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Heisenberg · Heisenberg

Had a really tough day today with my ex. I've been out of the house for about 3 weeks, and she has really been working on staying sober (and she has) and attending more meetings and using her support system, which is great. She has been holding out hope that I will "try to make it work" with her af...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Which is causing me BIG issues as far as acting out. I have actually been REALLY good considering what has been going on. I am currently dealing with a work situation that involves someone I really like as a person however as a co-worker they are completely toxic. I don't use that term lightly. This w...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 17 speaks about our interactions with the alcoholic and how irrational and unreasonable, we can become. It points out that because of the built up anxiety and irrational fear generated within us by living with this disease, many times we are the ones who act out, and ru...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 16 speaks about "reacting" to situations. It points out that when a thought enters our mind we often feel that we automatically MUST speak kit. I know I though T that I had a very powerful mind as I could react instantly to any argument or situation without think...

Themoon · Themoon

can someone offer suggestions on how to stay connected with an alcoholic when they don't want to talk? i still worry.

Fairlee · Fairlee

Hi Fam! I have been here reading but haven't responded in a while. I was feeling incredibly sorry for myself and had myself in a lovely, (not really) deep hole of despair. thankfully I feel as if I am climbing back out. I have been reading my Al Anon literature and lately "giving back" has real...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Life is not all sunny here. About 2xs a week I have these meltdowns. I get anxious,depressed,cry alot and generally have a pity party. Last night I had a big meltdown. Ihad been looking at 30+ yrs of my diaries. I realized that I keep ending up in the same types of relationships. I keep making similar mist...

joker · joker

I was to meet with a lawyer regarding my house situation but I have been to sick to do it. Found out I have another infection raging in my stomach and I am now back on another dose of antibiotics and I am in pain and very, very tired. I am to see an internal specialist tomorrow as they found something in my urin...

Jerry F · Jerry F

That is what my mind came up with last evening as I sought sleep and didn't get it right away. Why not? I am inundated with the negativity I was born into within my alcoholic/addict family. I remember my earliest thought being "I don't want to be here" and that was just before the doctor sl...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 15 talks about the slogan,"One Day at a Time. It suggests that in spite of our fear and anxiety we don't know what tomorrow may bring. . Leaping into the future by projecting negatively is a very destructive habit . This is is a tool that many of us have tried bec...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 1 has been posted to the Step Work Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Please join in and share your thoughts. You will have to re register on t...

Bethany66 · Bethany66

I attended my weekly F2F Al-Anon meeting today and someone who shared touched on an Al-Anon book they were reading that dealt with loss. The person sharing has recently lost their spouse to alcoholism, but the sharer said that in the book on loss they speak of how the feelings of grief and loss begin fa...

chchsteak · chchsteak

so I know this sounds crazy but people have commented on it so like at work the boss was like the ...(main task) girl has a great attitude is a great worker but is always ranting. I swear she was talking about me since I know I am the only one who does that task and I do have those two good qualities. And so somet...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 14 speaks about being powerless over alcoholism. It points out that others in the fellowship have tried and failed as well so that as we look around we will see that they are happy and willing to accept this reality. By letting go of the battle that we are sure to lose, we b...

LinSC · LinSC

I didnt have any shoes and I was always complaining about not having shoes, until I met someone who had no feet! If you can be grateful, you will find the secret of happiness. Try it. Linsc

hotrod · hotrod

Hi I printed the wrong reading from the C2C for today as I loked yesterday's page by mistake I am sorry. The C2C reading for January 13 talk about spiritual freedom, and Al-Anon. It suggests that we are encouraged to find our own understanding of God and to allow others the same freedom because until we...

Marie18 · Marie18

I am an adult child of an alcoholic (now recovering) and am in a 4yr relationship with an alcoholic. I tagged in in a previous post but I am starting a new topic on my own to get all the help I can. I am planning on attending Al-Anon meetings here in my area and online as of this morning. I have watched my AB st...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Here I am in situation that I have no or little control of. I am in the middle looking out. My group us changing the day we meet. Not a problem looking from the outside. But I wasn't informed of a permanent change. I guess I can meet on a different day. I have been praying about going to something else but I kno...

joker · joker

I have been reading about detachment on the board here and its helping me so much. I had a good laugh today, the first one in awhile. Talked to ABF this morning and he has "another plan-buy oil stalks." This time, I responded with that is a good idea and went on to talk about something else. I did...

