Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

joker · joker

I am trying not to take this personally. ABF has gone to meet his ex-wife who he claims wants to get back together. He needs to get some paperwork from her. I just smiled and waved at him as he left. I Am trying to keep the focus on me and what I need to do for myself. He has made all kinds of promises again, we are...

Jerry F · Jerry F

and I was going to get lunch at McD's. While in the line a woman in front of me held out $3 and something cents and asked if I could buy her lunch and pay the difference. Okay...conference with HP and said I would taking the 3 bucks. HP asked me what do you need her 3 bucks for? Hmmmm actually I don't I t...

lmb2015 · lmb2015

I am new to this os if I am posting the wrong way, or in the wrong place, let me apologize in advance. When I say unconventional, the person I am trying to help is the best friend of my children. She is now 17, but in my life since she was about 3. I love her as my child. Comes from completely destructive, dysfun...

joker · joker

Well, it happened. Abf came home from work and relapsed and got very drunk on beer and double whisky drinks. He was sober for 3 months without a program. He was very very sick the next day but I did not baby him nor feel sorry for him at all. I just detached. He said all the right words, I can not do this anymore...

Amandasheart · Amandasheart

So I am going to try and make a long story short, or at least the cliff notes version. I have an ah; I left for a little over a year and he was sober the last 7 months, he lost 140 lbs and was doing so well, so I went back thinking things had dramatically changed, boy was I wrong, he began drinking again, he has a...

Iamhere · Iamhere

So....for those who don't know, I have online stores. As such, Paypal is my payment processor by choice and by default (required on ebaY).... Needless to say, Paypal's records for me and my social do not match my SSN...so no matter how many times I send in the required documents, each year at tax time,...

Taraxacum · Taraxacum

I started seeing a therapist who has an expertise in addiction and family counciling. He made a comment durring a session suggesting I get out of the way and let my AH experience the fallout of his drinking. My AH is functioning, and much of the fallout is showing up as issues in our marriage which in his e...

Nightingale · Nightingale

Does anyone know of any online groups like this one for friends and family of those suffering from seaver anxiety and depression?

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 21 speaks about being able to identify what is our business and what is not our business. It points out that prior to program we thought it was our business to help fix everything and everybody around. Al-Anon helps me to listen and learn from my own body, soul and HP. How do I d...

joker · joker

jointdoc · jointdoc

This is brand new to me, and I am very sorry that this is so long. . I am not sure if there is a place for me. I'm not an alcoholic or drug addict. Neither is my wife. But my wife's brother (age 40s) is an alcoholic and drug addict. . His job (trucker) takes him away frequently, which gives him opportunity to h...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 20 speaks about the principle of " anonymity". That this spiritual foundation of our traditions makes it possible for members to leave not only our surnames and all our labels and expectations outside the rooms, so we can put aside what we are and begin to kno...

Mylife16 · Mylife16

Here's the situation, it hasn't even been two solid weeks of me going to alanon to give me strength not knowledge, he came home distraught says we need to talk, to make a long story short he says because of his abandonment from when he was a child to the alcohol to not having a happy healthy relationship to...

KT2015 · KT2015

The topic of my RL meeting this week was on fear. The moment it was introduced I wanted to run. Then we did some readings from the literature about fear. I felt like I was going to have a panic attack at times in that meeting and even though I really wanted to share I just couldn't bring myself to do it with...

LedfootJenny · LedfootJenny

Hi everyone. Major slip up last night. AH got his one year yesterday and I got a mental movie that played over all the carnage this disease has left in it's wake the last five years. ( it gets better ) I then proceeded to take his inventory, remind him of carnage, throw a tantrum and sabotage his night! N...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading speaks about the importance of sharing at meetings, both for the person who is doing the sharing and for those that are there to listen. Like the writer, the first year of meetings were difficult for me- depending on what was happening in my life, I would either...

joker · joker

I attended a face to face al-anon meeting last night and it was great to share my emotions. I have also been reading a lot on this forum and its helping me feel I can do this. I had a moment of wow, when I remember being in a sick relationship with my ex-husband, ex bf's and how they use to say I was crazy. Today...

