Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

HI ALL EXCUSE THE CAPS, CAN TYPE BETTER WITH THEM. MY FRIEND TOOK ME TO THE HOUSE WHERE MY ALMOST XAH LIVES SO I COULD GET SOME PAPERS AND A CHECK ETC. i WAS EXPECTING TO SEE THINGS WERE BAD AFTER 2MTHS AWAY BUT NOT PREPARED TO SEE HIM SO VERY GAUNT,YELLOW,THIN WEAK AND UNABLE TO COMMUNICATE. i WAS HYSTERICA...

Taraxacum · Taraxacum

I am wading through my fears about possibly dovorcing my AH. One thought that holds me back is a loss of control over our son's environment. I have fears about unsafe behavior, and poor parenting affecting my son who is only 4 years old. I have started working on my son's skills- making sure he knows ho...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 8 speaks about wanting everybody to like us and be our friend. If this does not happen we often end up feeling hurt, disappointed and "less than".The words spoken at the closing of an Al-Anon meeting are very helpful to listen to and absorb. They are "th...

KT2015 · KT2015

Hi there, So I feel like things are going so well lately (knock on wood). Not that life is smooth but that I am handling the bumps in the road in a much saner way. I really feel more in touch with my HP and that is helping me so much. I'm starting to ask HP for help with things. I'm learning not to react to eve...

Jerry F · Jerry F

The day came and went...calmly and sanely as so many others have since arriving at the front doors of the program of Al-Anon Family Groups. We started the day as many others with literature reading that sets us up to do the best day we can and not get blind sided by anything that could take us off the sur...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Well, I'm finally able to hobble around without crutches and that's a very good feeling!! I have to be very careful not to over-do it which is difficult because I am so sick of taking it easy and I am itching to get out for long walks in the summer breeze! But oh well. The whole debacle has set me back by six mo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on concept 9- personal leadership at all service levels. The writer is more of a follower than leader, but through the study of concept 9 realizes there is leadership in following good example. There is leadership in following the suggestions of th...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Saw this today and loved it; this is by far and away the best lesson I have learned during my al-anon journey. Today was a nice day. I had no-where to be, and A came over to ask if I would help him fix his resume and write cover letters for some job applications. I didn't mention the drunken conversation a fe...

Peace Seeker · Peace Seeker

Good morning - My son is 5 months sober, living in sober living and doing IOP (he just turned 19). I got a call last night that he relapsed. (drunk) I will soon need to talk to the professionals managing his recovery and him. I am desperately trying to figure out how I should best deal with this situatio...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm always grateful for the little and big things .. I still have not been hired on full-time and I'm really ok with that, it's been a little overwhelming in terms of the unknown .. I guess after so much going on it's ok. We are getting more settled and things are going in a positive productive way. My XAH...

Foothold · Foothold

My AS was supposed to come over this afternoon to do some work on a car he's buying from us. He was a no-show. This is unsurprising, but I'm still having a quiet little panic over what might have happened to him, why he hasn't contacted us, etc. My grip on "I can't control what anyone else does, only wh...

manas · manas

Please help! I don't mind getting opinions, advice, shares, anything will do! Sorry for the messy post with random thoughts. I'm in India and things work a bit differently here. However, thankfully Alcoholics and co dependents, enablers are the same everywhere, I guess. I'm asking Questions and t...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for Feb. 6 speaks about the Al-Anon principle of not giving advise and waiting forissues to resolve themselves and not reacting -One such principle is that we mention to newcomers-- do not make any major life changes until you are in program for at least six first six months unles...

womanking · womanking

I'm in a relationship with the person I truly do consider my soul mate. We've known each other since we were about ten, and the last few years we've finally had the opportunity to be together. I have three children with my ex. My partner has had addiction problems for most of his life. Drugs and alcoh...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for February 7 speaks about making a decision every day to move in a positive direction. Knowing that major strides are often begun with very small steps, the reading suggests that by asking someone to be my sponsor, reaching out to a newcomer when trying a different Al-Anon meeting, m...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So. . An update. .my ah and i head back to the div mediator next week to iron out some final.details and then she will prepare the divorce papers for court. I find myself struggling with significant emotions and im so anxious about this as it draws near. How does one sign off on 17 yrs, get closure, let go an...

manas · manas

My A is in recovery in India. I'm recovering too. Experiencing withdrawals about A :), but quite in control now. Now, I had a very traumatic day at the end .. before my A was "admitted". My heart beat at around maybe 160 beats per minute continuously for about 4-5 hours.. probably high blood p...

