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WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

My company decided to run a thorough background check on all employees. Mine turned up something that shouldn't be there. I haven't been fired - but I can't go to work until it gets straightened out. Who knows how long that will take? I can't afford to miss much work - just missing today is going to ma...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

Hello my MIP family. I wanted to share some things that have happened in my life recently. First, during this month, I lost it badly over an employment decision my RAH was thinking of. I simply could not deal with the proposed change he was considering. No matter how hard I tried to respect him and le...

CyndiODAT · CyndiODAT

Good Monday morning all, I've been doing some Step 4 work around my tendency to people please, to the degree that I sometimes give up my own value system or self discipline in order to 'go along with' others. Rather than speak up and say what I mean and mean what I say, even if it is 'unpopular', I am the ni...

CyndiODAT · CyndiODAT

My communication (emails) with my boyfriend are causing me confusion. He has 'explanations' for every one of my concerns, and he feels I have drawn 'wild conclusions' and that I continue to attack his character and judge him as an 'addict' unfairly. He has already acknowledged that the pot was rec...

lookingup · lookingup

A/sis has been on a war path I told her to move out again to no avail except that I couldn't make her leave cause she got mail coming here with her name on it she done that soon after moving in she put in for a change of address and then her mail filled up my mailbox wished I'd told her to get her a p.o. Box now to lat...

Fedora · Fedora

Today I visited with a friend who I've been close to for most of my life. However, in the last year I have kept most of the talk about my AH out of our conversations. I decided that I was tired of saying "everything is GREAT" when she asked about my life. So I told her what was Really going on with the spouse, th...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- This reading is about how for some of us recovery was imagined with a 'finish line'. If we just did what we were supposed to do, at some point we would graduate from Alanon and really start living our lives! The writer points out that after a couple of years in the program charact...

CyndiODAT · CyndiODAT

Hi all, today I received an email from my now ex boyfriend. I wanted to share an example of what makes me so confused. Essentially he feels I betrayed him and attacked his character unfairly. That I 'pretended' to go along with his 'habits' all along and suddenly did an about face after my heart attac...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Today's c2c suggests listing all of the things we feel we need, but have been denied by others, such as respect, affection, communication, etc. It suggests we then consider that we CAN have these things if we are willing to give what we want to receive, and be what we want to attract. In reviewing this...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I have no problem at all admitting that I'm powerless over alcohol. I can control my drinking because I'm not an alcoholic and I rarely drink - when I do, its usually not more than a wine cooler or two. I know that I can't control my boyfriend's drinking. If he decides to drink again, that's on him and th...

Jennyp · Jennyp

I have been attending weekly FTF meetings for abut a month now and I cannot express how much these , along with this board,have helped me. I was overwhelmed at the beginning from really reading too much literature and now stick to a topic or reading a day. I compare my thinking now to almost a fog being lif...

Iamhere · Iamhere

So - off to Florida I went and had a lovely time. The wedding was awesome, my nephew and his bride were adorable and all went well. I went on a few 'field trips' that were not in my wheel-house because it seemed like the right thing to do. I did not get enough sleep, as we know happens but it was awesome! My n...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I participated in an online alanon meeting earlier. In the beginning, they asked for new people to introduce themselves and give a short description of their qualifier and how he/she acts. Someone told me that I didn't really belong in alanon because I'm not being abused or mistreated and his drin...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Good to have you here. I got good stuff from your share so am grateful and open to more...((((hugs))))

lookingup · lookingup

Well my abf moved on yesterday 1st time he has ever moved out of here without me telling him to leave,but he had no choice but to leave which I am happy and I should be happy that he done it on his own,its all legal reasons he left ,and never will he be able to come back to my place to live ever again,wow I can see m...

marie57 · marie57

My 24 year old son is drinking himself to death. I endured my husband's alcoholism for 30 years and now that he sees how badly his son his destroying himself, husband is barely drinking. I dont want to watch my son's drinking. I feel stuck and depressed. This has been going on for a year and a half. I am angr...

hotrod · hotrod

I am confused about which additional C2C date I volunteered to post. S ince ist has not been posted for today I will do so. The C2C reading for April 13 speaks about responding to situations with kindness and courtesy . It points out that we can decide to always "place principles above personality...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This is actually just for the moment comment. I know that I am not perfect. Even when I make mistakes I realize that the one who is criticizing me is not perfect either. I guess my AH is still reaching for perfection in me. I am constantly apologizing for whatever he finds wrong w/ me. And, I still find myse...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for April 15 suggests that many of us come to Al-Anon looking for answers to perplexing problems such as should I leave the alcoholic and how can I resolve the financial, legal or medical problems? How can I stop abusive behavior? Al-Anon's position is that we must each find our own an...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Not much to say today. I just want to say HI to everyone! Kathleen

