Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Iamhere · Iamhere

The reading today discusses Step 5 and how at first glance, it appears to be daunting. Most of us spent so much energy and time into hiding the truth as we had fear of rejection from others. After all, we had tried so hard to be perfect and present the perfect front Most of us were isolated and lonely as i...

jocelgp · jocelgp

My AH still denies he's an alcoholic. He's a periodic binge drinker and he's drinking again on a weekly basis. To give you an idea he's the between number One and number Two husband in "To Wives" chapter of AA's Big Book. I think I have accepted the three C's , that I could only change myself, I have stop...

jagadamba · jagadamba

I need an online sponsor to help me get through staying away from my relationship with an alcoholic boyfriend. Please help.

Mirandac · Mirandac

Is there a protocol for how soon to start business meeting? Is asking for 10-15 minutes start time too much to ask Of members? i like to converse, greet new members, give hugs whatever i go for me to get better and to give it forward. Thats my agenda, I am the Librarian too. Well there are two members th...

Doozy · Doozy

Okay, I almost don't want to ask this question because I'm afraid I already know the answer and I don't like it :) What do y'all recommend regarding dating during recovery in Alanon? I'm in my early 30s. Two months ago I ended a serious, long-term relationship with my addict, alcoholic boyfriend. We'd...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Over the past maybe 6 months, my 35 year old AD (who doesn't work any kind of program though she has gone to a "few" AA meetings over the years with friends) has started to sometimes show some clarity of thinking, where she is beginning to recognize that drinking/using may possibly be causing some probl...

a4l · a4l

I was upset this morning at 5 am to hear the disease has kicked in agaim for my mother. I had sent her a picture of the grandkids with the ah who is back in island of heritage. I didn't really want to send it because I thought it might just be an opportunity for rejection. But I did anyway. I felt very angry th...

Worried Wife · Worried Wife

Hello Friends, Who has gone thru the roller coaster ride as I am right now? Hubby was sober for a couple weeks, then then drinks again, this time for three days. This is round 3 of sober/not sober. I hug and praise him and express how happy I am when he is clear. I enjoy the moments of sobriety but gear my m...

Kimarin · Kimarin

I have been married for 26 years and met her way before that. I can tell within a few moments if she has been drinking. I have not had a problem with substance abuse or drinking myself but I have plenty of my own issues beyond those. I actually have no idea where to begin but I am at my limits and probably ha...

Yankeerose · Yankeerose

Hi all, haven't been on here in awhile, been so busy working and just dealing with life. Anyway, my AH has been working a recovery program (AA) for almost a year. He's been doing great--we've been doing great. Almost too good to be true. Well it was. Just found out that he's been smoking pot. I know I...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about humility and how it can be tough to embrace. Often we are taught from early ages to place the wants and needs of others before our own. We then equate humility with taking care of others and ignoring our own needs and feelings. In the program, we learn that true humility is not...

Cindy1954 · Cindy1954

I've been dealing with my sister's disease and to get along have walked on egg shells. We have a family farm together. She has been verbally abusive to me and just mean. It has to all go her way in everything. I started adding boundaries and have gotten major pushback. Her attitude in my opinion...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I'm struggling with some anxiety and obssessive thinking. I know the tools and sayings. Letting it go is easier said than done. Sometimes it helps to bring "God" or HP into it. Helps to be mindful, talk to supports. But even then, letting go of intrusive, unproductive, anxious thoughts is a challenge...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Letting go stinks! I am finishing my last post that I did on my thread. Under don't know what to do today? I am greatly saddened by my friend moving away. I am actually feeling a sense of grief & she hasn't left yet!!!! When someone goes through life experiences w you like no other it is hard to see any wa...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Todays C2C (and yes, I've checked and double checked that I have the right one this time, lol) speaks about how when many of us come to al-anon, we don't know who we are. Many of us have spent a lifetime knowing all about the wants, needs, opinions, likes and dislikes of everyone around us but had no idea of...

jocelgp · jocelgp

Just a few hours ago my husband once again told me he's going out to drink with his friends this friday evening. I didn't say a word, I was caught unguarded at that moment and I don't know how to react so I just froze as though I heard nothing, naturally he didn't like my reaction. I just said I will not ha...

lookingup · lookingup

i don't know what principles is cal taking about ???? Need answers for this one. And personalities to me would be each and every one we are individuals with diff, personalities weather one is an addict or alcoholis or are not an addict or alcoholic same applies ,I know some people's personalities ca...

lookingup · lookingup

Last few days or so ,my a/sister has been ignoring me ,if I ask her something she keeps walking then when I tell her I need to ask her something concerning finances ,bills etc...she turns at me with a acowl on her face ,she stays in her bedroom,my x/bf came to visit and you couldn't have poured sugar on her a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am not sure how I want to approach the rest of this beautiful day! I for sure want to continue my gratitude mission. I guess I want to spread the love... Today could be one of my best days if I just let it be. It seems that no matter what happens I can start my day over if I need to. But, I have a feeling that I am no...