Spice · Spice

Hello everyone, I am new to the group but not to al-anon. This has been an extremely hard week on me. I have been staying with my parents since my AH left me in July and filed for divorce in August. They have been out of town for a week tomorrow and I feel very isolated. I am 37 years old and feeling pretty lame f...

joker · joker

I had a good laugh today. Did you know active alcoholism is now called ADHD? what about the flu? any other names its been called?

joker · joker

I have just had a moment of clarity. What are the facts. 1. I grew up in an alcoholic home and at 15 years old I left and started my life on my own. I could not not stand the insanity and feeling stuck. 2. In every serious relationship I had with a man, (6live in bf/c/l/husbandsx2) they have had alcohol issue...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I woke up this morning, and was just sad. Really, really sad. I am so grateful for recovery as I would be in far worse shape if I did not live/seek a spiritual solution for all that annoys, affects or hurts me... Many of you know that I lost my Aunt 9 days ago. She was an awesome person and I will miss her dea...

felixfelicis · felixfelicis

Hi everyone This is my first post. A little background, I got with my X when we were 19 & 21. Right before my 21st birthday we unexpectedly got pregnant and got married a few months before we had our son in the summer of 2014. I always knew XH was an alcoholic, but he was sober our entire relationship...

Broken513 · Broken513

Hey everyone, I have not posted in a while

just thought I would update what is going on lately: AH is back to drinking, I may have mentioned that. Better luck next time I guess. MIL has been staying with us now for 10 days after a fall that landed her in the ER. NO broken bones or open wounds this time. s...

lookingup · lookingup

my a/sister lives with me and she stabbed me in the back I've put up and put up with her mood swings till this last one as of yesterday ,she tried her best to lie out of it and place blame on her daughter ,her daughter don't live here, she finally told me she did do it and that she apologized for it I still haven'...

pgd1979 · pgd1979

Hi everyone...first post here. I am an active member of AA (I am an alcoholic) in my community and truly have a love for the fellowship of AA. My wife have an compulsive eating disorder and attends OA meetings online. The other night, My sponsor suggested I attend some Al Anon meetings to gain some ex...

KT2015 · KT2015

So I've been trying to focus more on myself and less on the As in my life. And in doing that I have found I kind of started to obsess about what was wrong with me. Because suddenly I can see all these irrational thoughts and feelings and behaviours that are unhealthy for me. And I have been obsessing over...

Tired-of-it · Tired-of-it

Hi everyone. Its been a while. First, I am SO sorry this is s long, but I haven't really talked to anyone that is going through this in a while and I guess I am just trying to gage where I am in the on going sinerio with my AH. For a long time, he has been averaging 1/2 a fith of Black Velvet a day, drinking it strei...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 5th, speaks about the principle in Tradition 11 whereby we are cautioned to remember that we "attract "people to alanon by practicing the principles and not by telling them what to do or by giving advise. People get to alanon when they are ready and not be...

NeedPeace · NeedPeace

I'm sure not feeling like I'm making the right choices lately and have been asking my HP to guide me. I'm also trying to let go and let God but am still struggling. I read that I should be able to show compassion for my AH. At this point in time, it's highly likely I will move on but am not quite there yet. I...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

So I graduated from Nursing school December 18th, but still had my 90 our transitions rotation to do at a hospital so my actual graduation date if February 9th even though I walked through a ceremony already. So I have two shifts left this week then I am truly done with school and will get a date to take my n...

joker · joker

I have been thinking about what the ABF has said about our age difference and trying to see his perspective. He says he is 6 years older than me and he has a different mind set, values, dreams than I do and he needs to think about his life as he gets older. I do not understand what he is talking about. I am a moth...

joker · joker

I finally made it to a face to face Al-anon meeting Monday night. It was great to discuss what I was feeling and the anger I was in. The ABF was drunk and I went to the meeting anyways. He had been on a 24 hour bender starting Monday and ending only yesterday. He had kept me up as he talked and talked to himself n...

lgnutah · lgnutah

This morning I got a call from my 35 year old AD. A call similar to so many other calls that I've gotten from her. A call filled with misery, toxicity, negativity and venom. A type of call in the past that would have dragged me down, made me sick with worry, and kept me awake at night. She does nothing to addr...

goodmorningsunshine66 · goodmorningsunshine66

Hi, I'm new here. I have been to a few al-anon meetings in person and belonged to an email group for a time. I need advice and help figuring out how to handle a situation with my husband. So my husband doesn't seem to fit the conventional definition of alcoholic. He doesn't drink every day (as far as I c...

a4l · a4l

Hi everyone. Well I'm facing a major decision and am so knotted up in fear and anxiety I can't for the life of me make a decision. The slogan when in doubt don't has always been a no go for me because I tend to just sit paralysed about every single thing until I freak out and jump in headfirst. Balance, I know....