Debb · Debb

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 12 speaks about the wonderful tool of "Detachment".It offers a profound example of "detachment": for me to think about . It suggests picturing a person walking along and seeing an active beehive buzzing intently/ If the person stops and p...

ItsAllAboutMeMC · ItsAllAboutMeMC

I just got back last week from my holiday with my family back east. It was very nice to have time with both my mom and my sister. I came back hoping for some sort of breakthrough as to if I want to stay with my ABF or not. Needless to say no answers where clear. What is clear is that on returning from our time apar...

bud · bud

It's been a while since I've logged on, but am always grateful for my MIP family. I'm still having difficulty extricating myself from my AexH and his AW and am wondering if someone can direct me where to go for help in my community. For those that don't know me, I've been divorced since 2006, but get dra...

NayNay · NayNay

Last January I came here and posted when I realized my ABF was drinking again. I posted once, and I lurked in the shadows from that point on reading occasionally. I'm not sure if I wasn't ready to face the addiction issue head on, or if I wasn't ready to take on the work I needed to do in myself, maybe a little...

joker · joker

I just had an ahh moment. My alcoholic Bf is playing me a like puppet. He says this and I say that, he says this, and i react with oh what about me, he say this and I go what about me, and then I says I hates his life here, and all I do is work, work and blaa, and I react with words of feeling sorry for him and wanting...

lgnutah · lgnutah

A few days ago my A made some really bad decisions (so what else is new?) which resulted in a very dangerous situation where she could have been seriously victimized or even killed. Actually, for a couple days before this, I knew she was moving into dangerous territory (it starts with binging, then s...

Mylife16 · Mylife16

I am brand new to al Anon have only been to two meeting go to my third tomorrow. My boyfriend is in AA and recently lost three people within the last week. Two he knew the third he knew a little better. He is not handling it like a normal sober person does I guess. what I don't understand is that he hasnt spoken...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today's reading begins with the personification of alcoholism- as a thief. It is such a powerful image- a force that has the ability to rob us of the people we love, take physical safety from us, jobs. It may even steal someone's life. We have hope and faith that there is anoth...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 10th speaks about the many hours we have sacrificed living in worry and fear. The reading points out that once we open the Pandora's box of worry and relentless self-criticism, the more we lose our foothold in reality. Then nothing useful can be accomplished.In order to br...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

got up today with stuff i need to do but feel anxious. i have suffered from anxiety,panic attacks,agoraphobia since i was 17,im 58 now. since then i am on my own, i have to deal with this. I sometimes revert to these old tapes of feeling im imposing on people or im not good enough. like i have to leave for 4hr...

ShellyM · ShellyM

So I turned off the magic $$$ supply for my husband...who is mostly sober, but as of late, not always. He has cirrhosis/end stage liver disease. He is not able to work. When I turned off the money fountain, which was big deal he had no money no job I have money and good job.. he decided to start selling expen...

joker · joker

Just wanted to provide an update. Since the abf had the talk with me last week, he seems to have changed his tune again. Yesterday, he said to me, don't worry about anything, everything is good. I just said ok and did not respond any further. Since we had the talk and he did says me and my daughter should fin...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 11 speaks about joining Al-Anon family groups and by dong so having finally" found a second family". In his new family we are accepted, just as we are. We don't have to pretend or wear a mask over our feelings. We can speak freely and know that our words will not lea...

Taraxacum · Taraxacum

Hello, I'm new to this group and just starting my alanon journey. Thank you for helping me sift through my thoughts and feelings. My husband is an alcoholic and though he has been dry for long stretches he has a lot of denial and does not want any kind of formal treatment or support in staying sober long te...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am proof that miracles happen. I was so lost & didn't even know it. Whenever I use the program for solutions to my problems, I am in tune to the blessings that often occur w o me always being aware. It is funny how all I have to do is open my eyes to see what is in front of me. So, I don't have to struggle as mu...

joker · joker

I found a lawyer for the house. I will be making an appointment next week to deal with the house. I will be doing what I can to protect me right now. I will be nice to BF, kind, but I will no longer be there for him anymore. Like I was told, let lawyer know, he had given you a lifestyle and money, which he deposit...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