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for April 16 speaks about the pain that we are experiencing when we first enter the program. It points out that this pain enables us to open our minds and hearts to whatever the program and the members are sharing with us. It suggests that we soon discover that what we go through in life is...

sweetness34 · sweetness34

I know it's not realistic to expect everything to be rosy and perfect once you choose to follow AA or Al-Anon. However, you hope that the residual effects could hold off a little, until you feel more confident. It's been 12 days since our "life changing" night...the last night my AH drank, and the nigh...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Today's C2C speaks of how, after spending some time in al-anon, we begin to notice when our thoughts turn negative and we engage in "stinkin thinkin". We feel uncomfortable yet, simply being aware of the thoughts is not enough to remove them; we need to replace them with positive thoughts. The readin...

CyndiODAT · CyndiODAT

Hi everyone, Just checking in. I've been in touch with my sponsor this morning, read my daily readings, cried a little bit and over all feel somewhat 'paralyzed' today. I find my thoughts drifting to 'him' and wondering how he is doing - is he feeling as sad, hurt and grief-filled as I do? Or is he mad...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for April 17 speaks about the difficulty in making decisions because we worry about making others happy, and try to make sure everyone will be happy with the decision. We think there is a perfect way to do things and it is our responsibility to find it . This reading focuses on the Tradi...

CyndiODAT · CyndiODAT

Hi everyone, I finally had the hard conversation with my boyfriend about my concerns. He asked me what was going on lately so I finally told him that since my heart attack, I have been doing a lot of reflecting on my life in general, and that includes evaluating our relationship. I told him I have conce...

Aerin · Aerin

For those with biological children and married and financial obligations with the "A" (alcoholic right?) I can see how leaving is a huge decision. I was married for 15yrs to my ex (we share 50/50 with our teen) and our divorce had nothing to do with any substance issue, we (me mainly) just grew apart. An...

lookingup · lookingup

My a/brother which is early 50s has exhausted and burn up all his bridges,his daughter and wife had given him 1000s of chances to get straight to no avail so they gave him a one way ticket to Dallas Texas where he knows nobody and sent him on his way,I haven't spoken or seen him in 6 yrs because of his steali...

Doves · Doves

I've been wrestling with the difference between detachment and ignoring. I find it hard to differentiate detachment from ignoring the behaviour. Because of that I feel my detachment techniques are not healthy. What does healthy detachment look and feel like?

Rebounder · Rebounder

I'm a certified dog trainer. Today on our morning walk, my stupid big dog grabbed a chicken bone. He would not drop it. He growled at me. I did what I learned and held on to the end that was sticking out of his mouth. I did not let go. I relaxed everything else. I calmly decided that he could bite me if he wanted...

Doves · Doves

My son is out in his fake plated , uninsured car without his full license with his " friends " . He has to go to work at his part time job tonight until 3 AM and I know he will give his car that he worked hard to buy to his "friend " to drive for the night until my son gets off work as he has done this every night he's ha...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

My ex had a meth addiction. He would get high and then come down and beat the crap out of me. I feel like I enabled him in a way. I believed his promises and his lies - because I wanted to believe the, even though deep down, I knew the truth. My boyfriend now is an alcoholic. But, I refuse to be the same way wi...

Fooled · Fooled

My A and I had couples counseling with our pastor last night. For the last couple of sessions I have felt confused afterwards but in these sessions is pretty much the only time my A is open and honest enough to have a meaningful conversation. So last nights topic was fulfilling each others needs....T...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I've had insomnia issues for years. Anxiety is a big trigger, but sometimes I don't feel anxious about anything and still can't sleep. Right now I know its because I'm excited and anxious about seeing pictures of my daughter. I've barely slept for the past 4 nights in a row. Something's gotta give...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

Back on the merry-go-round. He's made himself sick again. Pancreatitis. The first time it happened he swore off the booze. He relapsed. The second time...honestly I don't remember what he said, it was about a year ago.I knew he'd been drinking for the past several months. I've been working on mys...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t61986980/alanon...