bud · bud

I brought all of my MIP family support, my support from my HP, and my alanon toolkit to my Dad's funeral yesterday. For years, I had imagined this moment as being a tortuous culmination of years of being a family scapegoat. What actually happened was none of that. This is another life lesson in my kee...

bud · bud

Tomorrow is Dad's funeral. That alone is overwhelming. My sister's stirring of the pot may have re-severed the precarious relationship with my Aunt and Uncle. It was her fabricated tales that drove them to be angry with me and history could have repeated. I know that if that's all it took for my Aun...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

A quote from Iman David Bowie's widow: Sometimes you will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory. Food for thought. I thought it might be needed. Happy Monday!

joker · joker

I had an ah moment yesterday. I was talking to my AFB on the phone and the conversation was happy and full of laughter. It was positive until I mentioned my daughter and her struggles. My daughter has mental health issues and lives with me and is really having a hard time with isolation, lack of motivatio...

JL969803 · JL969803

Well, I just found out my AH has not been sober since April. He's been lying and hiding it and stupid me fell for it. I found the 2 little bottles hidden yesterday, confronted him and he admitted to it. He had no choice. I feel like such a fool. Nothing is going right for us which I know is contributing to his...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I spent some time at a clients home this afternoon that my eldest son also is doing some work for. I was no surprise that the client told me that he had learned stuff from my son about alcoholism in that my son admits to not being comfortable or in line with his new woman friends drinking. He has started...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Do you ever feel this way? The constant repetition of our A's bad decisions are so wearing (despite trying to use all the tools of AlAnon). Detaching with love and Letting go are "mental and emotional" escapes....distancing oneself from the turmoil of the A's life...... But wouldn't...

whoknows · whoknows

5 years ago I didn't know what a functioning alcoholic was. I learned after my husband retired and became a non functioning alcoholic. No reason here to go into to much detail as most of you will already know, but, here's a little background of the past 5 years. We went from a nice nest egg to over 100k in d...

joker · joker

I had to share this as I am seeing growth in myself. I talked with alcoholic bf yesterday and he was nice and kind toward me. I was as well. I had to laugh as he said I have done so much since I got sober. He has been sober only 3 months. He has made progress in the last year and a half. He has got himself a vehicle, g...

bud · bud

Hi dear MIP family, I'm writing from a hotel room. I received word that my dad passed last night and so I drove a few hours to say my good byes. I collected a few momentos and my daughter who lives too far to be with me secured a room so I didn't have to drive home . My mom passed last year, the day after Xmas. ...

serenity47 · serenity47

I just thought I would share a little update on my life. At this time, my life has settled down considerably. I am attending weekly al-anon meetings, an online group, and this board, all which have helped me immensely. Right now AD is in treatment with a plan to enter into recovery home following. T...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Everyone The time has come to put everything I've learned to the test. My son will be released next month and I have decided to help him get started with a hand and love but I promised myself I will never again engage in his business. He has done well for himself in prison. He's a Per Counse...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 18 speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves because by so doing we will discover the best way we can help an alcoholic. The reading suggests that by keeping the focus on ourselves, we are not motivated to try to change someone else's behavior and to do for others what the...

Inga · Inga

I am new here and new to Al-Anon. It is about time I seek help for myself! Thank you to anyone who is reading this! I am married to an alcoholic, a daily drinker, and weekend sports watcher/total drunk. On the weekends my husband watches sports with our son, and proceeds to get wasted, becoming then l...

Mylife16 · Mylife16

The past few days I have just distanced myself completely tryin to be as nice as I can but I can't shake this feeling of just emptiness. Two weeks ago huge discussion between me and my A boyfriend he pretty much told me we were two different people now, that the person I fell in love with was not who he should...

Heisenberg · Heisenberg

Had a really tough day today with my ex. I've been out of the house for about 3 weeks, and she has really been working on staying sober (and she has) and attending more meetings and using her support system, which is great. She has been holding out hope that I will "try to make it work" with her af...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Which is causing me BIG issues as far as acting out. I have actually been REALLY good considering what has been going on. I am currently dealing with a work situation that involves someone I really like as a person however as a co-worker they are completely toxic. I don't use that term lightly. This w...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 17 speaks about our interactions with the alcoholic and how irrational and unreasonable, we can become. It points out that because of the built up anxiety and irrational fear generated within us by living with this disease, many times we are the ones who act out, and ru...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 16 speaks about "reacting" to situations. It points out that when a thought enters our mind we often feel that we automatically MUST speak kit. I know I though T that I had a very powerful mind as I could react instantly to any argument or situation without think...