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 4 speaks about how we sometimes tend to feel as if we e are being punished by God, when we are undergoing a difficult challenge . When this happens it indicates that we may have lost the image of a loving Higher Power. We need to maintain this image , if we are to recov...

KT2015 · KT2015

Hi there, I've been working on the second step a lot lately and even sliding into the third step. The problem is I am having difficulty with the whole Higher Power thing. I was raised by an atheist who told me there was no God. I grew up without religion in my life at all. I do believe in a higher power a...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 3 speaks about the principles of the program leading to serenity. It suggests that many of us would've preferred to hear that the principles of the program would lead to sobriety and cure the alcoholic. We also had a misconception of the word "serenity". We th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I spent the first part of my day returning my lovely Aunt to the Earth from which we all supposedly have come. I then went home, and prepared to go to her home to help my cousins pack up and clean up. We have truly enjoyed our time together and it's been lovely to see them - many live abroad. As I was pulling u...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

got a call from mortgage company and found out AH has not paid them for 2 months like he promised. From all reports he has had a accident with a neighbor and has been hiding his car because he doesnt have insurance. So with a tall male friend of the family im going back to THE HOUSE and will try to get AH to writ...

Amandasheart · Amandasheart

Hello again!! How do I explain to a dear friend of mine I cannot just "pack my $hÃ¯Å£ and leave" I still have quite alot of damage to deal with and am working the steps, I have created boundries and I am now slowly gaining control of my own future, but it's not instantaneous, she has no idea becau...

Free2bme3333 · Free2bme3333

Hey there, I have been dating my boyfriend for a month now. He is a recovering alcoholic. He relocated to my area 3 months ago (just about the time he became sober again) He is attending his meetings faithfully. I guess I am terrified because he keeps stating he does not want to hurt me. He is afraid t...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family :) I have Landed Safely Back in My Home town from my Trip Out of Country :D I Landed 12 hours Before the Mega Snow Storm that Gave us 3 Foot of Snow :O .... I Should have Staying in Mexico...lol 70+ All Week Long :) I am So Very Grateful Al-Anon has Taught me the Benefit of "No Expectati...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about how detrimental gossip is in our recovery. The quote from Courage to Change is: "Gossip never enriched anyone's character. It was only an excuse to avoid focusing on myself." The reason I like this quote so much is it is a reminder to keep th...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for February 1 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism. it points out that many people believe that if they stop" enabling ", the drinking will then stop. This is not necessarily true. We are powerless over alcohol and when we stop enabling, we are doi...

Gardening · Gardening

Hello everyone. I have been considering joining Al-Anon for some time now and have finally taken that first step. I am currently engaged to an alcoholic and right now we are in a "quiet" phase although I know soon there will be some sort of episode. I have been exposed to addiction for a lot...

Jaclyn · Jaclyn

I need help. I don't even know where to begin... I dated an amazing man for six and a half years... We fell in love the moment we met. He treated me like I hung the moon. Three years into our relationship, I found out my boyfriend was an alcoholic when he attempted to push me away and ultimately checked himse...

CurleySue · CurleySue

Hi I'm new to the programme and have gotten as far as Step 3. I have been with my A for over 14 years in this time he's had one relapse but the problems continue. I don't live in my home country and cannot attend meeting in English. Finding this site has been a godsend. My A organised some long overdue counse...

joker · joker

This board has been my lifesaver. As some of your may know, my alcoholic BF has had another slip. He was sober for 3 months without a program. He has been drinking for 2 weeks now every third day. Its been a real challenge for me to work my program. Yesterday, I finally had enough! He had sat up all night talk...

augrads · augrads

Hi-- My husband has been an alcoholic for 20+ years and finally decided to get treatment. He was back to his old was last night and got drunk and bought a bunch of random people drinks (bill was over $300). I am so pissed and hurt that I am shaking. I get it that people are human and make mistakes, but how a...

lgnutah · lgnutah

How can we just stand by and watch it happen?