Giancarlo · Giancarlo

I'm not really sure how to start this, my therapist thinks it would be productive for me to post here, maybe help me find some catharsis. I guess the easiest place to start is with the obvious. I'm here because I was raised in an abusive environment.. I like saying it like that "abusive environment" if...

Bethany66 · Bethany66

There was a challenge I saw on FB (I think) to participate in writing a letter a day for every day in the month of April and I accepted the challenge. Thirty letters in thirty days. I wrote on my calendar for the entire month who I would write to and I tried hard to stick to it. Only one day did I forget to wri...

Fedora · Fedora

background to my post ... Today my spouse and I made an arrangement to meet up at kids' school where we would attend a kid related event, and I would take the kids from there to next thing. As soon as I met them, my "somebody has been drinking" radar went up. He had that "squinty eye" look (I don't know how to...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Today's c2c talks about the concept of humility, and how we can perceive it to mean placing the wants and needs of others above our own, taking care of others and ignoring our own needs. In al-anon we learn that humility isn't about self deprivation or neglect, but rather about doing our part in our rela...

FHP · FHP

My AH and I started marriage counseling yesterday, last ditch effort to save the marriage. It was ok, mostly just setting up how it all works. Untill yesterday, the only communication we had was via text, and then only about logistics. His sponsor suggested doing that because we'd been in a cycle of hi...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I had a complete internal meltdown this morning. The OCD Genie has been out of his bottle just lately. I hate that guy. We had a night and a day of really extreme weather and I was up most of the night listening to things bang around in the wind. There were lots of warnings to stay indoors, park cars away from...

missmeliss · missmeliss

This has been a really intense week. I'm currently doing a full time study load plus 2 extra subjects, and tonight, I had 4 assignments due at midnight, so I've been stuck in a chair typing non stop all week. Anyway I submitted everything at 10 minutes to midnight (I'm sure that's the title of a book lol) a...

SCGirl84 · SCGirl84

Hello everyone. I hope that I have found a place to get everything out there and find the help needed. My story is a little long, but it will give you an idea on where to even start. I met a guy who was in a rehab facility. We started dating and I would pick him up on the weekends and we would spend time together t...

lookingup · lookingup

while waiting on dr office to open a man was waiting also so decided he started talking to me so the conversation goes on for 10 mins ,then he ask if it's OK to change ph no.i say why not it's just for friendship only or go drink a cup of coffee,I'm at dr ,sick with crud he is there broken down on the verge of losi...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Sound familiar? My 35 year old AD makes lots of bad choices (surprise!). I tryto remain positive, steer conversations away from ones in which she talks about illegal activities, reminding her yhat I do not want to hear about drugs/drug use etc. When she asks me what she should in in various difficult...

El · El

I have been with my alcoholic SO for 13 years; living together for the past 5. Our friends and family "get" him and know how he gets when he drinks too much. Although it is embarrassing and distressing, no one is surprised by his behavior. The problem I have is when my brother comes to visit from out of t...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm beating myself up with ..not being or going to church,my church family has tried and tried to get me to attend church with no avail,I'm feeling like I'm just not ready,why ,I don't know really myself,recovery right now ,my step program is most important to me and priority for most part and it's work...

sweetness34 · sweetness34

Woo hoo! It's been a month since my AH's last drink. That is the longest (aside from when he was recovering from open heart surgery) that he has gone without drinking in about ten years. My question is...do I celebrate this? Do I congratulate him, or do something special? I'm interested in hearing yo...

WhiskeyLullabye · WhiskeyLullabye

I've been busy and haven't been on here in a while. But, a lot has been happening. I go back to work tomorrow. I'm going to be getting pictures of my daughter soon. I think I may have had a miscarriage. Boyfriend still isn't drinking and his daughter went back to her mother's about a week ago. I've ha...

sweetness34 · sweetness34

So, I think I mentioned that I was very sick last summer. My Dad passed in February, and then in May I got really, really sick. Without going into detail, I will share that we were told that if I had waited two more days, before going to the Emergency Room, I would not be here. I was in the hospital for eleven d...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone-- This reading speaks to the sanity as described in step two: 'came to believe a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity'. The writer acknowledges that insanity for many of us is holding on to the defects within us. Not that the defects themselves- jealousy,...

