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hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t61986980/alanon...

Smilingeyes · Smilingeyes

I don't even know where to start today... I feel so alone and down today. I told the A that I was having a rough day, he sent me flowers and told me he just wanted my day to get better. Well by 2pm he was drinking today and now has some what disappeared. I don't know what to do anymore. I have reached out to his bes...

Aerin · Aerin

Okay, just needing some support. After another one of his beer binges (if you want to hear the wacko story, I posted it under ((smilingeyes)) recent topic: One day good, next day awful.. Anyway, It is soooo unlike me not to start a fight after one of his binges. But since I have come to this board I hav...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Where I used to live, in Melbourne, there was this man- Robin- that everyone called "the dancing man". He was this grinning, skinny old dude wearing headphones and he would stand on the corner outside a hotel doing this crazy dance!! He was awesome, there was a tram and bus stop right there where he sto...

Antigua · Antigua

i joined this message board many years ago to help me cope with my AH's disease. I haven't been back here for a very long time, but I think it is time for me to find some support and stop living in denial. We have been married for 9 years and have 2 beautiful kids (7 & 3). My AH has probably been an alcohol...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I have mild hypoglycemia. If I get hungry, I need to eat or I'll get shaky and dizzy and sick, etc. Well, I got home from work and realized I didn't have jack to eat - need to go grocery shopping, but I'm pretty broke. So, I decide to run to the store to grab some spaghetti and sauce. I figured it would be fi...

CyndiODAT · CyndiODAT

Hi everyone, I am new here, but not new to Al-Anon. I first came to the program a little over 6 years ago, with my now ex husband as my qualifier. In my dating life over the last 5 years or so, I found that I continued to attract addicts of varying types. Now, I have been dating someone for 7 months and I had b...

Iamhere · Iamhere

So - I'll share my adventures from last night - ball fields - adult recreational softball - late games ... 8:30 and 9:30pm - 40 degrees. Crazy as it seems, we did go out to the fields last night for softball - we had the late games. We show up and are walking to the fields, and there is some discussion in the a...

lookingup · lookingup

tomorrow is court day for my abf,he has made a mess but it's his mess,I do have empathy for him and feeling somewhat sorry for him for its not looking good at all he is looking at years in prison without a lawyer so we going today or he is to talk to a lawyer about getting it put off again,so I can feel the bad vib...

Gilbi · Gilbi

So, my life has become unmanageable, that I can see. My background. I was a single mother of 3, 2 are mine and I have full custody of my nephew. My sister died as a result of her drug use, and I had gained full custody of my nephew while she was still using. I have always kept a drug and alcohol free home. No part...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Im battling a cold and cough and thank g-d I have med-ical/Kaiser. Such a blessing to be able to see my doc,get meds,etc As a result,last 2 nights i havnt had much sleep coughing alot. So Ive been thinking alot. First i write in a diary so it is all down on paper. I resolved that I will not tolerate any alcoho...

a4l · a4l

My anxiety has been through the roof over the last two weeks and I have lost five pounds. I hate, hate, hate this state of being because it steals me from the moment. I can't get to any f2f meetings, because the kids occasional care center closed down and their fathers off the face of my earth for the next m...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Daughter said something that sort of crushed my feelings tonight. Now that sentence alone is already wrong on a lot of levels, I know. Lately I've been doing quite a lot for her, she's had a lot of money spent on her and a lot of time spent running her around and organising things for her, and the gratitude...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

My daughter's parents' aunt got back to me. She said she'll pass my message on to them. I'm excited and thrilled! Still really anxious, though.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is a what the heck day. I am grateful for my recovery. I just need a bit of sunshine. I guess sometimes just one day of rain can upset me. I can't get on my swing. I can't spend time away from the monotony. I want to have a solid do nothing day sometimes but today I need to do something productive. So I won'...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I've been sitting here doing some thinking. My ex-boyfriend was a meth addict. He's the one I got involved with after giving up my baby. I didn't know at first. I never touched the stuff. He beat the tar out of me. Pretty regularly. His addiction damaged me. I was already depressed. I became a s...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone- Today's reading is about sponsorship, from the point of view of the sponsor. The writer acknowledges how much deeper his recovery and program work became through his sponsorship of others. He learned a lot about himself as he worked the steps as a sponsor with the men who were...

sweetness34 · sweetness34

Good morning friends, So, it's a rainy, gloomy Monday morning. With rain, comes mud. I have two dogs who love to run in the rain. So, there are muddy paws, and muddy bellies to clean off before they can come inside. I often wonder if I enjoy snow, more than rain, because of this. But, it's part of life in Pen...

sweetness34 · sweetness34

Today, my Sunday School class was led by a man who is 89 years old. I love to listen to the knowledge and experience that older people bring to me Our lesson was about Jesus going to the Pharisee's house, and the prostitute to followed Him there. This was where she cried tears of repentance, and washed his...