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 31 speaks about having our "shortcomings" being removed. as we move to Step 6 and Step 7. It points out that we can do all we can to prepare for them to be removed by developing a nonjudgmental awareness of ourselves, accept what we discover and become willing t...

KathRN · KathRN

I apologize for leaving in the middle of a meeting this morning. My girlfriend and I had our wires crossed and she was on her way to pick me up. I wasnt sure what to do so I just left but I think I forgot to log out.

Happy Girl · Happy Girl

Hello, I'm new to this forum, i came on here because i'm looking for some advice from other people that may have been in my position before. I have been dating a lovely man for 6 years, i wasn't aware initially that he was an alcoholic. He told me 2 years into the relationship. From that point onwards i enco...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

She texted me in the middle of December. It was the first time I've heard from any of them in nearly 3 years. I'm going along pretty smoothly and then bam, my head explodes. I'm so angry that I even responded. I want to reconcile but I also know that if I go back it will be the same patterns over again because t...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

As i was posting a reply to someone else,s post I realized that there was something i wanted to share. I suggested in my reply to give themselves a break over emotional reactions because they are doing things differntly now. As i have been trying to adjust to my new life, i have been sqelching alot of sadn...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 30 speaks about the difficulties of living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that many times plans change at a moments notice and rules get broken. Al-Anon shows me a new way to approach these difficulties. I can live one day at a time. I can make my choices of what...

Wiggity · Wiggity

Hello out there in Alanon world. Here is my story.... My oldest brother is drinking himself to death. He has been a heavy drinker/alcoholic for the better part of 45 years. Obviously, as this is a progressive disease, he hasn't always been in the condition he is now. But about a year ago, he was di...

frustrationshigh · frustrationshigh

Has anyone known someone that's tried this?

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 29, speaks about "self-expression." It points out that upon attending Al-Anon meetings, we discover how important it is to give voice to our feelings. We need to be very careful how we do this, as there is a huge difference between "expressing ourselv...

