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Iamhere
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alcoholic distant
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I am so grateful for this board. I feel I belong now and can so relate to all the stories. I have work to do on myself. I have been working on my 4th step and its been good, I have work to do on myself. My Abf by the grace of god is now going on 3 months sobriety. This is a man that could not stay sober for more than 3 da...
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joker
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feeling out of sorts
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Divirce papers should be ready in a week. Im feeling odd. I dont belong anywhere. Im staying at house until something is legally binding. . In about another week. I have everything moved but me, my clothes and wellmy daughter. Sges not helping. . Didnt expect she would. . Jyst not sure how to proceed on T...
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Theoceancalls
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Not sure what to do or say
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So my AH really wanted to come to my work holiday party. I would rather go on my own to be honest. I have always felt that way about work events. Anyway, he insisted so I am bringing him tonight. So this afternoon I was working from home. He has taken the afternoon off. I go into the kitchen after somet...
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KT2015
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He stopped drinking...doesn't seem to like me anymore
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My AH stopped drinking 3 months ago. I'm proud of him for stopping (health reasons) but what a change in him. I know he's knew at sobriety, but on a typical day he comes home and goes to bed to watch Shark Tank. Every day. He rarely leaves the bedroom. We've only been married a few years and most of our free t...
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OhioWriter
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Our friend from Inja
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make living with an alcoholic addict seem mind heh? Is the foreign spammer being put to boundary? I would do it and don't know how....I'm powerless.
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Jerry F
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Courage to Change 12-4
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The C2C reading for December 4 speaks about "feelings". It points out that many of us make choices based on our" feelings," thinking, incorrectly that feelings are facts.For example, . If we're frightened about taking an action then we have avoided it. By so doing we leave n...
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hotrod
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