Nidra · Nidra

Hi everybody! I´m all new to this forum (though not to Al-anon), I hope to explore it more but right now I have a burning question I hope someone here might be able to answer. Please do excuse any misspellings etc, english is not my language (I´m Swedish) Recently, a situation occured in my home group. W...

marniep222 · marniep222

Okay, it's been 4 days. I haven't responded to the text about the stupid sleeping bag... and I know that the only thing he set out to accomplish was to have me react...which I didn't. However, I still find myself agonizing over a way to respond, which I know is a completely futile exercise...no outco...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I have a daughter. I gave her up for adoption at birth. I had an agreement with her new parents that I would get pictures. But, I'm getting ahead of myself. My ex-husband left me for another woman and abandoned me in California when I was 6 months pregnant. After I was trying to make our marriage work f...

lookingup · lookingup

as most here knows Ive got my ASIs and abf living here with me in my home ,ASIs has been constantly warning me to open my eyes to what abf is doing outside my home I allow him to use my shed for a place to put tools and just for him a place to go to,abf seems to me to be very straight up with me and respectful toward m...

pjwa12726 · pjwa12726

Today I found myself in a pity party. The realization that my dry AH has been having an affair with a former co-worker for a long time. This affair probably started in the 90s. I remember hearing her name all the time but never did I think it was an affair. I moved out over a year and half ago because I found...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am starting to shake whatever it is that is bothering me. I am not my thoughts. Sometimes I feel disconnected. But I am doing the action steps to make the most of what I have. What I have a freedom that I found in Al anon. It is about time I let the Program work. It works if you work it. I guess I should follow my...

Mikhail · Mikhail

My AF alcoholism has made it much more painful for me to be around him (we don't live in the same town), but I'm visiting this weekend. He told me today that a few weeks ago he went into a store, bought a bottle of vodka, and was drinking in his car. Thankfully, a security guard saw this and called the police....

missmeliss · missmeliss

Todays courage to change talks about continuing to come back to al-anon whether we are living with active alcoholism or not. It discusses using al-anon as our "light in the darkness" and a way to keep structure in our lives and maintain a rational perspective.The reading points out that no matter how...

Fooled · Fooled

Todays message in church today was about failure. How we are going to fail, its ok to fail, learn from our failures, and use them to do good for others. How our loved ones are going to fail and it makes us hurt angry and feel guilty at times especially if we tried to warn them and they didn't heed our warn...

Aerin · Aerin

as some of you know from my post last night he had been binge beer drinking and was passing out at about 6:30 PM. I went into another room and did my steps, I didn't try to wake him up or argue. his son was in his own room playing on his phone. I read I watched some TV and eventually fell asleep . sometime around m...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for April 10 speaks about the simple fact that as the result of having lived with the disease of alcoholism, many of us view ourselves as victims of other people's abuse. It is shocking when we enter Al-Anon and are asked to look at ourselves ,examine our motives and to see how we have ha...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Never ceases to bring back the thought force which was the tap root for me understanding that "I could be wrong when I was judging and taking a know it all attitude against the alcoholic/addict wife" I judge her/them quite harshly until I got to that page and the help of the old timers. "Thank you Go...

Doves · Doves

I've observed that when I am super nice to my son and we've been getting along great for a few days he will out of nowhere get mouthy or try to pick an argument. His now deceased dad who was on again off again in recovery used to do the same thing. I don't think it's a learned behaviour my son picked up from his d...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I may go out and get a bottle of whiskey. Cuz I'm in pain and crying. Years ago, a dentist in California did a feeling and screwed it up. Had it fixed by a dentist in Missouri, but he said the damage was pretty bad and I would have trouble with it again eventually. Eventually is here. I don't have dental i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Some things are hard to get rid of. I just hope that today I can make the most of what I have to work w/. You all have been on my mind. I haven't forgotten how much you have helped me through difficult times. I just feel like sometimes I am on my own. I don't have internet at home. I decided a long time ago that I wo...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family and TGIF!!! Today's reading discusses the value in looking at our past. We are able to gain insight into the present as well as clues for things that might need to be changed for a better future. Many of us denied, distorted or lost touch with painful memories. Facing the real...

Fooled · Fooled

Not my best day. Started off with me being asked to help a co worker out and drive 21 miles to an area not familiar with, but I rely on Google maps. Got close to the airport and my phone literally fries in my hand! Its currently a cold glob of molten plastic and Verizon is making me use my insurance because t...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for April 9 talks about how we after living with the disease of alcoholism we develp many negative coping tools to survive the insanity . Many have developed the ability to deny our feelings in the mistaken idea that not feeling is better than processing our feelings and learning f...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

It's been awhile, but I do come back when I can and read your posts. It was five years ago today that I left my AH. I cried back then when I got the keys to my little apartment. I could not imagine that there was any hope on that dark day. But my HP had other plans for me. Today, I'm feeling very blessed. A bigger a...

