Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

KT2015 · KT2015

So I've been trying to focus more on myself and less on the As in my life. And in doing that I have found I kind of started to obsess about what was wrong with me. Because suddenly I can see all these irrational thoughts and feelings and behaviours that are unhealthy for me. And I have been obsessing over...

Tired-of-it · Tired-of-it

Hi everyone. Its been a while. First, I am SO sorry this is s long, but I haven't really talked to anyone that is going through this in a while and I guess I am just trying to gage where I am in the on going sinerio with my AH. For a long time, he has been averaging 1/2 a fith of Black Velvet a day, drinking it strei...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 5th, speaks about the principle in Tradition 11 whereby we are cautioned to remember that we "attract "people to alanon by practicing the principles and not by telling them what to do or by giving advise. People get to alanon when they are ready and not be...

NeedPeace · NeedPeace

I'm sure not feeling like I'm making the right choices lately and have been asking my HP to guide me. I'm also trying to let go and let God but am still struggling. I read that I should be able to show compassion for my AH. At this point in time, it's highly likely I will move on but am not quite there yet. I...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

So I graduated from Nursing school December 18th, but still had my 90 our transitions rotation to do at a hospital so my actual graduation date if February 9th even though I walked through a ceremony already. So I have two shifts left this week then I am truly done with school and will get a date to take my n...

joker · joker

I have been thinking about what the ABF has said about our age difference and trying to see his perspective. He says he is 6 years older than me and he has a different mind set, values, dreams than I do and he needs to think about his life as he gets older. I do not understand what he is talking about. I am a moth...

joker · joker

I finally made it to a face to face Al-anon meeting Monday night. It was great to discuss what I was feeling and the anger I was in. The ABF was drunk and I went to the meeting anyways. He had been on a 24 hour bender starting Monday and ending only yesterday. He had kept me up as he talked and talked to himself n...

lgnutah · lgnutah

This morning I got a call from my 35 year old AD. A call similar to so many other calls that I've gotten from her. A call filled with misery, toxicity, negativity and venom. A type of call in the past that would have dragged me down, made me sick with worry, and kept me awake at night. She does nothing to addr...

goodmorningsunshine66 · goodmorningsunshine66

Hi, I'm new here. I have been to a few al-anon meetings in person and belonged to an email group for a time. I need advice and help figuring out how to handle a situation with my husband. So my husband doesn't seem to fit the conventional definition of alcoholic. He doesn't drink every day (as far as I c...

a4l · a4l

Hi everyone. Well I'm facing a major decision and am so knotted up in fear and anxiety I can't for the life of me make a decision. The slogan when in doubt don't has always been a no go for me because I tend to just sit paralysed about every single thing until I freak out and jump in headfirst. Balance, I know....

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 4 speaks about how we sometimes tend to feel as if we e are being punished by God, when we are undergoing a difficult challenge . When this happens it indicates that we may have lost the image of a loving Higher Power. We need to maintain this image , if we are to recov...

KT2015 · KT2015

Hi there, I've been working on the second step a lot lately and even sliding into the third step. The problem is I am having difficulty with the whole Higher Power thing. I was raised by an atheist who told me there was no God. I grew up without religion in my life at all. I do believe in a higher power a...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 3 speaks about the principles of the program leading to serenity. It suggests that many of us would've preferred to hear that the principles of the program would lead to sobriety and cure the alcoholic. We also had a misconception of the word "serenity". We th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I spent the first part of my day returning my lovely Aunt to the Earth from which we all supposedly have come. I then went home, and prepared to go to her home to help my cousins pack up and clean up. We have truly enjoyed our time together and it's been lovely to see them - many live abroad. As I was pulling u...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

got a call from mortgage company and found out AH has not paid them for 2 months like he promised. From all reports he has had a accident with a neighbor and has been hiding his car because he doesnt have insurance. So with a tall male friend of the family im going back to THE HOUSE and will try to get AH to writ...

Amandasheart · Amandasheart

Hello again!! How do I explain to a dear friend of mine I cannot just "pack my $hÃ¯Å£ and leave" I still have quite alot of damage to deal with and am working the steps, I have created boundries and I am now slowly gaining control of my own future, but it's not instantaneous, she has no idea becau...

