Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

a4l · a4l

Hi everyone. Well I'm facing a major decision and am so knotted up in fear and anxiety I can't for the life of me make a decision. The slogan when in doubt don't has always been a no go for me because I tend to just sit paralysed about every single thing until I freak out and jump in headfirst. Balance, I know....

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 4 speaks about how we sometimes tend to feel as if we e are being punished by God, when we are undergoing a difficult challenge . When this happens it indicates that we may have lost the image of a loving Higher Power. We need to maintain this image , if we are to recov...

KT2015 · KT2015

Hi there, I've been working on the second step a lot lately and even sliding into the third step. The problem is I am having difficulty with the whole Higher Power thing. I was raised by an atheist who told me there was no God. I grew up without religion in my life at all. I do believe in a higher power a...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 3 speaks about the principles of the program leading to serenity. It suggests that many of us would've preferred to hear that the principles of the program would lead to sobriety and cure the alcoholic. We also had a misconception of the word "serenity". We th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I spent the first part of my day returning my lovely Aunt to the Earth from which we all supposedly have come. I then went home, and prepared to go to her home to help my cousins pack up and clean up. We have truly enjoyed our time together and it's been lovely to see them - many live abroad. As I was pulling u...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

got a call from mortgage company and found out AH has not paid them for 2 months like he promised. From all reports he has had a accident with a neighbor and has been hiding his car because he doesnt have insurance. So with a tall male friend of the family im going back to THE HOUSE and will try to get AH to writ...

Amandasheart · Amandasheart

Hello again!! How do I explain to a dear friend of mine I cannot just "pack my $hÃ¯Å£ and leave" I still have quite alot of damage to deal with and am working the steps, I have created boundries and I am now slowly gaining control of my own future, but it's not instantaneous, she has no idea becau...

Free2bme3333 · Free2bme3333

Hey there, I have been dating my boyfriend for a month now. He is a recovering alcoholic. He relocated to my area 3 months ago (just about the time he became sober again) He is attending his meetings faithfully. I guess I am terrified because he keeps stating he does not want to hurt me. He is afraid t...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family :) I have Landed Safely Back in My Home town from my Trip Out of Country :D I Landed 12 hours Before the Mega Snow Storm that Gave us 3 Foot of Snow :O .... I Should have Staying in Mexico...lol 70+ All Week Long :) I am So Very Grateful Al-Anon has Taught me the Benefit of "No Expectati...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about how detrimental gossip is in our recovery. The quote from Courage to Change is: "Gossip never enriched anyone's character. It was only an excuse to avoid focusing on myself." The reason I like this quote so much is it is a reminder to keep th...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 1 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism. it points out that many people believe that if they stop" enabling ", the drinking will then stop. This is not necessarily true. We are powerless over alcohol and when we stop enabling, we are doi...

Gardening · Gardening

Hello everyone. I have been considering joining Al-Anon for some time now and have finally taken that first step. I am currently engaged to an alcoholic and right now we are in a "quiet" phase although I know soon there will be some sort of episode. I have been exposed to addiction for a lot...

Jaclyn · Jaclyn

I need help. I don't even know where to begin... I dated an amazing man for six and a half years... We fell in love the moment we met. He treated me like I hung the moon. Three years into our relationship, I found out my boyfriend was an alcoholic when he attempted to push me away and ultimately checked himse...

CurleySue · CurleySue

Hi I'm new to the programme and have gotten as far as Step 3. I have been with my A for over 14 years in this time he's had one relapse but the problems continue. I don't live in my home country and cannot attend meeting in English. Finding this site has been a godsend. My A organised some long overdue counse...

joker · joker

This board has been my lifesaver. As some of your may know, my alcoholic BF has had another slip. He was sober for 3 months without a program. He has been drinking for 2 weeks now every third day. Its been a real challenge for me to work my program. Yesterday, I finally had enough! He had sat up all night talk...

augrads · augrads

Hi-- My husband has been an alcoholic for 20+ years and finally decided to get treatment. He was back to his old was last night and got drunk and bought a bunch of random people drinks (bill was over $300). I am so pissed and hurt that I am shaking. I get it that people are human and make mistakes, but how a...

lgnutah · lgnutah

How can we just stand by and watch it happen?