KT2015 · KT2015

My AH was intoxicated last night and he started telling my daughter some ridiculously untrue story about almost selling her to the circus and about how she outran a wolf as a toddler. It was quite honestly very ridiculous. She's 7 and she seemed to believe it and asked him several times if it was true. ...

lookingup · lookingup

hp- be his or let him be your tin God???? What's the definition or what exactly is this meaning? What is the message it's trying to get across and is everybody got a diff. Interpretation of this saying .?Plz anyone give me esh on this one....confused......hugs lu

oceanpine · oceanpine

My AH and I moved 800 miles away from our parents, siblings, etc almost 3 years ago. It has been very difficult for a number of reasons, but first and foremost, due to his active A behavior. Two years ago this week, I threw together an emergency intervention, with new neighbors and friends who had witn...

joker · joker

I am grateful today as I had a great night sleep, despite the abf getting drunk. We worked all day in the back yard and he drank all day but did work. By evening, he was getting drunker and had to go for a beer run. I admit, I enabled him, by driving to the liquor store. He made a fire outside in the fire pit in the...

Aerin · Aerin

He constantly says he knows he has a binge drinking "issue", and that one day he will conquer the "demon". So basically he goes 5 days without drinking, sees that as progress and "rewards" himself with a few drinks! He refuses to see that as going backwards in his goal! He loves to say there is nothing wro...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Spent thurs,Fri,sat and 1/2 sunday at his house. We worked so hard at our yard sale there,im exhausted. Anyway, during a lull a kind of strange friend of his sidled up to me and said, " you should stop talking about your X because H doesnt like it[ H is my boyfriend]. So when H and I were taking a break, I said...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for April 30 speaks about the importance of " patience". It points out that often, prior to program, we have handled issues by simply ignoring them, and had little success with this process. This is denial Thanks to Al-Anon we no longer have to wait for situation to explode. before...

lookingup · lookingup

ive never been on a airplane in my 52 yrs of life,and lived here in Mississippi most of my life,my sil joined the airforce 8 yrs ago he and my daughter been doing the over seas only ,just the way they chose to do it,my only grand babies travel with them,my daughter has several times over the years to get me on...

Jennyp · Jennyp

I know I can't control him or cure him but some days, it hurts me so deeply that I am at the bottom of his prority list. I am very ill today and he said he would bring me ginger ale on his way home, should be about half an hour he said. 3 hours ago and I know he has been drinking all day and " one more" takes priority...

Jaclyn · Jaclyn

Hi All, It's been a few weeks since I last posted... I have been reading others' posts, but have not wanted to be repetitive re my own problems/circumstances - which I am sad to report have not changed (referencing the mystery illness). I had been doing a bit better with my obsessing (bit being the opera...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 8 Has been posted to the Step Board. Please join in and share your thoughts Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together http://stepwork.activeboard.com...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today , May 1, talks about some of our negative habits that keep us unhappy and living in the victim role.It goes on to indicate that when we "day dream" and think "if ionly" my partner was sober, rich, more successful then I would be happy. It suggest that by so doing .many of us hav...

CyndiODAT · CyndiODAT

Hi everyone, I got a text from my exBF after two weeks of no contact. He just said 'Hi, I hope you are doing okay'. I received the text just as I was heading out the door to meet up with a guy friend of mine to listen to a band and dance. I felt incredibly guilty. I responded to him this morning and said that I...

Fedora · Fedora

My mother knows my AH drinks too much. She doesn't live near us, but she has spent enough time, she knows. My MIL, as far as I know, doesn't know that AH drinks. He has gone to great lengths to hide it from her all our dating/married lives. His brother does the same. She was married to an alcoholic (AH's dad...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm wondering if I'm getting these 2 confused,my feelings and gut feelings ,I e been told several times that my gut feelings were wrong,and I'd get mad but maybe their right,that's coming from my qualifiers they (my abf) at the time now my xabf Has said this to me that my gut was usually wrong .anybody kn...

ksmom80 · ksmom80

I'm using talk to text so I apologize in advance for any typos so I'm less than 12 hours away from facing the alcoholic and drug addict father of my two-year-old son I have PTSD from his emotional abuse and the flashbacks have been horrible all day I thought I had protected myself as well as my child by ente...