Free2bme3333 · Free2bme3333

Hey there, I have been dating my boyfriend for a month now. He is a recovering alcoholic. He relocated to my area 3 months ago (just about the time he became sober again) He is attending his meetings faithfully. I guess I am terrified because he keeps stating he does not want to hurt me. He is afraid t...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family :) I have Landed Safely Back in My Home town from my Trip Out of Country :D I Landed 12 hours Before the Mega Snow Storm that Gave us 3 Foot of Snow :O .... I Should have Staying in Mexico...lol 70+ All Week Long :) I am So Very Grateful Al-Anon has Taught me the Benefit of "No Expectati...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about how detrimental gossip is in our recovery. The quote from Courage to Change is: "Gossip never enriched anyone's character. It was only an excuse to avoid focusing on myself." The reason I like this quote so much is it is a reminder to keep th...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 1 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism. it points out that many people believe that if they stop" enabling ", the drinking will then stop. This is not necessarily true. We are powerless over alcohol and when we stop enabling, we are doi...

Gardening · Gardening

Hello everyone. I have been considering joining Al-Anon for some time now and have finally taken that first step. I am currently engaged to an alcoholic and right now we are in a "quiet" phase although I know soon there will be some sort of episode. I have been exposed to addiction for a lot...

Jaclyn · Jaclyn

I need help. I don't even know where to begin... I dated an amazing man for six and a half years... We fell in love the moment we met. He treated me like I hung the moon. Three years into our relationship, I found out my boyfriend was an alcoholic when he attempted to push me away and ultimately checked himse...

CurleySue · CurleySue

Hi I'm new to the programme and have gotten as far as Step 3. I have been with my A for over 14 years in this time he's had one relapse but the problems continue. I don't live in my home country and cannot attend meeting in English. Finding this site has been a godsend. My A organised some long overdue counse...

joker · joker

This board has been my lifesaver. As some of your may know, my alcoholic BF has had another slip. He was sober for 3 months without a program. He has been drinking for 2 weeks now every third day. Its been a real challenge for me to work my program. Yesterday, I finally had enough! He had sat up all night talk...

augrads · augrads

Hi-- My husband has been an alcoholic for 20+ years and finally decided to get treatment. He was back to his old was last night and got drunk and bought a bunch of random people drinks (bill was over $300). I am so pissed and hurt that I am shaking. I get it that people are human and make mistakes, but how a...

lgnutah · lgnutah

How can we just stand by and watch it happen?

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 31 speaks about having our "shortcomings" being removed. as we move to Step 6 and Step 7. It points out that we can do all we can to prepare for them to be removed by developing a nonjudgmental awareness of ourselves, accept what we discover and become willing t...

KathRN · KathRN

I apologize for leaving in the middle of a meeting this morning. My girlfriend and I had our wires crossed and she was on her way to pick me up. I wasnt sure what to do so I just left but I think I forgot to log out.

Happy Girl · Happy Girl

Hello, I'm new to this forum, i came on here because i'm looking for some advice from other people that may have been in my position before. I have been dating a lovely man for 6 years, i wasn't aware initially that he was an alcoholic. He told me 2 years into the relationship. From that point onwards i enco...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

She texted me in the middle of December. It was the first time I've heard from any of them in nearly 3 years. I'm going along pretty smoothly and then bam, my head explodes. I'm so angry that I even responded. I want to reconcile but I also know that if I go back it will be the same patterns over again because t...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

As i was posting a reply to someone else,s post I realized that there was something i wanted to share. I suggested in my reply to give themselves a break over emotional reactions because they are doing things differntly now. As i have been trying to adjust to my new life, i have been sqelching alot of sadn...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 30 speaks about the difficulties of living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that many times plans change at a moments notice and rules get broken. Al-Anon shows me a new way to approach these difficulties. I can live one day at a time. I can make my choices of what...

Wiggity · Wiggity

Hello out there in Alanon world. Here is my story.... My oldest brother is drinking himself to death. He has been a heavy drinker/alcoholic for the better part of 45 years. Obviously, as this is a progressive disease, he hasn't always been in the condition he is now. But about a year ago, he was di...

frustrationshigh · frustrationshigh

Has anyone known someone that's tried this?

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 29, speaks about "self-expression." It points out that upon attending Al-Anon meetings, we discover how important it is to give voice to our feelings. We need to be very careful how we do this, as there is a huge difference between "expressing ourselv...

joker · joker

I went to an al-anon meeting last night and read afterwards and I had an awaking moment afterwards. I realized that every man that I had gotten into a serious relationship with and lived with not only all alcoholics but have the same issues. I need to go home. I need to go home. They are not from the city I...