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 31 speaks about having our "shortcomings" being removed. as we move to Step 6 and Step 7. It points out that we can do all we can to prepare for them to be removed by developing a nonjudgmental awareness of ourselves, accept what we discover and become willing t...

KathRN · KathRN

I apologize for leaving in the middle of a meeting this morning. My girlfriend and I had our wires crossed and she was on her way to pick me up. I wasnt sure what to do so I just left but I think I forgot to log out.

Happy Girl · Happy Girl

Hello, I'm new to this forum, i came on here because i'm looking for some advice from other people that may have been in my position before. I have been dating a lovely man for 6 years, i wasn't aware initially that he was an alcoholic. He told me 2 years into the relationship. From that point onwards i enco...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

She texted me in the middle of December. It was the first time I've heard from any of them in nearly 3 years. I'm going along pretty smoothly and then bam, my head explodes. I'm so angry that I even responded. I want to reconcile but I also know that if I go back it will be the same patterns over again because t...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

As i was posting a reply to someone else,s post I realized that there was something i wanted to share. I suggested in my reply to give themselves a break over emotional reactions because they are doing things differntly now. As i have been trying to adjust to my new life, i have been sqelching alot of sadn...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 30 speaks about the difficulties of living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that many times plans change at a moments notice and rules get broken. Al-Anon shows me a new way to approach these difficulties. I can live one day at a time. I can make my choices of what...

Wiggity · Wiggity

Hello out there in Alanon world. Here is my story.... My oldest brother is drinking himself to death. He has been a heavy drinker/alcoholic for the better part of 45 years. Obviously, as this is a progressive disease, he hasn't always been in the condition he is now. But about a year ago, he was di...

frustrationshigh · frustrationshigh

Has anyone known someone that's tried this?

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 29, speaks about "self-expression." It points out that upon attending Al-Anon meetings, we discover how important it is to give voice to our feelings. We need to be very careful how we do this, as there is a huge difference between "expressing ourselv...

joker · joker

I went to an al-anon meeting last night and read afterwards and I had an awaking moment afterwards. I realized that every man that I had gotten into a serious relationship with and lived with not only all alcoholics but have the same issues. I need to go home. I need to go home. They are not from the city I...

KathRN · KathRN

Well, I've just had the final straw!! AD went on a binge tonight with my grandson's truck that my husband left to him when he passed. Grandson just turned 18. The truck is still in my name. The title was mailed to me around the time my hubby passed and I can't find it anywhere. I need to apply for a lost titl...

sally1984 · sally1984

I have been in a relationship with an A, who also has anxiety issues. he does not drink every day, or every weekend. but when A does drink, there is no stopping. and he is verbally abusive to me. it has never gotten physical. and afterwards, there are apologies, presents, promises of never doing it again...

cc123 · cc123

I realize that I'm the only one who can know what decision is right for me, but I would just like some outside thoughts on my situation. I went to my first Al-Anon meeting last night but didn't feel like talking at the time. I've been talking extensively with my friends and family that have experience wit...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

Hello all...Itâs been a while since Iâve posted as Iâve been riding out the current storm that Iâm currently in and just trying to take in all of the ESH on the boards to get through this.Â Iâm having trouble in my spirit with carrying out a decision that I made to file for legal separation from my AH.Â I m...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm back,I'm working the steps also still at 1st step in path,and doing the Ctc,and one day at a time ,ftf meetings are in next town over and I'm got night blindness so I'm still working on trying to find someone to carpool with cause I really need ft for.reason I'm here today is that my abf mom passed away l...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Board . Please join in and share your thoughts. Here is the address http...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 28 points out that many of us come to Al-Anon for a quick fix for our pain. and that many of us stayed because of the consistency, security and friendship that we find each day and because of our commitment to our growth. The reading suggests that it Is important to see recove...

Fairlee · Fairlee

hi! At my face to face meeting today we talked about step 12 (courage to change from yesterday) and it was a great discussion but I noticed everyone has a sponsor. The thought of this terrifies me. I want a sponsor, but how do I find one? What if they reject me? (I have a pretty bad fear of rejection and socia...