Jim521 · Jim521

Hi All, I`ve been browsing the forum for a while now and thought it would be good to sign up. I`ve been with my AOH for around 18 months now and through many ups and downs she is finally doing various stints in between relapses (just over 3 weeks currently. Shes currently in AA and seems to be going on a regul...

Fooled · Fooled

I always thought my mother and I were very close. We live in different states and we talked on the phone quite frequently until my AH hit his rock bottom. I called her the other day just to check in as she had been sick and she is almost 80 so sometimes I worry. The conversation was very cold on her end....

lookingup · lookingup

As you all know or most on here about my a/sister that Li Es here with me and in no program or gets any help,getting on with my story she decided to get off her 20 yr opioids addictions,on her own she says,I had told here that she couldn't do it on her own that she would need help,she says she had to detox hersel...

joker · joker

I wrote down all my fears about my abf drinking today and it was 2 pages of dread. I fear this..that would happen if the drinking does not stop. I am fearing for him, and not myself. He does not care about the fears I project. He just lives in the moment and drinks. Yet, here I am fearing this or that outcome fo...

Sonny123 · Sonny123

My brother has been an alcoholic for probably fourty years. He has many drunk driving violations and should probably be in jail for many years. I also believe he has mental illness. He is out on two separate bails and if found would definitely go to jail. He is in a remote location and now does not have a ca...

a4l · a4l

I no longer follow the urge to bang my head against them. My technical and legal husband is in our island of origin at the moment. we have a weird marriage. He lives and works in another state during the week and comes up on weekends. I tried to end it. He just ignored me and keeps coming back. More or less he...

Melmel69 · Melmel69

A few days ago my ex who I was with for 27 years died from complications of his acholisizm. I was hit so hard by his passing. I feel alone in my grief and overwhelmed. Has anyone else had this experience?????

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses seeing ourselves as we truly are today, in time, vs. how we perhaps felt as we grew up. Many of us grew up with guilt and blame, amidst harsh criticism and constant fear. The writer discusses that even now, after years of recovery, past mistakes can come forward and reactio...

Asdfghjkl · Asdfghjkl

We're both in our early 30's, she's 18 months sober, we have successful careers and have been married for 1 year. It just so happens I work in a brewery and the resentment my wife shows towards me is getting to be detrimental to our marriage. Whenever I consume alcohol she gets angry with me. This leads to...

