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Thinkngal · Thinkngal

hi everyone, new here but not to Alanon. I attend 2 ftf meetings a week but feeling low all the same and at tonight's step meeting I couldn't even share, the only time this has happened since I walked through the doors 20 years ago. Been married 46 years and of those years my hb who No longer drinks but uses l...

Fairlee · Fairlee

Hi strangers! I have been gone a while...summer is always so busy :) Nothing has changed in my situation. AH is actively drinking daily, all day, managing to work (self-employed) and still in deep denial that his alcoholism is hurting anyone other than himself. He admits he is an alcoholic. I guess th...

Melenzt13 · Melenzt13

Hi everyone, I'm new this forum and was seeking some advice and support. My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 7 years. I met him when he was 3 years sober. When we met, he discussed his sobriety saying he was comfortable with being around alcohol and others drinking. I was at the time, and still am, a s...

Rainy · Rainy

I finally left my alcoholic husband after 18 long years. What can I do now to repair the damage to my kids? My ex has been living out of state now for 4 years, and I have dated a little, but I shy away when someone gets seriousI don't want to be alone forever, but I also want to show my kids that we don't need anyo...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for July 23 speaks about discovering our sense of humor as we are working the Al-Anon program. It notes that when we first enter program we find it difficult to smile and could not understand the laughter at meetings. We saw life as tragic and serious. When we first learn to laugh at...

Maresie · Maresie

Last night after a long day at work 12 hours plus I took Uber home. I use the Uber pool option (in that I share the ride) Sure enough since it was late there was another person sharing the ride. I take Uber pretty often so I am used to sharing the ride. Most of the time the other person isn't an issue besid...

dazedandconfused · dazedandconfused

I have been dating a guy who I believe has an issue with alcohol. He will not admit he has a problem- other than admitting that he sometimes drinks too much. He drinks every day. I use to count and then I stopped because of how frustrated and upset it made me. I think he drinks anywhere between 4-8 drink...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm currently at my sons and his wife's for the weekend Im grateful for all they do for me and allow me to do for them in return,we have been having such a great time they want me to spend the weekend with them so I agreed,I've been having problems with my fb messenger being down for days now,and my fb Ive acci...

littlewing88 · littlewing88

Hi everyone,I'm new to this and seeking support. my SO is a recovering alcoholic, he's a great friend and a fellow book nerd and he's been doing really well, going to AA/therapy and all that. He relapsed recently and he tells me it's pretty bad this ...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is all about keeping an open mind in the Al-Anon program, and forever placing principles above personalities. If you've been to an Al-Anon meeting, and stayed through the closing, you've most likely heard, "though you may not like all of us, you'll love us in a very special way - the s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am a little anxious but excited. For some reason I couldn't reply to my last post. It was frustrating but I am OK. I will post tomorrow after the party. Just want to make sure I thank the ones that posted. I will keep your supportive comments in mind. Thanks to all of you for supporting me all these years. I...

LinSC · LinSC

Ive heard that alcoholics/addicts want to isolate their families. What is this about, what is the theory/idea of it? Why does it work? Linsc

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about Let Go and Let God! Before program, many of us thoughts others would cease to exist if we didn't help them, take care of them, lead them, etc. We often interfered in everyone's business and put our own needs to the side. We were willing to follow others around, clean up their m...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

OK so I am not in the moment projecting & making plans. I am so excited about my 50th birthday party. I hope that all this planning isn't too much for me. The party is on Saturday July 23rd. I have been planning for so long that it actually effected my sleep. I already have insomnia. But here is the kicke...

kadriliisa · kadriliisa

somehow after standing for myself and explaining myself to one of those moderators here why removing my posts from qouting older topics and forcing to start new topic of it, i discovered that my ip of my tablet is banned and i could not read this forum from my tablet....seriously does message of Al-An...

SDB · SDB

So my AH is back to actively drinking. I've been going to F2F Al-Anon meetings weekly for the last 7 months. My AH has been attending AA on and off since January as well. He went about 3 months without drinking and then there'd be a slip here and there. The slips are happening more frequently in the past few...

thedot1 · thedot1

I am a 18 year old kid feeling so many emotions. I have grown up in middle class suburban household with both my parents and a sibling a few years older than me. My "father" (I don't consider him my dad anymore, I will refer to him as Jason) is an alcoholic. My mom works part time and is a stay at home mom. Jason...