Smilingeyes · Smilingeyes

I don't even know where to start today... I feel so alone and down today. I told the A that I was having a rough day, he sent me flowers and told me he just wanted my day to get better. Well by 2pm he was drinking today and now has some what disappeared. I don't know what to do anymore. I have reached out to his bes...

Aerin · Aerin

Okay, just needing some support. After another one of his beer binges (if you want to hear the wacko story, I posted it under ((smilingeyes)) recent topic: One day good, next day awful.. Anyway, It is soooo unlike me not to start a fight after one of his binges. But since I have come to this board I hav...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Where I used to live, in Melbourne, there was this man- Robin- that everyone called "the dancing man". He was this grinning, skinny old dude wearing headphones and he would stand on the corner outside a hotel doing this crazy dance!! He was awesome, there was a tram and bus stop right there where he sto...

Antigua · Antigua

i joined this message board many years ago to help me cope with my AH's disease. I haven't been back here for a very long time, but I think it is time for me to find some support and stop living in denial. We have been married for 9 years and have 2 beautiful kids (7 & 3). My AH has probably been an alcohol...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I have mild hypoglycemia. If I get hungry, I need to eat or I'll get shaky and dizzy and sick, etc. Well, I got home from work and realized I didn't have jack to eat - need to go grocery shopping, but I'm pretty broke. So, I decide to run to the store to grab some spaghetti and sauce. I figured it would be fi...

CyndiODAT · CyndiODAT

Hi everyone, I am new here, but not new to Al-Anon. I first came to the program a little over 6 years ago, with my now ex husband as my qualifier. In my dating life over the last 5 years or so, I found that I continued to attract addicts of varying types. Now, I have been dating someone for 7 months and I had b...

Iamhere · Iamhere

So - I'll share my adventures from last night - ball fields - adult recreational softball - late games ... 8:30 and 9:30pm - 40 degrees. Crazy as it seems, we did go out to the fields last night for softball - we had the late games. We show up and are walking to the fields, and there is some discussion in the a...

lookingup · lookingup

tomorrow is court day for my abf,he has made a mess but it's his mess,I do have empathy for him and feeling somewhat sorry for him for its not looking good at all he is looking at years in prison without a lawyer so we going today or he is to talk to a lawyer about getting it put off again,so I can feel the bad vib...

Gilbi · Gilbi

So, my life has become unmanageable, that I can see. My background. I was a single mother of 3, 2 are mine and I have full custody of my nephew. My sister died as a result of her drug use, and I had gained full custody of my nephew while she was still using. I have always kept a drug and alcohol free home. No part...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Im battling a cold and cough and thank g-d I have med-ical/Kaiser. Such a blessing to be able to see my doc,get meds,etc As a result,last 2 nights i havnt had much sleep coughing alot. So Ive been thinking alot. First i write in a diary so it is all down on paper. I resolved that I will not tolerate any alcoho...

a4l · a4l

My anxiety has been through the roof over the last two weeks and I have lost five pounds. I hate, hate, hate this state of being because it steals me from the moment. I can't get to any f2f meetings, because the kids occasional care center closed down and their fathers off the face of my earth for the next m...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Daughter said something that sort of crushed my feelings tonight. Now that sentence alone is already wrong on a lot of levels, I know. Lately I've been doing quite a lot for her, she's had a lot of money spent on her and a lot of time spent running her around and organising things for her, and the gratitude...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

My daughter's parents' aunt got back to me. She said she'll pass my message on to them. I'm excited and thrilled! Still really anxious, though.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is a what the heck day. I am grateful for my recovery. I just need a bit of sunshine. I guess sometimes just one day of rain can upset me. I can't get on my swing. I can't spend time away from the monotony. I want to have a solid do nothing day sometimes but today I need to do something productive. So I won'...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I've been sitting here doing some thinking. My ex-boyfriend was a meth addict. He's the one I got involved with after giving up my baby. I didn't know at first. I never touched the stuff. He beat the tar out of me. Pretty regularly. His addiction damaged me. I was already depressed. I became a s...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone- Today's reading is about sponsorship, from the point of view of the sponsor. The writer acknowledges how much deeper his recovery and program work became through his sponsorship of others. He learned a lot about himself as he worked the steps as a sponsor with the men who were...

sweetness34 · sweetness34

Good morning friends, So, it's a rainy, gloomy Monday morning. With rain, comes mud. I have two dogs who love to run in the rain. So, there are muddy paws, and muddy bellies to clean off before they can come inside. I often wonder if I enjoy snow, more than rain, because of this. But, it's part of life in Pen...

sweetness34 · sweetness34

Today, my Sunday School class was led by a man who is 89 years old. I love to listen to the knowledge and experience that older people bring to me Our lesson was about Jesus going to the Pharisee's house, and the prostitute to followed Him there. This was where she cried tears of repentance, and washed his...