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	WED SO TRAGIC (Preview) HI ALL EXCUSE THE CAPS, CAN TYPE BETTER WITH THEM. MY FRIEND TOOK ME TO THE HOUSE WHERE MY ALMOST XAH LIVES SO I COULD GET SOME PAPERS AND A CHECK ETC. i WAS EXPECTING TO SEE THINGS WERE BAD AFTER 2MTHS AWAY BUT NOT PREPARED TO SEE HIM SO VERY GAUNT,YELLOW,THIN WEAK AND UNABLE TO COMMUNICATE. i WAS HYSTERICA...	YARNCRAZY	3	788	Feb 10, 2016 by hiraeth
	separating from A with young children (Preview) I am wading through my fears about possibly dovorcing my AH. One thought that holds me back is a loss of control over our son's environment. I have fears about unsafe behavior, and poor parenting affecting my son who is only 4 years old. I have started working on my son's skills- making sure he knows ho...	Taraxacum	9	841	Feb 9, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Courage to Change Reading 2-8-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for February 8 speaks about wanting everybody to like us and be our friend. If this does not happen we often end up feeling hurt, disappointed and "less than".The words spoken at the closing of an Al-Anon meeting are very helpful to listen to and absorb. They are "th...	hotrod	4	1101	Feb 9, 2016 by MeTwo2
	Just a positive share (Preview) Hi there, So I feel like things are going so well lately (knock on wood). Not that life is smooth but that I am handling the bumps in the road in a much saner way. I really feel more in touch with my HP and that is helping me so much. I'm starting to ask HP for help with things. I'm learning not to react to eve...	KT2015	8	812	Feb 9, 2016 by KathRN
	Half lifing it... (Preview) The day came and went...calmly and sanely as so many others have since arriving at the front doors of the program of Al-Anon Family Groups. We started the day as many others with literature reading that sets us up to do the best day we can and not get blind sided by anything that could take us off the sur...	Jerry F	10	804	Feb 9, 2016 by pjwa12726
	First world problems. (Preview) Well, I'm finally able to hobble around without crutches and that's a very good feeling!! I have to be very careful not to over-do it which is difficult because I am so sick of taking it easy and I am itching to get out for long walks in the summer breeze! But oh well. The whole debacle has set me back by six mo...	missmeliss	8	830	Feb 9, 2016 by missmeliss
	Hope for Today feb 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on concept 9- personal leadership at all service levels. The writer is more of a follower than leader, but through the study of concept 9 realizes there is leadership in following good example. There is leadership in following the suggestions of th...	yanksfan51	2	856	Feb 9, 2016 by hotrod
	Today. (Preview) Saw this today and loved it; this is by far and away the best lesson I have learned during my al-anon journey. Today was a nice day. I had no-where to be, and A came over to ask if I would help him fix his resume and write cover letters for some job applications. I didn't mention the drunken conversation a fe...	missmeliss	8	1015	Feb 8, 2016 by Breakingfree
	How to deal with a relapse (Preview) Good morning - My son is 5 months sober, living in sober living and doing IOP (he just turned 19). I got a call last night that he relapsed. (drunk) I will soon need to talk to the professionals managing his recovery and him. I am desperately trying to figure out how I should best deal with this situatio...	Peace Seeker	9	2949	Feb 8, 2016 by milkwood
	A regular day .. (Preview) I'm always grateful for the little and big things .. I still have not been hired on full-time and I'm really ok with that, it's been a little overwhelming in terms of the unknown .. I guess after so much going on it's ok. We are getting more settled and things are going in a positive productive way. My XAH...	SerenityRUS	3	692	Feb 8, 2016 by Iamhere
	Just stating the obvious (Preview) My AS was supposed to come over this afternoon to do some work on a car he's buying from us. He was a no-show. This is unsurprising, but I'm still having a quiet little panic over what might have happened to him, why he hasn't contacted us, etc. My grip on "I can't control what anyone else does, only wh...	Foothold	3	692	Feb 7, 2016 by Iamhere
	Should I give him one chance, take him out of center guilt jaundice medical (Preview) Please help! I don't mind getting opinions, advice, shares, anything will do! Sorry for the messy post with random thoughts. I'm in India and things work a bit differently here. However, thankfully Alcoholics and co dependents, enablers are the same everywhere, I guess. I'm asking Questions and t...	manas	28	10654	Feb 7, 2016 by serenity47
	Courage to Change 2-6-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for Feb. 6 speaks about the Al-Anon principle of not giving advise and waiting forissues to resolve themselves and not reacting -One such principle is that we mention to newcomers-- do not make any major life changes until you are in program for at least six first six months unles...	hotrod	2	583	Feb 7, 2016 by KathRN
	New here and a bit lost.... (Preview) I'm in a relationship with the person I truly do consider my soul mate. We've known each other since we were about ten, and the last few years we've finally had the opportunity to be together. I have three children with my ex. My partner has had addiction problems for most of his life. Drugs and alcoh...	womanking	10	887	Feb 7, 2016 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change Reading 2-7-16 (Preview) C2C reading for February 7 speaks about making a decision every day to move in a positive direction. Knowing that major strides are often begun with very small steps, the reading suggests that by asking someone to be my sponsor, reaching out to a newcomer when trying a different Al-Anon meeting, m...	hotrod	1	687	Feb 7, 2016 by Iamhere