Iamhere · Iamhere

So - some of you know that I have a lovely Aunt, 83 years old, who went from independent living 2.5 weeks ago to Hospice today. There is no obvious or apparent reason that she's declined other than her body is just giving out in a general way. In my immediate family, I am the only one left in the area of our u...

andromeda · andromeda

Funny, how I'll always find something to complain about, ugh. I have been dating my new guy for nearly 10 months. Everything is fine on the surface but I struggle with the normalcy of our relationship. No drama, no major issues (except that I think he's not a verbal guy when he expresses himself and h...

marniep222 · marniep222

I'm totally new to this, and haven't found a home group or sponsor yet. I've had an extremely hard day, and feel like I need to try and listen to as many stories for help as I can. There are two meetings in my area that are close in proximity and timed right. Is there any benefit to trying to go to both? Hel...

KT2015 · KT2015

I have been struggling with sleep on and off for a couple of years now. Sunday night I did not get much sleep at all. I got 4 hours tops and I woke up and went to work a groggy mess. I felt awful, and grumpy, and dissatisfied and like my life was miserable. My AH and I have had some of the worst arguments whe...

Pearlgirl · Pearlgirl

I dont wish to continually post problems here, I am new and wish to move forward with step one... Came home from work to witness alcoholic daughter (nearly 20) needlessly bullying younger daughter in front of friends (again!) For the fist time I asked daughter and friends to leave: in the past I have t...

NeedPeace · NeedPeace

AH got a final reprimand from work so might be losing his job (28 years with the company and 5 years from retiring). He says he didn't do anything wrong and his boss hates men. Really.... I've noticed lately he keeps asking me the same questions over and over again. The alcohol abuse must be impacting...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 27 speaks about self-pity and martyrdom. It points out that many times we read, or interpret a meaning into another's action that is not true. We need to learn to take things at face value and stop translating others actions or motives. . The quote is from One Day at a time in...

laurab · laurab

It's never ending. In October, after the last drinking time which resulted in no job, no home, no money, no girl friend and baby, 38 year ld A son tried living on the street for a few days. He didn't like it. My sister offered him her couch in NYC. He is on probation. He set up a program that included 5 days a we...

joker · joker

I finally took some action. I called the bank and since the mortgage is only in his name, my credit rating will not be affected and if the house sells I have half of the value. I did a stupid thing and called him. He was with her at her place and I got into a heated argument with him and her. I was so mad, I shook li...

joker · joker

Since my last update, I have been working on focusing on myself. Its been great. The ex-ABF went on another drunk after sleeping for 2 days. He contacted his ex-wife and met her and said he is not coming home tonight. I said good, I do not have to listen to lies and drunk talk all night. She can listen to you...

MollyOwl27 · MollyOwl27

Hey everyone! So I'm looking into face to face meetings and am a bit nervous. I will have to keep it secret from my spouse, which I don't love but it is what it is. He's attended AA about 7 years ago and absolutely couldn't stand it. So, to go to my own meetings will be a challenge but I think I found some early m...

NeedPeace · NeedPeace

Hello - I just found this forum on Monday and have tried to implement some of the ideas to remove the crazy and try to find peace. I'm struggling with intimacy and have been for the last 7 years but the hardest times have occurred over the last year. I can't seem to move past the thoughts in my head. I can't...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Hi all. . Its been awhile and ive found myself thinking i need to connect and update and well, process. If you have "followed" me at all you know ive been married to an alc for 17 yrs and have one 11 year child. Ihave also come to realize that my stbex is also a narcissist and that the combination h...

Debb · Debb

I saw this and thought, this is us working the program!!! {{HUGS}}

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about seeing the good and showing gratitude rather than dwelling on the negative. For those of us who have lived or are living with active As, it is easy enough to become mired in resentments and just be blind with anger toward our As. This reading is a remind...

KathRN · KathRN

im new here. My name is Kathy and I'm the mother of a 36 year old binge alcoholic daughter, who has 5 kids and has made bad choices all of her life, for which I have always paid the price. I hope that I am able to write this post, and am not breaking any rules here. I have a very long story, which I will share lat...

Jerry F · Jerry F

In my heart I pray that those who have suffered as a result of someone else's drinking and using, have the tool of our literature as the world-wide fellowship is represented along with their ESH. Page 26 speaks from that writers miracle of recovery which has so definitely displayed my own. My God...

mjferg · mjferg

I am not in a good place right now, struggling with a family situation that is too painful for words and winter. My water lines froze and busted, I have been without water for several days. still looking for a car I can afford.I guess all of these things are wearing me down, I am feeling quite defeated. I...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey there MIP family!!! I just remembered that I am to chair our local F2F meeting on Wednesday. The topic is gossip. I am very distracted by events in my real life so would love to draw upon you all to get some input. What I do know that I intend to share is that gossip is considered one of three obstacles...