Doves · Doves

Last night almost 18 year old son called home that he bought a car. Yes most parents would be proud that he worked for it to buy it himself and yes that part I am proud of, BUT he is not fully licensed yet , only has G1 and doesn't go for G2 for another 2 weeks and hasn't passed it yet so don't know if he will be full...

joker · joker

ABF has been on a bender for 4 days non stop. Yesterday, I finally blew a gasket on him. I totally lost my sanity. I just had enough of the booze and him being drunk and I said some nasty things to him. Today, I am still mad and fed up. He is sleeping again, the usual, drink and sleep...that has become his life a...

BrieBrandi · BrieBrandi

Can someone give me a little insight? My boyfriend has been sober for nearly 7 1/2 years. He recently bought (January) a beautiful engagement ring for me and planned to propose but some recent deaths in my family and a squabble with my mom has left me depressed and lashing out in anger. (He's 30. I'm 35.)...

Aerin · Aerin

Came home and he is all buzzed. Mumbling nonsense, mumbling he doesnt deserve me or his son, and now half asleep (it is only 6:30) I have not accused him of drinking again (which is so hard for me because its so obvious) I am hanging out in another room and responding to his "oh I lovvveee youuuu baby" with o...

sweetness34 · sweetness34

Good Friday morning. It snowed here overnight. Ugh! My AH and I had a very good talk last night. He spoke from his heart. He was humble, remorseful, and compassionate towards me. He told me that he had spoken with an AA mentor each day, since Monday night, and he has learned a lot about himself. He said he r...

marniep222 · marniep222

My ex-ABF decided to reach out after 3 weeks of non-communication. The last thing he said to me was that I needed to let him handle his s&^t. So, I did. I haven't reached out, and I've been going to meetings, reading, and learning that there is nothing I can do over this situation. He's 9 years sob...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... I Haven't Spilled any Stain/Gloss So Far today so I Guess I'm Grateful for that ;) 4th Coat On and Complete :) Its been a Tough Morning/afternoon... Strange how Fast things can Turn around in about an hour Span of a Day... I Friend I Went to School With Showed up at my Shop today, We Talk on Social M...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I'm still not smoking. I've had a headache all day - I'm blaming nicotine withdrawals - but I've gone 3 days without smoking. I'm not gonna throw that time away. Bf still hasn't had a drink. We spent the evening together again. It's really nice and peaceful, but I hate him having to leave. I want him...

Smilingeyes · Smilingeyes

I am new to this as well as new to Alnon. My fiancé is an alcoholic and he seems to be heading down an awful path right now. He is drinking and driving, he picks up our children half in the bag from school, he is lying about money and where is is during the day along with the mental abuse while drunk. I am so mad at...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

Sorry, this doesn't relate to my bf's drinking problem, but I'm feeling pretty stressed. I'm about to pay my electric bill online which will leave me with $4 for the rest of the week. I've been trying to work extra hours, but it looks like that's not gonna work out. I work at a call center conducting su...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hello MIP Family - I am headed to the Clearwater Florida area next week - Thursday night thru Sunday noonish.... I am going for a wedding on Saturday and will be spending time with FOO!! Yippee, Yahoo and all that jazz for me... If anybody is in the area and can point me to a preferred meeting, I'd be grate...

Taraxacum · Taraxacum

I'm working on this running dialogue in my head where my AH is so dumb and anything he does is wrong. It is mean and nasty stuff, and based on the assumption he is some how the cause of everything bad in my life and generally a bumbling idiot -- neither of which are true of course. And it's constant - he does so...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family! Today's reading shares the perception that God may have a sense of humor! The writer discusses an invitation to speak at an Al-Anon meeting she had never attended before. He/she had preconceived ideas of what the group would be like, what he/she would say and how it would g...

Confusedandupset · Confusedandupset

I'm in complete shock. My partner is in month 3 of treatment he's in a secondary facility this is the 3rd time we have been through this. Yesterday I told him I wanted to break contact I'm so confused and now he is too I was supporting him but just lately I'm full of anxiety and I just don't know how to go on. We...

sweetness34 · sweetness34

My husband of 9 years (second marriage for both) might have seen the light today. On Monday evening, he left a bar at 5:30 and wasn't home by 6:30. The bar is just five minutes from home. I tried calling him because I was concerned about him. My son had asked him earlier, if he wanted a ride home because he di...

missmeliss · missmeliss

So this morning I was sitting in my room, at my desk, thinking about how I wish I had some spare money to purchase a second desk to put in the lounge room, because its turning cold here and that's the only room with heating, plus I am a bit nomadic and like to change it up from time to time. ANYWAY. While I was si...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

I was invited to a family therapy phone call by my AH in rehab. I was excited for the opportunity to understand recovery better and become closer through participating. The session went in a direction I didn't expect. My AH started in a great way saying he wanted us to be nicer to each other. He then went o...