Mirandac · Mirandac

I am "thinking" of moving to west coast of florida. Getting a trailer in a 55 + park. My life here is starting to unfold and i see an opening up ahead. I plan on keep working but i would like to travel and rv it. I will be 60 this year. I like it out west a lot Too. My mother still looms over my head, thats a great...

El · El

I am very sad to see that over time it has become more and more difficult to get together with friends and family that we have hung with as couples or groups. My AH with enough alcohol becomes sarcastic and insulting especially to the women. In my confronting days I would frequently tell him that he just...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

I am currently reading the complete ACOA source book by Woititz. I have ended up reading it not only wiht a pen in my hand, but a highlighter.... wow... I have notes and highlights and I have devoured half it in a week!!!!! Has this woman been following me around??? The chapter on the Myths is just ammaa...

kadriliisa · kadriliisa

Quite new here- but not new to al anon or acoa - and got into quoting answering into older topics what interested me and maybe possibly someone else in future and one moderstor deleted them....which is very rude ....in order to wasting MY time in future where are the rules to posting into older topic...

graceforlove · graceforlove

Hi, This is my first post to any addiction forum, but I would love some insight and perspective from others who are going through similar situations or have already been through these tough times. My husband is currently in rehab for his Oxycontin/Heroin addiction, and is 6 weeks in. This is his first...

missmeliss · missmeliss

So last weekend sir drinksalot took us out for our birthday and he was really pretty awesome. He kept himself nice, didn't drink a lot all weekend, and then went home with the obvious intent of getting hammered, which is not my business as long as he isn't doing it at my house. It was kind of a big deal as in 1...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Today's C2C speaks of joy, and how difficult it is for many of us to enjoy when it makes it's infrequent appearances in our lives. Many of us are desperate to cling on to happy moments when they come around- afraid they will be snatched away- and start obsessing over ways to 'freeze time" or make it a repea...

Getbacktome19 · Getbacktome19

So last night my husband came home angrier than ever. He would speak to noone and left after taking a shower. While he was gone a friend of ours stopped by and shared a secret he has been keeping since June. My husband cheated on me during a school trip with my son. I was instantly hurt and mad. I knew the mom a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just want to say that marriage is a roller coaster ride. Just for today I am finding the reconciliation process has been slow in coming. We have to work on ourselves & each other. Went to the ER on Saturday over very sensitive issues. I am recovering from that & stress caused by my lack of sleep....

lisad67 · lisad67

Our relationship is up and down and all around. When it is good it is everything i have ever wanted....but when it is not....well it is pure hell. Not only am i dealing with an alcoholic who i try to keep in a calm state of mind so he only drinks moderately for the day but i am up against his hateful crazy fa...

frogswim · frogswim

Any advice on how to tell my 10 and 7 year olds their dad is an alcoholic? We separated almost a year ago and he has been in a downward spiral ever since. He is now in a hospital after attempted suicide. They don't know anything and don't ask much about him as he wasn't able to stay sober to make the visits. I al...

Startanew86 · Startanew86

Long story short, I have been in recovery from alcohol for 9 years and also an adult child of an alcoholic. Recently, I met a member of Aa who went on to become a dear friend, someone I learned to trust which has been huge for me. Our friendship took a romantic path shortly after I discovered some repressed...

Anastasia · Anastasia

I find myself coming back.. Thank you again to all of you that offered service to me recently.. Following a day of quiet with my children yesterday I resolved my day by thinking about how I can change the things that are pressing at the moment. What is it that is causing me most frustration and why.. He...

Tivi123 · Tivi123

"One of the hardest decision you'll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder." I feel the need to share my story with somebody who understands. I will try to make it as short as possible. Even though I am sure each of our stories could make a novel, if not a trilogy. I would appreci...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about the expectation we have that other people (or one other person) will be able to meet all of our needs-- without us even having to ask! It reminds me of the argument we have seen played out in sitcoms over the years: a couple is arguing and one (usually the ma...

Frannie · Frannie

I have been married for 37 years, and my husband is addicted to anything and everything. Alcohol, cigarettes, porn, internet, sex chatting and who knows what else. He has been in rehab for 8 weeks ... and I don't know what is going on. He came home for the weekend and I noticed on his phone that he was texti...