Florph · Florph

Hi,I am a wife of a drug and alcohol addict. for years I have tried to help him quit,I finally realize that is just not going to happen,I have 3 kids with him.i am hurt,I am not he same person that I once was and I hate it,I feel like I let his actions,his addiction change me in a way I'm no longer happy with my l...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family :) Sorry its Been So Long, but I Was Sitting here thinking of my "Al-Anon/MIP" Blessings and I Realized a Few things and want to come here to Share them... :D When I Landed Here Just over 7years ago, I was a Complete Train Wreck, this was My 1st Stop MIP :D within a Couple weeks yo...

Yankeerose · Yankeerose

So my mother told me yesterday we shouldn't obsess over money. if you and your family have good health that's all that matters right? Well yes health is a biggy but so is paying your rent and feeding and clothing your children. A little background for those of you who don't know: I work full time. I was lu...

Debb · Debb

I find that gratitude interrupts anxiety!! {{HUGS}}

ShellyM · ShellyM

I've posted a few times before. My AH has cirrhosis and was initially sober for over 2 years. The alcohol is back. I thought as recently as a week ago that it was an isolated incident, but it wasn't. I've been going to Al Anon since right after that happened and it has been a Godsend. I'm still new and do not y...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change reading for January 25 speaks about liking the drama and the excitement of crisis in other people's lives, and ignoring our own life. By coming into Al-Anon we are encouraged to keep the focus on ourselves,talk about ourselves and not anybody else. Many of us discover that we...