Themoon · Themoon

can someone offer suggestions on how to stay connected with an alcoholic when they don't want to talk? i still worry.

Fairlee · Fairlee

Hi Fam! I have been here reading but haven't responded in a while. I was feeling incredibly sorry for myself and had myself in a lovely, (not really) deep hole of despair. thankfully I feel as if I am climbing back out. I have been reading my Al Anon literature and lately "giving back" has real...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Life is not all sunny here. About 2xs a week I have these meltdowns. I get anxious,depressed,cry alot and generally have a pity party. Last night I had a big meltdown. Ihad been looking at 30+ yrs of my diaries. I realized that I keep ending up in the same types of relationships. I keep making similar mist...

joker · joker

I was to meet with a lawyer regarding my house situation but I have been to sick to do it. Found out I have another infection raging in my stomach and I am now back on another dose of antibiotics and I am in pain and very, very tired. I am to see an internal specialist tomorrow as they found something in my urin...

Jerry F · Jerry F

That is what my mind came up with last evening as I sought sleep and didn't get it right away. Why not? I am inundated with the negativity I was born into within my alcoholic/addict family. I remember my earliest thought being "I don't want to be here" and that was just before the doctor sl...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 15 talks about the slogan,"One Day at a Time. It suggests that in spite of our fear and anxiety we don't know what tomorrow may bring. . Leaping into the future by projecting negatively is a very destructive habit . This is is a tool that many of us have tried bec...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 1 has been posted to the Step Work Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Please join in and share your thoughts. You will have to re register on t...

Bethany66 · Bethany66

I attended my weekly F2F Al-Anon meeting today and someone who shared touched on an Al-Anon book they were reading that dealt with loss. The person sharing has recently lost their spouse to alcoholism, but the sharer said that in the book on loss they speak of how the feelings of grief and loss begin fa...

chchsteak · chchsteak

so I know this sounds crazy but people have commented on it so like at work the boss was like the ...(main task) girl has a great attitude is a great worker but is always ranting. I swear she was talking about me since I know I am the only one who does that task and I do have those two good qualities. And so somet...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 14 speaks about being powerless over alcoholism. It points out that others in the fellowship have tried and failed as well so that as we look around we will see that they are happy and willing to accept this reality. By letting go of the battle that we are sure to lose, we b...

LinSC · LinSC

I didnt have any shoes and I was always complaining about not having shoes, until I met someone who had no feet! If you can be grateful, you will find the secret of happiness. Try it. Linsc

hotrod · hotrod

Hi I printed the wrong reading from the C2C for today as I loked yesterday's page by mistake I am sorry. The C2C reading for January 13 talk about spiritual freedom, and Al-Anon. It suggests that we are encouraged to find our own understanding of God and to allow others the same freedom because until we...

Marie18 · Marie18

I am an adult child of an alcoholic (now recovering) and am in a 4yr relationship with an alcoholic. I tagged in in a previous post but I am starting a new topic on my own to get all the help I can. I am planning on attending Al-Anon meetings here in my area and online as of this morning. I have watched my AB st...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Here I am in situation that I have no or little control of. I am in the middle looking out. My group us changing the day we meet. Not a problem looking from the outside. But I wasn't informed of a permanent change. I guess I can meet on a different day. I have been praying about going to something else but I kno...

joker · joker

I have been reading about detachment on the board here and its helping me so much. I had a good laugh today, the first one in awhile. Talked to ABF this morning and he has "another plan-buy oil stalks." This time, I responded with that is a good idea and went on to talk about something else. I did...

Debb · Debb

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 12 speaks about the wonderful tool of "Detachment".It offers a profound example of "detachment": for me to think about . It suggests picturing a person walking along and seeing an active beehive buzzing intently/ If the person stops and p...