You know I keep thinking I wonder if I'm going to win this mondo jackpot that is brewing based upon the financial craziness that is going on in my life. It's not awful .. it's not great however it could always be better. So I was suppose to get an automatic deposit to my checking account this week. For so...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This has been a week to remember after both of my program friends have had surgery on the same day. They are both recovering pretty well...It takes time. One had cataract surgery & the other had a hysterectomy. I am grateful to call them both friends & I love them dearly. So, I have to wait for my c...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

today, i think i stretched the technique of 'say what u mean and mean what u say' . Guypal is coming over and i was real shoert with him and im going to apologize as soon as he gets here. Not to get too detailed, being stronger now makes me brutally honest, more so than i ever was. I see my value[ despite my prob...

clhiod · clhiod

Hi everyone. I have been dating an alcoholic for five years, living together for about a year and a half. He went to rehab briefly in 2013 - only ten days. Got a DUI in fall of 2014 and spent December 2014 in rehab. For 2015, he was completely sober. Attended AA and a separate therapist, and everything was g...

joker · joker

My abf is still sober, 3 months and not working a program as he works in camp and all he does is work and sleep for up to 3 weeks at a time and then off work for 3 days and then back at work again. Since he got sober, its been a roller coaster. One day he has this plan, next day its this plan, and this plan. It constan...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 9. talk about our usual habit of looking outside of ourselves for approval. It points out that our projects may be very successful.but we do not feel good about anything unless it is acknowledged by others. It suggests that everyone does need an occasional pat on the ba...

Jerry F · Jerry F

However just for the day I am putting myself on a prayer list as necessary. The hotel my wife and I work at is closing shop at the end of the month and for the minute we don't have an idea "what's next"?? Its too early I know as we are still in the hotel mode and affected by the bad economy too. H...

missmeliss · missmeliss

My stupid broken foot is becoming a depressing reality rather than a novel reason to say"OMG can you believe this annoying thing that's happened?". I missed my first week of summer school due to not being able to walk. I'm less than thrilled about that. I haven't yet allowed myself to cons...

savannah7070 · savannah7070

So, I moved myself and my two daughters out of our home 4 weeks ago and peace beyond all understanding came rushing over the 3 of us! That was until my AH decided to dry out and sober up. When he is sober he is spot on husband and father whom I dearly love! But, now that he's been sober without the help of AA for 2...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

im in my apartment and except for some bugs[roaches to work out.its pretty cool.i breathe smoke fee potfree vodka free air. i can do what i want and only answer to myself.alot of details need to be taken care of but YEAH for me.alanon meeting only 10 mins by bus on same line away.i even met a pre marriage fr...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

I had a super day today. Went for job interview at place i want to work, just 5 mins away. Cross your fingers for me pals... Did grocery shopping,came home on bus. listened to some awesome tunes. did some couponing. waiting to see if new male friend hee hee calls. Im going to make dinner for him tomorow nit...

sosick79 · sosick79

Let me first start by saying that I have just created an account to ask for help because I am so ashamed of what I have done that I don't want to tell my sponsor. I am actually in NarAnon, but there is no NarAnon board here, so I hope this is ok. The steps are the same, so I figure maybe you can offer some advice...

needabreak · needabreak

Hi Everyone, I have gotten to the point where I just need to find a sponsor and work the program. I don't know if this is possible online. I have tried to go to meetings in my area (there are only 2 a week) but I can't find the location of one of them and I am not getting enough support where I am at. I had a sponso...

LaceyD26 · LaceyD26

Hi everyone, as you can see from the subject I'm new here and just starting out on my journey to try and help myself after all the problems I have had in dealing with my mother since a young age. I guess I just need to know that I'm not the only one out there dealing with these issues and I'm hoping to be able t...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 8 speaks about the slogan,"Letting Go and Letting God. " It points out that once we finally understand how truly powerless,we are, we can then pick up the slogan and truly let go of our fear, anxiety, and constant need to control by turning it all over to HP and...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 7, speaks about the Just For Today pamphlet. . It points out that the suggestion that "Just for today we will have a quiet half hour all by ourselves to relax, is a very important recommendation. The reading acknowledges " How simple it sounds"!!! &quo...