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	struggling to hear the inner voice.help? (Preview) Hi everyone. Well I'm facing a major decision and am so knotted up in fear and anxiety I can't for the life of me make a decision. The slogan when in doubt don't has always been a no go for me because I tend to just sit paralysed about every single thing until I freak out and jump in headfirst. Balance, I know....	a4l	3	1467	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 2-4-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for February 4 speaks about how we sometimes tend to feel as if we e are being punished by God, when we are undergoing a difficult challenge . When this happens it indicates that we may have lost the image of a loving Higher Power. We need to maintain this image , if we are to recov...	hotrod	3	477	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	Conceptualizing an HP (Preview) Hi there, I've been working on the second step a lot lately and even sliding into the third step. The problem is I am having difficulty with the whole Higher Power thing. I was raised by an atheist who told me there was no God. I grew up without religion in my life at all. I do believe in a higher power a...	KT2015	11	719	Feb 4, 2016 by KT2015
	Courage to Change Reading (2-03-2016) (Preview) The C2C reading for February 3 speaks about the principles of the program leading to serenity. It suggests that many of us would've preferred to hear that the principles of the program would lead to sobriety and cure the alcoholic. We also had a misconception of the word "serenity". We th...	hotrod	2	493	Feb 3, 2016 by littlelionman
	The Master Plan.....I Wish I Had Just a Peek..... (Preview) I spent the first part of my day returning my lovely Aunt to the Earth from which we all supposedly have come. I then went home, and prepared to go to her home to help my cousins pack up and clean up. We have truly enjoyed our time together and it's been lovely to see them - many live abroad. As I was pulling u...	Iamhere	17	628	Feb 3, 2016 by littlelionman
	JUST A SHORT UPDATE (Preview) got a call from mortgage company and found out AH has not paid them for 2 months like he promised. From all reports he has had a accident with a neighbor and has been hiding his car because he doesnt have insurance. So with a tall male friend of the family im going back to THE HOUSE and will try to get AH to writ...	YARNCRAZY	2	365	Feb 3, 2016 by Iamhere
	Bad advice by loved ones (Preview) Hello again!! How do I explain to a dear friend of mine I cannot just "pack my $hÃ¯Å£ and leave" I still have quite alot of damage to deal with and am working the steps, I have created boundries and I am now slowly gaining control of my own future, but it's not instantaneous, she has no idea becau...	Amandasheart	9	761	Feb 3, 2016 by Breakingfree
	New relationship with an Alcoholic (Preview) Hey there, I have been dating my boyfriend for a month now. He is a recovering alcoholic. He relocated to my area 3 months ago (just about the time he became sober again) He is attending his meetings faithfully. I guess I am terrified because he keeps stating he does not want to hurt me. He is afraid t...	Free2bme3333	8	610	Feb 3, 2016 by Free2bme3333
	Spiritual Awaking....#123456789 (Preview) Hello MIP Family :) I have Landed Safely Back in My Home town from my Trip Out of Country :D I Landed 12 hours Before the Mega Snow Storm that Gave us 3 Foot of Snow :O .... I Should have Staying in Mexico...lol 70+ All Week Long :) I am So Very Grateful Al-Anon has Taught me the Benefit of "No Expectati...	Jozie	7	692	Feb 2, 2016 by Breakingfree
	Hope for Today feb 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about how detrimental gossip is in our recovery. The quote from Courage to Change is: "Gossip never enriched anyone's character. It was only an excuse to avoid focusing on myself." The reason I like this quote so much is it is a reminder to keep th...	yanksfan51	6	536	Feb 2, 2016 by maryjane
	Courage 2 Change reading for 2-1-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for February 1 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism. it points out that many people believe that if they stop" enabling ", the drinking will then stop. This is not necessarily true. We are powerless over alcohol and when we stop enabling, we are doi...	hotrod	4	570	Feb 2, 2016 by Iamhere
	New Here (Preview) Hello everyone. I have been considering joining Al-Anon for some time now and have finally taken that first step. I am currently engaged to an alcoholic and right now we are in a "quiet" phase although I know soon there will be some sort of episode. I have been exposed to addiction for a lot...	Gardening	5	585	Feb 2, 2016 by hotrod
	Please Help... ( 1 2 3 4 ) HFA blaming cheating letting go love (Preview) I need help. I don't even know where to begin... I dated an amazing man for six and a half years... We fell in love the moment we met. He treated me like I hung the moon. Three years into our relationship, I found out my boyfriend was an alcoholic when he attempted to push me away and ultimately checked himse...	Jaclyn	143	26409	Feb 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	My A falling into depression every time he is alone for extended periods. (Preview) Hi I'm new to the programme and have gotten as far as Step 3. I have been with my A for over 14 years in this time he's had one relapse but the problems continue. I don't live in my home country and cannot attend meeting in English. Finding this site has been a godsend. My A organised some long overdue counse...	