Getbacktome19 · Getbacktome19

My AH is just starting down the road to recovery, and so am I. I know there are a lot of things that I need to focus on within myself as I am a broken version of what I once was. I am a work in progress. I am working on detaching from my husband as I know that this disease is his problem and I cant fix it for him, bu...

wp · wp

To be serene is to be calm and untroubled. Please send me some of that :) wp

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

hey there alanon pals, i just talked myself out of $100 for a market research survey by being truthful and telling them i worked in m.r. 20 yrs ago.....striving to be honest all my life doesnt always pay off lol...could have used $100..well all of us could a

Kcsnooze · Kcsnooze

I started Al-anon a few weeks ago. I want to share a wonderful moment from yesterday and hope that others will find inspiration too. I have been struggling with Step Three: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. How will I know when I truly surrendered a...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for July 18 speaks about our feelings and life prior to arriving at the doors of Al-Anon. It is then that many may have believed that if something works, it will work even better and faster, if we try harder. Al-Anon involves a long-term process of growth and change and our efforts...

Anastasia · Anastasia

My husband relapsed after almost 8 years of sobriety. He picked up again 18 months ago. We moved home and country 4 years ago (escaped to the country - a joint dream for our family). He took up work as a long distance lorry driver, away from home all week, living alone in his cab. While I kept the self suffic...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Great page today that calls on me to remember what AlAnon is for: focus on myself. A tendency to label the behavior of someone with the disease as immature, inconsiderate, etc. may be accurate from a behavioral standpoint, but does not help, and actually harms, both of us. Labeling others admittedl...

Kcsnooze · Kcsnooze

I attend a couple of different local Al-anon meetings. Each one is very different in format and group culture. But it seems like a lot of the people know one another really well. I keep hearing that getting a sponsor is important as you work through your steps. But I am a bit unsure of how to go about choos...

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

can anyone enlighten me on the success of buprenorphine treatment to help get off opiates. And do theses treatment centers usually incorporate 12 step work? Please help so I can be more informed.

serenity47 · serenity47

I thought I would post an update as have not posted for quite a while. It has been about 8 months since AD entered into a program of recovery. She is doing very well. Seems to have really embraced the 12 step program. She attends meetings, has a sponsor, has returned to school and generally is carving...

gabigail · gabigail

I have lost all serenity right now and I know my life is out of control. Luckily with my spouse admitting the addiction, I have people coming out of the woodwork to help me. I just desperately need time to get back to a f2f mtg. My AS has been in and out of the hospital. Although Ive completely detached with l...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for July 17 speaks about being enmeshed with other people's activities and behavior. When we do this, we lose sight of the idea that we could be happy even if others are depressed or unhappy. When we finally realize that we will have to learn to make it even if the alcoholic does not, th...

Tinyhouse · Tinyhouse

this is my first time here and I've only been to one alanon meeting so please forgive if this isn't appropriate. I don't have a support system since I've separated myself from family and friends because of shame over my husbands drinking. Ive been married 20 years to an addict. Pills, drugs, now alcoho...

KT2015 · KT2015

This evening my AH had more than one too many and was behaving erratically and I guess the best way to describe it was he was acting out. This has happened once every year or so he drinks way more than his usual too much and acts in very bizarre ways and it's almost as if he is completely gone. It's like the...

GoingNuts · GoingNuts

My husband has been sober for 4 months and he has done it all on his own. He was actively drinking for over 25 years! Aside from going through basic training, he would consume between 18-24 beers daily. So, now he is sober and I don't even know who he is! We have been married for 25 years. I have always known h...

Mattie · Mattie

My son and I are staying at a summer house we have. Last year we had a group of guests stay for a week and one of them brought a bottle of bourbon. I guess somebody had some, though I didn't keep track, because it was missing about two inches after they all left. I hardly drink at all and never drink bourbon,...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for July 16 talks about learning how to relax while using the Al-Anon program. It goes on to suggests that, before program our lives were spent in the frenzy of activity such as : work projects and family obligations. These all helped us to focus outward and in that way we didn't hav...

wp · wp

Today I need to remember that gratitude is one of our best tools. When feelings and personalities and illnesses seem too much, when I stop and get quiet and reflect on all that I can be grateful for, life is better and I can breathe. At least for now. TY alanon. wp

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Almost 7 months on my own out here in the big world.Things have been interesting away from the marriage of 25 yrs. I filed for divorce and it should be final in dec. XAH is out of rehab and I just recently spoke to him. I dont know if he is sober but he cries alot on the phone. I detach and try to stick to taking c...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about how each of us as individuals uses this program. We each move at a pace that works for us, and practice the principles as best we can. This is why our program works so well - we try as best we can to grow and change what we can, and allow others the same grace and dignity. We don'...

jocelgp · jocelgp

We live with my 83 year old mother, in her house. My husband and I have no kids, and we've been married for 20 years. I have made several posts in this group so I'll not give much background anymore With Al-anon literatures and this group's help I am able to live each day One Day At A Time, found some seren...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Hi! I just realized that it has been four months since I last posted. I have so much to be thankful for! Life is good! I've been dating a guy that I met online six months ago and he is so wonderful and supportive. I can't believe how my life has changed since five years ago when I thought that I was at the lowest...