Hopefully Optimistic · Hopefully Optimistic

I used to have an account here, but lost the password so I started a new one. My husband is an active functioning alcoholic and we have 3 young children. He has been active with a 2 year stretch of sobriety almost 8 years ago. I call him functioning because no one can tell he's an alcoholic, it is always i...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

To begin, I have been married for over 20 years to a very serious AH. He had one (dry) period of 6 months several years ago and has been "sober" for the last nine months (working the program for the first time). He and I had become quite the love/hate relationship with a few weeks of half way d...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

As I was reading another post today, I saw a statement about having the courage to face the things we have been hiding away. (This is not an exact quote). For me, I find that secrets are like a a slow spreading poison. They damage everyone and I don't do well with them. My biggest issue is that I don't ofte...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

This is.the most access/time Ive had to post on here and to take in all of the wonderful shares and suggestions. Ive eluded in previous posts that my AH and I are waring over money right now. He's lost several jobs in a very short timespan leaving me to struggle to keep things afloat for our family of 4. He'...

Jill · Jill

Whoever was the focus of my obsessions and frantic dancing to manipulate the outcome does not matter. I arrived at AlAnon completely in the middle of my own maladaptive behavior. My formula was to try harder doing and thinking my ineffectual way. It is I who needed help here. I am my own AlAnon qualifi...

ChipsAreFalling · ChipsAreFalling

I posted this on another forum but wanted your ESH as well. This is so hard for me to do! My AH is trying to get sober again (supposedly) and is on day 6 I think. I'm somewhat skeptical obviously but trying to support him. My problem is the jerky behavior is still an issue - another shut-down just happened th...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

Just had a revelation....When thinking back on the timeline of just the most recent events of deterioration in my family (not including what has transpired over the years in total)...Im am absolutly blown away at what felt like an eternity was really only events that transpired over a 12 month perio...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So im moving out tomorrow . . My stbexah cheated multiple times over many years. Is begging for forgivenes, bla bla and saying he will change. We are proceeding with the divorce. My 11 yp daughter the love if my life blames me. "why cant you forgive. . What did he do. . ". . Shes knows of his drink...