Jozie · Jozie

So I have been Working On "Why" I think/do the things I Do.. and Trying to be aware of my "Now" Thoughts.. And what maybe some of My "Triggers" are... WOW I think I Hit them ALL just Today... So I am Slow in my Office, and had some things to Stain in our Shop, so thought Why Not... Its Chilly out but I Can Bundle u...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Had a meltdown last night or rather 2am. I was cleaning yesterday and since i couldnt sleep,decided to check out some envies i found. One was chock full of old boyfriends ' poems and letters i had wrote. it also contained a cauntionary note i had written to my self eight months into the relationship with...

RubiRivera · RubiRivera

Ok so to keep custody of my children I must Attend Al Anon but with a crazy new work schedule and 3 kids at home its soooo hard... I really want to take part in a actual group but for now lunch online classes is what I can do. Im reading all topics on here and I can relate in many. My question is when do you know t...

joker · joker

My daughter moved out and its been a relief. I had been so obsessed over her and her well being. She is doing fine in her own place now. I am now at home with the ABF and I am not worried. I see he is a full blown alcoholic and can not stay sober beyond 3 days. Not my issue, not my problem. I see the same merry go roun...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I'm back to quitting smoking. I had my last cigarette last night. I WILL NOT have another one. Bf is still sober. He's gonna spend the evening with me and he said he's bringing chocolate to help me ignore the nicotine cravings. That is one addiction I will never give up - chocolate. I would ask you a...