Steph12345 · Steph12345

I'm trying to detach with love but I feel like I'm being such a b***. I'm not even talking to him unless it's about logistics so I'm detached but how do I do it with love? Am I supposed to make him feel loved or just wish him love in my mind? I'm so angry because he rages at me and my kids and has a Jekklyl Hyde thin...

Bghchelsea · Bghchelsea

Here is my story: for as long as I can remember, my mother has been an alcoholic and pill abuser. And all throughout my childhood, teenage years and now into my mid 20's, I have been her number one enabler. I clean up her messes, I've paid her rent and bills in the past, bought her alcohol so she will shut up o...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Hey folks! I had to quit another board I was on cuz it was literally bought out by the treatment center I work at and the large addiction social media site with message boards (which I liked and hated at the same time) is continuing to move closer and closer to my job as in me having to interact with the owner...

jocelgp · jocelgp

Hi everyone (((hugs))) It's been quite a while since I last posted. Things are a little bit better these days in the sense that my AH has not been drinking much. There were some days when he had some beer but not as much and didn't stayed as late as before. But, his behavior is pretty much the same. Ther...

funandsun · funandsun

I really need someone to SMH! ABF has started drinking again after being sober for awhile, so obviously I do not trust him to tell me the truth. I know this is not helpful to my sanity but I tend to read his text messages to see what he is up to. Why can I not get it thru my head that it only causes me more grief? I...