KathRN · KathRN

Well, I've just had the final straw!! AD went on a binge tonight with my grandson's truck that my husband left to him when he passed. Grandson just turned 18. The truck is still in my name. The title was mailed to me around the time my hubby passed and I can't find it anywhere. I need to apply for a lost titl...

sally1984 · sally1984

I have been in a relationship with an A, who also has anxiety issues. he does not drink every day, or every weekend. but when A does drink, there is no stopping. and he is verbally abusive to me. it has never gotten physical. and afterwards, there are apologies, presents, promises of never doing it again...

cc123 · cc123

I realize that I'm the only one who can know what decision is right for me, but I would just like some outside thoughts on my situation. I went to my first Al-Anon meeting last night but didn't feel like talking at the time. I've been talking extensively with my friends and family that have experience wit...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

Hello all...Itâs been a while since Iâve posted as Iâve been riding out the current storm that Iâm currently in and just trying to take in all of the ESH on the boards to get through this.Â Iâm having trouble in my spirit with carrying out a decision that I made to file for legal separation from my AH.Â I m...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm back,I'm working the steps also still at 1st step in path,and doing the Ctc,and one day at a time ,ftf meetings are in next town over and I'm got night blindness so I'm still working on trying to find someone to carpool with cause I really need ft for.reason I'm here today is that my abf mom passed away l...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Board . Please join in and share your thoughts. Here is the address http...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 28 points out that many of us come to Al-Anon for a quick fix for our pain. and that many of us stayed because of the consistency, security and friendship that we find each day and because of our commitment to our growth. The reading suggests that it Is important to see recove...

Fairlee · Fairlee

hi! At my face to face meeting today we talked about step 12 (courage to change from yesterday) and it was a great discussion but I noticed everyone has a sponsor. The thought of this terrifies me. I want a sponsor, but how do I find one? What if they reject me? (I have a pretty bad fear of rejection and socia...

Iamhere · Iamhere

So - some of you know that I have a lovely Aunt, 83 years old, who went from independent living 2.5 weeks ago to Hospice today. There is no obvious or apparent reason that she's declined other than her body is just giving out in a general way. In my immediate family, I am the only one left in the area of our u...

andromeda · andromeda

Funny, how I'll always find something to complain about, ugh. I have been dating my new guy for nearly 10 months. Everything is fine on the surface but I struggle with the normalcy of our relationship. No drama, no major issues (except that I think he's not a verbal guy when he expresses himself and h...

marniep222 · marniep222

I'm totally new to this, and haven't found a home group or sponsor yet. I've had an extremely hard day, and feel like I need to try and listen to as many stories for help as I can. There are two meetings in my area that are close in proximity and timed right. Is there any benefit to trying to go to both? Hel...

KT2015 · KT2015

I have been struggling with sleep on and off for a couple of years now. Sunday night I did not get much sleep at all. I got 4 hours tops and I woke up and went to work a groggy mess. I felt awful, and grumpy, and dissatisfied and like my life was miserable. My AH and I have had some of the worst arguments whe...

Pearlgirl · Pearlgirl

I dont wish to continually post problems here, I am new and wish to move forward with step one... Came home from work to witness alcoholic daughter (nearly 20) needlessly bullying younger daughter in front of friends (again!) For the fist time I asked daughter and friends to leave: in the past I have t...

NeedPeace · NeedPeace

AH got a final reprimand from work so might be losing his job (28 years with the company and 5 years from retiring). He says he didn't do anything wrong and his boss hates men. Really.... I've noticed lately he keeps asking me the same questions over and over again. The alcohol abuse must be impacting...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 27 speaks about self-pity and martyrdom. It points out that many times we read, or interpret a meaning into another's action that is not true. We need to learn to take things at face value and stop translating others actions or motives. . The quote is from One Day at a time in...

laurab · laurab

It's never ending. In October, after the last drinking time which resulted in no job, no home, no money, no girl friend and baby, 38 year ld A son tried living on the street for a few days. He didn't like it. My sister offered him her couch in NYC. He is on probation. He set up a program that included 5 days a we...

joker · joker

I finally took some action. I called the bank and since the mortgage is only in his name, my credit rating will not be affected and if the house sells I have half of the value. I did a stupid thing and called him. He was with her at her place and I got into a heated argument with him and her. I was so mad, I shook li...

joker · joker

Since my last update, I have been working on focusing on myself. Its been great. The ex-ABF went on another drunk after sleeping for 2 days. He contacted his ex-wife and met her and said he is not coming home tonight. I said good, I do not have to listen to lies and drunk talk all night. She can listen to you...