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	Struggling with Alcoholic Ex (Preview) Had a really tough day today with my ex. I've been out of the house for about 3 weeks, and she has really been working on staying sober (and she has) and attending more meetings and using her support system, which is great. She has been holding out hope that I will "try to make it work" with her af...	Heisenberg	8	880	Jan 17, 2016 by Fairlee
	A little frustrated at the moment (Preview) Which is causing me BIG issues as far as acting out. I have actually been REALLY good considering what has been going on. I am currently dealing with a work situation that involves someone I really like as a person however as a co-worker they are completely toxic. I don't use that term lightly. This w...	SerenityRUS	5	817	Jan 17, 2016 by Fairlee
	Courage to Change Reading 1-17-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 17 speaks about our interactions with the alcoholic and how irrational and unreasonable, *we can* become. It points out that because of the built up anxiety and irrational fear generated within us by living with this disease, many times we are the ones who act out, and ru...	hotrod	2	967	Jan 17, 2016 by Fairlee
	Courage to Change Reading 1-16-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 16 speaks about "reacting" to situations. It points out that when a thought enters our mind we often feel that we automatically MUST speak kit. I know I though T that I had a very powerful mind as I could react instantly to any argument or situation without think...	hotrod	3	960	Jan 17, 2016 by Taraxacum
	How to stay connected (Preview) can someone offer suggestions on how to stay connected with an alcoholic when they don't want to talk? i still worry.	Themoon	9	730	Jan 16, 2016 by Freetime
	The hardships of trying to make marriage work with an alcoholic spouse (Preview) Hi Fam! I have been here reading but haven't responded in a while. I was feeling incredibly sorry for myself and had myself in a lovely, (not really) deep hole of despair. thankfully I feel as if I am climbing back out. I have been reading my Al Anon literature and lately "giving back" has real...	Fairlee	12	1037	Jan 16, 2016 by whoknows
	Mini-Meltdowns (Preview) Life is not all sunny here. About 2xs a week I have these meltdowns. I get anxious,depressed,cry alot and generally have a pity party. Last night I had a big meltdown. Ihad been looking at 30+ yrs of my diaries. I realized that I keep ending up in the same types of relationships. I keep making similar mist...	YARNCRAZY	5	744	Jan 15, 2016 by Inga
	Unable to follow through (Preview) I was to meet with a lawyer regarding my house situation but I have been to sick to do it. Found out I have another infection raging in my stomach and I am now back on another dose of antibiotics and I am in pain and very, very tired. I am to see an internal specialist tomorrow as they found something in my urin...	joker	4	550	Jan 15, 2016 by Jozie
	A 73 year old depression... (Preview) That is what my mind came up with last evening as I sought sleep and didn't get it right away. Why not? I am inundated with the negativity I was born into within my alcoholic/addict family. I remember my earliest thought being "I don't want to be here" and that was just before the doctor sl...	Jerry F	8	645	Jan 15, 2016 by Jozie
	Courage to Change 1-15-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 15 talks about the slogan,"One Day at a Time. It suggests that in spite of our fear and anxiety we don't know what tomorrow may bring. . Leaping into the future by projecting negatively is a very destructive habit . This is is a tool that many of us have tried bec...	hotrod	3	643	Jan 15, 2016 by hotrod
	Step 1 (Preview) Step 1 has been posted to the Step Work Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Please join in and share your thoughts. You will have to re register on t...	hotrod	4	791	Jan 15, 2016 by Jerry F
	Grief - Before and After (Preview) I attended my weekly F2F Al-Anon meeting today and someone who shared touched on an Al-Anon book they were reading that dealt with loss. The person sharing has recently lost their spouse to alcoholism, but the sharer said that in the book on loss they speak of how the feelings of grief and loss begin fa...	Bethany66	10	976	Jan 14, 2016 by Iamhere
	how to find if i am talking to myself unconciously (Preview) so I know this sounds crazy but people have commented on it so like at work the boss was like the ...(main task) girl has a great attitude is a great worker but is always ranting. I swear she was talking about me since I know I am the only one who does that task and I do have those two good qualities. And so somet...	chchsteak	2	1966	Jan 14, 2016 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 1-14-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 14 speaks about being powerless over alcoholism. It points out that others in the fellowship have tried and failed as well so that as we look around we will see that they are happy and willing to accept this reality. By letting go of the battle that we are sure to lose, we b...	hotrod	2	643	Jan 14, 2016 by Iamhere
	GRATEFUl (Preview) I didnt have any shoes and I was always complaining about not having shoes, until I met someone who had no feet! If you can be grateful, you will find the secret of happiness. Try it. Linsc	LinSC	3	423	Jan 14, 2016 by Debb
	C2C Reading for 1-13-2016 (Preview) Hi I printed the wrong reading from the C2C for today as I loked yesterday's page by mistake I am sorry. The C2C reading for January 13 talk about spiritual freedom, and Al-Anon. It suggests that we are encouraged to find our own understanding of God and to allow others the same freedom because until we...	hotrod	2	651	Jan 13, 2016 by serenity47