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	Feeling low after 20 years of alanon recovery (Preview) hi everyone, new here but not to Alanon. I attend 2 ftf meetings a week but feeling low all the same and at tonight's step meeting I couldn't even share, the only time this has happened since I walked through the doors 20 years ago. Been married 46 years and of those years my hb who No longer drinks but uses l...	Thinkngal	6	809	Jul 24, 2016 by Thinkngal
	Words are a joke and the joke's on me (Preview) Hi strangers! I have been gone a while...summer is always so busy :) Nothing has changed in my situation. AH is actively drinking daily, all day, managing to work (self-employed) and still in deep denial that his alcoholism is hurting anyone other than himself. He admits he is an alcoholic. I guess th...	Fairlee	12	798	Jul 23, 2016 by Aerin
	New and looking for support (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new this forum and was seeking some advice and support. My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 7 years. I met him when he was 3 years sober. When we met, he discussed his sobriety saying he was comfortable with being around alcohol and others drinking. I was at the time, and still am, a s...	Melenzt13	7	721	Jul 23, 2016 by Mirandac
	healthy kids after an alcoholic dad? (Preview) I finally left my alcoholic husband after 18 long years. What can I do now to repair the damage to my kids? My ex has been living out of state now for 4 years, and I have dated a little, but I shy away when someone gets seriousI don't want to be alone forever, but I also want to show my kids that we don't need anyo...	Rainy	7	680	Jul 23, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change Reading 7-23-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for July 23 speaks about discovering our sense of humor as we are working the Al-Anon program. It notes that when we first enter program we find it difficult to smile and could not understand the laughter at meetings. We saw life as tragic and serious. When we first learn to laugh at...	hotrod	2	596	Jul 23, 2016 by Iamhere
	Dumbfounded (Preview) Last night after a long day at work 12 hours plus I took Uber home. I use the Uber pool option (in that I share the ride) Sure enough since it was late there was another person sharing the ride. I take Uber pretty often so I am used to sharing the ride. Most of the time the other person isn't an issue besid...	Maresie	2	401	Jul 23, 2016 by Maresie
	Trying to remain strong (Preview) I have been dating a guy who I believe has an issue with alcohol. He will not admit he has a problem- other than admitting that he sometimes drinks too much. He drinks every day. I use to count and then I stopped because of how frustrated and upset it made me. I think he drinks anywhere between 4-8 drink...	dazedandconfused	5	793	Jul 23, 2016 by Mattie
	Visiting son n wife (Preview) I'm currently at my sons and his wife's for the weekend Im grateful for all they do for me and allow me to do for them in return,we have been having such a great time they want me to spend the weekend with them so I agreed,I've been having problems with my fb messenger being down for days now,and my fb Ive acci...	lookingup	2	524	Jul 23, 2016 by lookingup
	newcomer seeking support with SO significant other relapse support (Preview) Hi everyone,I'm new to this and seeking support. my SO is a recovering alcoholic, he's a great friend and a fellow book nerd and he's been doing really well, going to AA/therapy and all that. He relapsed recently and he tells me it's pretty bad this ...	littlewing88	2	5825	Jul 22, 2016 by hotrod
	Courage to Change (C2C) 7/22/16 (Preview) Today's reading is all about keeping an open mind in the Al-Anon program, and forever placing principles above personalities. If you've been to an Al-Anon meeting, and stayed through the closing, you've most likely heard, "though you may not like all of us, you'll love us in a very special way - the s...	Iamhere	2	536	Jul 22, 2016 by hotrod
	it is going to be fine (Preview) I am a little anxious but excited. For some reason I couldn't reply to my last post. It was frustrating but I am OK. I will post tomorrow after the party. Just want to make sure I thank the ones that posted. I will keep your supportive comments in mind. Thanks to all of you for supporting me all these years. I...	Hoot Nanny	4	494	Jul 22, 2016 by Hoot Nanny
	ISOLATION (Preview) Ive heard that alcoholics/addicts want to isolate their families. What is this about, what is the theory/idea of it? Why does it work? Linsc	LinSC	7	827	Jul 22, 2016 by Bethany66
	Courage to Change (C2C) 7/21/16 (Preview) Today's reading is about Let Go and Let God! Before program, many of us thoughts others would cease to exist if we didn't help them, take care of them, lead them, etc. We often interfered in everyone's business and put our own needs to the side. We were willing to follow others around, clean up their m...	Iamhere	12	729	Jul 22, 2016 by Iamhere
	counting down... (Preview) OK so I am not in the moment projecting & making plans. I am so excited about my 50th birthday party. I hope that all this planning isn't too much for me. The party is on Saturday July 23rd. I have been planning for so long that it actually effected my sleep. I already have insomnia. But here is the kicke...	Hoot Nanny	6	522	Jul 22, 2016 by Maresie
	who banned my tablet ip some hours ago? (Preview) somehow after standing for myself and explaining myself to one of those moderators here why removing my posts from qouting older topics and forcing to start new topic of it, i discovered that my ip of my tablet is banned and i could not read this forum from my tablet....seriously does message of Al-An...	kadriliisa	12	796	Jul 22, 2016 by kadriliisa