MollyOwl27 · MollyOwl27

Hey everyone! So I'm looking into face to face meetings and am a bit nervous. I will have to keep it secret from my spouse, which I don't love but it is what it is. He's attended AA about 7 years ago and absolutely couldn't stand it. So, to go to my own meetings will be a challenge but I think I found some early m...

NeedPeace · NeedPeace

Hello - I just found this forum on Monday and have tried to implement some of the ideas to remove the crazy and try to find peace. I'm struggling with intimacy and have been for the last 7 years but the hardest times have occurred over the last year. I can't seem to move past the thoughts in my head. I can't...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Hi all. . Its been awhile and ive found myself thinking i need to connect and update and well, process. If you have "followed" me at all you know ive been married to an alc for 17 yrs and have one 11 year child. Ihave also come to realize that my stbex is also a narcissist and that the combination h...

Debb · Debb

I saw this and thought, this is us working the program!!! {{HUGS}}

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about seeing the good and showing gratitude rather than dwelling on the negative. For those of us who have lived or are living with active As, it is easy enough to become mired in resentments and just be blind with anger toward our As. This reading is a remind...

KathRN · KathRN

im new here. My name is Kathy and I'm the mother of a 36 year old binge alcoholic daughter, who has 5 kids and has made bad choices all of her life, for which I have always paid the price. I hope that I am able to write this post, and am not breaking any rules here. I have a very long story, which I will share lat...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	keep it simple (Preview) So I've been trying to focus more on myself and less on the As in my life. And in doing that I have found I kind of started to obsess about what was wrong with me. Because suddenly I can see all these irrational thoughts and feelings and behaviours that are unhealthy for me. And I have been obsessing over...	KT2015	3	617	Feb 5, 2016 by KT2015
	Been a while since I have been here... (Preview) Hi everyone. Its been a while. First, I am SO sorry this is s long, but I haven't really talked to anyone that is going through this in a while and I guess I am just trying to gage where I am in the on going sinerio with my AH. For a long time, he has been averaging 1/2 a fith of Black Velvet a day, drinking it strei...	Tired-of-it	2	634	Feb 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 2-5 (Preview) The C2C reading for February 5th, speaks about the principle in Tradition 11 whereby we are cautioned to remember that we "attract "people to alanon by practicing the principles and not by telling them what to do or by giving advise. People get to alanon when they are ready and not be...	hotrod	2	535	Feb 5, 2016 by Hoot Nanny
	How do I show compassion for AH? (Preview) I'm sure not feeling like I'm making the right choices lately and have been asking my HP to guide me. I'm also trying to let go and let God but am still struggling. I read that I should be able to show compassion for my AH. At this point in time, it's highly likely I will move on but am not quite there yet. I...	NeedPeace	11	917	Feb 5, 2016 by Tired-of-it
	Just not feeling it..... (Preview) So I graduated from Nursing school December 18th, but still had my 90 our transitions rotation to do at a hospital so my actual graduation date if February 9th even though I walked through a ceremony already. So I have two shifts left this week then I am truly done with school and will get a date to take my n...	Breakingfree	13	653	Feb 4, 2016 by andromeda
	ABF says things unrealistic (Preview) I have been thinking about what the ABF has said about our age difference and trying to see his perspective. He says he is 6 years older than me and he has a different mind set, values, dreams than I do and he needs to think about his life as he gets older. I do not understand what he is talking about. I am a moth...	joker	2	536	Feb 4, 2016 by pinkchip
	Update (Preview) I finally made it to a face to face Al-anon meeting Monday night. It was great to discuss what I was feeling and the anger I was in. The ABF was drunk and I went to the meeting anyways. He had been on a 24 hour bender starting Monday and ending only yesterday. He had kept me up as he talked and talked to himself n...	joker	3	496	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	Maybe it's using my tools, or maybe I've just had enough (Preview) This morning I got a call from my 35 year old AD. A call similar to so many other calls that I've gotten from her. A call filled with misery, toxicity, negativity and venom. A type of call in the past that would have dragged me down, made me sick with worry, and kept me awake at night. She does nothing to addr...	lgnutah	4	562	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	