	New and tired (Preview) I am an adult child of an alcoholic (now recovering) and am in a 4yr relationship with an alcoholic. I tagged in in a previous post but I am starting a new topic on my own to get all the help I can. I am planning on attending Al-Anon meetings here in my area and online as of this morning. I have watched my AB st...	Marie18	15	856	Jan 13, 2016 by serenity47
	i didn't know it would bother me.. (Preview) Here I am in situation that I have no or little control of. I am in the middle looking out. My group us changing the day we meet. Not a problem looking from the outside. But I wasn't informed of a permanent change. I guess I can meet on a different day. I have been praying about going to something else but I kno...	Hoot Nanny	3	602	Jan 13, 2016 by Hoot Nanny
	seeing the light (Preview) I have been reading about detachment on the board here and its helping me so much. I had a good laugh today, the first one in awhile. Talked to ABF this morning and he has "another plan-buy oil stalks." This time, I responded with that is a good idea and went on to talk about something else. I did...	joker	5	659	Jan 13, 2016 by Iamhere
	Have Courage!! (Preview) {{HUGS}}	Debb	4	535	Jan 13, 2016 by a4l
	COURAGE TO CHANGE 1-12-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 12 speaks about the wonderful tool of "Detachment".It offers a profound example of "detachment": for me to think about . It suggests picturing a person walking along and seeing an active beehive buzzing intently/ If the person stops and p...	hotrod	3	1065	Jan 13, 2016 by Inga
	Will it ever be clear? (Preview) I just got back last week from my holiday with my family back east. It was very nice to have time with both my mom and my sister. I came back hoping for some sort of breakthrough as to if I want to stay with my ABF or not. Needless to say no answers where clear. What is clear is that on returning from our time apar...	ItsAllAboutMeMC	5	735	Jan 13, 2016 by hotrod
	Need Help (Preview) It's been a while since I've logged on, but am always grateful for my MIP family. I'm still having difficulty extricating myself from my AexH and his AW and am wondering if someone can direct me where to go for help in my community. For those that don't know me, I've been divorced since 2006, but get dra...	bud	8	681	Jan 12, 2016 by bud
	It's been a year. . . (Preview) Last January I came here and posted when I realized my ABF was drinking again. I posted once, and I lurked in the shadows from that point on reading occasionally. I'm not sure if I wasn't ready to face the addiction issue head on, or if I wasn't ready to take on the work I needed to do in myself, maybe a little...	NayNay	9	673	Jan 12, 2016 by Jerry F
	Oh my goodness relization (Preview) I just had an ahh moment. My alcoholic Bf is playing me a like puppet. He says this and I say that, he says this, and i react with oh what about me, he say this and I go what about me, and then I says I hates his life here, and all I do is work, work and blaa, and I react with words of feeling sorry for him and wanting...	joker	3	629	Jan 12, 2016 by Jerry F
	Stressed (Preview) A few days ago my A made some really bad decisions (so what else is new?) which resulted in a very dangerous situation where she could have been seriously victimized or even killed. Actually, for a couple days before this, I knew she was moving into dangerous territory (it starts with binging, then s...	lgnutah	2	408	Jan 12, 2016 by Jerry F
	Lost a friend need advice (Preview) I am brand new to al Anon have only been to two meeting go to my third tomorrow. My boyfriend is in AA and recently lost three people within the last week. Two he knew the third he knew a little better. He is not handling it like a normal sober person does I guess. what I don't understand is that he hasnt spoken...	Mylife16	6	889	Jan 12, 2016 by Jerry F
	Hope for Today 1/12 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today's reading begins with the personification of alcoholism- as a thief. It is such a powerful image- a force that has the ability to rob us of the people we love, take physical safety from us, jobs. It may even steal someone's life. We have hope and faith that there is anoth...	yanksfan51	2	674	Jan 12, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1-10-2016- (Preview) The C2C reading for January 10th speaks about the many hours we have sacrificed living in worry and fear. The reading points out that once we open the Pandora's box of worry and relentless self-criticism, the more we lose our foothold in reality. Then nothing useful can be accomplished.In order to br...	hotrod	6	822	Jan 12, 2016 by Iamhere
	anxious today (Preview) got up today with stuff i need to do but feel anxious. i have suffered from anxiety,panic attacks,agoraphobia since i was 17,im 58 now. since then i am on my own, i have to deal with this. I sometimes revert to these old tapes of feeling im imposing on people or im not good enough. like i have to leave for 4hr...	YARNCRAZY	5	688	Jan 12, 2016 by Turris
	Serenity.. Where are you???? (Preview) So I turned off the magic $$$ supply for my husband...who is mostly sober, but as of late, not always. He has cirrhosis/end stage liver disease. He is not able to work. When I turned off the money fountain, which was big deal he had no money no job I have money and good job.. he decided to start selling expen...	ShellyM	4	701	Jan 11, 2016 by hotrod