ItsAllAboutMeMC · ItsAllAboutMeMC

I just got back last week from my holiday with my family back east. It was very nice to have time with both my mom and my sister. I came back hoping for some sort of breakthrough as to if I want to stay with my ABF or not. Needless to say no answers where clear. What is clear is that on returning from our time apar...

bud · bud

It's been a while since I've logged on, but am always grateful for my MIP family. I'm still having difficulty extricating myself from my AexH and his AW and am wondering if someone can direct me where to go for help in my community. For those that don't know me, I've been divorced since 2006, but get dra...

NayNay · NayNay

Last January I came here and posted when I realized my ABF was drinking again. I posted once, and I lurked in the shadows from that point on reading occasionally. I'm not sure if I wasn't ready to face the addiction issue head on, or if I wasn't ready to take on the work I needed to do in myself, maybe a little...

joker · joker

I just had an ahh moment. My alcoholic Bf is playing me a like puppet. He says this and I say that, he says this, and i react with oh what about me, he say this and I go what about me, and then I says I hates his life here, and all I do is work, work and blaa, and I react with words of feeling sorry for him and wanting...

lgnutah · lgnutah

A few days ago my A made some really bad decisions (so what else is new?) which resulted in a very dangerous situation where she could have been seriously victimized or even killed. Actually, for a couple days before this, I knew she was moving into dangerous territory (it starts with binging, then s...

Mylife16 · Mylife16

I am brand new to al Anon have only been to two meeting go to my third tomorrow. My boyfriend is in AA and recently lost three people within the last week. Two he knew the third he knew a little better. He is not handling it like a normal sober person does I guess. what I don't understand is that he hasnt spoken...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today's reading begins with the personification of alcoholism- as a thief. It is such a powerful image- a force that has the ability to rob us of the people we love, take physical safety from us, jobs. It may even steal someone's life. We have hope and faith that there is anoth...