question about kinds of alcoholics (Preview) Hi, I'm new here. I have been to a few al-anon meetings in person and belonged to an email group for a time. I need advice and help figuring out how to handle a situation with my husband. So my husband doesn't seem to fit the conventional definition of alcoholic. He doesn't drink every day (as far as I c...	goodmorningsunshine66	21	1202	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	struggling to hear the inner voice.help? (Preview) Hi everyone. Well I'm facing a major decision and am so knotted up in fear and anxiety I can't for the life of me make a decision. The slogan when in doubt don't has always been a no go for me because I tend to just sit paralysed about every single thing until I freak out and jump in headfirst. Balance, I know....	a4l	3	1565	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 2-4-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for February 4 speaks about how we sometimes tend to feel as if we e are being punished by God, when we are undergoing a difficult challenge . When this happens it indicates that we may have lost the image of a loving Higher Power. We need to maintain this image , if we are to recov...	hotrod	3	503	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	Conceptualizing an HP (Preview) Hi there, I've been working on the second step a lot lately and even sliding into the third step. The problem is I am having difficulty with the whole Higher Power thing. I was raised by an atheist who told me there was no God. I grew up without religion in my life at all. I do believe in a higher power a...	KT2015	11	745	Feb 4, 2016 by KT2015
	Courage to Change Reading (2-03-2016) (Preview) The C2C reading for February 3 speaks about the principles of the program leading to serenity. It suggests that many of us would've preferred to hear that the principles of the program would lead to sobriety and cure the alcoholic. We also had a misconception of the word "serenity". We th...	hotrod	2	518	Feb 3, 2016 by littlelionman
	The Master Plan.....I Wish I Had Just a Peek..... (Preview) I spent the first part of my day returning my lovely Aunt to the Earth from which we all supposedly have come. I then went home, and prepared to go to her home to help my cousins pack up and clean up. We have truly enjoyed our time together and it's been lovely to see them - many live abroad. As I was pulling u...	Iamhere	17	650	Feb 3, 2016 by littlelionman
	JUST A SHORT UPDATE (Preview) got a call from mortgage company and found out AH has not paid them for 2 months like he promised. From all reports he has had a accident with a neighbor and has been hiding his car because he doesnt have insurance. So with a tall male friend of the family im going back to THE HOUSE and will try to get AH to writ...	YARNCRAZY	2	388	Feb 3, 2016 by Iamhere
	Bad advice by loved ones (Preview) Hello again!! How do I explain to a dear friend of mine I cannot just "pack my $hÃ¯Å£ and leave" I still have quite alot of damage to deal with and am working the steps, I have created boundries and I am now slowly gaining control of my own future, but it's not instantaneous, she has no idea becau...	Amandasheart	9	787	Feb 3, 2016 by Breakingfree
	New relationship with an Alcoholic (Preview) Hey there, I have been dating my boyfriend for a month now. He is a recovering alcoholic. He relocated to my area 3 months ago (just about the time he became sober again) He is attending his meetings faithfully. I guess I am terrified because he keeps stating he does not want to hurt me. He is afraid t...	Free2bme3333	8	639	Feb 3, 2016 by Free2bme3333
	Spiritual Awaking....#123456789 (Preview) Hello MIP Family :) I have Landed Safely Back in My Home town from my Trip Out of Country :D I Landed 12 hours Before the Mega Snow Storm that Gave us 3 Foot of Snow :O .... I Should have Staying in Mexico...lol 70+ All Week Long :) I am So Very Grateful Al-Anon has Taught me the Benefit of "No Expectati...	Jozie	7	717	Feb 2, 2016 by Breakingfree
	Hope for Today feb 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about how detrimental gossip is in our recovery. The quote from Courage to Change is: "Gossip never enriched anyone's character. It was only an excuse to avoid focusing on myself." The reason I like this quote so much is it is a reminder to keep th...	yanksfan51	6	562	Feb 2, 2016 by maryjane
	Courage 2 Change reading for 2-1-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for February 1 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism. it points out that many people believe that if they stop" enabling ", the drinking will then stop. This is not necessarily true. We are powerless over alcohol and when we stop enabling, we are doi...	hotrod	4	596	Feb 2, 2016 by Iamhere
	New Here (Preview) Hello everyone. I have been considering joining Al-Anon for some time now and have finally taken that first step. I am currently engaged to an alcoholic and right now we are in a "quiet" phase although I know soon there will be some sort of episode. I have been exposed to addiction for a lot...	Gardening	5	610	Feb 2, 2016 by hotrod