	trying to start anew. .needing strength (Preview) So. . An update. .my ah and i head back to the div mediator next week to iron out some final.details and then she will prepare the divorce papers for court. I find myself struggling with significant emotions and im so anxious about this as it draws near. How does one sign off on 17 yrs, get closure, let go an...	Theoceancalls	6	823	Feb 7, 2016 by Mirandac
	Heart beats and unusual feeling in chest after Trauma (Preview) My A is in recovery in India. I'm recovering too. Experiencing withdrawals about A :), but quite in control now. Now, I had a very traumatic day at the end .. before my A was "admitted". My heart beat at around maybe 160 beats per minute continuously for about 4-5 hours.. probably high blood p...	manas	5	720	Feb 7, 2016 by manas
	Very rough week - feeling very isolated and overwhelmed (Preview) Hello everyone, I am new to the group but not to al-anon. This has been an extremely hard week on me. I have been staying with my parents since my AH left me in July and filed for divorce in August. They have been out of town for a week tomorrow and I feel very isolated. I am 37 years old and feeling pretty lame f...	Spice	12	884	Feb 6, 2016 by Theoceancalls
	names of alcoholism (Preview) I had a good laugh today. Did you know active alcoholism is now called ADHD? what about the flu? any other names its been called?	joker	7	681	Feb 6, 2016 by joker
	what are the facts (Preview) I have just had a moment of clarity. What are the facts. 1. I grew up in an alcoholic home and at 15 years old I left and started my life on my own. I could not not stand the insanity and feeling stuck. 2. In every serious relationship I had with a man, (6live in bf/c/l/husbandsx2) they have had alcohol issue...	joker	3	619	Feb 6, 2016 by hotrod
	Emotional HangOver - Grateful for a Break Today! (Preview) I woke up this morning, and was just sad. Really, really sad. I am so grateful for recovery as I would be in far worse shape if I did not live/seek a spiritual solution for all that annoys, affects or hurts me... Many of you know that I lost my Aunt 9 days ago. She was an awesome person and I will miss her dea...	Iamhere	14	955	Feb 6, 2016 by Iamhere
	Soon to be ex husband relapsed (Preview) Hi everyone This is my first post. A little background, I got with my X when we were 19 & 21. Right before my 21st birthday we unexpectedly got pregnant and got married a few months before we had our son in the summer of 2014. I always knew XH was an alcoholic, but he was sober our entire relationship...	felixfelicis	3	735	Feb 6, 2016 by Jerry F
	Update on life (Preview) Hey everyone, I have not posted in a while just thought I would update what is going on lately: AH is back to drinking, I may have mentioned that. Better luck next time I guess. MIL has been staying with us now for 10 days after a fall that landed her in the ER. NO broken bones or open wounds this time. s...	Broken513	4	707	Feb 5, 2016 by tiredtonite
	Crises in my home (Preview) my a/sister lives with me and she stabbed me in the back I've put up and put up with her mood swings till this last one as of yesterday ,she tried her best to lie out of it and place blame on her daughter ,her daughter don't live here, she finally told me she did do it and that she apologized for it I still haven'...	lookingup	3	791	Feb 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	New to Al-Anon, not to AA (Preview) Hi everyone...first post here. I am an active member of AA (I am an alcoholic) in my community and truly have a love for the fellowship of AA. My wife have an compulsive eating disorder and attends OA meetings online. The other night, My sponsor suggested I attend some Al Anon meetings to gain some ex...	pgd1979	3	695	Feb 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	keep it simple (Preview) So I've been trying to focus more on myself and less on the As in my life. And in doing that I have found I kind of started to obsess about what was wrong with me. Because suddenly I can see all these irrational thoughts and feelings and behaviours that are unhealthy for me. And I have been obsessing over...	KT2015	3	690	Feb 5, 2016 by KT2015
	Been a while since I have been here... (Preview) Hi everyone. Its been a while. First, I am SO sorry this is s long, but I haven't really talked to anyone that is going through this in a while and I guess I am just trying to gage where I am in the on going sinerio with my AH. For a long time, he has been averaging 1/2 a fith of Black Velvet a day, drinking it strei...	Tired-of-it	2	708	Feb 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 2-5 (Preview) The C2C reading for February 5th, speaks about the principle in Tradition 11 whereby we are cautioned to remember that we "attract "people to alanon by practicing the principles and not by telling them what to do or by giving advise. People get to alanon when they are ready and not be...	hotrod	2	586	Feb 5, 2016 by Hoot Nanny
	How do I show compassion for AH? (Preview) I'm sure not feeling like I'm making the right choices lately and have been asking my HP to guide me. I'm also trying to let go and let God but am still struggling. I read that I should be able to show compassion for my AH. At this point in time, it's highly likely I will move on but am not quite there yet. I...	NeedPeace	11	988	Feb 5, 2016 by Tired-of-it
	Just not feeling it..... (Preview) So I graduated from Nursing school December 18th, but still had my 90 our transitions rotation to do at a hospital so my actual graduation date if February 9th even though I walked through a ceremony already. So I have two shifts left this week then I am truly done with school and will get a date to take my n...	Breakingfree	13	715	Feb 4, 2016 by andromeda