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	Step 7 posted (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t61986980/alanon...	hotrod	2	377	Apr 14, 2016 by hotrod
	One day good and the next one awful (Preview) I don't even know where to start today... I feel so alone and down today. I told the A that I was having a rough day, he sent me flowers and told me he just wanted my day to get better. Well by 2pm he was drinking today and now has some what disappeared. I don't know what to do anymore. I have reached out to his bes...	Smilingeyes	15	681	Apr 14, 2016 by jocelgp
	AM I SAYING THE RIGHT THING? (Preview) Okay, just needing some support. After another one of his beer binges (if you want to hear the wacko story, I posted it under ((smilingeyes)) recent topic: One day good, next day awful.. Anyway, It is soooo unlike me not to start a fight after one of his binges. But since I have come to this board I hav...	Aerin	6	531	Apr 14, 2016 by jocelgp
	The dancing man. (Preview) Where I used to live, in Melbourne, there was this man- Robin- that everyone called "the dancing man". He was this grinning, skinny old dude wearing headphones and he would stand on the corner outside a hotel doing this crazy dance!! He was awesome, there was a tram and bus stop right there where he sto...	missmeliss	4	647	Apr 14, 2016 by sweetness34
	Returning after a long break (Preview) i joined this message board many years ago to help me cope with my AH's disease. I haven't been back here for a very long time, but I think it is time for me to find some support and stop living in denial. We have been married for 9 years and have 2 beautiful kids (7 & 3). My AH has probably been an alcohol...	Antigua	4	584	Apr 13, 2016 by Mattie
	Met A Very Nice Cop (Preview) I have mild hypoglycemia. If I get hungry, I need to eat or I'll get shaky and dizzy and sick, etc. Well, I got home from work and realized I didn't have jack to eat - need to go grocery shopping, but I'm pretty broke. So, I decide to run to the store to grab some spaghetti and sauce. I figured it would be fi...	WhiskeyLullabye	2	726	Apr 13, 2016 by Jerry F
	Recomitted to my program (Preview) Hi everyone, I am new here, but not new to Al-Anon. I first came to the program a little over 6 years ago, with my now ex husband as my qualifier. In my dating life over the last 5 years or so, I found that I continued to attract addicts of varying types. Now, I have been dating someone for 7 months and I had b...	CyndiODAT	17	734	Apr 13, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	Late Night Adventures @ the Ball Park (Preview) So - I'll share my adventures from last night - ball fields - adult recreational softball - late games ... 8:30 and 9:30pm - 40 degrees. Crazy as it seems, we did go out to the fields last night for softball - we had the late games. We show up and are walking to the fields, and there is some discussion in the a...	Iamhere	22	774	Apr 13, 2016 by sweetness34
	Useing my tools (Preview) tomorrow is court day for my abf,he has made a mess but it's his mess,I do have empathy for him and feeling somewhat sorry for him for its not looking good at all he is looking at years in prison without a lawyer so we going today or he is to talk to a lawyer about getting it put off again,so I can feel the bad vib...	lookingup	4	427	Apr 13, 2016 by lookingup
	brand new - trust issues drugs alcohol expectations boundaries enabling marriage (Preview) So, my life has become unmanageable, that I can see. My background. I was a single mother of 3, 2 are mine and I have full custody of my nephew. My sister died as a result of her drug use, and I had gained full custody of my nephew while she was still using. I have always kept a drug and alcohol free home. No part...	Gilbi	8	624	Apr 13, 2016 by hotrod
	Lots of thinking (Preview) Im battling a cold and cough and thank g-d I have med-ical/Kaiser. Such a blessing to be able to see my doc,get meds,etc As a result,last 2 nights i havnt had much sleep coughing alot. So Ive been thinking alot. First i write in a diary so it is all down on paper. I resolved that I will not tolerate any alcoho...	YARNCRAZY	2	435	Apr 13, 2016 by Iamhere
	the worries. (Preview) My anxiety has been through the roof over the last two weeks and I have lost five pounds. I hate, hate, hate this state of being because it steals me from the moment. I can't get to any f2f meetings, because the kids occasional care center closed down and their fathers off the face of my earth for the next m...	a4l	9	614	Apr 13, 2016 by milkwood
	Parenting blah blah. (Preview) Daughter said something that sort of crushed my feelings tonight. Now that sentence alone is already wrong on a lot of levels, I know. Lately I've been doing quite a lot for her, she's had a lot of money spent on her and a lot of time spent running her around and organising things for her, and the gratitude...	missmeliss	7	639	Apr 12, 2016 by WhiskeyLullabye
	Update (Preview) My daughter's parents' aunt got back to me. She said she'll pass my message on to them. I'm excited and thrilled! Still really anxious, though.	WhiskeyLullabye	4	431	Apr 12, 2016 by a4l
	sometimes you just got to say "what the heck!" (Preview) Today is a what the heck day. I am grateful for my recovery. I just need a bit of sunshine. I guess sometimes just one day of rain can upset me. I can't get on my swing. I can't spend time away from the monotony. I want to have a solid do nothing day sometimes but today I need to do something productive. So I won'...	Hoot Nanny	1	619	Apr 12, 2016 by Iamhere
	Growth (Preview) I've been sitting here doing some thinking. My ex-boyfriend was a meth addict. He's the one I got involved with after giving up my baby. I didn't know at first. I never touched the stuff. He beat the tar out of me. Pretty regularly. His addiction damaged me. I was already depressed. I became a s...	WhiskeyLullabye	4	452	Apr 12, 2016 by CyndiODAT