	HELP! AH actively drinking & don't know how to detach. detachment active drinking resentment (Preview) So my AH is back to actively drinking. I've been going to F2F Al-Anon meetings weekly for the last 7 months. My AH has been attending AA on and off since January as well. He went about 3 months without drinking and then there'd be a slip here and there. The slips are happening more frequently in the past few...	SDB	13	7540	Jul 22, 2016 by Iamhere
	Alcoholic Father Help Me (Preview) I am a 18 year old kid feeling so many emotions. I have grown up in middle class suburban household with both my parents and a sibling a few years older than me. My "father" (I don't consider him my dad anymore, I will refer to him as Jason) is an alcoholic. My mom works part time and is a stay at home mom. Jason...	thedot1	9	1955	Jul 22, 2016 by Maresie
	Transitioning alone (Preview) I am "thinking" of moving to west coast of florida. Getting a trailer in a 55 + park. My life here is starting to unfold and i see an opening up ahead. I plan on keep working but i would like to travel and rv it. I will be 60 this year. I like it out west a lot Too. My mother still looms over my head, thats a great...	Mirandac	18	880	Jul 21, 2016 by Mirandac
	Losing "couple" friends (Preview) I am very sad to see that over time it has become more and more difficult to get together with friends and family that we have hung with as couples or groups. My AH with enough alcohol becomes sarcastic and insulting especially to the women. In my confronting days I would frequently tell him that he just...	El	14	1093	Jul 21, 2016 by El
	ACoA sourcebook (Preview) I am currently reading the complete ACOA source book by Woititz. I have ended up reading it not only wiht a pen in my hand, but a highlighter.... wow... I have notes and highlights and I have devoured half it in a week!!!!! Has this woman been following me around??? The chapter on the Myths is just ammaa...	Lindaoakford	7	821	Jul 21, 2016 by hotrod
	Posting into older topics? (Preview) Quite new here- but not new to al anon or acoa - and got into quoting answering into older topics what interested me and maybe possibly someone else in future and one moderstor deleted them....which is very rude ....in order to wasting MY time in future where are the rules to posting into older topic...	kadriliisa	2	571	Jul 21, 2016 by kadriliisa
	9 Months Pregnant and Facing the Lowest Time (Preview) Hi, This is my first post to any addiction forum, but I would love some insight and perspective from others who are going through similar situations or have already been through these tough times. My husband is currently in rehab for his Oxycontin/Heroin addiction, and is 6 weeks in. This is his first...	graceforlove	12	830	Jul 20, 2016 by Jen61
	Surprise gifts and stuff. (Preview) So last weekend sir drinksalot took us out for our birthday and he was really pretty awesome. He kept himself nice, didn't drink a lot all weekend, and then went home with the obvious intent of getting hammered, which is not my business as long as he isn't doing it at my house. It was kind of a big deal as in 1...	missmeliss	18	1067	Jul 20, 2016 by KT2015
	Courage to change 20/7 (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of joy, and how difficult it is for many of us to enjoy when it makes it's infrequent appearances in our lives. Many of us are desperate to cling on to happy moments when they come around- afraid they will be snatched away- and start obsessing over ways to 'freeze time" or make it a repea...	missmeliss	2	601	Jul 20, 2016 by hotrod
	Rough Night (Preview) So last night my husband came home angrier than ever. He would speak to noone and left after taking a shower. While he was gone a friend of ours stopped by and shared a secret he has been keeping since June. My husband cheated on me during a school trip with my son. I was instantly hurt and mad. I knew the mom a...	Getbacktome19	2	506	Jul 20, 2016 by hotrod
	the ins & outs (Preview) Just want to say that marriage is a roller coaster ride. Just for today I am finding the reconciliation process has been slow in coming. We have to work on ourselves & each other. Went to the ER on Saturday over very sensitive issues. I am recovering from that & stress caused by my lack of sleep....	Hoot Nanny	4	511	Jul 20, 2016 by Mirandac
	a family of addicts and a mother that enables (Preview) Our relationship is up and down and all around. When it is good it is everything i have ever wanted....but when it is not....well it is pure hell. Not only am i dealing with an alcoholic who i try to keep in a calm state of mind so he only drinks moderately for the day but i am up against his hateful crazy fa...	lisad67	7	750	Jul 20, 2016 by el-cee
	Telling the children?? (Preview) Any advice on how to tell my 10 and 7 year olds their dad is an alcoholic? We separated almost a year ago and he has been in a downward spiral ever since. He is now in a hospital after attempted suicide. They don't know anything and don't ask much about him as he wasn't able to stay sober to make the visits. I al...	frogswim	2	512	Jul 19, 2016 by Jerry F
	Detaching (Preview) Long story short, I have been in recovery from alcohol for 9 years and also an adult child of an alcoholic. Recently, I met a member of Aa who went on to become a dear friend, someone I learned to trust which has been huge for me. Our friendship took a romantic path shortly after I discovered some repressed...	Startanew86	7	575	Jul 19, 2016 by Jerry F
	Setting boundaries what is acceptable and what is not? (Preview) I find myself coming back.. Thank you again to all of you that offered service to me recently.. Following a day of quiet with my children yesterday I resolved my day by thinking about how I can change the things that are pressing at the moment. What is it that is causing me most frustration and why.. He...	Anastasia	9	718	Jul 19, 2016 by Iamhere