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	ABF off again (Preview) I am trying not to take this personally. ABF has gone to meet his ex-wife who he claims wants to get back together. He needs to get some paperwork from her. I just smiled and waved at him as he left. I Am trying to keep the focus on me and what I need to do for myself. He has made all kinds of promises again, we are...	joker	4	400	Jan 23, 2016 by Mirandac
	Higher Power on the job (Preview) and I was going to get lunch at McD's. While in the line a woman in front of me held out $3 and something cents and asked if I could buy her lunch and pay the difference. Okay...conference with HP and said I would taking the 3 bucks. HP asked me what do you need her 3 bucks for? Hmmmm actually I don't I t...	Jerry F	3	544	Jan 23, 2016 by Mirandac
	I am an unconventional newbie (Preview) I am new to this os if I am posting the wrong way, or in the wrong place, let me apologize in advance. When I say unconventional, the person I am trying to help is the best friend of my children. She is now 17, but in my life since she was about 3. I love her as my child. Comes from completely destructive, dysfun...	lmb2015	3	638	Jan 22, 2016 by Jerry F
	ABF relapsed-update (Preview) Well, it happened. Abf came home from work and relapsed and got very drunk on beer and double whisky drinks. He was sober for 3 months without a program. He was very very sick the next day but I did not baby him nor feel sorry for him at all. I just detached. He said all the right words, I can not do this anymore...	joker	3	569	Jan 22, 2016 by Iamhere
	Am I insane? (Preview) So I am going to try and make a long story short, or at least the cliff notes version. I have an ah; I left for a little over a year and he was sober the last 7 months, he lost 140 lbs and was doing so well, so I went back thinking things had dramatically changed, boy was I wrong, he began drinking again, he has a...	Amandasheart	9	715	Jan 22, 2016 by Jaclyn
	I Guess HP Thinks I Need a Lesson in Patience.... (Preview) So....for those who don't know, I have online stores. As such, Paypal is my payment processor by choice and by default (required on ebaY).... Needless to say, Paypal's records for me and my social do not match my SSN...so no matter how many times I send in the required documents, each year at tax time,...	Iamhere	12	562	Jan 22, 2016 by Iamhere
	getting out of the way (Preview) I started seeing a therapist who has an expertise in addiction and family counciling. He made a comment durring a session suggesting I get out of the way and let my AH experience the fallout of his drinking. My AH is functioning, and much of the fallout is showing up as issues in our marriage which in his e...	Taraxacum	11	936	Jan 22, 2016 by KT2015
	Friends & Fam of depression (Preview) Does anyone know of any online groups like this one for friends and family of those suffering from seaver anxiety and depression?	Nightingale	5	3223	Jan 21, 2016 by gillygilly
	Courage to Change Reading 1-21-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 21 speaks about being able to identify what is our business and what is not our business. It points out that prior to program we thought it was our business to help fix everything and everybody around. Al-Anon helps me to listen and learn from my own body, soul and HP. How do I d...	hotrod	6	685	Jan 21, 2016 by Taraxacum
	Control (Preview)	joker	10	736	Jan 21, 2016 by andromeda
	Is there a forum for me? (Preview) This is brand new to me, and I am very sorry that this is so long. . I am not sure if there is a place for me. I'm not an alcoholic or drug addict. Neither is my wife. But my wife's brother (age 40s) is an alcoholic and drug addict. . His job (trucker) takes him away frequently, which gives him opportunity to h...	jointdoc	20	966	Jan 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change reading 1-20-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 20 speaks about the principle of " anonymity". That this spiritual foundation of our traditions makes it possible for members to leave not only our surnames and all our labels and expectations outside the rooms, so we can put aside *what we are* and begin to kno...	hotrod	3	707	Jan 20, 2016 by Iamhere
	Help, he wants more physicality to feel better... (Preview) Here's the situation, it hasn't even been two solid weeks of me going to alanon to give me strength not knowledge, he came home distraught says we need to talk, to make a long story short he says because of his abandonment from when he was a child to the alcohol to not having a happy healthy relationship to...	Mylife16	6	670	Jan 20, 2016 by CoopsMom
	fear (Preview) The topic of my RL meeting this week was on fear. The moment it was introduced I wanted to run. Then we did some readings from the literature about fear. I felt like I was going to have a panic attack at times in that meeting and even though I really wanted to share I just couldn't bring myself to do it with...	KT2015	10	844	Jan 20, 2016 by LedfootJenny
	He got his one year coin, and I got a temper tantrum (Preview) Hi everyone. Major slip up last night. AH got his one year yesterday and I got a mental movie that played over all the carnage this disease has left in it's wake the last five years. ( it gets better ) I then proceeded to take his inventory, remind him of carnage, throw a tantrum and sabotage his night! N...	LedfootJenny	22	873	Jan 19, 2016 by bud