Nidra · Nidra

Hi everybody! I´m all new to this forum (though not to Al-anon), I hope to explore it more but right now I have a burning question I hope someone here might be able to answer. Please do excuse any misspellings etc, english is not my language (I´m Swedish) Recently, a situation occured in my home group. W...

marniep222 · marniep222

Okay, it's been 4 days. I haven't responded to the text about the stupid sleeping bag... and I know that the only thing he set out to accomplish was to have me react...which I didn't. However, I still find myself agonizing over a way to respond, which I know is a completely futile exercise...no outco...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I have a daughter. I gave her up for adoption at birth. I had an agreement with her new parents that I would get pictures. But, I'm getting ahead of myself. My ex-husband left me for another woman and abandoned me in California when I was 6 months pregnant. After I was trying to make our marriage work f...

lookingup · lookingup

as most here knows Ive got my ASIs and abf living here with me in my home ,ASIs has been constantly warning me to open my eyes to what abf is doing outside my home I allow him to use my shed for a place to put tools and just for him a place to go to,abf seems to me to be very straight up with me and respectful toward m...

pjwa12726 · pjwa12726

Today I found myself in a pity party. The realization that my dry AH has been having an affair with a former co-worker for a long time. This affair probably started in the 90s. I remember hearing her name all the time but never did I think it was an affair. I moved out over a year and half ago because I found...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am starting to shake whatever it is that is bothering me. I am not my thoughts. Sometimes I feel disconnected. But I am doing the action steps to make the most of what I have. What I have a freedom that I found in Al anon. It is about time I let the Program work. It works if you work it. I guess I should follow my...