	... Whether to walk away or try harder. (Preview) "One of the hardest decision you'll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder." I feel the need to share my story with somebody who understands. I will try to make it as short as possible. Even though I am sure each of our stories could make a novel, if not a trilogy. I would appreci...	Tivi123	30	3765	Jul 19, 2016 by Jerry F
	Hope for Today 7/19 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about the expectation we have that other people (or one other person) will be able to meet all of our needs-- without us even having to ask! It reminds me of the argument we have seen played out in sitcoms over the years: a couple is arguing and one (usually the ma...	yanksfan51	2	573	Jul 19, 2016 by Iamhere
	I am worried my husband is texting with AA women in his group at rehab (Preview) I have been married for 37 years, and my husband is addicted to anything and everything. Alcohol, cigarettes, porn, internet, sex chatting and who knows what else. He has been in rehab for 8 weeks ... and I don't know what is going on. He came home for the weekend and I noticed on his phone that he was texti...	Frannie	10	3311	Jul 19, 2016 by milkwood
	New to Recovery (Preview) My AH is just starting down the road to recovery, and so am I. I know there are a lot of things that I need to focus on within myself as I am a broken version of what I once was. I am a work in progress. I am working on detaching from my husband as I know that this disease is his problem and I cant fix it for him, bu...	Getbacktome19	6	615	Jul 19, 2016 by milkwood
	Serenity (Preview) To be serene is to be calm and untroubled. Please send me some of that :) wp	wp	3	516	Jul 18, 2016 by DavidG
	why am i so honest lol ? (Preview) hey there alanon pals, i just talked myself out of $100 for a market research survey by being truthful and telling them i worked in m.r. 20 yrs ago.....striving to be honest all my life doesnt always pay off lol...could have used $100..well all of us could a	YARNCRAZY	3	489	Jul 18, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	Had to Share (Preview) I started Al-anon a few weeks ago. I want to share a wonderful moment from yesterday and hope that others will find inspiration too. I have been struggling with Step Three: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. How will I know when I truly surrendered a...	Kcsnooze	3	488	Jul 18, 2016 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change reading 7-18-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for July 18 speaks about our feelings and life prior to arriving at the doors of Al-Anon. It is then that many may have believed that if something works, it will work even better and faster, if we try harder. Al-Anon involves a long-term process of growth and change and our efforts...	hotrod	1	719	Jul 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	Husband relapsed after 8 years of sobriety (Preview) My husband relapsed after almost 8 years of sobriety. He picked up again 18 months ago. We moved home and country 4 years ago (escaped to the country - a joint dream for our family). He took up work as a long distance lorry driver, away from home all week, living alone in his cab. While I kept the self suffic...	Anastasia	10	679	Jul 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	ODAT 7-16 Labeling the Behavior of Others (Preview) Great page today that calls on me to remember what AlAnon is for: focus on myself. A tendency to label the behavior of someone with the disease as immature, inconsiderate, etc. may be accurate from a behavioral standpoint, but does not help, and actually harms, both of us. Labeling others admittedl...	Enigmatic	4	580	Jul 18, 2016 by Enigmatic
	How did you go about selecting a sponsor? (Preview) I attend a couple of different local Al-anon meetings. Each one is very different in format and group culture. But it seems like a lot of the people know one another really well. I keep hearing that getting a sponsor is important as you work through your steps. But I am a bit unsure of how to go about choos...	Kcsnooze	4	468	Jul 18, 2016 by Jerry F
	Question about opiate addiction (Preview) can anyone enlighten me on the success of buprenorphine treatment to help get off opiates. And do theses treatment centers usually incorporate 12 step work? Please help so I can be more informed.	Sallygcoe	2	391	Jul 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	Recovery\sobriety\Hope (Preview) I thought I would post an update as have not posted for quite a while. It has been about 8 months since AD entered into a program of recovery. She is doing very well. Seems to have really embraced the 12 step program. She attends meetings, has a sponsor, has returned to school and generally is carving...	serenity47	3	466	Jul 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	I really need to vent (Preview) I have lost all serenity right now and I know my life is out of control. Luckily with my spouse admitting the addiction, I have people coming out of the woodwork to help me. I just desperately need time to get back to a f2f mtg. My AS has been in and out of the hospital. Although Ive completely detached with l...	gabigail	7	612	Jul 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change reading 7-17-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for July 17 speaks about being enmeshed with other people's activities and behavior. When we do this, we lose sight of the idea that we could be happy even if others are depressed or unhappy. When we finally realize that we will have to learn to make it even if the alcoholic does not, th...	hotrod	2	568	Jul 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	Am I doing this wrong? (Preview) this is my first time here and I've only been to one alanon meeting so please forgive if this isn't appropriate. I don't have a support system since I've separated myself from family and friends because of shame over my husbands drinking. Ive been married 20 years to an addict. Pills, drugs, now alcoho...	Tinyhouse	9	685	Jul 17, 2016 by tiredtonite