CurleySue	9	531	Feb 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	using Al-Anon tools (Preview) This board has been my lifesaver. As some of your may know, my alcoholic BF has had another slip. He was sober for 3 months without a program. He has been drinking for 2 weeks now every third day. Its been a real challenge for me to work my program. Yesterday, I finally had enough! He had sat up all night talk...	joker	5	559	Feb 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	Husband is an alcoholic. Sober for 93 days and relapsed. I am pissed, how do I handle it? relapse hurt angry advice (Preview) Hi-- My husband has been an alcoholic for 20+ years and finally decided to get treatment. He was back to his old was last night and got drunk and bought a bunch of random people drinks (bill was over $300). I am so pissed and hurt that I am shaking. I get it that people are human and make mistakes, but how a...	augrads	7	8640	Jan 31, 2016 by Jerry F
	So we just watch our A commit slow suicide (Preview) How can we just stand by and watch it happen?	lgnutah	8	594	Jan 31, 2016 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change 1-31-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 31 speaks about having our "shortcomings" being removed. as we move to Step 6 and Step 7. It points out that we can do all we can to prepare for them to be removed by developing a nonjudgmental awareness of ourselves, accept what we discover and become willing t...	hotrod	3	497	Jan 31, 2016 by KathRN
	I apologize (Preview) I apologize for leaving in the middle of a meeting this morning. My girlfriend and I had our wires crossed and she was on her way to pick me up. I wasnt sure what to do so I just left but I think I forgot to log out.	KathRN	4	749	Jan 31, 2016 by lgnutah
	what can i expect from my recovering alcoholic boyfriend? letting go help please (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this forum, i came on here because i'm looking for some advice from other people that may have been in my position before. I have been dating a lovely man for 6 years, i wasn't aware initially that he was an alcoholic. He told me 2 years into the relationship. From that point onwards i enco...	Happy Girl	5	2536	Jan 31, 2016 by Mattie
	Alcoholic Mother (Preview) She texted me in the middle of December. It was the first time I've heard from any of them in nearly 3 years. I'm going along pretty smoothly and then bam, my head explodes. I'm so angry that I even responded. I want to reconcile but I also know that if I go back it will be the same patterns over again because t...	StargazerLily	5	610	Jan 31, 2016 by a4l
	hi all (Preview) As i was posting a reply to someone else,s post I realized that there was something i wanted to share. I suggested in my reply to give themselves a break over emotional reactions because they are doing things differntly now. As i have been trying to adjust to my new life, i have been sqelching alot of sadn...	YARNCRAZY	2	441	Jan 30, 2016 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 1-30-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 30 speaks about the difficulties of living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that many times plans change at a moments notice and rules get broken. Al-Anon shows me a new way to approach these difficulties. I can live one day at a time. I can make my choices of what...	hotrod	1	407	Jan 30, 2016 by Debb
	My Brother Is Drinking Himself To Death (Preview) Hello out there in Alanon world. Here is my story.... My oldest brother is drinking himself to death. He has been a heavy drinker/alcoholic for the better part of 45 years. Obviously, as this is a progressive disease, he hasn't always been in the condition he is now. But about a year ago, he was di...	Wiggity	8	2018	Jan 30, 2016 by Wiggity
	Vivitrol for Alcoholism (Preview) Has anyone known someone that's tried this?	frustrationshigh	2	562	Jan 30, 2016 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change reading 1-29-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 29, speaks about "self-expression." It points out that upon attending Al-Anon meetings, we discover how important it is to give voice to our feelings. We need to be very careful how we do this, as there is a huge difference between "expressing ourselv...	hotrod	3	753	Jan 29, 2016 by Iamhere
	Reliazation that my picker is broken (Preview) I went to an al-anon meeting last night and read afterwards and I had an awaking moment afterwards. I realized that every man that I had gotten into a serious relationship with and lived with not only all alcoholics but have the same issues. I need to go home. I need to go home. They are not from the city I...	joker	3	718	Jan 29, 2016 by MollyOwl27
	Final straw (Preview) Well, I've just had the final straw!! AD went on a binge tonight with my grandson's truck that my husband left to him when he passed. Grandson just turned 18. The truck is still in my name. The title was mailed to me around the time my hubby passed and I can't find it anywhere. I need to apply for a lost titl...	KathRN	3	652	Jan 29, 2016 by KT2015
	this is all new to me and i don't know what to do (Preview) I have been in a relationship with an A, who also has anxiety issues. he does not drink every day, or every weekend. but when A does drink, there is no stopping. and he is verbally abusive to me. it has never gotten physical. and afterwards, there are apologies, presents, promises of never doing it again...	sally1984	6	717	Jan 29, 2016 by MollyOwl27
	New to this- opinions of my situation please? (Preview) I realize that I'm the only one who can know what decision is right for me, but I would just like some outside thoughts on my situation. I went to my first Al-Anon meeting last night but didn't feel like talking at the time. I've been talking extensively with my friends and family that have experience wit...	cc123	4	578	Jan 29, 2016 by Iamhere