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	Can't Catch A Break (Preview) My company decided to run a thorough background check on all employees. Mine turned up something that shouldn't be there. I haven't been fired - but I can't go to work until it gets straightened out. Who knows how long that will take? I can't afford to miss much work - just missing today is going to ma...	WhiskeyLullabye	5	767	Apr 19, 2016 by WhiskeyLullabye
	Very emotional weekend after strange and emotional month. (Preview) Hello my MIP family. I wanted to share some things that have happened in my life recently. First, during this month, I lost it badly over an employment decision my RAH was thinking of. I simply could not deal with the proposed change he was considering. No matter how hard I tried to respect him and le...	Doingmybest	5	523	Apr 19, 2016 by hotrod
	People pleasing, saying 'NO' (Preview) Good Monday morning all, I've been doing some Step 4 work around my tendency to people please, to the degree that I sometimes give up my own value system or self discipline in order to 'go along with' others. Rather than speak up and say what I mean and mean what I say, even if it is 'unpopular', I am the ni...	CyndiODAT	9	1241	Apr 19, 2016 by missmeliss
	Confused (Preview) My communication (emails) with my boyfriend are causing me confusion. He has 'explanations' for every one of my concerns, and he feels I have drawn 'wild conclusions' and that I continue to attack his character and judge him as an 'addict' unfairly. He has already acknowledged that the pot was rec...	CyndiODAT	15	614	Apr 19, 2016 by Mattie
	Forgot my toolkit,needs organised . (Preview) A/sis has been on a war path I told her to move out again to no avail except that I couldn't make her leave cause she got mail coming here with her name on it she done that soon after moving in she put in for a change of address and then her mail filled up my mailbox wished I'd told her to get her a p.o. Box now to lat...	lookingup	4	531	Apr 19, 2016 by Taraxacum
	friends who already knew ... and why do I keep having the same conversations with AH? (Preview) Today I visited with a friend who I've been close to for most of my life. However, in the last year I have kept most of the talk about my AH out of our conversations. I decided that I was tired of saying "everything is GREAT" when she asked about my life. So I told her what was Really going on with the spouse, th...	Fedora	7	591	Apr 19, 2016 by milkwood
	Hope for Today Apr 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone- This reading is about how for some of us recovery was imagined with a 'finish line'. If we just did what we were supposed to do, at some point we would graduate from Alanon and really start living our lives! The writer points out that after a couple of years in the program charact...	yanksfan51	4	456	Apr 19, 2016 by andromeda
	What to make of this? (Preview) Hi all, today I received an email from my now ex boyfriend. I wanted to share an example of what makes me so confused. Essentially he feels I betrayed him and attacked his character unfairly. That I 'pretended' to go along with his 'habits' all along and suddenly did an about face after my heart attac...	CyndiODAT	14	688	Apr 19, 2016 by CyndiODAT
	Courage to Change 18/4 (Preview) Today's c2c suggests listing all of the things we feel we need, but have been denied by others, such as respect, affection, communication, etc. It suggests we then consider that we CAN have these things if we are willing to give what we want to receive, and be what we want to attract. In reviewing this...	missmeliss	3	575	Apr 18, 2016 by yanksfan51
	Step 1 Question (Preview) I have no problem at all admitting that I'm powerless over alcohol. I can control my drinking because I'm not an alcoholic and I rarely drink - when I do, its usually not more than a wine cooler or two. I know that I can't control my boyfriend's drinking. If he decides to drink again, that's on him and th...	WhiskeyLullabye	3	1797	Apr 18, 2016 by yanksfan51
	fog slowly lifting (Preview) I have been attending weekly FTF meetings for abut a month now and I cannot express how much these , along with this board,have helped me. I was overwhelmed at the beginning from really reading too much literature and now stick to a topic or reading a day. I compare my thinking now to almost a fog being lif...	Jennyp	8	530	Apr 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	Great Wedding, Great Trip - Glad to be Home (Preview) So - off to Florida I went and had a lovely time. The wedding was awesome, my nephew and his bride were adorable and all went well. I went on a few 'field trips' that were not in my wheel-house because it seemed like the right thing to do. I did not get enough sleep, as we know happens but it was awesome! My n...	Iamhere	8	679	Apr 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	Online Alanon Meeting (Preview) I participated in an online alanon meeting earlier. In the beginning, they asked for new people to introduce themselves and give a short description of their qualifier and how he/she acts. Someone told me that I didn't really belong in alanon because I'm not being abused or mistreated and his drin...	WhiskeyLullabye	13	729	Apr 18, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	Welcome Newnoz (Preview) Good to have you here. I got good stuff from your share so am grateful and open to more...((((hugs))))	Jerry F	4	710	Apr 17, 2016 by WhiskeyLullabye
	Abf is gone (Preview) Well my abf moved on yesterday 1st time he has ever moved out of here without me telling him to leave,but he had no choice but to leave which I am happy and I should be happy that he done it on his own,its all legal reasons he left ,and never will he be able to come back to my place to live ever again,wow I can see m...	lookingup	7	704	Apr 17, 2016 by lookingup