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	Courage to Change (C2C) 5/6/16 (Preview) The reading today discusses Step 5 and how at first glance, it appears to be daunting. Most of us spent so much energy and time into hiding the truth as we had fear of rejection from others. After all, we had tried so hard to be perfect and present the perfect front Most of us were isolated and lonely as i...	Iamhere	12	592	May 6, 2016 by hotrod
	AH drinking again, I'm no longer feeling anger but feeling extremely sad (Preview) My AH still denies he's an alcoholic. He's a periodic binge drinker and he's drinking again on a weekly basis. To give you an idea he's the between number One and number Two husband in "To Wives" chapter of AA's Big Book. I think I have accepted the three C's , that I could only change myself, I have stop...	jocelgp	6	617	May 6, 2016 by jocelgp
	Online sponsor (Preview) I need an online sponsor to help me get through staying away from my relationship with an alcoholic boyfriend. Please help.	jagadamba	1	380	May 6, 2016 by Iamhere
	Business mtg timing? (Preview) Is there a protocol for how soon to start business meeting? Is asking for 10-15 minutes start time too much to ask Of members? i like to converse, greet new members, give hugs whatever i go for me to get better and to give it forward. Thats my agenda, I am the Librarian too. Well there are two members th...	Mirandac	4	529	May 6, 2016 by Mirandac
	Question about dating .... (Preview) Okay, I almost don't want to ask this question because I'm afraid I already know the answer and I don't like it :) What do y'all recommend regarding dating during recovery in Alanon? I'm in my early 30s. Two months ago I ended a serious, long-term relationship with my addict, alcoholic boyfriend. We'd...	Doozy	19	2947	May 6, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	My AD is starting to sometimes take a look at her drinking/using (Preview) Over the past maybe 6 months, my 35 year old AD (who doesn't work any kind of program though she has gone to a "few" AA meetings over the years with friends) has started to sometimes show some clarity of thinking, where she is beginning to recognize that drinking/using may possibly be causing some probl...	lgnutah	2	428	May 6, 2016 by Mike B
	powerless. (Preview) I was upset this morning at 5 am to hear the disease has kicked in agaim for my mother. I had sent her a picture of the grandkids with the ah who is back in island of heritage. I didn't really want to send it because I thought it might just be an opportunity for rejection. But I did anyway. I felt very angry th...	a4l	6	521	May 5, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Sobriety Roller Coaster (Preview) Hello Friends, Who has gone thru the roller coaster ride as I am right now? Hubby was sober for a couple weeks, then then drinks again, this time for three days. This is round 3 of sober/not sober. I hug and praise him and express how happy I am when he is clear. I enjoy the moments of sobriety but gear my m...	Worried Wife	4	455	May 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	Hi (Preview) I have been married for 26 years and met her way before that. I can tell within a few moments if she has been drinking. I have not had a problem with substance abuse or drinking myself but I have plenty of my own issues beyond those. I actually have no idea where to begin but I am at my limits and probably ha...	Kimarin	4	399	May 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	Clean and Sober? (Preview) Hi all, haven't been on here in awhile, been so busy working and just dealing with life. Anyway, my AH has been working a recovery program (AA) for almost a year. He's been doing great--we've been doing great. Almost too good to be true. Well it was. Just found out that he's been smoking pot. I know I...	Yankeerose	10	642	May 5, 2016 by Yankeerose
	Courage to Change (C2C) 5/5/2016 (Preview) Today's reading is about humility and how it can be tough to embrace. Often we are taught from early ages to place the wants and needs of others before our own. We then equate humility with taking care of others and ignoring our own needs and feelings. In the program, we learn that true humility is not...	Iamhere	5	574	May 5, 2016 by Katsfree
	working on detaching and finding my joy (Preview) I've been dealing with my sister's disease and to get along have walked on egg shells. We have a family farm together. She has been verbally abusive to me and just mean. It has to all go her way in everything. I started adding boundaries and have gotten major pushback. Her attitude in my opinion...	Cindy1954	5	494	May 5, 2016 by CyndiODAT
	Letting go (Preview) I'm struggling with some anxiety and obssessive thinking. I know the tools and sayings. Letting it go is easier said than done. Sometimes it helps to bring "God" or HP into it. Helps to be mindful, talk to supports. But even then, letting go of intrusive, unproductive, anxious thoughts is a challenge...	pinkchip	5	530	May 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	i am upset! don't know what to do... (Preview) Letting go stinks! I am finishing my last post that I did on my thread. Under don't know what to do today? I am greatly saddened by my friend moving away. I am actually feeling a sense of grief & she hasn't left yet!!!! When someone goes through life experiences w you like no other it is hard to see any wa...	Hoot Nanny	3	358	May 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 4/5 (Preview) Todays C2C (and yes, I've checked and double checked that I have the right one this time, lol) speaks about how when many of us come to al-anon, we don't know who we are. Many of us have spent a lifetime knowing all about the wants, needs, opinions, likes and dislikes of everyone around us but had no idea of...	missmeliss	5	427	May 4, 2016 by Hoot Nanny