	God's timing vs my own...how to know (Preview) Hello all...Itâs been a while since Iâve posted as Iâve been riding out the current storm that Iâm currently in and just trying to take in all of the ESH on the boards to get through this.Â Iâm having trouble in my spirit with carrying out a decision that I made to file for legal separation from my AH.Â I m...	Hopefull15	4	639	Jan 28, 2016 by Hopefull15
	Death of a loved one (Preview) I'm back,I'm working the steps also still at 1st step in path,and doing the Ctc,and one day at a time ,ftf meetings are in next town over and I'm got night blindness so I'm still working on trying to find someone to carpool with cause I really need ft for.reason I'm here today is that my abf mom passed away l...	lookingup	4	590	Jan 28, 2016 by lookingup
	Step 2 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Board . Please join in and share your thoughts. Here is the address http...	hotrod	1	588	Jan 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C Reading 1-28-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 28 points out that many of us come to Al-Anon for a quick fix for our pain. and that many of us stayed because of the consistency, security and friendship that we find each day and because of our commitment to our growth. The reading suggests that it Is important to see recove...	hotrod	2	498	Jan 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	Finding a sponsor (Preview) hi! At my face to face meeting today we talked about step 12 (courage to change from yesterday) and it was a great discussion but I noticed everyone has a sponsor. The thought of this terrifies me. I want a sponsor, but how do I find one? What if they reject me? (I have a pretty bad fear of rejection and socia...	Fairlee	4	5546	Jan 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	I Wanna Be a Kid Again... (Preview) So - some of you know that I have a lovely Aunt, 83 years old, who went from independent living 2.5 weeks ago to Hospice today. There is no obvious or apparent reason that she's declined other than her body is just giving out in a general way. In my immediate family, I am the only one left in the area of our u...	Iamhere	26	880	Jan 28, 2016 by hotrod
	Struggling with boring and normal! (Preview) Funny, how I'll always find something to complain about, ugh. I have been dating my new guy for nearly 10 months. Everything is fine on the surface but I struggle with the normalcy of our relationship. No drama, no major issues (except that I think he's not a verbal guy when he expresses himself and h...	andromeda	15	913	Jan 28, 2016 by gillygilly
	New to this - 2 meetings in one day? (Preview) I'm totally new to this, and haven't found a home group or sponsor yet. I've had an extremely hard day, and feel like I need to try and listen to as many stories for help as I can. There are two meetings in my area that are close in proximity and timed right. Is there any benefit to trying to go to both? Hel...	marniep222	13	707	Jan 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	When I'm tired I'm a mess (Preview) I have been struggling with sleep on and off for a couple of years now. Sunday night I did not get much sleep at all. I got 4 hours tops and I woke up and went to work a groggy mess. I felt awful, and grumpy, and dissatisfied and like my life was miserable. My AH and I have had some of the worst arguments whe...	KT2015	4	675	Jan 28, 2016 by Debb
	Rock Bottom (Preview) I dont wish to continually post problems here, I am new and wish to move forward with step one... Came home from work to witness alcoholic daughter (nearly 20) needlessly bullying younger daughter in front of friends (again!) For the fist time I asked daughter and friends to leave: in the past I have t...	Pearlgirl	4	708	Jan 28, 2016 by Pearlgirl
	Lies, Lies and Loss of Memory (Preview) AH got a final reprimand from work so might be losing his job (28 years with the company and 5 years from retiring). He says he didn't do anything wrong and his boss hates men. Really.... I've noticed lately he keeps asking me the same questions over and over again. The alcohol abuse must be impacting...	NeedPeace	3	730	Jan 28, 2016 by Jen61
	Courage to Change 1-27-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 27 speaks about self-pity and martyrdom. It points out that many times we read, or interpret a meaning into another's action that is not true. We need to learn to take things at face value and stop translating others actions or motives. . The quote is from One Day at a time in...	hotrod	8	636	Jan 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	There is no solution and I have no control (Preview) It's never ending. In October, after the last drinking time which resulted in no job, no home, no money, no girl friend and baby, 38 year ld A son tried living on the street for a few days. He didn't like it. My sister offered him her couch in NYC. He is on probation. He set up a program that included 5 days a we...	laurab	6	661	Jan 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	I am so grateful yet angry (Preview) I finally took some action. I called the bank and since the mortgage is only in his name, my credit rating will not be affected and if the house sells I have half of the value. I did a stupid thing and called him. He was with her at her place and I got into a heated argument with him and her. I was so mad, I shook li...	joker	1	496	Jan 27, 2016 by laurab