	Wanting to leave (Preview) My 24 year old son is drinking himself to death. I endured my husband's alcoholism for 30 years and now that he sees how badly his son his destroying himself, husband is barely drinking. I dont want to watch my son's drinking. I feel stuck and depressed. This has been going on for a year and a half. I am angr...	marie57	5	623	Apr 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C 4-13-2016 (Preview) I am confused about which additional C2C date I volunteered to post. S ince ist has not been posted for today I will do so. The C2C reading for April 13 speaks about responding to situations with kindness and courtesy . It points out that we can decide to always "place principles above personality...	hotrod	11	826	Apr 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	so what is so wrong w/ being not-so-perfect? (Preview) This is actually just for the moment comment. I know that I am not perfect. Even when I make mistakes I realize that the one who is criticizing me is not perfect either. I guess my AH is still reaching for perfection in me. I am constantly apologizing for whatever he finds wrong w/ me. And, I still find myse...	Hoot Nanny	4	544	Apr 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C 4-15-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for April 15 suggests that many of us come to Al-Anon looking for answers to perplexing problems such as should I leave the alcoholic and how can I resolve the financial, legal or medical problems? How can I stop abusive behavior? Al-Anon's position is that we must each find our own an...	hotrod	2	486	Apr 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	just stopped by to say HI! (Preview) Not much to say today. I just want to say HI to everyone! Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	5	498	Apr 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C 4-16-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for April 16 speaks about the pain that we are experiencing when we first enter the program. It points out that this pain enables us to open our minds and hearts to whatever the program and the members are sharing with us. It suggests that we soon discover that what we go through in life is...	hotrod	3	551	Apr 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	Dealing with the residual effects (Preview) I know it's not realistic to expect everything to be rosy and perfect once you choose to follow AA or Al-Anon. However, you hope that the residual effects could hold off a little, until you feel more confident. It's been 12 days since our "life changing" night...the last night my AH drank, and the nigh...	sweetness34	9	717	Apr 17, 2016 by lookingup
	Courage to change 14/4 (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of how, after spending some time in al-anon, we begin to notice when our thoughts turn negative and we engage in "stinkin thinkin". We feel uncomfortable yet, simply being aware of the thoughts is not enough to remove them; we need to replace them with positive thoughts. The readin...	missmeliss	7	715	Apr 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	Fake it til you make it.... (Preview) Hi everyone, Just checking in. I've been in touch with my sponsor this morning, read my daily readings, cried a little bit and over all feel somewhat 'paralyzed' today. I find my thoughts drifting to 'him' and wondering how he is doing - is he feeling as sad, hurt and grief-filled as I do? Or is he mad...	CyndiODAT	5	589	Apr 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C 4-17-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for April 17 speaks about the difficulty in making decisions because we worry about making others happy, and try to make sure everyone will be happy with the decision. We think there is a perfect way to do things and it is our responsibility to find it . This reading focuses on the Tradi...	hotrod	1	519	Apr 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	It's Over and Feeling 'crazy' (Preview) Hi everyone, I finally had the hard conversation with my boyfriend about my concerns. He asked me what was going on lately so I finally told him that since my heart attack, I have been doing a lot of reflecting on my life in general, and that includes evaluating our relationship. I told him I have conce...	CyndiODAT	12	776	Apr 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	Why do you stay? (Preview) For those with biological children and married and financial obligations with the "A" (alcoholic right?) I can see how leaving is a huge decision. I was married for 15yrs to my ex (we share 50/50 with our teen) and our divorce had nothing to do with any substance issue, we (me mainly) just grew apart. An...	Aerin	14	979	Apr 16, 2016 by jocelgp
	Saddened (Preview) My a/brother which is early 50s has exhausted and burn up all his bridges,his daughter and wife had given him 1000s of chances to get straight to no avail so they gave him a one way ticket to Dallas Texas where he knows nobody and sent him on his way,I haven't spoken or seen him in 6 yrs because of his steali...	lookingup	7	626	Apr 16, 2016 by lookingup
	Detachment vs ignoring (Preview) I've been wrestling with the difference between detachment and ignoring. I find it hard to differentiate detachment from ignoring the behaviour. Because of that I feel my detachment techniques are not healthy. What does healthy detachment look and feel like?	Doves	30	1326	Apr 15, 2016 by sweetness34
	dog training (Preview) I'm a certified dog trainer. Today on our morning walk, my stupid big dog grabbed a chicken bone. He would not drop it. He growled at me. I did what I learned and held on to the end that was sticking out of his mouth. I did not let go. I relaxed everything else. I calmly decided that he could bite me if he wanted...	Rebounder	4	540	Apr 15, 2016 by sweetness34