	panic attacks!!! (Preview) Just a few hours ago my husband once again told me he's going out to drink with his friends this friday evening. I didn't say a word, I was caught unguarded at that moment and I don't know how to react so I just froze as though I heard nothing, naturally he didn't like my reaction. I just said I will not ha...	jocelgp	10	569	May 4, 2016 by hotrod
	Principles above personalities (Preview) i don't know what principles is cal taking about ???? Need answers for this one. And personalities to me would be each and every one we are individuals with diff, personalities weather one is an addict or alcoholis or are not an addict or alcoholic same applies ,I know some people's personalities ca...	lookingup	3	754	May 4, 2016 by lookingup
	Alanon learning or how to use alanon (Preview) Last few days or so ,my a/sister has been ignoring me ,if I ask her something she keeps walking then when I tell her I need to ask her something concerning finances ,bills etc...she turns at me with a acowl on her face ,she stays in her bedroom,my x/bf came to visit and you couldn't have poured sugar on her a...	lookingup	9	459	May 4, 2016 by lookingup
	not sure what to do today?? (Preview) I am not sure how I want to approach the rest of this beautiful day! I for sure want to continue my gratitude mission. I guess I want to spread the love... Today could be one of my best days if I just let it be. It seems that no matter what happens I can start my day over if I need to. But, I have a feeling that I am no...	Hoot Nanny	11	431	May 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	How I remember them/moving forward (Preview) I'm not really sure how to start this, my therapist thinks it would be productive for me to post here, maybe help me find some catharsis. I guess the easiest place to start is with the obvious. I'm here because I was raised in an abusive environment.. I like saying it like that "abusive environment" if...	Giancarlo	6	502	May 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	Reaching out with healing words (Preview) There was a challenge I saw on FB (I think) to participate in writing a letter a day for every day in the month of April and I accepted the challenge. Thirty letters in thirty days. I wrote on my calendar for the entire month who I would write to and I tried hard to stick to it. Only one day did I forget to wri...	Bethany66	6	520	May 4, 2016 by milkwood
	working on step 1 and ruminating about other issues like detachment (Preview) background to my post ... Today my spouse and I made an arrangement to meet up at kids' school where we would attend a kid related event, and I would take the kids from there to next thing. As soon as I met them, my "somebody has been drinking" radar went up. He had that "squinty eye" look (I don't know how to...	Fedora	6	504	May 4, 2016 by sweeetr
	Courage To Change 2/5 (Preview) Today's c2c talks about the concept of humility, and how we can perceive it to mean placing the wants and needs of others above our own, taking care of others and ignoring our own needs. In al-anon we learn that humility isn't about self deprivation or neglect, but rather about doing our part in our rela...	missmeliss	8	424	May 4, 2016 by hotrod
	Need some input about what tools to use (Preview) My AH and I started marriage counseling yesterday, last ditch effort to save the marriage. It was ok, mostly just setting up how it all works. Untill yesterday, the only communication we had was via text, and then only about logistics. His sponsor suggested doing that because we'd been in a cycle of hi...	FHP	5	345	May 4, 2016 by hotrod
	Sage advice, Grandma. (Preview) I had a complete internal meltdown this morning. The OCD Genie has been out of his bottle just lately. I hate that guy. We had a night and a day of really extreme weather and I was up most of the night listening to things bang around in the wind. There were lots of warnings to stay indoors, park cars away from...	missmeliss	7	559	May 4, 2016 by Jen61
	Oh no :-( (Preview) This has been a really intense week. I'm currently doing a full time study load plus 2 extra subjects, and tonight, I had 4 assignments due at midnight, so I've been stuck in a chair typing non stop all week. Anyway I submitted everything at 10 minutes to midnight (I'm sure that's the title of a book lol) a...	missmeliss	19	783	May 3, 2016 by Iamhere
	My story (Preview) Hello everyone. I hope that I have found a place to get everything out there and find the help needed. My story is a little long, but it will give you an idea on where to even start. I met a guy who was in a rehab facility. We started dating and I would pick him up on the weekends and we would spend time together t...	SCGirl84	11	650	May 3, 2016 by Iamhere
	Met someone new (Preview) while waiting on dr office to open a man was waiting also so decided he started talking to me so the conversation goes on for 10 mins ,then he ask if it's OK to change ph no.i say why not it's just for friendship only or go drink a cup of coffee,I'm at dr ,sick with crud he is there broken down on the verge of losi...	lookingup	1	385	May 3, 2016 by hotrod
	When your A turns vicious if you won't pay for the A's mistakes (Preview) Sound familiar? My 35 year old AD makes lots of bad choices (surprise!). I tryto remain positive, steer conversations away from ones in which she talks about illegal activities, reminding her yhat I do not want to hear about drugs/drug use etc. When she asks me what she should in in various difficult...	lgnutah	4	481	May 3, 2016 by LinSC
	How to handle embarrassment? (Preview) I have been with my alcoholic SO for 13 years; living together for the past 5. Our friends and family "get" him and know how he gets when he drinks too much. Although it is embarrassing and distressing, no one is surprised by his behavior. The problem I have is when my brother comes to visit from out of t...	El	12	588	May 3, 2016 by hotrod