	Hope for Today Jan 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading speaks about the importance of sharing at meetings, both for the person who is doing the sharing and for those that are there to listen. Like the writer, the first year of meetings were difficult for me- depending on what was happening in my life, I would either...	yanksfan51	7	615	Jan 19, 2016 by bud
	Being told crazy (Preview) I attended a face to face al-anon meeting last night and it was great to share my emotions. I have also been reading a lot on this forum and its helping me feel I can do this. I had a moment of wow, when I remember being in a sick relationship with my ex-husband, ex bf's and how they use to say I was crazy. Today...	joker	2	650	Jan 19, 2016 by Debb
	Thank you + Incredible outcome (Preview) I brought all of my MIP family support, my support from my HP, and my alanon toolkit to my Dad's funeral yesterday. For years, I had imagined this moment as being a tortuous culmination of years of being a family scapegoat. What actually happened was none of that. This is another life lesson in my kee...	bud	6	721	Jan 19, 2016 by bud
	tomorrow (Preview) Tomorrow is Dad's funeral. That alone is overwhelming. My sister's stirring of the pot may have re-severed the precarious relationship with my Aunt and Uncle. It was her fabricated tales that drove them to be angry with me and history could have repeated. I know that if that's all it took for my Aun...	bud	11	701	Jan 19, 2016 by bud
	just a quote to make us think (Preview) A quote from Iman David Bowie's widow: Sometimes you will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory. Food for thought. I thought it might be needed. Happy Monday!	Hoot Nanny	6	540	Jan 19, 2016 by Taraxacum
	Seeing my part (Preview) I had an ah moment yesterday. I was talking to my AFB on the phone and the conversation was happy and full of laughter. It was positive until I mentioned my daughter and her struggles. My daughter has mental health issues and lives with me and is really having a hard time with isolation, lack of motivatio...	joker	4	704	Jan 19, 2016 by Taraxacum
	Lying and I feel like a total fool (Preview) Well, I just found out my AH has not been sober since April. He's been lying and hiding it and stupid me fell for it. I found the 2 little bottles hidden yesterday, confronted him and he admitted to it. He had no choice. I feel like such a fool. Nothing is going right for us which I know is contributing to his...	JL969803	8	722	Jan 19, 2016 by CoopsMom
	The disease keeps marching on...both sides of it. (Preview) I spent some time at a clients home this afternoon that my eldest son also is doing some work for. I was no surprise that the client told me that he had learned stuff from my son about alcoholism in that my son admits to not being comfortable or in line with his new woman friends drinking. He has started...	Jerry F	6	549	Jan 19, 2016 by Tracy
	Just want to escape (Preview) Do you ever feel this way? The constant repetition of our A's bad decisions are so wearing (despite trying to use all the tools of AlAnon). Detaching with love and Letting go are "mental and emotional" escapes....distancing oneself from the turmoil of the A's life...... But wouldn't...	lgnutah	19	972	Jan 18, 2016 by hotrod
	Afraid, Sick, Stressed, Broke, and Broken (Preview) 5 years ago I didn't know what a functioning alcoholic was. I learned after my husband retired and became a non functioning alcoholic. No reason here to go into to much detail as most of you will already know, but, here's a little background of the past 5 years. We went from a nice nest egg to over 100k in d...	whoknows	15	898	Jan 18, 2016 by Inga
	conversations with the alcoholic (Preview) I had to share this as I am seeing growth in myself. I talked with alcoholic bf yesterday and he was nice and kind toward me. I was as well. I had to laugh as he said I have done so much since I got sober. He has been sober only 3 months. He has made progress in the last year and a half. He has got himself a vehicle, g...	joker	4	700	Jan 18, 2016 by Tracy
	Hugs and support (Preview) Hi dear MIP family, I'm writing from a hotel room. I received word that my dad passed last night and so I drove a few hours to say my good byes. I collected a few momentos and my daughter who lives too far to be with me secured a room so I didn't have to drive home . My mom passed last year, the day after Xmas. ...	bud	18	842	Jan 18, 2016 by bud
	Life is good FOR TODAY (Preview) I just thought I would share a little update on my life. At this time, my life has settled down considerably. I am attending weekly al-anon meetings, an online group, and this board, all which have helped me immensely. Right now AD is in treatment with a plan to enter into recovery home following. T...	serenity47	3	540	Jan 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	The time has come (Preview) Good Morning Everyone The time has come to put everything I've learned to the test. My son will be released next month and I have decided to help him get started with a hand and love but I promised myself I will never again engage in his business. He has done well for himself in prison. He's a Per Counse...	Cathyinaz	14	812	Jan 18, 2016 by Fairlee
	Courage to Change 1-18-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 18 speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves because by so doing we will discover the best way we can help an alcoholic. The reading suggests that by keeping the focus on ourselves, we are not motivated to try to change someone else's behavior and to do for others what the...	hotrod	5	769	Jan 18, 2016 by Thorn