	Trying so hard to keep my mouth shut! (Preview) My son is out in his fake plated , uninsured car without his full license with his " friends " . He has to go to work at his part time job tonight until 3 AM and I know he will give his car that he worked hard to buy to his "friend " to drive for the night until my son gets off work as he has done this every night he's ha...	Doves	4	578	Apr 15, 2016 by sweetness34
	Just Some Thoughts (Preview) My ex had a meth addiction. He would get high and then come down and beat the crap out of me. I feel like I enabled him in a way. I believed his promises and his lies - because I wanted to believe the, even though deep down, I knew the truth. My boyfriend now is an alcoholic. But, I refuse to be the same way wi...	WhiskeyLullabye	1	447	Apr 15, 2016 by hotrod
	Just trying to break it all down (Preview) My A and I had couples counseling with our pastor last night. For the last couple of sessions I have felt confused afterwards but in these sessions is pretty much the only time my A is open and honest enough to have a meaningful conversation. So last nights topic was fulfilling each others needs....T...	Fooled	22	1207	Apr 15, 2016 by Fooled
	Sleep Problems (Preview) I've had insomnia issues for years. Anxiety is a big trigger, but sometimes I don't feel anxious about anything and still can't sleep. Right now I know its because I'm excited and anxious about seeing pictures of my daughter. I've barely slept for the past 4 nights in a row. Something's gotta give...	WhiskeyLullabye	7	676	Apr 15, 2016 by FHP
	Back again, trying to find the courage to change (Preview) Back on the merry-go-round. He's made himself sick again. Pancreatitis. The first time it happened he swore off the booze. He relapsed. The second time...honestly I don't remember what he said, it was about a year ago.I knew he'd been drinking for the past several months. I've been working on mys...	SpiderArcana	6	780	Apr 15, 2016 by jocelgp
	Step 7 posted (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t61986980/alanon...	hotrod	2	484	Apr 14, 2016 by hotrod
	One day good and the next one awful (Preview) I don't even know where to start today... I feel so alone and down today. I told the A that I was having a rough day, he sent me flowers and told me he just wanted my day to get better. Well by 2pm he was drinking today and now has some what disappeared. I don't know what to do anymore. I have reached out to his bes...	Smilingeyes	15	823	Apr 14, 2016 by jocelgp
	AM I SAYING THE RIGHT THING? (Preview) Okay, just needing some support. After another one of his beer binges (if you want to hear the wacko story, I posted it under ((smilingeyes)) recent topic: One day good, next day awful.. Anyway, It is soooo unlike me not to start a fight after one of his binges. But since I have come to this board I hav...	Aerin	6	680	Apr 14, 2016 by jocelgp
	The dancing man. (Preview) Where I used to live, in Melbourne, there was this man- Robin- that everyone called "the dancing man". He was this grinning, skinny old dude wearing headphones and he would stand on the corner outside a hotel doing this crazy dance!! He was awesome, there was a tram and bus stop right there where he sto...	missmeliss	4	790	Apr 14, 2016 by sweetness34
	Returning after a long break (Preview) i joined this message board many years ago to help me cope with my AH's disease. I haven't been back here for a very long time, but I think it is time for me to find some support and stop living in denial. We have been married for 9 years and have 2 beautiful kids (7 & 3). My AH has probably been an alcohol...	Antigua	4	719	Apr 13, 2016 by Mattie
	Met A Very Nice Cop (Preview) I have mild hypoglycemia. If I get hungry, I need to eat or I'll get shaky and dizzy and sick, etc. Well, I got home from work and realized I didn't have jack to eat - need to go grocery shopping, but I'm pretty broke. So, I decide to run to the store to grab some spaghetti and sauce. I figured it would be fi...	WhiskeyLullabye	2	853	Apr 13, 2016 by Jerry F
	Recomitted to my program (Preview) Hi everyone, I am new here, but not new to Al-Anon. I first came to the program a little over 6 years ago, with my now ex husband as my qualifier. In my dating life over the last 5 years or so, I found that I continued to attract addicts of varying types. Now, I have been dating someone for 7 months and I had b...	CyndiODAT	17	882	Apr 13, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	Late Night Adventures @ the Ball Park (Preview) So - I'll share my adventures from last night - ball fields - adult recreational softball - late games ... 8:30 and 9:30pm - 40 degrees. Crazy as it seems, we did go out to the fields last night for softball - we had the late games. We show up and are walking to the fields, and there is some discussion in the a...	Iamhere	22	939	Apr 13, 2016 by sweetness34
	Useing my tools (Preview) tomorrow is court day for my abf,he has made a mess but it's his mess,I do have empathy for him and feeling somewhat sorry for him for its not looking good at all he is looking at years in prison without a lawyer so we going today or he is to talk to a lawyer about getting it put off again,so I can feel the bad vib...	lookingup	4	568	Apr 13, 2016 by lookingup
	brand new - trust issues drugs alcohol expectations boundaries enabling marriage (Preview) So, my life has become unmanageable, that I can see. My background. I was a single mother of 3, 2 are mine and I have full custody of my nephew. My sister died as a result of her drug use, and I had gained full custody of my nephew while she was still using. I have always kept a drug and alcohol free home. No part...	Gilbi	8	765	Apr 13, 2016 by hotrod