	Please Help... ( 1 2 3 4 ) HFA blaming cheating letting go love (Preview) I need help. I don't even know where to begin... I dated an amazing man for six and a half years... We fell in love the moment we met. He treated me like I hung the moon. Three years into our relationship, I found out my boyfriend was an alcoholic when he attempted to push me away and ultimately checked himse...	Jaclyn	143	26857	Feb 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	My A falling into depression every time he is alone for extended periods. (Preview) Hi I'm new to the programme and have gotten as far as Step 3. I have been with my A for over 14 years in this time he's had one relapse but the problems continue. I don't live in my home country and cannot attend meeting in English. Finding this site has been a godsend. My A organised some long overdue counse...	CurleySue	9	559	Feb 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	using Al-Anon tools (Preview) This board has been my lifesaver. As some of your may know, my alcoholic BF has had another slip. He was sober for 3 months without a program. He has been drinking for 2 weeks now every third day. Its been a real challenge for me to work my program. Yesterday, I finally had enough! He had sat up all night talk...	joker	5	589	Feb 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	Husband is an alcoholic. Sober for 93 days and relapsed. I am pissed, how do I handle it? relapse hurt angry advice (Preview) Hi-- My husband has been an alcoholic for 20+ years and finally decided to get treatment. He was back to his old was last night and got drunk and bought a bunch of random people drinks (bill was over $300). I am so pissed and hurt that I am shaking. I get it that people are human and make mistakes, but how a...	augrads	7	8982	Jan 31, 2016 by Jerry F
	So we just watch our A commit slow suicide (Preview) How can we just stand by and watch it happen?	lgnutah	8	625	Jan 31, 2016 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change 1-31-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 31 speaks about having our "shortcomings" being removed. as we move to Step 6 and Step 7. It points out that we can do all we can to prepare for them to be removed by developing a nonjudgmental awareness of ourselves, accept what we discover and become willing t...	hotrod	3	522	Jan 31, 2016 by KathRN
	I apologize (Preview) I apologize for leaving in the middle of a meeting this morning. My girlfriend and I had our wires crossed and she was on her way to pick me up. I wasnt sure what to do so I just left but I think I forgot to log out.	KathRN	4	774	Jan 31, 2016 by lgnutah
	what can i expect from my recovering alcoholic boyfriend? letting go help please (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this forum, i came on here because i'm looking for some advice from other people that may have been in my position before. I have been dating a lovely man for 6 years, i wasn't aware initially that he was an alcoholic. He told me 2 years into the relationship. From that point onwards i enco...	Happy Girl	5	2602	Jan 31, 2016 by Mattie
	Alcoholic Mother (Preview) She texted me in the middle of December. It was the first time I've heard from any of them in nearly 3 years. I'm going along pretty smoothly and then bam, my head explodes. I'm so angry that I even responded. I want to reconcile but I also know that if I go back it will be the same patterns over again because t...	StargazerLily	5	637	Jan 31, 2016 by a4l
	hi all (Preview) As i was posting a reply to someone else,s post I realized that there was something i wanted to share. I suggested in my reply to give themselves a break over emotional reactions because they are doing things differntly now. As i have been trying to adjust to my new life, i have been sqelching alot of sadn...	YARNCRAZY	2	468	Jan 30, 2016 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 1-30-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 30 speaks about the difficulties of living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that many times plans change at a moments notice and rules get broken. Al-Anon shows me a new way to approach these difficulties. I can live one day at a time. I can make my choices of what...	hotrod	1	432	Jan 30, 2016 by Debb
	My Brother Is Drinking Himself To Death (Preview) Hello out there in Alanon world. Here is my story.... My oldest brother is drinking himself to death. He has been a heavy drinker/alcoholic for the better part of 45 years. Obviously, as this is a progressive disease, he hasn't always been in the condition he is now. But about a year ago, he was di...	Wiggity	8	2057	Jan 30, 2016 by Wiggity