	Verbally abusive alcoholic!!! Please help!! (Preview) I am new here and new to Al-Anon. It is about time I seek help for myself! Thank you to anyone who is reading this! I am married to an alcoholic, a daily drinker, and weekend sports watcher/total drunk. On the weekends my husband watches sports with our son, and proceeds to get wasted, becoming then l...	Inga	26	1487	Jan 18, 2016 by joker
	In a fog don't know what to do (Preview) The past few days I have just distanced myself completely tryin to be as nice as I can but I can't shake this feeling of just emptiness. Two weeks ago huge discussion between me and my A boyfriend he pretty much told me we were two different people now, that the person I fell in love with was not who he should...	Mylife16	16	905	Jan 17, 2016 by Fairlee
	Struggling with Alcoholic Ex (Preview) Had a really tough day today with my ex. I've been out of the house for about 3 weeks, and she has really been working on staying sober (and she has) and attending more meetings and using her support system, which is great. She has been holding out hope that I will "try to make it work" with her af...	Heisenberg	8	782	Jan 17, 2016 by Fairlee
	A little frustrated at the moment (Preview) Which is causing me BIG issues as far as acting out. I have actually been REALLY good considering what has been going on. I am currently dealing with a work situation that involves someone I really like as a person however as a co-worker they are completely toxic. I don't use that term lightly. This w...	SerenityRUS	5	726	Jan 17, 2016 by Fairlee
	Courage to Change Reading 1-17-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 17 speaks about our interactions with the alcoholic and how irrational and unreasonable, *we can* become. It points out that because of the built up anxiety and irrational fear generated within us by living with this disease, many times we are the ones who act out, and ru...	hotrod	2	824	Jan 17, 2016 by Fairlee
	Courage to Change Reading 1-16-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 16 speaks about "reacting" to situations. It points out that when a thought enters our mind we often feel that we automatically MUST speak kit. I know I though T that I had a very powerful mind as I could react instantly to any argument or situation without think...	hotrod	3	813	Jan 17, 2016 by Taraxacum
	How to stay connected (Preview) can someone offer suggestions on how to stay connected with an alcoholic when they don't want to talk? i still worry.	Themoon	9	638	Jan 16, 2016 by Freetime
	The hardships of trying to make marriage work with an alcoholic spouse (Preview) Hi Fam! I have been here reading but haven't responded in a while. I was feeling incredibly sorry for myself and had myself in a lovely, (not really) deep hole of despair. thankfully I feel as if I am climbing back out. I have been reading my Al Anon literature and lately "giving back" has real...	Fairlee	12	916	Jan 16, 2016 by whoknows
	Mini-Meltdowns (Preview) Life is not all sunny here. About 2xs a week I have these meltdowns. I get anxious,depressed,cry alot and generally have a pity party. Last night I had a big meltdown. Ihad been looking at 30+ yrs of my diaries. I realized that I keep ending up in the same types of relationships. I keep making similar mist...	YARNCRAZY	5	662	Jan 15, 2016 by Inga
	Unable to follow through (Preview) I was to meet with a lawyer regarding my house situation but I have been to sick to do it. Found out I have another infection raging in my stomach and I am now back on another dose of antibiotics and I am in pain and very, very tired. I am to see an internal specialist tomorrow as they found something in my urin...	joker	4	470	Jan 15, 2016 by Jozie
	A 73 year old depression... (Preview) That is what my mind came up with last evening as I sought sleep and didn't get it right away. Why not? I am inundated with the negativity I was born into within my alcoholic/addict family. I remember my earliest thought being "I don't want to be here" and that was just before the doctor sl...	Jerry F	8	572	Jan 15, 2016 by Jozie
	Courage to Change 1-15-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 15 talks about the slogan,"One Day at a Time. It suggests that in spite of our fear and anxiety we don't know what tomorrow may bring. . Leaping into the future by projecting negatively is a very destructive habit . This is is a tool that many of us have tried bec...	hotrod	3	569	Jan 15, 2016 by hotrod
	Step 1 (Preview) Step 1 has been posted to the Step Work Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Please join in and share your thoughts. You will have to re register on t...	hotrod	4	703	Jan 15, 2016 by Jerry F
	Grief - Before and After (Preview) I attended my weekly F2F Al-Anon meeting today and someone who shared touched on an Al-Anon book they were reading that dealt with loss. The person sharing has recently lost their spouse to alcoholism, but the sharer said that in the book on loss they speak of how the feelings of grief and loss begin fa...	Bethany66	10	893	Jan 14, 2016 by Iamhere