	ABF says things unrealistic (Preview) I have been thinking about what the ABF has said about our age difference and trying to see his perspective. He says he is 6 years older than me and he has a different mind set, values, dreams than I do and he needs to think about his life as he gets older. I do not understand what he is talking about. I am a moth...	joker	2	594	Feb 4, 2016 by pinkchip
	Update (Preview) I finally made it to a face to face Al-anon meeting Monday night. It was great to discuss what I was feeling and the anger I was in. The ABF was drunk and I went to the meeting anyways. He had been on a 24 hour bender starting Monday and ending only yesterday. He had kept me up as he talked and talked to himself n...	joker	3	555	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	Maybe it's using my tools, or maybe I've just had enough (Preview) This morning I got a call from my 35 year old AD. A call similar to so many other calls that I've gotten from her. A call filled with misery, toxicity, negativity and venom. A type of call in the past that would have dragged me down, made me sick with worry, and kept me awake at night. She does nothing to addr...	lgnutah	4	622	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	question about kinds of alcoholics (Preview) Hi, I'm new here. I have been to a few al-anon meetings in person and belonged to an email group for a time. I need advice and help figuring out how to handle a situation with my husband. So my husband doesn't seem to fit the conventional definition of alcoholic. He doesn't drink every day (as far as I c...	goodmorningsunshine66	21	1272	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	struggling to hear the inner voice.help? (Preview) Hi everyone. Well I'm facing a major decision and am so knotted up in fear and anxiety I can't for the life of me make a decision. The slogan when in doubt don't has always been a no go for me because I tend to just sit paralysed about every single thing until I freak out and jump in headfirst. Balance, I know....	a4l	3	1747	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 2-4-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for February 4 speaks about how we sometimes tend to feel as if we e are being punished by God, when we are undergoing a difficult challenge . When this happens it indicates that we may have lost the image of a loving Higher Power. We need to maintain this image , if we are to recov...	hotrod	3	562	Feb 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	Conceptualizing an HP (Preview) Hi there, I've been working on the second step a lot lately and even sliding into the third step. The problem is I am having difficulty with the whole Higher Power thing. I was raised by an atheist who told me there was no God. I grew up without religion in my life at all. I do believe in a higher power a...	KT2015	11	832	Feb 4, 2016 by KT2015
	Courage to Change Reading (2-03-2016) (Preview) The C2C reading for February 3 speaks about the principles of the program leading to serenity. It suggests that many of us would've preferred to hear that the principles of the program would lead to sobriety and cure the alcoholic. We also had a misconception of the word "serenity". We th...	hotrod	2	570	Feb 3, 2016 by littlelionman
	The Master Plan.....I Wish I Had Just a Peek..... (Preview) I spent the first part of my day returning my lovely Aunt to the Earth from which we all supposedly have come. I then went home, and prepared to go to her home to help my cousins pack up and clean up. We have truly enjoyed our time together and it's been lovely to see them - many live abroad. As I was pulling u...	Iamhere	17	709	Feb 3, 2016 by littlelionman
	JUST A SHORT UPDATE (Preview) got a call from mortgage company and found out AH has not paid them for 2 months like he promised. From all reports he has had a accident with a neighbor and has been hiding his car because he doesnt have insurance. So with a tall male friend of the family im going back to THE HOUSE and will try to get AH to writ...	YARNCRAZY	2	451	Feb 3, 2016 by Iamhere
	Bad advice by loved ones (Preview) Hello again!! How do I explain to a dear friend of mine I cannot just "pack my $hÃ¯Å£ and leave" I still have quite alot of damage to deal with and am working the steps, I have created boundries and I am now slowly gaining control of my own future, but it's not instantaneous, she has no idea becau...	Amandasheart	9	851	Feb 3, 2016 by Breakingfree
	New relationship with an Alcoholic (Preview) Hey there, I have been dating my boyfriend for a month now. He is a recovering alcoholic. He relocated to my area 3 months ago (just about the time he became sober again) He is attending his meetings faithfully. I guess I am terrified because he keeps stating he does not want to hurt me. He is afraid t...	Free2bme3333	8	727	Feb 3, 2016 by Free2bme3333
	Spiritual Awaking....#123456789 (Preview) Hello MIP Family :) I have Landed Safely Back in My Home town from my Trip Out of Country :D I Landed 12 hours Before the Mega Snow Storm that Gave us 3 Foot of Snow :O .... I Should have Staying in Mexico...lol 70+ All Week Long :) I am So Very Grateful Al-Anon has Taught me the Benefit of "No Expectati...	Jozie	7	784	Feb 2, 2016 by Breakingfree
	Hope for Today feb 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about how detrimental gossip is in our recovery. The quote from Courage to Change is: "Gossip never enriched anyone's character. It was only an excuse to avoid focusing on myself." The reason I like this quote so much is it is a reminder to keep th...	yanksfan51	6	620	Feb 2, 2016 by maryjane