	Clarity (Preview) Since my last update, I have been working on focusing on myself. Its been great. The ex-ABF went on another drunk after sleeping for 2 days. He contacted his ex-wife and met her and said he is not coming home tonight. I said good, I do not have to listen to lies and drunk talk all night. She can listen to you...	joker	4	830	Jan 27, 2016 by joker
	Nervous about f2f alanon (Preview) Hey everyone! So I'm looking into face to face meetings and am a bit nervous. I will have to keep it secret from my spouse, which I don't love but it is what it is. He's attended AA about 7 years ago and absolutely couldn't stand it. So, to go to my own meetings will be a challenge but I think I found some early m...	MollyOwl27	14	620	Jan 27, 2016 by Mirandac
	Guilt and intimacy with the AH (Preview) Hello - I just found this forum on Monday and have tried to implement some of the ideas to remove the crazy and try to find peace. I'm struggling with intimacy and have been for the last 7 years but the hardest times have occurred over the last year. I can't seem to move past the thoughts in my head. I can't...	NeedPeace	10	799	Jan 27, 2016 by milkwood
	connecting (Preview) Hi all. . Its been awhile and ive found myself thinking i need to connect and update and well, process. If you have "followed" me at all you know ive been married to an alc for 17 yrs and have one 11 year child. Ihave also come to realize that my stbex is also a narcissist and that the combination h...	Theoceancalls	8	583	Jan 27, 2016 by Jozie
	18 Things Mentally Strong People Do (Preview) I saw this and thought, this is us working the program!!! {{HUGS}}	Debb	6	816	Jan 27, 2016 by KathRN
	Hope for Today Jan 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about seeing the good and showing gratitude rather than dwelling on the negative. For those of us who have lived or are living with active As, it is easy enough to become mired in resentments and just be blind with anger toward our As. This reading is a remind...	yanksfan51	7	604	Jan 26, 2016 by Jerry F
	New and very much in need of help (Preview) im new here. My name is Kathy and I'm the mother of a 36 year old binge alcoholic daughter, who has 5 kids and has made bad choices all of her life, for which I have always paid the price. I hope that I am able to write this post, and am not breaking any rules here. I have a very long story, which I will share lat...	KathRN	10	949	Jan 26, 2016 by MollyOwl27
	Courage 1-26-16 (Preview) In my heart I pray that those who have suffered as a result of someone else's drinking and using, have the tool of our literature as the world-wide fellowship is represented along with their ESH. Page 26 speaks from that writers miracle of recovery which has so definitely displayed my own. My God...	Jerry F	3	600	Jan 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	Dreaming of summer (Preview) I am not in a good place right now, struggling with a family situation that is too painful for words and winter. My water lines froze and busted, I have been without water for several days. still looking for a car I can afford.I guess all of these things are wearing me down, I am feeling quite defeated. I...	mjferg	7	481	Jan 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	Would Love to Have Input on Gossip (Preview) Hey there MIP family!!! I just remembered that I am to chair our local F2F meeting on Wednesday. The topic is gossip. I am very distracted by events in my real life so would love to draw upon you all to get some input. What I do know that I intend to share is that gossip is considered one of three obstacles...	Iamhere	12	1478	Jan 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	Sponsor? (Preview) Hi,I am a wife of a drug and alcohol addict. for years I have tried to help him quit,I finally realize that is just not going to happen,I have 3 kids with him.i am hurt,I am not he same person that I once was and I hate it,I feel like I let his actions,his addiction change me in a way I'm no longer happy with my l...	Florph	6	565	Jan 26, 2016 by maryjane
	Growth & Graditude to You & HP :) (Preview) Hello MIP Family :) Sorry its Been So Long, but I Was Sitting here thinking of my "Al-Anon/MIP" Blessings and I Realized a Few things and want to come here to Share them... :D When I Landed Here Just over 7years ago, I was a Complete Train Wreck, this was My 1st Stop MIP :D within a Couple weeks yo...	Jozie	12	810	Jan 26, 2016 by Jozie
	Obsessing about money and paying the bills (Preview) So my mother told me yesterday we shouldn't obsess over money. if you and your family have good health that's all that matters right? Well yes health is a biggy but so is paying your rent and feeding and clothing your children. A little background for those of you who don't know: I work full time. I was lu...	Yankeerose	24	745	Jan 26, 2016 by Yankeerose
	Life Can be Sweet & Bitter (Preview) I find that gratitude interrupts anxiety!! {{HUGS}}	Debb	11	843	Jan 26, 2016 by Taraxacum
	Blizzard and Active Alcoholic - Help! (Preview) I've posted a few times before. My AH has cirrhosis and was initially sober for over 2 years. The alcohol is back. I thought as recently as a week ago that it was an isolated incident, but it wasn't. I've been going to Al Anon since right after that happened and it has been a Godsend. I'm still new and do not y...	ShellyM	15	848	Jan 26, 2016 by milkwood
	Courage to Change Reading 1-25-2016 (Preview) The Courage to Change reading for January 25 speaks about liking the drama and the excitement of crisis in other people's lives, and ignoring our own life. By coming into Al-Anon we are encouraged to keep the focus on ourselves,talk about ourselves and not anybody else. Many of us discover that we...	hotrod	9	958	Jan 26, 2016 by Iamhere
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