	unreal what an alcoholic will say (Preview) Just wanted to provide an update. Since the abf had the talk with me last week, he seems to have changed his tune again. Yesterday, he said to me, don't worry about anything, everything is good. I just said ok and did not respond any further. Since we had the talk and he did says me and my daughter should fin...	joker	5	731	Jan 11, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	Courage to Change Reading 1-11-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 11 speaks about joining Al-Anon family groups and by dong so having finally" found a second family". In his new family we are accepted, just as we are. We don't have to pretend or wear a mask over our feelings. We can speak freely and know that our words will not lea...	hotrod	4	807	Jan 11, 2016 by Taraxacum
	Help me think through healthy boundaries (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this group and just starting my alanon journey. Thank you for helping me sift through my thoughts and feelings. My husband is an alcoholic and though he has been dry for long stretches he has a lot of denial and does not want any kind of formal treatment or support in staying sober long te...	Taraxacum	13	967	Jan 11, 2016 by Taraxacum
	miracles do happen... just saying.ðŸ˜Š (Preview) I am proof that miracles happen. I was so lost & didn't even know it. Whenever I use the program for solutions to my problems, I am in tune to the blessings that often occur w o me always being aware. It is funny how all I have to do is open my eyes to see what is in front of me. So, I don't have to struggle as mu...	Hoot Nanny	3	715	Jan 10, 2016 by Iamhere
	quick update (Preview) I found a lawyer for the house. I will be making an appointment next week to deal with the house. I will be doing what I can to protect me right now. I will be nice to BF, kind, but I will no longer be there for him anymore. Like I was told, let lawyer know, he had given you a lifestyle and money, which he deposit...	joker	4	711	Jan 10, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	There are days and there are days .. lol (Preview) You know I keep thinking I wonder if I'm going to win this mondo jackpot that is brewing based upon the financial craziness that is going on in my life. It's not awful .. it's not great however it could always be better. So I was suppose to get an automatic deposit to my checking account this week. For so...	SerenityRUS	8	759	Jan 10, 2016 by Mirandac
	what a week it has been (Preview) This has been a week to remember after both of my program friends have had surgery on the same day. They are both recovering pretty well...It takes time. One had cataract surgery & the other had a hysterectomy. I am grateful to call them both friends & I love them dearly. So, I have to wait for my c...	Hoot Nanny	3	714	Jan 10, 2016 by Lyne
	todai i overdid alanon (Preview) today, i think i stretched the technique of 'say what u mean and mean what u say' . Guypal is coming over and i was real shoert with him and im going to apologize as soon as he gets here. Not to get too detailed, being stronger now makes me brutally honest, more so than i ever was. I see my value[ despite my prob...	YARNCRAZY	4	751	Jan 10, 2016 by Jerry F
	breaking up with alcoholic after relapse - any hope? (Preview) Hi everyone. I have been dating an alcoholic for five years, living together for about a year and a half. He went to rehab briefly in 2013 - only ten days. Got a DUI in fall of 2014 and spent December 2014 in rehab. For 2015, he was completely sober. Attended AA and a separate therapist, and everything was g...	clhiod	9	3471	Jan 9, 2016 by Heisenberg
	reality is painful (Preview) My abf is still sober, 3 months and not working a program as he works in camp and all he does is work and sleep for up to 3 weeks at a time and then off work for 3 days and then back at work again. Since he got sober, its been a roller coaster. One day he has this plan, next day its this plan, and this plan. It constan...	joker	3	715	Jan 9, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change Reading 1-9-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 9. talk about our usual habit of looking outside of ourselves for approval. It points out that our projects may be very successful.but we do not feel good about anything unless it is acknowledged by others. It suggests that everyone does need an occasional pat on the ba...	hotrod	3	2353	Jan 9, 2016 by Iamhere
	This isn't new for us as we discuss it often... (Preview) However just for the day I am putting myself on a prayer list as necessary. The hotel my wife and I work at is closing shop at the end of the month and for the minute we don't have an idea "what's next"?? Its too early I know as we are still in the hotel mode and affected by the bad economy too. H...	Jerry F	14	770	Jan 9, 2016 by Jerry F
	It is what it is. (Preview) My stupid broken foot is becoming a depressing reality rather than a novel reason to say"OMG can you believe this annoying thing that's happened?". I missed my first week of summer school due to not being able to walk. I'm less than thrilled about that. I haven't yet allowed myself to cons...	missmeliss	4	788	Jan 9, 2016 by Mirandac
	Oh the guilt!!!! What is wrong with me?! (Preview) So, I moved myself and my two daughters out of our home 4 weeks ago and peace beyond all understanding came rushing over the 3 of us! That was until my AH decided to dry out and sober up. When he is sober he is spot on husband and father whom I dearly love! But, now that he's been sober without the help of AA for 2...	savannah7070	10	758	Jan 9, 2016 by Hopefull15
	in myapartment (Preview) im in my apartment and except for some bugs[roaches to work out.its pretty cool.i breathe smoke fee potfree vodka free air. i can do what i want and only answer to myself.alot of details need to be taken care of but YEAH for me.alanon meeting only 10 mins by bus on same line away.i even met a pre marriage fr...	YARNCRAZY	8	775	Jan 9, 2016 by Jen61