	Courage 2 Change reading for 2-1-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for February 1 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism. it points out that many people believe that if they stop" enabling ", the drinking will then stop. This is not necessarily true. We are powerless over alcohol and when we stop enabling, we are doi...	hotrod	4	658	Feb 2, 2016 by Iamhere
	New Here (Preview) Hello everyone. I have been considering joining Al-Anon for some time now and have finally taken that first step. I am currently engaged to an alcoholic and right now we are in a "quiet" phase although I know soon there will be some sort of episode. I have been exposed to addiction for a lot...	Gardening	5	673	Feb 2, 2016 by hotrod
	Please Help... ( 1 2 3 4 ) HFA blaming cheating letting go love (Preview) I need help. I don't even know where to begin... I dated an amazing man for six and a half years... We fell in love the moment we met. He treated me like I hung the moon. Three years into our relationship, I found out my boyfriend was an alcoholic when he attempted to push me away and ultimately checked himse...	Jaclyn	143	29142	Feb 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	My A falling into depression every time he is alone for extended periods. (Preview) Hi I'm new to the programme and have gotten as far as Step 3. I have been with my A for over 14 years in this time he's had one relapse but the problems continue. I don't live in my home country and cannot attend meeting in English. Finding this site has been a godsend. My A organised some long overdue counse...	CurleySue	9	619	Feb 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	using Al-Anon tools (Preview) This board has been my lifesaver. As some of your may know, my alcoholic BF has had another slip. He was sober for 3 months without a program. He has been drinking for 2 weeks now every third day. Its been a real challenge for me to work my program. Yesterday, I finally had enough! He had sat up all night talk...	joker	5	656	Feb 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	Husband is an alcoholic. Sober for 93 days and relapsed. I am pissed, how do I handle it? relapse hurt angry advice (Preview) Hi-- My husband has been an alcoholic for 20+ years and finally decided to get treatment. He was back to his old was last night and got drunk and bought a bunch of random people drinks (bill was over $300). I am so pissed and hurt that I am shaking. I get it that people are human and make mistakes, but how a...	augrads	7	10078	Jan 31, 2016 by Jerry F
	So we just watch our A commit slow suicide (Preview) How can we just stand by and watch it happen?	lgnutah	8	696	Jan 31, 2016 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change 1-31-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 31 speaks about having our "shortcomings" being removed. as we move to Step 6 and Step 7. It points out that we can do all we can to prepare for them to be removed by developing a nonjudgmental awareness of ourselves, accept what we discover and become willing t...	hotrod	3	583	Jan 31, 2016 by KathRN
	I apologize (Preview) I apologize for leaving in the middle of a meeting this morning. My girlfriend and I had our wires crossed and she was on her way to pick me up. I wasnt sure what to do so I just left but I think I forgot to log out.	KathRN	4	831	Jan 31, 2016 by lgnutah
	what can i expect from my recovering alcoholic boyfriend? letting go help please (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this forum, i came on here because i'm looking for some advice from other people that may have been in my position before. I have been dating a lovely man for 6 years, i wasn't aware initially that he was an alcoholic. He told me 2 years into the relationship. From that point onwards i enco...	Happy Girl	5	2874	Jan 31, 2016 by Mattie
	Alcoholic Mother (Preview) She texted me in the middle of December. It was the first time I've heard from any of them in nearly 3 years. I'm going along pretty smoothly and then bam, my head explodes. I'm so angry that I even responded. I want to reconcile but I also know that if I go back it will be the same patterns over again because t...	StargazerLily	5	691	Jan 31, 2016 by a4l
	hi all (Preview) As i was posting a reply to someone else,s post I realized that there was something i wanted to share. I suggested in my reply to give themselves a break over emotional reactions because they are doing things differntly now. As i have been trying to adjust to my new life, i have been sqelching alot of sadn...	YARNCRAZY	2	527	Jan 30, 2016 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 1-30-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 30 speaks about the difficulties of living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that many times plans change at a moments notice and rules get broken. Al-Anon shows me a new way to approach these difficulties. I can live one day at a time. I can make my choices of what...	hotrod	1	490	Jan 30, 2016 by Debb
	My Brother Is Drinking Himself To Death (Preview) Hello out there in Alanon world. Here is my story.... My oldest brother is drinking himself to death. He has been a heavy drinker/alcoholic for the better part of 45 years. Obviously, as this is a progressive disease, he hasn't always been in the condition he is now. But about a year ago, he was di...	Wiggity	8	2185	Jan 30, 2016 by Wiggity
	Vivitrol for Alcoholism (Preview) Has anyone known someone that's tried this?	frustrationshigh	2	650	Jan 30, 2016 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change reading 1-29-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 29, speaks about "self-expression." It points out that upon attending Al-Anon meetings, we discover how important it is to give voice to our feelings. We need to be very careful how we do this, as there is a huge difference between "expressing ourselv...	hotrod	3	830	Jan 29, 2016 by Iamhere
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