	Feeling very lonely tonight need to get it out (Preview) This evening my AH had more than one too many and was behaving erratically and I guess the best way to describe it was he was acting out. This has happened once every year or so he drinks way more than his usual too much and acts in very bizarre ways and it's almost as if he is completely gone. It's like the...	KT2015	14	670	Jul 17, 2016 by el-cee
	I don't wanna play. (Preview) My husband has been sober for 4 months and he has done it all on his own. He was actively drinking for over 25 years! Aside from going through basic training, he would consume between 18-24 beers daily. So, now he is sober and I don't even know who he is! We have been married for 25 years. I have always known h...	GoingNuts	14	623	Jul 17, 2016 by Jerry F
	Worrying issue (Preview) My son and I are staying at a summer house we have. Last year we had a group of guests stay for a week and one of them brought a bottle of bourbon. I guess somebody had some, though I didn't keep track, because it was missing about two inches after they all left. I hardly drink at all and never drink bourbon,...	Mattie	10	931	Jul 16, 2016 by Mattie
	Courage to Change Reading 7-16-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for July 16 talks about learning how to relax while using the Al-Anon program. It goes on to suggests that, before program our lives were spent in the frenzy of activity such as : work projects and family obligations. These all helped us to focus outward and in that way we didn't hav...	hotrod	2	447	Jul 16, 2016 by Iamhere
	Gratitude and me (Preview) Today I need to remember that gratitude is one of our best tools. When feelings and personalities and illnesses seem too much, when I stop and get quiet and reflect on all that I can be grateful for, life is better and I can breathe. At least for now. TY alanon. wp	wp	2	432	Jul 16, 2016 by Iamhere
	Update on Me (Preview) Almost 7 months on my own out here in the big world.Things have been interesting away from the marriage of 25 yrs. I filed for divorce and it should be final in dec. XAH is out of rehab and I just recently spoke to him. I dont know if he is sober but he cries alot on the phone. I detach and try to stick to taking c...	YARNCRAZY	4	500	Jul 16, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 7/15/16 (Preview) Today's reading talks about how each of us as individuals uses this program. We each move at a pace that works for us, and practice the principles as best we can. This is why our program works so well - we try as best we can to grow and change what we can, and allow others the same grace and dignity. We don'...	Iamhere	3	428	Jul 16, 2016 by Enigmatic
	just when i'm learning to detach?, my mother would always ask me about my AH's behavior (Preview) We live with my 83 year old mother, in her house. My husband and I have no kids, and we've been married for 20 years. I have made several posts in this group so I'll not give much background anymore With Al-anon literatures and this group's help I am able to live each day One Day At A Time, found some seren...	jocelgp	6	627	Jul 15, 2016 by jocelgp
	Checking In (Preview) Hi! I just realized that it has been four months since I last posted. I have so much to be thankful for! Life is good! I've been dating a guy that I met online six months ago and he is so wonderful and supportive. I can't believe how my life has changed since five years ago when I thought that I was at the lowest...	Green Eyes	7	560	Jul 15, 2016 by Green Eyes
	Got the detachment part down but too angry for the love part! (Preview) I'm trying to detach with love but I feel like I'm being such a b***. I'm not even talking to him unless it's about logistics so I'm detached but how do I do it with love? Am I supposed to make him feel loved or just wish him love in my mind? I'm so angry because he rages at me and my kids and has a Jekklyl Hyde thin...	Steph12345	11	673	Jul 15, 2016 by Jazzie18
	In desperate need of advise ASAP (Preview) Here is my story: for as long as I can remember, my mother has been an alcoholic and pill abuser. And all throughout my childhood, teenage years and now into my mid 20's, I have been her number one enabler. I clean up her messes, I've paid her rent and bills in the past, bought her alcohol so she will shut up o...	Bghchelsea	9	556	Jul 15, 2016 by Mattie
	Happy to be back here more. (Preview) Hey folks! I had to quit another board I was on cuz it was literally bought out by the treatment center I work at and the large addiction social media site with message boards (which I liked and hated at the same time) is continuing to move closer and closer to my job as in me having to interact with the owner...	pinkchip	9	516	Jul 15, 2016 by Breakingfree
	morning feelings (Preview) Hi everyone (((hugs))) It's been quite a while since I last posted. Things are a little bit better these days in the sense that my AH has not been drinking much. There were some days when he had some beer but not as much and didn't stayed as late as before. But, his behavior is pretty much the same. Ther...	jocelgp	7	831	Jul 15, 2016 by Breakingfree
	Checking ABF text messages (Preview) I really need someone to SMH! ABF has started drinking again after being sober for awhile, so obviously I do not trust him to tell me the truth. I know this is not helpful to my sanity but I tend to read his text messages to see what he is up to. Why can I not get it thru my head that it only causes me more grief? I...	funandsun	7	651	Jul 15, 2016 by Iamhere
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