	Hope for Today April 12 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone- Today's reading is about sponsorship, from the point of view of the sponsor. The writer acknowledges how much deeper his recovery and program work became through his sponsorship of others. He learned a lot about himself as he worked the steps as a sponsor with the men who were...	yanksfan51	3	571	Apr 12, 2016 by sweetness34
	Trying to get past the rain (Preview) Good morning friends, So, it's a rainy, gloomy Monday morning. With rain, comes mud. I have two dogs who love to run in the rain. So, there are muddy paws, and muddy bellies to clean off before they can come inside. I often wonder if I enjoy snow, more than rain, because of this. But, it's part of life in Pen...	sweetness34	4	565	Apr 12, 2016 by sweetness34
	Leading with love (Preview) Today, my Sunday School class was led by a man who is 89 years old. I love to listen to the knowledge and experience that older people bring to me Our lesson was about Jesus going to the Pharisee's house, and the prostitute to followed Him there. This was where she cried tears of repentance, and washed his...	sweetness34	6	624	Apr 12, 2016 by sweetness34
	Question about alcoholics sharing @ Al-anon meetings (Preview) Hi everybody! I´m all new to this forum (though not to Al-anon), I hope to explore it more but right now I have a burning question I hope someone here might be able to answer. Please do excuse any misspellings etc, english is not my language (I´m Swedish) Recently, a situation occured in my home group. W...	Nidra	4	1145	Apr 12, 2016 by Iamhere
	So hard not to pick up the rope (Preview) Okay, it's been 4 days. I haven't responded to the text about the stupid sleeping bag... and I know that the only thing he set out to accomplish was to have me react...which I didn't. However, I still find myself agonizing over a way to respond, which I know is a completely futile exercise...no outco...	marniep222	9	816	Apr 12, 2016 by Doingmybest
	Again, not related to alcoholism, but I need to get this off my chest. And you guys are so nice. (Preview) I have a daughter. I gave her up for adoption at birth. I had an agreement with her new parents that I would get pictures. But, I'm getting ahead of myself. My ex-husband left me for another woman and abandoned me in California when I was 6 months pregnant. After I was trying to make our marriage work f...	WhiskeyLullabye	17	682	Apr 12, 2016 by Doingmybest
	My serenity (Preview) as most here knows Ive got my ASIs and abf living here with me in my home ,ASIs has been constantly warning me to open my eyes to what abf is doing outside my home I allow him to use my shed for a place to put tools and just for him a place to go to,abf seems to me to be very straight up with me and respectful toward m...	lookingup	7	485	Apr 12, 2016 by lookingup
	Pity Party (Preview) Today I found myself in a pity party. The realization that my dry AH has been having an affair with a former co-worker for a long time. This affair probably started in the 90s. I remember hearing her name all the time but never did I think it was an affair. I moved out over a year and half ago because I found...	pjwa12726	6	646	Apr 11, 2016 by Iamhere
	I AM shaking it! (Preview) I am starting to shake whatever it is that is bothering me. I am not my thoughts. Sometimes I feel disconnected. But I am doing the action steps to make the most of what I have. What I have a freedom that I found in Al anon. It is about time I let the Program work. It works if you work it. I guess I should follow my...	Hoot Nanny	5	457	Apr 11, 2016 by Iamhere
	Sad (Preview) My AF alcoholism has made it much more painful for me to be around him (we don't live in the same town), but I'm visiting this weekend. He told me today that a few weeks ago he went into a store, bought a bottle of vodka, and was drinking in his car. Thankfully, a security guard saw this and called the police....	Mikhail	9	652	Apr 11, 2016 by sweetness34
	Courage To Change 11/4 (Preview) Todays courage to change talks about continuing to come back to al-anon whether we are living with active alcoholism or not. It discusses using al-anon as our "light in the darkness" and a way to keep structure in our lives and maintain a rational perspective.The reading points out that no matter how...	missmeliss	2	474	Apr 11, 2016 by Iamhere
	Failure (Preview) Todays message in church today was about failure. How we are going to fail, its ok to fail, learn from our failures, and use them to do good for others. How our loved ones are going to fail and it makes us hurt angry and feel guilty at times especially if we tried to warn them and they didn't heed our warn...	Fooled	4	519	Apr 11, 2016 by WhiskeyLullabye
	SEX (Preview) as some of you know from my post last night he had been binge beer drinking and was passing out at about 6:30 PM. I went into another room and did my steps, I didn't try to wake him up or argue. his son was in his own room playing on his phone. I read I watched some TV and eventually fell asleep . sometime around m...	Aerin	14	987	Apr 10, 2016 by Mirandac
	Courage to Change 4-10-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for April 10 speaks about the simple fact that as the result of having lived with the disease of alcoholism, many of us view ourselves as victims of other people's abuse. It is shocking when we enter Al-Anon and are asked to look at ourselves ,examine our motives and to see how we have ha...	hotrod	3	634	Apr 10, 2016 by sweetness34