	Vivitrol for Alcoholism (Preview) Has anyone known someone that's tried this?	frustrationshigh	2	589	Jan 30, 2016 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change reading 1-29-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 29, speaks about "self-expression." It points out that upon attending Al-Anon meetings, we discover how important it is to give voice to our feelings. We need to be very careful how we do this, as there is a huge difference between "expressing ourselv...	hotrod	3	780	Jan 29, 2016 by Iamhere
	Reliazation that my picker is broken (Preview) I went to an al-anon meeting last night and read afterwards and I had an awaking moment afterwards. I realized that every man that I had gotten into a serious relationship with and lived with not only all alcoholics but have the same issues. I need to go home. I need to go home. They are not from the city I...	joker	3	742	Jan 29, 2016 by MollyOwl27
	Final straw (Preview) Well, I've just had the final straw!! AD went on a binge tonight with my grandson's truck that my husband left to him when he passed. Grandson just turned 18. The truck is still in my name. The title was mailed to me around the time my hubby passed and I can't find it anywhere. I need to apply for a lost titl...	KathRN	3	677	Jan 29, 2016 by KT2015
	this is all new to me and i don't know what to do (Preview) I have been in a relationship with an A, who also has anxiety issues. he does not drink every day, or every weekend. but when A does drink, there is no stopping. and he is verbally abusive to me. it has never gotten physical. and afterwards, there are apologies, presents, promises of never doing it again...	sally1984	6	749	Jan 29, 2016 by MollyOwl27
	New to this- opinions of my situation please? (Preview) I realize that I'm the only one who can know what decision is right for me, but I would just like some outside thoughts on my situation. I went to my first Al-Anon meeting last night but didn't feel like talking at the time. I've been talking extensively with my friends and family that have experience wit...	cc123	4	605	Jan 29, 2016 by Iamhere
	God's timing vs my own...how to know (Preview) Hello all...Itâs been a while since Iâve posted as Iâve been riding out the current storm that Iâm currently in and just trying to take in all of the ESH on the boards to get through this.Â Iâm having trouble in my spirit with carrying out a decision that I made to file for legal separation from my AH.Â I m...	Hopefull15	4	671	Jan 28, 2016 by Hopefull15
	Death of a loved one (Preview) I'm back,I'm working the steps also still at 1st step in path,and doing the Ctc,and one day at a time ,ftf meetings are in next town over and I'm got night blindness so I'm still working on trying to find someone to carpool with cause I really need ft for.reason I'm here today is that my abf mom passed away l...	lookingup	4	615	Jan 28, 2016 by lookingup
	Step 2 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Board . Please join in and share your thoughts. Here is the address http...	hotrod	1	614	Jan 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C Reading 1-28-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 28 points out that many of us come to Al-Anon for a quick fix for our pain. and that many of us stayed because of the consistency, security and friendship that we find each day and because of our commitment to our growth. The reading suggests that it Is important to see recove...	hotrod	2	526	Jan 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	Finding a sponsor (Preview) hi! At my face to face meeting today we talked about step 12 (courage to change from yesterday) and it was a great discussion but I noticed everyone has a sponsor. The thought of this terrifies me. I want a sponsor, but how do I find one? What if they reject me? (I have a pretty bad fear of rejection and socia...	Fairlee	4	5810	Jan 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	I Wanna Be a Kid Again... (Preview) So - some of you know that I have a lovely Aunt, 83 years old, who went from independent living 2.5 weeks ago to Hospice today. There is no obvious or apparent reason that she's declined other than her body is just giving out in a general way. In my immediate family, I am the only one left in the area of our u...	Iamhere	26	906	Jan 28, 2016 by hotrod
	Struggling with boring and normal! (Preview) Funny, how I'll always find something to complain about, ugh. I have been dating my new guy for nearly 10 months. Everything is fine on the surface but I struggle with the normalcy of our relationship. No drama, no major issues (except that I think he's not a verbal guy when he expresses himself and h...	andromeda	15	941	Jan 28, 2016 by gillygilly
	New to this - 2 meetings in one day? (Preview) I'm totally new to this, and haven't found a home group or sponsor yet. I've had an extremely hard day, and feel like I need to try and listen to as many stories for help as I can. There are two meetings in my area that are close in proximity and timed right. Is there any benefit to trying to go to both? Hel...	marniep222	13	737	Jan 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	When I'm tired I'm a mess (Preview) I have been struggling with sleep on and off for a couple of years now. Sunday night I did not get much sleep at all. I got 4 hours tops and I woke up and went to work a groggy mess. I felt awful, and grumpy, and dissatisfied and like my life was miserable. My AH and I have had some of the worst arguments whe...	KT2015	4	707	Jan 28, 2016 by Debb