	Beating myself up (Preview) I'm beating myself up with ..not being or going to church,my church family has tried and tried to get me to attend church with no avail,I'm feeling like I'm just not ready,why ,I don't know really myself,recovery right now ,my step program is most important to me and priority for most part and it's work...	lookingup	6	650	May 3, 2016 by lookingup
	It's been a month. (Preview) Woo hoo! It's been a month since my AH's last drink. That is the longest (aside from when he was recovering from open heart surgery) that he has gone without drinking in about ten years. My question is...do I celebrate this? Do I congratulate him, or do something special? I'm interested in hearing yo...	sweetness34	9	460	May 3, 2016 by sweetness34
	Been Missing for a While (Preview) I've been busy and haven't been on here in a while. But, a lot has been happening. I go back to work tomorrow. I'm going to be getting pictures of my daughter soon. I think I may have had a miscarriage. Boyfriend still isn't drinking and his daughter went back to her mother's about a week ago. I've ha...	WhiskeyLullabye	6	619	May 3, 2016 by sweetness34
	When two people you love are at odds (Preview) So, I think I mentioned that I was very sick last summer. My Dad passed in February, and then in May I got really, really sick. Without going into detail, I will share that we were told that if I had waited two more days, before going to the Emergency Room, I would not be here. I was in the hospital for eleven d...	sweetness34	11	681	May 3, 2016 by sweetness34
	Hope for Today May 3 (Preview) Good morning everyone-- This reading speaks to the sanity as described in step two: 'came to believe a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity'. The writer acknowledges that insanity for many of us is holding on to the defects within us. Not that the defects themselves- jealousy,...	yanksfan51	3	410	May 3, 2016 by sweetness34
	AH telling daughter "stories" (Preview) My AH was intoxicated last night and he started telling my daughter some ridiculously untrue story about almost selling her to the circus and about how she outran a wolf as a toddler. It was quite honestly very ridiculous. She's 7 and she seemed to believe it and asked him several times if it was true. ...	KT2015	6	512	May 3, 2016 by KT2015
	Higher power (Preview) hp- be his or let him be your tin God???? What's the definition or what exactly is this meaning? What is the message it's trying to get across and is everybody got a diff. Interpretation of this saying .?Plz anyone give me esh on this one....confused......hugs lu	lookingup	3	417	May 3, 2016 by lookingup
	Would like some ESH (Preview) My AH and I moved 800 miles away from our parents, siblings, etc almost 3 years ago. It has been very difficult for a number of reasons, but first and foremost, due to his active A behavior. Two years ago this week, I threw together an emergency intervention, with new neighbors and friends who had witn...	oceanpine	7	565	May 3, 2016 by Doingmybest
	Grateful today (Preview) I am grateful today as I had a great night sleep, despite the abf getting drunk. We worked all day in the back yard and he drank all day but did work. By evening, he was getting drunker and had to go for a beer run. I admit, I enabled him, by driving to the liquor store. He made a fire outside in the fire pit in the...	joker	1	384	May 3, 2016 by Jerry F
	He Refuses To See Drinking As Bad (Preview) He constantly says he knows he has a binge drinking "issue", and that one day he will conquer the "demon". So basically he goes 5 days without drinking, sees that as progress and "rewards" himself with a few drinks! He refuses to see that as going backwards in his goal! He loves to say there is nothing wro...	Aerin	8	608	May 2, 2016 by KT2015
	Learned valuable lesson from boyfriend (Preview) Spent thurs,Fri,sat and 1/2 sunday at his house. We worked so hard at our yard sale there,im exhausted. Anyway, during a lull a kind of strange friend of his sidled up to me and said, " you should stop talking about your X because H doesnt like it[ H is my boyfriend]. So when H and I were taking a break, I said...	YARNCRAZY	6	544	May 2, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	Courage to Change Reading 4-30-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for April 30 speaks about the importance of " patience". It points out that often, prior to program, we have handled issues by simply ignoring them, and had little success with this process. This is denial Thanks to Al-Anon we no longer have to wait for situation to explode. before...	hotrod	4	555	May 2, 2016 by Mirandac
	Going to japan (Preview) ive never been on a airplane in my 52 yrs of life,and lived here in Mississippi most of my life,my sil joined the airforce 8 yrs ago he and my daughter been doing the over seas only ,just the way they chose to do it,my only grand babies travel with them,my daughter has several times over the years to get me on...	lookingup	5	644	May 2, 2016 by lookingup
	Priorities (Preview) I know I can't control him or cure him but some days, it hurts me so deeply that I am at the bottom of his prority list. I am very ill today and he said he would bring me ginger ale on his way home, should be about half an hour he said. 3 hours ago and I know he has been drinking all day and " one more" takes priority...	Jennyp	6	559	May 2, 2016 by Iamhere
	Will It Ever Stop? (Preview) Hi All, It's been a few weeks since I last posted... I have been reading others' posts, but have not wanted to be repetitive re my own problems/circumstances - which I am sad to report have not changed (referencing the mystery illness). I had been doing a bit better with my obsessing (bit being the opera...	Jaclyn	5	545	May 2, 2016 by el-cee