	how to find if i am talking to myself unconciously (Preview) so I know this sounds crazy but people have commented on it so like at work the boss was like the ...(main task) girl has a great attitude is a great worker but is always ranting. I swear she was talking about me since I know I am the only one who does that task and I do have those two good qualities. And so somet...	chchsteak	2	1759	Jan 14, 2016 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 1-14-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 14 speaks about being powerless over alcoholism. It points out that others in the fellowship have tried and failed as well so that as we look around we will see that they are happy and willing to accept this reality. By letting go of the battle that we are sure to lose, we b...	hotrod	2	569	Jan 14, 2016 by Iamhere
	GRATEFUl (Preview) I didnt have any shoes and I was always complaining about not having shoes, until I met someone who had no feet! If you can be grateful, you will find the secret of happiness. Try it. Linsc	LinSC	3	356	Jan 14, 2016 by Debb
	C2C Reading for 1-13-2016 (Preview) Hi I printed the wrong reading from the C2C for today as I loked yesterday's page by mistake I am sorry. The C2C reading for January 13 talk about spiritual freedom, and Al-Anon. It suggests that we are encouraged to find our own understanding of God and to allow others the same freedom because until we...	hotrod	2	564	Jan 13, 2016 by serenity47
	New and tired (Preview) I am an adult child of an alcoholic (now recovering) and am in a 4yr relationship with an alcoholic. I tagged in in a previous post but I am starting a new topic on my own to get all the help I can. I am planning on attending Al-Anon meetings here in my area and online as of this morning. I have watched my AB st...	Marie18	15	784	Jan 13, 2016 by serenity47
	i didn't know it would bother me.. (Preview) Here I am in situation that I have no or little control of. I am in the middle looking out. My group us changing the day we meet. Not a problem looking from the outside. But I wasn't informed of a permanent change. I guess I can meet on a different day. I have been praying about going to something else but I kno...	Hoot Nanny	3	481	Jan 13, 2016 by Hoot Nanny
	seeing the light (Preview) I have been reading about detachment on the board here and its helping me so much. I had a good laugh today, the first one in awhile. Talked to ABF this morning and he has "another plan-buy oil stalks." This time, I responded with that is a good idea and went on to talk about something else. I did...	joker	5	571	Jan 13, 2016 by Iamhere
	Have Courage!! (Preview) {{HUGS}}	Debb	4	461	Jan 13, 2016 by a4l
	COURAGE TO CHANGE 1-12-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 12 speaks about the wonderful tool of "Detachment".It offers a profound example of "detachment": for me to think about . It suggests picturing a person walking along and seeing an active beehive buzzing intently/ If the person stops and p...	hotrod	3	946	Jan 13, 2016 by Inga
	Will it ever be clear? (Preview) I just got back last week from my holiday with my family back east. It was very nice to have time with both my mom and my sister. I came back hoping for some sort of breakthrough as to if I want to stay with my ABF or not. Needless to say no answers where clear. What is clear is that on returning from our time apar...	ItsAllAboutMeMC	5	656	Jan 13, 2016 by hotrod
	Need Help (Preview) It's been a while since I've logged on, but am always grateful for my MIP family. I'm still having difficulty extricating myself from my AexH and his AW and am wondering if someone can direct me where to go for help in my community. For those that don't know me, I've been divorced since 2006, but get dra...	bud	8	598	Jan 12, 2016 by bud
	It's been a year. . . (Preview) Last January I came here and posted when I realized my ABF was drinking again. I posted once, and I lurked in the shadows from that point on reading occasionally. I'm not sure if I wasn't ready to face the addiction issue head on, or if I wasn't ready to take on the work I needed to do in myself, maybe a little...	NayNay	9	600	Jan 12, 2016 by Jerry F
	Oh my goodness relization (Preview) I just had an ahh moment. My alcoholic Bf is playing me a like puppet. He says this and I say that, he says this, and i react with oh what about me, he say this and I go what about me, and then I says I hates his life here, and all I do is work, work and blaa, and I react with words of feeling sorry for him and wanting...	joker	3	556	Jan 12, 2016 by Jerry F
	Stressed (Preview) A few days ago my A made some really bad decisions (so what else is new?) which resulted in a very dangerous situation where she could have been seriously victimized or even killed. Actually, for a couple days before this, I knew she was moving into dangerous territory (it starts with binging, then s...	lgnutah	2	335	Jan 12, 2016 by Jerry F
	Lost a friend need advice (Preview) I am brand new to al Anon have only been to two meeting go to my third tomorrow. My boyfriend is in AA and recently lost three people within the last week. Two he knew the third he knew a little better. He is not handling it like a normal sober person does I guess. what I don't understand is that he hasnt spoken...	Mylife16	6	812	Jan 12, 2016 by Jerry F
	Hope for Today 1/12 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today's reading begins with the personification of alcoholism- as a thief. It is such a powerful image- a force that has the ability to rob us of the people we love, take physical safety from us, jobs. It may even steal someone's life. We have hope and faith that there is anoth...	yanksfan51	2	547	Jan 12, 2016 by Iamhere
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