	Good Day today (Preview) I had a super day today. Went for job interview at place i want to work, just 5 mins away. Cross your fingers for me pals... Did grocery shopping,came home on bus. listened to some awesome tunes. did some couponing. waiting to see if new male friend hee hee calls. Im going to make dinner for him tomorow nit...	YARNCRAZY	4	428	Jan 9, 2016 by Hopefull15
	Feel sick to my stomach (Preview) Let me first start by saying that I have just created an account to ask for help because I am so ashamed of what I have done that I don't want to tell my sponsor. I am actually in NarAnon, but there is no NarAnon board here, so I hope this is ok. The steps are the same, so I figure maybe you can offer some advice...	sosick79	6	720	Jan 8, 2016 by Mirandac
	hardly coping and constantly worried (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have gotten to the point where I just need to find a sponsor and work the program. I don't know if this is possible online. I have tried to go to meetings in my area (there are only 2 a week) but I can't find the location of one of them and I am not getting enough support where I am at. I had a sponso...	needabreak	5	868	Jan 8, 2016 by Mirandac
	new here (Preview) Hi everyone, as you can see from the subject I'm new here and just starting out on my journey to try and help myself after all the problems I have had in dealing with my mother since a young age. I guess I just need to know that I'm not the only one out there dealing with these issues and I'm hoping to be able t...	LaceyD26	4	623	Jan 8, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1-8-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 8 speaks about the slogan,"Letting Go and Letting God. " It points out that once we finally understand how truly powerless,we are, we can then pick up the slogan and truly let go of our fear, anxiety, and constant need to control by turning it all over to HP and...	hotrod	4	701	Jan 8, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change Reading 1-7-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 7, speaks about the Just For Today pamphlet. . It points out that the suggestion that "Just for today we will have a quiet half hour all by ourselves to relax, is a very important recommendation. The reading acknowledges " How simple it sounds"!!! &quo...	hotrod	6	1182	Jan 8, 2016 by 1911A1
	Back Again (Preview) I used to have an account here, but lost the password so I started a new one. My husband is an active functioning alcoholic and we have 3 young children. He has been active with a 2 year stretch of sobriety almost 8 years ago. I call him functioning because no one can tell he's an alcoholic, it is always i...	Hopefully Optimistic	4	763	Jan 8, 2016 by savannah7070
	Over the last year... (Preview) To begin, I have been married for over 20 years to a very serious AH. He had one (dry) period of 6 months several years ago and has been "sober" for the last nine months (working the program for the first time). He and I had become quite the love/hate relationship with a few weeks of half way d...	Doingmybest	5	841	Jan 8, 2016 by Enigmatic
	Secrets (Preview) As I was reading another post today, I saw a statement about having the courage to face the things we have been hiding away. (This is not an exact quote). For me, I find that secrets are like a a slow spreading poison. They damage everyone and I don't do well with them. My biggest issue is that I don't ofte...	Doingmybest	3	1162	Jan 8, 2016 by Doingmybest
	Should I ask him for money ?... (Preview) This is.the most access/time Ive had to post on here and to take in all of the wonderful shares and suggestions. Ive eluded in previous posts that my AH and I are waring over money right now. He's lost several jobs in a very short timespan leaving me to struggle to keep things afloat for our family of 4. He'...	Hopefull15	4	751	Jan 7, 2016 by Hopefull15
	My Qualifier (Preview) Whoever was the focus of my obsessions and frantic dancing to manipulate the outcome does not matter. I arrived at AlAnon completely in the middle of my own maladaptive behavior. My formula was to try harder doing and thinking my ineffectual way. It is I who needed help here. I am my own AlAnon qualifi...	Jill	3	2210	Jan 7, 2016 by Jerry F
	How to detach? (Preview) I posted this on another forum but wanted your ESH as well. This is so hard for me to do! My AH is trying to get sober again (supposedly) and is on day 6 I think. I'm somewhat skeptical obviously but trying to support him. My problem is the jerky behavior is still an issue - another shut-down just happened th...	ChipsAreFalling	7	1247	Jan 7, 2016 by Jerry F
	How time flies when we deal in daily chaos.... (Preview) Just had a revelation....When thinking back on the timeline of just the most recent events of deterioration in my family (not including what has transpired over the years in total)...Im am absolutly blown away at what felt like an eternity was really only events that transpired over a 12 month perio...	Hopefull15	2	488	Jan 7, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	children divorce ah and infidelity (Preview) So im moving out tomorrow . . My stbexah cheated multiple times over many years. Is begging for forgivenes, bla bla and saying he will change. We are proceeding with the divorce. My 11 yp daughter the love if my life blames me. "why cant you forgive. . What did he do. . ". . Shes knows of his drink...	Theoceancalls	11	971	Jan 7, 2016 by savannah7070
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