	page 100 ODAAT in Al-Anon Daily Reader (Preview) Never ceases to bring back the thought force which was the tap root for me understanding that "I could be wrong when I was judging and taking a know it all attitude against the alcoholic/addict wife" I judge her/them quite harshly until I got to that page and the help of the old timers. "Thank you Go...	Jerry F	6	578	Apr 10, 2016 by Jerry F
	Wondering if this is common (Preview) I've observed that when I am super nice to my son and we've been getting along great for a few days he will out of nowhere get mouthy or try to pick an argument. His now deceased dad who was on again off again in recovery used to do the same thing. I don't think it's a learned behaviour my son picked up from his d...	Doves	11	693	Apr 10, 2016 by Iamhere
	Ugh (Preview) I may go out and get a bottle of whiskey. Cuz I'm in pain and crying. Years ago, a dentist in California did a feeling and screwed it up. Had it fixed by a dentist in Missouri, but he said the damage was pretty bad and I would have trouble with it again eventually. Eventually is here. I don't have dental i...	WhiskeyLullabye	11	682	Apr 10, 2016 by WhiskeyLullabye
	why can't I shake it? (Preview) Some things are hard to get rid of. I just hope that today I can make the most of what I have to work w/. You all have been on my mind. I haven't forgotten how much you have helped me through difficult times. I just feel like sometimes I am on my own. I don't have internet at home. I decided a long time ago that I wo...	Hoot Nanny	3	514	Apr 9, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 4/8/16 (Preview) Good morning MIP family and TGIF!!! Today's reading discusses the value in looking at our past. We are able to gain insight into the present as well as clues for things that might need to be changed for a better future. Many of us denied, distorted or lost touch with painful memories. Facing the real...	Iamhere	5	550	Apr 9, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	HALT (Preview) Not my best day. Started off with me being asked to help a co worker out and drive 21 miles to an area not familiar with, but I rely on Google maps. Got close to the airport and my phone literally fries in my hand! Its currently a cold glob of molten plastic and Verizon is making me use my insurance because t...	Fooled	8	619	Apr 9, 2016 by Fooled
	C2C 4-9-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for April 9 talks about how we after living with the disease of alcoholism we develp many negative coping tools to survive the insanity . Many have developed the ability to deny our feelings in the mistaken idea that not feeling is better than processing our feelings and learning f...	hotrod	2	475	Apr 9, 2016 by Iamhere
	Checking In (Preview) It's been awhile, but I do come back when I can and read your posts. It was five years ago today that I left my AH. I cried back then when I got the keys to my little apartment. I could not imagine that there was any hope on that dark day. But my HP had other plans for me. Today, I'm feeling very blessed. A bigger a...	Green Eyes	4	523	Apr 9, 2016 by Iamhere
	So angry (Preview) Last night almost 18 year old son called home that he bought a car. Yes most parents would be proud that he worked for it to buy it himself and yes that part I am proud of, BUT he is not fully licensed yet , only has G1 and doesn't go for G2 for another 2 weeks and hasn't passed it yet so don't know if he will be full...	Doves	19	579	Apr 8, 2016 by serenity47
	Lost my sanity (Preview) ABF has been on a bender for 4 days non stop. Yesterday, I finally blew a gasket on him. I totally lost my sanity. I just had enough of the booze and him being drunk and I said some nasty things to him. Today, I am still mad and fed up. He is sleeping again, the usual, drink and sleep...that has become his life a...	joker	1	876	Apr 8, 2016 by serenity47
	Please help? (Preview) Can someone give me a little insight? My boyfriend has been sober for nearly 7 1/2 years. He recently bought (January) a beautiful engagement ring for me and planned to propose but some recent deaths in my family and a squabble with my mom has left me depressed and lashing out in anger. (He's 30. I'm 35.)...	BrieBrandi	9	441	Apr 8, 2016 by BrieBrandi
	So here I am.. sitting in another room (Preview) Came home and he is all buzzed. Mumbling nonsense, mumbling he doesnt deserve me or his son, and now half asleep (it is only 6:30) I have not accused him of drinking again (which is so hard for me because its so obvious) I am hanging out in another room and responding to his "oh I lovvveee youuuu baby" with o...	Aerin	5	583	Apr 8, 2016 by jocelgp
	Day Four - Feeling even more encouraged (Preview) Good Friday morning. It snowed here overnight. Ugh! My AH and I had a very good talk last night. He spoke from his heart. He was humble, remorseful, and compassionate towards me. He told me that he had spoken with an AA mentor each day, since Monday night, and he has learned a lot about himself. He said he r...	sweetness34	10	570	Apr 8, 2016 by Iamhere
	working the program - still sad (Preview) My ex-ABF decided to reach out after 3 weeks of non-communication. The last thing he said to me was that I needed to let him handle his s&^t. So, I did. I haven't reached out, and I've been going to meetings, reading, and learning that there is nothing I can do over this situation. He's 9 years sob...	marniep222	25	827	Apr 8, 2016 by Iamhere
	Going in Reverse today... Need Forward Motion... :/ (Preview) Welp... I Haven't Spilled any Stain/Gloss So Far today so I Guess I'm Grateful for that ;) 4th Coat On and Complete :) Its been a Tough Morning/afternoon... Strange how Fast things can Turn around in about an hour Span of a Day... I Friend I Went to School With Showed up at my Shop today, We Talk on Social M...	Jozie	7	648	Apr 8, 2016 by Iamhere