	Rock Bottom (Preview) I dont wish to continually post problems here, I am new and wish to move forward with step one... Came home from work to witness alcoholic daughter (nearly 20) needlessly bullying younger daughter in front of friends (again!) For the fist time I asked daughter and friends to leave: in the past I have t...	Pearlgirl	4	733	Jan 28, 2016 by Pearlgirl
	Lies, Lies and Loss of Memory (Preview) AH got a final reprimand from work so might be losing his job (28 years with the company and 5 years from retiring). He says he didn't do anything wrong and his boss hates men. Really.... I've noticed lately he keeps asking me the same questions over and over again. The alcohol abuse must be impacting...	NeedPeace	3	758	Jan 28, 2016 by Jen61
	Courage to Change 1-27-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 27 speaks about self-pity and martyrdom. It points out that many times we read, or interpret a meaning into another's action that is not true. We need to learn to take things at face value and stop translating others actions or motives. . The quote is from One Day at a time in...	hotrod	8	665	Jan 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	There is no solution and I have no control (Preview) It's never ending. In October, after the last drinking time which resulted in no job, no home, no money, no girl friend and baby, 38 year ld A son tried living on the street for a few days. He didn't like it. My sister offered him her couch in NYC. He is on probation. He set up a program that included 5 days a we...	laurab	6	694	Jan 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	I am so grateful yet angry (Preview) I finally took some action. I called the bank and since the mortgage is only in his name, my credit rating will not be affected and if the house sells I have half of the value. I did a stupid thing and called him. He was with her at her place and I got into a heated argument with him and her. I was so mad, I shook li...	joker	1	521	Jan 27, 2016 by laurab
	Clarity (Preview) Since my last update, I have been working on focusing on myself. Its been great. The ex-ABF went on another drunk after sleeping for 2 days. He contacted his ex-wife and met her and said he is not coming home tonight. I said good, I do not have to listen to lies and drunk talk all night. She can listen to you...	joker	4	863	Jan 27, 2016 by joker
	Nervous about f2f alanon (Preview) Hey everyone! So I'm looking into face to face meetings and am a bit nervous. I will have to keep it secret from my spouse, which I don't love but it is what it is. He's attended AA about 7 years ago and absolutely couldn't stand it. So, to go to my own meetings will be a challenge but I think I found some early m...	MollyOwl27	14	649	Jan 27, 2016 by Mirandac
	Guilt and intimacy with the AH (Preview) Hello - I just found this forum on Monday and have tried to implement some of the ideas to remove the crazy and try to find peace. I'm struggling with intimacy and have been for the last 7 years but the hardest times have occurred over the last year. I can't seem to move past the thoughts in my head. I can't...	NeedPeace	10	833	Jan 27, 2016 by milkwood
	connecting (Preview) Hi all. . Its been awhile and ive found myself thinking i need to connect and update and well, process. If you have "followed" me at all you know ive been married to an alc for 17 yrs and have one 11 year child. Ihave also come to realize that my stbex is also a narcissist and that the combination h...	Theoceancalls	8	609	Jan 27, 2016 by Jozie
	18 Things Mentally Strong People Do (Preview) I saw this and thought, this is us working the program!!! {{HUGS}}	Debb	6	843	Jan 27, 2016 by KathRN
	Hope for Today Jan 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about seeing the good and showing gratitude rather than dwelling on the negative. For those of us who have lived or are living with active As, it is easy enough to become mired in resentments and just be blind with anger toward our As. This reading is a remind...	yanksfan51	7	629	Jan 26, 2016 by Jerry F
	New and very much in need of help (Preview) im new here. My name is Kathy and I'm the mother of a 36 year old binge alcoholic daughter, who has 5 kids and has made bad choices all of her life, for which I have always paid the price. I hope that I am able to write this post, and am not breaking any rules here. I have a very long story, which I will share lat...	KathRN	10	976	Jan 26, 2016 by MollyOwl27
«First < 1 … 148 149 150 151 152 … 823 > Last» \| Page of 823 sorted by

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.