	Step 8 Posted (Preview) Step 8 Has been posted to the Step Board. Please join in and share your thoughts Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together http://stepwork.activeboard.com...	hotrod	0	322	May 1, 2016 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 5-1-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for today , May 1, talks about some of our negative habits that keep us unhappy and living in the victim role.It goes on to indicate that when we "day dream" and think "if ionly" my partner was sober, rich, more successful then I would be happy. It suggest that by so doing .many of us hav...	hotrod	4	465	May 1, 2016 by tiredtonite
	Heard from exBF (Preview) Hi everyone, I got a text from my exBF after two weeks of no contact. He just said 'Hi, I hope you are doing okay'. I received the text just as I was heading out the door to meet up with a guy friend of mine to listen to a band and dance. I felt incredibly guilty. I responded to him this morning and said that I...	CyndiODAT	10	657	May 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	meddling mothers? (Preview) My mother knows my AH drinks too much. She doesn't live near us, but she has spent enough time, she knows. My MIL, as far as I know, doesn't know that AH drinks. He has gone to great lengths to hide it from her all our dating/married lives. His brother does the same. She was married to an alcoholic (AH's dad...	Fedora	8	605	May 1, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Feelings versus intuition or gut feelings (Preview) I'm wondering if I'm getting these 2 confused,my feelings and gut feelings ,I e been told several times that my gut feelings were wrong,and I'd get mad but maybe their right,that's coming from my qualifiers they (my abf) at the time now my xabf Has said this to me that my gut was usually wrong .anybody kn...	lookingup	10	642	May 1, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	urgent child custody trial tomorrow (Preview) I'm using talk to text so I apologize in advance for any typos so I'm less than 12 hours away from facing the alcoholic and drug addict father of my two-year-old son I have PTSD from his emotional abuse and the flashbacks have been horrible all day I thought I had protected myself as well as my child by ente...	ksmom80	12	661	May 1, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	I`m new here (Preview) Hi All, I`ve been browsing the forum for a while now and thought it would be good to sign up. I`ve been with my AOH for around 18 months now and through many ups and downs she is finally doing various stints in between relapses (just over 3 weeks currently. Shes currently in AA and seems to be going on a regul...	Jim521	18	931	May 1, 2016 by Jim521
	Blindsided (Preview) I always thought my mother and I were very close. We live in different states and we talked on the phone quite frequently until my AH hit his rock bottom. I called her the other day just to check in as she had been sick and she is almost 80 so sometimes I worry. The conversation was very cold on her end....	Fooled	11	634	May 1, 2016 by hotrod
	Need help with this one (Preview) As you all know or most on here about my a/sister that Li Es here with me and in no program or gets any help,getting on with my story she decided to get off her 20 yr opioids addictions,on her own she says,I had told here that she couldn't do it on her own that she would need help,she says she had to detox hersel...	lookingup	7	603	May 1, 2016 by a4l
	Reacting to fear (Preview) I wrote down all my fears about my abf drinking today and it was 2 pages of dread. I fear this..that would happen if the drinking does not stop. I am fearing for him, and not myself. He does not care about the fears I project. He just lives in the moment and drinks. Yet, here I am fearing this or that outcome fo...	joker	6	545	Apr 30, 2016 by Jerry F
	New here Urgently Need Advice (Preview) My brother has been an alcoholic for probably fourty years. He has many drunk driving violations and should probably be in jail for many years. I also believe he has mental illness. He is out on two separate bails and if found would definitely go to jail. He is in a remote location and now does not have a ca...	Sonny123	18	581	Apr 30, 2016 by Sonny123
	when brick walls talk back (Preview) I no longer follow the urge to bang my head against them. My technical and legal husband is in our island of origin at the moment. we have a weird marriage. He lives and works in another state during the week and comes up on weekends. I tried to end it. He just ignored me and keeps coming back. More or less he...	a4l	4	619	Apr 29, 2016 by Jerry F
	Grief (Preview) A few days ago my ex who I was with for 27 years died from complications of his acholisizm. I was hit so hard by his passing. I feel alone in my grief and overwhelmed. Has anyone else had this experience?????	Melmel69	8	1177	Apr 29, 2016 by Bethany66
	Courage to Change (C2C) 4/29/16 (Preview) Today's reading discusses seeing ourselves as we truly are today, in time, vs. how we perhaps felt as we grew up. Many of us grew up with guilt and blame, amidst harsh criticism and constant fear. The writer discusses that even now, after years of recovery, past mistakes can come forward and reactio...	Iamhere	1	500	Apr 29, 2016 by hotrod
	My wife is in recovery and I work at a brewery (Preview) We're both in our early 30's, she's 18 months sober, we have successful careers and have been married for 1 year. It just so happens I work in a brewery and the resentment my wife shows towards me is getting to be detrimental to our marriage. Whenever I consume alcohol she gets angry with me. This leads to...	Asdfghjkl	7	565	Apr 29, 2016 by Fooled
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