	It Continues (Preview) I'm still not smoking. I've had a headache all day - I'm blaming nicotine withdrawals - but I've gone 3 days without smoking. I'm not gonna throw that time away. Bf still hasn't had a drink. We spent the evening together again. It's really nice and peaceful, but I hate him having to leave. I want him...	WhiskeyLullabye	5	483	Apr 8, 2016 by LeahLEOWife
	Mad and sad (Preview) I am new to this as well as new to Alnon. My fiancé is an alcoholic and he seems to be heading down an awful path right now. He is drinking and driving, he picks up our children half in the bag from school, he is lying about money and where is is during the day along with the mental abuse while drunk. I am so mad at...	Smilingeyes	9	694	Apr 8, 2016 by Fooled
	Stressed . . . (Preview) Sorry, this doesn't relate to my bf's drinking problem, but I'm feeling pretty stressed. I'm about to pay my electric bill online which will leave me with $4 for the rest of the week. I've been trying to work extra hours, but it looks like that's not gonna work out. I work at a call center conducting su...	WhiskeyLullabye	6	450	Apr 8, 2016 by WhiskeyLullabye
	Florida Bound Next Week - Clearwater Area (Preview) Hello MIP Family - I am headed to the Clearwater Florida area next week - Thursday night thru Sunday noonish.... I am going for a wedding on Saturday and will be spending time with FOO!! Yippee, Yahoo and all that jazz for me... If anybody is in the area and can point me to a preferred meeting, I'd be grate...	Iamhere	12	645	Apr 7, 2016 by Iamhere
	my inner mean and angry voice (Preview) I'm working on this running dialogue in my head where my AH is so dumb and anything he does is wrong. It is mean and nasty stuff, and based on the assumption he is some how the cause of everything bad in my life and generally a bumbling idiot -- neither of which are true of course. And it's constant - he does so...	Taraxacum	14	726	Apr 7, 2016 by missmeliss
	Courage to Change (C2C) 4/7/16 (Preview) Good morning MIP family! Today's reading shares the perception that God may have a sense of humor! The writer discusses an invitation to speak at an Al-Anon meeting she had never attended before. He/she had preconceived ideas of what the group would be like, what he/she would say and how it would g...	Iamhere	7	549	Apr 7, 2016 by Iamhere
	Breakdown (Preview) I'm in complete shock. My partner is in month 3 of treatment he's in a secondary facility this is the 3rd time we have been through this. Yesterday I told him I wanted to break contact I'm so confused and now he is too I was supporting him but just lately I'm full of anxiety and I just don't know how to go on. We...	Confusedandupset	10	438	Apr 7, 2016 by Confusedandupset
	It starts today, and I am hopeful. (Preview) My husband of 9 years (second marriage for both) might have seen the light today. On Monday evening, he left a bar at 5:30 and wasn't home by 6:30. The bar is just five minutes from home. I tried calling him because I was concerned about him. My son had asked him earlier, if he wanted a ride home because he di...	sweetness34	10	706	Apr 7, 2016 by sweetness34
	Oh, Hi there HP :-) (Preview) So this morning I was sitting in my room, at my desk, thinking about how I wish I had some spare money to purchase a second desk to put in the lounge room, because its turning cold here and that's the only room with heating, plus I am a bit nomadic and like to change it up from time to time. ANYWAY. While I was si...	missmeliss	5	669	Apr 7, 2016 by sweetness34
	Free Fall (Preview) I was invited to a family therapy phone call by my AH in rehab. I was excited for the opportunity to understand recovery better and become closer through participating. The session went in a direction I didn't expect. My AH started in a great way saying he wanted us to be nicer to each other. He then went o...	sunmustshine	8	481	Apr 7, 2016 by Iamhere
	Another Day in the Life... Up? Or Down? (Preview) So I have been Working On "Why" I think/do the things I Do.. and Trying to be aware of my "Now" Thoughts.. And what maybe some of My "Triggers" are... WOW I think I Hit them ALL just Today... So I am Slow in my Office, and had some things to Stain in our Shop, so thought Why Not... Its Chilly out but I Can Bundle u...	Jozie	4	450	Apr 7, 2016 by Jozie
	Update (Preview) Had a meltdown last night or rather 2am. I was cleaning yesterday and since i couldnt sleep,decided to check out some envies i found. One was chock full of old boyfriends ' poems and letters i had wrote. it also contained a cauntionary note i had written to my self eight months into the relationship with...	YARNCRAZY	4	466	Apr 7, 2016 by WhiskeyLullabye
	My first On line Support Meeting... Court Mandated But Looking Forward To learn ... (Preview) Ok so to keep custody of my children I must Attend Al Anon but with a crazy new work schedule and 3 kids at home its soooo hard... I really want to take part in a actual group but for now lunch online classes is what I can do. Im reading all topics on here and I can relate in many. My question is when do you know t...	RubiRivera	5	490	Apr 6, 2016 by Iamhere
	less stress today (Preview) My daughter moved out and its been a relief. I had been so obsessed over her and her well being. She is doing fine in her own place now. I am now at home with the ABF and I am not worried. I see he is a full blown alcoholic and can not stay sober beyond 3 days. Not my issue, not my problem. I see the same merry go roun...	joker	5	631	Apr 6, 2016 by Jerry F
	Goodbye Cigarettes!!! (Preview) I'm back to quitting smoking. I had my last cigarette last night. I WILL NOT have another one. Bf is still sober. He's gonna spend the evening with me and he said he's bringing chocolate to help me ignore the nicotine cravings. That is one addiction I will never give up - chocolate. I would ask you a...	WhiskeyLullabye	23	540	Apr 6, 2016 by jocelgp
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