	Lots of thinking (Preview) Im battling a cold and cough and thank g-d I have med-ical/Kaiser. Such a blessing to be able to see my doc,get meds,etc As a result,last 2 nights i havnt had much sleep coughing alot. So Ive been thinking alot. First i write in a diary so it is all down on paper. I resolved that I will not tolerate any alcoho...	YARNCRAZY	2	573	Apr 13, 2016 by Iamhere
	the worries. (Preview) My anxiety has been through the roof over the last two weeks and I have lost five pounds. I hate, hate, hate this state of being because it steals me from the moment. I can't get to any f2f meetings, because the kids occasional care center closed down and their fathers off the face of my earth for the next m...	a4l	9	758	Apr 13, 2016 by milkwood
	Parenting blah blah. (Preview) Daughter said something that sort of crushed my feelings tonight. Now that sentence alone is already wrong on a lot of levels, I know. Lately I've been doing quite a lot for her, she's had a lot of money spent on her and a lot of time spent running her around and organising things for her, and the gratitude...	missmeliss	7	772	Apr 12, 2016 by WhiskeyLullabye
	Update (Preview) My daughter's parents' aunt got back to me. She said she'll pass my message on to them. I'm excited and thrilled! Still really anxious, though.	WhiskeyLullabye	4	548	Apr 12, 2016 by a4l
	sometimes you just got to say "what the heck!" (Preview) Today is a what the heck day. I am grateful for my recovery. I just need a bit of sunshine. I guess sometimes just one day of rain can upset me. I can't get on my swing. I can't spend time away from the monotony. I want to have a solid do nothing day sometimes but today I need to do something productive. So I won'...	Hoot Nanny	1	811	Apr 12, 2016 by Iamhere
	Growth (Preview) I've been sitting here doing some thinking. My ex-boyfriend was a meth addict. He's the one I got involved with after giving up my baby. I didn't know at first. I never touched the stuff. He beat the tar out of me. Pretty regularly. His addiction damaged me. I was already depressed. I became a s...	WhiskeyLullabye	4	594	Apr 12, 2016 by CyndiODAT
	Hope for Today April 12 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone- Today's reading is about sponsorship, from the point of view of the sponsor. The writer acknowledges how much deeper his recovery and program work became through his sponsorship of others. He learned a lot about himself as he worked the steps as a sponsor with the men who were...	yanksfan51	3	702	Apr 12, 2016 by sweetness34
	Trying to get past the rain (Preview) Good morning friends, So, it's a rainy, gloomy Monday morning. With rain, comes mud. I have two dogs who love to run in the rain. So, there are muddy paws, and muddy bellies to clean off before they can come inside. I often wonder if I enjoy snow, more than rain, because of this. But, it's part of life in Pen...	sweetness34	4	705	Apr 12, 2016 by sweetness34
	Leading with love (Preview) Today, my Sunday School class was led by a man who is 89 years old. I love to listen to the knowledge and experience that older people bring to me Our lesson was about Jesus going to the Pharisee's house, and the prostitute to followed Him there. This was where she cried tears of repentance, and washed his...	sweetness34	6	773	Apr 12, 2016 by sweetness34
	Question about alcoholics sharing @ Al-anon meetings (Preview) Hi everybody! I´m all new to this forum (though not to Al-anon), I hope to explore it more but right now I have a burning question I hope someone here might be able to answer. Please do excuse any misspellings etc, english is not my language (I´m Swedish) Recently, a situation occured in my home group. W...	Nidra	4	1311	Apr 12, 2016 by Iamhere
	So hard not to pick up the rope (Preview) Okay, it's been 4 days. I haven't responded to the text about the stupid sleeping bag... and I know that the only thing he set out to accomplish was to have me react...which I didn't. However, I still find myself agonizing over a way to respond, which I know is a completely futile exercise...no outco...	marniep222	9	992	Apr 12, 2016 by Doingmybest
	Again, not related to alcoholism, but I need to get this off my chest. And you guys are so nice. (Preview) I have a daughter. I gave her up for adoption at birth. I had an agreement with her new parents that I would get pictures. But, I'm getting ahead of myself. My ex-husband left me for another woman and abandoned me in California when I was 6 months pregnant. After I was trying to make our marriage work f...	WhiskeyLullabye	17	801	Apr 12, 2016 by Doingmybest
	My serenity (Preview) as most here knows Ive got my ASIs and abf living here with me in my home ,ASIs has been constantly warning me to open my eyes to what abf is doing outside my home I allow him to use my shed for a place to put tools and just for him a place to go to,abf seems to me to be very straight up with me and respectful toward m...	lookingup	7	640	Apr 12, 2016 by lookingup
	Pity Party (Preview) Today I found myself in a pity party. The realization that my dry AH has been having an affair with a former co-worker for a long time. This affair probably started in the 90s. I remember hearing her name all the time but never did I think it was an affair. I moved out over a year and half ago because I found...	pjwa12726	6	812	Apr 11, 2016 by Iamhere
	I AM shaking it! (Preview) I am starting to shake whatever it is that is bothering me. I am not my thoughts. Sometimes I feel disconnected. But I am doing the action steps to make the most of what I have. What I have a freedom that I found in Al anon. It is about time I let the Program work. It works if you work it. I guess I should follow my...	Hoot Nanny	5	588	Apr 11, 2016 by Iamhere
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